JulesB954 Archive

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5	Perfect girlfriend material? This guy should of never been dating to begin with if he wasn’t over his ex. That being said, if his ex can just show up on his doorstep and cry for financial help and he gives in, this is NOT a man you want to consider for a romantic relationship anyway. He has poor boundaries and likely has poor self worth which is not a masculine trait. It’s up to you whether you want to remain friends or not, but do not be anything other than platonic with this guy.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/11/22 11:00 PM
2	What is the RedPill Women’s views on men wearing nail polish? I never thought of it that way but you make a good point. I had to get my nails done last week because I was a bridesmaid in my friend’s wedding, and it makes the everyday tasks I do a lot more difficult!	/r/RedPillWomen	25/07/22 05:54 PM
3	CMV: Are open relationships fair for men? My views on the matter. My husband and I are polyamourous. As someone in the community, I will say that the men who are seeking relationships, not NSA hookups, usually have similar outcomes to the women in the community. Now, if all you want is casual sex/no relationship, then yes, your going to have a very hard time as most women are not into NSA hookups. For the very small population of women who are looking for that arrangement, their inboxes are flooded, so good luck.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/21 09:54 PM
5	Would it still bother you if your partner was willing to do sexual acts with exes, but wouldn't with you - but the sexual acts are ones you don't want at all? Does that also mean that if you married someone and later divorced, that you automatically "owe" marriage to your next significant other even though you don't want to get married again? Just because I did something once in the past does not mean I owe the same to any relationships going forward. We all have experiences we don't wish to repeat. As automous individuals we don't owe anyone our bodies, time, or resources. If the other person has a problem with it, than that's a compatibility issue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/21 01:54 AM
2	Would it turn you on if the dude acted kinda indifferent to sex? If said man and I are only in the initial stages of dating and not in a relationship at that moment, I would be estatic if he didn't bring up sex! He would definitely stand out from the rest of the men by wanting to get to know each other before becoming physically intimate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/21 07:07 PM
2	New boyfriend’s ex messaged me on FB saying he’s abusive. I have very mixed feelings about this. On one hand, it could be a vindictive ex who is immature and wants to sabotage him, but on the other hand, she did mention something very specific which isn't too common for people who are lying (at least in my experience). I personally think he is moving a bit fast in terms of securing commitment after one week of dating. My advice is to proceed with caution. For context, I was in a relationship unknowingly with a narcissist for a year and he also rushed c…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/09/21 06:18 PM
4	I don't understand why he left I'm going to guess that his "ex-wife" is really his current wife. You were a fantasy, a temporary escape from his everyday reality. He knew he could never follow through on all his promises, and once the pressure was applied, he bounced. He is probably on the internet again trying to manipulate another young woman. I could be wrong, but this is what I think is the most likely scenario.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/09/21 05:42 PM
17	Did I have sex too soon? One question your going to need to ask him is his relationship history. He is 36, has he ever been married? If not, has he had a couple long term relationships? If so, why did they end? Answers to these questions should help determine if he is really serious about marriage or not. From my experience, men in their late thirties who have never been married or at least engaged at one point, are usually commitment phobic. I know there are exceptions and specific circumstances to explain some of them…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/09/21 07:16 PM
5	Other women never antagonize me for wanting to be a SAHW, no matter their own career aspirations. The people who do are always men. Why? Your example of not being “pretty” or “feminine” enough as being the possible reason to be disqualified is kind of a bitchy response to be honest. I’ve had “average looking” friends who were strong in their faith and took caring for their husbands and children very seriously. They weren’t “10s” but their husbands adored them. I’m in no way saying that we should all let ourselves go; I have my daily routines to make sure I look my best. Just that looks alone does not determine if a woman is “wort…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/09/21 03:12 PM
2	How man hours a week do you spend on your appearance? About 21 hours a week. This includes running, showering, shaving legs, pedicures, doing 10 step Korean skincare between morning and evening, make-up, getting outfits coordinated, straightening hair if I'm going out, and looking at fashion, skincare and make-up trends/tutorials online. I'm 39 and usually get mistaken for late 20's /early 30's.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/21 01:24 AM
1	CMV: Men shouldn’t take dating advice from women online at all, until they consider what type of women they want to attract If you are living the life as you explain, why are you participating on the PPD subreddit?	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/21 01:12 AM
16	Where did the "Men only want sex and women only want attention" come from and why is it repeated so much? I'm not denying that there are women who wear makeup for men, just that they are not the only people they are wearing makeup for. Women in higher career positions want to look their best around the office, especially if they are facing clients. Also, a woman may be married or partnered, but still wants to look good when she meets up with her girlfriends so no one will think that she "let herself go". Another example is women who are on social media and/or do sales must maintain a particular imag…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/21 05:46 PM
–	You are not getting sex because people don't want to have sex with you, the rest is just noise I understand where you're coming from. At the end of the day though, we can have endless discussions but it's never going to change anything. Either a man or woman is attracted to somebody or their not. Unless a large group of people decide to act against what they really want and/or attracted to (sacrifice), everything will remain the same. Realistically, very few people are going to be willing to do this. More than likely, most will engage in conversation but would rather someone else make ths…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/21 06:44 PM
2	How can i be a redpill woman if my job is in the sex/p0rn field? If it was ONLY a choice between living on the streets and having our children go without food, shelter, clothing, medicine or doing the line of work your in, I think many of us would reluctantly choose the later. It is by no means ideal, along with not being in line with redpill women values. However, if you were destitute, and there was absolutely zero help you could seek, I certainly don't judge you at all. Especially since I've never been in that situation myself. As for whether it will cause…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/08/21 02:04 PM
7	Should I be concerned about reliability/lack of clear plan for the future, or let it go? Got it, that is nowhere as bad then what I originally thought. I heard some horror stories before and immediately thought the worst.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/08/21 07:48 PM
1	Should I be concerned about reliability/lack of clear plan for the future, or let it go? What was the context of you giving him money and then him forgetting to pay you back? In most cases (there are exceptions) masculine men wouldn't dare accept money from a woman they are seeing. Unless he got robbed and was stranded somewhere, this sounds like a red flag.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/08/21 07:07 PM
3	Not Only Conservatives, Feminists Too Want to Police and Control Sexuality Happy to hear that you got back on the right path and that your parents actively made sure that you focused on your goals and ambitions. I'm sure your parents are proud :)	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/21 05:04 AM
1	The Direct Approach vs the Indirect Approach Direct approach for sure. I shouldn't have to play detective on whether or not someone is interested or they are just extra friendly. If someone can't be upfront with what they want, then they are not worth my time or effort.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/21 06:14 PM
31	Not Only Conservatives, Feminists Too Want to Police and Control Sexuality So, what if your child wants to inject heroin? As a parent, it's my job to make sure my children do not go down any path that is destructive to their physical/mental health and/or their future. I really don't give a damm if they "want" to do such thing or not.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/21 05:48 PM
1	Women, what’s the difference between love bombing and desperation? Only a naive woman likes lovebombing. For women who have had narcissistic partners in the past, it makes us run! For example, I had a 2nd date with one guy who didn't even know my last name yet, but he told me he loved me. I darted out of there really quick!	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/21 07:23 PM
3	Empaths and narcissists tend to pair up, which is why people think women like bad boys and actual nice guys get treated badly Can you explain why the man would automatically be on his own in this circumstance? I would think most family and/or friends would be there for a man who was either being abused physically or mentally. At least I know I would 🤷‍♀️	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/21 03:20 PM
8	Guy asks to be fwb I do think it's disrespectful to ask someone to be FWB. If your going to continue the friendship, tell him that you see him as a "brother"; he won't ask again after that.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/08/21 10:38 PM
4	“Women should prioritize settling down in their 20s and career in their 30s”: this is bad advice in most cases. While I get what your saying, I disagree to an extent. There are only a set number of ideal years a woman can have a healthy pregnancy and deliver. However, you can start/restart careers at any time. I did graduate college but primarily focused on finding a husband and settling down when I was in my 20's. I got married at 27 and we had our 2nd and last child when I was 31. I am now 39, and am up for a promotion in my field. Career wise, I am behind some of my peers, but I have no regrets. The " …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/21 06:59 PM
0	Saying "life isn't fair" for dating inequality is the same as "life isn't fair" for economic inequality Any “solution” to the issue will require loss of freedom and autonomy, which would go both ways for men and women. Does anybody actually want that???? I definitely don’t! I wouldn’t want to be forced to be partnered with any man as I wouldn’t want any man to be forced to be with me. What exactly would be the point if someone is with you because the government is mandating it?	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/21 07:31 PM
5	Dating a man with an ex-wife/baby mama If he is making comparisons between you and his ex-wife, I'd personally move on. In these situations, he either is not over his ex or even worse, he is attempting to triangulate. Either way, I don't see long term potential here to be brutally honest. If he is not over his ex, he needs to sort that out for himself and be 100% healed before getting into another relationship.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/07/21 04:13 PM
2	Women often say that they can't be nice or polite to men because it's interpreted as romantic interest by the latter. Do you think that is true? I'm friendly towards everybody. Some people have mistook my friendliness as flirtation, and that is annoying. Irregardless, I'm still going to continue being my friendly self because I refuse to change a core part of me even if my intensions are misconstrued. I also give this same courtesy to men. If a man is being friendly, I simply see him as being friendly; I don't read into it much further. Unless he asks me out or attempts physical contact, I interpret his intensions as being friendly but p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/21 05:45 PM
2	Count Down: Book Review Oh wow, that is really sad 😞	/r/RedPillWomen	22/07/21 02:54 PM
4	Survival & Reproduction: Only Men Compete in Life "Girls often demand guys to send them food, cash app payments, etc for nothing more than the knowledge they did a kindness" Dude, I hate to break it to you, but you do know those are scams right??	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/21 06:12 PM
1	Men's unrealistic expectations of female sexuality is the problem, not women's "high standards" of physical attractiveness and the 80/20 rule. Society and marketing push these products on young girls. If one is immune to such influences, then good for them. If you fall into the majority, good luck not being influenced.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/21 03:21 PM
2	Men's unrealistic expectations of female sexuality is the problem, not women's "high standards" of physical attractiveness and the 80/20 rule. Unless your a trust fund kid or marry someone exceptionally rich, both men and women have to slave away to make a living or else risk living on the street. I don't see how that is gender specific?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/21 03:09 PM
2	How do you deal with the feeling of " but I deserve better" when it comes to settling down with a man? In order to give an informed answer, you should provide some details about your relationship and why you feel you are settling for less. For example, are the following present in your relationship: abuse, cheating, emotional unavailability, incapatibility, mismatch in long term goals? If so, anyone here would agree that you need to leave immediately! Or is this more of a situation where you see a couple friends post their multiple romantic dinners/ vacations on social media and you feel your boy…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/07/21 01:52 PM
3	It’s a terrible practice for women to fuck one dude quickly and make the guy she actually “likes” wait FDS does NOT endorse women "banging men they don't care about", because they are against casual sex period!	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/21 09:50 PM
7	Did you ever go to various dates with different guys at the same time? Not necessarily, there are toys to get that need met.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/21 01:52 PM
16	[deleted by user] There are very few women in all those categories that are looking for casual sex. If that wasn't the case, there would be a much more even gender ratio on dating apps such as Tinder and Bumble. Most women get next to nothing out of casual sex and they know it. If they have a simple itch that needs to be scratched, there are toys for that.	/r/seduction	16/07/21 08:57 PM
1	It's ok for a man to change his mind about wanting a relationship after he has sex with you, you are not entitled to commitment and people have the right to change their minds. You're no better than the men you criticize here. We gave it up? As a collective, maybe. Individually, no; not all of us did. No one individual (man or woman) can control what other members of their own gender do or not do. If they could, red pill forums would be obsolete as there wouldn't be any "simps" or "pick me's" to ruin dating for the rest of their gender. In today's dating market, the only individuals who can refuse to play by modern dating rules and win the game are those with the highest SMV/RMV. Everyone else (men and women) have to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/21 07:12 PM
1	Count Down: Book Review Yes, absolutely	/r/RedPillWomen	16/07/21 06:52 PM
15	Count Down: Book Review Thank you for taking the time to provide this review! This author is making a lot of good points as the evidence is undeniable. I also noticed and read a couple articles that female onset puberty is starting earlier then it has in previous decades which some have theorized that chemicals in our food and environment can be a culprit. I don't know if early onset puberty negatively affects future fertility in adulthood, hopefully not.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/07/21 01:42 PM
8	The False Myth of the Practice Wife, and How Not to Be Her I see your point and concede that it is probably best she just walk, then the ball is in his court. I do stand by everything else I said in regards to her wasting her time. Sadly I got downvoted for speaking the truth on a red pill subreddit 🤦‍♀️	/r/RedPillWomen	15/07/21 12:39 AM
10	The False Myth of the Practice Wife, and How Not to Be Her Give him an ultimatum. Explain that marriage is important to you and that he either needs to set a date or you walk. If you've been with him for 14 years doing all you listed, he is NEVER going to propose! Sorry if this sounds harsh but you basically gave him a 14 year free premium trial. Now your asking for payment? It's never going to happen with this guy, sorry. I want to be brutally honest because you already wasted so much time; you cannot afford to waste more! Best of luck to you.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/07/21 11:55 PM
1	How do you cultivate more feminine personality traits? I have always been pretty agreeable all my life. The only times I caught myself being more disagreeable is when I dated men who had more feminine energy. I could be wrong, but I think I became more aggressive/disagreeable because I secretly resented having to compensate with masculine energy. You may have a job that requires you to be in your "masculine" or maybe you have also dated men who were very feminine. It is possible that it is just your personality regardless of setting and circumstance…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/07/21 02:24 PM
1	“Withholding sex” from a date isn’t about getting men to act right. It’s about vetting out fuckboys. I have always offered to pay, so no issue there. As long as there are zero expectations on both sides, then it's all good.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/21 01:05 PM
3	“Withholding sex” from a date isn’t about getting men to act right. It’s about vetting out fuckboys. How exactly do you know that she is f*cking someone? I went 3 years without sex in my early 20’s (my choice) as have many other women gone without for extended time periods. Your argument is equivalent to a woman telling a man because he did not take her on a fancy dinner date that he is not interested and that he is for sure wining and dining another woman who he is really interested in.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/21 06:09 PM
2	Expired SMV By turbulent, are we talking physical, mental, and/or financial abuse? Or is it more everyday arguments about money, step-children, in-laws, etc? If it's the former, get the hell out now. If it's the later, then I would recommend marriage counseling before you make any rash decisions. Whatever you end up doing, don't base your decision on if there is going to be a replacement husband or not. To be brutally honest, I am sensing a lot of co-dependency on your end. If I'm wrong, I deeply apologize,…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/06/21 06:10 PM
2	Q4W Which one do you experience first: sexual attraction or romantic attraction? I always experienced romantic attraction first. Part of that would happen while I was communicating with the guy before the first date and the I would know by 2-3 dates if there was romantic chemistry. I wouldn't even think about sex until there was a mutual romantic spark. I never experienced sexual attraction without it. If your trying to understand the evolutionary reasons, it's simple. Going back many years, if a woman got pregnant by a man and he didn't stick around, she was pretty much scr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/21 12:58 AM
1	Please explain femininity to me in your best understanding It's hard to nail Femininity down in exact concrete terms, because it is a spectrum instead of a specific stereotype. Most would describe feminine energy as soft, caring, empathetic, good listener, cooperative, etc. We all have both masculine and feminine energy, and that is why no 2 people will be exactly alike. For example, I love to wear dresses and wear makeup when I go to work, but when I'm home with my husband and kids, I like to lay back in tee shirts, yoga pants, and flip flops. I enjoy …	/r/RedPillWomen	23/06/21 07:27 PM
4	What are Your Physical Deal Breakers in Guys ? Besides the usual like rotten teeth and unkept hair and beard (which I've seen from time to time) I would say shaved head/bald men. I feel terrible admitting that because there are awesome men out there without hair, it is just something that I'm not attracted to. There are many other women who are though, so to each their own. Other than that, I don't have any physical "deal breakers" as I have dated men of varying height and weight.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/21 02:25 PM
1	I am soon going to be intimate with my bf Normally I'm not this direct, but don't do it. Even though you are okay with sex before marriage, reading between the lines of your post I can tell that you are already comparing yourself to his past experiences and that you feel he has been patient "long enough". You should NOT be intimate under these circumstances; I already can tell you that your going to regret this! At the end of the day, there is no commitment unless the marriage certificate is signed. In this case, he can walk the morning…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/06/21 02:11 PM
9	How to make him want you without looking thirsty for him? Couple questions, how long were you to conversing before your first date and what are your ages if you don't mind me asking? If you to were talking and getting to know each other for a while beforehand, then there is a possibility that he is taking it slow. If he invited you for the date after a couple of days of talking, he could just be looking for sex since a fancy dinner is usually not the norm for a first date unless he is particularly wealthy. I am also a bit concerned that he messaged "we…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/06/21 01:59 PM
2	My bf's ex wife has killed herself Oh wow, I see. Thank you for providing those details. My goodness, this is just a horrible situation all around. One one hand I can emphasize with his ex-wife because my husband's and I first child was stillborn and I fell into a deep depression. Luckily I still managed to continue to work and did not resort to drugs, but if I didn't have the support of my husband aIong with therapy and anti-depressants, I probably would have committed suicide. I also emphasize with your boyfriend because he may…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/06/21 08:08 PM
3	My bf's ex wife has killed herself I'm very sorry to hear this, especially for the 8 year old son that she left behind. Did your boyfriend say why he blames himself for this? I'm asking because that is crucial information that will determine both how he will heal and more importantly, how his son will eventually heal. Without knowing the back story, I can only make various assumptions. Was the marriage toxic? Does he blame himself for his ex-wife resorting to drugs? I'm not saying this is the case, because it can be a variety of …	/r/RedPillWomen	17/06/21 06:50 PM
1	Women are way more guilty of the things they accuse men of than men are. I'm sorry to hear what she did to you, there is no excuse for that; she should be held accountable in the same way a man would. As for the motive your friend theorized, she may be right or it could be something else entirely. I would say that nobody (male or female) enjoys being devalued by the opposite sex, whether it's a man not being interested in an overweight woman or a woman rejecting a short man. It is unnecessary to write in your profile what you will not accept; all you have to do is sw…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/21 06:28 PM
1	How the dating world radicalizes people I don't like our vice president or the president for that matter. That aside, I can't say with absolutely certainty that she is where she is because she slept with the right people. Hypothetically, even if she did, it doesn't mean that 99% of women are able to do the same. There is always going to be politics, nepotism, and corruption in big corporations and governments where someone will occupy a position that they did not earn through their hard work; this applies to both men and women. The va…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/21 05:44 PM
1	How the dating world radicalizes people If that were true, there wouldn't be any working class/poor women. Plus, there is a reason why HR has a lot of say in who gets a promotion. The women that "sleep" their way to the top, are few and far in-between.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/21 03:02 PM
2	Dating women forces men to be superficial I disagree, when it comes to anyone (man or woman) wanting things that add perceived value like looks, money, and status, it all centers around the ego. Yes, both genders may want these things to attract members of the opposite sex, but even if someone is either already married or simply not interested in romantic/sexual relationships, the desire to out compete fellow peers and be held in high regard is still there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/21 05:46 PM
1	“Stop withholding sex if you want a relationship” is not advice that is geared toward helping you find a relationship. As long as you believe that the equal treatment goes both ways, at least that is what I'm concluding by your response, then there is no objection on my end.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/21 07:17 PM
2	“Stop withholding sex if you want a relationship” is not advice that is geared toward helping you find a relationship. That's hardly a threat. I'm not single, but if I were, there are lots of things I'd rather do than engage in a worthless one night stand.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/21 06:35 PM
3	“Stop withholding sex if you want a relationship” is not advice that is geared toward helping you find a relationship. Same logic applies to a man taking Stacey out on the town for a date vs meeting up with Becky for a walking date. Is he really interested in Becky? Probably not, he is likely just trying to get sex out of her. Bottom line, there is no equity in dating, and I'm definitely not a Stacey!	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/21 06:23 PM
1	“Stop withholding sex if you want a relationship” is not advice that is geared toward helping you find a relationship. "Lets be friends first", in these circumstances, no one can use the other for resources, because who treats their friends to dinner dates or has sex with them? They don't, because at that point, they are no longer "just friends". I see nothing wrong with being friends first as it provides an opportunity for both the man and woman to really get to know each other and no one can cry that they were tricked into providing sex or money.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/21 06:18 PM
0	“Stop withholding sex if you want a relationship” is not advice that is geared toward helping you find a relationship. Does that mean if a man took a prior woman out for lobster and bought her a bouquet of flowers, that I should demand the same type of date? Using the same logic, if this same man just takes me out for coffee, then by me having sex with him, I am getting a raw deal in comparison to the prior woman. All of this may make sense in "theory" but it's not applicable to the real world because everyone and every situation is different.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/21 06:10 PM
3	I feel like I do not emit that “feminine energy” that men are attracted to. Will I have trouble finding a partner? A lot of the ladies here have given you great advice. The only thing I will add is to remember that femininity is a spectrum, not a confined box. For example, it's not like you have to fit into a specific feminine stereotype or else you will be deemed masculine. Be you, but embrace your feminine side. Don't try to force yourself to be something your not as you will just end up angry and resentful. There are plenty of men who love "nerdy" women.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/06/21 01:43 PM
3	What is a woman’s value over 40? I am trying to be kind because I know that a lot of people are afraid of aging, including myself to a degree. For the record, I am 38 and married; my husband is 16 years older than me. My answer is that your value does not change just because you reached another decade, your priorities just change. For example, in your 20's, you may meet your spouse and get married. In your later 20's/early 30's, you two may start having children (building your family). By the time you reach 40, your children ma…	/r/RedPillWives	08/06/21 01:01 AM
2	I am planning on quitting my 6 figure career to be a housewife and I'm freaking the hell out Concerning the possible resentment from your husband, was he ever on board with you being a full-time stay at home wife or mother? If not, it is highly unlikely that his mindset will change. Not all men appreciate the benefits of a stay at home wife/mother (i.e. nice clean house, homemade meals, not having to arrange childcare, more feminine energy, less stress, etc) if they are mainly concerned with keeping up a specific lifestyle/finances. You know your husband best, but if I were to take a gu…	/r/RedPillWives	25/05/21 06:37 PM
4	Should I let go? If he was serious about a relationship with you, he would have made damm sure that you and him were on the same page concerning relationship status. He also seems wishy-washy/ hot & cold based on the copy of the conversation you posted; no man who loves you will put you through that. I've been through enough of those scenarios when I was younger (I'm 38 now) to know that they only lead to heartbreak. Sadly, there are men out there (not all men by any means) that use women as placeholders until t…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/04/21 08:46 PM
4	Should I let go? I'm going to get right to the point. Hoping for anything with this guy is a waste of time. Just end it and move on. Good luck to you	/r/RedPillWomen	16/04/21 06:16 PM
4	How can I follow the red pill women lifestyle and date without being exploited for my kind nature?? I think the only way to avoid being in a position to be taken advantage of is to refuse any dates at your home or his at least for the first 2 months. Don't let them tell you that they want to stay in because they are afraid of Covid, that's bullsh*t in the vast majority of cases. These same guys have no trouble living their lives outside their home otherwise. Also, don't let a guy take you out for drinks only at a bar that is not part of a restaurant; he will eventually ask if you want to go so…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/04/21 06:45 PM
1	If relationships are more valuable than wealth, then women have the most privilege I don't think it's necessarily a gender issue on who is at an advantage when it comes to relationships; it's whoever is perceived as high value. Average individuals who don't have the same degree of looks, money, and status, need to work a little harder to obtain a relationship as they have fewer options. If the OP is referring to casual sex, then hands down women have the advantage, but for long term relationships, I don't think any gender really has an easier time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/21 02:55 PM
2	Speaking as a woman - Don’t forget you’re always coming off as horny. "No matter what your approach is, we know you want to copulate with us" I have to respectfully disagree here. It would be extremely narcissistic of me to assume that every guy who spoke to me was trying to get me in bed. What if a man is just being friendly? What if there are common interests? At the end of the day, I can't read a man's mind, but I think it's safe to say that there are other reasons men may initiate conversations with women.	/r/seduction	13/04/21 03:04 AM
1	There is no implied social contract. Don’t do things you don’t want to do, and don’t expect anything in return. In theory, this advice makes perfect sense; it's the way it should be. However, in practice, it's a different story. Modern dating has basically become a dumpster fire for a variety of reasons, one of the biggest ones (at least in my opinion) is that individuals in the dating market have wants and expectations but they rarely communicate them upfront. Because of this, no one wants to get stuck with the short end of the stick, so they resort to covert contracts. Generally speaking, women don't wa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/21 02:57 PM
1	On Male Friends, Part II - Does the sex thing always get in the way? Do you think that your male friends want to have sex with you? I don't really think about it to be honest. I only have a couple of male friends and since they have been my friends long term (over a year) they feel more like brothers to me; I'm sure the feeling is mutual with them. Just to be transparent, my husband and and I are polyamourous, so if one of them was interested, I'm sure they would have said something a long time ago. Have you ever had sex with a male friend? Once, and it was a mis…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/21 07:47 PM
5	This sub talks a lot about low value males, but what about low value females? What are they like and what do you think their life is like? I think one concept that is greatly overlooked when it comes to deciding if someone is "low value" or not is individual needs. I'm 38 and married; I never even heard the terms high or low value till social media consumption peaked a couple of years ago. What is low value to someone may be irrelevant or even high value to someone else. For example, let's say a woman is traditional with the goal of being a stay at home wife and mother and not work a day outside the home. To a man who wants a tradi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/21 07:08 PM
1	Women are just as upset being friend-zoned as men are. I can attest to that from personal experience. And both sexes are right. If one person is in love and attracted sexually, the other person can't ask him or her to rewrite their feelings just so he or she could have a longer list of friends. In my opinion, I think "friend-zoning" depends when said individual makes their feelings known. If not much time has passed since meeting and there is a mismatch from what we want out of each other, I think parting ways is the best solution for both our sakes. If I developed a long term friendship with a man (1 year plus) and suddenly that man confesses romantic feelings, I would have a lot of trouble transitioning from friendship because at that point the man feels more like a "brother" to me; …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/21 06:07 PM
2	Men are less monogamous, so claiming “Men communicate love through sex and don't separate the two” is a lie. As weird as this sounds, that seems to actually be the case for a lot of couples I knew. The men got bored of women they easily got sex from and continued to chase validation from women they rarely got sex from. I don't know if this common on a grander scale or if it was just people I personally knew.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/21 09:46 PM
3	How to be a better wife I wasn't implying that one needs "permission", just that husbands and wives alike normally like to run their plans by each other. For example, if I want to have lunch with one of my friends on the weekend, I'll ask my husband "do you mind if I go grab lunch with Lisa for a couple hours?" This is just showing common courtesy to my husband. 9 times out of 10 he says "of course, have fun!" But there could be other times where he may need to be on a call for work and won't be able to watch our 2 chi…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/02/21 03:44 PM
17	How to be a better wife Encourage him to spend time with his friends from time to time, men love this as some are afraid to ask for time away from the home	/r/RedPillWomen	25/02/21 01:23 AM
0	How common are women with traditional family virtues? Traditional women are not impossible to find here in the US, but they are far less common. If your going to move here, your chances of meeting and courting one will improve greatly if you live in a more rural area, maybe subarbs. Not sure if your religious or not; if you are, being an active member of your church will also allow you the opportunity to meet like-minded ladies. I think part of the reason why traditional women are not as common here in the states, is that the US is very hyper indiv…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/02/21 08:22 PM
6	How do I make my boyfriend feel better about not being the sole provider? This is a tough one. I would reiterate that you appreciate how motivated he is to be a provider and that you know that he is the type of man to do whatever it takes. Whatever you do, don't look up jobs and suggest what he should apply to; he will find that demasculating. Instead, since you mentioned he likes physical labor, compliment his physique and remind him that his skills/talents are in high demand and you have 100% faith that he will find that job soon. I dated someone at one point who di…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/02/21 03:40 AM
4	Ladies, how do you initiate sex while still remaining in your feminine role? I've experienced this in one of my past relationships. My ex was on a high dose of antidepressants which significantly decreased his drive. If your boyfriend is going through something similar, than there is absolutely nothing you can do. It would be equivalent to preparing a gormet meal for someone with no appetite. If there are no health problems and/or medication interferencs, then it's likely one of the following possible scenarios: he is way too stressed and working a lot, he is addicted to…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/02/21 01:23 AM
20	How do you know if you’ve been settled for? In my opinion, this is completely normal. In the beginning of the relationship, there is always going to be more sex. Similarly as a guy would show more romantic gestures in the beginning, but then things will eventually stabilize as you progress in the relationship. Having very frequent sex can be exhausting, especially when juggling other responsibilities; it is simply not sustainable long term (disclaimer: there are always exceptions). As long as the sex hasn't come to a stop all together, yo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/21 10:30 PM
11	Female Dating Strategy subreddit doesn't offer any actual strategy to find and keep HMV (High Value Men) The main focus of the sub is to become the best version of yourself and to first and foremost love and respect yourself to not allow anyone to use you for sex, validation, etc, which is unfortunately common in our modern dating environment. The sub, at least in my opinion, serves as more of a "hospital" to get rid of toxic partners, not accept bad behavior, and to no longer be codependent, which I think is a great thing. It is not a sub (at least not yet) to be used for lifelong dating/marriage …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/21 03:58 PM
4	How to deal with extremely blue pill advice from my parents? I would tell your parents that you respect their advice, and while education and career is important, building a family is important as well. You are young now, but in order to have a successful career AND marry and have children, your time in your 20's has to be used very WISELY. You can still pursue higher education while making time to find your life partner. At the end of the day, as women, we have biological clocks. You have the rest of your life to climb the corporate ladder if that is wha…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/02/21 07:08 PM
13	Is it bad to contact a man I had ghosted years ago? In my opinion, you should only contact him if your 100% sure you want to pursue a relationship with him if he forgives you. If your unsure, don't do it. Getting rejected twice by the same person just sucks.	/r/RedPillWives	05/02/21 02:03 AM
3	Women hate the Black Pill because they hate Incels. NOT because they don't agree with it. I'm not personally triggered by the Black Pill, I just don't think that a lot of their views are based in reality. No one can make claims against an entire gender; we are all individuals with different upbringings, values, personalities, etc. I actually briefly dated a guy who admitted he was "Black Pilled"; we got along pretty well and had chemistry on our first few dates. We were both conservative and held similar Egalitarian views. In retrospect, I think the only reason it didn't work out was…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/21 02:21 AM
6	The issue isn't buying things for your girl. The issue is that you feel ENTITLED that I buy YOU things BECAUSE you're my girl. It may be the area you live in; I'm in the Midwest and every man with the exception of one (who I later found out was a registered sex offender) was just a normal everyday gentleman. I'm truly sorry for your experiences, but men like the ones you describe should be the rare unfortunate exception, not the rule. I would suggest maybe showing your dating profile to a trusted family member/friend. Maybe unbeknownst to you, there could be something that is attracting these types of men. I wish you th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/20 03:55 PM
3	What‘s your thoughts on first dates in bars? Nothing necessarily wrong with meeting at a bar for a first date, just make sure not to fall for the line "How about we go somewhere more quiet" after an hour or so. The "somewhere more quiet" 9 times out of 10 is his place.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/10/20 03:12 PM
2	Is romance fun/a goal or is it a chore on the way to better things? I can't speak for all women, but that sounds like a sht test to filter out f*k boys.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/20 06:57 PM
2	A lot of men can't "be themselves" as women often offer as advice to dating I could be wrong, but doesn't combining "casual" & "no sex" = friendship? That's no where close to a relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/20 12:36 AM
19	A lot of men can't "be themselves" as women often offer as advice to dating I truly think very few people (men & women) have the luxury to "be themselves" out in the dating world. Women have to put on masks to. One example of this would be our intentions when creating a dating profile. Most women are looking for an actual relationship. However, we are told if we include that in our profile that our pool would significantly decrease. So often we have to put on a "mask" that we are carefree, lets "see where this goes" people who will not get attached after having casual s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/20 11:19 PM
1	For those who have a tall preference, what does seeing a tall guy feel like to you? The only thing a taller guy would make me feel is maybe more feminine, but definitely no urge to have sex just for that reason alone. Height however is not a deal breaker for me. I actually have a physical relationship with a guy who is 5'5, but pretty alpha for the most part.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/20 12:37 AM
1	When dating women, it’s all about how a man makes her feel in his presence- looks matter, but they aren’t a woman’s top priority! Great question; I probably should have included in my post that I often resort to intuition while on dating apps. Profile descriptions and pictures say a lot about someone; in most cases the phone calls and texts that followed confirmed my gut feelings and I ended up meeting some great men as a result who made me feel extremely at home in their presence. I have only been wrong a handful of times; part of it being oversight on my end, but it happens. I really hope the OP and I are not the excepti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/09/20 02:44 AM
8	A question on pair bonding ... Hi, I have to respectfully disagree that she is not taking responsibility here. No where did she claim that she partook in those escapades against her will. She decided to leave that lifestyle behind in the same way that some PUAs get disgusted and choose to settle down. Also, I would advise not to base your worth on what a particular group of men think. There are some (not majority) of RP men that will find fault with you even if your life resembles Little House on the Prairie because "AWALT"; …	/r/RedPillWomen	09/09/20 05:40 PM
9	Why should women even bother to enter monogamous relationships with the average man anymore? I agree 100% with your first 3 paragraphs; we should not make any demands of men that we cannot fulfill ourselves. I do however respectfully disagree with the notion that "love" is all we need. Trust me, I wish that were the case! I've however witnessed so many cases of love going out the window once real hardship entered a relationship/marriage.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/09/20 05:29 AM
2	Male friends I say if said male friend was your friend before you and your husband got together/married, he's basically "grandfathered" in. I only say this because at least for me, if I have a close platonic friendship with a guy for more than a year, I basically consider him extended family and /or like a brother. The same goes for him. These friendships however are few and far between. I think once you are in a committed relationship/marriage, making new male friends can be problematic. Only exception woul…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/09/20 02:28 AM
5	Is it ever worth it to wait for a married man? Do not wait for anybody! Especially when you are in your 20's and want to eventually settle down and have a family. Time stops for no one! Please, speaking as a 38 year old woman myself, believe me when I tell you that your 20's are going to be over in a blink of an eye. I won't go into my thoughts about him being married (I'm assuming it's NOT an open marriage), as some fellow ladies here already told you the same. My main takeaway is that you should not waste another second of your precious yo…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/09/20 06:58 PM
29	Most men secretly want a homemaker I could be wrong, but I think location may have something to do with it? I think the more rural the area, the better chance the man will be more welcoming to the idea. If you live in a very progressive urban area, well good luck.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/09/20 12:08 AM
1	When dating women, it’s all about how a man makes her feel in his presence- looks matter, but they aren’t a woman’s top priority! I'm 5'5 and 162lbs; I'm not skinny by any means but I am currently working on losing weight. Also as I said in my first paragraph, I am pretty average. I have no idea if my standards would be different if I were a "10", but I still think that looks would take a backseat to personality and comparability.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/09/20 05:43 AM
1	When dating women, it’s all about how a man makes her feel in his presence- looks matter, but they aren’t a woman’s top priority! What reasons are those?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/09/20 04:02 AM
2	When dating women, it’s all about how a man makes her feel in his presence- looks matter, but they aren’t a woman’s top priority! I didn't know how much he weighed before I met him as he only had photos from the shoulders up in his photo, but we talked a bit before meeting and by the time we did, his weight didn't matter to me because I really liked who he was as a person	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/20 11:52 PM
1	When dating women, it’s all about how a man makes her feel in his presence- looks matter, but they aren’t a woman’s top priority! I'm not lying; I absolutely have no reason to	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/20 11:50 PM
5	When dating women, it’s all about how a man makes her feel in his presence- looks matter, but they aren’t a woman’s top priority! I agree, looks were never my top priority. I'm pretty average looking myself and I won't ever require anything from a man that I can't offer myself. I also agree 100% that it comes down to how a man makes you feel in his presence. I'm currently talking to 2 men I've met on a dating app. One is about 400lbs with an average income, but is very fun to be around, very easy to talk to, and makes me feel special. The other one is 5'6 with an average build, also average income; we've had a couple late …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/20 11:02 PM
5	Be honest: Males and females with no kids do you automatically disqualify someone if you find out they have a kid? I had a friend who thought like that initially; he however was not high value. He was divorced, had a child, and had trouble maintaining employment. He got smacked in the head with reality with rejection after rejection, so changed his standards pretty quick!	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/20 05:39 PM
1	Age Difference: how young is too young? It is always possible; you may be included in the small percentage of cases where it works out. If your responsible, mature, know what you want, and go for what you want, you will have a good foundation for building a relationship with a woman in her 30's. Looking back, my ex was definitely immature. It sounds like your heart and intentions are in the right place; I truly wish you the best in your situation!	/r/RedPillWomen	25/08/20 04:51 AM
1	Age Difference: how young is too young? Yes, during the relationship, my then b/f would often run things by me and/or ask what he should do in a given situation based on my "experience". After all the guidance I offered, it no longer felt like we were a couple conquering life together; it felt like I was playing that "mentor" role a lot more often than I liked. As for the challenges, there were aot of times when I wouldn't even bother telling him about any issues I was having at work or with a friend for example, because I just assume…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/08/20 10:42 PM
11	Age Difference: how young is too young? I actually dated a man for 2 years, he was 23 and I was 37. I would love to tell you that it worked out but it didn't. At the end of the day, it will be hard for you not to see her as a girlfriend/mentor. It will be completely different if let's say you were in your 40's and she was in her 50's, but your just starting out as an adult. There are always the "exceptions" to the rules, but generally these relationships do not work. If your serious about seeking a marriage minded woman you can start …	/r/RedPillWomen	24/08/20 06:17 PM
1	Women that give you mixed signals or aren't really too interested in you, or keep you waiting when you message them aren't worth your time. I agree, if someone is not as in to you as you are to them, your a placeholder. Sad but true, I've been there myself and it sucks. Only option is to leave so you don't end up wasting time, energy, and resources on someone who will dump you in a nano second the second someone (they think) better comes along.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/20 05:28 PM
6	Mainstream deeming men with limited earning prospects "ineligible for marriage" or "unmarriageable" demonstrates that women seek to cast aside their own traditional gender roles while continuing to impose them on men. "Unilateral imprisonment". I don't believe men go to war just so women wouldn't have to. They go for several reasons : 1) They are patriotic and want to serve their country 2) They want the benefits such as free college, pension, etc 3) They got drafted I "maybe" could see a man taking his wife's or sister's place ( if women become included in the draft) but definitely not for random women. As for a woman doing the same for her husband or brother, I think maybe a small minority would, depending on the circumstance. It wou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/20 12:16 AM
4	CMV Being "used" for sex/your wallet is the price of admission. Simple solution, no one buys anyone dinner or has sex till a relationship is established. Problem solved	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/20 12:58 AM
1	Female empowerment takes power away from men who want to exploit women. Dude, first of all, I did date and was engaged to a 5’4 man who had thinning hair; we broke up because of differences in life goals, not his appearance. Secondly, would the man you describe above really be content in a relationship where he is simply the woman’s meal ticket? If I were a man, I sure as hell would not be!	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/20 11:06 PM
0	Female empowerment takes power away from men who want to exploit women. Your comparing apples and oranges. You can be fiscally conservative/ advocate personal responsibility, while being 100% egalitarian.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/20 11:02 PM
1	How to I (25f) end the relationship with someone(35m) unstable? I said, “if she is worried about her safety”, then to ghost him; I offered other solutions first. If I sound harsh, it’s because I hate seeing young women waste their precious time on dead ends; I know way to many childless women past 35 because they wasted their time! You may think I was harsh, but believe me, I was actually holding back a lot!	/r/RedPillWomen	11/03/20 11:42 PM
8	How to I (25f) end the relationship with someone(35m) unstable? First, get a new job ASAP. Then tell him that it doesn’t look like his long term plans align with yours. Don’t worry about upsetting him, he is 35; it is unlikely his first break-up. You will then want to move out ASAP; move in with your parents/sibling/friend/roommate, whomever; just get out of that house. Also, do not feel bad. He is 10 years older than you, he should be the one providing for you. You are 25, and in the prime of your life (you have options). Don’t waste another second of your …	/r/RedPillWomen	07/03/20 12:14 AM
2	Why do women have to do EVERYTHING nowadays? I totally get that women should not have to do it all; it is exhausting. However, you still should finish your degree; because regardless of what we choose, we all need a plan B for our lives. The sad reality is that even if we have a provider husband, we can lose him to either death or abandonment. In those cases, especially living in an individualistic society, we have to have a back-up plan. I wish we didn’t have to worry about such things, but it is what it is.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/03/20 12:46 AM
3	Modern Dating is a Problem of Systems I have to respectfully disagree with point 1; at least where I live. I know and see men everyday where I work who are below 5’5, not conventionally attractive, make below $40,000.00, etc; they are all married or in long term relationships! I don’t understand where this concept of men not being good enough for women is coming from.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/20 07:11 PM
1	Women hook up with only the top guys because hooking up would be completely useless otherwise. The main reason for this is that every "count" is going to be held against a woman. Some women are conscious of this, others aren't. If we are going to incur a "value deduction" from a hookup, we are going to make it worth our while! For example, if someone is going to risk going to jail, are they going to go for a petty theft or one where they profit a lot more? Either way, it's a stain on their record! I'm in no way saying that this principal is right or that others should engage in sex indisc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/20 03:14 AM
1	Are looks the only way guys measure weather shes a high value women or not? Why did you let them go?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/19 12:35 AM
2	Are looks the only way guys measure weather shes a high value women or not? Lol, good luck with that list	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/19 02:29 PM
2	Book recommendation for woman antagonistic to traditional femininity I would recommend the blog “Mrs.Midwest”; it is written by a young woman living in western Michigan who is a full time homemaker. She is extremely tolerate of individuals who take different roads in life and/or have differing opinions; but at the same time defends femininity and provides real world examples of why society pushing ” masculinity” in women is actually sabotaging them. She also has a YouTube channel that is worth checking out; I have learned quite a bit 😊	/r/RedPillWomen	18/11/19 11:39 PM
1	What is the "real" N count for women these days? In my opinion, the “count” should not matter as much as the sexual health of said individual. For example, I had a friend whose count was ONE , but it was the wrong one because he ended up with a STD. However, I knew another guy whose count was 24, but he was 100% clean. Yes, I understand that high counts can still make potential dates nervous and unwilling to move forward; but I think more emphasis needs to be placed on the sexual health, because that is what has the potential actually harm you…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/19 11:15 PM
2	Boyfriend not dominant enough If it is just decisions like where to go to eat or what to have for dinner, I wouldn’t worry to much about it. I’m assuming he is young as well, so he likely just has an agreeable personality. However, if he can’t make important decisions like where to work or what to study, then that can be problematic and I would suggest you have a serious discussion with him. If it is the former, then just start making decisions and after a while, just let him know that you care about what he likes and that y…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/10/19 01:30 AM
8	Why we should admire men Men do sacrifice a lot, but so do many women. Most households are dual income.	/r/RedPillWives	24/10/19 01:17 AM
1	Why can't some women just be honest with their sexual pasts? I suppose everyone’s definition of a ”high count” is going to vary. I read one post where a guy stated that any number higher than 2 was a ” slut”, which I thought was a bit ridiculous. I’ll admit that I have always been conscientious about my numbers, and even turned down sex because of it. One thing I don't quite understand though is some men’s obsession with low count numbers but at the same time they complain about not getting laid. If men are vocal about not wanting us women to have a lot o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/19 08:27 PM
2	Is he interested or just wants sex?! That makes sense, anyway, I wouldn’t worry about him any longer. You did the right thing; you owed him nothing. It’s better you found out sooner rather than wasting a lot of time with him. Remember, you are in your prime years and have options. I hope you meet a nice marriage minded gentleman soon that has the same values :)	/r/RedPillWomen	09/08/19 08:23 PM
1	Is he interested or just wants sex?! In my opinion, if a man is in his thirties and hasn’t settled down yet, it’s a red flag. There are exceptions, but I think it’s a sign that they are used to getting sex without commitment.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/08/19 06:56 PM
3	How do you encourage your girlfriends not to wait to start a family? This is a tough one; I'm sure you love your friends and that you don't want to see them lose out on motherhood. I would probably feel the same way if it were my close friends. I would say if you happen to have a family member, co-worker, friend of friend, etc that you know is having a hard time conceiving in their late thirties or beyond, maybe casually bring it up in conversation? Something along the lines of "feeling really bad" after hearing about that woman's struggle. Maybe that will open t…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/03/19 03:48 AM