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Jupi_ter/r/askMRP26/10/18 12:55 AM
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Hey Thanks - Really appreciate. I know what needs to happen, I'm actually surprised I let it slide, I'm really just doing it for me at this point. I switched to Greyskull btw. Just did first few sessions, really like it. Feels much better than Stronglifts. 5x5 squat was beginning to bother. Also nice to bring in some other movements. How do you handle to AMRAP? How much poor form do you tolerate? To really squeeze the juice out I have to get my self to a point where I don't like the way form is …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/20 12:50 AM
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The MRP Guide by Steel has an image that really helped me. I go back to it from time to time: "Drink your cup of STFU. Wash it down with some more STFU. And don’t forget to STFU." When my wife tries to engage me in some shit, I imagine a sort of Nescafe ad, me holding the cup, staring in the distance and just drinking from my cup, completely satisfied in my choice to STFU. You should definitely try that. Later also learn to talk to your wife about important things and take care of her, now just …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/20 12:51 AM
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So solid. Thank you so much.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/20 12:44 AM
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Rambo gauge going off 100%. It's excellent you are in great physical shape, that means you have discipline and high value. Your progress can be much, much faster than average, months versus years. There is a clear pattern in this place where people that display high levels of discipline (with actual results) in their life prior to MRP, can go 10X the speed because some of their mental models are just a lot better to begin with. HoA is the best example of that. But there is also a pattern of peop…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/20 12:34 AM
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u/Blarg_Risen that is a very good way to look at it. It's a mixture naturally, in some regards she has matured, in some other, really not. You can actually visibly notice the 19YO emerging from time to time. But what is your take on moving that? Should we take up the responsibility of moving that, of leading to a new place? My feeling is there is a limit to it. My wife did not actively lead me to a new place, but the shock of rejection / divorce fortunately led me here.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/20 12:00 AM
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36YO, wife 39YO, 1 kid (6) Lifts (5x5) - SQ 200, DL 210, BP 140, OHP 110, ROW 135 Height: 6’2’ Weight: 187 Pounds Goal review at bottom Readings: Everything in the Sidebar except 48 Laws and SGM. Several multiple times. Current readings: Greyskull LP General / fitness Training went out of the window past week. My discipline was not there, I made up reasons. I noticed that when I finally got to the gym yesterday my drive was so so. I think this is because I’m no longer seeing fitness as a CC for …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 05:36 AM
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36YO, wife 39YO, 1 kid (6) Lifts (5x5) - SQ 200, DL 210, BP 140, OHP 110, ROW 135 Height: 6’2’ Weight: 187 Pounds Goal review at bottom Readings: Everything in the Sidebar except 48 Laws and SGM. Several multiple times. Current readings: N/A General I’m definitely going through phase 2 anger as describer HERE. There have been moments when I’ve been furious with my self for putting up with my shit. The positive is that it’s not uncontrolled and un-directed, I’m figuring out the actual meaning of …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 01:48 PM
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It probably took me 4 years to properly heal from the trauma of having a special needs kid. He did not die and I did not have to go through a divorce at such a time. Your trauma is next level. Take it one day at a time. Try to post on OYS, but yours is the "Heal Your Shit" version. Self-care is priority number 1. Ppl here will support you. Once you have healed enough, you can switch to OYS and learning some lessons. Start eating again. I just came out of a self-inflicted long depression that was…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 01:49 AM
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The logistics reason that gyms here were closed some cumulative 6+ months due COVID, but the real reason is that I was not committed at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/20 10:25 PM
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36YO, wife 38YO, 1 kid (6) Lifts (5x5) - SQ 175, DL 210, BP 140, OHP 105, ROW 120 Height: 6’2’ Weight: 184 Pounds Goal review at bottom Readings: Everything in the Sidebar except 48 Laws and SGM. Several multiple times. Current readings: N/A General An excellent week, focussed and high energy. There is one thing that stood out, the idea of giving 100%. This came from Bigger, Leaner, Stronger - the section on mindset made me reflect that in my whole life I’ve never given 100%. I’ve put effort, I’…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/20 05:31 AM
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Yeap, thanks. I remember that post. It completely makes sense. I'll study and apply.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/20 02:30 PM
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Thanks - I follow 5x5. What do you suggest? I started with 5x5 and stuck to it. I like it because of the simplicity. Happy to try something different, but it's got to be something I can readily put in autopilot. Let me know, thanks for the advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/20 02:26 PM
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36YO, wife 38YO, 1 kid (6) Lifts - SQ 170, DL 205, BP 135, OHP 105, ROW 115 Height: 6’2’ Weight: 183 Pounds Goal review at bottom Readings: Everything in the Sidebar except 48 Laws and SGM. Several multiple times. Current readings: Bigger Leaner Stronger; The second mountain. Late I had an accident Monday and it threw me off for a few days. I was shaken. I decided to not let my self be shaken, but to put it behind and get on with life. Important to notice again how the view and mindset I take of…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/20 02:58 PM
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Cheers
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/20 02:48 AM
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Thanks for the reminder "expected limits" mindset. You are right it's self fulfilling. ​ I remember the first time I squat more than 100KG I was shocked I could do it. But I spend way too much time not doing it because I thought it so...
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/20 01:03 AM
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I will read the book you suggested in October. For now, I'll stick with 5x5 because "autopilot". I expect to plateau at 240-250 squat, 3 months from now. That's where I got stuck last time. I don't know what to do once at a plateau, but I have time to figure that out, for now just stick with the basic work. I was going to ask you what should be my body weight gain target, and you've answered that, thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/20 07:08 AM
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I'm not following you. Do help me understand, honest request. I used the *second person because I found it good to narrate the idea, but my point is specific to my marriage and how I failed to internalise the meaning of creating attraction / being attractive and my responsibility over that. I’ve been following the program but have also been lazy, particularly around game, sort of like: “Look i’ve upped my clothes and now wear cologne, are you going to start fucking me?” which is a poor mindset (…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/20 06:54 AM
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36YO, wife 38YO, 1 kid (6) Lifts (5x5) - SQ 160, DL 195, BP 130, OHP 100, ROW 110 Height: 6’2’ Weight: 181 Pounds Goal review at bottom Readings: Everything in the Sidebar except 48 Laws and SGM. Several multiple times. Current readings: Bigger Leaner Stronger. Nutrition Food… I’m thinking about food a lot. Since October 2019 I have been practicing Intermittent Fasting and progressively reducing caloric intake. I lost a good amount of weight (I did not get shredded) and learnt to do without food…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/20 03:52 AM
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Shoot I forgot to reply to you. Thanks for feedback. You are 100% correct around the desire/dread sex analysis. It something that was not clear in my mind for a long time. I've not been gaming, and getting butt-hurt at no sex, but my dread factor is really low. So what the hell am I expecting? Stupid really. Work work work - cheers
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 08:05 AM
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That's all right, but don't delete your comments. Leaving them there will help triple the dose of pain/cringe and help you get better. Cheers.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/20 05:39 AM
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Mh... (strongly nodding head). Yeap. Sure. Got it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/20 01:39 AM
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Ah... Refreshing! Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 05:32 AM
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36YO, wife 38YO, 1 kid (6) Lifts - SQ 150, DL 190, BP 150, OHP 90, ROW 95 Height: 6’2’ Weight: 180 Pounds Goal review at bottomReadings: Everything in the Sidebar except 48 Laws and SGM. Several multiple times. Current readings: Bigger Leaner Stronger. General Work was demanding and 90% of my attention went there. Had a “leadership challenge” of sort, I thought team was shit testing me, actually they were signalling a problem in one department that I had to jump on. Finally small problem, but on…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 11:18 PM
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Thanks u/impatientZen. I'm reading Bigger, Leaner, Stronger now and check it out GSLP after that. I take your advice on weight. Cheers
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/20 03:08 PM
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36YO, wife 38YO, 1 kid (6) Lifts - no idea, gyms closed for months at this point. Going back this week. Height: 6’2’ Weight: 179 Pounds Goal review at bottom Readings: Everything in the Sidebar except 48 Laws and SGM. Several multiple times. Current readings: Bigger Leaner Stronger, The Long and the Short of it. General Last OYS Johneyapocalypse gave me perspective on why I can be such a sad motherfucker. Too much pressure. It’s a simple lense to look at my life and see the error. Manage the pre…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 03:11 AM
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This thread has consumed me. But it has helped me so much too. Strength and honour to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/20 08:32 AM
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On the issue of honest connection. I have honest connection with my wife all the time these days. It's a very recent development. For years the connection was flawed/insincere because of my insecurities. My connection is in the moment, it really is, if I make it about some cosmic expectation, then... "puff" it's gone. When you'll get a girl that loves you in passion (you will) and you talk about all the elephants, she will nod her head, and you will think "Yes! I fucking got this" and when the p…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/20 01:26 AM
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Well look, if you tell me fidelity is not really something that counts in your way forward, then I don't think you are running into a wall. Otherwise yes, we debated that a long time. And to be clear I'm not saying "hey girl, do as you fucking like" no, no. I'm saying let's keep things cool and let's not get too hung up, it's all a big joke. When you write about your relationship now, you do sounds "done", that's seldom manufactured. You can only know that, and making a choice is always a fine t…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/20 07:10 PM
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The exchange you and I have had has been extremely useful to me. It has helped me align a number of thoughts that have been roaming in my head. So I’ll continue in that spirit. I have no intention of trolling, so if this degenerates into trolling we will call it a day. Response: I don’t care if my wife has had an affair, perhaps she has, as I stated before the odds are definitely stacked in favour. You know what I care about? Respect. If my wife truly disrespects me, I’m going to dislike her for…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/20 03:52 PM
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I think the BEST thing for you now is to let it sit. Just be, just be. You'll be just fine.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/20 05:25 AM
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And to close the story, the husband may find our about the beans, have an ounce of self-respect, ditch the bitch and start afresh. And you know what he will find? More beans. In my opinion, you gotta learn to live with the beans first, then you can have real self-respect, and yet more beans.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/20 04:53 AM
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Roger u/HornsOfApathy - I preamble the below by being clear that I put more stock in your experience than mine, because of the actual results you have achieved, which are far superior to mine. After I wrote the below I imagined a level of evil psychopathy were someone would purposefully try to hurt through hints, innuendo, action, I imagine it's possible, but rather rare. I've only seen it once at work, and it was dirty, but absolutely laughable in hindsight. I strongly doubt this is what u/Impa…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/20 04:17 AM
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PART 2 Sorry, very important - the part about honesty. I'm not suggesting you AT ALL to talk to her to get her to spill the beans. The beans don't fucking matter.... This made me crack up.... Ok back to it... The beans don't matter at all. See my other response below, looking for certainty of fidelity is a fool's errand. No-one wants to marry a whore, I don't encourage you do, but no-one can marry Virgin Mary. No one. You are 100% thinking in BP terms, so forget everything about your progress, y…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/20 09:30 AM
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PART 1/2 (part 2 10X more important) Hey sparring notes that's the point. I don't know if I've been cucked. I had the hunch it had to be so several times because... reasons.... If I told you my reasons you would think I'm retarded, taking a step back, I would think the same. What I'm certain of is that the odds are strongly in favour of her having cheated, I really sucked (notice past tense). Even if I were awesome, RP theory tells us the odds are stacked against fidelity and you can't do shit a…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/20 09:14 AM
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I'm attracted to your post because as u/2wo2wo3hree pointed out we have similar problems. So clearly take it all with a pinch of salt. I like that you feel confident you are ready for divorce, I cannot offer anything on that, but consider the possibility that you will never be able to "trust" a woman again until you handle your shit. No matter what RP proposes, that is a horrible way to live, and it's your decision to live like that, or not. Nihilism is a really shit choice of paradigm for a goo…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/20 02:13 AM
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A sage man of MRP offered me this while having practically the same thought patterns: "First, being worried about cheating is inherently in her frame. You can't control her. You do you. Remember: she's not yours, it's just your turn. Enjoy your turn while you have it. If it lasts 60+ years until death, great. If it lasts 2 weeks more, enjoy those 2 weeks while you've got them. Second, if you can't enjoy the time while you've got it and you're worried about your marriage possibly being over, you …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 09:41 AM
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I am incredibly thankful for you taking the time to write this and for offering your help. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 02:31 AM
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36YO, wife 38YO, 1 kid (6) Lifts - no idea, gyms closed for 5 weeks at this point. Height: 6’2’ Weight: 179 Pounds Goal review at bottom Readings: Everything in the Sidebar except 48 Laws and SGM. Several multiple times. Current readings: Bigger Leaner Stronger, The Long and the Short of it. General The last OYS and having to write out real goals made me feel like shit. Reconciling my stories with the reality of what I need to do was very, very uncomfortable. This is what I journaled: “I felt li…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 01:21 AM
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You are a poor immigrant with no social status and almost zero support structures around you. That's really, really, fucking hard, but you made it your reality, not the system, not society, not your wife, not your parents, not your teachers. You did. Your relationship is not the problem, you are entering late adulthood and the walls are closing in. Your focus is building a life over the next 5 years that makes sense. Sexual strategy is meaningless for you. You need life strategy. Read the sideba…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/20 09:28 AM
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I read TWOTSM two times over a year ago. Now I'm probably ready to read it and actually get something out of it. Cheers.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/20 01:42 PM
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"It would be nice for you to wear something prettier when we go to sleep" - neutral. Thank you for the note.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/20 01:29 PM
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36YO, wife 38YO, 1 kid (6) Lifts - no idea, gyms closed too long at this point. Height: 6’2’ Weight: 180 Pounds Tracked Goals Weight loss: Two weeks in a row no progress. I’ve fully cut sugars and alcohol, I’ve increased the fast hours. I seem to look better, but the scale is un-changed. I’ve started to put early AM exercise sessions in calendar, this is a good development for me, I’ve had a very bad relationship with calendars. Early AM training makes me feel like shit, but will continue and se…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/20 09:30 AM
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Probably around 30% body fat.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/20 03:35 AM
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It means I don't spend nearly as much time fantasising about sex and if I do I can decide to change my focus and not get carried away in fantasies. Also, I like the fantasies better. Before there was a lot of nastiness directed at my wife, now they obviously come from a happier place. The other thing I refer to is that I can notice the difference between being aroused vs being needy for sexual validation. If I feel aroused I may try to start something, but now I'm aware of where my wife is at, a…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/20 04:12 PM
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I encourage you to write your bodyweight in every OYS, no matter how painful it is. I noticed where you are at in your last OYS. I failed to lose any weight (calorie count + gym) until I came across this, then dropped 15+ pounds in a couple of months: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tIuj-oMN-Fk&t=523s. 2,400 calories, btw, is a lot of calories, IMHO, particularly because we tend to undercount, so your aiming for 2.4 K can easily become 2.8 etc. etc. "In this last week I’ve been experiencing a lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/20 04:04 PM
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36YO, wife 38YO, 1 kid (6) Lifts - no idea, gyms closed for 5 weeks at this point. Height: 6’2’ Weight: 180 Pounds Goals Weight loss: No progress this week. IF (16/8) and clean diet are not doing it anymore. First six months this year IF and clean eating gave me great results with a lower level of physical activity. Increasing IF to 18/6 starting now. Increasing training time has been fine. Relationship My desire is becoming healthier. I indulge fantasy less and less, I can manifest my desire op…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/20 04:03 AM
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Thank you /u/johneyapocalypse - this is what I'm figuring out. The error I made in the past is trying to set too many things at once and actually not properly tracking and accomplishing anything specific. I broadly got better, but the material results are very much below par. I set out the principles and will start to turn them into plans, the principles are very helpful in general direction of travel, fast heuristics if you like, but they don't do much by them self to improve my skills. Targets…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/20 03:07 AM
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Do I know your wife? AWALT - Jesus... If you want to work on seduction I recommend the boys at "The natural lifestyles". I found them to be the best in the business. Very obvious how to apply to strangers, but all equally correct with wife. The other thing is reminding your self just how damn un-attractive our wife targeted "seductive" behaviour would be with a new girlfriend, that is a good measure of the work to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/20 03:05 AM
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Money principles I will: live within my means; save to buy assets; have insurance against catastrophes; keep 12 months of salary in cash; not worry about the future, and trust the process of building wealth; cut bad expenses, those that are pointless - (particularly recurring ones); Work principles I will: leave my work better than I found it; stay on task and reduce distractions; use pomodoro when I cannot stay on task; strive to do my professional work in 6 hours every day; not be shackled to …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/20 02:56 AM
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36YO, wife 38YO, 1 kid (6) Lifts - no idea, gyms closed for too long at this point. Height: 6’2’ Weight: 178 Pounds Running, swimming, callisthenics 3x/week Relationship More open to intimacy and sex, generally better direction of travel. Wife more pleasant to me and more present in the home, sprinkled with some power shit tests (also around sex). Breaching some difficult subjects and speaking authentically has benefitted us both, but it also brought up significant ugliness. My primary objective…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/20 02:56 AM
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Initiate Often, Confident Always It's good advice, thanks, and my key take away from the last few comments is the need to exit my comfort zone, so this is consistent. I'll try this, but I wont lie that I'll calibrate it and not initiate for the sake of it. I'm not there yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 02:39 PM
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A lot of negative self-talk throughout your OYS. Consider the possibility of accepting who you are and working with it to get better. If you ask "Do I like my self?" are you able to unflinchingly say "Fuck yes!", or there is a lot of mixed emotions, in-sufficiency bobbing up? Remember also that seeing your wife's willingness to fuck you (well or not) as the measure of your worth is the ultimate indicator of having no self-worth, and circularly that's why they don't fuck us, well or at all. I was…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/20 04:03 AM
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There is more improvement than I could have imagined and it is by my metrics. SBIII is reminding me the same thing, "get out of your comfort zone / don't be lazy". That makes sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/20 03:42 AM
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Thanks SBIII https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/cwkxs9/quit_being_a_lazy_cunt/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/20 03:37 AM
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Setting out what shit I have to own Body Gyms are closed, in the coming times (one year) we will probably have on-off access to gyms (where I am based). I’m having one built at office, but it will be 2 months before it’s done. My focus is loosing weight and increasing flexibility. I want to get to 76KG. My target is putting 45 minutes of physical activity every day minimum. Diet is already in order. Scarcity mindset (Money) This is high up on priorities because it’s an enabler. I reported form l…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/20 02:56 PM
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On the weights, I’m with you. The only repentance I can offer is that I’m having a gym built at my office, the gyms where I am are closed. But finding the kit now is a real PIA. On mission. I have been thinking a lot about mission, struggling with “I don't have a mission” (cry, cry). But then I realised that the mission has always been here, also that it evolves as I do. Being a capable entrepreneur, risk taker, business owner is a massive part of my mission. I’ve been working at it for 15+ year…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/20 06:13 AM
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Ok
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/20 05:51 AM
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The gyms are closed where I am. I'm having a gym installed at the office (Oh yeah!). Sourcing gym equipment is harder than ventilators at this point. ​ "She may even then feel secure enough to do her own work." This is on the money. She is not secure at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/20 05:51 AM
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I think it’s equal part understanding my masculinity and therefore being able to observe the opposite. Look we are all naturally attracted to pussy, but as we grow up BP faggots, pussy actually becomes an affliction. It’s just a ridiculous objective to try to remind our self that somehow we are worth something. That’s why our wives are so repulsed, we have become empty shells. What do I say by masculinity? We are so reactive all the time. All these stimuli coming at us, and somehow training our …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/20 05:42 AM
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No
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/20 05:07 AM
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I don't think it was vulnerability, the delivery was anything but. That was a seriously foul smelling shit test mirroring my own mindset. It said “I’m not sure about us”. I know I had a real conversation with her last week because I want to move things forward. I know I’m pushing for resolution in one way or the other. The status quo and the marionette theatre are no longer doing it for me. Outside of my marriage I have my life exactly where I want it to be (yes there is more to do, but I am ver…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/20 05:06 AM
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I am exploding. Physical: 36YO, wife 38YO, 1 kid (6) Lifts are as of last time I set foot in gym, now it will be 20-25% off at least. 5x5 SQ 220, DL 240, BP 140, OHP 110, ROW 120 Height: 6’2’ Weight: 174 Pounds (Current) Readings: Sidebar 2X+, seduction material left, right and center. TNL are the people for me BTW. Style: Base on point. Black / grey tees, trim pants. Ready to take it next level, rebuild wardrobe with more “layers”, to do in fall. I tend to let my shoes get too worn before I thr…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 09:16 AM
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I understand, my brother made a couple of killings with “bad news”, but they were much more circumspect events. This event is very outside of the norm, literally 100 year incidence, and it comes at the back of 12 years of free money. Travel and tourism is 11% of global GDP, by the way... My main point is that forecasting the economics is practically impossible. If every country went the competent Korean way, this would be a blip. Because most governments are consistently behind the curve (still …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/20 11:44 AM
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Why social distancing is important: https://www.ilmessaggero.it/italia/coronavirus_bergamo_bare_chiesa_video-5112930.html Wait for it to load.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/20 03:51 AM
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Hola American folks - been there, done that. You will have a sudden and healthy dose of widespread panic, it will last a few days, then situation will normalise as people accept the new baseline. Do not stress your system, preserve energy for your immune system, drop the max rep for now. Young European athletes have been going in ICUs because they had the bad luck of competing around the time they contracted the disease. Avoid Ibuprofen, the picture is not clear. I have been following this since…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/20 03:15 AM
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Hatred. All my life I have been surprised at my inability to hate. Angry, frustrated, bothered, annoyed, sure, but hate. No, I don’t hate. Well it’s a bunch of bullshit. As a standard issue human, I can hate and plenty. This week I looked at my emotions and saw clearly that I hate my wife. I hate her when she does not validate me, and when she does not fulfil my need for acceptance and love. Hate is liberating. Frustration and anger are second order, they are consequences, and it’s easy to peg t…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/20 02:36 AM
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Let’s use the 60/days of dread structure: 36 YO, 1 kid, married 7 years, together 10. 1) Lifting/physical I’m at beginner level. 6 2’’ - 178 Pounds Before I stopped going to the gym to on running / local epidemic, I was at: 5x5: SQ 240, DL 250 BP 150, OHP 110, ROW 130. Went back this week and testing how quickly I can get back to baseline, I think 2 weeks. 2) Eating for Health and Fitness The main focus is weight loss, and for this I’m good. 16/8 Intermittent fasting every day, sometimes 20/4, n…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/20 12:54 AM
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u/SteelSharpensSteel - The questions by u/Cl_ARK prompted thinking, then your note pinched a nerve. I went to think and I realised something really not expected: “I hate my wife”. I hate her because she does not validate me, because she makes me feel insufficient in bed, I probably hate her for having hinted that my son’s autism may be my fault, not totally sure about this last one. I’d venture to guess the feelings are reciprocal. I have never realised this before. Angry, yes I’ve been angry pl…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/20 05:30 AM
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I have not fully un-fucked my self, but without a timeframe I can keep half assing, and rotting away here for way too long finding excuses for what I should have done differently. Life is too precious, at some point if you cant fix it you let it go.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/20 01:35 PM
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Excellent questions, thank you. *What do you offer in terms of sex, intimacy, and connection? Are you just waiting for her to serve it up to you? Does she know how? Do you know how? We do not connect much and we don't much confide in each other. I think we don't trust each other very much at all, I’d venture to say too much disappointment/frustration accumulated by both sides (no cheating, everything else). She talks to me about her work issues and expresses dissatisfaction about her life. I lis…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/20 01:28 PM
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Where am I since MRP? I’ve lost 20 pounds, I went from empty bar to up up to 240 LBS squat 5x5. I’m a passably fit human for the first time in 15 years. Still a long way to go. I have learnt to fast and I’ve learnt to eat. My finances are in order (they never were before). I have bought my own home. My business is properly making money (it wasn’t before), growing and fulfilling me and my team. I have learnt to not try to fix my autistic son, to accept him. He is thriving and is deeply connected …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 05:20 PM
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I took a break from Reddit, I was spending too much time at MRP/RP/Seduction. 36YO, wife 38YO, 1 kid (5). Married 6 years, together 10. RP Over a year 5x5: SQ 210, DL 225 BP 140, OHP 100, ROW 130 Height: 6’2’ - weight: 179 pounds Since December it’s been all running and no gym, I had some big competitions, did them and very happy with the results. Happy with the weight loss too. Relationship In early December I spoke candidly with my wife. I’m not satisfied, this is not working. Suddenly we star…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/20 01:13 PM
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36YO, wife 38YO, 1 kid (4). Married 6 years, together 10. 5x5: SQ 235, DL 225 BP 150, OHP 120, ROW 140 Height: 6’2’ - weight: 185 pounds RP Over a year Development Weight is finally dropping at good clip. That’s my focus, lifting just aiming to preserve the load. Meditation has been good for me. When I calm my mind and gain awareness of my body and responsiveness, it becomes natural to chose what I do. Being present is life altering. I’ve seen many people here refer to meditation, what finally b…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/19 07:47 AM
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36YO, wife 38YO, 1 kid (4). Married 6 years, together 10. 5x5: SQ 235, DL 225 BP 150, OHP 120, ROW 140 Height: 6’2’ - weight: 188 pounds RP Over a year Relationship Nothing major to report, wife travelled, I was busy hosting my parents. Spending time with my mother made it possible to notice how so many poor behaviours in life are simply a misdirected form of motherly attachment. If I catch my self thinking of/about to do something needy I just make a note to give my mother a call. Bottom line, …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/19 02:17 AM
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36YO, wife 38YO, 1 kid (4). Married 6 years, together 10. 5x5: SQ 235, DL 225 BP 150, OHP 120, ROW 140 Height: 6’2’ - Weight: 188 pounds RP Over a year Relationship I’ve bee trying something different, I’ve been trying to place my self in a frame of mind whereby I appreciate my wife, her presence and her femininity. Not thankful, nor grateful. I have been resetting this a few times a day, just letting my self appreciate her, entirely for my self, and she seems to respond very positively to it. N…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 12:55 AM
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"You get the relationships you deserve." - Truth stings - back to work.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/19 12:24 AM
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36YO, wife 38YO, 1 kid (4). Married 6 years, together 10. 5x5: SQ 240, DL 220 BP 150, OHP 120, ROW 140 Height: 6’2’ - weight: 188 pounds RP Over a year Finally weight loss happening at an acceptable rate. Intermittent fasting is doing it for me. I’ve had a strange week. I continue to read, learn and practice seduction and game and I really enjoy doing so. This week I had two plates lined up to hang out, and the day before P1 I felt really blue. What I basically had in mind was the thought of:“wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 02:39 PM
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36YO, wife 38YO, 1 kid (4). Married 6 years, together 10. 5x5: SQ 240, DL 215 BP 145, OHP 110, ROW 125 Height: 6’2’ - weight: 189 pounds RP Over a year A busy week. Loving intermittent fasting (16/8). For the first time I trained at the end of an 18 hour fast and was surprised how well I trained (except BP). I used to freak out about having my snack a few hours before lifting or no power… Something is wrong with my right shoulder, the form in my BP was weird and uncertain, I had to reduce the we…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 02:12 PM
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36YO, wife 38YO, 1 kid (4). Married 6 years, together 10. 5x5: SQ 230, DL 215 BP 150, OHP 110, ROW 120 Height: 6’2’ - weight: 189 pounds RP Over a year I’m reading The Art of Seduction again. The first read was shallow, trying to get the tricks out of it while being adverse to the ethos of the book and finding it very conceited in tone. The second reading is an eye-opener. I have been a self-absorbed brute in my approach to way too many things in life. I’m still not sure of the proactive applica…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 12:07 AM
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36YO, wife 38YO, 1 kid (4). Married 6 years, together 10. 5x5: SQ 220, DL 215 BP 140, OHP 100, ROW 110 Height: 6’2’ - weight: 189 pounds RP Over a year Fitness Back at the gym after one+ week absence, de-loaded, working up again. My primary focus is dropping fat. I’ve started intermittent fasting 16/8 and I really like it. It also makes meal planning that much simpler. Thai boxing continues and is too much fun. Relationship No sex and very little initiation. Initiation, when the attraction is no…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 10:06 AM
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Cut that crap out, you talk too much, even worse you talk to yourself too much. Gold - the rest too - Thank you
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/19 01:03 AM
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36YO, wife 37YO, 1 kid (4). Married 6 years, together 10.5x5: SQ 240, DL 215 BP 145, OHP 115, ROW 145Height: 6’2’ - weight: 189 poundsRP Over a year Summary: I had a sloppy week. I did not go to the gym, OYS was only partial. I let distraction creep up. Lots of reasons, all bad. I see beta more and more and as I see it, maybe I learn to kill it more. Relationship: I have been arguing with my self about whether to discuss with wife about sorting out PE and enlisting her to assist. AKA: Beta talk.…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/19 03:20 AM
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The point about beta voices always sounds simplistic, but it is actually really sensible. There is a temptation to look for a complex answer, but the truth of "just drop that shit" rings true. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 12:48 PM
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36YO, wife 37YO, 1 kid (4). Married 6 years, together 10. 5x5: SQ 240, DL 215 BP 145, OHP 115, ROW 145 Height: 6’2’ - weight: 189 pounds RP Over a year Progress and bullshit My main objective this month was to meet lawyers to understand what a divorce would look like. After months of hesitation I did this, knowledge is power. I now know what everyone says here about everything, if you own it, it’s going to be ok. Same for my divorce. If I decide to divorce and own it, it is going to be ok. If I …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 01:58 PM
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36YO, wife 37YO, 1 kid (4). Married 6 years, together 10. 5x5: SQ 200, DL 205, BP 120, OHP 100, ROW 120 Height: 6’2’ - weight: 192 pounds Readings All sidebar, selected parts multiple times. Fitness Loads of swimming during vacation, now Thai boxing 2X week on top of 3X week 5x5, but I had to de-load after vacation, going back up seems easy for now. Effort My effort in MRP is probably 50% of potential. I’ve been at this for one year, my results in terms of personal growth are more than I could i…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 02:21 PM
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I really want to get to the point where when it happens it doesn't matter, because she would shut it down or I wouldn't care. None of my girlfriends would ever let something like that happen, they would shut it down. I need to demote my wife to girlfriend and upgrade my self to man.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 09:25 PM
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36YO, wife 37YO, 1 kid (4) 5x5: SQ 240, DL 235, BP 150, OHP 115, ROW 145 Height: 6’2’ - weight: 194 pounds Holiday special Started holiday with wife being the sweetest and just outright most pleasant she has been in a very long time. Continuous kino and even some sexual tension. Arrived at destination and took over new holiday home. I love it, it’s exactly what I want, simple, clean, inexpensive. I’m reading The way of the super man for the second time and it’s making a lot of sense, it’s all of…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 03:54 PM
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The first point of setting goals for me is learning how to use goals consistently and for real; the second is forcing me to learn faster, I can stay stuck in my wrong ways a long time (no results).
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/19 12:11 PM
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I remember you were taking propecia. Did you quit that?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 03:42 PM
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36YO, wife 37YO, 1 kid (4) 5x5: SQ 235, DL 220, BP 130, OHP 110, ROW 130 Height: 6’2’ - weight: 197 pounds ​ Goals: Weight down to 185 pounds by September end; on track Strength up from current, don’t know what is strength progression while cutting; Calorie target is 2,230; on track during week, not tracking well at weekend; Business: Hit budgets; on track and beyond Plan for new division roll out completed by first week of July. Failed, delaying this. Muay Thai 2x week; Failed - not OYS. Review…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 03:40 PM
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35YO, wife 37YO, 1 kid (4) 5x5: SQ 210, DL 210, BP 115, OHP 105, ROW 115 Height: 6’2’ - weight: 198 pounds I went into a tailspin. This has happened before, but the recovery cycle is getting faster. I got sick, first gastroenteritis, the week after tonsillitis. The sickness itself got me off the gym for 2 full weeks and cratered my lifts, but it’s not what messed me up. I got needy with the wife, I started having covert expectations, getting flustered, angry, negotiating desire, all the standard…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 02:41 PM
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No, I will. You ask because of PE?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 03:21 PM
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Occasional starfish, occasionally into it. But really irregular, sometimes few months of no sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 12:07 AM
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What else can I tell you: We can't have other kids, our first has a condition for which I decided we could not take the risk of a repeat. I don't know if this shifts the attraction. On the fucking performance, it was poor for the last three years, PE. I'm sure that killed the will to fuck. Since I stopped fucking for the sake of mommy's approval the PE has gone. DL was higher but de-loaded, my form was poor. Nutrition was wrong, I fixed it Jan 2019. Dread is there, she asks questions abt who I'm…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 12:04 AM
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OYS Month 11 35YO, wife 37YO, 1 kid 5x5: SQ 240, DL 220, BP 120, OHP 110, ROW 120 Height: 6’2’ - weight: 200 pounds ​ Goals: Weight down to 185 pounds by September end; Strength up or par with current. BP up. I’ve never done a cut, and I’m not sure what target to set for strength. I’ll stick with 5x5 increments. I’ve been on cut for 2 weeks and so far I’ve been able to progress weights; Calorie target is 2,230, will observe and adjust in June end; Business: hit budgets. On track. have a team aro…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 04:28 PM
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I agree with Persaeus, start figuring out babies, worry about raising your own Alexander the Great after. They are very simple btw. Full stomachs, clean bums, sleep and a sprinkle of entertainment do 95% of the job. Keep it really simple. Ensure your partner figures out lactation and has support if things go wrong there. This can have a significant impact on the well being of your child for the rest of his life. Lead and you and your family will have an amazing time. It's not a time to be Rambo,…
/r/askMRP17/01/19 11:29 PM
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35, 1 kid, married 5 years. H 6’2, BW 190, SQ 205, DL 200, OHP 90, BP 115, ROW 110. This week I got a wake up call on AskMRP. Bottom line is I’ve been getting ahead of my self, thinking my progress is great, it's not. It’s been a very helpful cold shower. Most comments were clear, to the point and they really helped wash off the resentment. RPwolf closing remarks were particularly helpful in making me get home and know what to do: “enjoy your turn and shit will change". The only objective for th…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/18 03:05 PM
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Your last comment "Actually enjoy your turn..." is the best summary I needed to hear. Thank you
/r/askMRP30/10/18 03:02 PM
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The systemic rejection does feel like a shit test of enormous proportions. Little example corollary, she started making a subtle point to make sure I see her getting changed in the morning, yet there's no way she would be DTF. She kino's me, but she's not DFT if I initiate. Before RP, when she hated me, none of this was happening.
/r/askMRP26/10/18 04:18 PM
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Thanks
/r/askMRP26/10/18 04:09 PM
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Very good on you. The monkey danced until approx March this year. I can tell you my wife used to hate me before RP, now she doesn't, but she still wont fuck me.
/r/askMRP26/10/18 04:09 PM
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The plate is a terrible idea most of all because it would give me comfort and stop my progress, like you describe.
/r/askMRP26/10/18 04:02 PM
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I'm 12 pounds over-optimal weight, and steel is right in asking me to not fantasise about plates, but I am getting better and the world and women around me seem to be noticing. My wife is noticing too but very, very, very slowly. Then I push the initiation and start the circle of frustration. The simple answer is to dial down initiating, keeping it casual, until I've made enough progress and my wife is responding, or I'm checking out.
/r/askMRP26/10/18 03:55 PM
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No I'm not ok with it. I didn't ask her for reasons, whenever I think of asking I realise it's just a cover up for negotiating desire, and my frame is not there where telling her this is "disappointing" would not be another form of negotiation.
/r/askMRP26/10/18 03:45 PM
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Thanks Steel. So much progress since I started, but fundamentals are fundamentals, can't hack them.
/r/askMRP26/10/18 03:41 PM
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Had a surgery I had put off for years. Back at gym after 3 weeks break, de-loaded. Weight 190 SQ 190, DL 200, BP 115, ROW 100, OHP 80. Personal I quit caffeine and I benefit a great deal from it. The main benefits for me are: better sleep; not waking up like a zombie; more energy overall and much more steady throughout the day; more focussed less easily distracted; way more productive before bed time (this one really surprised me); less emotional swings (anxiety has been a problem for me at work…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/18 01:27 AM
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Could not be more timely. The more I have improved the more I have removed my wife from my life vision. I think a big part of the lack of progress in the relationship I want has to do precisely with that.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/18 03:05 PM
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I will keep a rainy fund liquid and start moving the balance. Helpful to talk through it.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/18 06:42 AM
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Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/18 06:41 AM
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Thank you, particularly for the good reminder on the false safety of real estate. I'm outside US, so 401(k) IRA not relevant. Would you just take a large portion of my savings and put them in index funds? If I have bad luck with timing that's just what it is?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/18 03:29 PM
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Major regrets for saving, not at all. My kid may need a very large cushion to help him when I'm no longer around. Would feel happy there is a base, and probably regret not having more. I wouldn't regret not having maximised short term earning either as it would definitely have meant even less time outside work. The word "sacrifice" means specifically forfeiting short term cash for a bigger payout in the future. Thank you for the perspective.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/18 02:53 PM
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Asset split: $600,000 in property, debt free, good cashflow from one, other under renovation. $220,000 liquid Where I am based tax advantage is massive. Since I seriously started looking into it, everything has felt very expensive. I have no problem starting with regular contribution, but I have a problem putting the savings in at once.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/18 02:41 PM
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What areas am I most dissatisfied with? Self: Ambition, I’ve not set goals clearly and matched myself against them; Discipline, the "do it by this date type”; Decision making speed and efficiency (I take too long); Own shit: I earn less than I could because I have decided to build a business. It’s at least another 3 years. More cash now would make life more enjoyable, the “sacrifice” is getting bothersome in some way, because I’m not sure it’s necessary. I’ve not made a plan on how to change thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/18 12:59 AM
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Personal Audit 35 YO, Married 5, 1 kid - 3YO. I discovered RP in Oct 2017. Type 1 drunk Captain. The first 5-6 months where a Rambo mess up. In March 2018 while still angry, I re-set, read the sidebar again and begun to learn to roll-over. Since July this year my perspective started to change as I begun to accept and internalise RP. I’ve started OYS this August, before I was too stupid to do it. I’ve decided to run an audit of my life and share it. Before I do that, quick anecdote for the week. …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/18 12:57 AM
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forthright or raw The major one is that I have PE. It's been going on for 2 years, and I've been an idiot about it. I'm going to see a urologist. I am very happy with the progress in my self since started figuring out RP, but I feel in my bones that I have been moving way too slowly in life, not committing to the hard work, settling. I feel like it's really time to change gear. The paradox is that at the same time I'm really starting to learn for the first time that some things take time. My bus…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/18 03:04 PM
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Those are 5x5 - My upper body muscle groups, particularly chest are not developed. Body fat 20-22%. "Regarding the sex... evolve to a point where you are no longer "dialing" because there is no dial. Instead, there is just you." - Absolutely, thank you for the reminder. Thanks for feedback on goal management. This is an important one. I always measured and tracked, but I did not have the honesty to really look back at how performance measured against expectations and, just focussed on doing bett…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/18 04:27 PM
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Physical 35 (YO), 6’2’, 186 lbs SQ: 210, DL: 242, BP: 127, ROW: 120, OHP: 95 ​ Business I have been making an assessment of performance to date. Instead of continuing looking forward to what’s next I looked backwards. The idea is to infer what is the trajectory, if the trajectory is good enough or if I need to make changes. It’s been very useful, work in progress, but something I’ll start doing across my life. You get so caught up thinking of the possibilities, you miss the fact that previous pe…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/18 03:50 PM
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Desire for sex with partner is confused with the desire for money, because by incorrect deduction more money = more sex. This is false, and leads to another fallacy, thinking that if you don't make "enough" you have a problem. That's also false, unless it's a problem for you to not be making more, on your terms. ​ Every-time I'm at the helm of myself, I automatically become the Mayor, a very driven one at that. My Mayoral style is that I definitely want sex and money, but as a Mayor I know they …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/18 10:12 AM
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"Is it possible that because you're so driven she's staying out of your way?” - No I wouldn’t think that’s possible. My leadership at home has been insufficient, the more I think about it the more I feel I have developed way too little frame around the idea of leading my family. I have some homework to do for this week and coming weekend. Will let you know how it turns out.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 06:53 AM
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Physical 35 (YO), 6’2’, 184 lbs SQ: 187, DL: 230, BP: 115, ROW: 110, OHP: 92 ​ Business I mentioned before that I tackled some fears and that really helped move forward. What I actually did was make the fear more manageable, take it apart, look at each component and deal with it. Overall when I boil it down I can tackle pretty much anything, risk is always there but I see it more sharply, and it’s no longer a monster, it just is. This tells me that anytime I am inactive, procrastinating or broad…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 03:27 PM
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Physical 35 (YO), 6’2’, 184 SQ: 170, DL: 225, BP: 105, ROW: 100, OHP: 90 ​ Change the behaviour, transform the man. RP (MRP really) has kicked off a series of changes that allowed me to make real progress in my life. Everywhere I see progress I see only one denominator, change in my behaviour. In the early part of the journey the changes were prescribed (and laborious), now I am beginning to administer, and that seems to bring about a broader change. Last week I decided to do something different…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/18 03:59 PM
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Nutrition is where I took the longest to figure it out, I was lifting more and more, not recovering properly due to wrong diet and not building muscle either, pushing harder, getting injured.. bad cycle. Thank you for the encouragement. Shit test are down drastically. We had reached the point I like to call "rage" where she was not so much testing me, as much as doing her absolute covert and not so covert best to eject me or her self from the relationship. The subtle garden variety shit test is …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/18 03:07 PM
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PHYSICAL & DIET 35 YO - SQ: 160, DL: 210, OHP: 85, BP: 100, ROW: 95 Weight: 180 Height: 6'2 Previously lifts (except DL) higher by 20-50%. De-loaded, fixing form. Increased protein intake, reduce carbs, but not strict calorie count. Much more control on what I eat, not good enough. ​ PERSONAL GROWTH Taking control of my life, understanding the responsibility is liberating and greatest motivator. Learnt a simple trick, when I feel like not OYS I ask my self “What do I REALLY want to do?” - I know…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/18 11:49 PM
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