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JustAnotherBoymoder/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 07:29 PM
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This works for colleges, but not for jobs since job interviews are ubiquitous.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 12:54 PM
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More cheek fat is feminine, when mtfs go on estrogen their cheeks gain fat, when ftms go on testosterone, their cheeks lose fat. Fashion trends that seem counter intuitive make a lot more sense when you realize they're set primarily by gay men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 09:43 PM
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models and fashion trends are mostly set by gay men, that's why objectively male typical features (like being tall and less cheek fat) are trendy right now
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 03:35 AM
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I asked what if someone said they wouldn't have sex before a relationship, would that make it a no go?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 06:06 PM
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That didn't really answer my question lol, there's a lot of leeway between promiscuous and virgin, particularly with those who wait until a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 05:31 PM
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What would happen if a woman you met didn't want to have sex until you were in a relationship? Was it just a no go at that point?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 04:53 PM
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yea thats a clear cut case of porn addiction
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 02:08 AM
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an all knowing being that can send us to eternal torment from what i understand, it was never eternal torment, that was a later fabrication/interpretation that became mainstream. its likely a lot closer to something where you do your time then enter heaven
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 01:42 AM
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i think there are a significant men are addicted to porn, but in the case of dead bedrooms on the man's end, it's more likely the woman (unknowingly) does things to kill the intimacy in the relationship. who wants to have sex with and be vulnerable with someone who puts you down and is always trying to control you?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 01:18 AM
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more of a retro look but i think it looks cute
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 01:11 AM
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While I think most of the book sucks and outdated, the first chapter of Why Women Love Bitches lays out exactly why men don't like women who lack boundaries and like those who have self respect. I think understanding exactly why it leads to a bad result helped me a lot in getting better with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 12:54 AM
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For many women, having sex one last time is part of getting closure and moving on from the relationship. You're going to make the decision you make, but do know that others (me) told you it was a bad idea when it goes wrong because you're filled with lust right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 12:52 AM
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Yeah once you get to the point that you're demanding things like a polygraph and don't respect or trust them at all, it's over.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 12:50 AM
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she's an ex for a reason and this is going to be disclosure sex for her. this will lead to you getting more feelings and preventing you from moving on with your life
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 12:45 AM
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its likely a regional thing, ive never heard of that in the US before
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 12:37 AM
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dont do it it always leads to more drama and heartbreak
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 12:36 AM
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I wouldn't suggest filters as tests, I would suggest focusing on knowing your boundaries better, and sticking hard with them, along with not pedastalizing people
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 12:35 AM
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I stumbled upon this subreddit today, pretty wild place. I can't imagine why a guy wouldn't want to be vulnerable and intimate with his girlfriend when she's demanding he takes a polygraph test and does full therapeutic disclosure.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 12:34 AM
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Because women are more likely to seek mental health services. Can we end this talking point please? Because it just isn't true, almost all (91%) middle-aged men had been in contact with at least one frontline service or agency
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 04:43 PM
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I didn't say the sexual dimorphism is women don't have body hair, men do. I was replying to someone who was trying to act like men don't get much thicker, much darker, much more prominent body hair. That is absolutely false and our body hair is sexually dimorphic, sexual dimorphism is not just things that women don't have any of and men have, it's also the amount etc that each one has. Sexual dimorphism includes secondary sex characteristics as well, them being called secondary sex characteristi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 09:37 PM
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It's definitely not, we know that the amount of body hair and thickness of it is directly correlated with testosterone. MtFs who go on estrogen experience their body hair become softer and thinner, while FtMs who go on testosterone experience their body hair become harder and thicker. Body hair is sexually dimorphic.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 06:35 PM
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we have very different life views but i hope it works out for you
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 12:51 AM
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cookie dough definitely if you want to go treat, milk if youre looking for nutrition
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 12:06 AM
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the best advice is to show dont tell on dating profiles
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 11:55 PM
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imagine your mom being a ppd shitposter
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 11:53 PM
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I don't know from what weird rural place you are,but most women would have the same response as the one you described about the man in the case of unsolicited help, especially if it ain't tactful It's very commonly talked about on TwoX, where they complain their husbands or boyfriends aren't helping them or coming to help, but they don't ask for help. I even remember a feminist article talking about if a wife is looking overwhelmed and busy while cooking and doing childcare, but the husband not …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 11:50 PM
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Is this women projecting what they look for in a guy? many people make the mistake thinking that the other gender is like themselves in romance, which anyone with a brain knows this isn't the case. this extends into relationships, asking for help is a good example. most women like it when you notice they're struggling and come to help them, because it shows youre caring and thoughtful. most men do not like you offering help unsolicited, because it implies that you think they're incompetent and d…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 11:43 PM
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im arguing op has control and self awareness and he's causing himself more stress by making it a big deal and causing conflict over something inconsequential. though he did reply theyre friends who rib each other, which makes this more fun and not a big deal
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 11:39 PM
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oh if youre friends then thats dif
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 11:37 PM
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you do have a brain and self sufficient capabilities and awareness to control your life, or at least i hope you do. just because a technique exists doesnt mean its guaranteed to work on you
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 11:35 PM
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Foot-in-the-door (FITD) technique is a compliance tactic that aims at getting a person to agree to a large request by having them agree to a modest request first. this isnt even a modest request
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 11:30 PM
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the sexual revolution and its consequences
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 11:23 PM
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if they ask for the large request then yea put your foot down but i genuinely cannot imagine getting upset about something so small
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 11:22 PM
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the age is perpetually pushed forward, you see it a lot with people talking about weight for example. first its wait until your freshman 15, then it's wait until you start your career, then its just wait until you hit 30, so on and so forth
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 11:03 PM
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is $5 really worth getting so upset about and creating conflict with someone? thats like 10 minutes of work once a month
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 11:02 PM
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/r/waiting_to_wed always manages to surprise me. women get a house and children with men who they aren't even engaged to, then they're surprised when the man says "i see no rush, we're basically already married anyways." they act like a wife in everything but name but then are surprised when he sees no rush to get married, even after a decade. like even the slightest boundaries would have prevented that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:38 PM
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many men get very angry when rejected and are usually stronger than the woman rejecting them. this has culturally resulted in being less direct and a softer landing approach to rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 01:25 AM
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if an erection does not happen for an extended amount of time, the penis can shrink from disuse. this bounces back with erections and male levels of testosterone though
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 02:40 AM
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If both are lesbians generally yes. If one's lesbian and the other is bi, it is a very common complaint from lesbians when dating bi women that they're placed into the traditional man's role instead of an equal relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 10:57 PM
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it's weird, sometimes when i go out, ill get several men complimenting me, then go three months with men basically ignoring me. i dress relatively the same, do my makeup the same, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 11:59 PM
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Third spaces died for a reason, it's not like they were being frequented a lot and suddenly just had to close up shop. People have intentionally moved to online spaces as a means to spend their time instead, you have the causality reversed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 10:59 PM
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It's not that they're not trying hard enough, it's generally due to the mindset of blaming others and not asking what you can do/could have done in a situation. Looking at the /r/Waiting_To_Wed subreddit, many of the women there seem to have troubles with self awareness or understanding. I remember reading a comment there how men who drag their feet with marriage are always excited to get married one day, until the couple has their first argument. Then the man drags his feet, gives non committal…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 10:49 PM
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I used to watch Psychacks and the vid OP is talking about is what made me stop. He has some good videos here and there (I like the ugly duckling and dark horse videos in particular), but giving sex with no expectation of commitment is the absolutely worst advice to give a woman. The men's equivalent would be to pay for dates and buy the woman a ton of things and that will make her want to date him, and we all know how that advice would play out. It just doesn't work, the vast majority of people …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 01:13 AM
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I don't see why I would call you autistic in that situation, there's nothing particularly autistic about getting cold feet. I would probably say you got cold feet but going for the date instead would probably do you good for your self confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 06:12 AM
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It's not projection, but if you want me to defend myself I can. The two major possibilities here are either, she enjoys toying with people's hearts and gets enjoyment out of seeing men suffer. Or she just got cold feet and let it go on way too long. Most people generally aren't malicious, and being unable to understand that having cold feet is much more likely than being a cruel person, if not indicating autism, does at least indicate emotional issues and difficulties relating to the average per…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 06:08 AM
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You really sound autistic, for example in this comment here categorizing and having black and white thinking with generations rather than seeing it as less rigid (mid 20s people are flakey btw, just barely less than those in their early 20s). People in general are flakey, and particularly so those in their late teens to late 20s. Also I don't have autism, I generally either get along very well or very poorly with autistic people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 06:03 AM
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You're not the problem in that situation, I didn't say that. But thinking of it as playing games instead of just recognizing zoomers, especially ones dating online, are flakey and often get cold feet, does come across as not understanding people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 05:55 AM
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One hooked up with twice, ghosted me She just wasn't that into you. randomly texted a month and a half later, then ghosted again. She felt lonely and thought maybe it'd be worth trying to hookup with someone she didn't like that much, but then decided against it. Another arranged an entire date with me, then just never came outside when I came to pick her up. She probably got too nervous and got cold feet, very common among zoomers. One girl keeps telling me she wants to get to know me, but make…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 05:50 AM
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Why Men Love Bitches is good for women with poor boundaries and poor self worth, but the advice it gives for long term relationships is very bad. It says on the first page how bitch is just being used as a marketing term and what she means by it is a woman with self respect and firm boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 10:51 PM
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im nothing if not pragmatic and honest. i think society generally views romance as something that happens to a woman without much of her own participation, and that generally if things aren't going well, it's not her fault. it results in stagnation and general misery. the way to avoid this is by being honest with yourself and by asking yourself what you can do to make a situation better, rather than what others can do
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 08:59 AM
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i think a lot of women kill intimacy in the relationship, which results in the man running to porn, which leads to her thinking he has a porn addiction when in reality she just made it so its miserable being around her. that's a lot more common than actual porn addiction from what ive seen in rpw spaces and in general
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 08:41 AM
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They both hold non monogamy to a high regard, because of their attraction to those like them. Most people, regardless of sexuality are mostly friends with those of the same gender and oftentimes the same sexuality. This results in as what we see, which is up to half of gay relationships being open. I'll use trans lesbians as another example, I've never personally known a group that was more into non monogamy than trans lesbians, and anyone who's been around non monogamous trans lesbians knows th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:36 AM
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What it translates to in theory and what it translates to in practice are two very different things, which is why we see what we do among these groups. People among these groups being okay with it is very specifically because they feel that way themselves too, I never said anything about it not being consensual. You're plugging your ears and acting in completely bad faith. I'm not saying it's impossible, but it does make it a lot more likely (as we see on a population level) and makes things a l…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:23 AM
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its usually alt girls who do, the kinda goth women who go on tumblr
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:16 AM
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Homosexual men being friends with other homosexual men results in what I linked, a huge influx of open relationships. Bisexuals can, but there will likely be complicated feelings if the other person is attracted to the gender of the bisexual person. I don't think I need to post any studies about their rates of open relationships to prove my point. It's not impossible, but it makes things a lot murkier.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:13 AM
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A significant amount to half of gay relationships are open relationships, and gay men are mostly likely to have mostly male friends. It's not tough to put two and two together here.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:10 AM
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30% of gay men in relationships are non monogamous. Anyone who's spent a bit of time in the gay male community knows it's extremely common to have friend groups where everyone has sex with each other, you see similar with transgender lesbians.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:03 AM
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I don't think personality being set in stone by adulthood is true, at least in my case I used to be incredibly risk averse and agreeable. It took some work to make myself not that way as much, but I benefit from the change more than not now. It's a learned skill, and I think is a lot easier to do in a professional environment because it's literally business, versus something personal like a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 05:07 AM
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its not literal, moreso two examples
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 05:01 AM
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skill issue tbqh
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 05:00 AM
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Only because they choose to stay home to have and raise children, but I'm sure you know that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 04:55 AM
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yeah which kinda goes to my point as to why its better to be a woman in general
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 04:51 AM
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the second you care what women think of you is the second you lose when it comes to approaching
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 04:51 AM
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be high up in the corporate ladder
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 04:50 AM
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i dont think ability to be independent is gendered, at least in the west. when i say ambitious, i mean desiring to make 7 figures or climb the corporate ladder
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 04:49 AM
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yea exactly, top 1% of people or so
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 04:48 AM
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when i say ambitious i mean trying to make 7 figures/be high up in the company ladder
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 04:47 AM
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You don't need to be ambitious to not be broke lol look at 90% of average people in the public sector or in corporation office jobs
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 04:44 AM
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i had the opposite experience, i think it generally lines up with the identity someone wants. any benefit i got as a man was shrouded in dysphoria, the more benefit i got for being male, the worse i felt. that said, people are way nicer to you when you're a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 03:55 AM
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life is a gagillion times better as a woman 99% of the time tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 03:49 AM
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Nah, we broke up. I wouldn't with my future bf, I would with my future husband though.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 12:47 AM
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Combining finances in terms of buying a house together, putting all of your money in a shared bank account, cosigning loans, that sorta thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 11:19 PM
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i found bed bugs in my room, asked for a new room from the nonchalant hotel manager, she said no other rooms are available. So I asked for a refund and she said no refunds, so I said if you don't refund me I'll go to my credit card company, then she gave me a refund. There's a reason why the cheapest hotel in the city is the cheapest hotel in the city.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 11:17 PM
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its interesting going on non pilled relationship subreddits and seeing how people bring about their own misery and just have a terrible view of relationships. apparently telling your boyfriend you aren't going to combine finances until marriage isn't boundary setting, it's manipulative according to redditors. no wonder they get walked all over and get upset when things don't work out for them, they have no self worth or self respect
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 11:11 PM
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I think that's pretty common, I think people in general become less gender non conforming as they grow older
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:33 AM
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Oh yeah really common among trans lesbians, but not so much among straight trans women. When I say masculine, I don't mean so much presentation but more so masculine features like jaw, chin, browbone, ribcage, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:27 AM
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It was predictable that that sub would lead there. Generally if a place has the potential to allow people to feel better at the expense of others, it will lead there. You see it in more toxic trans spaces too where they post masculine trans women to mock them so they can feel better about themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 05:46 AM
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im not sure why others are hesitant, a cushy life where someone doesnt have to worry about money sounds kinda cool
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:50 AM
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me
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:59 PM
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yeah i make enough to support two people, money would be tight but so long as if we didn't both lose our jobs we'd be good i think
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 09:31 AM
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i have enough faith in any man i picked that he could bounce back, if i chose a man to be with it's because i have confidence and faith in him to be successful
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 09:15 AM
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man discovered stoicism
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 08:43 AM
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I would without second doubt. I've been mistreated enough in the past that I care a lot more about being treated well than I care about a man who makes more than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 08:43 AM
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tfw I have BPD and all of my LTRs have been with people who had autism, adhd, or both.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 08:06 AM
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relationship and pill subreddits are fucking crack to me i found waiting to be wed subreddit today and have spent the past 6 hours reading posts from there
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 12:38 AM
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skin color matched concealer is pretty good for eyebags, unless if you think wearing makeup is gay or something
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 02:10 AM
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I'm trans myself, and spent a lot of time in the trans community. There was just a post in the straight trans women subreddit yesterday how they can't be friends with trans lesbians because every single time it results in sexual and romantic advances, despite knowledge of disinterest. Trying to deny it being a thing is silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:08 AM
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Knowing groups of gay men and mtf tans lesbians in the LGBT community, there's a very obvious reason why open relationships are almost the norm in those two groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:02 AM
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This is an issue with liberals and leftists in general, not women. It's just that women are more likely be liberal or leftist.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 01:46 AM
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what are the levels and numbers in specific? doctors are really really stupid when it comes to hormones
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 01:10 AM
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Did they test your hormone levels? If so, what were the results?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 10:10 PM
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its a very odd interaction
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 09:21 PM
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Youth and attractiveness are intertwined in the case of women in the west (I'm sure in the east too, but idk enough about them to say), and it feels nice to look attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 09:16 PM
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HRT can do wonders for post menopausal women, my last therapist was 48 and looked mid 30s thanks to HRT
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 09:08 PM
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i hope this morning was better for him
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 09:06 PM
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One time I smiled and said good morning to someone and he didn't say anything. As he got about five feet past me he screamed fuck to himself. I think about that interaction sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 09:03 PM
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The reason you love yourself before getting into a relationship is because abusers are attracted to those with low self esteem because it leads to inability to assert boundaries. You're making yourself much more vulnerable if you get into a relationship before you love yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 07:13 PM
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I highly suggest reading The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/24 07:06 PM
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Yeah I agree that talking about not having enough sex is just about the least sexy and most turning off thing you can do. If I had to take a stab at it, distance causes the heart to grow fonder, and with the gap now being closed, that distance and mystery is gone. Try going out on your own more, get a hobby that's out of the house that's on your own, etc. In terms of his roommate hearing, white noise machines or music is good for this.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/24 04:36 AM
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This post is the best thing I've read in regards to this topic. The Surrendered Wife goes into more detail about respect, and is what I would suggest to read after the post.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/24 08:37 AM
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Also how do you ladies fit in self care when you have little kids to take care with little to no alone time? From what I remember reading in the Surrendered Wife, Laura Doyle suggests taking the time and letting your husband figure it out. So for example, telling your husband you're going to be doing so and so from this time to this time, then letting him figure things out in regards to the kids, feeding them, etc. He can take a Saturday night to take care of the kids while you do self care.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/24 12:20 AM
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This post has a lot of great information that is applicable here.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/24 10:01 PM
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How much does he seem to like you? Do you feel you slept with him too early? If I'm going off of the vibe, it seems like he feels he has gotten what he wants from you and doesn't feel the need to commit or advance the relationship further. With that in mind, what have you done to inspire commitment from him and do you think this is a man who desires to commit to someone? Part of having boundaries is enforcing them and having self respect, do you desire to be with a man who (at least as it curren…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/24 03:27 AM
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Looking from an entirely pragmatic and not a moralistic view, for the vast majority of men I've known, a woman keeping simps and men who she knows wants to be with her around is a major red flag and a huge turn off for relationship material. Minimize it the best you can. If you want to take advantage of men and manipulate people, that's FDS rather than RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/24 08:58 PM
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I don't think a man who wouldn't date someone who got fucked on camera would likely be okay with dating someone who fucked themselves on camera, especially a traditional man. I wouldn't recommend lying (including lying by omission) and doing so certainly runs the risk of this blowing up much worse than if you came clean.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 03:35 AM
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Are you sure it's legit and not a catfish? I can't imagine an actual multi billionaire is on a dating app.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 12:30 AM
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You say there was a small sense of dread, did that sense of dread come from you or him?
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/24 01:34 AM
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I spent my life seeing liberal "equal" relationships fail, I spent my life seeing people blame everyone but themselves for their failures in life, and I spent my life seeing people not take power in their lives because of their view that they're victims to the world around them. The mainstream view is to find someone compatible and things like looks don't matter, but it's clear that it's just a nice lie society tells itself, similar to how they treat attractive people better but say they don't. …
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/24 12:05 AM
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There doesn't seem to be anything wrong with your looks from your post history, you look attractive. I agree with the poster who said to read resources about feminine behavior and identify the gaps. Being warm and approachable will do you a lot of good with being approached/having men be interested in you. Do you have mental illness or autism? I think being ND without diagnosis can lead to the situation you describe where people don't seem to want to associate with you despite looking attractive…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/24 06:22 PM
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From /r/therapists: Men are unhinged emotionally stunted maniacs, 19 upvotes. Apparently men killing themselves at higher rates is because theyre finally seeing the consequences of their actions, 138 upvotes. There's more in the thread, but you get the idea. It's unsurprising this is the view therapists have of men when 91% of men who kill themselves previously reached out to mental health services.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 05:00 PM
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Read up on nun mode posts in this sub to get started on your self improvement. 6 months of nun mode at 27 will get you far better benefits than being 26 without nun mode. Losing weight would be a good start, but the emotional stability is far more important in my experience. I have a typical deal breaker for many men, but even that hasn't caused nearly as many issues as being emotionally unstable did. I'm generally hesitant of therapy for a litany of reasons and think emotional stability primari…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/24 11:07 PM
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Watching the ugly duckling video was a nice self esteem booster to watch as a woman who started blossoming in both looks and personality in my mid to late 20s
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/24 09:08 PM
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the ick is a finicky thing
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/24 06:36 AM
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Obesity rates are at record highs, around 75% of the US is overweight or obese.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/24 11:15 PM
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People with autism are more likely to be trans, and anime is very overt with their expressions, making it a form of media more likely to appeal to people with autism since difficulty reading facial expressions is a very very common symptom. It's not difficult to put two and two together as to why many trans people would end up liking anime. Saying anime turns people trans is silly lol
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/24 10:44 PM
11

Men are rewarded for having self confidence and standing out in a group, women are rewarded for being humble and integrating into a group.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 01:39 AM
1

this is so true
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 06:00 PM
21

I'm fairly conventionally unattractive and I've had men ask me for my number in public, it's more about your body language, smiling, etc. I know it sounds like cope, but people and especially men were much friendlier to me after I started smiling more and stood up straight. When a woman struggles with getting a long term relationship, I've noticed it's almost always because of how she acts rather than how she looks. I'd go so far as to say that if someone is struggling to get long term relations…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 09:27 PM
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Someone who tries to control everything and always gives their input doesn't come across as intelligent, they come across as neurotic and unable to trust. Have you ever had a manager who always felt the need to be heavily involved in your work and always know every little detail and give their thoughts, instead of just letting you do your work like an adult? I doubt they came across as intelligent, they probably came off as overbearing and added stress to the both of you. That said, it's a pract…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 06:59 PM
1

Search for it on here: https://libgen.is
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 02:15 AM
1

Build your sense of self first and find things to fill your time and then reassess things. You're trying to put the cart before the horse.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 02:14 AM
2

This reads as no good legitimate reason or emergency, you couldn't even list an emergency that would necessitate it. Again, it's extreme clinginess and it's hurting your boyfriend's ability to be successful.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 02:14 AM
3

Respect him, be a cheerleader for his success (which means not expecting him to be in contact with you on the phone if he's working), find independence and happiness outside of him. The last part is by far the most important and seemingly the one most ignored by you in this thread.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 01:47 AM
2

My honest suggestion is the same as the first comment I made in this thread. Build happiness and your sense of self outside of your relationship, otherwise you're going to be perpetually at risk of being clingy and your happiness will always be outside of your control. The advice you're looking for isn't red pill advice because no red pill advice will say only being happy if you're inseparable from your boyfriend is a good thing. If you want to spend more time with someone, putting more pressure…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 01:44 AM
2

Well yeah giving him money in order to provide something he can't is obviously going to emasculate him. So long as if your happiness is dependent on him or being inseparable, sustainable happiness will continue to elude you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 01:37 AM
3

I didn't suggest anything that you just wrote. It seems like what I'm saying is going through one ear and out the other, what are you looking for with this post?
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 01:33 AM
2

Consider it from his perspective: you and a loved one had to go back to your home country, and someone you love very much has to go back to living with her horrid parents because you failed. Wouldn't that make you feel bad and evoke a huge desire to work extremely hard and focus a lot on money? He's doing it for you to get you out of your situation. You should be focusing on yourself and what you can do, rather than asking yourself what your boyfriend can do. This requires self agency and indepe…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 12:59 AM
3

It's difficult to give more insight without more context, it comes down to how committed you are and how important the relationship is to you. Relationships will have times of difficulty no matter the relationship, this is why it's so essential to have your own personhood and things to fill your time and day. You sound very clingy to the point it seems you're interconnected rather than independent. You shouldn't be so dependent and reliant on him that not getting a good morning text has a big im…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 12:46 AM
3

My advice stays the same, clinginess is usually due to either insecurity or due to not having enough going on in your own life. You need your own life separate from his for the exact reasons you list out in this post, this will help for both insecurity and lack of independence. How do you spend your free time outside of him currently?
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 11:47 PM
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He's busy for a reason, he's turning around your horrible situation as you stated. Your job isn't to get attention and time from him right now, your job is to be a cheerleader for him and support him succeeding in his endeavors. Will conflict and problems with his gf help him and get you what you want? 2 hours a day is a lot of time to ask for with someone, especially when they're busy and working hard. Take this as an opportunity to build more independence, get more hobbies and more friends, fi…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 11:34 PM
1

estrogen pills do not affect the voice, much to the dismay of many trans women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 08:08 AM
1

Is it like a maternal instinct or something i knew a girl who got pregnant at 18, decided to keep the baby cause she felt too attached to abort, then when the baby was born felt complete emotional detachment
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 08:05 AM
1

ive been experimenting with my hair, fashion, etc over the past couple of years. how i know something doesn't work is when women compliment me and men ignore me. if something does work, women basically ignore me and men compliment me a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 02:42 AM
1

id feel so weird dating someone i met at work, im there to work not to think about romance
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 07:27 PM
1

Worst thing is the guy seemed chill but it was not ignorable. based lol the rest of your post sounds american psycho tier monologuing
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 07:00 PM
1

youve ascended to chadhood congrats
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 06:59 PM
1

get a friend to take them
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 06:46 PM
1

me too, that sounds like itd be fun
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 06:22 PM
1

complaining about how people like likeable people in a relationship is such a weird complaint lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 06:22 PM
2

usually that sorta thing is because you seek fulfillment from outside resources rather than yourself and non materialistic things
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 06:10 PM
1

mostly just about finding the right person
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:30 PM
1

theres in person meetups, your city probably has some. i mostly make online friends nowadays but i live with my best friend and hang out with her everyday which fulfills the friends need
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:21 PM
1

thats a good idea ill try that, thank you. btw she going to keep acting like this when probationary period ends i dont mind her acting this way because while it is uncomfortable, i can just ignore it/play it off as a joke and mention my bf like you suggested. i mostly care because of the implication of my job becoming permanent is likely dependent on my reciprocation.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:12 PM
1

looks good for something more formal/for work
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:00 PM
2

4chan lol we exchanged discords then found out we lived nearby each other and the rest was history
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 04:54 PM
2

i just have a boyfriend and a best friend and they rarely talk with each other. i feel like its okay so long as if you're happy and not looking to end singledom through having a friend group
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 04:53 PM
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Trans women are women, women who are attracted to men are straight
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 04:51 PM
1

tbh having to look busy is more stressful than just being busy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 04:44 PM
2

i find its disrespectful to openly lust for someone else while in a relationship. even if itll never happen, itll still evoke feelings of inadequacy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 04:38 PM
1

why is it a success then
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 04:28 PM
1

have you gone to a university campus in your city? theyre really common there
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 04:26 PM
1

its a normie corporate job
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 04:20 PM
1

im straight
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 04:19 PM
1

My boss has been acting weird with me (especially lately) and I couldn't quite put my finger on it, and I realized she's acting like how women did when they had a crush on me before I transitioned. She's told me she's bi before too, which is whatever, but it's uncomfortable because I'm in my probationary period at my job right now. So if it is a crush, I have to either play along which I don't want to because I'm straight and have a boyfriend, or I have to risk being fired during my probationary…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 04:16 PM
1

yea i'm in the same boat, seeing someone nodding off in public is whatever, but seeing someone high on meth in public spooks me cause you don't know what they'll do next
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 03:24 PM
1

an hour to go somewhere 10-15 minutes away with one bus coming every 30-60 minutes is standard
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:29 AM
1

And that is the perspective of a straight relationship, where a man is expected and biologically driven most times to make a move. Chances of compatibility aren't much affected by what sexuality you are (im not sure why you think lesbians are less likely to be compatible with each other than a straight man and woman) but the chances that the dating stage is reached in the first place is affected by sexuality. approaching in a male manner doesnt work with men anyways for the exact reasons you lis…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:26 AM
1

seattle has one of the best public transit systems in the country
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:21 AM
1

thats just standard woman talk but flipped to be told to a man instead of a woman tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:19 AM
1

I mean if we look at the best raw data we have, neither messaging first is very common. The useless lesbian trope is probably the most common trope right behind uhaul lesbians. lesbians are by far the most likely to settle down/commit quickly, but also the least likely to approach
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:14 AM
1

do people not see my flair?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:10 AM
1

I'm male to female transgender, I've dated women and men when I was a man, and dated women and men as a woman. No enbies though
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:09 AM
1

you're also commuting to seattle instead of living there and taking public transport
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:08 AM
1

tbh washington drivers are not that bad at all, ive driven in arizona and southern california and let me tell ya those places are terrible. washington drivers may not be the best, but they're not actively spiteful and dangerous if you anger them, they'll just pass you
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 04:52 AM
1

Scaring away developers and scaring away out of staters aren't related, I'm not sure how you could control or regulate out of state people coming in, no state has done it before. It's not too crowded, it's not like we're SF, we just need more housing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 04:41 AM
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It does scare away developers, and for what? Not allowing them to increase by more than $225/month? Washington already makes it so that landlords are required to give 3-6 months notice of rent increase 5% and above. In no world is a 15% rent increase cap going to help things.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 04:07 AM
2

I blow dry it about half way, spray finishing spray for about 30 seconds, then put in hair rollers into my bangs and back, and scrunch my sides while it dries. i use heat, but this video has a lot of good info/advice in it to incorporate.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 02:46 AM
2

cub haircut goes hard. i have a wolf cut and like it a lot, its just a pain to style every day
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 02:10 AM
1

Women are valued for their looks while men are valued for what they can provide. Women subsequently are valued less as they get older since youth is tied to attraction for most, while men are valued more as they get older due to getting more wealth and further into their careers. You're comparing apples to oranges.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 02:04 AM
1

gay men have by far the easiest time finding hookups, by far the hardest time finding a monogamous relationship. lesbians have it easy cause their competition are other lesbians, and very few women are brave enough to make the first move. either lesbians or straight women have it the easiest i think
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 01:57 AM
1

late roman republic maybe, but late roman empire was the exact opposite due to christianity taking hold
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 05:14 AM
1

My point was if they can, you can too, regardless that trans women can be post SRS. RMV is relationship market value. Read the top posts of all time on here, and do your best to follow them.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/24 04:24 AM
1

I've known trans women who were red pilled, its just about finding the right man and maximizing your RMV. People in your community should know you don't fit stereotypes if you don't.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/24 03:51 AM
1

I don't have social media
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 11:48 PM
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How does your boyfriend feel about getting married, moving in together, etc? It is fairly concerning that getting married would seemingly be more out of getting out of your current living situation while maintaining your values, rather than marrying because it feels right.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 04:30 AM
4

This is a great post on this that I think would help you a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 02:11 AM
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You care a lot due to insecurities, not due to love of the relationship. Vetting is more effective, and as others have said, cheating rates vary by age, it isn't something people either will do whenever or won't do ever. You're watching too many youtube videos and getting into your own head too much. Read up on the posts here about how to vet and you'll be much better off, you'll scare away quality men through tests.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/24 11:24 PM
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The issue isn't that you're loyalty testing a cheater, it's that you're loyalty testing a potential non cheater, someone completely innocent. You're not only disrupting his peace, but you're also disrespecting him by not trusting that he would remain faithful outside of your influence. Do you really think this is something that will build intimacy in a healthy manner? There's a reason why we harp on so much about vetting and say it's the most important part of the dating process.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/24 10:30 PM
1

It makes them look less T shaped by making them look bulkier, I'm not sure what you're seeing but it certainly isn't a woman who doesn't look like she has bulky shoulders
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 09:40 PM
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Its bone structure, even if someone with T shaped shoulders had very little muscle mass, it would still be T shaped
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 09:35 PM
1

her shoulders look rounded instead of T shaped and they look bulky
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 09:04 PM
2

got a lot of life ahead of you
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 09:28 AM
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What are you doing for self care currently? A woman's ability to be a soft landing space for others is only as good as her ability to be stable and soft herself. You have exercise but it sounds like there's difficulties there, what are some things you can do in addition to that?
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/24 08:16 AM
2

i feel like 10-15 year old boys are the most weird obnoxious people on the planet
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 07:04 AM
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The biggest thing is identifying traits that led your father to his actions, and looking for them in the men you date so you can avoid them. Additionally understanding how your actions/feelings would lead to why you'd attract someone with those traits. It's difficult to give specifics without knowing more details, but that's how I would go about it. We tend to reenact our parent's relationship, but having a deep understanding of their dynamic and how each side played into the other will help you…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/24 06:20 AM
1

yea im in the same boat. i tried to think if id look better or worse, or how id look in general in this case, but i came up blank
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 05:33 AM
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it is, it comes with the breakdown of social norms, increased drug use, and increased homelessness
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 05:33 AM
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If the woman will face impoverished living conditions if the relationship were to end, it would. A woman with a 9-5 can likely still provide a decent life for herself in a way a woman in an impoverished country can't.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 04:57 AM
2

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LfX6JxfND44
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 04:48 AM
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passport bros are taking advantage of women in vulnerable positions, the power dynamic there is a lot different than a woman having a height requirement.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 04:41 AM
2

Q4W with T shaped shoulders: does lifting regardless of calorie intake make your shoulders look bulkier? I feel like most with sloped shoulders don't have to worry about it, but I swear whenever I strength train even for a week my shoulders look way bigger.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 04:33 AM
4

tbh ive noticed men become way more successful with women once they stop caring once women think.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 04:17 AM
1

liberal circles/the west coast settle down later ive noticed. the average age of first marriage for women is 29 and for men it's 31. Assuming the average time for dating is 3 years before marrying, that'd make the dating pool start to noticeably shrink around 26-28.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 03:22 AM
1

You mean your home board? lmao i did browse there pretty frequently. /v/ was always too active for me, a thread could be gone in 15 minutes if no one posted in it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 03:13 AM
1

its a drug people take to prevent getting hiv
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 03:10 AM
1

there's a reason why the fit board on 4chan is considered the gayest board, above /cm/
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 03:09 AM
1

is the gay son on prep
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 03:07 AM
2

im honestly surprised my parents arent a part of this group yet, they just exacerbate each other's worst qualities
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 03:07 AM
2

ive been using an eyebrow razor for like 4 years at this point and they still grow back normal
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 01:42 AM
1

yea they will, its actually really annoying how quickly they grow back. give it like 3-4 weeks and they should be back to normal
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 01:40 AM
2

well the guys are dating a prostitute
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 01:33 AM
1

based taste
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 01:15 AM
1

so many people would do better with dating if they just learned how to shut up lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 01:14 AM
3

dont ask dont tell, i genuinely dont think ive ever heard of a woman asking a man how much experience they have. maybe in a relationship, but at that point youre already dating
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 01:10 AM
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i went to the doctors office today and my bmi came back 21.7 i cant believe im not a healthy (19-21) bmi
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 01:04 AM
1

i knew a girl who got a scholarship and government benefits for having (iirc) a great grandmother who was part native american. go her for utilizing all the benefits available to her but i thought it was funny lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 01:04 AM
2

kids and especially mid schoolers can be cruel
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 01:00 AM
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black pill thinking is so painfully surface level and self pitying
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 07:56 PM
2

just because something is true doesnt mean it needs to be said
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 02:05 PM
1

people generally like being generally attractive and perceived as such by others, not just by the person they're dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 01:31 PM
5

you're basically calling her mid outside of your tastes
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 01:24 PM
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if my bf told me similar i think i would cry
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 01:21 PM
3

In a thread about why men are struggling with their mental health, have higher suicide completion rates, etc, "I think a lot of them feel entitled to what they want, regardless of who they hurt obtaining that. And they don't put much effort into healthy hobbies or relationships." "These guys who cheat constantly are now seeing the consequences of their actions and lash out at others around them because of it." Apparently the reason why this therapist thinks men are killing themselves is because …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 01:06 PM
1

ive dated both men and women and women are way less likely to put effort into their bio
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 12:59 PM
3

It tracks with my irl experience, also if you look at APA guidelines for men, it expresses very similar sentiment that was described in that thread. I'm not sure what more proof you'd want than the biggest psychological organization in the US saying misandrist things in it's guides for therapists.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 12:52 PM
2

you're describing counter culture boomers went through like word for word. most ended up growing out of it as predictably, what you want and your life priorities change with age.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 12:48 PM
2

Well, how come that Blacks or any other group of women don't date outside their race more than within? There's a whole long history about this, but when a lot of Americans were buying housing with the prosperity of post WWII America/The New Deal, black people were discriminated against by banks. This resulted in segregation of neighborhoods populated with black people and neighborhoods populated by white people. Obviously, you're going to date those around you. The issue with fetishization isn't…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 12:43 PM
3

It signifies the general attitude that therapists have towards men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 12:25 PM
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It's a meme profession tbh, I've gotten more out of $10 self help books than I have hundreds of dollars of therapy over the past decade. They have huge egos, are usually incompetent, and have explicit biases they deny.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 09:54 AM
1

Women and black people also score lower on tests when they give out demographic information before instead of after the test. People want to act like biases don't affect everyone, they only affect minorities and those with less perceived power.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 09:48 AM
1

yea :3
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 09:45 AM
2

Kinda? Feminist is as lacking in specification of what it actually means as something like being a democrat in the US is. I would call myself egalitarian, but there's so much connotation with that term that I avoid it. I also am wary because my experiences with feminists indicates they always see themselves as the victim. For example, any time trans bathroom bills come up, feminists will start talking almost exclusively about how cis women are going to be the ones to suffer from this. They seem …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 09:41 AM
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On the same note, I read a study that said female teachers score more harshly when they think the student is a boy versus when they think the student is a girl. And then people wonder why universities have higher rates of admission for women compared to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 09:09 AM
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There was a thread on /r/therapists where therapists called men emotionally stunted maniacs, chronic cheaters, and said men are killing themselves because they're finally seeing the consequences of their actions. It's no wonder men don't like therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 08:42 AM
1

i do hip abductions and squats twice a day daily
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 08:07 AM
2

ive only seen it happen when the girlboss has low self esteem and self worth
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 07:49 AM
1

i would be worried hes repressing his gender dysphoria since this is super common with men who don't know they're trans yet
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 07:16 AM
1

women love when you act like you dont care tbh, shows confidence and independence
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 06:26 PM
1

Try to go at it with an open heart, you may be surprised by the results, it's also okay if youre not perfect at it at first. Even being the kind of wife your husband wants will make your relationship more intimate and more full of love. Also like the book says, it may take him a bit to adjust and get used to things, so give him patience there too.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/24 05:32 PM
1

I'm glad you started listening to the book, good job. Never criticize No one likes a nag, and criticizing is an explicit sign of distrust, something your relationship is suffering heavily from. Remember how I said you need to trust him for a while in order for him to gain your trust back? never give unsolicited advice Giving unsolicited advice is stressful, it shows you don't trust him to handle the situation (again, a big issue in your relationship), and it leaves you both unhappier. never make…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/24 03:00 AM
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All that to say. Please don’t trust every advice you read here. There are women here that don’t fully understand the whole picture, or aren’t actually redpilled, and you are likely telling the story in your own favor. Stick to reading books from trusted authors. Tbh this sub often blends with other relationship subreddits at this point, where it's man bad woman good, the woman can do no wrong and should leave him. The upvotes and downvotes reflect this too. It sucks and it seems the mindset have…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 11:16 PM
1

if i go to a hotel, i throw out the bag and the clothes. i had a bed bugs scare one time and wont risk it again
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 08:50 PM
1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iS9Bf12Mby8
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 08:39 PM
1

The line isn't and never will be a hard one, it's like trying to find out what's objectively funny. You can research a culture, understand why things are funny, and even learn how to make a funny joke, but you can never find out if something is objectively funny, because it's inherently subjective. It's the same thing here.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 08:15 PM
1

reddit used to have a very different demographic and nerdy spaces used to be a lot more misogynistic. the celeb nudes leak is what sent reddit into the mainstream
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 08:14 PM
2

hopefully the new government wont increase the population by 10% every 3 years through immigration while not building any new housing
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 08:06 PM
4

I think the big difference between the two is that redpill in long term relationships encourage a certain dynamic that has worked for a very long time, instead of a directionless one that results in a lot of the troubles we see today. Going through the top posts of all time on /r/redpillwomen shows what I'm talking about in a good manner. That said, I think a lot of male red pill spaces are mostly populated by men who are stuck in the anger phase, objectifying women as a means of removing them f…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 07:56 PM
1

dominos is better bang for your buck, but pizza hut is tastier
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 07:52 PM
4

only when i come here really
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 07:52 PM
4

That's kinda the point of the red pill. With self improvement, you realize romantic relationships and getting laid don't matter as much anymore because there's so many different aspects to you now. Getting laid becomes a nice side effect of such. I would think that self improvement and not making getting laid a huge part of yourself and self worth would be a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 07:49 PM
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its awkward and it doesn't feel good to make someone feel bad. but it does suck she didnt respond or acknowledge what you said, im sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 07:28 PM
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100%
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 07:23 PM
1

it's not like construction work just wouldn't get done if illegal immigrants hadn't come. they win out with these jobs because they accept significantly lower pay, won't attempt to unionize, and are at the employer's mercy. being pro immigration is inherently anti worker
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 06:49 PM
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Thank you!! I appreciate it
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 05:28 PM
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I think it's just looser gender norms in general, women don't desire to put in the effort cause they don't feel any pressure to. Also why’d you delete your earlier comments to my question? Oh I delete most of my comments every once in a while
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 09:08 AM
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I literally did that in multiple ways. And you contradicted it with Excusing, justifying, defending, and deflecting All of these are the exact opposite of taking responsibility. Hopefully this time it doesn't end as poorly for me. Only time and trust will tell.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 09:02 AM
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What does taking responsibility mean to you? Responsibility means to me saying what you did was wrong, and that it was entirely in your control. Excusing, justifying, defending, and deflecting are all contradictory to taking responsibility. Hopefully this is the amazing cure-all it is proclaimed to be, and not just permission to do as he pleases. I never said it as a cure-all, I said it will help things significantly since a major issue in your marriage appears to be trust. Trust is needed in a …
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 08:59 AM
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I could have waited until I was all the way divorced. I mean seriously what is it you are looking for??? I have expressed responsibility, shame, regret, intense self loathing, and its like I'm still not doing enough to prove I take responsibility. Again, self hate, shame, etc, all have to do with regret, not responsibility. You continue to defend trying to deflect and justify instead of just saying, "yeah I wasn't taking responsibility." Fine, I will fake it. Cool, do it with a genuine heart the…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 08:45 AM
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I had sex with someone else. I was lonely and starved for love, but it was still wrong. I have dealt with steep consequences. I regret it deeply. I never even look at another man now that we are attempting to reconcile. I can't undo the past. But either way, he really isn't even phased by it. No I'm not in any way saying that makes it right because it doesn't. I'm simply stating yall are more upset about it than he is. And I'm stating that you are not doing what you can, the entire RPW perspecti…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 08:41 AM
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Respectfully I don't know what you want from me. I'm not sure why you are convinced I don't take responsibility for what I did. I explained it, you deflected and justified that what you did made sense in the circumstances you had. Someone who takes responsibility for such does not do that, they simply admit they did wrong and self reflected on how to change it for the future. I can outwardly act like I respect him, and hopefully trust will come. To trust when you have no reason to seems very for…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 08:34 AM
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I have admitted that, and I have significant self hatred over it. And yet you try to justify and defend it with circumstances, that's not taking responsibility. That's deflecting and justifying, hating yourself for something relates to regret, not responsibility. I guess what I'm asking is is the premise that if I respect him outwardly, that it will fix my issues and his? Your main post indicates trust is at least a huge factor in the problems of your marriage. It may not fix every issue, but it…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 08:24 AM
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Fine, then I messed up and there were no circumstances at play. Well that just sounds like resigning in attempts of affirmation instead of self reflection. I'm literally asking for help understanding what you meant, or how the post would apply here, but you just seem to think I'm being difficult. I'm not. I'm trying to understand your perspective/advice. It goes over it in the post, which is what I mentioned. Our feelings follow our actions, and our actions give relationships the best fighting c…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 08:18 AM
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I'm not sure what penance I need to express. I fully accept what I did, and have been 100% honest with him about it. He is very aware of my level of shame and regret. I mean you can read up our comment chain, you have said over and over you never thought you'd get back with him, he never changed til then, so on and so forth. Instead of just saying, "yes I massively messed up and it was not good our relationship. I'll try to make him feel respected. Unfortunately though I do know no amount of sex…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 08:08 AM
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You've had sex with someone else, that is an obvious act of disrespect and not going to be conducive for intimacy. You need to take responsibility for this and not defend yourself or try to explain yourself. Your entire post reads as "what he did wrong" with a sentence of what you did wrong with lots of self defense instead of just owning up to it. Intimacy is essential to rebuilding trust, and respecting him is the best way you can start with that. It's going to result in him desiring you more,…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 08:01 AM
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I never once said I did no wrong. I'm legitimately asking for advice. Any advice you're being given is disregarded or defended, and no attempts at self reflection are occurring. Then I am asking what I should do. Again, I have told you the third time now, read the post I linked and The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle. I'm asking how to trust him again. Your refusal at self reflection and inability to read outside resources indicates you truly don't and seem to think this is his responsibility ra…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 07:51 AM
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I had zero intention of ever working on my marriage. I loved him, but couldn't live like that anymore, and had given him hundreds of chances. There are a lot more details (read my post history if you choose), but I never in a million years thought he would change. He never had, it was always a lie. But when he did change I told him I didn't know if it was salvageable but I wanted to at least try to keep my marriage and family together. He asked me to reconcile, not the other way around. None of …
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 07:33 AM
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So you are saying I should have just stayed and let him continue doing what he was doing? You shouldn't have had sex with someone else or you should not have gotten back with him is what I'm saying. Out of the three options you had, you chose the one where you would get the worst outcome. You could have separated and not tried to repair a broken marriage, instead finding a new one. You could have not separated/had sex with someone else and put in the work necessary to repair things. Instead, you…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 07:21 AM
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I mean you can say it and justify it whichever way you like, but breaking up with your husband, going to have sex with someone else, then getting back with him is not going to be conducive to a healthy relationship, genuine intimacy, or bring about feelings of respect. Respect also goes further than that though, I would suggest this post and see what you can do there. I know there's a lot of resentment and pain, but you can only control yourself and your actions. Being the bigger person will lea…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 07:11 AM
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Between you having sex with someone else (even if separated) and him being blatantly disrespectful towards you about his preferences and sex, it really seems like neither of you respect the other. How do you feel in terms of respecting him and him respecting you? Oftentimes the man will make the woman feel unloved, which results in her not respecting him, which results in the man not giving the woman love, which continues into a terrible cycle.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 07:02 AM
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its definitely area dependent. most of the women in the northwest straight up dont put any effort into how they look, but women in cities like LA or NYC do
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 06:37 AM
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Hinge is weird because the people are fucking butt ugly you havent had the witness the horrors of taimi
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 06:33 AM
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Sounds like you value the friendships of past loves more than you do a present love with a high value man.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 02:42 AM
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i have bad motion sickness so i couldnt
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 12:49 AM
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depends if they were in the group before or after dating the guys
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 12:31 AM
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chubbier cheeks are a sign of femininity, thats why cheeks become more sunken when a woman is post menopausal. itll also make you look older and itll look worse with age
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 12:22 AM
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the guy who was bullied feminine guys in high school but is attracted to me now as a woman is a very appealing fantasy
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 12:21 AM
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its so funny how redditors went from equating alcohol to weed, and now theyre trying to do it for harder drugs like coke. like yea you totally gotta worry about fent in your alcohol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 11:50 PM
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what for lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 11:23 PM
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like 70% of women in the US are overweight or obese lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 11:11 PM
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yea thats the takeaway here. standing out is one of the most effective ways to get hookups from OLD
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 11:10 PM
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you ever talk to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 10:55 PM
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autism
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 10:32 PM
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give everyone a mean mug look so they dont sit next to you
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 09:25 PM
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couple years now
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 08:59 PM
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we spend a lot more on existing healthcare than the military. basically any government wide budget you look at health is going to be the top thing, or in the top 3
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 08:42 PM
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21 is a kinda rough age for dating as a man, as women generally go for guys 2-3 years older than them. it gets easier around 23
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 06:58 AM
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ive been thinking about it and the more i think about it, the more i come to the conclusion that unconditional love doesn't and shouldn't exist in any relationship with boundaries or self worth. to unconditionally love someone, you would have to put up with whatever behaviors they do to you or the ones you love. you cant maintain self respect in this case. i also think the idea of unconditional love plays heavily into the idea of everyone being special, and that you don't need to self improve, y…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 06:52 AM
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my boyfriend is that for me and tbh it rules
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 05:16 AM
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Many people pick and choose what aspects of a religion to follow, along with following a religion due to preconceived beliefs, rather than seeking out the true religion.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 05:03 AM
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i have no idea how i look at this point. i have never had trouble with dating or getting a relationship with conventionally attractive people, but when i go on /r/vindicta i read a post about how a trait i have is objectively ugly and not even surgery can fix it. then i look at media and i dont look like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 04:35 AM
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yea the pics of the bodybuilder dudes at shows look weird, but guys who work out and are strong and muscular are hot asf
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 04:00 AM
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its mostly a paper tiger when women act that way, the ones ive gotten to know who saw themselves that way have always been deeply insecure with themselves. it is pretty great to be the one to be approached though
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 03:59 AM
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nobody ever said cold approaching had high success rates. also talking to women irl implies social groups, clubs, hobbies, friend groups, etc. if you think you have to act like a stalker in order to get a woman, itd be understandable why you arent in these groups
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 03:47 AM
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anyone reading our interaction would say you're the one in need of mental healthcare
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 03:46 AM
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projection but ok
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 03:44 AM
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That any reasonable person would understand you're exaggerating, and if the man did act in a manner that they got the police called on them, it would be justified.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 03:43 AM
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you're proving my point lol i acted in genuine good faith and you seethe at me, you're coming across as unhinged and very unstable. do something to take your mind off of this for a while. WTF are "gendered spaces"? Does me having a gender and being in a space make it a "gendered" space? This place is a good example. Spaces that discuss gender, talk about gender dynamics, you get the idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 03:41 AM
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If you don't take no for an answer and act in a manner that does get the police called on you, yes most will likely view you as harassing her or stalking her. Do you have autism?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 03:37 AM
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take a break from the internet and gendered spaces friend, itll be good for you
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 03:33 AM
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Big cities have access to a ton of services, concerts, basically fun events. Someone's 20s are usually the time they're doing the most going out fun events like that. Also if you're gay or visibly trans, cities have a lot more appeal versus a small town.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 03:32 AM
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Tbh its probs where you live, I see way more young people in big cities versus medium sized capital cities.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 03:27 AM
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I'm pretty sure if I got my view of a gender from this sub, I would think everyone is absolutely terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 03:24 AM
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i dont think ive ever heard a man have the police called on him for cold approaching. if your behavior is egregious enough to get the cops called on you, you messed up like ten steps ago
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 03:23 AM
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I'm in plenty of hyper online spaces that attracts the kinds of men you describe, and I would still say the majority end up being late bloomers.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 03:13 AM
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not true at all, late bloomers are a trope for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 03:04 AM
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it gets easier the more experience you get
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 02:22 AM
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why is seize e before i but siege is i before e thats so dumb
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 11:49 PM
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A relationship where the woman doesn't respect the man is doomed for either misery, failure, or both. I would really suggest you read this post and give it a full hearted try if you do decide to get back with him.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 09:18 PM
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Space breeds desire, this is normal and typical when two people who used to like each other spend time apart. That said, you spend a lot of your post downplaying your failures while not doing the same for him, people attract other people for a reason. You even said yourself you think you're too good for him, that's not going to result in a relationship where you respect the man.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 08:45 PM
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are you talking like benzos or ativan? those have a litany of their own issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 08:04 PM
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they usually don't work and make it so you have a way harder time orgasming
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 07:49 PM
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political beliefs tend to change with age, i used to be very leftist and im more lib now
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 07:43 PM
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I mentioned it in my initial post, but I really think self care/your own space would help a lot. I know you don't want to put out money for a two bedroom, but I assure you it's worth it. I split a one bedroom with another person for a year and it sucked. In terms of what you get out of the relationship, what does he do for you? Does he take you out on dates, does he take the lead, does he emotionally support you? Getting free rent is one of the things you mentioned and is definitely a benefit.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/24 05:11 AM
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Do you want to break up with him? That's the vibe I'm getting from your post and this reply.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/24 04:54 AM
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You sound overwhelmed, understandably so since you're dealing with a lot of stressful things. What are you doing for self care, relaxation, get away from things, time to decompress, etc? In terms of the chaos of having a young child and the kid and ex wife coming first, are these deal breakers for you, or is there room for compromise to be found? Two adults and a kid in a one bedroom apartment sounds miserable, I would honestly rather split rent on a two bedroom so there's more space and you hav…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/24 03:17 AM
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Doesn't suck as bad as losing your husband cause you couldn't stop over eating.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 03:15 AM
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If you’re married, your money should be shared, and he should be happy to pay for a gym membership. I doubt it was for his current girlfriend but not his wife. It's not like it takes a gym membership to lose weight anyways. The woman divorces not because the man doesn’t have money, but because he either won’t find a new job or is hostile at the home. Iirc it's within 6 months of losing it. Assuming malice from men and innocence from women is dumb
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 02:56 AM
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Maybe not a multi millionaire, but a blue collar worker? Then that's not relevant here or the topic. We have men here who call women who want to share finances or be provided for “gold diggers”. How do you know he didn’t feel the same way? Because suddenly the girlfriend he has now has enough money. If she didn't work and still managed to have the DMV she did, then I'm not sure what to say. Even you are out here saying he shouldn’t provide for her then you have the delusion to say that he would …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 02:26 AM
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First of all, that’s why you only go with men who already have money. She would have never gotten to that point because her DMV is too low, that's the point. Second of all, why didn’t he help her lose weight? I assume she could pay for whatever using his card, not everyone is willing to lose weight, much less lose it successfully. Makeup and clothing purchasing should mostly be done by yourself, with the excess being gifts from others. Her DMV or improvement of such is not his responsibility. Or…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 02:16 AM
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i wasn't speaking in a dating context, i was speaking in a platonic sense
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 02:13 AM
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that's crazy, probably the opposite of my experience all my life
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 02:01 AM
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I've met quite a few guys who operate in social situations in a more feminine or "catty" way. Were they gay or otherwise lgbt?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 01:58 AM
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Men do it too, but not nearly as much. Men are much more likely to be confrontational/what are you going to do about it, versus women who tend to be more passive and utilize passive aggressiveness or group dynamics for social power.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 01:53 AM
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This is why you need to self improve and reach their new DMV. I've been watching a Twitch streamer a couple hours a week for the past year or two. he was getting around 1200 viewers, an okay amount. He had a morbidly obese wife who seemingly never wore makeup and every time I saw him eating, it was fast food. Then he started blowing up, getting 3-4 times as many viewers and presumably money. He moved and a new different woman starting showing on his streams, very fit, very conventionally attract…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 01:51 AM
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im not a feminist
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 01:40 AM
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5 isn't that many, and rejection gets easier as you get older. if you're under 23, i wouldn't give up hope. for one reason or another, women only want to date men older than them by 1-3+ years. it takes a while to grow into it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 01:39 AM
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Another thing I find annoying is when someone has just barely enough plausible deniability to get away with doing something they know is wrong, so then you get shit on for pointing it out this is same gender socialization for women in a nutshell, its infuriating
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 01:37 AM
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the most attracted ive ever been to my bf was when he showed me a completed art piece of his and it was really good
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 11:07 PM
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thats kinda the idea of the red pill i think, to confront reality and know that relationships are more transactional/hierarchal than what we give them credit for. by improving yourself, you get treated better and get more quality men/relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:52 PM
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it's motivated me, ive been on a big self improvement binge on the past 2ish months. been working out, working on my makeup and hair styling lots, reading redpillwomen approved books. ive been seeing a lot of good results so far and my boyfriend has been liking the results too
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:20 PM
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the former probably has it separated from the non sex parts of his life, ive never seen a trans-vestigator who wasn't consumed by their obsession with trans people
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:14 PM
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the opposite tbh im swinging above my league with my bf
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:10 PM
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im thinking of trying elf, whats ur fave?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:09 PM
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currently i use maybelline mascara, elf concealer, elf blush, and wet n wild eyeliner
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:08 PM
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one day i anticipate this happening with my makeup
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 04:06 PM
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I can't imagine talking about sex or affairs with my coworkers, the workplace just isnt the place to be talking about that sorta thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 02:08 PM
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I didn't say kind men, I said the men you claim to be confident. Usually they're assholes to other people they don't want to date or fuck, man or woman. You're trying to say they aren't assholes, when they usually are. Turns out being able to place yourself at the high end of social hierarchy also leads to success.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 07:26 AM
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You should see the men when you're not a woman they want to date or fuck. Suddenly ur confident men truly are assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 07:18 AM
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Statistically over 80% are obese iirc
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 06:55 AM
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i looked up what home price i could afford on my salary and it was half the median price of homes here lmao im never owning one
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 02:05 AM
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jesus a $120 brunch?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 01:38 AM
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lol not for me and it is degen but people can do what they want
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 01:37 AM
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take the monk pill if the food you eat every day is simple, plain, and nutritious, you don't have to worry about lots of things. and when you do eat something good it's like jesus blessing your tongue
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 01:35 AM
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I feel like thatd apply on a general attraction level, but once it gets to full cuck kink level, it's probably something deeper
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 01:30 AM
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the guy is either super dense, autistic, or creepy
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 01:27 AM
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from what ive gathered on my 4chan days, its internalized racism, similar to fat ugly bastard kink or the whole monsters defiling the innocent princess trope. i have met a couple of people with autism who just like the color contrast
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 01:25 AM
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pot calling the kettle black
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 12:17 AM
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its probably the same cause bones dont really affect tdee, it's more so weight and muscles
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 12:13 AM
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im mtf
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 10:59 PM
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It's a hindrance, but it's not a death sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 10:58 PM
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guy should have given you his number instead tbh. making the woman be vulnerable in a situation she cant leave is the wrong move
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 10:38 PM
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Get more girl friends. Laura Doyle talks about this, but one of the big parts is getting more girl friends to share feelings with, to complain to, etc. No one person can bear the brunt of all of one person's emotions and complaints.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/24 10:26 PM
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massively underrated part is just being friendly and warm. i get approached much more frequently and get a lot more compliments when i stand up straight, smile, etc versus when i look angry and closed off and in a rush. i think this is the reason a lot of femcels struggle to date outside of obvious things like weight. i remember reading from femcels their personality type and like 80% of them said infp lol so yea!! being approachable and warm is such an underrated part of femininity and much eas…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 10:23 PM
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it all kinda blends together by the time youre 26-27 tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 10:10 PM
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pov: ur my bf while im having a bpd episode
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 09:59 PM
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me
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 09:09 PM
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this is pink pill brained, not man brained
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 08:41 AM
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Q4A: /r/Vindicta says that only LVM cold approach, what do you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 05:20 AM
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cute!!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 04:20 AM
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ive found its area dependent. people in a desert state all look 5-10 years older than they are, but somewhere high humidity everyone looks 5 years younger than they are
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 04:02 AM
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:c
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 02:50 AM
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im the same way with siege
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 02:30 AM
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you’re trying to be clear that you’re not talking about trans women, or is it autism both
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 02:25 AM
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i get schizo when a woman compliments me in general. is she complimenting me because she thinks i look good? because i look bad? because i look like im having a bad day? the world may never know. id much rather they just not comment on my appearance at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 02:20 AM
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yea being a man sucks
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 02:02 AM
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Live in the PNW. Rents $1300. What part? It's hard to find rent for a 2 bedroom in a city for $1300/month here except for Tacoma.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 01:47 AM
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thats brutal lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 01:35 AM
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beagles are so cute
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 12:37 AM
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Having more value in looks/having a looks disparity doesn't translate as great into tangible effects. If someone looks better, they may have more power in the relationship, both only if the man is not equivalently good at providing. In a situation of a rich man and a poor woman, there are a ton of tangible things that result in a power dynamic. If they break up, the poor woman has many more tangible things to lose. Versus a woman who looks better than their man does not.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 09:55 PM
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In the context of Western romance, women are valued for their looks while men are valued for what they are able to provide. If a woman isn't able to look better than her husband, then she is not able to provide what she is valued for as well. It's the same reason why a lot of men do not like to date women who make more than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 09:51 PM
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are you planning to kidnap me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 09:49 PM
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ikr? im on the waitlist for dbt but they said it'd take 3-4 months. im thinking right now ill just take a break from therapy and reevaluate things when they call me with an opening
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 08:46 PM
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Time to use that energy to self improve. There's a lot of resources on here and /r/Vindicta is great for looksmaxxing
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 07:57 PM
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they told me i had to pick an investment group on the spot and i didnt know anything about any of them so i just chose the one with the fanciest sounding name
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 07:53 PM
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She was specialized in trans issues, but I felt the issue wasn't cause I was trans because I would still feel the same way if I hadn't transitioned/wasn't trans if that makes sense. The issue wasn't so much regarding me being trans, but more so her invalidating my experiences from childhood. did you think the emdr helped you any? from what i know it’s still a new therapy and the efficacy is still being tested? have you tried cbt? She kept saying we were going to do EMDR soon but kept putting it …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 07:52 PM
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the most recent one i saw was one who did emdr and described herself as an intersectional feminist. tldr, im mtf and was abused growing up and my therapist seemed to have the view that girls and women are the ones that should have the primary concern with physical abuse. i brought up my feelings with her and why i felt that way, and she got very upset and kept interrupting me very blackpilled about therapy lately
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 07:44 PM
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if my experiences with therapists are any indicator, if the patient brings up something the therapist did to hurt their feelings, they poop their pants and seethe. so dont feel too bad
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 07:38 PM
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aw
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 07:19 PM
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does investing in my 401K count
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 07:09 PM
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Not so much that they don't matter, but rather they're not the primary factor in attracting someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 06:08 PM
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id imagine it feels bad to be told something all your life, only to observe the exact opposite. it would feel very frustrating
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 05:36 PM
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americans when they see someone exercise
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 04:03 AM
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yea they obvs aren't as bad as rapists and killers, but they arent exactly good for society either. probably on the same level as hard drug users
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 02:02 AM
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yea definitely in a techie richer area like san jose
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 01:58 AM
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in their view its inability to have delayed gratification, which is destabilizing, they're much more likely to end up a single parent which is destabilizing, and they're more likely to encourage behaviors that are destabilizing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 01:57 AM
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i know everyone's having less sex than in the past, but does that mean less slutty? a woman who's only slept with one man 500 times wouldn't be considered slutty, but a woman who's slept with 50 men one time would
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 01:56 AM
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slutty women are inherently destabilizing for a society, people who greatly value societal stability would understandably dislike them in this context
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 01:53 AM
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chinese transplants like this are usually rich kids whose parents could afford US uni rates with ease from what ive experienced. unsurprising she has those standards
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 01:52 AM
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change your socks man
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 01:50 AM
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stds pregnancy and higher chances of cheating in committed relationships all sound like good reasons for not sleeping around
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 01:49 AM
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its definitely plausible
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 01:25 AM
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much better to embellish than to make up going somewhere or being a part of something. they may or may not call to verify, but you don't want to find out.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 01:19 AM
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why is it always the people with no pill flairs who have the most braindead takes
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 10:40 PM
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weed is hedonistic
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 10:29 PM
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I'd say both, and I think them actually not having an opinion depends on the topic
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 09:42 PM
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The thing is, when there is a socially acceptable and socially unacceptable opinion to have, people who have the socially unacceptable opinion will often opt to say "well, I don't have an opinion" as a means to not be socially ostracized. does that make sense
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 09:22 PM
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my bf and i never got young love so its sweet and fun to recreate it with each other
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 09:08 PM
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it depends, if you say no opinion on certain things, the implication becomes clear. what is your opinion on nazis/feminism/etc no opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 09:07 PM
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i don't think it's so much a you become old and no longer care thing, i think its more so a generational thing
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 03:30 PM
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this one was great
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 01:50 PM
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your posts are either great or absolutely terrible, there's such little inbetween
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 01:49 PM
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> [ Removed by Reddit ] lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 01:34 PM
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this is a really common view for feminists and women under the age of 30. it also ironically feeds into the patriarchal idea that women are innocent children and men are dangerous emotionless beasts
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 12:45 PM
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its okay, its been like 10 years at this point and im vibin
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 11:24 AM
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i think its cute and intimate but i get why youd just want to get in and get out instead of making it a 20 minute affair
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 11:19 AM
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Out of my four romantic relationships ive been cheated on twice. Out of my sister's three, she's been cheated on once. Out of my brother's one, he hasn't been cheated on. Seems common if you're in more than one or two relationships in your life sucks
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 10:34 AM
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having bpd is like having a drunk angry person who wants to ruin your life take over your body multiple times a week
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 10:08 AM
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less than my sister, if i had to guess, below 50K
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 04:54 AM
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my brother in law bagged a woman way out of his league and he's 5'5" and started balding at 14
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 04:29 AM
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no, thinking you won't get your first kiss till 30 is a lack of confidence
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 04:21 AM
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a 5/10 5'7" confident dude is way hotter is way hotter than an 8/10 6'2" dude who thinks he won't get a kiss until 30
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 04:20 AM
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only if both are lesbian, if one's bi she will usually place the other into the man's role
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 04:16 AM
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with that lack of confidence, definitely 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 04:15 AM
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anytime
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 03:19 AM
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Well SRS isn't removal, they reconstruct it into a vagina since vaginas and penises/testicles/the sack are made up of the same material. Hormone replacement therapy is estrogen and usually an anti androgen, and estrogen is the mechanism in which people grow breasts. Growing breasts is hormones specific rather than anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 03:11 AM
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about sex and genitals?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 03:05 AM
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you see it a lot on /r/leopardsatemyface theyll literally celebrate women getting sexually assaulted cause she didnt vote for the same party they did. they dont care about minorities and the oppressed, they just care about them insofar as seeing them as a political tool to further their means
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 03:02 AM
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I pass at this point, so I basically live as any other woman does except I don't use tampons or worry about getting accidentally pregnant. My relationship with my boyfriend is a fairly standard straight relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 02:59 AM
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you can ask them just dont be a dick/tmi about it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 02:48 AM
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yea buccal fat removal is masculinizing and aging, it has to be the dumbest procedure
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 02:16 AM
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autism
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 02:13 AM
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I mean it does make you look older, it's messing with nerve endings. Anyone who knows a bit about plastic surgery knows that, that doesn't mean the beautification looks bad. Also none of those three listed are necessarily plastic surgery in the traditional sense we think of them. There's a ton of before and afters posted on various subreddits if you want on the floor results
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 02:12 AM
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based
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 02:07 AM
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do you think it has to do with the fact that celebrities get multiple rounds of it, and the ones that look bad stick out in a way natural results dont?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 02:06 AM
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what
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 01:43 AM
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why? one's to improve your natural looks and the other is revealing body parts normally only seen in the bedroom
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 01:08 AM
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this is your second post in like in an hour about makeup being slutty why do you think its slutty lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 01:03 AM
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the world is constant high stimulation from the moment we wake up to the time we go to bed. little time to come down from that causes people to become uptight and prone to anxiety. thats why meditation is basically the opposite of stimulation and leads to calmer moods
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 12:57 AM
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you make pizzas
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 12:47 AM
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jesus a 10 year relationship with no proposal
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 12:40 AM
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best pussy disorder
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 12:38 AM
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its something that ive seen echoed across other therapists ive talked to in my personal life. the subreddit bans anyone who isn't a therapist anyways. these are the people who are the ones suicidal people see and this is the attitude they have towards men
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 12:37 AM
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my bf messaging me c:
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 12:35 AM
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and reddit has a subreddit for therapists where therapists post on it, whats your point? it gives insight as to how therapists truly feel about things
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 12:27 AM
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what about them makes them fun to hang out with but not marriage material?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 12:26 AM
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the most commonly awarded bachelor's degree in the US is in psychology
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 12:13 AM
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its a subreddit for women who have terrible relationships with their fathers and then went on to emulate such a dynamic later in life with their romantic relationships. then eventually they get to a point where they tell the men they date "i hate men" which only attracts men who will just use them and men who are spineless
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 12:07 AM
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yeah psychology is a meme and therapists are usually more harmful than good. i remember there was a thread on /r/therapists where therapists said men were unhinged emotionally stunted maniacs, chronic cheaters, and are suicidal because men are finally facing the consequences of their actions. imagine you go to therapy and your therapist views you that way before you even speak with one another
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 12:05 AM
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why would i ?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 11:44 PM
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It can be, but it's kinda culture dependent. A college campus and church are going to have different definitions of slutty clothing. Wearing makeup isn't slutty, really the opposite. Most cis women I know who don't regularly wear makeup still wear it for important things like court dates, important work meetings, and attending someone's wedding.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 11:43 PM
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thanks:3
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 11:19 PM
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if you asked me 4 years ago i would have given you a solid 8 but im well
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 11:14 PM
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im envious of her makeup and skincare routine
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 11:11 PM
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0
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 11:10 PM
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oh i thought you were being sarcastic. tbh the best women having trouble finding anyone sounds like cope, like that whole sorta "its not me its everyone else" sorta thing
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 10:16 PM
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this is literally me with my bf
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 10:07 PM
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It is a small number, HIV isn't the worry OP should have with HIV. If the guy has sex with 2500 HIV positive women or has sex with an HIV positive woman every single day for the next almost 7 years, then all the more power to him. But he should be much more worried about chlamydia, gonorrhea, and pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 09:42 PM
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twitter is just people arguing in bad faith
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 09:40 PM
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tbh that's what ive noticed with people over 30 who are single. they are almost certainly single for a reason and the reason usually shows itself very quick
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 09:35 PM
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It's affected straight people, but primarily due to drug use (such as sharing needles as listed by the CDC) or infant rape in other countries such as Africa. Bisexuals do exist and homosexuals who don't have anal sex do exist, but they're not the majority of those who have HIV. The majority of those who have HIV are males who have sex with males, along with trans women who have anal receptive sex with males. even if the transmission rate is slightly lower. It's 35 times higher, if you had anal r…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 09:30 PM
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this place has genuinely the most stupid people i have ever argued with on the internet. other places might be in bad faith, but genuinely the iq level of so many people here has to be below 80
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 08:58 PM
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I mean it's literally almost 35 times higher with anal receptive sex. There's a reason why it ravaged the homosexual community, but it's barely touched the heterosexual community despite the HIV epidemic being over 40 years old now. How people take it is how they take it, but it's dumb to say the primary worry of STDs with PIV sex is HIV.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 08:46 PM
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the only way i can think is rich parents. even going into trades right out of high school they'd need to go through an apprenticeship that doesnt make good money. maybe if they became a realtor?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 08:33 PM
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tbh its not so much being misogynistic as it is just not caring what women think. women love the confidence that comes with not caring what they think when it comes to hooking up. one of the least attractive things a man can have is lacking confidence
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 08:30 PM
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condoms dont reduce the risk of herpes by nearly as much as it does with stds cause its skin contact
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 08:15 PM
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More masculine traits. Stronger, hairier, facial hair and body hair, thats sorta thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 08:05 PM
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where did i say it can't? it's just very uncommon with piv.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 08:04 PM
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transmission of hiv is primarily through receptive anal sex, not piv. that's why hiv has stayed primarily a thing among gay men and trans women, it hasn't wrecked straight cis people much
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 06:38 PM
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i used to but now i only do if im just getting the mail or something
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 06:10 PM
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this is very true and it's unfortunate that it's been done away with in most mainstream mental health
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 06:01 PM
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oh go him then
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 05:52 PM
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10% of a top 30%-40% salary is maybe $7K/year
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 05:48 PM
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its like having a weighted blanket on you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 05:46 PM
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It would need to be enough to support himself on, relationships are so much more stressful when one person wouldn't be able to support themselves if the relationship ended.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 05:45 PM
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it fucks with me trying to imagine whether to go left or right if the current path im taking isnt northwards
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 09:14 AM
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I don't really like it, the only people who seem to particularly like it in others are bi women and submissive men, neither which really interest me. I would say I'm somewhat shy, more so socially anxious.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 09:14 AM
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lmao i wondered if i could do it one day and it turns out i could. ive been able to do it for like 15 years now?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 08:36 AM
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taller than me, im 5'10" im not super picky about height though, confidence trumps height and more masculinity trumps height
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 08:36 AM
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trust me i have more than 99% of people here
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 05:15 AM
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omg im genuinely the worst at it, i dont think ive ever met anyone worse at it in my life than me do you have any tips
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 05:11 AM
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makeup and doing my hair is really fun though, i got hair curlers the other day and lemme tell ya they make my bangs look great
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 05:07 AM
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wait until you hear about all of the surgery and canthal tilt talk that happens on womens looksmaxxing subreddits
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 05:02 AM
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i can put both legs behind my head
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 04:25 AM
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Usually lack of it happening anymore is a sign of low testosterone, you should get tested for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 04:20 AM
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how often do you eat ice cream
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 03:18 AM
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ive been an unattractive man, an attractive man, an unattractive woman, and a mid woman people will be much nicer to you if you're attractive, they'll assume the best from you and smile at you a lot more, strangers will find a way to make conversation with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 03:17 AM
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i agree, a man being good with children showcases so many great qualities
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 03:14 AM
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self awareness about not having self respect doesnt make it any less pathetic
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 03:12 AM
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I have BPD too, and that's been my biggest impediment to dating, more so than conventional deal breakers. Men may put up with their peace constantly being disrupted for a 9/10 woman, but they'll never do it for a 7/10 or below woman. If you can get to the point of emotional regulation that you at least don't involve others, you'll see a great increase in the men you attract and the quality of your relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/24 11:58 PM
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honestly the men who cold approach me were a thousand times more attractive than men who didnt just cause the confidence it takes to do it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 11:14 PM
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youre expecting men who call themselves fans of porn stars and OF women to have self respect
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 09:21 PM
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my boyfriend said i should get a nose piercing but my nose looks big enough as is
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 09:19 PM
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yes and this week as well
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 08:50 PM
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they're just so fun
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 08:48 PM
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lol yea anytime
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 02:05 PM
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So you would say you only attract straight dudes then? I would say so yea, gay men obvs like men and bisexual men tend to like trans women who dont pass. Ive been with my boyfriend since passing and hes straight. Or do guys exist that are exclusively into trans people. They do, but usually they specifically like dick (which is incompatible with me) or they like trans women who don't pass. I never really minded these men though before my bf so long as if they treated me like a person instead of a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 01:53 PM
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That's great. So even if you tried you couldn't sound like a man anymore? Or do you still have the ability to go deeper than women that spawned as women? Yeah Ive tried before but I just ended up sounding like a woman trying to impersonate men lol Also, you know how in men a big dick is the masculine and desired thing right? Is it like the opposite for transwomen where like a small dick is the most feminine, most desired dick to have? Tbh I think dick size correlating with masculinity or feminin…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 01:32 PM
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I misspoke, I meant i'm exclusively into masculine men, gay men stopped interest in me once i grew boobs lol. Also, do you people have like two voices, like one social pretend voice and still your manly voice, or does it really like change that much? So there's two stages to voice training. The first stage is getting to the point you can speak and have it pass, while the second stage is using it enough that it's just your natural voice. There isn't much to the second stage other than "just do it…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 01:18 PM
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Trans people make up around .3% of the population, probably half that if you exclude non transitioning nbs and people who don't go on hrt. I think trans men get less attention because most people view trans people as their birth gender, and they see men as threatening but women as not. Do you fit in one of those categories btw? I probably fit closer to the first one than the second, but I'm exclusively into androphilic men, I pass, and have bpd rather than autism.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 01:09 PM
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i'm trans, but yea the first birth control was estradiol for cis women
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 12:59 PM
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The first is much more common on 4chan and reddit. Usually autistic, nerdy, usually gynephilic, usually doesn't pass but can if they femininitymaxx. The other is usually on tiktok/certain spaces on twitter, have bpd, usually androphilic, usually pass outside of voice.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 12:55 PM
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then i guess i'm demisexual
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 12:53 PM
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going on estrogen, the biggest difference wasn't necessarily that my sex drive was lower, but rather it went from proactive to reactive. i dont think about sex much anymore, but i'm very receptive if my boyfriend makes a move
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 12:50 PM
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risk aversion is kinda stupid tbh. people always worry about what if they regret their decision, but they seldom think about what if they regret not making that decision
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 12:24 PM
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It's moreso an acceptance than men and women generally act and are a certain way. By embracing this and working this in your favor, both people are generally much happier. Hard for me to see why a woman would need to be RP when she just needs to pick who she wants to fuck It's not about sex, it's about commitment. Women get to choose who they get to have sex with, men get to choose who they commit to. Principle of least interest and all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 12:15 PM
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while male dating advice to women is basically "initiate sometimes and be enthusiastic" there's a lot more to it, /r/redpillwomen and the surrendered wife by laura doyle are both good examples. a lot of modern day social norms set women up to not trust or respect their husbands, and it leaves both miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 11:57 AM
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men probably don't want to commit to a woman who sleeps around and considers cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 09:53 AM
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neurodivergent, so like adhd and autism
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 09:53 AM
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Thank you, I really appreciate it. I wish there were more spaces for ND women to socialize and hang out
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 09:28 AM
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the kinks men have knows no bounds
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 09:21 AM
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they may have sex with her, but they won't see her as worthy of commitment
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 09:20 AM
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I think intimacy with your husband should be the first priority in a relationship (given its within the confines of your boundaries) and that when a woman reacts to things that hurt her, they should be reacted to in a manner that's best for the relationship rather than what feels good in the moment. I remember reading a reddit post about a man who asked his wife for a paternity test. This upset her, but she did it all the same. When the test results came back as her being faithful, she laughed a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 08:42 AM
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I dont encounter them often just because I tend to have few friends in general, it's really just my boyfriend and best friend. I would probably be called a pick me by other women if I voiced my opinions but socializing with women has sucked every since I started transitioning. I think pick me is generally a term to support the in group bias that women tend to have more strongly than men do. I think those they can pick mes are often just women (often neurodivergent) who don't like socializing how…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 08:30 AM
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women tend to gain social status through integrating in a group, while men tend to gain social status through standing out in a group. calling other women pick mes is a natural result of not fulfilling your role as a woman in a group.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 07:49 AM
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i generally have the view that what's between me and my bf stays between me and my bf. other people don't fully understand how things are or the full context
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 07:42 AM
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tfw this describes me bless my boyfriend and all he does for me. tbf ive been in therapy for years for it and most people tell me they couldn't tell that i have bpd
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 07:39 AM
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it's fairly unsurprising that one trait would indicate other traits. spending time in the mtf community would show two distinct types of trans women that most mtfs would fall under
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 07:35 AM
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i do
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 07:17 AM
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i used to be the latter when i was poor but i have now upgraded to eating at a desk instead
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 01:31 AM
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there are more serotonin receptors in our gut than in our brain, there's 100% a link between mood and diet/bowel movements
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 01:13 AM
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idk about celebrity, but todd howard is probably extremely rich and he's stayed with his wife who he got married to in 1995.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 10:05 PM
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Something like 66% of the US is overweight or obese. Working out is a great way to set yourself apart, and it becomes more effective as this percent goes up every year.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 10:03 PM
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I've been an attractive man and a mid looking passing trans woman. I get treated way better as a mid looking passing trans woman
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 04:45 AM
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It's rare, but it does happen. The original comment was asking what if the woman had truly repented and changed? This would fit that rare case. Some people do keep some values the same throughout their life, but that isnt what I said. I said people don't keep all the same values all their life. Very different statements.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 09:37 PM
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You make it seem that values aren't something that can be changed, even though I don't think there's ever been someone who's kept all the same values all their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 09:07 PM
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Hmm, I see the point there. So the disrespect comes from being unsure and telling the man before she is sure, rather than necessarily her being gay and telling him?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 08:11 PM
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Well that's very different and I can see how that'd be disrespectful. The situation was assuming the gf is actually lesbian and wouldn't date another man after.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 08:06 PM
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I can see why it's a deal breaker for a relationship, but I don't see why it can't be something forgiven on a platonic level.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 08:01 PM
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because i would hope if the roles were reversed, that they would be honest with me about the break up reason. it helps a lot with closure i think
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 07:58 PM
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id say it's a lie by omission
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 07:50 PM
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hmm i guess it doesnt make sense to me as to why its disrespectful if it's something she can't help and doesn't have to do with you so much as with herself. i feel like id rather have a hurtful truth rather than a nice lie but everyone's different
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 06:52 PM
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That's okay and understandable, but if you follow a religion who's core idea is forgiveness in the face of true repentance and change, does it not make sense that it would extend to this?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 06:44 PM
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I would think your ability to observe and read someone's character would be the primary factor. People who are promiscuous tend to have other behaviors and views that correlate with it. I would hope someone who follows a religion who's core idea is forgiveness would extend to those who you read and observe as truly repented and changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 06:43 PM
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you dont feel being broken up with for no reason would hurt more?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 06:08 PM
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Why is a woman sleeping with many men in the past not something able to be forgiven if she truly repents and changed?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 06:03 PM
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what should someone who might be lesbian do instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 06:00 PM
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why?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 05:47 PM
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yea that makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 11:13 AM
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what would the right term be you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 11:10 AM
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The former
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 11:04 AM
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they can sell sex for money legally in japan and pre op trans women generally enjoy anal more than cis women
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 11:03 AM
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no no, not you specifically, men in general. like she started to realize she might be a lesbian
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 11:01 AM
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you wouldnt care if your gf was attracted to men or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 10:56 AM
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Q4M: would you feel disrespected if your gf told you a year into dating that she wasn't sure if she was into men or not? this seems to be a decisive topic among the men in my friend group
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 10:50 AM
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trans women stay winning
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 10:27 AM
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this explanation makes the most sense to me
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 10:07 AM
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it always makes me really sad to see desperate people get taken advantage of
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 08:00 AM
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it has never been over.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 07:59 AM
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idk ive gotten a good radar for it over the years after spending time with a lot of people diagnosed with it. its a certain vibe and way of communication they tend to have
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 07:54 AM
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sounds like a good man to marry if you're not terribly ambitious/high maintenance
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 07:45 AM
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i mean its not just autism being correlated with nbs, its also heavily correlated with binary trans people
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 06:59 AM
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bf told me i should get piercings and a tattoo its so over
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 06:49 AM
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why do you think so many people with autism are drawn to spaces that talk heavily about gender? its extremely common here and rpw, i would think it's just a coincidence, but a lot of trans people also have autism. it seems like a thing with gender and autism that attract each other
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 06:47 AM
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you're more or less trying to tell me its almost impossible to find someone who will commit to me in a monogamous manner
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 06:44 AM
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There's a lot of good posts here about vetting Part 1 Part 2 Part 3
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 05:56 AM
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It sounds like you need to work on your vetting process and absolutely do not stay in contact with exes.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 05:54 AM
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I think it'd be worth experimenting with things as dressing more feminine seems new to you. In this case, fast fashion stores like Forever 21, H&M, and Pac Sun are all good options to start with. If you want something high quality and long lasting, it's going to be expensive.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 05:38 AM
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Do you have any Goodwills nearby you? There can be a good selection of things there.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 05:31 AM
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it's because of leftover attitudes from women and men didn't work. you don't hear about it in western countries very specifically because of christianity making killing female babies extremely taboo as it saw all life as valuable. pre christian west was just as brutal as the eastern countries you hear about. in the context of choosing the sex of the baby, killing does not come into play, and as a result, subverts the christian ideal of all life being valuable that prevents murder of female babie…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:31 PM
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thats within a limited system and going out of your way to abort, rather than when you have an active choice
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:24 PM
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then thats just delusional and not going to happen
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:21 PM
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i would still say we have misogynistic leaning attitudes in the west that predispose people towards wanting boys rather than girls, all things considered
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:18 PM
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it's usually the opposite, when people have the choice, they choose male. i guess if you made it so the government had regulations and quotas for it, but that's just delusional level along the lines of women being forced to breed by the government
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:15 PM
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why
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:12 PM
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its easy to point out flaws, it's a lot harder to give alternatives. i mean it in genuine good faith, i would like to hear about a system that is able to deal with depopulation while maintaining strong social programs and governmental power along with equal rights for women. public ownership of all goods is even worse in a depopulated system as public services and social programs are the first thing to fail during depopulation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:48 PM
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wait until you meet a deeply insecure autistic woman
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:43 PM
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i can't decide which is worse between knowing a deeply insecure woman or an autistic woman oh man wait until you meet me
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:40 PM
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maybe, especially as less have kids. i dont think divorce is necessarily significantly more taboo among gen x ers than millennials. i think most people who say they hate their wives are stuck because of kids and finances
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:23 PM
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tbh i would not be surprised if a lot of the millenials who hate those sorta jokes are the same ones who are going to be making those jokes twenty years from now. its easy to love your wife early on, it's a lot harder as the decades go by and youre bound together by kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:18 PM
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we could drastically reorganize society, and i am very open ears to hearing one that contends a depopulated country while maintaining the government running social programs and pensions not being ruined
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:14 PM
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what if they dont drink
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:05 PM
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things like this make me very insecure and reminds me why im glad i only have two friends and they dont really talk to each other
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:02 PM
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i really like this comment about women in their 30's standards
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:54 PM
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ive found the more leeway i give regarding self respect, the more people will take from me, unless if they're an exceptionally kind person. having a zero tolerance policy for infidelity is the best way to prevent it and prevent a lot of pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:51 PM
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i feel like its a mixed bag with older women, they tend to be way kinder/looser about things, or the exact opposite where they really high standards compared to even women in their 20s
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:42 PM
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i really like watching lectures from the great courses about this. a lot of it is how you described about long term effects and cultural changes, and it's cool to connect the things you've learned together about how one caused the other
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:41 PM
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definitely
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:40 PM
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even a little arousal may leave them feeling overstimulated. theyre just like me fr
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:40 PM
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i feel like people would get married out of pressure or a grander sense of contributing to their country, so people would be okay with not having the best partner. but neither of those are really there in the modern day and now our first gut instinct when anything goes wrong in anyone's relationship is to break up cause its so easy to find someone else
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:39 PM
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cause talking dries your mouth out right?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:33 PM
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i really like war history, i love learning about the impact logistics and army movement have on war outcomes
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:29 PM
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pill spaces and especially redpillwomen space seem to have a disproportionate amount of nd women, myself included
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:23 PM
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i genuinely think a lot of people here are too stupid to understand theyre stupid, this especially comes up during discussions of history and population level trends. its like things just dont turn in their head the way they do in other peoples' heads.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:20 PM
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i feel like anime is where comic books were around the time of maybe the first avengers movie. its gone from this weird niche the smelly kid at school liked to the average person at least being open to watching anime
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:17 PM
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i feel like neither person should lust about others in front of their partner cause its disrespectful otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:14 PM
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absolutely based
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:46 PM
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Yeah I had a glow up and it was pretty insane. It's like I went from bothering people just by existing to everyone being happy to interact with me and seeming almost grateful im talking to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:41 PM
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i try not to
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:38 PM
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if you aren't able to have kids, you're not worthy of commitment of monogamy im not sure why you think this would make me feel good
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:37 PM
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then being owned by corporations is our future, anyone who knows basics of history knows what im saying is true
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:36 PM
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well the alternative is feudalism which i would definitely say is worse than what we have now
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:36 PM
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It's one thing for a man to not be getting sex from his partner, it's a whole other thing to bring it up and in the same conversation suggest a threesome
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 11:58 AM
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yea ive only ever known them online. hows australia?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:20 AM
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Yeah that's the same boat I'm in with my boyfriend, I don't see the point of someone liking me in spite of something about me. I think in others who don't like it, it mostly comes from insecurity and disliking being part of the group they belong to.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:19 AM
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Rome's economic issues, the economic issues of the 1800s, were not due to bad or good harvest. Bad weather affecting harvest significantly to the point of famine was primarily a thing in the middle ages. There were many factors, but less recessions is due to increased competent government regulation, not better technology (if anything, better technology speeds it up).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:17 AM
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The government has it's power through it's military and legal enforcement. This is the means in which they use to enforce the legislation that they write. If they pass a law and a business continues to violate it, the business will be shut down. How do they do this? Through using law enforcement. Law enforcement and the military will not work for the government if they are not paid. They are paid through the tax dollars paid to the US government. In the case of depopulation, the tax base is sign…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:15 AM
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tfw im built like jezz bezos' first wife
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:48 AM
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usually not having enough time is an excuse. it always makes me laugh when someone will spend four hours arguing on reddit about how they dont have enough time to cook healthy meals
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:47 AM
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ohh that makes sense, yea its pretty in the middle of the night over here. ive only known a couple of trans women in australia, but both were boymoders
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:46 AM
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yeah he does and some trans women see that sorta thing as a red flag, but i see it as a positive. you like what you like and i feel an attraction only becomes problematic when it's objectifying, but he's always treated me wonderfully and never like an object
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:45 AM
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oh southwest US, so like new mexico, colorado, arizona, and utah
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:44 AM
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Yeah tbh I prefer that, cis men who it's their first time dating a trans woman usually have apprehensions about me being trans or they don't really understand what to do when I'm feeling dysphoric. My bf's experience with trans women before me though really helps cause he knows what he wants and knows how to make me feel better when I'm feeling dysphoric
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:35 AM
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yeah it was kinda the biggest culture shock for me moving here, no one outside of trans circles really mention it though
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:34 AM
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yea I know right lol and yeah he identifies as straight, he's only dated cis and trans women before me
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:30 AM
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i see a trans woman like at least once every time i leave the house, its very area dependent it seems. before when i lived in the southwest, i would barely see any trans people, maybe once a month at the most
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:27 AM
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yea he's cis, we met on /lgbt/. long story but we ended up trading discords, turned out he lived nearby, and the rest is history
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:26 AM
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ohh but yea lol im not a boymoder anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:24 AM
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yea id definitely be down, the only issues i have is the ones who go for trans women are usually into PIV which im not into at all, or they're not able to take on the man's role well. im not saying im an expert on taking a women's role in a relationship or anything, but I consume a lot of rpw content and reading Laura Doyle, so i know some things and the things i do implement work very well. if something were to happen to my current bf, id be open to dating an ftm if those things didn't apply to…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:23 AM
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That's kinda what I'm already doing, but I do like financial independence. Maybe something like a $500/week allowance cause he's rich?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:21 AM
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oh its a term for trans women, its means a trans woman who presents male, usually cause they're too afraid to come out of the closet yet. i made it like two or three years ago, but i haven't presented male in about a year now
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:19 AM
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no im gonna self improve until im the gf my bf deserves
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:13 AM
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Tbh I don't think it'd be that bad given there wasn't a lot of baby mama drama. I can't have kids myself, so being able to raise a kid in some capacity seems like it'd be appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:09 AM
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Yeah, talking about not having enough sex and wanting a threesome is up there for the two worst topics you could combine into a single conversation.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 08:01 AM
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i feel like being a ceo would be stressful, but being a stay at home wife would feel empty and hedonistic cause i can't have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:52 AM
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oh i currently have a boyfriend but i know a lot of other sterile women who ive been considering giving this advice to will u disclose ur bpd too or have them figure it out? yea im always open about those sorta things early on, i want the guy to know what he's getting into
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:47 AM
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true
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:44 AM
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yes
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:40 AM
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We're much better at economics than we've ever been, back in the early 1800s there would be a recession every 2 years, compared to one every 8-10 years now. Something catastrophic would need to happen in order for things to collapse in 25 years, although we withstood something like COVID fairly well all things considered. Things are much more stable than any of the times periods you listed, even if you go back by 25 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:36 AM
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And how do they do that if they don't have the monetary means through a sizeable tax base to do so? At that point you're relying on the personal wealth of very wealthy government officials, which is just about one step away from feudalism.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:29 AM
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That's a foolish way to look at governmental power. There has to be someone to enforce the legislation in order for the legislation to be followed, otherwise there would be no reason to follow it. Think about laws that are unenforced, piracy for example. It's not (at least heavily) enforced, so no one bothers to follow it. You really think corporations are going to follow unenforceable laws if it benefits them not to?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:23 AM
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Stop consuming /r/antiwork content and start comparing trends lol 25 years may be where we start seeing things like social security fall, but even then, that's the beginning of a very long process of governmental collapse. Rome started doing poorly during the time of Marcus Aurelius and it still took 300 years for the Roman Empire to officially collapse.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:21 AM
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Hold immature women accountable by making a card like ebt so they don't misuse child support. That doesn't really do anything but shift around budgets. Think of it this way: if you had $300 budgeted for groceries and $300 budgeted for fun, and you got $300 in child support on an ebt like card. You could just use what would have been your grocery money on fun things, and the ebt like card on groceries. It doesn't do anything but shift things around a bit. Make it so both men and women can opt out…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:15 AM
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And making it so kids suffer more is not the way to do anything but add fuel to the fire.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:01 AM
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Is dating single dads the move for sterile women? They already have kid/s and have passed on their genetics, having a sterile wife at that point sounds like it could be a plus.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:55 AM
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And how do you think governments get the power in order to regulate the corporations? The government gains it's power through tax revenue, and cannot exist without it. What do you think happens with corporations when the government collapses? If there's no one around to regulate them, then they get to run free, which is why feudalism was so problematic.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:54 AM
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That's populist pessimism. I think we're a distance away from it (80-120 years or so maybe?), but the government still flexes it's power corporations when it wants to. Watch Elon or Bezos put their tail between their legs when they complain about the government making them follow regulations. It's going to kick into gear once baby boomers fully die off and gen X start trying to collect their pensions.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:53 AM
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I think it's better described as hyper individualism and people putting their own desires and wants over the needs of their country. Albeit I'm a hypocrite in saying this as I'm not having any kids myself, but I do think it's important to call a spade a spade and not try to distract ourselves from the reality of things when talking about population degrowth.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:47 AM
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Yeah just thinking things through would lead you to these conclusions. I feel like so much of populism preys on peoples' immediate emotions regarding a topic in order to manipulate them into giving power.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:41 AM
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I think people just don't really understand history, particularly late antiquity to the early middle ages, because world history classes spend maybe two weeks on it. Falling population levels is worse for basically everyone in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:33 AM
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The child comes first, first and foremost. The second we start prioritizing adults over the well being of children is the second in which we start getting a lot of terrible cascading societal effects.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:30 AM
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you're not ruining someone's day and if you did, they are probably very mentally ill
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:29 AM
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Unfortunately feminism isn't sustainable long term with really any system that groups more than 10,000 people together. Birth rates aren't correlated with social support or wealth (otherwise Sweden would be booming with kids and countries in Africa would be heavily struggling), they're correlated with women's educational levels. People will spend the next 60-80 years denying this correlation while we're pumping more and more immigrants into our country before the countries we're getting immigran…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:24 AM
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The last time birth rates fell over a sustained period, we got feudalism. When birth rates fall over a long period of time, the government collapses due to lack of support, lack of tax revenue, and lack of ability to enforce it's power and will. In the subsequent power vacuum, those with existing resources (the wealthy, corporations, landlords) are the ones who seize power.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:17 AM
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nah left leaning areas are way less confrontational in my experience. theyre more likely to be the type to see something off cuff and then write a reddit post about it later, rather than have actual confrontation
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:09 AM
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you spend too much time in gender subs. socially awkward and unattractive does hurt, but both of those things are things you can work on. an average dude with charisma will do better with cold approach than a socially awkward handsome man
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:02 AM
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Tbh I've had like a gagillion women as friends over the past decade and ive never heard of a single one freaking out on men cold approaching, just being cold at worst to give the hint. the stories you read online are from women exaggerating and likely have some form mental illness making them react how they do
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:41 AM
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tbh id just yourself off with baby wipes beforehand, the gym isnt exactly the best smelling place
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:26 AM
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why shower then train?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:20 AM
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This is like saying we only know 15% of things so we can't know whether the moon has gravitational pull on the Earth's tides. We know some things, just not a lot of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:14 AM
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today was really busy and so will tomorrow and so will the day after
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:12 AM
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It produces something original, as it isn't copy pasting anything, simply learning from others. If we're limiting production of art simply to something that was not learned by others, then we're more or less stuck with caveman drawings. I just think it's wrong for AI art to make money, or for AI art to be copyrighted. Well that's a whole different topic, I think it's a bit unethical, but the amount people shit their pants about it leads me to think it's insecurity about peoples' own artistic abi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:07 AM
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And yet it produces higher quality art than most of the human artists. Doesn't make it stealing and the human aspect does not make an art piece inherently good or even better.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 04:58 AM
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Thinking art is anything but artists building upon and copying other artists, you're foolish.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 04:55 AM
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I think you are, cause HSV is herpes and HPV is a different STD. You said in another comment you were getting a vaccine for it, and there aren't any available vaccines for prevention of herpes.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 04:53 AM
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Are you sure you aren't mixing up HPV and HSV? There aren't any vaccines available for herpes.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 04:52 AM
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That's fairly surprising, I can't find anything online about the course of treatment being removing them, or even anything about removing them at all. Everything I see is having anti virals as the course of treatment. EDIT: I did find one study saying it was rare, was your ex on anti virals at all?
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 04:49 AM
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That's a fundamental misunderstanding of how it works. It's not copying, it's learning from it as a conglomerate. I would be massively surprised if anything it produced was one to one with anything it learned from.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 04:46 AM
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Something like 85% of people with genital herpes are asymptomatic and roughly 12% of people have genital herpes. So if the other person has slept with 5 people, there's a good chance they've been exposed to it. Someone who's on anti virals for it is probably less likely to give it to you than some person by chance. Doctors are discouraged from testing for it on std panels unless if the patient has symptoms of it cause the psychological stress is seen as greater than any health negatives that usu…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 04:41 AM
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i feel like i have it pretty under control, people in my life tell me they couldnt tell and i dont do any life ruining things or impulsive decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 04:02 AM
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i do have bpd
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:59 AM
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i met a girl in a psych ward, very mentally unstable, alcoholic, did coke, self harmed, the whole 9 yards. the other is my mom who has bpd and thats fairly self explanatory
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:56 AM
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i feel like the people ive met who felt they were born to have as many kids as possible were the most insane and mentally unstable
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:51 AM
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for what purpose
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:45 AM
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the one in green is very pretty i think, the others are whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:44 AM
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its essentially the same as someone teaching themselves based off of art they didn't pay money for. maybe a tad bit unethical, but massively overblown. i think mediocre artists are just seething cause they know their bad art won't be commissioned anymore cause ai can do it better
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:42 AM
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ive rarely found men desperate for children, usually its women who find a man who's indifferent to having kids, then being surprised that he isn't that involved or cares much about the kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:40 AM
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Sharing feelings and emotions can be a high stress topic, women generally aren't used to or equipped to talk to men the way men talk about emotions. It can be jarring and off putting for many, while something like feminine texting manners isn't high stress, its just normal everyday things. Like it's perfectly common and seemingly acceptable to treat certain preferences men tend to have as influenced by toxic patriarchal culture or media. I'm heavily leaning redpill, I think gender norms are a go…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:38 AM
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There's feminine behaviors - think of a faye gay man, then theres things like opening about your emotions in a feminine manner. The former is unattractive, the latter is attractive. That said, I would say the latter is applicable to me, just the guy opening up to me is something im grateful for.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:26 AM
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Generally straight people dont like androgyny, they usually like masculine men if theyre a straight woman, or feminine women if theyre a straight man.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:19 AM
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i really like it so long as if the guy can take a no with grace
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:03 AM
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i get how thatd be unattractive on a guy cause thats how women and especially women under the age of 25 text. idk i guess i grew up with it in the past decade that it doesnt phase me at all anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:57 AM
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do you have an example of the second half of the first sentence
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:55 AM
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stuff i cant buy elsewhere. like half of the time i buy something from amazon that i could get elsewhere, they always seem like cheap knockoffs/fakes. a good example is razors
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:54 AM
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theyre already on this sub how much lower can their self respect get
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:17 AM
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its kinda crazy moving from a hot dry area to a humid area. everyone here looks 5 years younger than they really are instead of the reverse from the last place i lived
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:15 AM
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so true bestie
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:14 AM
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think of it as a balance, the talkativeness works well with someone who's quiet. two emotionally dramatic people ends in disaster and two stoic reserved people ends in no romance or passion. it then makes sense that an emotionally dramatic woman would end up with a stoic reserved man.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:11 AM
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there has to be, theres a ton of men with autism here
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:10 AM
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i get asked lots by women about my skincare routine when its literally just sunscreen and daily lotion. those two things will get you 90% of the way there and has a very very low chance of messing things up
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 12:48 AM
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its kinda frustrating cause now mf ers wont believe me if i say no hookups or sex isnt happening tonight but to answer your question, feeling pressured to do something makes you tend to not want to do it. by removing that pressure, the desire is free to grow
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 12:41 AM
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yea posting it during euro/aussie hours was probs not a good idea
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 06:52 AM
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I feel this take is very naive and that you don't have a lot of experience with sex workers. I've personally known a fair amount of sex workers over the years (not OF, but rather prostitutes, sugar babies, porn stars, etc) and I genuinely have not met a single sex worker who didn't do hard drugs.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 06:40 AM
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drug addiction
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 06:34 AM
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do you feel this is likely due to your financial situation attracting a certain kind of woman, instead of OP who doesn't have much?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 05:45 AM
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growing up, did your schools tell you they were gonna have lockdowns beforehand? mine never did and in retrospect it seemed kinda unnecessary to make kids unsure if the person knocking hard on the door during the lockdown might be an actual shooter. weird to think about in retrospect
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 05:30 AM
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Lil Aggy, he's a Souls series streamer
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 04:23 AM
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Over the course of the past year or so, I saw a twitch streamer divorce his wife and get a new girlfriend after he went from averaging 1.2K viewers to averaging ~5K viewers, presumably making a ton more money. His (now ex) wife was a morbidly obese woman who didn't cook based off of how frequently the guy seemingly got fast food, while his new gf is a woman with a killer body and I never see him eat fast food anymore when I tune into his streams. Rough, but that's the reality of things sometimes…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 02:09 AM
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its a lot easier to remove bone than it is to add to it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 02:06 AM
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i cant do it, my pinky feels so weak and awkward every time i try using it to type or during games
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 02:05 AM
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trust me, its much worse among women
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 10:41 PM
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This is a place to take responsibility for your circumstances and work towards self improvement. If you want to self pity and get affirmation for it, then go to a sub like twox
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 10:06 PM
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Losing weight and focusing on self improvement is the way to go.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 10:02 PM
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Women were cool as hell before I transitioned, now after transitioning and especially after passing/going stealth, women have become unbearable. It's layers under layers of passive aggressiveness and implications, it drives me insane. It's been the reverse with men where they were annoying to deal with before but are cool as hell to talk to now. I really think it's just a case of same gender socialization sucking.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 09:07 PM
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feels like this is becoming more and more common
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 08:09 PM
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It'd make sense that you dont want a smaller waist cause you're a twink trying to look more masculine, tbh i never did it for the health benefits though
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 08:09 PM
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he's more masculine than like 90% of modern western cis men lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 08:06 PM
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ocassionally a 4chan slang term or meme will break through into the mainstream, where it stays or fades away. the increase in use of the word cringe and wojacks are an example of the former, while american psycho memes are an example of the latter.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 08:03 PM
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if you do omad, you're still getting your daily calories necessary to keep your weight if your weight is already good. the years i dont fast, my waist is bigger than the years where i do fast
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 08:02 PM
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what that's not what i said at all. if your mouth is right on someone's dick, you can bite down very hard and pull away
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 01:24 PM
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The gunman might shoot the woman at any moment, he might do it street he finishes. I'd say it's as much of a gamble as doing something.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 01:22 PM
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Wait so he has a gun pointed at the woman, and the guy has easy free access to the gunman's balls. Why does he not surprise him with shoving biting, testicle hitting, whatever?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 01:19 PM
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fpbp
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 12:05 PM
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Speaking on the other side, I do genuinely feel better now and have enough self worth to know I deserve better than an abusive relationship. The more healthy I become, the more I desire to surround myself with healthy people.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 11:31 AM
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I changed my name at work a year ago and everyone started calling me it without a beat. If they ask why, just say your new last name sounds better, that's what I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 10:42 AM
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it heavily increases risk of pregnancy complications
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 09:02 AM
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From what I've noticed (including in my own life), emotionally sensitive men tend to attract traumatized/emotionally damaged women. It's very healing to date someone who's good with emotions when you've had past trauma.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 09:01 AM
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a lot of womanhood is specifically tied into how it relates to men, more so than the other way around
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 04:49 AM
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asian women are the most popular race of women in dating apps. youre right in terms of asian men though
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 07:31 AM
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redpilled asf
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 07:19 AM
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idk thats a really big fish, thats very impressive to do by yourself even if youre a man
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 06:28 AM
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Which was the original question, if men are considered disposable on an evolutionary biological level.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 04:50 AM
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which gender is legally required to sign up for the draft is the only question you need to ask yourself when considering who is considered more expendable
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 03:19 AM
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you can be the first to say first, but not be first i think
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 02:39 AM
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i like to comment things and its the thought that came to mind
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 02:38 AM
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no yeah, i just thought in response to him saying hes struggling on testosterone, that it would be way harder on estrogen
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 02:28 AM
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didn't you have a gf who you wasted most of her twenties knowing you wouldn't marry her
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 02:14 AM
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after going on estrogen, its became way more difficult for me to gain muscle and it goes away way quicker.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 02:03 AM
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dont use them on any hair except fully dry hair, and make sure to use heat protectant before using one
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 11:52 PM
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idm if the guy cant drive, holding hands and resting my head on his shoulder on the bus sounds cozy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 11:49 PM
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ive heard switching off doctors in reasonable shifts leads to higher fatality rates because people suck at transferring the necessary information they need to
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 07:59 PM
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It's definitely worse than nothing, it feels a thousand times worse when you reach out for help and get none versus not reaching out for help at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 06:34 PM
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they would find cum in my butt during the autopsy and that's very discomforting to imagine
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 05:11 PM
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it depends on the kind of anxiety. social anxiety, it works great. anxiety people hate you, no so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 05:08 PM
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are you unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 04:57 PM
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ive never even been warned before, i must not be controversial enough
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 04:41 PM
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from what i understand, dms they get are usually wanting to use them for sexual purposes, not relationships. going after vulnerable lonely women to use them for sex is pretty skeevy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 04:40 PM
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If you believe in the dissolution of gender roles and progressive values but also believe due to biological constraints and evolution the goals are literally impossible and therefore stupid to try and implement hamfistedly... What would that make you? retarded Like the whole dad bod thing? Why on earth are we pretending women WANT to fuck guys who are out of shape and lazy. i did know a woman who was unironically into this, she had severe daddy issues and her dad had a dad bod
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 04:29 PM
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It makes my head spin just as much as yours. The only way I've been able to make sense of it is she does view abuse that way, but wants to lie by omission, so she dodged my grievance and tried to get me to focus on something unrelated to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 04:26 PM
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I've found when one person communicates their feelings, the other person takes away something completely different from it most of the time. For example with my most recent therapist, I said how I felt that she views abuse as something a man does to a woman and how that hurts my feelings. For some reason she thought I was saying she was racist (we're both white) or transphobic (when my issue with her would still be the same if I wasn't trans), even though I implied neither of those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 04:21 PM
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If people don't think about you a lot, it's likely that they don't care about you, otherwise they would be thinking about you. When you say "at least" the implication tends to come across as diminishing the problem at hand. Or in the case of anxiety, comes across as "yes that is true, but"
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 04:16 PM
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in the mind of someone anxious, this reads as "they don't care about you or they do in fact hate you" neither are very comforting to hear
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 04:12 PM
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if he wasn't ginger, like 4-5/10
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 03:58 PM
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This is especially true in the field of therapy. There was a topic about how men have higher suicide rates than women, in which the therapists on /r/therapists said men are unhinged emotionally stunted maniacs, chronic cheaters, and entitled. No wonder their suicide rates are that high when that's how they're viewed when they go to therapy, instead of with empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 03:50 PM
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lmao of course everyone is unsympathetic to the man and ignoring his feelings to focus on the woman and how she feels
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 02:40 PM
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>grrrr why do women want demonstrated commitment before sex>:(
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 02:11 PM
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are you unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 02:00 PM
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there was a thread in /r/therapists that talked about men having higher suicide rates than women. in the thread as a response to this fact, therapists called men unhinged emotionally stunted maniacs, chronic cheaters, and entitled. any man who goes to therapy is a cuck for giving money to people who view them this way
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 01:49 PM
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so real
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 03:46 AM
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the good feeling you get from looking cute outweighs the pain of cold
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 03:45 AM
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sounds very nice but unfortunately im sterile
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 03:25 AM
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eat a very small amount and deal with it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 03:21 AM
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theres a new tab if you turn off subreddit styles in settings for old reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 11:41 AM
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are you on old or new reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 10:45 AM
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did you do it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 07:03 AM
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It's an open secret a lot of RP community women are on the spectrum. I'm interested in hearing about this more if you're willing to share, I'm curious as I'm neurodivergent myself.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/24 04:23 AM
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You're mistaking timeline I'm speaking about. Drastic bursts of depopulation (such as the Black Death) do not result in feudalism, but the long sustained population degrowth (such as late antiquity to early middle ages) does. An easy example of this and deurbanization I'm talking about is to look at estimates of the population of Rome during the time of Augustus to the time of Justinian.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 03:46 AM
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this thread tells me everything one needs to know about therapy. they view men as unhinged emotionally stunted maniacs, chronic cheaters, and treat them as children. if youre a man and go to therapy you're genuinely a cuck for paying someone who views you this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 03:18 AM
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I'm not saying openly poly people are the ones lying, I'm saying people who aren't poly say they are in order to have the other person not suspect anything. I've seen it happen a lot on tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 02:02 AM
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because its an easy excuse to cheat without the person you're cheating with suspecting anything
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 08:56 PM
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It also means less expenditure, in todays world, with some exceptions. Though there are concerns scale aren't linear. It means less expenditures, but there are essential ones. The idea is that one person gives out more than they take in, but the margins become increasingly thin. One of the biggest drivers in the prosperity of the high middle ages was exactly the population doubling. The vast majority of our prosperity found in the modern day is specifically because of technology and said technol…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 01:44 PM
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shes pretty into you but from what ive found, 90% of people who say theyre in an open relationship arent
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 12:55 PM
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That's entirely possible and I think likely.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 12:48 PM
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For the same reason teenagers who identify as lesbian have the highest rates of teen pregnancy, people who identify as lesbian often have previously had a relationship with a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 12:45 PM
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There were different rules by different groups of wealthy people. Government officials were wealthy, but they were wealthy thanks to taxes, but that stopped when the population decreased. When a population decreases, it means less tax revenue, which means the government can no longer exert it's power or influence, resulting in collapse. When a government collapses, it's replaced by those who are wealthy through private ownership. It's not like the government collapsed and those who used to be in…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 12:42 PM
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look at the way he's tilting his head, he's tilting it forward on the left, exacerbating how bad it looks. i usually look at plastic surgery photos but feminizing, but these before and afters often use small things like head tilts, or the person will have makeup in the after photo but not the before, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 12:27 PM
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I've looked at the report, and it's very vague, it doesn't say that if it was at the hands of a woman or if it's lifetime. It's pretty irritating when i looked into it cause I was curious but there's no answer. In my personal experience, risk of abuse has more to do with history of abuse from parents more than necessarily gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 12:00 PM
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i think porn star has an implication that you work for a porn company which most only fans people dont
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 11:59 AM
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Social mobility and economic mobility are very different, and I assume you're talking about economic mobility. In terms of economic mobility, I would say it's stagnated (because of population decline and increase in work force), but again, significantly higher than in previous generations. Someone who was a worker in a factory pre FDR had a significantly lower economic mobility than someone does now. There are fields that lead to likely prosperity that you can choose, and the government will hel…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 11:17 AM
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I've never met a woman who's considered a situationship as a relationship. Every time I've had a woman vent to me about a situationship, it's been about how they wished they could get him to commit to a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 11:01 AM
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That doesn't make sense, a situationship isn't a relationship and there's no monogamy in a situationship. The study asked if the women were in a relationship, not if they were having sex with others.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 10:47 AM
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Revolution occurs when the ruling class of a subjugated country decides so, or when basic needs are not met in the population. Despite populist assertions, we do very much live in prosperity compared to what would need to be needed for revolution. Most of our basic needs are met (much better than previous decades) and we are entertained more than ever, breads and circuses as they say. A tiny upper class and a large impoverished working class is how it has been for the vast majority of countries …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 10:34 AM
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And I would assert that both of those things are much better than feudalism, you're understudied if you think otherwise. Feudalism was awful and significantly worse in almost every way, and we're heading right towards feudalism if the population keeps declining how it is. You being able to own your own house rather than rent for your entire life is one example off the top of my head.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 10:18 AM
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This is populist rhetoric that falls apart at first glance. First off, your landlord is not Bezos or Musk, and you're not beholden to them. Your landlord isn't your employer either, if you wish to leave for other prospects, you may. If you have the money to have your own house, you have a legal right to it. Your landlord can't bring a group of people over and legally demand that you feed them for as long as they'd like. I could go on and on but you get the idea. Sure the wealthy may pay off our …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 09:44 AM
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its really bad in terms of OLD but otherwise fairly okay
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 05:21 AM
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oh that makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 05:07 AM
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yesterday
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 05:07 AM
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i think its the implication of the person behind the counter's opinion. if i didn't tip at this one place on takeout, the lady would be mean to me, but if i tipped she would flirt with me. both made me uncomfortable and i wish that tipping wasn't a thing there
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 05:04 AM
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can i ask for specifics? like the guy is transphobic to me then tries to hurt me but my bf saves me
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 05:02 AM
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ive been on both sides, it feels much more lonely to be surrounded by people who don't care about you and just want to fuck you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 05:00 AM
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The last time there was a population went down as hard as we're predicting in the future, we got feudalism. When the population goes down over the course of centuries, authority collapses and those who take power in that absence are those with the existing wealth and resources to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 04:44 AM
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the inverse is women giving respect to their man and letting him take the lead with things, the surrendered wife by laura doyle gets shilled a ton over at the redpillwomen's subreddit
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 09:37 PM
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it definitely affects someones capability for empathy when theyre regularly and easily exposed to content like that
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 05:05 AM
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From what I understand, it was no short skirts, not no shorts. Men on discord will simp for anything vaguely feminine, I feel you're naive about how bad it is on there.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/24 11:09 PM
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my first thought is discord tends to attract people who are not the most upstanding people. women on there are almost certain to get flirted with, ive even known men who have been flirted with cause they had an anime girl as their pfp. that said, maybe op isn't in those kinds of spaces.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/24 10:54 PM
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tfw im not hot or less dramatic
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 09:47 PM
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yea, the person youre replying to seems brain broken. people want to be around a charismatic person cause being around charismatic people is fun, regardless of anything else
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 05:38 PM
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this is not a thing ive observed past the age of 23
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 06:09 AM
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how old are you? this stopped being a thing i saw after i was done with university
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 06:04 AM
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Offer to drink while she smokes
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 05:23 AM
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what if they have a 21.1 bmi
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 05:01 AM
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yea reddit released a thing you can send if someone is suicidal on reddit, but now people just use it troll
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 04:35 AM
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youve gotta do what you gotta do. tbh though ive found its way more effective to just learn what your manager likes and do that. managers value wildly different things but never tell you what they do
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 04:14 AM
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oh god i remember that happening to me with mountain dew as a kid, i never drank it ever again
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 03:59 AM
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I have noticed women with high sex drives tend to have other signs of higher testosterone compared to other women yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 03:11 AM
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More so that testosterone increases it much more in everyone, but estrogen does still increase it by some. So for example, someone who is FtM and on testosterone will have a similar sex drive as a man, and someone who is MtF and on estrogen will have a similar sex drive to a woman. That said, testosterone increases your sex drive much more than estrogen does.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 02:01 AM
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are palestinian refugees coming to european and american countries?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:58 AM
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They're the main drivers of sex drive by far, it's why we get sex drives as we start puberty.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:56 AM
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The rates are similar until around 50s or so, where men exceed women who cheat due to their rising rates and women's falling rates. If I had to guess why, it would be women having no estrogen means no sex drive, which means no sex. If you look at the statistics, they'll back up what I say.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:50 AM
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maybe going to art galleries would be a fun hobby, i have been dipping my toes in art hoe aesthetic lately
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:48 AM
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our last exchange was literally you ignoring what i said to ask a question i already answered very directly and to the point https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/192pgj4/daily_community_chat_megathread/kh55ij6/?context=3
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:47 AM
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Yeah, and when you're very attractive, you have no issues with irl cause men find you and make a move.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:46 AM
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When you're that attractive, irl means getting groceries, running errands, etc. I'm mid and I still get men asking me for my number when I go out, irl is long from dead.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:43 AM
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People attract a certain kind of person. Almost every person I know who's been in an abusive relationship was abused as a kid and likely has been in multiple abusive romantic relationships, myself included. Saying abusive people are secret masterminds is the exact opposite of what the narrative should be as it takes away power from abuse victims, which is the exact opposite of what's needed to heal from trauma.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:39 AM
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i mean if someone is very very attractive like OP says, then all of the things i listed are the most likely as finding someone irl would be easy. most people are not very very attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:35 AM
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No, I said it stays consistent across age ranges until women reach post menopausal age, where the rates go down.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:34 AM
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If you want to date an immature age range of people, you're going to have to deal with immaturity. AFAIK cheating rates stay relatively the same across ages in women until post menopausal age where it goes down.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:26 AM
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she's a homebody, attention, promoting social media/onlyfans
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:22 AM
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You're gonna have to look hard for it, there's upsides and downsides to all of the choices/filters you make. In this example, a downside of your age filter of below 25 is going to result in you having to sort through a LOT of immature women. The fact that you don't seem to understand this makes me think you're not very mature yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:21 AM
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i mean obviously, a man is valued for what he can provide and a woman is valued for her looks. in this context, competence would clearly be more valued in men since what you can provide and competence often go hand and hand
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:20 AM
2

then you're gonna have to deal with what you are complaining about, you can't date an immature age range then complain about them being immature
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:15 AM
1

this is the second autosexual post by a woman in this thread, i always thought it was a more obscure thing among women
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:12 AM
1

you're around women i assume are your age, before a sense of self/identity has been fully developed. as you get older, people develop further, and are able to be not run on attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:10 AM
2

The difference is how much commitment you have to dating while in nun mode, along with if its mental health included (which you should). In terms of fertility, you're not going to be significantly more fertile at 26 vs at 28. Having a good father for your children is much more important than a couple years of fertility in your 20s.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/24 04:56 AM
1

does she look like shes a weight lifter or pro athlete dude? bmi has been found to underestimate the amount of overweight and obese people due to the prominence of being skinny fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 04:15 AM
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I think hard nun mode is a necessity. Its suggested even for women at 30 because the man they'll attract at 32 and glowed up will undoubtedly be better than the man they'll attract at 26 pre glow up. I would focus a lot on beauty, hair care, getting a new haircut (i think bangs would work well with your face), and losing weight. Like others have said, losing weight is a great time to learn cooking. Makeup and fashion are both things that are able to be learned/get good at if you grind in the eff…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/24 01:08 AM
1

time for him to take finasteride lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 06:18 AM
1

you could be a trans woman
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 06:04 AM
1

theyre not broken up, but she basically considers them broken up. her hooking up with you is just cheating right? am i missing something here?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 05:55 AM
1

many people would rather act defenseless to the world around them than have the burden of control. you see a lot of traumatized people in liberal spaces that encourage this helplessness, which is basically the exact opposite thing that helps you process and move on from trauma.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 05:53 AM
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If I had to take a stab at guessing, he sees a romantic relationship as a safe place to be as feminine as he wants, free from the pressures of masculinity others expect of him. Removing that would likely leave him bitter and angry, making you both unhappy.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 10:05 AM
25

The ick is usually a failure from the man to perform masculinity, so it makes sense that you're getting it from him. From the vast vast majority of feminine men I have seen, they don't change significantly in regards to masculinity, no matter the other person. If you don't want to be in the position that's typically ascribed to men in relationships, then I would reevaluate if he's the right man for you and if you're able to handle it. It's what the vetting process is for.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 09:14 AM
19

Also, Do you think I should acknowledge this newfound realisation to him and express my commitment to respect and honouring him? Or not mention it but just change my ways pronto? Actions mean more than words, especially for men I've found. You also dont want to risk talking about it, getting praise, then slipping. You're not going to be perfect at it at first in all likelihood and you don't want to potentially embarrass yourself. In my experience, my boyfriend did notice a change pretty quickly.…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 09:03 AM
1

yea brown to blonde
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 04:48 AM
3

ive only met one cis women who prostituted herself for money
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 04:23 AM
1

ive had the opposite happen when moving, i moved and dating is a million times worse here.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 04:19 AM
1

ive been considering dying my hair blonde, should i do it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 04:14 AM
1

ngl once i started passing as a woman, it seemed like i went from bothering everyone just by existing to everyone wanting to celebrate my existence. its pretty nice honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 04:12 AM
2

ive found i get checked out a lot more when i go out wearing revealing clothing, but i get a lot more men asking for my number and complimenting me when i dress stylish.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 04:11 AM
1

i knew a lot of famous twitter femboys around 2020-2022. most femboys online wear a face mask covering the lower half of their face, or they use an obscene amount of filters/photoshop/angles. the fantasy is simply that, a fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 04:09 AM
2

From what I've seen, it's very common among people who society would deem as degenerate (like drug users for example), but it's fairly uncommon otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 04:04 AM
1

I've had male hormone ranges, and I've had female hormone ranges. The two don't even come close to comparing when it comes to sex drive. Anyone who thinks estrogen and testosterone give similar sex drives is either in denial or an ignorant fool.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 03:45 AM
26

Madonna Whore Complex is terrible to deal with in a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 01:01 AM
5

Definitely both, when a man feels loved and respected, I think it makes him want to give it in return.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/24 11:25 PM
18

He's much more affectionate and intimate with me now, he's seemingly more willing to move things forward, and there's a lot more peace between us now.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/24 11:07 PM
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There's only so much one person can do, the other person needs to make an effort too. Unfortunately you can only control yourself and your actions, and it sounds like your husband wasn't doing his part until he gave up porn. I'm sorry you're going through this, it isn't fair to you.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/24 11:00 PM
15

People like the women in OP's post, who are disrespected and don't do anything about it, who give a lot for very little in return, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/24 10:46 PM
25

Push overs often attract those who take advantage of such and those who are ungrateful.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/24 10:24 PM
2

I'm definitely in the former group, trust is central to my attraction in a relationship. We're working to build trust again but it's difficult.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/24 07:00 AM
2

Thank you, it feels nice to read this comment. How can you become the peace instead of making it an act for his benefit? I am trying to do alternative methods to help self regulate my emotions including exercise and additional hobbies to occupy my time. Since getting into RPW I gave up an old coping mechanism that wasn't necessarily unhealthy but was not something I wanted as a coping mechanism long term. As a result I've been struggling with finding myself new ways to self regulate. I am also i…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/24 01:32 AM
1

Do you respect him? Seeing as how you don't seem to like him having a lower paying job and see being with him as settling, it wouldn't be surprising that respect wouldn't be there anymore. Lack of respect for a boyfriend would have cascading effects on a relationship, including lack of romantic and sexual intimacy.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 11:11 PM
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Laura Doyle suggests when your husband has a bad idea, to simply say "Whatever you think." Other times more and more I’m feeling like “If they act and do things however they want why can’t I. Why do I have to STFU and submit to my husband There's a reason why dead bedroom miserable marriages that lack intimacy are so common, it's because people prioritize being right and give into spite, rather than intimacy and the relationship. Is being right more important to you, or is a happy intimate marri…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 09:33 PM
2

do you really think a man who dms OF women is high quality?
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 07:02 PM
2

I would say that qualifies since like you said, fatness isn't normally sexual, it's usually thought of in a health context.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 08:33 AM
5

All of the other answers are wrong. Fetishization is sexual attraction to an object that is not normally sexual, for example feet or latex. A preference is just a preference. Fetishization of a race for example is obviously problematic because it's objectifying them rather than seeing them as people.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 08:15 AM
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I know the feeling of feeling manly and the man feeling emasculated due to salary differences, it really sucks and I feel for you. In regards to having kids, what's maternity leave like for your work/country? What are you currently doing to support your bf to succeed?
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 06:40 AM
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The thing is free dating apps are going to bring people who aren't invested in finding someone or serious about finding someone. There's a reason why ghosting/flakiness is such a common complaint among people who use free dating apps. I would think someone who's busy with life would pay for a service that more easily weeds out people who are essentially time wasters.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/24 10:12 PM
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From what I've found, the ones who shame OF girls are the same ones DM'ing them when they're horny. They would never be public about it, but there is a lot more overlap than you think.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/24 09:21 PM
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I've heard dating apps that require you to pay are much better, but i haven't heard any mentions of any is specific.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/24 09:03 PM
21

I make less than half that in a medium-high COL area supporting myself and my disabled sister, we don't live paycheck to paycheck by any means. I don't know how a family of three making 150K would be living paycheck to paycheck unless if they're being wasteful with money or live somewhere like San Fransisco or New York.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/24 12:00 AM
1

i wouldnt want to be a drug lord, a peaceful life with my husband where we live within our modest means sounds nice
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 10:26 PM
1

i feel this way about small talk before a meeting
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 05:39 PM
2

Wealth/social support systems aren't a major factor in having kids, otherwise Sweden and the US wouldn't be having birth replacement rate issues, while African countries wouldn't have the best birth replacement rates in the world. I always roll my eyes when people say it's the economy, economy is seldom a factor when it comes to birth rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 05:37 PM
2

i remember seeing a pic of an incel meetup and a lot of them were average looking, some of them were even conventionally handsome. makes me wonder how they struggle to get women
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 10:04 PM
1

I don't know, I've never dated as an autistic man. I've known some relationships that are autistic X autistic but those are usually disasters. The only time I've seen an autistic man not have a disaster relationship was when he learned to minimize his symptoms significantly or they were minimal in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 08:59 PM
1

I wouldn't say so. Women rely on men in relationships typically, so it's seen as a desirable dynamic to many men and women, but it doesn't go the other way generally.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 08:54 PM
1

I don't think it's so much what others will think about her dating someone autistic, but rather worries he'll have many foot in mouth moments being autistic in a NT social world. The men I generally see with autistic women have broken bird syndrome and are more understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 08:38 PM
1

I dont see it labeled into people other than those onto others of the same gender. that wasn't really my point either really
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 09:08 AM
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I feel like men are more likely to use the term oneitis while women are more likely to use a term like limerence. limerence sounds like some artsy term that would appeal to college aged women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 04:57 AM
1

idk i feel like it's important to keep in mind the kind of people who go there. ive been on 4chan for 15 years and when i feel the brainrot start to set it, i just remind myself of the average 4chan user.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 05:25 PM
1

if he can grow a good beard, 100% weak jawline. otherwise big nose
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 05:21 PM
20

Oh hey, a topic I have a unique-ish personal experience with. I'm male to female and have had female hormone levels thanks to hrt for coming up on 4 years now. One of the interesting things I've noticed is my risk tolerance has gone to shit. I know rationally I'm not any less safe when I go out really, but my monkey brain goes wild at potential risk now. I think this is also backed up by how men get in less car accidents, but they get into more fatal car accidents. Higher risk tolerance in men m…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 03:19 PM
1

you're just getting started at 23, im 27 and feel like i still get some zoomer slang but im definitely on the cuff of falling out of it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 03:13 PM
1

It can be, depends on the rest of the vibe of the guy. The majority I met were clearly very bitter and desperate, which is obviously a huge turn off. But my last boyfriend was inexperienced without having bitter/desperate vibes, and that was my most favorite relationship I've had.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 02:47 PM
2

the year used to start the first day of spring, but the romans changed it cause itd take consuls (think president + general) a while after starting on new years to get to spain while it was being conquered. they pushed the start of the year back so that by the time the consuls arrived in spain, it was the beginning of campaign season.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 02:41 PM
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From what I understand, yes.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 01:45 PM
5

i wasnt disagreeing with you i was supporting what u were saying lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 12:30 PM
13

College educated, as in achieving a degree, women are most likely to have lasting marriages
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 12:25 PM
1

tbh not being able to birth children myself, ive considered going for single dads. most men want children so it makes sense to go for ones who already have them if i cant give them kids
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 11:58 AM
26

You shouldn't settle with a man you're not crazy about.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 11:18 AM
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The typical red pill advice I see when deciding between two people is to pick neither, as the man you end up with should make every other man pale in comparison. EDIT: I recognize your username, you keep deleting your posts.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 11:12 AM
0

Yes and you only have oral herpes, which is why I am confused as to why you feel the need to disclose or go so far as to go on STD dating websites.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 05:02 AM
2

It's oral herpes, something the majority of the population has. I have heard about genital herpes being a dealbreaker or important to disclose, but not oral herpes.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 05:00 AM
2

I genuinely have not met anyone who thinks you should disclose oral herpes or considers it an STD in the context of dating.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 04:58 AM
4

Is oral herpes really something to disclose? Something like 75% of the population has it. I'd understand if it were something like genital herpes, but I'm confused as to why you're on an STD dating site.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 04:45 AM
1

how do i prevent becoming this as a woman at 27? ive wasted most of my 20s with people exactly like you described, but im scared of being treated poorly for being mtf if i try to venture outside of the current man im seeing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 04:21 AM
2

It sounds like your therapist isn't very helpful and the focus isn't on processing your trauma, but rather the focus is on maintaining contact with someone you shouldn't have contact with. Go no contact with him and go to a therapist who will work through your trauma with you.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 04:15 AM
2

Tell me more about therapy and going to it and what you got out of it.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 03:36 AM
1

Jesus Christ, 73% divorce rate for third marriages.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 03:23 AM
8

What I found was when I consistently attracted people who were abusive and didn't respect me, it was because of my unprocessed trauma and lack of self respect. Start with breaking up with your boyfriend and going to a trauma informed therapist.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 03:22 AM
20

You shouldn't be looking to trick your husband into doing anything, manipulating people is wrong and shows a lack of respect for the person. This post needs more information. Have you tried talking about it to him already? What was his upbringing like? How stingy is he and what impact does it have on your feelings and life?
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/23 09:59 AM
13

I have a low libido too, and what really helped me was building myself into someone that's sexy. Exercise, doing my makeup daily, wearing nice clothes every day, all helped me see myself as more of a sexual being. Something that also helped me was making time for sexual fantasizing and slowly getting myself in the mood. I think it's very easy with a low libido and receptive sex drive to just not think about sex outside of when it's with someone else, but I think making time and space for it on o…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 11:30 PM
9

I don't know, the vast majority of women I've met have married regular men who made a bit more than they did. The ones with high standards who would only date a doctor or whatever were usually the ones who were perpetually single saying all men are trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 06:28 AM
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Part of marriage is being there for your husband while he works through his health struggles, which depending on your views of drug addiction, this would fall under. He seems like a good man struggling with a health issue based off of your post. It would be one thing if he was still doing cocaine and refusing to say he has a problem and won't go to therapy, but he seems to be making an honest to God effort to get better for you and him. You're married and moved to another country for him, you sh…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 06:22 AM
3

In my experience, men like this won't ever change no matter the woman or relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 09:32 PM
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I had a physically abusive relationship and a string of relationships with people who didn't respect my sexual boundaries, both due to me having unprocessed trauma leading me to subconsciously seek out abusive people. I met a guy by chance who didn't pressure me to do sexual things I had already said no to and didn't physically abuse me. The relationship showed me what a loving relationship is supposed to be like. He was kind, sensitive towards my feelings, and had self respect and confidence. t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 08:34 AM
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would you really want to date a woman who posts on reddit past the age of 30
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 03:04 AM
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cause you love her lots
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 12:56 AM
56

Tbf you can say the same exact bullet points about American women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 12:37 AM
6

If we're looking through a pragmatic rpw lens rather than a moralistic lens, then having a high body count is undesirable since there's more men who desire a low body count over men who desire a high body count. That doesn't mean it's an end all be all by any means though.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/23 08:14 PM
1

I think having better boundaries and self respect will help prevent things like your previous experiences and help you immensely.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/23 10:01 AM
1

Why do you see you two as incompatible/in what ways are you different?
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/23 03:19 AM
1

which is in my eyes a lot and more than he does my husband has indicated he feels under appreciated and not respected by me which I know is not good. I can see why he feels that way, you're comparing your two contributions and think you're contributing more while not entirely knowing what he has to deal with and go through. You're fulfilling the typical woman's role in the relationship while he fulfills the man's role. Instead of seeing it as a team effort to make a family work, you're seeing it…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/23 03:07 PM
1

It sounds like predictable problems a single dad of a 4 year old would go through, I doubt it's going to end after this current custody battle. Just comes with the territory of dating a single dad, you're going to likely have to deal with baby mama drama and you'll never be his first priority.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/23 03:39 AM
1

If this isn't a troll post, focus on what you can provide for men rather than what they can provide for you, and the good men will follow.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 06:10 PM
2

Oh geez, yea when respect for the man is lost, the relationship will go into a crazy cycle. I really really suggest OP reads this, if I had to have one post be mandatory reading for every woman here, it'd be this post. Being the bigger person and breaking the cycle through having respect for your man for the sake of love is the best way a woman can help a relationship where the man doesn't feel respected and the woman doesn't feel loved.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 01:41 AM
29

Yea from what I understand, RPW isn't advice for abusive relationships, it's advice for healthy relationships after a solid vetting process.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/23 06:37 AM
9

just dont go on the date from the get go if you already feel this way, it's just a first date, its not like they've been dating for two years.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/23 08:52 PM
3

Yea in practical terms, offering to pay for your half of the date leads to less expectations on his end and doesn't mean that he won't take you out on and pay for dates later.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/23 08:25 PM
3

To him, it may seem like you're not capable of doing both at the same time like (I presume) he did, and that you're not able to handle stressful situations like medical school well. When someone becomes ambitious, they tend to reevaluate those around them and feel further apart from those who don't also feel ambitious, that happens in general when someone improves their life drastically. You're 22 about to be in your third year of your undergrad (with desires to go to med school) talking about t…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/23 01:03 AM
9

I agree with this take, the kind of guy who'd be going for 19 year olds while 29 is likely either going to be immature, have a mental health issue stunting growth (like adhd), or highly value youth in women. It sounds like he's grown up and gotten his life together and I think him not supporting OP on taking a year break may be because it reminds him of his old self lacking ambition he should have had. The best advice I have for OP is to match him, he's boosted his dating market value and she ne…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/23 12:35 AM
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With LDRs you need a realistic plan to close the gap, I've known so many LDRs that just had no hopes of doing that then people are surprised it didn't work out. Right now, it seems like you're holding out hope that you can change him or inspire him to come to your state. It's been four months and this doesn't seem to be happening.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 06:25 PM
3

I have a specific day I do everything, starting with something easy like making my bed, which gives me momentum to do other things. Once I make my bed, I pick up around my room and vacuum, then I go to take the trash out. I have hard limits of where I put things, for example I never put anything that isn't strictly necessary on my desk or bed, which gives me safe places and makes sure I put things where they belong.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 01:46 PM
14

I also don't think gifts that are also for yourself in addition to the other person is generally a very good idea. I think the suggestion of making him something hand crafted would mean a lot more to him.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 03:52 AM
1

I will also add that I cheated on my previous boyfriend before the current one. He knows this Well no shit he does, your last boyfriend you cheated on, it wasn't even one a decade ago from high school or something. You can't expect someone to not use your past to help predict your future.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 03:31 AM
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It's also very common among minorities who get heavily discriminated against like trans people. Sex work is naturally exploitative of those less fortunate, especially in its current state in our current system.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 09:22 AM
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I browsed trp subreddit a bit and its crazy the contrast between there and here. Here, it seems mostly self improvement and being not only the best woman and wife you can be, but also the best person you can be. On trp, they seemingly think a woman will never love you long term (its only your turn, etc), to only use women for sex, so on and so forth. I get its to override men's protective instinct, but I don't see much past that.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 05:42 AM
1

Also if someone relies on another person for basic adult things, they'll never grow to a point of self reliance. Not asking for help from my parents for example anymore really pushed me and made me have to learn how to do these things myself and teach myself how to learn.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/23 09:23 AM
1

He's your boyfriend, not your father, there's a distinct difference between taking care of someone and them being heavily dependent on your for basic adult things. Men want things to be easy and for you to make their life easier, by offloading your responsibilities onto him, you're doing the opposite of that.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/23 03:34 AM
10

4) BIGGEST ONE: I don't say disparaging things about men. I used to jokingly say things like "I hate men" or "fuck men" with my friends when I was younger, but I'm actively working on avoiding those sorts of jokes, because I wouldn't be comfortable with a guy saying those things about women! It blows my mind that so many women don't see why this would lead to men not wanting to date them. Respect is central to making a man feel loved, why would any man or good relationship come from one person c…
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/23 09:57 PM
1

What is the realistic plan for making that happen? Mentioning so and so off hand then not doing anything about it is how you end up in situations like the OP. His desire is understandable but you have to make it happen otherwise engagement will never happen.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/23 07:08 AM
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