JakobCbol Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
19	She misstated her income in the separation agreement. What to do?		JakobCbol	/r/Divorce_Men	10/04/24 05:19 AM
16	Did you find a happy marriage?		JakobCbol	/r/Divorce_Men	15/05/24 08:03 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Dating Age Range I’m 37, got divorced last year and just starting to date again. I have it set to 20-29 and don’t care if you judge me. The 20 year olds just want to learn. They’re great and a lot of fun. The 25-29 year olds are potential partners. Being in the best shape of my life and a good looking guy helps here.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/05/25 06:01 PM
1	Rick Pitino halftime speech Amen. Had watched this video a dozen times today.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/02/25 12:37 AM
6	Jobless and soon to be divorced Just one of those (divorce/firing) can send someone into depression. Both at the same time? It’s highly likely. Be ready for it. My advice is to get out and exercise - 4 times a week for 4 weeks. Make it happen. Don’t give yourself excuses, just get out there.	/r/Divorce_Men	24/09/24 12:00 AM
5	Financial ruin (divorce) vs. Wasted life (stay) About your age - I’m 37….I got hit pretty hard in my divorce, had to pay like $40k and eat $20k in credit card debt… I worked two jobs, she refused to work more than 2 days/week, yet demanded we spend like I’m a nyc banker (I’m not). Paid her the $40k stipulated by the separation agreement. Will have the cc debt clear by January. You can always make more money…but you can’t get back wasted years…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/09/24 12:04 AM
2	How is it fair that your wife’s financial irresponsibility becomes your burden, but your financial responsibility becomes her entitlement? There’s no such thing as fair.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/09/24 12:00 AM
2	What are some if the red flags in the beginning of the relationship that you missed? Parents got divorced over some kind of nonsense on social media. I think it made her incredibly skeptical of men - always an assumption that I was up to something bad. She was afraid to let me ever be alone. I remember early when we dated, when I would stay at her place, she wouldn’t want me to walk down the street to go get coffee. In hindsight, there was just so much.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/08/24 02:02 PM
1	Don’t Give Up Not quite at the point you are, but I’m getting there…. Best shape I’ve been in since college (given my age, I’ll never get back to that anyway) Aalmost done making payments to her (just $2,500 to go) Successfully struck up a conversation with a beautiful girl at the bar last night (first time I tried to talk to a girl since we signed our papers). Still trying to figure out my professional life - decent job, but little upward mobility. I make a few extra bucks on the side, but this is the one pl…	/r/Divorce_Men	23/06/24 11:43 PM
2	Has anyone achieved greater career/financial success after divorcing? I’m* ugh, I hate when I make grammatical mistakes	/r/Divorce_Men	12/06/24 06:18 PM
6	Has anyone achieved greater career/financial success after divorcing? I got chopped in half and then some by a spouse who barely worked. Still digging out of it, but in time I’m confident that I’ll have better financial success on my own. I using my newfound free time to develop a business I can run outside of my day job, get myself into incredible shape, and read as much as possible. Stay positive bro, you can do this.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/06/24 06:17 PM
4	Is this fair? There’s no such thing as fair. I learned that in my marriage and divorce. Learning this has been… liberating	/r/Divorce_Men	07/06/24 05:25 PM
4	It WILL get better gentleman. I was where you are now… This gives me hope man. Thank you for posting this. We separated a few months ago, I have good days and bad days. But this week has been full of bad ones. Been crying on and off all day. Reading stories like yours gives me hope there’s a better tomorrow. Thank you.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/06/24 07:33 PM
1	Songs that help you get through “Losing Side of 25” by American Aquarium is the top of my Spotify right now.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/06/24 08:15 PM
1	overcoming depression without medication Congrats on your fitness progression! I have 2 pieces of advice… set a fitness goal (a race, a weightlifting competition, an adult rec league), working out for fitness is great, but we men still need the competitive outlet. The other thing I suggest, which worked overnight for me, is trying psychedelic mushrooms. The studies on soldiers recovering from ptsd almost immediately prove their worth.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/05/24 03:18 PM
1	Is it OK to tell my soon to be ex wife that I want to take as much as I can from her in our divorce? Go for what you’re entitled to have. I promise that if you were the one with the bucks, she would do the same.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/04/24 11:44 PM
2	Wife threatening to quit her job. Yes. File asap. Can’t reiterate how important this is.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/04/24 04:03 AM
5	If she wants to take half of his hard earned income, what’s his motivation not to let it all burn in attorney fees? Asking for a friend. Bro, that’s incredibly well done.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/04/24 04:49 AM
2	She misstated her income in the separation agreement. What to do? Yes, I don’t want to go trial. And you’re right, a manhattan judge would probably have me paying for her lawyer I got her down to $27.5k + my credit card miles (worth $1,800) and paying the transfer fee ($350). I’m barely coming out ahead. But I’d rather give cc miles than cash. I’m still pretty angry, but I’m taking the W.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/04/24 11:56 PM
1	She misstated her income in the separation agreement. What to do? Only married two years. No kids. No house. The $30k is a buyout for everything, including my pension. Per the mediator, she’s probably getting more than at trial. My finances deteriorated in this marriage, for two years she hardly worked and left me to pay for our outrageous rent, every social activity/vacation and all our groceries. It looks like she’s going to move down to 27.5k, which is still a lot to swallow, but it will be the best money I ever spend. I can’t wait to put myself on strong f…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/04/24 11:29 PM
6	She misstated her income in the separation agreement. What to do? Last year I made $127k. This is why we’re getting divorced. Couldn’t get her to work	/r/Divorce_Men	10/04/24 02:03 PM
6	She misstated her income in the separation agreement. What to do? I think it’s more strategic advice, but I understand your point.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/04/24 05:36 AM
2	Divorced and nofap? I found it easier to stop drinking than to stop pornography. Stay strong - and remember you will always regret masturbating. First week or two is the hardest.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/24 01:57 PM
1	Pre trial conference tomorrow. Feeling pretty drained. I'd be grateful for some words of encouragement. Damn bro. My wife wouldn’t work for two years and I’m in the middle of getting out now (signing separation papers this week). Aside from the financial stress it put on me, I found it so unattractive. Just sitting at home, while I’m at work for 10 hours, watching garbage television and not leaving the apartment. Gross.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/24 05:18 AM
1	What bad habits did you pick up during separation and divorce your trying to quit Smoking too much weed, poor diet, no exercise. I’ve been in a tiny Airbnb in a really bad neighborhood for the last 6 weeks. Just moved into my new apartment yesterday, so I’m trying not to beat myself up too much. I ran almost 6 miles yesterday and bought some groceries to cook today. I think I’m moving in the right direction. I’m so glad i forced myself to go for that run. Still need to cut down on the weed though.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/04/24 10:17 PM
-1	I'm hurting Very sorry for your pain. I highly recommend trying psychedelic mushrooms a few times. They did wonders for me when I was dealing with divorce-related depression. Also, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve watched this speech. https://youtu.be/fwCcQfpeH4E?si=uAMm2lSO7JLrL2eD	/r/Divorce_Men	05/04/24 11:18 PM