JohnnyMnec Archive

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2	9 seduction facts I wish I knew earlier! A top-tier list! I just want to expand on some points. "Women do like nice guys, just not weak needy ones" - The issue is while some ppl are kind-hearted, some feel the need to act super nice just to be tolerated or have some chance with a woman. The latter is very obvious and repelling. "Your value to a woman is directly proportional to your unwillingness to take her shit". A very nice point but "not taking her shit" is not equal to "being butthurt" or "dramatizing everything". Just take your c…	/r/seduction	28/10/22 05:40 AM
2	Do you refer to it as ‘date’ or not? Based on my in-person experience (in contrast to online dating), calling it a "date" always puts the girl under pressure. It's as if she agrees, she also has to immediately agree to what comes after - which is totally not what I assume or want at that point even. So I avoid calling it a date. It is very obvious anyways if you're not her friend, flirting with her and inviting her to a date-like activity. That said, if you call it a date and she still meets with you, you can probably take things f…	/r/seduction	22/10/22 06:38 PM
2	I asked someone out for the first time in my life ! Hey I loved your attitude! Also no need to feel bad as you need to ask girls out to have dates, and if you ask them out you're going to hear these excuses/unpleasant replies sometimes. As a tip to consider: change the order of these questions and rephrase them as "hey it was nice talking to you, maybe we can do a coffee or something sometime" and if she's like yes, then you can ask about when. Edit: Another way to ask/imply in this situation would have been "actually, it would have been nice to …	/r/seduction	21/10/22 02:22 PM
5	Whatever you do never allow yourself to slowly drift into the frienzone catch yourself-Woman POV The same. But one point I disagree with is the friendzone part. I believe it’s guys’ fault to fall there (by never showing romantic/sexual interest) and it’s really easy to get out. You just need to take the risk of ruining the relationship and start showing interest.	/r/seduction	17/10/22 06:03 AM
1	how to reply to text flakiness / "sorry I've been busy lately" Totally agree & this is the right mindset to have: a girl will like me much more as she spends more time with me. I think the pitfall of "I wouldn't forget to text a girl I'm super interested in" is that we become super interested way too fast, compared to the average girl. It's usually not enough to generate this amount of interest by just texting or having a 5 minute talk. Coming to the question: it's a tricky situation. My experience is that agreeing loosely for 2 weeks later doesn't really h…	/r/seduction	17/10/22 12:01 AM
2	while dancing Not exactly answering your question but also consider interacting with girls that are not on the dancefloor - but are vibing, waiting outside, smoking etc. They will have the same carefree & fun attitude but then you can actually start talking to them without appearing out of place.	/r/seduction	16/10/22 11:43 PM
1	After making plans to meetup with a woman, do you continue the conversation or not until the date? I really like arranging meetups for close dates. If for instance I want to meet on a weekday afternoon, I'd text on Monday like "how is your week". If I want to meet on weekend, I text on Wednesday or Thursday with "how free is your weekend". After having an approximate day & time, I text/agree for the exact details on the day before the meetup or early in the same day. That way, you don't have to text any filler (which are just complications at that stage imo) and you don't have to ask stuff li…	/r/seduction	16/10/22 11:29 PM
2	30 year old delivering pizzas on side. 40s sexy cougar seems to like me I mean when you have people work under you and you try something romantic with them, it can become much more problematic, I agree. But having somebody complain "this guy abused his occupation to get close to me" or something in that line will bring you trouble more often than not.	/r/seduction	18/08/22 09:03 AM
5	30 year old delivering pizzas on side. 40s sexy cougar seems to like me This is exactly what I'd suggest actually. Mixing work with dating too much is rarely a good idea and you should definitely be very careful with your flirting/escalation, like not saying risky things during work. What I like about "can we continue this conversation later" (except for the number part) is that it's vague. If she likes it, she can pick the idea up, propose plans/alternatives and even ask for contact herself. When they meet, he can freely flirt and escalate.	/r/seduction	18/08/22 06:30 AM
4	Cold approaching Following this amazing answer about courting vs seducing, it's a nice idea to mix some "not-so-positive" elements next to calling her "really cute", or whenever you're complimenting her really. The deeper idea is that there's no way you're immediately liking everything about a girl, so you show that you're not completely sold while you show your interest. But beware - as u/hunterpua said, this comes a bit with experience. The "not-so-positive" element should not be an insult, an outright negativ…	/r/seduction	17/08/22 10:10 PM
8	Has a girl ever lost interest in you but somewhat became interested again in the future? Hahaha a specific version of it happened more than I want to admit:) During the pandemic, I was talking with a lot of girls that I cannot meet at that time. Some of them would go radio silent at some point. Then, through other means (social media, profile pics etc) I learned that they started a serious relationship with a guy. When that ends however, they wanted to continue talking with me as if nothing changed. Nothing against them, but I didn't give them the second chance & don't think I ever …	/r/seduction	17/08/22 09:53 PM
1	So you've just successfully opened a cute lady you saw at the mall...now what? So this is a tricky question. The most interesting topic for you can be the most boring for her, or vice versa. For me, fun doesn’t come from the topic, but the attitude. Every topic (except very charged ones) can be made fun or sexualized. Just try making the topic somehow about her or what makes you think about her in a playful manner (like the example I gave previously), and you’ll instantly get an unexpected and more fun conversation.	/r/seduction	17/08/22 09:08 AM
1	So you've just successfully opened a cute lady you saw at the mall...now what? I don't want to talk about her day or about where she grew up or about sex or anything Except for sex, these seem like boring conversations anyway. But it doesn't mean you should categorically avoid them. As an example, exchanging information about what you both do for work builds some comfort and gives you additional material to carry the conversation. You can then for instance make it fun again by commenting if your initial impression of her fits her job.	/r/seduction	16/08/22 02:21 PM
1	If I cut off every woman who didn't reciprocate my effort I would only have about one date every year or two I did, but it wasn't directly because of she wasn't suggesting a day or saying she cannot meet, I felt that she was bs'ing me (giving random excuses just to say no). I had a clear feeling as I was asking broadly and providing flexibility, like "how are you these days" instead of "let's meet on this day".	/r/seduction	16/08/22 06:47 AM
1	Is approaching girls even worth it? Let's break your question down. Is meeting a lot of girls worth it? Definitely. You have a much better probability to find the one(s) that you connect with if you meet a lot of girls. This always applies irrespective of the relationship you want (casual, serious, etc.). How do you meet a lot of girls then? Well, you need to do some kind of approach. But the good news is this depends on you. If you don't want to randomly talk to girls that you see in the street, go talk to the ones that are in th…	/r/seduction	15/08/22 09:30 PM
24	If I cut off every woman who didn't reciprocate my effort I would only have about one date every year or two The post, as well as your explanation are both amazing. I just want to expand on "don't degrade yourself" in my point of view. In my experience, there are certain phases of the interaction with women that you should be more forgiving on what counts as degrading yourself. The first is when you initiate a conversation. If you started talking to them, you should do the initial carry. She probably didn't expect this at all, so there's no reason to be like "oh, I'm doing all the work". This applies u…	/r/seduction	15/08/22 04:51 PM
2	So you've just successfully opened a cute lady you saw at the mall...now what? Even though your conversation was too short, it is obvious that both of you were enjoying it. Plus, it has some intent as you're complimenting her looks and commenting on how you see her. The rule is, you take things forward when the conversation has a good vibe. At this stage for instance, it makes perfect sense for you to introduce yourself, so you become acquaintances rather than strangers. After this, if the vibe is still good, you can comment on how fun it was to talk with her & express an …	/r/seduction	13/08/22 08:45 AM
3	Some bullshit in seduction that hindered my progress A lot of these sentences are formed as hindrances or limitations by themselves. They say "never do this", but don't explain why or offer a solution. So it's nice that you don't follow them blindly. That said, there is a reason why these sorts of things exist. For instance, people usually don't want to flirt with foreigners if they are in a colleague circle. To be successful with a girl in this situation, you need to calibrate accordingly - rather than making risky moves, making a plan with her f…	/r/seduction	11/08/22 11:16 PM
2	I am not only sweet ! how to change perception? The phrase "the men I attract" communicates a very passive behavior to me. You can try being more proactive - initiating communication with men that you think are adventurous, hanging out in places that more open people go etc etc. In addition to this, you can screen the men you meet. Meaning, bring up adventurous topics like sex early in the conversation, don't sensor your words etc. See how comfortable they are with these. With this, you can eliminate very shy ones quickly, and guide more open…	/r/seduction	11/08/22 05:36 PM
10	This could just be a coincidence but in my experience whenever I'm toxic a girl wants to be with me but when I'm genuinely nice and not toxic to girls they usually dump me. Why? Exactly this ^ Being toxic, at least for me is things like insulting, being impolite, overtly breaking social etiquette etc. These will never work. Not overcaring for a person (who didn’t really earn it yet), is not being toxic.	/r/seduction	11/08/22 03:31 PM
1	She's telling me shes interested yet taking long to answer and seems to be ignoring me? Hey it can be anything. She can be a bad texter, not really interested (for the moment), really interested so she reaaally thinks what to write etc etc. I'd suggest that you just ignore everything that you won't be able to know for sure anyways and be ok if she's texting you back and it is mostly in a positive manner. When you date, everything happens on the spot so these doesn't matter anyways. Also it is apparent that you're reading too much into every detail, which is very common when you're …	/r/seduction	04/08/22 08:23 PM
1	I’m a grown-ass woman, and I’m scared to ask this man out. Someone convince me to do it anyway!! So I want to share my mindset and experience (as a straight male) with you, consider as much as you like. I reaaaallly don't like having crushes. I know you can't help it, but what did he do to earn your affection? I assume nothing, really. Instead, I having the "I'm interested, but not yet decided" mentality is much more helpful. Show your interest, but the point should be you both earning each other's affection. Wanting to be very direct but not wanting any rejection unfortunately contradicts …	/r/seduction	02/08/22 04:11 PM
41	This community has helped me a lot with women. Thank you! Would love to share what I’ve learned! Totally agree. I especially loved OP's positive attitude. About excuses: Not their place but I can give examples for your place. It can be anything that makes sense (that you cannot easily or as conveniently do outside). Such as you can make coffee and turn some music on, you can chill with some drinks or you're going to show something very interesting that you have. Note that this also depends on the time/context, like you won't find any place to sit with drinks in the middle of the night. The …	/r/seduction	02/08/22 02:18 PM
4	why do men always pull away if you return their interest Hey that's very understandable, but your situation is a bit different. You were already making plans with him & your time is valuable. It only makes sense that you know for sure if you need to be free on that particular day. In that situation, it is ok to ask again or text back to cancel it, especially if you do it in a non-angry cool way. But the point is, it is indeed disrespectful of him to not text back at least to cancel the date, unless something extreme happened. But pls don't enter this …	/r/seduction	31/07/22 02:28 AM
3	yes but no Yes, it happens. My observation is it especially happens when you're like "oh boy, I can't believe I'm going to date this girl". I have two suggestions: Being casual when asking, even if you're showing intent. For example, there is a ton of difference in communication between "if it is ok for you, I can take you on a date, when you're available" and "hey I kinda want to take you on a date, I think it'll be fun". If it happens again, you can either be cool about it and understand that even if fla…	/r/seduction	28/07/22 09:23 PM
2	How to stop being so scared? Next time, can you just talk without having the feeling "I need to achieve this particular thing at the end (like getting a number)". It should be much less intimidating in some situations, like asking for/commenting on something at a fair/bar/activity. Then, you can just thank and leave. It'll be a nice basis to get familiarity and build upon. Also, there are enough people in the world which you'll have thousands of chances with:)	/r/seduction	04/07/22 12:24 AM