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Well I care more about the rampant legitimate abuse, than the few false claims. In fact I’ve seen more women claim they ARENT being abused who are, than women who claim they were and actually weren’t. The sad fact is that abuse is very common. Much more common than I realized when I was younger. It’s not always someone being smacked around on a daily or weekly basis. I’ve known women who’s husband or boyfriend “only blows up once a year or two and punches me when he’s “pushed” over the edge.” Wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 12:15 AM
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Yes I do. I never even thought about it being a possibility which is insane, but that would be something I would greatly support. It doesn’t mean it will prevent someone from getting into an abusive relationship all the time, but it certainly would help in knowing who you’re dealing with when dating. “But we’ve seen lives ruined by allegations and false reports.” Well, we’ve also seen lives ruined by domestic violence and being in the dark about dangerous people? Some people worry way too much a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 12:05 AM
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I’ve been in a long term relationship for 12 years now, engaged. So I was 21 when we met, and I don’t remember asking him about a body count. We both discussed how many relationships we had been in just for conversation and getting to know each other’s past, but I wasn’t concerned with how many encounters he had. Now I’m 32 and if for some reason I was back in the dating game, I don’t see myself asking. As long as we both get tested and are clear, then it’s whatever. The only reason I would be c…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 11:42 PM
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Thank you for being smart for realizing women have a life outside chasing men, and we aren’t “ghosting” people or turning them down simply because we are chasing a Chad. We have jobs, kids, mental health could be having a hard time, physical health issues, a sick family member, school, and plethora of other things that are valid reasons for deciding we dont feel like calling the random number we got at the bar. Because you’re a normal person, you’ll find a nice woman soon. The others never do, f…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 03:37 AM
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Fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 08:47 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 09:41 PM
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Isn’t it? I find it almost fascinating. I can’t relate obviously because sex doesn’t run my life or brain. I can’t picture how that would feel. I would likely feel like a Neanderthal. If you realized one day that you couldn’t stop yourself from thinking about murder, you would probably get help so things didn’t escalate. So if you can’t stop yourself from thinking about sex and pursuing it at every chance, you should probably do the same and get some help. Men’s sexual urges and not being able t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 05:19 AM
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Absolutely! I hate to speak badly about any female, but in the nicest way possible the sex workers he contacted were either very plain or so rough looking you could tell they were full blown heroin addicts. I don’t look that way. So it clearly had nothing to do with not being “pretty enough.” So my self esteem did not take a blow from it. It also never mattered how much sex we had and how many crazy things I partook in for him, he always wanted more. This would be one thing I hope the younger gi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 03:26 AM
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If there were any men out there looking for that, I would have found one by now lol. I’m 32 and came to this realization when I was about 28. Like most of us here, we had that fantasy that actual love and kindness could cure a man. That it could overcome anything. That has not been the case. It’s hard to face that in the beginning, but then it feels actually really freeing. I’ve been what I consider a very loyal and loving and good housewife. Sex on demand. Clean house. Listening to him talk abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 02:55 AM
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That’s exactly it. That’s how I felt in my 20s as well. That I would be rewarded with real love eventually. It comes as no surprise that that never happened, and will never happen. It’s a hard thing to face sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 02:05 AM
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Aaah I use to be one of those LibFems. I truly hope one day they can wake up like I did eventually. It even seeped into my life as a stripper. There was one man that would come in who had a ton of spending money. He was nicer than the rest and easier to deal with, so everyone wanted to sit with him because he would actually pay you to just sit there with him. Sometimes he would get really drunk and leave his money sitting on the table, and my coworkers would grab a few 20s while his head was on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 01:54 AM
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I’m so glad to see him here! He works an hour from me in Michigan, and seems to be very respected and good at what he does. He won’t do a surgery for the money if he thinks it’s dangerous to the person, which is nice to see. I love his TikToks. I always get to laugh at the angry scrotes in the comment section as well on top of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:43 PM
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Giiirl....I was the queen of thinking less attractive men would treat me better. I wouldn’t date anyone on my level because of that. On the other hand, even though those men were not attractive to most, I did actually find them attractive. But I also thought they would be nicer and would be less likely to cheat if they thought they got lucky by getting someone waaay out their zone. I was wrong so badly lol. They actually seem to be more likely to cheat. It’s like it inflated their ego and they b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 09:00 PM
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Yeah, that was powerful enough to cause me to shed a few tears, and it takes a lot to make me cry. That was one of the best analogies I’ve read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 09:31 AM
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It was the first thing that came to mind and it stuck lol. So whenever I see comments like that now I think “What a fucking Sensitive Stephen.” 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:57 AM
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Let me also add. Just to show where each genders heads are at here. When it comes to women I hear “I just want to be loved. I just want him to see me as an equal. I wish I had a man that texted me good morning.” When it comes to males I hear “I can’t get a model to fuck me. Nobody will fuck me. She went on a date with me and then didn’t fuck me.” It’s all about sex. Do they even want to be loved? Do they ever wonder if their partner loves them? I have yet to meet a guy that cared about actual lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:56 AM
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They will never understand the hurt, pain, suffering, and mental work it took to get us here. We didn’t wake up one day and decide we just hated men for no reason and wanted them to suffer because an ex wouldn’t buy us an expensive car one time. We got here because we eventually realized that most men simply do not care about us as human beings whatsoever. I mean I genuinely believe that most men aren’t capable of actually loving a women and that was terrifying and depressing for me to admit to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:49 AM
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I can actually speak on that myself. I thought I was genuinely interested in some kinks and rough sex myself. I later realized I lead myself to believe I was into it, because I felt my partner would view me in higher regard. Basically it was Pick Me stuff. I’ve come to find that I actually don’t like most of it. Some of it, a very few some, I actually like, but it’s the non-violent ones. I am actually more into the kinks that women get more pleasure from, but never even thought to bring them up …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:31 AM
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You’re right, US women and US commenters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:39 AM
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Absolutely. They are doubling down. They are so use to their own behavior being okay and having people nervously laugh and not say anything, it’s quite a change now to being told they are wrong, and that they need to change and that we won’t accept this bullshit anymore. So now they are doubling down on the bullshit, and that’s the stage we are in. Actual change won’t come for awhile, they are still trying to wrap their head around being told these things they don’t like and not being comfortabl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:00 AM
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Yes! I was still shocked though by the amount of misogynistic comments. I mean as I was reading, it was just one after another and I could have written at least 100 more negative comments. Very few men who got the joke and didn’t get up in arms about it. You would think the poster of the video was standing on a chair shouting “ALL MEN DESERVE TO BE JAILED FOREVER!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:55 AM
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@u/pheonix_rising2018
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 11:08 PM
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I just reposted it! Don’t know how to tag you though lol I just woke up from a nap and my brain isn’t working at full capacity yet lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 11:06 PM
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Pheonix_rising2018, here you go!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 11:06 PM
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I sure will, thank you for letting me know!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 11:01 PM
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There was one comment by a man that said “I have the utmost respect to house wives and I’m going to treat mine with all the love and respect I have when I get married.” I replied “Finally, a comment from a man that’s nice, you’re going to be a good spouse.” Boy was I dead wrong 😂 He replied back “Thank you. I’m 17 and in school to be work a trade. Hoping to save enough to meet a nice women and get married in a few years.” Okay, normal. Then he says “I’m fine with women working and going to schoo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 05:31 AM
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Right?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 03:31 PM
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Ooh! My sister in laws husband is this exact way. When they met, he was a complete loser. She went from an abuser, to this guy. So we did not have hope this was going to work out and we were so disappointed that she was finally moving in from the abuser but then into the arms of a immature man who lived with his parents and played Pokémon. Miraculously he ended up actually turning things around. He went from not wanting to work and letting her work, to suddenly joining the ARMY and doing somethi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 09:56 PM
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It’s been rare that I met or heard of a gamer boyfriend/husband that plays only when he has free time a little bit but doesn’t let it consume him. I’m a gamer girl myself, kinda. I mostly just really enjoy playing my Zombie games. Days Gone and Last of Us. I spend maybe two hours a week playing. House has to be clean and everyone needs met first. It would be weird as fuck to me to sit there with a controller all day while the house etc destroyed and my partner is in the kitchen trying to cook di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 09:45 PM
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That was extremely sad to read, but not at all surprising. I was an exotic dancer for 8 years, quit a few years ago. I normally only worked 4 nights a week. But even on the nights I worked, I was still expected to come home and clean the entire house spotless, a task that took 3-5 hours depending on the mess made while I was gone. Then I had to give baths to the kids, and then I could maybe go to sleep. My husband has never once came home from work and started cleaning for hours. It would be inc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 02:34 AM
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I might be able to provide a little insight. I went through this myself. When I met my boyfriend at the age of 21, it was actually progressing quickly. He gave me a ring after only 4 months together. I made it known marriage was important to me. He was previously married once and divorced, marriage only lasted less than a year with that women. After I got the ring though, the marriage talk stopped. No wedding being planned or even talked about. I let it go figuring we had plenty of time to plan …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 10:06 PM
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Oh my god, yesss!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:29 AM
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Yes! My husband got me my PS4 for Christmas because I liked this one single game that I wanted to play. So he preordered the PS5 for me and made sure I got that too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 10:37 PM
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Yes! I was so happy to see her move on and finally get to be married and have kids. I could be wrong but, from what I seen of that relationship John did seem like a decent guy who cared about her, but he was super honest about what she should expect. Unfortunately she thought he would change his mind. Which he seemed to try to do towards the end with agreeing to getting married. But it seems like once she accepted the proposal ( did she at first? ) she realized that she already caught the “ick” …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 03:11 PM
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Are we the same people? It blows my mind how many women have experienced this exact same thing, me included. These scrotes are all following the same handbook and it’s not a good one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 03:03 PM
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Ooh yeah I feel everything you just said. I had a very long term relationship like that. Those days where for some reason you get a little ballsy and decide to speak up about something, try to do it in the most calm manner you can to avoid an argument, hope they will be understanding towards it, and instead they completely lose it and blow up at you. Here’s an example. I have stomach problems, and I text him “My stomach really hurts today, this sucks.” ( The kind of pain that has me closing my e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 02:59 PM
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Years ago I had a long term partner cheat on me with a younger girl and leave me for her. I was in a shitty place and started talking to this scrote on Facebook. I knew he was a loser a few weeks into talking, but I figured I would use him to get out the house and treat it as casual. This guys first date with me was just driving me around the neighborhood. I can’t believe I accepted it to be honest but unfortunately I was still in that “pick me” mindset and thought I was being “such a nice perso…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 05:53 PM
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“The flame trees of Thicka: Memories of an African childhood.” I didn’t read it, just found the quote online a few years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 07:10 PM
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I have a quote I read when I was going through a situation myself that said this perfectly! Here it is. “The best way to find out things, if you come to think of it, is not to ask questions at all. If you fire off a question, it is like firing off a gun; bang it goes, and everything takes flight and runs for shelter. But if you sit quite still and pretend not to be looking, all the little facts will come and peck round your feet, situations will venture forth from thickets and intentions will cr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:32 PM
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Thank you ❤️ I’ve read about it happening so many times to so many women. It’s mind boggling how different things are for each gender.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:08 PM
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It’s absolutely insane isn’t it? I had a spouse that had a porn problem, specifically “legal teen” porn, and it destroyed my self esteem. But I have one better: He wanted to do threesomes. But it was hard to find a girl willing to join a couple, so we settled on swapping with other couples. I thought the idea was fun, but when it came down to it I was really shy and nervous and backing out of meeting people. He would get PISSED at me and say “We did all of this for nothing?! I think you’re likin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 01:35 PM
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I’m sorry I meant that the user should have kept her disagreement to herself, not that you should have been silent lol. She should have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 07:39 PM
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Absolutely. Which is why “she” should have remained silent. Chances are pretty high that it was a troll because their account seemed new when I went on it earlier. They were being rude and vile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 07:38 PM
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They say they are a woman, but who knows. Could be a disguised scrote. Either way they clearly don’t belong in FDS. If this was actually a woman and they disagreed, best to not say anything at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 07:34 PM
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There is nothing wrong with that, ignore otherwise. You have the right to decide for yourself what you want out of a man and relationship, and it doesn’t make you lazy or a gold digger or wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:33 PM
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I can’t believe I never read that story before, I just looked her up and read what happened. That story is a classic example of why we have to watch our backs even well into marriage. I had a similar situation happen to me back in 2017. That man knew what he was doing and I can’t imagine treating someone I’ve spent so many years with that badly during a divorce. That man should have had at least enough respect for her as a mother and former spouse to set her up in a new house, get her a new car,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 04:08 PM
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I wish I was kidding lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 08:54 PM
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Yess! I never seen this one, so glad I did tonight lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 08:20 AM
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Oh they have all the audacity. 10 year relationship ( forever girlfriend here ) and when I met him he was unemployed and I was working as a dancer. I insisted on always giving him money. He was employed maybe a month later but it was around $500 a week. That’s what he made for the first 6 years. Then he went elsewhere and started making around $900 a week, awesome. We were no longer poor. Then he opened his own business and started making quite a good amount at the 8 year mark. He had the audaci…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 07:46 AM
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Yes! Thank you. I live a few blocks away from a convenience store, and I’ve rode my bike there in the middle of the night many many times. There is only one man I’ll talk too that hangs out outside that store, because he helps the store owner out in exchange for food and is kind and respectful. I can’t express how annoyed I get when I ride up to the front of the store and notice a random man standing out front, and they try to talk to me. It’s 3am and I’m alone and a female. Do they really have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 07:10 AM
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It’s a woman that is willing to sacrifice everything for a man as long as they pick her. They will convince themselves they like doing a mans laundry, paying on the dates, and they won’t ask for much from a relationship but will slave away everyday for the man. All under the guise that they will be seen as the “cool girl” and that men will flock to them. ( I was unfortunately one of these woman before ). I remember saying I was fine with my boyfriend going to the strip club with his friends beca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 09:10 PM
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Mhm! Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 12:14 AM
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You’re absolutely right and I had to witness it first hand. I met my spouse at work and fell in love immediately. He had very little when I met him, he was renting condo with his best friend, on unemployment, and sharing a van with his sister where they each got it every other week or whatever. But for me, I loved him and didn’t care what he had. He started working again just a month into the relationship and we moved in together and had kids. Money was tight for years but we had faith things wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 09:54 PM
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Mhm! You’re right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 03:38 PM
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Bingo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 03:37 PM
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I did respond to this guy explaining why he isn’t really a nice guy, but he hasn’t responded to it at all lol. It’s always cringe when they say this shit. Yeah, you’re being ignored because you’re just too nice I’m sure. I said “Or maybe they weren’t attracted to you, or your personality didn’t match with hers, or she didn’t like something you did or said on the date, or she’s really busy in life, or having family problems.” The list can go on. Anyone that has gotten abused will tell you that th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 03:36 PM
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Damn, you are right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 03:13 PM
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He’s a real nice guy, huh? So nice that instead of being empathetic towards a human being that had a rough time with her ex-boyfriend, he was more worried about how he made her extra cautious with men because it makes it harder for him to get her in bed 🙄😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:50 AM
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Some dumbass guys response to a woman’s post on my feed where she was asking if men ever regretted messing things up with woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:49 AM
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Damn you’re right! I didn’t even think of it that way. That makes total sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 06:22 AM
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Yesss! I felt like this goes to show that men aren’t incapable of seeing it. They do see it, they just don’t care unless it’s a man. That for me was the worst realization of all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 03:09 AM
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Mhm! A spouse of mine ended up cheating on me with a 19 year old girl, he was 32 at the time. I was floored when I found out her age. It was hard not to see him as a predator after that because it was so weird to me. I tried to explain to him why it wasn’t okay, but it fell on deaf ears.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 06:49 PM
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Just wanted to update you guys and let you all know I’m still safe and I’ve had a good last two days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 11:39 PM
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I think you’re right! He was getting controlling of her too towards the end. But he was very cold and mean to me soon as I found about her. I figured out what his plan was. When he met her at his work, he thought about it for a week, made up his mind and then found her information on social media to send her flowers to her workplace and ask her on a date. When she accepted the date, he locked his phone down and started telling me we needed to just trust each other. A day later he started an argu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 04:33 PM
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Aww thank you so much. Yeah that situation was very fucked up. He had told me so many years that he was just scared to get married again, and then like 2 months into dating this teenage girl he’s getting her a ring and talking about a wedding with her. He tried so hard to deny it and say the ring was just a gift and that she didn’t wear it on her ring finger. She told me herself months after I already reconciled with him that she DID wear it on the ring finger, and that he would tell her “With t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 03:33 PM
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I’m going to try to set one up in the morning. Thank you guys so much! I’m going to get a new card tomorrow, and then link my PayPal to the new debit card. That way I’ll be able to receive money on it, and my ex spouse can’t take it or access it. I appreciate you guys a ton.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 01:28 AM
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I just read the same thing. It’s scary as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 10:41 PM
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Now I’m finding out he took the $140 off my debit card somehow. I went to the store to grab some things and my card kept declining. He made sure to somehow get that money off my card so I had to text him and beg him for anything we needed. Sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 08:39 PM
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Now my father is back inside the house and he sat and watched TV for awhile. He just got up and starts saying “Ya know Jess, I just want you to know I’m not against you but...” and then he starts playing family therapist and telling me everything I need to change about myself and have done wrong. He’s still on a rant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 07:15 PM
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Ive spent the last 20 minutes reading about this online and I am reading articles saying that a lot of men who strangle their spouse go on to murder them. That is terrifying. Someone did a study of the background of men who shot up public places, and it turned out most of them had a history of strangling their spouse. These are things I never knew. I mean I knew strangling someone was horrible, but I’m just now realizing that it’s basically attempted murder. When someone strangles you, apparentl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 06:53 PM
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That’s another thing I didn’t know lol. I’m going to try that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 06:49 PM
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Thank you ❤️ Seeing all you women reaching out and giving me kind words and resources has lifted me up so much. He has not came back or tried to contact me yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 06:35 PM
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Just wanted to give an update real quick because it’s been an exhausting morning. I was able to sit down and eat and also take a shower. I still haven’t seen or spoke to him. I’m hoping I won’t have too either for at least a few days. But right now I’m in the house safe. I contacted someone that lives close by and they told me I can come to their house for safety if I need too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 06:27 PM
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I was able to sign up for a PayPal account and luckily was able to link this debit card to the account, so I didn’t need a bank account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 06:24 PM
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The comments above were deleted so I don’t know what those people said, but I love my children more than anything in the world. Everything I do is for my children. I spent all my days making sure my children are cared for completely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 06:21 PM
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My father has always been like this as well. He’s been abusive to my mother my whole life. He’s the same type of man that my spouse is actually. You absolutely can’t apply it to LVMs. I just wanted to let everyone know what could happen if you tried. It’s not that every man would resort to strangling you, it’s that they are capable of it and could. They don’t like it when your eyes are opening and who knows what can happen when they freak out and think they are losing their grip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 05:15 PM
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You guys are an amazing and kind family. That’s great advice and I’m definitely going to start calling churches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:39 PM
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Oh I don’t even have a bank account. Do you have to wait for a card to be sent to you in order to access the money? If so, I would have to see who’s bank account I could use to withdraw it in cash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:38 PM
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Yes he’s strangled me before. The last time it happened before today was January 2018. He got on top of me in bed and held me down and choked me, I thought he was going to kill me then too. When he finally let go, he would not let me leave the bedroom. So I just stood in front of the dresser silent. When I went to pick up my coffee and take a drink, he smacked it out my hand, coffee ends up all over me and the cup is broken. Then he punched me in the side of the head and caused me to hit the wal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:36 PM
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I’m sorry you had to go through the same thing. Abusers seem to all follow the same damn script. I’m still worried about him coming back, but I set up some safeguards. He still hasn’t tried to text me. I don’t plan on saying a word to him if he comes back. I have $140 and a cellphone to my name. That’s it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:05 PM
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Thank you so much, I’m in Michigan. That was the whole reason it was important for me to make a report about it. It wasn’t about wanting him to go to jail, or wanting anything to happen to him. It was about finally sticking up for myself and being able to have it documented. A few years ago he wouldn’t let me inside the house. He was cheating on me, so we were not getting along. It’s a long story but when I walked home I found his sister on the porch pacing back and forth. He had his sister go t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:57 PM
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It’s a little painful to swallow, and my rib on my left side hurts. But I don’t see any swelling or bruises yet. I have a friend that’s a paramedic and he had me send a picture of my eyes to check for something. He said it looked okay. But I still need to get checked out at a hospital.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:31 PM
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Oh my god. I thought the worst that could happen if I didn’t die was passing out or having bruises on my neck. That’s horrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:30 PM
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Thank you! I’m going to try and sign up right away. I didn’t know I even could because I thought only people who signed tax forms could apply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:27 PM
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That would seriously be...I don’t even know what to say. That would be such a huge help. I have little money and I’m scared to death that I’ll end up having to wander the streets without being able to get a motel room or anything. I don’t have a Venmo or PayPal, but I can try to sign up for one and message you. You have no idea how much that means. My abusive spouse always counts on me not having to money to keep me here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:05 PM
11

No money for an Airbnb at all. I have $140 to my name and that’s it. So I have to get ahold of a family member and stay with my sister for now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 01:20 PM
22

“Cool Girl” behavior is when you want to come across as a “cool female” so badly that you pretend to be okay with things that you actually aren’t okay with. Men tend to say all women are the same, all women are crazy. So you get in this mindset that your different and have to prove it. So maybe your spouse watches porn and you don’t like it, instead of saying you don’t like you get in the cool girl mindset and tell him it does not bother you because you are secure in yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 01:18 PM
8

I’m sorry you had to experience that hell too. I would not wish it upon anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 01:16 PM
17

Bingo. Everything you just said. That’s what he does and will do. Based on experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 01:14 PM
7

Of course it wouldn’t be. I’m just saying that’s not how he acts, some abusers come back and play nice and try to apologize for what happened. My abuser does not do that. He doubles down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 01:13 PM
10

I already did. I just don’t want to say much about it here because I need to make sure he can’t access my account and read this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 01:12 PM
80

I had no idea that was the case. I’m going to the hospital soon as I can get a ride today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 12:38 PM
22

I do know that he ain’t coming home with flowers and an apology. He never has. He’s going to start using threats to try and get me to apologize for making him mad. I can almost guess everything he’s going to do next. He’s likely going to text me and tell me “Jess you need to find a place to go because that isn’t your house, I pay the mortgage, you need to leave” He’s going to start texting me and bullying me into shit. If he does come back to the house, he will bring his family with him to make …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 12:13 PM
141

Fuck. You’re right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 10:56 AM
30

I’m not resigned to this fate, I have a plan. But until I change my Reddit password I don’t want to write anything he could possibly see until I make sure he can’t get into my account. I’m very pissed. But my kids were freaked out and I had to calm down so I didn’t freak them out anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 10:55 AM
84

I think he actually hurt something in my neck because I just sat down to eat and it hurts to swallow my food.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 10:34 AM
59

Thank you so much. I have a lot going through my head, but the biggest thing I’m hurt about is how my own father didn’t protect me. I didn’t expect that at all. That only gave my spouse more power. I’m sickened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 10:27 AM
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I need somewhere to go first. I don’t want to stay here because make no mistake he will be back and I don’t know when. I haven’t been able to get ahold of my mother or sister yet. I did talk to some friends though. First thing I need to do is get ahold of my sister so I can go to her house. I have a little bit of cash. But it won’t last long. There is a lot of things I need to do and I’m hoping today I can at least somehow relax and try to eat something. I have barely ate in the last few days be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 10:25 AM
22

I knew his ego was in the gutter when he suddenly started talking some girl in private all because I was trying to have self confidence. Thank you for reaching out ❤️ I haven’t been able to get ahold of any other family yet so I’ve been talking to a friend and trying to calm down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 10:00 AM
134

Mind you that my father has always been an asshole, he abused my mother my whole life. My mother is an addict and lives in someone’s basement. She’s been an addict my whole life. My father was also living in this basement with her, until the home owner kicked him out for causing trouble. Then he went to live with my sister, and then he lived with his brother, and when I found out he was sleeping in his car I felt bad and offered him to stay with us. I’m not surprised my father is an asshole. I w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 09:49 AM
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That comment came when I was talking to them about how this movement says we should have a roster and be dating multiple men at a time until one of them makes a commitment to you. Especially because most of the time those men are dating other woman as well, they just won’t admit it. That’s when the person said “That’s bullshit because women would not be able to handle it if a man said they were dating other women too, they are too sensitive.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 03:33 AM
9

No joke there is a hole in my bathroom door from an outburst a few years ago. I hate having to explain that when people come over, that door needs to be replaced already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 03:29 AM
5

Bingo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 01:28 AM
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Oh I wouldn’t suggest saying it while alone with a man either. You have the real chance of being choked or hit. I’ve never worried that a woman would physically hurt me if I said the wrong thing to her. If that doesn’t prove our point, I don’t know what would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 01:27 AM
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I can’t see the first commenters full comment here for some reason, but she mentioned that men don’t seem to look at anger as being sensitive, and it’s completely true. They seem to think because they don’t cry that they are tough. In reality anger is an emotion too, and they blow up over every slight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 01:11 AM
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The way I see it, if I’m doing something and I have to use the defense “Yeah, but it’s legal” then I’m probably doing something wrong and should not be doing it. We all should realize by now that just because something is legal, does not make it good. And just because something is illegal, does not make it bad. Weed was illegal at a point, but it wasn’t bad. Marrying a 12 year old was legal at one point, and it wasn’t good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 12:21 AM
2

You are no less of a woman because of your job as an escort. Being an escort now or in the past doesn’t mean you’re a LVW. I wish I had more to add, but I don’t. You are still worth having a HVM and I hope you begin to see that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 12:02 AM
5

Thank you girl ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 11:49 PM
3

Absolutely. I would say so much more about that, but my kids are so loud and I cannot focus lol. But I’m so glad I found this whole movement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 11:34 PM
5

It’s internalized and another part of the “Cool Girl” mentality. At least in my opinion it is. I discovered this sub a week ago and I’m finally come out of that fog. Before I found this sub I could definitely see myself thinking “I’m going to spend more money on HIS ring, because I’m a cool girl, I’m not like other girls. I don’t mind proving how little I care about myself by accepting a ring I don’t want.” I can’t even tell you how good it feels to start coming out of that “cool girl” mentality…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 11:20 PM
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Agreed. I’m one of them unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 11:00 PM
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I’ve been telling my husband about this sub, and asking him what he thinks about it all. When I read the list of rules, he always points out the money aspect. He will say “But why is it always about money? Why does it have to be a nice restaurant? It sounds like gold digging.” The money aspect is a small part of it, but that’s the rule he always points out when I’m reading things to him. I told him last night “It’s not about money. It’s about having boundaries and setting your bar high because y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 10:44 PM
3

Banging my head against a wall wishing I found this sooner. Just glad I did 10 years later instead of never. It all makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 10:53 PM
2

The very first time I had sex, which was with a guy a few years older than me, he expressed afterwards that he wanted me to shave the hair off completely. I wasn’t expecting to lose my virginity when I came over his house that day. He pressured me into it and wouldn’t let me leave unless we had sex. Then to tell me to make sure I’m shaved next time....it was a real eye opener.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 06:48 AM
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My mouth fell open when I read this. That doesn’t happen often. That....is one of the most sickening things I’ve read. I cannot imagine the agony she is feeling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 05:03 AM
3

I hate to say it, but you’re completely right. I’ve been with my fiancé for 10 years. We have two kids together. We’ve been through hell and high water together. He will not marry me. A situation happened a few years ago that ended up with us separating for about 5 months and dating other people. He was willing to marry that girl ASAP. So I guess at least when it comes to marriage, trust me ladies. You aren’t waiting for him to become more comfortable with the idea. He isn’t waiting to get a bet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 03:57 AM
6

Yes 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 10:22 PM
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When he had not introduced me to any of his friends even after 4 months. But then again he was trying to hide me from his child’s mother because he said she would flip out and keep his child from him. I met his child’s mother a few months after we broke it off, and we are now friends. She’s cool as hell. The real reason he was hiding me was because he was still in love with her and trying to win her back. He also didn’t want her to start dating. So he had to appear single himself. That was a shi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:21 PM
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