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It’s an important distinction to make in these conversations.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 01:20 AM
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People rail on women in this sub all the time. I’ve seen people outright call women biologically inferior. I’ve seen people on this sub call women (as a whole) mentally inferior and childlike compared to men. I’ve seen people advocate for government-funded sex programs for men on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 12:54 PM
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What do you do for a living? I make plenty of money to support my own lifestyle. I own a house (no mortgage), I own a car, and I can generally buy what I want when I want it. But there’s a million reasons why my partner’s economic condition is important to me. I want kids. Daycare is expensive. Feeding kids is expensive. Buying them gifts is expensive. Taking them places is expensive. I want to travel. Traveling is expensive. I’d like to buy a nicer house someday, which will be expensive. Life i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 05:13 PM
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Incorrect. My ex only had a high school diploma and was making about $16/hr working at a retail store. My current gf has a master’s degree and is a salaried employee making 70k/year. I know which one I prefer. Any guy claiming that education level doesn’t matter is likely late-teens/early-20s. But just wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 03:28 PM
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A LOT of men lie about their political leanings on dating apps or in general. So I’m sure some are. They should keep breaking up with those men when their views become apparent.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 03:09 PM
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Or they could just not date those men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 02:34 PM
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You can get better at dating. It is a skill But that doesn't mean getting rejected is always a skill issue
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 07:15 PM
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I dated a woman once who clearly lacked emotional intelligence. The slightest inconvenience would rile her up. Any attempt at talking or even identifying the thing that upset her would rile her up even more. After a while, she didn’t even know why she was upset, she just was and would lash out at everyone around her. Conversely, I’ve dated a woman with great emotional intelligence. In similar situations, It was like she could “pause” her brain for a split second to collect herself. She’d still g…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 03:26 PM
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My definition doesn’t contradict any of this. I wrote a single sentence, but I could have written much more. “Control” over your emotions isn’t “suppression”. I “control” my body, but that doesn’t mean I’m stiff.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 03:17 PM
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Reddit in general sure. Here though? I’d have to disagree. I think it’s at least half on this sub like you said
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 02:47 PM
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A lot lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 02:13 PM
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Idk, but I do think it's an important trait in a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 01:59 PM
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Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and control your own emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 01:55 PM
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Deviations from the average exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 01:45 PM
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The other poster might not be the best at backing up their points, but they are correct in that kindness can improve a person’s ability to attract a partner. I can only speak for myself, and you may not agree, but I went on plenty of first dates only to find out that the person was not as nice or as kind as they seemed. This was unattractive. Seeing a date or someone in a relationship with being genuinely kind toward friends/family/restaurant staff is indeed attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 10:34 PM
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Being nice IS often difficult, and frequently results in sacrificing your own comfort/resources for another person’s. Being nice isn’t simple manners, it’s actively striving towards being a good person. That is a quality to work for. Consistently applied across all areas of a person’s life, kindness is a virtue.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 09:28 PM
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You would consider it if a sizable portion of cars for sale didn’t include wheels. A large chunk of men and women are not nice people. Do you genuinely not filter out people based on morals/capacity for empathy/selflessness (all of which could easily fall under “kindness” as an umbrella term)?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 08:56 PM
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I am a man. I agree with them. If "whining about their difficulties" becomes harmful (i.e. blaming an entire gender for their lack of dating success) that is indeed something that should be shut down.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 07:12 PM
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Being nice is objectively a factor of attractiveness for many people. You may be attracted to assholes, but that's not universal. Using your car analogy, having four functioning wheels factors into my decision on what car to purchase, or which one "attracts" my interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 06:33 PM
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Only a minority of men are in/have ever been in a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 04:13 PM
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What? Men say stuff like that all the time. Did you spend time around other people when you were 15-25 years old? It's not like their prefrontal cortex is fully developed at birth. High school/college aged are constantly dating based on vibes alone. Hell, very few even know what their lives will look like long term, so they have no way of planning a relationship out that far.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 04:29 PM
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I never said that. But I’m 30. Conservatives have started the vaaaaast majority of boots-on -the ground conflicts in my lifetime. Iraq and Afghanistan. Now we’ve got the government refusing to rule out the same in Iran. Trump LITERALLY saying shit like “it’s war, people die” in response to dead Americans because of a conflict he started. So he CLEARLY doesn’t give a shit about those dead soldiers. Yet men voted for him. So it’s ironic to argue that women are out there voting for presidents that …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 05:40 PM
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Some do. But women lean liberal compared to men, and Trump just started a war in Iran.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 05:21 PM
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I’ve been in serious relationships with women with significantly more and less money than me. I’m currently with a woman who makes similar to what I make. It’s night and day better.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 12:16 AM
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Where did this balding and fat guy come from? Would you date a fat, balding woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 04:08 AM
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That’s an incredibly absolute statement lol. I assume you have data to support it? It also doesn’t answer the question. Can you tell the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 04:00 AM
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Can you can identify the difference between someone who’s genuinely and naturally confident vs. someone who’s faking it? What’s a hobby of yours? Do you think you could tell the difference between someone else who’s into the hobby and someone just pretending to be into it? Or are you just oblivious when it comes to stuff like this?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 03:43 AM
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What’s the value of affirmation?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 02:07 AM
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FWB situations usually end in drama. One person catches feelings and/or gets jealous because the person they’re with has other FWBs on the side. Real life isn’t a movie. You can be the biggest stud in the world, but any woman with an iota of self respect and integrity will tell you to put up or shut up eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 08:10 PM
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Have you ever been married?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:51 PM
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Your son is 15? Of course it's easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:17 PM
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5'8" guys. Go to the grocery store or a local park. You'll see countless average guys with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 05:32 PM
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Sorry, men could not do that. You might not be aware, but humans have access to weapons much deadlier than fists and pure muscle mass in 2026. Women also represent roughly half of the human population and have waaay too much political capital in any country that could remotely be described as developed. You might dream of a world where men go berserk and turn all women into slaves, but society would collapse before that would happen. And do you seriously not know the answer to that question? Leg…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 01:06 AM
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Women have been having abortions without the “permission” of men since the dawn of time lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 07:25 PM
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As a 30 year old man. I would not want to date someone significantly younger than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 09:56 PM
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I see it as a bit of both. Universally, I think people generally become less attractive as they age into middle adulthood (unless they weren't taking care of themselves when they were younger). But, even if 30 year old women looked identical to 20 year old women, many men (not all) would still find younger women more attractive because that general experience gap does make people easier to manipulate. However, when it comes to attraction there's also a difference between wanting to hook up and w…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 04:46 PM
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Derailing from what? I would never date an immature, childlike woman. I'm an adult who can take care of, and provide for, myself. A woman who can't do the same is incredibly unattractive. Would you seriously not agree?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:10 PM
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Let other guys date those women. It's still an ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:05 PM
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Charisma? Put yourself in as many social situations as possible. Confidence? That depends on what you want to be confident about. The more comfortable you are doing something the more confidence you’ll gain about doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 02:35 AM
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Well then call me nobody because I became one. Charisma and confidence are skills that can 100% be improved and doing so is transformative for many men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 07:05 PM
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I disagree. I didn’t fundamentally change who I am as a person. I just improved my appearance, and worked on social skills/put my self out there. Honestly, I didn’t even start doing it because I wanted to get more attention from women. I just wanted to work on myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 06:57 PM
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Had terrible success dating through high school and college. I was introverted, rarely exercised, and spent a lot of my free time playing video games. Sometime in my early/mid 20s, I realized that I didn't want to be 80 someday looking back thinking I never hit my potential, and never tried to hit it. So I made self improvement a hobby. Started working out every single day, spent less $$ on games/fast food and more on clothes.. Got into skincare, cologne, etc.. Then I joined a few hobby clubs in…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 07:19 PM
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What’s your yearly take home?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 01:32 AM
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No, they mean that women make and spend a lot of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 09:32 PM
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Yes, it was. Which is why her lack of close friends was a red flag that I (unfortunately) ignored. That's a true statement. I'd argue that most people want friends. Therefore, It would be a "red flag" for most people to date someone who has no social network and cannot maintain one. Similarly, I think it's a red flag to settle down with someone who goes out and parties every weekend in their 30s. But, a small portion of the human population likes that and would love dating someone who parties ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 05:17 PM
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I can only speak in general terms, and there are exceptions to every rule. Clearly, having an avoidant partner who always wants to spend time away from their significant other is also bad. But, generally, it's best to have a healthy social circle. Whether that be friends or family. Having your SO as your only social outlet is ill advisable to most, even if some make it work. For example, I don't even have a ton of friends, but I work to keep in contact with a few. My SO does the same. Conversely…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 05:08 PM
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If an avoidant man has no intention of working on his avoidant traits and wants those same traits in a woman, he's free to search for that. Avoidants often don't make the best partners though. Even for other avoidants.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 03:34 PM
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This isn't the case. You yourself claim women are "constantly hyping each other". If a woman has no social circle/network, it's usually because she's incapable of maintaining one. That's a red flag. The poster Gravel_Roads is correct. You're likely walking into a trap dating one of these women. She'll either be an avoidant, or she'll cling on to you and suffocate you because you're all she has.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 02:52 PM
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See, that just isn’t true. You think she didn’t communicate her feelings clearly. I think she did. And I outlined why I felt that way in my comment. She told me she forgot about the date, and that she was unavailable for a formal date on a makeup day I suggested. This communicated low/mismatched interest and I dropped her. IN FACT, I’d argue that if she was interested and had gotten upset with me cutting off contact, THEN she would be a poor communicator. Because I picked up clear disinterest. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 10:01 PM
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Again, she clearly communicated her feelings towards me. Could she have outright said "I do not want to see you again"? sure. But even that might not have been entirely true. She could have very well shown up for that third "date". But, she communicated that she wasn't as interested in me as I was in her. I would have never forgotten about a scheduled date. She did. I would have moved my schedule around a bit to accommodate another time. She didn't. To me, her feelings were fairly communicated. …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 09:28 PM
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I'm glad we have arrived at an understanding. Social dynamics are BOTH complex AND something that you can better understand through practice. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 08:48 PM
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You might not have, but I picked up on what she was putting down.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 08:46 PM
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Look, YOU may have completely misread the conversation and agreed to go on the "short" date if you were in my shoes. To me, her intentions were clear and I understood what she was communicating to me. This, of course, is not exclusive to romantic interactions. It's fairly universal.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 08:45 PM
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I am a man. I don't consider myself a "social genius". Years ago I decided to pay more attention to my social interactions in an attempt to improve them. Through time and practice I became more comfortable in social situations and better able to read social cues.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 08:43 PM
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No one said it's easy, but it is something you can learn. Just like learning how to ride a bike or swim, picking up on social skills, reading a room, and getting a feel for whether people are enjoying a conversation or not are skills you can learn through repetition. Turn socialization into a genuine hobby that you consistently work on. You'll likely get better at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 08:28 PM
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Social cues are a thing, and you can get better at picking up on them. I'll give an example: I matched with a girl on a dating app. We went on 2 dates, and they went well. She agreed to a third. When the day came, she said she "forgot" (immediate red flag) and asked to reschedule. I gave an alternate date, and she denied that one too, but offered a "short" date later in the week. She didn't outright say it, but I immediately knew she wasn't interested. So I cut my losses, told her that I wished …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 08:15 PM
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Social dynamics are complex and multifaceted, and there's exceptions to every rule. That being said, social cues/body language/etc. are things that you can pick up on which will improve your social interactions both inside and outside of the dating sphere.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 08:11 PM
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The person you responded to said, word for word, this: "There is also the thing that youth nowadays tends to get drunk or use other inhibition lowering substances less." They made no claim about sex. You brought it up. I gave reasons as to why they were drinking less. And those reasons had nothing to do with sex or attitudes towards it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 09:39 PM
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I highly doubt that people are drinking less to any significant degree because of what you're suggesting. A poll conducted by Gallup shows that views towards alcohol as a substance are shifting. An article published by TIME suggests multiple factors. Changes in the socialization patterns of young adults and relaxed laws on marijuana are just a couple of reasons brought up by experts. Fear of being accused of sexual assault may be a large reasons why YOU don't drink, but that reason isn't seen as…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 08:03 PM
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Can you read? They literally said: "I would require strong evidence that invention is the definitive sign of competence. " They told you what kind of evidence they expect.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 07:28 PM
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The answer is objectively yes. To suggest otherwise implies that hygiene, fitness, weight, fashion, disposition, etc. all have NO bearing on a person’s dating success.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 06:34 PM
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There are no studies or scientific papers/data that says all or even most women won’t date a nice and respectable man until they’ve been ran through. I’ve given you multiple chances to prove your stereotype about women correct and you’ve been unable to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 03:25 AM
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None of that proves your claim though.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 03:18 AM
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Nice try, but no. In response to: “You can totally be a polite and respectful man and still find a relationship” You said: “After the woman is ran through and without options” That’s de facto stereotyping and cannot be proven. In fact, the OPs experience makes it impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 03:05 AM
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You LITERALLY stereotyped women in your first reply when you said they’ll only date a respectful and nice man one they’ve been ran through lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 02:59 AM
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Do you have any evidence proving this? “Volunteering” includes a wiiiide range of potential organizations, activities, and time commitments. Blanket saying that it “takes less time” to work towards a bench of 405 simply isn’t true.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 06:36 PM
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Ah yes the incredibly privileged people who have comfortable jobs and can afford to lift as a hobby. I guess everyone else is a raging jackass. Btw a lot of people who lift are closeted narcissists with a superiority complex.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 05:53 PM
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A lot of men want to marry the liberal women though. Which is where the OPs point comes in. I’ve been in a relationship with a “chaste” woman. It took a whole year before she was open to sex and was a dead starfish in the bedroom. Expected me to carry the moon for her, but saw sex and physical compatibility as something largely unimportant.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 08:38 PM
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That’s a sign of incredibly low confidence then. Which is also very unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 08:20 PM
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It’s unattractive. Twisting it a bit. Does a woman disliking you make her more or less attractive to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 07:17 PM
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For me, it’s the same. Again…relationships are serious stuff. You’re essentially giving the rest of your life to that person. And no one wants to get divorced. So I wouldn’t marry a girl I’m not attracted to. And I wouldn’t hook up with a girl I’m not attracted to. But for a relationship, I need to see someone that I could enjoy living life with. Everything’s in some sort of a spectrum though. I’ve dated less attractive women than I’ve hooked up with and vice versa. Men like to argue that attrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 01:52 PM
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Do you have any evidence that they got their asses kicked primarily because of this?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 03:24 AM
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It’s all anecdotal. I’m a guy. I’ve had plenty of hookups and LTRs. I wouldn’t hookup with a woman that I’m not at least mildly attracted to. Now, that’s different than hooking up with a woman that I see no long term prospects with. Sometimes I’ll find a woman attractive, but otherwise uninteresting, lacking ambition, dumb, or slightly weird. I’ll hook up with her. But I don’t hook up with or lead on downright ugly girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 01:27 AM
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Sure if she had a good dating profile or I met her in person previously and she was interesting. Seriously, you must know people in your life who are like this right? People who are just interesting regardless of looks? Like sure, they need to have good hygiene/fashion/take care of themselves. But seriously?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 11:14 PM
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I feel like I’m talking to someone who hasn’t been on many dates. I’ve been on dozens of first dates over the past 3-4 months. I STRONGLY disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:55 PM
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I’m a guy, and I am. I think most guys would say it’s about chemistry as well when it comes to long term relationships. How the hell are you expected to devote (potentially) the rest of your life to someone you don’t get along with? At the very least, that’s less than ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 08:14 PM
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Not true. I have plenty of dating experience. Women have accepted dates with me for all sorts of reasons. Some of them I still don’t understand. Had my cat in my Hinge profile. Mentioned him in my prompts and had him in multiple pictures. A woman who was deathly allergic to cats still accepted a date with me once (I didn’t find out she was allergic until AFTER the date started). And it was clear she knew I had a cat. Wasn’t looking for a hookup either.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 10:11 PM
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The stuff that guy is talking about is pretty basic. And it’s true. I’ve been on a ton of first, second, and third dates. I’ve kept things going with “mid” slightly pudgy women because they literally lit up whatever room they walked in to. Incredibly interesting to talk to and fun to be around. Those were some of the best women I spent time with and I still think about them. Honestly, some of these women weren’t even slow burns. We just clicked right away. Conversely, I’ve ghosted some incredibl…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 10:07 PM
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No dude we get it. You’re a maga Trump voter who spends 90%+ of their time on Reddit telling women why they’re bad. I doubt you’ve ever extensively read or studied Marx. Even if you don’t subscribe to communism as an ideology, his work is still incredibly valuable and influential in helping people understand class structure and struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 09:48 PM
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