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| 3 | How to master emotional acknowledgement without appeasing or being logical | Outer Game | Just_bad_with_names | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 03:44 AM |
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| 0 | How to tell a girl she’s pretty?Validate yes - but emotionally, not appearance wise. That's the worst kind of compliment you could give a woman, especially if she already knows she's pretty | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 07:55 PM |
| 10 | Forehead KissThe comment said nah they said leave it for relationship, I say it's something to be used earlier (but not first) | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 06:49 PM |
| 9 | Forehead Kissliterally why, all the girls melt for that (personal experience, especially if height differential is big). I dont understand your reasoning | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 06:42 PM |
| 2 | How to tell a girl she’s pretty?Why would you do that? It's great that she complimented your appearance, but don't do the mistake of thinking you need to compliment her back. On the contrary - the fewer compliments the better. | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 05:53 PM |
| 1 | How to master emotional acknowledgement without appeasing or being logicalI thank you for your feedback, but this is objectively horrible advice. As a man, I'm not allowed to go to a woman I love to just vent or complain. I did that when I was younger, thinking that if she opens up to me and complains to me I should too, yet with multiple partners I was met with either disinterest or despise - "You're a man, you should get over it, why are you emotional/frustrated" type of argument. In the worst case scenarios, all of the things I shared were used against me so I stop… | /r/seduction | 22/01/25 12:00 PM |
| 1 | How to master emotional acknowledgement without appeasing or being logicalMan thanks for the input but the situation is so shit if you're right. I'm really looking for an equal or atleast someone to complement me; not be difficult or childish. I thought by learning a special manner to navigate her emotions properly I can bypass that childishness but if you're right, then it's inherent. It sucks, really ended a lot of promising relationships due to petulant and immature behavior (going back to the enforcing boundaries thing) but saying that this is normal and just to b… | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 04:01 PM |
| 1 | How to master emotional acknowledgement without appeasing or being logicalBut how does it work? I feel like whenever I do something like that I end up annoying the other person or placing the seed for future frustration. It may be in the execution, or in the quality of the partner. How do you do it? | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 01:26 PM |
| 1 | How to master emotional acknowledgement without appeasing or being logicalThat's... stonewalling tho. Very dismissive. I'm not an emotional person but when someone else does this to me even I feel it's shitty af. | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 01:17 PM |
| 1 | How to master emotional acknowledgement without appeasing or being logicalIt's a very general and broad question in order to be applied to a broad range of situations, almost like a mindset. Whenever there's tension building but but she starts being difficult and begins a conflict because of her emotions (often extraneous reason, not something I do)... like any sort of conflict. Some other examples (more discussed on this sub) are contesting my frame or personality, or trying to instigate jealousy by bringing up different men or past "toxic" relationships, or she's sh… | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 01:00 PM |
| 1 | How to master emotional acknowledgement without appeasing or being logicalAcknowledging her emotions and working around them without agreeing or disagreeing or solving the logical issue, just changing her emotional state. Resolving any sort of emotional issue initiated by the woman ( conflicts, last minute resistances, shit tests ) in a way that maintains frame and tension. As opposed to: agreeing / emphatizing / appeasing, backtracking, stonewalling, providing logical answers, enforcing definitive boundaries. | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 10:49 AM |
| 1 | How to master emotional acknowledgement without appeasing or being logicalThis is less about first dates and more about moments of conflict which usually appear as last steps in closing. And after closing. | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 10:26 AM |
| 1 | How to master emotional acknowledgement without appeasing or being logicalVery good comment, I feel lately this is my bane, and you described my situation well. I realize in my previous relationships I was carried by various superficial factors ( looks, smarts, social projection, and also a lot of things which came from the women themselves like insecurities or emotional dependency ). Now what I realized is that most of my relationships start going downhill after moments of small conflict / shittesting / LMR since I likely mismanage their emotions. Ofc I don't do it a… | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 10:23 AM |
| 1 | 4 Dates In, Strong Chemistry, But She Still Thinks It's Too Quick – Need AdviceMan you're such a joy to be around, I'm certain. You're only making personal attacks while clearly backtracking on your failed logic reasoning. Your issue is that you implied that women (and yourself by extension) make the men you like (aka the better ones) wait because you like them. Not in a manner that sparks or maintains tension, mind you (which was OP's issue) but simply by virtue of them trying to create a gap or punishing them for their quality. Waiting is not romantic, it's romantic for … | /r/seduction | 18/01/25 06:31 PM |
| 1 | 4 Dates In, Strong Chemistry, But She Still Thinks It's Too Quick – Need AdviceNever said it was, you're making a strawman here. They are just things expected to occur in a relationship - same as intimacy is. If your partner chose to withhold it from you because he /likes/ you how would you feel? How would you feel if your date didn't buy you flowers on Valentine's day because your love needs no flowers, but to other women, that he likes less, he has no issue gifting flower to? What if you knew that he took all of his previous dates to exotic travel vacations but tells you… | /r/seduction | 18/01/25 06:23 PM |
| 0 | 4 Dates In, Strong Chemistry, But She Still Thinks It's Too Quick – Need AdviceThen you obviously prove my point, you don't know what you want. If you, as a woman say that women (and yourself, by extension) are withholding intimacy from a man if you feel attracted to him, that's just a self lie. Imagine a man saying he won't buy flowers, pay for the dates, flirt with a woman or provide emotional stimulation, nor would he meet his gf's friends (or any other similar aspects which are seen as normal in a relationship) because he intends to be serious with her and marry her. I… | /r/seduction | 18/01/25 05:58 PM |
| 0 | 4 Dates In, Strong Chemistry, But She Still Thinks It's Too Quick – Need AdviceAgain, this is what you've been told by women. The reality is often different. If the guy pushes the right buttons and her attraction for him is high enough, she'll not hold off sex. The whole idea of holding off sex for the right man is an excuse, and incites an opposite argument of "she won't be holding off sex for the wrong man / if she doesn't like him that much", which is illogical and counterintuitive. Stop trying to make excuses for women in this position; if they wanted to, they would. A… | /r/seduction | 18/01/25 05:35 PM |
| 2 | 4 Dates In, Strong Chemistry, But She Still Thinks It's Too Quick – Need AdviceAll of the concerns you raised would be valid for a man; but for a woman they don't apply. Rules are broken for the right person at the right time, age is just a number for this kind of things (only imporant on paper). Emotional connection is there since they got to that point, atleast to a primal level. He did get her back to his place, he did escalate, but not till the end, she put a last minute resistance ( which is a bad sign in all circumstances ). Since OP backed off and respected her boun… | /r/seduction | 18/01/25 04:53 PM |
| 4 | 4 Dates In, Strong Chemistry, But She Still Thinks It's Too Quick – Need AdviceYour concern is valid. Her last minute resistance is a bad sign. Whenever you hear someone say "let's take it slow" without giving any reasons it's a red flag. That's when you know you should start seeing other people ( if you aren't already ), since that means she is either not that into you to do it together; or she has someone else and internal guilt shows up; or she is a no-means-yes person where she wants you to be extra pushy and break her boundaries or manipulate her (warning with this ty… | /r/seduction | 18/01/25 04:45 PM |
| 1 | Do you have to be a one of the cool people to be succesful?Don't listen to what people say they do (especially women), look at their actions instead. Are they truly getting in the inner circles of celebrities or just are trying to pose like they do? You won't hear them complain that the "famous" people they met treated them like dirt or used them. Instead, they'll spin the story however they want in order to appear like they have higher social value "yeah i'm going out with a big artist" when he barely gives her the time of day. It's all smoke and mirro… | /r/seduction | 13/01/25 05:06 PM |
| 15 | How to compliment WomenI only offer compliments in friendly situations. Given the scope of this forum, I think you should stay clear of compliments. Women like to expect compliments, not to receive them | /r/seduction | 04/01/25 09:51 PM |
| 1 | Am I the only one tired of "sad" women?Since when? Where did you pull this fact out of? lmao. The issue is that being positive is often more difficult than being sad ( and being sad also gets you compassion ). IMO it's more of a laziness and entitlement problem | /r/seduction | 15/12/24 01:41 PM |
| 7 | Is there a women equivalent to this sub?The extremes of the male seduction mindsets can be found under any post made by feminists, saying they deserve princess treatment and they are entitled to all their demands, without saying what they offer to a relationship. Let's not kid ourselves, there's hateful people with horrible rhetoric on both sides of the spectrum. The issue is that the delusions of some groups are weirdly encouraged by society, while the delusions of others are rightfully frowned upon. In reality, the only ones that de… | /r/seduction | 15/12/24 01:35 PM |
| 9 | Is there a women equivalent to this sub?The most important issue, as someone else pointed out, is that women don't engage, they find it beneath them, or scummy / pick-me behavior. Seduction is necessary for the one doing the engaging. The second issue is that men don't normally get explicit detailed advice from other men in their life when it comes to sexual relationships. Meanwhile, most women ( from a rather young age ), are used to share their intimate moments, feelings, tips etc. pertaining to the relationships they are in, gossip… | /r/seduction | 15/12/24 01:26 PM |
| 3 | Is there a women equivalent to this sub?Cant tell if you are being ironic or ignorant right now | /r/seduction | 15/12/24 01:20 PM |
| 1 | Do their social media habits mean anything?Which is? | /r/seduction | 07/07/24 11:41 PM |
| 1 | ClubbingYou meet higher quality people elsewhere? You struggle to find wingmen? You can't stand drunk people? .... My friend, with all the respect, why are you wasting your life clubbing then? There's plenty, much more suitable activities that not just benefit you more on the long term, but also increase your chances at finding someone. Keep an eye out for those and DITCH CLUBBING | /r/seduction | 07/07/24 11:34 PM |
| 2 | ClubbingYou need better wingmen friends. Where you at? ( Lol jk ) Clubbing may not be for you. It's shallow, loud, expensive and bad for meeting potential relationships partners. ... I can describe it as a whole ecosystem of its own with its (pretty fucked up) rules, that are often against you.... Try something else. Go to a yoga class for instance. Or a dance class, like salsa. It's a similar shared activity, primarily single women, and even if you don't find someone to your liking, you certainly learn… | /r/seduction | 07/07/24 11:25 PM |
| 1 | Searching for advice: Reason why I get rejected or ghosted after closingI may be new to this, but how is this considered closing? You barely opened man, you just got their info.... Example 1 was likely simply not into you and she just wanted to shrug you off. It's like meeting a friend on the street and you say "we're definitely meeting some day to catch up" and you both know that never happens, but you guys are just being polite. Example 2 may have changed her mind because of how you reacted to scheduling; or it could be that she simply had second thoughts. Perhaps… | /r/seduction | 07/07/24 11:11 PM |
| 3 | Is my hot eastern European manager flirting with me?No. It's usually after hours. | /r/seduction | 07/07/24 09:16 PM |
| 0 | How many times during a week should couples spend time together in the beginning of a relationship?You sound like a red flag I don’t care if I didn’t like walking, if you wanted to walk & talk, we’d walk & talk No, you're the red flag. You sound like a people pleaser, basically portraying something you are not in order to gain favor and emotionally manipulates the other person , which doesn't translate to a relationship. You sound manipulative and deceptive, not loving. I tried to prove a point that being authentic is better. If you change your communication style temporarily only to please s… | /r/seduction | 10/06/24 07:54 PM |
| 2 | How many times during a week should couples spend time together in the beginning of a relationship?1-2 times a week is fine. Depends how close you both live, what schedule you have, what stage in life you're in, if you're colleagues etc., then it can go higher or lower. | /r/seduction | 10/06/24 12:21 PM |
| 1 | How many times during a week should couples spend time together in the beginning of a relationship?You may have anxious attachment, dealing with someone with secure or even avoidant attachment. You have different ways to show your feelings of love, and that is a fact that /cannot/ be changed. You can, however, change your expectations, or talk about it -> but in this case, you are not the one in the right, nor is he. It's just a mismatch, not a right/wrong situation. He may love you even more than you do, but he has a different way of showing it than you. And true, you may find his attention … | /r/seduction | 10/06/24 12:18 PM |
| 0 | How many times during a week should couples spend time together in the beginning of a relationship?horrible advice, if he doesn't like texting he should start doing it just to appease his partner? that just screams discontent down the line... also going by your logic, at some point he will inevitably lose the initial momentum and give her less attention, making her self doubt and potentially stress the relationship because "he changed" - when in reality, that's what his true self was really like. Smells like bs. | /r/seduction | 10/06/24 12:09 PM |
| 2 | How do you text multiple girls at once to see who's free tonight?I like to give them a specific invitation "I'm going to X party", so it could get awkward if I invite several women and they all show up. Even more so, if I cancel with one of them and she goes to the party on her own. Been there. It's a pain in the arse and gets you a bad rep, especially in college cuz girls talk. I learned that rather than giving specifics, give the general context of the party( "Hey, I'm going to a party with [insert music style] or in [insert city name], it'll be wild. ", an… | /r/seduction | 02/06/24 05:57 PM |
| 2 | Will a guy expect sex if I invite him to a movie at my house?Depends your age/culture/chemistry/his personality. I'd say generally a young man will not expect sex, but will likely come prepared for it, in case the mood is good and you are enthusiastic about it too. Likely opportunistic, but not pushing ( unless he's a creep ). There may be some sort of intimacy escalation, some sort of benign physicality like cuddling, petting, etc. Again, depends on mood, position. | /r/seduction | 30/05/24 08:56 PM |
| 1 | Are these good questions to create emotional connection on first dateSome of these are alright-ish but lead nowhere, some are downright awful and should never be asked. Some should be left for a second date. First date should be more light hearted and superficial tbh. Just show interest in her and try to walk into her mind frame (emotions frame). | /r/seduction | 30/05/24 07:21 PM |
| 2 | How do I make a girl feel special?Nah, only a few do testing in this scenario. In reality, most are just voicing their fantasies/perceptions of you out loud. Don't break these fantasies lol. | /r/seduction | 16/03/24 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Women have options! So, I realised I have to do something to make them choose me, and how do I do it?No worries mate. It's simple. You're doing it all wrong for using a male perspective. From their own perspective, women don't have options. Ask your female friends. Competition for relationships among women is crazy - especially while in a group, and you've got social proofing. | /r/seduction | 06/03/24 08:45 PM |
| 3 | Women have options! So, I realised I have to do something to make them choose me, and how do I do it?The more I spend time with women I realize they don't have options. They are just being delusional about having options or love to brag about having more options than they actually have, to appear more wanted ( this is to one-up other women mostly - to them this is increasing their attractiveness level ). In reality, most women don't have options and they know it. Competition among women is fiercer than among men, especially in their friend groups. They don't want a boyfriend - they just want / … | /r/seduction | 06/03/24 08:08 AM |
| 1 | Best day after date text?Don't play mindgames. Text after date message is optional, however if you want to send it it's much easier if you already made a setup during the date. Either what someone said before, something funny/flirty related to your time together, or a callback to the plans you made during the date. eg: During the date you say: 'I'm really enjoying this and want to know more about you. Are you free next Thursday?...' and you make some plans, or give her something to look forward to. In the post-date text… | /r/seduction | 18/02/24 10:52 AM |
| 6 | What are the best environments to find highly intelligent, witty women?Outside of university, there's not really a place you can go... there's maybe quiz nights or similar events. You can always check the local libraries but it's not an environment conducive to social interaction - tho the bench in front of the library could be an idea. Yeah... Academia is where booksmart people are, mate. Sorry but you'll be hard pressed to find a better opportunity in other places. | /r/seduction | 28/01/24 08:08 PM |
| 14 | What are the best environments to find highly intelligent, witty women?If you're at a university, finding booksmart people is very easy. Ask around who has a scholarship, who's the smartest in what class/study group, who is on the dean's list, who is most likely to become valedictorian etc. and just try to get closer to that person or their friend group. If you want someone whipsmart or with great ability for debate, obviously try debate clubs, university competitions (there's competitions not just for sports, but for IT / hackathons, economics & finance, or there'… | /r/seduction | 28/01/24 07:59 PM |
| 6 | 🥶 approachdamn that's cold bro | /r/seduction | 28/01/24 11:36 AM |
| 2 | How to act after getting the number early in the night.Kisses aren't all that significant either from my experience. More important is to leave a good impression and get her involved in getting to know more of you. | /r/seduction | 28/01/24 11:07 AM |
| 2 | Get zero or negative interest in real life but a ton of interest online - what is going on and how can I change it?Where are you from? Depending on dating culture and social norms, some women perceive social butterflies among men to be more likely to be gay (don't ask me why, I have a pal with the exact situation as yours while in Uni). Another issue is if you are too liberal / close with the girls in your group, with casual touches, hugs etc. That could perhaps signal to them you are either a fuckboy or gay. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure they still are into you. But the hoe factor come in- she doesn't want t… | /r/seduction | 28/01/24 11:02 AM |
| 3 | The most ridiculous game myth debunked "what you say doesn't matter DERP""hey bro I like your shirt, where'd you get it" you will respond VERY differently it depends how he says it "hey, I like your cock, can I touch it?" it depends how he says it | /r/seduction | 28/01/24 10:02 AM |
| 7 | Is it a bad idea to let the girl choose the date?Why are so many other comments doing mind hoops? She is interested, assertive and wants to meet OP at this place. It's perfect. And from personal experience, this type of behavior leads to maintaining her interest longer during early dating. Just make sure you praise her for choosing a nice place at the end of the date. It's in good taste. | /r/seduction | 28/01/24 08:54 AM |
| 1 | Girl called me NiceNice. | /r/seduction | 28/01/24 08:48 AM |
| 5 | Is it okay to verbally ask a girl if she is interested in you, while on a date?You sound like a nice person. I just hope that you aren't being used by people without you gaining anything out of it. And by being used, I don't mean you money - because you obviously aren't lacking there. I mean your time, your attention and good will to listen and help... because those things are RARE and valuable qualities that ALL of us should strive to have. Hope you meet the one that's a fit for you, mate. Cheers! | /r/seduction | 09/01/24 05:52 PM |
| 2 | Girls ask me out regularly... and I hate itMate, chill. Just try to walk us through a couple of possible ways you go through your date and let's see what the issue is. If it's just about the first dates, it's surely fixable. Most likely something you say or HOW you say it must be a little odd. It could also be that your conversations / style doesn't match the vibe you give. Which is why they are confused and walk off. | /r/seduction | 07/01/24 06:40 PM |
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