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8

Lawyer up now and go on the offensive. If you get out only paying $20k to her, consider yourself incredibly lucky. Welcome to modern western culture and the scam called marriage, never get married ever again.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/24 08:09 PM
5

I enjoyed reading your rant. You are clearly intelligent, able to think outside this bullshit life “Matrix” we are all currently in. I don’t know man, blow it all up. You only get one life. 100 years from now, no one will even know you existed or what you did.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/24 08:53 PM
5

Great explanation of why things are the way they are. Every young man should read and absorb this comment right here. I’ll check out Aaron Clarey, thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 10:28 PM
5

You can bold on Reddit with ** on both sides of the word. Like this.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 02:11 AM
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This is the truth right here.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 01:27 AM
4

Damn that refrigerator argument really hits home. You are absolutely right. They will resent us for anything.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 03:46 AM
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A clean haircut, hitting the gym, and nice fitting stylish clothes will go a long way of increasing your chances. Most of communication is non-verbal, and these things indicate you’ve got your shit together and have options. No need to tell them much about yourself, especially at first. Better to joke around and ask about them while you remain a mystery.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 05:25 AM
1

Lol, ain’t that the truth.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 05:22 AM
2

Her parents definitely want you to suck it up so they don’t have to deal with her as much. That’s horrible and kinda funny at the same time. I can just imagine what they say: “oh, no you need to stay married to her. Come on, make it work!” (While praying behind the scenes that you do)
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 03:26 AM
1

Damn this is just horrible. Sorry you are dealing with the corrupt unfair family court system.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 08:25 AM
9

My mother does this same thing. Her refrigerator is filled with extra containers for everything. Doubles the work, doubles the dishes.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 10:24 PM
3

Many times both attorneys are paid from joint funds. So the man is paying for her attorney to screw him over.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 04:42 AM
4

Great and accurate video. Thanks for sharing. This is also a great video called "Divorce Corp": https://youtu.be/th0R2nxva2w
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/23 09:50 PM
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The road to hell is paved with good intentions. The thing about taxes is the meager benefit is really only noticeable if there is a large difference in your incomes, in which case you are at highest risk of losing the most in divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/23 09:46 PM
3

Get the divorce done ASAP. Read the book "No More Mr. Nice Guy". Go to the gym and lift heavy weights.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/23 03:38 PM
1

You got a source on that immune system claim? I had a vasectomy done 10 years ago and haven’t been sick once since then. Laughed off covid at least twice.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 02:23 AM
6

I think we should ‘memento’ movie tattoos. Remind ourself daily. I agree with this. During some of our worse arguments where my ex was being unhinged for no reason, I used to write myself notes on my phone to "remember this" to remind myself how bad it was.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 02:25 PM
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This is spot on. I live alone now and all housework maybe takes 1 hour a week (laundry + dishes + vacuuming + other light cleaning). And 100% agree on the “too much idle time”. When you sit at home alone with nothing to do, that’s when people start making problems/drama. The internet makes this worse with the rabbit holes you can go down, it’s really bad for mental health and your wife can start to blame you. Humans need productive shit to do that keeps them busy.
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 04:34 PM
1

Oh man that last scenario must sting. Both want the home and could buy it out, but neither ends up getting it.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/23 08:21 PM
3

Had mine done years ago in my early 30s. Best decision I ever made.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 09:49 PM
2

“It started one night by her saying she thinks we should separate.” When I read this, I immediately think she’s got another dude lined up, and you just confirmed it in the comments. The fact that she lied to you about him indicates she’s going to jump to him as soon as your divorce is final if she’s not having an affair already. Right now she’s in what we call an “affair fog”, which is why she’s offering you the house. Try to take advantage of this and get the divorce to happen ASAP. That’s your…
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 01:44 AM
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South America or Eastern Europe are also options.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 05:58 AM
3

I was living in Colombia during the pandemic and was seeing regulars 1-2x per day. Still cheaper than being married.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 11:59 AM
2

Hard disagree. I have lived with many different companions over the years. I’ve lived alone now for several years and absolutely love my solitude. I don’t get lonely and there hasn't been a single moment where I wanted someone to live with me. I go out and socialize and love coming home to am empty house. Don’t project your preferences as if everyone shares them.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 05:50 PM
1

Excellent explanation of the current state of the marriage contract. All true. Thanks for the taking the time to write this.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 03:12 AM
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Disagree here. That’s exactly the type of thing she wants him to say. It means she’s getting to him and bringing him down to her level. Best to ignore all texts that aren’t logistics with kids. In person, continue to say how happy he is for her. Don’t comment on anything he is going to do or feel. Make it all about her and get her out of his life asap with minimal damage.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 04:05 PM
1

This is 100% spot on. Especially your first two paragraphs about relationships in general. It really is backwards versus how nature intended.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/23 09:22 AM
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True, but at least you get much more honesty here due to the anonymity.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 03:06 AM
2

Great write up on letting go. And as a fellow hockey player, mad respect to you and all the goalies out there. 👊🏻 congrats on the win!
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 06:45 AM
2

> when you guys were hitting it up as rabbits what worked? Typically this excitement stems from being with someone new. Very difficult to get back with someone you've been with for years and things have died off.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 09:19 PM
1

Go to the therapist if it makes you feel better, but it’s not necessary. She has betrayed you and is now panicking and playing the victim. Savaging the relationship is likely doomed to failure as this will always be hanging over your heads. Count yourself lucky and get out now, you will likely regret it in the future if you don’t.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/23 04:04 AM
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The more you do for them, the less they respect you. Especially little things because subconsciously they can start to feel like you’re their servant. Unfortunately this is the truth and one I’ve known for years but still can’t get seem to drill into my head enough to undo the programming of being overly nice all the time.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/23 12:41 AM
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This right here, OP. This is the truth which I still have trouble drilling into my head. If you treat them too good, they become ultra entitled and lose respect.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 05:38 AM
1

I also made the move from CA to TX. I have several coworkers in CA who were in marriages to SAHMs which lasted over 10 years. They're all on the hook for indefinite spousal support / alimony. It's absolutely ridiculous.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 11:47 PM
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Lifetime alimony is common in California.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/23 06:16 PM
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Marriage amounts to a no-win struggle of mutually assured disappointment. This whole comment is gold, but I especially like this line. Absolutely spot on.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 01:11 AM
3

Wow. Talk about no self reflection whatsoever. It’s good you got out.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 04:02 AM
1

Damn, that’s a crazy story about your mate. I agree- better to never be married.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 03:00 AM
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Damn those are crazy stories! Seems both times she wanted fast cash for something. Proabably not “bills” though. Glad that’s behind you now brother.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/23 02:51 PM
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100% this.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 04:24 AM
1

Paying her quietly is a bad idea. She can come back with something else. It’ll never end. If I was him, I would fight hard and countersue.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/23 12:30 AM
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Ah, got it. Agreed. Thanks for the clarification.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/23 01:13 PM
1

It’s always good to be recording 24/7, regardless of where you live. Edit: but yes, know the laws before submitting to court. See the Men’s Divorce Forum: https://forum.mensdivorce.com/viewtopic.php?t=80375 “But what about two-party consent states? Should you audio record whenever you are around the mother? Lawyer - no, that's wiretapping, and you can't use it in Court. Forum - yes, because the value of preventing a false accusation far exceeds the risk of wiretapping charges in this day and age…
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/23 06:56 AM
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Thank you for this honest take. It is seriously refreshing.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 07:31 AM
2

That great progress. Funny enough, women actually respect and admire you more when you stand your ground and put them in their place (firmly but not angry). I’m slowly learning this too and trying to undo the absolutely wrong programming of “do anything to keep her happy”. Thanks brother!
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/23 04:52 PM
3

Damn. This is similar to what happened with my ex. Definitely very common.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/23 03:54 AM
1

This is very similar to what happened with my ex. Especially the part about bringing up a plan or idea and being dismissed, only for that idea to be immediately accepted if brought up by someone else.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/23 03:51 AM
16

Nice. Good to hear there are reasonable judges.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/23 03:42 AM
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It’s female nature. “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.” Even if she initiates the divorce, she often will blame everything on you.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/23 07:24 AM
2

Wow! That is so incredibly petty.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/23 11:01 PM
1

Great advice right here, OP.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/23 08:02 AM
1

This is excellent information. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/23 07:35 AM
1

Absolutely agree. I had a gf living at my place who refused to move out after we broke up. It became a dangerous and stressful situation. Never again. Besides, it’s healthier for the relationship to live separately.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 06:37 PM
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Sorry to hear that brother. It’s really unbelievable how dysfunctional the family courts are. Helping to prevent other men from a similar fate is very altruistic of you.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/22 05:56 AM
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He said wired differently, not weird. Agree with what you said though.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/22 04:25 PM
2

Holy shit, what a nightmare. Absolutely need to have your wits about you, OP.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/22 01:34 AM
4

Philippines can be good. Columbia is better.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/22 11:26 PM
3

Yup. Exactly this.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/22 10:42 PM
5

Standard women’s divorce playbook move these days.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/22 10:40 PM
3

Can confirm. Solid advice here. It’s really this simple.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/22 03:37 AM
2

Well said.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/22 04:50 AM
5

Thank you for spreading the word. We need more men like you out there.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/22 04:49 AM
2

Jeezus. Sounds like they may be right for each other after all.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/22 12:32 PM
2

100% spot on. I wish more men would realize this.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/22 02:59 AM
1

This is my parents also, except they’re about to celebrate their 40th. I enjoy spending time with either of them individually, but together it’s almost unbearable due to the bickering. Exhausting is definitely the right word.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/22 02:53 PM
2

You really shouldn’t knee people at church, even if others are doing it. Just joking. I agree, comfortable seems to be the best case I’m what I have observed as well. Best case scenario, a couple just learns to tolerate each other long term.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/22 02:50 PM
1

Holy hell, what a horror story.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/22 05:55 AM
1

Congratulations on being under contract! (I remember your earlier post) Good luck with the upcoming work to get her out and completely financially separated as soon as possible.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/22 09:59 AM
2

This is a great vent. Your logic and thought process is a lot like mine. I too was hung up on my ex, questioning my decision to end it. But her behaviors after showed me I made the right decision and eliminated any remaining regrets. I see your willing to bridge the $30k gap. What about also offering to buy a new sink and hot tub for her new place? I’m guessing that will but up to $10k more, but it would be well worth it to ensure the house sells. Edit: if she was a SAHW and you don’t have alimo…
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/22 08:06 PM
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I’m the same. Wish more guys were like that and stood up for themselves.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/22 02:56 PM
3

This is excellent advice.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/22 12:53 PM
5

On the contrary, it’s brave and responsible to have it done.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/22 01:07 AM
1

IVF can be done after a vasectomy. I know a guy (about 50 yo) who did it a few years back. I’m snipped and just about 100% certain I never want kids. But if for some unforeseen reason I wanted one in the future, I’ll go the IVF route. $10-20k is a drop in the bucket versus protecting myself from extortion.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/22 01:05 AM
1

Yes this is what I do.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/22 01:02 AM
8

100% spot on and well said.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/22 04:12 PM
16

gone one trips and not come home some weekends. These are things that indicate cheating brother. It is the most likely case, but doesn’t change anything in regards to the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/22 05:47 AM
3

Absolutely agree about no cohabitation. Especially not in a place you own. If you break up and she refuses to move out, things can get nasty quick. For example, she can start filing false DV claims. I’ve seen it happen.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/22 12:53 AM
2

What’s IC?
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/22 02:13 PM
2

Damn, you’d have a house full of Nicoles! In all seriousness, I hope you reply to those people with what you put in quotes. It’s the perfect reply to correct that type of thinking.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/22 12:36 PM
2

Very wise decision.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/22 08:43 PM
8

Don’t “discuss” divorce. Get the best lawyer you can find and file ASAP. No more “discussions”.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/22 01:55 PM
5

Travel the world? Pick up a new sport or hobby? I lived in Colombia for a year and met a 78-year old American. He had more energy than anyone I knew back in America over the age of 60. He plays tennis every day, dates pretty girls, and parties harder than most people I met there (including guys in their 30s!) There is still TONS a man can do past 50. That’s a solid 25 years of fun if he takes care of his health and is not tied down by a bloodsucking woman.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/22 12:51 AM
1

Men are fertile into their fifties. I have a buddy who has had two kids over the past three years and he’s 56. He lives in Colombia and supports the mother but will not marry her, (mother is in her late twenties and they are quite happy).
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/22 11:31 PM
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That is definitely a viable option!
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/22 11:30 PM
3

Thanks for the reply. It happened to me! She refused to move out until she could buy a place of her own. Said things like “what are you going to do if I just stay?” Things started getting heated and I realized it could lead to a bad situation fast. So instead, I went the long amicable route. Took almost a year to get her out after the break-up. She was finally able to find a house and I ended up loaning her some money for the down payment. She’s paying me back and we’re still friends, but it was…
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/22 04:39 PM
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I agree with all except #5, especially if you own the place. I will never cohabitate again. Significant time apart is important to maintain attraction. If they get too comfortable and refuse to leave after a break-up, it could be a bad situation. If you try to evict, they can counter with false DV claims, etc. Can get nasty quick.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/22 03:42 PM
2

Wow. Really great advice here. Hope OP follows this to a T.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/22 12:45 PM
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Even the doctor is helping her?! Holy hell. Truly all of society is out to destroy men in divorce at this point.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/22 10:48 AM
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Damn. She did you a huge favor.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/22 06:52 AM
1

And the other !!! !!! !!!
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/22 12:22 PM
1

I don’t have experience here so take this with a grain of salt. This is an interesting idea. Priority 1 should be to get the divorce done. If you can do it where she agrees to no spousal support and no child support because you live under the same roof, so it’s 100/100, that might be a good way to go. I’ve never heard it being done but talk to a lawyer. However, if you buy a house, I would not move her in. She could just stay there and refuse to leave (10, 20, 30 years). If you threaten to evict…
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/22 01:23 AM
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Incredible advice. Thank you for this. Bookmarking it to come back to later.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/22 03:21 AM
2

It totally can. Child support is typically dependent on the man’s income, not what the the child actually needs. And often time the less time the man spends with the child, the more money he has to pay out. This is why women and their lawyers will fight tooth and nail to reduce the man’s time with his children.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/22 02:07 PM
1

Very smart move. Now I understand why you did not have to pay lifetime spousal support. Well done.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 03:42 PM
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Glad to hear that! True not all cases (maybe not even most), just a few that I know of. But those cases are where the men were high earners and the women were SAHM.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/22 09:53 PM
2

High status men who treat them like shit.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/22 06:44 PM
1

I have several coworkers paying lifetime alimony after 10+ years of marriage in California.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/22 06:43 PM
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Welcome to California. Lifetime alimony after a 10 year marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/22 06:41 PM
1

:) :) :)
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/22 06:40 PM
4

Very well summarized.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/22 06:37 PM
5

Mother of god, your friend’s situation sounds like an absolute nightmare! Modern slavery for sure.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/22 01:36 AM
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Glad to hear it's not too long. Light at the end of the tunnel brother.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 03:05 PM
5

The way women think is crazy. Whenever I showed I was even a little happy, it would piss her off. Grey rock (be super boring, no emotion) works wonders. That includes not showing anger. If I didn’t show emotion and almost seemed like I was depressed/suffering, she’d be in a better mood and actually pity me. That’s exactly what I wanted her to think because she’s less likely to screw me over if she thinks I’m already suffering. She hasn’t moved out yet, but I’m careful to not seem too happy aroun…
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 08:33 PM
4

A vasectomy was the the best decision of my life.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/22 11:57 AM
4

destroyed by infidelity*
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/22 11:47 AM
1

Damn, 40%+ is insane. And they don’t even take her income into account? Damn.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/22 06:12 AM
1

Well done.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/22 03:56 AM
2

Absolute 100% truth right here.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/22 06:10 PM
1

Great advice. Hopefully OP listens.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/22 10:29 AM
2

For one, lifetime alimony after 10 years of marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/22 10:23 AM
5

Lmao. So true.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/22 05:19 AM
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False. She’s likely much happier now. He showed her he doesn’t put her in a pedestal and gained her respect. Women love guys they respect. That’s why so many go for bad boys.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/22 04:54 PM
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I see. Thanks for the info. A common bank account definitely something to watch out for.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/22 09:18 PM
2

Sounds awful. How did she con you?
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/22 08:45 PM
3

Damn this is horrible. I hope things are better now.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/22 08:39 PM
3

Great reasons. Thanks for sharing!
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/22 08:37 PM
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