JadeGrapes Archive

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3	Q4Men: Would you truly spend a year or more with a woman with zero intention of being serious/ married? And let her think otherwise? Agreed. I'm a woman, and 100% true, certain guys will totally stay with someone to get their needs met without any intention of eventually getting married etc. Because they don't automatically view that relationship, or any relationship with the goal of being married. This is one of those things where one gender fails to read the mind of the other. Assuming the other person has the same thinking as you is self-centered, by definition. Most guys do not want to be married until they have achieved …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/26 06:35 PM
8	Why do some women find it so much more difficult to orgasm than others? Man cum with PP. Wo-man cum with brain.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/26 03:04 AM
2	I feel like many women complain about not being able to find a “good guy” or steady man but are having sex way too early on. Agreed, it make a difference if you know the person before you start dating too. Like if they are in your friend-of-friends group for a couple years, and you see them around monthly... then eventually decide to try dating... that is a really different 2nd date than someone you just met, and have now spent a max total of 2 hours total conversation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/26 08:36 PM
1	I feel like many women complain about not being able to find a “good guy” or steady man but are having sex way too early on. People that are reducing people down to Abs, Income, and sex the first 1-2 dates... are going to be "stuck" dating people that only have that to offer... Generally speaking, someone who is constantly boning new people... are just a different group than people looking to keep boning that one "special someone". Namely, she is gonna keep boning guys that are either not worth dating, or think she is not worth dating. Thats the math of it. But most women are not dating with the goal to just see a buf…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/26 08:34 PM
6	Women detest men who “just want to have sex” yet live exactly like that from age 18 to 32 or so. Women do NOT separate men into Alphas and Betas.... that is literally just a thing that guys put on other guys. Most women COULD get a new partner every week, but that is essentially never the goal, because every guy you get sexual with.... will increase the odds she will be assaulted, stalked, or abused. You sorely misunderstand how significant this risk is for women. Literally 1/3 of women have been assaulted in some way. That is not "low" odds. If 1/3 of the restaurant meals gave you food poi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/26 08:33 AM
6	Are you sure size doesn't matter? It matters, but is truly not a deciding feature in a relationship unless the sex is bad. But the bad can come from any size peen. The stuff that is mandatory to women is often different from what guys think is impressive. Think about it this way, in certain groups, especially "purity" cultures/religion... they women have been so conditioned that sex is how you ruin you life, it doesn't get fixed overnight once they are married. They often are sex adversed, you think that someone who dislikes sex…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/26 07:57 AM
3	The "problem" with paying is that men here don't like the types of women willing to pay for themselves on dates. A certain percent of guys DO believe spending a certain amount entitles them to eventual sexual access. THOSE guys bummed out that you aren't a naive h'hoe for tacos instead of the going cash rate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/26 07:01 AM
–	Women are larping loneliness. Is it? I had one, and it was bad enough to need surgery. I didn't know that was supposed to be comparable. Interesting.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/26 11:47 PM
–	Women are larping loneliness. Your analogy is poorly constructed... you literally use the different words... starving vs hunger... in contrast, then ask if they are the same. Obviously not. We use different words for those situations for reasons. If you are trying to play "gotcha games" for an easy win, you need to try harder.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/26 11:28 PM
–	Women are larping loneliness. You were so eager to talk about ball pain you missed my point; My point is about empathy and accusing the other gender of lying because your experience of pain is different; Essentially that Women do NOT say that men lie about how bad it hurts to be kicked in the junk... Because We can SEE the reaction, and can use empathy to estimate that because pretty much all guys react a certain way... that it's is likely real pain. ANd That women generally do NOT say "because I experience genital pain insi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/26 11:01 PM
–	Women are larping loneliness. I'll chime in: I think if you look at the whole landscape, women are trying to explain that "yes we have options, but many of those options are way worse than being single." The relationship pain is front-loaded for men. They suffer from lack. There is no obvious map or ladder to get the life they want. They are lost alone in the woods, dreaming of a warm home and love. The relationship pain for women is on the back-end, taking the bait, and being stuck with someone who traps you under mistreatm…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/26 10:39 PM
–	Women are larping loneliness. I think we might be close to a breakthrough here; I think whats happening is two sides of the same coin. For what it's worth, IMHO, Most women do NOT think men are LYING about their reported experience... We just don't feel responsible to fix anything for them. It's like women are saying "I hear you say you are desperately lonely, but it's literally not my individual responsibility to fix that for the hundreds of guys that are yelling into the wind nearby. I'm just one person, with my own proble…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/26 10:33 PM
–	Women are larping loneliness. Yeah, it's weird the amount of people here that are like "You are lying... because I can't imagine your problem is real." A failure of imagination or empathy does not mean a thing doesn't exist. I'm a lady, I was born a lady. I've never been kicked in the balls, because I don't have balls. I can't imagine what it's actually like, to have balls that get kicked. But you don't hear women chronically claiming "Guys are lying about how bad it hurts to get hit in the balls... Because women have period…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/26 12:36 PM
1	A date asks "what woman do you admire" Hey, if you hate knowledge just say so. 💁‍♀️	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/26 09:55 PM
1	A date asks "what woman do you admire" Name which context where you have had perfect recall during a test? What was your favorite subject in highschool? Name the title of ANY of those text books without looking? You spent YEARS reading that content. Name the authors; Go! Now! Hurry! Or you are hatefully ignorant! NOW NOW NOW! Do it Now or you are unloveable! Do you even remember the color of the book? The name of a single chapter? Did the pressure help your recall? In ability to answer a resume question is not the same as being unint…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/26 09:00 PM
0	A date asks "what woman do you admire" Exactly. It's a kind of an arbitrary hill that you could either get out of the way before meeting ot stand to give the other person a bit of time to think about instead of making it a gotcha game. But if you don't even know the context around the question it's confusing although it's actually a very simple question; I'm into economics, and crypto. But If you don't know about The DAO, and how Ethereum essentially lied about being decentralized, leading to the split between Ethereum and Ethereum C…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/26 02:34 PM
1	A date asks "what woman do you admire" Okay, but be ready to have an opinion and explanation on why Etherum is not suitable for enterprise solutions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/26 03:43 AM
0	A date asks "what woman do you admire" It's nuanced. If you are in Utah, and your date comes from a family with 10 siblings... And you do attend a date, and ask "Name the New York neighborhood where you want to share a 1-bedroom apartment for the next 50 years?" Based on context, that would be a set up and shit test... Even tho on the surface, it's just a question about apartment living.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/26 03:41 AM
1	A date asks "what woman do you admire" Yeaaaah, but you can usually guess.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/26 03:35 AM
3	A date asks "what woman do you admire" I also choose that guy's Mum. Heck of a lady.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/26 09:23 PM
7	A date asks "what woman do you admire" Yeah... but it is a shit test tho... because there is a clear pass/fail criteria in that question, its essentially a set-up. It's like when a Christian evangelist asks you what your favorite book is - just so they can bring up the Bible. Plus there is only a couple "safe" answers... It's like in the Office when Michael Scott is like "Name a white person you admire, and I'll name a black person I admire more... Pam, name a white person you admire..." And Pam is like... My Dad? Someone else is lik…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/26 09:03 PM
–	Would you want to be friends, roommates, or family with someone who’s unpleasant, self-centered, and transactional? - woman perspective What?	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/26 02:05 AM
1	Women are so attracted to confidence because they're looking for someone to compensate for their own lack of confidence. When you point this out, women will change the meaning of confidence to, "Someone who's not insecure, something we should all want!" Because those are two totally different swim lanes, giving you a matrix of four combinations that fan out further away from OP's point. You are bad at logic & systems if you think those things are on the same line.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/26 09:17 PM
1	Women are so attracted to confidence because they're looking for someone to compensate for their own lack of confidence. When you point this out, women will change the meaning of confidence to, "Someone who's not insecure, something we should all want!" You are kind of stupidly getting stuck on the exact items you don't like, instead of catching the POINT. Your preferences aren't the relevant conundrum here. My point is that confidence comes from being good at something. I used examples that were not about looks or earnings, because crybaby pissants like you always get butt hurt about those details instead of trying to catch a clue. I'm sorry abstract thinking is beyond you. But If you want to roll around in your self hatred at my expense, I'm …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/26 05:12 AM
1	Women are so attracted to confidence because they're looking for someone to compensate for their own lack of confidence. When you point this out, women will change the meaning of confidence to, "Someone who's not insecure, something we should all want!" Freshness is essential, Julia Child says so. https://youtu.be/80ZrUI7RNfI?si=e5SkcS9P_WnH6UXH The speech skills are different than my "slop" because I'm referencing OP, unlike you. Sorry you are disgusted by people who like life skills. Thats weird. Do you just live in a constant state of self contempt too?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/26 04:44 AM
2	Women are so attracted to confidence because they're looking for someone to compensate for their own lack of confidence. When you point this out, women will change the meaning of confidence to, "Someone who's not insecure, something we should all want!" Yeah, I'm sure you are just looking for someone to occupy space near you. You are totally above hoping they are nice to look at, have good conversation skills, are a willing and enthusiastic companion in shared hobbies, will be nurturing and supportive when you are down, and for sure you would never deign to seek sexual access or gratification... You would just love her for existing. Regardless of emotional labor, logistical efforts, and sexual compatibility. Because it's not about her utility t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/26 04:42 AM
1	Women are so attracted to confidence because they're looking for someone to compensate for their own lack of confidence. When you point this out, women will change the meaning of confidence to, "Someone who's not insecure, something we should all want!" uh, no. We like confident because that is typically tied to actually being good at somethings to the point where you have healthy pride in accomplishment. No one is excited over a guy who brags that he washes his own laundry like a big boy, but a guy that can tailor all his own clothes... thats kinda cool. Like he wanted to look sharp and made it happen. Skillz! A guy that confidently identifies cilantro in the veggie part of the store is not really accomplishing anything. A guy that grows all h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/26 04:07 AM
0	Do abusive men have good personalities? No. They have abusive personalities.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/26 08:53 AM
4	Do abusive men have good personalities? This is like asking if Jeffrey Dahlmer would be a good chef. Technically, he does seem to have the ability to break down a carcass, and technically store it and heat it... But no normal person is AIMING at that. It might be eating, but not exactly a winner.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/26 02:42 AM
1	Why do you ask your Partner to do Sex Acts she Does not Like? Because I'm drawing a comparison. Using the example you created, with more hypothetical detail, to explain the situation can be more than it seems. In my expanded version, instead of showing her favoritism to a past boyfriend, this new information would imply that the ex was manipulative and had exploited her. That her previous vulnerability to harm is not an indication she liked him more, just that she has grown to be more careful. Improved standards and defenses to protect herself from harm, s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/26 08:15 AM
1	Why do you ask your Partner to do Sex Acts she Does not Like? Interesting. Can I add one more variable to your example? Let's say your partner used to do extravagant special events for their ex, spending a total of $1,500 - plus it took weeks of planning, like a part time job. But, that type of effort was because their ex would berate them and mope if they didn't. It was not freely volunteered, but more like "If I don't he'll be pissy for a month". He will go on rants about "if you really loved me, you would show me, by doing what I ask." Then you also lea…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/26 11:58 AM
1	Why do you ask your Partner to do Sex Acts she Does not Like? Yeah, the word for that is "side" as in "neither a top, nor bottom"	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/26 11:45 AM
4	If the orgasm gap wasn’t a thing and you orgasmed every single time you slept with someone, would you increase your casual encounters more? No, because if all you want is the orgasm, you can have that at home... Trying to masturbate using a stranger's body is awkward at best, and unsafe at worse. I wonder if there is ANY analogy that women could use to clarify just how unsafe random horny male strangers are to women? "Imagine you were guaranteed to have a thrilling evening of sexual satisfaction, but you also have to sleep in an RV, which will be parked on a random train track within 10 miles of your house.... ...You will have no wa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/26 05:04 PM
–	Men love and respect pick mes This post is literally about "Pick Me" girls	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/26 10:12 PM
–	Men love and respect pick mes Oh. Sorry. I didn't realize you lacked the capacity to understand expansions on a topic even when they are directly related to your point and the original thread. OP said essentially that men are nicer than women, when it comes to interacting with people that are sexually interested in them. I argued that celebrities are proof that it is not a matter of being innately nice, because when men have limitless access to partners, they are not especially nice to those people granting immediate sexual …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/26 06:13 PM
–	Men love and respect pick mes Not sure you are being honest with yourself about "respect for fans" - sure, performers are good at performing gratitude for their fans... the attention and adoration pays their bills, it's pretty gross when a celebrity disrespects their meal ticket. But here, you have tried to switch out fan for groupie, as though they are interchangeable, and it's disingenuous. Fan includes platonic interest too. Plenty of straight men are "fans" of their favorite football player, and the players likewise "do …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/26 02:08 PM
11	Men love and respect pick mes It's a numbers thing. If either gender has hundreds of options throwing themself at you, it's not a precious commodity... and they get dismissive. Rockstars and Billionaires are plenty dismissive of fans... they don't innately treat each interested woman as a previous gem that deserves time & attention. A lot of the complaining her is guys wishing they could achieve a level of attractiveness that they had infinite options... So that they don't have to "try" so hard... which is essentially provin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/26 07:17 PM
6	Do Women Actually Believe Men's Dating Struggles Are Real? IMHO, they don't doubt bad experiences happen... it just doesn't feel as serious as their own experiences of danger. Like if you had just done three months of cancer treatments for a skin mole that was shady... you might notice someone else with bad acne... and believe they are suffering because of the bad acne... but still, you mostly care about your own cancer going into remission. So when a coworker is complaining about how acne caused them to be teased in high-school, or how difficult the me…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/04/26 04:04 PM
1	Is this a valid reason to care about a woman's dating/sexual history? I think the "problem" is that guys feel like it's a reflection of them at all, not the qualities the man dislikes in other men. If someone is really nervous about diseases or paternity, I can understand why sexual history is important to them...But outside of those categories, we don't really do judgement over other previous life experiences, Do you honestly care if she has lived in another city, eaten at a certain restaurant without you, owned a certain car, previously had a hairstyle you don't…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/26 01:40 AM
2	Men on dating websites shouldn't have the option to swipe on or like profiles They aren't a public service, it's a business. Their literal job is to get customers to spend time on the platform and spend money. It's better if you think of it as a video game, not a club.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/04/26 01:42 AM
7	Being a SAHM is idiotic for both the partners. Imagine you don't "win" a maid, cook, personal assistant, daycare provider and sugar baby for the "low low" price of a self-centered dicking plus room and board. Please respond to this message in a way that shows how much you would need to pay each professional if you were a single Dad living in a metro. I want you to look up the ACTUAL cost in your area or next largest city. How much does daycare cost if you have two kids. How much do escorts cost if you need one or two a week. What is the goin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 02:22 PM
5	Women don't like when men have healthy boundaries Okay, but did you phrase it like Dwight from The Office, that could have helped? "If I'm not in your panties I don't go vigilantes" Probably use a meme with a pic for the full effect.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 01:21 AM
2	If women were physically stronger, we'd be seeing a lot more cases of female on male sexual assault. Sexual assault is usually someone the victim knows, and confusion is the main weapon... not physical forceful restraint. Sorry to use this example, but most childhood sexual assault does not involve the child being chained... it's done in the context of "This is normal in our relationship" - no brute force required. It's like that in adult sexual assault too. It's usually a current romantic partner, a friend-of-a-friend, someone in the social group, a co-worker, a boss, a customer, a professor, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/26 12:59 PM
1	"The common denominator is you." No. There are multiple common denominators like being a man trying to date a woman in modern times. You are being dense on purpose to refuse to hear my point: the social rejection aspect of child abuse has a specific factor that has been studied, that has a dirrect an obvious social implication. Even if you treat the trauma, and do your best to hide it... the specific facet of being rejected carries forward and that may be the aspect that women are reacting to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/26 03:45 PM
1	"The common denominator is you." No. There are multiple common denominators like being a man trying to date a woman in modern times. I didn't say trauma. It's specifically social rejection that I'm talking about.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/26 01:30 PM
1	"The common denominator is you." No. There are multiple common denominators like being a man trying to date a woman in modern times. You don't think that a lower than normal empathy is something other people can notice? Or it feels unfair that people can notice?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/26 06:37 AM
1	"The common denominator is you." No. There are multiple common denominators like being a man trying to date a woman in modern times. FYI - social rejection actually causes a kind of social injury that literally lowers your empathy and weirdly increases your pain threshold. It's a real, psychologically measurable thing. The "flaw" women may be detecting isn't always your income or looks... it can literally be the social limp resulting from rejection... Child abuse is felt as rejection by the parent, and bullying is felt as rejection by your peers... so if you make it to adolescence with one or both... you already have a chip o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/26 05:09 AM
8	Wanting people to be honest that they just want sex is not the same thing as being sex negative. The problem is, a small amount of predatory men that don't just want sex, they want a victim. They are usually very upfront with sexual energy, as they intend to steamroll over anything that blocks access. So that from the woman's side, one of the most effective strategies to not get assaulted, is to delay access until 80% of predators would get bored and seek another softer target. It's essentially impossible for anyone to "prove a negative" so kind, safe, consensual men have no way to prove th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/26 02:57 PM
–	"Passport bros is just about money" is a fable Western women tell themselves to sleep better at night. Yeah, and none of these actually address the main issue that most women have; "Passport Bro" guys aren't typically aiming at a country where the women are on an equal footing... it's always a country with serious system-wide economic disadvantages. And often a history of sex tourism and a current serious difference in exchange rates. For example, If the American guy is going to Canada, Australia, The UK, or Western Europe... thats just "travel". But Passport Bro's are aimed at countries that hav…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 07:51 PM
3	How Can We Hold Space for Male Victims of Violence While Acknowledging Women’s Safety Concerns in Dating? Because Women do not experience acceptance and sympathy they way you think they do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 02:01 PM
7	How promiscuous do you consider yourself to be? Not all questions are good questions. Its reddit not the FBI I was with one guy from 19 to 35, and had to leave him for physical violence. When it was time to date again, I went on about 3 serious dates before I found the one person to stick with... and that brings us to age 46. If you're gonna day dream about me being a fallen woman, I'm gonna refer you to my Pastor.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 05:04 AM
6	How promiscuous do you consider yourself to be? It's a commentary that OP did not assign any level numbers or names... then a bit of a joke where I suggest they use random labels like fruit... Then a bit of trolling where it sounds like I'm going to explain something titillating... Only to tell the reader not to worry about it, and I revist the random items that could be used as labels... And then I frustratingly refuse to provide a scale or legend so the reader is unable to translate my labels into something internally meaningful to themselv…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 03:42 AM
5	How promiscuous do you consider yourself to be? I'm going to need you to assign some cutsie labels to the levels, like forest animals, names of mountains, Birds, or possibly fruit? Although the fruit thing is used for pregnancy so that might be confusing. Is there a category for where; I immediately have a crush on every non related person I meet - but after about 1-2 minutes of communication, they disqualify themselves and ruin it... so in practice I only actually like brain jocks with a healthy inner landscape and social circle... ...Then i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 01:31 AM
1	GenZ women's "icks" are just a manifestation of their innate preference for rigid gender roles and archetypes. Interesting. Have you ever mentioned it was hurtful?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/26 09:17 PM
0	GenZ women's "icks" are just a manifestation of their innate preference for rigid gender roles and archetypes. Okay, I'll bite. Name some people you personally know in real life who have said that (as adults). I'm only going to count personal interactions, not work ones like a drill sargent, or a crossfit coach, because those jobs seem to include insults for some reason. I also wouldn't count a stranger who is fully drunk at the faire or something. Name a friend, neighbor, sister in law, friend from work, church or club member who has said this to you personally. I honestly think you THINK it's something…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/26 07:21 PM
2	If you remove the "faires knights of all kingdoms" argument there is actally not that much left opposing the Red Pill here It's so crazy, because all these dudes REALLY looked at all their married relatives, and old but now married high-school friends, and random married people of Walmart... And came to the conclusion; "These magnificent perfect specimens of manhood, ALL barons of industry, hardbodied and righteous thinkers... great hair too... have ascended Olympus to join the Gods, and have been rewarded the eternal glory of the only prize worth having; a chick who tolerates them" Meanwhile, the relationship forum…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/26 11:45 PM
-1	GenZ women's "icks" are just a manifestation of their innate preference for rigid gender roles and archetypes. In my experience, those are things Men say about other men. I literally have never heard a grown woman insult a man by saying "runs like a girl" because having been a girl, it's not an insult to do things as yourself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/26 11:20 PM
2	Vague language is necessary for women’s world view Uhhh... sexual assault is a legal term with all kinds of precision. Did you mean to lump that in with your butthurt about confidence?	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/26 06:40 PM
3	"If monogamy didn’t exist in society, wouldn’t most women end up pairing only with the most attractive men, creating a large underclass of men with no hope of dating prospects" what do you think? "Attractive" is doing a lot of leg work here... But yes. That is exactly what happens on Mormon compounds. The great leader has like 60 wives... and other men may have 4+ as well... So Utah has a problem with "extra" young men that get kicked out. There is a whole "lost boy" culture... that teen boys who are not obedient enough to the pyramid structure, or are not from important blood lines... ? One day there families just drop them off in the outskirts of town and tell them they are not allowed…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/26 08:13 PM
1	Women do not deserve better I think this can be simplified; Deserve? Deserve FROM... Who? Who, exactly... owes what? Are we "owed" freedom from physical attack if we have not broken any laws? Yes. You own the safety of your own body, and you are entitled to that... no one has a right to deprive a law abiding person their physical safety. After that? Adults really aren't "owed" much. We have systems in place to (theoretically) give food, medicine, and shelter to those that cannot obtain them for themselves... but even that …	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/26 06:04 PM
4	Do you view being penetrated as submissive, degrading or bad? You think that women inside an otherwise wholesome marriage, believe that taking their husband's dick is degrading?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/26 04:34 PM
1	Do you view being penetrated as submissive, degrading or bad? thats because you aren't just submitting to take whatever the other person dishes out	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/26 04:31 PM
1	Do you view being penetrated as submissive, degrading or bad? i think with massage, since you have paid... you are technically still in "command" of the situation. Like you can dirrect the active person, or get up and end the session at any time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/26 04:17 PM
6	Do you view being penetrated as submissive, degrading or bad? I wonder if it's over represented in this sub. Like some guys are red pill guys because they not getting any sex... I could see how a sour grapes thing could creep in... "getting dicked is only for bad people anyway!" kind of spite? Also, I would clarify... I think the people that perpetuate the idea that penetration is degrading... are mostly men. I don't think I know any women that believe penetration (by itself) is inherently de-grading. I agree Women in the religious purity culture are prett…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/26 04:15 PM
2	Do women really sleep with the “hot guys” first and marry the average ones later? Ahhh, the ol' try before you buy plan, excellent choice!	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/26 03:52 PM
9	Do women really sleep with the “hot guys” first and marry the average ones later? No. Female one night stands are mostly "I'm hungry, lets see what is available" & NOT "I dislike sex until I see a hot guy and then I wanna jump on it" Guys here misunderstand how women think and act towards sex, that it would "logically" be exactly the same motivations and behaviors as men... but just with a freely available endless supply of options... Studies show about 400 different reasons why people will have sex... including to have an orgasm or to express love physically. But there are l…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/26 02:34 PM
1	Why lesbians sexuality seems less fluid than straight women's? None of your hypothesis sounds evidence based. I think you could say logically, any orientation that is based on repulsion away from something is going to be less flexible that something based on attraction. Switch out the venue; if I like onions, there is a fighting chance I'm okay with shallots or chives etc. I'd be fine with a lot of cuisines and foods. I'm more flexible and curious, because there is nothing there to repel me. But if you hate garlic and onions and anything with that pungent f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/26 10:47 PM
–	Y'all need to talk to a woman who is not single by choice to understand where men are coming from I feel like the unhappily single women I know are; Very sensitive and awkward. A librarian friend was literally left at the altar... and kind of never trusted again. Like 10 years later, she tried dating a guy friend, because everyone really pushed them together; good friends and individually both smart & attractive... just not good lovers... no chemistry... Kinda dead in the water before it started. He went into ministry after that. So now another 10 years later... she is kind of like a British…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/01/26 11:42 PM
3	Women’s concern for men, or passive fear of men is valid. However you feel about it? You are allowed to feel that way. There is no one "right" way to process.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/01/26 10:43 PM
2	Women’s concern for men, or passive fear of men is valid. That makes sense. I'm sorry that happened to you, you did nothing wrong. I hope the criminal faced consequences because you deserve justice.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/01/26 09:25 PM
1	Women’s concern for men, or passive fear of men is valid. Wow. I'm hung up on the thought that you thought men got sexually assaulted more than women. What gave you that impression?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/01/26 04:23 PM
1	Are the women who offer Blue pill advice on here just outliers or are they modifying their message to suit their audience? I think all of Tate's follows are probably bots or children.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/26 05:07 PM
1	Are the women who offer Blue pill advice on here just outliers or are they modifying their message to suit their audience? Quite the charmer. You're the one who is bad at explaining your position, no need to get pissy because you are bad at this too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/26 02:20 AM
2	Are the women who offer Blue pill advice on here just outliers or are they modifying their message to suit their audience? So... uh... you didn't answer the question. Just attacked my character... thats weak tea in a debate. As a woman, I literally don't know any women that talk like that in really life, but that DOES sound a lot like men doing role-play of what they imagine women want. So my question stands, what evidence do you have that those are human women?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/26 11:43 PM
0	Are the women who offer Blue pill advice on here just outliers or are they modifying their message to suit their audience? Are you 100% sure those are women, and not just some guy named Chuck?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/26 10:05 PM
1	It is not necessary to use intellectualism to reject people you find repulsive. Agreed. Frankly, I'm troubled by the large volume of people on Reddit essentially asking "Is it okay to feel ___" As though other people (especial people on Reddit) should be the arbiter of what is okay to THINK. I never expected "thought police" to be such a voluntary program... I feel like I'm taking crazy pills! Yes, DUH... you are allowed to have standards of which peen goes in the hoohoo. WTF?!	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/26 07:58 PM
–	Being a virgin is completely useless Because sex is a skill, like dancing or playing a musical instrument. If you really loved playing music, and wanted to play in a band. Would you rather try to make music with someone who has never picked up a guitar, or someone who has played for years? Not saying someone who plays but is in a new band every month. But someone who played in a band that stuck together for 5 years? Thats going to be more fun than someone who's never played. It would literally ONLY be people who think musical instr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/25 12:20 PM
14	Redpill works if you're patient and consistent enough I thinnnnk this is one of those things... "Doc, my Frrrriend has a rash." There is no friend. I think OP might be sucked into one of those "manifest anything courses" you just have to be detailed and speak it into existence! Because the idea of a 30 year old trying to coach an intern on how to "get a girl wet" - is fucking horrifying.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/25 02:50 PM
1	Women who initiate(ed), how? "If you were ever single, and wanted to take me out for a drink, I would say yes. No pressure either way, I just enjoy you." Mostly tho, you just have to give the guy a green light by clearly enjoying & encouraging his advances. "Keep going, the lady is curious..."	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/25 03:07 PM
2	QFW: Do you think it’s a bad thing that women are generally perceived and/or expected to be more “nurturing” and “caring”? Do you think it’s something men can learn from? I don't think it's bad per se, but I also don't think it's fully true. I know lots of very nurturing, manly men. It just looks different than it does in women. Like my Uncle Richard is a Carpenter that looks like lumberjack... and he is truly truly delighted to see babies when they visit. His eyes just sparkle and he turns into a modern Santa. Its super cute just to watch. I've got probably a dozen guy friends that have been the main caretaker of an elder relative in the twilight years. It's eas…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/25 08:58 PM
1	What do both sides think about castration as a form of legal punishment? I think they actually do chemical castration in some jurisdictions. So I guess my thoughts on it? It appears to be lawful.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/25 06:06 AM
2	What standards should men and women actually look for in someone they want to date? The "should" is weird to me. Standards are highly personal. Letting someone else pick my standards either means I get boned by someone gross... or never get boned because the arch angels above me never deign to sully the lillies of France.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/25 05:52 AM
3	Question for women: Do you think it’s reasonable for a man to stick strictly to dating apps when looking for a potential partner nowadays? Unexpectedly wholesome.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/25 11:16 PM
1	Question for women: Do you think it’s reasonable for a man to stick strictly to dating apps when looking for a potential partner nowadays? Technically, bisexual women know what it's like to pursue women, from experience.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/25 11:15 PM
0	Question for women: Do you think it’s reasonable for a man to stick strictly to dating apps when looking for a potential partner nowadays? I hear you, but women will go on dating sites for a lot of motivations besides actually liking you personally. Online datings? She might just want the attention/validation of generic male interest, (versus you specifically). Or she might want a free meal, or be mad at her current boyfriend and want to prove she could have a different guy if she wanted, or want to "practice" going on dates, or just want someone to listen when she vents, or to get her family to stop bugging her about finding someo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/25 11:06 PM
2	Question for women: Do you think it’s reasonable for a man to stick strictly to dating apps when looking for a potential partner nowadays? Got it all figured out huh? Hows it going for you?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/25 10:48 PM
1	Question for women: Do you think it’s reasonable for a man to stick strictly to dating apps when looking for a potential partner nowadays? You missed the joke. Calculus is the math of curves.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/25 05:11 PM
1	Question for women: Do you think it’s reasonable for a man to stick strictly to dating apps when looking for a potential partner nowadays? If you think that is calculus, it just shows you don't understand curves.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/25 05:05 PM
1	Question for women: Do you think it’s reasonable for a man to stick strictly to dating apps when looking for a potential partner nowadays? Two things, men WILDLY underestimate the physical danger generic men represent in romantic situations. Literally EVERY woman I know has been grabbed at, molested, raped, or stalked. Including little old ladies like Grandmas, and Aunts, and Teachers, And Neighbors, LITERALLY ALL. Literally just knowing of you, and that you have not currently sexually assaulted women in the friend group? Gives you secret privileges like "I will accept a ride in a car from this guy" versus, I will drive myself to e…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/25 05:05 PM
2	Question for women: Do you think it’s reasonable for a man to stick strictly to dating apps when looking for a potential partner nowadays? The risk is getting no takers. I'ma share a skill with you, sometimes you think you have a binary choice, but you are literally missing half the total options that way. You actually have four squares on a grid, and they do NOT have equal weights. Action/Make a change: 1. Best possible outcome 2. Worst possible outcome. No Action/No change: 3. Best possible outcome 4. Worst possible outcome. In this situation, You are only Considering Squares number 3. "Best possible outcome of NO CHANGE (just do…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/25 03:37 PM
3	Question for women: Do you think it’s reasonable for a man to stick strictly to dating apps when looking for a potential partner nowadays? I think this is one of those things, where you have to risk-it for the biscuit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/25 02:59 PM
18	Question for women: Do you think it’s reasonable for a man to stick strictly to dating apps when looking for a potential partner nowadays? No. It's like job hunting, your best bet is a referral from someone you know. In theory, meeting total strangers has the lowest success rate... so why would you intentionally decide that you should avoid people you know in exchange for strangers?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/25 02:19 PM
4	Feminist opposition to legal paternal surrender/paper abortion is clearly not actually about the best interests of the child, since it disappears the moment that a woman is exercising paternal surrender on the man's behalf This is an interesting ethics debate. I do think their is a little complication, in that presumably, an accidentally pregnant single mother is presumed to be a single parent household... Versus sperm donor babies are almost exclusively two parent homes, like a lesbian couple, or a hetro couple with male infertility. My first job out of collage was a sperm bank.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/25 08:02 PM
2	Women's Dating Rules Are Impossible and often Hypocritical I have never heard a woman complain that "men don't approach anymore." That is not a thing in my experience. Frankly, a woman in my circles is WAY more likely to say "Where do single men go to hang out, everyone I know is married" Please describe EXACTLY when and where you have heard bonafide women make this complaint in real life. Because here in my Metro, if she wants a guy to hit on her... it's been on her to wave him in for the last 20 years?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/25 01:36 AM
1	We are ignoring the reality of gender roles here on PPD And also, getting tired of living on PB&J is a GREAT way to be come motivated to learn to cook. Obviously men are capable of cooking, most chefs are men. They are also capable of washing dishes, as most restaurant dishwashers are ALSO men. They are clearly also capable to vaccuum a floor, as plenty of office cleaning crews ARE men. If they don't want to eat poorly and live in filth... natural consequences are a very good teacher.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/11/25 05:13 PM
1	Q4W: If the first man you had sex with was the perfect man, would you have been fine with only experiencing sex with one person your whole life? Yes, because my personality is to "satisfice" not optimize. My ability to detect & enjoy quality is absolute, not relative. Like I can go to the same restaurant all the time, because "if it's really good? It's really good" - I don't "need" it to be the best restaurant of all time or the best in town. To me, getting something really good, consistently, is ideal. Besides that, I'll let you know your blind spot; Safety matters WAY more to women than men ever consider. In a way, it's kind of a privi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/25 01:53 AM
5	A lot of women genuinely don't recognize when they're being abusive toward men Abusive people have shit values that allow them to exploit others for benefits to themselves. It's not that they don't notice the abuse... it's that they feel entitle to torture others. Thats not an exaggeration, they literally feel like they are completely allowed to cause a great amount of suffering in exchange for even trivial reliefs in their own life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/25 02:34 AM
–	Despite what the internet says, money doesn’t help a man much in dating I'm gonna ask you to explain that a bit. Because from the female side, I don't think I've ever met a woman who has expressed "That guy is too boring to date" ... ...but essentially ALL of the women have said about 50% of the guys in the market do something that indicates he's fine with a certain amount of violence towards their date... because he does not seem to notice that his behavior "counts" as assault and/or harassment. It seems like men here are legitimately concerned with about "how do I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/25 10:12 PM
–	Despite what the internet says, money doesn’t help a man much in dating Oh, I get it... you think sex workers are gutter rats, not law students. You would be wrong on that sir. Law school is expensive, and if you are gonna get boned anyway, might as well get paid.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/25 10:02 PM
–	Despite what the internet says, money doesn’t help a man much in dating Annnd the sensation this particular dude just wants sex, not to kill you and leave you in an ally. I don't know why this seems invisible to guys, even when women mention it a lot. Believing you are physically safe from injury is a huge gating step.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/25 08:04 PM
–	Despite what the internet says, money doesn’t help a man much in dating Hot women in clubs who hang out with club promoters are sex workers, there is just more steps involved to being a sugar baby than a straight up escort. Of course sex workers respond to money, it's their job.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/25 08:02 PM
–	Despite what the internet says, money doesn’t help a man much in dating Right? It's almost like good manners aren't something they buy in a store.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/25 08:01 PM
–	Despite what the internet says, money doesn’t help a man much in dating Probably the women you are exposed to also have a similar level of success. Like if you go to Harvard, and socialize with women who also went to Harvard... it's not going to impress them as much as it would impress someone who went to state college elsewhere. Same thing with software dev. If you are surrounded by women who are in medical school or went to law school, a job making $100,000 isn't going to seem like an amazingly lucky windfall... it's just entry level to their social class too. Whe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/25 12:23 PM
–	Men’s Dating Struggles Dont Get Taken As Seriously Because Many People Are Simply Uncomfortable With Criticism of Women I think it can be simpler than that - there is no group that makes a hobby caring about how regular people are doing. Like individual people care about their own family, friends, maybe a couple coworkers or neighbors... but beyond that? Most people do not routinely care about random strangers, especially if they are a peer financially or socially. Because there is the general sense of "If I can take care of my own shit - why can't they?" Like people BARELY care about the truly disenfranchised, l…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/25 12:44 AM
1	A womans lack of effort is not a sign for you to try harder. Glad to help	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/11/25 03:57 AM
3	A womans lack of effort is not a sign for you to try harder. Those are things you do by yourself, it's not an interaction with another person. Totally fine & normal sauce to aspire for health & wealth to be the best you possible. But doggedly hunting someone down with an excessive number of bids for attention... so that you feel entitled - due to how much work you have put into the CONNECTION to them... that is where it crosses the line into manipulation. You are smart enough to understand the difference between making yourself into an package that ATTRAC…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/11/25 03:26 AM
16	A womans lack of effort is not a sign for you to try harder. In a way, it's manipulative to think that you can force another person into changing their level of effort by doubling down. Like when you dig into it, the mechanism is never going to be organic interest... at best it will be guilt based	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/25 10:49 PM
1	Men hate women who like bad men but don't care about those bad men. And that means they hate women not for "bad choices" but for not choosing them. Thats...uh... kinda what this whole sub is about; "Man angry that desirable woman doesn't choose him"	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/25 12:13 AM
1	Would you cheat for $10 million dollars; let your bf/husband cheat for $10 million; or neither. I mean... twenty dollars is twenty dollars 🧐	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/25 11:26 PM
2	Are there any places on the internet you pretend to be a guy to get better advice or better treatment? Everywhere on the internet. Thats the point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/25 08:35 PM
2	Would you cheat for $10 million dollars; let your bf/husband cheat for $10 million; or neither. Can we double-team them and make it $20M because I thinnnnnk I could sell that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/25 03:20 PM
0	What age is no relationship/dating experience start to become weird/ Unattainable? If I meet someone who is 28+ and they have never had a boyfriend/girlfriend...? I start to wonder if they were raised with religious abuse, or they might have had a caretaker for mental health reasons, maybe they are from another culture where men and women never socialize unless related or married, maybe they are fully asexual or their have very niche "interests". If a grown person has worked and lived separately from their parents for even 1 year... I would assume they would have some romantic…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/25 11:37 PM
1	Dating apps need to be regulated! Regulating sex just makes stuff worse, it turns out the only thing worse than a bunch of random horny dudes is a bunch of frustrated horny dudes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/10/25 01:03 AM
3	Reading dating profile bios doesn't make sense if you're a man In theory... you might learn something that excludes THAT woman from inclusion in your criteria. Like if she is literally a whoor, or has 12 kids, etc. Also, you can include one detail in your opening line, that gives her the illusion that she isn't just a commodity sex dispenser to you. Like could increase the odds of getting some nice-nice if you can indicate that you think of her as a human.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/10/25 11:58 PM
–	It's okay to be a passport bro as traditional man Thats okay buddy, not everyone is impressive. It's okay to aim low - know thyself! If low maintenance is your speed, that doesn't hurt anyone's feelings. You do you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/10/25 05:50 PM
4	The reason men place so much value on sex is because women are very selective with who they have sex with I feel like this falls apart if you look at male same sex relationships. Gay men are significantly more generous on who they deem fuckable... so there isn't usually a terrible shortage unless you are in a very small town. And dudes STILL care a lot about getting did, even when their odds are good.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/10/25 01:43 AM
1	How likely would a man with these standards be to find a partner? Minneapolis is thick with Career women who rather travel than have kids. We have all the lakes. A fair number of these chics would happily help with portage. It's binary tho, the other half are capitalist Christian Proverbs 31 women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/25 04:45 PM
9	Why is sex a nontradeable ? I personally do not think there is an inherent problem with adult individuals who consent to sell or buy sex. I think there are a lot of people that are delusional about their own relationships not being transactional. If she only has you over if you pick up groceries/fix her car, or you only sleep with him because you really want to go to that expensive concert... THAT is just prostitution with extra steps. Anyhow, sex is used as a leverage point in religion because of how many social overlaps …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/25 06:56 PM
–	Attraction is the first thing women have to sacrifice Some people want to BE the better looking partner, and enjoy being admired. The social validation and knowing you are sought after versus doing the chasing can be more comfortable than fearing your partner can do better. Some people want to be the one looking at a better looking person, and feel lucky to be in a relationship with someone more attractive than themselves. I think a lot of people wrongly assume ALL women want a stunning man... when realistically at least half want to BE the stunnin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/25 03:55 PM
–	Why do you judge men who pay for sex way more harshly than women who have casual hookups, one night stands & FWB? This question is disingenuous. The question should be about both sides of buying sex. And you know it. Then you will notice how you tried to reframe something to make men the victim in the deal. So take a better look; What is the word for men who buy sex? What is the word for women who sell sex? Which one is a worse insult? John or Whore? Now check your math from your original question... What is the word for women who have indiscriminate sex? Which is the worst insult? Slut or Whore? Thats righ…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/25 01:26 PM
–	Why do so many women say their low sex drive in marriage was due to lack of emotional attunement & burden of household chores, yet immediately start enjoying CASUAL SEX after divorce with men they share no emotional connection or household chores with? Because she expected support, asked for support, and was let down. She emotionally and logistically invested in someone who betrayed her, and she felt used. The new guy? She has no expectations. And he has not yet "let her down" by failing to follow through again-and-again. She does not invest emotionally or logistically. If anything, it's the other way around. Guys are very high energy/effort early in a relationship, because they are trying to "win her over" - she can enjoy the affection, atten…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/25 05:29 PM
3	Do women have guys they want to fuck but not want to date? I think that falls in the "cute but dumb" category.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/10/25 01:02 AM
–	Women aren't going to drastically change their lifestyle so that someday you might want to marry them. It is a little funny when undateable people threaten to revoke their hypothetical future legal entanglements as a punishment. It's like when the biggest jerk, who always causes drama, threatens to not attend your party... I fail to see the downside? Because it should be clear... That No one WANTS to marry the kind of guy that threatens women, especially when the threat is intended to control her behavior. (Then) "Keep this up young lady, and I swear to Gawd, I will go menace someone else!!!" (He…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/10/25 05:45 PM
10	The idea that women don't enjoy sex, comes from male sexuality being demonize in society. It's not that complicated. When you are a woman who enjoys sex, if you let that be know... it will be an endless parade of penis pics and guys shooting their shot in real life. You can easily ruin your life with just 1-2 stalkers that are SURE you totally want their D, if only they could get in your house and eat your liver. The easiest way to not get harangued is to lock the door to the candy store. "Nothing to see here gents. Candy is all gone. Abstinence only education worked on me. I'm ready…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/25 08:07 PM
-2	Do you think women's standard for a partner is bad? Because they refuse to believe they don't qualify	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/25 03:39 AM
1	Women: If you believe your ability to easily get casual sex with hot guys is NOT important/advantageous, why do you get offended when men use phrases like "Its easy to get pumped & dumped and be Chads cum dumpster"? It's not a love of the macabre, it's just the ability to think of a person like a machine to fix. You take your car to the mechanic, they fix it without thinking about it as an individual, with a family that needs it. It's just a machine that needs some stuff swapped out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/25 09:57 PM
3	Women: If you believe your ability to easily get casual sex with hot guys is NOT important/advantageous, why do you get offended when men use phrases like "Its easy to get pumped & dumped and be Chads cum dumpster"? No. He was known for lining up tattoos well tho. Kinda a big thing in Fresno. Those people can't stop stabbing each other.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/25 01:22 AM
3	Women: If you believe your ability to easily get casual sex with hot guys is NOT important/advantageous, why do you get offended when men use phrases like "Its easy to get pumped & dumped and be Chads cum dumpster"? My Dad was a surgeon.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/25 12:43 AM
24	Women: If you believe your ability to easily get casual sex with hot guys is NOT important/advantageous, why do you get offended when men use phrases like "Its easy to get pumped & dumped and be Chads cum dumpster"? "Surgeons, if you took the job for reasons other than status... why are you insulted when people call you a blood thirsty butcher? - It's factual, you cut people up."	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/25 07:35 PM
1	If women don’t dress provocatively for men, what do they do it for? Lol - it's all in the song https://youtu.be/vWaRiD5ym74?si=EUbJANQ0IIAvYups	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/25 09:00 PM
3	If women don’t dress provocatively for men, what do they do it for? You gotta let the cakes get some sun.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/25 08:55 PM
–	Is “holiday dick” and “boyfriend dick” actual terminology that women use or am I just mindbroken by the internet? American Sign Language, Spanish, and I'm picking up Mandarin.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/25 01:19 PM
1	Is “holiday dick” and “boyfriend dick” actual terminology that women use or am I just mindbroken by the internet? Let me make sure I understand you; So you are not the OP... so you did not directly hear the phrases OP says they heard. And when I (a woman) plainly states "this is not how women talk amongst each other" ... And your response is to say essentially: "No woman, you don't know how women talk. I can imagine what OP is saying is factual - and so that must be true." Do you consider yourself a logical person, generally?	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/25 12:43 AM
1	Is “holiday dick” and “boyfriend dick” actual terminology that women use or am I just mindbroken by the internet? Nope. It's a valid word on its own at this point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/25 07:57 PM
9	Is “holiday dick” and “boyfriend dick” actual terminology that women use or am I just mindbroken by the internet? So your plan was just to gaslight me and tell me I'm not observing what I've stated? Am I even necessary for this conversation then? At what point do you take a woman's statements at face value - instead of dismissing her point of view?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/25 03:31 PM
16	Is “holiday dick” and “boyfriend dick” actual terminology that women use or am I just mindbroken by the internet? Humans you find in real life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/25 02:48 PM
54	Is “holiday dick” and “boyfriend dick” actual terminology that women use or am I just mindbroken by the internet? No. That stuff sounds like men writing for women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/25 01:47 PM
28	Young women are dating the same terrible men I feel like people forget that people suited to long term relationships are often currently occupied.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/25 06:21 PM
2	Picking up many women in your youth, will make it harder for you to have a healthy long term relationship I'm kinda surprised you are still flapping and huffing. Don't you have other stuff to do today?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/25 06:04 PM
2	Picking up many women in your youth, will make it harder for you to have a healthy long term relationship Because its beneath my contempt.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/25 05:16 PM
1	Picking up many women in your youth, will make it harder for you to have a healthy long term relationship Nah, now you ate just saying "I know you are but what am I" - like a literal baby. I have nothing to prove. Feel free to look at my karma and read through my reasoning in other threads... People like my thoughts, a lot. Not my fault if you can't think on my level. I'm literally not even offended, just surprised you would want to embarrass yourself like this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/25 04:32 PM
1	Picking up many women in your youth, will make it harder for you to have a healthy long term relationship I can tell you have no life experience to draw from. This is all hypothetical for you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/25 03:51 PM
4	Picking up many women in your youth, will make it harder for you to have a healthy long term relationship Check your logic again buddy. Lets assume they are as powerful as coke or oxy. Drug addicts go where they get their fix. If you currently have a dealer at one club. And that dealer always has the hookup. The power of the drug keeps them looking for the drug the last place they got it. If they have a good reliable hookup in Minneapolis, they don't wonder about the one club the do not decide, "gee, I want some drugs. Should I go back to California and check if the old neighborhood still has a club…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/25 03:37 PM
2	Picking up many women in your youth, will make it harder for you to have a healthy long term relationship Thats not how it works at all. Only people from purity culture think that life experience diminishes you. Check you logic; If you have traveled and rented apartments in a lot of cities... are you better or worse at picking a place to settle down and buy a house? BETTER. You know what other places are like, and you know what your needs are... and you can EASILY choose a place that meets your needs because you know what is out there. You don't buy a dream house, in a vibrant city then spend you we…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/25 02:45 PM
6	If what Woman say is true, why it doesn't show in media? Media isn't real life. Look at your family, and neighborhoods. All your aunts could probably be dating a richer, sexier guy... but for some reason... she liked your uncle. Look around in a neighborhood nicer restaurant. They women are usually groomed, putting in some effort, the guys are just... some guy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/09/25 02:51 AM
0	Why don't women like hearing a lot of men's attractiveness is outside of their control? Yes. Some people are rich. Now off with you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/25 02:48 PM
0	Why don't women like hearing a lot of men's attractiveness is outside of their control? Goooooogle it for yourself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/25 01:51 PM
0	Why don't women like hearing a lot of men's attractiveness is outside of their control? You know you can google this stuff right? Just Google YMCA prices. You are assuming that people don't have children that need daycare during workouts... but a lot of adults have to have family plans. It's almost like your personal experience isn't the only possible experience. Other people need a trainer to workout safely, still others need eating help like weight watchers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/25 12:15 PM
1	Why don't women like hearing a lot of men's attractiveness is outside of their control? You obviously care or you wouldn't have chimed in. It's the internet there is plennnnnnty of other content to click on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/25 12:52 AM
1	Why don't women like hearing a lot of men's attractiveness is outside of their control? Yup... that make me the gatekeeper of the bountiful fields. "Must be this fancy to ride" - lol Good luck with the low effort lifestyle, I'm sure you'll find a 10 who loves the personality of someone that takes themselves too serious to try at life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/25 12:51 AM
1	Why don't women like hearing a lot of men's attractiveness is outside of their control? Hey, if your afraid to put in an effort, you can get a tutor. Feel free to try. You know, just try literally any positive improvement. See how it goes for you? Or does that just sound like a bunch of unfair werk.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/25 12:24 AM
0	Why don't women like hearing a lot of men's attractiveness is outside of their control? I care about math. That 20% seems made up for no reason. You know 80% of random statistics follow the 80/20 rule right?	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/25 12:22 AM
1	Why don't women like hearing a lot of men's attractiveness is outside of their control? Not what "i think women need to do" - It's what women DO. And if OP is butt hurt that women son't care how hard it is to look ___... HE should match effort or shut up. You hust keep proving the point when you try to say "women don't need to do XYZ" You are missing the point, again and again. MENNNNN need to do XYZ or shut up about being judged as less-than. Because OP is currently not trying. If you think that is unfair, you also, are free to keep being judged as less than, FOR NOT TRYING.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/09/25 09:44 PM
1	Why don't women like hearing a lot of men's attractiveness is outside of their control? Not what "i think women need to do" It's what women DO.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/09/25 09:41 PM
-2	Why don't women like hearing a lot of men's attractiveness is outside of their control? Read the room. OP is complaining about being judged, while ALSO refusing to take any effort. My comments are specifically about efforts MEN COULD TAKE to match effort. Instead if claiming you don't care about XYZ, so you don't think it's real. BTW, Asian women do the MOST skincare of the planet. Korean skin care, sunscreen, and med spa techniques, and makeup are currently the cutting edge technology everyone is trying to catch up with... For example, if you include skin whitening/brightening in …	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/09/25 06:57 PM
-3	Why don't women like hearing a lot of men's attractiveness is outside of their control? Because most men spend essentially no effort on looking good... like a haircut is basically it. So 1 hour a month beyond basic showers and brushing teeth. Women spend so much time on beauty, it's a part time job. Easily 20 hours a week... 80 hours a month. AND WE HAVE THE SAME CONSTRAINTS OF GENETICS AND MOOD. Once you guys are doing alllll the stuff, we'll talk. Besides hair cuts, you need to get it dyed, highlighted, or chemically curled or straightened. 5 hours a month, $300 a month. Style yo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/09/25 04:20 PM
1	"If she is interested she will show" show what exactly BUTT what if it's just "Out There"?!	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/09/25 03:20 AM
1	"If she is interested she will show" show what exactly As a woman, I do not touch dudes on the arm during conversation unless we are very close. Anyone can have a hug... but exceedingly few people get the forearm pat.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/09/25 03:19 AM
1	Manly, masculine and high testosterone doesn't automatically translate to attractive to women. I think Guys forget, that is Gals are already keenly aware of maleness... of all dudes. It's the guys that are splitting the hair into categories to impress each other. Pretty much all dudes are manly, by definition, ya know? Like my 14 year old son already has a "dude" voice. When I hear him from across the house talking to my Mom... I'm like "Who is that man talking to my Mom?" My Dad was a Surgeon... with a giant Tom Seleck era mustache... Looked commanding on him. A family of Norwegian Lumbe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/09/25 02:14 AM
1	Why do the avg women dont want the bottom 80% of men? Market forces. Why don't mid prices cars manufacturers sell their car for a price that 80% of people can afford Because there are buyers at their MSRP. In times & places where men are in short supply, women broaden their view. For example, My Grandfather was in the Korean War, doing wiring on Navy ships. When his Brothers joined the war, he was sent back home. Kind of like the Saving Private Ryan movie. If a bunch of brothers were being called, they would try and keep one at home if possible. He…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/09/25 10:41 PM
8	Compared to women blaming men, how much of men blaming women do you consider "normal"? This is one of those things that I really don't think should apply to a whole gender either way. Complaining is not inherently unfair... if someone is being mistreated, they have a right to complain about it. But, not all mistreatment is equal either. On The extreme ends, one "side" is much more dangerous. The women that I know who have the most to complain about men? Were repeatedly beaten so badly they were hospitalized with ruptured organs. Or they found their husband was sexually abusing the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/25 01:04 PM
0	Women, would you be friends with an active sex worker? "Yeah, your Mom and I already hang out a ton!"	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/25 06:10 AM
3	The fertility rate is inextricably linked to women’s level of “knowledge” You are not adding to the conversation when you do that. It's pedantic, reaching, and boring.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/09/25 01:58 PM
73	The fertility rate is inextricably linked to women’s level of “knowledge” It's not "inexplicable" this is a well known global trend; Women living in rustic & primitive circumstances, when educated about the EXISTENCE of birth control... will immediately use it to reduce their own birth rate... so they can put more resources into fewer children. Every pregnancy is a risk for death and disfigurement, it's the most dangerous thing in their own lives, so they immediately employ SAFETY information to help the economics of their home. For example, if the mother dies in chil…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/25 05:59 PM
-2	Why do women do this? "That type of man" does not announce his intentions. You see, human beings are capable of deception. Everyone thinks they are great at detecting lies, but literally no one is, even trained professionals are barely better than a coin toss. So none of us have a working lie detector. So we have to infer trustworthiness from things like; a lifestyle that requires him to be reliable. And behavior that seems pro-social. Then basically the only other tool is time. So women are forced to artificially pu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/25 04:04 PM
5	Why do women do this? It's almost like sometimes people lie to benefit themselves. (Clutching my pearls)	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/25 03:55 PM
–	Hobby groups are really the last good place to date Haven't been an actor in a Renaissance faire huh?	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/25 02:46 AM
1	The Pill is just a safety net for men who can’t deal with rejection. It’s just an ideology that you can point to while you run away from your problems. I'm not talking about "most men" I'm specifically referring to the red pill community.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/25 12:28 AM
0	The Pill is just a safety net for men who can’t deal with rejection. It’s just an ideology that you can point to while you run away from your problems. I think it's also a place for people searching for a "better deal". Guys that want to date someone "better" (whatever that means to them) and they think a better system will guide them up that mountain. I.e. Average guy, who wants to date models, that are also chaste, and don't know they are beautiful, and she has a great personality, thinks the world of him, and is a natural homemaker and a decent earner. And he is... a guy... with a job... and likes nice things... and BELIEVES with a deep fait…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/25 07:54 PM
1	Those who use the phrase "if men want the same sex opportunities as women, then just go for the gays" - you simply confirm all the claims about high female standards Did you come back 18 days later just to re-iterate your own point again? Even though my last sentences were prompting you to dig deep and show an original thought? What were you doing with your time off? You had weeks to do your Reddit homework?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/25 05:05 PM
1	Would you have hooked up with all your past boyfriends? Are you from the West? Because lots of people date without the intention of marriage here. Like teenagers are essentially practicing their relationship skills, and 99% of them assume that as they grow and mature - they will end up with other people eventually. There are very few "highschool sweetheart" romances hatching these days. Even just the expectation that both people will eventual go to college and it may not be the same college... puts a known deadline in play. Same thing with college. I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/25 05:35 AM
–	What is the motive behind telling men to be kind and it will improve their dating chances? Are you talking to me, because that isn't really related to what I said. Thats called talking past someone, but in this case, I think you are just talking to the open air. I'm not making any judgement on "when to call it quits" - if thats what you want to talk about, you can easily make a thread about that. If you are asking a question in earnest? I guess my own personal limit would be about 5 years. I'd earnestly try making myself fit the sell-able category for about 5 years, using market feedb…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 10:49 PM
–	What is the motive behind telling men to be kind and it will improve their dating chances? Glad you like it, hope it serves you well	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 05:34 PM
6	What opinion do you see other women commonly openly share, that you don’t agree with? 90% of women think they have been "Very clear" about ____ when talking to their man... But they have failed to make a dirrect & explicit ask, paired with their STATEMENT. (Her) "I hate it when you go into my purse. That is my purse!" But she never says; "When you go into my purse, it makes me feel like you have violated my privacy - it's as creepy as going through my bathroom trash and my bank account at the same time. I'n horrified at the disrespect, and I will definitely leave you if this type…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 04:26 PM
–	What is the motive behind telling men to be kind and it will improve their dating chances? I've just hears of it as a 2x2 grid I was introduced to it years ago, when I was reading something about "likeability" is a combination of trustworthy vs credible. Not trustworthy and Not credible = bumbling crook. Trustworthy but unsure of credibility = neighborly. Not trustworthy AND credible = villain Trustworthy and Credible = my tribe. The example shower how people only hate those that they distrust AND find credible, because we believe they have bad intentions and are ABLE to execute on th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 04:09 PM
–	What is the motive behind telling men to be kind and it will improve their dating chances? You are jumping to a conclusion... that it can't work because "I've tried being friendly and it didn't work. Try the grid my friend, that is not the only possible outcome, just the one YOU are familiar with. I swear, ya dudes are doing a maze on a placemat, then hit a dead end, and refuse to back track to return to the path. Yes you can get friend zoned. What are the other 3 options? 2x2 grid; Heroics/Basics vs Manipulative/Altruistic You have identified taking heroic action perceived as manipul…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 01:43 PM
–	What is the motive behind telling men to be kind and it will improve their dating chances? Yeah, basically. But the dynamics shift a bit. For example, men are typically not as afraid of unkind women... as women are afraid of unkind men. The 2x2 grid can be used for basically any two factors. I help run a fintech, and when we are trying to make sense of a small business, the categories are Competent vs Trustworthy. In Self help, you can use the 2x2 grid to weigh the best/worst outcomes of action/inaction. Like no decision is actually 50/50 odds. For example, people in the relationship …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 01:36 PM
–	What is the motive behind telling men to be kind and it will improve their dating chances? Your decision science is weak logic here... you are using a narrow condition to draw a broad condition; "I tried being nice, and nothing happened." This advice is a statistics type thing about odds. You have only considered one of four combinations. A ton of things can be put into 2x2 grid, in this case, attractiveness vs kindness. This gives us 4 quadrants; Kind & Attractive Unkind & Attractive Kind & UnAttractive UnKind & UnAttractive Kind & attractive people usually have little trouble findin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 01:58 AM
4	How should average men pursue casual sex according to women? Asked and answered. Op wanted to know how women think it should be done. I'm a woman. This is my opinion.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/25 01:13 AM
2	How should average men pursue casual sex according to women? Either you don't know people that are okay with FWB, or you do not have a sufficient level of acquaintance. What groups do you hang around IRL?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/25 11:04 PM
8	How should average men pursue casual sex according to women? Didn't you read what I wrote? Fwb that is Classy, Respectful, Fulfilling, and discrete. Ridiculously hot people can be the worst fucks. They expect their face/body means they just have to show up. That is going to be a disappointing fuck. Like you imagine that the best looking people will automatically have good personalities, and will prioritize the needs of their partners? FWB means a FRIEND. Not a jerk that deigns to show up but won't think of anyone but himself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/25 05:45 AM
15	How should average men pursue casual sex according to women? FWB; Be trustworthy acquaintance. Privately, make the offer, with zero pressure. "Hey, if you are ever single... Can you tell me how to get on the short list, for next time you are lonely for some late night company?" Wait for the bat signal. She's gonna be feeling festive with no where to take that energy. Catch and return that energy. (Her) "Feeling this new shirt I got" (clothed pic) (You) "Gorgeous! Hey I'm going to be in (her part of town) later, can I swing buy and bring you something to e…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/25 03:14 AM
2	How can men be desirable to women under late-stage capitalism? The same way urban Black men and Hispanic men have this whole time? It's only the white guys that are like "women with their own money aren't forced to tolerate meeeee!" - their women have been working this whoooole time. Ever heard the trope of the "Latin lover" or wonder why some black guys wear evening suits instead of jeans to everything? Because If you can't bring the cash, you have to bring the cool. Make yourself presentable at your top ability, make being romantic into a hobby, hit the g…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/25 03:24 AM
7	"Women were forced to be with terrible men back in the day"- Then what about today? FYI - the mental damage done by domestic violence is literally the same type of damage detected in prisoners of war camps. They don't seduce people... the pretend to be a decent person until the woman is trapped, then they systematically terrorize her. This often does occur with literal physical brain damage from concussions and being choked.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/25 03:15 AM
3	There is no such thing as "platonic cuddling" between a straight guy and a woman It's like "no homo" but more inclusive. Sex doesn't count as intentional if you make a joke out of it and say "no hetro!" quick after the fact.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/25 03:13 AM
2	Can a man become charming/fun? If so, how? I do think there is a broad mix of acceptable product lines... but... He has to add to her life. Like both people's lives need to be better with the other person in it... or why bother? In theory... Just by the numbers a person who is a hypothetical "10" is going to have the most options... because every tier of people would consider dating a "10" (all the 9s, 8s, 7s, etc) - but that really only considers "day one". Would most people themselves want to consistently be striving to "punch above th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/25 11:46 PM
3	Can a man become charming/fun? If so, how? Thanks. A lot of people kind of try to be everything to all people. I honestly suspect that is half the problem here. The guys here see "conflicting" information about what women "like" and feel like they are being lied to, like it is unfair to work so hard on so many things and still have nothing to show for it. At the same time they despise the "be yourself" advice and think it's trite bullshit. It does not occur to them these two things are related. Trying to be something you are not, is very…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/25 08:13 PM
7	Do you actually lower sexual attraction when it comes to a guy you see as relationship material? I think it would help you to know that social scientists have Identified hundreds of reasons why people have sex. A LOT of them have NOTHING to do with being suddenly, randomly, horny and finding a nearby sexually attractive person so attractive that you fall into lust and bone them as soon as possible. Women almost never experience that type of chain of events, because evolution has worked, and recklessly horny women get killed a lot. It's not safe to be all gas and no breaks. Instead, women ha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/25 07:45 PM
2	Can a man become charming/fun? If so, how? Happy to help.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/25 03:50 AM
3	Can a man become charming/fun? If so, how? Thanks. I so try to be helpful. I appreciate you taking the time to look. Take what you like and leave the rest.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/25 03:50 AM
1	Can a man become charming/fun? If so, how? Don't try telling me what to say. I'm not beholden to your preferred habits. YOU can say what ever you want to OP. But I don't agree with your sentiment, so you can pound sand. If you want to Actually help OP with some suggestions, feel free to step up with some original thoughts. You get no points with me for parroting unhelpful unoriginal thoughts.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/25 06:28 PM
13	Can a man become charming/fun? If so, how? Yes, I think it's a skill you can learn. But not when it's laser focused on just trying to get candy to dispense out of a vending machine. Ya know? So when you convince someone to do something in their own best interest - that is motivation. When you convince someone to do something for your best interest, that is manipulation. Charm is motivational. People that are charming and charismatic are producing the fun and invite others to enjoy the feast they have made. The fun is happening with of wi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/25 03:13 PM
2	Women over exaggerate their concerns of their safety. Can I ask you something? Are you aware of your contempt for women is showing? Or is it more of a thing where you really can't see past your own pain so you imagine no one could have it worse than you personally?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/25 07:26 PM
1	Women over exaggerate their concerns of their safety. Well, you are in a sub that is specifically about comparing men and women's issues... and you SAY women are exaggerating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/25 12:51 PM
10	Women over exaggerate their concerns of their safety. My very sweet and considerate son started beating me at arm wrestling at age 7. I am somewhat strong for a non athlete woman. By age 10, he was like "Mom, how come we don't ever arm wrestle anymore?" Uhhh because you started winning 100% of the time years ago. At 12 he could leg press 300 pounds. That means hypothetically, with one kick, he could put most women on the ground, at 12. I feel like for men? it's only gym bro's and actual professional fighters that realize the strength difference.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/25 12:48 PM
5	Women over exaggerate their concerns of their safety. Your statistic misses aggression that never escalates to a police call, a hospital visit, or a death for the women. Literally 99% of rape is never reported. And only 2% of that leads to a conviction. Your stats also includes "professional" violence, where men are exposed to violence from other men in a work setting. Like experiencing a gang violence because you belong to a gang. Or experiencing violence from criminals if you are the police, and experience police violence if you are a suspected c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/25 12:01 PM
1	Those who use the phrase "if men want the same sex opportunities as women, then just go for the gays" - you simply confirm all the claims about high female standards Thats essentially only something men ever care about. Essentially every woman who wants to get pregnant will have dozens of options. The female side is spent running away from unwanted attention, in a game freeze tag. In freeze-tag... it's not a compliment to get tagged. Or, someone trying to steal eccentricity from an outlet on your garage. It's not a compliment... "You should be flattered that I chose YOUR house to pilfer from, it just shows you that I think you pay your bills!" - uh, no. It's…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/08/25 01:52 PM
2	How are ugly couples sexually attracted too each other? Sure thing, you got it Boss! Queen on queen action.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/25 02:03 AM
3	How are ugly couples sexually attracted too each other? Best I can do is licensed pillowcases. Final offer.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/25 01:20 AM
6	Women’s Dating Problems Are 100% Their Own Fault The odds are good - but the goods are odd.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/25 12:58 AM
25	Question for women who get approached regularly on the street It's not flattering, it's more like someone wants to play a game of catch... but you are busy so they are just throwing shit at you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/25 12:51 AM
12	Question for women who get approached regularly on the street It's scary, it feels like a shark that bumps into you before biting.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/25 12:50 AM
6	How are ugly couples sexually attracted too each other? THAT is a "two bagger". They are so ugly you put a bag on their head... and a second one on your own incase the first bag falls off.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/25 12:50 AM
1	The below 80% of men should strive to get dating apps removed Asking for help is different than insisting on censorship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/25 06:11 PM
1	The below 80% of men should strive to get dating apps removed Thats a false comparison sweetness. Love is not dispensed by dating apps, and you know it. Your point is fallacious, let me change out a couple details and it's obvious; For a big portion of people, they cannot cook... so Door Dash is the only way to find dinner. Meal acquisition has really gone online and we are just stuck paying any price. Imagine never eating a hot meal again, how would that feel? See the mistaken thinking? Yes you can find a hot meal online. But just because people eat a lot…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/25 06:10 PM
1	The below 80% of men should strive to get dating apps removed Hey if you want a Nanny state, thats fine... you just need to recognize that about yourself; You want society to protect you from yourself. AND assume everyone else must also have no self control, so that it's normal and right for strangers to try to police your sexuality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/25 06:01 PM
1	Men should stop listening to women idea of a good partner That is a good way to stay single. Imagine you are a business, selling a product. The customers aren't buying it. You ask the customers about the features... and your marketplace answers you earnestly... Then you say... fuck it... my potential customers are wrong. They don't know what they want. Idiots! My business is so good, I just have to double down on what I want to do! THAT business, gets no customers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/25 05:16 PM
1	The below 80% of men should strive to get dating apps removed Yea, because the patrons are adults that are in charge of making good decisions for their own care.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/25 05:09 PM
1	The below 80% of men should strive to get dating apps removed You have free choice is the matter. No one is making you use them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/25 03:50 PM
1	The below 80% of men should strive to get dating apps removed It's clearly meeting some need, or people wouldn't use them, and they would die out on their own. If it was easy/possible to make something better that was also a profitable business... wouldn't someone be doing it?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/25 03:49 PM
2	The below 80% of men should strive to get dating apps removed I'm always surprised when people who think of themselves as tough manly men... also are so emotional about the fear of being compared... ....that they slide right back into communism and think censorship and lack of choice will help the market.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/25 02:19 PM
9	Women need to come to terms with the fact that they put too much unnecessary mental load onto themselves, and they should stop blaming men for that. Are you a parent... because you aren't describe the optional stuff. Rides to things and doctors appointments are a mandatory part of parenthood. There ARE things that are optional... like cooking from scratch every single night, including baby food. Or annual trips to Disney Land. Or holiday magic where it takes literally 3 weeks to decorate. Or trying to eliminate plastic in the home. Or new family pictures every season. But the schedule, transportation, and healthcare parts really are mandator…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/25 09:17 PM
8	Those who use the phrase "if men want the same sex opportunities as women, then just go for the gays" - you simply confirm all the claims about high female standards That not a standards thing, thats a disinterest thing. Hettrosexual men here seem to be jealous of women's easy access to sex... but selfish sex is not the kind of sex they want... so that isn't interesting. It's not a gift, it's just unpermitted dumping. You can use other analogies; If you have a very small yard, and someone offers you a bunch of fertilizer, like the amount and quantity a farm needs... it's high quality & expensive stuff... and you hesitate, explaining thats not necessary... bu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/25 03:39 PM
0	This quote "the bar is in hell for men". This quote doesn't make sense all. Because that bar isn't usually meant for all men. Like all negotiations, you have a target, and a floor. It's not that complicated. When people say the "bar is on the floor" they usually mean they have personally experience or have a close friend who has experienced really unacceptable behavior - and they stayed to try and make it work. Things like; he takes you to an event but your ticket is not with him - he is in the fancy seats you sit alone, or he seems like a good catch but you find out he doesn't think teeth need to be brushed daily, or …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/25 03:28 PM
1	Women would have less trouble finding partners if more women had personalities Celebrity gossip is just another word for a Fandom. You just don't care about THAT fandom.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/25 01:43 AM
2	Do you think it's ok for men to be with women they're not attracted to because they can't do better? Ok for who? If the man and the woman both want to be in a relationship... who else needs to approve? "Like okay you two, it's obvious neither of you are going to date a surgeon who did fitness modeling in college... you cool to settle with... that person right here?" It's really about the choices of the individuals... they only have themselves to please	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/25 04:57 PM
1	What can a man expect for paying for a date? Good company; priority attention, goodwill, fun attitude... Someone who is gracious when they are a guest. And a legitimate chance to make a friendship that could go somewhere romantic in time. Please don't expect to use her for spank bank material by hinting how horny you are. Also please do not get handsy trying "break the touch barrier". On the more subtle front? Don't try to extract free therapy. Or weirdly assign her pedestal status... with all your hopes painted over her - so she is just a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 01:06 AM
1	Women don't move on faster after a relationship ends. Men are just easier to replace. Which is easier, putting yourself back out there One DAY after a break up, or One MONTH? Day one, most people are too sad to be good company on a new date, right? It takes a month... maybe get a haircut, hit the gym, buy a couple of new shirts? Women do that as soon as they realize they are going to leave a guy. They don't wait until the official break up. So when the breakup "day" happens... the woman has FELT single for a month. She just gets a 30 day boost to "day one"	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/25 03:37 PM
1	Women are excluded far less than men are in the modern West As a middle aged woman, I am aware of that privilege. I can go to a board room, or play with a strangers kinder-gardener if they approach me in the park. I can go into any store or gym... I'm generally welcome. I can walk laps in the parking lot wearing a hoodie and sunglasses. I can do people watching at the mall. Get chatty with a stranger in a bathroom. Go to any salon. Hang out in the pantyhose aisle at the store. I can drop in on random neighbors. Go eat my lunch in a hospital cafeteria eve…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/25 04:33 PM
-2	All measures to fight bad men unfortunately end up hurting normal men I don't think a website is necessary for people to become jaded, most women start having bad experience with strange men starting around age 10-12. Also, a lot of guys that think they are "good guys" have a reeeeally different idea of what "counts" as bad compared to women. They've done studies... guys that would never ever ever "rape" a woman, frequently believe that "unwanted sex" does not "count" as "rape"... Because to a guy, their idea of rape is "Something a really bad person does." or "A …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/25 04:02 PM
0	Why do Red Pill influencers act like Miami women represent all women? Because they enjoy hating on people, so they have to focus on a group that "qualifies" for the hate. Like when people shit on single mothers, for not having a man in the house - they mean to punch down on poor, urban, ethnic women... They are never talking about suburban, middle class, War Widows from WWII. The urge to hate comes first... then they find an "acceptable" (weak) target. In this case, the highly trafficked sex workers are the hate-sink.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/25 03:59 PM
3	A woman being super sexual within relationships (ex-boyfriends) is a huge green flag Yup. Grown ass men, that want an enthusiastic partner are NOT excited to learn she chose celibacy in her last marriage. It's like if you want to mostly cook & eat home cooked meals - but the other person lives on Mc Donalds and jokes about how bad they are at cooking so they eat take out twice a day... Not cute.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/25 09:30 PM
2	You can't debate a person that doesn't care about romantic relationships. Debate is just a type of conversation that involves different positions. But both parties still have to WANT to be in that conversation. So yes, you literally can not "debate" with someone who does not want to be in the debate. In formalized argumentation, thats a "no clash"... your view points are so different, you aren't in the sane conversation, you are just talking past each other. In my experience, it seems like there are philosophically two groups underneath a lot of discourse; People that…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/25 04:14 PM
10	If you think there’s anything condemnable about childless men ruling out single mothers as potential partners, do you think it would be reasonable for a man to expect potential partners to accommodate other interests of his choosing, to the same extent that children interfere with singles dating Now I just feel silly dressing my kid up like a barbarian when he was a baby...	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/25 03:21 AM
1	What do you think separates women who have good experiences with casual sex from those who don't? It's really not the most important thing. Remember, lesbians get each other off, without a dick at all. A guy that is packing heat, but genuinely doesn't care if you get off... is no fucking help. Because they won't LISTEN to what works or what hurts. Your answer is a really iconic example of "guys assume stuff that impresses each other will also work to impress ladies". Your EXACT thinking, is what causes guys to send unsolicited dick pics. Which is just about the grossest thing that can happen…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/25 12:47 PM
1	The market depicts your value, not you That explains why you don't seem to understand the spirit of competition. So you seem to have men and women as opposing forces. You literally can't win a partner that way. Because you square off against them and feel that because they have difference, it's unfair. In reality, if you want to find a good partner, you are mostly in competition with all the other single men she sees in a day/week/month. You may never meet those guys, or see them... but THAT is the race you are in.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/25 05:13 AM
1	The market depicts your value, not you Do you play any sports?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/25 04:21 AM
1	The market depicts your value, not you What is more likely, women who want to be partnered, keep moving the goal posts... just to fuck with you. Or... Guys that assumed a good job was their ticket to a hot wife, have no backup plan when the economy does not provide them with that option. It's obvious if you really look at economically disadvantaged minorities, how to catch & keep a wife if you can't compete on career; grooming, pampering, style, fun, and logistical support. Pretend for a minute, you lived in a matriarchal society, wh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/25 05:30 PM
-1	The market depicts your value, not you It's almost like a lot of these people having trouble dating are bad at understanding what is important to the other sex!	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/25 04:31 PM
5	What do you think of a guy making you wait for sex? Generally, people that wait a few dates seem like they have their life figured out more than people that will stick their dick in anything; "Don't stick your dick in crazy" is a classic for a reason. Guys that bone everything that moves will have a handful of crazy on the ol roster. I don't want a crazy chick showing up at my house trying to fight me for "her man". Guys with nothing to lose, act like it. Guys with a life worth protecting, act like it. If he has a great career, business, or famil…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/25 04:13 PM
9	It's so exhausting to be with ANY man (even the good ones) This sounds a bit like "walking on eggshells" to avoid a man getting upset about being disrespected? Thats a fairly accurate sign that person is being exhausting on purpose in order to wear you down, so that you are easier to manipulate. Ie Emotional abuse. That isn't a "guy" thing... thats an abuser thing. Abusers have such shitty values, that it allows them to use manipulative tactics to extract value for themselves, even when it harms you. I'd like you to consider the possibility that your hi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/25 07:14 AM
–	Men are angry about the current dating dynamics because they don't want to feel cucked. Not really. Plenty of guys do way too much in the young years, imagine what is important based of Tv shows & movies. I truly do not want roses, or 5 star dining, or 3 hour phone calls that go into the night. Good lord, gawd help you if he's tried to write a poem, or serenade you. Whisking you off to weekends away, is fun but exhausting. Even the basics, just spending time together... I still would not be upset about, again, because grown adults have really different responsibilities. Obviously w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/25 01:58 PM
3	Men are angry about the current dating dynamics because they don't want to feel cucked. I guess my thought is... she was a stranger before you met her, right? So how is it comfortable to let a stranger's behavior control your self worth? It literally had nothing to do with you, so how are you making it about you? Think about how much you have change in the last 5-10 years as a person. Friendships, hobbies, jobs, pets, diet, exercise, grooming, music you listen to, communication skills, how much self control you have... you've grown as a person right? Does how much you masturbated a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/25 09:36 PM
0	How would you react if you found out the man you were dating had a 'slut phase'? "Takes on to know one" - "Open up for the bridle pony boy" 😆😆😆	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/25 02:44 PM
3	Sexual Shame in Women As a sex positive person, I'd say that there are real, non purity culture reasons to wait on sex. Just physical safety is one thing. Most guys are safe and care about their potential partner's feelings. But a couple percent are really just can't get their jollies off without literally attacking her. You cannot tell by looking. Rapists and abusers are not just guys in prison with face tattoos. Sometimes it's the co-worker you walk to get coffee with... sometimes your best shield is TIME. Predator…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/25 02:28 PM
–	Women Have it Easier in Dating Than Men. So the people watching this interplay will become educated about how bad it looks when they act like you are acting... Then maybe they will check themselves, and make better choices.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/25 09:05 PM
0	Women Have it Easier in Dating Than Men. You are having a fight with yourself sir.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/25 11:55 PM
1	Women Have it Easier in Dating Than Men. Nope, it does no such thing. You need to clean your metaphoric glasses.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/25 10:09 PM
1	Women Have it Easier in Dating Than Men. I'm not making women out to be angels. You are so disenfranchised that you are projecting your pain onto my statement. Try reading it again. Where do I say women are angels? I encourage you to consider the idea in front of you as-is, without applying a lens of victimization. What does my text actually SAY?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/25 09:48 PM
6	Q4Women: What have you learned that you didn’t know before since being subscribed to PPD? Do you think I'm over here advocating for being an angry? "Like yay angry people! Keep it up!" ??? You get that you are kinda shitting on your own point, right? Because what is happening here, is I answered OP's question... then you ANGRILY jumped in to shit on angry people. It feels like you are just trying to pick a fight for the sake of fighting... not really adding to the conversation... thus completing the great cirrrrcle of life; angry people recreationally smothering things to feel import…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/25 06:37 PM
7	Q4Women: What have you learned that you didn’t know before since being subscribed to PPD? Are you implying that your individual scenario of gender, personality, and experience... can and should be copied by half the planet? That might be a big unrealistic. Besides, there are plenty of angry women out there... Karens, Red Hat wearers, Neo Pagans, Women's bookstores, Liberals at Marches, Wine Moms, Government Employees, Internet Trolls... Women's anger is generally from a couple people in their life that they generalize to apply to everyone. Guys in the dating advice subs the same thin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/25 06:03 PM
7	Q4Women: What have you learned that you didn’t know before since being subscribed to PPD? Then my comment does not apply to you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/25 05:27 PM
21	Q4Women: What have you learned that you didn’t know before since being subscribed to PPD? I think a lot of the angst is really anger at themselves for having needs. Like it's unfair that they want a partner. That sense of powerlessness is covered up with a layer of anger.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/25 04:01 PM
2	What do you think separates women who have good experiences with casual sex from those who don't? The ability to pick out a good partner. "This guy FUCKS!"	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/25 02:45 PM
-3	A lot of men on here underrate the importance of personality Those guys are telling on themselves	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/25 02:59 AM
0	Women Have it Easier in Dating Than Men. I guess it really depends on what you think the point of dating is supposed to be. If your definition of dating is; find a person who is willing to have in sex with you? Yes. Women will have many options of someone who wants to have sex with them. It get more complicated if you add any other parameters; Can you identify someone for companionship who will not physically or mentally dominate you for their own benefit. Damn. It's pretty hard to find someone who is genuinely interested in whats best…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/25 01:32 AM
1	It's very rich that women expect guys to make the first move at all times yet they should be under no obligation. Here's the thing. Many women DO make the first move. Then 80% of the time, that dude converts into a boyfriend. Women do not have to experience rejection hundreds of times. In their whole life they may get turned down like 2-5 times max. Partly, women are prone to only hit on someone they think will say yes easily. And partly because the number of hopeful candidates is high.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/25 02:43 PM
3	Lauren Sanchez is the opposite of what Red Pillers are telling us that men want in women and shows that women just have to be hot and seductive It continues to be an ongoing issue. Once the abuser loses access to the woman, they turn to hurting the child & use the courts to abuse her. It's a secret tyranny that is its own special hell.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/25 04:05 PM
20	Lauren Sanchez is the opposite of what Red Pillers are telling us that men want in women and shows that women just have to be hot and seductive My understanding is abusers wait until they feel you are trapped. He was emotionally volatile, but did not start laying hands on me until he thought I couldn't leave him. It literally started to escalate in the hospital while I was having the baby. After I had the baby and was recovering, He got feisty with the staff, they kicked him out so I could get rest. Within a couple days he was screaming at me during breastfeeding, and randomly screaming how I was a terrible mother. He insisted the baby …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/25 04:18 PM
19	Lauren Sanchez is the opposite of what Red Pillers are telling us that men want in women and shows that women just have to be hot and seductive I hear you. But I also think it is valid to look at mid-life relationships as "real". This subreddit seems to mostly contain people that only care about age 20-30... as though that is the only "real" thing to worry about. Despite the fact that healthy people have another 5 decades of sexual relationships after that first decade. I married young, to someone I dated since age 19. Then had to get divorced in my mid 30's after domestic violence. In theory, I did things right, supported him, raised o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/25 02:30 PM
33	Lauren Sanchez is the opposite of what Red Pillers are telling us that men want in women and shows that women just have to be hot and seductive She also didn't need him for his money, she had a decent net worth before their relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/25 12:47 PM
1	Why do some women want a man to love her more than she loves him? Did you know these women socially before converting into lovers, because that time can play into the "time delay for safety" maneuver. Alternatively, were they strictly booty calls, with zero potential for love on the table? Because OP's question was about wanting the guy to LOVE her a little more than she loves him... and that long term context is what I'm referring to. If you are only seeing women who have ordered up some dick, presumably they were not worried about the love angle.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/25 11:15 AM
1	The best way to attract women is to not try. That falls under the category of "having your shit together so you have a good life wether you have a partner or not" The difference is there are plenty of people who workout for health, and mood, and personal pride, or to improve their abilities in a hobby or job. Thats all normalsauce. Meanwhile, there are guys who go to the gym like it's a church where you pray to the swol gods that someday you will be worthy of love, just as soon as your biceps hits ___ inches. And if you have achieved the m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/25 08:38 PM
1	Men being thirsty is the reason women have so much leverage in the dating game Yes. It's almost like the whole point of dating is to find the best person who is also sexually interested in you. Let me ask you a seeming unrelated question. Who has "all the power" a factory that makes goods, but needs shipping. Or a shipping company that does transport for their customers money, but also faces dangers on the high seas? The factory has to find a vendor to carry their goods... are they victims to the shipping industry? Or do they just keep looking until they find a vendor they…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/25 08:26 PM
2	The “everyone gets a wife” experiment lasted about 50 years and failed. Now it’s back to normalcy Or, you don't have one person forever, you have serial monogamy. And instead of having to make a crazy bet on another person, where you are stuck for life... (even though you are essentially a child yourself) ...Instead, You have the freedom to "undo" when your partner is too drunk, unfaithful, spends all the money at the casino, or hurts you and the children. It's easy to feel self pity because you haven't been assigned someone who MUST tolerate you for 50 years... But you ALSO get the freedom …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/25 08:01 PM
-1	Why do some women want a man to love her more than she loves him? Based on your previous posts & comments... your comments here seem... aspirational... at best. It's not my fault that you are confused.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/25 06:35 PM
-1	Why do some women want a man to love her more than she loves him? Feels like you are telling on yourself buddy. Virginity is not a freshness seal on a can of Pringles. It's not like its a free-for-all once the store is open. People get to CHOOSE if they want to have sex with a new person or not. They can just say no for a while until they know the person. "Not yet", is a green flag in a potential partner, it means they have standards.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/25 06:21 PM
9	Why do some women want a man to love her more than she loves him? Asked and answered. I'm not advocating for a side, just explaining it for OP.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/25 02:41 PM
8	Why do some women want a man to love her more than she loves him? Thats why most women push sex back by a few weeks or months... He has to like her specifically enough to wait it out. If she isn't special to him, he will just look for a softer target and wont wait.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/25 02:19 PM
23	Why do some women want a man to love her more than she loves him? Its just a "hack" to make sure she doesn't get a guy who is just settling for her or merely tolerating her because he wants to get his dick wet.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/25 01:47 PM
7	How does it feel like to be hit on/approached by a creepy guy? Most women aren't going to answer this question. I'm sorry to inform you, the worst experiences of 1/3 of the women in your life include being attacked physically in a sexualized way. If you include your Mom, Grandma, and Sister... statistically at least one will have a story about being molested or raped. I know what you are thinking, yeah... but 1/3 of the guys aren't rapists or anything... Thats correct. The average rapist or child molester has a "career" of 60 victims. So your local "handsy"…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/25 10:11 PM
2	The best way to attract women is to not try. Yeah, as an outsider... if I had to explain online dating to someone from another planet it would be something like; It's a computerized game, where the prize is sexual access to a stranger. The only people who play, are those who cannot get their needs met in other traditional ways. It's kind of like gambling, but instead of spending just money; men spend their self worth and women spend their safety. Like all gambling, the house wins by tricking you to play longer. But when people are inside a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/25 08:22 PM
3	Single Ladies, is there a general consensus regarding approaching at the gym? Would you rather have the dude interrupt you by talking at you, so you end up taking your headphones off... or just a slip of paper and zero conversation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/25 06:07 PM
6	The best way to attract women is to not try. I've got a slight correction; The best way to attract a woman, is to stop trying with all the things MEN think are attractive in other men. For example; getting huge at the gym, peacocking with a car or expensive lifestyle, acting like she is a vending machine that will dispense sex after enough ___ has been deposited, acting like she is a video game that you can win by tapping her arm for kino points, talking about your sexual prowess based on something you saw in porn, mildly mocking her to bo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/25 03:15 PM
4	Single Ladies, is there a general consensus regarding approaching at the gym? Here's the thing... there is no "rizz" way to stop her from what SHE wanted to be doing. She has the headphones on. IF you are going to interrupt, making is a bigger more self gratifying interruption, so YOU feel more important, is the opposite of solving HER problem. You essentially already have nearly zero chance... because she DOES NOT WANT to be interrupted. A very minor inconvenience of a slip of paper, that does not annoy her, is literally the least offensive option. Let me see if I can he…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/25 11:58 AM
14	Single Ladies, is there a general consensus regarding approaching at the gym? The headphones are a loud "no". Otherwise, the note is fine. But you could just write your line ON the note paper; "If you are single, I'd love to take you out sometime. My numbed is ___. If not, no worries, thanks!"	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/25 11:09 PM
2	Dating an OnlyFans model - why do straight men say no but lesbians say yes? I guess I would add, that most "buyer" of sex work are men... and most lesbians find men sexually "off putting" so they aren't as worried that a man could overcome their partner's revulsion in order to steal them away. Like if your partner hates XYZ, but they grin and bear it for pay... you know they are doing it for the money, not for the thrill.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/25 01:25 AM
1	Women aversion to dating bisexual men is mostly due to traditional masculinity and rigid male gender norms. Yeah, that sounds right, just like him!	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/06/25 10:23 PM
1	Women aversion to dating bisexual men is mostly due to traditional masculinity and rigid male gender norms. Brad?	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/06/25 09:58 PM
2	Women aversion to dating bisexual men is mostly due to traditional masculinity and rigid male gender norms. You are missing a chunk of info. I personally have dated a couple of bi-men, years before I was married. It was common where I lived, so No problems. But, you really have to look back at pop-culture in the 1990's. AIDS was originally called GRID; Gay Related Immune Deficiency, going back to it's emergency as a disease in the 1970's. My Mom was an ER nurse at St. Mary's for a decade. That is the main hospital for the Mayo clinic. One year, they started periodically getting patients that were sick…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/06/25 07:07 PM
2	Misogynist young adults get more sex You probably need to look at some context clues. For example, highly controlling religious groups tend to raise kids with strict gender roles, which inevitably place women as "not quite real people, or equal to men" That culture will both generate a higher rate of misogynists AND young women that can't see res flags. So it's not just that these predators are "better" it's also that the prey is hobbled.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/25 04:14 PM
2	Dating an OnlyFans model - why do straight men say no but lesbians say yes? The lesbian dating pool for a serious life partner is smaller, for sure. But I'm specifically talking about lesbian sex workers. Sex workers are often more attractive than average, and sex workers are highly paid compared to other jobs. Being attractive and the bread winner, they are unlikely to feel desperate for company.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/25 03:01 PM
24	Dating an OnlyFans model - why do straight men say no but lesbians say yes? I think the lesbians are more likely to believe that it's just work, not a threat to the relationship. Also, women don't tend to view having a partner as an accomplishment, like it's a win where they need to "protect the trophy". Generally, because women spend a lot of time bring chased, they don't view relationships as a scarce resource... instead there is an assumption "I'm a catch, I could find a partner again easily" so there isn't the same pressure that they will "go without" if there is a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/25 04:49 PM
3	Society did not “lie” to you about what was and wasn’t attractive to women. You are not a “victim”. Yeah, I'm with you. It seems like more and more of these posts are about these nebulous boogiemen harming unnamed masses... that need debunking? ...When the simplest thing would be to talk to a handful of stakeholders in real life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/25 01:57 PM
2	Dating is garbage today due to the rise of Asymmetric Courtship It's always surprising to me how many capitalists don't think market rate is fair. It's supply and demand.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/25 11:36 PM
3	Why are modern woman so keen on "vetting" a man? Murder. That and a shocking number of men do not count "forced sex" as rape. It's really easy for a sex motivated guy to pretend to be a decent person for 3 one hour dates. It's harder to trick a dozen people over the course of months.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/25 11:00 PM
1	Men and women's instinctual definition of a "Good Man" are completely different. Don't shoot the messenger. I'm not saying those are my personal values. Fun for you to take a swing at me like that, I can see why you think you are unloveable. Look at it this way, Do you HONESTLY think you would be better off not knowing? You prefer traps that are invisible? I'm kinda team "Eyes open" - but if that stresses you out, you might not want to ask the internet to inform you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/25 03:09 AM
2	Do you identify as a feminist? Because they have branded themselves as man hating. It's a PR mistake, and they need to live with their choices. I've got a lot of guy friends, I work in tech, I've got a brother and a ton of cousins that are good dudes, I was close with my Dad when he was alive, and I'm a mother to a son. I'm not cool with the hate group elements... half the planet is guys.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/25 11:24 PM
1	Women's advice to men here is to keep them guessing, single, guilt tripped until they're so old they'll get creepshamed anyway That "should" is your blocker. It's not women refusing to play ball, it's dudes refusing people who would say yes... because you refuse to ask people who would say yes. 12 step people are people too, you're the sociopath who thinks they don't deserve a chance with someone stable.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/25 05:53 PM
1	Women's advice to men here is to keep them guessing, single, guilt tripped until they're so old they'll get creepshamed anyway Fine, try AA meetings. Those peeps will make a friend for $20 of groceries if they just got out of jail. If you don't believe me, try it; "Hey your story really touched me. I've been in rough places myself. If you ever get in a rough spot, I'd be happy to come over to cheer you up and bring you some groceries if you are single" There is a level of low, that you are a great catch and an easy yes. The problem is y'all think you are too good for "that low".	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/25 05:48 PM
1	Men and women's instinctual definition of a "Good Man" are completely different. You asked	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/25 05:30 AM
1	Men and women's instinctual definition of a "Good Man" are completely different. If a woman is in a couple, and there is another guy she has a crush on... she often will not introduce that guy to a friend or family member, just to preserve the optionality for later. Because on w the guy dates a close friend or family member, he is off limits to date.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/25 04:48 AM
1	Men and women's instinctual definition of a "Good Man" are completely different. I've noticed men seem to have a pretty broad definition, usually based on not having serious/glaring flaws... Like if you have a coworker, and he shows up every day ready to work AND... He does not get into drunk fights. He does not scare off women by being a perv. He does not try to borrow money w/o paying it back. He is not an arrogant asshat. Guys will generally like that guy, include him in things, call him a "solid guy", etc. IMHO, Women have a LOT more categories. There are guys that are a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/25 02:13 AM
–	Monogamy Is the Only Logical Sexual Pairing Model Your word choice is overly pedantic, and the way you are using them makes it obvious that they are not part of your normal causal conversations. It's obvious to me that you are putting on artificially erudite language trying to sound more intelligent and important than you are. It feels like a rented costume that a boy is putting on, to pretend to be a prince for a day. But your discomfort with them betrays you. That awkwardness is distracting and you portray yourself worse than if you had just …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/25 07:22 PM
–	Monogamy Is the Only Logical Sexual Pairing Model You use those words like a cheap rented tux, faux fancy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/25 07:10 PM
–	Monogamy Is the Only Logical Sexual Pairing Model Asked and Answered. You don't win good-boy points for a "gotcha" here. I'm literally saying it's structural under nature. Try adding to conversation instead of vainly air humping things with parroted phrases. If you want to argue that emergent structures don't count as logical, you have to make your own counter point to risk-it-for-the-biscuit. Then wonder if you have exposed yourself as intellectually impotent.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/25 05:51 PM
2	Monogamy Is the Only Logical Sexual Pairing Model I like to think that evolution lands on emergent trends, AS a type of logic. It's probably the consistent highest "return on investment" for social effort... otherwise it wouldn't BE the default.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/25 03:27 PM
3	Monogamy Is the Only Logical Sexual Pairing Model It was like 20 years ago, but it made sense at the time. Sorry I don't have links etc. Once I was meditating on the nature of human relationships and pairs, and why it seems like that is the most common/default unit in most cultures. Two things occurred to me; Only two people can contribute genetic information to a specific baby. People just plain invest a lot in their genetic offspring, by default. Obviously not all couplings will generate or can generate offspring... but the ghost of the possi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/25 03:25 PM
6	Monogamy Is the Only Logical Sexual Pairing Model My anthropology teacher made a compelling case how people are serial monogamists. You will likely have many partners in your live, but generally, if you are truly partnered, that person is "your person" and you are "their person" - there really isn't space for more bodies because it splits loyalties. Sometimes resources are finite. You can't both ride that one dick. You can't both be working that vajayjay with her full attention. Even in threesomes or group sex, there is a focus. People that wan…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/25 01:45 PM
6	Alot of our issues wouldn't exsist if female biology was tuned a bit better Yeah... so hate to phrase it this way... but machines can and have replaced physical needs a while ago. Tractors replaced plowing. Guns replaced gladiators. Cars replaced horse grooms. Nail guns, drill presses, hoyer lifts, elevators... physical strength kinda isn't needed for a lot of day to day life. I LIKE dudes, I just don't NEED one to open a can with a jack knife... I have a can opener. But to be fair, I don't really "need" a lot of people in my life, I have them in my life because I enjoy…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/25 11:38 PM
3	Women's ability to attract men anywhere they are gives them way more freedom to do and live wherever they want. Wow. Way to miss the headline. Love that for me... anywhere you go? "Any hole is a goal". But consent only matters in about 1/3 of the places. You can pick annnny sex dungeon you want, step right up! From local perverts and high control religions... to cartels, juntas, drug kingdoms, mob controlled new and old world cities, eastern block countries where drunken battery is the norm. The entire middle of Africa where hundreds of girls get stolen by CHILD soldiers for warlord harems, which really i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/25 03:39 AM
-2	Women here give wildly contradictory answers depending on who they want to defeat in a argument It's almost like you can't group half the population into having identical beliefs simply because of an arbitrary physical detail like gender.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/25 03:30 PM
2	Ladies, do you watch porn? And if so, what kind of porn do you watch and where do you find it? None of the ladies here are going to give you free spank bank fodder. Nice try. You are telling on yourself, and possibly the men of the pilled community; YOUR biggest fantasy is being manly and important, that having the body of your dreams would make you feel confident and acceptable. And, sadly(?) ... it's important for YOU to have a partner that is small, less than, meek, and subjugated... IN ORDER for you to feel impressive. Wow. Maybe you aren't okay buddy? Because that actually NOT the mo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/25 04:54 PM
4	Ladies, do you watch porn? And if so, what kind of porn do you watch and where do you find it? FYI, There is a callout phrase for this; "Bonk, you go straight to horny jail" or just "Bonk"	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/25 04:42 PM
13	Alimony laws force men to provide after the relationship ends. Men seek sex and affection. No laws force women to uphold that role in or outside of the relationship. Remember that youth that so many people claim is the only value? Thats what he bought.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/05/25 12:37 AM
2	The Market Value metaphor breaks down because products you buy don’t choose you back. It does via the price require to access, at least in a free market. A lot of people have never had Good Champagne. It's not that they don't WANT to try it... it's the people selling it want a certain level of customer... so it's priced accordingly.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/25 03:09 AM
1	Women's advice to men here is to keep them guessing, single, guilt tripped until they're so old they'll get creepshamed anyway But OP's point was that isn't really an acceptable option.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/25 09:34 PM
0	Women's advice to men here is to keep them guessing, single, guilt tripped until they're so old they'll get creepshamed anyway You wanna explain the other option I'n not seeing? You can ask someone who is too good for you aka "shoot your shot" and probably still not get a GF. Like a lot of people apply for an Ivy League school, but most people don't get it. Nothing personal, it just has a lot of applicants. You can look for someone exactly on your level, who has also come to the "settling sweet spot", but that basically narrows the dating pool, lowering your odds of finding a GF. You can ask out your "safety school" opt…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/25 08:44 PM
4	Women's advice to men here is to keep them guessing, single, guilt tripped until they're so old they'll get creepshamed anyway But you get that there is no "club" right? Like it's just random individuals with no meaningful coordination. There isn't some magical committee reviewing applications... no one waiting for a secret handshake. Just individual single people who also want to meet someone (thats why they are in the dating pool at all). How exactly would your version work, like how are individuals going... "Nah he doesn't get it - no one tell him!"	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/25 08:22 PM
5	Women's advice to men here is to keep them guessing, single, guilt tripped until they're so old they'll get creepshamed anyway Ummm... that sounds stressful. Maybe don't do that. Have you ever thought of just temporarily dating someone that is slightly lower than your ideal... And you do all that self improvement stuff, while you are dating someone? If she matches pace, great! If not it's okay to part ways and aim higher? It's so weird to me when people treat a HYPOTHETICAL person as unobtainable and cruel. Like TODAY, you could go down to the gas station, and give a vaguely age appropriate person your number and offer …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/25 08:14 PM
1	Do you think it is creepy to join hobby groups or meetups with the intent to date? Not creepy. Going to a group to make friends is within scope. But you do need to be looking fir friends, not just to find a woman. Be a good member of the group. Just don't try to turn the hobby meetings INTO your dates. Also, don't "spray and pray" by hitting on each available person. Go to several sessions. Get to know people. Make some actual friendships. See who you click with, and if they click with you. Ask if they would ever want to get a coffee 1:1... go from there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/04/25 03:10 PM
1	How would you react if you found out your husband had a son/daughter from a previous woman that he was unaware of If they knew about the kid and said nothing, thats a breech of trust. At very least I would wonder why they see their kid so little they thought they could hide it. If they didn't know about the kid, and just became informed, I'd generally be supportive. It's not the child's fault they are in a weird situation. So never hold it against the kid. I would do my best to welcome them into our lives as much as reasonable. My personal philosophy is that people are not disposable & being a child is a te…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/12/24 07:05 PM
1	Why does the perception that "most men are physically unattractive or below average" exist among women? IMHO, women in America are socialized to be highly aware of their appearance. Bone structure, weight, personal style, and grooming choices are low key brought into every conversation starting by age 10... but it's background noise & subtle as fuck. You wake up & get to the breakfast table & people will tell you that you have messy hair / bed head. You see a friend for lunch, and she apologizes that she didn't put on makeup because she just came from the gym. You aren't feeling like an outing on …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/24 05:23 AM
5	What according to you is the real issue why so many men can't get dates/sex in this modern era Ima say real life isolation, it's fully possible for a single man, who works at home, to only have incidental contact with women, and only while the woman is at work. People just aren't in contact with dozens of potential life partners on a monthly basis. Women have retreated to a default of "don't ask you don't know me." And it's (rightfully) socially unacceptable to hit on women that can't escape the conversation, such as at work, school/library, on transportation, in healthcare settings, or t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/24 09:33 PM
1	What do you think about the idea that women may put men into two groups- those who are “hookup/ONS” material and those who are “relationship/husband” material? Duh, there are categories. I'm just giving dudes a hint it's not the ones you think.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/11/24 04:52 AM
0	What do you think about the idea that women may put men into two groups- those who are “hookup/ONS” material and those who are “relationship/husband” material? Thats not really a thing in real life. It's not that most women put them in "fun zone or "more zone" - it's really much more that women sort THEMSELVES into "looking for fun" or "looking for love" at a particular time. It's not like "Abbbbbbs" and suddenly "fun zone" until you decide to find someone worth marrying. Mentally healthy women know any time you have sex with someone you are risking yourself and your future... so we can't afford to NOT to be somewhat choosy I get that is the fear guys …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/24 06:24 PM
1	Why is it fair for married men to go 50/50 on chores when their wives are SAHMs and the kids are in school? It's to equal out the work load, since not all hourly work is equal. In theory, if he had to hire a sex worker, it would be $200-500 an hour. But if she had to hire a maid, it would only be $20-50 an hour. If the couple was just living like roommates, with no sexual relationship, then probably resentment over working full time + half the chores would grow. A lot of people wouldn't say it out loud, but a dude in that situation would likely mutter "I do all this stuff, and she won't even touch my …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/24 06:28 PM
1	I need a trad husband I think you are joking here, but there are plenty of guys that would love a SAHD role. I can hear them now, tanning and taking cooking classes. Picking out a jogging stroller, dreaming of their wedding day; "Bring on the death by snu snu!"	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 03:53 AM
1	Why do women dress provocatively if they don't like most men? Welp, sounds like you got it allll figured out. Why bother asking, if you don't want an earnest answer?	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/24 04:38 PM
2	Why do women dress provocatively if they don't like most men? Provocative is in the eye of the beholder... some places it's common to sunbathe topless & other parts of the world women can't wear shorts. Personal comfort and body type are a weird crossroads. A underweight fashion model might look like a chic, elegant swan when they wear a deep plunge neckline cut down to the bottom of the ribs. I'm chubby with big boobs... so I would look like a stripper. Knee high winter boots & a long coat? High power executive in a cute fall outfit... or stripper afterwo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/24 04:11 AM
5	The sex you see in porn sets unrealistic expectations Don't forget drag-queen level makeup, just to go to bed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/10/24 06:23 PM
5	Why do men believe sex is degrading to women? Or they want it to be? Fellow lady here, you are wrong about "no women believe sex is degrading to women" Go over to Youtube and watch "Cults to Consciousness" - watch some of the episodes about the Mormons, Amish, ILP (Souther Baptist's) ... the purity culture is very over the top. Women are VERY much policing things as desperately slutty, for having the wrong color shoes or wearing shorts at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/09/24 08:55 PM
–	Ladies what are you doing if this man asks for your number 🌞😏 Bless you for pointing this out. You are doing good work here.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/24 03:44 AM
–	Ladies what are you doing if this man asks for your number 🌞😏 If he wanted to call, he would.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/24 03:43 AM
0	People who assume romantically unsuccessful men just need to "talk to women" more are naive Maybe zone is different from friend zone. Advanced are tolerated with earnest curiosity in the maybe zone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/24 03:35 AM
0	People who assume romantically unsuccessful men just need to "talk to women" more are naive I don't think people are assuming this. I think YOU assume other people assume this. Generally, the awkward dudes I know are more or less pulled together, groomed, good jobs, etc. They have a good 3-6 months in the maybe zone, then they fuck it up with something careless or gross. As a teen, one guy took himself out of the running because we had been sharing a snack and he handed me the empty ice cream container like there was still a bite left. He didn't offer me the last bite, that would have …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/24 05:23 PM
2	The "nice guy" trope is a defense mechanism which women deploy to divert attention from the fact that they are rejecting a guy based on a lack of physical attraction Nah, sometimes it's a bad personality fit. I have personally rejected a physically attractive guy who also had a good job, because he just seemed too "meh" about everything. Nothing got him excited or passionate... neither good or bad. His personality was very much like a "LITE FM" smooth jazz channel. Just kind of sweet, and relaxed, and beige. I am a person will no chill. I readily join excitement to a festive level. I will happily join anyone in their passionate dislike of ___ too. I'm passio…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/24 02:55 AM
–	Why do so many straight men seem to want anal sex with their women? Will you be in an LTR with a woman if she says she abhors the idea? But isn't it low key weak, pathetic, and immature to decide your own sex life around what your friends would think? Because that is just submitting to your friends?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/24 06:23 PM
–	Why do so many straight men seem to want anal sex with their women? Will you be in an LTR with a woman if she says she abhors the idea? Looks bad to WHO? Where is this mystery audience of people who care?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/24 04:55 PM
8	"No" man fails to get into a relationship because of his personality Don't mistake status for companionship. Guys at the top of a status ladder can often "buy" a social climber who tolerates them in exchange for status for themselves. That is not the same as bonded companionship. The difference, is the social climber would not be with ___ if they lose their power. Versus the bonded companion, would rally her resources, and carry him for a while. I know it's frustrating to you to assume all women are hoes that can be bought... but right now there are women in your…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/24 12:58 AM
27	Help Me Understand Where "Women aren't ENTITLED to a Relationship"; Wasn't the Problem That Women WEREN'T Seeking Relationships? Fussy people are gonna be fussy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/24 02:40 PM
2	Men need to normalize makeup and cosmetics to better compete like women do Male actors and musicians have been doing it for decades.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/24 11:00 PM
–	Does Having Sex With Prstittes Disqualify A Man From Giving Alpha Male Advice? This was hard to read, just use a euphemisms vs the weird spelling. And yes, I think the "Alpha" male power porn fantasy involve gorgeous women falling at your feet for free.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/24 10:58 PM
1	Women would finally understand why dating is unfair for many men if job hunting process was similar to men's modern dating experience Charming wit. Now I understand why you have to pay for it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/24 02:45 AM
0	Women would finally understand why dating is unfair for many men if job hunting process was similar to men's modern dating experience Lemmie know when your house gets burnt down with you inside.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/24 02:13 AM
0	Women would finally understand why dating is unfair for many men if job hunting process was similar to men's modern dating experience You couldn't guess from my comment?	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/24 12:59 AM
1	Women would finally understand why dating is unfair for many men if job hunting process was similar to men's modern dating experience So... here's the thing... Women know the "job application" process sucks. There just isn't a better option. Because from the "employer" side, a certain percent of "applicants" are not workers... but actors... Worse than that actually, more like a spy from another country that will literally burn your company to the ground AND rape your children. It's not a high percent, but enough men will date rape right away, OR marry you then unleash decades of violence, OR literally breed to you give themsel…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/24 12:02 AM
0	Most women don't even need to go through a "hoe phase" for the 80/20 dynamic to happen TBH, the FWB dynamic is not the hottest guy, it's a friendly, safe guy, who is also good at sex, and is available & grateful when sex is offered. It's the reliable Ford of fucking, not a lambo.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/24 12:45 PM
1	Women simultaneously dislike men approaching because they feel treated as "romantic prospects" instead of "regular people" yet dread the moment a male friend would suggests something more "Because they can't get turned on by someone they don't know" This is faulty, that is only demi-sexual people, a subset of asexual people. A better statement is "It's easy for strange men to spook me, and being afraid dries up the horny"	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 05:55 PM
5	There’s a reason why regular women do not want to date a man who has used the service of a lot of escorts, and no, it’s not just the possibility of STD TBH, As a woman. I wouldn't be worried that a guy is automatically a sadist, just because he uses escorts. Plenty of unmarried military guys or road-warrior salesmen use basic vanilla services. They are most likely to pay extra for the fantasy pf a relationship; kissing, cuddles, and a drink together in the bar first. My main concern with a guy that uses a lot of escorts is wondering WHY he wasn't able to secure a longterm sexual relationship that meets his needs. Escorts are expensive, why was …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/24 07:36 PM
2	Why do so many guys have a seething hatred for single moms? I do think media is to blame on this one. My Elderly Dad would periodically get wound up by the news... and repeat talking points about how man Black homes don't have fathers... and how damaging that is... blah blah blah. So I challenge him on it; "I'm divorced, because my ex husband was physically violent. I haven't remarried, is MY son hurting for a lack of father in the home, or was his father hurting both of us?" "World War II made a lot of Widows, it was so common that plenty of Brides had …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/24 02:59 PM
3	Divorce is Contagious I'm from California... LA is hellhole in a lot of ways, and relationships can be pretty transactional but as long as you can swallow the fact that a lot of relationships involve trading beauty for money, or are temporary breeding arrangements, it's not that different from a lot of other cities... once you get past the fact that large portions of it essentially belong to warlords.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/24 05:40 PM
3	Divorce is Contagious You are missing the example, in order to clumsily grab at a "win", without considering my actual point; Communities and marriages are not interchangeable. Sampling is it's own science, that exists for real reasons, which is obvious when you consider hyperbolic examples. This could easily be about a woman from a highly structured Hassidic Jewish Community in New York compared to a Software Engineer married to a business owner in Minneapolis. The example isn't about location, it's about the differ…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/24 04:24 PM
8	Divorce is Contagious Not really. Small communities can have really different values than other locations. Like a small town in Utah, with generations of Mormons... women may have been essentially put into arranged marriages as teen agers... then essentially forced to have a child ever 1-2 years because of the religious convictions of the area. They may literally believe that getting divorced means you can't see your own children in heaven... so they will do everything possible to tolerate an intolerable situation. T…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/24 04:03 PM
11	Divorce is Contagious This kind of study is kind of worthless, because it assumes ALL divorce is terrible, and should be avoided. When realistically, lots of divorces are because one party is slowly killing the soul of the other with Abuse, Substance Abuse, Infidelity, Dead bedroom, compulsive shopping, or hoarding etc. Does the study indicate if the married couples have biological children together or not? This type of study study needs cover the inverse too: "Do people who SHOULD get divorced, stay married, due to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/24 03:38 PM
1	For the tradcons/red pillers who think that the current Western ideologies is responsible for high divorce rates- why is that socially conservative Middle Eastern countries have high divorce rates too? I think it's crazy how everyone has jerks in their life... but then assumes every person who is married is magically is worth staying married to for life. C'mom now, you know some people are awful or change to awful. Why is the default belief that they become and stay WONDERFUL to be married to when you can't even have a civil dinner with them?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/24 06:28 PM
1	Women pursue fantasy archetypes not actual men: break the fantasy, goodbye relationship I hate to break it to you... you are probably still going to feel crappy come Monday. You can look then.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/24 04:32 AM
0	Women pursue fantasy archetypes not actual men: break the fantasy, goodbye relationship Wow. This sounds really lonely, and highly inaccurate. I'm sorry you don't feel known by your loved ones, but your experience is not the only way things can play out. Maybe you were just with narcissist who saw you as an accessory? That CAN happen, but that is only like 20 percent of people max. The other 80 percent are fully capable and expect to bond to a person, not an idea. Sadly, if you don't know how to spot toxic people, it will keep coming up. Go watch some Dr. Ramani on youtube, then co…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/24 03:06 AM
3	Why do men care if older single women are lonely? I think they feel it's wasteful... each bagine must be occupied.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/24 06:44 PM
1	Getting hobbies is useless advice for dating. I think people mean; don't make dating your only hobby	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/24 09:26 PM
1	Men who are sure their woman is loyal, wouldn't let their woman be hit on in a bar, by Chad, as an experiment. At very least she think you have potential... Unless she very clearly said FWB only and doesn't want to be publicly dating you... if it's FWB, she is basically using your body to masturbate. If she is good with dating in public and/or her friends/fam know whats going on... yeah, you are in the running. Try to not mess it up while you decide if she is a good match for you too. Some MEN assume women are always looking for someone hotter/better because they are looking for the best they can "achiev…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/24 12:00 AM
1	Men who are sure their woman is loyal, wouldn't let their woman be hit on in a bar, by Chad, as an experiment. Yeah. Studies have shown men are slightly risk blind compared to women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/24 10:45 PM
2	Men who are sure their woman is loyal, wouldn't let their woman be hit on in a bar, by Chad, as an experiment. Here is the thing tho, re: "possibility of cheating if the opportunity presents itself..." Attractive people ALWAYS have opportunity. I'm a chubby suburban Mom in her 40's. There is easily 10 people I could call for a booty call at any given time. A lack of options is NOT the core of fidelity. The root of fidelity is finding a person that meets your needs, and you connect with that person, and you stop entertaining other options. You trust yourself to buy a car, buy a house, pick a career, a vac…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/24 10:41 PM
1	Men who are sure their woman is loyal, wouldn't let their woman be hit on in a bar, by Chad, as an experiment. Are you completely inexperienced with how human bonding works? Switching cost is a thing. Elon musk could literally show up with a contract for me to be his next baby-mama... I wouldn't want to leave my current partner. The reality of letting go of something GOOD, to join something questionable will make most people stay put. A model gorgeous guy is not guaranteed to be faithful. A billionaire is not guaranteed to be kind. Neither are guaranteed to be good lovers or smart. Plenty of guys will bo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/24 08:11 PM
1	How do the logistics of a "100/0" relationship even work? What value would the non-working partner bring to the relationship? Pop out a baby. I'll wait.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/24 01:52 AM
2	Women are championed for their preferences while men are demonized I don't think I've seen this play out in real life. I think you might be getting tripped up on online echo chambers. Take an example that isn't about dating; I have a friend who got a corgi dog last year. The friend wanted a corgi, because they had one before. The dog size, personality, and look... delights my friend. Can you tell if the my friend is a man or woman? What do you think of a different friend who wants a dog for companionship, but can't afford to pay any adoption fee, and they will …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/24 03:25 PM
–	Why is there this obsession in the manosphere with wanting to ‘replace women’? They are ashamed of their desire to be loved, as they fear it's a weakness. They see women as humiliating gatekeepers, in a game they can't win... So they are taking their ball and going home.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/05/24 12:30 AM
0	A lot of people on this sub have no conception of how attraction works and I think that’s actively hurting them I think there is a chronic lack of insight, people literally unable or unwilling to exercise empathy and discernment. So men, get offended when women don't pick men they way men THINK they should; "Good looking, has a good job, I'm a nice guy... why won't any of these females let me pick them up in my car?!" They don't actually LIKE women if they don't get how unsafe we feel in the world. And how weird it is to literally grade people like show animals, and how much guys treat a relationship like…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/24 03:02 PM
3	What is your opinion on people making claims such as “I’m in my 30s and I get mistaken for a teenager all the time”? TBH, I think 30 Rock Jack Donaghey (sp?) has a point; "rich 60 is poor 40" If you compare yourself at 30 to teens with hard miles, it's easy to come out favorable; Some teens have already been smoking for years by age 16, they get into physical violence with family and romantic partners, they live in a food dessert so they only eat processed food from the convenience store, they walk everywhere so they have 10 years of serious sun damage already, they maybe have a couple of kids, live in a blend…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/24 09:56 PM
1	"They can smell your desperation" is just proof that women attribute good personality to attractive people. Attractive applies to more than just face/body. People can have an attractive personality or an off-putting one. An otherwise date-able guy can take himself out of the running, by a bad personality causing him to strike out enough, that he becomes desperate. So "Desperate" often FEEL like there are hidden (personality) land mines.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/24 03:59 AM
2	Case study: A top 10% man who has it all. Why aren’t women interested in him? This has a troubling lack of personality mentions. So far we have a body & a job... is there a person in there?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/05/24 11:44 PM
2	The Big Difference of Aging between Men vs Women is... Tell me you don't have kids, without telling me you don't have kids. Grandparents are CRITICAL for raising grand babies, so the adults can get a break now & then. "Society" is not just single men/people. It includes families too. And families value the heck out of older women. Even the word "Grandma" usually evokes an image of unconditional love and home made goodies.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/04/24 01:31 PM
1	Why should women take advice from people who loathe them? Some people try to take back power by avoiding the predictable response. As though if they choose it, they will have first dibbs to make other choices within that role.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/24 10:12 PM
2	How significant of a factor is slut shaming in reducing the amount that women sleep around or pursue men on average (compared to other factors). In sex positive circle, people have more sex... So I'ma say it's significant. Like Rennisaince faires are going to have a lot less slut shaming that bible college. If you were looking to "get did" as a woman, either is a workable pool. As a guy? Go to the faire.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/24 10:11 AM
11	Is a One Night Stand the truest form of a woman showing Burning Sexual Desire? You are missing part of the premise; "...so women don't pursue sex or physical pleasure FROM STRANGERS..." One night stands are notoriously low pleasure for women. 99% guy is guaranteed to get off if they aren't too drunk or feeling shy. Women, it's like a 25% chance. One night stands, 50/50 odds the guy cares about getting the girl off AT ALL. Then of the half that cares, that cuts in half again is he is ABLE to LISTEN, but ego or incompetence is highly likely to show up... and taco blocko	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/24 05:44 PM
2	Is a One Night Stand the truest form of a woman showing Burning Sexual Desire? Nah, women will have sex for all kinda of reasons... Including revenge, or validation, or wanting a nice date night out because it's been a while, or wanting a cuddle buddy, or feeling competitive because a friend is getting some, or you are just curious to see if a guy has long term potential (but he doesn't) One night stands might be the worst indicator of female spontaneous desire. If I had to guess, dating the same guy for 6+ months... even if he is not a suitable marriage prospect is a bett…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/24 05:38 PM
1	women seriously dating men to whom they arent attracted? where? I'm pretty sure Boston outside of academics is pretty heavily Catholic, poke your head into those circles.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/24 07:22 PM
1	Differences between casual and married sex Sex gets better the more you have sex with the same person. The most awkward time you have sex with a specific person is the first time you have sex with them. I literally just said this on another comment last week; Sex is a physical skill that involves teamwork. You would not expect a band to be amazing if it's their very first time playing together.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/24 07:01 PM
1	women seriously dating men to whom they arent attracted? where? Religious people are often touchy about blaming religion for social issues. I'm religious myself, and have friends who were raised Catholic, so I don't want to step on any toes. But in my experience, creeds with a strong purity culture like Catholics, Southern Baptists, or Mormons are much more likely to get into and stay in sexless marriages. Basically any group that starts with the assumption that it's a moral failing to have sex before marriage is MUCH more likely to have marriages where sex …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/24 06:48 PM
2	women seriously dating men to whom they arent attracted? where? Listening to some of those stories... yeah. It legit sounds like some of those spouses only have sex to get pregnant. It's low key the same story again and again. "Sex was amazing the first 6 months... not as much as they wanted, but good when they had it... Then it totally stopped after the marriage... then started up once a month while they were trying to get pregnant... they stops immediately after pregnancy, and for years in between. Now it's been 20 years since they've had sex" Clearly ther…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/24 04:03 PM
1	women seriously dating men to whom they arent attracted? where? I feel like you might wanna go check r/deadbedrooms	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/24 03:45 PM
–	If girls liked or wanted sex as much as guys, most guys wouldn’t struggle to get laid "If women liked to drive vehicles... no vehicle would be undriven" See how silly that sounds?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/24 04:14 PM
–	Doesn't being "on guard" with all men just drive away good men and leave only predators? Uh oh... you're in the wrong quadrant... abort mission! Eject!	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/24 02:39 AM
17	Doesn't being "on guard" with all men just drive away good men and leave only predators? Seeing women on edge is like seeing a toupee... you only notice ones that are bad at hiding it. There is a world of difference between "I would NEVER get in a car with a strange man!!!" Versus: "Oh, I'll just drive myself, I'm coming from work" Even though both of those statements are about not being driven into the woods to get murdered. Same thing with "Sorry, I gotta check in with my cousin, she's flying in tomorrow" versus "I gotta text my safety buddy or she will call the cops" Or "I'm low …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/24 03:05 PM
–	Do you think the average straight woman feels this way about guys? So, average woman? No. Sounds like you may be on the asexual spectrum. Wander over to r/asexual and see if any of that sounds familiar. Most average healthy heterosexual woman have some interest in sex, provided they feel safe & understood. For half of women it's a primary driver to get into a romantic relationship, otherwise they would just have roomates to share lifes logistics. Typical adults in their 30's seek sex 1-2 times a week. Some people it's once a month, some it's daily. But if a sex…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/24 03:00 AM
5	Women punching too high in dating Uh... sometimes the person just isn't into your type.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/24 06:21 PM
11	Why do majority of women say they want their man to be a confident leader, yet most women today are reluctant to be obedient/submissive? Because they don't want just any random guy to pretend to be dominant. They want someone who is actually good at stuff, and rose to a level of power through good decision. When someone is successful, considerate, and has good judgement... they naturally attract people who admire them. The guy never has to say "submit"... because his ideas and followthrough already just pulls people along for the ride because they like what they see. Aim for being admirable... thats closer to what we mean.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/24 01:08 AM
2	Men are having less sex, but women are somehow contracting more STDs Or condoms are just out of people's budget now	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/24 08:53 PM
–	Women dress provocatively for male attention Go look up sexy robes and dressing gowns.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/24 03:14 PM
–	Women dress provocatively for male attention People do sometimes dress sexy at home. You just don't see it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/24 03:08 PM
1	Why do you think Western Birth Rates are so low? people are scared the won't have enough security	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/24 02:19 PM
–	How would the relationships between men and women work if rape and sexual harassments were not crimes? You don't have to imagine very hard, it's literally like this in many parts of the world. For example, women and girls in parts of India having a hard time using bathrooms, as the walk over to the building brings a very real risk of sexual assault. Gangs of men rape women and girls that don't have a body guard. There is no legal recourse, and the woman's family may attack her for being a victim. Parts of the middle East are so bad, places like Afghanistan literally don't let women leave the hous…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/24 05:57 PM
8	Why don't we talk more about "female sexuality"? Where has it gone? A big problem is a lot of historical "science" in women's sexuality is written by dudes. Modern sexuality, doesn't attract all scientists as a field of study, because even other scientists assume you are a pervert if you do... Women in general have a strong incentive to hide their general interest in sex because it causes men to act creepy towards them. Just admitting you like sex has huge social and physical risk. Other major problems include fun facts like modern gynecology coming from an indu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/24 07:54 PM
–	Why do science says that married men live longer when marriages are stressful and full of hassles? Low key? Unmarried men don't have anyone forcing them to go to the doctor for chest pain or dizzy spells. Married men have someone twisting their arm to go to the emergency room when they have a heart attack. Single dudes, have a pepto bizmo and try to sleep off a stroke.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/24 11:09 PM
1	Do people really want marriage or just the photo ops of marriage? A lot of people are living like they are married, but skipping the expensive party... So there might be something there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/24 05:20 AM
–	Should society see more men enter into relationships with aunt - niece pairs? Step away from the internet homie, you've lost touch with real life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/24 04:22 AM
2	Do you believe in the idea of "just be her first?" It's not either/or	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/01/24 11:15 PM
8	Why are we glorifying doing normal adult things You'd be shocked how many people are failing to act grown	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/24 11:54 PM
0	Q4W: How would you react to having your “new” boyfriend being outed as a drug addict, after him hiding it from you? Yes. Actions have consequences. When you do something wrong, and people judge you for being wrong in that action... that is justice. Healthy people accept the consequences of their actions as just.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/24 11:43 PM
1	Q4W: How would you react to having your “new” boyfriend being outed as a drug addict, after him hiding it from you? Weak reply. Try harder.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/24 11:42 PM
4	Why is confidence such an aphrodisiac? It's socially referenced credibility. When someone has authentic confidence it's a sign that other people generally react well to them... It's an indirect hint they are generally socially acceptable, even when you can't see them interact with others. If you sit down for a coffee with someone, and they literally apologize every few sentences, you assume it's because someone in their life/history has treated them as though they are behaving so wrong, that those conflicts created a habit that they …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/24 11:22 PM
1	Q4W: How would you react to having your “new” boyfriend being outed as a drug addict, after him hiding it from you? Yeah, it doesn't seem like an honest question... OP's sounds like he is asking; "isn't it unfair/immoral for a specific person to judge me? When she should be grateful I'm so cool that I can hook her up? Shouldn't she feel bad for discarding me when I still want her? Please confirm my righteousness."	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/24 09:18 PM
3	Q4W: How would you react to having your “new” boyfriend being outed as a drug addict, after him hiding it from you? No body owes you a chance.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/24 08:24 PM
0	Q4W: How would you react to having your “new” boyfriend being outed as a drug addict, after him hiding it from you? Good catch. This Question definitely has a stink on it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/24 08:22 PM
1	Q4W: How would you react to having your “new” boyfriend being outed as a drug addict, after him hiding it from you? Pity. Like he is already dead. What a waste.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/24 08:22 PM
0	Is it wrong for an inexperienced older man to prefer younger women due to them also being inexperienced? Tbh, that is the assumption I make when I see an age gap relationship and the guy isn't overtly successful. I low key think; how bad is that guy at sex that he can't risk dating someone his own age. Not so much a 50 year old dating a 40 year old... But definitely when a 30 year old is dating a 20 year old.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/24 11:39 AM
5	"I don't want to do these things with you" and insecurity You know you are telling on yourself right? Love letters take maybe 15 minutes max vs the upkeep for a whole household is like 5 hours a week.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/24 09:14 PM
30	"I don't want to do these things with you" and insecurity Barely veiled	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/24 09:12 PM
4	"I don't want to do these things with you" and insecurity TBH - This reads like veiled sexual bullying. Notably; "Did things for others they won't do for you" And then trying to figure out if their "Why" is good enough for you to not insist. Be honest, you aren't talking about vacuuming the floors, or picking up the groceries. If someone doesn't want to do something with you, it literally does not matter why. Because YOU are not the arbiter of THEIR boundaries. Either you let it go, or find someone interested in those things. There is no righteous opti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/24 09:09 PM
1	Q4W: Why is there a "Fear of crime gender paradox"? They also are probably counting gang violence, where the primary motive is economic. Typically women aren't getting into gun fights about turf. Or starting physical fights over a third party (attacking a romantic rival).	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/24 06:47 AM
1	How do women actually go about guessing a man's wealth? Indirectly. High IQ and emotionally functional is your best bet. A guy who has worked some corporate jobs, is a better bet than a local band drummer. Wit combined with awareness of upper-middle class social graces is a better bet than someone who gives the waitstaff a TMI story. A guy who has stable friendships, no ex drama, no signs of substance abuse, is a better bet than a guy who keeps losing his construction jobs due to "his old boss being an asshole". Paradoxically, guys who DON'T have a f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/12/23 04:07 AM
4	“Women are hornier than men” Wanting sex with a suitable partner does not mean we want to be assaulted by digital flashers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/23 03:38 PM
2	Do you think it's fair to say that women can never get too much attention from a man they're interested in? NO. You can have too much contact with any person in your life! Everyone has a natural setting of how much solitude they want/need to stay content. FFS, having someone on your jock 24/7 is exhausting... even if you love them. Just fucking ASK the specific person how much staying in touch is right for them. Even if I travel with a loved one, to an amazing fun place, I still need a couple hours in the morning AND evening to myself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/23 05:45 PM
1	Is it possible to be attracted by personality alone ? There is a minimum, but I left that flexible, as I'm a curious cat.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/23 02:17 PM
0	Is it possible to be attracted by personality alone ? Yes, some people find different things attractive. Like there are plenty of below average looking guys in local bands, the talent makes them more attractive than the face. In my personal experience, there are a handful of things more important than model good looks... I personally am high IQ, I literally can't date people that aren't very bright... if I'm "punching down" too much on IQ it feels like I'm doing something wrong, like taking advantage of the gap. Like he isn't a real adult somehow. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/23 03:36 PM
4	Affordable paternity tests should be a mandatory part of the birthing process CMV You can just get them from the drug store	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/23 12:39 AM
3	Women possess no empathy for men and should stop lying about it. What are you talking about... in real life, real people don't live in this tiny sliver of a laboratory. Yes, online dating is weird. Academic spaces have gotten increasingly weird. But if I see a guy friend go through a bad divorce and they are lonely because they can't see their kids for Christmas day, etc. ...OF COURSE I have empathy. Literally half the people on the planet are men; half my coworkers, half my neighbors, half the service providers. How did you come to believe that every single …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/23 10:15 PM
2	"Never compare yourself to her ex" but she definitely will From my personal perspective, women just do not sort guys by which sex acts they would tolerate from a which guy. It's really one of those situations where people wrongly assume the situation is symetrical when it's not. Like Homer getting Marge a bowling ball as a gift because HE likes bowling. Guys might have a whole analysis grid of what they want to do to who... from "yeah, I'd kill a guy to bone her if she was into it" all the way down to, "I could probably stay hard to fuck this literal cl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/11/23 11:08 AM
33	"Never compare yourself to her ex" but she definitely will Yeah, this just feels like OP is telling on themselves.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/23 01:55 PM
–	Women are 100% repelled by genuinely kind men and respond positively to being mistreated Dysfunctional people do not think well of themselves, so they FEEL that people who like them are either; Stupid. Trying to trick them. Try dating people who LIKE themselves, they believe they deserve nice treatment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/11/23 06:40 PM
1	Are women jealous of guys dating younger women, or are they perhaps legitimately concerned for the women? Having been a young woman at one point... I'm 100% worried for the younger person. When there is a big gap in life experience, and you are like 20... it's fairly easy for the more experienced person to exploit the younger person. The older person can get away with treating the young person like a free escort, for the low, low price of belittling her or convincing her that she is unlovable unless ___. If she wants to be a sugar babee or an escort, no shame in the game... but the dude better bring…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/23 09:22 PM
2	If you've ever called a man an incel, you can't really claim there's nothing wrong with being a male virgin The internet has you covered, it's weird out there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/23 01:39 AM
2	If you've ever called a man an incel, you can't really claim there's nothing wrong with being a male virgin IMHO, virgin an incel are really different things. If someone hasn't had sex because of their value system or family culture... that doesn't automatically mean they are dangerously resentful... because they have voluntarily changed their own behavior. Like not every person on a diet is angry about it. Sometimes it's just a diabetic trying to make choices for their best future. Involuntarily celibate people have some other stuff going on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/23 11:43 PM
3	What are the most common reasons women get divorced? Either Partner lives like a child, refusing to carry their own weight...Or intractable Money problems, Or Emotional/Physical abuse.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/23 01:23 AM
1	Besides physical unattractiveness what are the most unattractive qualities in a man? Blame other people for everything	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/23 04:04 AM
-1	Women just expect men to pay, even on bad dates. Is this reasonable? Yes. Like on a date.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/23 03:07 AM
1	Women just expect men to pay, even on bad dates. Is this reasonable? Yeah... bout that... bad date for women is actually a two parter; "Used an old picture, & lied about social status" OR "Bullied me into riding in his car, drove me into the woods, and tried to kill me so he could own my corpse" Sure, it's only 1/60 chances... but the weight of being "wrong" about a guy is pretty high. This guy miiiiight just be insisting on picking me up so he can show off is car... versus, he needs me in the car to transport me to my future gravesite.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/10/23 09:47 PM
2	Do you think people are naturally attracted to people that look like them? I read a social psychology study a while back about recognizing faces... Essentially the paper confirmed that basically everyone was faster at recognizing individuals and reading emotions on their own "race". The whole "Do We look alike to you" trope may actually be backed up by science. Around that same time I started trying to put some effort into noticing features beyond skin color, gender, hair-color, height, etc. Basically, when I meet people I pretend that I'm also going to meet their sibl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/23 01:25 PM
–	I believe men struggle so much in dating because they no longer bring anything to the table. Oh wow, yeah... I don't think this is right.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/23 03:59 AM
3	What Men Think of as a Nice Guy/Asshole is Very Different From Women I think you may be onto something. I think that the general mano-sphere that is having problems with women, probably does stem from some confusion around the meaning of the word "nice" I suspect the guys having trouble are stuck on the idea that getting a woman is basically a game that should have straightforward & consistent rules. That if you do the "right" behaviors in the "right" order... eventually you will have enough points that you level up into a special restricted access zone. For thos…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/23 04:55 PM
3	What would be the motivation some women have of trying to turn peoples sexuality? This isn't a thing in real life. Maybe this makes for awkward comedy and hijinx in a movie, but that's it. I would also suspect this type of story line if written or produced by a man as kind of a writer self-service; The writer is indulging in the fantasy of a sexually aggressive woman on the hunt to tame an unconventional and difficult prey... Generally, that kind of chase and win dynamic isn't something most heterosexual women activate on. Even a very pro-sex and progressive woman that is see…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/23 04:27 PM
29	Q4W: If women are afraid of getting attacked on dates, why not go for smaller guys so you have the physical advantage? I'm a thicc suburban Mom. Strong for a non-athlete woman. My son started legitimately winning arm wrestling around age 10. The strength difference between an average woman and an average man would be like the difference between a man and a black bear. I have gone on dates with guys that were physically disadvantaged (wheel chair etc) - so no shame in the game there. But the numbers are just stacked so most guys are just stronger than most women. But after dating around a bit, it becomes REALLY c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/10/23 02:49 PM
4	Do women use the adjectives "creepy" "weirdo" "stalker" etc., as synonymous of "unattractive"? No. Creepy is not synonymous with ugly. It usually means the guy does behavior that makes me feel like I'm a PREY ANIMAL and I am being hunted. That includes things such as waiting or watching for me in unexpected circumstance; coming to your workplace several times watching you intently from a distance waiting outside the bathroom to talk to you waiting until everyone else has left to approach cornering you in a room or cubicle following you out to your car Driving past your house Asking others…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/23 06:41 PM
3	Are straight women really qualified to give advice on how to date straight women? I think they can tell a guy what not to do, or explain subtext. More like copy editing, versus writing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/10/23 02:23 AM
–	Men also care about height Move to Minneapolis, very tall population	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/10/23 12:45 AM
2	Women are happier "single" because they're aren't really single at all and... #4 people who are private and just don't feel like they are obligated to titillate others with an explanation about their sex life. "If I'm not boning you, how is it your business?"	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/09/23 10:14 PM
-2	Why do you personally think some men get so much access to sex, while other men do not? Some men like women as people & it shows. Provided the guy is good enough looking, Personality counts a lot. Being jealous of other men "winning" access to women like a prize? Just isn't an attractive quality. It's off putting. There is a difference between desire and appreciation. Desire is focused on what you want to extract from a person. Cherishing someone is seeing them as a person, and appreciating and celebrating them. Guys that get a lot of nice-nice? It's usually because their attention…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/09/23 11:30 PM
2	Lack of biology and evolution knowledge Well, and the fact that human sperm have attack & defense moves for fighting other human sperm in the female genitals is a hint that MANY female ancestors had more than one sexual partner at a time. "It's just biology"	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/23 02:53 PM
4	Bumble convo tell me if you think I did something wrong Looks like you thought you wouldn't have to try, because you thought you shouldn't have to... So you didn't try at all, and then it fizzled. What were you expecting? You thought deigning to bone someone below your standards would be easy, so you insulted her with your laziness. If your goal is to get laid, try taking the person seriously, or pick a different person.	/r/seduction	20/08/22 01:43 PM
1	Anyone else feel resentful of how they were brought up to view sex? I'm sorry that happened to you, you deserved to have safe & helpful parents. It's totally understandable that it impacted you negatively. I hope you are able to find your way to a good spot eventually.	/r/seduction	21/02/22 04:32 AM
1	Anyone else feel resentful of how they were brought up to view sex? Not trying to stress you out, but what your Dad did is 100% a type of sexual abuse.	/r/seduction	21/02/22 04:21 AM
8	Was I being shit tested? Okay, so she knew it was a romantic date. Thats clear now. But showing up 30 mins late to a date is objectively flaky. Even if you apologize profusely. Even if this is something you literally never do... I'm not saying you are a flake or flaky person generally. But to that one person, you have flaked 1x. She doesn't know you well enough to know how often you do/don't show up late, so to her... you over-sleeping was flaky. She probably thinks canceling last min wasn't a big deal to you... because…	/r/seduction	23/11/21 01:26 PM
17	Was I being shit tested? Oh that changes things ALOT. She didn't know this was a romantic date, AND you set the tone too casual by flaking first...	/r/seduction	23/11/21 03:24 AM
11	Was I being shit tested? An hour before the date? Red flag... no matter the excuse. In my universe this is really close to a no-show... most people have arranged their whole day around having a date, she doesn't value your time. Especially for dog-sitting? More likely she double booked the evening, and you were the back up option. Someone who didn't want to look like a flake would give you a heads up she could only meet for coffee, crate the dog, shower, & show up.	/r/seduction	23/11/21 03:20 AM
1	You need to know how to read non verbal communication to seduce He scared here at the very beginning, and then double and triple downed. I'm female, a stranger guy "following me to the parking lot" without us intentionally walking together automatically feels like predation. It can be hard for guys to imagine, but imagine if every-time you talked to the opposite sex if they were as tall and strong as a grizzly bear. Now imagine, you have already been attacked by one sometime in your life... and the bad ones and good ones look identical on the outside. Woman …	/r/seduction	09/08/21 01:09 PM
7	Good catches are generally not available. Yeah, this. It might help to start with warmth, openness, and curiosity... definitely have higher standards for progressing to close relationships. In my experience, being a generally warm person makes everyone feel more comfortable shooting-their-shot with you. From there you can get the pick of the litter. If it's a numbers game, casting a wide net is helpful in the early stages. You don't have to "settle" for a bad fit life partner, but if it's just coffee... get out there and live a little.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/21 02:07 PM
5	Why is lesbian prostitution almost non-existent, yet gay prostitution is thriving? Female prostitutes do serve female clients. The demand is just less.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/21 12:36 AM
2	Why is circumcision not considered genital mutilation? The tissue removed does not inhibit normal sexual function. Male circumcision is used as an outward sign of cultural belonging, like a tattoo. Mutilation is "serious" harm by definition. Male circumcision is minor or nominal harm. If they removed the entire penis that would be "serious harm" and is more similar to female genital mutilation. FGM is meant as a chastity device by attempting to remove the pleasure motive for sex. A more common male equivalent would be castration by removing the abil…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/20 04:49 PM
1	Q4all: why do you think Women move on faster from breakups than Men? Interesting, I had never thought of this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/20 02:36 AM
1	What are some dealbreakers you’ve acquired with life experience? Don't the scientologist have cruises too? Either case isn't great 😬	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/20 12:48 AM
1	What are some dealbreakers you’ve acquired with life experience? Agreed. If they aren't nice to powerless people, they aren't a nice person.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/20 12:44 AM
3	What are some dealbreakers you’ve acquired with life experience? I have to admit, I have total schadenfreude for this with my ex. His live-in GF can't stand flavor at all 😂	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/20 12:32 AM
6	What are some dealbreakers you’ve acquired with life experience? After 7 years in tech startups, and so. much. networking... I can confidently say the smartest, most powerful, or richest person in the room/ conversation always approach new people with humble curiosity until everyone has had a chance to show who they are. If anyone starts dominating an introduction with bragging, namedropping, talking about their income, investments, wealth, early employee number, brand name mentee etc...they are usually a talentless poser. Maybe they have been nearby somethin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/20 12:27 AM
26	Q4all: why do you think Women move on faster from breakups than Men? It's probably simpler than that... maybe women stay "too long" so by the time there is a breakup they are "over it" And/Or, they have a more supportive network. Friends are in the loop earlier, ask for updates, & preplan availability to help their friend limp through the change.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/09/20 07:21 PM
2	Why shouldn't we objectify people who dress sexily/skimpily? Art is still art even without an adoring audience. If you want the populace to appreciate it... stick to something popular. If you want to express yourself, then please yourself first. Others will follow or won't 🤷‍♀️	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/09/20 08:53 PM
1	Why shouldn't we objectify people who dress sexily/skimpily? Awww thanks, I try 😃	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/09/20 12:25 AM
4	Why shouldn't we objectify people who dress sexily/skimpily? Then you aren't behaving like the OP comment specifies right? "I wanna raid your tomb" goes in the creepy bucket, "Hi you look great today" not in the same category.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/20 10:24 PM
7	Why shouldn't we objectify people who dress sexily/skimpily? Strip clubs absolutely have rules of consent... thats what the bouncers are for, they take that stuff WAAAY more seriously than a regular bar/club.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/20 10:15 PM
2	Why shouldn't we objectify people who dress sexily/skimpily? Fair points, I can pile on... I do know several cishet guy friends that have experienced unwanted sexual attention in the workplace etc	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/20 10:12 PM
7	Why shouldn't we objectify people who dress sexily/skimpily? I'm confused... when you are in a locker room, do you go change in a private stall? Seems like something wooshed past you, so I'll try again. Locker rooms have a etiquette where the polite thing to do is mind your own business, not be to interested in other people's nakedness, and don't force trying to obtain eye contact or start a conversation. That is the same thing a breastfeeding mother is expecting. Also, point of order... some mens costumes are glorified underwear too, Rocky Horror is a go…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/20 10:08 PM
5	Why shouldn't we objectify people who dress sexily/skimpily? Maybe just ask if she is available & interested instead of just saying "me want hump u"	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/20 09:50 PM
10	Why shouldn't we objectify people who dress sexily/skimpily? I hear you, but the imbalance is in the numbers. For you it's "shooting your shot", but from her side? It's a literal gauntlet of random mating dances... when maybe all she wants to do is make it across the room for the bathroom or to see her old friends.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/20 09:38 PM
15	Why shouldn't we objectify people who dress sexily/skimpily? For sure, you can use your body as the stage for a creative work... that is literally the point of cosplay.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/20 05:56 PM
9	Why shouldn't we objectify people who dress sexily/skimpily? Some people need implicit rules spelled put explicitly (lol) It's something. 🤷‍♀️	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/20 05:55 PM
266	Why shouldn't we objectify people who dress sexily/skimpily? It's mostly about BEHAVIOR not thoughts. You can think whatever you want inside your own head... just don't approach unless invited to. There is a broad matrix of sexy attire, vs context. A woman with uncovered breasts at strip club is implicitly hoping you will notice, and pay for attention. A woman with her breast out to feed her child, wants the same type of privacy you expect from others in a locker room. A woman with bare breasts on a topless beach, may be doing either. Plus, people wearing…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/20 03:12 PM
0	Why Do Dudes Who Hate Insta-Models Follow Insta-Models? Because they are delusional about WHY the models are on instagram.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/20 02:54 PM
1	How to gain a girl’s interest on a date? While you are talking, see if you can get a feel for past experience, or what lights her up. Don't interrogate... just see if there is a natural time you can work it into the conversation. When was her first kiss? Has there ever been someone she liked but they waited to long to make a move? What does she the best parts of a relationship are? When does she feel most beautiful? What does she wish more people appreciated in life?	/r/seduction	26/08/20 05:20 PM
25	CMV: Men are far more into casual sex than females as noted by casual sexual outlet ratios with far more men than females Are going off on your own tangent. My premise is that women may have a different attitude towards casual sex due to safety. WHEN intimate violence murders do occurs, it is usually the woman that is the one killed. If you have a different premise, thats fine. You are just failing to really get what Im talking about.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/20 03:04 AM
23	CMV: Men are far more into casual sex than females as noted by casual sexual outlet ratios with far more men than females 38-40% of female homicides are from an intimate partner, 7% of male homicides are from an intimate partner. https://www.npr.org/sections/thetwo-way/2017/07/21/538518569/cdc-half-of-all-female-murder-victims-are-killed-by-intimate-partners	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/20 02:53 AM
41	CMV: Men are far more into casual sex than females as noted by casual sexual outlet ratios with far more men than females A higher number of casual sex partners increases the odds that you will partner with someone dangerous. While men can be victimized, stalked, and harassed... overall women are physically more vulnerable and more likely to be killed by a man romantic partner by a wide margin. I think it's possible women that are in the mood for casual sex are more likely to reconnect with a previous lover or familiar acquaintance to mitigate the risk of being killed by an unpredictable & untested stranger.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/20 02:31 AM
1	Keeping boyfriends secret: why? I don't know your friend's story, but I can speak from my personal experience. I'm not trying to brag, because it's actually a bit of a hassle... I have an excessive amount of sexual charisma. It's not my looks, which are kind of average/ cute. (Pretty face, chubby/ bbw body). But there is some category of sexual chemistry that I got a double scoop. It's like stage presence or animal magnetism. Everyone around me sees a little vava voom anytime I'm not actively trying to keep it under wraps. Nic…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/20 03:44 AM
1	"Red Pillers" still get approach anxiety. Do you think they are still abuse oriented psychos? Psychopath is a pretty specific thing. I think it's unlikely all red-pillers classify. So I think there is some faulty logic here... It's like saying since some rare people don't feel physical pain... and football is a painful sport... then most elite football players must not feel pain. Psychological discomfort exists for a reason. Just like the pain of touching a hot stove trains you not to injure yourself... social pain trains you to be careful with how you treat other people. Think of dating…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/20 03:05 PM
1	How has seeing a man cry affected your opinion of him? No. Crying is a normal human reflex. It's like asking if you saw a man hiccup, would that change your opinion of him. 🤷‍♀️	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/20 02:53 PM
1	What would happen if prostitution becomes legalize/unstigmatize and men started frequenting brothels, would it change the dating and marriage market? Probably not that much. People that use prostitutes as a solution for dead-bedroom, will use them regardless of the legality. Most single people don't just want sex, they want a relationship/partnership. Yes, starving people will buy sex to solve a short term discomfort, but it's just not a practical long term solution. It's like making a bartender your best friend, it will do in a pinch.... but it's expensive and hollow in the long run. Sugar-babies are a half-way point, a theoretically monogam…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/20 02:46 PM
2	Why is so much of history just trying to control the populations sexuality? Why do people care about the sex/degeneracy of other adults? Because control is tied to power. And sexuality is one of those core drives, so it's one of those big levers. The power multipliers are that sec can easily also be tied to childbearing, economics (mouths to feed vs greed), sexually transmitted diseases (disgust), and loyalty (fidelity). If you want to control a whole population's perceptions of money, loyalty, childhood homes, and what things are called disgusting... sex is an efficient control point. They do it because its efficient.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/20 02:08 PM
1	Have you ever experienced Sudden Repulsion Syndrome? I'm going to guess some drive is overwriting their standards?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/20 02:01 PM
1	Do attractive men really have no interest in LTR? I think attractiveness and interest in commitment are independently assorted variable, its just that less attractive men have less OPTION to keep shopping. Once a less attractive man finds a winner they should hang on because another good one might not be available.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/20 01:52 PM
1	Women have baby fever. Myth or reality? In my experience, women are socialized to fear getting pregnant "too soon" because it hurts her chances of an upwardly mobile family. The women that I know with a strong urge for kids are kind of systematic about it from who they choose to date, to timelines, to nesting etc. But in my experience, women are much more mindful of the health and discomfort risks of pregnancy, the exhaustion of having a new baby, and the toll it takes on her career. Men can be supportive, a coach, a financier and fan…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/20 01:39 PM
2	Why don't high value men marry virginal women? Outsider here: Because low body count is used as a quantifiable measure of sexual purity, and that is supposed to be a proxy for high standards and morals. 18 year old virgins are fairly common because they have not had very many years of life experience where sexual activity is possible. The first few years after puberty they still don't have a great understanding of their own equipment and processes. It's like being a new driver, until you've had some time on the road it's natural to be timid.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/20 01:21 PM