Jamonde Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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13	I regret not marrying a single mom it sounds like you are reminiscing about something that may partially only seem golden because it's in the past. getting together with someone who has a kid from someone else comes with all sorts of complications; societal expectations are only a very small fraction of those issues. if the spark left, couldn't that be a foretelling of issues that would've come up had you decided to get together with this woman? and that falling out - isn't that also a possible red flag that maybe your nostalgia …	/r/ExRedPill	28/05/26 05:52 AM
9	Absence of Research Papers Documenting Online Misandry I don't normally join the conversations here, but I do think that there is a dearth of research in this area and I honestly think it is extremely worthwhile to do. I also have at least a little bit of a scientific background in fields adjacent to this, so I want to offer my thoughts: The severity of misogyny online is at a higher level than the severity of misandry online. However, the frequency of misandry online is vastly higher than that of misogyny. How can we operationalize (ie, make quanti…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	21/05/26 06:17 AM
4	Divorced, no kids, used apps for 5 years, became Christian, met virgin, got married, now a dad. Red pill is wrong and here's why okay, but it feels like in trying to say 'not all women are like that' you are still denigrating women who aren't your definition of 'good girls.' being on or not on the dating apps doesn't really have anything to do with it. i think most people looking to be in a relationship want stability and commitment, nothing about those things are uniquely christian. also a bit weird to highlight the fact that she's a virgin	/r/ExRedPill	16/05/26 07:57 PM
15	Divorced, no kids, used apps for 5 years, became Christian, met virgin, got married, now a dad. Red pill is wrong and here's why so like, yeah, red pill bad, you're not gonna find people here that are gonna argue that, but you're kinda repeating some of their talking points friend	/r/ExRedPill	16/05/26 03:30 PM
1	What's some media to help recover from red pill? sex education is a great tv show, in my opinion. deals with a lot of these things head-on, but as someone who is more... maybe demisexual leaning, it really hams it up with the idea that most people are having a lot of sex all the time, which i really couldn't relate to at all. but it is at least honest in that it shows young people struggling as they navigate their sex and dating lives.	/r/ExRedPill	30/09/24 06:42 AM
10	This is my list of Redpill/MGTOW beliefs. I need help with challenging them- the world right now seems to confirm them. Rather than having others trying to do this labor for you, why not spend your time and energy in places where people can readily demonstrate these to you more easily? Try r/menslib for discussion around men's issues that isn't centered on dunking on feminism or overly posting about when a woman does something bad, for one. You should also check out some youtubers who actively engage with and debunk some of/several of these points. Arguments aren't very convincing anyways - you need to SEE for yo…	/r/ExRedPill	27/09/23 04:44 PM
1	(21m) Do I need to self improve? Pretty sure I’m not a psychopath. Yeah, the point about reddit over-diagnosing is fair. I guess, some of your statements sound so foreign to me and how I think. Isn’t that how neuroscience tries to understand people. Seems like a useful viewpoint. I mean, is it? You tell me. I'm not well-versed in neuroscience and what the prevailing ways of understanding how our brains work are, but if you are, genuinely, let me know if this is the case. If you aren't, well, it may be useful for you to do some …	/r/ExRedPill	17/02/23 10:51 PM
1	(21m) Do I need to self improve? You seem to be convinced that a conversation with a woman is always going to be uninteresting. You should dig deep and find out why. You probably have some aspects like this and some other things to address before you get to a place where you can healthily engage in the casual sex stuff you say you want.	/r/ExRedPill	17/02/23 10:44 PM
2	(21m) Do I need to self improve? Aren’t most people minor variations on the same theme? If you are asking this and then telling me that you are 'introverted'/'socially awkward', the indication is that you don't interact with people all that much and aren't really having many deep friendships/relationships at this point in your life. I'm trying to come up with a reason why you have this idea that everyone is more or less the same, because I cannot begin to express just how untrue that is. I mean, I see reflections of myself in a…	/r/ExRedPill	16/02/23 05:36 AM
4	No one talks about the loneliness men go through. Really great response	/r/ExRedPill	16/02/23 05:18 AM
3	(21m) Do I need to self improve? people are black-boxed machines tf does this mean? I’m an introvert So like, there's a lot of misinformation out there about introversion especially as it relates to human relationships. A lot of popular internet discourse around being an introvert is really more in the vein of social anxiety, 'not liking people', and related things that aren't necessarily properties of introversion. All that an introvert is, is someone who recharges better on their own. That's it, that's the definition. An extr…	/r/ExRedPill	15/02/23 11:48 PM
0	Thinkinking about breaking up with my boyfriend. Should I? https://www.reddit.com/r/AsABlackMan/	/r/ExRedPill	15/02/23 11:38 PM
2	(21m) Do I need to self improve? Why is that?	/r/ExRedPill	15/02/23 10:36 PM
4	(21m) Do I need to self improve? having a conversation with a girl isn’t interesting to me Yeah, this is where your problem is coming from. You seem to be convinced that a conversation with a woman is always going to be uninteresting. You should dig deep and find out why. don’t you need to add in some element of teasing too? I mean, sure, but how the hell is that going to work if you're not interested enough to even talk to them? I think you're treating this like some mechanical process; I say x, do y, and out comes sex and/or …	/r/ExRedPill	15/02/23 10:35 PM
13	(21m) Do I need to self improve? I just lack the confidence I have a bad habit of worrying too much Trying to talk to them or carrying a conversation with them doesn’t sound interesting to me either. My dude, self-improvement is all about addressing these things or more. You should make it crystal clear to yourself what you want. Then ask how you can get there in a way that's healthy and respectful to yourself and to others. It may not seem like it, but talking to women (whether or not they seem interested in you) is just like …	/r/ExRedPill	15/02/23 12:16 AM
3	I hate men dating culture Gonna give you an answer that you might've heard already and might not like. Do you regularly spend time with friends and other social groups? You don't have to be Mr. Outgoing or whatever, but having an active and healthy social life will do wonders for your mental health and your dating life. You don't need to go to parties 24/7, just do the things you already do with other people. If you are a student, talk to the other students and make plans to study together. If you exercise, talk to the o…	/r/ExRedPill	09/02/23 03:01 AM
3	(21m) Let’s say I add a girl on Facebook and Snapchat? How do I get her interested in me? I think the points the other user mentioned are pretty important for you to consider. The thing about this stuff is, that you may not want to hear, is that this is probably more of an art than a science. Besides, letting someone know you're interested directly is the only surefire way to, well, let them know you're interested. It takes time and practice to get a sense for how you interact with others in this way, and you shouldn't be afraid of coming across 'imperfectly' but authentically.	/r/ExRedPill	07/02/23 07:09 PM
3	(21m) Let’s say I add a girl on Facebook and Snapchat? How do I get her interested in me? Ask her questions and try to let the conversation flow - if you want to be different, ask her the most exciting thing that happened to her this past week. Something you would be interested in hearing. I think part of this process is just doing the thing, even when you're nervous, even when you don't think you'll be perfect at it. That's okay dude.	/r/ExRedPill	07/02/23 12:21 AM
3	I was never redpill, but I feel like living proof it's "right" and I feel like my normal healthy consensual relationship wishes are mistaken for redpill beliefs. I feel like this is the reason women don't approach me first often is because I remind them of redpill and misogyny that "women have it easier to get sex". Because you prefer long-term cohabitating with women? I'm not sure I'm understanding you here. If I want to be held a lot, then some women can take that to mean "you are expecting women to fix you" because their fear of socialized male people is driven by knowledge of misogynists like redpill followers and incels. I mean, sure, anyone could t…	/r/ExRedPill	20/12/22 07:53 AM
1	Are dating apps largely a waste of time? Lots of great commentary here. My two cents - When I was in my early twenties, my experience was that they definitely felt like a waste of time. I'd have a nice conversation from time to time but I don't think I even got any numbers from them, let alone even meeting up with someone. But I also vividly remember that a lot of the women in my IRL life at that time who I was interested in were very... not sure about what they wanted. I think being in your early twenties is just sort of like that, fo…	/r/ExRedPill	01/11/22 05:44 PM
2	smoll question for the comunityyy May be worth checking out r/menslib as well!	/r/ExRedPill	20/09/22 08:49 PM
2	Help I'm not sure what you want to get from the folks here, but here maybe is a useful exercise you can try. I think it would first be good to clarify what your beliefs and values are, and then approach your boyfriend and ask about his beliefs and values. Maybe even have him clarify his beliefs to himself before you talk in a nonconfrontational way. Then ask, How much of an intersection do the two of you actually have in your beliefs and values? What are your no-go, 'this isn't going to work' beliefs…	/r/ExRedPill	20/09/22 08:26 PM
1	AM I BLACKPILLED OR REDPILLED?(18M) i found myself agreeing on many points, like self-improvement, taking care of my mental health... but i didn't agree with their misogynistic takes Sounds like you've already had a great response to RP content. I think you have a good head on your shoulders already. after all of this i concluded that i would want to start a self-improvement journey that would end when i'm 20 not with the objective of finding a gf but becoming a better person,building some wealth and improve my mental health. Agai…	/r/ExRedPill	31/08/22 05:53 PM
11	Is moving to Asia the only way? If you struggle here, how are you going to have more success where there are still social norms and customs that you aren't aware of and if you can't speak the language? A single Asian woman telling you that you're attractive shouldn't lead you to conclude that moving to Asia is the right move, like, at all. Can't be a coincidence the only woman to say I'm handsome is asian Yes, in fact, it can be a coincidence and it probably is. You should probably get over these racial stereotypes you seem to…	/r/ExRedPill	11/08/22 01:38 AM
5	If were supposed to disregard stereotypes about women by and large, why do so many gender roles/stereotypes apply when it comes to dating? it seems that by and large women prefer to be submissive in bed and in their relationships? Like, for every dominant woman out there a bunch of others are submissive and enjoy it. Even left-leaning or progressive types seem to largely be attracted to dominant men and prefer submissive roles in bed. I find it hard to believe that this could actually be the case, I guess, because it feels like it flies in the face of every progressive thing I've learned about women. My interpretation is that a lot…	/r/ExRedPill	10/08/22 03:02 PM
11	Women can’t drive??? Folks, best to just downvote and not engage. I think we're being brigaded by someone or some group.	/r/ExRedPill	09/08/22 11:39 PM
5	Why are women so expensive? I feel like you're one person with multiple alternate accounts just coming here to agree with yourself, you might want help dude	/r/ExRedPill	09/08/22 11:37 PM
4	Anxiety over my (36F) upcoming wedding and my red-pilled brothers (41M &38M) I understand that this is misplaced aggression on their end and I have done a lot of work on myself so that I neither take it seriously nor put it on my shoulders to change them. You sound extremely understanding, but let's focus on you, your life, and your wedding. What kind of wedding would you like to have? What kind of life, and marriage do you want to have? What influences do you want in your life for yourself and your own budding family? Owen texted me recently to let me know that if our d…	/r/ExRedPill	29/07/22 02:47 AM
5	Survivorship bias My point is, even if you see unattractive men who were able to get a wife, that doesn't mean that all unattractive men have a realistic chance of getting a wife. Alright, so what then? There are plenty of single attractive men who, for whatever reason, also don't have much of a chance of getting a wife. Maybe they're assholes. Maybe they're so immature that they're actually not really ready for a relationship that could lead to marriage. You seem to be hyper focused on height and some vague noti…	/r/ExRedPill	26/05/22 05:33 PM
7	Survivorship bias Not just attitudes like you've described, but many of us men who are interested in women are so up in our fears about rejection etc. that most of the time we won't even shoot our shot and still be pissed off about it.	/r/ExRedPill	26/05/22 05:24 PM
1	Should I study in Mexico, become a Cybersecurity, and serve a mission to exit Inceldom? Best of luck! It sounds like you've already made your decision, and I must say I agree with it - it sounds like your folks down over in Mexico would be good to be around, for a variety of reasons. I would suggest the following - whatever that incel-affiliated site is, just don't get involved in it. Stick around on pages like this. When I was in a really dark place about incel-like tendencies and habits, I made it a habit to spend time on more positive corners of the internet (and definitely more…	/r/ExRedPill	22/03/22 05:49 PM
1	Should I just give up and go my own way? Which is messed up by both parties I definitely agree! It's just seems that many people nowadays have no morals at all and would do anything for that quick pleasure and validation. As I've mentioned elsewhere, I think you need to look at the influences you are putting in your life. It seems that the people who are around you right now are all tending to behave in this kind of way. It would be worthwhile to seek to spend more time with people who are in relatively healthy, stable, and happy relat…	/r/ExRedPill	22/02/22 09:45 PM
1	Should I just give up and go my own way? I will be very honest with you here - I don't really see many "successful" examples of good relationships around myself. You should def keep looking - talk to your parents or someone older whom you trust about this. I'm also in my mid twenties, and to be frank with you, dating at this stage has been and is often rough. That's just sort of a thing especially at this age, and especially with a pandemic going on - among many other factors. But to address your underlying fear that a girl can just ea…	/r/ExRedPill	22/02/22 09:37 PM
2	Should I just give up and go my own way? And in terms of "normal relationships not working out part",as I said, it just seems that girls will always leave for the more "stimulating" partner after awhile of dating. Why do you think this? What about any examples in your life where this specifically didn't happen or hasn't happened?	/r/ExRedPill	21/02/22 01:53 AM
1	Should I just give up and go my own way? What I've noticed is that most people tend to get bored by each other during relationships. The attraction, the spark and the love that is sooo stimulating, gets annoying and boring for most of the people. And in the end loads of both guys and ladies tend to just search for a new and exciting option. How did you come to this conclusion? Have you witnessed this in your own life, in media, or elsewhere? What communities are you involved in and what media are you consuming that has influenced you t…	/r/ExRedPill	21/02/22 01:52 AM
1	I’m getting bitter about my lack of dating. I have a couple of things I want to poke and prod at with what you said, but I'll try to do so as quickly as possible since I'm currently not in front of a keyboard. One thing your thought process doesn't seem to take into account is the variety of preferences women actually have when it comes to dating, or even just the company they keep. There is absolutely no reason why an introvert can't make a good impression on a woman, especially if that woman herself isn't fond of loud, out there, first-…	/r/ExRedPill	14/01/22 05:40 AM
1	I’m getting bitter about my lack of dating. See, this hasn't been my experience at all. What do you mean by 'blow anyone away?'	/r/ExRedPill	13/01/22 10:55 PM
1	I’m getting bitter about my lack of dating. I don't really think this is responding to anything about what I commented. I'm not sure you and I have the same definition of introvert.	/r/ExRedPill	13/01/22 10:53 PM
27	I’m getting bitter about my lack of dating. Hey friend, first off I want to affirm your feelings. Feeling 'stuck' both socially and in the dating realm is incredibly frustrating, and you definitely aren't alone in your feelings. From your post it sounds like there are a couple of different but related things that are related to your frustration: having a good social life is a luxury i guess? I get jealous of people who are good looking. I wish I was extroverted or the life of the party. It sounds like you are a) dissatisfied with what you…	/r/ExRedPill	12/01/22 07:04 PM
27	Why FDS women frequent this sub? I haven't seen much of it, would you be able to point any instances out?	/r/ExRedPill	23/12/21 06:41 PM
7	How did you deprogram yourself from the redpill? Welcome to the journey friend! First off, I’m sorry about how things are with your nMom, and I guess I’d like to say that there are probably many things that are ‘your fault’ in her eyes that really aren’t your fault at all. Distancing yourself from her in as many ways as possible should be a major priority, I think. Unfortunately the best way to deal with these kinds of folks is to just avoid being around them and their influence in whatever ways you can. I don’t know your situation but this is…	/r/ExRedPill	20/11/21 07:28 PM
11	Women of exredpill, is it true you don't like it when men are vulnerable with you? Why is it assumed...? This is a trope that many male-female relationships, at least in Western culture, seem to fall into. It's one that women have developed the vocabulary to discuss and recognize, as it's likely pretty uncomfortable to be in for both parties. I think the user you're responding to made this distinction not because they're assuming how you treat women, but because this is a common trope that tends to happen a lot and can be exhausting/unfulfilling for all involved and is somethi…	/r/ExRedPill	30/09/21 08:10 PM
4	Women of exredpill, is it true you don't like it when men are vulnerable with you? This really should be higher up	/r/ExRedPill	30/09/21 08:05 PM
7	Today I realized I have a problem This is great advice, but I have an addendum to the first paragraph here: your former friends and acquaintances have NO obligation to even respond to you, OP. If you decide to reach out to former friends, be clear about what you did and why it was wrong, AND apologize, you should be prepared for either no response at all or completely hostile and closed off responses. If they felt hurt by or because of you, there's no telling how they'd react and they have no obligation to engage with you furthe…	/r/ExRedPill	17/09/21 04:45 AM
3	Male improvement communities that aren’t red pill. I think folks in the comments have recommended some great places online (I'm not familiar with Bropill nor trollychromosome but can confirm that menslib is a generally more positive space which lacks the toxicity you describe). Really though, I think what would be great is for you to find a group in-person. There are lots of apps and local groups dedicated to hiking or climbing or bowling or whatever; it may be a good idea to jump in to one or two of these and see which groups generally have pos…	/r/ExRedPill	14/07/21 06:27 PM
3	19M. Extremely insecure. OP, I’m 5”8 and have struggled with some of these things for a while. Putting yourself out there will get easier as pandemic restrictions ease up, but that’s just it - it will require you to go out and do things and meet other people and take risks. It will have to be uncomfortable for you to make more genuine connections. You will have to look around at clubs and intramural teams and fraternities and whatnot. It’s also not going to happen overnight neither. It’s easy to let jealousy build up, a…	/r/ExRedPill	16/05/21 07:04 PM
2	So why does no one want to cancel rappers? Tyler the Creator has been ‘cancelled’ mostly just for saying shitty things at different times, NOT assault and abuse. I think he got in trouble with the law for a riot or something... MAYBE once?	/r/ExRedPill	04/05/21 04:30 AM
6	So why does no one want to cancel rappers? You are aware that rap, and the lyrical themes therein, have been controversial since the birth of the genre - well before the invention of proper cancel culture - right? In that sense, people have been trying to ‘cancel’ them for as long as they’ve been around. That you aren’t privy to it doesn’t mean it hasn’t been happening. Literally another user commented explaining that this has happened to several well-known rappers but your coppout is that ‘they didn’t get much publicity’ (meaning, YOU j…	/r/ExRedPill	04/05/21 04:28 AM
14	How is black pill and hypergamy false. How do you explain away the countless more or less happy marriages between average looking people, men, women, and nonbinary folks? Not everyone has loads and loads of money, the kind that attracts partners, so it certainly isn’t just for money. Also, how many people do you think actually cheat in their relationships? I will affirm that what you’re calling lookism is largely true; more conventionally attractive people often have better opportunities and outcomes in all kinds of areas. But it’s a…	/r/ExRedPill	30/04/21 10:04 PM
3	When I saw this subreddit I loved it Welcome to the community!! We’re glad to have you here :) I think it would be a great idea for you to continue to peruse the posts here, and continue interacting here over time! And don’t be afraid to post your questions or things you’re trying to hear differing perspectives on. There are a good mix of posters and commenters here. Other subs I recommend are, depending on how relevant they are to your situation, r/malementalhealth for mental health discussion focusing on things for men/by men, an…	/r/ExRedPill	16/04/21 08:53 PM
6	Regarding this sub Debate is a real life experience. I mean sure, but I think what the mod is ultimately getting at is it’s not the experience designed for this sub; rather, this sub is for people who already went through that or some other experience that has led them to decide to leave, and now they need to talk about what they’re leaving, why, and how to leave it.	/r/ExRedPill	08/04/21 12:34 AM
5	Regarding this sub (speaking as someone who isn’t exactly an ex-RPer but still frequents the sub to talk to them based on similar experiences) I would think so!! Unless the mods want to clarify this, I imagine that anyone who is interested in having conversations where we try to break down and piece apart this toxic mindset with the folks who want to leave it should be welcome. Especially the fact that you have/have had successful friendships and relationships - those perspectives are incredibly valuable to someon…	/r/ExRedPill	08/04/21 12:31 AM
5	How to not be brainwashed by the red pill Okay, now looking at a mgtow subreddit makes sense. But to be frank, a place like r/relationshipadvice is a much more positive and nuanced place to read about relationships and their issues, and a place like r/menslib has all the male perspective without the toxicity and female hate. Check out those places :) By ‘date down’ do you mean date someone from a lower socioeconomic status or date someone with a redpilled mindset? It seems like you’ve internalized the idea that you will end up dating so…	/r/ExRedPill	03/04/21 07:09 PM
2	How to not be brainwashed by the red pill I saw your post and came here to comment something to the effect of what you just responded to here - unless you already have a mindset that is NOT open to those ideologies, I’d probably advise you to cut ties with those subreddits and ideologies. While the redpill and mgtow and their ilk certainly are issues amongst men today, it is hopefully not as prevalent as you think. It also sounds like you have some autonomy ideas to work through in regards to yourself and your family. What is it that yo…	/r/ExRedPill	03/04/21 06:46 PM
3	I am disturbed by the RedPill What you want to do is surround yourself with people and media that deliberately and consistently show you that these ideologies that are getting mixed up in your head are untrue. Stick around on this subreddit, engage with those of us here who are either also actively deprogramming or already have and are working to deprogram others. There’s no need to be ashamed of these thoughts and fears - when I was 19, I had many similar ones, but coming from the perspective of being a man. Talking through…	/r/ExRedPill	07/03/21 08:45 AM
10	Leaving the red pill If you are dealing with homelessness: first, do whatever is necessary to get your needs met in the short term. If possible, establish contact with family members and loved ones who may be able to help you in any way for a little while. Take a look at homeless shelters and other related services in the area you are, and remember there is no shame in whatever your current condition is. Life is complicated and difficult, and you are a person who deserves to be treated with dignity and respect. I th…	/r/ExRedPill	27/02/21 08:39 PM
27	25F: Baffled for years about mens’ dating approaches finally explained Welcome to the subreddit!! The short version of my answer is that, you cannot convince someone of something they do not want to be convinced of. Basically I got into it with the user whose post I’m linking to above, and it essentially came down to them believing that all women are pretty much the same and want the same thing and that they could never date a girl whom he suspected of possibly viewing himself as a ‘sloppy seconds,’ less desirable choice. They’re still trying to pry themselves out …	/r/ExRedPill	22/02/21 06:38 AM
1	I want to get over RedPill but I cannot help but think there is some truth to it exciting vs safe, thrilling vs boring. I do not want some girl to date me because I am the safe alternative to thrilling, sexy guys. I have said it elsewhere - NO ONE wants to be an alternative to something they perceive as more desirable. It’s a common trope that women get jealous of women with larger boobs because that happens in real life all the time. You need to understand that being seen as something you don’t want to be seen as is an inherent risk in dating and seeing people, and sometime…	/r/ExRedPill	09/02/21 04:39 PM
5	Is there a sub where ex-red pillers can discuss things? Have you really been here all that long? Because this sub does honestly have plenty of what you’re describing - people discussing what it was like, why they joined, why they left, etc. I think another user said it best - contribute the content that you’d like to see others contribute. I’m not sure what you’re trying to do with this post.	/r/ExRedPill	09/02/21 07:25 AM
4	I want to get over RedPill but I cannot help but think there is some truth to it How do you KNOW this? You are aware there are women who do appreciate femininity and sensitivity in men, despite the fact that such traits are often punished?	/r/ExRedPill	05/02/21 06:42 AM
2	I want to get over RedPill but I cannot help but think there is some truth to it And on that preferences bit: it’s not about turning ‘off’ preferences or not. You need to wrap your head around the idea that a girl can casually describe some unattainable guy that she finds attractive and STILL find you and people like you attractive, worth their time, and even dateable. This is a basic fact about friendships and relationships: you confide in one another and trust one another and don’t take everything so literally. If I had a girlfriend and she told me she liked the way a cert…	/r/ExRedPill	05/02/21 02:05 AM
3	I want to get over RedPill but I cannot help but think there is some truth to it I’m not up to date on stranger things, so I’ll pass over addressing that. I am saying people do not turn off their preferences as if they are a switch. Have you never consumed any media where they awkward nerdy guy ‘gets the girl?’ This trope is so common in media that it has become kind of asinine, and I think you ought to ask why this is a trope and what it can be saying. You should really consider the possibility that ‘bad boys with muscles and tattoos’ aren’t the only people who are allowed …	/r/ExRedPill	05/02/21 02:00 AM
8	I want to get over RedPill but I cannot help but think there is some truth to it You seem like someone who wants to try and think scientifically. In what respectable discipline is a sample size of two enough to draw the conclusions you’ve drawn from? Or even 3 or 4 or 10? Go spend time lurking on subreddits with a lot of women. If you really want to challenge this, YOU need to be the one asking why you want to believe all women are the same. Go spend time just talking to them. They’re a lot more similar to us than you’d expect. On the Channing Tatum bit: looks may help open …	/r/ExRedPill	04/02/21 11:50 PM
8	I want to get over RedPill but I cannot help but think there is some truth to it If confirmation of this belief you’ve already had is what you’re looking for then by all means you will continue to find it. Tell me about women you know personally. Tell me about the dozens of conversations you’ve had with all sorts of different women where they all said some version of the exact same thing.	/r/ExRedPill	04/02/21 11:18 PM
11	I want to get over RedPill but I cannot help but think there is some truth to it I share these links specifically because your analysis seems to lack the perspective of what women’s experiences are actually like from their perspective. If you’ve ever talked to more than a couple of women and listened to them about what they want in a partner, you’d know that your analysis and conclusions and suspect because they don’t really draw anything from they people they’re supposedly about: women.	/r/ExRedPill	04/02/21 10:09 PM
2	I want to get over RedPill but I cannot help but think there is some truth to it Another link, one that is especially relevant: https://www.reddit.com/r/ForeverAloneWomen/comments/kfa415/feel_gaslit_by_reddits_gender_discourse/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf	/r/ExRedPill	04/02/21 10:07 PM
11	I want to get over RedPill but I cannot help but think there is some truth to it I’m going to comment some things here I think are worth checking out for you, but what I think: you simply do not talk to enough women and don’t consume media that has women behaving how women actually are. Talk to any women you trust about this stuff and ask them what actually matters to them in a partner, and just listen. Links: https://www.reddit.com/r/SexPositive/comments/dal36a/a_guy_slapped_my_ass_the_first_time_we_met_this/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf	/r/ExRedPill	04/02/21 09:58 PM
1	I'm struggling with the collapse of everything I know possibly being wrong. Why would anybody have any reason to respect me? Currently don’t have the time to go through all of this so I’ll just address the tl;dr: You may want to direct your attention to questions that are similar, but with several important differences. Being a ‘good’ person is a tricky thing to define and something people have been trying to get a handle on pretty much for all of history. I guess I’d say, know that you’re not alone in the struggle! We’re all going through it too, even if we don’t ‘look’ like we are outwardly, whatever that means :) W…	/r/ExRedPill	02/02/21 10:17 PM
3	I've been seeking a community like this for a long time, so thank you all... You definitely should share your content, if the rules allow it! I really liked the content and delivery - you might also find an audience over on r/menslib as well :)	/r/ExRedPill	22/01/21 11:39 PM
6	I found a really good video involving how PUA has affected the dating culture. Great stuff, thanks for sharing!! Also, you posted this in probably the most appropriate subreddits. A few others such as r/menslib may appreciate this as well.	/r/ExRedPill	16/01/21 08:21 PM
3	How to communicate weakness or vulnerability to women Great points!!	/r/ExRedPill	14/01/21 10:00 PM
5	Help detox a self aware 20 year old from the red/blackpill There are a lot of youtubers who have videos that critically discuss the RP and the manosphere at length. Contrapoints has some great content with this, as do several other related youtubers. I think they're worth checking out for someone in your position!	/r/ExRedPill	24/11/20 04:57 AM
2	Help detox a self aware 20 year old from the red/blackpill Take all of the good things you got from the red pill. What is exclusive to them? Are there other healthy ways you can work on yourself and increase your confidence while also treating women like regular human beings, as equals? Also - not sure what 'strategies' you're talking about, but if they resulted in you treating others like crap, lose them.	/r/ExRedPill	24/11/20 04:52 AM
3	Stopped using 4chan a month ago but still very racist and sexist, how do I stop this and become a decent person? This is actually really big, and I want to comment here to emphasize it: The rest of your life must be letting you get away with that sort of thinking, which means it is important to implement more changes than just quitting 4chan. OP, I think this user hit the nail on the head. For whatever healthy interests/hobbies you have, start following content creators that are explicitly BIPOC (folks who are black and/or indigenous or more general persons of color) and women, specifically. You MUST be in…	/r/ExRedPill	22/11/20 10:58 PM
5	Why do redpillers think people who don't talk and act like them can't get laid? Protip: 'betas' aren't actually a thing ;)	/r/ExRedPill	16/11/20 05:35 PM
11	Not only have I internalised redpill stuff but stuff like this always makes me think it's true. What do you guys think about this You're going to want to stop listening to red pillers, start unsubscribing from those subreddits and communities, and start regularly listening to and interacting with people who belong to much healthier communities and have better and healthier senses of self and other people. You'd do good to ignore this RareDarkEnergy person. I'm not a Chad, woman, nor beta because that's an incredibly simplistic way to view the world.	/r/ExRedPill	12/11/20 05:29 AM
3	A few questions I had about online groups. we're in the subreddit haha	/r/ExRedPill	12/11/20 05:24 AM
7	God I look back at myself and just cringe. Also any mention of red pill related stuff really triggers a lot of anxiety in me. Some advice as well I think I am able to post and reflect on it now because I am in a much better place in terms of my mental well being. Reflecting and thinking about things is important but you have to be ready for it. This is HUGE. Building healthier mindsets is less about getting out of bad ones and constructing healthy ones to actively replace the bad ones. If something triggers a lot of emotional distress or anxiety for you at the moment, you should likely still give it some space, and then return to and refl…	/r/ExRedPill	03/11/20 07:32 AM
5	Hey we're a 10k subs !!! Lit! Glad to see people are exploring the ideas here.	/r/ExRedPill	31/10/20 06:00 AM
2	Looking for exredpill (feminist) discord servers If you find any, please let me know as well! !remindme 2 days	/r/ExRedPill	13/10/20 09:25 PM
1	I don’t know why but red pill got to me You may have started looking st stuff thinking you were ‘smarter’ than it was. The first thing I’d say is - and this should be a no brainer - unsubscribe from all red pill and red pill adjacent stuff on any and all social media you use, immediately. If you use social media extensively, fill it with content creators who are positive and will challenge you to grow and be a critical thinker. Heck, use it to pick up and develop your hobbies and interests. Check out subreddits like this, and r/maleme…	/r/ExRedPill	01/10/20 02:26 AM
2	redpill/incel chatfishing Are you sure about that? RPers try to trap young people in these beliefs by making their arguments and reasoning sound, well, reasonable. Calling something an 'experiment' and passing it off as something that demonstrates the potential truth of a pretty important claim is exactly how they trick many people into thinking that their way of thinking is reputable. Anyone who is being lured into the red pill needs this information.	/r/ExRedPill	20/09/20 11:49 PM
2	Where Do I Go From Here? Welcome to a clearer state of mind! I believe a lot of questions have already been addressed, but I want to add this: the questions you are asking are not as simple as they sound. Becoming attractive, for example, is going to be your own unique experience because it depends on what you think is attractive. Or on trying to develop healthy relationships, well, people can tell you, but it takes years of trying to do so, reflecting on what went wrong, and doing some hard introspection and asking wha…	/r/ExRedPill	18/09/20 05:50 PM
2	Disagree with views here You are free to leave whatever manosphere group whenever you want. So why aren't they, then? We're all in agreement that they've got awful ideological narratives to some extent. One thing you haven't touched on is gaslighting; both cults and TRP/other manosphere groups use gaslighting to the extreme to convince their followers and potential followers that theirs is the only 'logical' and 'rational' point of view. The implication is if you leave, you're a soft cuck or some such and an idiot who h…	/r/ExRedPill	06/09/20 08:20 PM
2	Disagree with views here Well, there definitely is a brainwashing going on, plain and simple (at least with the red pill). Again - I am NOT labeling them as a cult, I am comparing them to one. Please understand this distinction. Also, why all this concern about supposedly unfair comparisons to TRP or MGTOW of all places?	/r/ExRedPill	06/09/20 05:17 PM
3	Honest question, how can I avoid building resentment against women after bad dating experiences? Since I haven’t seen it yet, I’m sorry that you’ve had to go through shitty experiences, man. I know that it’s tough, and anger and resentment are so easy to hold onto and permeate our existence. But women are just people, like you and me, tbh; they’re not a different species like TRP and others claim. Take in some of the other great advice here, sit with it, wrestle with it, and grow into what feels right and true. Keep asking questions of and contributing to communities like this one.	/r/ExRedPill	06/09/20 04:50 PM
2	Disagree with views here Seeing this response and your other responses, I have the sense that you’re getting bogged down in terminology here. Comparing TRP or MGTOW or whoever to a cult does not mean we are literally saying they are a cult; a comparison is, by definition, an examination of one thing through the lens of a different (but similar enough) thing. As you’ve confirmed elsewhere in this thread and in this response, there are plenty of similarities between TRP and a more traditional cult (and one commenter has a…	/r/ExRedPill	06/09/20 09:13 AM
13	Disagree with views here Hello, seems like you’re ready to have a good discussion about this, so in no way is any of this meant to attack not belittle you, rather meant as observations based on my personal experiences and discussions I’ve had. When people here compare MGTOW or TRP to a cult, we aren’t saying that there is a single ultimate leader, that there are reeducation camps, that your money is being drained (although I believe this may be the case for some RP users?), nor that you are being forcibly cut off. Rathe…	/r/ExRedPill	03/09/20 04:38 PM
15	Discouraged about dating in college I'm not preaching the incel mindset of "girls owe me sex." You may not be directly doing this, but you are dangerously close to doing so. You've already admitted to falling down the redpill rabitt hole a bit, but it's good you acknowledge that you have and are trying to get out. There's a lot to address in your post, and a lot of it would be better addressed by talking to someone you trust, someone with a good head on their shoulders, in real life. Let me talk about some things that jump out to …	/r/ExRedPill	12/08/20 09:29 PM
5	I'm out now my mind is my own. Great for you! Remember that even in this new phase of your life, you need not be alone. There are lots of ex RPers, and others like them, who are walking the same journey you are and are actively building up themselves and their lives in a healthy and meaningful way. Stick around this subreddit, or don't, just keep moving forward :)	/r/ExRedPill	27/06/20 11:39 PM
5	I have experienced feelings of great anger, resentment and depression around the mere concept of women for too long. I'm sorry that you feel that way. I'm not much older than you, and it definitely took some time to open up to people and filter out ones I could trust, but I do think it's possible to find people you trust. On the other hand, opening up to folks you trust is a process - if you begin it, you shouldn't dump everything on a person at once. Let it be a gradual process, which you can reverse if the person is giving you signals they may not be trustworthy after all. Additionally, be careful with what …	/r/ExRedPill	10/06/20 11:05 PM
14	I have experienced feelings of great anger, resentment and depression around the mere concept of women for too long. I think it may be time to take a break from the internet and pick up a self-help book or two. There is no shame in admitting that your life isn't what you want it to be, and there's no shame in admitting that you need some help. Also, if possible, try to find some folks you trust off the internet to talk to.	/r/ExRedPill	10/06/20 10:52 PM
2	How do I stop thinking like an incel? One thing I needed was counseling. This was well before the COVID-19 pandemic, but as a university student I had free access to on-campus counseling, so I went and just... talked about my problems. My fears, insecurities, why I was struggling in school all of a sudden. What hurt me about a past breakup. What I was scared of. Pretty much everything. I say this, because we treat going to the doctor for a physical check-up every once in a while like a normal thing that should be part of everyone's …	/r/ExRedPill	16/04/20 11:21 PM
5	Ditched the redpill after 6 months .Thank you! Good for you dude, I’m happy for you!	/r/ExRedPill	26/03/20 08:11 PM
1	My first girlfriend cheated on me after asking to wait for sex and even after years later I am still no better at getting over it. A few months after that is when I found the red pill but I didn't know it was controversial at the time. Well, you commented here, so I assumed you wanted discussion. You're right that you can't force the mind to feel a certain way, but you can choose how you react to your initial feelings about something. It looks like you've made another post and are still trying to discuss stuff; you seem to be frustrated that self-improvement stuff hasn't resulted in you having a successful relationship. That's not what self-improvement stuff is for, dude. If you are having psychiatric and medical issues, then …	/r/ExRedPill	18/03/20 04:14 AM
9	My first girlfriend cheated on me after asking to wait for sex and even after years later I am still no better at getting over it. A few months after that is when I found the red pill but I didn't know it was controversial at the time. What's worse is that I try to get back with her years afterward because I wanted to try again. I wanted so badly to prove myself to show her that I could be whatever she wanted especially after something like that. My man, you may not hear this much, but you are worth more than what this one person thinks of you. You have placed her, the potential of a relationship with her, and your time with her as the highlight of your life and made it the sole determinant of your self-worth and happiness. It…	/r/ExRedPill	16/03/20 07:17 AM
6	Lost an acquaintance to rp and am pretty mad about it. First off, I’m really sorry that you’ve had to go through this. Know that everything they have told you is utter bullshit, I cannot stress this enough; they are flat out wrong. Any feelings you have had about this - confusion, anger, sadness, anything - are valid. I think it’s worth a shot talking to your mutual acquaintances about the situation, but since this person was never too close to you, there probably isn’t too much you can do. I would also try not to worry about it too much; this perso…	/r/ExRedPill	14/02/20 07:46 PM
24	The Solution Second this! Also, talk to people in real life; a consistent theme with a lot of us is that we sometimes have trouble making meaningful connections in real life. You must practice doing this consistently to both get better at it, and make the relationships we need. There’s not an easy out to hard work. But the rewards are more than worth it.	/r/ExRedPill	12/02/20 08:42 PM
1	Response to "essential readings to detox from redpill" Why?	/r/ExRedPill	05/02/20 06:44 AM
1	Response to "essential readings to detox from redpill" Some more questions for you: 1) What makes you “beta?” 2) How can you be absolutely certain that you were most of your ex’s ‘2nd choice?’ If you’re younger, maybe this sort of pity-dating is a bit common, but I still have a hard time believing a person would choose to settle for someone after not finding someone else. Most people just would not date someone they are not attracted to/do not see themselves with/don’t feel a connection with at the time. Why are you being so down on yourself and on …	/r/ExRedPill	04/02/20 09:16 PM
3	Response to "essential readings to detox from redpill" only those worth dating. Brah this isn’t how most women are. This is just wrong. I don’t know you, nor your life or experiences, but you shouldn’t base all of your expectations on some shitty experiences and someone else’s shitty interpretation of then. Your sample pool literally just seems to be your own life. I’m sorry about your experiences, and that the men your exes have moved on to have driven into some insecurity you have. That’s life, man. I don’t really know what else to add onto that, …	/r/ExRedPill	04/02/20 07:08 AM
4	Response to "essential readings to detox from redpill" Now I pretty much think that socialism cannot exist because women are hypergamous. I’m really interested in how you go from ‘women are hypergamous’ to ‘socialism can’t exist’ but I’m not an expert in Marxism so I’ll focus on the former part; you tell us you need the strongest argument to be convinced about something. You’re clearly convinced women are hypergamous; what evidence was so strong so as to convince a self-proclaimed former feminist that all women fit into this particular box of being …	/r/ExRedPill	04/02/20 02:20 AM
3	So if the redpill is bs what is actually a good way to hook up? Introverted =/= shy, my friend. We may have tendencies to withdraw and be shy, but it’s important to acknowledge we need people as much as more extroverted people do. Maybe just in smaller, more meaningful doses. But if you do feel that you’re also pretty shy (and still if you’re introverted), the tough thing is that you have to practice being uncomfortable and going out even when you feel you just want to stay in. There’s no getting around this; it will take time to get used to. Another importa…	/r/ExRedPill	28/01/20 05:05 PM
16	So if the redpill is bs what is actually a good way to hook up? This is the best advice given this far. I’m a bit skeptical of that Mark Manson guy myself. Honestly OP, it’s a lot of negotiating with yourself. Being hyperfocused on this one thing will be disastrous. Allowing yourself a good time that may look different from hooking up both opens you up to actually hooking up, and at minimum guarantees you’ll have a good time anyway. It shuts off your dependence on this one thing as a source of validation, which all of us need to do from time to time.	/r/ExRedPill	27/01/20 07:21 PM
1	Is the red pill really that bad? Most of the time women are the same, they only marry for security and will monkey branch to the next man. That’s a pretty specific and strong claim, you got any sufficiently specific and strong evidence for that? 3rd wave Feminism is kinda a problem considering they hate men. Where is the person in charge of feminism who said ‘okay everyone we hate men now?’ Seriously, as soon as you find them let me know. Dude, the ‘man-haters’ are a tiny, fringe part of the feminist movement most of us don’t t…	/r/ExRedPill	18/01/20 12:11 PM
4	A friendly reminder to stay away from crabs in a bucket and other toxic communities Well-put. To give an example: One of the differences I’ve noticed between r/MensLib and r/MensRights is that, while they both discuss mens’ issues, the former does so in a way that acknowledges men must change and improve themselves and their peers along with the changes and improvements they wish to see around them. The latter feels like it’s mostly about complaining about feminism and circumcision and how men are treated in divorce without much productive discussion beyond identifying problems…	/r/ExRedPill	09/01/20 09:37 PM
24	Is the red pill really that bad? The stuff about self-improvement and working towards your own goals? Not that bad. The part where they say all women are the same, and should be treated as second-class citizens, and don’t allow nuance in the analysis of their experiences (ie not going ‘it may just be my experience, but my opinion is that’ before they say something), and reject feminism as an absolute cancer? Then that’s bad. All women are NOT the same. They are allowed to want different things. Anyone who tells you otherwise is…	/r/ExRedPill	07/01/20 01:07 AM
1	Do you think most red pill types live in the internet more than they do in real life? Not directly no, and to be fair I haven’t really been on that subreddit at all in several years, but I’ve heard from others that there is a lot of pickup-artist and Jordan Peterson-type stuff making the rounds over there these days. Plus it’s a little pseudo-sciencey, which is another trait that community and these other communities share. Maybe I’ll add this: if you are using the community as a tool for self-growth, aren’t trying to pin your problems on one thing, and work to think critically a…	/r/ExRedPill	27/12/19 06:53 PM
1	Do you think most red pill types live in the internet more than they do in real life? I don’t think I was ever RP’d, closest I probably came was being part of NoFap for like a year and a half, but I think there’s something to be said for the noninternet media in the manosphere. A lot of pickup artists (and plenty of more loosely affiliated alt-righters) have their own books, youtube channels, chatrooms and other things. But maybe that drives home the point even more: even if you’re reading one of their books, you’re still stuck in that world and are likely discussing what you are…	/r/ExRedPill	27/12/19 09:33 AM
1	Advice for people that just escaped? It’s been stated elsewhere, but as you move out of the space you were in and into something new and better, you will definitely feel uncomfortable, and often times attacked. It’s not going to be fun, but that is something that will definitely come up. Rather than telling you to just get used to it, I’ll say this: expect the discomfort, from these sources and from elsewhere. It is a natural part of learning and growing and changing. I think Contrapoints is pretty solid; Natalie is a transgender w…	/r/ExRedPill	05/11/19 04:38 AM
1	Advice for people that just escaped? Aside from Youtube channels, there are plenty of books if that’s more your thing (maybe youtube may be good to stay away from for a while). Check out ‘You Just Don’t Understand’ by Deborah Tannen, it focuses on the conversational styles and differences between men and women. It’s a bit particular, and I haven’t read it yet, but it should hopefully give you a more accurate, actually-scientific point of view when it comes to how and why men and women are socialized differently and how that manifes…	/r/ExRedPill	05/11/19 03:59 AM
2	Advice for people that just escaped? Just wanted to say, your advice and outlook is great. Not OP but I’m glad there are folks like you who can talk to former redpillers in a sensible, sensitive, but firm and honest way. Really appreciate it.	/r/ExRedPill	05/11/19 03:44 AM
5	How I cracked (and a hello too) Came here to mention MensLib too, as it’s a great place to have discussion on important topics without all the sexism, antisemitism, and overt alt-right recruiting. I’ll also mention - jump into something new. Start a new hobby, go new places, reconnect with old friends and make new friends. Think of this time as a sort of do-over.	/r/ExRedPill	25/10/19 03:15 AM
9	When woman leave LTR,does she always has another man? In general, yes. Sometimes people ending finding someone else long after a breakup and may end up getting together with someone soon after unintentionally - ie, that wasn’t what they meant to do immediately after. But just as often, they don’t, and spend plenty of time single. If she broke up with you, it meant that for whatever reasons, she did not want to be in a relationship with you at this time anymore. What you’re probably noticing is that she is trying to distance herself from you by remo…	/r/ExRedPill	24/10/19 02:35 PM
18	When woman leave LTR,does she always has another man? No, he’s actually wrong. Don’t listen to this person.	/r/ExRedPill	24/10/19 02:31 PM
3	As a woman, I paid money for a red pill coach for at least 6 months Not exactly part of TRP, but was definitely involved in the ‘New Atheism’ side of youtube before it got a little more mixed in with the manosphere. My understanding is that once she finished university, she came back to that community to find it very explicitly anti-feminist and whatnot. I can’t remember if she detailed this in a talk, or an interview, or one of her own videos.	/r/ExRedPill	06/10/19 07:35 PM
4	Red pill is really fucking up my relationship & I feel like a mess Of course. As far as resources, your girlfriend herself may be part of the solution. It sounds like you’ve opened up and been honest with her before, and I’d advise that you continue to do so. Relationships require communication & honesty with both parties, and if you can, without overwhelming her, begin to open up about what you’ve gone through and what your fears are & that you know in your logical mind that they don’t make sense, then that will be major. In addition, opening up to other folks…	/r/ExRedPill	06/10/19 07:33 PM
27	Red pill is really fucking up my relationship & I feel like a mess Perhaps it’s obvious, but immediately unplug and disconnect from anything and everything TRP. Seriously. Unsubscribe, block that subreddit, and block any online RP friends you’ve made. Perhaps also, if TRP told you to ‘scan’ for signs that she’ll leave you? Fuck that advice and look for signs that she wants to stay. In general, their point of view is garbage and their advice is garbage, but to fully get ahold of yourself and your life again, it won’t suffice to tell yourself and know that they a…	/r/ExRedPill	06/10/19 07:24 AM
5	As a woman, I paid money for a red pill coach for at least 6 months You wouldn’t be alone! Natalie over at Contrapoints got her start sort of doing this, and her channel is great (but often very specialized to issues within the trans community).	/r/ExRedPill	06/10/19 12:34 AM
1	What are some really bad or worst advice the red pill gives? Reading books on body language certainly can be useful, but don’t just focus on how people viscerally react to you. Focus on what they say when you ask them something meaningful, beyond a normal everyday question. There’s a lot of things to pay attention to, in addition to just the things that will help you figure out someone’s relationship to you and what you can get out of them.	/r/ExRedPill	04/10/19 03:51 PM
2	What are some really bad or worst advice the red pill gives? I’m not sure how easily one can even make that judgement call, unless you have the ability to read minds. Don’t let the excuse that others may not want something from you limit your ability to empathize and see things from their perspective.	/r/ExRedPill	04/10/19 04:55 AM
3	What are some really bad or worst advice the red pill gives? Because in life, one of the things you do is talk to people? And women are people? Like you may have a woman who is a supervisor? I assume you’d be interested in dating one at some point? Talking to women outside of romantic contexts is a pretty important thing, broski. And no, that’s simply false: it may be easier to make male friends as a dude, but having female friends as a dude is great, too. Literally go and ask different men in your life if they have any friends who are women and if they v…	/r/ExRedPill	02/10/19 09:12 PM
2	What are some really bad or worst advice the red pill gives? like you can easily go to a bar or tinder or night club and sleep with someone Have you talked to straight men about their experiences? Because for the vast majority of us this is just false lol But to address your actual question, it depends on the situation. It’s easy to not communicate and sometimes two people just slip into something where one person unintentionally take advantage of someone. My experience has mostly been the opposite, with me feeling like women have been the ones stringing …	/r/ExRedPill	02/10/19 07:51 PM
3	What are some really bad or worst advice the red pill gives? There’s an assumption underlying your comments, and that assumption is something along the lines of ‘I should only talk to women if I am interested in being with them or sleeping with them.’ Whether that’s it or it’s something close to that, why are you assuming that? You may have had some bad experiences here and there, but a few examples doesn’t mean you’re allowed to generalize and say ‘all women suck because they’ll friendzone me and then makeout with their ex in front of me’ just because it…	/r/ExRedPill	02/10/19 07:43 PM
2	What are some really bad or worst advice the red pill gives? See, your first paragraph is mostly bullshit stereotypes typically repeated in TRP and other manosphere places. If you seriously think that the average woman spends most of their day on Facebook or Instagram, and that male friendships are just inherently better than female friendships, you’re the one who needs to actually meet more people and have more experiences. That is a dipshit assumption that you’d be best to do away with. If you’ve ever had women express frustration with you or mot want t…	/r/ExRedPill	02/10/19 06:35 PM
16	What are some really bad or worst advice the red pill gives? The idea that people who are different from you (women) are somehow lesser than you.	/r/ExRedPill	02/10/19 02:09 AM
14	Feel like time is running out for the sexy/dating times. 23 year old here, will be 24 soon. And yeah, sometimes it feels like we’re running out of time, but we really do have a lot of time still. We really are still relatively young. It’s easy to get in a dark mindset and let the negative emotions just take over, because we know what to expect. But keep at it, man. Don’t stop looking for positivity. Don’t stop trying to improve your life. Don’t stop treating women like human beings. Don’t stop, even if you don’t see the light at the end of this long, …	/r/ExRedPill	01/10/19 02:22 AM
3	How do I get a GF after detoxing from the Red Pill? I think there’s been a lot of great commentary here already, so I’ll try to add onto it and include some new things. For understanding healthy relationships and boundaries and all these other things, honestly, spend some time browsing r/relationships and some other similar subreddits, and look through many of the comments and complaints people bring up. What patterns underlie the comments? What ways of thinking seem to be popular? To more actively decondition, it’s important to look at some of t…	/r/ExRedPill	30/09/19 03:38 AM
3	Isnt self-improvement in the hopes of attracting a female in itself adhering to toxic masculine gender norms. What if that bald fat nerd drinks Mountain Dew and eats Cheetos all day completely happy with his lifestyle? To answer the question in the title: it can be, but it’s important to understand a few ideas here. If you’re improving yourself to attract a specific girl, but then realize you like who you are becoming and keep doing what you’re doing regardless of the outcome of the situation with the girl, I’d say that’s positive, though maybe you could’ve had a more... I don’t know, ‘correct’ motivation up front. I’m certainly guilty of this, but honestly, let positive growth come in any form if you can. If …	/r/ExRedPill	10/09/19 08:37 PM
2	The manosphere has ruined my dating life Counseling can help you deconstruct notions you have about yourself, those around you, and society at large. But it isn’t realistic for everyone, I want to respect and acknowledge that. Maybe this will help you, OP. Recently, I learned that I have a lot of ‘automatic talks’ that are negative. Some people think of it as negative self-talk, some people think of it as the voice in their head, whatever. And mine has been very negative for much of my life; I internalize many, MANY things that I shoul…	/r/ExRedPill	02/09/19 07:08 PM
1	How do you not tie yourself esteem with success with the opposite sex? Is living a happy life but finding yourself being rejected and single/virgin for years really worth it? Great comment. OP, continue to do the things you love and keep improving yourself in spite of the frustration. To be quite honest, this may be one of the things where you don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel for a little while, because you may not even know what you need to get there. But for one, your happiness won’t be tied up in women and only women.	/r/ExRedPill	31/08/19 09:44 PM
1	Taking on the Red Pill \| Men's Rights Activism Thanks for posting this over here, it’s refreshing to see something other than woman-bashing in this sub.	/r/MensRights	30/06/19 10:02 PM