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OP posted this in twoxc and got an award TRP might be a sham but hypergamy is a problem for women in dating. I work in high finance and it is a very common problem. There are a lot of badass women in their thirties in finance who are single and complain about not having a great guy. The whining has been rather annoying especially the past couple of weeks. Here are three of the most common complaints - Doesn't earn as much as her - very common occurrence given these women earn low-mid six figures…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 04:32 AM
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Kind, nurturing, creative, intelligent, sense of humour, reliable
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 04:40 PM
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The only way she can do that is if she is an entrepreneur or does something creative art type and is very successful Entrepreneurs i would never have married
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 12:54 AM
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I had this option at one point and chose to pass. Zero regrets. Women who would earn more than me would most likely have the same work life balance as I do or even worse given that I work in finance. Two people who arrive late at night exhausted from being "on" all day sounds like a shit recipe for a healthy marriage. What's the use of getting married if you and your wife are bringing the same thing to the table? Marriage is to form a team of individuals who can come together with different stre…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 05:30 PM
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Indians have thousands of different communities. I won't reveal which one I belong to since it's pretty small and I might get doxxed
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 05:35 PM
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In my community, anything over 0 before marriage and you are screwed, whether you are a male or a female
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 07:09 AM
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No. Been married for almost a decade
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 10:00 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 03:31 PM
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I realised it. It started as curiosity, then I started to voice my opinion because I could see people being led astray and I used my example sometimes to illustrate the fact that there are things worth standing up to and fighting for but I have scaled back. People seem to be getting more toxic and I have enough negativity in my life without inviting more. Nevertheless, thank you for the comment kind stranger. Good luck
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 12:45 PM
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Arranged marriage. I am Indian
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 01:50 AM
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I wanted a wife who- Was from the same community Was traditional Had no past relationships Didn't drink, smoke or do drugs Had an artistic passion/hobby Wasn't into social media My wife also had similar expectations from her future husband and we hit it off pretty well. Spent some time "dating" before deciding to get married
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 07:36 PM
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Hope the leg is better
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 05:08 PM
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I had a pretty big laundry list before I got married- No past relationships Teetotaler No smoking No drugs Intelligent Must have own passions and hobbies. A couple of them if same as me would be a bonus Must be okay with taking care of the house since I worked abysmal hours From the same community as me Reasonable spending habits Emotional maturity Rarely uses social media Childfree
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 05:22 PM
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Hiatus. Was busy
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 01:46 PM
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Back
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 01:40 PM
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I have been married for almost 9 years now. You will be surprised at how much thought and care goes into picking a potential partner in arranged marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 06:31 AM
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Lots of arranged marriages are happy and sexually fulfilling. And dating doesn't seem to work out too well does it? Thirdly, divorce is a thing. Why would you be stuck with your spouse? You seem to have some preconceived notions about what arranged marriages are like and your ignorance is tainting your judgement.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 04:45 AM
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Are you sacrificing sexual fulfillment though? A normal married man with a normal wife is going to get laid far more in a year than a man who dates. In addition, the quality of said lays is going to be higher. And saving money was an afterthought which I added in my comment. The main takeaway was it takes out most of the negative aspects of dating and makes life far easier in general. You seem to have missed the point of my comment entirely
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 02:06 PM
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I do not understand how the BB for all translates to this scenario given that the entire premise of AFBB has been removed
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 05:43 AM
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There is no AFBB, no issues about the past of a partner, no flakiness that is inherent in dating. Now that I think about it, it would also save a lot of money. Now the speculation- My extremely under-researched and unbacked-by-sources theory is that a lot of people spend a lot of time chasing after sex and by eliminating this entirely, there is a chance that at least some of those would turn their attention towards issues plaguing the society thereby increasing the pace of progress.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 04:55 AM
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It eliminates a lot of issues that people face in dating provided both genders follow. Plus, I have seen too many brilliant minds fall behind due to dating and it's just a waste. Of course, it might not be a waste to them but it is to me. It's a 'hot take' after all
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 04:11 AM
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Alcohol is a net negative for the society No sex before marriage in a society Colleges should grant admission based on merit alone
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 03:56 AM
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I was a virgin before marriage and so was my wife. She wanted someone with no past and so did I
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 05:54 AM
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That's reasonable. My take is gonna skew your data though. Anything above 0 pre-marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 05:04 AM
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This would vary depending on the person wouldn't it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 04:51 AM
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I will read that. Appreciate the source
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 04:44 AM
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Interesting point of view. I disagree. But then, I don't have a dog in this fight so
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 04:39 AM
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Photos with cats are bad? Hmm. Didn't expect that one
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 04:37 AM
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I don't have true knowledge of the Hindu religion either. It's a very vast subject. I was raised to understand that the principles we were taught were the right way to live. I never questioned if it was for religious reasons or not because they made sense to me. I explained the strengths already. The downside is that you don't get to live with your prospect before marriage - something which is possible in Western dating. So when it comes to living together and sex, you have to judge compatibilit…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 04:31 AM
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I am a Hindu. I didn't say arranged marriage was a superior way of life I said I thought the way arranged marriage was carried out in our community was better than dating in the west. The reason I said this was that a lot of potential pitfalls and points of conflict are avoided. Matches are from the same community and typically family friends or friends of friends -> upbringing is very similar leading to similar views on a lot of important topics. It's also more efficient in that there are no ga…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 04:41 PM
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Damn. Hopefully you find that wfh/remote/desk job soon
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 07:17 AM
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Yeah. I think there's a lot of schadenfreude going around
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 07:17 AM
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Orthodox - I was raised in a pretty old fashioned Indian way - the men don't complain, they get things done - studies first then career then marriage, no drinking, smoking, drugs - that kind of way My belief system is a mix of the above teachings and stuff I have observed through the years. It's a mix of traditional and modern values.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 02:42 AM
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? I have never shared photos of myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 03:47 PM
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Yikes
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:39 PM
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There is a lot of schadenfreude going around I think
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:37 PM
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As good a reason as any
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:37 PM
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That's not good. Hope it gets better Edit: pain isn't good. Medicine helping is good.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:36 PM
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The whole premise falls apart though because my wife and I married each other as virgins
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:34 PM
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It was a weird conversation. The hilarious thing was that both of them asked me how much I rated myself out of 10. How does one even do that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:33 PM
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Probably. He said he was 21 and degree in English Honors
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:31 PM
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How would I know? Isn't beta the guy who a woman settles for so he can provide after sleeping around with Chad?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:30 PM
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One male, one I dunno
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:28 PM
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Nope
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:28 PM
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I have had two different people in the past two weeks to through my comment history and try and dm me to convince me that I am a "beta" and my wife settled for me. How do people have so much time?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:27 PM
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Godspeed and good luck to you too
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 05:56 AM
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Your Indian coworker seems to be a moron. From my understanding, inbreeding happens within families and people related by blood. People of the same caste aren't blood related. In my community for eg - even marriage among distant cousins isn't allowed let alone inbreeding There might be some communities who do that, I do not know. India has millions of communities. Who knows what they all are doing? Communities are different from castes. Caste is a pretty nuanced topic and I have a pretty good id…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 05:55 AM
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No you aren't forced to pick. You can stay single. In the second case, they might relax criteria, start looking outside the community etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 05:45 AM
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From what I understand of TRP, it advocates promiscuity in men. That to me is a flaw. The second flaw is that if you want a wife who doesn't have a high n count, then she is going to have higher standards than the average woman and you aren't going to meet them. Women like studs is a generalization - maybe it's true for the dating market but it isn't true for marriage. And thirdly, it paints a rather pessimistic view of what women are like and in my experience a lot of women are great individual…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 05:37 AM
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Not quite. My community is pretty strict and orthodox, premarital relationships, dating, drinking, smoking are not allowed. You can do them, but it's a tight knit community where everyone knows everyone and you cannot marry within the community because people will refuse to marry you. So when the time comes to get married, the parents simply present available options. Then you choose to connect with someone, have conversations, decide if it's worth moving forward or if it won't work out. So it i…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 05:28 AM
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I believe that the arranged marriage in the way it was done in my community is superior. But arranged marriage is done differently by different communities and a lot of them are terrible - forced marriages, dowry, no time to get to know each other etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 05:07 AM
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How's the leg
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 05:03 AM
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I am going to paste my answer to a similar question asked before. Why am I on this sub? I am Indian and was raised in a very conservative orthodox household and community. I have been happily married for eight years - I met and married my wife through arranged marriage as is the norm in my community. I was quite blissfully ignorant of the whole dating market scene inspite of having lived in New York for the past few years . Then my wife and I took part in the search for a partner for one of my w…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 04:59 AM
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The top comment says that when you realise you left a good thing just to be with a sexier woman and you will realise how good you had it when she treats you the same, you will regret this. Isn't this nice guy logic? Guys say something similar don't they? "You left me for the good looking asshole etc." Me thinks there is some hypocrisy here
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 04:54 AM
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Tip: Let go or be dragged - old zen proverb.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 02:40 PM
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Love it when my wife wears earrings. Also, thigh gap
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 02:41 AM
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Tip: No screen time an hour before bed
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 02:25 PM
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A job with less pressure often pays lesser though. I know many single men and women make food for themselves after arriving home tired - I was one of those. Isn't marrying a person that lets the couple as a unit deal with the world better as a team a better way than reducing your earning potential?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 01:42 PM
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But what's the problem if I married a woman who wanted to stay at home? My wife wanted to follow her passion and be a freelancer. I didn't force a career woman to give up her career and marry me. I married someone who willingly told me that I would have to take care of the finances and she would take care of the house and follow her passion.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 01:38 PM
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Responses are interesting. When I got married, I didn't want a wife who was career oriented. There were a few reasons for this: A) I earned a decent amount and was going to increase my income by a substantial amount in the coming years (back then I was 26) B) I worked in consulting back then and was going to pivot to finance which has even more terrible working hours. Finance also pays pretty well which means that I didn't need a second income C) One of the things I had noticed with career orien…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 12:00 PM
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Tip: Meditate
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 05:35 PM
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I meant in life in general. You can save yourself a lot of trouble just by saying no
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 03:43 PM
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Tip: Say no more often
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 03:07 PM
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You do realise that this registry if implemented is basically a list of women shit men will rape because 'they have lied before'
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 02:45 PM
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Tip: run a comb through your hair. It's good for circulation and makes the roots stronger
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 08:02 AM
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Tip: brush your teeth twice a day
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 04:19 AM
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Grandma
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 02:40 AM
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Showering/bathing once a day is healthy. That's the point
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 07:02 PM
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The replies on that threesome thread gave me a headache. So much gaslighting holy shit
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 07:01 PM
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Oh right. I always forget this distinction between shower and a bath. I meant just wash yourself everyday. I will edit the original
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 04:02 AM
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Tip: Take a bath everyday Bath- Bathtub/shower doesn't matter just wash yourself everyday
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 03:35 AM
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If I remember correctly, I think circle is a special kind of ellipse where you maximize the area. So my theory is that commercial toilets are oblong to save on materials and space since for the same perimeter the area would be less
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 04:09 PM
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Height spurts occur any random time though don't they? I was 5 feet at 15. Grew eight inches in one year
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 10:24 AM
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Tip: Stretch after getting up in the morning
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 08:18 AM
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There are a lot of people really cynical about marriage in this thread
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 04:53 AM
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The first point is wrong. If you as an individual have the desired skills and a resume to back them up, it doesn't matter what the fuck the employer thinks, you can leave always, especially with the job market being the way it is. I believe that you should give an interview or two once every six months. Just to know your market value. In addition, married people often have a very legitimate excuse they can give to not stay late/work ridiculous hours etc. Single people are more likely to be left …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 04:47 AM
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She wont learn how to invest. I have tried a few times, but she says it's boring and just tells me to do it for her since "that's your job anyway" (it isn't)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 04:37 AM
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I guess this differs from couple to couple and the libido of the people involved. But the advantage of being married without kids is that if both you and your wife have a decent libido then the opportunities are endless
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 04:35 AM
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Acid reflux, indigestion, heartburn and other assorted gastric problems
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 05:38 PM
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Not feasible for everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 02:18 PM
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Tip: You should go to bed at least an hour after your dinner.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:24 PM
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Never seen a more appropriate username
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 02:52 PM
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This isn't medical advice. It's just stuff you can do to improve your well-being.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 08:14 AM
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Tip: Walk at least 30 min everyday
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 07:07 AM
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I have posted a link below
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 03:19 PM
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https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/foot-massage-the-pause-that-refreshes-and-it-good-for-you
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 11:53 AM
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Boosts circulation
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 11:14 AM
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Why what? I wrote the reason in the original comment itself
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 10:27 AM
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Tip: Oil and massage your feet before sleeping. Great for health and increases sleep quality
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 09:07 AM
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If you manage to get into high finance, you won't struggle for a job. Ever (this is contingent on the fact that you actually know stuff and did work)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 04:43 AM
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Happy birthday
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 05:29 AM
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I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 04:50 AM
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I had forgotten how great the weather back home was. It's not humid, it's not cold, it's not hot, there is a cool breeze, it's slightly cloudy, birds are chirping, what a day!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 04:50 AM
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So you want a game where the AI isn't stupid? Play Chess. Great game and the AI whoops everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 05:31 AM
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Yup. Matter of luck, where you are born
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 05:29 AM
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Civ VI
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 05:27 AM
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Everyone with options is gonna be picky. Look at candidates who get into all of H/S/W, look at the cream of the crop that has offers from several firms at once, even look at the demands of the most desirable guys when it comes to long-term relationships. When demand is more than the supply, it's a suppliers market and the supplier is gonna take you for a ride.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 06:28 PM
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Wow you actually took the time to search those. That was kind of you
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:16 PM
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Arranged marriages are pretty great if you know what you want and your community knows what it's doing
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:10 PM
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I was hoping that would be a cute puppy or something
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:06 PM
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That was a good read
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 02:32 PM
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I have decided I like ties
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 09:44 AM
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I agree with you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:06 AM
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Yes. My wife loves to watch me tie one. I worked in finance so I wore a tie almost every single day but since I left I haven't worn it. Today I have a meeting, had to wear a tie and she is really happy. Never understood why really. She says it's the fingers and the dexterity
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 07:09 AM
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What's so fascinating about watching someone tie a tie
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 07:06 AM
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A good major to have in today's world. Good luck
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 04:09 PM
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There is a very famous bollywood song called "Thukra ke mera pyaar" that is basically the epitome of this
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 01:39 PM
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Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 01:29 PM
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In my community, premarital sex is frowned upon. Irrespective of gender. There is a pretty good chance you won't get married to someone from the community if you have had a prior relationship. This means both men and women are virgins when they marry. Pretty much eliminates the AFBB dynamic to a large extent
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 07:13 AM
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Good luck
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 06:46 AM
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Fuck no. I knew I wanted to marry my now wife barely half an hour into the meeting.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 06:43 AM
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If you already do most of these, you are on a good track. What's your domain of interest?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 06:28 AM
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That's how it began for me too and the next thing you know it's your seventh anniversary
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 06:26 AM
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Maintain your GPA as high as you can. You never know Internships help. Certifications not so much. But if you have certifications, they are a good starting point to lead the interviewer in a direction you want him/her to go Never buckle to peer pressure. Conversational skills - practice talking to people from different walks of life. You should be able to hold a conversation no matter what. This is easier than it sounds. Practice asking thoughtful questions - people love to talk about themselves…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 05:22 AM
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He doesn't like the format. Forces him to prepare for just one candidate for a really long time and also as the reigning champion he can't take part in a lot of tournaments because FIDE made a lot of tournaments into selection tools for the Candidates tournament which then is played to determine the challenger to the championship.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 04:35 PM
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Damn Carlsen backed out. Next Candidates is gonna be fun
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 04:05 PM
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Cheers
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 09:28 AM
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That flair is amazing lmao. It's also what I have been doing the past half an hour
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 09:28 AM
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😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 09:16 AM
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First eh
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 09:11 AM
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This is like scamming scam callers
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 09:08 AM
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The quality is going downhill smh
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 09:01 AM
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😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 08:51 AM
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I have been entertained quite a bit in the past few minutes
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 08:50 AM
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I haven't worked in HR ever but I think that's some kind of violation
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 03:16 PM
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Ah. I always wondered how unmarried people get out of such a situation Edit: terminology
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 03:12 PM
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How did you refuse?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 03:04 PM
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The point is that the men who such women want do not want to wait to get to know them much better - they have options. And the ability to turn off aggressiveness is a real thing - I saw six marriages/engagements fall apart in 3 years, in two cases the wife was on partner track at MBB, in the remaining 4 both husband and wife were in high finance - IB, PE etc. Of course there are factors at play other than just the job, but these jobs are consuming. They suck you in. Society is a lot more forgivi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 12:52 PM
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They are different. The men who are unmarried - they have a lot of options and opt for only casual relationships, are engaged to their nth wife (I don't know what this is but I have seen multiple men get engaged multiple times and then have it go to shit / others who get married, divorced, meet someone and repeat the cycle.) Those who are married were taken long ago. Women - most of them do not want to be single. I have heard too many date stories - many of them sound like horror stories and oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 11:39 AM
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I had made the below comment on a thread related to this topic - 'if successful women intimidate men'. I think much of this comment is also relevant here "I have an observation to make here. I work in high finance - (this is relevant). The number of women is much less than the number of men. At my level and above me, the difference is even more. The men who are unmarried and above me are a) committed to bachelor life and career b) engaged to second/third/nth wife c) married for several years The…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 08:59 AM
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That's because they are old. Look at Musk for eg. Money can turn your looks from average to above average
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 02:23 PM
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Money can buy looks and status can it not?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 01:31 PM
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As a virgin who also married a virgin, I am curious about what she said about intimacy changing. What changed? My wife and I took time to get comfortable with each other, lot of flirting, lot of touching, lot of conversations, lot of communication.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 12:36 PM
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Makes sense. It is the opposite for me since I grew up in an orthodox community
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:35 PM
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Really? Never?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:13 PM
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A basic knowledge of what is happening in the political landscape will help you make money though
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:11 PM
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That's a good name for a cat
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 12:09 PM
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Oh yeah Brandon Sanderson is awesome. It's why I took a chance on Stormlight Archive even though it's unfinished. GRRM on the other hand, I have been waiting for Winds of Winter for the past eight years
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 07:42 AM
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Yess. Brilliant series
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 07:15 PM
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He used to. But he got killed by Odium
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:04 PM
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Traditional women are the best. I must admit I am biased because I am married to one
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:02 PM
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Books are the best
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:36 AM
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Oh yeah. I have had HRs tell me before interviews that they need x number of female candidates.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 06:42 AM
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I pity that guy
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 04:39 PM
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Russell Peters
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 04:37 PM
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1 - 35
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 07:06 AM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 06:22 AM
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I really admire people who create stuff. Novels, games, art, music, sculptures anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 05:16 PM
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Well the result is a net positive for the society although the article seems to be bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 07:03 PM
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You want to be a 10/10 to your spouse. Being a 10/10 to the society at large is impossible - also those kinds of 10s are born, not made
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 05:53 AM
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The disparity thread was an interesting read although I disagree with some of the conclusions put forth
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 05:47 AM
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This is the way
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 12:24 PM
1

Damn. I hope you find a job that isn't demanding physically. Your winter and spring sound tough. Good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 12:05 PM
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This message reminded me that I left my job a couple of weeks ago and life has been so much better since. Otherwise my answer would have been - spent the day on zoom/excel/powerpoint/pointing out mistakes in models made by associates. Now the answer is - I read Words of Radiance
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 04:37 AM
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Awesome game
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 11:44 AM
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Civ VI?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 10:57 AM
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I can't even imagine what it would be like to marry a woman who thought you were the 'best consolation prize' wtf. I would have stayed single or walked out if I found out
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 07:42 AM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 04:59 PM
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Neither of those is a high value man
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 10:41 AM
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I am going to answer the last question first since that would explain the answers to the rest of the questions better. Why am I on this sub? I am Indian and was raised in a very conservative orthodox household and community. I have been happily married for eight years - I met and married my wife through arranged marriage as is the norm in my community. I was quite blissfully ignorant of the whole dating market scene inspite of having lived in New York for the past few years . Then my wife and I …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 03:31 PM
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What is this bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 07:45 AM
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What possesses a man -> idiocy. I can think of no other reason
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 07:30 PM
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Yup. My wife. She has a very high value man.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 05:06 PM
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I have been home for a week and it's been fascinating to study my wife's schedule and find out just how much I get in the way
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 06:18 PM
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Anyone watching the Candidates?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 02:17 PM
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It's feels good to have no work although I suspect this feeling is going to get pretty old in a couple of weeks
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 05:57 PM
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Cook, take care of the house, decorations, can't reach tall shelves / open tightly closed jars so asks me to help, holds onto my arm when we go out, dresses in a traditional manner
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 05:36 PM
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Is your name a reference to Maslow's Hierarchy of needs?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 04:00 AM
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You don't know finance then
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 06:32 PM
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Lmao. I also wanted to be a data scientist a few years ago. But ultimately I decided to sell my soul to the devil called investment banking
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 05:51 PM
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Finance without statistics is just poor guesswork
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 04:15 PM
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Statistical Inference by Casella and Berger. Then take a look at the data on relationships, marriages etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 04:13 PM
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Abstaining till marriage is also extremely predominant in my community. But here premarital sex is considered less of being a sin and more of being a hoe.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 04:01 PM
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What exactly is this purity culture that keeps popping up? So people think that if a person has sex before marriage it makes them impure?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 03:23 PM
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Finally. Weekend.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 02:00 PM
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It would be a dealbreaker if my wife did that
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 04:26 AM
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There's a thread title I saw about money - no time to read it but here's the deal - money absolutely affects your desirability. Directly and indirectly
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 05:25 PM
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Incredible soundtrack
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 08:51 PM
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Not gender specific
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 07:36 PM
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I would like to understand the point of your question - what do you expect the answer is going to be?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 07:35 PM
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In your hypothetical, if that guy is Indian, he would have been married already.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 07:32 PM
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Don't think so. A lot of them are too obsessed with social status or are prestige whores. Many come from rich families and have social circles of peers from similarly rich families. They date, hang around and marry in those circles largely There will be exceptions probably
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 07:11 PM
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Agreed. But a well fitting $10000 suit still looks a lot better than a well-fitting $1000 dollar suit
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 06:49 PM
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Life is good Hobbies No - my wife and I aren't the travelling type although we do on occasion
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 01:18 PM
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I agree with this. Life is too short to compromise and the person you are marrying should be the cherry on top so to speak, if your life is at 50% and you are trying to make it complete by marrying/relationships then that's gonna lead to trouble.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 01:12 PM
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If you wear an expensive, well-fitting suit, you will get treated better and receive much more positive attention from everyone, not just women. Because that suit portrays status. People's behaviour changes noticeably
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 01:09 PM
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Yes. Childfree
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 07:57 AM
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I think a high IQ is somewhat detrimental to happiness Very important for success
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 06:37 PM
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Fuck you too
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 04:22 PM
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End this fucking day already
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 03:50 PM
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I have an observation to make here. I work in high finance - (this is relevant). The number of women is much less than the number of men. At my level and above me, the difference is even more. The men who are unmarried and above me are a) committed to bachelor life and career b) engaged to second/third/nth wife c) married for several years The women who I work with/are above me in the hierarchy are extremely good at what they do - they have to be because of how male dominant finance is. They are…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 04:22 PM
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Love me some me
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 02:58 PM
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INTJ
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 02:56 PM
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Someone gets it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 02:55 PM
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Taurus sun, Aquarius moon, Virgo rising Not a clue what this means
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 02:54 PM
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I have got passive aggressive replies even after 8 years of being married
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 02:47 PM
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Exactly. There is a reason why consultants are given extensive training about interviewing clients and client interaction - it's not all about extraction of information in an efficient manner it's also because most upper management folks are quite averse to an outside perspective and dig in their heels/refuse to co-operate/feel threatened
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 11:57 AM
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Not a lot of people realise this. You will find a lot of men especially those who work in high pressure industries and take critical decisions on a day-to-day basis have this streak of narcissism as well as conviction about the soundness of their decision-making. They don't want outside opinion and are averse/resistant to it. They often describe their ideal woman as "pleasant to be around" which can be translated to "not argumentative, let's me pull the shots with minimal questioning, I don't ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 11:49 AM
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It was an anecdote. What do you want me to say?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 11:39 AM
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Hard agree
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 10:15 AM
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Just needs a sprinkle of self-respect and a spine
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 10:15 AM
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When I was in the arranged marriage scene, I had made a structured process that I would follow to understand compatibility etc. Questions to ask, things to observe and so on. The first time I met my now wife was for a couple of hours and I did not remember a single thing of what I had prepared nor did I manage to observe a lot. Knew within half an hour of conversation that I wanted to marry her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 07:02 PM
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Someone who gives up without a fight / no self-respect
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 05:47 PM
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Not a field I thought I would see Game theory applied to. GG
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 03:16 PM
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Both :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 03:14 PM
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87,0,50
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 05:42 PM
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Happens both ways. Unfortunately there are cases where the woman gets married off But I am talking about the cases where both the man and the woman are voluntarily in the arranged marriage process. Salary is a criteria that has to be declared upfront on marriage portals nowadays
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 04:32 PM
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Not exactly betabucks but women marrying men for status/money is a legitimate thing in India
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 03:36 PM
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Product of circumstances
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 04:53 AM
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Gonna be a looooong day
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 12:24 PM
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None. I don't share
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 12:06 PM
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1
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 04:36 AM
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I agree with this. Taking care of the house is a shit ton of work
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 08:53 PM
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I understand your point and it is a good one Edit: Never really thought about it that way
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 03:14 PM
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Fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 02:44 PM
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A fair point but I feel in the context of this post - they are talking about love and marriage,not dating. I can understand the safety aspect when dating but if you are debating whether to marry someone, then by that point you should have established that this is a man who isn't likely to kill me. My reasoning isn't perfect either btw. My point of view also comes from a place of fault -> I was raised on competition. I don't really know any other way. Being a fallback option, safe choice, even be…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 02:43 PM
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Nope
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 02:33 PM
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It started along the lines of 'Does love give you butterflies ..' and a couple of lines after that
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 12:33 PM
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I don't have a link. My wife came across it and showed it to me. It was a twox subreddit - not sure which one
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 12:25 PM
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I agree. The comments were quite a surprise to us really. Almost every comment said they would choose the guy they felt safe with. They wouldn't be in a relationship with the guy they felt butterflies with - those are for fun apparently. I must admit I didn't expect that. My wife didn't either. We had an interesting debate about it. Her logic was that if your partner doesnt feel excited by you then it is unacceptable - romance comes from that spark of attraction. My reasoning was different but I…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 12:17 PM
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My wife showed me a post on some twox subreddit where the debate was that would you marry someone who you felt safe with or would you marry the one you felt excited to be with. It was interesting to read the responses
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 12:10 PM
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No double standards. It's uncool for everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 07:39 PM
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That hit home. I don't think I was a prodigy but I definitely was/am unhealthily competitive. Not in a sore loser way but in a I never want to be perceived as second best kind of way. Works wonders for your academics and does a number on your mental health
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 07:34 PM
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Location differences and opinions on body count are always interesting. In India, there are still many communities where zero is the norm before marriage. Here in the west, body count of zero before marriage is an outlier of sorts in majority of the areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 04:27 PM
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A) this alpha male stuff whatever I have seen so far seems to be utter bullshit B) alpha males are characterized by behaviour, not by physical attributes. So a tall, muscular man may not be one.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 03:30 PM
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Any man who has decent self-esteem is going to stay true to his standards and not 'take whatever little options are available'. Mainly because such men are often very comfortable staying alone and enjoy their own company
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 03:24 PM
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In majority of the cases, the high paying jobs also are the ones that take up the most time
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 04:09 AM
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Finance - pretty male dominated
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 03:55 AM
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Wait, Indian males perform the worst on dating sites in US?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 10:36 AM
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I did not understand your comment. As in I have no idea what you are talking about and how it relates to the comment I made. Can you elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 04:00 AM
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To a smooth surgery, a quick recovery and a happy and healthy life for you two ahead 🥂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 06:09 PM
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Thats awesome. Hope she recovers soon
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 05:26 PM
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I agree with what you have written. That struggling artist is not contributing anything and just being a burden. Before marriage, my wife and I hashed out how our married life would work - she wanted to stay at home at try her hand at freelance. She graduated from a top design college. She was willing to do the majority of the housework in return for a traditional husband who would earn enough and would do a little housework. After coming to the US, my hours have gotten worse due to job sector (…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 05:20 PM
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Housework division is based on hours worked not income. I work absolutely ridiculous hours while my wife is a freelancer. She does majority of the housework and I contribute whenever I can, especially weekends
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 02:24 PM
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Thankfully, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 01:40 PM
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My wife showed me that sub and it's a dumpster fire
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 04:33 AM
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We enjoy each other's company
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 05:13 PM
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Is a woman qualified as traditional if she wants to be childfree? My wife meets the criteria of a "traditional woman" so to speak and she wanted a traditional husband as well. The only different thing is that we don't want children
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 04:59 PM
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Never played it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 07:50 AM
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Civ VI for the win
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 04:29 AM
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Pissing fire has more utility purely because I piss more times than I shit. Plus I can aim
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 05:55 PM
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I saw a lot of profiles while in the arranged marriage scene where because the woman had other good qualities (read qualities which parents/friends found desirable), they asked me to give it a go
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 07:02 PM
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Anyone who places the opinion of someone else about themselves higher in importance than their own opinion of themselves is going to have a lot of trouble. Edit: grammar
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 04:07 PM
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That guy seems like a douchebag
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 04:05 PM
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Nope
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 04:01 PM
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Sansa Ramsay marriage was the beginning of the fall wasn't it In the books Petyr is the lord of the Vale, sitting at the top of the Eyrie which has never been taken. He does have a lot more ambition but also a lot of patience and planning. Sansa is one of the key pieces in his ambitions while the rest of the continent has no idea where Sansa has gone off to. She is posing as his bastard daughter Alayne. He is going to marry her to the heir of the Vale -> i.e after he gets rid of Robert who is al…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 02:07 PM
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I disagree. Petyr Baelish in the books is not moronic enough to give Sansa to Ramsay Bolton. So that and everything after is just terrible because it is inconsistent with a character you have shown to be five steps ahead of others at the beginning. A Feast for Crows really highlights how ingeniously he has maneuvered himself into a fantastic position. The Vale has never been taken. He controls the entire Vale right now. Sansa isn't even known to everyone in the Vale. They think she is his bastar…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 05:21 PM
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Exactly. The show really pissed me off especially the way they handled Petyr Baelish. Took one of the best antagonists written and turned him into a blithering idiot
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 03:36 PM
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Nah. Cersei cheats on him. It's why he doesn't return from Riverrun
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 03:35 PM
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Hell no
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 12:37 PM
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I doubt it's always so black and white. What happens when the society thinks a woman married down but the woman thinks she is marrying up?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 07:28 PM
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Arranged marriage. There is a period before engagement where you get to know each other to determine whether you are compatible or not, it is similar to dating but not quite. Also buy her?! Quite an assumption, that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 07:06 PM
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I have never 'dated' a woman much less one in her 30s. I am married to a woman though
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 06:28 PM
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I did. I had actually made a list (a pretty long one) of what I wanted my wife to be like. After the first meeting, I all but threw it out the window.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 02:49 PM
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6'3 seems to be the common denominator. My friend has no tattoos (that are visible or that I know of) We work in finance so those are frowned upon a bit. Dunno about steroids
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 02:47 PM
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'Let the child be born and then kill it' seems like a solution from what I have read on this sub about abortion and child support. No abortion, no child support, everybody happy /s
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 02:44 PM
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Different strokes for different folks
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 02:39 PM
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He dates 21-26 because that was the age range of women who rejected him when he tried to date in his twenties. I know that mindset pretty well - I possess it myself but not in romantic life, in education. This revenge gotcha/ I will show them is a great motivator but it's obsessive and not fulfilling.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 03:49 AM
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Life in general
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 04:17 PM
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Yeah of course there are. His filters are set to 21-26. He is 36 and refuses to go older than 26. He spent his twenties being rejected because of his weight so now this is his way of enjoying himself. Definitely not a very healthy mindset
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 01:07 PM
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I don't think this is true for many men. Many men don't grow into their frames properly until mid twenties.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 08:07 AM
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Oh it wasn't overnight. He worked pretty hard to get in shape and his discipline is commendable. We work terrible hours but he never misses the gym. I don't think he is dead inside though. He didn't date throughout his twenties due to his weight. So he is enjoying himself now
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 07:32 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 04:21 AM
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I have been married for 8 years
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 04:07 AM
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Didn't look. But from what he told me, they run the gamut - from women inviting him over for dinner to threesome invitations
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 03:58 AM
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I see. Username, high horse - fine. What the hell is wrong with proper grammar?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 03:57 AM
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What about me sounds boring to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 03:29 AM
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I have a colleague who is a pretty good friend. 6'3 and muscular. Works out and goes to office. No other hobbies. Works in high finance so not much time either. He was very overweight throughout his twenties and got into working out in late twenties. Very cynical by nature. He showed me his tinder profile once. Hundreds of matches, and his filters were 21-26. Why I mention him is this is what the average man in dating is competing with. I agree with your view about it being inherently humiliatin…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 07:33 PM
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That is not an incentive to max out your potential. Quite the opposite. Why would you want someone who is with you because you have resources? Marriage is about building a life together. One good way of vetting that your wife won't leave you if you lose your money is to make sure she isn't with you just for the money. I put down less salary than what actually was when I signed up for arranged marriage for this very reason. Salary is a very popular filter. That way I avoided everyone who I wouldn…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 06:58 PM
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LBOs
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 05:48 AM
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I would leave
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:01 AM
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I typed up a long theory in response to a post that I later realised was marked as a Q4W so here goes nothing - Let's assume that you want to enter the dating pool as a man. Should you? There's a framework in consulting that is used to decide whether a company should enter a new market or not. It is called Porter's five forces. Traditionally, the forces are bargaining power of suppliers, bargaining power of buyers, threat of new entrants (barriers to entry), industry rivalry and threat of substi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 05:02 PM
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Dating market seems to get worse for average men every day it seems
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 04:06 PM
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Fun to watch
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 03:54 PM
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You don't know serial monogamists then. You just know morons who can't commit because they don't know what they want
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 03:29 PM
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Ties in with my theory that lots of people are pieces of shit
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 05:57 PM
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If the only thing that's keeping a person monogamous is lack of options, then brother that person is a piece of shit
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 01:26 PM
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A person of culture
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 02:00 PM
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Thanks! Is your username a reference to dragon ball z?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 01:56 PM
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I love suits. They make you feel even more competent that you already are.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 01:52 PM
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I am a prestige whore and I don't like it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 03:37 PM
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It does
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 04:43 AM
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Today. Wife liked the sandwiches I made.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 11:46 AM
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I didn't get a chance to. My wife asked me upfront if I had had any prior relationships or been involved with anyone. After that, I simply asked the same question.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 04:11 AM
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I got married in India, yes
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 03:43 AM
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My wife and I moved to the next stage of the arranged marriage process only after confirming that neither of us had a past. She asked me during our second meeting
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 10:02 AM
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Your coworker is a moron.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 09:56 AM
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I love my wife
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 05:59 PM
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Having a possessive partner is awesome. Of course not psychotically possessive but possessive within reason
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 10:57 AM
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I became fascinated by the gender dynamics while we were searching for a groom for one of my wife's relatives. Went down quite a rabbit hole and here we are
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 10:27 AM
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I am not one because I dislike labels. They put you in a box. I like to think for myself and form my own opinions and principles about the society based on my observations and experiences
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 10:11 AM
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In my community, anything > 0 and you are labelled as a moral-less degenerate
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 06:23 AM
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Saturday nights are awesome
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 04:35 AM
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Logical men are logical enough to understand emotions are an integral part of life and loving someone is normal and healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 07:21 AM
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I would be annoyed too. Especially if starting the anime was what he was very much into - more so than you. It is not about him remaining spoiler free it's about you not being able to get the most from the show. My wife and I watch One Piece together. I had already watched all episodes that had aired and she agreed just because she saw I really enjoyed it and I had said that if she wanted to I would be happy to re-watch with her. It's an awesome feeling that is hard to describe - I love it so mu…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 02:10 PM
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Oh yeah. Plenty of challenging projects many a times
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 09:04 PM
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Today's been full of unproductive meetings
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 07:41 PM
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My wife and I had a conversation pretty early on about what was and wasn't okay and basically the outcome was we share nothing about our sex life with acquaintances/friends
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 12:13 PM
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New York has a problem with too many women competing for relatively few men. One of my colleagues and a good friend is very popular among women. I have been to bars with him - it's quite unreal how many women throw themselves at him. Guy showed me his tinder once - he had over 700 likes and hundreds of messages
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 12:08 PM
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Maybe they think that since they found you attractive all women would. It's a weird thing I have noticed - I have a wedding ring. Sometimes when I get hit on, the tone almost feels as if they have already seen it yet decided to approach anyway. A couple of women just shrugged like a 'so what' when I pointed it out to them. Maybe it's a subconscious thing of 'she finds him desirable, he must be desirable' and vice versa - I find him desirable, so would she
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 01:28 PM
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Oh. Ah yes, you would definitely have to adjust your priorities a bit and devote time to your career accordingly if a thriving love life is what you want
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 01:03 PM
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I suppose this is true somewhat in the western dating world. I feel that if the introverted/shy man in question is indeed desirable then he would be approached by women. Whether women approach a man or not is not necessarily dependent on their SMV is it? It is dependent on their personality. Extrovert and friendly women would definitely make a move I feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 01:01 PM
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How would you remain in the same spot if you focus and prioritise your career? You would grow unless you are in a completely dead-end job
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 12:55 PM
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I feel sorry for that guy
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 12:49 PM
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Drown in spreadsheets
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 07:41 AM
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Fair enough. Many could come to regret the fact that they spent their time playing video games instead of doing something that could add more value to their life. That imo is a poor mentality to have - don't take decisions you don't will regret later. However, how much of that regret is because other people who didn't waste their time playing video games are ahead of them and how much of it is genuine remorse for not having done something to 'add to their identity' so to speak? As for the second…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 07:28 AM
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I see. I get what you are saying but I think wasting time doing something that adds no value to your life but is something you want to do is infinitely better than doing something you don't want to do but which other people would find impressive
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 07:20 AM
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There is a saying - Time you enjoy wasting isn't wasted. Why would these men look back and regret something that made them happy? Life is way too short as it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 07:17 AM
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They absolutely should. But it's their choice isn't it? What to you is wasting time might be the precious two hours to them that they need in order to keep their sanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 07:09 AM
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Hobbies are meant to be enjoyment right? Not all hobbies have to have a positive outcome on the development of the individual. Some hobbies are purely for entertainment purposes
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 07:04 AM
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All I have to say is that I am glad that 'cuck culture' wasn't prevalent when I got married.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 07:01 AM
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I work in PE - everything is straining, always
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 11:05 AM
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Awesome. Friday night's sleep hits different
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 11:02 AM
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:(
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 11:00 AM
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Nope. And I am a teetotaller to boot
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 09:03 AM
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We aren't competitive to impress other men. Most competitive people I know, including myself love the feeling of winning/ accomplishment/ being better at something than most others. It also is a good way to test your own ceiling- how good can you be? This does have downsides though. The most balanced competitive people I know compete with their past selves and not others
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 08:45 AM
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How is someone laid back and competitive at the same time?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 08:42 AM
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I would kill for a relaxed job
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 08:37 AM
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What a week goddamn
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:39 PM
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It's quite common in my community - in the western world though I suppose it is a lot less common. The reasons could be many - my wife was a virgin since she wanted to wait till marriage, many women are religious / raised that way etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 05:22 AM
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I assume you mean incel. I see what you mean but I stand by my opinion nonetheless. The main reason is that my community believes in having one partner for life. Incels from what I understand desire relationships and sex but do not get them. Men from my community are brought up with a different mindset. You cannot be an incel if it is your decision to wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 09:24 AM
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I do not tell people how to live and I keep my opinions to myself. There have been many events in my life which led me to forming the below opinion. Drinking and smoking have no advantage whatsoever, nor does casual sex and the party culture. I regard all of the above as debauchery and anyone who partakes in the above as having poor impulse control.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 04:56 AM
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Reading Drawing Football Chess Podcasts/audiobooks Piano Learning languages
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 04:40 AM
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I did see a few posts referring to what seemed like average men as "scrotes". Seems quite derogatory. I do not think a supposed HVM is going to appreciate having the majority of his gender slandered. About the racism - yeah I noticed it. Hard not to being an Indian.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 04:09 PM
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From what I saw of the subreddit, half of the posts could be argued as being in the realm of reasonable but half are absolute bonkers. I suppose the idea behind the subreddit is correct but it seems that there are a few who inevitably tend to be a bit extreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 10:21 AM
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Ah I see. I will take a look
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 09:06 AM
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Eh?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 09:03 AM
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What exactly is FDS? I have come across this term quite a bit here
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 09:03 AM
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I suppose it doesn't make much sense if you are very wealthy although being married does provide a lot of benefits. In addition, rich people who have actually earned their wealth are usually good at reading people and I doubt they would marry someone who they felt would cheat or divorce them and take their money. And finally, marrying a woman isn't a decision taken just with the brain. Emotions are rarely governed by logic. The best way imo is to marry first and then become rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 05:55 AM
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C6
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 04:26 AM
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I change my opinion. Your flair is not just interesting but awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 12:21 PM
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Your flair is interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 12:10 PM
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Is this sarcasm?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 12:08 PM
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That statement seems to be a generalization
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 05:00 AM
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It's a weird feeling. I would have thought they would need women, not men. All dating apps have far more men than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 04:46 AM
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I got approached by a lady advertising speed dating today. Randomly. Third time that's happened
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 04:23 AM
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But human mating behaviour is different from wolves afaik (I am not familiar with this topic)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 03:54 PM
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TRP is based on the animal kingdom?!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 03:45 PM
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This comment hits the nail on the head
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 08:06 AM
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That was a challenging read - not because of the content but whoever wrote that was clearly absent in a few essential writing classes. As for the article itself, what I got from that is humans should not develop their sexual idealogy based on what happens in the animal kingdom which seems to be common sense but maybe I missed an essential point somewhere
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 07:37 AM
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Poor impulse control is poor impulse control regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 07:05 AM
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I am not well-versed in reddit comments. If your comment is about me, I am 5'9. If your comment isn't about me, my apologies for the narcissism
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 06:44 AM
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I think it would be less of a high-value thing and more of a how much your partner wants you thing. For me, the biggest turn-on is my wife wants me and I want her. And our sex-life is great. I have no need for porn. A man is high-value just because he doesn't watch porn in a relationship? I imagine a 'high-value' man would resort to porn/leave if he felt unsatisfied.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 06:32 AM
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I do not understand your comment. Are you saying I am lying?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 09:18 AM
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I see. And your problem is that I commented on a post that was supposed to appeal to a hardcore traditionalist?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 06:30 AM
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Fair. I am not a fan of casual sex either. I was a virgin when I married as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 06:07 AM
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Ah yes, I recall reading some studies about marriage duration and past partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 05:46 AM
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It's very amusing when people equate virgin with boring, teetotaller with lacking social skills/not being able to have "fun" etc. Labelling anyone not into debauchery as "boring" and "not having a life" is disingenuous imo
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 05:44 AM
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I see. I am glad you aren't like that anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 05:40 AM
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I hope your mindset changes. Nothing wrong with a few of the things OP mentioned, but the overall impression is that of a woman who is almost subservient to the husband. It's good to stand up for yourself lest you get taken advantage of. I married a virgin woman and I would never have married her if she was anything like OP has described. As a man, I want a wife who is capable of thinking for herself and who is willing to challenge and take decisions for herself. Not someone who would blindly fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 05:40 AM
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This question does not seem to be asked in good faith. The first lady seems like a caricature. Either you are assuming what virgin women are like OR you did that on purpose to get the desired response to your question.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 03:42 AM
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I don't think so.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 03:18 AM
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Of course. Traditional women usually have a list of dealbreakers just as long if not more as a traditional man looking for a traditional wife. One of the reasons my wife and I hit it off so well was that we both had a long list of dealbreakers and they were very similar. Which meant that there was a lot in common when it came to our value system. It's a lot easier to open up when you know the other person feels the same way you do. Both of us wanted a partner with no past, non-alcoholic, non-smo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 12:48 PM
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I agree with this 100%. I doubt many men would want to be in a relationship like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 05:14 PM
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This is a pretty insightful comment. My wife and I were married in an arranged marriage setting and the reason talks proceeded further was because I had no past neither did my wife and a partner with a past was a dealbreaker for both of us. Why that was is a matter that would require significant introspection but it is a combination of being raised in orthodox households, the belief in soulmates reinforced by culture / media (both of us are avid readers) and not wanting a partner with poor impul…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 05:11 PM
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At first - nah. It took my wife and I quite a few tries before sex was really fun. The first few times were not ideal though the learning curve was steep
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 04:16 AM
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Less sexual partners means loser? I find that to be an amusing notion. I have had only one partner in my entire life
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 03:05 PM
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Haha
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 03:01 PM
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Haha worry not my friend. Both my wife and I are fascinated by the dynamics that exist between men and women when it comes to dating and marriage. We often stumble across such topics that gain our fancy for a brief period and we discuss and study and research about it before moving on to the next
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 02:22 PM
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I am happily married
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 01:57 PM
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Money, prestige. I meant rich in the sense of someone who has everything he wants and is happy with it. A decent salary I may have but time I do not and while I recognise that I speak from a privileged position, such is the heart. It wants what it wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 01:46 PM
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No one in finance is rich my friend
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 01:42 PM
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Fine effort you have made of it too, as someone who was very recently introduced to the dating dynamics or more accurately the terminology specific to the dating dynamics, there is quite an overwhelming amount of information Edit: grammar
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 01:37 PM
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I hate finance
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 01:33 PM
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What made you realize
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 01:30 PM
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In utopia it would fare well but unfortunately we don't live there
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 01:29 PM
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So do I
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 01:25 PM
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I just stumbled on to this subreddit. Some mighty interesting posts you have here
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 01:19 PM
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