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No one owes you happiness, the world doesn't owe you happiness. Firstly, semicolon. Secondly, it seems entirely plausible that in evolutionary terms those who did not feel unhappy as a result of loneliness would fail to reproduce. Might be an inception level of cynicism, but perhaps it's entirely natural to feel like shit when you can't get laid.
/r/seduction27/10/13 12:05 AM
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You do realise lows are a normal part of life?
/r/seduction05/05/13 01:17 AM
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Hardest thing to realise is how long all this shit will take. Not just to know it, but to feel it and accept it. Especially when you plateau. Sometimes I just have to let it get to me, and hurt me for awhile. But it passes, and I get going again.
/r/seduction05/04/13 07:00 PM
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As I said, there is a genetic component, but no-one rolls out the womb knowing how to socialise. Guys who are "natural" at this just got lucky with their influences.
/r/seduction25/01/13 10:45 AM
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I'm not some sort of Tyler apologist, but I find him funny enough I'd watch him even if I didn't like his info. RSD's fundamental message is to go out often, analyse what you do afterwards and implement changes until you get better. If you don't buy into their more wayward theorising there are some good tips as well. That said I've seen a lot of the free tour stuff and you could probably condense the meat of it into a single blog post.
/r/seduction25/01/13 02:34 AM
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something emotionally intuitive people (like myself) understand without explanation, but everyone else needs practice, trial and error and quality communication of all sorts of variety, before they can understand. All people have intuition, to varying degrees. There's probably be a genetic component to it, but I'd wager most of it is learnt. Most people reading this will have great intuition for other things (say, music, writing, even something highly rational like maths), so all to gain emotion…
/r/seduction25/01/13 02:28 AM
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He's still crass, and I could definitely see him being a bit of a bastard in his younger years. It seems like he's straightened out now though.
/r/seduction25/01/13 02:22 AM
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None of this means if you find "the one", or even "a one" or whatever, that you have to keep gaming. It just means you'll be confident enough to express yourself to her.
/r/seduction24/01/13 01:38 AM
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Purely out of interest - but how long do you see yourself doing this? Do you plan on settling down at all?
/r/seduction01/01/13 10:10 PM
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Your brain is a lazy asshole. Its only objective is to conserve as much energy as possible, and work on making sure things are going well in the short term. The very short term. I've not read the rest of the post, but from my admittedly limited reading of psychology I'd argue your opening premise is inaccurate. Your brain is habitual and highly adaptive, by which I mean if you train it to do something it will continue to do that until you consciously take the effort to make it do something else.…
/r/seduction28/09/12 12:47 AM
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For what it's worth, the last comic book convention I went to had tons of hot girls. Mostly in skimpy cosplay outfits.
/r/seduction24/09/12 10:57 PM
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I sort of hear you on the milestones. It's pretty hard not to compare yourself to your peers, especially if you aren't taking strong steps towards things you care about. My advice is that whether or not you approach, sort out other things. Namely job, diet/exercise and at least one hobby. The more time you spend doing things that matter to you the more your default state will be happy instead of depressed.
/r/seduction12/09/12 09:03 PM
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And with that, I'm logging off to go read a real book.
/r/seduction11/09/12 11:42 PM
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I've suffered with bog standard depression for a good 6 years on and off, though I had episodes before that which I only recognised as such recently. The first major episode I had lasted for four months and left me in a headspace where I barely functioned as a human being. My sleep schedule went to shit, I read the same series of books repeatedly and would take a large number of baths, for some reason. This was during the Summer holidays, and when I returned to school I caved on the second day a…
/r/seduction31/08/12 08:55 PM
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To be honest most of my self esteem issues concern my inability to pickup women, and those won't go away until I'm competant at it.
/r/seduction28/08/12 11:51 PM
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Please do more of these
/r/seduction24/08/12 08:29 AM
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They aren't that subtle. I'm pretty crap with women and even I can tell when one has given me the once over. All it is is a quick glance, the kind people do when a newcomer walks into a bar. Doesn't mean they liked what they saw, but does mean they bothered to look.
/r/seduction24/08/12 08:18 AM
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True enough, but I think it's good for people to acknowledge how far they have come. When you start seeing results after a few months at the gym it really motivates you to go back and train more. The point of this reddit is for people at every stage to share their experiences. Maybe these people shouldn't tout themselves as enlightened, but I think a lot of people reach a stage of hubris after they check themselves out of the mainstream. Then they learn humility later. Also, what is this "true s…
/r/seduction14/08/12 11:49 PM
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I find most people in gyms are cool. Even meat heads are often nice guys, and plenty of them do it for themselves rather than others. You do always get a few strutters who love to rack the weight up way past the point of good technique, but that's life.
/r/seduction14/08/12 11:39 PM
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Results take up a low percentage of your life experiences. For years of study you get one graduation day. Months of work leads to one product launch. Pickup involves a huge number of approaches compared to the number of lays. To get good at something you have to fall in love with process, not results. Let's say I'm a dorky guy living in my Mum's basement. I start reading about this pickup business. 3 months later I've still not got laid, but I've started working out and am already seeing results…
/r/seduction14/08/12 11:35 PM
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In short, women now do not have to simply sit back and choose between the first 3 o 4 guys to ask them on dates and decide which one to marry. They have tons of options, access to resources, more free time, career opportunities, etc. And, this means marriage at a young age, or if at all, is less and less a pressing issue for women (and men, of course). This post in general seems to describe only hot women. If you'll excuse the numeralisation, what percentage of women do you see when you are out …
/r/seduction14/08/12 11:22 PM
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I fully agree with your analysis, though I think it's part of a broader victim based mindset. Though actually I think both sides of the friendzone carry the blame.
/r/seduction14/08/12 12:51 AM
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Feel like I'm late to the game, but no, it is not bad to take things slow. And don't worry that you suck, you've only just begun. You don't pick up a guitar and sound like Hendrix do you? :-)
/r/seduction13/08/12 10:10 AM
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Functional openers. Go ask a girl where starbucks is or for the time. Do this for a bit then start progressing into small talk after, still using functional opener as the base.
/r/seduction13/08/12 02:07 AM
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You're a young man, it's normal for you to want to have sex. If the opportunity comes up it'd be your choice whether to run with it, but personally I'd judge it by whether I like the girl. Maybe I'm picky like that. Doing things because of some weird scoring system people tend to have with each other (as well as unwritten age benchmarks) is something you should seek to grow out of, but as I know it's not as easy as telling yourself how stupid it is - you really have to feel it as well. If it mak…
/r/seduction11/08/12 12:18 AM
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I used to find the use of HB irksome, but to me it's shorthand for "A woman/girl I found attractive", and thus is more informative than simply "woman/girl". At any rate, you get used to it.
/r/seduction11/08/12 12:13 AM
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It's hard to measure the intangible, so it makes sense that we pick quantifiable points of comparison. It's also nice to feel like a boss in the group.
/r/seduction07/08/12 06:49 PM
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First, do you watch porn? I found since I gave it up I find normal women sexier. And second, you need to cast your net wider. Go to new places.
/r/seduction06/08/12 01:58 AM
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Managed to do five functional approaches today and already feeling the benefit. Much obliged for your advice.
/r/seduction05/08/12 05:40 PM
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Life is supposed to be a struggle. Once you accept this hardship loses its power over you. Don't let yourself get soft and waste your life. I need to remind myself of this more often.
/r/seduction04/08/12 12:34 PM
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I've been a depressive for at least 7 years and I would argue you can only tame the black dog, you can't put it down. I would advise you to get yourself into a lifestyle that tempers your depression as much as possible, but keep working on your game in tandem. Both of these things are ongoing processes rather than achievable goals.
/r/seduction01/08/12 12:58 AM
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I'm a noob, and I've made it a policy not to give any advice until I have a good amount of experience. Reading FRs has been a huge help, both to see what's possible and see I'm not the only chump who finds this hard. The links to stuff like RSD have genuinely changed my life for the better.
/r/seduction31/07/12 10:48 PM
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If your lifestyle doesn't change you won't change. The environmental factor doesn't stop just because you get old. Find what works for you, but there's a lot to be said for relentless action.
/r/seduction31/07/12 10:31 PM
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Went to one earlier this year before I was into game. Plenty of hot girls there, lots of props to talk about, often girls wear costumes so openers write themselves. It's more akin to daygame than night.
/r/seduction31/07/12 05:54 PM
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Thanks for the response. I'll try out some of your suggestions next time I'm out and about.
/r/seduction30/07/12 08:36 PM
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I feel quite similar to this. I don't get anxious about approaching, I just don't approach. Although I'm thinking about it, I've no real intention of doing it in truth. Afterwards I beat myself up about it, but leading up to walking past her I don't feel scared. I don't know enough about psychology to explain it, but I'd say both of us need to actually approach if we want to make any progress. Regarding the bars thing, I'd say your best bet is day-game. Shopping centres, farmers markets, sportin…
/r/seduction30/07/12 08:32 PM
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Your stuff reminds me of Mark Manson from Postmasculine.com, whose advice I've found useful. If I have a criticism it's that going from making eye contact to teasing is a bit of a jump if you've no experience with cold approaching. I only say this because this is exactly the stage I'm stuck at :P, any suggestions?
/r/seduction30/07/12 08:02 PM
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I'm in much the same position, and going to start asking for directions and other newbie shit til I've broken down the AA. Good luck.
/r/seduction28/07/12 10:58 PM
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I feel kind of weird giving advice to a girl, but I've made some progress in the eye contact/smiling department recently, so maybe this will help you. The reason that I was afraid of making eye contact/smiling was that I was afraid of expressing sexual interest in someone else. Perhaps this pertains to you also. I'd advise you to open a word document and write about this idea in relation to yourself. You can then save it, bin it or if you are feeling brave post it up here. Then when you next go …
/r/seduction24/07/12 11:50 PM
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I've allowed myself to get stuck in theoryville, so now I need to stop being a little bitch and go do some approaches. My thought process and beliefs about women have changed a lot, but until this turns into a practical skill all the knowledge is just trivia.
/r/seduction18/07/12 08:33 PM
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I'd classify myself as introverted, but I don't know this article described me all that well. I guess it is more of a spectrum thing though.
/r/seduction17/07/12 11:59 PM
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Realistically you suck at some bits of socialising and are ok at others, unless you have never had a good conversation with anyone
/r/seduction15/07/12 02:12 AM
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Actually it's about what he thinks about what others think of him.
/r/seduction08/07/12 08:40 PM
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I suppose if someone says something like "I don't think you should cheat on your significant other" then most people don't feel the need to explain that, unless you have an unorthodox reason for it. If you've set yourself up as a contrarian you have to accept that you will be expected to explain yourself more fully than your opponents. You could argue that the establishment have as much a burden of proof as the anti-establishment, and I would agree with you. But if everyone actually thought thro…
/r/seduction04/07/12 10:31 PM
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Well whatever word you want to use for it, people are allowed to condemn your actions. The problem with reddit is people often downvote on the basis of disagreement rather than quality, much in the same way people will boo and opinion they despise regardless of how well it is expressed. On the converse you shouldn't censure someone merely for disapproving of you, even if they don't give fully thought of reasons. There is a tendency to jump to the defensive, but if you are secure if what you are …
/r/seduction04/07/12 07:45 PM
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I wouldn't downvote a comment on the basis that I disagreed with it, but I do think that trying to seduce someone who already has a boyfriend is a shitty thing to do. You are allowed to do as you please within the confines of the law, and I'm allowed to criticise you for it. Deal?
/r/seduction04/07/12 02:58 PM
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I think if people don't enjoy each other's company it's gonna be a shitty interacton. Like nycprowl said, you shouldn't let it ruin your night, but of course you care to some extent. You don't have to "Not Give a Fuck" to enjoy yourself and take things as they come. Just be laid back.
/r/seduction20/06/12 06:07 PM
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What, you can't think of one good reason why you'd want to be liked? Seriously? That's what "approval" is - being liked. Being liked is a good feeling. Being disliked is a bad feeling. Sure, it doesn't matter in the long run, but it's not something you want to experience if you can avoid it. The pickup mindset just focuses on long term gains at the risk of short term unpleasantness.
/r/seduction19/06/12 11:38 PM
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Agree with this guy. I still think a fair bit when I'm talking with someone, but only about what they are saying/what's happening around us. You have to consider what points you can relate to them on, notice when they say something that you can get them to elaborate on. Usually if someone is opening up to you about stuff they give you lots of info on where you can take the conversation, so it also helps to make mental notes of things in case one line stalls, then you can just say "So you said yo…
/r/seduction19/06/12 11:01 PM
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I'm not saying idle chat is a stellar way of attracting a woman (though depends how you define it), merely that it can be a lot of fun. And I find the idea that someone posting on seddit is too busy for it questionable.
/r/seduction14/06/12 10:13 AM
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It's really an anxiety thing. If you fixate on having bad skin or bad hair or a badly judged outfit (perhaps due to lack of clean clothes that day) then you will begin to feel bad about it. Somehow you need to learn to accept when you've done the best you can for that day. In part I think this is about knowing that women are less visual than men, but also you should not worry about looking perfect, just as good as you can make it. It might help to make a mental note to take measures to sort the …
/r/seduction14/06/12 12:37 AM
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Idle chat is sometimes the best kind of chat.
/r/seduction14/06/12 12:26 AM
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Pretty much spot on. The first section of the post made a lot of assertions I didn't agree with. I may not become depressed after failing to conjugate a verb, but I know a lack of progress in my career makes me easily as depressed as a lack of female attention can make me, and I doubt I'm alone in that. Also the issue of practice: any musician will tell you that the only way to get better is to keep challenging yourself and consciously working to improve. Even if you play piano for two years unl…
/r/seduction12/06/12 11:07 PM
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I believe cheating is wrong, and have never done it, but I haven't really been in a situation where I had the opportunity either. I will say that if I disowned all my friends who have cheated (anything from a kiss to a shag), I'd probably have to ditch half of them. I can't say you don't deserve to feel guilty, but I applaud you for owning that shit and being honest with your current girl. I should imagine the girl will be struck by two thoughts. 1) You cheated on your last gf, so that makes it …
/r/seduction12/06/12 10:13 PM
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Report from Men's Health. I read elsewhere that rock music makes people feel horny, but couldn't find it now. That probably means classic rock and blues rock rather than thrash metal though. In general though I don't think it's wise to be trying to hide your personality, just make sure that you are aware what stuff you like is more mainstream and what is more out there. Most people do not have a serious opinion on music, by which I mean they will probably happily listen to anything so long as it…
/r/seduction12/06/12 10:00 PM
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We are now in agreement. I think we may have won the internet.
/r/seduction12/06/12 09:46 PM
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It's probably a combination of both. I think there's plenty of things that people do which aren't worthwhile exercises, and people have to recognise that. I don't agree when people say that becoming happy/confident is merely a matter of reassessing your current situation. That's certainly a part of it, but you also need to start cutting some of the crap out of your life and expending more energy on the good stuff.
/r/seduction12/06/12 07:50 PM
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I would personally say that to be confident you have to be good at something. This doesn't have to be a "talent" as the word is mostly thought of, but you have to at least bring some sort of value to other people's lives, or at the bare minimum your own life. This could be as simple as complimenting someone on something they have achieved, or visiting your nan regularly and seeing how happy it makes her to hear about your mundane life. Not talents, I will grant you, but worthwhile activities. Ho…
/r/seduction12/06/12 04:07 PM
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That damn chemical explains everything these days.
/r/seduction12/06/12 03:57 PM
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What this guy said. If you say "When I was younger I used to be a really insecure guy" that actually comes across as confident, so long as you say it in the right way. As a guy you can admit past weaknesses without looking weak, so long as you have overcome them. Even if you have present weaknesses so long as you are trying to work on them I think that'd also come off quite well, for example if you're out of shape but have gone back to the gym.
/r/seduction12/06/12 03:55 PM
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I love you for that edit.
/r/seduction12/06/12 03:51 PM
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I suppose it depends on the sort of person you are as to whether you view shame as a positive or negative force. Sure, once the day is done there is no sense beating yourself up about it, but if you are motivated by the negativity you feel when you don't do anything useful I'd say it was a good thing. Also his advice is a lot more tangible than many other videos on confidence. Having a solid action makes more sense to some people (maybe most people) than simply being asked to write about themsel…
/r/seduction12/06/12 03:16 PM
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Perhaps his train of thought doesn't run clearly, but I think he's right in saying your actions have a big effect on how you view yourself. Certainly in my own life I've found focusing my time on more worthy tasks has lead to me feeling better about myself, and the more time I piss up the wall the worse I feel about myself. I doubt I'm exceptional in that regard.
/r/seduction12/06/12 12:14 AM
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Really good post. I've been working my way through some classic English literature lately and I feel all the better for it. When you invest in stuff that really matters to you I think that is how you really build confidence, because you have a good reason for it. If this stuff were as easy as throwing a switch in your head we wouldn't need communities like Seddit.
/r/seduction10/06/12 09:38 PM
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Well he lists Gene Simmons as a guy with an unmatchable talent. I don't really rate KISS but that's besides the point - all talented musicians practised fucking hard at some point in their life. Maybe some have an aptitude for whatever reason, but there's no amount of aptitude that can't be compensated for with practice. Aside from looks there's almost nothing that cannot be learnt. However it's likely that an individual is not disposed to fulfilling every potential role, or is not attracted to …
/r/seduction09/06/12 06:30 PM
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True enough. I guess you should try to have fun so long as you don't use it as an excuse not to open.
/r/seduction08/06/12 09:56 PM
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I agree action is important (which is the jist of your post), but I'd say that going out to have fun is probably going to make you seem more attractive to people than going out to pickup women.
/r/seduction08/06/12 03:41 PM
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It was even more shocking given his use of "effected" in the previous sentence.
/r/seduction08/06/12 01:47 AM
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It's not that he didn't have to learn it, just that he didn't have to go out of his way to do so.
/r/seduction08/06/12 01:46 AM
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He meant that if you know how to connect with women (and other human beings) properly then that will be a boost to your mental health. He's right.
/r/seduction08/06/12 01:42 AM
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Most importantly, Super Meat Boy is fucking hard. But yeah, good post. Have yourself an upvote.
/r/seduction07/06/12 05:53 PM
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I'm sure you don't. I didn't intend it as a criticism of you, just an explanation of why people find the PUA thing a bit of a turn off.
/r/seduction07/06/12 05:31 PM
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I don't think it's really to do with promiscuity, although there are still people hung up about that. I think it's more about how nerdy/creepy a lot of PUA types sound when talking about women. Even reading this made me cringe a few times, such as: This attracted others into our frame and they were aroused and by simply adding sexual energy we were all able to have a good time. I understand that its a systematic approach to socialising and thus you need to have jargon in order to communicate the…
/r/seduction07/06/12 02:02 PM
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Some of the advice is rather solid (the distinction between love and lust), but a lot of it is pretty shitty. I can be pretty misanthropic and I wouldn't vouch for much of the stuff he said.
/r/seduction06/06/12 01:57 AM
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I've never really understood those that see loneliness as directly caused by general life unhappiness. I'm sure it's possible to be really satisfied in every other area of life and still be lonely, although I take the point it probably grates on you less.
/r/seduction01/06/12 02:59 AM
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Nice stuff man, appreciate it. It's nice to read blogs without sappy suck-ups or childish arguments in the comments below.
/r/seduction29/05/12 02:51 AM
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I don't really hear people talk of taverns so much, but if you means pubs then there is a difference. Bars are less cosy, bit more competitive, tend to attract a younger crowd, imo. I think going to a bar to meet women is a question of what type of person you are more than what type of women you are looking for. If you aren't comfortable in bars I still wouldn't frequent them, or at least go during a quiet time. Most people do go to bars at some point during their lives, but on the flipside few …
/r/seduction27/05/12 06:50 PM
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