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JustLetMeImprove/r/askTRP16/10/19 01:29 PM
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JustLetMeImprove/r/askTRP29/06/20 01:04 PM
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I see. I agree with you. Thanks for the reality-check.
/r/askTRP28/09/20 11:49 AM
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I see. My advice - keep them around till you find something worth while they're gonna break eventually. Yeah, will keep doing that. Thanks!
/r/askTRP28/09/20 08:51 AM
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Thank you for the book suggestion. I will check it out. However, note one thing: women who have higher expectations of themselves also have higher expectations of the men they love. Arsehole tactics that will work with a low-esteem woman, will not work with high-self esteem women: they look for men with more rounded characters, greater emotional maturity and consistency. Could you give me more information regarding this point? For some reason my experience is the opposite - the healthier and mor…
/r/askTRP28/09/20 08:50 AM
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Do you honestly think you'll get less drama if you are exclusive with a girl who resolves disagreements in such ways? Doubt it. However, I need a reality check. Been getting with too many girls like these and not enough true good girls. Was wondering whether I was doing something wrong frame-wise. So, in other words, all girls have to test (AWALT) and these girls have a dramatic personality and will do destructive testing, but not all girls will do it in a such in-your-face way?
/r/askTRP28/09/20 07:56 AM
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I used to frequently ask myself the same question. And I have finally found the answer: the only way to consistently set boundaries to other people is to be able to consistently set them to yourself first. You like oversleeping? Smoking weed? Wasting your time with TV or video games, etc? Sorry, but you wont be able to set boundaries consistently. I think the only way to be able to set consistent boundaries and be able to enforce them ruthlessly is to feel worth and value about your own life. It…
/r/askTRP21/09/20 06:29 AM
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Had the talk with both of them a few times each. First talk I tell them I like where it is going, let's see how it works out. A few months pass and I get second talk, where I tell them that I am OK with things as they are, if that's not what they are looking for, I am not the man for them. After that I shut down any talks. Seems quite direct to me
/r/askTRP25/08/20 10:57 AM
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It's completely true that the mask falls off when shit hits the fan. Seen it too many times. The mask drop is kinda creepy to see. However, it is the best measure of a relationship status. Only a hard next can follow the mask drop in my eyes. Also thanks for writing the red flags. I can also add some more red flags: moderate/heavy drug use, extreme impulsiveness, compulsive lying, heavy attention whoring.
/r/askTRP25/08/20 06:37 AM
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I see. Looking back my strategy so far has been to have 1-3 regular healthy plates and 1 crazy plate. However, those crazies seem to have too much effect on my life. Too bad the healthy ones are kinda boring in comparison, even if they care about my needs much more. Anyway seems like my strategy needs some work. I should vet more thoroughly. Any tips on what to look for during the first dates?
/r/askTRP24/08/20 04:25 PM
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Yeah, seems plausible. Both of the girls wanted to control me. Not gonna happen. Thanks for the cam tip, i will look into it.
/r/askTRP24/08/20 04:19 PM
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Kek
/r/askTRP24/08/20 04:14 PM
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Damn. That's a good point. Going beta before the break-up seemed cringe to me, but treating her like my therapist would kill 2 birds with 1 stone.
/r/askTRP24/08/20 03:56 PM
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That is one of my fears
/r/askTRP24/08/20 02:35 PM
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Thank you for an actionable comment. You are right - the girls start drama or try to break-up, I ignore/agree with it, but get angry and after we split I just text where I have put their things (home keys they gave me, etc) and wish them luck. Then block instantly if I feel any oneitis or ignore if I don't I will try your way the next time. Need to keep my ego in check too.
/r/askTRP24/08/20 02:26 PM
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The remark regarding messing with narcissists is true. 1st example had narc tendencies I think. The 2nd example was full blown NPD. As for discretion - good point, but in these cases the girls were outsiders
/r/askTRP24/08/20 02:20 PM
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Could be
/r/askTRP24/08/20 02:15 PM
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Well yeah, we both used each other for sex, good times, etc. That's what plates are for.
/r/askTRP24/08/20 12:24 PM
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Thanks, will check it out.
/r/askTRP24/08/20 12:02 PM
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I did. Now there are consequences. How to avoid them in the future?
/r/askTRP24/08/20 12:02 PM
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Can you provide more information? Looking at O'neal it can be said that he is angry, because it is not going his way and he will try to dominate / intimidate to get his way. Sooo
/r/askTRP30/07/20 08:02 PM
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Makes sense. Thanks for the reply.
/r/askTRP29/06/20 04:55 PM
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Exactly. Oneitis it is then. Thanks for the help!
/r/askTRP29/06/20 02:23 PM
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Yeah, I understand that. I also agree on the notion that she did nothing wrong. The thing that bugs me is her actions - going on tinder (i.e. seeking validation from other men) instead of coming to me for support. However, it might be just my abandonment issues (oneitis) flaring up.
/r/askTRP29/06/20 02:13 PM
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Sure, I understand. Could you give me some more pointers on how to collect data in practice? Also one more thing - how are you sure that the data you have collected is real / verifiable?
/r/askTRP16/10/19 02:51 PM
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I see. Possibly this approach would be good too. I did that with the pack of ciggies. I asked her why she had them, and she had a pause of ~5 seconds before answering not very coherently. Seems like a red flag. No wonder my gut feeling was telling me something's up.
/r/askTRP16/10/19 02:12 PM
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Hmm I see. I can agree that ignoring would have been the best move, however this shit still hit me in the gut. You see I was still spending time with this girl for some time and and after a month or so she told me out of nowhere: "I still can't believe I went to the lake with my new friend" or to translate from womanese: I still cannot believe you fell for this shit. Therefore it might have been a shit-test or a trickle truth. Confusing AF
/r/askTRP16/10/19 01:58 PM
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Okay, sounds fair. How would you act in such situation?
/r/askTRP18/05/19 10:26 PM
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Huh. Sttange. Should i comfort her then?
/r/askTRP18/05/19 02:21 PM
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Thank you very much for the perspective. These questions are extremely valid in this case.
/r/askTRP03/05/19 10:36 AM
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Thank you for your input. Reading is not the same as applying the concepts in practice. And I get that I will fail most of the times when trying to apply these principles until I get them right. Therefore, apart from announcing the soft next, what could have been done better?
/r/askTRP02/05/19 02:31 PM
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True that. ​ Any experience on the accusations of fucking other girls? My gut is running wild on this particular part, not sure if I am being paranoid in this case.
/r/askTRP02/05/19 01:46 PM
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Thank you for the input. The "Bad Boyfriend" ploy explains this behavior completely, will act accordingly. Interestingly enough this bullshit started after the plate demanded me to drop one of my other plates (they know each other) and was hit with a week-long soft next. Time to plan my escape.
/r/askTRP04/03/19 02:04 PM
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Yes, these were my thoughts. I am trying to avoid giving explicit comfort for the same reason. Could you elaborate on how would you react if you received such tests?
/r/askTRP04/03/19 01:39 PM
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For some reason it is comforting to know that other people have been in a similar situation as me. Thanks for the tip. As for the books: I have read TRM twice, now halfway through TRM: Preventative medicine. Next up: 48 laws of power, I feel guilty when I say no and the power of now. Could you recommend any other books, which might possibly help in this case?
/r/askTRP25/10/18 01:55 PM
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Thanks for the tips. Blocked her, will review my goals as soon as I get back from work. You are right - I need to concentrate on myself at this time.
/r/askTRP25/10/18 01:23 PM
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Downloading the app right now. Thanks for the suggestion. Also, the girl was not special, but she was the best I had ever had, as I do not have much experience. But I have to be real - it means that the probability of catching oneitis for a better option in the future is quite high. For this reason focusing on myself seems to be the only way to avoid it - i.e. I need a higher mission/purpose.
/r/askTRP25/10/18 01:04 PM
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Thank you. Will keep on doing that. Any tips on how to keep my head clear and not get sucked in onietis thinking patterns??
/r/askTRP25/10/18 12:08 PM
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Yes, you are right. She had many red flags: high N count, met on tinder, daddy issues, "got raped", tattoos and so on. My gut was constantly telling me to walk away, but to no avail: I was too busy being content that somebody was near my side when I could not game other women due to my medical and mind issues. Anyway, hopefully time and distractions will heal the wounds and I will be able to get back to the field soon.
/r/askTRP25/10/18 12:02 PM
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A lump on one of the testicles. Other than that - I had no signs of any illness.
/r/askTRP12/07/18 12:29 PM
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Thanks for the thought. You see there is very little I can do to improve my health right now and in my mind the plates could be used for their real purpose - as a distraction. For this reason my goal is not to break the plates unintentionally and set an example for myself on how to act in future times of hardship.
/r/askTRP12/07/18 12:18 PM
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Yeah, this sounds plausible. Thanks
/r/askTRP25/06/18 12:27 PM
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Thank you for the input. The thing is that if I give her the choice, I loose all the power in the relationship, making her attraction go rock bottom. Which would make this decision counter-intuitive. On another hand: if I do not do anything, there is a large possibility that she will not return. Lastly, I can feel the scarcity mentality and semi-oneitis coming up to me, which would also make things more complex in the end.
/r/askTRP25/06/18 12:27 PM
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Look, forget everything that happened between you earlier. I would recommend avoiding bringing up the past experiences between you. By asking her out you inevitably put yourself in a position of weakness, as the outcomes (indirectly telling you to fuck off or accepting your offer to meet-up) are completely in her hands. However there is no other way to evaluate her real interest. If I were you I would keep the texting to minimum - logistics (place, time) and that's it. If she rejects your offer …
/r/askTRP30/04/18 01:31 PM
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Nope, the probability of that happening is very low. You should check out a very useful post by BD, which covers the exact situation that you are in: http://www.blackdragonblog.com/2014/10/12/important-ignore-breakup/
/r/askTRP30/04/18 01:02 PM
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Only one way to find out: ask her out and escalate when you meet.
/r/askTRP30/04/18 12:31 PM
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Dude, the guy is 21. It is a prime time for him to go out and gather experience. There might not ever be a better opportunity to have so many hot girls in his proximity as he has right now. Of course you do not need to approach girls just because some stranger told you that on reddit. However, it is extremely obvious from the OP's post, that he is holding back himself by not approaching women and is making various rationalizations to back up his lack of balls. And his balls will only grow IF HE …
/r/askTRP30/04/18 08:34 AM
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Monk mode is for 300 lbs ham-beasts with 0 SMV. You lift, are 6', study in a prospective field. Why the fuck do you think you need a monk mode? It is obvious that you are rationalizing. YOU NEED TO GO TALK TO CHICKS NOW!
/r/askTRP30/04/18 07:32 AM
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I had the same exact problem with a girl - she would put quite a bit of LMR before sex and would stop during. You can go through my post history to find the topic. The thing is - girls like this do not change. You cannot do anything about it. She would do the same thing as you are describing - would give me bullshit before and during sex and would apologize after. My advice: DO NOT LISTEN TO WHAT SHE SAYS, ONLY LOOK AT HER ACTIONS! I would recommend to next her completely.
/r/askTRP27/04/18 02:02 PM
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Meditate, keep lifting, read books, work on yourself, immerse in hobbies, travel, start a business, etc
/r/askTRP27/04/18 10:49 AM
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Block and next. WTF else?
/r/askTRP25/04/18 11:39 AM
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The one you came up with is perfect. Simplifying it would be even better IMO: Come over and I will show you.
/r/askTRP25/04/18 10:40 AM
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She is not interested. Next
/r/askTRP24/04/18 10:06 AM
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Absolutely. Just try to have fun, touch her to emphasize points or just by fucking around. Also, getting familiar with Vin di Carlos escalation ladder might help: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/hlmra/dicarlo_escalation_ladder_concise_and_emphasized/
/r/askTRP23/04/18 03:34 PM
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Yes. Do it. If your advances get rejected, do not get upset and try again.
/r/askTRP23/04/18 01:19 PM
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Practice makes perfect. There are no work-arounds.
/r/askTRP23/04/18 12:56 PM
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Yes.
/r/askTRP23/04/18 12:49 PM
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Yes, it is to build anticipation. In my experience kissing a girl for the first time without a f-close on the same date lowers the chance of a follow-up date, if your SMV is lower/equal or just slightly higher than the girl's. However, it is always best to try different strategies and find out which ones work for you the best. In this case, if your SMV is much higher than the girl's you can usually do anything you want, without complicating the situation.
/r/askTRP23/04/18 09:01 AM
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Waiting for a girl to put out is never worth the wait. And the story is BS. She would take Chad's cock inside her ass at any given time. I would recommend walking out or at least putting this girl on hold.
/r/askTRP23/04/18 07:40 AM
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First of all congrats on scoring the first date! Coffee date for the first time is good. You can check this link: http://www.blackdragonblog.com/2011/11/13/20-first-date-rules-for-men/ It contains simple, but effective tips for a first date. GL!
/r/askTRP23/04/18 07:09 AM
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Well it depends on the exact problem you are facing: 1)If your unconscious mind is pointing out red flags, it is completely normal to look for evidence. And I do not see a problem here - we, men, are rational creatures, for this reason evaluating and weighing the proof is the path our brain takes naturally. 2)If the insecurity is caused by bad past experiences, the only person to look at is YOU. And the only way to loose these insecurities is to work on yourself - meditate, read relevant books, …
/r/askTRP19/04/18 01:56 PM
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Absolutely. That's exactly what my gut was telling me. I should be listening to it more frequently.
/r/askTRP16/04/18 04:16 PM
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Yeah, you are right. I can relate to your experience, I think I would feel the same, as desire cannot be negotiated and the bjs would feel fake. Therefore is it really worth it then? Seems that it's time to go back to the field and find some better bitches.
/r/askTRP16/04/18 04:14 PM
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Aight. :D
/r/askTRP16/04/18 04:08 PM
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I see. Thanks for the tip.
/r/askTRP16/04/18 04:07 PM
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Will do, thanks.
/r/askTRP16/04/18 01:10 PM
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Thank you for the explanation. It really makes sense now and I will try to do establish that. Also, you are right about not pushing girls into something they do not want to do. I can now see the inherent neediness it creates. Because of it, getting my needs met elsewhere seems to be the best solution. All in all, props to you for a very well put answer.
/r/askTRP16/04/18 01:09 PM
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Thank you for the input. I think you are right about me not being AF, I still have a long way to go. As for the mistakes - I think you hit the nail in this case. These points are something I need to work on for sure. Just one thing: do you think I am wrong to think that in case I give them the ultimatum, there is a chance that the girl will cave in and do the bjs? Or I should only expect the plate to walk away? How I see the possible outcomes of issuing an ultimatum: 1)I do not issue the ultimat…
/r/askTRP16/04/18 12:21 PM
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Yeah, it seems to be the case with about the complaints. Actions over words, right? The only strange thing is that both of them said the same shit word-for-word. As for the attraction part, yes it might be the case, as I have mentioned I am still unplugging and my SMV is still far from it's highest point, while the girls are ~HB7s. I have to disagree with the suggestion to not to allow them to suck - well they do not suck at all anyway, there is not much to win by declaring the ban of BJs. How I…
/r/askTRP16/04/18 11:59 AM
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Will do. Thanks for the input!
/r/askTRP16/04/18 11:45 AM
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Well, because of the power dynamics in the relationship. I love going down on girls as well. However, how I see the issue: if I give her head first, I give her more power in the relationship, in turn making her see me as less attractive.
/r/askTRP16/04/18 11:33 AM
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If he is really to be respected as a person, the worst thing that can happen is that he will ask you not to call him by his first name. If it happens do not take it personally. Otherwise I do not see the problem here.
/r/askTRP16/04/18 11:09 AM
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Yeah, that's what I was thinking too.
/r/askTRP16/04/18 10:59 AM
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Thanks for the input. I will try to shave the pubic hair, as I usually keep them trimmed at about ~1 cm length at any time, but I do not really have any hair on the ab area. (it just does not grow there, apart from a few hairs, which are taken care of periodically). However, I had a few girls go down on me consistently, without ever mentioning my hygiene. But I agree that the preferences can and will differ depending on the girl.
/r/askTRP16/04/18 10:52 AM
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I am not going down on them. But they do not ask for it also. As for the fear of losing them - well I am not afraid to loose them, however it would be in my best interest if the plates would not break, as in that way I could save the time, which I would have to spend looking for replacements. However, in general I do not give a shit about them, other than being my sex toys.
/r/askTRP16/04/18 10:24 AM
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Well I shower daily and usually wash my cock before the plates come over, for this reason I would think that it should be good enough. As for the 2nd point, I have to agree - in my experience if a girl really digs you, she will do everything in bed.
/r/askTRP16/04/18 10:19 AM
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Dude, you are 23 and you need a break. WATDAFAK Also, until you live with your parents, you are their bitch if they want you to be one. Deal with it.
/r/askTRP10/04/18 12:33 PM
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IMO you feel that way, because you put all of your focus on pussy. While it is OK and encouraged on TRP to seek sexual relationships, it should never ever be your primary focus. Go do shit other than chasing pussy. Go find your mission. Go lifting. Read books. Do anything that makes you happy and does not involve chasing women. I am sure you will see an improvement in your condition if you shift your energy away from pussy.
/r/askTRP09/04/18 10:45 AM
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AWALT. At first it is uncomfortable, but the more experience you gather with women, the less you care. If you want to clear your head, try meditating and also LIFT if you do not. Yes, the pill is hard to swallow, but it is necessary to understand that it is just your turn right now.
/r/askTRP17/10/17 06:48 PM
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You will never know if you do not try. Rejection is ALWAYS better than regret. Simple.
/r/askTRP10/10/17 11:59 AM
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You should wait until she tries to contact you. Soft nexting only works if she tries to communicate with you during the soft next period. Otherwise it is useless. Anyway, for future reference, it seems that you broke your frame by fighting her, therefore chances are that she has nexted you. Use amused mastery next time a girl tries to argue about stupid shit and treat her like a child that she is.
/r/askTRP05/10/17 08:54 AM
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Whoa, mate. There is no need to put your unconstructive anger here. I came here for an advice on this situation, which I thought was a part of the game (as I have mentioned in the original post I am a novice). Unfortunately for me, there is no cure to this situation. Of course, I may have fucked up, however other posters have said that this shit should not happen in normal relationships, to which I have to agree - the time I spent analysing this situation far outweighs the few happy moments I ha…
/r/askTRP25/09/17 07:52 PM
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OP here, thanks for your input guys. This girl gets a hard next. Case closed. Peace.
/r/askTRP25/09/17 04:48 PM
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