Josh938 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
5	Unsure how to act and think about gender roles and flirting, and looking for input.	Discussion	Josh938	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/05/17 11:22 PM

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1	Nice guys and NiceGuysTM. I'm trying to flesh this out. I'm not sure exactly where I stand on the nice guy scale but I'm definitely there. To me I see dating as having to be overly aggressive, and I see a lot of complaints about overly aggressive men. I think a lot of times the only difference in how it is received is down to how good looking, charming, (insert positive adjective here) you are which is a bit of a catch 22. If you don't believe you are these adjectives then acting like them will be harder and therefore people will settle into a nice g…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/17 04:01 PM
2	Why Are Weak Men Undesirable? weak everything is generally undesirable, why is this about men in particular? No one is going to be pining over a 23 year old college drop out girl with depression, anxiety and no social life if she never meets anyone or never steps outside her comfort zone. I don't think all nice guys are weak, what do you mean by weak anyway? If someone is a nice guy and then slowly changes his attitude, is he gaining strength, or is he just changing as a person, as everyone does? I'm not a "nice guy" but I d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/17 05:03 AM
1	Q4Men: Define wife material. Yeah I get that, just... I thought his comment was like "Haha! This is what you DON'T want in a partner" so why is extreme ENFP bad? Coming from an ENFP lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/17 07:12 PM
1	Q4Men: Define wife material. Explain the extreme enfp part please? I know what an ENFP means just.. not well enough to see the obvious flaws or strengths	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/17 02:47 PM
1	Unsure how to act and think about gender roles and flirting, and looking for input. I'm not afraid or rejection I just don't want to lose people I see regularly, her brother is a close friend of mine and I talk to her fairly often too. Side note I have massive internal struggles about the morality there :p. Either way they both where I work with a staff of like less than 20, it's not worth the hassle when the odds are just factually low. Thanks!	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/05/17 09:53 PM
1	Unsure how to act and think about gender roles and flirting, and looking for input. Didn't think I was doing bad enough to need a hooker hahaha No thanks, they're not for me. I'm sure it could be intimate but I think the root of everything I'm currently built on is "I need to know I make peoples lives better, I need to know a woman enjoys this as much or more than I do" and I would rather fuck my hand that pay someone. I'm not scared or rejection, I just don't see the point of trying when I know that the odds of success are so low. They are getting higher every day but fear imp…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/05/17 09:26 PM
1	Unsure how to act and think about gender roles and flirting, and looking for input. This is all hypothetical anyway, as I'm not going to attempt anything with anyone until I'm confident I have a decent chance of success. Not sure what you mean by flirting is telling her about yourself if you could elaborate, I've always heard flirting is making her feel important and you should listen 2:1 talk Thanks	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/05/17 06:04 PM
1	Unsure how to act and think about gender roles and flirting, and looking for input. Hey, I read this after work then went out with a friend but gave it some thought during. This comment comes on a mix of alcohol and coke (First time on coke if that makes a difference) I can't say for sure how sexual frustration is affecting me because I've never been getting regular sex so it would have been affecting me from as long as I can really remember. I've been lonely as fuck for like 3 years even though I'm only 20, I've never really had anyone truly care about me so I feel this may me…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/05/17 03:02 AM
1	Unsure how to act and think about gender roles and flirting, and looking for input. Couple of limitations :P Dpdr: no ambition or dreams besides being around the best people I can and being the best version of myself. Appeal to her sexuality: was 360 pounds in January, not sure what not but will be thin in 3 month ish based on progress with the curve. People approach me now, women too. They still obviously won't find me attractive yet though so the middle ground of attention without attraction is hard.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/05/17 09:50 AM
1	Unsure how to act and think about gender roles and flirting, and looking for input. I was 360 pounds in January. Don't have scales but in 3 months ish I will be thin as normal. I am getting more respect, attention, and comments now and girls approach me. The middle zone between them approaching me and not finding me attractive is understandable but hard to deal with since I am interested in them. I am not interested in hearing I am a nice guy, I am being friendzoned, I am a pussy etc.. I want to learn how I can learn to approach women without being creepy, because most approach…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/05/17 09:43 AM
1	Unsure how to act and think about gender roles and flirting, and looking for input. Yes, she's annoyingly attractive and that's before my layer of interest. I used to be like 360 pounds, and I've lost most of it in like 4 months by going hard on working on it. Still got like 3 months more until I'm thin but people approach me now, talk to me, I get more respect. The middle ground between attention and attraction is hard because I know I'm still not really fuckable unless I get someone drunk which I don't want to do. This was not about how I get this one girl, I won't get this o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/05/17 09:41 AM
1	Unsure how to act and think about gender roles and flirting, and looking for input. Thanks, I slept on it and gave it more thought, I really don't think I'm even too much of a "nice guy", I mean I treat people how I want to be treated but my lack of pursuit is not because I have this higher opinion of those, just lower confidence of myself. Was like.. 360 pounds a few months ago and don't have a scale but in.. 3 months ish I'll be fully thin and I'm just getting inpatient, even though no one owes me anything and this is my fault anyway. I've been more social and people are appr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/05/17 09:38 AM
1	Unsure how to act and think about gender roles and flirting, and looking for input. This isn't about this girl. I used this girl as an example of why I find flirting difficult now. I was massively obese a while ago and I'm still fat but far more confident and I know I'm still fat / chubby, so much that if I were a girl I wouldn't sleep with me. Just getting inpatient. Also she doesn't so much tell me about those guys, her brother does, and she expands on it in a jokey manner.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/05/17 09:34 AM
1	Unsure how to act and think about gender roles and flirting, and looking for input. That's the point though I don't see how I'm cheapening what I bring to the table. The only reason I don't make moves is lack of confidence, I don't think I will succeed. I guess I expected this thread for people to tell me how I can get girls to notice me instead of me having to force myself into their lives which I dislike, although I know that's not an answer I'll get. Standing up for myself, I still don't know what that means, I don't even get in a situation where I need to stand up for mysel…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/05/17 09:32 AM
1	Unsure how to act and think about gender roles and flirting, and looking for input. I'm not in college, I'm in a tiny village in the UK. I'm moving to a city first job offer I get I'm just bored. I've been alone for a while, my own fault, and I've lost a shit load of weight and I'm still dealing with the lack of confidence from before that. I really don't think I'm being a "nice guy" just.. lack of confidence. I've still got a bit more weight to lose and I know if I were the girls I like I wouldn't be interested in me and I'm just bored and inpatient in this tiny village where …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/05/17 09:30 AM
2	Unsure how to act and think about gender roles and flirting, and looking for input. I don't think it's an opinion I don't choose to enjoy seeing people smile, how do I fix it? I don't want to lie or play mind games like playing hard to get	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/05/17 12:42 AM
1	Unsure how to act and think about gender roles and flirting, and looking for input. In this context dating is a bad option for both of us as we won't be able to be in a relationship for more than 2 months ish. I'm comfortable asking people on dates, and dating, just having one memorable night is a weakness of mine because I'm concerned of being too forward, where as with dating it's slower and easier to read cues.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/05/17 12:12 AM
2	Unsure how to act and think about gender roles and flirting, and looking for input. What a sheltered life if this made you cringe so hard! Glad I could help expand your range of emotion. "This girl" was just an example, we're both leaving our area soon so I'm not trying anything with her, maybe a one night fling thing but nothing major. I used her as an example for how it's changed my mindset in flirting. Making people happy makes me happy, I'm not going to rewrite that because that's who I am. I'm the same with platonic male friends too. I am too malleable around people defini…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/05/17 11:56 PM