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That’s because you’re looking for her approval. It’s a lack of confidence. You need to have OI, fully ok with pursuing what you want for you, period.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/22 01:46 AM
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Why not cut the cord or lay it out on the line instead “I’m going to fuck other ppl if you won’t fuck me. I have needs that aren’t being met” He admits to doing it just to see if he could. On its own I get that as a measure to see where you’re at but if married it’s much more loaded. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with loving seduction and sex but when you’re whole life revolves around the bitching and moaning that you aren’t getting any but aren’t doing anything to fix it, things change. …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/22 01:43 AM
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Your mission isn’t realistic or measurable
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/22 10:44 PM
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You’re using sex for validation. The shower was an example of this. You got butt hurt and felt rejected. First of all, why the fuck did you ask her if she’s horny? Don’t ask permission to have sex. KINO, and let her reject you after you show her that you want to take her. Second of all, a masculine man should be unperturbed. Running away butt hurt and getting a pity fuck after is embarrassing.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/22 10:28 PM
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You fucked a random chick for validation, make sure you understand that.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/22 10:21 PM
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I agree, it should be really basic, at least in a normal market. I’d have to beat my 18% credit card interest rate however compound interest should be factored in. I maxed out my 401k last month so I have an unexpected extra bit of money for this month. I will put that toward the CC and continue to invest. As for the business, it’s service based but for OPSEC reasons I probably won’t go into specifics for now.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/22 02:23 AM
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What do you mean?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 11:37 PM
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Hey man, yea I’m firing well everywhere else, but I didn’t come to brag about success but instead to own my failures. Yes, it was a sizeable business loan with an aggressive repayment schedule (5 years). I’m able to cover that, rent, expenses etc with the income and bank a little for improvements. I’m not taking money out of the business yet because I want to make sure it succeeds. My thought on not investing while I tackle debt is that in a down market I can make a lot more money. This recessio…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 09:31 PM
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While I appreciate the sentiment and agree, I believe my question was misplaced. The post Tyred linked me too basically summed up exactly what I was doing. It’s been a minute since I was here so it makes sense that I would have forgotten some of the finer points of MRP. Going forward the way I will share notes will be in a more structured and productive way, not simply journaling. I think I can still provide value and share my experiences such as returning to financial maturity in an RP lens.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 09:27 PM
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Thanks man
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 02:23 AM
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Thank you. I don’t in the sense of “someone needs to pat me on the back to make me feel like I’m doing a good job” But for me, to put this out there and say “hey, I’m fucking up, I’m not doing a good job of handling this in a vacuum” so my solution is to post it out there and basically show “I’m fucking up but I want to make this better. I’ll post this here to keep myself accountable” I agree, no one owes me anything nor am I asking for anything, I’m doing this for me. Edit: ah. I’ve read the po…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 01:26 AM
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MRP is more than a bunch of guys whining about not getting laid as well. I’m posting to keep ALL aspects of my life in check. I can’t find the post you speak of.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 12:49 AM
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You must be new here. I’ve been with this group for about 3 years. I’m approaching the men in this forum for accountability, I don’t need sex advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/22 11:49 PM
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It was over a year post divorce but I am in an LTR. I will say it’s amazing how things change when you’re not a pussy.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/22 06:02 PM
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Based on your long ass post STFU is going very very poorly
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/22 03:15 PM
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I don’t think there is a turning beta about building. Men built skyscrapers and industry because that’s what men do. We build, we create.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/22 03:14 PM
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OYS ??? Been at this for a minute. Recap for the newbies 36/divorced/185lb/11% bf Posting from mobile, so mind the typos. Overall things going well but I’ve made a mess of my financial situation am here to help focus my efforts and stay accountable. Bought a business and closed in June. I took on a considerable loan and thus debt to buy it with the goal of becoming financially free in roughly 5 years (after loan is paid off). I still have my 9-5 which pays well. Business averages 50k a month and…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/22 03:11 PM
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I think NMMNG forums are worthless. Perhaps a mens group is my back up plan for not having a solid group of guys in my new city. Sadly, you are right, most of these forums are full of morons. That being said, at least there are a handful of guys here that I respect enough to allow me to be checked in the case I am missing things.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/22 04:24 AM
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I agree I had prize mentality issues at the start. I still hadn’t fully gotten over the insecurities left over from being cheated on. I questioned my own value and tried to alfa my way into confidence via acts of stupidity (bloody sock anyone?) What changed along the way was early on while in the courting stage I finally believed the mission I created for myself: live a free and authentic life. I think you’re accurate to say the purple adds a softer edge that is missing from the DNGAF necessary …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/22 12:08 PM
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Good question about any needs not being met. She could cook for me more often? Clean up as she goes not after? She follows my lead well and aside from little things like the above examples there’s no issue other than the distance. I expected the distance to be a dealbreaker for me as well. It was nearly 5 months into going back and forth and seeing each other that I thought it might actually not just be a fling. Trust was really hard at first but in some respects freeing? It allowed me to have a…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/22 01:40 AM
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My take on it is this. I knew i settled for things with my ex. Important things. But I thought “well isn’t loving someone about accepting them?” Awful. I now say, “this is what I want and expect”. There are A LOT of women who could provide what I want, there’s no doubt. However, this one meets or exceeds my expectations. If one day she no longer provides those things I am fully prepared to walk away and find someone who does because I know my value and what I provide.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 07:51 PM
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You’ve definitely chosen a more “RP” path. Pills and colors aside, I’ve made a choice based upon what I feel gives me the most happiness in my life. I think life is better lived shared with someone else, as long as that person is a compliment to my mission. I didn’t choose “good enough” or settle in any sort of way. The way I’m going about life is, these are my goals, this is what I want, would you like to join in on this with me? And I was completely happy being alone and single and not dating.…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 07:35 PM
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I see why you would grill on my decision making process, so here’s what it is. I stayed single a year and didn’t date while I worked on myself and my goals. When I finally did date again I didn’t have a ton of luck with the apps. She was the first girl I slept with who I fully expected to be a ONS. Our date was exceptional and we shared the same values on many things, and neither of us were looking for anything serious. Over the course of roughly 6 months she earned her status through consistent…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 04:04 PM
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4/26/2022 It’s been a minute since I’ve written, but through divine intervention I had been thinking about MRP today and happened to be tagged by Horns in a post which threw me back to the rough days of my post-divorce life. So, an update. I’ve been doing extremely well, and am on the verge of some substantial life changes. Although I’m not actively participating in MRP, I still read and listen to RP content, though I’ve gotten very specific about who and what I want to listen to. RP can be very…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 04:42 AM
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I was thinking about MRP today and doing a check in to relay my continued progress. Now I see this! Throwing it back to when I was a much different, weaker, confused, lost man. Coincidence? Perhaps. But I’ll contribute today
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 05:58 PM
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I absolutely have not become complacent. In fact, MRP has kind of fucked me in a different way. Now I’m so fucking busy it’s hard to get on Reddit or do much time wasting at all. I’ve put my career at the front of my life and have been spending a ridiculous amount of time trying to be the best manager i can be. However, I’m now planning on trying to launch a new arm of my department in a new office. It is probably the fastest track to upper level management if I can properly justify it. I know I…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/21 06:22 AM
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That’s great! I’m doing really well. I still write an OYS every once and awhile to keep me on track. Life is going really well and I couldn’t have done it without MRP. Thanks for checking jn
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 06:41 AM
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08/31/21 OYS #65 35 5’10 179 10% BF (est) Divorcing READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path, Open Her, As you are READING: 3% man Mission: Live a free and authentic life. Lifts: Getting back into the swing of things. Social: It was a quiet week for me socially. …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/21 03:36 PM
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I mean my ex didn’t like me very much obviously, was certainly a bitch, but the current girl and I can sit in silence and do without weirdness. I don’t get insecure because I think she is losing interest, it’s just me catching myself talking so much (sometimes). That being said, I’ve never read day bang because it’s not been my focus but maybe the conversation aspect of it could be worth my while
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/21 11:53 PM
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Owning and improving my flaws isn’t insecure but I think voicing them in front of her is.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/21 07:56 PM
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08/24/21 OYS #64 35 5’10 179 8% BF (navy) Divorcing READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path, Open Her, As you are READING: 3% man Mission: Live a free and authentic life. Lifts: Power phase over, back to hypertrophy Social: I spent last week with the girl and a …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/21 06:21 PM
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You need the sidebar. Start there, specifically NMMNG
/r/askMRP17/06/21 06:49 PM
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A couple things - now they won't matter bc rule 9, but are releated. 1) You're in her frame. Read what you wrote, despite "OI" you're in her head trying to examine why she's thinking what she's thinking and saying what she's saying. 2) Personal preference here, but calling her a bitch isn't going to help anything out and seems resentful. It's fine to call her out on her behavior, but if you start targeting her vs her behavior it undermines your goal of trying to dissuade poor behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 09:19 PM
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Excellent point on how reps build confidence and demonstrate proficiency
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/21 01:21 AM
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Thank you, especially on point 1. Excellent point on #2, those conversations are for the men in my life, the women I’m fucking are for fucking not sharing stupid shit with.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/21 06:17 PM
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I appreciate that. I don’t need to write an erotic novel but she was pleased with how I fucked, to say the least. But 100%, I’ve never treated a girl like a fuck doll, let alone told her those exact things, and watch her melt even though I was objectifying the shit out of her. Was kind of weird at first and now I’m just telling her how she can please me and she continues to ask for more. The issue is def making sure I truly believe I am the prize, which I still need to work on.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/21 06:15 PM
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Ok taking a stab at it. Maintain mystery by texting less and not being so available Reframe financial conversations on long term goals and strategy instead of cost of individual items (I have no idea what to do with this one?)
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/21 04:22 PM
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She’s the prize. Fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/21 04:50 AM
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This should be automatic. “Of course she did, why wouldnt she?” It’s like when people compliment me about my physique, I nod and say thank you but don’t get butterflies or an ego. Of course you complimented me, why wouldnt you? It’s not ego, it’s because it’s what I expect of myself
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/21 04:30 AM
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Your basics, especially the aspect of making sure they know how to engage with me, are good tips. I'm purposefully vague about the industry I'm in and what I do, but some things really are universal. I've been an IC my whole career, so this change has been difficult. Especially trusting people to do the work as well as I want it done. I'll start with communicating expectations, which I may not have done well enough, and build from there. I have let them know how my schedule and workload is affec…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 11:21 PM
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his way gave me insane butterflies as if I had asked her out on a date. gay
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 11:11 PM
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If you ran out of room it should be a sign to.... SHUT THE FUCK UP
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 11:05 PM
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Dropping your ego (something I struggled with for a long time and still have issues with here and there) is one of the best things you can do for you and in this place. You need to accept your an idiot and listen to the advice of people have already gone through what you're going through.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 09:01 PM
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You're mad at yourself for who the old you let you become. Each day in your past lead you to the fat, lazy, sad piece of shit that wanted to kill himself. Someone selfish enough to eat a bullet instead of caring about the future of his kid. Now, you're a man with a vision of what his future could be. It's time to let that old path die. It's time to forgive yourself and release what you've done so you can focus on what you're doing. Today, tomorrow, each day forward, you're making decisions that …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 08:57 PM
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06/08/21 OYS #63 34 5’10 179 8% BF (navy) Divorcing READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path, Open Her, As you are Mission: Live a free and authentic life. Lifts: Shifted into a power phase this week for the next 4-6 weeks. Body still looking about as good as I c…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 08:47 PM
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Than be better.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/21 01:42 AM
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It's early days, but maybe already time to learn how to manage your bitches. I needed to read this. Thank you
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/21 07:00 PM
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So what does having a deep and meaningful connection currently entail in your mind and what are the requisites I like your questions here, so here is your wall of text as I sort through my challenges and future goals. This will sound very cocky, but I don't mean it to be. I've dated some very beautiful women in the past. My primary focus was always looks because the hotter the girl the more validated I was. I've dated models, random dimes etc etc. but after 6 months, when fucking is all you have…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/21 06:38 PM
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No one gives a fuck about how fast you drink a shake. How does that story at all relate to you trying to be a better man? Eat slower? Yea, thanks captain fuckwad, we all figured that out as infants.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 09:36 PM
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You're a cuck to carbs. You're a cuck to porn. You're a cuck to your Fee Fee's. You're an intolerable little fuck who can't control his mind. Despite getting yourself spun up with the help of Matrix references, you haven't made any appreciable change in yourself at all. You are weak. You are living a life without purpose. You follow the plan without passion or engagement. You probably do this in all aspects of life. You think if you have the blueprint that following it will grant you all the ans…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 09:32 PM
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Not poor, stubborn. It’s a straightforward divorce, I don’t need to ask for help I need to Google better. The point of the walls aspect of the post was to reflect on things I should pay attention to. I may not ever want to get married again, but that doesn’t mean I don’t want to have deep and meaningful connections along the way. If I’m unable to have those my life will be significantly less enjoyable. I wasn’t speaking of this girl in particular as one I’m forcing myself to have feelings for, s…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 06:36 PM
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Looking forward to you giving up again!
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 05:42 PM
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Ultimately, I realize my wife is a mirror and the unattractive behavior is reflecting something about myself back to me This couldn't be more accurate. A powerful realization on your end. She's testing your resolve, waiting for you to crumble back into the spoiled vagina you were. Keep your backbone and face her storm with confidence.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 05:41 PM
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I have really struggled with how to comfort her from a RP lens. Up until now I have been striving for distant and aloof. Now, acting that way has raised the question if I care. I think u/HornsOfApathy would be better to approach this subject, but I'll toss my opinion in the ring anyway. Your goal as captain is to provide comfort to the crew during rough seas. You're oak that sways but does not fall. Right now you're the captain that leaves his FO on the island and steams away because you don't w…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 05:36 PM
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I believe that the problem was with me trying to blame people around me instead of taking responsibility You're dead on here. Extreme ownership (what we preach here) and getting rid of your ego are what you should be focusing on. immerse myself in the endless porn experience This is pretty fucking sad. If you look at HVM who are considering nuking, it sure as fuck isn't to create a porn dungeon and get calluses on their hands. You need to evaluate this sex for validation thing you have going on …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 05:15 PM
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Did you lift this week? At 25% bf you should stfu and get in the gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 05:00 PM
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05/25/21 OYS #62 34 5’10 179 8% BF (navy) (nearly) Divorced READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path, Open Her, As you are READING: The Speed of Trust Mission: Live a free and authentic life. Lifts: Body is looking extremely tight. Went up again in weight so desp…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 03:21 PM
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Her mom doesn’t think you deserve her daughter bc you’re a shitty excuse for a man. She’s just reminding you of that fact
/r/askMRP18/05/21 10:08 PM
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05/18/21 OYS #61 34 5’10 179 8% BF (navy) (nearly) Divorced READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path, Open Her, As you are READING: The Speed of Trust Mission: Live a free and authentic life. Lifts: I continue to build strength on the program I’m in. Went up 10lb…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/21 08:17 PM
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Yea so....got the plan covered. Already made dinner reservations for the best places in town (best, not most expensive mind you) with a spreadsheet full of beaches, activities, attractions, and breakfast/lunch options. The plan is to lead confidently. I have contingency options for both food and activities. Like you said, she has said she doesn’t want anything serious despite the fact that she said that because she was having a lot of feelings towards me. But the goal is practice. Practice leadi…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/21 09:01 PM
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What a bitch. Some people are better off not in your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/21 12:46 PM
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That’s true if either of you wants an exclusive relationship. Agreed. There's definitely none of that talk going on right now. Just enjoying the ride. The good thing is it doesn’t really matter what happens because of your first statement This is 100% my feeling after evaluating what I was doing vs what I wanted to do. Once I started playing to win and viewing myself as the prize, everything changed. I want to have fun, and I'm having fun, and if I'm happy, I'm content. When I was overthinking I…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/21 11:05 PM
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Good, I'm glad you see how your mood and leadership translate down into the entire family unit. Now keep losing weight and unfucking yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 03:39 PM
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We shall see if it’s sincere in time
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 02:19 PM
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As long as you’re happy with the direction you’re going how you do it is up to you. Good luck
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 01:09 PM
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To each his own
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 01:07 PM
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In my opinion you emotionally spew to your guy friends, “your safe person”, if NMMNG were explaining it. What you don’t do is rattle out that shit in court and look unhinged. Everyone needs to get their shit aired out here and there but knowing who and when to air it out to can be extremely important.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 01:06 PM
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A therapist should be able to give you the tools to help you deal with past trauma but you will have to do the hard work of becoming a man confident enough to look his past in the eye and knowing it was all for the best. Work on reframing your situation and view it as a blessing instead of a curse. Don’t get lost in the past with a victim mentality, use it as fuel for what you wish to become.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 01:03 PM
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Lol that’s the kind of grounded response I like to hear. Good luck with your progress on the SM front
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 03:38 AM
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You're hurting your back because you don't have proper form and don't know how to lift. Hire a trainer or do some research you retard.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 12:22 AM
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She sees a beta plowhorse and your paperthin frame supports her theory. She has dreams of being a stay at home mom, fucking the poolboy while you're at work paying for her to be his jizz rag. You're way too much of a manlet at 20% body fat and a flaccid mental model to handle this shit. She wants to marry you before fucking you? What kind of illogical bullshit is that? Snap out of it Romeo.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 12:21 AM
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I'm not sure if this was captain shit or beta behavior You're still an idiot newb. But that's ok, at least you defaulted to a leader behavior, albeit late, but you did it nonetheless. Your wife was stressed out and emotional. She couldn't handle what was going on and booking her shit. She needed her captain to help guide her so she could worry about what was necessary. It's not beta to guide the crew in rough seas. It's the drunk captain that sits back and watches his crew flounder around while …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 12:16 AM
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You're not in here to fix your marriage, since that shit is DOA. You're here to get divorced and unfuck yourself. Fix the man.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 12:07 AM
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Thursday afternoon I sat them all down and laid out my expectations. I was nice, firm, and clear. Shit, I even held a Q&A at the end wtf is this bullshit. Nerd. Who does that? It's a vacation, this is not how you set the stage of a fun and exciting family time together. It feels like a school field trip to a mortuary.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 11:57 PM
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she she she she
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 11:42 PM
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I don't understand why sharkweek is an excuse not to fuck. Who cares?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 11:01 PM
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If the nice comments bring you up, the mean ones will bring you down. Careful on the validation seeking in social media.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 11:00 PM
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I wanted to do stuff that was good for me. When you see the value in yourself and act like you're worth something it makes all the difference in the world.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 10:54 PM
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Yea man keep doing the work, even when we kick your teeth in for the dumbshit you do. It's the only way to learn and get better.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 09:24 PM
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The danger is that if you don't see yourself getting close to that goal fast enough you give up, or say "what's the point if I eat this donut" It took you a long time to get this fat, it will take even longer to break the habits that made you this fat. Set yourself up for success and don't feel like 5% BF goals with steps are a bad idea or a cop out.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 09:23 PM
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The plates aren't wobbly, just uses little 2.5kg ones, they won't slide.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 09:21 PM
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I have so much doubt about this but I trust that you know what you're saying. I overthink. This is why I understand your mental masturbation that causes analysis paralysis. You're getting too wrapped up in the details, you need to step back. The best advice I've ever gotten here has been from u/weakandsensitive just asking me a simple question: what makes you happy? Why aren't you doing what makes you happy? Everything comes back to that, especially when I overthink things, which I'm still prone…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 09:21 PM
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I see it as unrelenting confidence, not narcissism. You've already proven to yourself what you can do, now you're taking it to the next level. You're value wasn't in being a plowhorse, which is why you were icing your balls even though you were jobless. You're time has been an asset you've been increasingly protective of as you've evolved to understand your gifts, and now you're continuing to push the limits of what you know, because you're living your life on the edge. You're living free.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 09:18 PM
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Are you getting hypnotized to try and quit smoking or something?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 09:10 PM
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Squat has stalled due to my shit ankle flexibility, so I've added a lot of passive stretches and PNF to fix this rather than buying heeled shoes or raising my heels. I've been going through this process of working on ankle mobility for awhile now. Work on your hips too. I finally caved and raised my heels so I could get proper depth and not slow my progress because my ankle mobility is taking a lot of time. I, like you, didn't want to give in to raise my heels (I use plates) but I've felt a burn…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 08:31 PM
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Your goal shouldn't be sub 10% BF right now, your goal should be to no longer be obese. It's going to take a couple of years to drop 20% BF while gaining muscle. You're a land yacht right now, just try to get down to fishing troller before you shoot for jet ski.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 08:28 PM
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You're over thinking the shit out of this entire process. You need to read less, and slower, and try to apply vs just ingesting the information. You have the knowledge and none of the finesse to make it useful.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 08:23 PM
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I haven’t had sex in 6 months and my wife’s been sleeping in the guest room for 2 months Your solution is that one of you moves the fuck out. You're marriage is over, why don't you see that yet?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 08:20 PM
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You need to give serious thought about your lack of confidence. It's manifesting in self-sabotaging behavior and approval seeking from anywhere you go. My first OYS I was so concerned about other peoples opinions about me I didn't know that I deleted my entire first post and wrote some useless bullshit so I wouldn't be targeted. This did nothing for me. Point is, I can relate, most people can. But if you do the work, you develop into someone you never knew you could. You're here to unfuck yourse…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 08:16 PM
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She thinks we’re going to move into an apartment together. I picture your wife as the dog that gets in the car thinking he's getting a walk and then gets his balls cut off instead. No judgement, just a humorous visual. But did you win the fight?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 08:09 PM
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Just an observation, but you seem to be deeply cerebral since your divorce. You sound like you have a detached acceptance of the world around you but you're not truly interacting with it. Your life is moving around you independent of you, like you're frozen in the moment, reflecting on it from a vantage point within your mind. It's ok to be a little cut up with how things are going as you figure out what you truly want. You just don't seem convinced that the path your on is the correct one, as i…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 07:49 PM
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You've exited the rat race and prioritized what matters most to you in life, and it is no longer "things".
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 07:36 PM
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05/11/21 OYS #60 34 5’10 179 8% BF (navy) Divorced READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path, Open Her, As you are READING: The Speed of Trust Mission: Live a free and authentic life. Lifts: I’ve been back home for a few days and have hopped back in the gym for re…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 06:31 PM
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You wrote the Iliad for this simple of a question? You’re a new account and obviously don’t OYS. You read Rollo but what about the rest of the side bar? You’ve adopted your wife’s penchant for meaningless mouth noises. You won’t ever pass a shit test just because the internet gives you a good answer. “Red pill aware” isn’t a thing. Despite being so much more attractive than your wife you still worry a lot about her, what she’s thinking, and what she’s doing. If you’re just trying to avoid confli…
/r/askMRP06/05/21 03:51 PM
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It’s time to get out of your own head and the world that you created which revolves around her. It’s time to build your new life and mental point of origin where your actions back up your perceived value. Look how you wanna look. Act how you wanna act. Fuck how (and when) you want to fuck. You can’t change and evolve without building credibility with yourself.
/r/askMRP04/05/21 08:04 PM
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So much going on here. What I will say is just going to be a small piece of one perspective. 1) stop asking for sex. Lead her into sex with action. 2) you’re being an autist about STFU. 3) stop reading her phone and worry about yourself. She doesn’t desire you, and you’re measuring your progress off of her reaction to you. This is weak, validation seeking behavior. You’re looking to mommy to tell you you’re doing a good job. We both know she can sense that and now she’s drier than the Sahara. 4)…
/r/askMRP04/05/21 06:57 PM
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Found my nuts, like a squirrel, I’d buried them long ago, but fortunately have found them again.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 12:10 AM
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This is actually exactly what happened. She was out with friends and was strongly considering f flaking, friends were the ones who told her to go meet me.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 05:16 PM
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At least I’m aware of it but still need to give far fewer fucks
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 05:15 PM
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04/27/21 OYS #59 34 5’10 185 8.9% BF (navy) Separated READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path, Open Her, As you are READING: The Speed of Trust Mission: Live a free and authentic life. Lifts: Lifting a lot but with lower weight because I’ve been traveling. Makin…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 01:53 PM
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Because you didn’t hurt your back
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/21 02:15 PM
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I’ve heard the same thing. I was in a photo shoot a few months back. I hated the photos they used but there might be some photos I like that weren’t edited I can try and use. If that doesnt pan out I will probably have to swallow my frugal nature to hire a photographer and just go for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/21 02:14 PM
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I Havent had a drink in something like 100 days, so all this is being done sober. No liquid courage, just raw OI. I have the desire the pursue talking to a pretty woman, so I just do. As for the apps, the issue is an abundance of choice for females in my area. I’ve talked to other female friends who are on the apps and they say bc there are so many more men than women they are spoiled for choice. They have to find way to eliminate guys immediately, and quite frankly I m not a top 10% in the look…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/21 03:30 AM
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You literally just admitted to DEERing. Background is not necessary. For example, if I come in and say “I squat 165” and some guy calls me weak, why would I defend myself if I was secure in my lifts? You’re not secure in your reasons and feel the need to defend them because you know deep down you could have made better decisions. You just don’t want anyone to call them out and make you face that fact.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/21 03:16 AM
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Haha my height is an issue on the apps, but eh doesn’t fucking matter. I have a good sense of humor and can usually get people laughing pretty quick, which is always a good opener. In the past it wasn’t easy for me to do that because I’d freeze up and be nervous. Fortunately I do have a good core group of single male friends. We’re already talking about where to go out and when (expressly to play wing men to each other) so I’m excited for what the summer brings in terms of growers and confidence…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/21 04:02 PM
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Never did like the photos but regardless of scale accuracy make sure that number keeps dropping.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/21 03:58 PM
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I applaud the humility. If you use the feedback you get here and don’t get butthurt you will progress quickly.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/21 03:55 PM
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You’ve got room to increase strength based on your bf. Don’t cut just hit maintenance.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/21 03:54 PM
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Wow you’re such a great and wonderful person. Your wife should be lucky to have you. You pay for everything and get no thanks. How sad. How sad. Is that what you want to hear you fucking victim?
/r/askMRP07/04/21 12:34 AM
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You’re afraid of how much you’re spending. That’s why you aren’t tracking. You’re head is in the sand. You want to spend guilt free.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 09:58 PM
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That's powerful, and something he can emulate and pass down when he, too, has children. It seems like you're also continuing to evolve as a father and understanding how your gifts can be shared, not just time, but empathy.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 09:29 PM
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Pretty fast adaptation to OI with you. You were honest and were prepared for the consequences and followed through anyway, with better than expected results. I think this is a nice win.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 09:23 PM
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Mother of god. 30% BF.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 09:16 PM
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I needed nicotine I was miserable and completely overwhelmed with the chaos and noise. I snapped at and shamed my wife pretty hard for a stupid comment You realize all these things are also your fault? You're just a miserable fuck even when everyone else is having a good time. You're probably a horrible person to be around. I can't believe anyone even invited you to a party. It's a wonder why your wife would make some snide remark when her husband is being an insolent child, sulking in the corne…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 09:14 PM
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Beat me to saying it. Hate when guys put that shit on their wife. Like running into a parked car and asking why someone parked there.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 09:10 PM
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I want to be a beaming beacon of love, positivity Ah yes, you want to be a rainbow flag I shared that with the wife and got offered emotional assurance that she doesn’t think I’m fat and how easy it’ll be to lose the weight Oh jesus. You haven't learned to STFU yet huh.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 08:00 PM
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I have purposefully avoided thinking deeply about my mental models Why? This is where you have an opportunity to make massive change.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 07:58 PM
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Broke my 5.5 week dry pee pee streak. What the fuck are you, a 5 year old? I'm losing frame You don't have a frame. Which is why you call your cock a pee pee. I realize I have very little frame Yes there we go, see, even you know you don't have a frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 07:57 PM
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my wife got for our family and tried to muscle her out of the table by calling her a "bitch" Bro wtf. People are fucking assholes. That is all I have to offer, I was just really angry after reading that.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 07:54 PM
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Whenever I read something like this There were a few reasons that I did not invest in equipment I hear defensiveness. I read this, and other statements in your post, as though you're trying to protect yourself from criticism. I interpret that as having a paper-thin frame because you're afraid of being ridiculed or questioned for your decisions. Can you stand behind the decisions you made with no reason to justify them?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 07:52 PM
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Coincidentally after a question from JCX last week about why am I still working, I got an email from a high school friend who is retiring. Some say I have a gift
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 07:46 PM
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I am often asked by my wife if I wanted her to prepare my meals. This is an opportunity for you to be the captain and your austism is ruining it. Your wife is looking for ways to provide value and you're like "nah I wanna just jack off and make my own food, stand around and do nothing." Tell her what you want to eat, let her do it, praise her when she does a good job.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 07:43 PM
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I don't agree that dirty bulks are fine. Here's something to consider. When the body adds fat cells, they never go away. I don't know why you feel the need to further bulk at 19% BF. I also think you're timing your cut wrong. It takes 2 months to cut minimum. If you cut right now you're going to be ready for "t-shirt" weather. If you cut during t-shirt weather you're going to have that spare tire on your waist through your 2 months of summer. Impressive broken record with the insurance agent tho…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 07:40 PM
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Call me crazy, but that talk you had with your son is like throwing him into calculus when he hasn't finished algebra. The best way for him to understand what being an attractive high value man is, is for you to SHOW him. You need to demonstrate the things you talked to him about. You 12 OYS's in trying to lecture your kid about not ruining his life by getting married, you don't need to place your burdens on him. Just because you fucked up doesn't mean he will be a blue pilled bitch unless you d…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 07:31 PM
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Do you mind sharing what lead your son to open up to you? Did you do anything specific leading up to the talk? I feel this could be impactful for other men working on their parenting skills.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 07:24 PM
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Happy to hear you put in the effort to find the stretches and have had some positive results. Now you need to learn how to calm your ego and stop looking to your wife for validation.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 07:18 PM
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We don't need to see nor do we care about your exercise list. A blowjob and handjob this week. No real attempts for actual sex. This all feeds back into I know I have avoided direct escalation to sex to avoid rejection But then you say I DO NOT want to feel/come off as butthurt. So you avoid sex to avoid rejection to avoid coming off as butt hurt. And then you say that's because of your "naturally anxious" wife's insecurity? There's a shitload of problems in this sex section. You're so incongrue…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 07:01 PM
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Hate to break it to you but you're not hitting 10% BF in 2 months without gaining muscle. got myself some Iranian carpets yesterday No one gives a fuck about where you shop and what you buy. By summer I’ll have to rationalise my earnings and spendings Why not now? I never had the energy to go out there and organise meeting them Lazy
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 06:56 PM
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Can always tell its a new guy by the novel they write
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 06:48 PM
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This started out being a little bit of a control-freak sounding event, but the way you later explained your family reminded me of mine and how they can't ever figure anything out for themselves and get flustered about it. You were the captain of this event and it sounds like you were quite comfortable in the role.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 05:27 PM
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how tf is your squat 270 and bench 250? Because its his calculated 1RM, not actual.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 05:24 PM
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I don't see what the point of posting your calculated 1RM is. It's pure ego validation. Post your REAL numbers, because those are what you're going to measure yourself by, unless you want to reach your calculated 1RM of 1000lbs and stop there without every actually moving the weight. This same smoke and mirrors act is what you're doing in other parts of your OYS. For example: I'm working through the belief that women will think I'm a stalker You're worried about THEIR frame, not yours. You're tr…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 05:23 PM
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04/06/21 OYS #58 34 5’10 185 8.9% BF (navy) Separated READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path, Open Her, As you are READING: The Speed of Trust Mission: Live a free and authentic life. Lifts: Finally looked into the “navy” method of BF% measuring. It says I’m 8.…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 05:15 PM
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7 kids and you're still that fat? Do they get to eat at all?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 02:36 AM
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Thank god. I was starting to read this but didn't know Stephen King was making Reddit posts into novels.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 02:32 AM
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According to Navy Method im 8.9% @ 185lbs (finally Googled what "Navy Method" was). - relevant because we're the same height. You can lose weight to try and get lower BF but you need to maintain lean muscle. Why don't you just try to gain more muscle at your current weight?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 02:29 AM
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Squat Press: (1 * 7) 661 LBS => 660 LBS Goal 750 LBS Goal Please tell me you aren't listing a LEG PRESS goal here. What do you hip thrust bro?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 02:19 AM
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Taking 4 classes next semester while working full time. Right now I’m in 2, with A’s in both. Now who are you looking for validation from?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 02:17 AM
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Weight and waist have remained the same You're not really in it to lose weight are you? What's your diet like? Are you tracking? 40kg is a lot of weight (assuming this is a single weight, not a weight total). You can do a lot to make weights more difficult and I have a feeling you have a 30 minute workout that just involves trying to get sweaty and thats it. You probably have no programming and you probably make excuses to quit early. You lack drive. You lack discipline. You have since you've be…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 02:05 AM
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Don't just stretch, work on mobility. Your knee issue could be from poor form or related to an imbalance in your form (tight hips, ankles, weak ass feet, etc). Look up combat stretch, 90/90, worlds greatest stretch and see if how mobile you are.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 01:59 AM
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You're a big fat bitch. I bet you have a nice set of titties on you. Also, a mission of "finding your potential" isn't a mission at all. Your potential? How is that something that will never be realized? If your mission is to never realize your potential, it's a mission, but what is "finding your potential" going to do for you? I need to implement dread, but dread that comes from a place of selfishness, and taking care of myself How's your wife going to feel any dread when you have to walk sidew…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 01:51 AM
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appartement I guess she didn't marry you for winning the Spelling Bee. Did pushup sessions every odd days and cardio in between (running/bike). I feel a bit better. You gotta nice pussy though My ex is staying in the appartement (the one I bought while we were married and that I renovated and for which I'm currently paying the mortgage) I have to pay a substantial alimony and I'm being harassed by social services / health specialist / teachers to prove her accusations false. It doesn't look like…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 01:43 AM
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I don't know your work history well, but out of curiosity, why do you still work? Do you want to? Or do you NEED to?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 07:41 PM
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I was so afraid to fail over the past year that it was affecting my ability to succeed. Pre-NMMNG me can absolutely relate. This line resonated with me.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 07:39 PM
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You called her bluff and she didn’t back down. It was no bluff. There’s nothing worth saving. At least you didn’t waste more time finding that out.
/r/askMRP25/03/21 11:52 PM
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Haha no. Broadly speaking my state is fine but the area in which I live isn’t exactly the best to find attractive women. But it’s close to work.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/21 04:46 PM
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I think that's where I've really noticed a lot of growth, because it hasn't discouraged me. I'm also supremely confident that in person my height will have no bearing on my desirability. And if some chick doesn't like it, I don't give a shit. I'm not here looking for validation. That's a very freeing feeling. edit: word
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 09:07 PM
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Man I think the exact same thing. I don't mind being discounted by women for being under 6ft because they've already done the work for me by eliminating themselves from my dating pool.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 08:30 PM
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Wife came to apologize because she still smokes and because of that I didn't manage to stop Even she doesn't think you can do it on your own. But since you're in her frame just ask her to quit, should be easy to follow her lead.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 08:22 PM
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You're quite mind fucked aren't you? You have a lot of shit rattling around up there and you're doing whatever you can to hold it together. It's time to focus on your mental health and taking measured steps to help you feel in control of something again. You feel like you're spiraling and you're not in control of your life. Surprise, that's bullshit. It's all your fault. Now that you're in control, start acting like it. Create a plan. Design a vision. Make measurable goals so you can follow your…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 08:19 PM
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(a considerable sum for a divorced older woman in public service with a small nest egg Why are you DEERing about this? If some rando on the internet says "thats not a lot of money" without knowing your moms situation, who gives a fuck? Your whole "Family" section feels like a cry for validation. You've traded looking for kudos from you wife and sex to looking for approval from the MRP group at large. Look at what you've wrote and how much of it doesn't actually matter. Did we need 3 paragraphs t…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 08:12 PM
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Maybe a high school dropout and felon who is finally getting his life together shouldn't be smoking pot? Your friend circle sounds like it needs an upgrade. You had some good realizations this week but you still talk to fucking much. This isn't a journal, hit the important points. For instance, no one needs to know what your shoulder workout looked like, we don't give a fuck. For example: Lifting- I got really busy this week, put off lifting once or twice knowing that I would get to it later, or…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 07:54 PM
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Haven't went since since I'm at work from 6A-9P most days now Excuse (dealing with fallout of challenging mass software transation) Who would have guessed you were an autist that works in tech? Diet: recently started eating chicken wraps every 4 hours Starvation diet because you don't lift. Good plan. You're the classic child with dynamite. You know the terminology and think "logically" deploying what you've read will work. This isn't software. This is not 1's and 0's. You need to take a long ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 07:48 PM
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03/23/21 OYS #57 34 5’10 185 11% BF Separated READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path, Open Her, As you are READING: The Speed of Trust Mission: Live a free and authentic life. Lifts: I saw steady increases over last week and heading into the weekend. Strength i…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 05:43 PM
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I completely agree with failure breeding confidence. However, the teeth whitening is not a stall tactic either, I’m still going after the goal. Not like they’re super yellow or some shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/21 01:29 AM
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I mean you’re not wrong. Some big internal battles last week and some recurring themes I need to sort out (as was evident in last weeks OYS). I have a few areas I get caught up in and I spin. Right now I’m trying to build momentum out of those by establishing new habits and thought processes.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/21 07:52 PM
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Yea I’m a baby backed bitch with this shit and I need to be castrated for it. They aren’t congruent because I’m basing my words on my emotions. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/21 06:51 PM
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It’s actually that I haven’t weighed myself in 3-4 months. It’s unlikely that I’m still 185. Assuming I’ve lost muscle with weight my bf is likely higher as well just due to the ratio.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/21 05:28 PM
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Lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/21 03:19 AM
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My wife went to a networking event and I started to do all sorts of mental gymnastics about dumb shit like cheating and thinking about who was there. You do not see yourself as the prize. As the prize, your wife could do no better. As the prize, she did cheat, it would be her loss. Your mental model here is totally fucked. I started grilling my wife about how the event went and who was there a little too much. Do you shave that vageen you wear so proudly under your skirt?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/21 03:17 AM
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You'd look up escorts and pay for sex when you could just download an app and get it for free? sad fucking state of affairs.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/21 03:13 AM
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You want to be a mid 30's pro wrestler? Am I reading that wrong?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/21 03:03 AM
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6'0", 190 lbs, 20% BF This is remarkable. You are the epitome of skinny fat. You run 6 miles a week and barely eat anything. Lift some fucking weights man. Reading: TWOTSM, The Stoics No. Stop TWOTSM. You're not ready for it. NMMNG and a book on lifting like Bigger Leaner Stronger. Sometimes I lack the motivation to push that extra 10%. That's fine. The world needs guys like you so guys like me have an easier way to the top. Frame: A work in progress This is hilarious. A real joker, this one. No…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/21 02:59 AM
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How on earth does one person eat 3 steaks in a sitting?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/21 02:49 AM
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Lol
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/21 02:39 AM
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Jesus christ you are fucked. Break this engagement off. I know I previously commented that you have to work yourself for 2021 and the stay plan is the go plan, but...the go plan IS THE PLAN with this bitch. She offers nothing. See you in a few weeks. Hopefully your dick hasn't fully crawled back up into your body.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/21 02:39 AM
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I witnessed a similar situation in my family. The primary difference was the dad didn't put up a fight for his kids because he was a fucking pussy, as opposed to you. However, the result was the kids all ended quite fucked up from not having a strong male influence (hard to argue if he WAS in their life it would have made much of a difference, though). While my goal is not to change your mind, because your logic is sound, you might have to make peace with never having a real relationship with yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/21 02:33 AM
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Depending on what those risks are, like a business investment or something, ok, makes sense. Just know your money is losing value due to inflation.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/21 12:22 AM
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You only need 3-6 months of expenses saved up. A year of salary is stupid when interest rates on bank accounts are so low. You’re better off investing that money unless your saving for a house.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 09:56 PM
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03/16/21 OYS #56 34 5’10 185 11% BF Separated READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path, Open Her, As you are READING: The Speed of Trust Lifts: I’m a weak little bitch boy. Skinny and pathetic. But I’ll get back to my glory days. Social: This is my weakest area, …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 09:05 PM
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Consistency builds trust in yourself and others in you.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 08:45 PM
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This isn't a place for you to journal your weekly thoughts. No one will read the 30 paragraphs you wrote here. Highlight the most important areas you want help on. The piece on your dad is an important moment which should be included. This is an extremely difficult event in your life, but how does that effect you today? Why is it relevant?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 07:00 PM
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Lets get one thing straight. You need to have frame in order to lose it, and you don't have it. Next, you're operating in her frame when it comes to vacation sex is "allowed". This is when the dutiful plowhorse is allowed his taste of mommy's milk for 10 minutes, as she sees fit. You won't make any progress until you start earning the respect of your wife instead of blowing over with every emotional outburst she has.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 06:55 PM
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She she she. This whole post is about pleasing her and being afraid that something you did will fuck up the relationship. You’re obviously new, you talk too much. Your hamster is spinning so fast it’s going to take flight. Who gives a fuck what she thinks? Learn STFU and A/M your way out of future conversations about this. Don’t bring it up again. You don’t understand the concept yet nor have you earned the role. Or just keeping DEERing and buy her something to make it all go away.
/r/askMRP13/03/21 05:19 PM
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It doesn't sound like you want to start a business at all. Seems like you just want to do it because someone told you you should. You seem perfectly happy being mediocre.
/r/askMRP10/03/21 07:07 PM
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Here lies the difference: my work history doesn't support my current resume. I took a sabbatical and buffed up my skills but don't have the experience to prove it. If I put out my resume and didn't get a job, it would be easy to blame that on my poor work history (divorce, beta behaviors, etc). This is why I have to create something new from scratch with the updated me, one with a resume that only has theoretical improvements. The work to fill in the practical experience has to start now, as I s…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 06:12 PM
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I quickly realized we've had this conversation before. I'm in a loop. Fear, weakness, whatever the fuck you want to call it, is keeping me from action while laying back and making excuses. I tell myself I'm not afraid of the potential rejection, I mean of course it will sting, but I have nothing to lose. But I don't act on it, so obviously I care more than I admit to myself. Without overthinking it more, the action I will take is catch and release. Something I've said before but never committed …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 06:04 PM
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And I disagree with you. I don’t see the point in using a belt when you can lift without one. Lane and mark aren’t without their poor opinions either. Ultimately this guys going to have to make up his own mind but I don’t see why you wouldnt want to max out your body without tools, like straps or a belt, for as long as you could.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 04:11 PM
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Honest answer: I’m not motivated to actively date. I don’t want to add a woman to my life at all right now, even if it’s just her pussy that im interested in. What I want it is to truly believe that I am the prize, so that whether it’s my ex or some dime coming after me the response is the same “yea, I’m high value, why wouldnt you be attracted to me?” That’s the outcome I’m after right now. The problem is (in my eyes) that I’m not seeing myself as high value enough that her reaching out still t…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 12:24 AM
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Which is why I’m bringing it up. I know it’s an issue, it’s a problem. However, your solution is accurate.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 11:37 PM
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Yea I like his ability to breakdown the sometimes convoluted writings of Marcus Aurelius and modernize his words.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 10:08 PM
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You're missing the point. You've completely ignored the bigger issue which is that you DEER'd hard to your wife to please her. One of your goals is to become a man other women want to fuck. Apologizing to your wife for being attractive is neutering yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 10:07 PM
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Absolutely no rule of thumb. 1.5x seems very low. 2x perhaps. 2.5x more likely. You should be able to properly brace into the 300s without issue. A weight belt and non-weight belt lift are very different bracing techniques. I'd want to master the squat before I got a belt. And then you have to master the bracing technique using a belt in order to not hurt yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 10:04 PM
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+1 for the self-awareness
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 07:54 PM
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The mental side of things can be the most difficult, especially if you have a childhood history of trauma that many of your behaviors stem from. That is why NMMNG is the book to start with. Right now you need to focus on unfucking yourself. I understand wanting to race to the finish line but the journey is the most important aspect of MRP. Continue to read and work on your progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 07:53 PM
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Good clarification
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 07:50 PM
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You write like a human excel spreadsheet.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 07:47 PM
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I may be way off the mark here, which is fine, but I don't see your flirting as a failure or a problem. YOU don't think you have the value to make this effective dread, but based on what? When your wife called you out for flirting you bent the knee, and for what? Talking to women? You didn't fuck any of them, it's not that big of a deal. "I was talking to women at the bar, I don't think there's anything wrong with that" As opposed to "Yes my honey sweets, I will never talk to another vagina agai…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 07:45 PM
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nice starvation diet
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 07:33 PM
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You still think. A LOT. and talk. A LOT. Also, you aren't squatting enough to need a weight belt.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 07:29 PM
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03/09/21 OYS #55 34 5’10 185 11% BF Separated READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path, Open Her, As you are READING: The Speed of Trust Lifts: My gym is finally open. Fuck yea. Social: Seeing a lot of people lately, family, friends, being more social, but no gir…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 07:15 PM
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I, for one, am happy to see you walked back that egotistical, mental masturbation portion and realized jerking yourself off was getting you no where. Yea, you're really smart, but it's fucking useless if you can't apply it. Don't end up on r/iamverysmart Find people smarter than you to groom and collaborate with, or that have different skills than you, because you're not the best at everything. You should be proud of your skills and abilities, but don't get so caught up in them that you lose sig…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 07:03 PM
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Start looking into and examining stoicism. Books by Ryan Holiday are extremely accessible for a beginner. Gaining control over your own emotions can be quite difficult, I know it was for me, but you gain a lot more respect from yourself and others by being able to rationally evaluate situations instead of being emotional like a woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 06:56 PM
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You're 2 years in and the sex is already drying up. You have 2021 to fix yourself and perhaps the relationship before you get married and divorced in another 2 years. Your issues are clearly mental. There are a couple guys in here who have strengths in business and the gym but are still suckers for bitches and pedestalize them. It's obviously a confidence issue with you. I would re-order the way you read your books. Start with NMMNG, MMSLP isn't going to do shit for you if you don't understand y…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 06:52 PM
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Hi Rambo, nice to meet you
/r/askMRP07/03/21 06:04 PM
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Yea I actually remember him knocking up his affair (babysitter) and his wife finding out but still staying together with him. Adding another woman into the mix seems like the right amount of gasoline. I’ll grab the s’mores.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 05:14 AM
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I will become the mover of retard mountain.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 01:28 AM
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I have to crack up because I was noticing the same thing. I understand the frustration vets have with fresh meat in a better way. I have no patience for retards anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 12:50 AM
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You're the real MVP
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 12:49 AM
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what women want and how to give it to them? What kind of stupid fucking book is that. Jesus. Women want a man. It's not fucking rocket science. Don't be such a pussy. Book summarized.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 08:57 PM
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I believe I already told you not to get wrapped up in the scale. This week, we have the results of that. You're getting mind fucked by the number instead of paying attention to the body recomp you're going through. Measure your bf % week over week if you need to track something. but tracking your weight is not a good measurement of anything if you're losing fat and gaining muscle.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 08:55 PM
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I'd suggest you look in the mirror and ask yourself if you're happy with the way that you look. If you are, keep doing what you're doing. If you're not, put in some actual effort.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 08:51 PM
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what the fuck is this?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 08:49 PM
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your back shouldn't hurt when you deadlift. you're doing it wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 08:47 PM
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I enjoyed this
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 08:25 PM
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It seems like you're trying to justify your lack of fitness by explaining pushups and body weight squats are good enough until gyms open. Lack of commitment will get you no where. Also, why would you be frustrated by a chain breaking in the first place? You can't control it, so who the fuck cares?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 08:20 PM
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It's worth checking out reddit forums such as FIRE and personalfinance to see whats out there. Granted most of it is hopeless idiots trying to figure basics out, but there are advanced topics, especially in FATFIRE
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 08:14 PM
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Buddy, you seem to be adding complications to your life with a dizzying degree of efficiency.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 08:11 PM
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For the vast, vast majority of people a true 8% bf isn’t attainable or sustainable. But that’s really not that bad. 10% bf, depending on where you hold it, is incredibly lean and much easier to sustain. The point here is that you’re fitness goals are based upon numbers, not much more. So when you hit 8% bf, then what? Fall in love with the journey. Notice how good you feel eating healthier foods and being fit and not being tired peeling and orange. That way when you hit your goals you don’t feel…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 12:31 AM
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Emotionally dysfunctional childhood Don't use this as an excuse. You're almost fucking 50, you manchild. Sort your shit out, understand it, and move on from it. Stop using it as a crutch. Your wife's problems are her own, she doesn't belong in your dysfunctional history lesson. In fact, how is this not a Rule 9? This OYS is littered with shit about your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 10:47 PM
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Keep working hard and you will be asking her to say please. You lost 5lbs in a week. That's good and bad. It shouldn't be that easy to lose 5lbs, which shows how fat you are, but its good because you moved the needle. You have a history of inconsistency. No junk food Sundays anymore. Replace Coke with water. keep working out. You're 31 and in the prime of your life but your body doesn't reflect that. What a shame it would be to turn 34 and still not have changed at all. What a shame if you weren…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 10:42 PM
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You're trying really hard to impress people you don't know on the internet. Just be fucking honest.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 10:37 PM
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Do I upvote this to encourage more dumbass behavior? Or do I downvote this because you're a few steps from eating a metal dessert...
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 10:13 PM
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You don't want to lose weight so much as do a body re-comp, which is what you're currently experiencing right now. In fact, not losing weight but losing BF is the goal. You're getting stronger, leaner, and adding muscle. That isn't a problem. Throw away your stupid fucking scale if you're going to be be an idiot tied to your weight as a goal. This is a womans thinking. You need to be tied to how strong you're getting. Is the weight you lift going up? Good. You're making progress. Eat enough prot…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 10:03 PM
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I get this rush of confidence like "look at me doing the things! I am the prize!" But that validation-seeking mindset creeps in like, "you're the prize? Says who??" You are who decides if you're the prize. Period. You have moments of confidence because you're challenging yourself and succeeding. When you put yourself in difficult situations you build confidence in your abilities. Now you need to believe in yourself. It's like Neo in the "jump program" from The Matrix. You can't just think you ar…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 09:57 PM
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Stop being a pussy and buy something heavy to lift. Buy a TRX, FFS, but don't just start running to lose weight and what little muscle you have in the process.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 09:49 PM
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HOA has a post on your woman being your greatest creation. If you’re insecure she’s insecure. She mirrors you. I would work hard on recognizing those parts of you so that the woman you create isn’t leaving you in 6 months for Instagram validation
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 08:32 PM
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I’m a firm believer that you attract what you are. She’s very insecure, are you? Were you? Insecure women often chase validation. Does she? Do you? There are many videos out there on how to properly vet women. Check a few out.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 06:12 PM
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You read the whole thing?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 04:07 AM
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That’s exactly how I’ve felt the last several months. I’ve been really good, cruising, but wondered if I could be doing even more by adjusting my balance.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/21 03:35 AM
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If you’re familiar with TWOTSM he goes deep into living a free and authentic life and what that means. I over complicated my mission early on. U/threekindsoflucky was instrumental in helping me realize how pointless that was.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/21 05:17 PM
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have you gotten started on this journey?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 10:49 PM
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What equipment do you have? How advanced of a lifter are you? I bought a TRX two programsc from these guys after listening to their podcast for quite from time: https://www.mindpumpmedia.com/maps-fitness-products?utm_term=and%20workout&utm_campaign=MAPS+Anabolic&utm_source=adwords&utm_medium=ppc&hsa_acc=6283497906&hsa_cam=11753519176&hsa_grp=117683494527&hsa_ad=483349539789&hsa_src=g&hsa_tgt=kwd-322923523329&hsa_kw=and%20workout&hsa_mt=b&hsa_net=adwords&hsa_ver=3&gclid=Cj0KCQiA962BBhCzARIsAIpWEL…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 09:59 PM
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Multi-pronged response below: 140p is insanely low. I'm 5'10 as well and shoot for 180+p a day, granted I only weight 185 and have 1/3rd your BF, however, you wouldn't choose 140 as your ideal bodyweight. Perhaps 160-170, assuming you're holding muscle and much less fat. Therefore, 160-170p, fat should be about 30% of your total macros as well, 67 is far too low. you should be closer to 100. Remember, protein and fat are essential macros. You won't die without carbs. 200c actually isn't terrible…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 08:45 PM
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How tall are you? It's clear you have little understanding of anything to do with losing weight because 2k calories in lower for someone, depending on their size and activity level, will simply destroy their metabolism and make progress impossible. What are you macros? What should they be? Do you even know? What is your lean body mass? What should your protein intake be? You're lazy. People find a way to make real change when they want to. What have you done?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 07:59 PM
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Yea you need to do it consistently for a few months if you've never done it before. As you say, knowing your macros and calories is the only way to hit fitness goals.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 07:55 PM
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I feel like you're here looking for some sort of male community or something. You're 18, certainly not in an LTR. What brought you to MRP and what do you hope to get out of it?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 07:52 PM
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Having to yell at your kids is like yelling at your woman, all it does it prove they don't respect you and that the only way you know how to gain control is by flipping your shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 07:40 PM
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Don't marry a girl who thinks acts like she settled for you
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 07:10 PM
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RE: Weighing / measuring food. How long have you been doing this? Unless you're competing or have a specific goal in mind I think intuitive eating is the way to go for the long haul. I found value in measuring food for a couple of years to get a better idea of what a proper portion actually is. What does 1oz of chicken actually look and feel like? How many calories are actually in a cup of rice? Long term sustainability of measuring your food isn't necessary, especially if you hate it, but you s…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 06:47 PM
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You're going to get shit on for your weight here, constantly. And rightfully so, but IMO you're going to continue to fail if you don't understand fitness, metabolism, and other "101" course material that will fuel your success. As is said often here, fitness is the foundation from which the rest of your life is based. There's a reason why The Rock calls it "his anchor". If you don't have the discipline to do something as fun and rewarding as lifting weight, you will not succeed in the hard thing…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 06:40 PM
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02/16/21 OYS #54 34 5’10 185 11% BF Separated READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path, Open Her, As you are READING: No bullshit, I’m not Lifts: I bought a TRX since my gym is still closed, I’ve been consistent with it 5-6 days a week for going on a month. It’s …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 05:32 PM
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01/26/21 OYS #53 34 5’10 185 11% BF Separated READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path, Open Her, As you are READING: No bullshit, I’m not Lifts: Daily “strength” workouts. Gyms still closed so I’m working out at home with what I have available to me. I’m going o…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 10:11 PM
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I needed this. Thank you
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/20 08:49 PM
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12/08/20 OYS #52 34 5’10 185 11% BF Separated READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path, Open Her, As you are READING: Millionaire Next Door, TWOTSM (round 2) - Haven’t read in weeks. Didn’t make it a priority this week. Lifts: No real lifts this week. Social: Nad…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 05:23 PM
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I wouldnt say it’s a diversion, I would definitely say it’s fuel. I am channeling those shitty feelings into action. I call it putting anger into action. I would agree that a lot of the past few months were driven by anger to get some sort of revenge through self improvement. I was struggling with that a lot early on, proving to myself that I was a man, which is back to the whole bloody sock thing that I got (rightly) chastised for. But with where I’m at now, I wouldnt say I’m burying myself in …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/20 03:03 AM
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> You've cut down on mental masturbation, yet at the same time you seem to understand yourself better. I read your OYS as 'this is where I am, its not perfect, but that's fine'. I didn't think about that as I was writing, but yea, I mean. It's sort of how I feel. This is who I am. I'm working on improving myself each day, but it's a journey and that's ok. Not sure if I've said it already but thank you for your weekly comments on my OYS. They've been powerful in guiding my thought process and pus…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/20 08:01 PM
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< Have you tried saying "I care. And it's unfortunate. But i can move forward and thrive from this"? I actually haven't done that per say. What I have done is thanked her for giving me the opportunity to thrive in my life by being shaken up relatively early in life. It's sort of the same thing though. > Are you doing it because you want to? Or because you feel the need to?? A little bit of both. I want to because it feels amazing and I know I'm capable. I want to because I can see how much more …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/20 07:57 PM
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Perfect response. I know for a fact back before MRP I would have looked for some girl to cry on the shoulder of instead of reaching out to my boys. They give me the hard, honest truth like the guys here do and I am better for it. Good self-awareness. In general I think you have good self-awareness. You recognize your feelings, your thoughts, and what you have the urge to do, but you're able to keep from acting on them. I can completely relate to this. 100%. Sometimes I catch myself being so fund…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/20 07:15 PM
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There's absolutely a shit ton of confidence wrapped up in a healthy physique, but even if you were to get a 6 pack tomorrow you would still have an unhealthy mental image and low confidence. You need to work on your body image and your self-esteem in tandem.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/20 07:07 PM
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This is the best OYS I've read from you in a while. It seems to me that you're coming to grips with your new life.> It's funny you say that. I almost didn't post this at all because it felt like I was whining. Maybe I'm looking at it from the wrong framing and not seeing the growing pains? Saying you want to be happy is easy. Knowing what you need to be happy is the hard part.> It's definitely been a consistent challenge. I guess that's sort of the point in some existential way? I'm chasing mult…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/20 07:06 PM
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This isn’t just about scarcity, this is about your self-image, your confidence (and lack there of), your limiting beliefs of yourself, etc. You don’t think someone else would fuck you, so why would your wife want to? Make yourself fuckable with confidence. Jay Z is one ugly mother fucker and he still got Beyoncé AND cheated on her. Be Jay, he knows that he’s worth regardless of his lack of conventionally good looks.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/20 02:20 AM
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If you gain muscle you will lose weight. If you work out to lose weight you will just slow your metabolism.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/20 02:17 AM
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Are you afraid of your wife?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 11:29 PM
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Ex told me what a mistake she made, wants to try again etc. Time to see how strong your frame is. I want it not to affect me but it does. I think this is normal. Maybe because it happens (and has happened) to me a lot (recently) . I think what matters is how you react to it. There will always be the pain of realizing the Disney Fantasy doesn't exist, and slipping back into a comfortable situation may change that. Being able to talk this out with a buddy is what I've relied on. You should conside…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 08:48 PM
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I'd argue it's not abundance mentality your boss has, it's confidence. He doesn't have a shred of doubt that no matter where he goes he's going to succeed.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 08:23 PM
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You're 41 and are trying to buy a PS5?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 08:21 PM
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The solution is to tailor the shirts myself. There are many options for buying tailored shirts online for a reasonable price. If your financial goals dictate you learn how to do this yourself, that's fine, but your time could be better spent doing other things. Maybe this is an opportunity to lead the wife by asking her to do it for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 08:18 PM
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I think your more Jabba than Boba right now. Fasting is a good way to binge and restrict. Count your macros, build out a healthy diet, drop sugar, drop junk food, and strength train. If you only measure your success based on the scale and not your overall health you're going to run into a wall real fast.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 08:01 PM
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12/01/20 OYS #51 34 5’10 185 11% BF Separated READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path, Open Her, As you are READING: Millionaire Next Door, TWOTSM (round 2) - Haven’t read in weeks. I will make it a priority this week. Lifts: Gyms are closed again. Honestly sick…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 06:42 PM
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I'm concerned that even though I feel good right now about it, my frame is really just predicated on how well the relationship is going. Accurate. You know you feel good right now because you got laid 3 times. the DNGAF is strong because you're feeling confident thinking "this RP shit really works!". It won't always be smooth sailing and that is when you will see how strong your frame really is.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 06:22 PM
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That’s good, because that’s probably more realistic.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/20 05:24 AM
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Definitely a good point, so I'll speak honestly. If it's a new guy, whatever. She didn't cheat on me with him, so it's irrelevant to me. His success does not define my self-worth. Good on him for his successful investments. I know I'm maximizing my time financially. I have the best social life I have had in years. And mentally, while I still have hurdles to overcome, I continue to make progress. I can't expect her life to be shit until she dies, and what little humanity I have left in me wouldn'…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/20 08:13 PM
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Better, still long winded and full of explanation. However, given that I was also rapped on the knuckles for not taking my own advice this week I can see how easily it can happen. But for example: Physical: It’s always been easy for me to look pretty good. Genetically lucky. I started lifting pretty regularly at the beginning of summer. My lifts aren’t great, but I like how I look, and I’m happy with the progress I’ve made. My goal at the moment is to retain the muscle gain as much as possible w…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/20 06:06 PM
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Haven’t heard this? Metabolic adaptation. For example, a study done on modern hunter gatherers determined their movement should burn way more calories than they actually do due to metabolic adaptation. Ultra marathon runners will gain weight during training. And on and on
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/20 04:43 AM
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It’s the man with a bruised ego speaking from a place of weakness, looking to external validation to prove to himself that he is going to be ok.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/20 01:12 AM
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As someone who talks a lot of shit to people for talking to much I should know better. You’re right. Not a journal entry.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/20 12:05 AM
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You’ve already made gam gam a whore, don’t ruin the kids now too!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 10:17 PM
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The bedroom is "the last frontier" for a reason. Why are you putting it on a pedestal?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 09:36 PM
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This isn't Oprah. No one wants a play by play of your life history. You need STFU.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 09:35 PM
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Brilliant
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 09:33 PM
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Fuck man. You're a weak ass bitch. You're so pathetic if I didn't laugh I'd cry. Mother of god man, you're fucked!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 09:32 PM
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It even got to the point I was reading her messages to her friends over the past 12 months. Although these actions scream of a man who is in his wife’s frame, I was able to find out what was going on in her head over the past 12 months Fucking. Pussy. Who is the prize in this interaction? The guy snooping through his wife's phone and justifying the reasons for why he isn't sad and pathetic? Or the wife? You've taken serious steps back this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 09:23 PM
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No one cares to listen to you feel sorry for yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 09:20 PM
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You're a fat weak fuck. If you're running to lose weight, which, judging by your lifts, suggests that's exactly what you're doing. You've probably never lifted in your life. If you're unstable in a squat you likely need a trainer to teach you what to do. I would bet the farm your form sucks, your mobility sucks, and your fitness knowledge sucks. Don't run to lose weight. Running decreases your metabolism. Gain muscle to lose weight. Hopefully you're following a newbie program like SL 5x5 so you'…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 09:19 PM
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I do NOT want to end up like Dirty Nuke (no offense). You haven't read this weeks OYS by him than.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 07:51 PM
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Hurting my woman - every unhappy wife is a rape victim, right? And I guess rejection too. Feels like you are saying this just because, not necessarily because you believe it. Think about what you're REALLY scared of. Is it actually "hurting" her? What's the repercussions of that? Or is it more? Does she know what a sick fuck you are? Or are you afraid to reveal that part of yourself to her? Are you afraid if you push her she will get mad? Dig deeper.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 07:47 PM
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You have a lot of programming to overcome. You're in your own head, a lot, and I imagine that is common throughout your whole life, not just in your relationship. It probably has served you well in the past, but it's time to let that shit go. You need to balance being logical and analytical with giving fewer fucks. Focus your attention and energy on what matters. Don't feel guilty about not caring or spending time on what doesn't.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 07:43 PM
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But my shoulder feels like I'm going to tear a ligament. Glad your breathing has improved your lifts, but this is another area where you may want to look at your mobility and form. Try "the wall test", it's a shoulder mobility test. My guess is you don't have the necessary range of motion to complete a strict OHP.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 04:50 PM
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11/17/20 OYS #50 34 5’10 185 11% BF Separated READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path, Open Her, As you are READING: Millionaire Next Door, TWOTSM (round 2) Lifts: Little light on lifts (4 days) last week due to crazy work week. However, I’m shredded and I don’t…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 04:47 PM
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lol, I am doing the same
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/20 05:06 PM
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Fair enough. I was referencing how I didn’t want to make further judgements about him not knowing the full story.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/20 05:12 AM
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I’m cautious to comment further but I’ll just say if we were all judged now for who we were wtf is the point of trying to get better? So I imagine there’s some stuff bts I don’t understand and will leave it at that.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/20 03:57 AM
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Brutal. I hadn’t heard that. I know he has some stickier posts in MRP. Didn’t know he was such a pussy.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/20 08:55 PM
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I did something similar to this by the guy Hunter who used to be in here a lot. I actually think this program sounds better for noobs to start to challenge themselves. Thanks for detailing your experience. I think this is a valuable post.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/20 06:20 PM
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Hydrostatic body fat testing is when they pop you in a water tank to measure your bf %. Supposedly the most accurate way to test, though some say calipers can be just as accurate if you know how to use them. It’s a little pricey from what I’ve heard but personally love OP did this. Shows how serious he was about not fooling himself about what he hoped his BF was.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/20 06:18 PM
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You're first instinct to blow things up is that lashing out you want to do from being repressed for so long. You want to get back and counter as hard as you can. Yes, HOA is right (of course). Whatever you mean by "going to a bad place", again, don't do anything stupid. No chick is worth blowing up your life for. If you feel you want to talk to someone, go check out a therapist to just talk through some of your feelings, but most of all, keep coming back to OYS and tracking your progress. This w…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/20 09:59 PM
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You have the open relationship, why stick with her? What does she bring to the table that these tinderella’s aren’t?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/20 05:34 PM
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The only cure for that is to fail. You need to be rejected, to fall flat on your face, and see how life still goes on and you’re able to be a better person because of it. Rejection builds confidence, ironically.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/20 05:32 PM
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You should work on many things, but abundance mentality is a major one. I have been a serial monogamist as well as have had trouble breaking that mental model. The key is to realize casually dating is not the same as having multiple gfs in serious relationships. Casually dating, on purpose, to give yourself abundance mentality and the confidence to “break up” with a girl because she isn’t meeting your needs/expectations could be really impactful.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/20 05:31 PM
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Take advantage of your natural weight belt, happy you saw change so quickly.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/20 05:25 PM
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You being in an open relationship substantially changes my perspective. It would be wise to note this in your OYS as "open marriage" because that is not automatically assumed. Being that most guys come here to fix a marriage, what is wrong with yours?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 11:27 PM
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We can't lead the horse to water. We can't hold your hand. There's a certain level of self-awareness needed to go to the next level. You need to be able to identify what things you're doing aren't well, and what things you are. This is your journey, no one else's. That being said...You have an addictive personality. You're a liar and a cheat (unless your wife knows you have side chicks and go on dates). You're addicted to something here, could be sex, could be validation, but the point is you're…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 09:54 PM
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Give a look at squat university. He doesn't focus only on squatting, but the bracing technique you're likely not doing in either lift is a core component of his education.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 09:50 PM
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It's ok to not know your mission straight away. But you also need to understand a mission is never over. Gaining self-respect is a goal, your mission is under construction.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 08:58 PM
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Don't rationalize away what she did. This kind of betrayal is extremely disruptive, but remember to put yourself first.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 08:56 PM
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Your mental masturbation is just as awful as your physical one. Do you just like to hear yourself talk? No one gives a shit about your FIL's telephone bill. Stop jerking off you fucking weirdo. Get to the point of what matters in your post. This isn't a journal entry.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 08:53 PM
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I am being a pussy and scared of rejection Take a look at u/Glorious_Walrus999 and how hes been able to give no fucks about what he does and the improvements he's been making. If you want a beginner who is a real rising star, keep an eye on him. Follow the DNGAF lead. You're not getting fucked anyway, what do you have to lose?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 08:44 PM
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You don't need a weight belt, you need better form.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 08:40 PM
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What the fuck? You're delusional. Read your OYS back to yourself. And I thought I wasn't going to see anyone else get topped for biggest dumpster fire life while I read through OYS's today.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 08:38 PM
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You're still quite a pussy aren't you? You need to understand the difference between motivation and discipline. My guess is you're probably not bad at learning stuff in school, so go research that and understand why motivation is useless and discipline is everything.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 08:36 PM
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After my wife’s shit test a few weeks ago where she said she wanted me to overtly ask for sex to get consent, I read this as her trying to regain control over beta billy. She knows pussy is her only power. Once you remove that, she has nothing. Good progress on this front.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 08:34 PM
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Well either that, or some people just dislike -me- in particular... It's def just you. Stop asking them to smell your finger.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 08:14 PM
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You really are the epitome of a train wreck. Man oh man. You've majestically fucked up your life since 1990. You're almost 60 and headed for divorce. That's gotta be awesome.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 08:03 PM
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Are you going through a separation / headed for divorce? If you aren't, I don't see why you aren't.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 07:56 PM
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Just because she failed to branch swing this time doesn't mean she hasn't started trying again.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 06:55 PM
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You're entire OYS reads like you're a sad, broken man. Job sucks. Wife sucks. Shitty parent. Addicted to sugar and porn. Self-Respect isn't a mission. That's a pre-requisite to anything you want to do in life and be taken seriously. If you don't respect yourself, no one else will. At best it's a goal. But it is not a mission. Generally you seem extraordinarily angry. A man with this much anger feels completely out of control in his life and demands respect through tyranny. You have no respect fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 06:49 PM
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I wanted to add one more thing. Despite anger being the cause for why you're deciding to pull the trigger on divorce, I think you should count your ability to not crawl back to her and demand she end the affair and go to counseling a huge win. There are countless stories of beta billy's trying to win their wife back after being cheated on. You're not one of them. Follow through with the separation and divorce. Don't submit to her tears when she realizes her beta plow-horse has moved on. Retain t…
/r/askMRP10/11/20 01:34 AM
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Why the hell would you want to fuck her? Put your pride aside, you're just getting cucked even if you think you're in a power position. Save yourself an STD and don't do anything stupid.
/r/askMRP09/11/20 10:58 PM
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Nothing like some big sweaty tits to kick off this post
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/20 03:31 AM
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You may be confusing your prior, unhealthy tendency to be moved by other's emotions as now "giving no fucks" when it simply doesn't move you in your core Yea, we're looking at this. I'm not a robot, if anything I'm more abrasive now if someone tries to pull me off center. IE: they're mad about their political candidate not getting voted in and I don't give a shit either way and their mad they can't get me to care like they do, so I just make fun of them for being so emotional. This pisses them o…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/20 09:28 PM
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11/03/20 OYS #49 34 5’10 185 (+5?) 11% BF Separated READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path, Open Her, As you are READING: Millionaire Next Door, TWOTSM (round 2) Lifts: Unhappy with my squat progression (in strength) so I’m increasing frequency with lower inten…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/20 12:39 AM
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This is going to be the last bit of effort I invest in you. I don't invest in retards who ask me for help in the business world unless they show me they're worth my time and you're no different. I can't even quote anything in your OYS. The whole thing makes it seem like your life is perfect. Stop being afraid. You're afraid of people burning down your ego every time you talk about something negative in your life. You're not owning your shit here. At all. Don't buy fucking straps by the way. Do f…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/20 10:46 PM
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Thank you for calling me out on here. I forgot about this faggot and clearly he isn't learning anything. Time to have another go.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/20 10:30 PM
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Well, again, that’s all on you lying to yourself saying you were ok nuking it. You have to have the same mentality whether or not shit gets better. But your entire goal was just to get sex, then you got some and now you’re wondering why you’re lost. It’s because you were incongruent.
/r/askMRP30/10/20 12:00 AM
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Horns has written before that you get the sex you teach (or taught). You need to lead in the bedroom, don’t expect her to just read your mind. I can’t help but look at how hard you’re measuring your progress based on the sex you’re getting. Lots of she statements here. Feels like you’re in her frame. In her head. You’re not measuring your own self worth and progress based upon your merits, but how she is reacting to you.
/r/askMRP29/10/20 09:57 PM
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Blarg, I don’t have any clue what you’re talking about, but I say go get that fluffy tail. Just make sure to get plenty of quality lube with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 11:11 PM
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Thanks a lot man that’s exactly what I was looking for in terms of clarity, I really appreciate it!
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 09:41 PM
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You may legitimately be a tax pro or business owner and know all about this shit. That would be super valuable to me, but there are so many retards on this forum you never know who’s the real deal. I have pretty poor tax knowledge as a whole. I understand the basics of “financial literacy” but once we get beyond the set-it-and-forget-it aspects of a 1040ez I’m googling a lot. Lots of guys are way more experienced in business here and love to talk about it so I figured I’d shoot my shot and see w…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 02:35 AM
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Thanks for putting in the time and effort to do that. Ultimately this looks to be the answer. I was hoping for some ability to have my cake and eat it too, but I don’t think there’s a legal way to do that. Oh well.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 02:28 AM
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Do you happen to have an opinion on spending vs shooting for deductions?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 11:40 PM
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I don’t automatically trust anonymous people on the internet. I don’t have time or desire to debate percentages. If you want to drop sarcastic advice feel free to make yourself feel better. I had a question, if you feel you can help, good. If you’re hoping I will give you an opening to criticize me for not knowing something...I mean, that’s cool too. I’m focused on minimizing taxes. If it ultimately turns out that spending the money is counter-productive than that is the answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 10:36 PM
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Are you ever gonna lose that gut? Either you haven't measured BF % recently or you're eating too much shit. How are you still 20%?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 09:44 PM
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So your advice would be not try and use tax deductions and just pay 50% taxes on all of my side income? Because if I spend the money on tax deductible purchases the jokes on me?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 09:35 PM
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In regards to your edit about controlling emotion, I 100% agree, which is why I had to own my shit and tuck tail to admit I was wrong. Still plenty of room for growth in this particular area of my life.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 09:11 PM
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I guess that’s language that makes sense to me. Essentially I’m trying to maximize my earnings and minimize my tax liability. I’d like to keep as much of the side business profit as I can using legal means of minimizing my amount of taxable profit via deductions.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 09:00 PM
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Yea, I understand what you’re asking. No I don’t think 30% of my income is deducted from 100k, I know it’s 30% on all earnings between 100-150k in this example, and so on below that.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 08:38 PM
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I think it’s mostly this “get an accountant”
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 08:37 PM
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10/26/20 OYS #48 34 5’10 180 11% BF Separated READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path, Open Her, As you are READING: Millionaire Next Door, TWOTSM (round 2) Lifts: Increasing step-count to try and lean out a little bit. Finally increasing weight in gym. Social: …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 03:18 PM
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I have a best friend. Personally, it takes a lot for me to get to close to people so when someone can vibe well with me it’s rare and unique and I put effort into making sure that shit survives. Through every break up my boys are always there. You surround yourself with reliable people and you never want for anything. Besides being great people, it’s a good way to expand your professional network.
/r/askMRP26/10/20 01:26 AM
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I came here just to tell you that you’re a gigantic faggot. Ban me Reddit, fuck it. I despise cheaters and the pathetic excuses they make when caught to rationalize their actions. You’re not “spinning plates”. You’re having affairs and lying to yourself about it by using language you can hide behind to try and look “alfa”. It doesn’t matter if you NEED these side chicks because your gigantic ego causes you to NEED to drink from the validation teet of any bitch who gives you the time of day. Mayb…
/r/askMRP24/10/20 07:14 PM
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Fathers should be enraged reading this. You’re a huge fucking pussy. How did labia majora grow into a human and become sentient? You cheat on your first wife, poorly vet, marry crazy, and go “I don’t get it” You have no backbone. How the fuck do you even ask a question that boils down to “my wife disrespects my kids, what do I do?” You fucking stand up for your fucking kids you fucking twat! You have no backbone, no self-respect, you lie and cheat and hide and grovel and live life scared. You sh…
/r/askMRP24/10/20 03:10 PM
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Might be worth getting a PT (trainer or therapist) to check out how your knee tracks. Obviously due to the accident you might just never be the same but I’d try anything to progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/20 07:00 PM
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I’m getting back to the point where I miss breakfast and my joints hurt. The first part sounds like an eating disorder. I mean at 10% bf, which, don't get me wrong, is actually quite good, but you shouldn't be needing to skip meals. If your joints hurt it's a good indication you need to change up your programming. You have decent numbers (You shouldn't be able to bench more than you squat though), so it's probably time to look at working in the 8-12 rep range instead of sticking in the 5 rep ran…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 10:42 PM
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127lbs? My lord you're a cute one aren't you? Your "wife" can probably benchpress you. Don't use terms you don't understand. You didn't "Rambo" you tried to rape your wife because she doesn't desire your scrawny ass. You don't have a marriage, a relationship, or any semblance of anything beyond cohabitation with a woman who despises you. She's asked you for a divorce THREE times. What the fuck? She hates you, why do you disrespect yourself by continuing to be in a "marriage" with her. You're a g…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 10:38 PM
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You need discipline across your entire life. It start with your lifts I fucked off with diet all this year This is the foundation of your discipline, focus, and self-respect. You gained 10lbs, lost 10 lbs, you save $1000, blow $1000, your net is still 0. You're back to square one. You're not just fucking off with lifting, or finances, you're likely fucking off in every aspect of life and these are the only two you're talking about. Then you bitch about not getting laid. You haven't earned your o…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 08:56 PM
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You're right. Managing up isn't ass kissing. I also don't self-promote well. I'll brainstorm some strategies to help get myself on his radar, though more than likely that involves self-promotion by demonstrating my work in front of him. Maybe giving him a larger background on my experience and what I've done. I'm not sure. I'll look into this.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 08:51 PM
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I'm curious about this. Was this an agreement with your boss or a more general company policy? I assume you're talking about why I thought I'd get a promotion and the checklist. Essentially it was an agreement with the boss. I've been pushing for a promotion for quite some time. We laid out ground rules for how that would happen. I created a MAP for my career and he agreed upon it. In July he invited me to a meeting where he showed me the proposed org chart, including my promotion. He said if we…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 08:30 PM
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I was heated when I wrote this, but essentially the plan is to not undermine him or be a little whiny bitch. The goal is to out work the old fat fuck and destroy him through effort and networking. The goal isn't dependent on him. The goal is dependent on myself staying focused and disciplined through the 1-2 years this is going to take. I'm not trying to get him fired. I want him to work for me. I feel that would be much better. Also, you're assuming by "confront" I mean "cause confrontation" - …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 07:02 PM
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I'm taking this and running with it. He is spineless. This is the third or fourth time he's avoided a difficult conversation with myself or a colleague. 48 LOP here I come. Edit - Wanted to add more context. I know you like this shit. Edit 2 - formatting If it is, how do you implement STFU and get his hamster to run and make him talk? I have a strategy set-up for this. I don't expect him to talk, I expect him to avoid, but the goal is to needle the truth out of him in the least intimidating way …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 06:58 PM
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No one cares about your calculated 1RM. This is your ego protecting yourself from having to put down your actual numbers, which you seem to be embarrassed of. You're fat. Get strong. As you said, you have a giant ego, here is one step to start being humbled. Your worth as a man isn't defined by how much you lift. I don’t get shit tests. I’d say my wife would be fine ignoring me unless she needs to tell me about her day or something that happened at work This isn't a good thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 06:52 PM
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10/20/20 OYS #47 34 5’10 180 (-5) 11% BF Separated READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path, Open Her, As you are READING: Millionaire Next Door, TWOTSM (round 2) Lifts: Down 5lbs from pre-covid weight. Hung out with some old gym buddies who said my arms are smal…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 04:13 PM
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The way you ask questions, all tied back to how you speak in the YouTube sessions, has provided tremendous value to me. For instance, I started asking myself why I even talk about women as much as I do in these posts when I keep stalling on pursuing anything. I go back to your philosophy of “if it makes you happy, do it” as my way to avoid overthinking. No, I’ve not started dating. I like the idea of it, because I like the feeling of close companionship. Hypocritically, however, I do not want to…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/20 01:08 AM
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I have a cat, so that actually spoke quite accurately to me. Great suggestion on unchained man. I gained a ton from a second read of TWOTSM, unchained will likely hit differently with my different mental state.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 09:09 PM
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Look man, I know this shit is scary and it fucking sucks, but you deserve to be happy and to grow and to live a good life. As much as you think you’re doing the right thing, you’re not. You already knew what I highlighted, you’ve been burying it, so here’s the thing: you don’t have to go Rambo. You can start to mentally check out and start living your single life so the adjustment isn’t so hard, but that’s likely just going to cause you to procrastinate longer. These decisions fucking suck, but …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 02:59 AM
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Do you often give shitty advice?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 09:54 PM
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Balance your macros. Diets are for fat chicks. Build a lifestyle.
/r/askMRP13/10/20 09:02 PM
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You can do it yourself by searching "stfu", but I'll give you this one nugget https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/dnhq16/stfu_ground_zero_for_dummiesnfaggots/
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 08:40 PM
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I think this points to a lack of frame, and more generally being too reactive and not going after what I want. So what are you going to do to fix it?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 07:57 PM
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Was 195lbs 6% BF lifting 315BP Operative word "WAS" - this is your ego trying to compensate for how insecure you are with what your lifts are now. Fuck it. Let it go. - 200lbs 25% BF due to hospitalizations and antipsychotics. Who are you DEERing to? You need to question why you feel the need to justify yourself to internet strangers. This is also the stat you should have started with. You're now fat. You haven't lifted in 2 fucking years. You know you fucked up. It's time to at least get your d…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 07:41 PM
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I grew a mustache I think it works for me lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 07:27 PM
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You're missing the point. OP know's he's not worth fucking and is working on being someone worth fucking. It has nothing to do with being in her head.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 07:21 PM
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I want her to enjoy the experience (validation seeking) but I don’t know how to fuck her yet. Stick dick in vagina.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 05:42 PM
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I’m more attractive and feel like I could go indefinitely without my wife’s touch. I’ll up the kino outside of sex and see what happens. The key here is to do it authentically when you want to, no covert contracts, not doing it because she wants to, no validation. She looks cute and you want to touch her, alright, but don't start forcing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 05:34 PM
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She bores the hell out of me, lacks social skills, and is a constant worrier. Her anxiety and stress bleeds into the children. Life is easier when it's just me. Single parenting is actually easier for me. The house is cleaner. The kids are better behaved. They eat their dinner. They play without acting like chaotic crazy people. They go to bed on time. This is all a reflection of you. You are a weak and pathetic leader who isn't trusted by his wife. She is anxious and depressed because she can't…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 05:23 PM
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You can't fathom a mental model where she fucks you and gets great joy out of it because it pleases you and you validate her being with the prize. I need to put this quote on my wall
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 05:12 PM
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This is why I am here, I never got over this. I may have started posting in my OYS too early, before I was ready to admit this This is just your ego protecting itself. Affairs of any type hit men in a way that crushes their ego and makes them feel "less than". There will be a lot of ego work here (I know this has been the most grueling part of the journey for me) but the more you humble yourself and just keep basking in your failures the more you can do the work to make the necessary changes.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 05:09 PM
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You're a pussy, you know that? You're avoiding talking about your relationship because you haven't killed the puppy. You get horny and jerk off because you know sex isn't on the table. You're avoiding the major issues and taking the easy way out by hanging out at a skate park and going to the gym. You're only fooling yourself. Patrice O'Neal said "if your girlfriend left you, what would you miss?" You literally have nothing left in this relationship anymore. You're roommates. Why keep wasting ti…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 05:04 PM
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10/13/20 OYS #46 34 5’10 185 11% BF Separated READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path, Open Her, As you are READING: Millionaire Next Door, TWOTSM (round 2) Lifts: Strength is down significantly from pre-COVID numbers. Increasing calories helped improve recovera…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 04:01 PM
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CBT is cognitive behavioral therapy. The idea behind it is to change your thought process around events or mental models in your life to help you move on from them. I’m seeing a CBT therapist and it’s not at all what you’d expect from what you see on tv. My guy listens to what I have to say, and though he’s nice, it’s like MRP in how you have to do work to change your mental models. They don’t sit and baby you. Idk if CBT is the best type of therapy for you or not but maybe my explanation can he…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/20 09:17 PM
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I would have to agree. I think the most dangerous aspect is the chance of there being an asymptomatic carrier that spreads it. You've already told death to fuck off once. I don't think you need to make it a habit.
/r/askMRP07/10/20 06:01 PM
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I'm not interested in fighting either. I openly admitted to my bias and pointed out a single study which supports my personal views. I am not a doctor. I am not a infectious disease expert. I am not suggesting anyone, such as u/johneyapocalypse go out and risk his life just to make gainz. I think that is very clear. I've had very little personal contact with COVID. My brother got it, he had hardly any symptoms and is fine. I've had some co-workers get exposed to it and not catch it. Everyone is …
/r/askMRP07/10/20 05:59 PM
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I’ve been to a few different gyms across the state and the requirements are different. One gym requires ppl wear a mask once you enter but can take it off once you’re on the floor. The gym I go to now is 100% mask use required at all times except for when you drink water. Cardio equipment and classes are closed. A third was 100% mask use required with all the work outs having to be done outside. They moved all the equipment out under overhangs. My theory on why gyms have been targeted as dangero…
/r/askMRP07/10/20 04:09 PM
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Damnit. What did I miss?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/20 01:24 AM
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Here is the quick google I did to find the easiest study, just in case I am called out; https://finance.yahoo.com/amphtml/news/national-study-confirms-safe-gym-120000475.html?__twitter_impression=true I will admit it looks like there may be an issue with the methodology here, and I am biased towards going back to the gym, so perhaps my view isn’t the most objective.
/r/askMRP06/10/20 10:35 PM
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The majority of people who go to the gym, especially now, are the die hards. These people are already more fit and healthy than the average. On top of that people don’t like to work out when sick.
/r/askMRP06/10/20 10:30 PM
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I strongly suggest you start looking into budgeting, proper retirement funding, and how to secure yourself in the event of an emergency (medical or lay off that would stress your finances) if you haven’t already.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 10:29 PM
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Seriously. The gym is, according to a recent study, one of the safest places to go in public.
/r/askMRP06/10/20 09:03 PM
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The numbers don’t lie. If you lost weight but bf% stayed the same you lost muscle with it. 188 / 19.4 = 36.472lbs of fat 185 / 19.4 = 35.89 lbs of fat So where did that other weight loss come from?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 07:45 PM
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Technically you can’t “catch up” on sleep. The most beneficial sleep you get is the deep sleep, the REM, which has incredible healing properties for the body. Also helps with weight loss.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 07:42 PM
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Looking forward to see how you improve during the next project and interaction you have with this employee.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 06:56 PM
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You talk too much
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 06:53 PM
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you're 6'2 and think 1500 calories a day is going to fix your issues? That's so far below what is healthy it's ridiculous. Wanna not be fat? Gain muscle.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 06:50 PM
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you only JUST opened a savings account? Was it at least an HYSA? If you can't control your finances, your future, your families stability, how will you ever retire? How will you ever secure yourself in the case of an emergency?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 06:45 PM
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Fatigue could be linked to several things, but getting your T checked isn't a bad start. Could also be over training based on your increased activity levels, but your body will adjust to the load.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 06:32 PM
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if you lost weight but your BF % is the same it means you're losing muscle.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 06:29 PM
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Healing isn't a mission. On his third revision, he handed in utter perfection. Did it take 3 times because your communication is shit or because your employee is shit? An opportunity for improved communication and leadership resides here. It will be better for everyone to not be wasting time on things that don't meet your expectations.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 06:26 PM
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First world problems, eh? Didn’t even feel beta dad was relevant but wanted to log it as a reminder to myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 06:01 PM
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10/06/20 OYS #45 34 5’10 185 11% BF Separated READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path, Open Her, As you are READING: Millionaire Next Door, TWOTSM (round 2) Lifts: Still lifting. Nothing to report Social: Nothing to report. Financial/Career: Made my move with th…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 04:26 PM
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You’re an interesting one. You say you want to be 170lbs, but you’ve been in the 190s since April. You’ve been here nearly a year but barely have any OYS posts. You have no frame, which is why your wife talking to you kicks you off center. You’re larping, at best. If you’re as lazy with MRP as you are with lifting you won’t ever change.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 11:15 AM
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Nice numbers
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 10:45 AM
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Are those proven 1RM?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 10:03 AM
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Your resentment is misplaced. You say you know it’s your fault you’re in this position but resent your wife for not being attracted to you. Resent yourself for being a bitch. For making the bed you’re now sleeping in. Own your shit by owning what you created. Then fix it. Second - your lack of initiation based on ego is good self-awareness. Overall there’s a high degree of honesty with yourself here. However, you can’t share your gifts and talents by living in fear. You’ve read TWOTSM enough to …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 10:02 AM
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Why do you have a whole subheading about sex? Is that relevant at all to you becoming a better man? Or a reflection of what you measure your success by? Instead of measuring your success based on personal improvement...
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 09:32 AM
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You should give more fucks about smelling bad.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 09:30 AM
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Push her down the stairs. Only the strong survive in this house.
/r/askMRP05/10/20 06:44 PM
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I guess I’m still a Reddit newb, I meant my comment for OP but added to your comment instead. Oh well. Happy lifting.
/r/askMRP04/10/20 04:14 AM
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Along with shrugs you should look into the suitcase carry and walking around with a trap bar. However shrugs, either with dumbbells or a Olympic bar, are both great ways to work on grip strength. Hanging leg raises will test grip strength through isometric holding.
/r/askMRP04/10/20 03:07 AM
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It’s about the progress. I’m not bragging about 3 plates, which I haven’t even done. What’s the problem with building up the strength in your hands? He’s still deadlifting. Max weight isn’t everything, just look at body builders.
/r/askMRP03/10/20 09:58 PM
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Don’t use straps or hooks or any of that shit. I was in your shoes maybe 2 years ago. I used straps for years for any back work, anything that Involved pulling or holding, like shrugs. It made my wrists so weak it impacted my bench. I dropped straps after reading a post by the rock who also dropped straps because his stunt coordinator told him his grip strength was shit and he was impeding his natural strength by using straps. Ditch all aids and keep lifting. Don’t use the Olympic grip either (o…
/r/askMRP03/10/20 08:48 PM
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This is awful advice.
/r/askMRP03/10/20 04:30 PM
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Try cbd oil for anxiety. A high quality full spectrum one.
/r/askMRP30/09/20 06:28 PM
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Reporting in to also call you a cuck in hopes that it spurs you into some sort of action.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/20 05:11 AM
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I have been looking for this for 9 months now.. I have had success with a couple of short term ones, but the long term big picture purpose continues to elude me This response tells me you don't know understand what a mission is. Read The Way Of The Superior Man to get a well thought out guide on how to discover your purpose. I will say that from personal experience, not living an authentic life makes finding your mission incredibly difficult. Right now the source of my stress and anxiety is my f…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/20 04:52 AM
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I’m doing just that. Meeting set for tomorrow to push forward my plan.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/20 01:37 AM
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I did some reading on chakras and it piqued my interest, so this week I will dive a bit more into that. I can feel cortisol and adrenaline running through my body regularly, and it is fucking up my focus. Lifting helps to an extent, but the problem is not in my physical body, it is in my head/heart/gut. No. Your "chakras" are not the problem. Your head/heart are not the issue (though gut health could be an issue). You're mentally fucked right now and you're looking for something to help you feel…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 04:13 PM
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Still stuck at all lifts due to some form issue in the squat messing up my elbow. I've narrowed it down to a dumb tendency to pull down on the bar, as if doing a pullup behind the head. This is actually the correct technique. The queue given is often "break the bar". I think your issue is shoulder mobility. Try and work on some shoulder mobility exercises and see what your range of motion is like.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 03:56 PM
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09/29/20 OYS #44 34 5’10 185 11% BF Separated READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path, Open Her, As you are READING: Millionaire Next Door, TWOTSM (round 2) Lifts: Still lifting. Nothing to report Social: Nothing to report. Financial/Career: I’m working on a pro…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 03:27 PM
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It was something about curt schilling and a bloody sock wasn’t it?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/20 04:33 AM
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Hm ok I’ll take the bait. I’m going to say that you’re giving too much alpha and not enough beta. Remember, we’re looking for balance here. She’s clearly very insecure and looking for some comfort. I think your misdiagnosing comfort tests for shit tests. Based on what little real info is here, my guess is she knows you’re not into her and you haven’t been for some time. Her hamster is in overdrive because instead of working on being a good leader and offering comfort you’re getting annoyed and l…
/r/askMRP27/09/20 08:09 PM
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This is just an excuse coming from a fearful and avoidant mindset. Red gave you the answer. Now you’re offering reasons why you can’t do it. Stop being a pussy.
/r/askMRP25/09/20 05:29 PM
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Waaaiitt, does this mean I no longer am the only one getting a reach around ?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/20 02:02 AM
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The internet and assholes like me don’t necessarily “deserve” (or want) to know the blow-by-blow as you sort out your decision making process, however... There is tremendous value in being an example of possibly changing your mind/perspective, putting your pride away (and ego), and admitting that you may have made the wrong choice. There are a lot of guys here who come here, autistic and unaware of the grey areas in life. I for one, would be curious to know about your journey through this part o…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/20 02:00 AM
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I like your assessment here and agree with everything you said. I think you did a much better job of what I was trying to say.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/20 12:27 AM
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So if we peel back the onion, here’s what we have: -My physical challenges are a way to soothe my bruised ego after being cheated on and left. They are for my ego to prove to my ego that I am everything I say I am or want to be. -This just demonstrates I’m not over my ex when the drive that I feel to do things is to prove her wrong (for leaving me). -This results in me not living a free and authentic life. I’m living chained to my ego, my ex, and a prison of my own design. This leaves me unable …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/20 04:26 PM
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So after you Morpheus'd me into a mental coma yesterday after some deep thinking, this was the result. finally begin to look inward and see that it is empty there. This maybe hit home harder than anything else you said. Yes, you are sawing away at a nerve, and breaking down a wall that's protecting my ego (?) from having to accept that I am empty inside. My previous, let's call it "purpose", which is generous, are built entirely on external factors. I don't feel fulfilled. I haven't in a very lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/20 03:49 PM
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The physical was never a problem for you, it was always the mental. I 100% agree. As HOA pointed out yesterday, the physical is just a way for me to avoid tackling the real issues, which I'm sort of just touching the surface on. I am hamstering. I want to avoid having to open up. I'm not worried about rejection, I'm feeling anxious about getting close to someone again and having to feel vulnerable, aka get hurt, essentially. I do think catch and release is the best thing for me to do right now. …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/20 03:34 PM
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I think a lot of men do, but I'm glad you could find some meaning in it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/20 12:35 AM
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I started to respond to this, but had an existential crisis and went to the gym instead. I think what you're saying is a little over my head right now; just beyond my understanding. However, here's take two. This: Maybe one day you'll see the journey IS the challenge and being able enjoy every minute of it. In fact, the challenge of wanting to handle challenges as they arise in a calm, collected "I got this" manner become the actual challenge. And this: Those are all external challenges when it'…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/20 12:34 AM
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I do strongly believe in monogamy, but have no issues with dating multiple people in a casual setting, at least on principle. How will you build an unbreakable frame without some challenge? I think about this a lot. It's like being a personal trainer with hundreds of certifications but never training anyone. I might have a ton of book smarts but how am I suppose to apply it without every being in the position to. Why does dating = add someone in your life and fill a void? I wrote and deleted a l…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 10:21 PM
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Something that bothers me is my wife’s dishonesty. If this is a boundary you have, enforce it. My reaction was not in anger, I grabbed my wife and with a smirk... I then STFU pulled my attention for the rest of the evening I shrugged it off, as most women lie You're incongruent here. Either it bothers you, or it doesn't. You didn't address the lying as a problem, but acted angrily. I see lying as blatant disrespect UNLESS it's been conditioned, say, if you previously lied or would get butt hurt …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 10:09 PM
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Nine weeks of cutting at 1300-1500 calories. This is too long of a cut. Your body and metabolism adapt, and fast. Try looking into mini cuts and bulks for a more sustainable method of weight loss. While you are short, and small (5'6/148), this calorie amount is what you would expect from a 5'2 woman. With enough muscle mass you won't need to be sub 2k calories just to maintain. IMO, focus on gaining strength. The muscle will help with the fat loss.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 09:20 PM
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09/22/20 OYS #43 34 5’10 185 11% BF Separated READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path, Open Her, As you are READING: Millionaire Next Door Lifts: Signed up for a new, better gym this weekend and put in 2 quality work outs. I lifted 5 times this week and ran twic…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 03:39 PM
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You literally said you were a 50s housewife.
/r/askMRP20/09/20 10:47 PM
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Advice* You will find many men here motivated to change their situations for themselves here, not for anyone else. The community will be hard on you to make you a better man. You will either wash out or harden up. This is a slow process, so you need to commit to this for you, and you need to relate to the community of men looking to improve themselves, not an individual.
/r/askMRP20/09/20 10:46 PM
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Gay in the sense that you’re weak and effeminate. This is not used in the bigoted sense, though we will still all be banned for this stupid ass shit anyway.
/r/askMRP20/09/20 10:44 PM
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Read through the top posts. Start posting to OYS. You’ve started reading, but you need NMMNG. Doesn’t matter how good looking you are, if you’re a bitch on the inside women sniff it out so unless your girls a lesbian she’s not gonna want to fuck a pussy. You’re controlled by your emotions and have no discipline. You have no frame so you’re balls deep in hers. You don’t lift (which you say you’re going to start tomorrow) so you’re skinny or fat or both, which makes you look as feminine as you act…
/r/askMRP20/09/20 10:40 PM
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You haven’t read many posts here have you?
/r/askMRP20/09/20 10:32 PM
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I found this super helpful today, thank you for taking the time out to do this.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/20 10:26 PM
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Replying to save link
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/20 05:17 AM
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Keep up the good work
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/20 12:06 AM
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Best thing to do is lead by example, either way
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 11:57 PM
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I don't want to reward you for being beta cuck of the year, but I do want to give you some credit for being a humble mother fucker and really owning your shit. I think this post should serve as a reminder of how challenging it can be to get out of the BP mindset and how deeply ingrained these behaviors are in men today. As a group of men trying to get better and be better fathers than our fathers were, we should always be reminded of what will happen if we stray from the path. I never want my (f…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 09:14 PM
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I looked back on your OYS and I remember you being banned for awhile for rule 9, I believe? You're 50 years old and are a career beta/nice guy but you've only been at this a year... Imagine being indoctrinated into a religion when you were born, lived it until you were 49, and then told everything you learned throughout your entire life was a lie. There's a reason it's called "the Matrix" and "taking" the red pill. Right now you're fighting against yourself and your lifetime of conditioning that…
/r/askMRP16/09/20 09:08 PM
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Good luck buddy, this shit sucks, but you’ll find your way through it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 08:59 PM
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It took me a minute, but I think I understand what you mean. My words reflect my mental point of origin, which came from a place of weakness instead of strength and opportunity.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 07:17 PM
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that in her head we're "already separated," and that she's not "in love" with me You got the kiss of death here. Your marriage is on life support and she pulled the plug. All that's left for you to do is say the last rights and let it drift off into nothingness, because she already has. The changes you’re making need to be for you and to set you up for life after your marriage. Don't do them for her. Make them, authentically, for you. Edit:words
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 06:33 PM
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Women don't have integrity, which is why men don't understand why they would do something like this. I know this first hand, I missed all the signs and kept thinking I could turn a sinking ship around. What you need to realize is women don't communicate nor value the same things as men. This is not a knock on them, this is their nature. It's up to you to see this and act accordingly.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 06:11 PM
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Sex: One round of sex before the start of period week and one round of fooling around after. I failed to improve the quality of the fooling around. This is one area where I need to do better. If you recognize this as a weakness make actionable steps to improve it. You always want to be able to fuck your woman to sleep, so be balanced in your approach. And don't forget to prioritize fucking her mind before her body.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 06:09 PM
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Jesus, what a victim puke. Are you as pathetic as you describe yourself in what you wrote? Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Own up to your mistakes and start making changes. All you're doing here is crying about how shitty a person you are. Make more quantifiable goals. running a training program for 12 weeks means nothing. Work out 1 hour a day 3 days a week does. Lose 5 lbs this month. Cut out sugar, or fast food, or alcohol, those are quantifiable goals. Start putting in some effort. You can'…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 06:04 PM
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FEAR. FEAR of rejection. Fear of Being alone. Fear of not being liked. I have found that when I have frame, own my shit, face my fears, the result is actually the opposite. Old habits die hard. What are you going to do to push yourself out of your comfort zone and fail at something? What are you going to try that is going to make you nervous and anxious and want to quit before you start? This was a good week, but after a couple rule 9's it's clear you live in your wife's frame, and that doesn't …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 06:01 PM
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This, don't be a pussy. Own your shit and track your progress. You're going to be infinitely more effective getting feedback on what you're doing wrong instead of living in a bubble, which clearly hasn't worked for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 05:49 PM
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Good progress on recognizing your weak points and trying to work on them. Obviously you still have a ways to go, but you know this. Don't get caught up measuring your success on how much sex you get though, recognize your changes as the real wins here.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 05:15 PM
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She smiled, shook her head and said “your arms...” I smiled and playfully said “I’m up here. Focus!” Pretty sure I gave her a girl boner. This is validation seeking behavior. I'm making a leap, not knowing your history, that your affair was at least partially due to validation seeking. If you need to get the ego boost of someone else's validation you should check that.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 05:07 PM
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Why are you here? It's no one's job here to "convince" you of everything. Your OYS was barely ownership of any kind at all. You half-ass your relationship, your OYS, your responses, you probably half ass everything. You lack passion, drive, initiative and purpose. You lack self-awareness. You're the sarcastic kid deflecting truth left and right with jackass comments instead of accepting feedback and taking down your walls. You're a faggot, and it's time to accept that or leave. No one's going to…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 04:42 PM
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Still not talking much. No touching or sex for three months. I had been working on positive, engaging, fun, but she asked that I not interact except as roommates. What are you holding onto? She's waiting for you to kill the puppy. I realized it is easier to track with wife's opinion of me and our future. I have made her my idol. I have made the marriage my idol. I have made the fear of being alone, and avoiding pain my goals. Binging on crap and fap are still my pain relievers Oh I see. So why d…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 03:30 PM
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09/15/20 OYS #42 34 5’10 185 11% BF Separated READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path, Open Her READING: As you are Lifts: Shitty week of lifting. I only did 3 days. I only did home workouts and not many of them. No excuses, just a lack of focus. Adding 5 workou…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 03:21 PM
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This book is also how I started to develop my purpose/mission. He gives actionable exercises and steps. Book is a good read overall too.
/r/askMRP11/09/20 07:08 PM
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I guess infamous is better than famous? Or something?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/20 12:23 AM
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Man I LOL’d. I absolutely deserved that shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 11:01 PM
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I mean, I spelled out exactly why I said what I did in the statement, if you wanna contribute something feel free.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 10:48 PM
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I know why I put it in. Do you?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 03:27 PM
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09/08/20 OYS #41 34 5’10 185 11% BF Separated READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path READING: Open Her Lifts: Been lifting consistently since going on vacation and hanging out with an extremely driven group of people. Did a 7 mile 1200ft elevation gain run, sta…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 10:51 PM
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It's not a joke when people say being fired is as traumatic as losing a close loved one. It sounds dramatic, but for someone like you who had his whole life planned out, his whole identity tied to his career, to watch that collapse in front of your eyes and be powerless to control it is likely still haunting you. Your skillset isn't the problem, but you're going to need to reconcile your job loss the same way you would grieve a loved one. Don't fret that you don't have a mission. A meaningful mi…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 10:15 PM
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Tardy to the party on this topic, and it’s something I will bring up in this weeks OYS, but I have always been uncomfortable with compliments, and only very recently have been able to confidently accept a compliment, though I have only used method 1. Method 2 is something I will attempt to employ to create a more fun and charming social standing in groups.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/20 06:36 PM
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Hilarious. He claims he has frame. My dude, if you had frame you’d have told her to kick rocks already. You put her on a pedestal bc she’s cute and now you’re trying to salvage this train wreck while she begs you to kill the puppy.
/r/askMRP05/09/20 03:17 PM
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If only there were other posts....JUST like this one OP could have read to start getting an idea of what was going on. I swear every guppy has the same basic question “i have covert contracts and can’t get sex but don’t know why” Shit gets annoying. Do your fucking research first before asking a basic fucking question. This lack of effort makes me think you’re a hopeless fuck who won’t do the work, even if it’s spelled out for you.
/r/askMRP05/09/20 02:21 PM
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Separation was legally official in July but I’ve been no contact since March. The initial shittiness has gone down substantially but I still have triggers because of everything that lead to the separation. I actually barely drink anymore, usually one day a month or less since March, it just happened to be my birthday month and I was around way more people than normal celebrating. Your suggestion of minimum daily standards is actually a great suggestion I will implement. That is a good way to bui…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/20 11:51 PM
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I can smell your desperation from here, how do you think she's reacting to a man who worships her pussy? You need to read a lot more or work on your self-awareness because this shit isn't a formula. Gym + SMV - Shit tests + IOI's ≠ Sex.
/r/askMRP25/08/20 11:18 PM
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08/25/20 OYS #40 34 5’10 185 11% BF Separated READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path READING: Open Her, (Another one I can’t remember the title of) Lifts: I was able to find a gym that's open. After about 4 workouts I hit a new PR on deadlift, though my squat h…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/20 11:14 PM
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You list these items as though they are a checklist. Most of them are material and things you can use to stroke your own ego. Are your kids great people? Are you proud of how you're raising them? Why are you a good father? Do you push yourself to be a good father? You need to read the side bar, (yes that's what I was referring to) because this will help you understand why long-time MRPers talk about their mission and pursuing it. Some men in the RP community call it their purpose, whatever you c…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/20 10:42 PM
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You need to also admit to yourself that the reason why she treats you the way she does is your fault. Extreme ownership. You're in the situation your in because of your inability to be the man in the relationship and she had to take over. Now she see's you as weak and unreliable. You now have to shoulder the burden of responsibility and humble yourself as opposed to being mad at her for being this way.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/20 10:30 PM
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You’ve got a ton of work to do. Your entire OYS is about sex and how it validates your relationship and you, or not. You clearly have some very complicated sexual baggage that you’re going to need to sort out, but more importantly, you need to start reading and getting perspective on your life and what you value. What are your life goals, for you? You can’t measure your success by the amount of sex you’re getting, you need to measure your success in ways that matter. Edit:word
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/20 10:16 PM
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This. You’re proving you’ve built a life that revolves around your wife, not around your mission. Follow your purpose and she will follow you, or she won’t, but either way you will be a better man for pursuing your authentic self instead of being crushed when she leaves you because you made her the center of your universe.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/20 10:03 PM
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You sound afraid of your wife. You take her too seriously. She can sense you’re being a pussy around her and aren’t confident and this does not give her the WAP.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/20 10:00 PM
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I could be wrong here, but it feels to me like you’re in her frame. Being anxious when you’re around her instead of creating things you want to do and inviting her to join in. You sound radically insecure and unhappy with yourself because of how she reacts to you instead of judging you and you alone. Instead, you rely on her reactions to tell you how and who you are.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/20 09:58 PM
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This is the vibe I’m getting. I’ve been here, unfortunately, and I think this is a highly likely scenario. Problem is, if she’s already fucking someone else and sees you willing to leave she may panic and try to come back to you and you’ll never know who she was fucking. If she’s still in college she’s got a lot of opportunity, and time, to go get hers for 20 minutes in the car before coming home to you.
/r/askMRP25/08/20 05:12 AM
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This still doesn’t answer the question though. Do you plan on moving to Europe for you? Or for her? If it doesn’t work out what will you do? If you settle in the UK will she follow you there?
/r/askMRP24/08/20 04:46 AM
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Ok. Here’s a simple question, how do you plan on getting serious? How do you plan on living in, at minimum, the same country, for an extended period of time? You don’t get to know someone through Skype.
/r/askMRP24/08/20 03:46 AM
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Word, hallmark movie storyline but he’s viewing it with rose colored glasses.
/r/askMRP24/08/20 03:16 AM
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We’re strangers on the internet commenting on a relationship we only understand as deeply as your telling of it. We can offer opinions based upon our own life experiences and not much else. At the end of the day you need to make the decision. It seems to me that your basing your desire to give her another chance based on the feelings you have for her, but why do you feel the way you do? Is it bc she’s smoking hot? Is it because she’s giving you attention? My ex had depression. She tried to kill …
/r/askMRP24/08/20 03:15 AM
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You need to walk away. She has so many red flags and you guys haven’t even been together, in the same area, long enough to call what she has a relationship. You’re balls deep in the blue pill fantasy of the Disney happy ending, but it won’t happen with this chick, or any, for that matter. You have oneitis and need other options to help you gain perspective.
/r/askMRP24/08/20 02:57 AM
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08/04/20 OYS #39 33 5’10 185 11% BF READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path READING: Open Her, (Another one I can’t remember the title of) Lifts: Gyms remain closed here. My condo gym was shut down in the middle of July as well, roped off and all that shit. I sn…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/20 02:44 PM
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Jesus Christ stop being such a pussy. Just read what you wrote back to yourself and tell me who the fuck is going to respect that kind of guy? I want to kick you in the face just responding to you right now. Where the fuck are your balls? You’re acting like your life is over if your marriage ends. It doesn’t. You walked yourself down this road, now stop being such a weak bitch and figure out a plan to be a fucking MAN.
/r/askMRP31/07/20 11:06 PM
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You’re bordering on autist here with what you’re telling me. I’ve not read anyone else’s comments before replying but if someone else hasn’t called this out is be surprised. Having a deep conversation about philosophy, math, the state of the world etc is not the same as opening up about your feelings and all the things you’re afraid of or insecure about. Deep conversations, imo, are essential for me to be able to connect with people on an intimate level. That doesn’t mean they know what my great…
/r/askMRP31/07/20 09:32 PM
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Yea, this was me in my old relationship, thought I had to be “vulnerable”. What a crock of shit. Great tip on doing this with work too. I will definitely implement that going forward. The book is called “open her”. Female author who’s pretty close to RP truths, though some stuff is off. However, seeing what an RP man looks like from a females perspective is pretty interesting, plus she dropped this nice tidbit on me in there which has made it worth reading.
/r/askMRP31/07/20 07:39 PM
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I’m reading an interesting book right now the delves into this a tiny bit. The author says that while women want that communication and openness, they don’t want, nor need it “all”. Basically what’s suggested is to give a small nugget, just to prove your human and not a robot, of something that you want to share that is a feeling, but dont cry on her shoulder, don’t be weak, don’t bitch or complain, just something that gives her a piece of you that makes her trust in you while feeling connected …
/r/askMRP31/07/20 03:07 AM
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This is sort of the crux of the issue. If you drop this woman today and make pussy and validation seeking your mission you won’t ever have a stable long term relationship (which seems to be your goal?). Get to the root of this validation seeking behavior and cut it off. If you’re not ready to be in a serious relationship right now that’s fine, just don’t drag this chick along for your indecisive ride. Let her go have a chance to meet someone else while you have a chance to figure out what you re…
/r/askMRP29/07/20 04:51 PM
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This was both hilarious and a great example of DNGAF. Your line about being a “camp child” among them cracked me up. Well played
/r/TheRedPill24/07/20 07:14 PM
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This is an exercise in frame right here. You moved right on through her shit test with your powerful mental point of origin and shifted her mood from sad and depressed to horny. Excellent. Edit: typo
/r/TheRedPill22/07/20 06:07 PM
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06/30/20 OYS #38 33 5’10 185 12% BF READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path READING: Harry Potter Lifts: Lifting between 5-7 days a week. Goal step count is 7k a day, which also doubles as my time to get in some vitamin D. The gyms in my area are still closed so…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/20 07:37 PM
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I agree. She wanted the attention. Probably wanted to feel hot again and saw you as an easy target. When you clearly weren’t going to give her the validation she wanted for free she cut out. Very likely had other guys already giving her that attention and validation already.
/r/TheRedPill29/06/20 05:29 PM
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Her lack of sexual interest in you got you here. The reading will help get you started, but the practical application of what you learn is how you will influence change. A key aspect of MRP is to do this for you. You don’t like who you are now, even if the sexless marriage helped you see that, don’t let that be your measure of success. Find congruence with yourself, your goals, your mission, your expectations of yourself, so that if you find she doesn’t change you are happy enough with who you a…
/r/askMRP26/06/20 07:55 PM
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Yea I don’t fault your point of view at all, specifically backed up by your second point of no ambition. She will likely end up on a pole, whether it’s some old dudes or in a club, to make money in her late 20s.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/20 10:39 PM
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When I read through the party aspect of this I read it as a try-hard attempt at being cool and apathetic in an attempt to talk down to the majority of guys here and make yourself seem cool. However, by the end, I better understood the purpose. Yes, it’s probably easy to argue that you could have written this in a way that didn’t make it seem like you were trying to be “cool” but perhaps that’s why this sub got triggered and any conversation is good conversation. TRP, theory, not the sub, is a se…
/r/TheRedPill05/06/20 09:18 PM
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You did a good job asking yourself the question Patrice asked himself, and the audience “if your gf left you, what would you miss?” You realized you wouldn’t miss anything. That she’s one of many. Pussy is pussy, good for you to flex your self awareness muscles. One thing I just have to throw my own opinion on though is...while I see what you mean by her being a dance major, that alone by itself could be a highly feminine and attractive trait. It’s #2, lacking ambition, that really crashes the p…
/r/TheRedPill05/06/20 08:59 PM
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I guess we made OP reconsider his own opinion
/r/TheRedPill03/06/20 09:43 PM
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I agree with the positioning you’ve taken. The masses blindly admire people who have accomplished little, such as an IG “celebrity” or models who won the genetic lottery. This gives them 0 knowledge or stance to sell you a work out program or tell you how to deal with the current financial crisis. However, I stand by my position of being open to learning something from anyone. Though I can see upholding Phelps as a model of a life to emulate is mistaken.
/r/TheRedPill03/06/20 08:38 PM
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It would be quite arrogant to not attempt to learn anything from a guy with 8 gold medals. Beta or not, most people who excel at one thing in their life see the other aspects of their life fail. Do you think Elon is fun at parties? Does that mean you can’t learn anything from him? You can learn something from anyone, even if it’s what NOT to do.
/r/TheRedPill03/06/20 08:04 PM
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Your post history suggests you’re not a troll, but this dude your with sounds like a pussy. If he’s going to get butt hurt over a rejection, then hold it against you, and start claiming he doesnt want to initiate...he goes against everything this sub is about. He doesn’t sound like a man, he sounds like a petulant child. I have no idea how you solve this issue with such a he-bitch. Drop him and move on.
/r/askMRP30/05/20 08:39 PM
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Take what I’m about to say with a grain of salt, but most people who don’t compete, and even many who do, bulk , put on 20lbs of fat, 2lbs of muscle, and lean out with less muscle than they had before. Go into a slight caloric surplus (1-200 calories) eat plenty of protein (1-1.5g per lb of lean body mass) and lift really heavy for 3-4 weeks, than do hypertrophy for a few weeks, and then endurance for a few weeks, cycle between those programming changes and you’ll build a powerful physique that …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/20 04:00 AM
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Fucking r/rareinsults hahahahaha
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 09:22 PM
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Hopping in to add my congrats on this too. You still have the body of a 14 year old boy, but at least it’s not fat anymore!
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 09:19 PM
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I re-read your post also and think I may have misjudged your entire post by applying the opening tone to the entire write up. I took some time to reply to be sure I was going to back track on my original criticism, but I think I must. I didn’t see a whole lot of defending or explaining outside of the initial sentence explaining why you skipped the previous week. I would have changed that to say “I skipped last week. I shouldn’t have, but I did. I will be more consistent because that is important…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 08:12 PM
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I’d argue it’s more than the tangible changes. Lifting is the cornerstone of trp because it requires discipline and consistency. If you achieve the physique you desire, it often has a chain reaction effect that starts with confidence from achieving a goal, overcoming pain and discomfort, and steels ones resolve and faith in themselves when things are difficult in other areas of life. Confidence comes from being physically fit and aesthetically pleasing, but that confidence also translates into b…
/r/TheRedPill24/05/20 02:31 AM
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Check out PRX performance as well
/r/askMRP23/05/20 07:12 AM
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I, for one, see value in this question. Maybe because I’m still new to this shit, but I think there are a lot of things that we deal with in every day life that aren’t clearly addressed. I linked a post below that details how a man properly expresses his emotions. The example given is from a movie, and the article talks about how the main character USES anger as a tool to accomplish his goal. I don’t want to butcher the meaning, so read it yourself, but after reading this article several times, …
/r/askMRP23/05/20 07:08 AM
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I can’t really help with resources for managing stress. I can just tell you things that have helped me have been guided mediation on YouTube, just 30 minutes really does wonders. Going out in nature, a forest or the beach, that has done more than I ever expected to reset my world view. Lastly, working out or some physical activity. Especially combining two, like mountain bike riding in a forest or running on the beach. I actually appreciate your perspective on looking at the rest of your life, t…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 05:53 PM
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It sounds like you lack purpose and direction. Maybe lacking some discipline. Motivation can only get you so far. Do things because you take joy in them as a man. Chores, taking out trash, picking up dog shit, these are not fun tasks, but they result in a clean house, which is something worth being proud of. Men do the shit tasks and aren’t rewarded for them, but we need to take pride in our responsibilities because those small things ladder up. You’re right about cheating yourself. It doesn’t d…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 04:07 PM
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Don’t take your anger phase out on them. Remember, alpha doesn’t mean asshole. It’s a carefree and affable personality. Raise your team (and others) up, don’t push them down. Be the leader and teacher they need. But obviously don’t let someone take advantage of you either. Edit: a word
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 04:03 PM
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Work on managing your stress. The fact that you’re going through a divorce while quitting smoking is going to put you under a shit load of stress. Prioritize sleep and lift to try and deal with the suck. Divorce, no matter how you shake it, is incredibly challenging on someone. Adding kids to the mix is even more difficult. But don’t use this as an excuse to go easy on yourself. Many men here are going through it or have been through it. You will weather this storm and learn from it, be better f…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 05:20 AM
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She’s not attacking your frame to “hurt” you. She’s attacking your frame and challenging you because she wants you to prove to her you’re the man she wants you to be. Horns has a good write up on this as well. I haven’t read your history but it sounds like your wife is challenging your attempts at taking over the household again after years of being a beta faggot. Now that you’re making progress she is challenging you because she doesn’t want to be fooled. Be the rock. Withstand the emotional wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 05:10 AM
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Discipline is your biggest issue. It trickles down time why you’re so fat, can’t stop drinking or consuming caffeine, why you can’t hold your tongue, and why you don’t have your kids respect. A million people will tell you a million different ways to get fit. The number one thing to remember is consistency will trump all. Don’t kill yourself bu lifting to failure and being sore for 3 days after, start slow and build. If you can build discipline and respect for yourself from fitness, the rest wil…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 05:03 AM
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Overall good progress. I’d just say that you have to remove the justification/DEERing you did at the start of the OYS. Why you do what you do requires no justification. We are not your moms or dads. You’re a man and what decisions you make are yours alone. This understanding will spread to other aspects of your life when you feel you need to defend something you’ve done when in fact, you don’t.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 04:47 AM
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Props for your self-awareness and honesty. Being humble enough to admit your shortcomings is exactly what will help you in this process. Be careful to celebrate the tiny victories instead of continuing to beat yourself down. Never getting over your past will prevent you from living your best present and will prevent you from ever being the man you want to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 04:41 AM
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You have her on a pedestal and you’re afraid to be alone. You can’t even see the giant faggot doormat you are. No one said go Rambo. No one said make rash choices, unless standing up for yourself is a major deal for you. You want to fix your marriage? Grow a backbone.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 02:18 AM
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Glad to hear your 5 steps ahead of me and I look forward to seeing what you produce
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 02:16 AM
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To be clear, you’re not setting boundaries. Your wife is walking all over you and you’re justifying it. You’re a beta doormat. You get dinner and your wife bitches at you for it. You try and take control of a floor plan and she doesnt trust you enough to do it right. Your wife doesnt respect you. You don’t respect yourself. You’re a pushover and what’s worse is you’re justifying it. You need to take a good hard look at what behavior you’re allowing and what it says about you that you can be talk…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 12:32 AM
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You’re a fucking mess. A fat, immature faggot that can’t control his emotions. You’re wife had to be your mommy and tell you to grow up. I’m sure that soaked her panties. You need to dig into your anger and stop blaming your wife as the stressor. She’s a reflection of you. The house reflects what energy you bring. It’s time to take a massive look at yourself and see what your attitude does to your family. Do you want your kids to grow up with anger issues like yours? Therapy is a good first step…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 12:27 AM
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You’re angry and sad because you’re needs aren’t being met. You’re not living the life you want to live . You’re stifling yourself because of insecurities. The life you live is not congruent with who you are. In order to be happy, or at least content, you need to address the areas of your life you do but do not enjoy. Why do you put up with these things? If they can’t be changed, you must change. Change your mindset. Break down all these aspects to discover more about yourself. That is the only …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 12:22 AM
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Mike Matthews is the shit!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 12:18 AM
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She she she. Her her her. Sex is only one measurement of your progress. Less about her, more about what you’re doing to make yourself an attractive husband and father.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 12:16 AM
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I’m on mobile so can’t edit, but the insecurity surrounding posting to OYS is something I felt too, when I first started. In some respects, being thrown in here and called a faggot and roasted for horrible behavior is the medicine we don’t want, but need to choke down. My first OYS was so fucking stupid. I just dodged all responsibility and tried to hide to not get roasted, but that did nothing for me. I didn’t learn anything. It wasn’t until after reading some sidebar material that I realized b…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 12:11 AM
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Have you ever posted in MRP specifically about how to interview? Would be interested in your experience and POV when it comes to navigating corporate politics, impressing HR, and crushing an interview. Alternatively, some have been able to monetize their RP success through writing books on the subject. Perhaps this is something you can work on as a side project.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/20 11:14 PM
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As a career beta, finding the pill has changed my life. However, lifelong habits are difficult to change and knowing you also find climbing the mountain of becoming the man you want to a long and arduous process makes me feel like I’m not fucking up, I’m just like everyone else. Struggling but not giving up to be the man I was born to be.
/r/TheRedPill14/05/20 08:58 PM
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The simple answer to this first question is conversely a difficult process and requires introspection. Basically you need to ask yourself why you’re insecure to be with a chick who has had previous partners. Why don’t you think you’re good enough? What aspect about her having partners makes you insecure? Why does it make you uncomfortable that she’s had a partner use a sex toy on/with her? Do you have a religious upbringing or something else that causes you to have hang ups? You’re right, the si…
/r/TheRedPill12/05/20 02:21 AM
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You’re RP aware, but are closer to swallowing a bullet because of this tinderella than the pill. Read the side bar. Read it? Read it again. No one should be catching the feelings you did for a chick they haven’t even met. Period. Especially in that time frame. IMO she’s not a whore for having a vibrator, so you’re a bit extreme here thinking you’ve found an online gf virgin. Stop placing expectations, hopes, dreams, etc on to these girls. I know you’ll do it again because you’re mad at her for k…
/r/TheRedPill11/05/20 06:17 AM
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Upvoting for the title, my god it’s true.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/20 10:00 PM
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I’m not sure why I’m wasting my time responding. Maybe it’s because your ego is pissing me off and I feel like taking out my quarantine frustrations on you. You have 1 post here. You’ve done no sidebar reading, you think you know the terminology so that makes you able to apply it. No OYS. No lifts. No consistency. Just like how your life is going. It’s ship being battered around by unruly seas but you’re the one causing the ruckus. You have an ego problem. You think your wife should respect you …
/r/askMRP05/05/20 04:34 AM
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This is generous because you say he lost frame...as if he ever had it in the first place.
/r/askMRP05/05/20 04:25 AM
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It’s nothing unique. I was a career beta, she thought she was getting an alpha because of how I look. When we got married I snipped my balls and gave them to her. She got disgusted and poof went the attraction.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/20 04:17 AM
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My bad I thought I responded to you. Max smith, book is formally called “chase: the simple step by step formula for making women obsess over you”
/r/TheRedPill02/05/20 04:16 AM
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Strange I thought I replied to this. Authors name Is max smith
/r/TheRedPill02/05/20 04:15 AM
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Yea man, it’s called “Chase” by Max Smith. You can tell it’s self-published because their is a tremendous lack of editing but his core ideas are fantastic. If you still can’t find it try “Chase: the simple step by step formula for making women obsess over you”
/r/TheRedPill30/04/20 05:17 PM
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There’s a great book that touches on this called Chase. Or The Chase. He talks a lot about the difference between an alpha and beta in the attitude and how you speak. He references a study that backs this up. I learned this the hard way also. I’m not super tall or anything but I’m good looking and fit. I thought that was the cornerstone of alpha. Now I’m getting divorced because my wife cheated on me hellaaaa times. You know what I learned? I’m not alpha at all, doesn’t matter how much I look it…
/r/TheRedPill30/04/20 12:36 AM
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04/28/20 OYS #37 33 5’10 185 12% BF READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men, Find Your Path READING: Meditations (Marcus Aurelias), Chase (phenomenal so far!), The Atlantis Gene (Fiction) Lifts: After a mental dip last week I hopped back into lifting hard again, defying my coun…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 06:11 PM
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04/14/20 OYS #36 33 5’10 185 12% BF READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male, What Women Want When They Test Men READING: Meditations (Marcus Aurelias), What Women Want in a Man, Find Your Path Lifts: No lifts this week. I don’t have access to anything anymore except body weight so I’m following a home workout rou…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 05:17 PM
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Makes a ton of sense actually
/r/TheRedPill08/04/20 04:17 PM
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04/07/20 OYS #35 33 5’10 185 12% BF READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way, Ultimate Alpha (waste of time), Let Your Inner Alpha Loose, Alpha Male READING: Meditations (Marcus Aurelias) Lifts: Lifting has obviously been different during this Corona shit, but I haven’t stopped working out. I have a gym at my place, small as it is, it’s still something. I go twice a day, splitting car…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/20 09:58 PM
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I was going to say something completely different, but after reading a few of your responses it’s clear you need to stop being such a faggot and stop feeling sorry for yourself. That’s step 1. How you do that is up to you, but it can’t be by doing the same thing you’ve been doing. As someone who had his wife leave him for another dude, I know what kind of shit spiral that can potentially lead to. But I fed that anger and resentment and shame into trying to improve myself. I went on a trip intern…
/r/askMRP02/04/20 10:00 PM
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03/24/20 OYS #34 33 5’10 185 12% BF READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way READING: Some book on self esteem Lifts: Lifting has obviously been different during this Corona shit, but I haven’t stopped working out. I have a gym at my place, small as it is, it’s still something. I go twice a day, splitting cardio and weights. I go twice mostly out of boredom but it’s better than sittin…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/20 12:11 AM
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A well written and timely post for me. Saved. Well done.
/r/TheRedPill24/03/20 09:21 PM
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This is just a toxic relationship through and through. Neither of you are right for this relationship and it’s best if you end it all together.
/r/askMRP17/03/20 09:23 PM
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This dude lead me to another guy on YT named “alpha male strategies”. He’s pretty legit and spits some no bullshit red pill truths
/r/TheRedPill01/03/20 07:01 AM
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This is a shitty typo, haha.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 07:30 PM
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I totally agree. I went in there not with the goal of proving I was deserving, I showed him how I would be able to strategically help him in a more expanded role. I had a job description he made for a position higher than mine to compare my current job duties and experience to as well. When he converted me to FTE he thought I asked for too much money during our negotiations and said he’d walk away if he needed to, but HR agreed with my ask over him. So he’s not one to just be easily persuaded
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 04:26 PM
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02/25/20 OYS #32 33 5’10 185 12% BF READ: NNMG x3, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man, The Book of Pook, The Obstacle is the Way READING: Some book on self esteem Lifts: Lifting is one of the only constants in my life. I remained disciplined, working out 6-7 days a week since recovering from the shock of the separation. I have visible and clearly defined abs. I may be below 12% BF at this point but assume I just have a strong core sinc…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 08:12 PM
1

Perhaps your lack of happiness is stemming from a lack of challenge? It seems things are going too easy for you. Wife is on board, body is to the point where you’re just nitpicking it, job search is about to end. What’s the next big goal you take on? What’s bigger than you that can give you a sense of purpose?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/20 05:23 AM
3

This is your insecurity speaking. Get lean, get strong, but don’t change who you are.
/r/askMRP11/01/20 11:33 PM
0

Jesus Christ just keep lifting. It’s not like she’s attracted to an attribute you can’t attain. Fix your diet and fix your self-esteem.
/r/askMRP11/01/20 11:26 PM
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Was out to dinner with several female co-workers this weekend. They bring up the actors Bill Hader and some other not conventionally attractive guy, I can’t remember. They start going on about how “he’s (Hader) hot now! Since he got jacked” Muscle can completely change a woman’s view of you, don’t ever be mistaken. It can make a serious impact on your SMV.
/r/TheRedPill11/01/20 05:22 PM
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This is the definition of taking the red pill and looking at the Matrix from the outside in. Your fault can be found in caring too much about what other people think of you, or giving value to anyone else that doesn’t deserve your respect.
/r/TheRedPill25/12/19 08:18 AM
1

This is a quality addition to my post. The definition I posted aids in the development and understanding of ones own frame. How frame influences your daily life, and those around you, can be summed up by your response.
/r/TheRedPill25/12/19 01:05 AM
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I disagree with your definition of frame and it’s basis in emotional stoicism. Here is my golden reference to frame. I did not write this, I merely saved it. Credit to the author, whoever he is: Frame is the point of reference, the angle of view, or the worldview in light of which everything else is perceived. When that automatically and congruently reflects your values, your beliefs, your goals for your mission, your concern for the people you care for and value, and your desires, then you'll b…
/r/TheRedPill24/12/19 10:43 PM
1

12/24/19 OYS #31 - First Divorced X-Mas Edition 33 5’10 180 12% BF READ: NNMG x2, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG, TWOTSM READING: The Book of Pook, The Unchained Man Lifts: Worked out and ran last week pretty regularly. I think about 4 days. It would have been more but after being off for so long my first big work out crippled my body. I was sore for days. Social: Hung out with my buddy and his brother on Sunday. Saturday there was an outing with my parents …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/19 07:29 PM
2

Great post, but autist question: when she was seeking praise at the table what did you do to avoid giving it? Basic stfu or did you change the subject? Finding this relevant to my past life and my eagerness to provide too much praise
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/19 03:00 AM
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You hit on two points that get missed often, consistency and programming, but you should amend this to include the value of diet as a 4th point. Congrats on having the discipline to see such success. Keep at it.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/19 06:50 AM
1

You want to get stuck in plateau’s, be my guest. If you want to put in extra effort and push yourself beyond what is easy or convenient you’ll find results that only the educated and the disciplined get.
/r/askMRP20/12/19 08:26 PM
0

Studies show that your body will adapt to a rep range within 3-4 weeks. You’ve been doing 5x5 for somewhere in the 12-16 week range. I don’t want to over complicate things but I would just suggest varying rep ranges and, outside of the big 3 (or 4, if you include OHP), vary exercises every 3-4 weeks as well. Varying the rep range will also help prevent joint pain. Most of all, listen to your body. Good luck and happy lifting.
/r/askMRP20/12/19 07:19 PM
2

Sure, sort of like the debt snowball. You build upon your small successes. What is great about what you did is being able to have the resolve and awareness to solve your own problems as opposed to succumbing to them.
/r/TheRedPill19/12/19 05:54 AM
1

This is similar to creating your MAP, or Mindful Attraction Plan. There’s a book on it but it is focused more on men in relationships, however, the sentiment is there for now you can highlight areas in your life you need to improve and focus on doing just that.
/r/TheRedPill18/12/19 11:55 PM
1

Lol word
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 12:11 AM
1

Replying to both of you here ( u/hornsofapathy ) I’ve been able to maintain a pretty lean physique without doing any cardio at all whatsoever for the last 2 years. However, even if I can do 10x3, for example, I don’t want to be hindered by cardio as opposed to muscle fatigue similar to how I want to improve my grip strength so I’m not failing due to shit grip instead of muscle fatigue. All I’m doing is adding in a mile of running to my routine a few days a week. I can’t even run a mile non-stop …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 10:47 PM
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There is, however, dishonor in using gloves
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 08:28 PM
1

Basically I’m getting gassed when squatting and deadlifting with higher reps. So even if my muscle isn’t fatigued my endurance prevents me from hitting more reps.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 07:53 PM
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12/17/19 OYS #30 33 5’10 180 12% BF READ: NNMG x2, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG READING: The Book of Pook, TWOTSM, The Unchained Man Lifts: I was out of town last week and didn’t have the energy to lift, but I started back up again on Saturday. I’ve created a new routine for myself to follow that includes some cardio, which I’ve previously neglected, because my endurance is interfering with my lifts. Social: I was with a crew of a couple guys I’ve worked w…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 04:32 PM
3

This backs up MIW’a comment with a real life example. You’re territory was being disrespected and you let the dude know you weren’t gonna let that happen.
/r/askMRP15/12/19 08:33 PM
1

Love this explanation. Elegant and easy to digest.
/r/askMRP15/12/19 08:29 PM
2

As I stated in my original comment, I’m not defending her. What I’m looking at is OPs anger issues. He seems to get angry often, whether it’s $9 or $9000. I also agreed with others who said she got scammed. That being said, she doesn’t seem to have a history of indiscriminate spending so divorcing over this seems a bit ridiculous. He’s allowed to do whatever he wants to do and it won’t matter to me either way, but if he ever wants to be in a healthy relationship he should read between the lines …
/r/askMRP15/12/19 04:16 AM
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I think the way the money was spent is also part of the story. Like I said, if she had spent it on shoes, that’s blatantly ridiculous, but she really spent it on the marriage which shows a lot less irresponsibility. I’m not sure why she isn’t worthy of trust here, she didn’t cheat, it’s only money. Yea it’s annoying but it’s not like he’s broke.
/r/askMRP14/12/19 06:14 PM
1

Yes true, I’m reaching a little trying to read between the lines.
/r/askMRP14/12/19 06:12 PM
2

Again, the most encouraging thing here is that you have no ego and you’re self aware. I think you can turn this around. Add some RP books into your reading routine. Re-read old books. Join OYS and track your progress. Keep your same attitude and continue to put in the work.
/r/askMRP14/12/19 04:05 AM
1

To me there are some incongruous actions here. You claim to be alpha, but you’re what is known in the unchained man as Alpha 1.0. You are insecure, you rely on fear and validation to get your wife to stick around and find happiness, you aren’t OI, your mood shifts with hers (no frame, very beta) so I think you’re confusing alpha with insecure. You don’t just need to provide more comfort, you need to be a better human. You’re pretty self aware, so I think you know this, but your motivation is wro…
/r/askMRP14/12/19 03:24 AM
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Looks like you’re new here, and you sound like an authoritarian dick. You’re reaction to her spending the money is 0-1000 because you’ve taken it as a personal slight against you, even though she did this to try and make you happy. You’re not poor and still pissed...about the money. She lives in fear of you. You’ve provided no comfort during your marriage only discipline. Have you read TWOTSM? Do you understand how women operate? We have no idea. Instead of flying off the handle, which I have a …
/r/askMRP14/12/19 03:01 AM
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In my opinion the issue here is the busted trust. You had yourself a unicorn and you, being good looking and successful, didn’t think this would ever happen to you. Truth fuckin hurts. Get off MGTOW also. Realistically, in order for things to ever “be the same” you’re going to have to have a short memory, but is that fair to you? What if they meet up at work? Even if it’s innocent you’ll never know. Things like this start slow. She has kids, wants validation that she’s still hot, finds some assh…
/r/askMRP14/12/19 12:02 AM
2

Your mission is the port in this instance.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/19 05:38 AM
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I would add one thing to why your wife shouldn’t be the mission. As we say, the stay plan is the go plan. By making your wife the mission you’re in direct conflict with this edict. Furthermore, if your wife leaves and she was your mission this will cripple you, resulting in feelings of failure and cause a spin out due to the fact that the person whom you made your mission is now gone. Now what is the point? Making anything else but her your mission reinforces your independence and ability to wea…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/19 04:45 AM
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Keep putting in the work. Even when it doesn’t feel good. You’ll have your ups and downs. Having something to focus on (TRP) is a big help but it’s hard to measure your growth sometimes so don’t let it be the only thing you focus on.
/r/askMRP04/12/19 09:51 PM
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Alright, seems like everyone is obsessing over your weight, so I’ll skip that aspect of it. As a guy in a remarkably similar situation to you I can give you some suggestions that you can either take or leave. Doesn’t matter to me. Work on your self confidence and self esteem first. If you don’t think your worth anything no one else will either. This event was a tremendous ego hit and your first post demonstrates that. Try and work away from comparing yourself to anyone else. Snip you’re validati…
/r/askMRP04/12/19 09:19 PM
1

12/03/19 OYS #29 33 5’10 180 12% BF READ: NNMG x2, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG READING: The Book of Pook, TWOTSM Lifts: I’ve not been lifting. Some treadmill walking for an hour here or there, but that’s it. Social: I reached out to my old friend circle, the one I alienated during the beginning of my relationship with my ex. Trying to set up a hang with a buddy next weekend. If he falls through I’ll ask 2 of my other buddies to see if they’re around. Than…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 06:42 PM
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The biggest problem in your life was you. Hopefully you understand that now. Otherwise this pattern will repeat itself.
/r/TheRedPill03/12/19 05:09 AM
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Listen here faggot, you came to US looking to validate how fucking awesome you are because you can cheat on your wife whenever you want. You’re ego is so big you can’t accept what a pathetic bitch you are. You cling to the belief that if other women validate you the truth of your wife’s feelings can be denied and swept under the rug. Don’t come here to brag that you can get laid. Not one of these girls has been with you long enough to see what a pathetic piece of shit you really are. A 19 year o…
/r/askMRP28/11/19 05:19 PM
1

11/26/19 OYS #28 33 5’10 186 12% BF READ: NNMG x2, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG READING: The Book of Pook, TWOTSM OMS (Owning My Shit): I found out some additional information about my soon to be ex-wife this weekend and told her to leave and not come back. Monday after work I threw as much shit of hers as I could into trash bags and piled them up in the spare bedroom while cursing her existence. I’m depressed. I took over her closet and started moving my …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 05:59 PM
6

From too much personal experience, this post rings very true.
/r/TheRedPill22/11/19 03:01 PM
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Second this. Deep emotional intimacy can’t be achieved in one night. OP is confusing sexual/physical fulfillment with intimacy, which requires more than physical connection.
/r/TheRedPill21/11/19 07:23 PM
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11/19/19 OYS #27 33 5’10 186 12% BF READ: NNMG x2, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG READING: The Book of Pook, TWOTSM OMS (Owning My Shit): I got TWOTSM and started reading it this weekend. Right off the bat he talks about needing to have a weekly check-up with buddies to keep everything in perspective. Even though I really don’t feel like writing an OYS today I will, not for any other reason than I know it’s probably good for me. Emotionally I’ve been up and …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 04:24 AM
1

From personal experience I can say this is 100% true.
/r/askMRP09/11/19 11:23 PM
1

Yup. It’s worse when I’m aware of it and still cave in and do nothing about it. But, admitting it is part of my authenticity issue. I’m slowly trying to destroy my ego along with my BP.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 10:49 PM
1

We have another week together until the place she’s moving to is available.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 10:47 PM
1

11/05/19 OYS #26 The Shitshow Edition 5’10 180 (-5) 12% BF (est.) Mission (Goals): - Be debt free and create courses of passive income - Single digit BF - Own household - Learn - Be fun, funny, outgoing, dominant and masculine READ: NNMG x2, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG READING: The Book of Pook OMS (Owning My Shit): I allowed myself 2 days to be sad last week. I was a wreck Monday and Tuesday. By Wednesday I was still down but forced myself to no longer m…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 05:31 PM
4

Don’t listen to what she says, watch how she acts. She may talk about marriage but does she ACT like she wants it? Wants to be with you?
/r/TheRedPill03/11/19 07:00 PM
2

I like this. I think you might start incorporating dread, especially if she’s too comfortable.
/r/TheRedPill03/11/19 06:59 PM
2

This. Wtf is this doing on askmrp? Should I go to gonewild and ask them how to get my pilots license?
/r/askMRP03/11/19 04:48 AM
2

Looks like I have a new target market
/r/askMRP03/11/19 04:31 AM
3

I need more trial and error myself. Good philosophy you got going, good luck!
/r/TheRedPill02/11/19 01:05 AM
3

Good point about the mood altering through “things”. I’m not sure that it goes so far as to say it makes one “cross into her frame” but it does reward shitty behavior - or in this case a shitty mood - which teaches her that her bad moods get sympathy through things. I can see why you prefer plates.
/r/TheRedPill02/11/19 12:33 AM
2

Was thinking about this today. Old BP me was the king of the “grand gesture”. In what world/situation does a woman deserve something, anything, more than praise and attention? Do flowers or chocolate or a surprise nice dinner ever have a place? I suppose it’s the intention though, right? Am I doing it for sex/validation/covert contract or am I doing it with OI for me?
/r/TheRedPill02/11/19 12:21 AM
3

Word, I’m going to have to start a new subreddit r/DRP - divorced red pill - but steal away, just give me a discount
/r/askMRP01/11/19 11:24 PM
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I read some of your other responses and they line up with this one issue: stop trying to analyze and/or understand her. You are a man, you run off logic, she runs off feelz. Trying to logically diagnose the issue is going to drive you fucking crazy. Just stop. You know you fucked up. Now reset. You’re making pussy the mission and you look needy and desperate to her as you negotiate sexual treaties. I’m not convinced that she isn’t attracted to you as some have said, but I know her attraction to …
/r/askMRP01/11/19 11:08 PM
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You’ll hear this often here: don’t listen to what she says, but to what she does. You bent the knee when mommy told you to comply, this would have been a great opportunity for A/M. As others have said, your frame is shit. You folded in the face of her shit test and failed miserably. Now you need to work toward recovering the respect you lost with her.
/r/askMRP01/11/19 09:45 PM
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Just asking myself that first question you posed “would a father treat her like this?” is a great way to check how the compass is pointing. I question myself already when doing things saying “does this adhere to my mission?” But I think this is another great tool in the tool belt.
/r/TheRedPill01/11/19 07:49 PM
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How does one embody the “father” role without any prior experience with kids? Is it an ownership thing? I like where this is going, but how do you balance the authoritative fatherly role that demands guidance and teaching (alpha) with the comfort and soothing that is necessary to apply the beta for the feelz?
/r/TheRedPill01/11/19 06:55 PM
2

Doesn’t this boil down to DNGAF?
/r/TheRedPill31/10/19 04:48 PM
1

I’m hell bent on growing through this not regressing
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/19 04:33 PM
8

I was actually walking by myself today thinking about how I don’t need to read about game, I’ve pulled hot girls all my life, why the fuck do I need PUA techniques. Well, I’ll agree with you that I was dead wrong and am going to go ahead and change my mind on that.
/r/TheRedPill31/10/19 04:38 AM
5

This is like reading a Tarantino script, but congrats on the progress. You’re recognizing your validation tells and that’s good awareness. Keep it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 10:23 PM
5

Needed to hear this today. Great advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 09:54 PM
1

Thank you for this perspective, it really resonated with me
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 04:33 PM
1

Square on the chin
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 03:32 PM
5

No kids no property
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 06:00 AM
1

Thank you
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 08:59 PM
3

You’re absolutely right. The work never stops.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 08:58 PM
2

She was. And it’s hard to hear that, even though it’s true. But I am better off on this new path. And I agree with not taking her back. I’m not attempting anything except making sure I Keep myself mentally sound during this process.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 08:58 PM
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10/29/19 OYS #25 The Main Event/Divorce Edition 5’10 186 12% BF (est.) Mission (Goals): - Be debt free and create courses of passive income - Single digit BF - Own household - Learn - Be fun, funny, outgoing, dominant and masculine READ: NNMG x2, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG READING: The Book of Pook OYS: Well, that’s a wrap on my marriage boys. On Saturday night my wife told me she wasn’t, and hasn’t been in love with me for quite some time. This is the t…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 04:22 PM
2

The best diet is the one you can sustain. Skip fad diets.
/r/askMRP25/10/19 10:55 PM
1

Should be in askmrp. Quick answer is: treat your wife like a child. Would you get mad at a child for giving you the same answer she did?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/19 12:23 AM
1

I had this same experience. Did some therapy before MRP and it was an excuse to vent/victim puke. MRP and Owning My Shit were the biggest changes I’ve ever had in my life
/r/askMRP24/10/19 07:42 PM
1

I write in Word and paste into mobile. Sometimes shit happens.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/19 07:40 PM
1

You’re her bitch. She has 0 respect for you. This early in your conversion you don’t deserve any days off and her reaction proves that you have a lot of work to do. Right now doing those things when you’re tired is hard because you haven’t started to appreciate the work yet, but soon you will see those chores as staples in your routine that make you a better man.
/r/askMRP24/10/19 01:00 AM
1

Jag f-type, rare enough to still turn heads but not obnoxious enough to look like a dick
/r/TheRedPill23/10/19 10:32 PM
1

10/22/19 OYS #24 5’10 186 12% BF (est.) Mission (Goals): - Be debt free and create courses of passive income - Single digit BF - Own household - Learn - Be fun, funny, outgoing, dominant and masculine READ: NNMG x2, Subtle Art x2, MMSLP, MAP, 31 Days to Masculinity, SGM, TRM, WISNIFG READING: The Book of Pook Lift: I rebounded after last week’s energy dip. I think my OYS really lit a fire under my ass and I had 5 days of lifting with a session on Friday that was so intense I had to stop, run err…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 11:54 PM
7

Yes, you said that, but I didn’t believe you.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 11:53 PM
3

Stop resenting your wife. This is literally the most basic tenet here, and you’re not doing it. YOU caused her to give up on you, than you victim puke about your shitty upbringing. Either you take responsibility for your role in your marriage or you leave RP. Nothing I read makes me think you’re taking any responsibility for anything.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 08:40 PM
1

Joe is the shit
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 07:26 PM
1

I think you missed the point of the post. It wasn’t to feel inferior. It was me calling myself out on treading water.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 02:59 PM
2

You’re right, I was never as alpha as him and he was never as beta as I was/am. It’s a reminder of how far I have to go. The 1000 for rope feels a bit like tug of war when I am not consistent, and the visual of pulling it just a little closer every day without conceding anything is going to be a focus point of mine. Your explanation of how the gym produces tangible results is exactly how I feel. I can see my gym progress, but it’s tough to see my mental achievements. I have to be tested or see m…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 03:44 AM
1

You’re right about the statement regarding being uncomfortable. I “know” this to be true, but I don’t believe it. But I think fear is what is holding me back. One of my favorite series of posts is your 3 on depressive and anxious wives. My wife is both, though has been off meds for months as I have been doing a good job progressing. Knowing this is her depression season and knowing I have been stagnant I went and re-read your posts for extra emphasis on the reminder that if she falls to shit aga…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 03:41 AM
2

10/14/19 OYS #23 5’10 186 12% BF (est.) Mission (Goals): Be Debt Free and create sources of passive income: Pay off student loans Increase financial IQ Single digit BF: Constant pursuit of consistency for this Own household: Maintaining my standard of excellence. Learn: Haven’t read as much as I should. Still reading “Rich Dad’s increase your Financial IQ”. Also want to get into reading the day game books. Practice Alpha behaviors Be fun, loving, charismatic, and demonstrate leadership qualities…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 04:35 PM
12

What the fuck did I just read ?
/r/askMRP12/10/19 04:43 PM
1

Agreed
/r/askMRP12/10/19 04:41 PM
1

That doesn’t mean you NEED to be sore after lifting. DOMS prevents exercise, it doesn’t promote it. If I squat so hard Monday I can’t walk until Saturday, I’ve missed 4 days of additional leg work. How is that conducive to muscle building? It’s also a reason for burn out. It’s not fun to be sore for a week.
/r/askMRP12/10/19 05:36 AM
1

I think this has more to do with de-conditioning as opposed to your age. Once your body starts to adapt you’ll be just fine.
/r/askMRP12/10/19 02:08 AM
3

That’s because you don’t give your dick a rest
/r/askMRP12/10/19 02:07 AM
0

You shouldn’t be sore after lifting. Drop the weight as others have said. Hit full body 3x a week for maximum gainz
/r/askMRP11/10/19 11:32 PM
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I’d say you have no need to cut weight right now. You just need to turn that fat into muscle. It’s very hard, not impossible, but very hard to build muscle in a cut. Right now you should focus on strength and getting your metabolism to fire up, not slow it down with a cut. Find your TDEE and eat at maintenance calories while you work your tire off. As you build muscle your TDEE will change so eat more as necessary. I find it redundant to lose fat only to put it back on again as you “bulk” becaus…
/r/askMRP11/10/19 09:51 PM
1

At the end of the day this really only comes down to one thing: how much love and respect do you have for yourself? Don’t worry about the relationship. The kids. Her. Think about what kind of person you are when you let someone, anyone, walk all over you and treat you like shit. Where is your love? Respect? Confidence? Right now you have a choice to gain all those things for yourself by not letting someone steamroll you. Or you can play the nice guy. The pushover, like you have all your life.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 11:21 PM
15

Loved reading your brag post about how you’ve changed your life but still use sex as a measurement of your success. Congrats.
/r/askMRP03/10/19 11:10 PM
1

I skimmed the answers but idk if anyone suggested what I’m about to. Most porn will depend on mood. Picture the porn you get hard to vs the porn you’re getting ready to nut to. Try more sensual videos, because of women and feelz, so massage videos, there are some genres that have “loving couples” getting at it that aren’t as kinky but she might like more to start. Lesbian porn with chicks that look like they are actually enjoying getting eaten out could also be a good option but might push her b…
/r/askMRP03/10/19 05:50 PM
3

10/01/19 OYS #22 5’10 186 11% BF (est.) Mission (Goals): Be Debt Free and create sources of passive income: Pay off student loans Increase financial IQ Single digit BF: Over last 3 weeks I’ve been looking super lean, but not sure on actual BF number. Eating has been really good. Own household: Maintaining my standard of excellence. Learn: Haven’t read as much as I should. Still reading “Rich Dad’s increase your Financial IQ”. I have some RP books on my list but was holding for next months budget…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 08:25 PM
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It’s a diet. A fad diet at that. Keto isn’t right for everyone and you shouldn’t rely on a diet to lose weight. If you can’t lose the weight with self control you won’t stick to keto anyway.
/r/askMRP29/09/19 06:35 PM
1

I have to say Chad (thunder d) probably gave you the best info here. Clearly you’re a little autistic. Your wife is right where you want her, if this is a chess game, I wish my wife had knees that bent like your wife’s knees bent. Show some goddamn confidence! You went RP and you got what you desired! Submission! But oh look, you’re now second guessing your position. You fucking twat, own your shit! Be the fucking man! You have a submissive wife who will suck your cock on command if you have the…
/r/askMRP29/09/19 06:43 AM
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Personally, I feel like this isn’t a situation of a woman needing a “break out” night, where she feels she is still attractive even though she’s a “kept” woman with a kid. Doesn’t mean she’s gonna fuck a dude, but she needs to be reminded that she’s more than just a mom with a kid. Let her do her. Show confidence. If she wants to fuck another guy and ruin what she has with you, her fucking loss. She won’t ever find someone as good as you. She gets to be a single mom searching for a dude who will…
/r/askMRP29/09/19 06:28 AM
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I think you need to work on some of the underlying issues on yourself here. The point is valid, women aren’t special, but mixing this much emotion with the FR is watering down your point. Hopefully this was cathartic for you, and I’m not undermining your point of view, but this much anger and resentment isn’t healthy.
/r/TheRedPill25/09/19 05:29 PM
1

Exactly. This is where I failed. I should not have tried to “win” the argument by making her admit she lied. It just made me look like an idiot. I had recently read the 90/10 post by a seasoned member which kept me from beating myself up too much, but this was an easy opportunity to not let my ego get in the way, and it did.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 12:16 AM
1

Quite frankly the effort hasn’t been sexual effort, it’s all been physical touch, being more affectionate, kissing, hugging, things she is uncomfortable doing. In the long run this isn’t enough and the lack of sexual intimacy is killing my overall desire for her.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 09:12 PM
1

In terms of RP, if I catch her doing something or ask her what she’s doing, it triggers the BP memories of me being insecure and needy. She immediately feels that I’m trying to accuse her of something, regardless of whether or not I am.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 09:11 PM
1

09/24/19 OYS #21 5’10 185 11% BF (est.) Mission (Goals): Be Debt Free and create sources of passive income: Pay off student loans Increase financial IQ Single digit BF: Over last 3 weeks I’ve been looking super lean, but not sure on actual BF number. Eating has been really good. Own household: Maintaining my standard of excellence. Learn: Finished Rich Dad Poor Dad. Moved onto another FI book called “Rich Dad’s increase your Financial IQ”. Loving what it suggests. Practice Alpha behaviors Be fun…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 05:56 PM
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This one changed my whole perspective on money and investing. Loved it. Highly recommend.
/r/askMRP10/09/19 11:40 PM
1

I haven’t read that in awhile but it’s exactly right and my neediness is fucking disgusting. Hard to dread a chick when she is over your insecurity. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 09:51 PM
1

Mission (Goals): Be Debt Free and create sources of passive income: Pay off student loans Find opportunities to learn more about passive income investments Single digit BF: Over last 2 weeks I’ve been looking super lean, but not sure on actual BF number. Own household: Maintaining my standard of excellence. Learn: Finished 31 DTM and I’m better for it. Started and nearly already done with Rich Dad Poor Dad. I’ll probably do 31 DTM again just to keep my head in the game. Practice Alpha behaviors …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 06:23 PM
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Usually I really enjoy reading what you have to say. You and a few other guys on here are some of the people I hope to some day become. But after reading that novel by mrs. thundercunt I might have to cut you from my list of role models. Your mental health is seriously taxed right now but you’re just feeling sorry for yourself and are exhibiting an unusual amount of faggotry. I read your avoidance of your wife as a sour little boy running away from his problems. Your wife even tried to be the ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/19 12:07 AM
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Sounds like you don’t own the house. Your first mate is burning down the ship but you’re only concerned with making sure your responsibilities are taken care of. You’re the captain. The ship and everyone on board are your responsibility. Dump the trash. Put her shit in a hamper. The next step is to let her know your expectations for how the house will be kept and how the kids will be parented. You have a long way to go. You’re giving yourself too many props for your lifts. Cool, you do the bare …
/r/askMRP27/08/19 03:02 AM
1

I disagree. Why not channel the masculine energy into fruitful desires? Don’t try and cage the beast. Let it roam free but let it exercise in other ways.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/19 01:13 AM
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8/20/19 OYS #19 5’10 185 13%BF Mission (Goals): Be Debt Free: Pay off student loans Single digit BF: Only did my 31 DTM push-ups due to work. Own household: Took back the house after recognizing last weeks failure. Learn: Reading/doing 31 DTM. Practice Alpha behaviors Be fun, loving, charismatic, and demonstrate leadership qualities. 31 DTM is helping me understand what “alpha” is, and how I can embody it. As I grow confidence these behaviors get easier. Lifts: Only got 1 true day of lifting in …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 07:40 PM
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I think I might understand it now. My neediness comes from lack of OI, not initiations. You’re right about attractiveness, it’s always been the inner beta that’s been the issue, not my outward appearance. It’s fucked up more than one relationship. Your response kind of smacked me in the face a bit and that’s exactly why I’m honest in OYS, because I get quality feedback which makes me improve myself along this journey. I’ll work harder on OI and my inner insecurity which has caused so many issues…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/19 02:54 AM
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Fucking hard because I have to get over the validation aspect of sex and be OI. It’s a process. The nice guy runs deeeeep
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/19 09:37 PM
1

It’s not a CC, it’s no longer acting like a needy bitch. Made mention of this. CC would be if I expected more sex from this. I don’t. I want to earn respect.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 07:08 PM
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8/13/19 OYS #18 5’10 185 13%BF Mission (Goals): Be Debt Free: Pay off student loans Single digit BF: Worked out 5 days and ate excellent, even during the weekend Own household: Noticed I was falling behind here and stepped it up, but still need to improve this to where I was at previously Learn: Reading MAP and doing 31 DTM. Practice Alpha behaviors Be fun, loving, charismatic, and demonstrate leadership qualities. 31 DTM is helping me understand what “alpha” is, and how I can embody it. As I gr…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 04:04 PM
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Love this summary
/r/askMRP12/08/19 02:48 AM
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Depending on where you are in your MAP it’s advised to take what you can get until you’re attractive enough to decline. I haven’t read your post history but it seems like your sex life is pretty good, even if your wife has a higher drive than you. I often like to read between the lines of these posts and get to the root of what the issue is. Here, for example, why do you care that she is bothered by your TRT usage in the first place? Knee jerk reaction suggests you’re aware of her higher sex dri…
/r/askMRP09/08/19 11:09 PM
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I completely agree. I didn’t go too deep with my post but style and grooming helps with my confidence. Insecurity and self esteem issues drove down my SMV and eventually drove away my wife. To raise my confidence I’m putting effort into my style, grooming, and body, things I know put my mental state in a positive place of abundance. If I think I look good and I feel good I’m less reliant on my wife’s attention making me more emotionally and mentally balanced.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/19 06:01 PM
1

At the time I knew I was too weak alone. I didn’t have the mental strength to handle a divorce. It was too early in my RP journey. It’s been a few months now and I’ve continued to progress with RP. She’s finally off the pedestal but I still haven’t become OI with the relationship, which is my current goal. I want to be able to know I can walk and be just fine.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 11:44 PM
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8/6/19 OYS #17 5’10 185 13%BF Mission (Goals): Be Debt Free: Pay off student loans Single digit BF for summer: Vacation hurt this a little but not terribly. Back on the meal plan now that I’m home. Own household: Keeping shit tight, clean, and in control. Learn: Reading MAP and doing 31 DTM. Practice Alpha behaviors Be fun, loving, charismatic, and demonstrate leadership qualities. Greatly improved during vacation. Taking that momentum back home with me. LIFTS: Didn’t lift anything for 3+ weeks …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 08:44 PM
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Thanks for the advice. I’ll prolong the talk. I’ll focus on what I think my frame should be and build my map on how to get there. You’re right, both my vision and frame are weak as I try and do the million things necessary to save myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 03:28 PM
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I read a post about the cycle of the beta I think you may have made awhile back, basically that behavior is something I had curbed but with increasing insecurity the explosion is back. I guess treating the disease means the underlying beta issues and there isn’t a better answer than that. Other women do show interest. Sadly the only people hitting on me lately are dudes. That doesn’t help the self esteem. But I have women at work compliment me, my body, touch my arms and what not. It’s work so I…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 06:28 PM
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7/2/19 OYS #16 5’10 185 13%BF Mission (Goals): Be Debt Free: said fuck it and paid off my car a year early, student loans next Single digit BF for summer: Looks like consistency was my issue. And impatience. Slowly getting more chiseled. Own household: Keeping shit tight, clean, and in control. Learn: Reading MAP right now, NMMNG x2 done. Practice Alpha behaviors be fun, loving, charismatic, and demonstrate leadership qualities. I fucking suck at this. Lifts: Managed to work out 3 times last wee…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 04:50 PM
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Honestly, I’m pretty confident I can be rejected and NGAF because I have nothing to lose. The key part that I really nodded my head to was “you’re looking for the people who like and want you” that’s exactly right. That gave me a good perspective on this. However, I’m going to look at that newbie mission and try it out. Thank you for the suggestion and the perspective.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/19 11:35 AM
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Given the context I can see how it looks like I’m using IOIs as validation of my worthiness to other females resulting in a confidence bump. I said that as a measurement tool, not thinking it was validation seeking but instead just verifying if I was on the right path. But I guess that doesn’t matter does it? It’s still using external sources to prove things to myself instead of believing it from within. I guess in a way i feel better about that because I don’t seek external attention as it is a…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/19 06:41 AM
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I haven’t read anything on PUA yet which is probably pretty obvious
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/19 05:54 AM
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I agree wholeheartedly. I chalk up the lack of IOI’s on a poor public display of confidence. Something brought up before to me, specifically noting to fake it til I make it. Not sure if that’s the cause, but it’s my best guess. I languished a bit over the last several weeks, which is why I was so hard on myself in this weeks OYS. I have a habit of overthinking, so I’m trying to take shit in stride with minor victories and consistent progress. Though, if this is all just bull shit and I’m not on …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/19 05:21 AM
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I’m a slow learner. Plates don’t interest me, but gaining more confidence and an abundance mentality is what I need to remove my oneitis. It’s a constant struggle to overcome myself despite the knowledge i possess.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/19 04:37 AM
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Agreed. Not contradictory.
/r/askMRP26/06/19 05:32 PM
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This is one of the most emotional posts I’ve ever seen on RP. It’s emotional, because as everyone else is saying, it’s the truth. It’s a fucking gut punch. It’s “not fair”. But life isn’t fair, and the raw truth is we were born into a life that only a few understand the true depth of burden it comes with. But the men here shoulder that burden with pride. They look at the “unfair” as an advantage, and they bend life over and fuck it. You fucked life back when it tried to fuck you, and it will try…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/19 05:30 PM
1

My fear was I was using validation as sex and I needed to reinforce OI to myself by not making sex such a big priority. While this may not make a difference, the monk mode isn’t a tactic to punish her or myself, but to try and focus less on sex and more on frame and other behaviors which might be a better way of seeing how my relationship is progressing. If my wife has the libido of a panda I’ll never find fulfillment if I use sex as my metric. If I see her respect and other forms of intimacy gr…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/19 12:52 AM
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6/25/19 OYS #15 5’10 185 13%BF Mission (Goals): Be Debt Free: said fuck it and paid off my car a year early Single digit BF for summer: Looks like consistency was my issue. And impatience. Slowly getting more chiseled. Own household: Keeping shit tight, clean, and in control. Learn: Reading MAP right now, re-reading NMMNG. Practice Alpha behaviors be fun, loving, charismatic, and demonstrate leadership qualities Lifts: Started strength phase last week and am off to a decent start. My squat is be…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 07:23 PM
1

I do cum when I poo. Logic lines up.
/r/askMRP25/06/19 06:26 PM
1

I think this post shows how we measure success in this forum. Each week most OYS posts are centered around “the sex is good so I am doing good”. I’m guilty of measuring my success based on how much I’m getting laid instead of other factors which matter more, like respect, submission, and not being a harpy cunt. I’ll now reevaluate my measure of success and my hierarchy of how I give importance to my red pill journey strengths. Good post.
/r/askMRP25/06/19 03:44 AM
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Love the “sex is not valuable” explanation. I struggle with this issue and realized i equate the amount of sex I get the same as having more money in my bank account. That’s why it has so much power over me. Flipping the perspective and realizing it’s simply a valueless exchange could help me frame sex in a more healthy way.
/r/askMRP23/06/19 09:09 PM
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Great write up. Looking forward to you going more in depth with additional posts. Seems like you started with a strong foundation, in terms of picking a HQ woman to start with. When you found you, she could be herself.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/19 05:46 PM
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6/11/19 OYS #15 5’10 185lb BF% 13% Mission (Goals): Be Debt Free: Haven’t been able to double payments while adjusting to new salary Single digit BF for summer: Still tracking my macros again this week. I’m looking for good sources of nutritional information so I can see where I am lacking. Own household: Keeping shit tight, clean, and in control. Learn: Reading MAP right now, re-reading NMMNG. Practice Alpha behaviors Confront people when I’m unhappy instead of being passive aggressive. This ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 07:18 PM
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No one else mentioned this, so I may be way off base, but it seems she doesn’t trust your decision making ability here. At the core, her issue is certainly fear, as has been mentioned, but why doesn’t she trust you? RPEED has his wife’s trust even on the brink of financial ruin. Perhaps this is a pattern you exhibit? Look to the source of the fear and lack of confidence.
/r/askMRP08/06/19 12:54 AM
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Got measured yesterday and came out to 13%, so that was disappointing, but whatever, it lit a fire under me. I’ve been re-reading NMMNG which made me realize how little progress I made the first time around, making the second time harder in some ways. The mirror is more glaring to look at straight on. I’m not proud of what I see and am hard on myself for not “getting it” faster. Ego is an issue, it’s a protective blanket that I fall back on often to save face. The good news is I have no illusion…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/19 02:32 PM
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Alright looks like I have to write this again. Are you saying that my BF is off? Or you think I’m lying about my numbers? I wouldn’t make my squat and my bench so close together if I were going to fudge numbers, I’d at least make them be more favorable to a more balanced human. As for work, I do get treated extremely well and I also make the most in my group by a good amount. Roughly 40%, so I deserve the extra work. I victim puked because these two idiots have been fucking my week up, making me…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/19 01:29 AM
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Ugh that fucking anger post is going to sit with me for awhile. Edit: I wrote a long ass reply and now this is the only one I see. Not sure if this is a mobile issue or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 07:52 PM
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My assumption here is that you’re saying my BF is much higher than I think it is. It very well could be, it was an estimate based on my measurement at my heaviest (192) which was 14%. As for my squat, I started rebuilding it maybe a year ago from a horrible 275lb disaster to a lowly, but functionally sound 185 for reps. My bench has always been my work horse and is still my strongest lift. If I wanted to brag about numbers I would lie about my squat and deadlift which should be much higher. In r…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 07:36 PM
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6/04/19 OYS #14 5’10 185lb BF% 11% (Est.) Mission (Goals): Be Debt Free: Haven’t been able to double payments while adjusting to new salary Single digit BF for summer: Started tracking my macros again this week. Will measure BF at gym today. Own household: Keeping shit tight, clean, and in control. Learn: Reading MAP right now, re-reading NMMNG. Practice Alpha behaviors Confront people when I’m unhappy instead of being passive aggressive. This has gotten easier and I am recognizing when my fear …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 06:58 PM
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The post was good, but the further breakdowns of your method in the comments section was especially valuable, such as how you shifted to an abundance mentality and how you didn’t even notice IOI’s when you started.
/r/askMRP03/06/19 11:53 PM
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RE: fat burning - Your comments about weight loss slowing means your body has hit its equilibrium, its time to change things up as your metabolism has slowed to match your calories. At this point I’d say do the opposite: reverse diet and slowly increase your caloric intake by 100 cals or so a week until your +500. Your body will see it’s no longer in starvation mode and after 6 weeks of your surplus, starting cutting calories slowly again. What you don’t want to do is rely on fad diets to get re…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 06:51 PM
1

Pretty damn relevant
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/19 06:14 PM
1

Not sure I’d want you as my contractor. Probably good you bounced when you did. Hope you didn’t miss-count nails or support beams. I work in a highly detailed line of work where attention to detail is paramount. Yea, you may have some learning disability, or maybe you’re just lazy and or distracted. Don’t rush through the task at hand. Although, I am still wondering why this is in askmrp?
/r/askMRP16/05/19 08:17 PM
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Correct
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 05:21 PM
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I think you’re diving into the weeds far too much here. While the basis of RP is to lift and thus lift heavy, it doesn’t mandate it. However, if your pudgy and have no prior lifting experience you’re going to need a foundation built by a simple program such as SL 5x5 instead of jumping into CrossFit, so assume the lifting heavy mantra as a starting pre-req but if you pay attention to how people lift in here, experienced lifters or fitness folks have a wide variety of programs they adhere to. The…
/r/askMRP14/05/19 08:01 PM
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5/14/19 OYS #13 5’10 185 (-7lbs) BF% 11% (Est.) Mission (Goals): Be Debt Free Started snowball calculator to payoff loans faster (working nicely) Single digit BF for summer - Haven’t measured. Keeping track of macros and getting my workouts in - Not doing great at all Own household Keeping shit tight, clean, and in control - Yup. Learn Reading MAP right now, re-reading NMMNG. Practice Alpha behaviors Confront people when I’m unhappy instead of being passive aggressive. - Yup Lifts: Restarted my …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 05:00 PM
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I’ll preface my response with this: I’m not an expert. I’ve never been in a situation like this before, and anyone in this situation should consult a therapist or counselor or someone other than an internet stranger. That being said, if this was a power play to demonstrate dominance I would probably frame it as a toddler hitting me. I don’t react well to being hit or physically attacked, my fight response goes into over drive and I go hard. If it was my wife and she started hitting behavior I’d …
/r/askMRP09/05/19 11:43 PM
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Your post history suggests you are asking for help and not doing anything about that advice. It looks like youre a financially fucked blue pill faggot who vents when he’s about to hit rock bottom but doesn’t own his shit and never does anything to improve his situation. If you don’t do the bare minimum in your own life why should anyone do anything for you? She’s going to leave you, and she should. You’re a sorry sack of shit. Men have lost relationships while working hundreds of times harder th…
/r/askMRP03/05/19 06:48 PM
1

Socrates saying man the fuck up!
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/19 06:03 PM
1

I’d never thought of working out, or training, as something to prove or reinforce to myself what I’m capable of...and I’m clearly missing out. I really like the idea of seeing my physical progress reinforce myself in other ways. I guess I have just taken it for granted. I’ve literally been working out for so long that it’s as “whatever” to me as going to work. I don’t go through the motions, I eat right and train to have a good physique, but I’ve never thought of it being anything more than that…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/19 06:51 PM
2

I do lift, and I have for years. I can push 3 squat 3, but DL is new for me, so can only pull 2+ for now. Even though I do have a half way decent physical foot print I’m not cocky or confident about it, so I am not the one bringing it up, other people are. Sometimes they just assume I’m a meathead, which has given me a complex that I’m trying to overcome (again, a nice guy trait of caring what other people think. I’ve also read the subtle are of not giving a fuck twice, which has helped) I’ve do…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/19 03:50 PM
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Yea I have. Twice actually. I’m a textbook nice guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/19 12:18 AM
1

Can you expand on this? This point in particular had me questioning my own motivations for being the “problem solver”, and I even have a sense of nascent guilt at the idea of not assisting someone in need of help with “their issues”. Do the issues in question here matter? In the sense that scope and severity change the importance of being available or offering someone help? Or does it not matter at all, stfu and don’t let their issues break your frame? This question might have more to do with wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 06:48 PM
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Yup Fri-sunday. Split between classroom and “range” time, aka riding. Long hours though, 5 the first day, 10 the second and 8 the third
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 06:48 AM
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4/23/19 #12 First OYS post in a month. I’ve been 50/50 in actually owning my shit. Mission (Goals): Be Debt Free Started snowball calculator to payoff loans faster (working nicely) Get Converted to FTE - Second week as an FTE. Negotiated hard and got a great offer. Single digit BF for summer - Havent measured. Keeping track of macros and getting my workouts in - Not doing great at all Own household, Keeping shit tight, clean, and in control - Yup. Learn Read. Still need to do better here. - Yup …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 07:37 PM
2

I can’t get over how many posters have come up in the last few weeks with spousal assault happening. When did women just start openly hitting their husbands and thinking it was ok? Or is this the dark side of the long road of beta behavior? The equivalent of a pimp hand to the husband because the wife has been in control for so long and wants to keep her man in his place?
/r/askMRP23/04/19 03:51 AM
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You’re listing stats that mean nothing. 6’ 190 can come in a variety of shapes. You’re a realtor...and? Who cares. Obviously you believe that to be a big deal. No one can tell you why you have confidence issues. Have you read NMMNG? Do you rely on extern validation to gain confidence in yourself? What do you do that you’re proud of? What do you do that makes you a high value male? The simple notion of asking someone else to explain why you have no confidence is a big red flag. Look within to fin…
/r/askMRP23/04/19 03:33 AM
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This is one of my problems. I never do anything fun. Thank you for asking a question I didn’t know I needed asked. Now I get to find some adrenaline fueled answers.
/r/askMRP21/04/19 06:49 PM
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Just to clarify, she didn’t cut them off, you cut them off and blamed her. Accepting responsibility for your actions is very important to understanding that you are the one in control of your life and what happens in it. You gave up your power, now you must make sure that never happens again
/r/askMRP12/04/19 08:03 PM
2

If this sub reddit wasn’t so hated by the hippies that flood Reddit as whole, every new guy coming in here claiming to be alpha would be immortalized in r/murderedbywords Self-proclaimed alpha never goes over well in here. Now, to rescue this from being a low quality post I’ll say that the good news is OP set a boundary and is sticking to it. Bad news is I don’t know if he came here to be validated as an alpha because he is a trainer who works around lots of women and dated a 10 but still manage…
/r/askMRP12/04/19 07:37 PM
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Regardless of the side tangents on grip strength, my original argument was still about not relying on a weight belt or wrist straps. Grip strength v mortality was just an example of a long term reason for health. Some, RPeed, may not focus on form, but as an advance lifter your body is more likely to be able to sustain less than perfect form. I’m standing by the fact OP should learn good technique before getting into advanced territory.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 04:15 PM
1

From a scholarly article I shall link below. Results Poorer grip strength was associated with increased mortality from all-causes, from cardiovascular disease, and from cancer in men, though not in women. After adjustment for potential confounding factors, including arm muscle area and BMI, the relative risk of death in men was 0.81 (95% CI 0.700.95) from all-causes, 0.73 (95% CI 0.600.89) from cardiovascular disease, and 0.81 (95% CI 0.660.98) from cancer per SD increase in grip strength. These…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 01:30 AM
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We’re totally hijacking his whole post to go over this stuff but, whatever, maybe he will learn something. OP originally stated he thinks he may have form problems and decided that a belt would be the solution. That’s why I said he shouldn’t be using a buying a belt if he’s fucking up his form because he won’t fix the core -pun intended - issue. I’ve never done SL 5x5, don’t know who Medhi is, I just spend an excessive amount of time researching my own facts using scientific articles and industr…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 09:02 PM
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They have their place, yes, but not on at 225. They should compliment your lifts when you reach a certain point. Knee sleeves don’t help overcome form deficiencies either so those are fine. But specifically his form is bad and a belt will not allow that to be corrected, just give me a reliance on poor mechanics.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 08:01 PM
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If your joints hurt you’re over training or need to switch up your programming. You shouldn’t be in pain after lifting. De-load for 3 weeks at a different rep range with a new mix of exercises.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 07:02 PM
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Don’t buy a weightlifting belt. All that will do is keep your poor mechanics from being fixed. You don’t even need a belt at the weight your pulling. Strengthen your core and fix your form. Belts, straps, and weight lifting shoes are crutches for poor mobility and form.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 06:57 PM
1

Thank you for your words and for the roadmap. I fucked up my shoulder punching shit after this all happened. That’s one of the reasons why I haven’t gone to the gym, I can’t really extend my arm out or up, so no squats or extension movements. I’ve read NMMNG once already but was going to read it again anyway, so why not. I’ve been removing things that trigger thoughts and have taken a social media hiatus. However, I like your ideas around allowing a second and stopping the thoughts before they c…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 05:37 PM
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Thank you Steel.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 12:23 AM
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Thanks man, I forget about the sidebar bc mobile.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 11:45 PM
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3/26/19 #11 Please refer to previous OYS for stats and specs. This is the hardest OYS I’ve had to write. In all honesty, I don’t want to write it. But I know I need to. I kicked my wife out of my house this weekend for crossing my boundaries. In short, I read her text messages and found she had downloaded a dating app. I’d been suspicious for awhile and confirmed my concerns after a lengthy evidence gathering period. I was told she no longer loves me and she hasn’t spoken to me since I threw her…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 03:26 PM
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I had forgotten about the orbiter and branch swing. Good call.
/r/askMRP22/03/19 06:39 PM
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Let’s do it
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 04:46 PM
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Something no one seems to have said yet, though probably for good reason, is a question back to the group. Could this be shit testing? She’s only interested in getting back with you when you show backbone, and when you ended things it showed more backbone than she expected. Every time she becomes nice and you’re nice back she shits down your weak throat because she knows she can.
/r/askMRP22/03/19 04:26 PM
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AWALT.
/r/askMRP15/03/19 05:07 AM
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I think you need to keep your ass safe, even if it’s”not fair”. WISNIFG has a section on how morals cross into law. The law is made of people with prejudices, so be careful.
/r/askMRP14/03/19 12:54 AM
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Thank you. I don’t know if you know how important that was for me and how much I needed to hear that again.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/19 03:31 AM
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3/12/2019 OYS #10 Mission (Goals): Be Debt Free Started snowball calculator to payoff loans faster Get Converted to FTE Single digit BF for summer Keeping track of macros and getting my workouts in Own household Keeping shit tight, clean, and in control Learn Read. Still need to do better here. Practice Alpha behaviors Confront people when I’m unhappy instead of being passive aggressive. Get what I want from customer service when I’m not satisfied. Lifts: 6 workouts done this week and 10k steps …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 03:08 PM
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This whole answer is a textbook summary of exactly the changes I’ve seen. OP, read, re-read and internalize.
/r/askMRP09/03/19 02:53 AM
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I followed along with the start of your story thinking you sound a lot like me. Where you lost me was the second half with the wife bitching and you having to do your best not to DEER on your rack decision. Is this a FR or a question ? To me, the basis of the problem is your insecurity in making the wrong decision, therefore, analysis paralysis and second guessing yourself after you make the choice. Have you shown weakness in your decision? Do you second guess the choice of rack you chose in ter…
/r/askMRP08/03/19 11:57 PM
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3/5/2019 OYS #9 Mission (Goals): Be Debt Free -Started snowball calculator to payoff loans faster Get Converted to FTE Single digit BF for summer -Keeping track of macros and getting my workouts in Own household -Keeping shit tight, clean, and in control Learn -Read. Still need to do better here. Practice Alpha behaviors -Confront people when I’m unhappy instead of being passive aggressive. -Get what I want from customer service when I’m not satisfied. Lifts: Last week was difficult due to trave…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 10:14 PM
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I’ve been working really hard on this because I am such a slave to my emotions. I will look more into mindfulness to see if I can’t pick up more suggestions on how to master this weakness. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 10:42 PM
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Really happy to hear that the questioning of my mood is related to dread. I didn’t want to assume. Also, correct on staying out of her head. Who cares? Just fuck. Absolutely failed it. I knew it as soon as I got defensive and was struggling to pull out. Addressing the underlying issue will help me in these situations. As you said, if I don’t think I’m the prize these comments will breakdown the facade.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 10:41 PM
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2/26/19 OYS #8 Lift: Did 5 days of lifting last week. I’m traveling this week. That combined with a shitty hotel gym I am doing the best I can to do SOMETHING but not reaching my true potential in terms of what I’d do at home. Work: Boss and I are together for a week. I find it imperative to use this time to bolster my value by demonstrating my work ethic around him. Work otherwise has been slow, I’ve been looking forward to this trip so I can actually do something. Read: Best part of this whole…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 01:43 AM
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I responded to an earlier comment of yours, but something here might resonate with me also. That frustration your feeling could be an exercise in OI, or it could be an opportunity to reframe what is frustrating you. For example, when I first started my RP journey I was pissed off I was the only one taking care of the house, laundry, dishes etc. but I reframed my thoughts and positioned it as a point of pride that, despite my busy ass day at work and after a work out I can still come home and dis…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 06:39 PM
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What about coming home transforms your energy so drastically? Feels like some baggage to unpack here. I can only infer, but it is as though you’re not taking true leadership/ownership once home. Are you tired? Unwilling or frustrated at the responsibilities you have to face once you walk in the door?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 06:31 PM
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In response to your last comment, this is very common. Her anxiety kicks in and she procrastinates. Then she works like crazy to get everything done. She’s the one who doesn’t start packing for a trip until an hour before it’s time to go. I’ve been trying to think of ways to change this behavior, but have not been successful yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 10:11 PM
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OYS #7 2/19/19 Lift: 5 great work outs last week. Have been steadily improving Deadlift form and have improved my rep range. Started at 185 x 10, 185 x 8 225 x 8 to 225 x8 x3. This is after 3 weeks, so I’m happy to see the progress. Work: Have to do some travel next week. Boss sprung it on me last minute that we have to travel cross country and then up a coast together, so that will be a shit-test I’ll be facing later today when revealing to wife. Otherwise, work has been very slow so I’m lookin…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 11:43 PM
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And Cypher threw away his freedom for ignorance. I’ve seen a lot of change, that’s very motivating. But I’m at the point of where I took the red pill, now I’m unplugged, but I’m still gasping for air during the fight in the matrix and having trouble freeing my mind to make the building jump. It’s the knowing vs understanding and having to trust in myself that what I’m learning to be true is the path I have to continue to follow.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/19 05:04 PM
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OYS #6 2/12/19 Lifts: 5 days of good lifting last week. Overdid it a little bit and had to skip the weekend to recover, but love seeing the changes to my body. Squat down week over week due to tightness in my IT band that I’ve been addressing. Also adding more stretching every other day to help with my squat. New gym doesn’t have the bubble weights so I have more trouble deadlifting not being able to roll the weights smoothly, but I’m adjusting. Work and Social: Slow and nothing of note. Reachin…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 07:05 PM
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I like the frame shift mindset. Instead of being a victim of her shit testing you’re being offered an opportunity to make her laugh or assert your dominance. She’s challenging you to give her tingles with your alpha, so you must oblige accordingly.
/r/askMRP08/02/19 05:14 PM
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I appreciated the debate and the foundation of your argument with awakening. I found it to be an interesting learning experience and also gave me some faith in humanity to see an internet argument/debate have such rational and logical thought, void of attacks or emotion. As a newb, learning and knowing vs internalizing and knowing is where I often fall short in my process. Having you fully express the deep understanding of the RP principles helps me apply them to my life. Thank you and MRP awake…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/19 04:59 PM
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I know the thread you’re taking about. Let me see if I can find it.
/r/askMRP07/02/19 08:55 PM
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Question: are you wacking in the shower to hide it from her? Still new here, but my impression is you shouldnt hide your sexual desires if that is the case.
/r/askMRP07/02/19 07:50 PM
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You should probably stop drinking period.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 11:44 PM
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OYS #5 2/05/19 Mission: Overcome beta personality and become the leader I have to be in order to run my life the way I want to run it. Why I’m here: Counteract a lifetime of horrible choices and personality traits I’ve developed over the years. To follow the lead of other great men in this forum who have been able to lead admirable lives as admirable people. Reading: WISNIFG and MMSLP. Found SGM with the intention of reading it later, but after the first 30 pages I realized how I need to start w…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 09:54 PM
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I’ll say this: at least you’re being honest in a place where criticism is going to be unrelenting. But try to examine the “why” behind the reaction to cop out. Are you afraid of failing? Afraid of succeeding? Want to give up because it’s too hard? Find the why and kill this behavior now.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 09:32 PM
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Thx
/r/askMRP01/02/19 09:10 PM
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Reminds me of the movie Ronin. I look up to your ability to have such value in yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/19 08:42 PM
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SGM is later on in my reading list (still finishing pre-reqs) but where can it be found? It’s like $1k on amazon. I hear it’s on pdf, how did you read it?
/r/askMRP01/02/19 07:51 PM
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Haha, I’m talking about teenagers texting for 25 minutes between sets of 75lbs
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/19 05:04 AM
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Thank you for taking the time to read and respond to my excessively long post. She’s doesn’t know about fight club, per se, but she sees bruises on my knuckles and is wondering where they came from. I have had a really hard time reading MMSLP because of this. The new cover makes it really difficult to read pretty much anywhere in public. Fortunately for me this one project only requires 5 12 hour days, it will be done on Friday. It’s the 5am starts that are killing me. I laughed at the prostitut…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/19 06:36 PM
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Goddamn. The second paragraph stuck with me.
/r/askMRP29/01/19 10:44 PM
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I’m glad to hear that it’s a method to keep you focused, don’t be a slave to the scale.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 10:19 PM
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I disagree with weighing yourself so often. You can swing 5lbs in water weight in a day. Keep it to once a week, or even less, and average it out over the course of a month. You’ll lose motivation if you see those swings and think you’re not changing. Judge your changes by your body composition not the scale.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 07:59 PM
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OYS #4 1/29/19 Mission: Overcome beta personality and become the leader I have to be in order to run my life the way I want to run it. Why I’m here: Counteract a lifetime of horrible choices and personality traits I’ve developed over the years. To follow the lead of other great men in this forum who have been able to lead admirable lives as admirable people. Reading: WISNIFG and MMSLP. Lifts: The cornerstone of my MRP journey. My DL was up another 10 lbs last week. Squat kind of stalled out at 2…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 06:41 PM
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Despite Chad being correct most of the time, it’s not exactly accurate this time. And for guys who have trouble making other male friends, it’s a great avenue. I found a post on the NMMNG subreddit and decided to reach out. Also try the NMMNG forums. I tried to sign up but it kept rejecting me (cries) and I gave up, but it could be a better resource than the subreddit, which is pretty dead.
/r/askMRP26/01/19 01:08 AM
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Well I wouldn’t say I’m into the games as much as that post would indicate some people are. I don’t play fantasy or anything. House stuff in minimal. We live in a condo so my chores usually just include laundry and cleaning, which is also minimal. That’s why I’ve taken to reading as much as I have, though I do value what you’re saying. Escapism has always been my go-to methodology for handling stress and I have been consciously avoiding that this month. My projects list would, at this point, be …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/19 01:05 AM
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Alright, let me know when you’ve uploaded it again.
/r/askMRP24/01/19 08:20 PM
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Freakin YouTube blocked the video!
/r/askMRP24/01/19 06:17 AM
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That’s why I find the input so valuable here. No matter how unique I think a situation is, some guy here has been through it and wants to help guide another guy from running into the rocks while the lighthouse is out. This place is helping be my lighthouse as I gain the confidence in myself and knowledge of how to handle life as an improved person.
/r/askMRP23/01/19 12:32 AM
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Yup, addressed this in my OYS this week
/r/askMRP23/01/19 12:02 AM
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OYS #3 1/22/19 Mission: Overcome beta personality and become the leader I have to be in order to run my life the way I want to run it. Why I’m here: Counter-act a lifetime of horrible choices and personality traits I’ve developed over the years. To follow the lead of other great men in this forum who have been able to lead admirable lives as admirable people. Reading: Finshed Subtle Art. Finished NMMNG. Started WISNIFGand MMSLP. Lifts: The cornerstone of my MRP journey. My DL was up 10 lbs last …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 12:02 AM
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Weed can absolutely effect your testosterone levels and cause lower libido.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 11:03 PM
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No it’s her main account. You can post stories to your page that only include certain people. I wasn’t on that list of people.
/r/askMRP22/01/19 06:55 AM
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Choo choo mother fucker !
/r/askMRP22/01/19 01:36 AM
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This is a great story. I will continue with this plan. Having a balsa wood frame makes it easy to forget myself. Thank you for reminding me of my priorities.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 07:58 PM
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I know you’re right. Maybe a 5.5 though. Just not in attitude. My feeling was she was projecting also. The accusation totally caught me off guard. I thought she found out I found out she lied. Nope.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 07:33 PM
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Love this. You’re right. Acting/looking like 5. I wanted to delete this post because I was ashamed of how it made me look. But I knew I had to keep it up because I was afraid. The truth hurts when swallowing the pill.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 07:30 PM
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Yup. I’m ill equipped to deal with the subtleties that make you vets good successful men. Right now I’m just chiseling marble with TNT.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 07:24 PM
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She said best friend from high school. I went on her computer and saw she has been selectively posting stories in Instagram without me in them. First story was her with a dog tagging the dude in the photo. She was later at the mall with the dog. Both events took place with a female friend who was staying with us from out of town this weekend.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 07:22 PM
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I have no MAP (haven’t gotten to the book yet) and also realize how heavily I’m in her frame. I barely have a frame of my own. NMMNG kind of shocked me into seeing some unhealthy truths about myself, and everything you’re saying is true/accurate.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 07:20 PM
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Eh I don’t think she tried to fuck me after the pizza thing. She kissed me at 4am but didn’t go any further than that. Claim was he was a friend from HS and he just got a dog so she wanted to see the dog. She and her friend, not him, took the dog to the mall and got shit then went back to his house. She claims she didn’t tell me to avoid me freaking out. I get why because I classically have reacted poorly to info like this, but haven’t since I joined RP and have tried to get my mate guarding in …
/r/askMRP21/01/19 07:16 PM
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Your post really touched off everything I had assumed, but was unable to see. It’s like watching someone squat, I immediately know who has low ankle mobility and who has poor hip mobility, but I can’t see myself losing my chest going ass to grass. That’s why I posted. I haven’t been honest with myself on here and I needed to make sure I didn’t victim puke to her, I had to go to the place where I’m going to get my ass beat if I’m headed down the wrong path. I finished NMMNG last night after about…
/r/askMRP21/01/19 07:15 PM
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Thank you for your responses
/r/askMRP21/01/19 02:16 AM
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Thank you I’ll give it a whirl
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/19 06:08 PM
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What kind of face lotion would you recommend that doesn’t clog pores? I used to be a little better with lotion with my face but have slacked off. Now the shit I use takes 3 days to clog my pores.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/19 02:18 AM
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I think your question was mainly asking what kind of sex positions do other guys here use to make their women weak in the knees. High level: anything that makes her feel small and dainty. Anything you do that makes her feel like a feather in your arms should make her respect your power and strength. Think about simple things like picking her up with a smile, doesn’t have to be sex related either. During sex the move my wife hated and love was the standing sex. If we were on a couch I’d stand up,…
/r/askMRP18/01/19 05:42 PM
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I started NMMNG, and it kind of confirms this theory. I was thinking in terms of Fight Club when Tyler says to himself (Pitt to Norton) “we’re a generation of men raised by women. I’m wondering if another woman is the answer we need.” I have way more female emotional tendencies then traditional male, and I checked every box in the “am I a nice guy?” List. Classic feminine behaviors. I feel like it may be an epidemic more than a coincidence.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/19 05:34 PM
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That’s correct, she’s lying about everything. If she’s going to lie about the little stuff, how can I believe anything she says? She hides her phone, she hides certain social media posts from me. She deletes me from certain social media’s - and I get why, she is tired of me being possessive, but because I haven’t been on this RP journey long enough, I might “know” what I need to do but am not executing it correctly. It’s my fault it got to this point. I crushed her privacy and made her unable to…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/19 05:30 PM
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Lol, yea, I really am. This is what happens when boys are raised by women. Gotta break out of a lifetime of bad habits.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 11:33 PM
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I wish I had read these earlier, especially the second post you linked. Holy fuck, that is like an RP anthem if I’ve ever heard one. Thank you for putting in the time to help a stranger find his way in a time when he’s not sure how to find it himself. I didn’t really understand STFU prior to reading that post. I sure as fuck see how passive aggressive and wrong I am. I can see it in other posts, now I just need to see it in my actions. Edit: I’m going to give “nice card” a shot. I don’t think I’…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 07:13 PM
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I love your perspective on how I should be handling knowledge. I think it stings to be wrong so much, but I just have to understand this is the process. I read your dancing monkey post while I was still lurking here and I didn’t really think it applied to me. Reading it again after looking deeper inside myself I recognize many traits I’m ashamed to see in that post. Frankly, it’s tough seeing yourself in the mirror for the he-bitch you really are for the first time, but with proper mentor ship, …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 06:09 AM
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How does STFU work in a situation where someone clearly doesn’t respect me? This is just the latest in a lie bender she’s been doing, I was thinking this is how you stand up and put your foot down about how you will or will not be treated. Should I just have said “I know you’re lying. Stop being a bitch.” And kept on going with the day? Being sincere not sarcastic, trying to avoid newb fuck ups. Thanks for your input. I am not sure how to act in these situations yet. I just know acting like noth…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 02:02 AM
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OYS #2 1/15/19 Mission: Overcome beta personality and become the leader I have to be in order to run my life the way I want to run it. Why I’m here: Counter-act a lifetime of horrible choices and personality traits I’ve developed over the years. To follow the lead of other great men in this forum who have been able to lead admirable lives as admirable people. Reading: Almost done with Subtle Art. NMMNG arrived today, also have 2 more sidebar books arriving tomorrow. How do you guys hide your rea…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 12:35 AM
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I think you meant “oiling the chainsaw and setting IT on fire, then screaming as you hold the chainsaw high overhead, vigorously revving it, sending spark and flame into the air striking fear into all of your condo neighbors.”
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/19 07:34 AM
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With today’s social media landscape does the validation seeking wife on Instagram or Snapchat need her husbands validation as much as she did prior to these sources of attention? Or does this mean that the man has already lost his wife if she no longer relies on his validation?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/19 04:10 AM
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Week #1 Stats: -32 -5’10 -192lbs -BF 15% (transitioning off 3 month bulk) - Married 1.5 yr, together 7, no kids - Workout 5-6 days a week. Usually sub 10% BF but wanted to gain more lean muscle, thus bulk. Lifts: SQ: 275 BP: 295: DL: 225 Before anyone says anything, I recently re-focused my efforts in the gym from “working out” to “training”, which has been a powerful change in how I evaluate success in the gym. My weight has dropped in SQ and DL because I’ve been focusing on form, but the weigh…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/19 01:48 AM
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