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Dating After DivorceJizzaldo/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 08:55 PM
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6

Jesus fucking Christ.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/26 01:51 AM
6

Flaws, or features?
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/26 02:33 PM
10

You stood by your values, and honestly, in these times, that's all that matters. Good for you. You should be proud.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/26 02:39 PM
3

Yeah, I feel the same. I also see women differently. Now I see them as a future disrespectful person that will just be a pain in the ass. Not worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 05:42 PM
4

Married 16+, together 19. Over 2 years out and still couldn't be bothered.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 03:06 PM
7

They want the wedding and attention. Once that's over, they want resources. Once that's not fun anymore, they're done. It's just pure emotion for them.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/26 06:59 PM
1

Yeah, the end date of my relationship/marriage is kinda fuzzy. We started dating in January 2005, separated in January 2024, I moved into my place June 2024, and the divorce finalized in March 2025. So, not sure what the target date is. The Absolute latest would be the finalization of the divorce, so add 21 months to March 2025, and that puts me at the end of this year, at the latest. I barely care anymore, to be honest. I helped her out with a minor issue last week, and she hugged me. It was th…
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 02:21 PM
6

The best advice I got from this sub was to take a month and be single for every year I was with her. We were together for 19-20 years (depends how you look at it) and I'm glad I followed this advice. Definitely got my head on much straighter and I realized that I enjoy being alone. Not to say I wouldn't entertain the idea of a new relationship, but I know what I'm willing to put up with etc.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 03:20 AM
1

Yeah, you're right. But, I have my freedom back. So it's worth it. I'll probably never know. Kinda think I'll get a paternity test on my son. We'll see.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/26 09:54 PM
2

You know, it' funny you say that. My divorce was finalized a year ago. we separated 2 years ago. Our relationship at this point is amicable, and we co-parent well. My gut tells me, at a minimum, something significant happened to her in the time leading up to our separation, possibly another guy, but i have zero proof of anything. But, my gut, says otherwise. I may never know.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/26 08:02 PM
3

One of the things that kinda blew me away was realizing nobody knew where I was or what I was doing. Felt pretty good.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 09:14 PM
1

Disgree
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/26 03:29 AM
7

I fucking hate the whole "You're my best friend" bullshit. No, we are not friends. Friends respect each other. GTFO.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/26 02:12 PM
1

It gets dirtier than I prefer. They go to their mother's on Sundays, so that afternoon we do a bunch of chores. Once they're gone, I do a big clean again.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 04:22 PM
1

I can fix her.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 08:01 PM
7

When it doesn't work out for her, she'll come back. Don't take the bait.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/25 06:39 PM
13

I never understood why men call their wives their best friend. She was never my best friend. Even she called me her best friend. What?! People don't disrespect their best friend and take a bunch of their money. Absolute nonsense. She was never your best friend. Brother, she was barely your friend.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 04:13 PM
3

Almost 2 years since separation and still not dating. Couldn't be happier. It just doesn't seem worth the headache.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/25 09:54 PM
1

At this point on my life, I just fail to see what a relationship can offer.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/25 03:16 PM
12

Yeah, I more than understand. Separated almost 2 years ago, divorce was finalized in March 2025. I have absolutely zero interest in finding another woman.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/25 10:02 PM
5

But in this case she prob can’t afford that. Then too bad. I would not get into a situation like this. Nor would I. I’m appealing. I would too. Guys gotta be careful. Going forward, I'll be extremely careful and cover all my bases, should I even bother again.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/25 01:54 PM
3

If she's able to take 50 percent in breakup/divorce, then she should be paying 50 percent. Not a mistake I would make again.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/25 01:18 PM
6

I quite enjoy my solitude. I haven't felt lonely in the near 2 years since things fell apart.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/25 11:32 PM
6

I just want my friends and family to be happy and healthy, as lame and generic as that sounds.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 05:05 PM
10

Unless a clinical psychologist has designated someone a narcissist, then I don't believe they are. Too many people out there just throwing these terms around like they think they know what they're talking about.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 02:53 PM
5

Count me in
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 10:42 PM
1

Indeed. Now I only worry about making me, and my kids happy. Life is better.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/25 04:23 AM
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I remember on my wedding day, while shaving, thinking to myself, "I wonder how long this will last, maybe 10 years?" We were married 16 years, together for 19. I never wanted to get married, I just did it to make her happy. I was no more or less committed before or after the wedding and found/find marriage to be pointless. Never again.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/25 03:26 AM
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I remember when we told our kids. My daughter broke down crying. My son, he smiled and got the giggles. I couldn't believe what I was seeing. That was March 2024. Needless to say, yesterday he expressed to my mother that he doesn't want me in his life anymore because I criticized his clothing on Saturday. She's definitely impregnated him with some dumb ideas. What a shit show.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/25 10:05 PM
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Are you, me? Your situation as described, mirrors mine very closely. Though I don't think she's dating anyone, I could be wrong. A lot of people ask if I have a girlfriend, I tell them "Hell no!". Not sure i ever will, to be honest. And I'm ok with that. We've been separated since Jan 24, divorce finalized March 25.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/25 03:42 PM
5

Probably a lot of exes.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/25 01:50 AM
26

Trust your instincts. She was fucking around on you and has been for a while. Probably with multiple men and probably longer than you think. She's a drunk and she takes no accountability for her actions. She knows she fucked up but she feels better if she can blame you and make you the bad guy.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/25 12:01 AM
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Do you think it could be hormonal? I feel it was with my ex, though she was 44-45 when it all went down last year. At 45, if you ever decide to date again, you'll be going from 53yo, to 33yo, That's quote the trade in!
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/25 06:42 PM
6

out of curiosity, how old is she?
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/25 06:27 PM
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No
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/25 02:02 AM
3

When she called me a fucking asshole in front of my son.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/25 04:43 PM
5

Would almost feel nice to let the husband know you're aware of it and let him sweat it out.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/25 07:33 PM
1

Yeah, I can understand that. It's a noble stance.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/25 07:32 PM
9

You still can, and should.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/25 07:08 PM
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Lots of time. Don't mean to scare you, but it's possible.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/25 09:14 PM
1

How long are you away for?
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/25 08:08 PM
3

Don't be surprised to come home to an empty home.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/25 07:57 PM
5

Yes, that's how she sees it. She doesn't care, or, at least, will never admit it. It's over to her. Save yourself. Stop emasculating yourself. Stand up for yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 09:43 PM
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Yes, it counts the same. Being married doesn't matter. Command respect.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 07:35 PM
7

I spent years as the stereotypical guy that sat in his car having to pump himself up to go inside every night because I had no idea what was waiting for me on the other side of that door. I used to just sit at work after my shift and kill time there.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 09:11 PM
1

I believe you. Thank you. All in due time, I suppose.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/24 10:16 PM
1

I think you're right. I was thinking about it in the shower this morning. That guy is gone. But I'm shedding my skin and I'll find the guy I'm supposed to be is much more refined. Character development.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/24 02:07 PM
1

You're correct in your assumption. To be honest, I'm just not in the right frame of mind to get physical. Not only that, but I'm terrible at reading queues from women. I almost need them to state very clearly what is going on. It's more evident now than it was at dinner, but in the moment, I'm a total moron.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 05:03 PM
2

Crazy how that works, isn't it?
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 03:13 PM
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I'm not the bad guy. Just how miserable I was. How shaky I am mentally. That I have changed and the guy I was before we started dating needs to make a serious comeback, I miss that guy.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 01:52 AM
1

Meh, it's been 4 days. If I hear from her, I'll say something like that, but unless I hear from her, I'd say that's about it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 10:18 PM
1

Just got divorced from a long term relationship. Not feeling so fantastic. The need of having someone want to be with you is no longer being met. Yes, for sure. Run into girl, text all week long and go to dinner. Dinner goes really well. You feel a connection and start imagining a future with this girl and it feels really good to have someone want you. Also correct, but I was imagining a future with her before dinner. Brutal. Then you learn that she is in an open relationship and is open to sex,…
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 07:27 PM
2

You're right. We are. I'm moving on.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 12:15 PM
3

I was where you are, earlier this year. Worry about yourself and your kids. Do not trust her at all.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 01:49 AM
1

both parties in a human relationship are "humans" , humans lie don't they? Absolutely I know this may be a shock to you but I have yet to have someone I date give me the complete truthful story on the first few meetings. For sure. You are lucky to get a story that at least is "close" to the truth. I agree. Had this continued for even a few weeks or months, it would evolve into a complete train wreck. I dodged a bullet here. Think about it this way, your ex is now in the dating pool. Do you think…
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 01:32 AM
1

Thanks dude, feeling better today.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 01:28 AM
2

Just asking. Seemed maybe you were by your message. No worries.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 03:32 PM
2

I suppose because I'm a caring person? Are you offended?
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 03:23 PM
3

I'm not saving anyone but me, brother. I don't doubt she's happy. It was just an expression. As far as casual relationships, I'm not there yet. Maybe someday. Maybe never. I'm just gonna worry about me.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 03:23 PM
4

I think I might.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 01:55 PM
2

I think I will. Carefully though.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 01:04 PM
2

Yeah, it's weird to me too.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 01:03 PM
3

It all seems very unnatural to me , and uncomfortable, so yes to all. I've been in a committed marriage for 16+ years, and in the relationship for 19. It's all new to me.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 12:19 PM
2

Yeah, it'll never be a long term thing with her, which for some reason saddens me, but I barely know her. I should know better. I was thinking to myself this morning that I haven't been in a situation like this in 20 years, it's normal to have feelings. I believe it was successful as well.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 12:18 PM
2

Of course, you feel all messed up, but are you really? I think I might be. What's messed up? It sounds like you did really well - put yourself out there, formed the beginnings of a connection, identified something that wasn't aligned, and moved in line with your desires, right? Maybe you even recognized a familiar path and chose not to venture down it. Not even sure what I did, lol. Still thinking about it. Thank you for the insight.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 12:16 PM
4

I agree. She loves male attention.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 12:14 PM
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That's exactly what I'm thinking too. There's no changing her, but getting my first piece after divorce will do a lot for me mentally. I can't fix her, I can't change her. But maybe she can help me out a bit.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 12:13 PM
2

We're both in our 40's, but yes, I understand what you're saying.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 12:12 PM
4

I suspect this life for her will have severe long term impacts on her mental and physical health.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 03:14 AM
1

"run through some hood-rats", i guess at this point it's a game then. Haven't texted her or anything. I'm going to worry about me and my world for now. Whatever happens, happens.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 03:02 AM
1

So you're saying her relationship may not be as "open" as it first appeared?
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 02:23 AM
2

I can see what you're saying. Honestly, just knowing I could have gotten laid is almost a good a feeling as getting laid. And yes, I feel I for sure am vulnerable. Gotta navigate this carefully. I indeed to imagine having a loving relationship with her. But I can hear the danger sirens.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 02:19 AM
3

We're in this together.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 12:05 AM
5

Very true. I compared it to dipping my french fry in gravy or ketchup, this woman might be the entire condiment aisle. I agree on the awkwardness of casual sex. Some guys are built for it. I'm not.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 11:22 PM
3

You could have heard the brakes screech a mile away when she said she was in an open relationship lol. I instantly lost my appetite and attraction. Dont get too down about this its part of life. My therapist to me I need to find what Im looking for instead of it coming to me so thats what I'll be doing. That's good advice. I'm glad you got out there and took a chance instead of eating nachos and Ben & Jerry's ice cream good for you and thanks for sharing. Thanks, it's usually chocolate chip cook…
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 11:20 PM
2

Thanks dude, I will.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 11:10 PM
2

My brethren!
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 11:09 PM
3

Thanks dude. We have many mutual friends. This may not be the end. I've known her for 30 years, just never sat down with her and chatted like this. Thank you, I wish you the best as well.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 11:09 PM
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Yeah. I believe that. Kinda tragic. I need a chase. And they need to retain their value.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 10:31 PM
2

Personally, I haven't had much enjoyment out of casual sex, despite how much I've fantasized about it. It's been difficult to get comfortable with it again after being in a committed presumed monogamous relationship. You're 100% correct. There's waaay more to this story than that. When I left dinner, I texted many people telling them she was crazy. I say this with love. You have zero business dating right now. Work on Jizzaldo until Jizzaldo has the spine and sense to nail on obvious ref flags. …
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 10:11 PM
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Dude.... the story she gave was that her live-in LTR bf grabbed her phone because she had sent pictures of her body, with clothes on, of course, to another man. I'm not sure if this was an open relationship. He held her phone in the air while she tried to swat it out of his hands, then tried to smack it out of his hands with a knife (not kidding) and nicked his wrist and cheek. He called the RCMP (Canadian police) and they charged her with "assault with a weapon". The charges were dropped. Geez,…
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 10:02 PM
2

I agree, I'm hoping by spring maybe. I just kinda want to get the first nut out of the way and behind me.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 09:58 PM
2

Sounds like you're dealing with shame and perhaps attachment hangups. For sure Maybe you're scared to just have fun sex with her. 100% and not just her. Perhaps quietly judging her and her partner's arrangment? I am Worried you might get attached and hurt knowing she's having fun with others? Of course. Is that abnormal? If your morals don't align, they don't align. Just move on and find someone's who does. I intend to. I have not contacted her today at all. And don't judge yourself too harshly …
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 09:45 PM
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I don't really get it, but have the upvote anyways.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 09:39 PM
3

Well thank you. I have a counselling session booked next week just to make sure. And yeah, I'll be staying away. I imagine I'm not the only guy who has seen her red flags and avoided her.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 09:38 PM
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Yeah, I mean, I have no vices, I go to work everyday, I make a decent income, I'm not bad looking, I'm mostly a good dad. The women I talk to at work say "it ain't over" and I believe them. Haven't texted her anything at all today. Haven't heard a thing. I wonder what she's thinking.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 09:37 PM
1

Yeah, you're definitely correct. This is not a long term woman.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 09:31 PM
3

Yeah, I kinda want to, just not sure I'm mentally there yet.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 09:31 PM
7

Thank you. I think you're correct as well. I've left a lot out of the original post, such as her "assault with a weapon" charge. After dinner i had to go for a couple hour drive to clear my head. Wasn't expecting this at all.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 09:30 PM
2

Yeah, drug addict mom, alcoholic abusive father.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 09:16 PM
7

You’re not sad for her … you’re sad for you, and that’s ok - you were hopeful for a connection with her (not just sex) and learned that wasn’t really possible and are disappointed. That’s my read. You know what, I think this is the answer I'm looking for, thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 09:12 PM
0

I think you need to work on yourself a lot more before you date. I agree.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 09:11 PM
1

It's her life, and she's happy! Why would you feel pity or sadness?? Yeah, that's why I'm here. I have the same question. You could have had a nice romp with a fun gal. Maybe. Not sure. If you're not ready yet, then fine Still not sure but don't be so harsh to judge. That'll be tough for me. This lifestyle is not really in my nature. Seems immoral.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 09:06 PM
1

Yep, at the very least, just leave.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/24 05:11 PM
1

I hope his kids weren't there.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/24 05:10 PM
3

I agree, they're both absolute pieces of shit. It may be a tough go for him today, but in the future, he'll be happy it's over.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/24 03:00 AM
18

She brought a man home, banged him, and made you listen? Dude, that is the ultimate disrespect. I would not have stuck around. Good on you for finally getting out of there. It's time to focus on your kids, if you have any, and most importantly, yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/24 02:01 PM
1

Jerkin off 3x a day.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 02:33 PM
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What the fuck are you talking about? If anything I'm saying the exact opposite. Jesus fucking Christ, the people on here. Unreal.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 11:11 PM
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I would say it should be about both.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 10:28 PM
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I would never want to have sex with a woman who also does not want to have sex with me. Half the fun is that we're both horny.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 03:28 AM
1

Ain't that the truth.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 03:28 AM
1

Jesus Christ. Hope the pussy was good.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 01:33 AM
2

$1400 CAD/month here
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/24 05:55 PM
1

Oh no..... I may have to pass on this one.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 08:47 PM
1

What is FDS?
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 08:28 PM
8

You'd be dumb not to go for it. She showed you no mercy, show her the same.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/24 01:51 PM
1

Very true. Thank you. I hope you're right.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 02:59 AM
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I think you're right.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/24 01:35 AM
5

Yeah, I hope everything works out on your end. The women always seem to get what they want. In a lot of these cases, what they want, and what they end up getting in the long run doesn't match up. But in the end, they get what they deserve. Hopefully my kids come around, M15/F12. It's a tumultuous time in their lives. Time will tell. I can make more money, I can't make more time.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/24 01:18 AM
5

We split all our assets 50/50. She felt benevolent because I have a classic car worth about $90k, that she didn't go after. It was a premarital asset, so it wasn't up for splitting anyways. I gave her a $50k lump sum alimony payment. She wanted alimony because she didn't know what her financial future looked like. She blew it on renovations and landscaping at her new place, and a couple trips, one to Arizona in a couple weeks, and another to South American in November. My kids avoid me it seems,…
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/24 01:02 AM
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Same thing here. She brought it up in January, I was on board at first then thought it was a bad idea and tried to make it work, but apparently it was "too late". Mediation done early April, papers filed just waiting the mandatory 1 year for finalization. House sold in early April, she moved in her new house mid-May, and I moved in my place early June. She even backdated the separation date to January 1st. Light speed.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/24 12:37 AM
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320? Bro, it was time to gtfo a long time ago.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/24 02:10 AM
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What these sluts don't realise is that nobody in their right mind would want a car that's had more than 5 owners, it's no different when it comes to our SO's
/r/TheRedPill21/03/15 07:17 PM
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Who cares what feminists think manhood should be?
/r/TheRedPill14/12/14 03:21 AM
1

Holy fuck, I've never read something more obvious.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/14 07:28 PM
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In fact, as author Liza Mundy writes in her book, The Richer Sex, Millennial women are increasingly finding two options when it comes to romance: marry down or don’t marry. Oh? you mean the same options 99% of men have had to deal with since the beginning of time?
/r/TheRedPill30/08/14 02:23 PM
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Sure, if you believe in all that love shit to begin with.
/r/TheRedPill21/08/14 03:07 PM
6

Every one of those sluts would annoy the fuck outta me.
/r/TheRedPill10/08/14 07:01 PM
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Oh look, another pussy!
/r/MensRights24/11/12 03:50 AM
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Unless she sedated him and rammed some type of object up his ass, this guy is a huge pussy.
/r/MensRights24/11/12 03:00 AM
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