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12

Beat him to it and divorce him first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 11:17 AM
11

I believe most of the OF success stories are written by employees. It is kinda suspicious that they pop out out of nowhere and they always earn a shit ton of money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 12:36 PM
398

Perfect example of how sex “industry” view the “workers”. A collection of body parts to be used.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 05:33 PM
19

I feel the classic “if he wanted to, he would” fits perfectly here. The way I see it, his partner probably discovered some of your messages and he realised his games might cost him his comfortable life. It is possible that the only truth he told you is “we should call it quits.” Regardless of his motives, this is a situation that has not benefited you at all. You deserved to be loved wholly and in person, not in a convoluted emotional affair that goes on and off. I know it hurts, but this pain w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 08:19 AM
313

That’s a long way to spell out “I m bad at sex”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 12:27 PM
3

Im pretty sure you need to cover subreddit and user names to comply with the rules.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 02:09 PM
21

If you’re feeling confusion it’s clear that a an FWB situation with him is not going to suit you. I would recommend breaking it off with him, you don’t need this uncertainty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 05:15 PM
33

Regarding good timing to end a date, I think it depends on whether you are getting to know a completely new person you have barely interacted beforehand with, or whether you have previously been friends/acquaintances/coworkers... To me there is not a set time, it's a bit more case by case basis. ​ I know a girl that's getting to know a guy from OLD, they went on several dates, all of them lasting at least 6 hours, some even TWELVE...yes, half a day just hanging out. Everyone is so happy for her …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 12:48 PM
103

She has an OF account with her boyfriend and I’m wondering if he wanted to pimp her out tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 04:46 PM
171

I’ve been in similar debates and it is ridiculous how some women think there will be a power shift if they shake their ass hard enough in front of men’s faces. Of course they saw women’s “erotic capital” as something empowering. Objectification and commodification of women’s bodies has literally happened al throughout history, when did it apparently become advantageous for women?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 07:55 AM
22

What? Misogyny has nothing to do with sexual orientation, “normal, healthy” homosexual men also don’t go around hating women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 01:15 PM
19

I suppose you are located in the USA, so I cannot provide much help regarding resources. I just want you to know that I care for you and your safety, and that you are not alone. I hope that you can get out of there soon and feel the happiness you so deserve. Stay strong, sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 07:12 AM
15

Abolitionism is about the four axis of female oppression that need to be eliminated to end patriarchy. No relation to how much men are affected. Which feminist author defends that stance?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 08:47 AM
2

If being a piece of meat to look at were empowering, all men would love to be that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 10:56 AM
6

Never, it’s not even possible in my country. I wouldn’t do it if even if I could, the undertones of becoming someone’s property and giving up your identity to join his disgust me, tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 10:53 AM
11

I’m so happy that you’re safe now. All the best to you <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 03:09 PM
18

Imagine putting this passion into writing a cover letter and a resume, instead of into hatred. Homeboy would probably be much busier and healthier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:34 PM
18

“Hey honey, I have no clue about female anatomy, could you undergo major abdominal surgery with a horrible recovery process and a newborn I won’t take care of, so my peepee will be happy??” Jfc, Im so happy she kicked his ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 11:26 AM
7

Agreed, I’ve read quite some misogyny here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 10:51 AM
15

I think it’s a copt out from men (and women who have been cheated on) that disrespect their partners. “Oh men will be men, it’s just our biology, blah blah”. Men can control their actions and if they choose to cheat, it is 100% intentional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 09:28 AM
13

As it often happens when women complain about objectification or discrimination, the dude is (purposefully) starting his argument from a false premise. No one wants to, or is able to, be the thought police. However, if a woman can notice the states so often or for so long that it makes her uncomfortable, it’s not about thoughts anymore, it is about ACTIONS. How is it that bi is lesbian women can see an attractive woman and not make her feel uncomfortable, regardless of what they are thinking, an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 09:47 AM
25

And also, Germany offers “menus” of sex acts with a price, sometimes including hot dogs and beer. For a cheap price you can piss on women (yes, this is on the menu) and get a beer to piss on more. They include things like fisting, shitting on prostitutes or “everything allowed”. Germany is hell on earth for prostitutes and it is living proof of why legalisation does NOT work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 11:03 AM
19

Please read statement by people working with prostitutes in Germany, such as Dr. Ingeborg Kraus, to understand how abismal sex workers’ situation is in Germany. Also, barely any women have registered as prostituyes, but many pimps are now legal businessmen. Most prostitutes are still teenagers from Eastern Europe that have been groomed (or raped) in their hometowns starting at 12 or 13. Amelia Tiganus is a prime example of how this industry works. Edit to add a couple of links: - https://nordicm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 10:59 AM
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I suggest you look at the situation regarding prostitution in Germany or the Netherlands to know why legalising it does not help anyone except pimps. Plus, stating women have the right to sell sex means men have the right to access women’s bodies. And no, they don’t. Women cannot be liberated if a part of us is seen as walking holes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 10:56 AM
22

Yes, that’s very true. That’s why I suppose making sure they see women as independent and whole people since they are little children would help. Once they are teenagers, I think conversations around consent and porn are very important. Disclaimer, I don’t have children, however I have asked myself many times how I would counteract misogyny as a mother. It’s very complicated, the world is full of shit against women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 12:14 PM
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She hates herself and sees herself as a useless dumb person, how sad is that? I really hope she finds self love
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 11:45 AM
63

Depending on how old they are. If they are still children before their teens, I think it would be super positive to make sure they consume media where women are their own characters, with their own life going on. Normalise women having their own stuff without being a man’s love interest, and having their own job, dreams and aspirations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 09:06 AM
366

“Mildly” offended? A dude cannot even bother to save your name because he only care about crossing you off of his fuck bucket list, and the offence is mild??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 01:09 AM
5

Abolitionism is the way to go (decriminalising prostitutes, punishing the rapist clients). Anything other than that reinforces the idea that women can be used and disrespected for money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 04:24 PM
5

Death grip is real. Imagine how much of contempt you must feel for women to say this bullshit during sex, as if it’s the woman’s fault you grab your dick too hard and too often!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 04:23 PM
18

What a beautiful cat! Cats are amazing pets and great companions ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 06:55 AM
36

If he’s not mature enough to naturally handle what comes out of a vagina, he’s not mature enough to stick it in. Period (pun intended).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 09:40 PM
31

None. I want a partner who acknowledges misogyny as a phenomenon, who actively dislike when other men engage in misogynistic talk and who I can have conversations about it with. At some point I thought maybe these standards were too much and I could overlook them. But... nope. Eventually I would automatically lose interest as soon as I detected this bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 09:10 PM
25

“I’m so happy you paid for sex with me, it means YOU care!” said no prostitute ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 09:16 AM
43

Fuck you Mark
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 08:32 AM
55

Just as when discussing porn addiction, this comparison starts with a false premise. Looking, as is using the sense of sight, and consuming certain type of content is not the same. Is it realistic to think that a partner (men or woman, regardless of sexual orientation) will never look at another person sexually? I don’t think so. We all go out, see people, watch movies, see ads... at some point we will all think a person is hot. That’s okay and that’s what “looking at other attractive people is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 01:08 PM
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From the article: Red pill: neg women to make them insecure and more vulnerable to advances. FDS: invest on yourself, be comfortable with being single and then make sure a potential partner is compatible with you and worth your time. How can these two be compared? People may not agree with all FDS principles for many reason, but they are not in any way, shape or form, made to manipulate anyone. How is women having standards, however high, compared to men purposefully making women feel insecure s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 09:24 AM
55

Would you passionately make out with me for a drink, m’lady? tips fedora They want to be seduction masters with their frames and loops, but they are just any other entitled incel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 01:51 PM
3

I just read this while having a snack, I’m struggling not to puke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 10:17 AM
69

Ah, the old “they’re jealous, old and bitter” argument
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 10:05 AM
58

Because they do not see us as individuals, but as a lump of underlings that are interchangeable to fuck and degrade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 05:58 PM
12

He’s not interested in providing for his children’s future and they’re still preteen? What?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:30 PM
9

Exposure is an important part of my therapy and I was going to suggest keeping an open mind for it, until read it is actually watching violent porn. It sounds like a terrible idea. Check if you can change therapists or, if you decide to remain with this one for any reason, stick to your guns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 10:13 AM
29

I don’t think those definitions were an issue 8 years ago (article was written in 2013)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 07:41 PM
15

That episode was SO sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 04:54 PM
172

I’ve had similar conversations with my therapist, BUT adjust the relationship actually meant I adjust how I interact with people. I think the overall message of “don’t try to get people to meet your standards, just adjust” is fine, if adjust does not mean having the same type of relationship and just accept being unfulfilled. It can mean just demoting someone without the implications that cutting off could have (having a big fall out). However, reading his last sentence, I very much doubt his an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 02:29 PM
17

Never thought about it this way, very insightful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 06:50 PM
3

His seriousness while repeating THERE ARE SOME HOES IN THIS HOUSE. Honestly I don’t care for these guys, the issue is they hate women but won’t leave us alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 10:09 AM
42

Let’s just say that she believes that, if feminism doesn’t include everyone and it’s just for women, it is a certain type of -phobic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 12:24 PM
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Exactly, he is an ally and defender of women-only spaces, and feminism being by and for women. His female friend told him he was not being inclusive enough and how bigoted that statement is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 10:56 AM
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The other day, my male friend that got into radfem and is an active ally got told by a female friend of his that she could not be his friend anymore if he kept refusing to include men in feminism. Mind you, a woman was scolding a man that says feminism is not for him and is specific to women’s oppression. Of course she is quite the libfem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:52 AM
17

This is probably very country-specific, but a bull fighter. I had a friend who dated one and girl, why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 07:36 PM
79

I fucking hate football, it sanctions the most aggressive and violent masculinity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 08:26 AM
63

I understand the logic here but I think it would be extremely difficult to vet without living with someone. For instance, it’s impossible to know whether he will take care of the chores equally without moving in together, I don’t think spending weekends or vacations together is a substitute for this type of vetting. I’d be curious to know how FDSers that refuse to move until marriage would vet for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 08:22 AM
19

It’s very useful when the trash properly labels itself, so women can avoid it before they get close enough to smell the stink. Thank you, random sexist dude!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:45 PM
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Sooo he was there 40 min before the date, and she was immediately ready when he announced he was at the door? They had never met before (which is why she didn’t know his height) but she gave him her address? Sure thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:44 PM
199

Oh wow! This poor woman. At least she knows the truth and can start healing now. I’m surprised he came clean though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 11:59 AM
9

Horrifying. I’m so so glad you were not harmed and are now aware that these comments are intolerable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 10:15 AM
3

This hit hard, not necessarily related to my love life, but other areas. Thanks for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 07:56 AM
36

What I weird thing to criticise. I sit like a goblin when I work and I wish I could maintain a good posture, it would save me so much pain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 07:51 AM
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Also, pay attention to modifications in behaviour. If the texting, calling, frequency of meeting, depth of conversations etc etc decrease, chances are you are being benched. Unless there is a VERY good excuse, and I mean something making impossible for a person to use their phone, he is simply not that into you anymore. There could be a million reasons but sure as hell he’s not going to be honest and tell you, because you would leave the bench.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 09:08 PM
29

Brb, getting my scuba diving gear to find where the bar for men is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:47 PM
43

So he’s a pig and threatening to rape her??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:39 PM
32

Porn is not necessary for masturbation. Again, needing images of explicit sex and being desensitised to them to the point of needing recordings of fake crimes (or real, sadly, knowing the industry) is NOT normal, and it’s in no way comparable to touching yourself while thinking about people or fantasies. People have masturbated since forever and access to thousand violent sexual videos through our phones has not been around for that long, porn apologists need to stop pretending this is needed to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 12:56 PM
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Number 5 is on point. He doesn’t respect women, but don’t worry, you have a pass since you’re not a slut! Wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 12:53 PM
17

Now, THIS is what true female empowerment is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:55 AM
8

Congrats on your success! You are amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 07:58 PM
5

Aw thanks! The full story is worse though. The important thing is learning from it and putting ourselves first for the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 07:56 PM
39

This is very true. The unacceptable is tolerable if it makes dicks hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 06:23 PM
2

She seems to let things happen very passively, instead of taking action and being honest regarding what she really wants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 06:21 PM
3

Yes, I agree. Also it seems so objectifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 06:02 PM
2

You do make sense! I understand that pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding are inherently unequal, and it is women who have to go through it. However, equality in parenting can be achieved after children are no longer babies. Of course it is not like that in most cases, but fathers can take care of children just like mothers after breastfeeding is over. Also, many couples do not even have children, so none of this would apply. I was mostly thinking about childless couples or couples with older…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 12:24 PM
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Okay so I have a legit question (meaning I’d like to read your views, not questioning FDS principles) regarding this point of view. I have read similar thing from other FDS users, not regarding dates, but applied to long-term partnerships. If you refuse to divide expenses 50/50 because of unequal labour around the house, with childcare, etc... Does it mean you accept that unequal division? Would you be okay with taking care of more household chores and child responsibilities (if there are childr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 12:00 PM
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What the actual fuck. I wonder if the ages are shown in the title, this sounds like a young man with a horrible case of porn addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 11:46 AM
17

Exactly. We have to be honest with ourselves and really evaluate what do we want and how a relationship or person makes us feel. We should only welcome people that add wellness to our life. I was in a very toxic situationship that brought me a lot of anxiety (I was already struggling with it) and of course the topic was brought up in therapy. My therapist’s reply to my endless stream of questions about his words, his thoughts, his behaviours and needs was “I don’t know and neither can you. But w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 11:31 AM
99

It’s really worth it! Very well explained. One has to be really naive or dismissive of women’s struggles to think she had any agency and no man behind the scenes keeping that money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 06:45 AM
9

Very eloquently put, thanks for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 07:13 AM
461

Yeah, at some point some guy told me that with my attitude, most men would avoid me. “That’s the whole point”, I replied.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 11:05 AM
54

In my case, because admitting I could get hurt by someone I care about without any possibility to avoid it was terrifying. Loss is control was (is) terrifying. A coping mechanism was also to then have hookups because hey, if I can sleep with someone else it means I don’t care about him that much, right? Shitty strategy, but ultimately it was about trying to protect me from rejection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 07:33 AM
26

Exactly. Buying food is not a free-sex ticket, but honestly, many man think like that and I would rather (not anymore, I have a partner) avoid an uncomfortable situation. Tbh I’ve never met a woman that pays for her dinner at dates because she thinks letting him pay means obligatory sex, it’s mostly to avoid entitled rants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 03:38 PM
23

Manly men: women are irrational Also manly men: ass...boobs...MUST stare and grunt...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 11:39 AM
17

Who would have guessed!? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 02:25 PM
4

Depending on the cat and the time of the year (they shed more often in certain months), but no, it cannot be totally prevented. However, floors can be vacuumed daily (roomba improved my life so much), hair can be removed from sofas and other surfaces with special brushes (check the Omasi one) and, ultimately, you could have a blanket to throw on the sofas that can be washed more often (or used when people come over, so they can sit on it.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 10:18 AM
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Yes, this is super useful, I find this similar to the “check how he treats staff at bars/restaurants” strategy. Watching someone react to stressful or bothersome situations provides a ton of information. Run away from men resorting to violence at the slightest inconvenience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 10:11 AM
4

I don’t think men and women cannot be friends, although I’ve read it around here. It is worth noting that many men are interested in women just for the sex, so the vetting strategies should apply to them too (to all friendships, really) I don’t think you are the only one around here using OLD, so why wouldn’t you share your experiences? Many other women do not want to use them and that’s fine too. Female as an adjective and as a noun are not the same, btw, I’m not sure how that’s an issue. Regar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 08:30 PM
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Is this me some years ago? A situationship that he clearly didn’t want to turn into anything else, while I convinced myself I was okay with it, because those crumbs were better than nothing? That shit really messed up my self-esteem, so if anyone reading this find themselves in this situation, take a step back and ask yourself, is this adding something to your life? Is it making you feel loved? If you need to “convince” someone to like you, it’s clear they’re not interested. It’s better to leave…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 02:52 PM
3

I do, but they are, indeed, mean. I would say this is quite lv on her part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 04:06 PM
1

I mean... she was. It’s fine to feel you’re incompatible and not want any more dates, but she was plain rude. And body shaming people just for the fun of it is wrong. I cannot see a reason why anyone would think this woman is acting hv. Edit: with “just for the fun of it” I mean I understand trying to hit back if some guy insults you, but not just as a senseless jab at someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 03:58 PM
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Yep! It is amazing how many guys are quick to remind you “you’re not my girlfriend”, “I don’t want a relationship”, “I just want some fun”... and the moment you agree and clearly show they’re not a priority, they flip their shit and get all jealous!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:45 AM
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You taught your sis a very valuable lesson! Kudos to you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:31 AM
7

Yes; my thought exactly. It is still presenting sexuality as a pay-for option, and women providing “services” (regardless of their desires) to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:29 AM
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Women: X is an issue for us, we are harassed. Men: really though? Hm... Good Guy: Omg turns out X is an issue! Men: how were we supposed to know?! So... yeah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:27 AM
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This is truly horrifying. She is clearly abused, she blames herself for her feelings and downplays his actions. “He can think about himself sometimes.” Getting only your favourite snacks and not thinking about whether your partner would like some is thinking about yourself. Forcing your wife to have surgery and then hurting them because you see her as a hole is violence. I hope she started seeing him like the abuser he really is, her update post made me hopeful she has started taking off the ros…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 08:45 PM
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I don’t think this mindset is necessarily bad in young people that are still figuring themselves out and deciding what they want their life to be. It’s a different story after maturing and knowing what you want and don’t want in your life. Energy is limited and I don’t want to invest it in someone who does not want commitment, but wants all the emotional labour that comes from a committed partner (which I’ve definitely done in the past because “sure, we don’t need labels”, and is exhausting)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 10:13 AM
9

He’s probably trying to separate her from her family. My ex tried the same... it’s terrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:02 PM
39

How are these adults not embarrassed about needing a person to pick up after them? That’s only acceptable for CHILDREN, wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:41 PM
20

Ufff... I don’t think there are within reddit. I’d say all, and if not the vast majority, are pro porn, pro sex work and just more aligned with liberal feminism as a whole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:34 PM
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Imagine putting this much effort in being an absolute piece of shit (including to your own children!) instead of developing yourself and spending quality time with your loved ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:19 AM
7

Heartbreaking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 02:10 PM
11

Mmm okay? I understand wanting a relationship and wanting sex (and I definitely understand most people are not comfortable with ons or fwb), but no one should put up with shitty people just to have sex or companionship. I guess she was trying to be funny but it came across as a bit desperate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 09:24 AM
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Beg a guy to go on holiday with me after he confirmed his cancellation the same day we were supposed to travel (he had been ghosting me the days prior) and assuring him that of course I knew we were nothing serious even if we travelled together. Seriously, the day I blocked that guy (which was a whole year later 🤦🏻‍♀️) my friends congratulated me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 09:29 AM
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It’s not a binary, like the last image says, it’s not either a micro penis or a phone pole. Am I happy with my partner’s size? Yes. Is it gigantic? No. Is size important? Yes. It needs to be a size that can be pleasurable for women who enjoy piv, which does not mean it needs to be a triple leg. I
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 07:42 AM
18

Im guessing this is from the guy that was posted here the other day and said that he lost life every time he came because of some mystic semen bullshit. I don’t know about the USA but I know in Europe, danish sperm banks ship kits to use at home for women that don’t need any hormonal treatment and just need the sperm. Of course it is tested for diseases and the like. So, sorry to burst this guy’s bubble but no one is going to kidnap him to jerk him off and sell his seed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 07:19 AM
21

Yes, my thought exactly. And don’t even get me started on music videos... I discovered a beautiful song the other day, checked the video clip, I was imagining something colourful, dreamy... nope, just some tits and ass. It feels so exhausting, it doesn’t matter how talented women are: actresses, musicians, artists of any kind... Women NEED to be fuckable first and foremost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 08:45 PM
56

I very much doubt this is a one-time occurrence. No one is a good father and respectful partner and then abuses their daughter and wife all of a sudden like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 04:12 PM
14

They just play dumb when they know they will be coddled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 06:59 AM
126

For real, I’ve been here for some months and I have yet to see an inappropriate comment. Tightest moderation I’ve seen, thanks mods for creating this space and keeping it safe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:13 PM
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"Vital fluid", sure, that's why men get night emissions. The nofap comment makes me think the issue is not his vitality but his obsession with porn...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 10:57 AM
80

Yeah, one thing is not agreeing with FDS values, but how on hell is "put yourself first, seek only healthy and equal relationships" compared to "hey guys here are some tips to better use femoids"??? FDS is focused on ignoring people who doesn't add to your life, RP is about how to be a master abuser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 10:50 AM
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Also, it’s possible to have been hurt by someone and yet not use any slurs (sexist, in this case) to describe them. If the words “whore”, “bitch”, “slut” etc. easily roll out of a man’s tongue, run. It doesn’t matter what she did, some words are just dehumanising.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 07:22 PM
45

They normalise hating our bodies, so for them it’s just natural that we feel disgusted by them too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:04 PM
79

He doesn’t like it “tight” (not how vaginas work anyway), he likes to inflict pain. Plain and simple. What a piece of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 11:50 AM
342

Children are called women when they are abused, women are called girls when they assert themselves or are in positions of authority. Nothing new, sadly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 09:41 AM
8

Beautiful! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:30 AM
107

A man paying for sex has no respect for women? Wow what a shock /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:27 PM
26

Abolition, and not criminalisation, is what is needed. I cannot see the video so I'm not sure if it is pro-criminalisation of both prostitutes and johns, I just wanted to clarify it that difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 08:18 PM
25

I don’t mind condoms tbh, in my experience it is very obvious if they break. It has only happened to me a couple of times and i took the morning after pill. I don’t want to take hormones, so they are by far the best option for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 05:22 PM
13

Glorious!!! 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 05:03 PM
59

I agree, no confrontation. Just break things off and walk away. At least then she will be able to take care of her health without any extra stress and bullshit from this asshole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 01:04 PM
28

The lip licking urg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:05 PM
2

So? Food needs to be cooked, homes need to be cleaned, they don’t care about how busy you are. And she IS busy and yet doesn’t seem to behave like an entitled child that demands to be coddled...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 11:04 AM
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I had sex that a guy that asked me every 15 seconds (no, that is not an exaggeration) if I had an orgasm, and changed positions every 30. I touched myself and he took my hand away because “my dick is enough.” I told him I don’t orgasm from piv, which is fine by me, and he said “you will from my dick.” So yes, it was mostly about his ego and his weird dick worshipping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 07:52 AM
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I once read a self-proclaimed feminist (in a relationship with a much older man, wearing school skirts and pigtails to please him) to defend camming because “women’s erotic capital is empowering.” Sure, you’re the one selling your own videos but.. how is that subverting patriarchy? Who cares about the intent (a woman wanting to feel empowered) if the result is the same (commodification of our bodies).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:45 PM
13

That’s what real love is ❤️ I wish you a quick and speedy recovery!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 09:34 PM
8

Keep being anti-science if you want but don’t spread it. “If you can’t eat it it’s toxic” is just bad advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 11:52 AM
2

Thanks! Very informative Just a note: Spain decriminalised prostitution but no abolitionist law was put into place. The text compares it to Sweden but no, actually the infographic got it right. One Vice Prime Minister is trying to abolish it now, so hopefully we’ll join Sweden soon 🤞🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 11:32 AM
9

Water is a chemical , so... anti-science is not cool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 11:19 AM
560

Ah yes, it’s a dream of all bisexual women to be cheated on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 05:24 PM
24

Do these people realise that humans have managed to masturbate for thousand of years on their own without having to consume porn?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:33 PM
9

She seems like a perfectly normal pet owner, tbh. Pets are not just decorations, they are live beings. I get that he’s not a pet person and to each their own, that’s fine, but he cannot expect someone to just stop caring about their 10-year-old cat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 08:08 AM
49

If you let your baby drop five times you should definitely be attacked. That is negligence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 07:57 AM
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Do you get as mad when men do it, as you do when women denounce it? No? Then yes, all you #notallmen crying babies are part of the #toomanymen as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 11:23 AM
9

Thanks for sharing, I’ll definitely read this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 06:32 AM
9

Insulting because you don’t agree? Very hv 👍🏻 Also, no idea why you’d bring relatives into this, mine don’t speak English as their native language either, so...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 05:43 PM
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Do you mean men who live with their parents well after becoming adults? Honestly I don't think that in itself is any indicator of anything. I've known people who left for university at 18 and came back home almost every weekend to do their laundry and to get homecooked meals to freeze. I've also known people who lived with their parents until 25+, who had no issue with adult responsibilities once they moved out. To me it would not be a red flag, mostly because the job market is shit and rent is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 05:12 PM
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Yes, I agree, it’s something universal, thats why I don’t think hvm can only be found in certain countries or cultures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 05:00 PM
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I know, that was my point. Misogyny is not exclusive to any culture, but a norm everywhere, that’s why saying hvm can only be found in certain countries rubbed me the wrong way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 04:58 PM
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Which cultures do raise men to be independent, emotionally and domestically speaking, and to treat women as equals, with no trace of misogyny? Generalising about entire groups of population and putting cultures as a whole above others is quite xenophobic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 04:34 PM
13

So being HV is culture dependant now? I don’t think there is any culture in the world without misogyny and inequality, so that statement is pretty insensitive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 04:25 PM
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I‘m from Spain (so Southern Europe too) and yes, it is common to live with your parents as an adult, unless you move away or have a long-term partner. It also depends on whether you come from a bigger city or a smaller area. In my family there was drama because a cousin of mine moved out of his parents’ at 40, as soon as he had some stability after years of unemployment. They couldn’t fathom why he would leave to live alone, if he didn’t have a partner. So yes, not an uncommon thing at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 04:23 PM
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The idea of a bride price sounds terrible, tbh, like paying a family because they are going to lose a domestic labourer. It’s a tradition, sure, that does not mean it is not rooted in patriarchy. Not wanting to pay for your spouse as if she were a property is not an lvm sing, in my opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 03:33 PM
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They don’t care about any of these issues at all, they only bring it up when it can be weaponised against women’s issues. As you said, if they cared, they would treat them independently and not use them as whataboutisms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 03:30 PM
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Really? It’s not all the porn, female degradation, kink or OF (where they call women “whores” and yet they long to masturbate to them)subreddits the ones that “knock you off your feet”? It’s one about women with standards you don’t agree with?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 09:21 PM
41

Imagine being so privileged that you think exploiting others is a right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 09:54 AM
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It’s funny this type of guys resort to “ugh you’re lucky I paid attention/you’re too ugly to be like this” when they are the one throwing their dicks at you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 10:48 AM
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"I have hobbies" - you are an interesting, educated and cultivated woman. "friends circle" - you are loved. "amazing career" - you are hard working. "more money to buy outfits/take care of my looks" - you are taking care of yourself, you look good. "year of therapy under my belt" - you are taking care of your mental health and working through your issues. "my own freaking flat that is fully paid off" - again, financially successful, and you're also independent. It's great to want to better yours…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:53 PM
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Maybe don’t be a creep at work not to lose your livelihood? There are no repercussions for being a creep if you don’t behave like one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 12:55 PM
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I think we’re collectively so used to women not having a voice and being talked over that, even as women, we feel attacked when other women have tight rules or boundaries. This includes even feminist spaces. There are a lot of different women participating here, many different standards and opinions, and we don’t have to all agree. What i value most about this community is the sorority and the true support users show to each other. I am not even in the dating scene (I’m in a relationship) and I’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 08:55 PM
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You mean women don’t cum when getting a tongue buried in their tight asses?? Wtf (/s in case it’s needed. ) I know some people that met their partners in OLD but there seems to be far and between. Most men definitely see it as a shameless hookup app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 11:05 AM
2

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:01 PM
8

Do you have any recommendations I could read?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 11:48 AM
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You make a great point. And also, I think I read something regarding this (maybe outside of this subreddit), but is it really healing for sexual assault victims to “revictimise” themselves over and over and eroticise their experience? I wouldn’t think so but of course I’m not a mental health professional. If anyone has insights about this I’d love to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 11:41 AM
17

Omg the one comparing bdsm porn to play fighting with your children... wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 11:37 AM
52

"If you don't pay for the product, you are the product." I read that on an ad denouncing clubs that offer free drinks only for women and it has stuck with me since.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 09:27 PM
3

Thanks for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 10:05 AM
7

If it does not challenge the patriarchy, it is not feminist. Also, money =/= empowerment, just because you can make money from sex doesn’t mean it will be good for you and especially for women as a class.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 10:03 AM
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Yes, I can, but I choose not to because I shouldn’t tolerate disrespect just because I’m a woman. It’s so sad that she thinks she deserves to be treated like a sex toy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 09:58 AM
7

I’m happy for you! Keep rocking!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 09:50 AM
29

This shit is terrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 09:49 AM
43

The apologising for having emotional needs... I’ve been there, done that. I’m glad you kicked his ass!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 09:48 AM
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“I don’t want to reduce a woman to a car, BUT” that but is key here. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 06:09 PM
13

That's more or less how I found FDS. It was mentioned in another subreddit and described as a horrible group of bitter misandrist women, completely antifeminist, only focused on spending men's money. Of course I had to have a look, although I did not intend to participate. I came here and what do I find? Women being told to put themselves first, to take no shit, to invest in their education and careers, to cultivate their hobbies and friendships, to be happy to find love but not make it the ulti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 09:40 AM
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Don't feel gross, feel proud because you took a step to put yourself first and improve your well-being. Anxiety will soon start going away and therapy will help you gain new perspective. Congrats on your level up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 09:31 AM
22

She’s beautiful, but not only because of her facial features, she beams with self confidence and satisfaction of her life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 09:21 AM
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Ah well if it’s so positive for society, they wouldn’t mind to star in one of these deep fake gang bangs, right? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 09:18 AM
21

Absolutely sickening, I have just read it and I am enraged. Poor Julie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:42 PM
5

An I the only what who did not like that he replied to her negative with “I’ll wait”? I’m happy for them now, it’s just that that rubbed me the wrong way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:19 AM
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Because it’s not hundreds of people... it’s hundreds of WOMEN, and for many men, that’s a different category.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:59 AM
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I want to be clear that I am NOT judging her. I really feel for her and I wish she would dump him, so she would only have one child to care for. However... I refuse to think that there hadn’t been any red flags previous to the baby. I think women should internalise that we are not our partner’s maid, nor are they poor little dumb boys who just don’t notice uncleanliness (real excuses read in a mostly female forum I participate in.) The “he is the perfect partner apart from being a total slob” ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:46 PM
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Thanks for clarifying!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:16 PM
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I guess, that’s a pretty high number for me (I’m not in the USA) so I was surprised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 11:25 AM
9

Yes, almost always, save a couple of exceptions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 10:45 AM
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Curious, I get the ages, but why the combined money?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 10:43 AM
126

Crazy. Pregnancy stuff is just for her because she got pregnant on her own or something? The guy is clearly a Scrooge, checking receipts and only giving her money for half of the things they will both use... Such disdain for her and her comfort n
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 10:42 AM
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Yep, I thought the same, he was clearly negging OP to make her feel bad about herself. I’m sure he was not expecting such a queen response, though. Fuck him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 08:14 AM
34

Wtf. Doctors, nurses, teacher and relatives... what the fuck was wrong with ALL of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 10:38 PM
98

True sorority on display!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 09:37 AM
22

Sorry but the part about the cat made me laugh. Oh yeah I’m keeping porn just because of my beloved late cat. Sure thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 12:14 PM
70

Yup, in Germany for instance only a handful of women registered as prostitutes, the rest are “businessmen” (traffickers) that are now exploiting women 100% legally. Abolition is the only way to actually reduce trafficking, as proven in Sweden.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 12:12 PM
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Whenever I see incels complain about women only chasing chads because we’re all superficial sluts, I really wonder if they have never seen a regular dude in a relationship. I can think of short, obese, ugly, not rich, any type of man, in relationships because honestly, most people are not super attractive or fit, and they still find partners. Do they not have dads, brothers, uncles, cousins... that look normal and still have girlfriends or got married? When they go down the street, go to the sup…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 12:09 PM
13

Horrifying. My heart goes to her and all the e other victims of this misogynist and barbaric killers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 07:46 AM
10

Men are like children, sit next to him while he eats to supervise. Also: bite your man's dick. ​ What??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 03:05 PM
36

Sooo "these women had a boundary, I insisted until I broke it and now I'm happy."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 03:01 PM
14

Go Rochelle!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 03:00 PM
18

I don’t think this sub is unwelcoming to lesbians, it does focus on hetero relationships because they have completely different dynamics thanks to patriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 08:21 AM
11

So boundaries are now arrogant and egotistical? What kind of disrespect is that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 08:20 AM
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Yes, especially for such a short time dating. I guess there are more things she’s not telling here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 07:59 AM
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I bet the elders were way more forgiving when he cheated on his wife and got another woman pregnant... very unsurprising.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:42 AM
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“You need to change your profile not to offend me. “ The entitlement is real here. Honestly with that reaction I thought OP had a profile saying she enjoys eating children, but nope, just a normal boundary pissing men off. Nothing new here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 07:49 AM
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Maybe he will treat her better, most likely he won’t. Nevertheless that has nothing to do with you anymore. Try to focus your energy and thoughts on you. Hobbies, catching up on tv shows or books, going for a walk, having a chat with friends (depending on restrictions)... Ruminating is common and you cannot avoid those thought from popping up in your brain, but you can decide how much energy you devote to them. To reply to your question, no, high value people respect others in any circumstance (…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 08:40 AM
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Is it possible to report him so there is a trail in case he escalates his creepiness? Also someone posted some kind of film paper you can attach to windows that will turn them into mirrors for outsiders. It was in the post about the woman seeing “1F” on her trash can. I’m so mad that women have to even worry in their own homes because of pervs. Stay safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 04:07 PM
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Reading this I wish there would be a sex registry in my country. I fully believe that rehabilitation works in many instances and I don’t think prison is the best option for many crimes, but that does definitely not apply to rape or other violent assaults on a person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 11:06 AM
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An actual story of female empowerment! I’m happy for your aunt, she’s such a strong woman!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:26 PM
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He wanted a baby and cleaning machine, and he’s now mad that the machine wants to be treated like a person. What a terrible situation to be in, I hope she leaves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 08:45 AM
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“Cause I’m not rude like that” waaaaaat. He couldn’t even look her in the eye!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 09:45 PM
344

Misogyny, plain and simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 12:24 PM
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A woman being confident AND strong? You were clearly triggering those insecure misogynists. Fuck them and keep doing your thing 💪🏻I’m sure you look amazing, all women look good when we are happy with ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 04:15 PM
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Both boys and girls usually get stretch marks during puberty. Boys on the back, girls on on our hips. I think all men I’ve seen naked had them somewhere on their bodies because it is completely normal. To imagine perfectly pristine skin he must be thinking about even younger girls... disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 10:18 AM
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Poor child, imagine your father rejecting you like this and the mother tolerating it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:46 PM
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👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 When I started making myself these questions is when i started learning more about radical feminism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 11:40 AM
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Mmm following this logic, buyers should not harass or try to manipulate salespeople who do not offer the thing they are interested in. Sooo maybe it’s not independent women the ones not understanding the “market”, but entitled misogynists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 12:04 AM
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Soooo teaching a son to be a man is not about welcoming him into adulthood, teaching accountability, encouraging him to follow his dreams or to have a nice career... it’s about showing him how to objectify women. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 09:35 AM
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Of course they only care when it affects them and their “honour”. They don’t give a shit about women, they just care about their property.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 08:13 AM
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Yup, totally fake and a nice excuse to bash feminism and cry about mIsaNdRy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 10:02 AM
5

Perfectly put 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 09:55 AM
4

Beautiful ring!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 09:39 AM
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I’m sorry this happened to you and I hope you feel better soon. Therapy could help you process this. We need to start teaching children more about consent, and insist during teenage years about sexual consent. Never assume something is acceptable just because it’s common or your partner “loves” you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 09:38 AM
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Thanks for defending our Spanish honour! Hahaha. Of course, Spain has its flaws, but broad generalisations about women of any country are wrong and even LV, I’d say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:16 AM
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Thanks, I checked myself googling in English but since i live in Spain I mostly got English versions of official government websites. I’d love to have 2 months off though, it’s a pity it’s not true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:14 AM
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No need to be passive aggressive about it, but you do you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 06:27 PM
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Could you please share a link? I'm genuinely curious, I looked up the public holidays for my city today and it's 14 days this year (many not related to religion.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 06:23 PM
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It'd be great if you could add the titles later, thanks! Sex work is indeed legal in some European countries (which terrible consequences), but that's the minority. I did not mean that there's no liberal feminism here, there definitely is, but that my impression was that radical feminism was not as popular in the US as liberal. I could be wrong since I only have an outside perspective, so thanks a lot for explaining, no jumbled mess at all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 06:16 PM
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30 days is a month, but okay, even then it is not true. There is a month of paid holidays for workers, unrelated to religion. I am a Spaniard, living and working in Spain, so I am familiar with holidays and religious festivities. I also lived and worked in Germany and they do not have that many religious holidays. They do have paid vacation days at work, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 06:10 PM
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Holy generalisation, Batman. There are pick-mes and independent women, there are feminist women and women with internalised misogyny... Just like in every country. Of course there are still many things to do, but Spain has a strong feminist movement. Also, no one has a month off because of religious holidays, so no idea where you got that from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 05:59 PM
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Women are always held to higher standards, more so if they are public figures. It’s sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:13 PM
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No, I did not say anything remotely like that, neither was I insulting anyone, so please don’t infer that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:07 PM
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I had the impression that liberal feminism is way more popular in the US than Europe. For instance, surrogated pregnancies and sex work are way more accepted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 02:44 PM
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Edited (I’m not sure if my comment was against the rules)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 12:32 PM
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Not an asshole for telling the truth, that way the mom can open her daughter’s eyes about her shitty marriage. He’s an asshole about the rest, of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 02:11 PM
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You are both “very traditional” and yet she works full time. I’d run away from men labelling themselves as traditional, that probably means they expect you to be a house/bang maid and never complain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 10:05 AM
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I don’t think women being murdered by men because of their choices (however bad they might be) is natural selection. This sounds like victim blaming. He’s fully responsible of this murder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:23 AM
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Where was he born? Spanish people normally say “I’m (nationality)” only regarding the place they were actually born in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:22 AM
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He’s right, misogyny is a choice and he’s choosing to be a piece of sexist trash. I suppose many women he meets will choose to not give him any time, but that preference will probably upset him because he doesn’t like high maintenance women (ie women that likes it be treated as people)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 10:14 AM
2

This is such a beautiful picture 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 10:10 AM
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You cannot entirely stop ruminating but you have control over how much time and energy you devote to those thoughts. When somethings about him pops up in your mind, don’t beat yourself up for it, but don’t give it your time. Acknowledge the thought and focus your attention on something else. It is very hard to do, but little by little you will think less and less about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 09:31 AM
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Love and care should be viral, regardless of if it’s staged or not. Almost everything is staged on the internet, but this is wholesome and lovely, who cares?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 12:21 PM
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Imagine how good it would have been if their moms hadn’t had their periods and did not conceive these absolute pieces of misogynistic trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:21 AM
6

Beautiful!! Happy Valentine for you too ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:48 AM
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Excuse me, some asshole is talking about female privilege in a forum called FEMINISM and you are the one banned??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 01:10 PM
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Maybe he could try, you know, treating women like different individuals, instead of lumping all of us into a mass of “women” that are all the same to him, just a symbol of status and something to use (for sex, emotional support, whatever.) Of course women want to find “the right one” as a partner, it might be related with how we are not taught to dehumanise people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:55 AM
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Women are taught to give, give, give and then keep giving. It’s perfectly fine not to make efforts for people who don’t appreciate you and wouldn’t lift a finger for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 08:49 AM
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Reminds me of screenshot of some famous forum (mostly male) here in my country at the beginning of COVID. They were happy because the pandemic and the massive unemployment would drive many women to prostitution and make them lower their prices. Cheap anal! The joy some men get at poor women who cannot say no enrages me to no end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 08:27 AM
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Imagine if it had been a boy and images of incels, misogynists and rapists flashed in front of the shocked mother. The cries of mIsAnDrY could be heard from the moon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:20 PM
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I understand that she does not want her daughter to put distance between them and rely on the groomer for everything. It must be a terrifying thought for a parent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:27 AM
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You’re so right! We are taught to crave male validation, to the point that we are supposed to enjoy disrespect because “that means you’re pretty”, but god forbid we appreciate our bodies on our own. Fuck that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 08:27 AM
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No, men are not like that, men like Andy decide to treat women like objects, and not people. Let’s hold assholes accountable, misogyny is a choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:37 PM
9

Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 09:22 AM
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For me, it’s the opposite. I’m struggling with mental health and my partner understands me because of his experiences. It would probably be much harder to support me without actually knowing what I’m going through. However, I understand where you’re coming from, and even if I didn’t understand, who cares? It’s your choice! Some guys would also get mad at women preferring partners that understand mental health issues because it is dIsCrImInAtInG for them. They are just mad at any kind of rejectio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 09:04 AM
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I’m pretty sure that guy has, at some point, rated women based on their looks. But the moment a woman set hard boundaries for herself, wow. To be honest, I don’t agree with every quality that other users here look for in a man. But you know what? Is their right, and if they think that’s how they will be happy, good for them. I swear some men get mád when women have standards, like we have to be some charity for all broken men because we are inherently nurturers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 08:29 AM
10

Sending love your way, it’s always hard even if he hurt you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 07:50 PM
5

It wasn’t even a relationship! I was such a pick me. Luckily I reflected in it and I’m now in a happy relationship where I’m respected and cherished :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 07:47 PM
49

They know perfectly there is not a difference between 15 and 18... and that’s what they like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:29 PM
30

If only I had known a couple of years ago...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 08:25 AM
6

In my country women have never taken the husband’s last name, it is such a foreign concept to me. Seeing people (women included!) justify it is always a doozy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 05:17 PM
1

Most people yearning for that are men, so they don’t give a shit about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/21 10:55 AM
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So his wife gets too fat, and he wants to use another woman as a walking oven so his life partner (how he should see her) is still fuckable enough for him. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:38 AM
13

On point!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 09:58 PM
21

Here it is; speech by Dr Ingeborg Kraus https://www.trauma-and-prostitution.eu/en/2018/06/19/the-german-model-17-years-after-the-legalization-of-prostitution/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:52 PM
4

Duplicated post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:52 PM
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Yes, just read about Germany. Barely anyone has registered as a prostitute in years, and trafficking has gone out the roof. The stories of young trafficked girls suffering from chronic abdominal pain and other ailments from so much abuse are disheartening. I’ll try to look for an article I found about it and post it. I was pro regulation before I read it, and started following abolitionist activists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 08:32 AM
5

This is a classic. I’ve also had fwb situations and many take for granted that you would date them anytime. Knowing you just want no have fun and no strings attached to THEM is a blow to their ego. Normally they will try to up dating stuff (like asking to go out on a dinner when you have only met for sex before) just so you will give them some love on their terms. If they are respectfully rejected because you’re not interested, cue the YOURE USING ME!! drama
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:23 AM
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Beautifully put 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 07:55 AM
37

Yes! THIS! I don’t want a society where men are taught that having sex is a right and something that can be paid for. It is impossible live in a egalitarian society if some women are considered just walking vaginas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 07:53 AM
3

Sorry what. Demanded an explanation? She should have demanded money for a new sofa. Most guys in that reddit thread did not use soap in the shower but wiped with toilet paper, but this guy didn’t even wipe?? I’m dying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 12:40 PM
37

Does anyone else remember a quite famous reddit thread about men not washing their assholes because that’s “gay”? Their gfs could smell it while doing oral and see skid marks ON THE COUCH because some of them hung around naked. I swear that traumatised me, I asked my boyfriend if he knew people like that and of course it is not a normal ocurrence like dirty lazy fucks say. Of course it’s not normal but the sheer amount of disgusting pigs made me almost throw up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 10:22 AM
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I feel this also includes friendships. Never put up with people you don’t quite like just to avoid being “alone”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 11:01 PM
25

https://mahler101.medium.com/metoo-confessions-of-a-scared-white-male-40039a69f877 Wow, this is really disgusting. If he is getting this worried about women coming forward (only women, and only related to sexual harassment), it is for a reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 01:59 PM
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That article is creepy as fuck. He wants female attention and validation, and probably to get laid. Women caring about their careers and not falling head over heels for HIM? The mentor of mentors? The audacity of women!!! Uurrrrrgh I bet these young women could smell his creepiness from afar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 11:47 AM
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Yessss. The privileged ones who can actually choose and have a safety net for when they want to stop playing empowered sex worker is somehow more important that the thousands of poor women that do not have any other choice, or the ones trafficked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 10:58 AM
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