Johanx Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
10	Transitioning - how to move from opener to attracting?		Johanx	/r/seduction	04/08/10 04:47 PM
0	Seduction while working as a bartender		Johanx	/r/seduction	11/07/10 08:00 AM

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1	A married couple needs advice Probably the soundest advice, though it will likely be nerve wracking doing so. Do not get drunk or get the third party drunk. At least not until after you've agreed to do this and have an understanding and just need to take the edge off. Other option: If she's indicated an interest in him, when the three of you are together (at your place for dinner/after dinner, whatever), have him fuck off for a few minutes and see if she's flirty with you alone. If so, move in for a kiss (with tact). If all …	/r/seduction	12/07/10 12:01 AM
0	A married couple needs advice Ditto. The best threesome situation is a swingers party with people who are all attracted to each other but have no real emotional investment in each other. Some people make it work, but most couples who involve someone else end up hurting one another or the third party, from my experience. Good luck, though! Everyone should try everything that interests them and they think they can handle - sex, drugs, adventure, the whole lot.	/r/seduction	11/07/10 11:51 PM
1	Seduction while working as a bartender Patrons may know this but it doesn't stop them from trying. Girls will flirt, guys will try to pretend like we're best friends and not just two guys who've been talking for 30 seconds while I make a drink. It's kinda sad. I never give the girls free drinks as a way of flirting, both because it makes me a doormat, and because them getting falling down sloshed is not a good thing for me. I might make a girl a more involved drink than we usually do, or do a shot with her if I think my boss is in a …	/r/seduction	11/07/10 11:48 PM
1	Seduction while working as a bartender No doubt being the bartender helps in a lot of ways, it's just leveraging that into something real instead of just flirting for a minute the few times they get a drink and then letting them wander home while I'm in the cellar fetching more stock or something. But yes, working in a bar was not just conducive to my sleeping schedule but also a way to help my social skills and get over anxiety. In the moment it works a bit, though outside that context I'm still very shy and I feel once I get over i…	/r/seduction	11/07/10 11:45 PM
1	Seduction while working as a bartender They do come to me, they have to. If the girl is assertive enough to make a move herself that's nice - though that's always nice, not just when it happens at work. When that does happen it's kind of a surprise, usually because during the real busy chunk 11pm-2am I get in a rhythm serving and kinda zone out. Then suddenly a girl, seemingly out of nowhere but maybe just because I haven't been paying as much attention as I have, will say something like "I'll have two shots of ____ and your phone nu…	/r/seduction	11/07/10 11:13 PM
1	Seduction while working as a bartender This is basically what I do now - because often when it's super busy I just get in a rhythm and don't realize when a girls being flirtier than the rest. But, also, this is leaving a lot of things to chance, relying on them to be more assertive than a lot of girls are used to being in a club (unless it's 3am and they're still there and very tipsy, at which point the problems shift). Sometimes a girl will come up three or four times to me, we make eyes at each other, kinda dance with each other fr…	/r/seduction	11/07/10 10:22 PM
2	Seduction while working as a bartender Yes, I'm very protective in that way - I never give out drinks like that just because a girl is flirty. Some are very shameless with their free-drink-seeking, too.	/r/seduction	11/07/10 10:17 PM