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It may be different in different states, but where I am from, if the child knows you as their father, you're on the hook for 18 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 06:19 PM
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This is definitely not true in the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 06:03 PM
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If a person has sex with a gun to their head, are they having consensual sex? A man going into divorce/family court is being heavily coerced (gun to head metaphorically)to take a bad deal outside of court because of how high legal expenses are and how biased the courts and laws are.
/r/MensRights09/11/23 09:57 AM
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I'm all for more responsibility as long as it comes with an equal amount of rights.
/r/MensRights08/11/23 07:25 PM
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After reading this, I don't see much to be optimistic about. Consider the bottom of the article where it gives "factors a family law attorney should consider to determine if 50/50 is appropriate." "Is this a low-conflict or high-conflict case?" Your ex could easily create the conflict that the judge uses to determine 50/50 isn't in the best interests of the children. The same reasoning goes for... "Can the parents effectively communicate?" "Can transitions from one parent's house to the other pa…
/r/MensRights23/09/23 08:54 AM
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Just ask your friend: Do men have a right to equal custody? Does equal custody negate child support? The answer is no, and that is what discourages men from fighting for custody.
/r/MensRights21/09/23 06:34 PM
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I will let this marinate. Thank you for a nice response.
/r/MensRights03/09/23 10:33 PM
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I think we could both agree that women in poverty should still get support. I don't believe, although admittedly nobody outside of the campaign for Vivek knows for sure, that he is going to go after impoverished parents. I do however believe that there is room to go after family courts, and the laws that enable and incentivize them. Yes, 90% of custody cases are worked out by the parents outside of the courts, but that doesn't mean the courts aren't stacked against men. Let me give you a bad exa…
/r/MensRights01/09/23 11:36 PM
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I believe if men had more options more men would stay. The problem is, many men have only three options. Stay with the mom and try to make it work. This is the best option, but it takes both people working towards a common goal. If one or both partners is toxic, staying together can be difficult and counterproductive. Break things off and go through the system which overwhelmingly favors women. Men are more likely to be alienated from their children, and have to pay child support. Abandon your c…
/r/MensRights01/09/23 10:29 PM
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What he is saying could be interpreted in different ways, so I think you and I are just reading it differently. He could accomplish what he wants without taking away protections for the most vulnerable. This is all speculative though because we don't have details. If he wanted to throw single mothers with no other means of support onto the streets, I would obviously be against that. If however he wants to give fathers the right to be equal parents in the lives of their kids, I'm 100% for that, e…
/r/MensRights25/08/23 07:50 PM
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I'll keep an eye out for him. Thanks
/r/MensRights25/08/23 02:52 AM
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LordWonderful, please give me one reason this makes it difficult to talk about men's issues. Modern marriages pay women to leave. You don't see how that could make a woman take her relationship for granted. A guy I work with was cheated on, lost his house, had to pay child support, alimony, and was forced to sleep at friends houses for months until he could get back on his feet. That isn't a just system.
/r/MensRights25/08/23 02:52 AM
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It IS a men's rights issue. The states make it harder for men to be equal parents, so they can force us to pay child support, so they can then use that child support money to offset welfare. It's called parental alienation.
/r/MensRights25/08/23 02:44 AM
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I actually think women are awesome, and fully capable of making it on their own. I'm a mens rights activist because the system is broken, which actually hurts men and women alike. Consider the "earnings gap." If men could choose to spend more time with their kids, assuming they would spend more time with their kids, they would work less. If they work less that leaves a void in employment. If the average woman who was responsible for child care, except for every other weekend, suddenly is free >1…
/r/MensRights24/08/23 05:39 PM
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No, I think women are taking their relationships for granted, because they know no matter what, someone else will bail them out.
/r/MensRights24/08/23 12:39 PM
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It's possible that some fathers are not exactly the best. It's also true that men pay more taxes, and women on average receive more benefits. It's also true that we have systematic bias against men. Just look at the family courts. Instead of paying single moms, we should empower fathers with equal parental rights. Fathers who exercise those rights should not pay support, and the moms of their children should get jobs to support themselves, not leech off of the government.
/r/MensRights24/08/23 11:35 AM
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For anyone wondering what he said: "We have a federal government that pays single women more not to have a man in the house, than to have a man in the house, contributing to an epidemic of fatherlessness." -Vivek Ramaswamy This is the first time I can remember a political candidate saying something directly related to men's rights and I am glad people are taking notice.
/r/MensRights24/08/23 08:45 AM
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The problem is it's not our right to keep what we've earned. Society needs to change that. The prenuptial agreement is the best tool we have at the moment. Laws vary by state, but generally speaking most pre nups can protect assets acquired before a marriage, but anything accumulated during a marriage is fair game in divorce. Alimony and child support terms can't be outlined by a pre nup either. Personally I would like to see laws on pre nuptial agreements that are more comprehensive. If we coul…
/r/MensRights15/08/23 10:31 AM
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This is sort of untrue. Many times alimony is used as a bargaining chip, so while it may not be paid directly, it still has an effect on how much is being paid.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:30 AM
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The money is used to fund state programs to establish paternity and collect child support. I don't think any of that is inherently bad, but the way it is set up creates an incentive for states to collect as much support as they can, even in cases where it isn't needed. That applies to the legislature as well, who sets up the formulas used to determine how much child support should be paid. States count on this money, and without it, there may be big problems with the budget which could affect th…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 04:33 PM
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That’s preposterous and obviously isn’t happening. Except, that is exactly what is happening. States get federal funding based on how much child support they collect. So they basically extort men under the guise that it is in the best interests of the children. Are you buying all their clothing? All their toiletries? All their food and snacks for school, after school, and for their friends when they come over? Are you paying for all the birthday gifts and cards for their friends and family, for …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 03:19 PM
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Fathers rarely if ever go to court, as I said, most cases are settled by the parents without expense. Fathers simply walk away or agree to be weekend or part time fathers. Legal Aid is available in every state for impoverished people. If you put a gun to my head and I agree to give you my wallet, it doesn't mean I agree, that is essentially what is happening to men. Corrected, I’ll edit my post. The average car payment in the US is $8,600. Seems like non-custodial parents should care more about …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 01:37 PM
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It's not propaganda. Cases are settled out of court because it is way more expensive to settle in court. I believe everything else you posted can be explained by the fact that the current system causes men to walk away. Let's go through the list. Only 22% of fathers living apart from their children see them more than once a week. Because they have no incentives to do so. I am divorced, and in my situation whether I see my kids or not, I pay the same amount in child support. The system is essenti…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 01:01 PM
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I disagree that it is for the purpose of pushing a, "men are wonderful, bias. Men have value to families, but the current incentive structure with regards to family court systems drastically favors women. Therefore "children need fathers" is more of slogan IMO to recenter the incentive system in favor of equality.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 12:38 PM
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Basically someone who isn't fat, and won't get fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 10:41 AM
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I dated a lot of SM's before I met my fiance who doesn't have kids. Effectively yes, serious dating was off the table for me. I have to like the kids which I would say eliminates 70% right off the bat. And there are so many other things to consider too, like how did she treat her ex in divorce? How does she talk about her ex? Why did they separate in the first place? How does she speak to her kids? Does she have debt? How is she going to pay for their college? How does she look? Does she want to…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 11:12 AM
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It's possible that this opinion is not widely embraced, but it certainly appears to be unpopular in this context. Personally, I prefer a partner who is not bound by traditional gender roles. I value a wife who pursues her career alongside me, rather than solely focusing on domestic responsibilities. Moreover, I strongly believe in the existence of toxic masculinity. Some individuals may deny its presence due to the perception that the mainstream media tends to magnify negative aspects related to…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 02:20 PM
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Actually the opposite. I have two older sisters who are very capable people. Both have degrees, both are basically stay at home mom's by choice. I see many different types of people pushing the narrative that women are FORCED into being stay at home mom's, but just within my personal sphere what I see almost 100% of the time are women who choose to stay at home as long as they have a husband who makes good enough money. When people talk about wage gaps, they always subtly hint that women would d…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 05:21 PM
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Allow dads who have equal custody to opt out of paying child support. That is one way we could be nicer to dads.
/r/MensRights27/04/23 09:40 PM
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Go to Medellin if you can. Kill a day and take the tour bus to Guatapé and Piedra del Peñol for $27 which includes lunch. You can find that on the AirBNB app under experiences. It is one of the most beautiful places in the world. Check out the graffiti in Comuna 13 which is totally free. You will find some shoe stores with fake Jordan's nearby if that is your thing. Take the cable cars up a mountain to Parque Arvi. They have a bunch of fruits there you've probably never tried. I recommend a gran…
/r/MensRights25/04/23 11:29 PM
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Ok, that makes more sense. As someone who found a woman overseas and is currently living with her in a western country, all I can say is, I don't think things could have worked out better. There are unavoidable risks if you bring them to your country. I wouldn't blame anyone who decided against what I did. However, if I had to do it all over again, I don't know if I would change anything. If I were in your shoes I would make an online dating account that allowed me to talk to women from all over…
/r/MensRights25/04/23 07:11 PM
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You make $5k-$7k a month online but can't sustain yourself because you will need to find a job in another country?
/r/MensRights25/04/23 06:06 PM
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The problem I have found with a pre nup in my state is that it's powers are extremely limited and open to interpretation. Basically, it's useless.
/r/MensRights16/04/23 01:14 PM
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If someone wants to be a stay at home parent and help the other further their career, the fix could be, do not sign a prenup, sign a prenup that doesn't have wording on alimony and let the state decide what you pay, or decide prior to marriage what type of payment arrangement would work for your specific situation and put it in a prenup. This is more of a thought experiment than anything else but hypothetically what I am trying to protect myself from is a partner who says they want to have a car…
/r/MensRights08/04/23 02:13 PM
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Men should have the right to be equal parents. Men who are equal parents should not have to pay child support. I shouldn't have to raise the standard of living of someone who doesn't want to go out and work for it themselves. There are two caveats to this. The first is that each parent should put an equal amount of money into a shared account for expenses like, sports, school supplies, clothes, camp, and other miscellaneous items. The second is that when it is your day to be with the kids and yo…
/r/MensRights07/04/23 10:06 AM
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I don't think the problem is traditional values vs non traditional values. Personally I am in favor of some non traditional policies, like more women in the workplace, and women's right to choose. I just think that the systems aren't implemented in an equal way. Here are some examples of how they could be improved. Women can choose to have an abortion, but men have no choices. It's popular here and elsewhere on Reddit to simply say, well if women can abort a child, a man should be able to choose…
/r/MensRights10/03/23 10:05 PM
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Ugh, I know. It's all part of the game I guess.
/r/MensRights09/03/23 08:39 PM
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My opinion is that those problems are created by women's own privilege. The courts are stacked against fathers, this causes fathers to leave, creating more single mother households. If men had rights to be equal parents, and didn't have to pay child support if they chose equal time, IMO you'd see better outcomes with children.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 10:50 AM
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Check out these videos to help give them exposure. They are short and do a good job of explaining the bill and why it is a good idea. https://youtu.be/gBMXlHzIJ0I https://youtu.be/bbhiFSx2Jck https://youtu.be/2d5HQ56BLNE https://youtu.be/U3mcRV4eYW4
/r/MensRights09/03/23 09:27 AM
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However this is because women are the primary care givers, they were before the split so it makes complete sense they remain so after the split. If men want to be the primary care giver it shouldn’t take a divorce for that to happen. Do it from day 1, don’t kick up a fuss it’s not ‘fair’ once you split. Ok, I want to be the primary caregiver, and my fictitious wife who just had a baby wants to be the primary caregiver. What do I do if she chooses to stay home? Should we both be the primary careg…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 12:24 PM
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My hypothesis would be that many men would prefer equal custody, but either aren't even offered equal custody or the laws create a steeper set of obstacles to discourage men. A lot of people are in denial about this, but it's true, and it's by design. States get kickbacks from the federal government based on how efficiently they collect child support. One way for states to game the system and appear more efficient is collect money from people who would otherwise be a great equal parent. So in my…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 10:56 AM
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Equal custody should count as child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 08:41 AM
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You should know that even if alimony isn't paid, alimony can be used as leverage to get a higher lump sum of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 08:07 PM
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It's hard for me to say what an individual might do to make things better. I like most women on a personal level. My biggest issues aren't with women, but with the government. Maybe vote for people who believe: That men have just as much rights as women with regards to access to their children after divorce. Who support laws that give men breaks on their child support if they choose to be an equal parent. Who support getting rid of Social Security Title IV D. Who want to abolish alimony. Those a…
/r/MensRights01/03/23 04:03 PM
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It's maybe 100% government/society. The government has made laws that give women more power and less responsibility. Had sex but regretted it later, claim rape. Rape is defined as penetration, so while it is physically possible for a man to feel violated, it is legally much much harder for that man to claim he was raped. Got pregnant but don't want a baby, get an abortion. While the recent supreme court ruling does put some cracks in this, by and large most women can still get an abortion. Howev…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 08:51 PM
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I read once that the divorce rate was lower, like 28%, but I haven't been able to find that information again.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 07:02 PM
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Doesn't seem like it's in the best interests of the children.
/r/MensRights18/02/23 03:41 PM
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Marriage 📉 Dating for men 📈 Dating for women 📉 Birth Rate 📉 Government 😨 Transferring wealth due to divorce and child support 📉 Earnings gap between men and women 📉
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 12:22 PM
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It exists, but isn't ubiquitous, because I am also separated with kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 12:23 AM
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Are you sure, because a lot of people think it exists in the US and it doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 04:18 PM
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I don't like to share that information. But here is an interactive map where you can click on each state and clearly see that many states don't automatically adjust child support payments based on parenting time. https://public.tableau.com/app/profile/nationalparentsorg/viz/NPOChildSupportandSharedParentingReportCard/Dashboard1
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 03:48 AM
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Meaning, I pay the same as I would pay if I only saw my kids every other weekend.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 03:31 AM
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Again, this is a personal squabble. Child support and custody isn’t about who’s wearing whose clothes when. Pay for your kids. Always. Like every other parent should. Figure out the personal on your personal time. This is a weird way of framing what I said. This is just a way of saying how it could work. There is no squabbling involved. Are you suggesting that during the times you don’t have custody you get to just say “Not it!” and go about acting like the child doesn’t exist until you’re on th…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 03:29 AM
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If you have equal custody, you're kicking in by default because you're feeding your child, you're making sure they get to school, you're providing them shelter, etc. For my kids, they come to my house wearing clothes from their mom's, which I send back to her when they return, but for the rest of the week they are with me they are wearing the clothes that I bought them. The rest of the expenses are minimal and could be accounted for easily without child support. For example, medical expenses wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 02:46 AM
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If you have equal custody, you're kind of kicking in by default, right? I personally have equal custody of my kids, and I pay full child support. When my ex asks me to pay for something my first thought is, "where did all the money I gave you go?"
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 02:27 AM
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Would you be in favor of changing the laws to give fathers the ability to be equal parents? If they choose to have equal time with their kids, they don't pay child support. If you're right, they won't choose equal custody, and nothing would change. If I am right, they could choose equal custody and wouldn't have to pay child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 02:09 AM
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More fathers would show up if they had guaranteed equal rights. The deck is stacked, they know it, and that is why they don't show up.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 01:45 AM
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I think we've gone the complete opposite direction and actually incentivized divorce. Personally I am good with splitting assets accumulated during a marriage, but child support should only be for couples who don't want equal custody, and alimony should be removed all together.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 08:10 PM
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If you're a guy and you're interested in keeping as much money as possible, I would say yes. Marriage and children basically are set up to serve the interests of women and to transfer wealth from men to women. This is even true in some circumstances where there is a long term relationship with no marriage and no children. If enough men don't marry, eventually they will raise taxes to pay for more entitlements which will mostly go to women. I mean, it could all work out, but you're looking at abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 06:34 PM
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You're the one name calling. 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 01:34 PM
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It's not imaginary, it means men would be forced to work more to make up that money. Plus physically having your kids costs money, and often you don't get a break in child support, or the break is so minor, it's not worth it. And I'm not finding anything that California has joint custody by default. It says joint custody is preferred, but that's meaningless and I'll tell you why. If someone is afraid they won't get as much child support, they can just lie and say they fell threatened by the othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 09:12 AM
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I think they need both too. But I feel like you're discounting that by incentivizing fathers to stick around the same way we do for mom's, kids will be getting half of their needs met from direct contact with their dads. I think many, if not most dad's would gladly pay for extra curriculars without a second thought given a different set of circumstances also. The system that exists now is extremely unfair, and it creates animosity post divorce. I have equal custody and I am still paying child su…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 09:00 AM
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Fatherlessness is probably all of the above, but in my opinion, if the government is going to treat guys like a paycheck, and often they do, don't expect them to act like anything other than a paycheck. Consider my situation. I am a divorced father with equal custody. I pay full child support. The same amount as the guy who ducked out. So my contribution to my kids is worthless??? This is the mind fuck that many men are going through, and some of them just give up. And the federal government pay…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 12:50 AM
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That's fine. You're telling me how the law is, which I already know. I am telling you how I feel the law should be to combat fatherlessness.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 12:44 AM
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I agree that laws have progressed in favor of equality when it comes to custody, but they can still use child support as a barrier to equal custody. My first point is this, not everywhere has rebuttable presumption of joint custody. Not one state has laws that say if you have equal custody, you don't have to pay child support. And in some cases, you barely get a break. If I get equal custody, and therefore have to spend an extra $5,000 a year and effort taking care of my kids, and on top of that…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 11:56 PM
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Even if it is the default there, I know there isn't a single state where equal custody negates child support. That creates a barrier, mostly for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 11:21 PM
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It's not the default in the US in most states. I don't know where you live.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 11:13 PM
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Show me where equal custody is the default? Show me where equal custody automatically absolves you from paying child support. It doesn't exist. And if it does and Ray Ray didn't want equal custody, he should still have to pay support.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 11:13 PM
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That's not the default though. And "something fishy" could just be that one parent made an accusation against another, and not necessarily with evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 11:09 PM
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How does what you said, change what I said? The point was how do we fix fatherlessness. If there is equal parenting time, each parent would have roughly equal expenses. If the parents want child support based on their ability to earn income, they should agree to that before they get married or have kids in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 11:08 PM
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That is fine if that's what parents want to do, and I suspect many of them would. But I personally wouldn't consider that fatherlessness. Also, does equal custody mean no child support? Because even with equal custody child support can be used as a barrier to custody, IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 10:21 PM
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No, men didn't set up a law that strips them of custody against their will. Politicians set up laws that protect entitlements from becoming insolvent by forcing the working parent to pay for the non working parent. That would create some very unpopular decision making by them, so the transferred the burden onto fathers and the media did the rest to shame them into accepting that role, or else they are a "deadbeat." Also lawyers groups, who support politicians and their members who become politic…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 10:15 PM
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Would you be opposed to changing the laws so that both parents are treated equally, and equal parenting time means no child support? If you're right, and men don't want to be fathers, there would be unequal parenting time, and thus, fathers would still have to pay child support. Essentially nothing would change. If I am right, men could choose to be fathers, and get more parenting time, women could get more free time and use it to work and be more independent.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 09:36 PM
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They agreed under the parameters set by the government. If I limit your options and you agree to the less shitty of those limited options, does that mean you got the outcome you wanted? If someone put a gun to my head and told me I could either get punched in the face, or they pull the trigger, and I choose getting punched in the face, it doesn't mean I wanted to get punched in the face. Does that make sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 09:30 PM
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100% of those agreements are settled under the current laws and are usually settled with legal council. For fathers, the lawyers usually lay out bad and worse options. People take what they can get outside of court given the circumstances. If you change the circumstances as I have outlined above, you will change outcomes. An example. In some states there must be a primary caregiver. Well a father who mostly works isn't going to take that to court if he is smart, because he will probably spend a …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 09:18 PM
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Treat men and women as equals in the eyes of the law. Make equal custody the default ruling, and only deviate if parents agree to something different or one parent is proven to be abusive, addicted, criminal, or something along those lines. Make it so equal custody parents don't pay child support. Fatherlessness solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 08:53 PM
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No, I have felt uncomfortable at the gym well before this current trend. I put my workout on my phone, and sometimes when I open it up it's in landscape mode instead of portrait mode. I noticed when I lift my phone to get it to rotate, it looks like I am taking a quick picture. I have started holding my phone with my hand covering the camera when this happens, but still, I have a fear of an accusation for something that is an innocent mistake.
/r/MensRights08/02/23 08:43 AM
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I care about the socioeconomic status of long term partners because if the relationship doesn't work, I don't want to have to pay them. Ideally we'd live in a world where if things didn't work, nobody would have to pay the other person unless there was proof of wrongdoing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 02:38 AM
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She may not necessarily have the advantage over the man, but she has advantages over being single. If a woman is dating a man who can pay all of her rent, food, gas, and car payment, she can easily leverage all of that to better her situation. The question is, will she, or will she decide to lounge around the house instead? The problem that men have is that when a relationship doesn't work out, the worst is assumed of them, and the best is assumed of the woman with regards to behavior and intent…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 11:40 AM
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I want an educated woman who doesn't rely on me. What I don't want is an educated woman who doesn't rely on me, and then once we are married and have kids decides that she would rather stay home instead of continuing to work, and then years down the road wants a divorce and forces me to pay her. So perhaps red pill men do want the best for their daughters, but they want their daughters to be independent so they don't marry a man, stop working, and make him pay for her lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 09:52 PM
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But men don't want to be responsible to pay for women to leave because they aren't happy. And the data from lesbian, straight, and gay relationships suggests that women, not men, are harder to make happy, therefore are the issue. Here's a fix, allow pre nups that protect from alimony, write laws that make equal custody the default, and make it so equal custody parents don't pay child support. If this was the norm, people would take a step back before getting married and really think about their …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 06:10 PM
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My take, lesbian couples divorce more because they like doing the paperwork.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:25 PM
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A lot of guys get duped into their wives becoming stay at home moms. It's something that happens in many small decisions. For example, after a woman has a baby, her body just went through trauma, she is tired, and they have a baby at home. If that wife asks to stay at home temporarily because she is overwhelmed, a good man is likely to say yes. I would say yes personally. The problem is that temporary often becomes permanent without the consent of the husband because the stay at home lifestyle i…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 01:33 PM
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Sure!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 12:56 PM
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What does that have to do with making mutual decisions in marriage? I guess I don't understand your thought process with this comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 12:54 PM
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Why can't you?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 12:52 PM
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Basically I would put in that I want equal custody, equal decision making with regards to the kids, and no child support or limited child support. I want a partner who works, and I feel like if I could set terms like this I would be more likely to attract a woman who wants to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 12:44 PM
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I understood what you meant, but not as a joke. As someone who has read the law, it's hard for laymen to understand, not to mention a lot of important details aren't spelled out in one specific law, but are scattered across many different laws. I have talked to a lawyer about a prenup, and you get a lot of, "well, yes and no," answers to questions. Having a marriage contract would help to put things in more black and white terms, and it would also make the process of a divorce much cheaper in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 12:34 PM
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Yes, except it would be more personalized to the actual couple getting married. And it would have the added benefit of telling you a lot about your partner before you tie the knot.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 12:16 PM
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In theory, probably, but in the real world people don't fall in love based on socioeconomic status. There are other inequalities outside of money as well. Even if the couple is financially equal, the could be mismatched on looks or skill. An easier way to prevent this would be to have marriage contracts that predetermine what would happen in divorce. Many people think prenuptial agreements do this, but in my state at least, they don't. If I could prevent "divorce rape," alimony, and child suppor…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 12:02 PM
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I think marriage benefits women, and it's by design. There are even barriers if you want to protect yourself. I tried making a pre nup for my second marriage thinking, I am going to do things right this time. The lawyer told me I can't have a separate bank account, avoid alimony, put in a penalty for cheating, require 6 months worth of therapy pre divorce, or include guidelines for a post marriage schedule with potential children. Those are just things off of the top of my head. Basically all it…
/r/MensRights18/01/23 10:56 AM
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Damn, compared to women, men's standards are low.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 09:07 PM
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But my point is what is making these parents irresponsible in the first place? Men who want to be fathers are being turned away because the system is rigged against them. If equal custody was the starting point, and any couple who was awarded equal custody could opt out of having to pay child support, I bet a lot of these dad's who are considered dead beats would have stuck around, leading to better outcomes for their children and society as a whole. Many men don't fight for equal custody becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 03:25 PM
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Alright, before we go throwing stones at dead beat dads, ask yourself, was this person given equal access to the child by default, but chose not to be an equal parent? Also ask yourself, does equal custody, mean they don't owe child support, or that child support is significantly reduced? Do they get an equal say in how the child is raised? There are maybe 5 states in the US where equal custody is the default, and none of those states have laws that say equal custody negates child support. If th…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 11:38 AM
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Instead of a bachelorette tax, get rid of bachelorette incentives. Stop making men pay alimony and only collect child support from men who don't want equal custody.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 10:09 AM
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Because marriage opens men up to a system that will punish them if they divorce. Am I wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 09:42 AM
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I care about family court inequality and divorce inequality.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 11:58 PM
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The $280k figure is over exaggerated. For example, most people have a car, but if you have a child and a car, half of your car cost is now part of the cost of raising a child. There is other fat built into that number, but that is just one example. Another thing, saying that kids are "accustomed to a certain lifestyle" is silly. I was watching a video where an Instagram model named Brittany Renner was arguing that she needs money for her cable because her kids watches Peppa Pig. Kids don't need …
/r/MensRights14/01/23 10:42 PM
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That's interesting. I consider myself open to therapy, but I could also see myself being less open in some cases than a partner. I was married and we did go to therapy at the end, but what always killed me was any time I would ask what is wrong, my then wife would often say, "nothing." Obviously it wasn't nothing, but instead of talking about it at home, we had to sacrifice a morning to go drive somewhere and pay a guy $100 an hour to talk. That might not seem like a big deal for someone who onl…
/r/MensRights14/01/23 12:09 AM
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When I clicked on your link, it said 404 not found.
/r/MensRights13/01/23 10:51 PM
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It's hard to respond when all of the studies are behind a paywall.
/r/MensRights13/01/23 10:47 PM
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I'd like to read the studies, but they are all behind pay walls.
/r/MensRights13/01/23 10:45 PM
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Primarily, I don't think that social security needs to be equal. Secondly, it probably doesn't make economical sense to stay at home, even part time. What I think happens is a lot of stay at home parents do a cost benefit analysis in their heads, and just figure the extra money of working minus the cost of daycare plus the headache of managing all of that means that for a lot of people it's not worth it to work. I can definitely understand that sentiment, but it becomes a problem in a divorce/de…
/r/MensRights13/01/23 03:30 AM
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If repopulation is important, this should be the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 01:34 AM
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