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| 6 | Why did she become so EVIL?Bingo, excellent take. I touch on that here. There is book called The Stories We Tell Ourselves that talk about this pattern. Women tend to rank higher in neuroticism and there is nothing on our current culture telling them to calm the fuck down, put things in perspective or balance their expectations so it snowballs. In fact, it’s telling us the opposite: your feelings are the center of the universe, amplify every perceived slight. So if she is prone to seeking an enemy, seeing things in black … | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/25 11:11 AM |
| 1 | I think divorce is inevitableWhy do you believe your wife no longer loves you? How does she treat you as a wife and how much time are you able to spend together as a couple? In the interests of fairness, try to determine if your wife/marriage is “fixable”. It sounds like there is still some uncertainty. I recommend John Gottman and The Caring and Feeding of Marriage by Dr. Laura. What do her days look like? Perhaps right now because you handle the majority of child rearing and breadwinning, it might give her a degree of com… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/25 04:17 AM |
| 2 | Legal separation first, then divorce?Has she always been like this? Why does she feel justified in trying keep you in her sight this way? It seems like she sees you more like a teenager than like a spouse. Were there any red flags before marriage? | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/02/25 02:42 AM |
| 2 | How do I deal with the guilt of leaving my wife who is vulnerable because of a single mistake.Agreed, he makes too many excuses. OP needs to read No More Mr Nice Guy and the Assertiveness Workbook. Also the Strong Successful Male channel has good advice and stories of how guys become doormats with women pushing and abusing boundaries in self serving ways. It takes a lot of will to make your own way. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/08/24 10:11 PM |
| 2 | Was it better?For some it’s mental or hormonal instability, but IMO it’s neuroticism (which women score higher in) with the husband as the receptacle for it. Laura Doyle’s book and The Happy Wife School discusses this kind of mental micromanaging. Sometimes women, used to managing small kids in marriage, will over time extend this kind of managing to husbands if you let them unfortunately. Boys and Men sometimes try to appease this behavior pattern to keep the peace and it can enable this power dynamic. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/08/24 12:05 AM |
| 4 | She is refusing to get out of my Bedroom. What should I do?This. She low key wants you to fight for her. You guys are playing chicken and she blinked. It’s all emotions and power moves and exhausting. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/24 06:44 PM |
| 3 | After a failed marriage and seeing vows broken out of anger, I struggle to see the benefit of marriage. It seems many women's loyalty is conditional, depending on their options and the state of the relationship.Yep women become busybodies in their own marriages and then comes the “emotional labor” crap that burdens the husband with her behavior and rumination. I’ve seen it so many times on r/deadbedrooms and those poor guy seeking help get blasted by the brigade into oblivion. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/24 06:33 PM |
| 0 | After a failed marriage and seeing vows broken out of anger, I struggle to see the benefit of marriage. It seems many women's loyalty is conditional, depending on their options and the state of the relationship.A few people do: Dr. Laura, Suzanne Venker, Laura Doyle, some based pastors. Completely sidelined for feminist, Sex and The City brainwashing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/24 06:24 PM |
| 1 | After a failed marriage and seeing vows broken out of anger, I struggle to see the benefit of marriage. It seems many women's loyalty is conditional, depending on their options and the state of the relationship.Yes, you are correct. That devotion is too rare for a man to ever rely on and mostly reserved for romance novels. Briffault’s Law. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/24 06:20 PM |
| 4 | After a failed marriage and seeing vows broken out of anger, I struggle to see the benefit of marriage. It seems many women's loyalty is conditional, depending on their options and the state of the relationship.💯 don’t ever let women gaslight you with their “emotional load” crap to think otherwise. Women by and large know marriage benefits them disproportionately. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/24 06:16 PM |
| 1 | Went to see an attorney, she's definetly not happy.It sounds like you have not accepted that she your opponent and no longer your wife or helpmate. You aren’t playing on the same team anymore and she is no longer privy to your playbook. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/24 03:31 PM |
| 5 | Is my wife cheating?Yes she is. Please go watch the Strong Successful Male channel. You can’t trust her. The trickle truth and duplicity are on the infidelity checklist. You are her safe bet she can violate and emasculate as she pleases. She will not stop because you are too nice and there are no real consequences. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/24 03:05 PM |
| 9 | Why does it still bother me?It hurts because you didn’t want the divorce. It hurts because you put yourself on the line for the family and she put the family on the line for herself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/07/24 01:24 AM |
| 2 | Gray divorce in NJ.I’m sorry. What does she say she want and what you think she wants? What is her grand narrative (the story she is telling herself)? To be an “independent woman”? Does she feel like marriage is some sentence she has served on the eve of retirement age (heard this before)? Or is she lazy or bored or maybe going through menopause? | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/07/24 01:19 AM |
| 5 | Who initiated the separation/divorce? You or the wife?Looking back what were the signs wife was going to blindside you? What were the other red flags you see now? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/07/24 09:39 PM |
| 6 | Well, that’s it.Case in point Woman leaves husband and the family she had for internet brownie points and regrets it, obviously. Putting the need for attention over family has consequences. Life is not an episode of Sex and the City. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/24 08:49 PM |
| 2 | Gray divorce in NJ.Have you guys done marital counseling? Do you both decidedly want to end the marriage? | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/24 07:18 PM |
| 3 | Anyone here done better than 50% on assets?That’s how it should be. Wives held to account for their shit like men. Actual equality, not hiding behind “best for the kids” while being a drunk driver looting the breadwinner. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/24 05:44 PM |
| 7 | Can’t forget my wife’s words…She knows (like all woman know) that she has the capacity to punish you via parental alienation. Women hurt with words or leveraging a third party (state or courts). She was revealing how she could hurt you if given the chance were she feeling vindictive enough. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/07/24 10:27 PM |
| 2 | There’s no “beating” the narcissist ex wifeStop acommodating them. It is just enabling, unfortunately. It's best to ignore anything that isn't pertinent. Women will complain about anything for the attention and relief from venting. No need to accommodate this like a customer service hotline. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/24 04:56 AM |
| 1 | Hyper-focused, physical fit, mentally strong, & financially healthyCongrats on your progress, man. What were the red flags you missed and what would advise others to look out for in the future? | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/24 11:11 PM |
| 1 | Today is the day of my divorce and I'm just so sad.Yes by nice, I mean accommodating. People generally cannot keep up their facade for long. I suspect she gave signs of being like this while dating, but OP gave too much slack and patience instead of nexting them. That's how being nice punishes good men in the long run. They accommodate crap they should not. Some women sense they can take a mile from the inch you gave and disrespect the relationship by not meeting halfway. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/24 02:03 PM |
| 1 | Today is the day of my divorce and I'm just so sad.No problem, give it time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/24 07:54 AM |
| 1 | "Bad Person"Your BF is going through a really difficult time in his life mentally, financially and emotionally. Be a soft place to land for him and try not to make it about you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/24 07:39 AM |
| 5 | Today is the day of my divorce and I'm just so sad.You were too nice and too reasonable. When you give a woman too much certainty, some will take advantage of it. They will not be grateful or appreciative, just more entitled. This is one of the biggest mistakes men make. It weakens their respect for you and they withdraw intimacy. It's painful and frustrating, man. I'm sorry you are hurting, but it's best that you didn't have kids with a woman so lazy they couldn't be bothered to read a book to work on your marriage. Take some time to grieve tha… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/24 07:22 AM |
| 12 | It’s over… the real end…Send nothing. Write it in a journal and leave it there. Don't give her that satisfaction. Enjoy your freedom. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/24 03:35 AM |
| 7 | Finally reached my breaking pointThe "plan" was to build an addition and/or some other construction The plan or Her plan? and my questions were "where is the money coming from?" And "when is this happening" Good questions, but unfortunately these questions are irrelevant because of the power dynamic in place. She is doing the “planning” and you are not. She is in control and you are not. You are asking these questions from the backseat of a car someone else is driving. Nobody really took into consideration my concerns of the ho… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/24 01:55 AM |
| 11 | She is refusing to sign divorce papers, which is my proof that I have made the correct decision to move forward with divorce.Why destroy our marriage and then drag it out to the very end ? Tingles There was likely an affair before or during this separation “finding herself” period. Women will deny this and accuse you of being “insecure” without hard evidence. When confronted with evidence, they then start crying. You can set your watch to it. I’d start there. Did she just enjoy having power and control over my emotions? Yes She also draws fuel from the emotional roller coaster itself. Since she is preoccupied with her… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/24 11:14 AM |
| 2 | Ex is saying she’s depressedYour unstable ex likes the attention she gets from using you as her emotional tampon and crutch while getting boned by the bad boy. All while she avoids introspection in lieu of self-pity. End this ASAP. Your time is too valuable. Any destructive behavior that can create instability collect evidence on to get protection for your child away from that chaos. I’m not sure how old your son is, but be mindful of their future son/mother dynamic as she may do the same to him: use him as a crutch to mol… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/04/24 05:12 PM |
| 2 | First time with wife’s car was gone…Hence the monkey branching. She already made the transfer of OP to provisional mate while making room for AP as the primary/physical mate. Dual-mating complete. Luckily for OP and the kids, she has, thus far, been less vindictive while she doing so. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/24 12:33 AM |
| 11 | Dating a person with little to no net worth at age 40?Yes, she will be a financial liability. There is no way around that. Date if you wish, but avoid the contract . Get a vasectomy if you have a kid already. We all know the stats on second marriages. Find a woman who is less of a liability and make it clear marriage is off the table. The fact that you are even considering this tells me you are not exercising discernment and self-protective instinct. Sex might be clouding your judgment. Read When I Say No, I Feel Guilty, The Manipulated Man and The… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/04/24 06:39 AM |
| 4 | One of the things that bothers me the mostIt is called “What have you done for me lately?” Or Briffault’s law. Many women can view men’s utility have diminish returns in a relationship. It’s part of human psychology. In order to further justify breaking up the family, they must be the hero or victim (women usually choose victim). So she must tell herself a story that builds her up and puts you down. Everyone wants to be hero in their own story or at least lessen their culpability so they mislead, paint others as villains, and distance t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/04/24 12:26 AM |
| 2 | A three year marriagePlease look into these resources (if nothing else read No More Mr Nice Guy, The Daily Stoic, and The Rational Male blog). Take time to recover and reflect. I would advise not to get married again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/24 11:30 AM |
| 2 | Wife is financially and emotionally abusive. How do I get out?IIRC, it’s actually creating a problem in the field because since more graduates are women and predictably do women shit like bail out of the workforce or work less hours, it’s compounding the doctor shortage. It’s hilarious when idealism meats reality, but somehow the system is still to blame for privileged women’s choices. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/24 11:28 AM |
| 1 | Why does she want me back?OP this is all it is. She wants attention, support and resources and using a “phone a friend” lifeline (you) because she knows you will pick up. Cut her off completely and be like a ghost the wind. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/24 11:20 AM |
| 2 | What are some initial coping methods?Journal, lift heavy shit and participate in group sports to get the energy out. Read up on stoicism (The Daily Stoic, Meditations, The Obstacle is the Way). | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/24 11:08 AM |
| 6 | What a funny way to tell on yourself... If they ask you for an open marriage and you never gave any signs of wishing for such a thing, better be looking for lawyer ASAPI second STRONG SUCCESSFUL MALE Here are some good open marriage stories. They make these dumbass requests when you give them too much certainty. But hey, it is entertaining when the inevitable crocodile tears come. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/24 10:59 AM |
| 2 | Would you get divorced if your wife would get pregnant at a fertility clinic without your consent?This is true. Disgusting, but true. Some women are so enraptured with pregnancy/baby tingles that they have no problem trapping a man. You might have made a pragmatic choice to have 2 children, but to a fickle woman that means nothing. Feelings before Reason The need to fulfill their biological imperative is so strong in some they can justify betraying their man and family. In fact, the man does not factor in their decision. For such a woman, the man is a disposable utility. The fact that she wo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/24 10:45 AM |
| 3 | World changed right before my eyes.Women say they want 50/50, but it is a virtue signal. What actually happens is over time “50/50” feels like they are taking on more than they should have to and it builds resentment. She checked out long ago and counseling was an intervention for you to get you up to speed with her plans to leave. It’s cold man, but it is common story. I’m sorry — try to take the advice here and build yourself up, reconnect with friends and family. You are not alone. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/04/24 02:09 PM |
| 3 | World changed right before my eyes.That’s eat pray love syndrome or “chasing tingles”. It’s likely a combination of a midlife crisis and a man in her past or one orbiting her during your marriage she is emotionally attached to and possibly monkey branching to. The above poster is an example of how they justify abandoning commitment to the men who care for them with flowery word salad. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/04/24 02:03 PM |
| 3 | World changed right before my eyes.It could be a number of reasons, but it basically comes down to them not really taking marriage seriously as a vow of commitment. It’s more like buying a car or a piece of furniture. It’s a utility. Some have friends who have gotten divorced and the friends appeal to their grievances and resentment they hold against you. (Divorce as contagion - Women are more easily swayed by their peer group) Some were never going to stay married to anyone and crave the attention of new men for individual grati… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/04/24 01:47 PM |
| 7 | World changed right before my eyes.Society has changed from valuing things outside the individual (family, community, country) to worshipping the self and individual gratification. Feminist dogma endorses competition between the sexes over cooperation and the family unit suffers. You might be waking up to how pervasive it is. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/04/24 02:46 PM |
| 3 | New here and feel like I am caught in the middle.All in all, she wants this to work. I am afraid that she will resort back to her old self and now things just get much more complicated with having kids. Your fears are 100% accurate. In fact, it reminds me of the husband in the hamburger meat moment. You've hit the breaking point of being sidelined and treated like a subordinate in your marriage. If you are having sex now when she previously denied you, she is engaging in a form of hysterical bonding to reestablish compliance. Please exercise c… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/24 02:56 AM |
| 1 | New here and feel like I am caught in the middle.Your wife and MIL are enmeshed in an unhealthy power dynamic that you are also roped into. Your wife is modeling what she knows and that is continued emotional control everything around her (notably you). She is nesting in preparation for a child, knows you are checking out, and is intelligent enough to try therapy to get you to agree to father that child. But a leopard doesn’t change its spots. She will control the child and control and scold you when you don’t wash the baby bottles correctly o… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/24 01:51 AM |
| 1 | A random surprise this morning.100% The most powerful thing you can do is ignore a woman, especially a prodigal wayward like her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/24 01:18 AM |
| 16 | She says she is no longer attracted to me and we have never been sexually compatible, um, what?It is a story she is telling herself to detach from you while keeping you on an emotional leash in the throws of the messy post-divorce. Try not to dwell on it. At this point, standing up for yourself is your best protection. Get exercise and read No More Mr. Nice Guy, The Assertiveness Workbook, The Rational Male and The Daily Stoic. Since you have a child, resources on co-parenting will be important to develop a more business-like, cordial parental mindset with time. At the moment, you are too… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/24 12:55 AM |
| 5 | Best Advice for a Man to Not Get Divorced from a Divorceable WomanHere are some recommendations: The manipulated man by E.Pilar Like the Happy Wife school, Dr.Laura's books (the Caring and Feeding of Husbands) And podcasts basically puts to onus on women to get over themselves and be a good wife. The Assertiveness Workbook Never Split The Difference or Difficult Conversations Say Goodbye to crazy by Dr.Tara P. Stop Walking On Eggshells Splitting by Bill Eddy Coach Corey Wayne and Rich Cooper John Gottman's books R/marriedredpill The bigger issue is that your w… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/04/24 08:27 AM |
| 3 | LL wife cheat?Here is a story where it happened to someone else. Woman (empty nester) was in a good marriage. Started new outside volunteer job and she got attention from younger dude. She enjoyed the attention and instead of protecting the integrity of the marriage, started to emotionally cut off her husband (LL4him). Blamed it on BS like menopause. Husband noticed something was off and it didn’t end well of her. Most of the time the r/deadbedroom is the wife weaponizing sex out of disgust and anger or creat… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/04/24 07:10 AM |
| 2 | Is your ex-wife better off after divorce?It’s the reason why some many people are obese versus 100 years ago. There is too much incentivizing the more gluttonous instincts in people. Women don’t think they will “lose” in divorce. Media, society and their peers have been told women are the “wiser” sex (despite men doing 90% of the necessary grunt jobs that keeps society functioning) and because of male protective instincts, can gamble on divorce to find a new man to finance their security. Moreover, society no longer discourages frivolo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/24 03:17 AM |
| 3 | Always the victim...Women score higher in agreeableness and tend to be more influenced by others in their peer group. That’s why it’s important when dating to observe their peer group and the alpha in the pack (usually whoever runs their mouth the most). Good or bad, what the alpha one does and says, the other women may follow or at least be influenced by. That’s how Divorce becomes a contagion. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/24 01:29 AM |
| 3 | Always the victim...Yes, this is called female hypoagency/male hyperagency. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/24 01:24 AM |
| 17 | Always the victim...Why is they always have to be the victim? My STBXW is the one who committed adultery. She was previously was arrested for CDV. And yet she has the nerve to say to me that she won't meet with our kid's teacher together because "I don't feel comfortable with you right now. It causes me tremendous anxiety." It is female manipulation 101. She is feigning vulnerability and "anxiety" to put the onus on you, the man, to change to acommodate her. It's a classic power play. This is how women tend to cont… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/24 10:30 PM |
| 7 | Always the victim...As long as there are little to no consequences for using the law enforcement like their boyfriend and the courts/government like their daddy, this will continue. There needs to be negative consequences for vindictive behavior and wasting government time and money like this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/24 09:43 PM |
| 1 | Her business success affected our marriageI’m not the OP but I’ll try to answer your question: Conventional wisdom in media, culture, society and law have over the past several decades undermine long term marital stability. Many men believe all you have to do is be agreeable and she will love you forever. This is incorrect. Further, the marital contract in particular does not serve men’s interests. This is a fact. I do not say that to alarm you, rather to get you to truly assess the values of your fiancé and yourself and reexamine your … | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/24 08:51 PM |
| 3 | Just Like That, 26 Years.A borderline/high-conflict wife unfortunately will model and normalize those outbursts for your child and may promote parental alienation I’m sorry to say. Reach out to her teachers and friend’s parents to get a sense of her behavioral patterns if possible. Age appropriate chores, volunteering (maybe with elders or disabled) and rigorous sports/activities might give her some place to get her energy out so it’s not as self-focused. Stability, routine, responsibility, and accountability to others … | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/24 04:29 PM |
| 2 | Just Like That, 26 Years.I am not sure how old your daughter is, but IMO consistency and discipline can help develop accountability and self-awareness as a foundation. I would recommend some kind of Scouts, sport, or volunteer work that dedicates effort and accountability and discourages instant gratification. When she’s old enough, a conversation about her own mother’s BPD tendencies could help foster awareness | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/24 02:43 PM |
| 1 | Divorced Men: With what you experienced, would you ever remarry? If you could go back, would you have ever married knowing what you know now?I recommend going to pre-marital counseling. It can help see the blind spots in the relationship and in what you both envision marriage will be. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/24 09:31 PM |
| 9 | She criedShe is 100% crying crocodile tears for herself. It’s self-serving and manipulative. Same as bringing up stuff said in the past to make you feel compelled to apologize. You can easily control the state of a conversation that way and she seems adept at it. Don’t give anything for nothing in the vein of being charitable. Don’t protect her socially. In fact, be uncharitable so long as it doesn’t impact your child. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/24 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Why are you guys seriously dating shortly after divorce?You are right to think there is a deeper problem. IMO, Society makes it too easy to break the marriage contract. Lady gets security, kids, and shortly thereafter can unilaterally retire from any other obligation to marriage (sex, peace, loyalty, etc) while weaponizing dissatisfaction with their own choices against their spouse. IMO, Women prioritize self-actualization over family and their emotions become their reality regardless of its merit). That is too much of a risk for men (prenup or not) … | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/03/24 07:06 PM |
| 11 | Thoughts now that I'm divorced and almost 'done' with her.She made her choice, now she gets the live with it. She is sad because she still wants wife privileges and attention after blowing up her marriage to chase her tingles. Stay strong for your children and make sure AP stays far away from them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/03/24 06:31 AM |
| 1 | Wife wants me backAgreed. Distance and focus (for you), probation, and aggressive public shaming with receipts (for her). There must be no infidelity and she cannot hold any blame on you. She must be in a recovery program with transparency and take full responsibility for her actions. And less and any weasel words and no dice. Her words are less than paper right now and probably forever. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/03/24 12:20 PM |
| 1 | Divorce dissonanceWhat would you say are the red flags to look out for? I’ve seen a few, but I wonder what else could be missing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/03/24 11:44 PM |
| 1 | Wife wanting a divorceNo, these are excuses. Stop the urge to white knight. That is likely part of the problem (being her Mr. Fix-it/plow horse) and why you likely missed the signs her checking out and losing respect. She doesn’t value you, respect you or value your marriage. That is why she has essentially abandoned you. If she wanted to fix the marriage she would have brought up counseling, not divorce. Read up on the “marriage wheel” and No More Mr Nice Guy if you haven’t already. She has likely gotten bored, sees… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/03/24 05:46 AM |
| 3 | Remind me never to get married againThanks for the recommendation. What mistakes were you making and what were the red flags? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/03/24 01:33 PM |
| 1 | How you guys fucked up in your marriages?I think the advice for confrontation is to sort out early who will can be reasonable and those who, like your ex, will continue to weaponize any and everything to avoid accountability. Confrontation and assertiveness allows you to see the red flags earlier and see through the false face women put on to get a ring on their finger. It’s not meant to be a perfect solution, but part of a filter to see BS and select more agreeable behavior. Capitulation, lack of assertiveness or poor boundaries( “nic… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/02/24 12:35 AM |
| 1 | Wife and lover not working outUnderstood. Stay strong, man. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/24 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Wife and lover not working outWhy did you leave the house if she was the one who cheated? Why wasn’t she kicked out? | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/24 01:48 PM |
| 2 | Anyone feel judgment from ex?Your post and comment read like someone who was too much of a safe pushover (best friend) and your wife who lost respect over time. It is possible to get too comfortable, dependent, and complacent as a “best friend” while being married. This is what these guys are chiding you for and why understanding female psychology and the importance of assertiveness, some self-reliance, and stoicism is important. Your concern about your ex committing smearing reputational damage and parental alienation are … | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/24 12:56 PM |
| 1 | What’s the point of even dating?Please do pre-marital counseling. If nothing else, at least you guys will be more prepared as a couple | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/24 01:01 PM |
| 5 | She filed today I’m lostI agree except she can sleep in another room or on the couch since she wants to break up the family. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/01/24 11:27 AM |
| 1 | How did you finally decide to pull the trigger?Yeah it’s hard, but capitulation or reneging in the face of women’s crocodile tears often doesn’t help men. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/24 02:01 AM |
| 2 | How did you finally decide to pull the trigger?Glad you stood your ground. What suspicious behavior/red flags was the ex engaging that got your antenna up? | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/24 01:50 AM |
| 1 | Bac together..Exactly, she is just monkey branching back to you. Abandoned her vows twice. Quite the audacity if you ask me. Classic case of only being loyal to feelings and options in moment. Chaotic with no integrity. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/24 01:19 AM |
| 2 | Bac together..Glad it worked out for you. What do the kids think of the situation? Do they just see a family together and everything is alright(don’t read much more into it)? Do you have separate rooms? | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/24 01:17 AM |
| 1 | Final Mediation Texas - 19 yrs, 3 kidsSome don’t care as long as they check the bad boy traits or are good in bed (it’s crude but true). They need to be shamed publicly — other family members with a backbone to call her out or moms at school need to know and embarrass her. You’d be surprised how much women thirst and rationalize seriously destructive behavior if they are good looking and infatuated (Jeremy Meeks). Glad OP was able to get things to work out in court. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/24 07:53 AM |
| 3 | When did you know the spark just wasn’t going to return?Why did she do it on Father’s Day? Could it not wait 48 hours? Did she even care how selfish that was? | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/24 07:44 AM |
| 2 | When did you know the spark just wasn’t going to return?What did you find were the marital issues or complaints? What was on her resentment checklist? | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/24 07:30 AM |
| 1 | Wife is verbally abusive but might not realize it?I understand what you want her to stop: the belittling, the berating, the emasculating. You want her to be a different person (or the person you thought she was before you married). She won’t. She is not that person. Seeking support from a woman who deems her husband beneath her is understandable, but unwise. Any problems or bids for support will be further evidence of your ineffectiveness in her mind. She will not change for you as she does not respect you and has no incentive as long as she is… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/24 06:54 AM |
| 1 | Wife is verbally abusive but might not realize it?Once it's physical with a woman like that, I don't think it's fixable. There will never be peace from an agent of chaos. That volatility should be met with harsh negative consequences far and away from you--right now you are trying to appease a bear wearing a meat suit. I would be planning an exit. Read assertiveness workbooks, descalation tactics and document these interactions. Do you have children? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/24 11:23 AM |
| 2 | Sexual IncompabilitySo she wants to fight for the relationship and you dont so much anymore and wish to end it? Her understanding her faults is a good sign, but talk is cheap. You can focus on getting for attractive in general - Get fitter, improve your style, expand your social network for yourself in the interim. It will at least improve confidence, which would be great for you anyway. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/01/24 08:08 AM |
| 1 | Constant custody violationsSignificant negative consequences against the violating spouse are the only thing that matters when dealing with these situations. People need negative repercussions when they are fucking around. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/01/24 02:29 AM |
| 17 | Wife is verbally abusive but might not realize it?Women don’t use fists. They use words to inflict pain, knowingly or unknowingly. They use words to express their frustration and often whoever is closest as a punching bag. Her henpecking is a product of her lack of respect for you, resentment, and an indication of a higher-conflict personality. The fact that she doesnt apologize is a big red flag. Does she look for fault in herself or does she externalize things(everyone else’s fault)? How good is she at conflict resolution? She needs to want t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/01/24 11:51 PM |
| 2 | Just a ‘Friend’!Some might fixate on their resentment (and label it as your “insecurity” rather than face the real issue which is her undermining the integrity of the relationship). It’s important that she doesn’t tell herself a stupid story to rationalize her behavior or let herself off the hook. Look out for defensiveness or continued passive aggressiveness. Putting you down while putting positive attention into another man is the problem and her mistake (boundary betrayal). Remind her of her behavior (being … | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/24 07:43 PM |
| 4 | People in western world are lucky - not stuck forever like IndiaThis is the result of the removal of swift negative consequences from actions in society. When people live a comfortable life that allows the option to dual mate —secure children and security one decade and renege that contract to chase tingles and resources the next decade(“being happy”)—many are going to take it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/24 07:10 AM |
| 4 | Don't fear asking your wife/girlfriend to do what she is supposed to do in the marriageYep, you (and your time) are a utility and your time when the kids come is her time to dictate (as a part of household management). If she went out to brunch it’s fine though, she has no obligation to explain a thing. Some aren’t aware of how degrading this control is. Some wouldn’t care even if they did. The book “How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids” outlines this dynamic. In it, the wife works from home and the husband travels for work. Over time, she starts to resent it and weaponize the … | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/24 02:59 AM |
| 2 | Don't fear asking your wife/girlfriend to do what she is supposed to do in the marriageI agree. If you ever hear the word “emotional labor” or any other feminist shibboleth, run for the hills. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/24 02:52 AM |
| 2 | Don't fear asking your wife/girlfriend to do what she is supposed to do in the marriageWhat deeper filtering do you think helps filter out non marriage material? | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/24 02:49 AM |
| 2 | Sexual IncompabilityWomen already do not prioritize men or husbands wants —they then to be more focused on themselves and view the success of a relationship on their cup being filled. Things men want (peace and quiet and sexual intimacy) are not valued as obligations women need to uphold as wives. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/01/24 09:30 PM |
| 1 | Sexual IncompabilityWhat makes your wife believe she can change? What does she value in the marriage? Why didn’t she change when you brought your concerns to her during the marriage? | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/01/24 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Does wife making more than husband contribute to relationship issues?Yup, this video shows the phenomenon in action . It’s unfortunate. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/23 09:45 PM |
| 2 | Does wife making more than husband contribute to relationship issues?OP is being obtuse using that fake virtuous copy-pasted response while actually looking foolish. It is not unreasonable to assume a separated wife, yes, even yours, who already shows signs of resentment for their spouse might be engaging emotionally or physically with another man. Too many husband’s egos are still tied into the “women are wonderful” effect and it continually undermines their protective instincts. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/23 09:19 PM |
| 1 | She is going to have to work for the first time in her life hahahaStarbucks pays better 🤣 | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/23 02:00 AM |
| 2 | Any divorce reform in the works?I tell male friends not to get married. In fact, I tell them to only marry women who make more money, love working and smashing that glass ceiling. That’s my reform. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/23 01:57 AM |
| 3 | Higher earner afraid of losing big in divorceYou are not listening. Men with your income (high income in a coastal area) have their pick of woman and can choose younger, single women who are not divorced with no kids or baggage. That’s the reality. Understand that. This is one of the lies of the women’s movement that’s can be confusing since you are an exception as a high income earner. Men and women value different things. Men might be sleeping with you, but that’s different from keeping you. If you cannot salvage your marriage, find out … | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/23 01:14 AM |
| 2 | Recently Separated and My Wife May be Siphoning Money into Secret AccountI’m sorry man. Brothers know this: Never trust a woman 100% with money, ever. Tell your friends, family and other married men, just don’t. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/23 12:56 AM |
| 4 | Can i record my marriage counseling sessions?I hate that this is true. It’s about pole position. If she wanted to resolve things, she would try to find solutions, not ways to blame you for everything. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/12/23 10:24 PM |
| 2 | Christmas EveThat emotional detachment was a ticking time bomb . If there’s a problem within the relationship, it’s up to you as a spouse to voice those concerns clearly to find a resolution that preserves the family. “Hints” are bullshit. This is one of my biggest problems with society right now is the disposability of marriage by women. Women communicate covertly (hints, passive aggressive comments, “I’m fine”, etc) AND keep score in marriage. They expect you to track their annoyance like a period and then… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/12/23 09:14 PM |
| 3 | Christmas EveShe is not giving you mixed signals. She is using you for emotional support at her convenience. She gets to pretend she has safe husband security (you) when it’s convenient for her. If she wanted you, she would have put the family first and asked for counseling to keep the marriage together and would not have destroyed your family unit and separated your kids from a loving father. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/12/23 08:35 PM |
| 1 | Communication with (STB)X: Either your weapon or your achilles heel. Three rules.Yes, being responsive quickly fuels her addiction to attention through testing you. Women (particularly high conflict ones) love the drama, nagging, guilt trips, nitpicking, berating, making mountains out of molehills, and emotional blackmail to keep you locked into her frame. They do not want to keep their eyes on their own paper. They do not want to keep the peace. Don’t respond quickly, keep responses short and business like. This will take time as the high conflict spouse will try to push yo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/23 01:29 PM |
| 1 | Divorce Realization: When friends get re-married, it sure looks like a good idea at THE TIME... But...Is advising your brother or friend (in OP’s case) to wait(further vet) and/or do pre-marital counseling not options? It’s not discouraging flying in a plane, rather more like encouraging taking precautions and check the weather forecast, IMO. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/23 12:42 PM |
| 3 | Who has gone to a female therapist during divorce and what was your exoerience like?Good point. A male psychologist made a video addressing these concerns. He makes interesting points about how the nature of therapy operates more to serve female communication modes and have other biases that don’t necessarily serve men. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/23 10:48 PM |
| 4 | Not even the professionals can convince herThis story reminds me of this person. He used the law to get what he wanted out of others by positioning himself as a victim. As a minor, he lied about being abused and threatened to accuse adults of sexual abuse to manipulate them into getting what he wanted. Crazy stuff. This is the danger of the law in the hands of a vindictive, narcissistic manipulator. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/23 02:27 PM |
| 2 | They really are delusional....Too many women will say whatever in the moment positions them as a victim of their perceived neglect. It’s about pole position. It doesn’t need to make sense. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/23 09:07 AM |
| 3 | Seeking advice - Wife cheated, she doesn't know I knowHe’s trying to explain that while men tend for cheat for MORE (variety), women tend to cheat for BETTER (dick, security) etc. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/23 08:18 AM |
| 2 | Seeking advice - Wife cheated, she doesn't know I knowRight on the money. Men don’t generally come up on women’s radars for the most part. If a woman both notices a man AND tells you about it —it’s a likely tell that her tingles have been triggered. I think it’s a form of “trickle truth” to signal that connection to a man to the husband and alleviate guilt. She might not even be aware of those intentions. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/23 07:56 AM |
| 2 | Therapy/group recommendationsShawn T. Smith is psychologist who works on men’s issues. He wrote The Tactical Guide to Women and endorses Glover’s book. He has identified that therapy employs women’s modes of communication and other biases within the profession that sometimes don’t serve men so he might have some resources for finding a therapist in your area if you reach out to him. I would keep reaching out to male therapists as some might host men’s support groups. You might have to do some digging to find what works for … | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/12/23 07:47 AM |
| 1 | No explanationShe got comfortable with you and got the tingles with the other guy. Monkeybranching 101. You aren’t wrong to desire an explanation. It can be a helpful tool for closure, but I do think it’s misguided to expect it simply because the guilty party’s empathy for the betrayed has to outweigh their own pride and self-interest, which is rare. If she was not the type to readily admit fault or take responsibility during marriage, she likely won’t be after a divorce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/12/23 07:11 AM |
| 3 | X wife car not starting…What’s the saying? “A woman needs a man like a fish needs a vehicle” | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/23 09:53 AM |
| 1 | Wife wants divorce, but promised if I changed we’ll be back together.Good, keep up the boundaries. In the interests of fairness, figure out in plain English what you both actually need (not what she feels like this week). These should be actionable things. Not a list of grievances. You bring your own expectations and hold her it. Enforce the mutual obligation to marital commitment and stay in the driver seat. She might be looking for more leadership from you. She also may be heavily stuck in her anxieties (especially with kids). Wives can conflate kids wants with… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/23 02:11 AM |
| 2 | About to start, need friends!No problem, man. I know it’s a turbulent time, but use the time on your own to work on yourself. Get back into your old hobbies again. If you dont do something physical, start today. Lift weights, play pickup soccer, join a run club— whatever it takes to get out of the house, meet new people and not fixate on your wife. Get physically stronger -that will help build confidence and independence from your wife’s approval. Applying basic stoic principles can help with this too. Glad you are reading … | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/23 01:01 AM |
| 3 | About to start, need friends!Glad you were able to stand up and protect yourself. Please watch out for hysterical bonding and using sex to get compliance. I’ve heard too many stories of women getting “oopsies” not to mention it. Look for gaming/chess communities but also a local gym, playing music, soccer meetup, pickup basketball, or social sports leagues. Fantasy sports leagues are good too. Highly recommend the YouTube channels Psychacks and Hoe_math. They explain many principles of women’s psychology in an accessible wa… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/23 09:59 AM |
| 1 | Do you think divorce is contageius?Women tend to score higher on agreeableness and, for better or worse, will bend to their social forces, groupthink and social groups more. This video demonstrates it. All these women know the obese girl is not the most attractive, but yield anyway for the sake of the group. Now Imagine what two divorced women stirring up resentment in their married friend groups in a world that already normalizes broken households can do. Social contagion is absolutely possible. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/12/23 11:00 AM |
| 2 | How many of you have had an amicable divorce?Women will say whatever in the moment positions them as a victim. It’s about pole position. It doesn’t need to make sense. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/12/23 08:59 AM |
| 3 | I’m realizing I got used and playedWhat were the red flags? (Aside from her being a single parent) | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/12/23 08:32 AM |
| 1 | My wife just told me she wants to separate... after these holidays. Don't know how to react.What made your marriage doomed from the start? What were the red flags? | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/12/23 05:06 AM |
| 2 | Wife wants divorce, but promised if I changed we’ll be back together.How old are the both of you, how long have you been married and do you have children? Read No more Mr. Nice Guy and google Coach Greg Adam’s “Marriage wheel”. You are currently getting the “I’m not happy” lecture. The others here are right. Unless there is heavy drug use or drinking involved, the idea a wife can give you laundry list of what is wrong with you while thinking there is nothing she needs to change is almost always wrong. It takes two | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/12/23 04:23 AM |
| 2 | Ex-wife asked me if I was interested in becoming "friends with benefits". It was the greatest day of my life....Women want attention. Attention is the coin of the realm. She is soliticing sex because she wants to feel his lust for her as a form of attention and validation. It could be a way to then later slyly solicit him for resources, but it's mostly about attention. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/12/23 01:26 AM |
| 2 | I Feel RobbedThey may still be early in the relationship. Women trying to get mated are still marketing the best version of themselves. That might be what your friends are reporting positively to you unknowingly. The new car smell, basically. That said, on the whole, Asians tend to have more traditional, "no free lunch" values. Meaning they are less entitled and understand they have obligations they have to fill as girlfriends and wives. Both genders understand their roles. They are more likely to be taught … | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/12/23 01:15 AM |
| 5 | The man always has to be in the wrong huh?Yes, sadly, men and fathers have the burden of hyperagency, meaning men have a higher threshold to reach to receive empathy in their struggles as they are seen as more capable of having the power to fix their problems and control their lives (whether the circumstances merit it). In the case of your daughters, whether it's fair or not, you may have to provide context for your struggle as you have in your post because there is a burden of proof of “well, what did you do?" lingering. That may help.… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/12/23 12:18 AM |
| 2 | Parents don’t reach out to me for play datesTrue, I wouldn’t take that in particular as a strong negative indicator. It’s often an excuse for women to hang out with each other. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/11/23 06:38 PM |
| 1 | Parents don’t reach out to me for play datesParenting and school is very female dominated so it’s kind of expected that you would feel like an outsider as a man. I just hold my head high and laugh it off. It can definitely get in the way. Interesting how so-called feminists and supposedly empathetic women have no problem with this kind of sexism via alienation of fathers from their own children’s school communities. Even their friends where the husband is my friend and their wife is my exe’s friend, the woman in the relationship cuts them… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/11/23 06:24 PM |
| 5 | Divorced and clueless about dressing well/fashion. Advice?IMO, upgrading a casual wardrobe requires focusing more on fit, layering, and color palette. Is there a public figure whose style you like? Google their name with “[name] lookbook” or “[name] + style guide, fashion, or aesthetic” and there you can find blogs or YouTube videos explaining their style. Keep it simple to start (classic wardrobe) and incorporate hair, scent, and grooming to put your look together. Here are a few guides to upgrade a casual wardrobe. And a few extras Hope this helps | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/11/23 01:56 PM |
| 6 | Anybody glad they divorced even though it meant not retiring and 5-10 years of alimony that took up most of your take home pay?Numbers 1-3 in your story constitute basically half the posts I see in r/deadbedrooms. Lady gets security, kids, and shortly thereafter unilaterally retires from any other obligation to marriage (sex, peace, loyalty, etc). Husband suffers in silence for years. Glad you were able to rebuild. I hope more men wake up to what they are up against. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/11/23 01:39 PM |
| 8 | Why was I expected to do as much chores as her?Just curious, why do your daughters now want to apologize? What changed their minds? | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/11/23 12:10 PM |
| 9 | Why was I expected to do as much chores as her?I agree. Society has completely lost the plot and conditions guys to be absolute chumps. At the same time, too many women feel entitled to have their cake and eat it while society condones it (as we have been evolved to be protective of them and children). This silliness is all a by-product of that. If society doesn’t start holding them accountable and checking bullshit loopholes in a la carte feminism, it won’t change. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/11/23 12:06 PM |
| 1 | The fight?Np, glad to help. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/11/23 07:43 AM |
| 1 | The fight?Your first mistake was trying to save a woman who self-admittedly had serious issues growing up, sorry to say. I’m going to copy paste a comment I made a while back why women initiate divorce: There are lot of factors, but much of it boils down to modern society promoting the self above all and teaching everyone that men and women are the same when we simply aren’t. IMO, if any man is interested in a serious answer to this question, I urge you to read “How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids” an… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/11/23 09:25 AM |
| 3 | What to do If I suspect my wife is considering divorce?She just told you she is not up to the task of being a spouse. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/11/23 08:44 AM |
| 5 | What to do If I suspect my wife is considering divorce?Marriage is about give and take. Be honest— how much giving is your wife capable of for the long haul? Read this post —I suspect she is running the resentment track on you. I know we have communication issues. She doesn't represent herself confidently and projects her feelings of inadequacy onto me. Sit her down and find out in plain English what respect means to her and you. What may be happening is there is list of things in her head she expected you and life in general to provide for her and … | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/11/23 08:33 AM |
| 3 | Serious mommy issuesYou are not alone, OP. Suzanne Venker wrote a book specifically about this happening to her called “The Alpha Women’s Guide to Men and Marriage” I highly recommend it and her podcast. I also recommend Dr. Laura’s “The Caring and Feeding of Husbands/Marriage” and Laura Doyle’s “The Empowered Wife” IMO, this is the trifecta for breaking the cycle | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/23 09:13 AM |
| 1 | Fell in love with a young women while separated now my wife want us together and I am torn!You are in limerence and thinking with your little head. Stop doing that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/11/23 02:51 AM |
| 2 | Trouble with intellectual and emotional connection with wifeWas this incompatibility present while you two were dating? Why did you marry her? | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/11/23 07:47 AM |
| 1 | financially supporting this “wife” of mine for the past 2 years.. the only thing that I receive in return is constant stress and bickering from her. Men who were me, how is life now after getting out of the situation?Have you gotten a vasectomy? Get one now to protect yourself. If she gets pregnant again, the clock resets. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/11/23 07:27 AM |
| 2 | Wife/Mommy boss and my storyThis is 100% spot on and r/deadbedrooms really brings this to light. Aside from Robert and Rich’s books, the book “How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids” and Golden Uterus Syndrome is required reading for ever single man. It relates this awful dynamic while the author casts herself as the brave mama bear. There is different phases of women: The woman you date (girlfriend) The woman you marry (wife) The woman who gives birth and raises your children (mother) Men lose leverage at every phase and… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/11/23 06:37 AM |
| 2 | I can't be the only one...Women like attention and connection with people so many convince themselves its just under the umbrella of “socializing”. Society no longer teaches how be mindful and tactful with consorting with others to preserve the integrity of your relationship. It was a trade off to a degree with modernity, however too many social conventions have fallen by the wayside that enable this kind of reckless attention-seeking behavior hidden behind the veneer of plausible deniability. “Well it’s (current year) a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/10/23 11:31 PM |
| 4 | I’m not crazy, right?This is textbook dual mating strategic monkey branching. Try to gray rock as much as possible and center communication around the kids. Don't let her use you as an emotional tampon. Live your life. Honestly ask yourself what her past was like and that will likely reveal the answers. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/10/23 12:27 AM |
| 2 | I’m not crazy, right?If it's not in writing and can be enforced, it doesn't matter. They do not take obligations seriously and will renege when it suits them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/10/23 12:10 AM |
| 3 | I’m not crazy, right?Yes, she cheated - and now she is going to bring some dude into the house with small children, Jesus. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/10/23 12:06 AM |
| 42 | Does my wife (30F) regret this? I (33 M) am so confused, any advice welcome.Your wife is in the throws of guilt over wanting to dispose of you right now. The mental tally of dissatisfaction, resentment and the stakes of divorce overwhelm her and she wants attention and reassurance for herself while dissolving your marriage, hence her waffling outbursts. Read "No More Mr Nice Guy", The Rational Male, and "How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids" to see what your wife is doing here. At this point, she cares less about preservation of the marriage (as a duty and foundation… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/10/23 08:31 AM |
| 1 | If wife wants a divorce, and very adamant about it. (I left the home also “she wanted me to”) but is willing or wanting to go to this marriage counseling. What could this mean or am I over thinking things.You have already set a bad precedent by leaving the home and capitulating. She is blackmailing you and doesn’t care about your role as a father to your kids and the home. What the fuck kind of human being does that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/10/23 05:45 AM |
| 3 | Rachael Ray is a shapeshifterShe followed the (unfortunately) predictable decline when you don’t invest in your fitness. If you watch Rachael Ray’s old cooking show, you could predict she was destined to be homely and overweight and Giada would stay on top of it. It doesn’t take much to turn average to fat especially from someone who cooks, eats and talks for a living. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/10/23 05:37 AM |
| 7 | Every guy here needs to watch this video from a divorce attorneyGreat vid - the repeated instances of the wives' selfishness and reneging of their duties in marriage were infuriating First, wife weaponizes husband getting hand jobs after neglecting him for years in court was dispicable. Second, we know the BJs went first, then the granola. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/10/23 06:55 AM |
| 4 | Wife's father died and she had midlife crisis / mental breakdownThey are all just dressed up adaptive behaviors to validate self-centered emotionalism. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/10/23 12:16 AM |
| 1 | Marriage headed for divorce - Immigrant Wife - Mental IssuesShe was on her best behavior because she was trying to get mated. Now she has the security of a man (you) and has fulfilled her biological imperative (the child). Mission accomplished. Now you, the husband, are disposable and the alienation has begun. She believes your child is her property hence her behavior -- Read up on Golden Uterus Syndrome.. It's possible she has PPD, but she needs to get evaluated ASAP. Regardless, she is 100% stuck in her emotions and resentment toward you (warranted or … | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/10/23 11:14 PM |
| 1 | I give up on love it doesnt existRead this chapter on Red flags and figure out which flags you are letting slip by you and stop accommodating them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/10/23 06:54 AM |
| 1 | I give up on love it doesnt existAlso check out the YT channel Psychacks, the book The Unplugged Alpha and get assertiveness workbooks. Get more comfortable telling women "no" often, what your expectations are of them and veto women who don't fit early. No More Mr. Nice Guy. Do not move women into your house - we are equal now, they should own their own. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/10/23 06:40 AM |
| 1 | Recs for Books about Divorce for Men?Say Goodbye to Carzy by Dr. Tara Palmatier -- has good information about dealing with a high conflict ex | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/23 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Ex flexing over settlementNo, that's still attention and fueling her - don't give it out. She must be ignored completely. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/23 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Second marriage ending after only 2.5 years.OP, you sound like a genuine guy and I say this with sincerity. You are likely a pushover and a Captain SaveaGirl putting women on a pedestal. That martyr complex can end up with you getting burned again if you laugh it off and don’t grow a spine. Please read No More Mr. Nice Guy, When I Say No, I Feel Guilty, and The Rational Male blog. Try to dismantle this behavior pattern for your long term wellness and to keep your hard-earned money. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/23 04:23 PM |
| 2 | Help - Wife wants to reconlice marriage and doesn't want a divorce anymore BUT...That’s likely what will happen. Once she no longer needs the training wheels of your support while she is doing her training, she may weaponize divorce again. Ask yourself what kind of spouse would jeopardize breaking up a family like that or use divorce as a word game against a spouse? If she will threaten once, it can happen again. Your marriage is not safe by any means. You need to stand up for yourself, get a lawyer and really examine the power dynamics of your marriage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/23 03:41 PM |
| 5 | Girl (31f) I (33m) was dating was a divorcee with history of making out with someone else while married - tried to plan around that history to avoid repeat, didn’t work out.💯 use your thinking brain, man. Getting with a self confessed cheater is basically like walking into a rake. Work on your picker to avoid captaining the S.S. Save a Hoe again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/23 11:55 PM |
| 3 | My wife is going on a dateShe is monkeybranching. She is bullshitting about any “just friends” crap. Women know they aren’t suppose to do things alone with unmarried men while married. She knows you still are the safe choice and she can come back when she is done flinging around. There is no stigma for this kind of behavior and so she doesn’t need to hide it much. She has little, if any, sense of duty to you. If she is telling you openly, she she knows you are a doormat and she can do what she wants without fear of retri… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/23 03:03 AM |
| 2 | Question for menNo More Mr.Nice Guy When I Say No, I feel Guilty The Rational Male blog or books (you can find them online) The Alpha Unplugged ( especially the red flags chapter) My extra recommendations, but still helpful: Mate (a solid, comprehensive male improvement guide) by Geoff Miller The Mating Mind by Geoff Miller (outlines womens conflicting/dual mating strategies from an evolutionary perspective) Highly recommend the YouTube channel Psychacks. He explains many principles and women’s psychology in an… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/07/23 07:51 PM |
| 2 | Question for menI see. She sees you a rising star/good egg and wants to hitch herself to it (understandable), but if you marry her after she refuses to sign a prenup, you have already taught her to dictate the terms of your marriage (with effectively no skin in the game). So now the precident is set: She can stomp her feet and get what she wants. Not good, IMO. Have you read the recommended books? | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/23 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Question for menHow much does she make? And what are her pre-marital assets/debts? | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/23 08:27 PM |
| 1 | Question for menThis is very convenient guilt tripping back to the status quo. Does getting insurance for your car mean you want to get in a car accident? Women don't care about prenups when don't bring anything to the table. Too many have consumer CC debt, no property and no assets to protect. Do you? The default marriage contract is their protection because they know they can go out with 60/40 when they came in with 20/80. It's easy to spend money you don't sweat for and it's easy to dismiss the risks of marr… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/23 08:04 PM |
| 3 | Did anyone else’s ex become a “strong independent woman”?Some do and justify it as getting paid their dues. Some don't because implicitly they believe that to extract those recources from the man, relationship, or institution means it's theirs by association and therefore, they earned it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/07/23 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Did anyone else’s ex become a “strong independent woman”?This is unfortunately common. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/07/23 10:48 PM |
| 2 | [33M] I've Found Out My Girlfriend's [29F] Past Is Different Than She Told Me. How Should I Approach This?Agreed. Be skeptical of anyone who is quick to beat the victim "woe is me" drum. Often is it a way to seek validation and avoid accountability for themselves. If they can paint the past EX as the villain, how easy it will be for them to do it again with the next guy when you are no longer useful or things aren't going her way? She often has a self-centered attitude, argues to win rather than to solve problems, and puts herself first. None of these are deal-breakers on their own, but I can't help… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/07/23 09:31 PM |
| 6 | I’m 29 and feel like my wife is abusiveAfter kids and 10+ years of marriage, I'd say maybe (because of the cost/obligation). Before kids? no. Cut your losses. First, ask her to read The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle or The Caring and Feeding of Husbands by Dr.Laura. Watch and see what she says. Both basically ask the reader to check this henpecking crap by "keeping your eyes on your own paper". If she is serious, she will read it. If she's not, she will BS until you cave in and impregnate her. She is open to counseling now because … | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/23 10:57 PM |
| 4 | I’m 29 and feel like my wife is abusiveDon't do it. If you are not using protection, do it now. Kids will only make things worse. Read "How Not to Hate Your Husband After You Have Kids" that is your future. If you think you are henpecked now, it will be worse with a kid. You will never do anything right and your wife will use the kids wants/needs to further belittle and berate you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/23 10:45 PM |
| 1 | Do I blow it all up?OP listen to this, please. Play it cool and get your ducks in a row. Document and get a Lawyer. Say nothing to anyone especially married friends (guy might spill to a wife who know yours), P.O. Box, no mail to the house. Separate account to save Screenshots. Burner phone maybe depending on how snoopy your wife is. Don't make any suspicious changes. Is it possible to get an annulment? No nice guy/kid gloves shit. Be smart. If the shoe were on the other foot, would she use kid gloves with you? Lat… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/06/23 10:35 PM |
| 1 | Blindsided by divorce and heartbrokenLumptbuttcat is right. If I may, I'd like to recommend a few more resources: The Rational Male blog/book No More Mr. Nice Guy The Assertiveness Workbook (helps learn tools to be more assertive when dealing with others. Pairs well with NMMNG) When I say No, I Feel Guilty Mate ( a comprehensive male improvement guide) The Mating Mind by Geoff Miller (evolutionary psych) Psychacks youtube channel (outlines a lot of the men/women's stuff in an accessible way) Lots of men unfortunately believe that b… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/06/23 10:17 PM |
| 5 | Pre served papers divorce advice.Often times when a woman uses the description “uncomfortable”, it is a veiled shaming tactic meant to control and manipulate a man’s behavior for her benefit. The end goal being her special dominion over the security of the marital property and you in the less secure position playing catch up. If you have children, this same “uncomfortable” tactic will come up again. Take the advice here: document, protect and advocate for yourself. Read “When I say no, I feel Guilty”, “No More Mr. Nice Guy” and… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/23 04:32 AM |
| 2 | Wife wants to take the kids out of state.Don’t let her do it. Her inability to support herself does not give her free reign to separate you from your children. Do not allow her to continue entertaining the self-serving belief that being a mother grants her ‘dibs’ or special dominion over you and the children. Establish that position as a fully equal parent as clearly and as soon as you can. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/06/23 04:34 PM |
| 2 | Walkaway WifeI’ll bet my ham sandwich that “friend” is the monkey branch. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/06/23 09:11 AM |
| 36 | Walkaway WifeI agree and can offer a few suggestions. There are lot of factors, but much of it boils down to losing touch with our biological and material reality. Our comfortable modern society feels entitled to freedom without responsibility to the point we preach men and women are the same when we simply aren’t. Women’s love is conditional and consumptive (focused on her cup being filled at the giver’s expense). If any man is interested in a serious answer to this question, I urge you to read ”The Stories… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/23 10:50 PM |
| 1 | Advice on how to deal with Ex who constantly goes into the house without my permission?Also set up motion censor cameras in the front and rear entrances as well as inside and around the garage. Inside your house as well. Car wash spray my ass. She’s snooping. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/06/23 11:40 PM |
| 2 | Would you marry again?You were supposed to telepathically know she wanted to go to Hawaii. It’s your fault for not being able to read her mind you see 🤡 | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/06/23 11:06 PM |
| 3 | CAUTION: r/Divorce is NOT friendly to men!R/deadbedrooms is like r/divorce and much or Reddit in that regard. Women are victims and have hypo/no agency and men are agents that have the power/hyperagency. All this while prentending the sexes are the same. It limits and censors discussion of many issues outside of the usual talking points. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/23 10:04 AM |
| 0 | Been dating a girl who I told I was in the process of getting divorced but otherwise didn't want to discuss it. Finalized a month ago and let her know I'm divorced. Told me today she was following the docket the whole time.Bingo | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/04/23 12:41 PM |
| 0 | Been dating a girl who I told I was in the process of getting divorced but otherwise didn't want to discuss it. Finalized a month ago and let her know I'm divorced. Told me today she was following the docket the whole time.What did the genius say when you pointed out her glaring hypocrisy? | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/04/23 12:12 PM |
| 1 | Been dating a girl who I told I was in the process of getting divorced but otherwise didn't want to discuss it. Finalized a month ago and let her know I'm divorced. Told me today she was following the docket the whole time.Some have. They just kept the info to themselves and did not announce it like your current girl. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/04/23 12:07 PM |
| 2 | Please drop some wisdom for me - early 30s about to be divorced. The ups & downs?Highly recommend the YouTube channel Psychacks. He explains many principles and women’s psychology in an accessible way. Rollo Tomassi’s Blog The Alpha Unplugged (there is a free red flag chapter- go read it) Mate (a solid, comprehensive male improvement guide) by Geoff Miller The Mating Mind by Geoff Miller (outlines womens conflicting/dual mating strategies from an evolutionary perspective) No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/04/23 02:01 PM |
| 1 | Seeking Advice: Moving On From a Long-Term Marriage?🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 She’s 40 and has never has a relationship longer than 9 months. Does that makes sense to you? Her biological clock is not your responsibility. And her failure to plan for this biological reality does not constitute any emergency commitment from you. You’ve already been bitten once man. Don’t let guilt tripping fool you again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/23 11:10 PM |
| 7 | Maybe I really am the problem?Very true - stop taking shit Begging for a woman will never bring them back or earn you their respect. On the contrary, it will only empower her to feel superior to you, thus justifying her whatever reasoning to leave you in the first place. Resist betatization through a 1000 concessions | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/23 05:17 AM |
| 2 | Is it better to marry girls who want to be SAHMs or ones who are career-oriented and “independent”?Your observation of this double-bind is correct and another reason why I don’t advise signing any papers. You can find a middle ground - a woman with a stable job she takes pride in, but not a “career”woman. She respects you as a man, respects her father, men in general (so she doesn’t seek to compete with you), understands the importance of complimentary roles, and family. Observe her temperament. Does she bring peace? Or does she seek attention or to one-up or compete with you? How does she re… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/04/23 01:53 PM |
| -1 | body count issue UPDATEIt takes more skill for men to have get physical attention and sex since women are the gatekeepers to it- that’s why comparing body count/sexual history of men and women is apples to oranges and will never work. You know the ick? That’s what I suspect this guy has. These responses being inconsistent/evasive does not help and set things up to fail. The situation was mishandled and for your own sanity it’s best to learn from it and move on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/23 12:11 AM |
| 1 | Recently divorced and royally screwed my wife when I left her after 11 months of abuseMost people believe implicitly that men have hyperagency and women hypoagency. Men do and women have things done to them. It’s built into our evolutionary operating system. Hence those responses. We have made enormous frontend social changes without properly assessing the backend stuff running in the background. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/04/23 11:45 AM |
| 1 | Recently divorced and royally screwed my wife when I left her after 11 months of abuseIf you have been vocal about your past relationship, she may, to an extent, be mirroring you (not necessary with ill intent). People want to get in others good graces and will say things to get along, especially if she feels she benefits from a relationship with you (which she does, that’s why she is there). Regardless, signing the marriage contract (and her bearing children) gives any woman significant leverage over you legally and socially and most are aware of that. Marriage is like riding a … | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/04/23 11:35 AM |
| 10 | This is why I lurk in the 2X subreddit: Women will reveal how they REALLY feel about divorce when they think no one is watchingSome called her out on that nonsense at least | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/23 01:18 AM |
| 7 | This is why I lurk in the 2X subreddit: Women will reveal how they REALLY feel about divorce when they think no one is watchingLikewise, deadbedrooms and breakingmom, while exaggerated and self-selecting, give an insight into what else women feel entitled to do in relationships | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/23 01:17 AM |
| 7 | How did you guys deal with the guilt in regards to your kids financial support?A term for the situation you are describing is called golden uterus complex Read Say Goodbye to Crazy - it’s about hostile ex-spouses. Also I recommend reading No More Mr. Nice Guy if you haven’t already | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/23 10:01 PM |
| 1 | Am I over reacting?No you aren’t overreacting. Your wife doesn’t respect you or your marriage, I’m sorry. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/23 10:19 PM |
| 2 | Does body count really matter?Monkey branching often correlates overlaps a lot with cheating/disloyalty imo. Being in proximity to another guy often violates the integrity of the relationship. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/03/23 03:17 PM |
| 1 | Wife’s 39 weeks pregnant and now wants a divorce.Is it good to do self-evaluation to improve as a spouse/father? Sure But the answer is not the “happy wife/thank me for being pregnant” guilt tripping mama bear nonsense the OP above is suggesting. More deference and attempts at squaring the circle won’t work with a high-conflict wife playing the Divorce card who doesn’t respect you. No amount of the centering your life around your wife’s fickle emotions will work with a dynamic like yours - especially if your wife is not level headed, openly re… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/02/23 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Desiring a birth experience and “mothering” a child but unsure if I can handle the lifestyle of parentingMost there love their children, they just not adjusted well the day to day of it. I think it’s uncharitable to say they “hate” their children. It’s important that we see reality and they are honest. That is one of few spaces they are allowed to do speak openly without getting crucified. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/23 08:18 PM |
| 2 | Waffling on moving forward with divorceOp, Have you read The Rational Male, The Tactical Guide to Women, or No More Mr. Nice Guy? How much reading have you done on female psychology? Or self-improvement? Right now you are in the honeymoon phase of your relationship and it might be clouding your judgement. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/02/23 06:25 AM |
| 10 | Why do men today prefer to be chased?Yup, lots of women need to wake up to the new rules. We can’t condone shaming men and condone the greater western society calling regular guys creeps or losing their livelihoods and then not expect it to impact the old school rules of being chased or doted on. That’s said, I don’t think sending clear signals/ indicators or interest and being positive and flirtatious have completely gone of out style. I give and get positive feedback from these gestures. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/23 12:02 AM |
| 3 | Thoughts on age gaps?Age difference used to be brought up as a reasonable concern in extreme cases (much older men chasing underage women or very large gaps 12+ years) or to bring up long-term functional considerations like some have on this thread. Now is just used a shaming tactic against any 5+ year age gap, even if the woman/man is of legal age. It's ridiculous. Moreover, I've noticed a lot of infantizing language used against young adults on display. I don't think increasing infantalizing of people is good fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/23 09:52 AM |
| 1 | My partner has told me to look at this page - He wants me to promise him that I will always look skinny for him and stay in shape. Am I in the wrong for saying that I shouldn’t have to promise that to him?What does he feel like he owes you? One person listing out expections and openly comparing you to others is not respectful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/23 09:12 AM |
| 1 | My partner has told me to look at this page - He wants me to promise him that I will always look skinny for him and stay in shape. Am I in the wrong for saying that I shouldn’t have to promise that to him?While his request comes off as gauche, I suggest instead using this as an opportunity to talk to your partner to figure out what's really going on. I'm curious if a micromanaging dynamic existed throughout the relationship? How old are the two of you? Understand where he is coming from and what his concerns are and explain where you are coming from and what your concerns are. If you don't see eye to eye or believe he is being unreasonable, then it's best to part ways. Though change from childbir… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/23 08:05 AM |
| 1 | Wife says we don’t spend a enough time togetherI meant an individual male counselor for yourself first or a male marriage counselor. Tackle the (understandable) resentment toward your wife while reading the self-development and marriage books recommended. Be proactive. Keep being a good dad. Take on active hobbies/ go out with friends and encourage her to see her old friends. Things won’t change if she doesn’t get a life of her own outside of TikTok and the house. IMO, she’s being lazy and using you to fill the void lost by being away from s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/02/23 05:42 AM |
| 2 | Wife says we don’t spend a enough time togetherIf she’s openly criticizing you for videos games and she’s not a gamer, guaranteed she’s filing this away in the mental marriage resentment folder she has on you. Ironically appeasing only enables the needy one to look for more things to complain about. Don’t apologize for your hobbies. What are your wife’s hobbies? What are your shared hobbies? What does she do outside of chores/child rearing inside or outside of the house? What does her social calendar look like? Has she always been dependent … | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/23 10:19 AM |
| 2 | What do I do?Much of advice endorsed here counters mainstream cultural trends - that includes the romanticization of “the struggle” which, like other feel good slogans, is a massive cope. As other ladies have mentioned in order for a relationship to work long term, you need to be able to love him and accept him as he is. It will only lead to resentment on both of your ends if you don’t. That is up to you to decide. That said, your concerns are understandable - thousands in parking tickets do not correspond w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/23 03:31 AM |
| 4 | Book RecsHe's Just Not That Into you - a classic fun read that helps to learn to filter out wishy/washyness in courtship. Good for all ages, but especially younger women. The Caring And Feeding of Husbands/Marriage - . The comforts of 21st century life can make us kind of self-centered and entitled in our lives and in our relationships. This book puts things in perspective. I like Dr. Laura because she talks openly about the duties and sacrifices women who want to be wives have to their spouses and marri… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/23 11:06 AM |
| 1 | Should we be concerned about a lack of big conflict before getting married?I'd look into some pre-marital counseling or some pre-marital question/discussion books. There are some scenarios you could run through to really see how your values align in the long term. Have you guys gone traveling together or lived together for any extended period of time? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/23 05:15 AM |
| 5 | Do women need to ask men to be more romantic (and make specific requests) or should it just happen naturally?Meet his desires in a sensual way. Draw a bath for the two of you. Make him his favorite dessert for the two of you to share. You know him best. Take cues from what he likes to do for you - sometimes it's what he would like to have done for himself. The Empowered Wife and 5 Love Languages can help here. Romance is not just a list of tasks done for you - it's something you also both share together. If you want change, ask directly, but also be the change you wish to see. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/22 03:41 AM |
| 1 | hey, serious question I am not a troll.OP, you were probably too self-deprecating to read Red Pill/Trad stuff. It's easy to take it too literally and psyche yourself out or sink into fatalism and give up on yourself. Follow the advice here and get your head on straight. Don't just go to therapy and go through the motions. Put the work in outside of therapy, read books they recommend, take the meds and exercise as well. Make your mental health and a growth mindset a priority. Also, you likely feel useless because you aren't doing anyt… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/22 03:35 AM |
| 2 | 12 years Married and Now on the Rocks.Great recommendation. I think all women should read it. I also recommend The Care and Feeding of Husbands/Marriage and His Needs, Her Needs | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/22 07:52 PM |
| 1 | What is she waiting for?That's also really concerning. Thr STBX was always doing this too, it's a defense mechanism to constantly make you the bad guy. • STBX: I just want you to know my feelings and how hurt I was. • Me: goal achieved. You've been saying it for over a decade and half. What else do you need. • STBX: just for you know, I feel you don't know And circle forever. That's because she does need to me know, she needs to control me, the situation and the narrative. The real goal is to keep me feeling guilty … | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/10/22 02:31 PM |
| 3 | Second Marriage?What is your GF perspective on your first marriage/divorce? Does she have a good relationship with her family, with her father in particular? Does she have a general respect for men? Is she nurturing and compassionate? What is her age? Is enthusiastic, frequent and passionate sex considered important? Is she willing to do pre-marital counseling? How does she envision married life with children? How does she resolve conflicts in the relationship? Are words and actions consistent? Just things to t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/22 02:18 AM |
| 10 | My BFs reaction to minor inconveniences worries meYou are right to be worried embarrassed by your BF's behavior as it reveals his poor character. I know it's hard but try not to fall to sunk cost fallacy | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/22 01:29 AM |
| 3 | My wife is wanting to leave me. What do I do?I truly do not understand what brings someone to so casually blow up a family and go househunting with their crush on their spouse's dime. Collect evidence and call a lawyer ASAP, I'm sorry, OP. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/09/22 09:06 AM |
| 1 | Do people, relationships, come with an Expiration date?How would you go about vetting were you to go back and do it all over again? What would be the red flags or things to reconsider? | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/08/22 09:30 AM |
| 7 | How do women think? just with emotions?Honestly? Yes, there is truth in this. I'm not saying that men don't feel engage similar behavior, but subscribing to the sexes being "the same" mantra isn't helpful especially when facing divorce, IMO. In studies of the five big personality traits, it's been noted that, on average, women score higher in neuroticism (moodiness, emotional instability) as well as extroversion (not surprising as women on average derive more meaning from personal relationships and what others think of them). What th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/08/22 12:22 AM |
| 1 | STBXW is now trying to play nice and trying to set up couples counseling (again), but I've already made up my mindWhat do you think she wants from couple's counseling? Does she find genuine fault in her behavior or is she using it as a tool to get you to comply or guilt trip? May I ask what are your backgrounds and family dynamics (big/small or close/distant)? Were there any red flags during courtship? | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/08/22 09:05 AM |
| 4 | Wife actually smacked meWhile understandable, I think you are being a bit too easy on your wife. She is an adult | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/08/22 08:36 AM |
| 3 | Wife actually smacked meJust asking, since she hit you and has been escalating tensions, can you tell her to move to a different room? | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/08/22 08:36 AM |
| 1 | How to give good advice on RPWthis 100%, that's what makes this subreddit unique. Perspective taking and accountability. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/22 05:25 PM |
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