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| 8 | Dealing with being purposefully celibateI’ve been voluntarily celibate for forever. I haven’t found anyone worth getting with on that level, so I just haven’t ever had “real” sex. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/22 02:39 AM |
| 170 | if you are using OLD here's some tips from my experiencesCan you elaborate on why you wouldn’t read through the profile and just “like” them based on their first picture alone? I find there are plenty of men who look just fine on apps, but their profiles show they are garbage right away. I don’t bother “liking” them at all when I can tell from their profile I’m not interested. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 07:06 AM |
| 121 | Update on my most recent post. Digging into OP’s comment history only confirmed to me what I already thought; he isn’t a good partner to her & she deserves better. I seriously doubt she doesn’t fake cum with him because she sounds v turned off. He asked some1 what a clitoris is. Is this April fools?Sounds to me like he isn’t physically fit enough to have the kind of sex he wants and he likely has erectile dysfunction. Men often have more difficulty orgasming when they are morbidly obese like that, especially when they watch a lot of porn. He’s lucky that his wife bothers to have sex with him at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 07:22 AM |
| 80 | TW for sexual abuse survivors. Disgusting scrotes use prostitutes to act out their incestuous nightmare. Pick-me women who enable predator kinks are also a danger to all women and children. Mass grooming has only gotten more accessible with the internet . I first came across violent porn at age 6. 💔I briefly dated a man who said pretty much the same thing. He asked me what I’d do in that case, and I told him flat out that I’d murder him. Certainly ended things right away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 03:41 AM |
| 247 | Sick men creating memes like this. They know full well their behaviour is predatory. A girl trying to protect her drunk friend on a night out is a apparently a ‘cockblocker’.I had to do this for a friend before and she thanked me (once sober) for arguing with the man on her behalf and insisting that I take her home instead of letting her go off with some strange man she’d only met that night. Drunk her was fully prepared to go to this dude’s place just to keep socializing. I am 100% sure he would’ve raped her if it wasn’t for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 04:43 AM |
| 51 | I couldn’t find the original source of this text unfortunately, however I felt like this has to be shared. I was groomed into ddlg as a minor & am still unlearning the collective gaslighting from the kink community. Daddy dom/little girl or caregiver/little is not harmless. It glorifies pedophelia.I remember people thinking I was a prude when even as a teenager I flat-out said that I would never call a man “daddy” beyond my own father. It is a non-sexual term for me and a label for the most important person in my life. I would not sully that by using it in a sexual context. The very notion disgusts me. Likewise, terms like “baby,” “babygirl,” and “babyboy” disgust me too because I just think of babies when I hear those terms, and there is nothing appealing about that to me. “Babe” makes m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 02:24 PM |
| 74 | Trigger warning for violence against young girl. Little girls can’t even walk home, nor exist : without being sexualized and preyed upon by evil males. I don’t think people like this deserve a psych evaluation because his crime is inexcusable. Praying for baby girl’s recovery. Poems by Sumaya 🖤I feel like a test isn’t needed. Beating up a little girl when you’re a grown man? You’re deranged and need to be locked away forever so as to not hurt more people in the future as you’re clearly a menace to society. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 04:55 AM |
| 36 | Porn sickness is a slippery slope, this woman needs to take her daughter and LEAVEI know one woman who has a DDlg relationship. In her case, she has mental problems, and I believe her husband is a would-be offender. I’m certain her husband would assault his daughter if he had one based on something he asked me once and the dynamic he has with his wife. Due to a mix of the woman’s mental problems and their financial issues, they don’t intend on having kids, and to my knowledge no kids ever come by their home. (Kids stress her out, and they are broke due to her inability to hol… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 10:28 PM |
| 15 | A recent post here got me thinking… who are women you look up to? In media, history, or even fictional characters?J.K. Rowling, Hillary Clinton, and Alexandria Ocasio Cortez. JKR got me into reading and writing and had a big influence on my creativity. A lot of things I’ve done and parts of who I am would be different if I’d never read her books. She is outspoken and not afraid to say what she feels is right even when it’s unpopular. She is one of the richest women in the world not from inherited wealth but from hard work and smart choices, and she donates so much more to charities percentage-wise than many… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 04:07 AM |
| 46 | Where to meet HVW? (wlw)I have no problem pursuing someone I’m interested in. If I didn’t, I’d never have had any good dates in my life. The problem for me is the sheer lack of available gay and bi women out there that I come across. All the bi women I encounter date men and only men. (Or they date women...but only while also having a relationship with a man.) And I have knowingly encountered exactly two open lesbians in the past decade on a regular basis, both being too old for me and not compatible for various reason… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 04:36 AM |
| 22 | Anyone else feel competitive with men?Ever since I was a little girl I have considered boys and eventually men to be my competition. As an adult, I’m competitive with and cooperative with both men and women, depending on the values they align with. In some ways, my view of men is much harsher as a woman, yet in practice, I get along with men much better nowadays. Funny how that goes. For me, it stems from the sexism I faced early on in life. Boys would physically hurt me and insult my intelligence and my appearance. As such, I wante… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 07:42 AM |
| 57 | The Awakening is Hard.I remember back when I was in high school and my younger sister as a freshman dated a senior, and all the alarms were blaring in my head. I warned her and tried to get her to dump him before he took advantage of her, but she wouldn’t listen, and he did take advantage of her. I thought it was repulsive that what was almost a legal adult was getting with someone just out of middle school. I was already leaning towards radical feminism before I joined FDS. This sub merely makes me feel vindicated i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 05:59 AM |
| 392 | From the tinder subreddit. I have no words.Bet he isn't interested in having a man-sized fist up his ass. Honestly, these men are lacking in empathy and have gross desires. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 04:28 PM |
| 20 | What would you tell your 10 year old self if you could?I would tell my younger self to trust her intuition as she is smart and usually right. I’d tell her to not feel insecure about what self-hating women and women-hating men think or say as their viewpoints are worthless. I would say that I shouldn’t waste my time bothering to try to date men and should focus my efforts on women instead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 09:13 AM |
| 6 | Is there any way we can hijack the Latina subreddit? I'm so disgusted my entire ethnic & female identity is a porn sub. Is there anything we can do? Has this ever been done before?Considering the main lesbian subreddit is straight up porn (and the others tie themselves up in knots to not offend males) and being lesbian should be the most female-exclusive thing ever, I feel no subreddit is really safe from males if they’ve been allowed to enter. FDS seems to be a rare exception as males are kept out intentionally. If males have taken over the latina subreddit, it’s over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 05:01 AM |
| 6 | The “empowerment” propaganda has to stop.The ones I know also had money for cocaine and other drugs, but yeah, no benefits and no retirement. They’re young and dumb and not thinking about things like benefits and retirement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 04:37 AM |
| 66 | The “empowerment” propaganda has to stop.I think a lot of this “sex work is empowering” BS comes from women who became cam girls because they make a lot more money getting themselves off on camera in the privacy of their homes than they did in their careers. I’ve known multiple women who went to college, at times for hard science degrees, and they either burned out or lost their jobs, and they became convinced that camming was the solution to their problems at the time. Every last one of these women who got into camming “temporarily” i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 03:22 PM |
| 160 | What is the most low value reason a scrote has tried using to manipulate you?If a man tells me it’s me or the military, I’ll let the military have him, no contest. That was a great reply. I bet he didn’t join the military either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 03:41 AM |
| 86 | The truth about "the wall"One really awkward thing about being a bi woman is how often I’m attracted to women who are much older than I or they would be comfortable with. I’m shy of 30 and regularly feel drawn to women in their 40s. They still look good, and they’re intelligent and mature and confident. Men in their 40s are still like overgrown teenagers in their behavior but look unhealthy and old to me a lot of the time in comparison. Women in their early 20s look like teenagers and men in their early 20s act like teen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 08:18 PM |
| 23 | What would you do if your partner doesn’t like thirst traps when you send them?Sexy photos basically | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 12:06 AM |
| 87 | A 52 year old man I know admitted to me that he wants to go for 20-29 year olds 🤢🤮He really has no room to talk either when the age gap in his relationship is so much more vast | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 04:44 AM |
| 107 | Can a man that has done anal be a HVM?I think it’s possible to very much enjoy a particular sexual activity but be fully capable of living without it. I actually rather like pegging / using a strap-on on a partner. But if a partner isn’t okay with being on the receiving end, I can live without it without having an issue. It’s possible that this man feels similar about anal. From what you’ve described, it sounds like that is the case for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 03:39 AM |
| 51 | Men who hide their political views from youThose of this type I label as “too stupid/uncaring to date me.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 03:26 PM |
| 39 | Men who hide their political views from youI definitely vet for political views. One of the reasons I liked OkCupid when I was younger was because it provided an easy way to look through answers to questions that clearly showed red flags (and answering too few or no questions was already a red flag to me). Sadly much of that feature somewhat disappeared in time so you would have to go through everything, but the questions and answers remained. I have filtered out so many sexist and racist men this way. I don’t date those who are “apoliti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 03:21 PM |
| 8 | What's the FDS view on "reading" porn?I’d request a link to whatever he enjoys reading or is writing. Whenever a man has told me he enjoys fanfiction or online stories, I ask to see what kind to see if we have similar tastes or if he has bad taste. In my experience, they tend to have bad taste but are perfectly willing to share. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 04:49 AM |
| 58 | This is why you never stay with a man who expresses interest in anal. What he really wants is to hurt and humiliate you.Sounds like she has horrible boundaries in general too. I mean, she told a coworker (you) at her new job about all of this? Yikes. I understand a friend, but that’s really TMI for a coworker. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 02:45 PM |
| 85 | "But hon, in this city no one will want to wait 2+ months to have sex with you" -- female acquaintanceThis woman is going to be divorced in like a year, after she has a baby. They’re rushing because of “the biological clock.” If she is merely an acquaintance, not useful for your career, and someone you recently met, there is no point in trying to develop a friendship with her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 04:41 PM |
| 34 | Vetting Vetting, imagine being with a man for 30 yrs plus and he doesn’t love you, only as a best friend…. This is sad.I’ve experienced this before myself. I had a relationship that lasted a couple years, and the man seemed happy and didn’t express anything being wrong that needed improvement. Out of nowhere he declared he wasn’t happy with the relationship and ended things and didn’t give me any opportunity to try to fix things or accommodate him. Ultimately, I concluded that he just got bored of me and didn’t want to try to keep things working. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 04:07 PM |
| 62 | Have you ever walked out of a first date and why?As a woman who had a “submissive” boyfriend once and has had dates with multiple “submissive” men otherwise, I can say that in my experience, these men tend to have difficulty being independent, functioning adults and are also very cheap and lazy. Also, they still want what they want when they want it, just like “dominant” men. They are no more giving nor more focused on a woman’s pleasure. “Doms” tend to be overtly selfish while “subs” tend to be covertly selfish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 05:02 AM |
| 25 | Has a man ever left you or started abusing you when something negative happened to your looks?Oh yeah, I gained some pounds while I was dating a man who was in the process of losing some pounds. He was quite heavy when we got together. But once he was the leaner partner, he left. 🙃 Moral of the story: Don’t date men who are fatter than you. They won’t show you the same kindness of looking at the person within. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 05:31 AM |
| 137 | guys who say they don't know what they are looking for on oldI immediately reject men who don’t know what they want or blatantly don’t want what it is that I’m seeking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 04:36 AM |
| 68 | Vetting: if a worst case scenario happens to you, can you rely on him?Part of how my mom realized she wanted to marry my dad was because of the homemade chicken noodle soup he made for her when she was sick. She put it down to “he can cook,” but I think cooking in this scenario says more than that that she picked up on. He’s always been the more health-conscious one between them. He has his flaws, but care for my mom’s physical well-being while they were together isn’t one of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 01:23 PM |
| 46 | She’s speaking all factsI’ve used strap-on sex/pegging as a vetting tool. It’s something I can enjoy doing with a partner, but it’s not like I’ll die if I don’t do it. If a man expressed wanting to do certain sex acts, I’d throw this one back at them. Their reactions say a lot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 04:36 AM |
| 77 | Straight from the horse's mouthMaybe do a call with them in advance to see if you want to go to dinner? If you really don’t want to do dinner with them, then that may be a sign that you shouldn’t be bothering with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 05:28 PM |
| 22 | How have your female friends and family members reacted to FDS when you introduced it to them? What are the ones who rejected FDS doing with their lives now?My sister is a pickme. I’ve expressed FDS ideas to her, and she generally agrees, but she won’t apply it to her own life. And if I try to get her to apply it for herself and it naturally points to her needing to dump her boyfriend, she will throw my single-hood in my face like it’s bad and her having a relationship is so good. What’s crazy is that she can see all the red flags her boyfriend shows and complains about them, yet she chooses to stay because she’s “in love.” He recently did something… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 08:37 AM |
| 33 | Men want me to back down even when I am rightThis is emotional abuse. Get out now while you still can. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 07:39 PM |
| 117 | What is up with men saying they want someone who is passionate about something?It’s simple: They want a manic-pixie dream girl. Men who prioritize “passion” and “passionate” women want women who are always cheerful and enthusiastic and eager to have tons of sex with them and share their same hobbies. These men will dump you the moment they get bored or you have any setback that upsets you. I know this from personal experience, and I refuse to date those who put these red flags in their OLD profiles. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 05:57 AM |
| 11 | Shyness or Fooling Around?Assume he’s not interested in more than banter unless he asks you out. In my experience, men enjoy banter even with women they aren’t attracted to and will engage in it without asking the woman out. If you find the banter fun even with that understanding in mind, you don’t have to stop, but just remind yourself that banter does not tell you with certainty where he stands with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 08:29 AM |
| 18 | How'd You Find FDS?IIRC I was looking up groups that were directed towards women/females, and this is one that Reddit suggested, funny enough. What I find so strange is that men on Reddit get all weird and pissy about FDS, yet there was a question just the other day on a popular men’s subreddit asking men who were single why they were, and many of them had answers similar to why many FDS women choose to be single. It’s fine for men but not for women to choose to be single apparently? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 03:11 PM |
| 22 | Men who give you a number/large number of children they want before discussing commitment just want to use your body.Back when I planned to have kids via adoption as I have never wanted to reproduce, I definitely would ask those who said they wanted kids whether they would be okay with only having adopted kids. The vast majority of those who wanted kids would only accept having kids that were biologically their own and wanted me or their hypothetical future wife to birth their children. It was more often those fence-sitters who leaned towards being childfree who were open to adopting if the right circumstances… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 08:55 PM |
| 8 | Mixed feelings about this meme. Yes, you can be replaced at work. But if your "home" is with a man you can be replaced there too. I would argue a lot of jobs are less likely to replace you than a man is and more likely to benefit you for a longer time. Thoughts?Based on the career I have and my track record with romantic prospects in my life, my career is likely to keep me for life or at least until I’m at the point I’d want to retire anyway. Romantic partners will toss you aside because they got bored one day. Regardless, I don’t trust anyone but myself, so I plan my life in such a way I am fine single and if I were to be let go from my job. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 09:01 PM |
| 40 | When you move in with a man that doesn't even respect youThis is a man who clearly should have told his girlfriend not to move in with him. He clearly cannot live with another person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 08:53 PM |
| 51 | Just relax and let HIM worry about the date.If a man can’t even plan a date, he’s probably not good at managing other aspects of his life either. As a woman who too often had to plan dates and is really good at planning/managing my life, I didn’t make that connection before. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 04:07 PM |
| 36 | on beauty standards and wanting to opt out, way way outWhen certain appearance things come up, I acknowledge that I’m average looking with occasional times that I’m cute, and that’s the best it’s going to be. Nice women will try to pump me up, but I’m realistic. I accept the facts for what they are. I’m simply okay looking. It’s fine. I do not wear makeup. I have worn makeup on rare occasions like job interviews, but that’s pretty much it. I don’t like how it feels, and I look kind of weird to me when I see my face in makeup (which someone else has … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 03:51 PM |
| 176 | Even on Airplanes in business class we are not safe.He’s been released pending investigation when he’s an obvious menace to society... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 08:15 AM |
| 232 | Once again, Guard Your Womb, Sisters.This is on my list of reasons why I’m not planning to have kids: most men do not deserve to be fathers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 05:52 AM |
| 154 | Once again, Guard Your Womb, Sisters.I’d advise the fiancee to cancel the wedding (assuming one is planned) and dump him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 05:50 AM |
| 59 | Seen in a medical sub. Thankfully the replies were very supportive; I hope she will be OKSo many men are deficient in empathy and compassion that I sometimes wonder how we’re the same species. Men like this act are such animals. How do they function in society? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 05:48 AM |
| 44 | Good LuckYou know what’d be really funny? If someone in this man’s life showed this tweet to him every time he whines about being single. “Well, this is why you’re single, dumbass.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 05:41 AM |
| 96 | Good LuckYeah, they want to be the exception to a “no hookups” rule. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 05:38 AM |
| 24 | Women and CaregivingI’m never wiping anyone’s ass other than my own. I have no brothers and am the responsible child, so my parents already know I’m the only one they can rely on. I keep trying to push my parents to make certain choices to be able to remain independent as long as possible in my life. I’m already planning for the financial costs of caregiving. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 06:35 AM |
| 5 | "Are you a feminist?" How do you answer this?I’m a feminist even if my views don’t match with what mainstream “feminism” looks like. As for men calling themselves feminists, quite some time ago I took the stance that a man’s self-identification of being a feminist is meaningless. His actions will tell me what I need to know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 07:10 AM |
| 6 | Let’s hear your clever responses to “How are you still single?!”I’m rather blunt as I get asked this in real life by well-meaning family and coworkers due to my perceived forever-aloneness: I’ve yet to find someone worthwhile who’s interested in me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 06:33 AM |
| 68 | How many of you ladies have found HVM since following FDS?This. I used to think that I needed to find a man to settle down with in order to be happy, but while a part of me always knew I had to be careful about avoiding the wrong kind of man, my eyes have been opened more to red flags as well as my own boundaries, standards, and desires. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 06:15 AM |
| 77 | The unique relationship dynamics of baby boomers and how they shaped today's twentysomething LVMThis right here. I have a high-stress career. Why would I want the added stress of a manchild for a partner? What does he bring to the table to make it worth my time to date him? Money? I make enough for myself. And many men are bad with finances in my experience, so he’s more likely to bring financial stress over time. Affection? Many men neglect their partners for videogames or sports. Care if I get sick or injured? My family is more likely to actually take care of me than a man; a man is apt … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 03:10 PM |
| 20 | Reminder that this is the common behavior of husbands. Vetting is lethal and so is depending on someone other than your romantic partner“In sickness and in health” clearly are just meaningless words when a sizable portion of men choose to marry. It’s quite possibly the most important vow, and yet they toss it aside when it inconveniences them. What’s the point of getting married if you can’t have someone to lean on for support when times get tough for things that are out of your control? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 02:51 PM |
| 136 | Are most high value women “doomed”?This is why even pre-FDS I had found myself wondering if I liked males before when I was younger because I just was naive to how unappealing they are or if it was compulsory heterosexuality. The older I get the more rare it has become for me to have any interest in dating any man. It’s been a couple years now since I was last interested in one. At this point I’m hoping I can find a nice lady to settle down with. Failing that, I want to be able to be content to be alone forever. I’ve given up on … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 03:56 PM |
| 25 | Scrote obviously has a porn addiction and is neglecting his kids and gaslighting his wife. I can't even with these men anymore.My mom married my dad after his divorce and custody battles were done with my mother, but she footed the bill for a lot of the court proceedings and did a lot of the heavy lifting for childcare and household management/maintenance when I was little. I’ve told her that even being past the age she was when she took that burden on, I know I couldn’t stand to do the same and won’t. My dad got really lucky. And I turned out better for it too. I myself won’t be getting with anyone who already has kids… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 03:35 PM |
| 8 | It's too late, the Porn Industry won, the children are corrupted. Todays young people think rape is good and the people who think its bad are the problem. How do we protect kids, teens and young adults from being indoctrinated into Porn and LibFem culture?I think all we can do is be unapologetically firm and outspoken in our views, and those who have children can teach their children. I just know I’m not bringing any kids into this hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 06:46 AM |
| 117 | Canadian Teen Killed by British Man She Flew to Meet After Falling for Him on Dating AppI always specifically made it clear NO LONG DISTANCE in my searches and options. If you don’t live within 20 miles of me, it’s a no go. Not getting any feelings for someone long distance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 06:15 PM |
| 6 | Are you testing him?I’ve had something similar happen before: a man I was seeing complained about not seeing/talking with me enough, I started to develop plans to try to address his concerns and expressed the ideas to him, and he quickly ended things with me the next day. I suspect the issue isn’t really a lack of time spent with these men but something else to them. In your case, it seems he had controlling intentions. In my case, I’m not sure he even knew what he wanted, unless he hoped I’d dump him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 06:22 AM |
| 26 | Reasons I changed my mind on having children and all the aspects of motherhood society does not want to acknowledge:All of this 100%! These are all factors for why I am childfree though I have more too. I used to consider adoption, but some of these issues and more are still in play. So I won’t be adopting either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 03:41 AM |
| -3 | Stop getting into cars with men.I live in a city too. I never mentioned a garage. I have a car, and I drive myself. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 03:24 PM |
| -8 | Stop getting into cars with men.I never mentioned the suburbs. If you aren’t poor, then you should get a car and not rely on strangers. It’s extremely dangerous to rely on strangers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 03:17 PM |
| -8 | Stop getting into cars with men.I made an exception for those who are poor. Read better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 03:13 PM |
| 76 | Does the quality of men you attract affect your self esteem?Relatable. Men who pursue me tend to be especially low value. Men I’d pursued in the past were sometimes almost as bad in the end but other times were better quality but just not compatible in the end. This is why I’ve had trouble with the idea of not pursuing a partner. The only way I’ve even managed to get decent dates is when I initiated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 02:45 PM |
| 48 | It's Time to Let Go of Your Toxic Female FriendshipsI cut out anyone who starts to get mean toward me. If they are simply in a stage of complaining about and defending their loser boyfriend, I just keep some distance but offer my advice for a while. I’m so sick of people in general that I’m on the verge of becoming a hermit outside of work, so I try not to cut out people I’ve known a long time just because I see their failings. If they want unnecessary distress, they can have it. I just won’t get caught up in it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 02:38 PM |
| -5 | Stop getting into cars with men.I know so many women who are somehow too anxious to drive but have no qualms getting into cars driven by strange men, whether it’s for an Uber ride or a date. They’ll complain at times about dealing with creepy or annoying men yet fail to see they could avoid that if they just leveled up, learned to drive, and drove themselves places. These same women are spending as much money on Uber as they would on driving a cheap car of their own (I’ve calculated it), so it isn‘t as though they are saving m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 02:17 PM |
| 99 | He accused me of being a “gold digger” and threatened to end the relationship after me not wanting to put out on date #5. It backfired. How grey rocking can protect you!!!I personally wouldn’t have gotten into a car with a man that early in dating nor let him know where I live, but it sounds like it turned out okay for you. Just have your family be aware of the situation in case he becomes a stalker. I’ve had it happen before where dates tried to get me to go to their home quickly or get me to lower my estimated timeframe for potential sex. I didn’t and got ghosted, but it was for the best. This was pre-FDS even. Men will often claim at first they are fine with a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 11:27 PM |
| 43 | One thing these scrotes gonna do is drop their masks. Their real intentions show when they feel they have trapped their wives. Girl run!For real. It’s one thing for someone to turn off lights because you forget, but he made it clear he purposefully leaves them on, that he knows they are on and he just wants her to turn them off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 07:54 PM |
| 30 | One thing these scrotes gonna do is drop their masks. Their real intentions show when they feel they have trapped their wives. Girl run!I always make sure windows are shut and doors are locked and lights are turned off before I go to bed. I’ve known too many people in my life who just casually leave windows open, lights on, and the front or back door unlocked! Makes me wonder about how they don’t get robbed and how high their power bills are. Growing up, my own family would do this, so I had to check as I was the anxious one who was not forgetful about things of this nature. I have had to do this while having roommates too. It’s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 07:51 PM |
| 52 | One thing these scrotes gonna do is drop their masks. Their real intentions show when they feel they have trapped their wives. Girl run!Time for an abortion and a divorce. Glad her own mom sees how bad this is at least. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 07:41 PM |
| 19 | What are the Red Flags of a LVW that HVM should be aware of? And what are the Green Flags of a HVW?This subreddit isn’t male dating strategy, so I don’t think we need to talk about this. Men already have their own ideas of what they want and value. We just have to be sure we get treated right or bounce if they don’t treat us right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 02:25 PM |
| 5 | Why do men think their sudden, unplanned, SpOnTaNeOuS trips are a positive?Yeah, it’s a red flag. They’re irresponsible and careless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 01:55 PM |
| 40 | In praise of being a mean womanMy favorite women tend to be viewed as mean by others. But at the same time, I can tell that the women in question aren’t really mean but rather passionate, firm, and confident. Women who I view as mean though are probably just mean. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 06:28 PM |
| 99 | Men’s “goofiness” and “clumsiness” is usually just laziness and lack of considerationThis is a man who should only eat at tables. He cannot be trusted to eat at a sofa. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 03:13 PM |
| 5 | Which book impacted you the most and would be your first pick as a gift to someone?I gave my dad the Marie Kondo book after I went through it and utilized lessons I learned from it. It inspired him to tidy up and minimize possessions. (He was the one who bought the most stuff in the family.) I never got the book back, and he never actually read it, but just seeing the book inspired his behavior to change (after seeing what I changed). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 03:30 AM |
| 4 | Ladies who have taken back an ex, did he change and what made you take him back?I got back together with an ex some years ago. It took longer for him to dump me the second time around, but he did eventually dump me again. He had claimed that the reasons for dumping me before were no longer issues, and yet they were still issues when he ended things the second time. At least the second time he dumped me I felt a lot more whole, like I knew then that it hadn’t really been my fault for things not working out because I knew him better and myself better. There are things I got o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 03:12 AM |
| 204 | The bar is in hell.For real. I treat myself to meals all the time. If I’m going on a date with someone, it is not because I need a free meal. In the past, I always offered to pay for my portion, and the dates would usually tell me that they would take care of it instead. I was taught that while it’s polite for a woman to offer to pay for herself, a man who actually wants to impress a woman and has any interest will decline said offer and pay for the full meal himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 02:47 PM |
| 108 | Warning ⚠️ Some red-pill guys have started adopting FDS lingoWeren’t those kinds of men using those terms before? Or perhaps they’re simply trading out words like “alpha” with “high value.” These men greatly overestimate themselves and underestimate women’s ability to see through them. They don’t comprehend that fundamentally whatever a man labels himself is not how a woman may judge him. A woman can use her own observations and make her own determinations independently. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 06:07 AM |
| 1 | Are men seriously trying to normalize erectile dysfunction now??? 😬😬He was thinner and better looking when she met him and nice...and now she’s “in love.” Everyone who knows her tells her to level up and leave this man, but she just refuses to. SMH. She wears her misery as a badge showing how much she loves him. It is so stupid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 02:02 PM |
| 21 | Is it really worth trying to help PickMes?Depends on where the woman is at and her general attitude in my experience. Usually they don’t listen at the time, but eventually a good number realize you were right all along. Some will continue to repeat the pattern regardless, but in my experience, these women have serious depression and self-esteem issues and are really dependent on others in general; a good number of them don’t even know how to drive. I have a family member I’ve been trying to get through to, and logically, she knows I’m r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 01:33 PM |
| 80 | Are men seriously trying to normalize erectile dysfunction now??? 😬😬He’s like 34 and she’s like 24. 😬 Don’t know what she sees in him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 01:51 AM |
| 123 | Are men seriously trying to normalize erectile dysfunction now??? 😬😬Absolutely. He claims he doesn’t watch porn, yet he suggested they watch porn to spice things up, which tells me he watches porn and hides it. He isn’t going to change anything. He’s complacent and not at all worried about losing his girlfriend. I’ve already recommended dumping him. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 01:29 AM |
| 56 | Negs her, calls her response a meltdown, asks reddit if he is wrong or if she is overreacting.Dude is a stranger on the internet though, so he was definitely negging her. This is a classic example of a man insulting a woman and telling her she can’t take a joke when she tells him she dislikes what he said. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 11:27 PM |
| 342 | Are men seriously trying to normalize erectile dysfunction now??? 😬😬I have a friend who’s dating a man in his 30s who has ED. He is depressed and fat but also doing nothing about it. Meanwhile, his girlfriend feels unattractive and not attracted to him because of the situation. The fact he has to take Viagra to get it up when he’s so young is troubling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 11:16 PM |
| 12 | What did she do to him?Naturally, they didn’t have an answer for that, just the response that we shouldn’t make assumptions at that time about who did what without more information. How they responded to the whole situation was quite disappointing. Even my dad agreed with me that most likely the boyfriend killed her because statistically when a woman goes missing or dies, her current or former partner is responsible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 11:14 PM |
| 116 | Awww, this poor baby! Let’s guess what actually happened.Considering how unwilling men can be to pleasure a woman, I developed far more interest in toys than in a romantic partner for sex long ago. At least I can get results for myself every single time without fail without having to do any physical or emotional labor for someone who won’t try to make me feel good. This is just part of why I don’t want to date men. If the only thing they can provide is half-assed, emotionally unavailable companionship while trying to use me, what’s the point? With a w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 06:30 PM |
| 28 | What did she do to him?When I heard about Petito being missing, how her family was feeling about the texts, and just how odd her boyfriend was behaving, I knew in all likelihood the boyfriend killed her. When I mentioned this when some friends (mostly male) were talking about the situation, they were quick to tell me that I was being too quick to judge, that we didn’t have all the facts yet, and that there was something wrong with me for assuming her boyfriend had killed her. Unsurprisingly, news is now coming out tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 06:22 PM |
| 20 | Dating strategy: If you're single, carefully cultivating a group of male friends is a great way to vet for mate compatibility and secure resourcesI made a lot of friends, mainly male and some female, through an organization I joined a decade ago for a shared interest we all had. I did have temporary crushes on quite a few of them, but by being friends, I was able to see through and identify incompatibility right away without having to try to date them first. In one case, it did lead to a romantic relationship though it eventually fell apart. At this point, I enjoy these people for fun conversation, and that’s pretty much it. I don’t inves… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 05:02 PM |
| 36 | I asked my boyfriend what he would do if I decided to keep the baby - was his answer a red flag?It’s up to you what to do with the pregnancy, but if it was agreed upon beforehand that you’d abort, and you change your mind, as long as he pays the child support or splits the child costs, he’d be well within his rights to break up. Considering what you’d previously discussed, I think it makes sense he would encourage you to abort, and I’d hope he is footing at least half the bill for the abortion since it takes two to have a pregnancy occur. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 01:10 AM |
| 20 | The absolute bare minimum, and an automatic dealbreaker. NEVER, no matter the circumstance. Do not ever let a man think that it is justifiable to try to physically intimidate you. There exists not a single excuse for violent behaviour. It will always escalate.Due to all toxicity I grew up with, if I catch even a whiff of it from someone in a dating context I am gone. Usually said whiff shows itself before a date ever happens or on the first date in my experience. I’m less easily offended by things that offend regular people out in the world though, so I do have to ask coworkers and friends for a second opinion on certain things that I’m like “This seems a bit weird, but I don’t know if it is truly improper.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 04:01 PM |
| 4 | Never having casual sex again (WLW edition)Oh I know. It’s a passing thought that goes nowhere. I’m just not dating right now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 03:08 PM |
| 22 | Tell us about the PickMe friend(s) you ditched!I had a friend I met in college. She was a fair bit older than me, and we met through a school club. I was going through a rough time, and she was a nice, comforting presence who helped to boost me up. Some time passed and her husband divorced her, and I was there for her while she was going through the grieving process of losing her marriage. Not long after, she started dating younger men who were very much losers. I had no qualms about telling her this. She hopped from one relationship to the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 05:20 AM |
| 52 | Part 2. I blocked him, but he used someone else's phone to have the last word. Like I was going to let him 😘30+ year old men would claim they wanted to date me when I was <25 years old, and I was not okay with it and had no interest. The biggest age gap I’ve ever had and been comfortable with was about 4 years. These old men need to leave the young women alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 03:12 PM |
| 12 | Never having casual sex again (WLW edition)I can’t even find a girlfriend because the women on these dating apps can’t hold a conversation enough to get to a first date, ghost quickly, or are trying for a quick, easy hookup. I need someone I can have a solid conversation with and have no desire to hookup. Any time I have some weak-ass conversation with a woman, it makes me think “...Should I actually give men a chance again, even though they are so damn lackluster?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 05:16 AM |
| 10 | The Inverse Relationship Between Financial Maturity and Marriage DesirabilityThe basics: See how much you are spending currently. Think of areas you could cut spending in. Build up some emergency savings. Do the snowball or avalanche method of paying off debt. Start contributing to your retirement, at least where you have an employer match, and max that out. Build up more savings while keeping control of your costs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 05:09 AM |
| 402 | I thought this was a joke but it’s real and disgusting.So when the robots rise up against humanity, maybe they’ll just rise up against men? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 03:18 PM |
| 52 | Be careful of this new generation of “SAHD”, who won’t do any chores, won’t take care of the kids, doesn’t contribute to earning money but will lie and cheatBack when I thought I wanted to be a parent but also a career woman and had optimism that a man could be a proper SAHP I figured it’d be nice to have a reliable man do the majority of the childcare, household maintenance/cleaning, and cooking while I worked. Now, this never has actually come to pass, and life experience, anecdotal evidence, and actual research have changed my mind. SAHDs do not do as good a job as SAHMs on average and put in significantly less effort on average. They are also th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 07:06 AM |
| 36 | You can date a man for ten months, think you're his girlfriend and he will still say you're "casual" and go behind your back and find a whole new girlfriend.This queen must have sensed something was off with him (he was seeing other women) and didn't sleep with him.When my ex wanted to dump me, it was so obvious from how he was texting, and I pretty much called him out on it. I didn’t see the point in meeting up just for him to tell me what was so obvious through text already. Like I’m not going to be less hurt by it being done in person. I would’ve just been angrier I got myself dressed and spent gas money and time going to meet up somewhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 06:39 AM |
| 97 | Casual Sex ConfusionGet yourself some sex toys and avoid dating while you do some introspection. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 06:28 AM |
| 20 | Strangest icks and dealbreaker?I know a man who literally only eats pizza, usually delivery. I’m just like 🧐 how is this man still alive? Fortunately he is childfree and no women want to date him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 04:39 AM |
| 38 | DAE have a visceral negative reaction to Hinge’s social media ads? Who are these meant to market to? It can’t be women.My mom was telling me just this weekend that she doesn’t understand why women nowadays have set the bar so low for men. Men will do whatever it takes to get a woman. If women accept low to no effort from men, men will readily do low to no effort. If women collectively required proper effort from men, men would have no choice but to put in the effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 04:43 AM |
| 41 | DAE have a visceral negative reaction to Hinge’s social media ads? Who are these meant to market to? It can’t be women.I’m already ahead of the game: I have string cheese in my fridge right now. Ladies...come at me 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 04:38 AM |
| 29 | She Needed FDS a Long Time AgoFor sure. Every time I encountered a man who said he wanted children back when I was open to the idea of adopting someday had a firmly negative reaction to the idea of not having biological children...and these weren’t even boyfriends, just dates. They so badly want to impregnate a woman and have her birth their heir. It’s disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 04:34 AM |
| 51 | She Needed FDS a Long Time AgoI openly am against having children out of wedlock, and it isn’t for “moral” purposes. Marriage provides extra legal protections! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 04:28 AM |
| 33 | She Needed FDS a Long Time AgoTo me, if you don’t desire to raise a human being who is an exceptional person so as to contribute toward creating a better future for the world, I don’t get the purpose of having a kid. Kids can be fun, but they can also be a source of much misery, and sometimes misery wins out. Like, in a hypothetical world where I might’ve had a kid, I would be committed to raising a kind, intelligent, healthy, happy person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 04:26 AM |
| 86 | She Needed FDS a Long Time AgoFor real. My dad married my mother when she got pregnant with me. (I was the first kid.) I know a man who accidentally got his girlfriend pregnant, and they quickly got married before the baby was born. I know of a couple other couples where I suspect they got married when the girlfriend got pregnant. Meanwhile, I know of one couple where they’ve been together 8 years without marriage and with 3 kids. Yeah, no marriage is ever happening there... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 04:19 AM |
| 109 | She Needed FDS a Long Time Ago6 weeks in... I hope she gets herself an abortion. 2 kids is bad enough in this situation. 3 just will make things worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 04:17 AM |
| 80 | An Open Letter to Woman Considering AA.I’m not addicted to any substances, but as an atheist, I’ve always found it troubling how all these addiction programs are filled with religion, and addicts are told that they are powerless and to put everything in God’s hands. In reality, when an addict becomes sober and stays so, it is due to their own willpower and effort. They wanted to be sober bad enough and obtained the means to replace the substance with some healthier coping behavior. I don’t believe in forgiveness for the sake of forgi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 02:08 PM |
| 23 | Average "Dating" Time Before Engagement in the Early 1900s: Two WeeksI had it happen once where I dated a man and determined within about two weeks that I wanted to marry him someday (assuming no red flags came up while dating for a longer period). I kept that to myself, and we dated for a couple years before he dumped me, and since then I’ve concluded that while I could have been reasonably content with him based on what I knew/didn’t know and thought back then, I know now that there were a lot of red flags that showed up in the years we were together. I haven’t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 07:26 PM |
| 17 | I know there are creative types here. Shall we use this as a writing prompt?Oh sign me up for one of these men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 04:44 AM |
| 11 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"I don’t get how women stay attracted to men who pull this “I’m so stupid and incompetent” mess. If someone acts like a bumbling idiot, it is a huge turn-off. I am simply not attracted to those I perceive as stupid or incompetent. I don’t find it at all endearing or charming. Like a part of me dies inside when someone pulls out some weaponized incompetence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 03:55 AM |
| 5 | Redpill/PUA tactic: breaking the touch barrierI’m not really subtle nor really forward. I’ll ask if they’d like a hug, but that’s the most I’m comfortable being the one to initiate on until a relationship is established. I expect the other person to ask me to escalate the touch to the next level once we get more familiar and whatnot. I’m more careful about touch and consent than most people I know, which often turns dates off. I’d rather ask and get rejected or wait for the other person to initiate than violate someone’s boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 02:19 AM |
| 40 | Have you noticed there are more snoring men than women?This is often the result for those men who actually get a sleep apnea diagnosis. They get prescribed a machine and refuse to use it because “it’s too hard to sleep with.” Why even bother going to a doctor to get a sleep apnea diagnosis then if you aren’t going to treat it? Doesn’t everyone know the treatment that gets prescribed is one of those machines? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 03:19 PM |
| 10 | Stupid rant about Kim & KanyeI knew their relationship was doomed when they first got together. Kanye is an unmedicated bipolar narcissist who cares about nothing except himself and his notoriety. No woman will ever be happy with him long-term. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 04:30 AM |
| -1 | Hearing about scrotes everywhere I goAfter having actually lived with a functioning autistic man before and seeing how little he differs from average loser men, I have to say I think a lot of these men out there have something wrong with their brains. There is no way that average men and functioning autistic men should be at all similar in behavior and thinking, and yet there is really little difference. They are awkward, their hygiene sucks, they spend all day playing videogames, they won’t clean up after themselves, and they just… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 03:20 PM |
| 23 | Ladies, how long did it take for the man's mask to slip, during dating?For sure. I included the engagement time with the dating. Engagement is just dating with a ring (usually) haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 08:28 PM |
| 17 | Ladies, how long did it take for the man's mask to slip, during dating?I haven’t actually tried dating since encountering FDS, but before FDS I still had my own filtering in place and dropped most before a first date even occurred (if they didn’t drop me first). Among the few who managed to make it to a first date, maybe a third to half went beyond that. At this point once again I was the main one cutting things off. After that point, I never actually had a situation where I had to be the one to cut things off: the men did and usually by ghosting me. Only twice rea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 08:15 PM |
| 55 | Ladies, how long did it take for the man's mask to slip, during dating?I’ve always had the mindset that one should date at least 3-4 years before getting married because of the honeymoon phase. It lasts up to 4 years sometimes. The happiest couples I know who also seem likely to last dated for about 4 years before getting married. Once you start getting into 6 years of dating without progress to the next level, if you plan to have children or live together, I start viewing it as the forever girlfriend situation. If you don’t plan to have kids or live together but w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 07:58 PM |
| 17 | Gaslighting women into staying with LVMI wish if these women were stuck putting up with these men they’d at least charge them extra money. You have to do the cleaning and childcare? Charge the man accordingly. Have him contribute dollars. Don’t give him your labor freely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 06:02 PM |
| 142 | Stay at home dads vs stay at home mumsIt’s true. They are already lazy. No need to encourage it more. A female friend was talking to me about how her boyfriend was off for 10 days and he only did a little bit of cleaning at home on one of those days, poorly, and didn’t try to focus extra attention on her or help her at all. He focused on playing videogames all day long every day instead. This happened when he was laid off for a year too: sitting around playing videogames and doing nothing else, not even showing affection or care. I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 05:47 PM |
| 20 | How quickly widowers move on from their wives shows that they don't see women as people, just bangmaidsMy grandpa died about a decade ago, and some family members have tried to convince my grandma that she should date again, but she has no interest. She was with my grandpa since high school. They were married for nearly 50 years. She has never been with anyone else. I don’t think she will ever be with anyone else. He was her one and only. I don’t think the same would happen if the roles were reversed, but it’s hard to say for sure. I just know that my grandpa did cheat on my grandma at least once… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 04:47 AM |
| 41 | And our body hair is the issue🙄🤮I’ve never dated a man with a beard, only bothered with clean-shaven men. Most beards are scraggly and gross looking anyway because the average man will not maintain them. Plus, they make men look older. I have sensitive skin, so I know beards would be an issue for me even before learning this. My ex shaved everywhere except his arms and legs basically, and he wasn’t a particularly hairy man. I was much happier for it. I have never understood the appeal of a hairy man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 03:02 PM |
| 151 | Why she doesn't care for him during sex...I’m surprised he hasn’t divorced her yet, frankly. I’m guessing he gets something out of this that he’s not saying here. He is fully capable of initiating a divorce himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 07:30 PM |
| 57 | Your partner should never ask you for a gift wish list.Eh I have a hard time picking out gifts for people and find it clearly runs in my family as I’d often been gifted things I didn’t care much about when they weren’t on my list. Would it be nice for someone to just know what I’d like? Sure. But I may already have it or not really want it. I’m pretty minimalist so I’d prefer experience-based gifts over tangible ones. Only problem is that with how my schedule tends to be, that would likely need to be coordinated with me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 02:52 PM |
| 10 | Have any of you ever known a man who initiated a split with his partner WITHOUT getting into a new relationship right away?My dad did when he divorced my mom. He just wanted a break from any romantic relationship, and he’s been single for about a solid 2 years. There are plenty of women who’d like to date him. He just isn’t at a place yet where he feels ready to date again. He’s focusing on his friendships, his kids, his hobbies, and getting his health and finances straightened out. Seeing how I’ve been approaching life over the past few years has served as inspiration for him, and my parents’ marriage was toxic for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 07:11 AM |
| 11 | Why I have trust issues and why we should be guarded.One reason among many why I have never and will never send nude pics of myself to anyone ever. These men cannot be trusted to not spread your private photos everywhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 03:25 PM |
| 22 | We're not doing it anymoreJokes on them. I’ll just buy a house alone and rent a room out to a friend. Saves the friend money and me money. I already have a roommate who is just a friend I rent a place with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 03:11 PM |
| 60 | AITA cringe age-gap but the comments are telling her to wake up, dump him, grow upI’m not even the daughter’s age and yet people who are just a few years younger than me seem like children to me. My mom sometimes refers to 30-somethings as “kids,” and I get why. To a healthy adult, when someone is under a certain age, they look really young, and you would feel gross to date them. A 45 year old man under normal circumstances should view a 19 year old as a child in comparison. She should look so young that the thought of dating her, let alone having sex with her, should seem re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 07:43 PM |
| 15 | It’s just me or you also find man cave a bull$hit ?The family computer room / office also served as my dad’s music room when I was growing up. Depending on what people’s schedules were like is whether he would practice with or without headphones. It was nice as he could play music well. It was definitely not a man cave though his music stuff filled that space up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 12:29 AM |
| 64 | Read this if you’ve ever wondered “what if I gave my lvx a second chance…?”Eh many men will dump you right before the holidays just to avoid feeling any pressure to get you a gift. I’ve been tossed aside a week or two right before Valentine’s Day multiple times. If you really want, you could wait til Christmas passes, but there’s no need to continue waiting after that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 02:25 PM |
| 21 | Any halfway decent Christmas films?I despise that movie. It’s so bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 05:43 AM |
| 13 | FDS stance on men having sex toys?I think it is perfectly fine for men to buy sex toys for personal use depending on the toy. (Blow-up dolls are a red flag no while vibrators and dildos and the like for themselves are just fine. Pocket pussies are kind of iffy to me but more of a yellow caution sign.) What I think is inappropriate is that your brother is not respecting his friend’s choice to be abstinent, bought him a sex toy, and then proceeded to tell you and your parents about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 06:35 AM |
| 5 | Do you think you would have an easier time finding a HV partner if you were attracted to women instead of men?I’m going to say no, but there is less risk of death or serious bodily harm in dating a woman. I’ve never managed to get to an actual date with a woman whereas I have had dates with men (though most were still LV or NV). Women tend to disappear very quickly, or trying to have conversation is like pulling teeth, when I match with them. Unfortunately, the few women who match with me often are worse communicators than the men who match with me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 03:40 AM |
| 34 | 50/50 trap, listen to this queen!My male roommate rarely cleans and does a terrible job about it. He swears that I don’t have to do all the cleaning, but if I don’t, or I don’t tell him what to do, then he doesn’t clean anything. When he does clean, it is done poorly. Litterbox can be literally full of shit and he is playing videogames a few feet away nonchalant, and he brings over women without mentioning it at times, claiming they are friends, and I never see them again. These are clearly dates who are just trying to be polit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 02:50 AM |
| 6 | How does a HVM approach a woman?Assuming he gives his number after a conversation happens that goes well with mutual interest being apparent, I think this is better than the man requesting the woman’s number. It gives her the ability to decide whether she wants to have things continue without putting her on the spot and without him getting access to information he could use with bad intentions. He’s also made the first move in this instance. If a woman is to respond in such a case, she could call or text and keep it simple and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 05:08 AM |
| 21 | What I posted versus a reason for a permaban from a large “feminist” subreddit. Wow I wonder why :)“May I ask...?” “Yes, you may” ...but failing to address the intended question. That’s a dick move on their part. I get the feeling it was a man who replied to you. Like that whole conversation or lack thereof just gives male vibes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 03:54 AM |
| 13 | My fantasy isn’t for a man to protect me, my fantasy is to not be threatened by men in the first placeAs a teen girl I remember being very much afraid of what being an adult woman would mean. I simultaneously wanted to date and get married and also not. I was afraid I would find a man who I believed loved and cared for me, I’d get raped, impregnated, and abandoned by said man, and then I’d die a painful death in childbirth. No idea where this fear came from except the culture as I don’t know anyone this has happened to. The fact I know that a woman is most likely to be murdered by her husband, b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 05:16 AM |
| 158 | Not a lot shocks me after following FDS for a while but this just sent me.The idea that men are turned off by the idea of impregnating their wives may be true for men who wish to remain childfree, but a sizeable number of men have a “breeding kink” and do even if they don’t label their thoughts as such. How many times do men try to tell women they think they’d be cute pregnant or how they want to put a baby in her? I’ve gotten plenty of random messages and in-person comments like that from men I don’t know or barely know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 03:22 AM |
| 20 | She’s afraid of being “naggy”Time to dump him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 05:26 AM |
| 11 | How often do you go on a date?Last time was a bit over 2 years ago. I got asked out a couple times during 2020, but I was quite firm on my boundaries as I was concerned about potentially catching COVID and my intended dates were too carefree on that subject, so those went nowhere. Before the dates I had in 2019 the last time I’d gone on a date was a couple years before that. I easily go years in between going on a couple dates. Basically, I get to a point where I’m like “I’m ready to date again!” Then I go on a few lackluste… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 04:59 AM |
| 24 | A message to male lurkers: So what exactly is it about FDS that triggers you?“Union bust” is an apt metaphor indeed. They are the corporate shills trying to prevent a union from forming or staying intact. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 04:34 AM |
| 51 | A Case Study in BLOCK and DELETE. Men are not our friends.That is when you press charges. What if her employer had found out? She could have lost her job. And that man learned no lesson. He will do that again with another woman. Gotta go hard on the punishment to make any progress. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 04:30 AM |
| 8 | What Do You Guys Think About People Playing Matchmaker?I have a friend who works at the same place my mom does. We are all aware of this. He’s the kindest man I know, but there are many things about him that make it so he really is in no place financially or behavior-wise to date any woman despite being kind, and I am not physically attracted to him. My mom pestered me for a long time trying to tell me I should date him. Of course, she never even considered the possibility that he and I had a mutual lack of interest in dating the other. My mom barel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 09:35 PM |
| 41 | This is the prime example of rich =/= high value..I had some similarities with my rich LV ex. I had enough money to spend with hanging out with friends and when doing some dating only because I lived with my parents. If I lived on my own, I would not have had the means to do either at the time. I worked and did school full time, and the money I relied on was all my own and loans. My ex was rich but didn’t think of himself as rich because it was his father’s money and he was 100% dependent on his father. He was too lazy to get an education or a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 08:56 PM |
| 24 | Weirdest experience I've ever had at the doctorClassic case of super awkward male doctor who doesn’t know how to properly talk to women, especially female patients. I recommend having a female doctor in the future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 09:09 AM |
| 10 | Does anyone trust their pets when they don’t like a guy?I don’t trust a man who dislikes cats, but I don’t trust the judgment of a cat who dislikes or likes anyone in particular. Some cats hate everyone. Some cats love everyone. Some cats both love and hate everyone depending on how the stars align a particular day and how recently they ate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 02:19 AM |
| 34 | Men will try to make their porn-sick ideas seem like a good idea for both of youSounds like you should greyrock your friend until she leaves him or he leaves her or cut ties. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 01:20 AM |
| 43 | Automatic dealbreaker for me, but are men who use intentional misspellings lv/nv?Someone who is dyslexic can still do better than chat speak though. And spell check is a thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 09:38 PM |
| 58 | Reminder: never chase men, this is what they actually think when you initiateThis is why I’ve given up on dating men. Only garbage will pursue me. The better men are the few I initiated with, and still that didn’t work all that well. Time for me to go pursue a gay or bi woman who will appreciate my effort. 😄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 07:32 PM |
| 134 | Men are now sticking women with needles instead of putting roofies inside their drinks! They’re now recommending we all wear denim jackets to avoid getting needle drugged at clubs and bars.So basically women should just not go to bars or clubs is what I’m hearing. Let them be filled with men who can’t find a woman because men ruined it for women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 02:32 PM |
| 1 | Mom said something that really bugged meIn my mom’s case, she thinks I should be going around having casual sex with random men, but that’s what she did when she was young. Glad I didn’t listen to that. I have a sister who did do that, and she got assaulted several times. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 07:26 PM |
| 2 | An increasing number of women are paying alimony to LVM husbandsDifferent countries have different laws and legal systems. I’ve never heard of a “cohabitation agreement” before. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 07:11 PM |
| 136 | In light of Roe v. Wade: Please be aware that not having PIV sex is a realistic, pragmatic, modern solution that does not have to be mixed in with religious convictions or shame.With my ex, he actually claimed to not really be into PIV and was fine without us doing that. He’d been rejected by women before because of his size. The fact I wasn’t interested in PIV but was interested in other things he was interested in made things work for quite a while. However, he never got me off, he got bored with what we did, and he also started complaining over the lack of PIV. I am very glad we never did PIV and just did other things that I was comfortable with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 01:55 PM |
| 9 | An increasing number of women are paying alimony to LVM husbandsHow is it that pre-nups can be successfully contested? Isn’t the point that it is a contract? I can understand if the pre-nup is poorly written and fails to account for certain things, but otherwise I don’t understand how. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 07:36 AM |
| 9 | Just saw a post about someone tricking a woman into a date…In this case, I have to say that the whole situation gives me red flags from the lady even. Like you chose to go run errands with a stranger? Who thinks of that as fun or safe? Especially if you’ve had many bad dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 07:31 AM |
| 7 | This is all bad. This poor woman😩.Time for a divorce | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 04:28 AM |
| 6 | US-based women who are actively dating/in relationships: Protect your wombI’ve seen the argument before of the vaccines being related to bodily autonomy being compared to abortion by anti-vaxxers, but their reasoning is flawed on multiple accounts: To start, they supposedly care about bodily autonomy but only when it comes to getting vaccinated. They absolutely don’t care when it comes to a woman being able to decide to end a pregnancy. In fact, they are usually anti-abortion and want to force women to give birth. The pain and risks associated with childbirth, includi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 01:27 PM |
| 17 | FDS opinion on casual sex with other women (as a wlw)?IDK if this is FDS per se, but here are my thoughts: As a bi woman who is looking to only date women going forward, I’m not down for casual sex, and I think it is generally a bad idea. With men, I see it as absolute insanity for a woman to bother having casual with them. With women, less so, but the risks outweigh any benefit. If you just want to get off, self-love has the best guarantee of success with no risk and all reward. To me, sex with a partner is extremely intimate and only worth doing … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 06:32 AM |
| 201 | I am a bisexual woman and I was just catfished by a man pretending to be a female on Bumble. Please stay safe.I have had it happen where men pretended to be women, but my spidey senses would go off before we ever got to a date or got too deep into conversation, and I’d block them or they’d block me. I never have sent risque photos and never will. A request for risque photos from someone who isn’t a committed partner is a huge red flag, and even if they are a committed partner, they may dump you or turn into garbage at some point, so there is no point in providing something they can use against you. You … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 05:25 AM |
| 50 | US-based women who are actively dating/in relationships: Protect your wombIf a man commits rape, I think a more severe punishment than that is warranted. Realistically, if a woman will go to prison for aborting her fetus, she may as well retaliate against her rapist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 05:15 AM |
| 33 | US-based women who are actively dating/in relationships: Protect your wombIf we had massive mandatory vaccinations worldwide in a short period of time, we absolutely could have wiped out COVID. Because this has not happened and won’t happen for various reasons, COVID will continue to mutate and will not go away. The US government’s response to COVID has been terrible from the start and rather weak and ineffective as a result. I don’t see the steps taken on COVID as authoritarian. Rather the opposite, it has been libertarian. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 05:05 AM |
| 118 | Two of the biggest lies patriarchy tells us: “men age like fine wine” & “age gap relationships are totally natural”He was pretty back in Titanic, but it’s pretty much been a decline ever since. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 03:04 PM |
| 21 | Things you used to find romantic before FDS?I’ve never been “romanced” by a man, always just constantly disappointed or irritated by them in dating situations, so nothing really. FDS just has helped me understand that these men truly were the problem, and getting upset about how much they sucked was perfectly reasonable and they did not deserve me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 04:50 AM |
| 30 | Men don't care about women. They won't even engage with a book/movie/TV show if it was written by or centres a woman. They have class solidarity only with each otherMrs. Coulter is my favorite female villain. She isn’t a stereotypical female villain as she is a complicated woman. The actress who plays her in the show adaptation does a phenomenal job portraying her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:23 AM |
| 15 | Misogyny is normalised because it only effects womenShe lost because of the electoral college and not winning in a few key states. She had 3 million more votes and still lost. 😔 Those who voted for that man clearly didn’t care about her credentials nor his misogyny and lack of experience though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 02:51 PM |
| 14 | What is your sexuality?Historically and in many places “queer” has been used as a slur. And “queer” muddies the waters for communication. If someone calls themselves “queer,” are they gay, bi, kinky, or something else? People use it to mean so many things it makes it a useless term except in otherizing oneself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 03:10 PM |
| 13 | Anyone else become disillusioned with their male friends?I have multiple male friends, mostly through a mixed friend group I got involved with many years ago. Emotionally, I keep the men from this group somewhat at a distance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 01:30 AM |
| 32 | Shawn Mendes dumped Camilla Cabello and called the relationship “stale and complacent”… this happened conveniently after she gained weight and publicly spoke about her cellulite, fat and stretch marks. Coincidence?I saw it as the honeymoon phase / new relationship energy faded, so he got bored. Appearance changes were also probably a factor as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 01:11 AM |
| 20 | Another stage of the vetting process- are they there for you in times of grief?My ex dumped me the first time because he felt like he wasn’t getting enough attention and felt that I was too busy for him shortly after my grandfather died. I had to help with funeral and wake arrangements on top of work and school. Stupidly I dated him again after some time passed, and things lasted longer then, but he dumped me that time because he felt bored in the bedroom and felt like I didn’t have enough time for him. I actually had made lots of time for him, going on dates weekly usuall… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 03:43 PM |
| 28 | Another stage of the vetting process- are they there for you in times of grief?If he’s been holding out this long, he probably will only get vaccinated if his job forces him to and maybe not even then. Don’t make this POS your responsibility and let him harm your peace of mind. The vaccine has been out for months, and this guy knows how you feel about COVID and the vaccine. If dangling a potential hookup hasn’t made him get vaccinated so far, it’s not going to work. Just block him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 03:33 PM |
| 12 | Reminder: Nobody is nicer than a man trying to have sex with you for the first time.Considering how quickly I tend to get ghosted and how rare it is for a man to make it to a first date, let alone a second date or further, I have to say these men who are “pulling out all the stops” aren’t really putting any effort in. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 05:48 AM |
| 249 | Thoughts on the queer community being saturated with kink and poly?I think that’s pretty much it. Plus, a lot of the culture has been defined by men, and well, you put two men together, you’re more likely to get casual sex and often and in more alternative ways. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 02:06 AM |
| 18 | Men cannot be trusted with an idea like polyamory and its popularity shows how naive and desperate women have becomeYeah, I was raised to prioritize others’ wants, and I would get belittled for standing ground on my needs. Thankfully I have always stood my ground for my boundaries. It’s really the only thing that has prevented me from having relationships cause me harm. I’m not with anyone currently. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 10:39 PM |
| 253 | Men cannot be trusted with an idea like polyamory and its popularity shows how naive and desperate women have becomeI used to say a relationship was open because I thought “Well, I can’t give a man everything he wants and I don’t want pressure to give what I am unwilling to.” Really though the men still wanted those things from me and were not satisfied by being able to get their so-called “needs” met elsewhere. They wanted me to do everything too. For me, one relationship is enough. I don’t have the energy or time for more than one at a time. Suffice to say I’ve realized that my reasoning for doing an open r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 01:59 AM |
| 8 | How do you get exes to leave you alone for good?Somehow I’ve managed to avoid this. Then again, I’ve always been the one to get dumped. It always amounts to me being too boring for them or whatever. 🤷🏻♀️ I recommend seeming as boring as possible. It seems like men will go away then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 05:12 AM |
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| 162 | quick and easy ways to vet: how to tell there is a mask in the first placeI once told a man I was a feminist and he proceeded to start off saying feminist stuff and then even started saying some things indicating he felt women were better than men. When I agreed with him, then he got hostile. It was total whiplash. I was like “huh?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 03:39 AM |
| 31 | Religious FDSI refuse to date anyone religious, in part because it’s almost guaranteed that the religious person will be misogynistic, especially if they are a man. In theory, I’ve been open to dating someone who is “spiritual” but not religious, but in actuality, I’ve never even reached the point of a first date with someone who wasn’t actually agnostic or atheist. In reality, while I can befriend those who are religious or spiritual, I’ve never been religious or spiritual, so I can’t relate enough to have … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 07:29 PM |
| 16 | Religious FDSThat’s the funny thing I noticed with the Old Testament: The god of the Bible is polytheistic. He believes in other deities! The orders he gives out to his followers are very much about trying to become the dominant god among gods, trying to get worshippers of other gods to follow him alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 07:18 PM |
| 51 | Religious FDSI picked up on how religions are misogynistic (among other issues) back as a preteen even, and I concluded that religions are either false or not worth following for that and other reasons. Frankly, if you don’t follow and believe a religious text fully or at least largely, to me it means the person isn’t actually of that religion, and that’s okay. Most “Christians” for instance know very little about the Bible and follow very little of the Bible, and I’d say they are more “spiritual with Christ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 02:33 PM |
| 50 | The only competitionThis is why I haven’t had a crush on a man in YEARS. I can enjoy them as friendly acquaintances, the occasional friend or family member, and colleagues, but dating-wise? I am better to me than any man has ever been to me. Why even bother with a man? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 06:17 AM |
| 32 | This is why you don’t tell men you enjoy cooking 🤦♀️One of the few things my ex was good at was his ability to cook. There was a joke he’d make that I could burn water, but hey, no expectation of me having to cook for him! 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 12:37 AM |
| 55 | Always use a sperm bank - no matter what...Exactly. It’s the whole “If he wanted to, he would,” thing. On a more positive note, my dad wanted to have at least joint custody of me and my sibling and fought for years to keep it. (My mother tried to get full custody of my sibling and I after my parents’ divorce. She didn’t want joint custody.) Eventually my dad got full custody when my mother decided, after causing a lot of hell for all of us for years, to sign away her parental rights. (My mother was a mess who really was an unfit parent f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 07:22 PM |
| 2 | Saw the vetting through first date questions post and wanted to share a tiktok on reasoning why he might not like cats!My cat is 100% indoor and exclusively goes in his box. You are describing “outdoor” cats, which are basically feral and not real pets. Feral dogs that go everywhere would poop wherever too. And in my experience, it’s mainly huge dog shit that I see out and about. Cats tend to try to hide their crap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 07:02 PM |
| 9 | Saw the vetting through first date questions post and wanted to share a tiktok on reasoning why he might not like cats!Oh it is. I’ll never forget it. ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 06:40 AM |
| 33 | Saw the vetting through first date questions post and wanted to share a tiktok on reasoning why he might not like cats!And dog owners often have their dogs crap in people’s yards and not clean it up or chain their dogs up in the backyard regardless of whether it is the middle of summer or winter. The complaints you make about cat owners can be made against dog owners too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 06:13 AM |
| 32 | Saw the vetting through first date questions post and wanted to share a tiktok on reasoning why he might not like cats!This is how I am with dogs basically. They desperately want my attention and affection because I try to keep at a distance. Friends’ cats love me immediately. I once stretched out my hand, stared directly at my friend’s cat, and called her name, and she came right over for pets. It was the first time I met this cat even. 😹 My friend was so surprised! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 06:06 AM |
| 13 | Porn is going to have major implications on the future and no one is talking about itSo Helen of Troy? 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 02:46 AM |
| 300 | HVM tried to give sound advice to a young single mother in distress and got so much hate from RedditSounds like he gave her solid advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 01:56 PM |
| 94 | Who here ACTUALLY enjoys giving blowjobs?I have a small mouth, a strong gag reflex, and asthma, so I haven’t given any BJs before and don’t plan to. My ex thankfully didn’t really care for BJs, so I never faced any pressure to give any. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 02:26 PM |
| 14 | So I just discovered what demisexuality isWhat is commonly being labelled as “demisexuality” is really normal, common sexuality. What used to be considered unusual was people hooking up and having sex quickly upon meeting or barely knowing each other, but it’s becoming the norm now. Basically, demisexuality, from what I can tell, is really three things: 1) a way to describe one’s sexuality in a time when everyone’s sexuality is being picked apart, 2) a way to enforce boundaries in a culture that tells you that you are a prude or abnorma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 02:19 PM |
| 106 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 31 - Female Political Strategy: We're Coming For You (feat. Elle)That’s actually pretty typical for a Republican: skirting the issue. They either have very strong, badly informed opinions or are super wishy washy and go wherever other conservatives tell them to in my experience. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 06:08 AM |
| 40 | New reddit challenge: try to find a thread on dick size where women with a preference for larger dicks aren't downvoted/ignored and women with a specific preference for smaller penises aren't upvoted. And they think we're the ones coping......Not saying people can't prefer smaller but hmm....Some vaginas don’t stretch as easily or as much as others or don’t get as long when aroused. Tilted uteruses also can make it more painful to have a bigger size. Different vaginas match with different penises. It’s very individual. Most women fall in a certain range, and most men fall in a certain range, but there will always be outliers on both ends, small and big. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 06:00 AM |
| 7 | POS is posting graphic cartoon p@rn on Reddit pages geared towards children. The users are begging their mods to remove the content. This is Reddit's response to my report on the user.Come across as too critical of males infringing on women’s rights and spaces, and the subreddit gets banned. Actively talk about doing or post content showing terrible violence done to women and children, and Reddit thinks it is A-okay. Tells you who runs the site. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 05:03 AM |
| 64 | I’ve hidden my sexual past from my insecure fiancé and now I fear for my safety if he finds out everything: Ask Ellie (she wrongfully recommends cOmMuNiCaTiOn instead of seeing it as a red flag and walking away but her tip of the day is very good)Well, if you fear what your fiancé would do to you if you were open with him, you should leave him. That’s your intuition saying he’s not suitable to settle down with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 04:55 AM |
| 4 | Queens, how do you maintain being an HVW friend when your friends are being pick-me’s?I give my two cents but distance myself when I get tired or they don’t want my input. Sometimes they will end up spending less time with me because of their boyfriends disliking me. But if their man gets too bothered by me, it can be a wakeup call for them at times. Like I have one friend who is a pickme due to her very low self-esteem, but after talking with me, she gets more confident and assertive of her wants and needs. She revealed to me that her boyfriend can always tell when she just fini… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 03:12 AM |
| 5 | Protect your bag, ladies. The scrotery knows no bounds.This. I would do the same in his shoes. The financial advisor is the one to listen to, not Reddit. What boggles my mind is that the parents didn’t have conversations about money like this before their kids were married. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 03:03 AM |
| 28 | How do you feel about the squid game? Do you think it’s worth watching?If you don’t like it, you don’t need to force yourself to watch it, regardless of whether it is or isn’t sexist. It sounds like you haven’t liked it so far and that your main reason for thinking you should watch it is FOMO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 01:45 PM |
| 9 | When dating, do you have certain professions that you avoid?Is it more a a male lawyer thing or a lawyer thing in general since you are a lawyer? I’ve known some lawyers, and the women were all great in my experience. Tough and badass. I only knew one man who was a lawyer, and he isn’t terrible, but he does have bad habits. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 08:52 PM |
| 23 | When dating, do you have certain professions that you avoid?I know a lawyer who has an alcohol and cocaine problem, and I’ve previously been told that a lot of lawyers have alcohol and drug abuse issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 08:44 PM |
| 29 | The straw that broke the camels back for me, and what has turned me angry and bitter against men is not only the abuse they've subjected me to, but the fact that I'm 28 years old and no man has never even gifted me a bouquet.I’ve bought a man flowers before, and he liked them, but he never bought me anything in return... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 07:17 AM |
| 10 | The straw that broke the camels back for me, and what has turned me angry and bitter against men is not only the abuse they've subjected me to, but the fact that I'm 28 years old and no man has never even gifted me a bouquet.Similar boat here. I haven’t been in a relationship for like 7 years. I had a relationship for about 3 years, and that was the only one I’ve ever had. The rest have just been a few dates here and there. Men actually almost never show any interest in me in a dating context. But when they do, they’re trying to get in my pants within the first 2 dates, ghosting me, and/or trying to cheat on a girlfriend or wife with me. The rare exceptions were among the few who I sought out, but they usually turne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 07:00 AM |
| 55 | What’s something that you thought you had to do but realized it’s misogyny and actually doesn’t benefit you?On some level, the question of “Are you okay with the idea of THIS dude being the father of your child if you were to get pregnant?” has always come up when the idea of sex with any man has come up. It has always been a resounding NO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 05:58 AM |
| 1 | Repeat after me: WE DO NOT DATE MEN WITH FEMALE BESTIESPretty sure he would be weirded out and reject me. He also has a girlfriend. And we don’t flirt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 02:07 PM |
| 68 | The most painful part of heartbreak is realizing that he’s never truly loved you. He might’ve even hated you. How to cope with it?That’s what took me the longest to understand and accept about my ex: that he never loved me. He had told me he loved me, but if he had truly loved me, he wouldn’t have dumped me out of boredom within a week of saying he was bored after we’d been together for years. I took it very personally and was very upset til I started reminding myself of my successes and his failures in life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 04:50 AM |
| 12 | It's no wonder that men are as dysfunctional as they are... this is from a men's therapist's site...Even with love languages it is apparent when love is expressed through any of those means if love is being expressed and one isn’t stupid. Like gifts aren’t my love language (if I have one), but if someone gifts me something without prompting based on what they know I like or what they think I will like, I know they are expressing love. These men don’t love their wives and aren’t expressing love because of that. Doing things hoping for sex is not doing things out of love. Their wives see through… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 04:29 AM |
| 23 | It's no wonder that men are as dysfunctional as they are... this is from a men's therapist's site...And yet men supposedly don’t like “loose” women. 🙄 Pushing a whole ass baby out of your vagina causes far more stretching than anything else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 04:25 AM |
| 10 | Repeat after me: WE DO NOT DATE MEN WITH FEMALE BESTIESI don’t think a man and a woman being best friends is a red flag per se. I think it’s all about boundaries and the exact nature of the friendship. My best friend is a man, and we have never dated nor had sex. I do not find him at all attractive. We aren’t at all touchy with each other. I personally try to stay out of the way if he is trying to date some woman. Our parents wish we’d date, but we have explained repeatedly our lack of interest in that. He likes older women, and I like those who are… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 04:09 AM |
| 18 | Why women disliking men is not the same as men disliking womenI’m just commenting because your username is similar to mine, but is Japanese Spaghetti a sushi roll like Japanese Lasagna or something else? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 04:24 AM |
| 42 | Miya Marcano: Another woman missing at the hands of a manI specifically choose to have a roommate even though I can afford to live alone for the safety factor. I prefer solitude, but solitude just is less safe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 06:31 AM |
| 10 | Man claims his gf WANTS him to hold a gun to her head. I call bs.About two years into the relationship with my now-ex, he told me he wanted me to choke him and beat him, and I flat out told him no. He ended things shortly after because I was “boring.” This right here is why I don’t think marrying within 2 years of dating someone is a good idea. The honeymoon phase is just starting to end then a lot of times, and LV traits start to show up because the LV individual has gotten comfortable and secure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 04:33 PM |
| 36 | “My love language is PhYSiCal TouCh”I have mixed opinions on love languages, but I know that a man equating sex with the love language of physical touch is a red flag. I actually read one of the books by that author who came up with love languages. I often have had a hard time identifying what my primary love language is because I basically need all of them. I used to think I didn’t care about gifts at all, but I realized it is meaningless gifts that I don’t care for. If there is meaning and effort and quality, then I like them fi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 06:50 AM |
| 5 | What are our thoughts on this culture of rushing into marriageEven as a teen I knew that it was a bad idea to marry before around age 30 and to marry before having dated someone for at least 2 years. I have some friends who got married in their late 20s / early 30s to someone they dated for about 4 years. These relationships seem like the ones that are most likely to last happily in the long run. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 03:17 PM |
| 109 | 122k likes on reddit 🤮I have a gay HVM friend too, and he’s treated me far better than any straight man who isn’t my father. Outside of my family, he’s treated me to lunch/etc. far more than anyone else. Between how my dad treats me, how this man treats me, and how I treat my loved ones, I expect so much more of these men than they really are willing to provide. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 04:39 AM |
| 20 | Jewish Women- Please Be Careful Out ThereHuh. That actually does make sense as a way for them to reconcile their beliefs with the fact that their religion came later. Thanks for the response! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 08:39 AM |
| 39 | Jewish Women- Please Be Careful Out ThereYou mentioned something I’ve heard of before but that I’ve never understood (I’m atheist and grew up nonreligious): Christians taking issue with Jewish people. Without Judaism, there is no Christianity. Like, Christianity branched off of Judaism. Just what the heck are they hoping to accomplish? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 08:23 AM |
| 65 | A “real woman” and he isn’t joking 🥴Considering how often this very issue crops up in the dating lives of those in the childfree subreddit, I’m inclined to agree. Those with kids often don’t want to date someone else with kids and think a childfree individual is someone to seek out as a stepparent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 04:38 AM |
| 46 | How do you date man while knowing their depravityThere are a few good men I know platonically who give me reason to not have zero faith in men, but as far as my dating history goes, basically only NVM and LVM have sought me out, so I found myself continually disappointed. I think only once a HVM showed interest, but he didn’t feel a spark. I’ve more or less given up on considering men as a viable dating option. I haven’t had a crush on one in years, and I’ve gotten quick at filtering them out on OLD to the point that it felt like a waste of ti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 04:35 AM |
| 146 | 22 year old Gabbie Petito’s remains have been found after being missing for weeksIt goes beyond that: He didn’t say whether he did or didn’t know what happened to her. He said nothing, just lawyered up. But come on. He drove HER van without her back to his home. He at minimum knew what happened to her and more than likely killed her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 01:58 PM |
| 43 | Just scrotey thingsI actually went to dinner with two male friends the other day as well as the vegan girlfriend of one of them. The single man kept trying to ask and argue about the parameters of her veganism, and I was like “It doesn’t matter!” Like this is a new girlfriend for our mutual friend, and this is our first time meeting her. Just why get into all of that? The relationship may not last long enough to become necessary for us to know about the extent of the veganism, and even if it does, we surely won’t … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 03:49 PM |
| 167 | Be careful out there with these hobosexualsThis right here is a big part of why I couldn’t get onboard the train of having a househusband at some point. I don’t know any men who can clean as well as I do, and I really don’t clean all that well. The concern that I’d be working hard while the man does nothing and barely helps out at home is well-founded. I know a woman who had this very experience this past year due to the pandemic. She was working all day and still had to do all the cooking and cleaning while her man sat on his ass playin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 03:40 PM |
| 682 | This sub won’t allow me to post images anymore so I’m going to copy paste a conversation I had with a long time male friend. He was asking me how my 13 yo daughter got covid and then decided to sexualize her. What the actual fuck.Yikes. Kids literally are just catching COVID by going to school, not doing anything weird. What a creep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 03:48 PM |
| 5 | NEVER 👏 STOP 👏 VETTING 👏If I had been dating someone, even if we weren’t on good terms at the moment or had broken up, and something bad happened, I’d still report and cooperate with people to locate them. Like this man clearly doesn’t care, and there is something wrong with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 03:36 PM |
| 29 | So we all know that men can’t stop talking about themselves, so I wanted to ask you ladies..Two different men: One said he used to be an incel/redpill/PUA type. He shit talked about his past self, so I don’t recall having anything in particular to say. I had figured he’d grown out of it. Another asked me what I’d do if we had a daughter and he and this hypothetical daughter “consensually” had sex with each other. I told him flat out that I would murder him. We broke up that very same day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 05:14 AM |
| 425 | Be careful about helping "disabled" men!(potential trigger warning!)Just as a rule of thumb as a woman: best not to help men. Go find another man to help a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 04:37 AM |
| 65 | Gabby PetitoI heard the police can’t find him now. I think his family helped him flee the state if not the country 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 04:36 AM |
| 1 | Avoid using OLD to meet menYeah, that’s been my experience with OLD and men but also real life. Most of the men who show interest in me hope for an easy lay thinking I’m easy prey, and about half the time they already have a wife or girlfriend, unbeknownst to me at the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 04:45 AM |
| 4 | Avoid using OLD to meet menI considered that before, but I wouldn’t trust their judgment nor their ability to put me with someone compatible who I’m also attracted to. The suggestions I’ve received previously were nice but ugly, lazy, not all that smart, unaccomplished, poor, inattentive men who really need to learn some basic life skills. I’m going to just focus on dating women when the pandemic is over anyway, and my best shot of finding WLW is online too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 01:23 PM |
| 12 | Avoid using OLD to meet menI’m with you on this. I don’t meet anyone new outside of work, and I work long hours and have largely solitary hobbies. I already do social work for work, so I’m not going to volunteer in my limited spare time. I am also an atheist, so church is a no go. When I don’t have solitary hobbies I do for my limited spare time, I hang out with family or friends I’ve had for years. There is no one dateable in my circle for various reasons. The only chance I have to meet someone in a normal context for da… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 04:11 AM |
| 341 | NEVER 👏 STOP 👏 VETTING 👏I am 99% sure he killed her. Why else would he not cooperate with investigators who are trying to find her when he supposedly loves her? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 03:52 AM |
| 131 | Apparently having an emergency savings fund as a woman and not explicitly saying so to your male partner is “financial infidelity.” 🤨🙄In your shoes, I’d never remarry. Free health insurance for the rest of your life is enough reason alone. Hell, the main reason to marry someone in many cases is to have better financial and legal benefits afforded to a spouse, like having double health insurance coverage. A “living together apart” situation often suits older couples who date after they’ve already been married prior but wish to date again to maintain independence. And sometimes dating again isn’t worthwhile. My grandparents were… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 05:38 AM |
| 3 | How to not feel insecure about someone I’m seeing?There is no harm in Googling someone. As for the “feeling inadequate” part, you aren’t, and right now you’re experiencing the first date buzz. It’ll wear off in time. He’s clearly interested in you. Just vet and be careful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 02:02 PM |
| 11 | Bisexual queens - what does FDS mean for you?I think this is where I’m at. I haven’t had a crush on a man in years and have looked at comphet and FDS, and I’m like “Am I a lesbian or a bi woman who is simply totally jaded by LV men?” Leaning towards the latter right now. Febfem is the route I’m likely to go in the future for dating and marriage purposes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 06:30 AM |
| 2 | Vetting for low value behaviour in men doesn't just apply to romantic relationships. It also applies to your friendships and associations.I have some male friends mainly though certain organizations we were involved in, and they know I’ll call them out on shit. The ones who can’t handle it or hate it have left my life by now. The ones who recognize that I have valuable insight or are unbothered have stuck around. The ones who aren’t married and never have a long-term partner are all commitment-phobic whether they are straight, gay, or bi. Neither side wastes time trying to get with the other for dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 06:52 PM |
| 1 | "Exclusive" is not a relationship status. You are either in a committed relationship or singleUsually people say “partner” to not out themselves to everyone if they are in a same-sex relationship though I have seen people use it for straight relationships for no apparent reason. I’ve used that term for a long-term boyfriend before so that if I were to date a woman in the future I don’t have to necessarily out myself to everyone or lie about the sex of the one I’m in a relationship with. Basically, I want it to be common for people to hear me say “partner,” so it isn’t awkward later with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Reminder: Men will lie about anything, including their sexuality!I’m glad I have not had that happen, fortunately, but I did have a few dates with one man who I later learned secretly goes to glory holes while being in a relationship with a woman. I dodged that bullet. The only men I could stand to have more than one date with and got along best with were always openly bisexual, and even if they were almost always LVM, they were still better than the straight men who showed interest in me, who were straight up NVM who often were attempting to cheat on their g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 05:38 AM |
| 1 | I just found his alphabetized nudes from previous relationships. Mine included.Delete them and dump him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 05:13 AM |
| 1 | 'When my husband told me to shush during labour I knew our marriage was over'There is some place in the world that used to (still does?) have a setup where a woman giving birth has access to her partner’s testicles to squeeze and twist throughout so he can be involved in the birth of the child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 02:30 AM |
| 1 | It’s easy to miss your ex if you only remember the good and not the badFor me, sometimes I get sad by what could have been but wasn’t and remind myself that it isn’t my fault that my ex failed to reach his potential and therefore the relationship could not reach its potential and failed. He threw me and the best relationship he ever had away, and while I wasn’t familiar with the phrase “if he wanted to, he would,” it’s very clear he always only did whatever he wanted, and what he didn’t do or didn’t want to do is very telling. I found that once I got over the initi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 06:22 AM |
| 2 | My mother’s analogy on BDSMThis (though in the reverse) is a large part of why my last relationship ended. My ex was “submissive” and he wanted me to beat him, whip him, degrade him, etc. and I made it clear I could not and would not because I loved him. The stuff he wanted me to do would make me feel like a monster if I did them. It was really horrible stuff he wanted done to him. Because I was “boring” and would not do this extreme violence onto him, he left. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 06:11 AM |
| 1 | My mother’s analogy on BDSMI once thought I was into BDSM...and then I learned more about it and myself and realized I’m not really all that interested. My idea of kink was mild stuff that is done in “vanilla” relationships to “spice things up,” was about doing things that would make my partner feel good but not hurt either of us, or my attempt to get treated well by a partner and get some reciprocity in a relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 04:08 PM |
| 1 | listening to Gotye song “Somebody that I used to know” after discovering FDS made me laugh at the whiney scrote lyrics ..Stay by the Kid Laroi and Justin Bieber is totally a LVM song. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 05:21 AM |
| 1 | What I've learned from dating a HVWThis right here is #goals. For many reasons I’ve decided against dating men going forward and focusing on finding a nice lady instead. Sadly, women who like women are often just seeking casual sex on dating apps or are as uncommunicative as men. How did you find yourself a HVW to truly have a relationship with? Any tips? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 04:10 AM |
| 2 | If you plan to have children, you owe it to yourself and to them not to be a pick-me. Pick-mes can literally get their kids killed.If you have the means to do okay on your own, I’d definitely recommend cutting off all ties with your mom even. Your parents sound awful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 03:53 AM |
| 1 | YA’LL I AM SO PISSED I just listened to the podcast on “communication” and found this post. The literal first comment has me steaming mad.One thing women need to keep in mind is that a man saying he’s asexual doesn’t guarantee he is nor guarantee that he is safe. I once had some dates with a so-called asexual man who, shortly after what would be our last date, ended up crying to me about how disgusting he felt for having had casual sex with a woman not long after our date and how repulsed he was by her but that he couldn’t help himself because she had been so pretty. So so many red flags that I don’t need to unpack here, but I nop… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 06:59 AM |
| 6 | The controversy on engagement rings shows how far liberal feminism has goneI used to think I wanted to be the one to propose if I ever were to get engaged because I don’t like traditional gender roles, but eventually I realized that if I did that, I would likely just end up with someone who was going with the flow for convenience rather than someone necessarily being truly into me. If I get engaged to a woman someday, I may propose, but if I were to get engaged to a man, he has to propose. How much work men put into something shows how much they care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 03:16 AM |
| 1 | Dropping truth bombs....I love this woman 👑All men do is either lie to me or decide they don’t feel a spark if I try dating them, and I’ve never been treated right in a romantic context. The pandemic gave me a good reason to not bother attempting to date, and I’ve been focusing on my family, the people who I know love and care about me. Why would I waste my time on men who just cause me headaches? I think those old ladies who live into 100+ years of age and say “no men” is the secret are on point. I haven’t had a crush on a man in five y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 03:59 AM |
| 1 | Are progressive/liberal/well-read men any better than others?I had a date with a man before who said a lot of feminist stuff, and then I agreed with him and he turned around and wigged out, like it was a test? I don’t trust it. I’ve known several men who’ve claimed to be feminist and acted as the woke police if I stepped out of libfem thought and more radfem in views and sought to have me shunned. Men lie about so many things I don’t trust their words. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 05:46 AM |
| 1 | Study suggests that I don't give afThey surely are. Many of them are in the tech industry, so why wouldn’t they be scientists too? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 04:15 AM |
| 1 | Study suggests that I don't give afOh they are...sort of. They’re running studies on why women suffer from low arousal or issues with getting aroused and acting like a pill for hormones is the answer 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 04:13 AM |
| 1 | BruhI don’t even use a full roll a day when I’m heavily bleeding and having diarrhea on the early, worst days of my period. (I get close to it though.) These men are ridiculous and have no excuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 04:08 AM |
| 1 | Need resources to show 22 year old friend that making porn on OnlyFans for money and “empowerment” isn’t a good idea...Sadly this is how it goes. I knew one woman who was a cam girl,and then another fell on hard times and decided to be a cam girl, and they later convinced another woman who hit hard times to be a cam girl, and so forth. It spreads like a virus. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 01:59 AM |
| 1 | Pick me mother said to me that she wished she had forced me into marriage in my teens so she could have grandchildrenSounds like it’s time to go no contact with your mom again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 01:51 AM |
| 1 | “Build a man” 🤡🤡🤡I started dating my ex when he was overweight, a college dropout (I didn’t know that at first since I met him through university friends), and jobless (Again I didn’t know this at first because he was never concerned about money, which he got from his parents...) When I finally learned he was a college dropout through sheer laziness and jobless but able to afford things because of rich parents, I was already quite into the relationship. I built him up and gave him what he wanted that he never ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 08:58 PM |
| 1 | Broke up with a seemingly HVMIf you dated him for a couple months and still felt uncomfortable being exclusive, either some part of you wasn’t interested in him or you have commitment issues. If being exclusive in general makes you uncomfortable, then you aren’t ready for an actual relationship and should focus on what you actually do want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 08:53 PM |
| 1 | It's important to have your own friendsI met my ex through mutual friends, who’d been friends with him longer than with me, and it was really disheartening that immediately after the breakup they initially assumed I was at fault. I don’t believe my ex gave a real explanation for the breakup, but who knows? I knew they made their assumptions because I had been their friend for less time. Once they got my side of the story, it completely changed their view of the situation, and they’ve told me since then from time to time that he was a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 08:49 PM |
| 1 | I finally put NO ONS, NO FWB in my bio and...OLD sites require you to list what kind of relationship you’re seeking. Men may lie about what they want if you say what you want, but the alternative is lying about what you want, which will attract what you don’t want even more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 04:20 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else notice this? How come men's convenience is put above womens health & comfort? If you're not making him wrap it then you're playing yourself.And then the girlfriend sues for child support and the court mandates a paternity test. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 03:51 AM |
| 1 | I have never met a HVM in the context of dating… how common is this?I’ve met a small handful of HVM and only one through dating. It’s been a couple years now since I actually have been on a date. I’m just thoroughly unimpressed with the men I’ve encountered for quite some time now. The vast majority of men who show interest in me for dating either are trying for a hookup or for me to be their side chick. I’ve determined I’ll remain single or find a nice lady to settle down with. Because my standards have gotten where they are now, I haven’t found myself interest… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 02:44 AM |
| 1 | Even the doctors who vow to save lives can't be trusted :( Stay woke, and get multiple doctor recommendations if possibleI had COVID, and it worsened my asthma and fatigue. Then I got the vaccinations and felt better and breathed better for a couple weeks. Now my asthma and fatigue isn’t as bad as before the vaccines but isn’t good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 02:02 PM |
| 1 | Guys that date women similar to their female relativesMy mom’s brother looks eerily like my dad though I know there is no relation. It’s weird AF and IDK how no one else sees it. Like why does her brother look like he could be an alternate universe version of my dad?! If I think someone looks too much like a family member or shares the same name even, I won’t date them. It’s a hard no for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 04:23 AM |
| 1 | Keep your friends safe! 🌸I was once at a party with some friends, and this one man was clearly trying to convince my super drunk friend to go to his place since he lived nearby. (When she gets drunk, she really becomes way too open to do senseless things in general.) There was also added pressure of people leaving the party and her needing a ride home and the hosts not wanting to keep the party going. She wanted to keep hanging out with people, and this man, a total stranger as we had never met him prior, was totally en… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 04:13 AM |
| 26 | Again. Single dads will use younger women for childcare.This is one way men babytrap women into marriage 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 03:41 AM |
| 2 | He’s dumb af if he thinks we won’t be able to pick him out“I don’t like to hurt others for pleasure.” Bullshit. Narcissists do whatever they can to get their egos stroked, including hurting others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 05:35 AM |
| 1 | The "Perfect Guy"Sounds to me like you should just date Jen 🤔 (I assume that isn’t an option or you’d be doing that already though.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 10:06 AM |
| 2 | After being told by men more than once that my standards were "too high", last weekend I got given the proposal and ring of my dreams by a man who meets those standards!Being compatible with a romantic partner on the subject of religion is super important. And I say that as a nonreligious woman who only dates nonreligious types. So many men will try any approach to get a woman, including claiming that their religious beliefs or political beliefs are unimportant. (It’s always actually important.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 04:02 AM |
| 39 | "Hey fellas ... consider a vasectomy" The Guardian newspaper articleI have one male relative who keeps on having babies and even though he makes good money, they live poor as a result. Any time someone tells him he should get a vasectomy, he blows them off. Meanwhile, after my younger sibling was born, my dad got a vasectomy to avoid having any more kids. My dad is pretty sensitive to pain and is all about avoiding discomfort in general. If he can do it, so can other men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 01:26 PM |
| 71 | I don't think men are capable of seeing us as humans, everI met a man once before who seriously was shocked that women are not naturally hairless on their bodies. I was like “What do you think razor commercials are for?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 04:19 AM |
| 12 | Men's selfishness really knows no boundsSo many men are really deficient in empathy. I was seeing a man for a couple months, and then my grandpa died. I couldn’t see the guy for two weeks because I had to help out with the aftermath of my grandpa's death, which I explained, and he claimed he understood. My mom couldn’t bring herself to do anything, but my family had to handle funeral arrangements, organize a wake, etc. and help my grandma out. I also was in school full time and working full time. A few days after the funeral, the man … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 07:29 PM |
| 65 | AITA, boys shouts at girlfriend, girl moves out the next dayI had a date with a man once where he talked about his “crazy” ex girlfriend accusing him of sexually assaulting her while she slept, and he said that he “sleepwalks” and does get handsy then. I didn’t buy that for a minute, and even if that were true, I’m not interested in that. I saw the red flags. There was no second date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 01:41 PM |
| 7 | Don't worry if you miss one red flag, they come in groups.I’ve fortunately never been asked those kinds of questions, but they definitely feel off. It’s obvious what they’re going for if asking about premium bonds, but what are they trying to learn if asking whether you own or rent a home? Are they just being gold diggers or have some other, more nefarious objective? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 04:09 AM |
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