JavaMummy Archive

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3	Anyone else find that meeting girls around the holidays extra difficult? Thanksgiving and Christmas are hard to work around, so just take a holiday from running game. Like others have said, NYE and Valentine's Day will work in your favor. Also, it's thanksgiving time! Get with friends and family. Put women on the back burner for a week, it won't hurt.	/r/seduction	19/11/12 05:22 PM
3	I'm a bisexual female, and I would like tips on upping my game. The advantage of being bi-sexual is that you can take what has worked on you and directly apply it to picking up other girls. Think about any of those moments where you've found yourself inexplicably falling HARD for a man. Or, better yet, think about all of those frustrating "I wish he would touch me already" or "I'm laughing at all of his jokes and he still doesn't get it" moments and apply them to your pickup. You know 100% of the subtle clues coming your way because you've given them out you…	/r/seduction	06/11/12 05:04 PM
7	Moving exclusively to online game. Online dating is the ultimate buyer's market for women. You should see a typical inbox for a girl, no matter how attractive she is. Imagine a world where approach anxiety doesn't exist ... it's online dating.	/r/seduction	20/09/12 10:15 PM
3	[FR] Rejected 5 times in one night, terrible first college party experience You got rejected five times because you made five approaches. You literally had as many successes as every AFC out there who doesn't have the balls to make an approach. But you still increased the odds to your favor. You can't score if you don't shoot the ball. On a side note, I started off last night by approaching a 3-set of girls and ended up knocking over an empty beer bottle 15 seconds in to the interaction. Definitely a warm-up set and I couldn't think of a good way to play it off. Crash a…	/r/seduction	16/09/12 03:27 PM
1	I am confident in my ability to talk to women, however my exposure to them in social settings is limited because I'm not in a fraternity and all of my friends are only friends with each other. How do I get out of the antisocial cycle? What school at you at?	/r/seduction	14/09/12 01:50 PM
2	How to quickly gain GOD MODE and overcoming AA Tell us how you really feel	/r/seduction	13/09/12 04:53 PM
1	PUAs help me please Just make it natural. Return to the store for something you actually need, and if she's working, talk to her again. There's no magic bullet here. Just talk to her. Steer the conversation towards hanging out. You'll figure out what to do in the moment.	/r/seduction	12/09/12 10:05 PM
2	The Eye Contact Game (and Opener) I have to agree with avonv. This is just awful. You know what's awesome? It's awesome when you make eye contact with a girl while smiling, she smiles, and looks DOWN. Or, if she smiles back and looks to the side, and quickly sneaks another look in to your eyes again. Then, it's game on. Why are you trying to ruin a perfectly awesome non-verbal form of communication by making it in to an what is an awful game? I love non-verbal flirtation. This is just ... bad. It's like you're purposely eliminat…	/r/seduction	12/09/12 10:01 PM
109	This is why you should say hi. Incredible short film. Honestly, this video should be upvoted until it's within the top 10 for /r/seduction. Literally every single piece of advice that you read or hear from anybody when it comes to women all boils down to one thing. You have to approach. You have to take a risk. You have to face rejection. You will literally gain NOTHING by not approaching. By approaching, you are increasing your odds of getting the girl above 0%. Whether you increase your odds to 0.00001% or to 99.99999%, it doesn't matter. Take ad…	/r/seduction	12/09/12 09:51 PM
1	I suck at talking I don't mean to come off as a jerk, but that's exactly what building a relationship with ANYBODY is, male or female. The conversation isn't about what you have to say about Paris at this point. She's put it out there that she loves Paris. Unless you're part of the "I just wanna bone hot chicks" part of Seduction (bonus if you get the reference), you should be wanting to actually get to know these girls that you're interacting with. If a pretty girl tells me that she loves Paris, I genuinely want…	/r/seduction	11/09/12 07:33 PM
2	We talk a lot about Approach Anxiety, but what about dealing with Escalation Anxiety? To parrot JellyPUA, just know that you're not going to get anywhere near the bedroom without kino. You don't make leaps. Nobody makes leaps. You don't go from not touching her at all to having her naked in your bed. You also don't go from not touching her at all to having a second date lined up. You gotta touch her. Somehow. High-five her. Hug her. Do something, and go from there. Put your hand on her shoulder (not weakly) when you want to emphasize a point. Just touch her. You literally have no…	/r/seduction	11/09/12 03:47 AM
1	Wearing earplugs in a club Noise-induced hearing damage is cumulative. I've worn earplugs to a few of the more obscenely loud clubs. I don't really hit up clubs in general, though, to be honest.	/r/seduction	10/09/12 11:30 PM
2	AMOG tips No matter what you do, when the situation immediately opens up, this guy will be figuratively oozing sex, confidence, social prove, and higher value. Everybody is literally backstage, AFTER A SHOW, just to meet the band. The Rock Star in question has an upper hand from the get-go that you won't be able to touch when you first walk in the room. Don't deify him or anybody else. Mix and mingle. Meet the drummer. Meet the vocalist. Meet the bassist. Is he the bassist? Whatever. Meet the people that …	/r/seduction	10/09/12 11:25 PM
2	Gamer Girls always have thrown me for a loop. You know what female gamers hate? When guys take it easy. When guys treat them special while playing. When guys give them advice on how to play. Just imagine if you met a friend of one of your close friends (all guys) and he brought up Super Smash Bros. in a conversation. Would you say to him, "Are you serious?" I know I wouldn't. I'd probably say to him, "I know I barely know you, but I'd crush you in Smash." Commence shit-talking. If it were a girl, commence shit-talking and heavy flirting. If…	/r/seduction	10/09/12 11:12 PM
1	texting when you know it will be a while before you can see her in person Just steer the conversation towards the distance between the two of you. Take whatever angle you like. Once again, if it were me, and I steered the conversation towards the topic of distance, I would probably send a text like (once again, if she was as committed as you say she is) ... "Monday night or Thursday night ... we're going on an adventure. Let's meet at a halfway point. I'm sure the people in [Bumville] are nice. Let's go there. Bring the most random thing you can find within 20 feet of…	/r/seduction	10/09/12 11:01 PM
1	Seddit, Let's talk fraternities... I wouldn't even join one of the upper tier fraternities, to be honest. In one sense, you broaden your social life because you're house is going to be a place to meet a ton of underage girls who cannot get in to the bars yet. You're also going to meet a ton of girls who are in sororities that are tied to your fraternity. On the other hand, you limit your opportunity for growth and make friends in a social aspect if you choose to not go Greek. Personally speaking, I too nearly joined a fraternity …	/r/seduction	10/09/12 10:53 PM
3	Is there any way to keep women from getting too attached to you? Speaking on "long run average" terms, you'd be right about the male species.	/r/seduction	10/09/12 10:41 PM
1	How to get girls in a foreign country? If anything, you get the luxury of being the foreign guy for a few months. As long as you come off as intriguing and mysterious as hell, I can't see why the fundamentals of attraction shouldn't work in another country. Hell, your very presence in the country is a REAL time constraint.	/r/seduction	10/09/12 10:24 PM
2	texting when you know it will be a while before you can see her in person I can understand your frustration, but you're approaching the situation the wrong way. You've got a girl that you're interested in who is constantly initiating the texting, and you're the one ending the text strings. This is obviously a good thing ... but it's up to you to make things happen on the next level. It's going to be DIFFICULT to get her to travel over an hour to your place, especially if you two haven't done anything yet in the first place. If it were me, and I had the confidence that…	/r/seduction	10/09/12 10:19 PM
7	How often? Your timetable for follow up calls, texts, and meetings Sounds like you had a few run-ins with the shitty people of the Game. If a guy is treating you like nothing other than a specified set of rules, moves, and transitions, then yeah, he's a piece of shit. If a guy has studied the reasons WHY playing "the game" is successful, he will become a better overall man and become better with women. Yes, there are guys out there who want to use a bunch of lame pickup lines, weak gimmicks, and otherwise hackneyed techniques such as "the cube" or the "best fri…	/r/seduction	10/09/12 10:09 PM
0	Saw some girls moving heavy boxes. Am I on the right track? Right. If you help them move the heavy boxes, you look like the "macho" guy to them. If you buy a girl a drink at the bar, you look like a generous guy. If you brag about your job to a girl, you look like a successful guy. If you pay attention to a girl for an entire night, right from the get-go, you look like an attentive guy. If you watch her drink and wait for her at a table in a bar, you're a considerate guy. If you agree with everything she says and laugh at all her jokes, you'll be a compa…	/r/seduction	10/09/12 04:11 AM
1	I suck at talking If you have genuine interest in what they're talking about and stop freaking out, then the conversation will come naturally. Here's this beautiful girl sitting with you, and she just told you that she loves going to Paris because it's so romantic. The idea of conversation threading is that when you pay attention to another person when the speak, the threading will just "happen". She's telling you that she loves Paris, and that the romance is what draws her love for that city. Don't bullshit the …	/r/seduction	10/09/12 03:12 AM
1	Working with SA? It's something you'll develop over time. Just keep going from situation to situation with confidence, and STAY COOL. You need to learn to let NOTHING bother you. If you ever feel flustered from a joke, just take it easy. It might feel like the right thing to do is the fix the solution as fast as possible. It's only natural to go in to "damage control" mode. Just let the jokes come, look smug/confident, and wait for your opportunity to speak. You'll always have an opportunity to speak. Think of s…	/r/seduction	10/09/12 02:30 AM
3	Friend made horrible mistake, needs seddit's help! He should honestly just move on. A year has passed, and unless he's made some SERIOUS strides with this girl, she's going to turn him down again. Or, even infinitely worse, she'll feel bad that this dude waiting a full year to ask her again, and go with him out of pity. Which will make him think she's interested. I've seen it happen back in the day to so many guys. It sucks. Seriously, he needs to move on from this chick. He's wasted a full year of his life by thinking about this girl and not co…	/r/seduction	10/09/12 02:20 AM
1	This user makes our community look bad, REALLY BAD Members of Westboro Baptist Church don't make Christians look bad Steroids/HGH users don't make baseball players look bad Nickleback doesn't make other rock groups look bad Etc, etc. This guy makes himself look bad. I don't care what he does. He's never getting laid with his approach, and that's fine by me. Edit: Or, what Throwaway said	/r/seduction	10/09/12 02:12 AM
8	Height and seducing women? Tom Cruise - 5'7'' Sammy Davis Jr. - 5'5'' Those are just two examples of short dudes off the top of my head that were pretty popular with women. My roommate in college was 5'3'' and hooked up a staggering number of HB8, HB9, and HB10 girls. Don't let height bother you.	/r/seduction	10/09/12 02:07 AM
6	[fr] My first date from daygame The thing about a date is that if you don't establish kino early and often, you end up fighting an uphill battle. I'm sure that somebody else out there will do a step-by-step of where you could have improved (you definitely could have), but the egregious error of the date was the insta-escalation of sexual conversation. I literally said, "WHOA!!" out loud when you mentioned that you starting talking about her panties out of the fucking blue. If that was MY reaction, you should consider how a gir…	/r/seduction	10/09/12 01:56 AM
11	"I hate to point out the obvious, but your boobs are fantastic." Unless you made it pretty clear that you are straight, you definitely just made some girls at a gay bar think you were gay. If that's the case, it's just wrong.	/r/seduction	10/09/12 01:41 AM
17	27F says: My brother is in town, can he come [on our first date]? I'm down with that. I had that exact thought in mind, but I never really put it in my post. Stating your intentions is key.	/r/seduction	10/09/12 01:30 AM
1	Saw some girls moving heavy boxes. Am I on the right track? Right, if you're looking to make friends. They're cute girls. They're used to chumps helping them with EVERYTHING in life, simply because they are attractive. If this dude wants to be a helpful guy, more power to him. He's just honestly sealing his fate on a seduction level. Also, this is FAR from "you today, me tomorrow". These girls put themselves in to a situation where they are moving heavy boxes. It wasn't some unfortunate twist of fate that is forcing them to move these heavy boxes. If the…	/r/seduction	10/09/12 12:58 AM
1	Liking her only because she like me You're already mentally set on the idea that you don't want anything serious with her. State your intentions, and if she's cool with it, have a few one-nighters with her. Be FWB. Whatever. As long as she knows that you're not looking for a relationship, you're cool. Make the most of the situation. You've got a girl interested in you and she wants to hook up with you. If you find her sexually attractive, then you are literally at the point where all of this Seduction stuff should lead you.	/r/seduction	09/09/12 11:59 PM
4	Girl in college, I don't wanna fuck it up. You're already putting her on a pedestal, which is a bad thing. Mentally put her in to a side-category of your mind. Don't "ask" her to do anything. If she's a cute girl, she's going to have plans on the weekend, especially since she's in college. In the beginning, don't give away your weekend. You're busy every single weekend, from this point forward. You're going out to parties and meeting girls every weekend. Give her a weekday. On a Tuesday or Wednesday, just text her, "Thirsty Thursday. [Ba…	/r/seduction	09/09/12 11:56 PM
69	27F says: My brother is in town, can he come [on our first date]? You did the right thing by telling her that her brother couldn't come along on the first date. However, you took the wrong approach. You should have been playful about it, something like, "Your brother can't come along. He'll definitely feel uncomfortable watching me put the moves on his [big/kid] sister." To the "Why does it have to be a date? I don't do relationships" comment, you should have said, "Who said anything about a relationship? I'm just looking for a girl who wants to have a little …	/r/seduction	09/09/12 11:51 PM
17	How to escalate from k-close to f-close? Two steps forward, one step back. Work your way to more sexual areas while you make out. If you get resistance, take a step back and continue making out like nothing happened. Let the passion build again, and go for it again when it feels right again. Also, don't EVER feel like a creep. You're already making out with the girl. She's in to you. She finds you attractive. You're on the right path, and she wants you on the path, thus far.	/r/seduction	09/09/12 11:43 PM
-7	Saw some girls moving heavy boxes. Am I on the right track? If you personally know the girls and have opened them before, you have the option of helping out. And that's only if you know them on a good enough level where they already know you're an awesome dude. Unless you're the kind of person who is extremely altruistic and would have helped them out regardless of attraction or gender, you're setting yourself up to be the Beta male right off the bat by offering help. Now, if the situation was a little different, help can be provided. Say he was walking …	/r/seduction	09/09/12 11:34 PM
1	I had a one-night stand with a guy only realize he was really amazing. Did I mess this up? Also, I would definitely disagree with those saying that you run the risk of a bad relationship that starts with the ONS. Bad relationships exist because of poor compatibility and poor communication. A huge part of ANY relationship is the sexual/attraction component. If you're both hot for each other the moment you meet, why is that a bad thing? I feel sorry for people who end up in sexless LTRs.	/r/seduction	09/09/12 03:47 PM
1	I had a one-night stand with a guy only realize he was really amazing. Did I mess this up? This falls right under the "state your intentions" category of Seduction. Don't approach him and say that you want a relationship. Just make it clear to him, sooner rather than later, that you're interested in more than just your ONS that you had with him. If he's outright against the idea of a relationship, just part ways or become FWB. Seriously, just state your intentions. It would suck if you "played it cool" and it turned out that you're in a 10-night stand that leaves you hanging, emotiona…	/r/seduction	09/09/12 03:41 PM
1	How do I dance well in clubs/bars/parties/etc.? If you put yourself in a situation where dancing is a necessity, such as going to a club, then yeah, you need to get some advice on dancing. If you go to a bar or you're at a party, you don't have to dance. If a girl says something like, "Let's dance!", I'll just coolly tell her to have fun, and open up another set. If she doesn't come back, then whatever. I've got somebody else to talk to. There are plenty of girls/women out there who think that dancing is absolutely stupid. And then again, the…	/r/seduction	08/09/12 12:39 AM
1	How do I get this girl? Yeah, but you won't be who gets to fuck her. But who cares? You'll fuck some other girl. Some girl who is better than this one. Probably more attractive and better in bed. Hell, the moment you K-close with your next girl, this one will cease to exist. She'll be an afterthought. She may pop in to your head at some point, and you'll think, "damn, I can't believe that I really obsessed over that broad". And at that moment when you have sex with a girl that's not her, there will be a version of you,…	/r/seduction	18/08/12 07:21 AM
1	How do I get this girl? Sup	/r/seduction	18/08/12 07:16 AM
1	How do I get this girl? To quote the 40 Year Old Virgin, you're putting the pussy on a pedestal. Personally, I love my V-card at the age of 21. Once it happened, I realized that it truly was no big deal at all. I thought that I would somehow feel different about myself, but I really didn't. So to start off, forget about focusing on that. Also, how recently did she call of the date? If it was today or yesterday and you haven't responded, you have two options. Your first option is to say something along the lines of, "Ok…	/r/seduction	18/08/12 07:02 AM
1	The tale of the two OKCupid profiles. It's simply tradeoff logic. The tradeoff for circumventing the social aspect of approaching women and starting a conversation is that you're going to get women of lesser value. With online dating, you are also completely eliminating the aspect of pre-selection. The only reason you created the profile was to meet women in a non-social environment. What man who has pre-selection and meeting multiple women and bedding them in the non-online environment needs an online profile in the first place? DL…	/r/seduction	18/08/12 01:36 AM
8	Some general advice to guys just starting with this stuff from a "Veteran" If you find a girlfriend, you’re in a lot of danger of reverting back to your old self Ugh, this. I got myself in to an LTR, and when I came out my game was pathetic again. I blame myself, really, for softening up when I was with her. But hey, lesson learned. That's life. One big string of lessons. I'll stop learning when I'm dead.	/r/seduction	18/08/12 01:16 AM
3	The tale of the two OKCupid profiles. Online dating is a buyer's market for women, simply put. If you're not willing to settle while playing the online game, you're not going to get any closes.	/r/seduction	17/08/12 07:34 PM
12	What kind of girl turns you on, seddit? You'll see my combination written below, but it's not difficult at all to find a girl who meets the criteria: Attractive (given) Intelligent Open-Minded Confident Fearless/Brave Adventurous Ladylike Good sense of humor That's about it. Basically, I'm not a fan of shy girls. At the same time, I'm not a fan of ice queens either. I want a girl who can be one of the guys, but at the same time be respected as a lady. I know a ton of girls who fall under the "one of the guys" category, but they're so …	/r/seduction	17/08/12 02:48 AM
2	[FR] Two nights, two back-to-back F-closes Anti-slut defense; Also, use UrbanDictionary if you're ever lost on an acronym for ... well, anything.	/r/seduction	28/07/12 03:01 AM