JRemington80 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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3	Couples Therapy Scheduled - But I'm Already Done And it can also be useful to have this person for counseling throughout the divorce. Think of it as a few sessions to baseline where each of you are at. Don’t commit to anything disingenuously just be there to lay the foundation of your perspective on how you’ve gotten to where you are	/r/Divorce_Men	07/01/26 01:54 AM
1	Signs she is cheating? How she spends her time with you. Does she think ahead an plan things with you. Is she looking at ways to create more space for you and her to be together. Big one - her relationship with her phone. Hiding or turning it away when you’re around. If she’s on it or has to “immediately” respond to someone else	/r/Divorce_Men	06/01/26 01:28 AM
4	Staying for the kids—yay or nay Reality is a few things here: A) she’s asking out of the marriage means she is already checked out B) asking for an open marriage so she can sleep around likely means she’s explored this already either virtually or in person. Either way you no longer have a spouse C) the snappy detracted behavior especially in the phone is because she’s engaging elsewhere D) the kids are way way more perceptive than you think they are. And you’re likely compensating for that in some ways by being totally focused…	/r/Divorce_Men	06/01/26 01:12 AM
2	Tough times You’ll never begin to heal until you’re in different spaces. The smiling and laughing shit is also likely for show. It’s manipulative and controlling. It keeps you on the hook and guessing instead of just pulling the band aide off. You know where this is headed, best to just get on with it. Also expect she’ll drag it out, or sue for peace. She’s likely just living off you and taking advantage of your kindness. She is no longer your person so you have to start choosing yourself first	/r/Divorce_Men	30/12/25 04:15 AM
2	Man I don’t know what to do anymore. Feels completely useless. Their are ways to politely “out” her or in the least make it clear that’s on her. “She made bad decisions” and I couldn’t live with it anymore. Etc	/r/Divorce_Men	30/12/25 03:58 AM
3	Need advice on a situation Perhaps you misheard or were triggered - and rightly so. I would calmly re-approach the discussion from a place of curiosity and ask if you heard her right (stating what you felt you heard). If you did hear her right. Run… I had this same thing happen post divorce with a girl I dated, slightly diff scenario but essentially I ended if an she said “I knew I shouldn’t have been so open” - I was like FFS no you should have just been you off the bat so we could all make mature decisions	/r/Divorce_Men	30/12/25 12:38 AM
1	Does sexting deserve divorce? I also struggled with letting my affair partners spouse know. Ultimately that’s like drinking poison hoping the other person gets hurt. It’s their shit to deal with - cut the cancer out as quickly and cleanly as possible and move on. There is something better waiting for you - you just can’t see it right now because you’re in the thick of it	/r/Divorce_Men	09/12/25 05:46 AM
6	Does sexting deserve divorce? The first time you “catch” her is just that. It’s def not the first time she’s done it. Unfortunately I was in your situation, if she ends up saying the right things and promising a change it at least in my case just prolonged the inevitable. When it gets to this level of an emotional affair she’s filling some void in herself that she’s actively chosen to gratify outside your relationship. From my experience once that lines crossed it’s done. If she does say she wants to work on it - present her…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/12/25 05:39 AM
1	Needing advice on finding a new friend group pre divorce For me joining a non denominational church was great. They had a men’s “fraternity” as well as a divorce ministry. Many folks either going through or well on the otherside of their divorces. People with a ton of empathy for what is happening and great advice for what will inevitably be an ongoing life evolution for you.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/11/25 09:28 PM