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| 13 | She filed and it’s a poor reflection on her.It’s so clear that the divorce she needed to be happy hasn’t provided her with happiness. This resonates. I've been trying to get equal custody of my son, and it has been in litigation for over a year now because she wants to drag it out as long as possible and bleed me dry while she also routes minor co-parenting disagreements through attorneys like a coward. She wanted the divorce, she got it, but apparently that alone wasn't good enough, she has to ruin me emotionally and financially as well,… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/07/26 10:39 AM |
| 3 | A year after my divorce, I noticed something funny.Maybe the app could have a built-in "dead man's switch" that sends your match's profile details to a third party if you don't check in after your hike date? | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/06/26 11:35 PM |
| 4 | The "I checked out a long time ago" excuseWhat was his response/reaction in all those times you asked for change? Was he happy or did he want something to change too? Why was it all on him? Do you feel like everything was communicated in the best way possible by both parties? Do you feel like you could have done anything differently? | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/06/26 11:05 AM |
| 5 | I’m a lesbian and this sub is a breath of fresh airthe one who walks away is invariably the one who was never all-in to begin with This is an incredibly helpful way of framing it. We exchanged vows but they only meant something to one of us, apparently. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/05/26 11:31 PM |
| 9 | Difference in Women vs Men After DivorceI consider myself a pretty progressive, liberal person, but having been forcibly immersed in divorce culture has made it harder and harder to dismiss gender stereotypes. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/26 09:26 PM |
| 6 | Is there a pattern with HC divorce?I don't have TikTok, but my ex shared a couple posts with me before things went south between us, so I knew her profile, and it showed the accounts she followed in the order she started following them, so I could see the number of woman empowerment/ relationship propaganda accounts she had started following leading up to our separation/divorce. She will never admit to it, but I am absolutely certain that she got a lot of her motivation to divorce me from TikTok posts. TikTok's algorithm delibera… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/04/26 12:46 PM |
| 5 | When does staying above ground for your kid stop being enough?I don't want a woman who's still figuring out what she's going to do with life. I hate to break it to you, but you are also now figuring out what to do with life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/04/26 11:37 AM |
| 2 | Maybe Divorce Made Me a Chauvinistthey go to therapy to validate their current poor behavior instead of trying to improve and they leave armed with therapy speak and a newfound confidence that they should do whatever makes them "happy" at any given moment My ex-wife once dropped "I've been in therapy for ten years" during an argument as a way to justify her decision to divorce me, but the things she said and did and the ways she treated me during the divorce process, during the most painful and vulnerable period of my life, were… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/26 06:29 PM |
| 5 | What to say when asked about my divorce?"We discovered we each had different interpretations of our wedding vows" | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/26 01:18 PM |
| 2 | What the fuck?He still says the best thing he ever did was stop trying to fix the marriage and start trying to help the person. I went through what I've come to realize was an early midlife crisis accelerated by experiencing job loss, new parenthood, buying a house, and the pandemic all hitting within a couple years of each other, and it destroyed my mental health. I wish this philosophy had been a part of my marriage, but it wasn't ever about helping me, or even fixing the marriage really, but my partner see… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/02/26 02:10 PM |
| 7 | Any other men here feel like you were left for dead?Both of the worst points in my marriage came right after my ex installed/reinstalled TikTok, it's crazy how frequently I see this exact pattern on the divorce subs | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/02/26 09:59 PM |
| 3 | wife wants divorcePart of me understands the reasoning for not wanting your kids to be in a toxic environment for their entire childhood, but that advice always seems to presume that things would stay that way or get worse, there's not nearly as much conversation about how successful reconciliation can turn things around and potentially make an even stronger healthy family environment. Is that just because that's a pipedream in most circumstances? Or because those people for whom it worked out aren't here talking… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/01/26 03:18 PM |
| 5 | Divorced Female friends.The first time divorce was threatened in my marriage was a few months after she installed TikTok for the first time and spent every available moment on it. After we patched things up, she uninstalled it. Two years later, she installed it again and got sucked right back in, and within a couple months we had separated and she filed for divorce. There's obviously more to the story, but I'm convinced that it might have been different if she hadn't willingly let herself fall down the rabbit hole of T… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/25 05:21 PM |
| 12 | She disregarded even the smallest needs I hadThat's what covert narcissism looks like not always shouting, not always obvious cruelty. Sometimes it's the quiet, deliberate disregard of another person's reality. The slow erasure of their comfort, their individuality, and their right to boundaries. Nailed it. My ex invalidated everything I shared, willfully ignored the immense stress and pressure I was under in our marriage, disregarded my emotions by labeling everything I expressed that was critical of her treatment towards me as "RSD", and… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/25 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Stupid stupid stupidI don't know your situation, but you should keep track somewhere tangible, just in case it ever becomes legally relevant. Even just the notes app on your phone or in texts/emails to yourself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/25 05:44 PM |
| 5 | Don't lose your cool.I recently learned about 'reactive abuse' and this fits that definition. Reactive abuse happens when a victim of abuse reacts to that abuse in a way which could include physical violence or shouting of their own. This isn't because the victim is an abuser, rather that they have been a victim of abuse for such a period that they have themselves lashed out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/25 12:05 PM |
| 2 | Not Going to Make ItI’m the one that was traumatized losing house, security, etc. This resonated with me. My ex told me I 'ruined her life' moments before we signed the paperwork to take me off the deed to our family home that I used the entirety of my grandmother's inheritance money for the down payment and closing costs on, and then she drove off in the family car that I made the down payment on using inheritance money from my dead aunt. Now I spend half my salary to rent a one bedroom apartment and sleep on a ma… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/06/25 01:05 PM |
| 3 | Saw this nice house and got annoyedGreat sentiment if you've achieved financial stability, not so much when you're unable to survive on your own and every bill paid while barely scraping by is a reminder of how unfair life can be. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/06/25 06:08 PM |
| 7 | Two Years Later.I just find myself hating my life, myself and cannot believe this is my freaking life. I feel this way too. Like suddenly life makes no sense any more. This is no way to live. This is no way to raise a kid. I can't show up for my son the way I need to if I'm battling constant despair. His entire childhood is going to be tainted by this and I hate it. The only reason I can afford my life is by stealing money from my future self, divorce settlement money that was supposed to be for a house is now … | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/04/25 01:33 PM |
| 11 | What is your view on the reasons for modern divorce?I hate that I'm in this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/03/25 11:07 PM |
| 8 | They Did You A FavorI feel this. My ex-wife turned into a completely different person after we had a kid, and absolutely ignored or contributed to the objectively-real personal challenges I was experiencing that were eroding my mental health, only caring about the effect it was having on her happiness, not that I was falling apart on the inside and needed support, and divorced me because I was "an emotional burden" 🙄 | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/03/25 09:44 PM |
| 7 | Not divorced yet. 7 months broken up she’s dating another man for 6 months and it still hurtsThis is good advice. Everything changed when I accepted that the person I married was dead and gone. She did her best to make that part easy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/02/25 06:42 PM |
| 9 | Delayed AngerI've been experiencing this over the past couple weeks as I take stock of my finances and my ability to sustainably have my son in my life 50/50. I put everything I had into our family and home, we had a dirt cheap mortgage, and now I'm literally spending 50% of my salary on rent just to be able to live near my son, and another 25% in child support. I'm just plain not going to be able to survive on my own without some radical changes that feel impossibly out of reach at the moment. Everything is… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/02/25 01:55 PM |
| 1 | Do you ever just randomly cry?I made the mistake of telling my ex how emotionally distraught I was and her response made me feel like she was going to use it against me in court. It also helped me see that the person I married was long gone. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/02/25 12:11 PM |
| 1 | Do you ever just randomly cry?Every day for the first three months after I moved out. Grieving the life I wanted for my son that was ripped away from me. Now just once every two or three weeks. But most recently, tears of happiness when a song came on that hit just right and reminded me of how far I've come. It gets better. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/02/25 12:07 PM |
| 1 | Don’t become a stepdad when you already have kids, and don’t get remarried again.Care to elaborate? | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/02/25 03:01 PM |
| 2 | Don’t become a stepdad when you already have kids, and don’t get remarried again.Exactly. Divorce with kids is a life-defining experience that no one understands unless they've been there. Finding someone who has emerged on the other side after a growth journey similar to mine has been incredible. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/02/25 01:06 PM |
| 4 | Don’t become a stepdad when you already have kids, and don’t get remarried again.Good moms won’t want a guy involved in their kids’ lives because they will follow the advice of OP as well. And who wants to date a bad mom? Seconding this. We each have one kid, and are in no rush to introduce each other to our kids, or our kids to each other. We both share a mindset of "our kids already have two parents, they don't need more" and are both incredibly hesitant about the idea of merging families, and are quite content maintaining separate lives in that way. What matters more is t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/02/25 12:50 PM |
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