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| 1 | How Much Is Too Much: N-Count Baseline Answer?It's fine that you have values around if someone views sexual relationships differently. What isn't fine is inherently assuming something is "wrong" with someone for having struggles or prioritising something other than a relationship. And even if someone was traumatised, isn't that simply judging them for not reacting "better" to said trauma. But more than anything the language and assumptions around people who view sexual relationships differently is very judgemental. And consistently dehumani… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/22 06:04 PM |
| 2 | The average man does not "overestimate" his own attractivenessThis is true, the media has a massive impact on both men and women. Both in terms of aiming to fit and often falling short of the unattainable beauty standards. I suspect we will not agree on who sets or on whose standards these beauty standards reflect. But I hope we can both agree that those standards are subjective and individual people will have different things they personally find attractive. Which is why no single country or county can agree on what precisely is attractive or why. So tryi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/22 01:34 PM |
| 1 | The average man does not "overestimate" his own attractivenessThere really isn't. What is considered "attractive" or "good" are bodily compositons that signify specific values and traits at any one point in time. What was considered attractive in the UK in the 1990's is different to what was considered attractive in Ghana or Japan or Denmark or Australia. This idea of an objective quantifiable attractiveness is not possible because you cannot quantify "good" there is no standard calculation of cool or sexy or cute and no meaningful way to determine which o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/22 09:27 PM |
| 1 | If you aren’t successful in dating, then you’re simply not attractiveYou can only reach this conclusion if it is the conclusion you want to reach either consciously or subconsciously. This statement simply doesn't have much evidence in real life and is based off a fundamentally flawed idea that attraction is objective. It isn't, consistent evidence shows that it isn't. Are there beauty standards that a society places on its people? Yes. Is it objective? No. Is it attainable? For most people the answer is also no. Does not attaining that beauty standard preclude o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/22 11:31 AM |
| -1 | How Much Is Too Much: N-Count Baseline Answer?Would you date a man that had sex with 98 women over a man that had sex with 8 women? Yeah if the man who slept with 98 women was more compatible with me and the kind relationship and life building than the one with 8 people I would choose him. Because secual history isn't a predictor for future behaviour, unless the person was cheating on their long term partners. It just means that they had sex with a bunch of people in the past. Like I said, I view sex differently so body count really doesn't… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/22 10:36 PM |
| 3 | How Much Is Too Much: N-Count Baseline Answer?Sure, I guess. In my mind though, I accept that my feelings around sex aren't objective and don't tie any moral value judgements based on consensual sex, so yeah I mostly agree with your friend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/22 05:39 PM |
| 18 | Do most women acknowledge the fact they have very high standards and that the man they want probably has way less and doesn’t ask for much from a woman?You think this response is a gotcha, but your biases and implicit beliefs are painfully clear. People (men and women) want someone compatible that they find attractive and who share the same values and goals in life, for serious relationships And someone they are attracted to, with good chemistry and enjoyable personality and the ability to have good sex for something more casual. It really isn't that deep dude lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/22 04:54 PM |
| 5 | How Much Is Too Much: N-Count Baseline Answer?It's wild to me how this is framed. Basically the question is "do you see sex as something special and intimate you share with a single long term partner or do you believe something else?". Ultimately, the number doesn't matter. If you fundamentally believe sex is something special and only give in X circumstances, any number you choose is arbitrary. There is no objective number at which a person becomes a slut or less worthy as a partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/22 04:30 PM |
| 1 | It’s “my body my choice” until it’s sending young men to die in warsYou call women pathetic for not ending or being added to the draft, once again, why is it women's responsibility? And women spend the most on domestic products (which are geared towards women lmao) but literally sexism is part of why most businesses don't cater to them? And no, women felons may spend less time in jail but they still cannot vote lol And even if women had a advantage in voting, are men's arms broken Why is the assumption that women have to do this work for men? Can you not do it y… | /r/MensRights | 01/06/22 07:42 AM |
| -5 | It’s “my body my choice” until it’s sending young men to die in warsAgain, this is method to skirt responsibility and point out advocacy is hard. It is. Feminist are called men haters and all sorts of other horrible names. Some have been murdered and imprisoned through history (and probably some in other countries around the world.) A girl got shot in the head for advocating that girls get an education in the 21st century! So while there would be push back, that doesn't mean that men are incapable of doing the work themselves. You bring up the White Feather camp… | /r/MensRights | 31/05/22 05:41 PM |
| -3 | It’s “my body my choice” until it’s sending young men to die in warsThen shouldn't men, teach each other how to care for and support each other? Why is it women's fault other men CHOOSE to "do their will". Like, no one should be pro draft. We should be working together to end the draft. (And i'd like to point out that until the 1990s women were not legally allowed to service certain roles in the army. A law written, enacted, supported and protected by other men ) So again, the buck ultimately stops at those with the majority of political and economic power was a… | /r/MensRights | 31/05/22 03:39 PM |
| 1 | Intersectionality??You're conceptualizing this as specific individuals and divorced from the factors that impact laws, societal views and expectations and the options available to people during this time. And it shows. So like I said, best of luck happy Sunday. I will not be continuing this discussion with ya. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/04/22 06:04 PM |
| -1 | Intersectionality??It does, but it is impressive how much mental gymnastics were done to look at world where men are overrpresented in various industries, government, and the judiciary and then with a serious face say that women are better at organizing than men as a demographic. Not only does it not make sense but it is a distinctly ahistorical take that aims to levy criticisms of distinct strains or extremists of feminists as indicative of the whole movement or academic literature. So how can we find a place of … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/04/22 06:00 PM |
| -1 | Intersectionality??Why doesn't it matter? How does that question not impact who is perceived to be better equipped to handle a child in custody cases? And like, we can't even discuss that law or why it got enacted or why it was so largely supported because you refuse to just acknowledge the context of the times and society's view of parenthood and biology or just reality. There is no point if you think things just happen randomly or you are convinced feminists are the new social group who have a secret shadowy cab… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/04/22 05:17 PM |
| -1 | Intersectionality??If you think this is why then you may not have the requisite knowledge to have a valuable discussion with. asked for it from who? what presumptions does society have about which gender is better suited for domestic tasks? -why? which gender is assumed to be biologically predisposed to care for children? Honestly, do you not know how systems and societies function? Have you never read a history book? Are you arguing that at no point during the last 100 years, even when women could not vote or own… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/04/22 04:05 PM |
| 0 | Intersectionality??You thought you did something with this response don't you? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/04/22 03:54 PM |
| -1 | Intersectionality??I really didn't want to respond but this bothers me so much so feel free to ignore this. The frustration I have is simply that you don't view how humans create and maintain societies and how all concepts that impact our lives are social constructs. And the way in which we interrogate and understand these constructs and the natural world beyond them is by using various analytical tools. One of those tools is the scientific method (which is largely what you are talking about but misunderstanding) … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/04/22 10:55 AM |
| 0 | Intersectionality??I'm good. It's clear there's no value in continuing this discussion if you can't meaningfully engage with my points. Best of luck! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/04/22 10:31 AM |
| -2 | Intersectionality??Yeah. You have no idea what you're talking about. You think that political systems are opinions lmao. I feel like if you had a better grasp on the concept of frameworks and social sciences you wouldn't be arguing that the final step of data analysis and experiments is interpreting the data and comparing it to the hypothesis which requires a framework. Also your misunderstanding of assumptions is excellent and once again misses the point. Thanks for spending more time insulting me for having the … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/04/22 09:17 AM |
| -1 | Intersectionality??This is a very rambling list of assumptions of how society functions or how to evaluate systemic factors and impacts. Like, have you ever taken a step back and asked yourself why women have historically been given custody? Or why there is a societal perception of incapable or unwilling fathers? I think there are some deeper questions you have to ask before you can figure out the pattern in your final paragraph. Good luck with that :) | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 11:07 PM |
| -1 | Intersectionality??Sexual harassment of men also wasn't in law, and wives allowed to to rape their husbands.* This is so disingenuous and makes me think you care about some mythical tit for tat harms. This is not a good thing and no one is saying that it is, and to use it to insinuate that the disadvantages men have faced are equal is just, gross. Like if this is the extent of how you practice and view feminism and men's advocacy then you can stop now. I'm not going to be responding to your comments. All the best:… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 11:01 PM |
| 0 | Intersectionality??But one of the main tenets of feminism is about how feminism helps and supports men as well? I have mentioned two separate feminist organization that actively help male victims of rape in different prison rape which disproportionately harms men? But again, this is both an inaccurate characterization of the feminist movement as a whole. And even if it wasn't, the goal is to help support and protect the victims of rape or domestic violence, so that ought to be where the lions share of frustration … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 09:19 PM |
| 0 | Intersectionality??But having a framework to interpret data is a necessary aspect of the process. You don't just study or research something randomly, but as part of trying to prove a hypothesis, which one would create using a framework- be that framework sociological, economic or political. Such as feminism or biology or socialism or whatever. All knowledge is built of specific base assumptions they are necessary. It's a question of if those stack of base assumptions are accurate or if they are logically sound. T… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 08:51 PM |
| -1 | Intersectionality??You're back here. I admitted that was a bad example of the point I was making already. I even offered to use a different example to illustrate the point I was making. Are you reading my comments or are you just looking to argue literally anything? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Intersectionality??I have repeatedly. I don't know what more I can say beyond you cannot disregard and idea because people do not understand it or use it correctly. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 08:18 PM |
| 1 | Intersectionality??Yess! I'm afraid you are being inaccurate about alot of things. But that's okay, it happens. I was wrong about there not being an up to date list of resources. The world didn't end. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Intersectionality??You missed the point. Completely. Because you keep pointing out things I do not necessarily disagree with. The discourse around men in prison is horrific. It is an indictment on the state of society. But, feminists are not the ones who are jailing men? And economic power while related to gender is a different kind of privilege that functions in its own ways. I do not disagree that the ultra rich are a problem. I disagree that this isn't another part of the same problem that are related to each o… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 07:46 PM |
| 1 | Intersectionality??Yes, I agree. Not sure why you said this? But this is way of viewing systemic power using an intersectional framework. The intersections just aren't connected to race or gender. But class status and economic power. Further than that the whole point is to be able to compare the privilege between two individuals we'd need more information than if they are feminists or not to determine who'd theoretically have more systemic power/support. That was the only point lmao not to do a comparative analysi… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 07:31 PM |
| -1 | Intersectionality??Okay but then can you explain how that power dynamic would work in both cases and how you can tell if on an individual basis a male feminist or MRA has more power? What kind of power? Compared to who? And here is dictionary definition of patriarchy https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/patriarchy And here is wiki with some great links to further research and discussions on patriarchy. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Patriarchy | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 07:25 PM |
| 1 | Intersectionality??That is a list of goals, not a list of resources that are currently available such as the Just detention International which works on ending prison rape for men and women. Or Service Women's Action Network, which is working to end sexual violence against men and women or The Samaritans who has services for men who are mentally struggling or links to the services available now, even if those services are not enough and more is needed. That's the frustration. This kind of criticism and engagement … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 07:19 PM |
| 0 | Intersectionality??The establishment set up a system for the dominant ethnicity, of any country on the planet, at the express disadvantage of people who are not. This includes Japan excluding Koreans, never mind Americans. Thank you for stating something I do not disagree with. Because, I too know that other countries, not only do I know and agree that Japanses culture in the past and to this day is colonialist and imperialist and has similar motives to Western countries. Gasp! Nuance, I know scary, but it's okay.… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 06:51 PM |
| 1 | Intersectionality??This is so tedious and pointless. 😭 I literally asked ages ago about resources and repeatedly said that it is fine if we disagree, but here are two weirdly egregious examples of cognitive dissonance. And you have been so hyper argumentative that you haven't realized how off putting and beside the point it is. You cannot dismiss an entire field of discourse because some people misapply or misunderstand the theory or because it is imperfect and often misused. And my "like, totally wrong example br… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 06:20 PM |
| 0 | Intersectionality??No, you simply misunderstood the point I was making, but considering that I could use a different example to illustrate my point with more examples that will fit your bad faith posture as genuine. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 04:49 PM |
| 0 | Intersectionality??It's still to vague and messy but it comes down to how patriarchy, white supremacy and other systems of oppression are features of capitalism and that yes, there does need to be massive coalition of the working class, but there is an ahistorical way this is often presented that creates friction and disagreement and I think it is because it is treated to mean to focus on the dominant groups and specific members of said group who are directly responsible for the harms and disadvantages faced by ot… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 04:01 PM |
| 0 | Intersectionality??"For incitation to hatred against men by propagating the notion that men set up the system to benefit men as a gender and to oppress women as a gender. Ergo, that men are evil psychopaths who are only getting their just desserts when they get beaten, downthrodden, suicide etc." citation please. This does not sound accurate nor have I seen any academic or otherwise feminist theory claim that all men are psychopaths or evil, or evil psychopaths. I think you may have misunderstood what patriarchy i… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Intersectionality??Yes because the those are just random words and not advocates for misogyny and violence against women. Ron Den Hollander - mra and murderer. Elliot Rodger - murdered a bunch of women, linked to MRA movement. Men's rights groups in the 70s advocated to not make marital rape illegal. Also the men's rights groups in India also argued that the sexual assault rules were biased against men (and not just to include men as victims, which they should be included) but that it legislated too much. If you a… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Intersectionality??How does the politician decide what the voters would want? What mechanic is used by everyday people to put pressure onto governments? Are men uniquely incapable of doing anything? Are feminists the only ones who shape what is considered important issues for voters? Again, you make feminism the issue, when the issue is a dysfunctional system - that feminists neither created nor control nor form a large percentage of. So, shouldn't the responsibility fall to said dysfunctional government??? Like??… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 03:32 PM |
| 1 | Intersectionality??Like the red pill movement or MGTOW or incels or MRAs? Examples like that? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 03:19 PM |
| 1 | Intersectionality??Part of the reason I prefer to not be involved in these discussions is because based of the information available it is a flawed and inaccurate way to understand the systems that shape and impact our society. So, let's not. My aim in this space is to see left leaning ideas that are not through a feminist lens, but is still critical and other left wing lens. Partially to test some of the nuances of my beliefs and ideas, but to be around conversations of other social systems through different lens… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 03:09 PM |
| 1 | Intersectionality??No I am not indoctrinated, there is just a clear cognitive dissonance you can't see. And it is shocking. So let's go. 1.) I read that women do have an ingroup bias, there is definitely data to support this, but the data (that I read in thos other links) also point out how those studies do not show a similar effect in the real world. So. Plus, again, as a group, in the real world, there are countless examples of how men are perfectly capable of organizing, not just for social issues but for perso… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 03:00 PM |
| 1 | Intersectionality??I understand a lot and I wasn't going to respond but this response made me so annoyed with how riddled with assumptions and flaws. So I could not resist. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 01:30 PM |
| -1 | Intersectionality??I will freely admit I am not going to be kind in my reply, but , are you fucking joking right now? "Women are better organized and more often have in group bias". How can you say that with your whole chest when metrics for organization including being able to run a business, something that AS A FUCKING GROUP men are the majority? But women are better at organizing? The majority of NPO/NGOS are fucking men. And women as a group are better at organizing??? And even if that was true, why do you thi… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 12:25 PM |
| 2 | Intersectionality??I still stand by what I said, I should have been less of a dick. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 11:43 AM |
| 2 | Intersectionality??My bad. Thanks for that tho! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 11:42 AM |
| 2 | Intersectionality??Yeah, to learn about the clash and tension with feminism. Not to learn whether it is a good idea to interrogate reactions and feelings 😂. Those are very different things. Anyway, someone pointed me to the mission statement so based on that I have my answers and will go back to lurking and I'll comment on things I think will be beneficial. And honestly it will not be anything that is a critique of feminism or feminist ideas lmao. (Yeah, I know I'm being a dick, but by not commenting on these kind… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 11:39 AM |
| 1 | Intersectionality??I have no idea why you felt the need to give me advice, but maybe next time could you at least bother to just check and see if I have been doing so before telling me to? Plus, I did not ask. So. I simply made a statement lmao. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 11:25 AM |
| 1 | Intersectionality??Thank you so much for pointing me to this. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 11:03 AM |
| 0 | Intersectionality??I am going to be honest, this reasoning makes no sense to me because: 1.) There are also male advocates or MRAs around the world, who are advocating for revoking women's rights and for the legalization of rape, but I do not hold you to account for those versions. Different understanding an idea or political movements exist all over the world and it is unreasonable to discount the entire movement, because those actions are not inherent to the idea or arguments of that movement. There are countrie… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 10:57 AM |
| 3 | Intersectionality??Are you saying a male feminist or MRA on an individual basis or as a social movement? This is what I mean, what is the framework you folks use? How do you conceptualize how society functions? Is advocacy more on an individual basis or is there a larger societal goal? Because if we are talking about two individuals then there is no way of knowing. If we are talking on a systemic basis and based on any a metric of which group has the most systemic power then that's a different conversation. So I w… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 10:17 AM |
| -2 | Intersectionality??So you made a bunch of assumptions and then are surprised I am not taking your ideas on board? I did not ask you. And I maintain, quote "LMFAO no" You are asking me to consider something so basic and disingenuous and I don't want to because you can only make this argument using truisms- the sky is blue, it is raining, natural phenomena that anyone can notice and your experience of it; is not colored or impacted by your personal beliefs. It sounds perfectly reasonable on the face of it, but it is… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/04/22 10:08 AM |
| 1 | Intersectionality??I mean, they arguments and people's opinions are valid, but I do not think that nearly any right wing points on gender are right. I did not make a single prescription in my comment, so I am unsure as to why my stating what some of the comments felt like, to me, means that people cannot consider any specific kind of arguments or evidence? mean, if left wing and right wing people are agreeing on something, shouldn't that give you pause for a moment to consider that maybe both are onto something? L… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/04/22 11:02 PM |
| 1 | Intersectionality??You don't see how a framework that enshrine irrationality as core, is absolutist in its approach, consider society as inherently bad, and has a hold in education it exploits to indoctrinate young people is harmful to society? No, because I fundamentally disagree that irrationality is at the core of feminism or critical studies. I also strongly disagree that it is inherently absolutist. The core of feminism is the substantive social, political and economic equality under the law. This includes ch… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/04/22 10:53 PM |
| -1 | Intersectionality??Cool. Thanks for bringing up concrete examples of egregious behavior by feminists. But, on average, which socio-economic group holds most of the institutional power and swat to change those things? Economically, politically and to this day socially, as a group, men hold the most power. So while I fully understand the reasoning and disagreement and even distaste for aspects of the feminist movement. I guess the disconnect is why the expectation is for feminists to do that work, when men have for … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/04/22 10:08 PM |
| 2 | Intersectionality??No, I disagree with how you view intersectionality, but like any idea or theory I think it can be misapplied or have flaws, but I do not think it is inherently bad or harmful. I think this is something we'll disagree about and I am okay with that. I am more interested in understanding this movement and where we agree. That would be a more valuable discussion, for me at least. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/04/22 08:07 PM |
| 2 | Intersectionality??Because a lot of the criticisms I see feel and are similar to the right wing antifeminist arguments and views, but that feeling could be wrong, because it's a left wing space. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/04/22 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Intersectionality??I mean. I think you may view the excerpts you posted rather uncharitably. There is a huge difference between thinking that the best way to come together and shed our differences as an idea and believing the best way to come together is accepting and embracing our cultural differences, but recognizing that they are all worthy of respect dignity and being valued. So, for me, when you describe it as morally bankrupt and intellectually dishonest, I wonder why. The example used in the excerpt around … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/04/22 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Intersectionality??I can't because there is also significant literature by feminists that is largely agreed on and often feminists point out how their advocacy actively helps men as well. Feminists were instrumental in getting the definition of rape changed so it could include men. Most of the literature around understanding how patriarchy and toxic masculinity harm men were studied, championed and understood by feminists. Plus, in the same way that men nor male advocacy are monolithic, neither is feminism? There … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/04/22 04:57 PM |
| 4 | Intersectionality??I can understand this critique, but the arguments on this page treat it as though it not only has no merit but is actively harmful and that is rather weird. It's treating the framework as though it's a religious text and most people who use it don't think that way. But the internet makes these kinds of conversations hard though lack of nuance. But, beyond that, I want to understand what leftwing male advocacy issues are and why that creates a tension and clash with feminism. If this has been ans… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/04/22 02:57 PM |
| 5 | Intersectionality??Surely, intersectionality as a framework can also highlight the various interconnected web of harm/struggle/oppression men face - through being gay/a POC/Disabled/etc and can also be used to highlight how men experience harm from a patriarchal capitalist system. I immediately think of how men who are middle class or lower are harmed through capitalism - their bodies, mental health and physical safety are often exploited which informs and perpetuates harmful stereotypes of men or even perpetuates… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/04/22 01:40 PM |
| 3 | Intersectionality??This is 100% the most confusing subreddit I have been in. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/04/22 01:24 PM |
| 1 | How can I, a 22 year old female get laid without dating apps?Sure. Keep telling yourself that. You can’t reply so you’ve resorted to being dismissive and superior. It’s fine, but don’t pretend you’re Drop I g pearls of wisdom when you can’t even defend the idea that women have a “responsibility” to give “high achieving” men sex. Have the courage of your convictions to defend it. Put up or shut up. | /r/seduction | 05/11/19 08:26 PM |
| 1 | How can I, a 22 year old female get laid without dating apps?Whatever. It’s easier to be dismissive and believe you’re superior than it is to engage with my comments and meaningfully engage with what is being said. No surprises there. | /r/seduction | 05/11/19 04:55 PM |
| 1 | How can I, a 22 year old female get laid without dating apps?Someone who doesn’t judge a person based on their sexual history and treats their sexual partners with dignity and respect. | /r/seduction | 04/11/19 11:55 PM |
| 1 | How can I, a 22 year old female get laid without dating apps?I literally said that tho. Lmao. Also we are talking about different things. I’m talking about being open about one’s sexuality and being a woman interested in hook ups and how society and many men react to sexually experienced women/women openly interested in sex. You’re talking about men who proposition/flirt with women in the work place and other inappropriate places - which smells like creepy and predatory behavior and conflating that with men being open sexually and not being judged. Not go… | /r/seduction | 04/11/19 11:53 PM |
| 1 | How can I, a 22 year old female get laid without dating apps?“Women are failing in their responsibilities to help high achieving men by withholding sex” Two things : I do laugh because not getting sex/being celibate/masturbating are not health concerns. Your health is not in danger by not getting any. It ain’t that deep. Secondly, women don’t owe any men sex. Just like men don’t owe women sex. It’s not a women’s responsibility to give any one sex. We are complex human beings who have our own live, accomplishments, goals and what have you outside of sex an… | /r/seduction | 04/11/19 11:50 PM |
| 1 | How can I, a 22 year old female get laid without dating apps?I mean. I always get concerned when men confuse being sexually open with being predators. Is the line really that hard for men/masculine people to see? Should I be more worried than I am? | /r/seduction | 04/11/19 08:34 PM |
| 1 | How can I, a 22 year old female get laid without dating apps?This feels off topic, but I’ll bite. Yeah there’s a huge difference between being sexually suggestive at inappropriate times it’s completely different to your sexual partner treating you with less respect because you have a sexual past. The consequences aren’t worse for men being sexual, they’re consequences for men being disrespectful, predatory and harmful and that’s totally different to being sexual - because of context and consent. Women are shamed, harassed and killed for saying no or for b… | /r/seduction | 04/11/19 08:32 PM |
| 1 | How can I, a 22 year old female get laid without dating apps?“It’s a literal health problem” lmao! But yeah, sex can be really bad and unenjoyable for women so we don’t just sleep with whoever. That and the social stigma and also safety, so we can’t just take anyone. It sucks tbh. | /r/seduction | 04/11/19 08:25 PM |
| 1 | How can I, a 22 year old female get laid without dating apps?Yeah. The world would be better if there was so much less slut shaming. | /r/seduction | 04/11/19 06:33 PM |
| 1 | How can I, a 22 year old female get laid without dating apps?Yeah, you’d be horrified by how much in the minority you are. Just look at the discourse online and how women are called hoes/thots/sluts/whores for just existing. It’s fucking everywhere and it suuuuucks, because it cheats both men and women out of sexual experiences (and generally means women end up with worse sexual experiences-if straight- or struggle to open up sexually). | /r/seduction | 04/11/19 06:17 PM |
| 2 | How can I, a 22 year old female get laid without dating apps?Or have you considered that women aren’t a monolith and there is no one “true” experience for everyone? I mean I know plenty of hot women who are sexually open who are struggling and don’t have it easy. Shit, I’m a cutie patootie with a whole lot of booty and it isn’t that easy XD Plus you’re being really disingenuous- men do a lot of screening as well. But beyond all of that, this means a complete lack of useful advice for women beyond dismissing what difficulties we may have to give us no good… | /r/seduction | 04/11/19 06:14 PM |
| 1 | How can I, a 22 year old female get laid without dating apps?The thing is, I cannot convince you because you’re not open to being convinced. There are a bunch of social stigma that women face, specifically from men. So to you personally you think it’s super easy for women because you perceive it as if you (as you are now) were in the same position as a woman you’d use that “power” you think women have. Except, if you were a woman, you would be a different person. We don’t only have to deal with social stigmas, but also figuring out how safe a man is, can … | /r/seduction | 04/11/19 05:47 PM |
| -3 | How can I, a 22 year old female get laid without dating apps?You know what? Keep telling yourself this. You’re not interested in being useful to women who care about seduction and seemed happy to ignore the rest of my comment. So do you 👍🏾 | /r/seduction | 04/11/19 04:59 PM |
| 3 | What does "we probably shouldn't take our pants off" actually mean?You have to thread this needle very carefully, because it could come across as pressuring someone. I’d say if someone says you should probably keep your pants on, stay in that boundary and do other hot/sexy things with them - and let them lead. It shows that you’re still keen and you respect them, which, as a woman is HELLA hot! | /r/seduction | 04/11/19 04:45 PM |
| 5 | How can I, a 22 year old female get laid without dating apps?This seduction page is meant for people of all genders and the men on here being dismissive are making it unwelcome for women. No, we can’t just walk outside and crook our fingers - even if we are “hot” and even if we could, we don’t just want anyone. Women are more picky with getting laid because it isn’t as easy for us to get great sex so we have to be discerning and not just hook up with some drunk dude from the bar who’ll nut in 30 seconds or can’t get hard coz he’s drunk. Plus, let’s be hon… | /r/seduction | 04/11/19 04:24 PM |
| 3 | How can younger guys get with or approach older women?Tbh, you are not going to attract older women with that attitude. You’re saying all women of a certain age are the same. That’s sexist and frankly (in general) the older people get the better they become at noticing those toxic ideas in people. Women aren’t all the same and even if they were it sounds like you’re upset that women know their value and enforce boundaries - which isn’t a bad thing. And again, maybe you need to look at what attracts you to someone and if there is a common thread of … | /r/seduction | 02/11/19 12:00 PM |
| 6 | How do I kiss a girl without her moving away her head?And this, folks, is how one gets kicked in the groin area! :D | /r/seduction | 29/10/19 06:34 PM |
| 4 | How do I kiss a girl without her moving away her head?They aren’t smiling as much, they aren’t reciprocating physical touch, they don’t seem to be paying attention to you. And if it’s really unclear just ask them how they are feeling. Many people say that it isn’t sexy to be asked, those people are wrong. You can (and should!) ask someone if they’re into something because it can be hella sexy if done right and the vibe is there and if the vibe isn’t there you know early on and can move on. | /r/seduction | 29/10/19 06:33 PM |
| 29 | How do I kiss a girl without her moving away her head?If she’s pulling back her head she doesn’t want to kiss you, so it’s more about learning how to tell if someone wants to be kissed. Can you give me an example of how this has happened to you? (Were you on a date/at a bar) | /r/seduction | 29/10/19 05:57 PM |
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