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JLSAAAA/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 12:42 AM
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JLSAAAA/r/seduction06/08/17 03:37 PM
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Could you elaborate on in what way I’m arguing the extreme version? What we look for in long term partners is simply very different than what we look for in a casual Friday fling. Sure, they might be handsome, that’s usually all that’s required in a casual scenario. Standards are ofcourse way higher in settings in which we want commitment. Basically, attractiveness is not the thing most woman choose a life long partner for. That doesn’t mean they’re settling, it means they’re emotionally mature …
/r/ExRedPill03/03/26 07:32 PM
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What makes you think that women who engage in casual relationships are looking for commitment? They probably don’t even want it or else they wouldn’t be dating casually to begin with right. It’s like men think women are passively waiting around for a man to commit to them instead of having fun themselves. With that being said, no self respecting adult woman I’ve ever met would purposefully search out an “alpha”. We actively avoid it at this point because it signals a very juvenile way of thinkin…
/r/ExRedPill03/03/26 10:39 AM
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The red pill colored your view of reality in a way that makes me worry for you. Do you have any other specific questions I could help you with? And what caused the relapse?
/r/ExRedPill15/02/26 09:07 PM
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I don’t think men are being feminized at all. It’s just that it’s the first time in history their ability to provide financially isn’t as important anymore as emotional maturity and intelligence. Women now expect men to be actually kind, loving partners and soft, present fathers. Someone you’re on even ground with and do life with, together.
/r/ExRedPill15/02/26 12:50 AM
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I think it depends on how old the couple is? In immature relationships I’m sure it plays a role. But for most well adjusted adult couples, it’s not even an issue.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/26 07:42 PM
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Women have the means to get out of bad situations now.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/26 07:06 PM
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I’m sorry you feel this way. As a woman, the biggest lie we’ve been told is that our value is in our youth and beauty. This may be true for some men, but those are men you don’t want anything to do with anyway. You are so much more than your looks. Your looks are not what make you a valuable human.
/r/ExRedPill11/02/26 04:22 PM
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Ofcourse he isn’t right. Healthy relationships are a partnership. One doesn’t “dominate” the other. That’s not what love looks like
/r/ExRedPill10/02/26 12:08 PM
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I understand what you're saying. Dating is the absolute pits if you're looking for actual companionship. I can definitely relate to what you're saying - as can most of the people I know tbh -. I' m 30, you might've read a bit about me in OP. I legit never even thought about rating myself (a bit dehumanizing imo) so I don't know how attractive I am. But I know I have a lot to offer and that's all I need to know. In the 6 years i've been single i've only dated two people for no longer than 6 weeks…
/r/ExRedPill30/08/21 11:36 PM
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If you come across a study that seems a bit shady to you, just ask yourself: how would any ethical study ever verify these claims?
/r/ExRedPill28/08/21 06:28 PM
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I totally agree
/r/ExRedPill25/08/21 09:31 PM
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I stumbled upon this subreddit, emphatized with the disillusionment and confusion I read in some posts and felt inclined to help. Even if it's in a tiny way.
/r/ExRedPill24/08/21 08:29 AM
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Exactly, lessons were learned.
/r/ExRedPill23/08/21 08:18 PM
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There is a difference between blame and fault. The girl is at fault for at the most a lapse in judgement. But the dude is the one to blame. Meaning he can and should be held responsible for being a bad friend. And the guy would be at fault for at the most being unethical for sleeping with a married woman, but the woman would be to blame for the cheating. Meaning she can and should be held responsible for being a bad wife.
/r/ExRedPill23/08/21 08:03 PM
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Thank you :)
/r/ExRedPill23/08/21 07:25 PM
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Don't get me wrong, it is without contest an absolute dick move from her part. It's really inconsiderate and unempathetic. But you still can't blame her. I hope my point is getting across. She's still a total douche, but she's also a stranger. The friend is someone he actually knows and can rightfully expect more from. Expecting any kind of behavior from a stranger is setting yourself up for failure.
/r/ExRedPill23/08/21 06:28 PM
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Totally, it's dissapointing. But you can't blame someone for not living up to your expectations. You can however blame someone for not keeping a promise. If a wife cheats, is it the fault of the wife, the man she cheated on her husband with or is both their faults? I would say it's completely on the wife because she's the married one who accepted the responsibility of monogamy. In this situation the friend is at fault because he accepted wingmanship. The girl hasn't consented to any role yet and…
/r/ExRedPill23/08/21 03:26 PM
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Is it a date when there are so many other people present? I wouldn't think so. In fact, if you invite entire groups of friends this early, i'd take that as a sign that there are no serious intentions to begin with. People who are interested in you tend to want you alone. Especially speaking as a woman. Plus,the friend actively put work into trying to seduce her himself instead of stepping aside and creating opportunities for his buddy to do it. Truly the worst wingman ever
/r/ExRedPill23/08/21 03:12 PM
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The thing with dealing with people is that the risk of being disapointed by them is always present if we don't manage our expectations
/r/ExRedPill23/08/21 02:36 PM
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It's 100% on the dude. The girl owed him nothing, the guy however owed him the loyalty and respect a friend should have. What a terrible friend that guy is.
/r/ExRedPill23/08/21 01:59 PM
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It exists: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sex-sexuality-and-romance/202008/loving-someone-without-sexual-desire But to answer your initial question; attraction beyond skin deep attraction is usually based on familiarity. So we tend to be attracted to people who are equally as smart/have mostly the same personality traits etc. If we're talking about how evolution could have existed in the first place: I don't think early man was as focused in looks as we are now. We had no prefrontal cor…
/r/ExRedPill22/08/21 06:10 PM
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You're right in the sense that, sexual attraction seems to be a mostly subconscious physiological process that is based on snap superficial judgements for genetic mate selection purposes. Romantic attraction however - which is an entirely different thing - is less primal and more meaningful. Because romantic attraction involves a deep emotional connection and more conscious thought processes, it's the real bread and butter of any relationship worth having. Romantic attraction can absolutely crea…
/r/ExRedPill22/08/21 05:48 PM
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Yes, like I just said. It's a different type of attraction.
/r/ExRedPill22/08/21 11:40 AM
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Women are not a monolith. So it depends on the woman. Most straight women I know do like penis but that naturally has to do more with who it's attached to and the pleasure it brings its owner. Not with the penis in and of itself. I can't imagine there not being women out there who love cum, but with that being said; i've never met them.
/r/ExRedPill22/08/21 11:13 AM
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Well, you can't see personality of course. So i'd say it's more their actions.
/r/ExRedPill22/08/21 11:11 AM
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Sounds like a great way to approach most women regardless of their attractiveness. It's light hearted, fun and easy going. Which is great, no woman wants to feel pressured in any way. If the conversation is fun, there's a big chance she'll give you her number. Even if she isn't immediately wildy attracted to you. I think clubs and bars are perfect places for finding something casual.
/r/ExRedPill22/08/21 10:53 AM
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I will apologize again if it came across that way. I'm glad I managed to help some people on here, but i'm also glad you in turn help deepen my understanding. Comparing our situations would be idiotic since you are struggeling with a completely unique set of things. I hope saving up for surgery goes without a hitch.
/r/ExRedPill22/08/21 07:45 AM
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I lied. I should've been more specific. In my OP I clearly state that I haven't had a relationship in 6 years, which naturally means that I have dated in my life. Because this conclusion is so obvious, I wrongly believed I could say "I could not get a date" in a figurative way. I should've measured my words more sensitively and I should've said that it's very hard to get a date. Maybe I should've laid my sexual history on the table off the bat and should've said that in the 6 years i've been sin…
/r/ExRedPill22/08/21 07:08 AM
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I apologize. I naively thought that just like with any other turn on there would be nuances in both the people who are attracted to it and in the amounts they are attracted to it. And I naively thought that researching the term would be a lead to finding those nuances.
/r/ExRedPill22/08/21 06:50 AM
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That's ok. I have nothing to gain from lying on a forum. But I know it doesn't really matter what I say. I tried to find a silver lining. Which admittedly might have been the wrong approach. If you feel more comforted by me saying that all hope is lost, and that every attempt you'll make to connect will fail because of this one thing about you, I could tell you that too. Take whatever message makes you feel most seen and understood. But just know that I respect your perspective and i'm not here …
/r/ExRedPill22/08/21 06:29 AM
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You do realize there are people out there with a kink for deformed faces, right? It's called Teratophilia. Google it, i'm sure it won't take you too long to find a forum dedicated to it. Look, I've been single for 6 years and can't get a date for the life of me even though I have a solid career, a good financial situation, a decent education, life experience, a warm personality and get to model on the side. I'm telling you all of this not to boast in any way, but just to drive home the fact that…
/r/ExRedPill22/08/21 12:31 AM
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What's would you say is the answer? I'd say it's being an overall fun guy to be around. Having a sense of humor and being quick witted and sociable makes up for a lot.
/r/ExRedPill22/08/21 12:09 AM
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I have to reiterate: It has more to do with healthy self esteem than age. Any tactic will only work with someone who subconsciously believes they deserve to be treated that way. People who truly and deeply love themselves simply will not allow it. I think the women you're describing are dishonest about what they want because they would rather be with a dick than be alone. Which is of course a dead giveaway that both the gamer and the one that's being gamed are both equally in need of a healthy d…
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 05:29 PM
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Absolutely
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 05:22 PM
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A man who helps around the house is a pragmatic value, which makes it an attractive one. I think the difference between men and women is how attraction works in general. With women it seems to overlap more. In the sense that if a woman feels emotionally attracted to a man, he will become physically more attractive to her, no matter how he looks and she will want to have sex with him because he provides her with this warmth and safety that will make him an overall beautiful human in her eyes. No …
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 05:17 PM
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My spanish isn't fabulous in writing but this is a perfect example of having a nice conversation with a woman. You let know you're interested in the fact that I poledance but you immediately let me know my degrees interest you more. This is great because it subtly displays that you have values that go beyond the superficial. So take this into the world, remember that women are humans too and you'll be a natural.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 05:00 PM
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Thank you, how kind of you :)
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 04:53 PM
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I think that is something young women think they like because they're still dealing with self-esteem issues. But adult women with a healthy sense of self would never allow anyone to treat them poorly. I guess that is the great paradox of the game. Anyone who would fall for it, - is more often than not - not a woman you could have anything long lasting and meaninful with anyway, because she herself is just as emotionally undeveloped as the person doing the gaming. Also, I think the problem is usi…
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 03:28 PM
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If you have one close friend, then you definitely can bond to people. And I would say that all a good relationship is, is a supersonic friendship. So having close friendships is a good way to practice certain skills like emotional intelligence, openness and vulnerability before finding your ultimate partner in crime a.k.a. your romantic partner.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 03:22 PM
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I don't feel the need to convince anyone to ask anything. If they want to, they can. If they don't, that's fine too.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 03:19 PM
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I don't. I might make one. What should I call it?
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 03:17 PM
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Not to toot my own horn, but i'm indeed a pretty dependable friend :). I don't know how long these threads stay open but anytime the world/women/dating/ life feels confusing, drop it here and i'll answer whatever question as honestly and truthfully as I can.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 12:51 PM
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Eres hispanohablante? El 'percibe' lo delató :). And that's fine. See me as whatever helps. I'm not here to be perceived as much as i'm here to perceive you all.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 12:47 PM
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Yes. And not to sound like a cliché dick, but it's the key to everything. It's the key to not being overly hard on yourself, to being loving to everyone for no reason other than the act in and of itself. It's the key to emotional empathy and creating bonds that transform your life for the better. The key to a more fulfilling life van be summed up as such: Love thyself. Nurture yourself as a loving parent. Support yourself as a loving friend.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 12:43 PM
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Absolutely. It's simply a symptom of the human experience :).
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 12:35 PM
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In that case; that was a great post. The moment you start to believe in your heart that you are worthy of receiving kind words, you'll learn how to take them.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 12:28 PM
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But you're not strategizing now right? You're just talking in an honest way that has nothing to do with either of our genders but with our human experience. That is the most authentic thing you could possibly do.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 12:26 PM
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That is totally ok. You are mindful of it and aren't too proud to admit when you're wrong. And with that, you're further along than most. I think what helps is to remember that everyone has a complex inner life just like you do. And everyone's experience is just as valid as yours.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 12:24 PM
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Well you seem to have hit the nail right on the head. Of course attraction plays an integral part in courtship. But in your case, to reset your brain I would take a bit of time to converse with everyone on a human level. Like you are doing with me right now.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 12:18 PM
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This post shows insight. I want to compliment you on it but you don't seem ready to accept those.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 11:53 AM
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With all due respect, don't you think it's a bit egocentric to assume your attention is something of value to me? This again is an honest question to challenge your beliefs. Because i'm sure that if you give it a bit more thought it might change your view on it.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 11:51 AM
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I understand. I think it might help to stop thinking about flirting and to just think about having a nice conversation with someone. Try to be curious about things about them that have nothing to do with their gender. What shows do they like? Do they have pets? Try to connect on a level that has nothing do with her being female first.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 11:48 AM
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Not at all. You just have to treat them like people.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 11:45 AM
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You're right in the sense that it is indeed different and more complex for women. But the overarching theme with me and other women I know is that we value emotional intelligence and kindness over a lot of other things. If someone can make us feel safe and seen as individuals, the shape of someone's face doesn't matter as much as you'd think. Because trust me, most women with some life experience under their belt know when someone merely sees them as a number.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 11:43 AM
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Let's challenge that notion. What would I gain from flattering you?
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 10:30 AM
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I never said that that is what you do. But what I am saying is that the only reason someone would consider someone else a pervert is if they do invade another persons' personal space. If you don't do that, you have no reason to feel vulnerable when you feel attracted to someone, because no one will think badly of you because of it. It seems a bit hyperbolic to try and avoid attractive people. My entire point is that you can't avoid them because they're everywhere and you obviously shouldn't beca…
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 09:58 AM
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That's great. So it means that you can bond. But it looks to me that you maybe have a harder time bonding to women in specific. Do you know why this may be the case?
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 09:53 AM
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Attraction in and of itself is healthy and totally fine. But invading someone's personal space simply because you feel it is not. If I see a beautiful man in a grocery store I ofcourse will look at him for a bit, think to myself: what a handsome man. And then continue my shopping. There are attractive people everywhere all the time. If I was hyperfocussed on them it would leave no time for actually living my life.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 09:49 AM
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I think most women above 25 prefer to be called women. And I hear what you're saying. And it makes perfect sense to feel like you can do better if you have problems really bonding with people. To really appreciate someone you have to get to know them. And the more you'll realize that the "better" you're refering to is probably based on superficiality. The pursuit of which will always leave you empty. Do you have any close friends?
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 09:44 AM
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I'm happy it helps :)
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 09:38 AM
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What makes you think they think that? And not caring is not a bad thing. But it's possible to not care right now without trying to predict the future. I don't care if i get a boyfriend or not either. But I don't feel the need to tell myself it will never happen because I don't realistically know that. Sometimes we fall into apathy to protect ourselves from dissapointment. Which is a totally logical response. But the potential problem with that is confirmation bias. Our brains work really hard to…
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 09:34 AM
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Being potentially attracted to me isn't a bad thing and it does not offend me. I do think it's especially important for deconditioning red pill ideas, that you remember that you are allowed to be attracted to someone without it having to mean anything. Attraction is a fun, exhilirating thing that can exist without you having to act upon it. There are a lot of beautiful people out there we can appreciate as is without turning them into little trophy's to be coveted.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 09:21 AM
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This isn't a question but I think the best advice I can give you is to learn how to read a room. Women are individuals with their own personalities, backstories and motivations who don't go through life waiting to be hit on. The key to success with women is remembering that they have a complex inner life just like you do. She's not an inanimate object that is only of value if she reacts to you in a way you agree with. So I repeat: it is essential that you learn to read the room and the context. …
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 09:13 AM
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Well, not here and not today :)
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 09:03 AM
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I would say so, yes.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 04:43 AM
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No. Be that guy. You're right. I for some reason forgot to adresss it in my reply.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 03:28 AM
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Even if it doesn't always work out, finding commonalities remains the best way to meet people. It's important to understand that not everyone you meet is supposed to be in your life for long, but that doesn't make meeting them in the first place less valuable. Every interaction teaches you something that makes you more proficient at it the next time you do it. And every interaction brings you closer to meeting the person who you will forge a lasting connection with. Don't get discouraged.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 03:25 AM
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I think people are always quick to judge things they don't understand. Why do you think you're boring? And what makes you think you're ugly? Also, what I think might help is measuring success differently. Sure, your brother might get laid all the time. But what do you think that indicates? Is he popular with women, does he not have any standards or are these things the same thing? And do you think not having standards is a good thing or a bad thing? How many meaningful relationships does he have…
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 03:13 AM
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I think there are absolutely people who believe that. But only because they're not zooming out enough to see the bigger picture. Or of course because they just hate women and see nothing wrong with these tactics. Either way,, defense of RP as a whole is can definifely be indicative of a break in logic when it comes to cognitive processing.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 02:56 AM
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Hi, thanks for being so open and good job on the self reflection. Try to focus on what is actually in front of you and not on all the things you project onto the situation. What colour is her hair? Do you like the way she's dressed? What do you like about it? Are you attracted to her features or to her vibe? By focussing only on the experience of observing something beautiful you become more present in the moment and you'll be so busy taking in the beautiful external stimuli, that it drowns out …
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 02:47 AM
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Yes, it's all very fearbased. And I think you're making a good point about there being truths in the "red pill". I feel like those need to be found, acknowledged, adressed and put into real life perspective before we can even begin to unpack the rest. Because the last thing we want to do is discredit the very real fears surrounding these things. I'm definitely not implying that that makes it ok to spout hateful rhetoric. But I am saying the fear and frustration are valid and need to be seen and …
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 01:46 AM
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No problem :). And I couldn't agree more. It's so easy to judge these ideaologies. But it's more useful to pause and see the hurt that's behind it.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 01:08 AM
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Thank you for your answers guys, guess my friends are right lol.
/r/seduction07/08/17 08:18 AM
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The best succes stories start with failure. Don't give up.
/r/seduction07/08/17 08:15 AM
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He means, you move your body in the direction your head is facing. So if a woman is sitting next to you, you don't keep your body pointed forward and tilt your head to the side to talk. You shift your entire body so all of it is facing her...hope that makes sense.
/r/seduction06/08/17 06:02 PM
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Balance is key. When it's not so new to you anymore, you'll refind it.
/r/seduction06/08/17 06:00 PM
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Women only introduce their friends to men who they don't like but consider good people. In this case, this girl seems to like you (even though it seems to come more from a place of insecurity and wanting to be validated then actual interest but , je digresse), and that's probably why she doesn't want you around her other friend. Also, be careful with joining without being asked.
/r/seduction06/08/17 05:59 PM
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I think you're right. At some point you have to stop over-analyzing and just go out there and talk to people who really catch your eye or interest.
/r/seduction06/08/17 05:53 PM
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I commented on youtube when I meant to comment on here lol. Again, great advice.
/r/seduction06/08/17 05:51 PM
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And how do you approach a woman who you thought was out of your league now?
/r/seduction06/08/17 05:48 PM
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Okay, I see. And what did you mean by primal?
/r/seduction06/08/17 04:45 PM
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I see. If you're ok with that, then really take the wheel without pressuring her into anything. Good luck.
/r/seduction06/08/17 04:43 PM
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I can imagine someone being in a corner would give you 0 incentive to strike up a conversation.
/r/seduction06/08/17 04:40 PM
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I don't think it's an age thing. There are 30 year olds out there that are still intimidated.
/r/seduction06/08/17 04:39 PM
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This suggests you're admittedly doing something that would make someone want to beat you, so you'd rather try it with someone who's beating you could take lol.
/r/seduction06/08/17 04:38 PM
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If they're in your friend circle, apologize. Not owning up to it will make you "the touchy creep when he drinks" forever.
/r/seduction06/08/17 04:34 PM
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@Iwriteforgroupies They like their women dumb and submissive because they know an intelligent woman wouldn't fall for their crap. They're intimidated.
/r/seduction06/08/17 04:27 PM
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Maybe go to the same place and split up. Try to seduce someone seperately and when you've find someone who might be interested, introduce them to your other half. This way it's less intimidating for the other person than going on the prowl together.
/r/seduction06/08/17 04:23 PM
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I think it's because life is harder for black men and certainly black men from certain neighbourhoods. They had to learn how to carry themselves in a confident manner from an earlier age considering their social survival depended on it. And this translates to all aspects of their lives.
/r/seduction06/08/17 04:22 PM
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You do realize there are different types of black culture right? What it means to be black in America is wayyyy different than what in means to be black in Portugal. Also, to say it's more materialistic and primal, I do wonder what leads you to make such a statement.
/r/seduction06/08/17 04:21 PM
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Good one
/r/seduction06/08/17 04:08 PM
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Try it! I'm also inspired to ask money for my services now. Oh, the amount of guy friends i've helped getting laid lol.
/r/seduction06/08/17 04:07 PM
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Yes, too soon. Also, don't push for anything. Women are not always these passive individuals waiting for things to happen to them. It sounds like you have a good time when you meet, so keep having a good time. Try to kiss her again when the time is right and let the thing progress naturally
/r/seduction06/08/17 04:06 PM
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I want to start of by saying that not all women are natural followers. Now that that's out of the way, it's about kinda gauging what the other person is into. You start of with something not so extreme (spanking, pulling hair) and if she's ok with that (literally asking "do you like that?" Is hot AND confirms consent) and you work your way up. Any guy who just does what he wants without looking for signs that she's actually enjoying herself is inconsiderate and selfish. We don't wanna be that gu…
/r/seduction06/08/17 04:01 PM
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Go! I don't have any personal experiences with them but it sounds like fun, there's also a bigger chance of meeting someone who shares your interest and what people make says a lot about them and gives you enough fuel for fun conversations
/r/seduction06/08/17 03:51 PM
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Instead of wondering why you don't laugh like any one else I think you'd gain more by just accepting this part of your self. So what if you don't have this thunderous laugh. People who know you know when you're having a good time and the people who don't will find out soon enough. Relax, if something is really funny and you're relaxed and comfortable you'll laugh. If something's not, you won't and it's both ok.
/r/seduction06/08/17 03:46 PM
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We have a way of romantisizing old memories. As soon as you start to make new ones, the "shine" of the old ones will dim.
/r/seduction06/08/17 03:37 PM
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It's transparant but not in an authentic way. More in a "I know you're being extra flattering to women to get attention" kinda way. Asking me if I don't want to be succesful kinda suggests the only way men can be it is to post statusses like this, which is not true. There are more roads that lead to Rome.
/r/seduction05/08/17 09:02 AM
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Still shocked. It's super transparant. But I'm glad these prove to be succesful for him.
/r/seduction04/08/17 06:23 PM
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*Some women's minds. I clearly need to be more specific in my language.
/r/seduction04/08/17 06:21 PM
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I'm glad it worked out for you! I do think this method has a big chance of failing for others though. If they are really her friends, she has probably already told them how amazing she thinks you are. Emphasis on "she thinks". They will know how she feels about you, which'll make you off limits for them from the get go. In most cases anyway.
/r/seduction04/08/17 06:20 PM
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Can't believe these work, who are these girls?
/r/seduction04/08/17 04:19 PM
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But if she's showing strong and obvious signs of interest, she wouldn't introduce you to her friends after you friendzone her. She'll want to keep you to herself.
/r/seduction04/08/17 04:17 PM
1

Ah I see. Well, mirroring in itself is just a completely natural sign of interest. Both men and women will mimic the person they're talking to in some way it another naturally if they're interested and it usually happens instinctively.
/r/seduction04/08/17 04:14 PM
1

I read it all. I feel like the fact that you use your friend's 6 year relationship that ended as an excuse to have a jaded picture of women shows a total lack of experience in the relationship department. A woman who has been in a relationship with a man for 6 years wasn't just "acting" like she wanted something, they actually had something and it didn't work. That's the cold hearted reality of adulthood sometimes. Also, mature established women don't "act" like they're independent and strong, t…
/r/seduction04/08/17 04:07 PM
1

Don't you think it's kinda ironic that you were put off by a woman doing exactly what you are doing? I really like this sub and I wish everyone I give advice on here the absolute best without judgement. But in all honesty IRL, before I even knew that this place existed I know when someone is playing a game with me in 2 seconds flat because -to me at least- it is incredibly transparant. As soon as I catch a glimpse of it, I will not give him a single chance.
/r/seduction04/08/17 03:19 PM
1

Before connecting with anyone or changing anything about yourself just try to find things about your self that you like. Work on your confidence and start believing you're an interesting person who's worthy of having nice conversations with everyone. Male or female. When you're more confident and comfortable with speaking to anyone, it'll become easier to connect with men too. Good luck!
/r/seduction04/08/17 03:11 PM
1

If someone comes up to a woman and says "you're cute" they just say thanks and go about your day again right. It's not enough to hold someone's interest. I agree saying something different might be better.
/r/seduction04/08/17 03:08 PM
3

Wouldn't reccomend. When it's crowded they just want to dance too and sometimes that means someone's back is facing you. But it's not an invite.
/r/seduction04/08/17 03:02 PM
1

I do wonder what in those 6 sentences led you to make such a theatrical statement.
/r/seduction04/08/17 07:32 AM
0

Looks like you have a good grasp on woman's minds.
/r/seduction04/08/17 07:29 AM
1

This sounds cheesy but i'd need to know who you are. Not even necessarily how you look, but what do you like to do? What's your fave color, what celeb do you think looks awesome etc. And last but not least; what type of women are you attracted to? This is important info if you're considering buying polos lol
/r/seduction03/08/17 11:19 PM
1

Girls? sure. Women? Not so much.
/r/seduction03/08/17 11:05 PM
1

This is extremely true. Intelligent/established/confident women will see through PUA stuff in 0.2 seconds.
/r/seduction03/08/17 11:04 PM
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Sure. Eventually it's about what every individual user wants to get out of it, right? And by "no hookup" I think they mean "if you text me 3 minutes after we match to ask me if I want to go to the sauna with you tonight and never speak afterwards again, the answer is going to be no". If you date someone for a while, have sex and find out it's not working, it's obviously not a hookup.
/r/seduction03/08/17 10:58 PM
1

I agree. Seduction is a dance, not a cold and calculated game of chess. Or at least, it shouldn't be.
/r/seduction03/08/17 10:45 PM
1

Don't stop a woman that's on the go. If she looks like she's on her way to something, leave her be. Other than that, it's really situation based. Trial and error. Also, don't compliment too much. I get how weird this sounds, but if a woman is used to getting a lot of compliments they lose almost all meaning.
/r/seduction03/08/17 10:41 PM
0

For some reason the idea that women mean what they say seems foreign on this forum. No Hookups means no hookups. It's seriously not always that complicated.
/r/seduction03/08/17 10:18 PM
2

I agree. Being able to have fun together is of the essence, why else would you be together. So what it basically comes down to is, you prefer dating young girls so you're not forced to keep growing and figure out what you'd really like to do with your life or invest more. That's totally fine. I guess the problem people have with it (including me if i'm completely honest) is that the girls in the age group you're describing (16-18, 18 being less shocking of course, but still) are just making thei…
/r/seduction03/08/17 05:02 PM
2

How were you at 18? And how would a relationship with a 28 old woman would've looked at that age?
/r/seduction03/08/17 03:49 PM
2

I used the term "save" but it can be interchanged with "comfortable" just as easily if you're offended. My point is this: if a woman knows someone is coming on to her, she'll act differently. Just like you have different conversations and body language (probably more relaxed) when you're talking to a mate then when you're trying to get a girl to go on a date with you, right? That's all i'm trying to say.
/r/seduction03/08/17 01:24 PM
1

Something simple and not too distracting, good tee and pants that fit. Your face should be clearly visible (obviously). You can show your environment and hobbies in the other pictures but in the first one your money maker should be your main focus.
/r/seduction03/08/17 12:28 PM
2

You could say: "Text me when you're less busy, would still like to go get that drink if when you're available :)" if you'd like to not get in friend territory, if you do, then text your witty suggestion. You might've fucked up a little, one of the reasons she may have been so open in her convo with you might be because she felt it was save to. They might've made her felt she wasn't being pursued and thus led her to let her guard down. If your goal is to get more female contacts, i'd refrain from…
/r/seduction03/08/17 12:22 PM
1

I think it's great that you enclose the fact that you're in an open relationship. It ups the chances of you matching with someone who has no problem with it. Before you ask them out, refer to your bio quickly to double check if they've read it and agree to it. It'll safe you time. Just say something like; "Hey, a match. So the bio didn't scare you off haha" or something and then invite them.
/r/seduction03/08/17 12:10 PM
1

Let's agree to disagree. I do appreciate your perspective.
/r/seduction03/08/17 12:04 PM
1

Thank you for your honesty. Not to generalize, but that's usually the main reason older men date younger women, they expect less. They have no idea what they want yet so they won't ask you for anything specific which takes a lot of the pressure off. But I do think that dating someone around your own age could lead to interactions that have more depth and could lead to more fulfillment in ways you don't wouldn't expect if you're not used to it.
/r/seduction03/08/17 12:03 PM
1

" Hey, we chatted for a bit last time but I don't think we've exchanged name, I would've absolutely remembered yours...(insert flirty eye contact) My name is... ". The "tell me about..." would make me cringe in this setting. During a date it'd be great. It might be a bit too try hard now. This gives you the chance to lighthearted and flattering enough not to creep anyone out and you're making your intentions known in a non abbrasive manner.
/r/seduction02/08/17 11:52 AM
1

What if you never reach enlightenment? Would that be okay too?
/r/seduction02/08/17 09:39 AM
1

Even more interesting. How long do you have to feel you're skinning yourself alive before this occurs? And is the ability to put on a different face for every interaction a necessary prerequisite for reaching it?
/r/seduction02/08/17 09:16 AM
1

I'm sorry to hear that. That's not good. Wouldn't it be awesome if who you are at your core was enough. If you could just interact without expectations, goals, tactics etc... It would take up less mental space, that's for sure
/r/seduction02/08/17 09:04 AM
1

Good that you had many great approaches. The thing is, timing is of the essence. When I'm going about my life running errands, doing mundane daily things and someone asks me to take my earbuds out to tell me something... He could be Tom Hardy but I still wouldn't be thrilled about it. If that same man we're to talk to me in another setting later that day at say, a café or something I'd probably be in a more flirtatious mood and more open to it . I just don't like the idea that a man finds himsel…
/r/seduction02/08/17 08:57 AM
1

Great advice, except for the earbuds. I have some experience with this. If someone is wearing earbuds unless there's a fire or other news they need to be warned about- leave them alone.
/r/seduction01/08/17 11:19 PM
1

This is nice. Thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction01/08/17 11:15 PM
1

I think some time away from too much outside influences just to get to know yourself better could be valuable for some. Especially since a lot of PUA/seduction stuff revolves so much around play acting, saying stuff you wouldn't normally say/doing stuff you wouldn't normally do and basically turning into something you might not naturally be. So some time off can help you reconnect with who you are at your core.
/r/seduction01/08/17 11:13 PM
2

Context mi amigo. Without it, this question is vacuous.
/r/seduction01/08/17 11:09 PM
1

Really figure out how you feel about it yourself first before you discuss anything and stir things up for no reason.
/r/seduction01/08/17 11:09 PM
2

In that case, just be you. If you isn't good enough now, it would never be good enough in a relationship with her. It might work, it might not. You don't always get what you want and it sucks but that's just how things are.
/r/seduction01/08/17 11:08 PM
1

Exactly. A lot of time that standoffishness is a way for women to see how intersted you really are. If you're easily "scared" off, she knows you're not thát interested. Showing someone you really would like to hang out with them without acting too keen truly is a balancing act, but worth trying to figure out before you next.
/r/seduction01/08/17 11:06 PM
0

Why does it have to be one or the other. She's literally telling you what she wants. Which is to decide the next time she sees you.
/r/seduction01/08/17 11:02 PM
2

Women go out on dates just to fuck too, women objectify men too. It's not that shocking. Just don't forget that you aren't the only one with a mission. Looks like she's better at this game than you. Sorry about the herpes, but for the dating thing. Don't sweat it. You'll get better at this with experience. The more you do it (with protection S'il vous plaît!), the less feelings will get involved.
/r/seduction01/08/17 10:58 PM
2

That video actually consisted of pretty solid advice. Good luck with your channel mate.
/r/seduction01/08/17 10:51 PM
1

Nein. Don't.
/r/seduction01/08/17 10:46 PM
2

I don't know if this counts but I have 26 years of experience with being a human woman. I have no idea how I stumbled on here but i've been casually lurking and sprinkling wisdom around here and there for a while. I feel unusually comfortable in male dominated spaces.
/r/seduction01/08/17 10:41 PM
1

Isn't how you look an expression of your core personality?
/r/seduction01/08/17 10:28 PM
3

If that's your target group then you're on the right track.
/r/seduction01/08/17 10:26 PM
2

Relax! Just relax. She might have a vagina, but she's also a human person, just like you. Talk to her like she's a buddy who's also kinda hot and you tease her with that from to time.
/r/seduction01/08/17 10:18 PM
3

If you can change everything about yourself that fast, nothing was real about you in the first place. Which is the least attractive thing ever, regardless of how you dress.
/r/seduction01/08/17 10:14 PM
1

Nein. It is reccommended to be real. If something gets discussed that you love, there's nothing wrong with saying: yeah i totally love [insert thang] But don't get all preachy about it.
/r/seduction01/08/17 10:13 PM
1

Don't take it personally.
/r/seduction01/08/17 10:11 PM
6

Women are not a dime in a dozen. They are super diverse and so are their tastes. Some girls like "fuckboys", some don't. Looking like you got dressed in the dark isn't a recipe for succes.
/r/seduction01/08/17 10:10 PM
3

Interesting. Especially the ability to change your personality.
/r/seduction01/08/17 10:09 PM
1

Sorry for my straightforwardness but I personally think you have no business getting involved with someone else if you're this uncomfortable being by yourself and not getting attention. You need to learn how to be alone and be ok with yourself first, or you'll have nothing to bring to the table in your interaction with others. Validate yourself, yourself. If you're waiting for others to do it, every relationship you enter will look like this.
/r/seduction01/08/17 03:11 PM
1

A lot of times women just like the chase and the attention because it validates them. They care less about the follow through.
/r/seduction01/08/17 03:01 PM
1

Getting complimented on my appearance is so boring and vacuous. I also don't think how I look is the most interesting about me so I immediately throw my guard up if that's the first thing someone says. If I'm talking to someone for a bit and he tells me he likes the way I think/my perspective on things/my ambition. Now, those are compliments.
/r/seduction01/08/17 02:59 PM
1

I totally get everything about what you said. About you wanting to make up for your dormant sexual activity when you were younger. And I do see what you mean, you basically want the same things as what you think the average 18 year old wants so in that regard it's great. But what I meant with phases was primarily mental phases. Like I said, when you're 18 you're impressed much faster. And considering you're a tad older there might be this (unintended) crooked power dynamic that would make it wei…
/r/seduction01/08/17 02:18 PM
1

I guess it's all about the delivery. But personally, if I'm already uncomfortable enough to pull away and a guy says something like that i'd be annoyed.
/r/seduction01/08/17 02:02 PM
1

True. Really funny guys that are quick on their feet are rarely called creepy either.
/r/seduction01/08/17 01:58 PM
2

Yeah...that's really bad. I'm a woman too and this makes me cringe. She's super shallow and I honestly wish her luck. Thank god women come in all shapes/sorts/sizes/levels of intelligence. I truly think a lot of PUA tactics only target one type of woman...which really makes your dating pool a lot smaller than it has to be.
/r/seduction01/08/17 01:47 PM
4

But in a world where people still meet eachother face to face sometimes, the way you dress, the way you walk, how you smell, the way you carry yourself, how you interact with the world around you etc ALL play a role. Not just the symmetry of your face.
/r/seduction31/07/17 02:31 PM
3

Try to be suggestive in a playful, flirtatious manner during conversation and see how she reacts.
/r/seduction31/07/17 02:30 PM
4

The thing that makes it problematic is that they're in a completely different life phase than you. Do you remember how you were at 18? I was a complete child, easily impressed, kinda passive. So I guess if you're really into pulling the strings in a relationship than this is the way to go.
/r/seduction31/07/17 09:45 AM
1

Festivals are great for game. People are more open, letting loose, usually on something lol. Have fun.
/r/seduction31/07/17 09:28 AM
1

A woman who knows a thing or two will find most of these tactics super transparant. You can tell when a guy is doing a "trick" he does with all women. And it's off putting. This method is more effective with girls than with women.
/r/seduction31/07/17 09:22 AM
1

Please don't tell a woman: "Why are you ruining the moment." When she pulls away when you touch her. Just don't. Saying "Oh i'm sorry, I thought we had a moment" is better. A good hug in de beginning is great always good but be careful with touching and how much you do it. Women are so used to having their personal spaces invaded it's a sensitive thing.
/r/seduction31/07/17 09:10 AM
2

Don't put your life on hold for someone you don't know yet. She'll feel that you place this importance on her and thus take it for granted. So keep talking, keep going out and meeting people. You don't have to ask their number or anything, but just do so to prove to yourself you still have it and that if she doesn't want it there are loads of women who do.
/r/seduction31/07/17 09:04 AM
2

You should in fact take women seriously, just don't take the dating game seriously. It's supposed to be light hearted and fun, not this flippin' mission.
/r/seduction31/07/17 09:00 AM
2

The book basically describes all the steps someone with narcissistic personality disorder follows to groom someone for emotional abuse. So if you wanna manipulate your way into panties without showing any part of your real self, this is the book for you.
/r/seduction31/07/17 08:56 AM
1

Meh, if she's already groping you there's no need to try to be all suave with it. She knows what she wants, you know what you want. So : Hey, wanna chill upstairs for a bit? would be good enough.
/r/seduction31/07/17 08:48 AM
1

Day is less threatening and you could say: hey, I was actually on my way to get some coffee before I got distracted haha. Wanna join?
/r/seduction31/07/17 08:47 AM
3

Some women actually react really well to social awkwardness. It shows vulnerability and authenticity. Also, the smarter ones are usually put off by men who come up to you and talk like they've rehearsed it in a mirror.
/r/seduction31/07/17 08:45 AM
0

It's great that you intellectually interest women, I think that's the most important. Other than that just hug her when you meet her and don't touch too much or anything other than her arms. Be mindful about what she does because she leads in terms of what is allowed and what she's comfortable with touch wise. If she touches you in anyway see that are you que to make your move.
/r/seduction31/07/17 08:44 AM
3

You are enough. Find ways to turn your weaknessess into strenghts. Be honest with yourself, and selfreflect on why you do what you do a lot.
/r/seduction31/07/17 08:38 AM
1

I'm surprised that worked. Most women don't appreciate sexually aggressive talk right off the bat lol.
/r/seduction31/07/17 08:34 AM
2

Yeah it's obviously great for you. But everything that makes you feel better is good for you and helps you be more confident ergo get more girls. For some it's hitting the gym, for others it's meditation or biking.
/r/seduction31/07/17 08:33 AM
1

Play things you think work into your disadventage up. Maybe your skinnyness sets you apart from all the muscle heads and makes you stand out. I think maybe your definition of succes might be a problem? If you can walk up to a girl and keep an interesting and fun conversation going I think you're pretty succesful. I think the key is finding out if there's chemistry there and acting on that by asking her number and following through accordingly. Going about it that way would be more valuable. Your…
/r/seduction31/07/17 08:31 AM
5

Well, I think that you not liking being there in the first place kinda sets you up for failure. Maybe try taking a bootcamp class in the city? Classes and workshops are awesome places to meet people. You're doing something you like, which ups your chances to meet someone who likes doing what you like as well and that's what we want. Because what's the point of trying to pick up a woman in a club who obviously likes clubbing, when you hate clubbing yourself? Hiking makes for a killer first date b…
/r/seduction30/07/17 10:01 PM
2

What I find amusing about this forum sometimes is that there are so many tactic, tecniques and things involved that foster getting laid, but not building something meaninful and lasting. I think how you get to know eachother and why you decided to spend time together is a really important precursor when it comes to the relationship you'll eventually end up in. I think the most important part of keeping a relationship sexy is by continuously taking care of yourself. Making sure you look nice and …
/r/seduction30/07/17 09:57 PM
2

Yup. Missing obvious curveballs. Just be friendly and see where it leads.
/r/seduction30/07/17 09:51 PM
2

The fact that you enclosed your salary and facial rating made me lol, you're saying these things because you think that's what makes you attractive to women right? But without the 7 face and the salary, what do you think you have to offer?If you know that you'll know what your strentghs are in conversation.
/r/seduction30/07/17 09:48 PM
1

There's no set age at which you're supposed to lose your virginity. You lose it when you're ready. That can be at 16 or at 20, it doesn't matter and it's not a competition. Also i guarantee you college girls don't care as much about details as you think, they'll probably find your inexperience cute.
/r/seduction30/07/17 09:44 PM
1

I honestly feel like hooking up is not for everyone. If the idea makes you uncomfortable then why the hell would you do it. There's not shame in wanting to get to know someone properly before you penetrate them. Don't assume anything. Go on the date, see if it's even someone you can tolerate and go from there.
/r/seduction30/07/17 09:41 PM
1

Let it happen. And no you're not the biggest pussy for being a virgin. Doing something you don't seem ready for at all because of social pressure would make you more of a pussy imo.
/r/seduction30/07/17 09:39 PM
2

I think the fear only dissapears when you have a lot of conversations in general. If you work on being a good conversationalist you'll have more confidence talking to anyone and everyone regardless of sex. So next time you see a person who happens to be an attractive woman, you'll have the same confidence and approach in striking up a conversation.
/r/seduction30/07/17 09:34 PM
1

Waving is a brilliant, non invasive way to gauge interest. Or at least her willingness to be a friendly human being.
/r/seduction30/07/17 09:32 PM
1

Illfitting clothing. I think everything else is fine. I mean, if you like wearing starwars shirts, by all means do it. It'll up the chances of you meeting a woman who likes the same thing. Clothing is a way to express yourself and you'd want a woman to like you for you, right? Just make sure what you wear fits well, is clean and has your personality shine through.
/r/seduction30/07/17 09:29 PM
1

I think it means what it says. She just wants to meet people and have fun without any expectations. Because you know how Tinder is, everyone is expecting something and it changes the way people interact.
/r/seduction30/07/17 09:27 PM
1

Just ask her if what her friends are saying is true in a playful manner before you make any plans.
/r/seduction30/07/17 09:26 PM
2

Be yourself, have fun and see if she's someone you even like hanging out with first.
/r/seduction30/07/17 09:25 PM
1

I honestly think women DGAF about your interior design when they're just there to get banged. I mean, would you care? Women are people lol. As long as there are cum and blood stains everywhere and your sheets are clean you're good to go.
/r/seduction30/07/17 09:22 PM
2

It honestly depends on what you have been talking about and how she responded to what you've said up until that point. I'd have to see the convo lol.
/r/seduction30/07/17 09:19 PM
1

Let there be a couple of seconds of silence. if she smiles and looks at your lips for a milisecond, go for it. If the silence is uncomfortable and she's looking away, don't.
/r/seduction30/07/17 09:18 PM
2

Yes. That's why I said she'll reply if she's interested.
/r/seduction30/07/17 09:16 PM
2

Work on yourself and your selfesteem first. When you feel more comfortable with yourself the stares will become a fun thing instead of a weird thing. When my confidence was non existent i also felt so weird about always being looked at. And I had a very insecure boyfriend at the time who made it worse by almost getting angry with me for turning so many heads. But honestly , as soon as you feel better you'll own it.
/r/seduction30/07/17 09:15 PM
2

Leave it alone for a bit. If she's interested she'll reply.
/r/seduction30/07/17 09:09 PM
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Because it gives me invaluable insight on what men think they need to be considered attractive.
/r/seduction30/07/17 09:07 PM
2

Truth. It makes men look desperate and superficial more than anything.
/r/seduction30/07/17 09:01 PM
3

It sucks that you're having such a hard time. I honestly think the only reason it's that scary is because you've had the time to turn it into this big thing inside your head. She is not of an alien species, she's human. Just like you. She has insecurities and fears, just like you and she wants to have a good time just like you. Are you actually having a good time when you go out? Or are you so focussed on PUA stuff that you're not even hearing the music, or having fun conversations with your mat…
/r/seduction30/07/17 08:58 PM
2

Well, that answer is pretty clear right. You're coming on too strong.
/r/seduction30/07/17 08:54 PM
2

I wouldn't do that, way too confusing and time consuming.
/r/seduction30/07/17 08:50 PM
2

Yikes, someone has caught feelings. Just be honest dude. I'd say something like this. "You know, I thought we were cool with the whole fucking/no strings attached thing. But I notice you're starting to act like a girlfriend and i'm really not into having any kind of relationship right now" Either she'll pretend to be unbothered and proceed to bang you, but at least you've warned her of the fact that you'll never be her bf (SO many girls will still keep such an arrangement up for years, you'd be …
/r/seduction30/07/17 08:49 PM
3

The biggest change you need to make is the relationship you have with yourself. You are worthy of the good things in life, even though things aren't going according to plan atm. I don't believe all you have going for you is your job. You say you're a nice guy? Well that's great. What else DO you have going for you right now? Look at that and build from there, if you rediscover where your strenghts lie, you'll know what way to go. Also, don't be afraid to reach out for support from your friends a…
/r/seduction30/07/17 08:43 PM
2

True. Basically just treat women like people and the dating world is your oyster.
/r/seduction30/07/17 08:33 PM
1

The only thing you have to make sure of when approaching is that she has made warm eye contact (with the emphasis on warm, quickly looking away, not smiling etc is not warm) with you at least twice because that's her way of saying: "Hey, I wouldn't mind if you came over". and to make sure you have something useful/entertaining/interesting to talk about. So scan your surroundings, is there something going on you can mention in a banter-y light hearted manner?
/r/seduction30/07/17 08:32 PM
9

That will not work unless you are a really good looking guy mi amigo
/r/seduction30/07/17 08:26 PM
1

word
/r/seduction30/07/17 08:23 PM
3

If anything, excessively hitting the gym might do the exact opposite. Depending on what type of girl you're going for. A girl might find it more impressive than a woman who knows a thing or two
/r/seduction30/07/17 08:16 PM
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God, I love this subreddit.
/r/seduction30/07/17 08:12 PM
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It's because there is a lot more in play when picking a potential mate than physyical attraction. When you're 17, it doesn't matter that he has no plan in life or doesn't take care of himself or has a shitty mom as long as he's smoking hot. When you're 27 those other things do matter.
/r/seduction30/07/17 08:06 PM
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