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Lean into who you are. Instead of worrying that who you are may turn women away, view that as a good thing. You don’t want to end up with someone who isn’t happy to be with you, the real you, the you you actually want to be. Obviously attraction matters, but maybe stop fixating on “lookers” and focusing on the “bad bitch type”. Focus on meeting the person, not the appearance and profile. It takes time. When you find the person who sees you and wants to be with you, it’s worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/26 03:16 PM
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I notice you only list the average height/weight of women. For men in the US, it’s 5’9” and 199lbs vs. 5’10” and 180lbs in Switzerland. By listing just the stats for women, you are severely biasing the conversation.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 11:07 PM
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Men lie in divorces too, and… wait for it… face no consequences.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/25 11:20 PM
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divorce laws would change in an instant No. They wouldn't. A lot (I believe most) of states have undergone divorce law reform making the laws gender neutral. Custody defaults at 50/50, alimony and child support have a calculator based on income, and assets are divided equally. A marriage is meant to be a partnership. That means that it isn't my or your money. It is our money. So, it isn't a money transfer. It is each getting their equal share. If you get married to someone who chooses not to wor…
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/25 06:55 PM
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How exactly is the system rigged against men? Were you to say rigged against the higher earners, I’ll listen. Most divorces end up feeling unfair to both sides. I’m a divorced man. I was treated more than fairly. Have full custody.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/25 05:50 PM
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A few thoughts. (I am not a lawyer) Move to have the payments made by her parents to be computed as income. Move to have the free rent be reflected as incomes as well. Have alimony and child support payments calculated using this larger income. See if you can’t have your divorce decree to stipulate that she needs to do pick ups and drop offs. Also, if she needs a babysitter, you get right of first refusal, not her parents. If she can’t take your daughter to an appointment, practice, etc. again, …
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/25 12:20 AM
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I get it. I fear you at SOL.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 03:15 AM
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And how old are you? 20 years is a very long time not to work. She will never have the career she would have had she been working the whole time. This is why alimony ends up like you have. I know it feels unfair, but she doesn't deserve to be destitute either.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 02:39 AM
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With no context, there is now way to answer this. How long were you married? What state or country? Do they work? etc.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/25 11:21 PM
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You need to fight this order. Temporarily, it makes no difference. You can easily survive with no contact with her. Request a time that you can go with a police officer to collect your things. This should be granted. However, this can become a part of your record. You need to get it overturned and scrubbed from your record.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/25 12:50 PM
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Have your lawyer request a forensic psychological evaluation of. Don’t be surprised if they counter asking for the same of you. Agree of course. Your stated position needs to be that all things being equal, you believe in 50/50 custody, but with recent events, you want assurances.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 09:33 PM
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Are there children involved.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 08:43 PM
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In NY, her alimony would be about $972/month for a year. Look up your state’s alimony calculator and go with that. Keep in mind that $27000 (the total alimony she is asking for) me be cheaper than hiring a lawyer to fight her on this. And it wouldn’t even be 27000 you are saving, more like 15000 (that’s because $1000/mo for a year is not unlikely)
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/23 06:41 AM
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False equivalence. You can statistically prove what you are saying about Asians and Hispanics, but you have not proof that your blanket statement of women is true. Find me a source that corroborates your claim and I will back down, but for now, I am calling you out for promoting a sexist narrative that fits your desire to paint men as victims in divorce. f you can provide some concrete evidence of my misrepresentation, That's not how it works. You made the claim. It is upon you to support. Hitch…
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 11:43 PM
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Most is the majority and you made a gross generalization directed at women, so perhaps it is not misogyny, but it is sexist. Yes, there are women who believe they shouldn’t have to work after divorce and that they deserve majority custody. It is definitely not most though. Had you said “many women” or even better, “there are women” I wouldn’t have batted an eye, but when you make it most women, I take issue
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 10:48 PM
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This is rather misogynistic. I agree that OP should just go to mediation and that his STBX may be just as you describe, but to say the majority of women are like this is wrong.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 10:04 PM
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Just follow the process. It’s all you can do. Whatever you do, stop trying to negotiate. It takes patience, but you will get there.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 01:03 AM
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Stop trying mediation. Ask your lawyer to get a court date. Negotiating with irrational people just doesn’t work.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 12:48 AM
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Is the happiest birthday! I get how it may not feel like that on the moment, but think about it. This woman is evil. Only a horrible human being would do something like that. It is best that she is exiting your life. Such a wonderful birthday gift. Note: a lot of things in life are about how you look at them and how you look at them can become a self fulfilling prophecy. Trust me when I say that this is a gift to your future self.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 08:26 PM
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The court should listen to what a 17 year old wants. You should ask them to do so.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 03:08 AM
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The court should listen to what a 17 year old wants. You should ask them to do so.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 01:49 AM
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Get a mediator. Mediators don’t try to get a fair outcome, but one that you both agree to and will pass court approval. They’ll also make sure that the paperwork is done right and that language around custody is clear. Then have your own lawyer review everything.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 10:15 PM
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I let her lose it through her own actions. I focused on being reasonable and equitable and kept on feeding her rope to hand herself with. I have come to think of custody as not something you win, but something the other person loses. In my case, she had serious mental health issues.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/23 11:09 AM
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Dad here with full custody. I have found that dad’s who make it a priority can get 50/50 or better. Thankfully my state (and many others) default to 50/50 and are gender blind.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/23 02:15 AM
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My ex literally had a psychotic break during her pregnancy. It was subtle at first and ramped up over time. She was ultimately diagnosed with delusional disorder. Her delusions made her emotionally abusive. ——— Please be careful when you use terms like crazy, because what you describe isn’t.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 02:23 AM
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Stop taking legal advice from the enemy. She can want whatever she wants. It doesn’t mean she’s going to get. You state has a spousal and child support calculator. Look it up. This will give you a better idea of what to expect. Even better, talk to an actual lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 09:42 PM
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I live in Manhattan. Was married to a very abusive European woman. TL;DR; I have full custody. Manhattan is true to being gender neutral when it comes to divorces and custody decisions. Things you need to do ASAP File for divorce. The moment you do, custody becomes contested and she can’t legally travel with your son without your consent. If she does, there are treaties that will allow you to go after her and get your son back. Yes, it will take time, but the law of both countries will be on you…
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 12:51 PM
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ITT Woman hating men can’t believe that /r/divorce could be something other than a man hating forum.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 02:27 PM
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That's what spousal support and child support are for.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/23 11:59 PM
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You are the lower earner. If you divorce now and pursue 50/50 custody (which you should), she'll have to pay you child support and alimony. Not going to lie, the divorce itself is going to be stressful, but once you are through it, you should be able to get yourself to a much better place mentally.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/23 10:22 AM
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That’s not female nature. There are humans wormhole are like this. It sucks to be around them, it don’t go making this a gendered issue.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/23 12:39 AM
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NY takes teenagers’ opinions into account
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/22 10:47 PM
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Your son is a teenager, right? The court will listen to his desires for custody and weigh that along with everything else. In general, courts are loathe to make a child move. Keeping him with you means your kid gets to stay in the same school with his friends. They don't want to take that away from him. So, though one can't predict the future, in all likelihood, custody will remain as it is. Have patience. The longer it takes and the older your son gets, it gets even less likely that your STBX w…
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/22 01:16 PM
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