JCollinO Archive

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3	Did anyone find love after being divorced in late 30s? Unfortunately no, the pain was still there. But it lessened over time as I realized it wasn’t all my fault. We shared responsibility for the breakdown of our marriage and she made a choice as an adult woman to leave that. And that’s okay. It was like I would wake up in the morning with her as the first thing on my mind…until I didn’t anymore. It just took some time. I’m sure it will vary for each different man. What did help me get through those emotions and the pain was doing the emotional work…	/r/Divorce_Men	17/07/25 12:27 AM
14	Did anyone find love after being divorced in late 30s? I turned 37 in March, the same month my divorce was finalized after 5 months of separation. In that time, I also sought out mental peace, but I made it a point to focus on myself and lifting weights. It became an outlet physically, but also mentally and emotionally. That hour that I spent in the gym (not every day, my goal is 4x per week so that I have some flexibility) was so nice because I can just put on my music, follow a routine, and UNSELFISHLY focus on myself and wellbeing. I literally wa…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/07/25 05:14 PM
3	Keeping my distance You’re still putting the thought of her coming back into your life above focusing on what your emotional needs are now. You don’t deserve to suffer in the hopes that a reconciliation may occur at sometime in the future. Your body is telling you need this space for yourself OP, listen to it. It’s hard. God I know how hard that is but this is the time to focus on yourself. Boundaries were probably violated in your marriage and you keeping your distance rn is probably a boundary that you need to en…	/r/Divorce_Men	20/04/25 04:25 PM
1	There's hope guys What kind of therapy do you go thru? CBT, Divorce Care, etc? Just checking because I also started therapy (CBT). Just wanted to see what was helpful for other men.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/04/25 01:18 AM
3	IS IT NORMAL Man thank you for sharing this. Super helpful advice and you put the words much better than I could. I was in the same boat as you OP, only my situation is more recent. I found out I had undiagnosed ADHD and that was a lot of it, but I wouldn’t have been able to tackle the rumination and the fallout from that without being aware. As many men on here have suggested, therapy and talking really helped me start to break out of that cycle. Honestly, just being aware of it really helped me get a grip.…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/25 05:32 PM
1	After Divorce Wow, what a comment. So insightful, yet succinct. It’s true OP. You’ve already got the right habits down. That’s the hard part. Stay consistent and you will move forward. She may have new “friends” but that is the easy road and lacks substance. You are building, brother. Keep laying it down. Brick by brick and you will surprise yourself in time.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/03/25 09:20 PM
2	Blindsided What a great list of helpful advice my dude. This is so good to hear. I hope it helps OP bc it’s really helping me rn.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/03/25 03:26 AM
1	Just an update. I hope this helps someone. Thank you for sharing. I am in almost the exact same situation but a few months behind you. Shows there is a light to walk towards.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/02/25 05:32 AM
2	Wife suddenly left me and my world is crumbling apart. Thank you for sharing, brother. I’m sorry that happened to you and it sounds like you have many close friends and family looking out for your wellbeing. That’s worth quite a bit in times like these.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/02/25 01:56 AM
1	Wife suddenly left me and my world is crumbling apart. Could you elaborate on how attempting reconciliation was your biggest mistake? I’m going through that right now and I’m just curious. Was it lost time that could’ve been preparing? Emotional toll? Delaying your peace’s etc?	/r/Divorce_Men	27/02/25 09:59 PM
6	Your wake up call. Damn this hit me. I have no earthly idea what was happening to me when my STBXW couldn’t hear logic and reasoning. That was it. Bro I was outmaneuvered on an emotional battlefield. Keep your cool gents, best lesson I ever learned. Vent here if you need to.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/02/25 02:25 AM
2	Comparing progress with ex Just came here to second everything this man is saying. From reading Meditations to hitting the gym, learning skills, etc. everything here will help you move forward. And that’s the way of Men. My wife left me the week before Thanksgiving, said she wanted a divorce two weeks before Christmas. We were married only a year but had everything going for us. I was stunned and devastated but I moved forward. It’s getting better every day. Mornings were the hardest for me. But somehow it gets better if …	/r/Divorce_Men	25/01/25 03:48 AM
2	Why you must establish yourself as a sexual being. Sounds like this clever feline figured out your “single” situation and threw it back at you in an underhanded way. She knew it was a dagger.	/r/TheRedPill	07/10/17 09:28 AM