Jeffox555 Archive

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–	Casual dating is a self-harm and the culture surrounding it is poison. Change my mind. Willing to debate either gender from either side of the isle. Again, evolutionary psychology is illuminating: the only ancestors that count on these terms are those from our EEA (Environment of Evolutionary Adaptation),, i.e. hunter-gatherers, who on average, most likely, and based on the best anthropological data, tended to stay together as couples long enough to see children to the age of viability (6-8 years). Among all of our ape relatives, we are unique for the parental investment favored by evolution due to the relative slim hips of women which neces…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/23 08:46 PM
–	Casual dating is a self-harm and the culture surrounding it is poison. Change my mind. Willing to debate either gender from either side of the isle. These effects are not the main reason that I would identify casual sex as harmful. Having sex (for guys) has been shown to enhance self-esteem in multiple empirical studies; anywhere from 40%-60% of young (W.I.E.R.D.) adults polled claim to feel good about specific instances of casual sex (again, higher for men); increased social skills, networking; and any such one-dimensional measures don't look so bad, - certainly. The harm comes with cumulative ratcheting effects OVER TIME. As I pointed out …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/23 07:57 PM
1	Casual dating is a self-harm and the culture surrounding it is poison. Change my mind. Willing to debate either gender from either side of the isle. Thanks for your incisive response; agreed (and well put). "...Refuses to play well with others" made me think of so-called tantric sex, or sex with spiritual ambitions (nah, too problematic. Let's not go there) -- but it is those "deeper pleasures" that seem increasingly rare, discredited even. And those more subtle experiences, tastes; that aesthetic based on personal experience after refining the sensabilities, after practicing and paying attention over time; those uniquely human abilities and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/12/22 01:57 AM
1	Casual dating is a self-harm and the culture surrounding it is poison. Change my mind. Willing to debate either gender from either side of the isle. What a rich exchange this discussion has developed into! Fun. By ways of summary I tend to consider how questions and points are framed as well as the tone with which they are presented because one can infer the diversity of core beliefs, assumptions, and values between the various people engaging here. Generally the worldview or values that seem to be getting the last word...is not my favorite...but it is one we all probably find comfortable and agreeable as it dominates our society and culture…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/22 09:45 AM
1	Casual dating is a self-harm and the culture surrounding it is poison. Change my mind. Willing to debate either gender from either side of the isle. Thanks, but I hope you take my point about what to keep an eye on. You can prolly tell that I am in agreement with you on this topic generally, and appreciate your taking the time to warn and challenge redditers (sic). And I love that some redditers have engaged the issue here, but as you noted, the minor points, specific definitions, and otherwise procedural objections throughout the discussion could belie a bad faith overdetermination on the part of some participants and can risk argument for …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/22 07:12 AM
1	Casual dating is a self-harm and the culture surrounding it is poison. Change my mind. Willing to debate either gender from either side of the isle. Anthropologists have generally found that, among hunter-gatherers, serial monogamy has been the norm. Some have even calculated average duration of such "committed" relationships between 5 and 8 years. Generally. On average. If memory serves. This has been taken as more general support for the evolutionary biosocial account because that is more or less the time it takes to raise one child to age of viability. Sorta like the so-called seven-year itch. To speak a bit to the instinct/need/urge issu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/22 02:03 PM
1	Casual dating is a self-harm and the culture surrounding it is poison. Change my mind. Willing to debate either gender from either side of the isle. In my view, as I said in another comment, everyone leaves behind innumerable effects amongst the living insofar as everything we do, every utterance, every gesture, every single action down to a mere breath causes yet other effects. I am talking mechanistically here, just as a single word of encouragement can brighten the day for another person, our actions and messaging ripple out into the world like waves in water...just like Samnei 415 intoned in the movie, Cloud Atlas, ..."with every act of …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/22 01:42 PM
1	Casual dating is a self-harm and the culture surrounding it is poison. Change my mind. Willing to debate either gender from either side of the isle. Then why have the kids in the first place? How fulfilling can such nihilism possibly be? Of course, by "doesn't matter" you mean "doesn't matter TO YOU" when you are dead, which implies a solipsistic worldview where nothing exists other than YOU. Obviously, some people will remember you after you are dead, and whatever legacy you leave continues. Even a smile might have meant the world to a sullen passerby who decided not to commit suicide that day. Your child might grow into a scientist who hel…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/22 01:19 PM
2	Casual dating is a self-harm and the culture surrounding it is poison. Change my mind. Willing to debate either gender from either side of the isle. As to why exactly? Well 1st of all you can always try for yourself and find out and 2nd I'd say some things are just naturally the way they are. You can try and break them down to their smallest components and find a more accurate description (the same way physics works.) but at some point you just have to accept the behavior of those components for what they are. For people to experience and "know" this general "truth" of human nature, they often need to know what to pay attention to, what to n…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/22 12:42 PM