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Personally I did. We lived together about a year and a half before getting married and it was very beneficial. We were able to get used to each other’s behaviours and create a kind of routine that we’ve kept since then. Sure not everyone does, but it was good for us
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/21 10:16 AM
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Attractive to other people? I don’t care Attractive to me? That’s what I want Now my husband is very handsome, not just to me but conventionally attractive too, but it wasn’t something that was high on my list of priorities when dating
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/21 11:39 PM
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I tried to give it a listen but honesty it’s wasn’t for me. My fave podcast currently is ‘the modern lady podcast’, really enjoy that one
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/21 11:07 PM
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My husband had 2 relationships before he met me, both with Chinese women. I’m white, British, pale skin with blue eyes and brown hair. He never made me feel like I have to compare myself, and I know I’m loved just as I am! As long as he shows you appreciation and you feel beautiful in his eyes, try to not worry about it. He didn’t accidentally end up in a relationship with you, he knows what you look like and it seems that he likes what he sees
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 03:22 PM
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If just 10% of men are high value, that’s 300,000,000. That’s a lot. I married last year, but I see many of my friends associating with high value men. Another of my friends is marring next year to a very high value man. There’s many around.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/21 12:22 PM
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Oh I actually got married at 19, but we’ve been together since I was 16! Sorry, should have clarified there
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/21 01:32 AM
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Can totally relate to your current situation. 19, bern with my husband almost 3 years and recently found out I have ovarian cysts on both ovaries and normal imbalances. Accepting and working on the situation is hard, but healing and working towards either improved fertility or other options is what helps me heal. You’ll be in my prayers
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 06:33 AM
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Thank you for this!! Love the Uniqlo ones
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/20 12:55 PM
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A few people have mentioned it in the comments, but I’ll just say it again for emphasis. Don’t do wife duties for a man who is not your husband. What does he do to deserve this treatment, and where is he giving equally? If he is not, take some time to sit down together to discuss the sharing of responsibility. It may feel unfeminine to simply say ‘I can’t do this anymore, you need to either change expectations or do more’ but it’ll be worth it in the long run
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/20 09:28 PM
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I’m 165cm (5ft5ish) and at my lowest I was about 55kg, received almost no attention. Now I’m around 75kg, happily married and receive honestly much more attention. I think it’s due to how I carry myself. I’m much more confident, happy and honestly I just FEEL pretty, and people around me seem to respond well to that
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/20 12:08 AM
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Honestly I just use social media!! Women who are the same topics as you often reach out, that’s how I met a good friend who has the exact same goals as me
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/20 07:17 AM
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Love it! I run my own and honestly it’s a lot of fun :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/20 04:32 AM
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I love liziqi! I actually have a list of channels like hers
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/20 09:22 PM
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This whole thread is about stereotypes and which ones appear to be feminine and inspire you, of course no one culture/ country will have entirely feminine women
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/20 09:21 PM
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He doesn’t really celebrate Christmas, so for presents it’s just a gaming chair for his old man posture, and then we’ll have lots of Chinese food for dinner :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/20 01:29 AM
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Personally I did, we moved in together I’ve r a year ago and are set to be married next month. I think you need a plan to make sure you don’t just accept being roommates who date. If marriage is your goal, you can’t just skip around that by living together
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 08:51 AM
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Just because it happens doesn’t make it okay!!! The youngest mother in the world was 5, think it’s okay for an adult to be attracted to her just because she went through puberty?
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/20 11:13 AM
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Puberty is ‘the period during which adolescents reach sexual maturity and become capable of reproduction.’ Some girls don’t start their period until 16. And it is still disgusting.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/20 10:46 AM
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It doesn’t matter if it’s easy or not??? The fact he watched it and actively searched it out is disgusting! And okay you may not have children but you have no nieces or nephews or cousins? Friends who will have children? Just children outside in public?
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/20 10:44 AM
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Would you really be comfortable having children with a man who has been aroused by minors? You haven’t said how extreme the crime was, but it’s not easy to find that stuff. He had to go out of his way to look for it.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/20 09:43 AM
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I don’t understand the whole travel thing really! My parents and I never missed out on travel, they took me to 3 different continents and multiple countries even when I was a child
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/20 09:01 AM
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I’m SO excited for it, I’m going back to my home country for a few months and hoping to be able to some babysitting jobs while I’m there!
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/20 12:53 AM
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I got lucky with my relationship I feel because most guys my age aren’t really family focused, or would even be open to marriage/ children this early. Because my fiancé is Chinese and we will eventually live there, it’s most likely we’ll end up with 2 but he’s open to 3 or possibly more!
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 11:24 PM
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Thank you, hopefully I can still get the family I desire!
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 07:37 PM
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Nope, thyroid issues :( genetic so not much I can do about it, and I’m seeing a doctor before the end of the month to see if there’s any medications to help control it, but I have an irregular period and miss it for long periods of time (last ‘cycle’ was 88 days total)
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 07:33 PM
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As nice! I never leaned strongly either way until a few years ago really
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 07:30 PM
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Do you think you’d have a ‘maximum’ ?
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 05:08 PM
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Thank you very much for your kind words!
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 05:03 PM
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Your story has made you the person you are today, I truly am wishing you the best with your pregnancy and future child rearing years <3
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 04:57 PM
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My dream is twins really, so I’d want to be outnumbered at some point! My fiancé never really has been a kid guy, but he’s happy with 2 and then a discussion after 2 to see how we’re feeling and if we should/ can have more
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 04:44 PM
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That sounds just wonderful!!
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 04:41 PM
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<3
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 04:35 PM
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Haha yes, my aim is at 25 but because of some health issues it may take me longer. As long as I can have my own little family, either natural, through IVF, or adoption, I am happy. Also congrats on your pregnancy!
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 04:29 PM
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I’m 19, engaged to be married next month (unfortunately we will probably have to reschedule, but holding our hope for now at least). My fiancé is 20. My mum had me at 25, and was also married at 20 so I’ve seen that kind of life and how it can work well. Since I decided to live a more traditional life, me and my fiancé will have no debts to pay off so we can invest extra funds into our future rather than paying things off. If I could afford it now, I’d probably have one around 20/21 (Edit) I als…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 03:58 PM
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If you want a method of contraception that won’t affect your hormones in addition to condoms, may I recommend ovulation sticks? You can Check when you are ovulating and avoid sex on those days. My mother recommended me this device https://uk.clearblue.com/contraception/persona-monitor Also, I haven’t read it myself yet, but I’ve heard great reviews about the book ‘this is your brain on birth control’ so that may be interesting for you
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/20 03:25 AM
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‘Adults who report having had high quality relationships with their parents during childhood have better overall mental health and are at decreased risk for mental disorders compared to those who report low parental relationship quality. Researchers have predominantly focused on the relationship with the mother, oftentimes excluding the unique role that fathers may play in the long-term development of their offspring’ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3468907/ Ultimately, the role of …
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/20 03:08 PM
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For me, it’s not. As long as he’s working and isn’t sitting around doing nothing, I see no issue with not having a degree
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/20 05:35 AM
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I think shein and YesStyle would have enough of what you need! They’re based in China so they have the trends there but the shipping isn’t too expensive. I just bought a whole outfit for 65 AUD including shipping (top, skirt + multiple accessories)
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/20 04:45 AM
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I think you can be aware you can change things, but I feel like the best route is loving yourself, taking care of your health and skin, sleeping and eating well, dressing nicely. The rest falls into place
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/20 07:17 PM
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For medical reasons, sure, but a boxy face generally isn’t something to be ashamed of and if it’s not causing health issues I see no reason to change it
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/20 07:11 PM
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Why would you not teach your child self love?
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/20 07:06 PM
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It’s up to the individual really. Personally I wouldn’t but for some people that’s what makes them happy.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/20 06:54 PM
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Lasers for what? And I see no reason against braces. I had them for 3 years due to overcrowding and dental issues
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/20 06:50 PM
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If a child has your features but you thought they were so ‘ugly’ or ‘wrong’ that you had to change them, what would that be teaching them?
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/20 06:48 PM
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Honestly, my limit is surgery. God has given me this one body + face and I feel no need to change it to fit ‘trends’ that are constantly changing. Of course I wouldn’t judge a woman that does, it’s all personal choice, but for me I really just don’t feel a need to
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/20 06:25 PM
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This sounds VERY much like a fetish. Gross.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/20 02:43 PM
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Exactly, it seems he doesn’t care about working on anything, why stay and waste another 4 years?
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 02:20 PM
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You said he has explicitly said he doesn’t see himself in this position long term? For what reason are you staying may I ask?
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 05:51 AM
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Oh nice! He’s a Chinese citizen so it’s so much easier for us to go there than to stay anywhere else really
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 04:54 AM
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Nope! We met at 16 + 17 online, on a chinese app, and did long distance for a year and then moved in together at 17 + 18
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 04:40 AM
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And the same to you, good luck for all you wish to do! <3
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 04:39 AM
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I do hope so!
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 03:48 AM
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I just did some customer service work and will be teaching after he graduates (we will move countries so I don’t want to do anything too long term)
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 01:19 PM
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I was for a while! My contract with the company ended in September and my fiancé said I can take at least 6 months off to be a homemaker to see how that works for us. My mum was originally upset but she’s coming to terms with it now since I was working and will be working after my fiancé graduates uni and before we have kids
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 11:59 AM
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I’m in the same boat as you, my mother is very upset I wish to be a stay at home mother eventually and to value family over career. The number 1 piece of advice I can offer you is to always stick to your wishes. As long as her upset is only in words and no actions, you can simplest continue towards your goals <3
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/20 11:31 AM
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I love this! I’m 19, so I’m glad I have this sub to guide me in becoming the best adult I can be
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 09:22 PM
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Personally I don’t, my chest is fairly large and any low cut top shows any part of my cleavage draws attention to my chest and that’s not the image I’m trying to display.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 05:14 PM
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Yes!! I was talking with a friend and I said I’d want to have my first kid at 25 at the latest and she said I should wait until I’m 30 at the earliest. I honestly was confused since there’s no reason for me to wait that long, but each to their own I guess?
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 05:03 PM
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My fiancé’s parents and my parents both were married young and had kids about 23-27, so we’ve got that good background at least. A career isn’t what I aspire to have in life, but if that’s what you want then go for it!
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 05:02 PM
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I know I’m going to change and grow, but that does change how I want kids lol. I’ve already said how I’m going to wait. Plus since I want 3+ and to have them before I’m 35, I need to give myself enough time and to start early
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 04:59 PM
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I share the same frustrations :( I’m 18, engaged, and my body is just telling me I’m ready for children. I know financially I’m not, and after my fiancé graduated he’s agreed to start trying so only a few more years, but it’s like my body is telling me one thing and society is telling me another. I’ve been told to wait until after 30 which honestly, is too late for me.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 02:27 PM
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I believe it’s the idea that the nuclear family structure isn’t one that’s good, and single parenthood is often best. ‘Single mother by choice’ is not the best route to take but apparently it’s growing in popularity.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/20 05:44 AM
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I have no feminine role models in my personal life, but the woman I look up to most is Kate Middleton! She’s always seemed to be a strong women without sacrificing any femininity, a loving wife, caring mother all while having the pressure of being a future queen!
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/20 01:53 PM
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Luckily they’re not too bad, incredibly painful but no lasting damage
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 04:34 PM
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I wish I could wax my eyebrows but the two times I’ve done it, the skin around has come off and I had infected eyebrows. Not very ladylike really. I try to remember some lip balm regularly but honestly with masks, it’s a forgotten thing! Maybe when life is more... normal
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 04:31 PM
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I try to wear a ring + necklace at least, hopefully it adds enough!
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 03:20 PM
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Thank you! I’ll include a few more feminine elements when I next go out :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 02:43 PM
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I like your point about it being intentional, I’ll be sure to keep that bit in mind!! It makes a lot of sense actually
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 02:43 PM
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I like to think I’m well put together in many other ways, maybe the makeup can be my one thing to let go of. I’ve been at doctors for my skin for a good few years now (4? I think) so I like to give it as much air as possibly
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 02:26 PM
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Thanks so much for all the advice!
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 02:09 PM
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I wish I could do the mascara/ eyeshadow/ eyeliner etc but every time I have worn it I have had eye irritations. I will do more with my hair though! I might stick to medicated creams (I have been prescribed one) and eyebrows/ hair to improve my looks
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 02:01 PM
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I think this has always been around, and unfortunately it seems that women especially are competitive in nature. I find a lot of joy in cooking and someone commented on it saying that could never do that because it’s just so much work and they just get take away every day. I think it’s connected to the low maintenance ‘pick me’ girl trope
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 06:42 AM
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