Ah yes because you definetely know how being a dad is just because you saw it. Seriously why are you trying to womansplain how being a dad is. Men don't explain how being pregnant is
You literally say "basically dating up". Do you think OF is dating. Do you think when people watch porn they are "dating" with them. Do you think when people read smut books are "dating" writers.
you are acting more like a prostitute than an actual partner. You dont "earn" money by doing things you dont like. You sound very entitled, get therapy.