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JustAnotherBoymoder/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 07:29 PM
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This works for colleges, but not for jobs since job interviews are ubiquitous.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 12:54 PM
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That didn't really answer my question lol, there's a lot of leeway between promiscuous and virgin, particularly with those who wait until a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 05:31 PM
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What would happen if a woman you met didn't want to have sex until you were in a relationship? Was it just a no go at that point?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 04:53 PM
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I used to watch Psychacks and the vid OP is talking about is what made me stop. He has some good videos here and there (I like the ugly duckling and dark horse videos in particular), but giving sex with no expectation of commitment is the absolutely worst advice to give a woman. The men's equivalent would be to pay for dates and buy the woman a ton of things and that will make her want to date him, and we all know how that advice would play out. It just doesn't work, the vast majority of people …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 01:13 AM
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Knowing groups of gay men and mtf tans lesbians in the LGBT community, there's a very obvious reason why open relationships are almost the norm in those two groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:02 AM
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This is an issue with liberals and leftists in general, not women. It's just that women are more likely be liberal or leftist.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 01:46 AM
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Did they test your hormone levels? If so, what were the results?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 10:10 PM
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HRT can do wonders for post menopausal women, my last therapist was 48 and looked mid 30s thanks to HRT
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 09:08 PM
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I highly suggest reading The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/24 07:06 PM
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Yeah I agree that talking about not having enough sex is just about the least sexy and most turning off thing you can do. If I had to take a stab at it, distance causes the heart to grow fonder, and with the gap now being closed, that distance and mystery is gone. Try going out on your own more, get a hobby that's out of the house that's on your own, etc. In terms of his roommate hearing, white noise machines or music is good for this.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/24 04:36 AM
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This post is the best thing I've read in regards to this topic. The Surrendered Wife goes into more detail about respect, and is what I would suggest to read after the post.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/24 08:37 AM
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Also how do you ladies fit in self care when you have little kids to take care with little to no alone time? From what I remember reading in the Surrendered Wife, Laura Doyle suggests taking the time and letting your husband figure it out. So for example, telling your husband you're going to be doing so and so from this time to this time, then letting him figure things out in regards to the kids, feeding them, etc. He can take a Saturday night to take care of the kids while you do self care.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/24 12:20 AM
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This post has a lot of great information that is applicable here.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/24 10:01 PM
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How much does he seem to like you? Do you feel you slept with him too early? If I'm going off of the vibe, it seems like he feels he has gotten what he wants from you and doesn't feel the need to commit or advance the relationship further. With that in mind, what have you done to inspire commitment from him and do you think this is a man who desires to commit to someone? Part of having boundaries is enforcing them and having self respect, do you desire to be with a man who (at least as it curren…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/24 03:27 AM
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Looking from an entirely pragmatic and not a moralistic view, for the vast majority of men I've known, a woman keeping simps and men who she knows wants to be with her around is a major red flag and a huge turn off for relationship material. Minimize it the best you can. If you want to take advantage of men and manipulate people, that's FDS rather than RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/24 08:58 PM
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I don't think a man who wouldn't date someone who got fucked on camera would likely be okay with dating someone who fucked themselves on camera, especially a traditional man. I wouldn't recommend lying (including lying by omission) and doing so certainly runs the risk of this blowing up much worse than if you came clean.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 03:35 AM
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Are you sure it's legit and not a catfish? I can't imagine an actual multi billionaire is on a dating app.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 12:30 AM
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You say there was a small sense of dread, did that sense of dread come from you or him?
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/24 01:34 AM
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I spent my life seeing liberal "equal" relationships fail, I spent my life seeing people blame everyone but themselves for their failures in life, and I spent my life seeing people not take power in their lives because of their view that they're victims to the world around them. The mainstream view is to find someone compatible and things like looks don't matter, but it's clear that it's just a nice lie society tells itself, similar to how they treat attractive people better but say they don't. …
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/24 12:05 AM
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From /r/therapists: Men are unhinged emotionally stunted maniacs, 19 upvotes. Apparently men killing themselves at higher rates is because theyre finally seeing the consequences of their actions, 138 upvotes. There's more in the thread, but you get the idea. It's unsurprising this is the view therapists have of men when 91% of men who kill themselves previously reached out to mental health services.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 05:00 PM
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Read up on nun mode posts in this sub to get started on your self improvement. 6 months of nun mode at 27 will get you far better benefits than being 26 without nun mode. Losing weight would be a good start, but the emotional stability is far more important in my experience. I have a typical deal breaker for many men, but even that hasn't caused nearly as many issues as being emotionally unstable did. I'm generally hesitant of therapy for a litany of reasons and think emotional stability primari…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/24 11:07 PM
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Watching the ugly duckling video was a nice self esteem booster to watch as a woman who started blossoming in both looks and personality in my mid to late 20s
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/24 09:08 PM
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Obesity rates are at record highs, around 75% of the US is overweight or obese.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/24 11:15 PM
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People with autism are more likely to be trans, and anime is very overt with their expressions, making it a form of media more likely to appeal to people with autism since difficulty reading facial expressions is a very very common symptom. It's not difficult to put two and two together as to why many trans people would end up liking anime. Saying anime turns people trans is silly lol
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/24 10:44 PM
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Men are rewarded for having self confidence and standing out in a group, women are rewarded for being humble and integrating into a group.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 01:39 AM
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this is so true
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 06:00 PM
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Someone who tries to control everything and always gives their input doesn't come across as intelligent, they come across as neurotic and unable to trust. Have you ever had a manager who always felt the need to be heavily involved in your work and always know every little detail and give their thoughts, instead of just letting you do your work like an adult? I doubt they came across as intelligent, they probably came off as overbearing and added stress to the both of you. That said, it's a pract…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 06:59 PM
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I didn't suggest anything that you just wrote. It seems like what I'm saying is going through one ear and out the other, what are you looking for with this post?
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 01:33 AM
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Consider it from his perspective: you and a loved one had to go back to your home country, and someone you love very much has to go back to living with her horrid parents because you failed. Wouldn't that make you feel bad and evoke a huge desire to work extremely hard and focus a lot on money? He's doing it for you to get you out of your situation. You should be focusing on yourself and what you can do, rather than asking yourself what your boyfriend can do. This requires self agency and indepe…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 12:59 AM
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It's difficult to give more insight without more context, it comes down to how committed you are and how important the relationship is to you. Relationships will have times of difficulty no matter the relationship, this is why it's so essential to have your own personhood and things to fill your time and day. You sound very clingy to the point it seems you're interconnected rather than independent. You shouldn't be so dependent and reliant on him that not getting a good morning text has a big im…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 12:46 AM
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My advice stays the same, clinginess is usually due to either insecurity or due to not having enough going on in your own life. You need your own life separate from his for the exact reasons you list out in this post, this will help for both insecurity and lack of independence. How do you spend your free time outside of him currently?
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 11:47 PM
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He's busy for a reason, he's turning around your horrible situation as you stated. Your job isn't to get attention and time from him right now, your job is to be a cheerleader for him and support him succeeding in his endeavors. Will conflict and problems with his gf help him and get you what you want? 2 hours a day is a lot of time to ask for with someone, especially when they're busy and working hard. Take this as an opportunity to build more independence, get more hobbies and more friends, fi…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 11:34 PM
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I've known trans women who were red pilled, its just about finding the right man and maximizing your RMV. People in your community should know you don't fit stereotypes if you don't.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/24 03:51 AM
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I don't have social media
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 11:48 PM
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How does your boyfriend feel about getting married, moving in together, etc? It is fairly concerning that getting married would seemingly be more out of getting out of your current living situation while maintaining your values, rather than marrying because it feels right.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 04:30 AM
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This is a great post on this that I think would help you a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 02:11 AM
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You care a lot due to insecurities, not due to love of the relationship. Vetting is more effective, and as others have said, cheating rates vary by age, it isn't something people either will do whenever or won't do ever. You're watching too many youtube videos and getting into your own head too much. Read up on the posts here about how to vet and you'll be much better off, you'll scare away quality men through tests.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/24 11:24 PM
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The issue isn't that you're loyalty testing a cheater, it's that you're loyalty testing a potential non cheater, someone completely innocent. You're not only disrupting his peace, but you're also disrespecting him by not trusting that he would remain faithful outside of your influence. Do you really think this is something that will build intimacy in a healthy manner? There's a reason why we harp on so much about vetting and say it's the most important part of the dating process.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/24 10:30 PM
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The biggest thing is identifying traits that led your father to his actions, and looking for them in the men you date so you can avoid them. Additionally understanding how your actions/feelings would lead to why you'd attract someone with those traits. It's difficult to give specifics without knowing more details, but that's how I would go about it. We tend to reenact our parent's relationship, but having a deep understanding of their dynamic and how each side played into the other will help you…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/24 06:20 AM
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black pill thinking is so painfully surface level and self pitying
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 07:56 PM
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All that to say. Please don’t trust every advice you read here. There are women here that don’t fully understand the whole picture, or aren’t actually redpilled, and you are likely telling the story in your own favor. Stick to reading books from trusted authors. Tbh this sub often blends with other relationship subreddits at this point, where it's man bad woman good, the woman can do no wrong and should leave him. The upvotes and downvotes reflect this too. It sucks and it seems the mindset have…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 11:16 PM
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I think the big difference between the two is that redpill in long term relationships encourage a certain dynamic that has worked for a very long time, instead of a directionless one that results in a lot of the troubles we see today. Going through the top posts of all time on /r/redpillwomen shows what I'm talking about in a good manner. That said, I think a lot of male red pill spaces are mostly populated by men who are stuck in the anger phase, objectifying women as a means of removing them f…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 07:56 PM
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That's kinda the point of the red pill. With self improvement, you realize romantic relationships and getting laid don't matter as much anymore because there's so many different aspects to you now. Getting laid becomes a nice side effect of such. I would think that self improvement and not making getting laid a huge part of yourself and self worth would be a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 07:49 PM
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Thank you!! I appreciate it
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 05:28 PM
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I never once said I did no wrong. I'm legitimately asking for advice. Any advice you're being given is disregarded or defended, and no attempts at self reflection are occurring. Then I am asking what I should do. Again, I have told you the third time now, read the post I linked and The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle. I'm asking how to trust him again. Your refusal at self reflection and inability to read outside resources indicates you truly don't and seem to think this is his responsibility ra…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 07:51 AM
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I had zero intention of ever working on my marriage. I loved him, but couldn't live like that anymore, and had given him hundreds of chances. There are a lot more details (read my post history if you choose), but I never in a million years thought he would change. He never had, it was always a lie. But when he did change I told him I didn't know if it was salvageable but I wanted to at least try to keep my marriage and family together. He asked me to reconcile, not the other way around. None of …
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 07:33 AM
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So you are saying I should have just stayed and let him continue doing what he was doing? You shouldn't have had sex with someone else or you should not have gotten back with him is what I'm saying. Out of the three options you had, you chose the one where you would get the worst outcome. You could have separated and not tried to repair a broken marriage, instead finding a new one. You could have not separated/had sex with someone else and put in the work necessary to repair things. Instead, you…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 07:21 AM
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I mean you can say it and justify it whichever way you like, but breaking up with your husband, going to have sex with someone else, then getting back with him is not going to be conducive to a healthy relationship, genuine intimacy, or bring about feelings of respect. Respect also goes further than that though, I would suggest this post and see what you can do there. I know there's a lot of resentment and pain, but you can only control yourself and your actions. Being the bigger person will lea…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 07:11 AM
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Between you having sex with someone else (even if separated) and him being blatantly disrespectful towards you about his preferences and sex, it really seems like neither of you respect the other. How do you feel in terms of respecting him and him respecting you? Oftentimes the man will make the woman feel unloved, which results in her not respecting him, which results in the man not giving the woman love, which continues into a terrible cycle.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 07:02 AM
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Sounds like you value the friendships of past loves more than you do a present love with a high value man.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 02:42 AM
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like 70% of women in the US are overweight or obese lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 11:11 PM
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yea thats the takeaway here. standing out is one of the most effective ways to get hookups from OLD
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 11:10 PM
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you ever talk to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 10:55 PM
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autism
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 10:32 PM
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give everyone a mean mug look so they dont sit next to you
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 09:25 PM
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couple years now
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 08:59 PM
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we spend a lot more on existing healthcare than the military. basically any government wide budget you look at health is going to be the top thing, or in the top 3
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 08:42 PM
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A relationship where the woman doesn't respect the man is doomed for either misery, failure, or both. I would really suggest you read this post and give it a full hearted try if you do decide to get back with him.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 09:18 PM
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Space breeds desire, this is normal and typical when two people who used to like each other spend time apart. That said, you spend a lot of your post downplaying your failures while not doing the same for him, people attract other people for a reason. You even said yourself you think you're too good for him, that's not going to result in a relationship where you respect the man.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 08:45 PM
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Do you want to break up with him? That's the vibe I'm getting from your post and this reply.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/24 04:54 AM
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You sound overwhelmed, understandably so since you're dealing with a lot of stressful things. What are you doing for self care, relaxation, get away from things, time to decompress, etc? In terms of the chaos of having a young child and the kid and ex wife coming first, are these deal breakers for you, or is there room for compromise to be found? Two adults and a kid in a one bedroom apartment sounds miserable, I would honestly rather split rent on a two bedroom so there's more space and you hav…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/24 03:17 AM
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thats kinda the idea of the red pill i think, to confront reality and know that relationships are more transactional/hierarchal than what we give them credit for. by improving yourself, you get treated better and get more quality men/relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:52 PM
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it's motivated me, ive been on a big self improvement binge on the past 2ish months. been working out, working on my makeup and hair styling lots, reading redpillwomen approved books. ive been seeing a lot of good results so far and my boyfriend has been liking the results too
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:20 PM
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the former probably has it separated from the non sex parts of his life, ive never seen a trans-vestigator who wasn't consumed by their obsession with trans people
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:14 PM
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the opposite tbh im swinging above my league with my bf
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:10 PM
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im thinking of trying elf, whats ur fave?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:09 PM
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currently i use maybelline mascara, elf concealer, elf blush, and wet n wild eyeliner
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:08 PM
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one day i anticipate this happening with my makeup
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:06 PM
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jesus a $120 brunch?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 01:38 AM
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lol not for me and it is degen but people can do what they want
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 01:37 AM
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take the monk pill if the food you eat every day is simple, plain, and nutritious, you don't have to worry about lots of things. and when you do eat something good it's like jesus blessing your tongue
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 01:35 AM
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I feel like thatd apply on a general attraction level, but once it gets to full cuck kink level, it's probably something deeper
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 01:30 AM
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the guy is either super dense, autistic, or creepy
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 01:27 AM
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from what ive gathered on my 4chan days, its internalized racism, similar to fat ugly bastard kink or the whole monsters defiling the innocent princess trope. i have met a couple of people with autism who just like the color contrast
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 01:25 AM
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pot calling the kettle black
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 12:17 AM
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its probably the same cause bones dont really affect tdee, it's more so weight and muscles
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 12:13 AM
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It's a hindrance, but it's not a death sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 10:58 PM
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guy should have given you his number instead tbh. making the woman be vulnerable in a situation she cant leave is the wrong move
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 10:38 PM
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Get more girl friends. Laura Doyle talks about this, but one of the big parts is getting more girl friends to share feelings with, to complain to, etc. No one person can bear the brunt of all of one person's emotions and complaints.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/24 10:26 PM
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massively underrated part is just being friendly and warm. i get approached much more frequently and get a lot more compliments when i stand up straight, smile, etc versus when i look angry and closed off and in a rush. i think this is the reason a lot of femcels struggle to date outside of obvious things like weight. i remember reading from femcels their personality type and like 80% of them said infp lol so yea!! being approachable and warm is such an underrated part of femininity and much eas…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 10:23 PM
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it all kinda blends together by the time youre 26-27 tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 10:10 PM
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Q4A: /r/Vindicta says that only LVM cold approach, what do you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 05:20 AM
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cute!!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 04:20 AM
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ive found its area dependent. people in a desert state all look 5-10 years older than they are, but somewhere high humidity everyone looks 5 years younger than they are
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 04:02 AM
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:c
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 02:50 AM
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im the same way with siege
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 02:30 AM
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you’re trying to be clear that you’re not talking about trans women, or is it autism both
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 02:25 AM
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i get schizo when a woman compliments me in general. is she complimenting me because she thinks i look good? because i look bad? because i look like im having a bad day? the world may never know. id much rather they just not comment on my appearance at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 02:20 AM
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yea being a man sucks
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 02:02 AM
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Live in the PNW. Rents $1300. What part? It's hard to find rent for a 2 bedroom in a city for $1300/month here except for Tacoma.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 01:47 AM
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thats brutal lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 01:35 AM
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beagles are so cute
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 12:37 AM
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Time to use that energy to self improve. There's a lot of resources on here and /r/Vindicta is great for looksmaxxing
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 07:57 PM
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i don't think it's so much a you become old and no longer care thing, i think its more so a generational thing
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 03:30 PM
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this one was great
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 01:50 PM
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your posts are either great or absolutely terrible, there's such little inbetween
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 01:49 PM
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> [ Removed by Reddit ] lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 01:34 PM
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this is a really common view for feminists and women under the age of 30. it also ironically feeds into the patriarchal idea that women are innocent children and men are dangerous emotionless beasts
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 12:45 PM
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transmission of hiv is primarily through receptive anal sex, not piv. that's why hiv has stayed primarily a thing among gay men and trans women, it hasn't wrecked straight cis people much
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 06:38 PM
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i used to but now i only do if im just getting the mail or something
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 06:10 PM
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this is very true and it's unfortunate that it's been done away with in most mainstream mental health
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 06:01 PM
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oh go him then
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 05:52 PM
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10% of a top 30%-40% salary is maybe $7K/year
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 05:48 PM
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its like having a weighted blanket on you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 05:46 PM
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It would need to be enough to support himself on, relationships are so much more stressful when one person wouldn't be able to support themselves if the relationship ended.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 05:45 PM
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trust me i have more than 99% of people here
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 05:15 AM
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omg im genuinely the worst at it, i dont think ive ever met anyone worse at it in my life than me do you have any tips
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 05:11 AM
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makeup and doing my hair is really fun though, i got hair curlers the other day and lemme tell ya they make my bangs look great
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 05:07 AM
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wait until you hear about all of the surgery and canthal tilt talk that happens on womens looksmaxxing subreddits
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 05:02 AM
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i can put both legs behind my head
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 04:25 AM
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Usually lack of it happening anymore is a sign of low testosterone, you should get tested for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 04:20 AM
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how often do you eat ice cream
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 03:18 AM
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ive been an unattractive man, an attractive man, an unattractive woman, and a mid woman people will be much nicer to you if you're attractive, they'll assume the best from you and smile at you a lot more, strangers will find a way to make conversation with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 03:17 AM
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i agree, a man being good with children showcases so many great qualities
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 03:14 AM
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self awareness about not having self respect doesnt make it any less pathetic
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 03:12 AM
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I have BPD too, and that's been my biggest impediment to dating, more so than conventional deal breakers. Men may put up with their peace constantly being disrupted for a 9/10 woman, but they'll never do it for a 7/10 or below woman. If you can get to the point of emotional regulation that you at least don't involve others, you'll see a great increase in the men you attract and the quality of your relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/24 11:58 PM
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honestly the men who cold approach me were a thousand times more attractive than men who didnt just cause the confidence it takes to do it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 11:14 PM
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youre expecting men who call themselves fans of porn stars and OF women to have self respect
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 09:21 PM
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i used to be the latter when i was poor but i have now upgraded to eating at a desk instead
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 01:31 AM
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there are more serotonin receptors in our gut than in our brain, there's 100% a link between mood and diet/bowel movements
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 01:13 AM
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Something like 66% of the US is overweight or obese. Working out is a great way to set yourself apart, and it becomes more effective as this percent goes up every year.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 10:03 PM
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It's rare, but it does happen. The original comment was asking what if the woman had truly repented and changed? This would fit that rare case. Some people do keep some values the same throughout their life, but that isnt what I said. I said people don't keep all the same values all their life. Very different statements.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 09:37 PM
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You make it seem that values aren't something that can be changed, even though I don't think there's ever been someone who's kept all the same values all their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 09:07 PM
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I can see why it's a deal breaker for a relationship, but I don't see why it can't be something forgiven on a platonic level.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 08:01 PM
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That's okay and understandable, but if you follow a religion who's core idea is forgiveness in the face of true repentance and change, does it not make sense that it would extend to this?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 06:44 PM
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I would think your ability to observe and read someone's character would be the primary factor. People who are promiscuous tend to have other behaviors and views that correlate with it. I would hope someone who follows a religion who's core idea is forgiveness would extend to those who you read and observe as truly repented and changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 06:43 PM
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Why is a woman sleeping with many men in the past not something able to be forgiven if she truly repents and changed?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 06:03 PM
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sounds like a good man to marry if you're not terribly ambitious/high maintenance
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 07:45 AM
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There's a lot of good posts here about vetting Part 1 Part 2 Part 3
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 05:56 AM
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It sounds like you need to work on your vetting process and absolutely do not stay in contact with exes.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 05:54 AM
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I think it'd be worth experimenting with things as dressing more feminine seems new to you. In this case, fast fashion stores like Forever 21, H&M, and Pac Sun are all good options to start with. If you want something high quality and long lasting, it's going to be expensive.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 05:38 AM
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Do you have any Goodwills nearby you? There can be a good selection of things there.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 05:31 AM
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its easy to point out flaws, it's a lot harder to give alternatives. i mean it in genuine good faith, i would like to hear about a system that is able to deal with depopulation while maintaining strong social programs and governmental power along with equal rights for women. public ownership of all goods is even worse in a depopulated system as public services and social programs are the first thing to fail during depopulation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:48 PM
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we could drastically reorganize society, and i am very open ears to hearing one that contends a depopulated country while maintaining the government running social programs and pensions not being ruined
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:14 PM
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ive found the more leeway i give regarding self respect, the more people will take from me, unless if they're an exceptionally kind person. having a zero tolerance policy for infidelity is the best way to prevent it and prevent a lot of pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:51 PM
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then being owned by corporations is our future, anyone who knows basics of history knows what im saying is true
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:36 PM
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well the alternative is feudalism which i would definitely say is worse than what we have now
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:36 PM
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Rome's economic issues, the economic issues of the 1800s, were not due to bad or good harvest. Bad weather affecting harvest significantly to the point of famine was primarily a thing in the middle ages. There were many factors, but less recessions is due to increased competent government regulation, not better technology (if anything, better technology speeds it up).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:17 AM
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The government has it's power through it's military and legal enforcement. This is the means in which they use to enforce the legislation that they write. If they pass a law and a business continues to violate it, the business will be shut down. How do they do this? Through using law enforcement. Law enforcement and the military will not work for the government if they are not paid. They are paid through the tax dollars paid to the US government. In the case of depopulation, the tax base is sign…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:15 AM
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Yeah, talking about not having enough sex and wanting a threesome is up there for the two worst topics you could combine into a single conversation.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 08:01 AM
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We're much better at economics than we've ever been, back in the early 1800s there would be a recession every 2 years, compared to one every 8-10 years now. Something catastrophic would need to happen in order for things to collapse in 25 years, although we withstood something like COVID fairly well all things considered. Things are much more stable than any of the times periods you listed, even if you go back by 25 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:36 AM
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And how do they do that if they don't have the monetary means through a sizeable tax base to do so? At that point you're relying on the personal wealth of very wealthy government officials, which is just about one step away from feudalism.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:29 AM
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That's a foolish way to look at governmental power. There has to be someone to enforce the legislation in order for the legislation to be followed, otherwise there would be no reason to follow it. Think about laws that are unenforced, piracy for example. It's not (at least heavily) enforced, so no one bothers to follow it. You really think corporations are going to follow unenforceable laws if it benefits them not to?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:23 AM
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Stop consuming /r/antiwork content and start comparing trends lol 25 years may be where we start seeing things like social security fall, but even then, that's the beginning of a very long process of governmental collapse. Rome started doing poorly during the time of Marcus Aurelius and it still took 300 years for the Roman Empire to officially collapse.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:21 AM
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Hold immature women accountable by making a card like ebt so they don't misuse child support. That doesn't really do anything but shift around budgets. Think of it this way: if you had $300 budgeted for groceries and $300 budgeted for fun, and you got $300 in child support on an ebt like card. You could just use what would have been your grocery money on fun things, and the ebt like card on groceries. It doesn't do anything but shift things around a bit. Make it so both men and women can opt out…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:15 AM
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And making it so kids suffer more is not the way to do anything but add fuel to the fire.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:01 AM
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And how do you think governments get the power in order to regulate the corporations? The government gains it's power through tax revenue, and cannot exist without it. What do you think happens with corporations when the government collapses? If there's no one around to regulate them, then they get to run free, which is why feudalism was so problematic.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:54 AM
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That's populist pessimism. I think we're a distance away from it (80-120 years or so maybe?), but the government still flexes it's power corporations when it wants to. Watch Elon or Bezos put their tail between their legs when they complain about the government making them follow regulations. It's going to kick into gear once baby boomers fully die off and gen X start trying to collect their pensions.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:53 AM
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I think it's better described as hyper individualism and people putting their own desires and wants over the needs of their country. Albeit I'm a hypocrite in saying this as I'm not having any kids myself, but I do think it's important to call a spade a spade and not try to distract ourselves from the reality of things when talking about population degrowth.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:47 AM
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Yeah just thinking things through would lead you to these conclusions. I feel like so much of populism preys on peoples' immediate emotions regarding a topic in order to manipulate them into giving power.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:41 AM
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I think people just don't really understand history, particularly late antiquity to the early middle ages, because world history classes spend maybe two weeks on it. Falling population levels is worse for basically everyone in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:33 AM
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The child comes first, first and foremost. The second we start prioritizing adults over the well being of children is the second in which we start getting a lot of terrible cascading societal effects.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:30 AM
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Unfortunately feminism isn't sustainable long term with really any system that groups more than 10,000 people together. Birth rates aren't correlated with social support or wealth (otherwise Sweden would be booming with kids and countries in Africa would be heavily struggling), they're correlated with women's educational levels. People will spend the next 60-80 years denying this correlation while we're pumping more and more immigrants into our country before the countries we're getting immigran…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:24 AM
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The last time birth rates fell over a sustained period, we got feudalism. When birth rates fall over a long period of time, the government collapses due to lack of support, lack of tax revenue, and lack of ability to enforce it's power and will. In the subsequent power vacuum, those with existing resources (the wealthy, corporations, landlords) are the ones who seize power.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:17 AM
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I think you are, cause HSV is herpes and HPV is a different STD. You said in another comment you were getting a vaccine for it, and there aren't any available vaccines for prevention of herpes.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 04:53 AM
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That's fairly surprising, I can't find anything online about the course of treatment being removing them, or even anything about removing them at all. Everything I see is having anti virals as the course of treatment. EDIT: I did find one study saying it was rare, was your ex on anti virals at all?
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 04:49 AM
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Something like 85% of people with genital herpes are asymptomatic and roughly 12% of people have genital herpes. So if the other person has slept with 5 people, there's a good chance they've been exposed to it. Someone who's on anti virals for it is probably less likely to give it to you than some person by chance. Doctors are discouraged from testing for it on std panels unless if the patient has symptoms of it cause the psychological stress is seen as greater than any health negatives that usu…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 04:41 AM
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i really like it so long as if the guy can take a no with grace
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:03 AM
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yea posting it during euro/aussie hours was probs not a good idea
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 06:52 AM
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I feel this take is very naive and that you don't have a lot of experience with sex workers. I've personally known a fair amount of sex workers over the years (not OF, but rather prostitutes, sugar babies, porn stars, etc) and I genuinely have not met a single sex worker who didn't do hard drugs.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 06:40 AM
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drug addiction
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 06:34 AM
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do you feel this is likely due to your financial situation attracting a certain kind of woman, instead of OP who doesn't have much?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 05:45 AM
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growing up, did your schools tell you they were gonna have lockdowns beforehand? mine never did and in retrospect it seemed kinda unnecessary to make kids unsure if the person knocking hard on the door during the lockdown might be an actual shooter. weird to think about in retrospect
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 05:30 AM
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Over the course of the past year or so, I saw a twitch streamer divorce his wife and get a new girlfriend after he went from averaging 1.2K viewers to averaging ~5K viewers, presumably making a ton more money. His (now ex) wife was a morbidly obese woman who didn't cook based off of how frequently the guy seemingly got fast food, while his new gf is a woman with a killer body and I never see him eat fast food anymore when I tune into his streams. Rough, but that's the reality of things sometimes…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 02:09 AM
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its a lot easier to remove bone than it is to add to it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 02:06 AM
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i cant do it, my pinky feels so weak and awkward every time i try using it to type or during games
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 02:05 AM
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trust me, its much worse among women
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 10:41 PM
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This is a place to take responsibility for your circumstances and work towards self improvement. If you want to self pity and get affirmation for it, then go to a sub like twox
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 10:06 PM
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Losing weight and focusing on self improvement is the way to go.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 10:02 PM
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Women were cool as hell before I transitioned, now after transitioning and especially after passing/going stealth, women have become unbearable. It's layers under layers of passive aggressiveness and implications, it drives me insane. It's been the reverse with men where they were annoying to deal with before but are cool as hell to talk to now. I really think it's just a case of same gender socialization sucking.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 09:07 PM
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Speaking on the other side, I do genuinely feel better now and have enough self worth to know I deserve better than an abusive relationship. The more healthy I become, the more I desire to surround myself with healthy people.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 11:31 AM
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From what I've noticed (including in my own life), emotionally sensitive men tend to attract traumatized/emotionally damaged women. It's very healing to date someone who's good with emotions when you've had past trauma.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 09:01 AM
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which gender is legally required to sign up for the draft is the only question you need to ask yourself when considering who is considered more expendable
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 03:19 AM
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It's definitely worse than nothing, it feels a thousand times worse when you reach out for help and get none versus not reaching out for help at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 06:34 PM
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it depends on the kind of anxiety. social anxiety, it works great. anxiety people hate you, no so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 05:08 PM
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are you unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 04:57 PM
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ive never even been warned before, i must not be controversial enough
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 04:41 PM
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from what i understand, dms they get are usually wanting to use them for sexual purposes, not relationships. going after vulnerable lonely women to use them for sex is pretty skeevy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 04:40 PM
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If you believe in the dissolution of gender roles and progressive values but also believe due to biological constraints and evolution the goals are literally impossible and therefore stupid to try and implement hamfistedly... What would that make you? retarded Like the whole dad bod thing? Why on earth are we pretending women WANT to fuck guys who are out of shape and lazy. i did know a woman who was unironically into this, she had severe daddy issues and her dad had a dad bod
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 04:29 PM
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It makes my head spin just as much as yours. The only way I've been able to make sense of it is she does view abuse that way, but wants to lie by omission, so she dodged my grievance and tried to get me to focus on something unrelated to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 04:26 PM
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I've found when one person communicates their feelings, the other person takes away something completely different from it most of the time. For example with my most recent therapist, I said how I felt that she views abuse as something a man does to a woman and how that hurts my feelings. For some reason she thought I was saying she was racist (we're both white) or transphobic (when my issue with her would still be the same if I wasn't trans), even though I implied neither of those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 04:21 PM
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If people don't think about you a lot, it's likely that they don't care about you, otherwise they would be thinking about you. When you say "at least" the implication tends to come across as diminishing the problem at hand. Or in the case of anxiety, comes across as "yes that is true, but"
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 04:16 PM
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in the mind of someone anxious, this reads as "they don't care about you or they do in fact hate you" neither are very comforting to hear
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 04:12 PM
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if he wasn't ginger, like 4-5/10
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 03:58 PM
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This is especially true in the field of therapy. There was a topic about how men have higher suicide rates than women, in which the therapists on /r/therapists said men are unhinged emotionally stunted maniacs, chronic cheaters, and entitled. No wonder their suicide rates are that high when that's how they're viewed when they go to therapy, instead of with empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 03:50 PM
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lmao of course everyone is unsympathetic to the man and ignoring his feelings to focus on the woman and how she feels
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 02:40 PM
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>grrrr why do women want demonstrated commitment before sex>:(
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 02:11 PM
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are you unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 02:00 PM
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there was a thread in /r/therapists that talked about men having higher suicide rates than women. in the thread as a response to this fact, therapists called men unhinged emotionally stunted maniacs, chronic cheaters, and entitled. any man who goes to therapy is a cuck for giving money to people who view them this way
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 01:49 PM
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theres a new tab if you turn off subreddit styles in settings for old reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 11:41 AM
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are you on old or new reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 10:45 AM
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did you do it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 07:03 AM
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It's an open secret a lot of RP community women are on the spectrum. I'm interested in hearing about this more if you're willing to share, I'm curious as I'm neurodivergent myself.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/24 04:23 AM
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You're mistaking timeline I'm speaking about. Drastic bursts of depopulation (such as the Black Death) do not result in feudalism, but the long sustained population degrowth (such as late antiquity to early middle ages) does. An easy example of this and deurbanization I'm talking about is to look at estimates of the population of Rome during the time of Augustus to the time of Justinian.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 03:46 AM
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It also means less expenditure, in todays world, with some exceptions. Though there are concerns scale aren't linear. It means less expenditures, but there are essential ones. The idea is that one person gives out more than they take in, but the margins become increasingly thin. One of the biggest drivers in the prosperity of the high middle ages was exactly the population doubling. The vast majority of our prosperity found in the modern day is specifically because of technology and said technol…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 01:44 PM
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There were different rules by different groups of wealthy people. Government officials were wealthy, but they were wealthy thanks to taxes, but that stopped when the population decreased. When a population decreases, it means less tax revenue, which means the government can no longer exert it's power or influence, resulting in collapse. When a government collapses, it's replaced by those who are wealthy through private ownership. It's not like the government collapsed and those who used to be in…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 12:42 PM
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Social mobility and economic mobility are very different, and I assume you're talking about economic mobility. In terms of economic mobility, I would say it's stagnated (because of population decline and increase in work force), but again, significantly higher than in previous generations. Someone who was a worker in a factory pre FDR had a significantly lower economic mobility than someone does now. There are fields that lead to likely prosperity that you can choose, and the government will hel…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 11:17 AM
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I've never met a woman who's considered a situationship as a relationship. Every time I've had a woman vent to me about a situationship, it's been about how they wished they could get him to commit to a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 11:01 AM
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That doesn't make sense, a situationship isn't a relationship and there's no monogamy in a situationship. The study asked if the women were in a relationship, not if they were having sex with others.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 10:47 AM
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Revolution occurs when the ruling class of a subjugated country decides so, or when basic needs are not met in the population. Despite populist assertions, we do very much live in prosperity compared to what would need to be needed for revolution. Most of our basic needs are met (much better than previous decades) and we are entertained more than ever, breads and circuses as they say. A tiny upper class and a large impoverished working class is how it has been for the vast majority of countries …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 10:34 AM
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And I would assert that both of those things are much better than feudalism, you're understudied if you think otherwise. Feudalism was awful and significantly worse in almost every way, and we're heading right towards feudalism if the population keeps declining how it is. You being able to own your own house rather than rent for your entire life is one example off the top of my head.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 10:18 AM
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This is populist rhetoric that falls apart at first glance. First off, your landlord is not Bezos or Musk, and you're not beholden to them. Your landlord isn't your employer either, if you wish to leave for other prospects, you may. If you have the money to have your own house, you have a legal right to it. Your landlord can't bring a group of people over and legally demand that you feed them for as long as they'd like. I could go on and on but you get the idea. Sure the wealthy may pay off our …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 09:44 AM
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its really bad in terms of OLD but otherwise fairly okay
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 05:21 AM
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oh that makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 05:07 AM
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yesterday
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 05:07 AM
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i think its the implication of the person behind the counter's opinion. if i didn't tip at this one place on takeout, the lady would be mean to me, but if i tipped she would flirt with me. both made me uncomfortable and i wish that tipping wasn't a thing there
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 05:04 AM
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can i ask for specifics? like the guy is transphobic to me then tries to hurt me but my bf saves me
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 05:02 AM
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ive been on both sides, it feels much more lonely to be surrounded by people who don't care about you and just want to fuck you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 05:00 AM
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The last time there was a population went down as hard as we're predicting in the future, we got feudalism. When the population goes down over the course of centuries, authority collapses and those who take power in that absence are those with the existing wealth and resources to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 04:44 AM
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it definitely affects someones capability for empathy when theyre regularly and easily exposed to content like that
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 05:05 AM
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From what I understand, it was no short skirts, not no shorts. Men on discord will simp for anything vaguely feminine, I feel you're naive about how bad it is on there.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/24 11:09 PM
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my first thought is discord tends to attract people who are not the most upstanding people. women on there are almost certain to get flirted with, ive even known men who have been flirted with cause they had an anime girl as their pfp. that said, maybe op isn't in those kinds of spaces.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/24 10:54 PM
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tfw im not hot or less dramatic
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 09:47 PM
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yea, the person youre replying to seems brain broken. people want to be around a charismatic person cause being around charismatic people is fun, regardless of anything else
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 05:38 PM
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this is not a thing ive observed past the age of 23
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 06:09 AM
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how old are you? this stopped being a thing i saw after i was done with university
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 06:04 AM
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The difference is how much commitment you have to dating while in nun mode, along with if its mental health included (which you should). In terms of fertility, you're not going to be significantly more fertile at 26 vs at 28. Having a good father for your children is much more important than a couple years of fertility in your 20s.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/24 04:56 AM
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does she look like shes a weight lifter or pro athlete dude? bmi has been found to underestimate the amount of overweight and obese people due to the prominence of being skinny fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 04:15 AM
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I think hard nun mode is a necessity. Its suggested even for women at 30 because the man they'll attract at 32 and glowed up will undoubtedly be better than the man they'll attract at 26 pre glow up. I would focus a lot on beauty, hair care, getting a new haircut (i think bangs would work well with your face), and losing weight. Like others have said, losing weight is a great time to learn cooking. Makeup and fashion are both things that are able to be learned/get good at if you grind in the eff…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/24 01:08 AM
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If I had to take a stab at guessing, he sees a romantic relationship as a safe place to be as feminine as he wants, free from the pressures of masculinity others expect of him. Removing that would likely leave him bitter and angry, making you both unhappy.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 10:05 AM
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The ick is usually a failure from the man to perform masculinity, so it makes sense that you're getting it from him. From the vast vast majority of feminine men I have seen, they don't change significantly in regards to masculinity, no matter the other person. If you don't want to be in the position that's typically ascribed to men in relationships, then I would reevaluate if he's the right man for you and if you're able to handle it. It's what the vetting process is for.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 09:14 AM
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Also, Do you think I should acknowledge this newfound realisation to him and express my commitment to respect and honouring him? Or not mention it but just change my ways pronto? Actions mean more than words, especially for men I've found. You also dont want to risk talking about it, getting praise, then slipping. You're not going to be perfect at it at first in all likelihood and you don't want to potentially embarrass yourself. In my experience, my boyfriend did notice a change pretty quickly.…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 09:03 AM
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From what I've seen, it's very common among people who society would deem as degenerate (like drug users for example), but it's fairly uncommon otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 04:04 AM
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Madonna Whore Complex is terrible to deal with in a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 01:01 AM
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Definitely both, when a man feels loved and respected, I think it makes him want to give it in return.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/24 11:25 PM
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He's much more affectionate and intimate with me now, he's seemingly more willing to move things forward, and there's a lot more peace between us now.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/24 11:07 PM
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There's only so much one person can do, the other person needs to make an effort too. Unfortunately you can only control yourself and your actions, and it sounds like your husband wasn't doing his part until he gave up porn. I'm sorry you're going through this, it isn't fair to you.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/24 11:00 PM
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People like the women in OP's post, who are disrespected and don't do anything about it, who give a lot for very little in return, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/24 10:46 PM
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Push overs often attract those who take advantage of such and those who are ungrateful.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/24 10:24 PM
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I'm definitely in the former group, trust is central to my attraction in a relationship. We're working to build trust again but it's difficult.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/24 07:00 AM
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Thank you, it feels nice to read this comment. How can you become the peace instead of making it an act for his benefit? I am trying to do alternative methods to help self regulate my emotions including exercise and additional hobbies to occupy my time. Since getting into RPW I gave up an old coping mechanism that wasn't necessarily unhealthy but was not something I wanted as a coping mechanism long term. As a result I've been struggling with finding myself new ways to self regulate. I am also i…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/24 01:32 AM
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Laura Doyle suggests when your husband has a bad idea, to simply say "Whatever you think." Other times more and more I’m feeling like “If they act and do things however they want why can’t I. Why do I have to STFU and submit to my husband There's a reason why dead bedroom miserable marriages that lack intimacy are so common, it's because people prioritize being right and give into spite, rather than intimacy and the relationship. Is being right more important to you, or is a happy intimate marri…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 09:33 PM
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do you really think a man who dms OF women is high quality?
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 07:02 PM
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I know the feeling of feeling manly and the man feeling emasculated due to salary differences, it really sucks and I feel for you. In regards to having kids, what's maternity leave like for your work/country? What are you currently doing to support your bf to succeed?
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 06:40 AM
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The thing is free dating apps are going to bring people who aren't invested in finding someone or serious about finding someone. There's a reason why ghosting/flakiness is such a common complaint among people who use free dating apps. I would think someone who's busy with life would pay for a service that more easily weeds out people who are essentially time wasters.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/24 10:12 PM
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From what I've found, the ones who shame OF girls are the same ones DM'ing them when they're horny. They would never be public about it, but there is a lot more overlap than you think.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/24 09:21 PM
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I've heard dating apps that require you to pay are much better, but i haven't heard any mentions of any is specific.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/24 09:03 PM
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I make less than half that in a medium-high COL area supporting myself and my disabled sister, we don't live paycheck to paycheck by any means. I don't know how a family of three making 150K would be living paycheck to paycheck unless if they're being wasteful with money or live somewhere like San Fransisco or New York.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/24 12:00 AM
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I don't know, I've never dated as an autistic man. I've known some relationships that are autistic X autistic but those are usually disasters. The only time I've seen an autistic man not have a disaster relationship was when he learned to minimize his symptoms significantly or they were minimal in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 08:59 PM
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I wouldn't say so. Women rely on men in relationships typically, so it's seen as a desirable dynamic to many men and women, but it doesn't go the other way generally.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 08:54 PM
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I don't think it's so much what others will think about her dating someone autistic, but rather worries he'll have many foot in mouth moments being autistic in a NT social world. The men I generally see with autistic women have broken bird syndrome and are more understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 08:38 PM
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I feel like men are more likely to use the term oneitis while women are more likely to use a term like limerence. limerence sounds like some artsy term that would appeal to college aged women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 04:57 AM
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Oh hey, a topic I have a unique-ish personal experience with. I'm male to female and have had female hormone levels thanks to hrt for coming up on 4 years now. One of the interesting things I've noticed is my risk tolerance has gone to shit. I know rationally I'm not any less safe when I go out really, but my monkey brain goes wild at potential risk now. I think this is also backed up by how men get in less car accidents, but they get into more fatal car accidents. Higher risk tolerance in men m…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 03:19 PM
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From what I understand, yes.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 01:45 PM
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i wasnt disagreeing with you i was supporting what u were saying lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 12:30 PM
13

College educated, as in achieving a degree, women are most likely to have lasting marriages
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 12:25 PM
26

You shouldn't settle with a man you're not crazy about.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 11:18 AM
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The typical red pill advice I see when deciding between two people is to pick neither, as the man you end up with should make every other man pale in comparison. EDIT: I recognize your username, you keep deleting your posts.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 11:12 AM
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Yes and you only have oral herpes, which is why I am confused as to why you feel the need to disclose or go so far as to go on STD dating websites.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 05:02 AM
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It's oral herpes, something the majority of the population has. I have heard about genital herpes being a dealbreaker or important to disclose, but not oral herpes.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 05:00 AM
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I genuinely have not met anyone who thinks you should disclose oral herpes or considers it an STD in the context of dating.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 04:58 AM
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Is oral herpes really something to disclose? Something like 75% of the population has it. I'd understand if it were something like genital herpes, but I'm confused as to why you're on an STD dating site.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 04:45 AM
2

It sounds like your therapist isn't very helpful and the focus isn't on processing your trauma, but rather the focus is on maintaining contact with someone you shouldn't have contact with. Go no contact with him and go to a therapist who will work through your trauma with you.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 04:15 AM
2

Tell me more about therapy and going to it and what you got out of it.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 03:36 AM
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What I found was when I consistently attracted people who were abusive and didn't respect me, it was because of my unprocessed trauma and lack of self respect. Start with breaking up with your boyfriend and going to a trauma informed therapist.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 03:22 AM
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You shouldn't be looking to trick your husband into doing anything, manipulating people is wrong and shows a lack of respect for the person. This post needs more information. Have you tried talking about it to him already? What was his upbringing like? How stingy is he and what impact does it have on your feelings and life?
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/23 09:59 AM
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I have a low libido too, and what really helped me was building myself into someone that's sexy. Exercise, doing my makeup daily, wearing nice clothes every day, all helped me see myself as more of a sexual being. Something that also helped me was making time for sexual fantasizing and slowly getting myself in the mood. I think it's very easy with a low libido and receptive sex drive to just not think about sex outside of when it's with someone else, but I think making time and space for it on o…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 11:30 PM
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I don't know, the vast majority of women I've met have married regular men who made a bit more than they did. The ones with high standards who would only date a doctor or whatever were usually the ones who were perpetually single saying all men are trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 06:28 AM
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Part of marriage is being there for your husband while he works through his health struggles, which depending on your views of drug addiction, this would fall under. He seems like a good man struggling with a health issue based off of your post. It would be one thing if he was still doing cocaine and refusing to say he has a problem and won't go to therapy, but he seems to be making an honest to God effort to get better for you and him. You're married and moved to another country for him, you sh…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 06:22 AM
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In my experience, men like this won't ever change no matter the woman or relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 09:32 PM
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I had a physically abusive relationship and a string of relationships with people who didn't respect my sexual boundaries, both due to me having unprocessed trauma leading me to subconsciously seek out abusive people. I met a guy by chance who didn't pressure me to do sexual things I had already said no to and didn't physically abuse me. The relationship showed me what a loving relationship is supposed to be like. He was kind, sensitive towards my feelings, and had self respect and confidence. t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 08:34 AM
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would you really want to date a woman who posts on reddit past the age of 30
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 03:04 AM
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cause you love her lots
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 12:56 AM
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Tbf you can say the same exact bullet points about American women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 12:37 AM
6

If we're looking through a pragmatic rpw lens rather than a moralistic lens, then having a high body count is undesirable since there's more men who desire a low body count over men who desire a high body count. That doesn't mean it's an end all be all by any means though.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/23 08:14 PM
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Oh geez, yea when respect for the man is lost, the relationship will go into a crazy cycle. I really really suggest OP reads this, if I had to have one post be mandatory reading for every woman here, it'd be this post. Being the bigger person and breaking the cycle through having respect for your man for the sake of love is the best way a woman can help a relationship where the man doesn't feel respected and the woman doesn't feel loved.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 01:41 AM
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Yea from what I understand, RPW isn't advice for abusive relationships, it's advice for healthy relationships after a solid vetting process.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/23 06:37 AM
9

just dont go on the date from the get go if you already feel this way, it's just a first date, its not like they've been dating for two years.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/23 08:52 PM
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Yea in practical terms, offering to pay for your half of the date leads to less expectations on his end and doesn't mean that he won't take you out on and pay for dates later.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/23 08:25 PM
3

To him, it may seem like you're not capable of doing both at the same time like (I presume) he did, and that you're not able to handle stressful situations like medical school well. When someone becomes ambitious, they tend to reevaluate those around them and feel further apart from those who don't also feel ambitious, that happens in general when someone improves their life drastically. You're 22 about to be in your third year of your undergrad (with desires to go to med school) talking about t…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/23 01:03 AM
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I agree with this take, the kind of guy who'd be going for 19 year olds while 29 is likely either going to be immature, have a mental health issue stunting growth (like adhd), or highly value youth in women. It sounds like he's grown up and gotten his life together and I think him not supporting OP on taking a year break may be because it reminds him of his old self lacking ambition he should have had. The best advice I have for OP is to match him, he's boosted his dating market value and she ne…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/23 12:35 AM
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With LDRs you need a realistic plan to close the gap, I've known so many LDRs that just had no hopes of doing that then people are surprised it didn't work out. Right now, it seems like you're holding out hope that you can change him or inspire him to come to your state. It's been four months and this doesn't seem to be happening.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 06:25 PM
3

I have a specific day I do everything, starting with something easy like making my bed, which gives me momentum to do other things. Once I make my bed, I pick up around my room and vacuum, then I go to take the trash out. I have hard limits of where I put things, for example I never put anything that isn't strictly necessary on my desk or bed, which gives me safe places and makes sure I put things where they belong.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 01:46 PM
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I also don't think gifts that are also for yourself in addition to the other person is generally a very good idea. I think the suggestion of making him something hand crafted would mean a lot more to him.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 03:52 AM
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4) BIGGEST ONE: I don't say disparaging things about men. I used to jokingly say things like "I hate men" or "fuck men" with my friends when I was younger, but I'm actively working on avoiding those sorts of jokes, because I wouldn't be comfortable with a guy saying those things about women! It blows my mind that so many women don't see why this would lead to men not wanting to date them. Respect is central to making a man feel loved, why would any man or good relationship come from one person c…
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/23 09:57 PM
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