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JustAnAvgJoe/r/MensRights06/08/12 02:23 PM
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So many times over and over.
/r/MensRights25/05/15 09:38 PM
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See my previous post- VA DCSE has outright said to me that my ex wife isn't going to jail because "it's hard enough she's a mother without her children" I have many stories about dealing with DCSE in VA. Every couple years I have to go back because they "accidentally" flip it around to where I'm the NCP and end up having CS pulled from my pay, held for 3 weeks, and then returned to me. They have outright said they will not pursue her, and I have to file any relevant paperwork with the court for …
/r/MensRights25/05/15 02:44 PM
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My ex wife is 15k behind in child support. She pays $150/mo for three, which is the state minimum and yet still fails to. The only adverse action was her license getting revoked, however she just recently was able to have that overturned.
/r/MensRights25/05/15 02:36 PM
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Hint at asking for votes. "Show me some love!" that's all gonewild is about.
/r/MensRights07/12/12 08:17 PM
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It does go both ways for child support, one being accountability. I believe CS should come in an EBT card (however, unrestricted) and the other parent can see what the money is going to. A larger problem but less well known is the discrepency when it comes to deadbeats. A deadbeat male will be brought to court at around the $5,000 mark. My ex wife who hasn't paid a dime is $10,000 in arrears and hasn't had so much as a warning.
/r/MensRights18/10/12 06:18 PM
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Thankfully alimony is a fading relic. There is absolutely no reason to have it these days.
/r/MensRights18/10/12 12:20 PM
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This is from June, and many sites like The Atlantic were allowed back.
/r/MensRights26/09/12 06:04 PM
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ok, well to be blunt here, it's not that "you're not allowed to have any custody." By default you are entitled to joint custody unless there is a reason to remove parental rights. These vary by state and I'm not familiar with how CA is. So here's where you are: You won't get to see how she spends the money. It sucks, it's unfair, but it's how it is. Even if there was a law requiring the custodial parent to show receipts so many wouldn't do it that eventually the burden of adjusting CS would beco…
/r/MensRights24/09/12 05:06 PM
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First, it's not kidnapping as there is no court order in place. Secondly, you don't need a lawyer to petition for custody. Your brother should file the petition and have a hearing scheduled. He will have to pay for service and "posting" in which the court seeks out using newspapers (i.e. the "legal" section). From there when the hearing comes she must show up. Here things will be centered on the child before anything else. If she has moved the child and upset the normal life that will be very un…
/r/MensRights24/09/12 03:19 PM
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Ok, so- did you leave the state after the split, or did she?
/r/MensRights24/09/12 02:52 PM
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If you've fulfilled all your requirements for graduation, you often end up only needing to take a few classes your senior year. most are wise and fill it with electives, but some (such as myself back in my young & dumb years) just left after half a day.
/r/MensRights05/09/12 05:34 PM
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In the US, when a person is 18, they are considered an adult. Able to support themselves or not, it doesn't matter. The only thing someone is bound by (if there is no lease) is a 30 day notice.
/r/MensRights05/09/12 05:31 PM
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My ex wife is $10,000 behind in child support, and DCSE won't take her to court. In fact when she last went to have her license pulled, I had to push for that to happen and the Judge didn't push anything else because she's a "woman and has it hard enough as it is." She has lived single and beholden to nobody for 3 years and is still unemployed.
/r/MensRights31/08/12 05:41 PM
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In that situation you call a sheriff.
/r/MensRights25/08/12 01:14 AM
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The male body is never sexualized. Really. There's no pressure to have six pack abs.
/r/MensRights22/08/12 12:21 PM
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It's an Editorial and while it's extremely well done with the right reasoning and even sources, it's not to be lumped into something such as a press release from the DoL. I'm not disagreeing with the article and in fact it is spot on. Why doesn't someone post this in one of the woman subreddits? It's your complete use of verbage that shows your intent. Yes go for it, and have your "gotcha!!" moment. What do you think would be the result? Do you honestly think crossposting into a "women's subredd…
/r/MensRights16/08/12 03:10 PM
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You've twice called me an idiot for disagreeing with you. Tell me, how does that prove in any shape or form that someone with your mode of thinking can have a serious, logical discussion?
/r/MensRights16/08/12 02:22 PM
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"Hey let's post this in the women's subreddit" is akin to hey let's kick a bee's nest. It's one thing to post news and to prompt discussion, but saying "hey I want to post this because I know it'll cause a lot of drama" isn't very smart and would hurt the whole concept of MRA.
/r/MensRights16/08/12 01:38 PM
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Because that's not an adult thing to do?
/r/MensRights16/08/12 01:17 PM
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It's accepted unfortunately. Thankfully my kids are older and if I had some judgemental, paranoid psycho person assuming I wasn't a father my kids would see what was going on and tell her to get lost.
/r/MensRights14/08/12 01:41 PM
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Your logic still doesn't make sense. You state it as if the stay at home parent deserves alimony as if they are to be paid for being so. That's not even the current reason for alimony so I don't even know where you're coming from. Right now alimony is issued to "maintain a lifestyle in which one is accustomed" The reason alimony was originally put in place was because the vast majority of women didn't work at all.
/r/MensRights06/08/12 10:15 PM
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There are children involved in the case I linked to begin with. However alimony and child support are completely separate. alimony is calculated independently of children. Alimony is "spousal support"
/r/MensRights06/08/12 10:11 PM
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do you not see the blatant sexism in your post?
/r/MensRights06/08/12 09:40 PM
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I'm not saying I never had help. I'm saying I do this mostly on my own. I suppose you are trying to get to a point, as this has nothing to do with alimony. Please get to it as there are limits of my life that I divulge. I will say to explain, that for the past several years I have been raising my kids with no financial support other than the pay I receive from working. I work full time and then some, and I still am able to do the dishes, laundry, clean, wipe their noses, read to my youngest at n…
/r/MensRights06/08/12 09:39 PM
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No, I do not get "a lot of help." My family occasionally watches my kids for drill every few months, and they do not do it for free. I was 18 when my oldest was born. I went both through college and the job field, working and doing the family thing. Please stop looking for holes to devalue what I said.
/r/MensRights06/08/12 08:42 PM
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No that is called child support. Alimony can be granted even when there are no children.
/r/MensRights06/08/12 08:06 PM
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Okay, so if he 'gets the house' then wouldn't the deed and mortgage be transferred into his name during the divorce proceedings? Wouldn't that make him the sole person responsible for paying it? Usually no, it is not as though one simply has their name removed and has no obligation. Many times it's conditional (in ammendum with alimony) that the person not sharing the house must help contribute to paying off debt such as a mortgage or vehicle. It's extremely common for a non-custodial parent to …
/r/MensRights06/08/12 07:45 PM
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So who takes care of your kids during those hours? Do you pay someone to do it? During what hours? When I'm at drill? I pay for a sitter, or family to do it. My oldest just recently became of age to help, but not for too long. What kind of meals do they eat? During the week, quick ones. Sometimes not healthy, sometimes very healthy. Depends on what we need to do that day. Do you really spend 4 hours commuting every day after a full work week, go home and cook a meal for your kids, pack their lun…
/r/MensRights06/08/12 07:35 PM
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In regards to what I wrote, work = employment. beiong a houseparent is work also, but expecting monetary payment (outside of being a professional nanny) for raising your own kids is doing it wrong. Do it because you love being a parent.
/r/MensRights06/08/12 07:26 PM
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No matter how many times I have said it, people still don't seem to grasp the concept. It is not 1 person working and doing nothing else, with the other raising the kids and doing nothing else. But I will play the part: In your example, he works part time so when the separation happens, he leaves the home. Now, She's responsible for 100% of the mortgage and associated bills that they both contributed to, including having to pay for health insurance, current contracts (such as cell phones) and on…
/r/MensRights06/08/12 07:24 PM
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This is a red herring. We're discussing alimony, not abortion. Your argument would relate to child support, not alimony. You're mixing them up.
/r/MensRights06/08/12 07:00 PM
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To stick around? Are you victimizing a hypothetical woman in a hypothetical marriage already? Remember, this is in regards to your comment: You don't see anything wrong with the stay at home spouse spending 18 or more years caring for someone and their children and then being given the boot? They spent all that time not pursuing a higher education, not getting promoted at work, not climbing the workplace ladder or anything and they're going to have to start at square 1- That seems pretty damn un…
/r/MensRights06/08/12 06:57 PM
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You choose to not work, and to be a stay at home parent. You make that choice. If you want to advance in a career 5 years down the road, stay employed.
/r/MensRights06/08/12 06:47 PM
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I work 40+ hours a day, and spend another 4 hours commuting. I'm also enlisted in the National Guard so must spend an average of 2-4 days away per month. I'm still a full-time dad of 3 kids. If I can work my ass off with a normal job + duties and have nobody to help me on a day-to-day basis, than someone who is married can work and do the same especially when they are married to someone who even helps a little. Child rearing and having a job is not one or the other.
/r/MensRights06/08/12 06:45 PM
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Completely irrelevant and troll bait. He brought up the importance of joint decisions and you continue on a unilateral path.
/r/MensRights06/08/12 06:42 PM
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VA used to have one where you would enter both incomes, the area in which you lived, housing and utility costs, your insurance costs, your assets, and any other incomes. From there it would give you a rough idea on the obligation. Judges used it to the letter. It's gone now so I'm not sure what they use.
/r/MensRights06/08/12 04:04 PM
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I agree that it is good to help with debt, but not in order to "maintain the lifestyle" the couple had prior to separation, or to support the estranged partner.
/r/MensRights06/08/12 02:49 PM
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I'd agree it would be necessary to pay what would end up being a single debt that was formerly joint (example an expensive vehicle that they could afford as a joint debt but that she couldn't with 40k). The mentality I saw was that "they are used to a lifestyle and he should pay for them to continue it" I feel it's vital depending on who filed as well. If she filed, and wants the kids but can't afford it on her own, should she get it? If a husband is unemployed (or even making say 30k/yr) and a …
/r/MensRights06/08/12 02:47 PM
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Two things- it's sad that he felt pressured to do it to be "normal" however it remained his decision and that itself is a good thing.
/r/MensRights06/08/12 01:04 PM
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