JoieTheVivre Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	How do you develop a Charismatic personality? Smile more. Don't force a smile - make genuine ones whenever you can and it is fitting.	/r/seduction	16/03/13 05:02 PM
2	[FR] Long, detailed account of my first attempt after one week of seddit. I won't call you a beta because you didn't act like one. Spotting a beta is pretty easy - look at his posure, way of handling things, what his projecting. You seem like a pretty solid dude to me. I think I would call you an AFC, not a Beta. Which is a compliment.	/r/seduction	24/02/13 12:09 AM
1	It really doesn't matter what you say, it's how you say it. There's no second date. I guess you didn't follow him - She hasn't responded to his texts and she claims to be a JW. But you left me puzzled - how can you assume he was being cocky-funny? Am I reading this FR in a wrong way, or am I missing here some information between the lines? I can't read this and not think in my head that OP is a creep.	/r/seduction	24/02/13 12:07 AM
1	My simple solution for defeating AA I'm astound. 'Just fucking do it' & Stepping out of your comfort zone are different approaches. They are, by no mean, the exact same thing. I'm infuriated with the way you people embrace that 'do it' hivemind. What is even more irritating is that you have the nerve to call it the exact same thing. Doing it is a quick, extreme, IMPULSIVE act with no thinking what so ever. No process, no analysing of any mean. Getting out of your comfort zone does not directly mean you should approach women or do …	/r/seduction	24/02/13 12:02 AM
1	Nothing really to do with seduction but I thought y'all may appreciate this advice You are right about one thing: This really has nothing to do with seduction.	/r/seduction	23/02/13 11:45 PM
1	It really doesn't matter what you say, it's how you say it. OP, i've been researching this whole "Jehova's Witness" subject. Added some keywords in, like 'can a JW go to the gym'. The internet (if you take it as a credible source) says NO. Don't you think that it is an excuse to reject you? Did you consider it or do you want to imagine that you were perfectly fine and it's her fault? I'm asking this with all seriousness. I would be glad if you could deliver.	/r/seduction	23/02/13 11:39 PM
1	It really doesn't matter what you say, it's how you say it. I don't follow any PUAs, nor couldn't I care less about their techniques. I'm here to see how you act and respond correctly. Elaborate on how he was projecting cockyness. I can settle down with confident, but not cocky. All of his texts are plain creepy and clingy. I don't buy any of this Jehova crap. She was just simply creeped out. You are wrong and this whole back-and-forth is useless.	/r/seduction	23/02/13 11:35 PM
0	It really doesn't matter what you say, it's how you say it. Sarcasm or not, this is the first thought to be crossing her mind nevertheless.	/r/seduction	23/02/13 10:49 PM
-8	My simple solution for defeating AA Implying I have Approach Anxiety. edit: you people are crazy.	/r/seduction	22/02/13 11:16 PM
-9	My simple solution for defeating AA The fact that it helped you didn't mean it's eligible for anyone.	/r/seduction	22/02/13 09:33 PM
1	It really doesn't matter what you say, it's how you say it. Yes, but this was in no way my point.	/r/seduction	22/02/13 09:08 PM
15	My simple solution for defeating AA You're telling people to 'just do it'. It's like telling a depressed person to 'snap out of it'. You don't just do it. And if they have AA there's a reason for it. There are many efficient way to overcome AA, in contrary to your nike-slogan esque cliche. One major way is to step out of your comfort zone doing silly things or anything that you would normaly not do. This isn't /r/GetMotivated.	/r/seduction	22/02/13 09:02 PM
1	It really doesn't matter what you say, it's how you say it. I understand your point. Just know that not everyone knows who you are and how you roll. Think about it like a case of colture shock or when meeting new people with a different kind of humour. Also, I think you should work on your inner game. I'm seeing here all kind of mindblocks that you're settings yourself, e.g 'there's no way anything will happen with her'. As much as you want to be realistic, you put obstacles infront of you. Don't.	/r/seduction	22/02/13 08:59 PM
3	It really doesn't matter what you say, it's how you say it. I edited my op. What i'm trying to say here is that you approached her fine, but came off as clingy. I'm trying to make you follow my train of though: you just met a girl, and she immediately sends you afterwards 'when are we getting married' / 'i'm going to call you a milion time'. How would you feel? Would you not feel creeped out? Save the downvotes, use your logic. All I see here is a very weak approach.	/r/seduction	22/02/13 08:40 PM
-1	It really doesn't matter what you say, it's how you say it. "Told her I would call her a million times a day" "So, when are we getting married?" "I think she was adorable" Edit: Maybe I should have rephrased this in a more explaining matter - this is not how you're supposed to firstly introduce yourself. You are supposed to be somewhat mysterious, not a life-long commitment. I'll elabroate next time.	/r/seduction	22/02/13 05:35 PM
1	Going for lunch with my old high school crush, HELP! I'm against cookie-cutter lines, together with routines and openers, so that's the farest i'll go. My point was to give you a sense of how your mindset show be like when approaching situations like this.	/r/seduction	20/02/13 10:04 PM
2	Going for lunch with my old high school crush, HELP! "Remember when you were inlove with me?" Seems like it sets the correct tone - you're confident, funny enough and can lead to some surprising revelations.	/r/seduction	20/02/13 09:42 PM
1	What to talk to girls about? Themselves. It's even backed up by science. Source: http://healthland.time.com/2012/05/08/why-we-overshare-the-brain-likes-it/	/r/seduction	18/02/13 03:59 PM
1	Field Report - HB 9 from Sweeden I lost you at this point, and that's a sign that this useless back-and-forth should end. Good night p.s tagged as 'Doesn't want to screw'.	/r/seduction	17/02/13 09:56 PM
2	Saw Post About Jewelry Kino - You Can Do Reverse That's a nice tweak to peacocking. Just try and not cross the line of 'intresting' and become a bullshitter, though those made-up stories sound intresting.	/r/seduction	17/02/13 09:51 PM
1	Field Report - HB 9 from Sweeden Nah. This subbreddit is only cringe-inducing when people mention that they are constantly friendzoned or they say something that is seriously wrong, and even at that I only smh. It's too much work for nothing. On the other hand, visit /r/friendzoned. It's like /r/f7u12, but filled with socialy-awkward grown ups.	/r/seduction	17/02/13 09:47 PM
2	Field Report - HB 9 from Sweeden This conversation isn't going anywhere. You didn't like OP's remark, x/posted to cringepics, came back to troll some more. Don't drag me down into your useless conversations. What were you doing in this subbreddit at the first place? You portray yourself as a majestic, superior, alpha-male. You clearly do not belong here.	/r/seduction	17/02/13 09:36 PM
1	Field Report - HB 9 from Sweeden Serious poster? I don't feel like I should give you any explanations, but only if it will keep your arrogant mouth shut. I usualy post here after i'm done with classes and get home, late evening. The moniker 'serious poster' is pretty exaggerating since I only post few posts to whomever I feel like. Not that this is any of your business	/r/seduction	17/02/13 09:30 PM
1	Field Report - HB 9 from Sweeden And you base that on what? You're making pretty arrogant statements here.	/r/seduction	17/02/13 09:24 PM
1	Field Report - HB 9 from Sweeden I beg to differ. Pickup artists (and newbies), as I see them, are like little robots that do things such as routines and fixed-lines. Things like the 5 questions game or anything that was pre-made and though prior to the occasion is what makes me cringe. On the other hand, this is nothing that leaves a trail of a "pickup artist". Just picture yourself a laidback person approaching to a girl with a screw while smiling and saying that. If you did not present yourself as intimidating, she will laug…	/r/seduction	17/02/13 09:21 PM
1	Field Report - HB 9 from Sweeden I find it amusing how odd you find that line. (or to be specific - how cringey) That's a genuine line that portrays you as a funny, chilled guy. Those kind of lines gets a laugh from the girls just because how corny they are. The fact that you seem to despise a comment of such is, well, pretty sad. Have you even tried it yourself? Anything likewise?	/r/seduction	17/02/13 09:11 PM
3	Ejecting Properly Small of her back? I think that first initial kino should be somewhere in the front (where she can still she your arms/specific body part). You just met her - you can't expect to crawl your body all around her. I would probably chose Answer B. Letting the conversation deteriorate is a bad decision. Hoping for a miracle of some sort to spark the discussion is a weak idea. How to do it properly? Make up an excuse. It depends on what impression do you want to leave, and do you intend on trying agai…	/r/seduction	17/02/13 09:05 PM
1	Field Report - HB 9 from Sweeden Wow. Someone here is definetly butthurt. This is a great, cheesy-yet-hilarious line. The fact that YOU can't use it doesn't mean no one else can't tweak it to his own use. While I was reading I couldn't but chuckle when reading that part. It's an amazing move, and good of you to have think about it. Don't listen to that butthurt. He's the real neckbeard here.	/r/seduction	17/02/13 08:57 PM
1	Seddit, stop being judgmental. Think about it that way: getting your message through a use of tendering means will not get you far. Not in this case. People are not porcelain, nor are they fragile. Being sensitive is one thing, but I believe that's the only way to truely penetrate to one's heart and mind. I get it, you can disagree, saying i'm just being rough for no reason and being harsh on them. I'm doing it to get my message more clearly. As much as I want to treat them like puppies, with all the tendering/loving means, I…	/r/seduction	17/02/13 07:06 PM
1	Seddit, stop being judgmental. I've been calling people names, but these people need a kick in the ass. I treat people the way they treat themselves. If they have low self esteem, that's their problem. I'm here to give my advices on how to fix that, but first i'll make them understand that they should feel bad about it. Stop being such a white-knight. Some people need to face the facts.	/r/seduction	17/02/13 11:28 AM
10	Pretty confusing: Is she asking me out or have I been friendzoned she's just using me? Go. Don't use it as a chance to get near to her, but to have fun instead. But I got to say this - your text game is weak. very weak. You sound to me like a party-pooper just screaming "I don't want to have fun". You are anything but playful. Why are you sorry? Never be sorry. You're hurting your image. Get our of your comfort zone for once. You don't dance? Dance. You don't drink? Drink. Try something new once in awhile. And yes, it seems liks she was using you. though you could have used her to…	/r/seduction	17/02/13 11:22 AM
1	My poor self-inflicted luck with women Don't be humble. Girls are attracted to those 'dark' attributes a guy has, such as being narcissistic even if they banter you about it at first. But it seems like you need to work on your inner-game first - how you treat yourself, how you percieve yourself. As far as I read... you suck. You're another loser that doesn't get it why those ugly, ignorant people get girlfriends while you're by yourself. I'm not here to bash you, and I might even be wrong. But another point is that you are an introve…	/r/seduction	16/02/13 11:46 PM
1	Can someone post a screenshot of texts to show how you make progress? Yup. It may almost make you seem like a creep for not using a wink when saying such thing since delivery in text-messaging is very limited. I guess you can switch it for a 'lol', but that's also a no-no as far for my text-game.	/r/seduction	16/02/13 11:38 PM
2	The nice guy That "nice guy" they're talking about isn't being "nice". It's actually telling you that you're socialy-awkward. I know, it's not nice. IT IS an insult. Saying "I dress better, therefor I should be the alpha in this group" is flawed. It's only a minor part in the equation. You are friendzoned because you're being an AFC, or even a beta-male. Start reading here more. Start with things such as Kino (touch). They help you signal from the very start that you're not like the other guys.	/r/seduction	16/02/13 11:36 PM
1	Will girls tolerate you if you don't have many friends? If that situation was reversed and the girl was pretty lonely, I think it would've stopped me from making a move. Get your priorities straight: Start meeting new friends (if you even want to) before a date. Though, meeting girls can help introduce you new friends, but it is better if it's from a different circle.	/r/seduction	16/02/13 11:31 PM
1	I have the reverse problem that most have here. (FBD) I had the same issue: moved to a new city and highschool, started meeting new people. Being around girls is easy for me, being charming and whatnot. Having guy friends was a problem. Say about for every 10 girls I got to know 1 guy, and at that age it was giving you quite a bad reputation. So I just told myself that i'll be friends with all the guys, repeating that in my head, and voila: Fast forward few month I have 2-3 very close friends, 5 good friends and tons of more friends of friends whic…	/r/seduction	16/02/13 11:27 PM
2	What have you done this week? Got myself a GF. Pretty good	/r/seduction	16/02/13 11:12 PM
3	scared of what a girl would say to me Because you're a loser. And you think like a loser. You portary yourself as a creep and social-freak. What are you doing on this subreddit? go on /r/friendzoned instead. Unless you're going to change that horrible way you think, you'll get zero respect from the girls or from me this subreddit.	/r/seduction	16/02/13 11:06 PM
7	Pseudo-FR: The shit-test, the most valuable thing I've learned from Seddit You're over thinking things. When she said that you slack with unnecessary stretching you could have just replied "so you basicaly come to the gym just to look at me" / "you're a creep" / "I know i'm attractive, but you should ease down with the glaring". Be playful, get the upper hand. The fact that she added you on FB is a HUGE IOI - just think about all the trouble she went for finding your name. Nonetheless, good job.	/r/seduction	16/02/13 11:03 PM
2	Can someone post a screenshot of texts to show how you make progress? I can't give you the full transcripts but I can give you crucial tips that are the basic building blocks for a successful text-game: Take your time - Don't answer right away unless the conversation is going fast and slowing it down will 'kill the moment'. Know when to pause for a moment, breath, and then reply. Give her the feeling that you're not waiting for her response and that she doesn't grab your full attention. If you forget about her and she sends a question mark just say that you're tal…	/r/seduction	16/02/13 10:54 PM
3	Why am I turned off by girls who are really into me? Man, i'm in the same boat as you are. Whenever a girl shows me any non-subtle IOI I completly lose any interest in her, unless she's an exception (intresting, better-than-average looking, etc). It drives me crazy as I lose a lot of options for any kind of relationships, short or long-term. For example: If a girl initializes first contact; saying verbally (in a direct or non-direct way) that she's intrested; if I get the feeling she is CHASING me - it's all gone. I guess it's true - I want them t…	/r/seduction	16/02/13 10:24 PM
8	What have you done this week? Are you seriously kidding me? Cosmetics, when it gets to girls, are VERY, and I need to emphasize again - VERY important. They spend tons of money removing hair from different places so they can achieve their 'perfect' image they had in their head about themselves. One time, a very social-awkward AFC told a good looking female friend of mine (hb8-8.5) that she has a little mustache. She despised him from that moment. You have no idea what you've just done.	/r/seduction	15/02/13 10:13 PM
1	Is wondering "why I did wrong" an efficient or wasteful use of your time & energy? Move on, but think what have gone wrong in the first place. Put a little of your time to try and analyse what happend, though don't let it distract you or put you down.	/r/seduction	18/01/13 11:54 PM
2	Did I mess up or are some girls immature? [mini-FR] Good thing you got the courage to go and speak to her. But i'm asking this - what is the point letting her know she's cute? I'd get it if you would have been more specific, like saying "nice shoes" or "nice shirt" which don't seem TOO straight-forward and can even come out as playful or funny. It also gets the girl thinking sometimes. (Why did he acknowledge my shoes? is there something off with them? bla bla bla) But just saying blantly 'you are cute' means 'you look good'. From just saying tha…	/r/seduction	18/01/13 11:50 PM
7	I've always had trouble whenever woman say, "They feel too old" when they find out my age. What should I say when given this shit test? First one that comes on my mind is 'You couldn't have handled me anyway'. I use it, everyone uses it. It's pretty much the cookie-cutter for passing shitests.	/r/seduction	18/01/13 11:46 PM
2	Five Ways to Fail with Women Not even going to read this one. Are you kidding me? I know that the purpose of this post is to teach you what is wrong and how to avoid/fix that, but that's just absurd. Help and teach people first by telling them WHAT IS RIGHT, and then give examples of what is wrong. NOT the opposite. This is just absurd and I can't express that. This is strictly negative-thinking and a negative way of handling things. Instead of saying "You should not be doing X" start directly from "You should Y and Z". Onc…	/r/seduction	18/01/13 11:37 PM
1	How Do You Recover From A Really Bad Blow Out? You just walk away. Those are people that look for those cases - mainly for drama. Just shrugg it off and walk away saying things like "okay, whatever". You acted right by telling her to relax. Then you just needed to walk away and be the bigger man.	/r/seduction	18/01/13 11:31 PM
2	Language Barrier Advice pretty please. Major hook, and I can't distress this enough: use your lack of knowing the native language to your advantage. Make her teach you some words, and make it fun. Did this date already happen and am I too late, or can I still give you my ideas for a playful time?	/r/seduction	18/01/13 11:28 PM
1	The beach, and acting alone. 'and others already have girlfriends Voila. This are your perfect wingmen.	/r/seduction	18/01/13 11:26 PM
2	I Have ABSOLUTELY 0 Female Friends Seems like you know what's wrong, yet you take no action whatsoever. Let's start with the basics: From my first reading I can't but not to notice the extreme approach of 'I must stop being X and start being Y'. "I'm quitting video games for life" Video games may or not be a factor. But you must know this - they are not to blame. Quitting for life isn't what you're looking for. You just need to know to moderate your use of such things. Don't just go on full cold turkey. Chances are that you'll li…	/r/seduction	18/01/13 11:18 PM
2	sick of being single, lonely, and spending all my time by myself in college. What can I do to change this.(not sure if this goes here, but fuck it) First of all - lose the attitude. No doubts that this is a main reason for your isolation. Because I have never seen you in action, i'm very limited with my assumptions. But one thing I will assume, and that is that you have, knowingly or not, a major flaw. It may be just your looks (though it doesn't necessarily have to be just it), ATTITUDE (which i'll expand further on) or personality. My bet is that it's your attitude mixed with your personality. I've seen countless cases of guys who look de…	/r/seduction	18/01/13 10:57 PM