| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 1 | Relationships after divorce - two mindsets? | KSMF_Sak | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/05/24 01:22 PM |
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| 11 | Guide to VengeanceTo be honest, when I was going through the divorce process, I couldn’t wait to see her get a “dose of reality”. Now that the divorce is over and I’ve had some distance, those feelings have passed. I’ve worked on myself and not worried about her… and I’m better for it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/03/26 12:38 PM |
| 9 | Its OverI'm not sure if this will help, but I think you just gained 5-10 years of your life back. Let me explain. I was married for 20 years. The last 5-10 years of my marriage, my wife just kind of gave up. She really started treating me like crap, became even more financially irresponsible, and wouldn't acknowledge (and therefore wouldn't work on) any of her own issues. She threatened divorce dozens of times just to hurt me, but never had the guts to follow through. It was a slow decline that came to … | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/12/25 01:26 PM |
| 3 | Honest questions regarding all your ex wivesWow, that’s almost my exact same story. Right after I filed for divorce, I basically did all the things she never let me do. Then once more time passed, I got some more clarity on what I actually wanted in life, and could finally confidently make my own decisions. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/10/25 11:08 AM |
| 3 | How old is everyone?I’m in a similar situation. Paying $3600 per month in alimony and CS. However, between her car payments and her poor spending habits, she cost me way more than that each month when we were married. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/25 10:56 AM |
| 2 | Abusive wife is hurtingThe title of your post says it all: “Abusive Wife”. While I can’t say it’s impossible for someone to change, I think this kind of behavior has a very small chance of going away. While I never got my ring physically thrown back at me, I was threatened with divorce regularly in my 20 year marriage. Of course that hurt, and I would always have to apologize and come crawling back. Finally, I had enough and called her bluff. I second guessed that decision many times in the divorce process, but now th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/08/24 11:15 AM |
| 2 | What Happens after one of us gets servedYep, be prepared for the “I want everything” claims in her Response. My lawyer advised against that kind of stance when I filed, but was not surprised when my wife came back with something unreasonable. In the end, money and parenting time came out to basically 50/50… which was reasonable and usual. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/24 11:56 AM |
| 1 | Should I try to find outNot caring about what she thinks and does, is the key to peace and happiness. I’m not saying that’s easy, but it is the goal. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/24 01:30 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone achieved greater career/financial success after divorcing?I’m in the same boat. While my alimony payment is straight up highway robbery, she wasted at least that much money every month. Now I have control of my finances and spend less each month on a car payment, insurance payment, etc. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/24 01:45 PM |
| 1 | It’s official. DivorceI’m in Wayne County. A friend of mine was in Oakland County. He got hosed, but I’m not sure if that was due to the county or his ex. However, that was over 10 years ago. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/05/24 03:15 AM |
| 2 | It’s official. DivorceThat’s about the same I will be paying. $2500 in alimony and $1100 in child support. She has a good degree, but refused to get a real job, so the income difference between the two of us was large. In the end, she was financially irresponsible our whole marriage and probably wasted about $3600 a month anyway. And now I will have one less car payment, lower insurance payments, etc. AND… I will have my freedom. In Michigan, child support is just a straight up calculation. Alimony is the one that’s … | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/24 11:59 AM |
| 2 | Divorced man of 40, father of 3 beautiful kids, how difficult is it to have a fresh start at life?I agree, as well. I understand if she has slightly more than 50/50 parenting time, but it shouldn’t be 100%. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/24 02:39 PM |
| 2 | Wife wanting a divorceWhile I understand that “NDS” is the case in way too many situations, it’s not a guarantee. My STBXW is the relationship-terrorist narcissist type, but not a cheater. Look at her past. Was she one of those women that always needed to be dating a guy, and then also have another guy or two on the bench ready to step in? If yes, then she’s probably cheating. If no, then maybe she could be cheating, but it’s probably something else. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/03/24 12:31 PM |
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