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I mean, it's all about how you want to train your mind to work... which just about none of us put much effort into when we're young. ​ These days both men AND women are taught that they should be free to pursue whatever attractions they want... and there's nothing wrong with that, but we don't put any effort into balancing that with the understanding that when this is not tempered by identifying whether or not you value a life-long and mutually beneficial relationship. ​ If you do, or you think …
/r/TheRedPill16/09/18 05:37 PM
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I... am not sure where you expect an impressively vague comment like that to go, but since I am a medical doctor I will attempt to bring your concern into proper context. To bring some context, lets start with some basic information. Depending on the sprayer, each mL of cologne or parfume will give you 3 to 10 sprays, with most being on the 5+ sprays per mL. Relevant discussion: http://www.basenotes.net/threads/301408-If-I-do-3-sprays-Approximately-how-many-wearings-of-a-1-7oz-bottle-can-I-get O…
/r/TheRedPill14/09/18 09:41 PM
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Part of basic "getting your life together" is implementing basic self-grooming, and that does include cologne. Even a small container lasts months, and it takes perhaps one hour checking samples with a female assistant at a decent department store to identify something you will like, see how it smells on you, and grab a few small samples if there is more than one that you really love. Do not make the mistake of thinking that a one-time, relatively low effort purchase is somehow farther down the …
/r/TheRedPill14/09/18 07:47 PM
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TLDR: 1) Spray cologne on chest, then immediately rub chest with wrists and forearms, then put your clothes on 2) Don't use a scent you don't like 3) Don't use too much... 1-2 sprays are typically plenty 4) Strongly consider using colognes labeled "Eau de Toilette" or "Parfume"
/r/TheRedPill14/09/18 07:37 PM
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It just shows how important it is to be your own person, think for yourself, do what makes you happy, and not pander to people when your job, life, or livelihood isn't on the line if you don't. Sometimes people get a bit carried away and derogatory here, and it gives a good mindset a bad name. IMO this place has gotten much more on-the-ball and less abusive over the past year or two.
/r/TheRedPill23/03/18 04:41 PM
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People should, but there's nothing wrong with repetition: that's one of the requirements for effective learning lol :P
/r/TheRedPill23/03/18 04:33 PM
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This should be a stickied post.
/r/TheRedPill23/03/18 03:27 PM
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That's pretty on point. I remember a similar time in my life, it didn't last long because I realized I was still focused on other people. As soon as that makes sense, you just start to focus on yourself and what your goals are. What matters to you, that sort of thing. As you discover your own plan for your life and start making progress towards the next step in that plan, you begin building the real confidence of knowing you're at least partially in control of your life. Deeper elements to this …
/r/TheRedPill25/04/17 01:27 AM
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I think that the "not caring about what others think" bit is very difficult for people to understand. It isn't about actively looking at people and thinking "I don't care what you think," that's just internal aggression and creates a conflict-prone internal state. It's about literally focusing on what you're doing to get where you want to go and not judging your success by other people's reaction to your success but rather by how well you react to failure and develop YOUR way to succeed, and the…
/r/TheRedPill20/04/17 10:08 PM
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This is one of the best things that's been written for a long time. Not just here, but in general.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/17 10:03 PM
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Lots of guys are scared to admit they are currently inadequate at sex, often due to simple ignorance. They don't know that the moment they understand their current state is the moment the start down the road towards being excellent. Kind of sad, especially when you realize that the only thing keeping them from rocking the bedroom is a few good books on sexual technique and being comfortable exploring his and her fantasies. But no, it's apparently "easier" to keep their heads in the sand. I think…
/r/TheRedPill09/10/15 10:42 PM
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This is such a short, small, context-free statement that it doesn't really say much. I think that really depends on whether "made it" refers to some level of career or financial achievement or whether it refers to someone who understands that they have to remain engaged with their SO. It's that emotional engagement that really matters for most women. OP's dilemma seems to have been primarily, if not entirely, precipitated by emotional abandonment/dissatisfaction in the mind of his ex. Maybe not,…
/r/TheRedPill07/07/15 01:06 AM
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I hear ya. All we can do is the best with what we have. Stay strong and keep your head up!
/r/TheRedPill04/07/15 10:53 AM
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tldr: I'm not trying to be an ass or put you down, or say I'm better or any of that shit. Your situation sucks and I'm sorry you're dealing with it. Unfortunately you did not uphold your implicit part of the relationship, which is to keep your woman engaged and emotionally satisfied. That wasn't on purpose, but it happened. You'll have to learn how to not let that happen ever again for future relationships. I'm sorry you're going through this, but I think it's worth taking a moment to learn how …
/r/TheRedPill04/07/15 09:59 AM
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Upvoted. I've been there in the past. It happens, we learn, and then we don't fuck up again :)
/r/TheRedPill07/04/15 05:37 AM
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Fake it until you make it :) Don't worry about doing a shit job at improving right now, just keep focusing on improvement. Eventually you'll get good at improving, and then you'll improve a ton, and then you'll be exactly where you want to be. Just gotta forget (for the most part, aside from obvious planning purposes) about tomorrow and do what you need to today, every today, for the rest of your life. Tomorrow takes care of itself when you do what you need to do today on a consistent basis.
/r/TheRedPill07/04/15 05:36 AM
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As much as that situation sucks for him emotionally, he'll respect himself once he finishes pulling himself back together. He did well. Hopefully he'll realize that his life has to be centered around himself and his happiness, and that while it is a great thing to have someone in your life who brings more happiness into it you don't want everything to be centered on her. I think he probably doesn't realize, yet, that he didn't take nearly enough time to get to know her before he proposed. You ha…
/r/TheRedPill07/04/15 05:27 AM
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Yep. Most people object to the no-frills presentation, because everyone's grown up in a frilly world.
/r/TheRedPill07/04/15 05:10 AM
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I like the bar strategy, that's smart. That happened completely by accident when I was working as a bouncer in Cincinnati... I definitely noticed that after about a month I was very comfortable in that environment. I am about 100% sure I would never have done that if I hadn't been working there. Looking back, I could have been more diverse. I ended up being good at parks, grocery stores, coffee shops and college. Wasn't ever great at the night life... not terrible, but definitely not as good as …
/r/TheRedPill03/12/14 05:49 PM
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(Alt+11) This is generally true, until you step up your game. Asia is insanely easy game. Source: I was in the US Navy, stationed in Japan for 27 months, and have been all over Southeast Asia, including Korea: Pusan and Pohang.
/r/TheRedPill03/12/14 05:24 AM
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As a 6'2 muscular and handsome male who was also socially inept as fuck, I have a piece of advice. Get David DeAngelo's "Double your Dating" materials. Buy it, torrent it, whatever. Start doing the homework. Step 1: Every single day for two weeks starting the next time you wake up (or today if it's not too late) say hello and start introducing yourself to random women in public places. Go somewhere you don't care about all that much. Go for the first 10 women you see, regardless of looks or age.…
/r/TheRedPill03/12/14 05:20 AM
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I think it's an unintended reaction to the rather strong wave of feminism that has rolled through Scandinavia. Most of their men, as a result, are actually not very masculine. The Danes are supposedly the "bad boys" of Scandinavia, but that's not exactly setting the bar a mile high, you know? Source: My girlfriend is Swedish, and lives on the border with Denmark. She, her brother, and I have had variants of this discussion many, many times. It is fascinating to hear the dichotomy between how the…
/r/TheRedPill03/12/14 05:11 AM
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Women aren't horrible people. Men have 'forgotten' how to be men. Women want men, not boys. It is pretty much exactly that simple, and that's just a damn fact. Men are never apologetic about themselves. That doesn't mean you don't apologize when you hurt someone's feelings on accident, it means that you never make excuses for who you are or what you have done, or where your path through life has taken you. Men can see when making a change is practical for better results in life, and start doing …
/r/TheRedPill03/12/14 04:46 AM
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I think we might just be using different words to say similar things. Girls appreciate being appreciated, but don't like us altering too much of our lives for them. The scarcity of contact is more often a good thing than a bad thing, to a pretty decent extent. I don't really like the way you state it because I don't think it is very relatable or really even makes sense, because the message the woman receives is very very different. A message saying "something is missing in my life" is bad. A mes…
/r/TheRedPill31/10/14 03:55 PM
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You can classify them however it works for you. I don't think wants are needs. To me, a want is something you are willing ti live without if (potentially extreme) circumstances demand it. Needs are those things that you simply are not willing to go without no matter what, and that you will absolutely either find a way to acquire or die in the attempt. Mongo definitely needs results. He will get results. He is not willing to get zero results, so he will figure out a way to get them.
/r/TheRedPill30/10/14 03:17 AM
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You're wrong. He is interested in women, but he is not a slave to them. He expresses his attraction to them when he feels like it, and he does so unapologetically. He's more of a buyer: He approaches evaluates, decides what he wants, and then starts the transaction on his terms, creating common ground and developing value with the woman in the process that makes her WANT to be purchased by him. This starts before he ever enters the room he's in, with his self-talk and confidence gained through e…
/r/TheRedPill25/10/14 02:17 AM
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This is just the difference between 1) a man who recognizes that it is ok to be attracted to a woman without being ashamed of it and realizes that this is actually his job and 2) a penis-wielder who is still brainwashed into thinking that he needs a woman's permission to be attracted to her and somehow manages to feel weird about said attraction, thus effectively failing as a man and successfully communicating his complete lack of self-value as a mating option. Mongo's not needy, he's communicat…
/r/TheRedPill25/10/14 01:58 AM
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No, the more you become her doormat the more contempt she will have for you. Women appreciate you doing things for them when it makes sense, but they will not appreciate you rearranging your entire life to revolve around them or giving up something that is important to you on any kind of a regular basis. That's just disrespecting yourself, and no woman worth being around finds that kind of self-treatment attractive. That's not nice, it's submissive and dishonest. There's a huge difference.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/14 01:44 AM
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I'd say that you don't want to hide the fact that you're attracted to her, but you also don't want to act like you need her. Continuing to talk and joke is showing interest enough, honestly. Every woman knows that a guy who is talking to her is generally interested in her sexually. We don't need us to go to any particular lengths beyond that to let them know. Being particularly earnest or overly attentive puts you in the "cute puppy" category more often than not, which is bad. Talking comfortabl…
/r/TheRedPill25/10/14 01:39 AM
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