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I saw from your responses that you have a kid together. For that reason alone you might want to consider being the bigger person here. At the end of the day what matters most is how your kids perceives your actions (fairly or unfairly) during this time.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/23 08:33 PM
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You’re not an outlier. There are a thousand examples on this sub of men sacrificing for years and decades only to be discarded once their wife didn’t need anything more from them. This may sound cold, but supporting someone though school or something similar is often a losing proposition. If you're going to make a lifetime commitment to someone don't do it until you're both established in the working world. I have my complaints about my ex-wife but to her credit she didn't mooch anything off of …
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 06:28 PM
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The stress got to me and a doctor put me on an antidepressant. The antidepressant caused me to become MORE depressed and suicidal. It's awful how flippantly doctors hand out antidepressants. They're not very effective drugs and often do real harm. I know this won't help you OP but hopefully other reading this will learn a lesson. Stay far away from SSRIs, they are brain poison that can wreck your life. This scared her and triggered DEEP PTSD from her childhood. The idea that a previously normal …
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 06:25 PM
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Not nowadays when all the mid guys are ignored. Please stop buying into that ridiculous narrative.
/r/MensRights21/09/23 08:00 PM
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You need to pick higher quality women to date. I'm significantly older than you and even though circumcision was a lot more prevalent in the US when I was born I was fortunate that it wasn't done to me. It has never been an issue with any partner I had. The majority of women I've dated have been actively against circumcision and have said that if they had a son they would leave him intact. Also, you're 21 and dating someone who already has a kid? Again, I think you can do better.
/r/MensRights21/09/23 07:48 PM
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I "deal with" people like that by ignoring them. I was arguing with a feminist/social justice warrior. Why were you doing that? The best response to such a person is to cut them out of your life and not interact with them.
/r/MensRights21/09/23 01:57 PM
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Does your wife not have a job?
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 01:29 PM
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Yeah, I moved across country. It wasn't just because of the divorce. I'd been getting tired of the city I was in for a long time because of crime and similar big city crap. My job became fully remote after COVID, my marriage ended and we were fortunate to be able to sell our house at the peak of that weird COVID real-estate bubble. At that point I could move anywhere in the country I wanted so I decided to do something new. I do miss being much further away from some of my friends but on the who…
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 01:28 PM
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I tried to get my ex-wife to learn to fix something around the house. I didn't care what it was, her having the ability to do any home maintenance whatsoever would have been nice. God help me if I'd used the word "train".
/r/MensRights29/08/23 12:37 PM
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For me it was running but yeah, same effect. I started running more when our sex life went to shit trying to burn off sexual frustration. It partly helped, at least I could sleep a lot better at night.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/23 02:01 PM
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expwBPD Men need to learn that any woman with a mental illness is undateable. If a woman has BPD you should treat her as if she's radioactive.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/23 01:57 PM
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even cheating It's funny how people always view cheating as the ultimate sin. Don't get me wrong, it's a shitty thing to do but morally I don't put it on nearly the same level as domestic violence, serious financial shenanigans or just significant lying.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/23 01:34 PM
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I don't hate my ex at all. I'm frustrated by how she handled certain things in our marriage but I don't have any ill will towards her. We didn't have kids and made roughly equal amounts of money so that helped a lot in making the divorce easy. The person I do hate is her lazy primary care doctor who put her on anti-depressants and totally blew off their massive side effects.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/23 01:31 PM
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I'm very unlikely to ever marry again. If I do then yes, she'd have to be someone who makes at least 75 or 80% of what I do. Having a wife who made more than I did spared me a lot of pain when I got divorced. I look at stories on here of guys getting blasted with alimony payments and they just break my heart. Thankfully the woman I'm currently dating is a physician. I don't actually know what she makes but I'm confident that it's more than me.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 07:23 PM
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Only a lawyer can help you with something like this. Any advice you get from Reddit is likely to be useless or harmful.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 07:13 PM
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Make sure that you're sexually compatible. Make sure you're still sexually compatible after New Relationship Energy (which lasts about a year) wears off. Don't marry the type of woman who'll turn to antidepressants as an easy fix for her problems.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/23 04:04 PM
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Yeah, OP your heart is in the right place but this stuff is not your problem anymore. Also who knows how much of what you're being told is even true and how much is manipulation.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 04:58 PM
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It doesn't have to be. I know multiple people who said they were relieved when their parents divorced, especially when their parents were able to have a much more amicable relationship post-divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 04:56 PM
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Don’t do it. Those drugs often have massive side effects that doctors will not be honest about. You’re likely to end up chemically neutering yourself and there’s a decent chance the damage will be permanent even after you stop taking drugs.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 08:32 PM
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Some of these stories I read here where the guy divorces a SAHM -- make me wince. Same here. If I had to pay me ex a couple of thousand bucks a month I'd probably have a mental breakdown. Mad respect for men who are able to power through that.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 01:26 PM
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Only seven US states still recognize common law marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 06:42 PM
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I have to laugh at how ignorant people are about the tax code. At least in the US marriage can make your taxes worse if you both make about the same amount of money.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 06:41 PM
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I'm 80%+ no on this question but if I did get married again there are a number of conditions that would have to be met. 1.) She has to have a good job. When I got divorced I was spared financial pain because my ex-wife made more money than I did. 2.) No kids. I don't want to have them, I'm not marrying someone who wants them and I'm not marrying someone who already has them. 3.) I would need to make sure that we have good sexual compatibility after the New Relationship Energy has worn off. Havin…
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 06:39 PM
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Please learn to write in complete sentences and use proper capitalization and punctuation. This post is unreadable.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 06:34 PM
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One bit of advice I heard is when paying for things like groceries, always use a debit card. Add an extra $20 or $40 cashback to each transaction and stash that money away. Obviously there's a limit to how much you can get that way.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 06:33 PM
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Re: your IPO/cash out comment, that's if the man makes more money. I was fortunate that my ex had a good job. My income bounced up and down somewhat more than hers, but most years she was making a bit more than I did. There was no threat of her taking any money from me when we divorced. Thankfully no kids were involved. Every story I hear about child support makes me shudder.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 06:27 PM
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There are way too many ways this could go wrong for you with false accusations of rape or assault being the worst. Some people really do just want to have break up sex but the potential gain here just isn't worth the possible pitfalls.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 12:38 PM
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At the end of the day the thing that matters above all else is the safety of your child. Your wife is clearly not fit to be around your daughter, that needs to be the driving force behind all of your actions.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 01:53 PM
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Part of the thing with houses is that they're just too much space for one person. I have a pretty nice 1 BR apartment that's right around 800 square feet, that's plenty for just me. Any house around here that isn't a total run-down dump is going to be at least 1600 square feet which is space that would mostly sit empty. I'd still have to pay to heat it in the winter, cover the costs of maintenance on space I don't use, deal with the lawn (which I hate doing), etc etc. I wouldn't mind having a se…
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 08:10 PM
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Are there EVER cases where you can divorce without it being a bloodbath? Mine. No kids were involved and we earned roughly equivalent amounts of money (she made a bit more). When we sold the house we just split the proceeds roughly down the middle. I agreed to give her 60% just so get it over and done with as quickly as possible. We each had our own car that we kept. No bloodbath, only real hassle was selling the house. Well that and her trying to make me feel bad for leaving but oh well.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 06:22 PM
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zero maintenance costs or time/effort I love that part so much. My evenings and weekends are mine now.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 06:19 PM
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We sold our house, I moved into a 1 BR apartment on the other side of the country. I'm super-happy with my arrangement. A house is overkill for one person and after years of living in one place I'm happy not to be tied down. No maintenance is also great, my ex-wife couldn't fix anything so of course every single home repair fell on me. Definitely no roommate, I have a good fully remote job. Rent is a bit more than I'd prefer since I chose to move to a town that's had a huge recent influx of peop…
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 06:18 PM
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I'm about your age and had an easy divorce (no kids, wife made more money than I did). Reading some of the stories here, god, they break my heart.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 06:14 PM
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Man, my ex wife and I had dated for over four years and lived together for two. I really thought I knew all the potential pitfalls, let the New Relationship Energy dissipate, all of that. Things still ended up sucking. Never again.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 06:14 PM
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I still do think about finding someone - just never marrying her. I want kids one day. Having kids with a person is a way bigger commitment to them than getting married. I got divorced from a marriage with no children. It wasn't that big of a deal, really just a breakup with a bit more paperwork and social stigma. I read stories from guys here who are stuck paying child support and alimony to an ex who was a SAHM. Yikes. Divorce in a situation like that is a whole different ballgame.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 06:12 PM
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I know it's a cliché but the statement that women often marry a man hoping to change him while men marry women hoping they won't change has been so true in my experience.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 01:39 PM
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I'm not excusing it, just saying that's how it often is. This is a big part of the reason I think that men should avoid having kids unless they absolutely need to have them in order to be happy. They are a massive gamble for your relationship with your partner.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 07:43 PM
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I still wonder if I could have tried harder to get her to avoid taking antidepressants. Our marriage was ruined by Lexapro. She didn't even really need the drug, it was prescribed by a lazy doctor who was pushing pills as an easy way to get her to shut up.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 01:49 PM
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I never had kids thankfully but I've seen this happen to multiple friends of mine. Part of it is definitely the fault of a culture that acts like your life should revolve around your kids if you're a mother.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 01:45 PM
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How much more does she want? Sometimes it can be worth giving up a few thousand bucks if it gets her to end things as quickly and smoothly as possible. When I divorced it was fairly simple but I probably left about $5,000 on the table. It was totally worth it in order to avoid legal bill and to just get the whole process finished with. The benefit to my mental health was worth far more than the money. Think of it like when landlords offer keys for cash to bad tenants.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/23 05:53 PM
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I know plenty of other people have said this but this is classic behavior when she wants to keep you around as a backup/orbiter/emotional tampon. Just ignore her. Sometimes women who pull this crap will use sex to try to pull you back in. Unlike a lot of people here I won't tell you not to take her up on it (yes, I know I'm shameless) as long as you're officially divorced. Don't do it without a condom though.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/23 05:50 PM
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Yikes, get out. You've only been married for three years and you don't have kids. It sounds like you don't own a house together. In a situation like that divorce is really just a breakup with some extra paperwork. It'll suck for a while but you two sound seriously incompatible.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 06:57 PM
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90% of her sex drive evaporated after we got married (and no, I didn't gain weight, start dressing like a slob or suddenly stop showering). A tale as old as time.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 07:40 PM
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Do you think you’re going to have a contentious divorce? Remember that attorneys are incentivized to make divorces as difficult and expensive as possible. They’re paid by the hour. If there’s any chance of a splitting up somewhat amicably you should do that, even if it means making some concessions to your employer ex.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 01:48 PM
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I think it was just helpful advice. Bitching on Reddit is a guilty pleasure of mine but it's worth remembering that people who are terminally online are much more miserable than average. Interacting with people who touch grass more often is a healthy reminder of how poisonous so many online spaces can be.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/23 07:05 PM
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This is excellent advice. I've had some fun times with women who claim to be poly but mentally I always put them in the "not LTR material" category.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/23 06:58 PM
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I'm not 100% anti-marriage but I try to tell guys not to marry someone who makes significantly less money than them. The system penalizes people who make more money if they get divorced. It may sound callous to say don't marry someone who's not at economic parity with you but that's what the system incentivizes.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/23 06:26 PM
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That's what I did. Once I'd made up my mind I just waited until the next time she started giving me grief for some small thing she claimed I did wrong. I said "fine, you're right, obviously you'd be better off without me." Speaking of which, it feels so nice to wake up on a Saturday morning and spend the entire day not hearing a single complaint :)
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/23 09:17 PM
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Wow, that was dumb on her part. I know the family court system is stacked against men when it comes to kids but a DUI with kids in the car is very, very bad.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/23 09:15 PM
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Get a lawyer. We don't even know what state you're in so it's impossible to offer any specific advice. I'm very skeptical she's entitled to any money after how long you were together but it's impossible to say for sure.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/23 09:09 PM
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she was far more invested in being a bride than she was in being a wife. Oof, it's painful how many times I've seen that happen.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/22 03:02 PM
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I don't even want my own kids, no way I'm helping take care of someone else's. After my divorce I did have a FWB arrangement with a single mom for a while. She was in a similar situation to me, recently divorced and was just looking to have some fun on days when her ex had the kids. No LTR potential there though.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 03:10 PM
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The second best option is to marry someone who makes more money than you.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/22 05:32 PM
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Same here. I read these stories and just breathe a sigh of relief at everything I was spared. Benefit of not having kids.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/22 06:16 PM
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There's a documentary called Divorce Corp about how horrific the family court system is. It truly feels like the sort of nightmare you'd expect to see in a corrupt banana republic.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/22 06:15 PM
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Like I said, we didn't have massive issues. The relationship was just slowly sinking into mediocrity. I actually took the idea of marriage seriously and was willing to work on it for a while. There was a certain point where I was throwing in the towel though and yeah, not making my grandmother said was part of the reason I kept trying for a while. I would have never stayed with an abusive partner to make her happy but it did motivate me to put a little more time/effort into trying to fix things.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/22 05:46 PM
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To be totally honest I made the decision to end it after my grandmother died. We didn't have any massive issues like infidelity, abuse or anything of that nature. It was mainly just a crappy sex life that showed no signs of improving. Simmering low-level unhappiness I guess you could say. My grandmother really loved my ex and I didn't want to make her sad. When she died it felt like one of the main reasons to keep trying to stay together went away.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/22 08:04 PM
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I immediately thought of hysterical bonding as well.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/22 05:08 PM
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Year long marriage, most of her assets predated the marriage and I'm sure she had an excellent pre-nup. Zero chance he gets a significant percentage of her stuff.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/22 01:38 PM
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While I'm sure her ex will be well off there's no way he'll get anything like the amount of money that she did when she divorced Jeff Bezos. Fortunately Bezos is such a repulsive individual that I'm not bothered at all by how she fleeced him.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/22 01:37 PM
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You're making the mistake of taking TwoX seriously. It's the women's equivalent of 4chan or something similar to that.
/r/MensRights30/08/22 05:33 PM
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How do I go about protecting my assets like money in savings account, and a few cars. Was thinking to “gift’ the money to parents, (and get it back after), and transfer the vehicle to sister. Any thoughts? My thoughts are that that is a horrible idea. Do not engage in half-baked asset protection schemes. Talk to a lawyer and do what they tell you.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 08:04 PM
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Luck basically. We didn't have kids and my wife made more money than I did. She had more to lose so she was incentivized to end it as quick and easy as possible.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 08:02 PM
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I kind of feel the same way. Unless your partner is abusive you should stick with them at a time like this especially if there are kids involved. I'm not saying you have to stay forever but at least be there for the most difficult parts. If nothing else do it for the sake of preserving your relationship with your kids. There is a near 100% chance they will take their mother's side in a situation like this.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/22 06:04 PM
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Easy to say when you've never lived in a third world country.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/22 01:23 PM
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My situation was very different from yours but we didn't really have big, blow-up fights. It was more simmering, low-level unhappiness for me. Once I made the decision to leave I spoke with a lawyer just to know what my situation was (it was straightforward since we had no kids & roughly equal incomes). Once I knew the legal roadmap I just told her I was leaving. Didn't waste time on therapy or any of that crap.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 01:59 AM
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Games like that may be a realistic option for billionaires but they aren't going to work for normal people. OP, do what your attorney tells you to. Trying to hide assets is likely to end very badly.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/22 06:39 PM
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Your wife makes more money than you and your son is almost an adult and out of the house. That puts you in a much better position than most men staring at divorce. I dread going places with her. If you really feel dread leaving your house with your wife then that is messed up and not a way to live the rest of your life. In this case I'd suggest at least trying counseling again since things are decent otherwise but your wife's behavior sounds emotionally abusive. I almost 50 yrs. old at this poin…
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/22 01:38 PM
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Talk to a lawyer, not Reddit.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/22 01:19 PM
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Lol, TwoX is the biggest collection of whiners I have ever seen in my life. They're not supporting anyone, they just want to tear people down.
/r/MensRights16/07/22 02:45 PM
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Dude, cut her off. My ex wasn't as bad as yours but simple tasks like adding air to her tires, changing lightbulbs or basic home maintenance were way beyond her (everyone's a feminist until the sinks starts leaking). There is no way I would have continued to help her with any of that crap once we were done. Of course I get cussed out and called every name in the book, then hung up on. Why are you putting up with this? Just block her. You can literally get answers to everything by spending 2 minu…
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/22 09:46 PM
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Sure I think that a lifelong happy marriage is possible. Do really think that every couple that stays married for life is miserable? The only problem is that it's such a huge gamble. Since I don't want kids there is zero reason for me to take that risk again.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/22 09:40 PM
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Talk to a lawyer. This is not a place for amateur internet advice. A qualified attorney will be able to tell you the cheapest way to get out of this situation.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/22 09:38 PM
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Can you cite a single actual example of such a case?
/r/MensRights01/07/22 12:21 PM
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A few physicians will require it but it's rare and becoming rarer. The internet is full of people who know nothing about the law though and a lot of them seem to think there's a legal requirement for husband/wives to sign off on tubals/vasectomies. The consent form when I got mine had a line for your spouse to sign but they made it very clear that this was optional. They put it there as a way to encourage people to talk with their partners but ultimately it's only the patient's decision.
/r/MensRights01/07/22 12:16 AM
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Why would the wife be able to sue over this? She wouldn't.
/r/MensRights01/07/22 12:14 AM
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Technically it's not a law that men have to get permission but doctors rightly fear being sued by an angry wife. So they make you get permission purely to cover their ass. This is for the most part not true. Many/most physicians don't require spousal consent for sterilization, either male or female. Re: sued, that's another myth. Try finding one successful lawsuit from an angry spouse over this. You won't. It's a dumb myth that won't die.
/r/MensRights01/07/22 12:14 AM
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The pro-life/pro-choice divide between men and women isn't nearly as dramatic as a lot of people are pretending. Women are more likely to identify as pro-choice but the difference is only about 10%. I'm pro-choice and oppose most restrictions on abortion. Women who support abortion rights need to stop trying to alienate the millions upon millions of men who are on their side!
/r/MensRights27/06/22 01:59 PM
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Not my problem. I don't like all of the extreme gender related nonsense we see nowadays ("women can have penises and men can get pregnant!") but it has zero effect on my day to day life. If it wasn't for the internet I'd barely be aware that trans people exist. It was also mostly women who pushed this ultra-woke stuff when it comes to gender. Most men just kind of nodded and tried to ignore it. Women created this problem, they can deal with it.
/r/MensRights27/06/22 01:53 PM
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It seems as though people think men now should be FORCED to have a vasectomy. Nobody is seriously pushing that. You're tearing down a strawman.
/r/MensRights27/06/22 01:50 PM
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Reddit legal advice is often worse than useless. You also don't say what state you're in (I'm assuming you're in the US?) which makes it even harder for someone to give meaningful advice. You need to talk to a lawyer ASAP. There's a lot of money involved here and a good attorney will be able to answer your questions and give you some options for minimizing the damage.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 04:48 PM
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Nobody is going to want to listen to a podcast or read a blog about your divorce. Again, see my comment about misery porn. The only business opportunity from divorce is for evil divorce lawyers and the various other associated scum in the family court system. Not trying to be negative here, just realistic.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/22 05:30 PM
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When we split up we sold our house and fortunately that happened close to the peak of the COVID real estate boom. We made a nice profit on the house that we split 50/50. Why in the world would I want to read a book about someone's divorce? I have no interest in misery porn.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/22 05:23 PM
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Getting married in the first place This, absolutely this. We never planned on having kids, why did I feel the need to get married in the first place? I got suckered into an unnecessary legal contract because... tradition? Going along with everyone else?
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/22 01:06 PM
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The one thing it did help me with was that it helped apply a bit of pressure on my ex to end things quickly. I never told her I wanted any money but there was sort of a hidden threat that if she dragged the process out she had more to lose than I did. Glad to hear you had a clean break with out losing it all 👍🏼 TY. I feel like I'm one of the few people who actually benefited financially from it. Years of living together before marriage and then being married meant we benefit from economies of sc…
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/22 05:34 PM
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I'm not sure. From what I read it looked like I might theoretically have been eligible for a little bit of money. I had no interest in pursuing it though (I think alimony is immoral BS regardless of who's paying) and we did the whole thing without lawyers. Because we'd never combined finances it was easy to just split the proceeds from our house 50/50 and go our separate ways.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/22 12:49 PM
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Having to pay somewhere around $3k/month for 5 years and 11 months so that she can "maintain her quality of life" as the laws state it. All the while I'll be paying for the kids healthcare, childcare, and most other expenses in full. Stories like that hurt my soul. I will always be glad I married someone who made more money than I did. Marriage may have sucked but at least I didn't get robbed in the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/22 10:42 PM
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I cannot stand how men are always the ones who lose a lot when it comes to laws . If you're going to marry, marry someone who makes more money than you. The legal system is designed above all else to extract money from clients in order to enrich lawyers. The person with more to lose is generally at a disadvantage.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/22 02:52 PM
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Now is actually a pretty good time to restart your life in the US. The labor market is kind of nuts, you should be able to get an ok job as long as you have some sort of work ethic and aren't an idiot. I'm sure this sucks but you're young and don't have any kids. You're in a much better position than many people are.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/22 05:45 PM
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I have been the sole supporter of our family for our entire marriage That is not great for you. I you're going to end things then the sooner the better. The longer you stay in a marriage where you're the sole breadwinner the more brutally it will be for you financially when you leave.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/22 05:42 PM
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After a nasty divorce most guys just want to be left alone and to enjoy doing something that they like without being nagged, threatened or shamed for doing it. Hell, that's what I wanted after a fairly amicable divorce. One of the best things about not being married anymore is that no one is constantly sniping at me for every little petty thing that I do wrong, or that she thinks I did wrong. It's incredibly freeing.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/22 01:58 PM
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One of the biggest issues in my marriage was lack of sex (not quite a deadbedroom but a pretty damned mediocre one). The first thing I wanted was to get laid. Unlike a lot of people on here I really enjoyed dating post-marriage. It turns out that even someone who's at best very average looking like me can do quite well with women. Having a solid job and no kids tying me to an ex makes my dating marketplace value a lot higher than it was when I was in my 20s. The trick is to end things after a fe…
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/22 01:57 PM
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Talk to a lawyer. This is too high stakes to depend on terrible Reddit legal advice.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/22 01:48 PM
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I don't really tell my story to people. It was boring anyways, mainly just old-fashioned incompatibility/deadbedroom.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 08:45 PM
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I am very much against infant circumcision. Reposting stuff like this is not going to help the cause though. Stonetoss may be right about circumcision but he has terrible views about many other things.
/r/MensRights17/05/22 03:33 PM
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She worked barely-part time hours as a home health nurse and contributing nothing to the marriage. Something I tell guys who do still want to get married is do not marry someone who doesn't have a good job. Your partner should earn at least 75% of what you make. Marriage is an economic union, not just a romantic one, and with the way today's laws work you're assuming a massive risk by marrying someone who earns significantly less than you. her almost 100k worth of debt. I just wanted to slam my …
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/22 01:33 PM
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Legal bills have exceeded 1M The family court system is such a shameful racket. Its only purpose is to generate billable hours of lawyers.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/22 01:30 PM
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Seriously. If you need to escape from a bad marriage it's 100x easier if no kids are involved. I read some of the horror stories on this subreddit just to remind myself how fortunate I was. We didn't have kids, no significant shared assets and my wife actually made a bit more money than I did. Emotionally it was still painful but there was no danger of custody fights, child support or alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/22 01:29 PM
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Does your wife not have her own career?
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/22 01:25 PM
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Honestly, it was after my grandmother died. She'd always liked my ex-wife and I knew she'd be super-sad if we split up. When she passed away I lost my last motivation to keep trying to fix things.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/22 12:13 PM
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