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KEK0811/r/Divorce_Men15/02/22 07:47 PM
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KEK0811/r/Divorce_Men23/01/22 02:10 AM
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Don't leave your house, that's rule number one. I know it's tempting, but it makes negotiations so much harder to go your way later, you could be accused of abandonment, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/25 04:10 PM
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Yes, you are in the very dark place that almost everyone on here has been in. Yes it gets better, so don't give up. You may rediscover things that made you happy before you got married that you weren't allowed to pursue, I know that's been the case for me. And the time and freedom can be so liberating, I still can't believe how much I can accomplish in one day when I am left to my own devices.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/24 06:47 PM
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We all have been, brother. That's why we are here!! Those little things that surprise you like seeing her on the app suck though, you aren't really prepared and then boom!! So many steps to getting back to the best version of yourself, this is just another one.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 07:27 PM
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Well, here's to hoping that she sees you as well and feels even worse! Sorry don't know what to say, mine was never without dick for more than a few days after me. Would be very tough though. Just keep working on yourself!
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 07:22 PM
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Dissolution, 1500 bucks.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/23 07:04 PM
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NO SEX!!!! She very well may "forget" about birth control (if she's on it) and trap you for 18 years.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 12:23 AM
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Yep! She cheated, didn't want me at all anymore. She's now engaged, and called me just this past week telling me about how miserable she is, how she hates her life...I made it a point to tell her how good I am doing.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 01:23 AM
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Guess I'm lucky, mine plumped up nicely afterwards. But still sucks when they are with someone else either way.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/23 03:15 AM
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I tell people its like trying to find a dependable car at the junkyard.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 01:56 AM
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Yep. My wife was working in a doctors office with two other women who were actively cheating on their husbands, so they saw no problem with her screwing around with one of the doctors there. Now, all three are divorced and at least two (my ex being one) regret their actions and have asked their ex husband to take them back. We both said no!!
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 02:04 AM
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For me, the best I can say is that my feelings for her evolved into basically indifference. Please try to understand that it takes so much energy to continue to hate anyone, it just consumes you and sucks the life out of you. Took me at least 6 months after our final court date for me to wake up to the fact that she was continuing to shit on my life, not because of what she was still doing, but because I was still raging about the past some days. Once I got better at letting it go, my life impro…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/22 01:00 AM
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Same, worked OT to pay for a weightlifting setup in the basement for me and the kids. Best money ever.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/22 09:16 PM
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In our dissolution settlement, we agreed that she would give the ring to our daughter. Paid over 6 grand for it in 1994, appraised at about 14 about 4 years ago when I changed our homeowners insurance company. Daughter hasn't seen it yet and guessing she won't, I'm pretty sure she sold it. I just wanted our daughter to have it to sell for something like college money. Oh well.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/22 11:18 AM
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The classic line "If in all my years of doing (whatever) I only touch the life of one person, then it was worth it" fits here perfectly!!😂 Here's to the one guy we all helped!
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 05:41 PM
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Thanks! Very hard for me. Used to the public, I'm a retail pharmacist, so not like I'm not used to talking to people, but scared of everyone seeing that I'm alone. Would like to go out and still be invisible!
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/22 08:01 PM
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Thank you! This is so scary for some reason.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/22 07:59 PM
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It will never stop, but the roller coaster is the perfect analogy. The first drop is the biggest and scariest, but as you go on the ups and down become less severe. I'm at the small ups and downs at the end, but the train has yet to pull into the station to let me off.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/22 09:45 PM
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Yep. She has the affair right before 40 years old, 18 years married. We have two incredible kids, now 20 and 17 (14 and 11 when the affair started), her idea to give me 100% custody, she's off re-living her youth and on the party girl circuit. How someone goes from a happy stay at home mom to a cum dumpster in the span of a few years still blows my mind.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/22 09:42 PM
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Same here. Have completely lost the ability to trust anyone. It sucks. Best I can explain to those who ask is (not Catholic, sorry if I abuse this term) Purgatory. Seemingly caught between two worlds, the first being when I was happily married, the second being a world where I can trust someone enough to be in love again. I don't think I ever can, so here I sit serving my time in the middle, alone.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/22 07:14 PM
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Yeah sold our camper because we never used it. Agreed to get a pool with the money. Got a quote on above ground ($9,000) and in ground ($65-70,000). She says "why don't we just splurge for once." Good thing I didn't, she was screwing the AP by the time they were putting the above ground in, and my kids love the pool. Nothing was ever good enough.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/22 01:31 AM
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Some of the best money I've spent post-divorce was on two Bonafide SS127 fishing kayaks for me and my son. Love fishing, and the time spent with him is priceless.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/22 03:02 AM
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True. For me it was as simple as new sheets/comforter. What a huge difference. Bed was only about 2-3 years old so couldn't really justify replacing. But a new Ugg comforter made it feel like a new room. Didn't even wash the old shit, strait to the trash.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/22 12:29 AM
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Spent about 13K on all new weightlifting equipment. Paid for with the OT I've been working ever since she moved out. Picked up extra shifts left and right to keep myself from just sitting around the house and feeling sorry for myself. Money well spent, I consider it an investment in myself. And the kids love it and use it too.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/22 11:45 PM
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Same here, doing pretty well post-dissolution and the risk/benefit ratio of a new relationship just isn't in our favor as men.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/22 11:41 PM
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So very true! People sometimes ask if I miss her. I say no, not the current version, but I do miss the woman from 10 years ago. She was wonderful. Don't even recognize the person she is now.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/22 11:38 PM
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Kind of what I feel sometimes. Busted my ass because she wanted to be a stay at home mom, which honestly was great for our two kids. When kids were about 12 and 15, she got a part time job, her idea, and had an affair with a doctor she was working with. And here I am on Reddit on a saturday morning, single and alone at 50. You really do feel that you were used for the stage of her life that she needed you, and when you outlive your usefulness to her, she moves on.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/22 02:57 PM
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Yup. Things changed for the better for me when I went into what I called "self preservation mode".
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/22 08:32 PM
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Maybe not so hard. Most states now have websites that pharmacies have to report controlled substances to (Ativan), but don't know if its something that the courts can access. If she trips a positive drug test but the state report (in Ohio its called OARRS) doesn't show it she would have a big problem.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/21 02:29 AM
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Exactly! Invest in yourself! I've lost 40 pounds and my cheating ex has gained more than that! Think long term, not just about tomorrow, and good things will come your way.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/21 10:37 PM
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Damn, brother, thats the thing. You go from all of your time being "our" time to being "your" time. The change is unreal. You never realize how long a day truly is until you wake up at 6:30 with nothing to do. For me, I dove headfirst into working more. Dissolution was final 2/20/2020, and I worked 55 hours a week average in 2020 and 51 this year. Trying to find something to occupy all of this time, but have all of my around the house projects done. Maybe try to get back into something that you …
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/21 10:32 PM
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All goes to the same place anyway. Waffle stomp, classic.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/21 08:03 PM
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As hard as it is to understand for you right now, most of us on here have been in your situation, and I think we would tell you to make sure you don't waste the REST of your life. I'm 50, single after 20 years. Not going to sugarcoat it, shit is hard when you are going through it and all seems lost, but there is life on the other side. Make sure that you realize that you have a ton of quality years left to live, live them to the fullest, and that may mean as a single man!
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/21 02:55 AM
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Same here. All about the kids now, I'm 50 years old and getting back into very good shape. Have had quite a few women do something like this the past couple years, and I think exactly how you do. Risk/Benefit ratio makes it not worth it. And here's the funniest thing- figured out the other day that I have had 8 people try to fix me up with someone they know. All 8 were women trying to fix me up- find it funny that no male friends are trying to fix me up, think they all realize that I am better o…
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/21 02:17 AM
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Sage advice. Beat that shit off in the shower if need be, but cut it off with her. You are lucky that you don't have kids to complicate the upcoming proceedings, keep it that way!
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/21 12:55 AM
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Risk/reward ratio is not in your favor. Or mine, for that matter. So, you are not alone at all in your thoughts. Actually think you will find the vast majority of men here feel the same!
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/21 02:49 AM
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I built a 20' by 30' deck that I thought would take two years in 5 months. Then, I started picking up OT shifts at work. Anything to occupy my time, its killer when you are bored and just think of her boning the other guy.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/21 11:59 PM
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Exactly why I did nothing with any female until it was all signed. Afraid it would piss her off, even though she was already on bachelor #2 by that point, but it was worth it to get out peacefully.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/21 12:33 AM
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Exactly. It is draining both mentally and physically. Both segments of my life that improved dramatically, starting the day that I decided that I was done. Not saying its what you should do, but as bad as it seems, thats the day that the huge weight you've been carrying is cast aside, and you can maybe remember that you don't deserve this, you actually deserve better, and inner peace is coming your way after so much pain. Keep your chin up, there is life and light on the other side of all of thi…
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/21 01:36 AM
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Not Arnold yet, but getting better every day. The ex has "bulked up" as well.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/21 02:23 AM
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Whatever my life has become post-dissolution, the most enjoyable part is the stability. Not worrying about how someone else's mood of the day is going to affect my life, etc. I wake up and though alone, I know what to expect every day, and its getting better all the time! (Finalized 2-20-2020) And like a lot of the men on this thread, I am getting into much better shape now that I have the time to exercise. Just spent major coin outfitting a room in the basement for myself and the kids (Rogue RM…
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/21 02:21 AM
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No. Not saying i don't miss the life a little bit, but when you get cheated on after 18 years, unfortunately teaches you that you can never trust anyone again. Just really opens your eyes to the selfishness that people are capable of. Don't care if I meet the "woman of my dreams" tomorrow, there will be no rings exchanged.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/21 11:51 PM
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