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I changed my goals. Instead of trying to fuck women, I started trying to get to know them.
/r/seduction07/10/14 03:38 AM
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Really? In my opinion you haven't screwed up at all. It's possible she no longer wants to sleep with you, yes, but then again, she showed you her boobs and grinded on you, which are good signs... ask her out again, be aggressive (until she says no) and see what happens. Regardless, looking at this big picture, you seem to be getting results fairly quickly. Learn from your mistakes and move forward. In time, you'll be a juggernaut!
/r/seduction30/09/14 02:25 AM
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Dude, ignore the haters. You did great work. You made progress on leaving your comfort zone, met and kicked it with a girl you seem to like, who blatantly likes you and wants to have sex with you. Wins across the board. I'm happy for you! Keep it up! Also note well: the point isn't to "fuck" as many women as possible. It's to improve yourself so that you can get what you want from women and your relationships. You're clearly on the right path. Bravo!
/r/seduction27/09/14 11:36 PM
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Sure. I was living in a house with two other people, 1 dude and one woman. The dude, a close friend had just broken up with his girlfriend so I took him out and we got drunk. At some point, the woman joined us. She and I slept together. She came onto me. While we were fucking she kept saying, "tell me you love me" but I assumed it was just drunk talk. Fast forward to about 1.5 years later. I'm in an amazing relationship with a different girl and still living with the same guy and gal. The gal ha…
/r/seduction06/09/14 05:27 AM
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I've hooked up with 3 roommates over the years and it has been a terrible idea 100% of the time. There was one when I thought it was going to be ok, and for months and months it was, but then it came back to bite me in the ass and fucked up one of the most important relationships of my life. Hooking up with your roommate(s) is just a bad idea. If you're like me you're the type of guy who has to touch the stove to see if it's hot... hopefully this is one stove you wont have to...
/r/seduction05/09/14 05:43 PM
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Nice, thank you!
/r/seduction21/07/14 01:26 PM
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Yeah, that makes sense. I try to avoid being the guy who hooks up with some other dude's gal, but your point is well made.
/r/seduction21/07/14 01:26 PM
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Nice, thank you!
/r/seduction21/07/14 01:25 PM
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Will do sir, thank you for the advice and perspective. You rock!
/r/seduction30/06/14 02:08 PM
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Thanks. I appreciate the perspective! Hopefully we both reel 'em in!
/r/seduction30/06/14 02:07 PM
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That makes a lot of sense. In my head I thought, "shit this is the first time that's ever happened and assuredly it's a big deal to her." But no, of course, this is part of her - and any pretty girl's - life. Thanks for the clarity.
/r/seduction30/06/14 02:07 PM
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Done, and done. Thank you sir. So simple, and so smart. I really appreciate the advice.
/r/seduction30/06/14 02:05 PM
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Thank you - I appreciate your perspective. It's easy to get too in my head with social interactions like these. Much appreciated!
/r/seduction30/06/14 01:33 AM
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First, love your name. Second, thank you. I think you're onto something. My life is pretty together but I don't talk about it very much with anyone. I own a business that I started and I downplay that as well as my ambition. Should probably up play both it. I'm also involved with philanthropy in several countries and I nearly never mention it. My thinking is that I dont want to come off as a cocky dick, and I don't want someone to like me because I'm "successful" (though honestly, I don't think …
/r/seduction28/05/14 12:16 AM
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You know, fair enough. Honestly I was a bit surprised that no one said this yet. I'll tell you the things I think I may be doing wrong and would love to hear your opinion: 1) I might be too physically aggressive. I'm looking for a girlfriend, not a fuck buddy, but I'll still bring her back to my apartment on the first date and go as far as she's comfortable. I suspect a smarter thing to do is a kiss goodnight before we part ways and not much more and not back to my place - at least on the first …
/r/seduction28/05/14 12:10 AM
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Oh, and thank you!
/r/seduction28/05/14 12:04 AM
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This is actually probably part of it. Generally if a date goes well I'll start setting up the second date towards the end of the first. I'm thinking next time I'll make it clear I enjoyed her company but wait for a few days before setting up the next date.
/r/seduction28/05/14 12:04 AM
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Wow - small world Mr. Ryker! You must be a very charming and good looking man. And thank you - I appreciate the perspective. It's funny -when I'm smart enough to look at it from an outsiders perspective, I realize no big deal. When it's happening to me personally though, I think, "Fuck, fuck, fuck!"
/r/seduction28/05/14 12:02 AM
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Other than go on another date with me? No, not really.
/r/seduction24/05/14 01:28 PM
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Sorry to hear that man and thanks for the perspective. There are a lot of super talented men - and women - on this forum who may be willing to help if you're interested in it. I imagine you're a great guy, sometimes it just takes a bit of finesse to help other people see that.
/r/seduction24/05/14 01:27 PM
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Hey man. In a weird way - and I hope this doesn't offend you - I'm glad to hear that this happened to you too. Or rather, glad to hear I'm not alone. It starts to mess with me a bit, "I'm together, modestly successful, feeling chemistry with this woman... what the fuck just happened?!?!" - that's an isolating experience. To hear that it's not uncommon, even for other similar guys, is a breathe of fresh air. If you happen to come across things that work - in addition to the numbers game, which ye…
/r/seduction24/05/14 12:30 AM
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Hahahaha, love it. Thanks!
/r/seduction24/05/14 12:28 AM
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This is brilliant. Small, natural, and a way to get people to invest. Never occurred to me. Thank you! This is also how effective close relationships work, so kind of a natural thing to do with people you're getting close to.
/r/seduction24/05/14 12:27 AM
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Well said my friend. For what it's worth I recently read a great book, "The Obstacle is the Way" by Ryan Holiday that discussed how to not be swayed by demanding situations.
/r/seduction24/05/14 12:26 AM
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Thanks - really appreciate the response. Yes, learning to be charasmatic when it doesn't come naturally, and then learning to turn it off is a very strange challenge albeit a good problem to have. I'm always pleasantly surprised though when people like me without the charisma. I've always made the first move, but they've always reciprocated. Like when I pull away, they move closer type of thing. Maybe I'll keep it to light kissing or none at all on the first date. I'm learning that dating to get…
/r/seduction24/05/14 12:25 AM
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Yeah, this occurred to me too. I don't think I'm acting too needy, but then probably no one whose acting needy thinks they're acting needy. Any suggestions on how to be less needy?
/r/seduction24/05/14 12:21 AM
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Thanks man, I appreciate the encouragement. I do want them to last longer, yes, but you're absolutely right: move along, move along.
/r/seduction24/05/14 12:20 AM
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I haven't really been single in about 5 years, and I've noticed it too, that when I'm sincere and enjoying myself, and leading - even if I'm a bit clutsy -the game isn't tooooo hard.
/r/seduction24/05/14 12:19 AM
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Really appreciate this. You're right on both counts. 1) I do get stuck in the process, as though I can somehow get the exact results I want from other people if I just say/do/think the right thing at the right time. Sometimes this works for getting laid - at least in my experience - but I doubt this works for relationships. And 2) Yep. In a weird way she's doing me a favor by not leading me on. Thanks!
/r/seduction24/05/14 12:18 AM
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I'm 28. The three women this happened with were: 28, 28, and 26. So yeah, you may be onto something here with age skewing behavior.
/r/seduction23/05/14 07:32 PM
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I really value your perspective thank you. I'm constantly trying to be as authentic as possible on dates. My line of work requires me to be charasmatic, which is fine, but also, I'm not a naturally charasmatic guy so I'm learning to turn it off on dates. I hear you when you say no sex on the first date. Probably communicates the wrong intention. Question though: what are your thoughts on kissing on a first date?
/r/seduction23/05/14 07:30 PM
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Thanks man. I've started calling too. Makes me nervous but I think it generally shows courage and helps you stand out.
/r/seduction23/05/14 07:28 PM
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There is a possibility of that. I'm the type to setup the second date at the end of the first, and followup the next day with a text. I think moving forward I'll probably just kiss them goodnight and then a day or two later followup with a text. A bit weary of going that route though because I want to avoid games to the best of my ability, but yeah, it's possible I should tone it down a bit.
/r/seduction23/05/14 07:28 PM
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Any suggestions on what to read for developing an abundance mentality? I'm actively working on that now and always looking for good resources.
/r/seduction23/05/14 07:26 PM
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Sorry to hear that brother. Must have been tough!
/r/seduction23/05/14 07:26 PM
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Might be something to that. I do want a girlfriend and I do get excited by the prospect of having one. That said, I don't feel the need to rush into a relationship.
/r/seduction23/05/14 07:25 PM
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Really appreciate the advice and guidance. Thanks, amigo.
/r/seduction23/05/14 07:23 PM
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Interesting - this was true of me in my early and mid 20's as well. Basically if I could sleep with her, she would want to be my girlfriend. Now though it seems like slow might be a better bet for me.
/r/seduction23/05/14 07:22 PM
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Can you elaborate on how to get her to contribute? I love this idea because it gets her to invest, I'm just not entirely sure how to go about it. Also, great point about slowing down. I'm in my late 20's. Last time I was single was in my mid 20s. In mid 20's (and reading pickup stuff) the goal is to get physical as quickly as possible. I realize now though that this may be a bit counter productive. Thanks!
/r/seduction23/05/14 07:21 PM
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Good point. You're right. It feels like the universe is saying, "hahaha dude, you're getting it wrong and I wont tell you why" but actually looking at it from an outsiders perspective - possibly no big deal. Thank you.
/r/seduction23/05/14 07:20 PM
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My life is fairly together - I own a profitable and growing business, am fairly happy, live by myself in a nice studio apt, look fairly lean, hit the gym 3x/week. Because of that, I suspect I may be doing something wrong. But then again, it may just be a quirky thing.
/r/seduction23/05/14 07:19 PM
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You know, thank you for this. I've been so focused on attracting people that it never even occurred to me that just because someone is attracted does not mean they will think I'm boyfriend material. Furthermore, my big ego also makes me think anyone will want to be my girlfriend, which obviously isn't true - it is a very individualized and idsiosyncractic thing. Thanks!
/r/seduction23/05/14 07:16 PM
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I appreciate your perspective and encouragement. Much appreciated.
/r/seduction23/05/14 07:15 PM
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Oh ok, sorry. Thanks.
/r/seduction18/11/13 10:43 PM
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First of all, congratulations on your commitment to change! No need to over complicate this. Start developing these two new habits, in order, and the rest will more or less fall into place. 1) Start exercising. Either hit the gym and lift weights, or start running a few times a week. Personally, I'm a big fan of the couch to 5k program for running. 2) Start saying "yes" to everything. You're probably in the habit of saying no to invitations. Start saying "yes". 2.5) Once you've said yes to a few…
/r/seduction19/08/13 08:53 PM
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