Kaineslist Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	If they ask you what inequalities do men face?(Summary) ... well yes, that's the premise of all post 2nd wave feminism.	/r/MensRights	19/04/26 09:45 PM
4	This person just sums up what a lot of women think about men I once had a fascinating discussion with a philosophy professor over this - can it be called "thousands of years of oppression" -- if no other way of life was known at that time? Was it an advancement in women's civil rights? Absolutely. But was it a freedom from oppression, when no other way was known at that time? So it wasn't emotionally or physically damaging to an entire class - because no other option had ever been available. It isn't akin to the oppression of the races - those races were …	/r/MensRights	20/01/26 02:39 PM
1	As a man, besides a better health, education and a good potential of earning, what more should I focus on, and what reckless activities besides alcohol should I avoid? Read classics of manhood, and surround yourself with them in your home. Make it a place of your own, not a showcase or a "man den", but a peaceful tape filled with things that have meaning to you. Some are poems, some are quotes, and some are books worth keeping where you can see them and reread them. Dale Winbrow - "The Guy In The Glass" Rudyard Kipling - "If --" and "Sons of Martha", "Tommy" and .. so many others. Theodore Roosevelt - "The Man in the Arena" Victor Frankl - "Man's Search For Me…	/r/MensRights	14/01/26 03:59 PM
37	There's a lot to unpack ... your wife is already telling you, black and white, what her intentions are. Whether you drag it out by going to a different couples therapist, or be realistic and get your attorney and file first. The choice is up to you. But the reality is, therapists aren't some advocate who is seeking to break a marriage or blame specifically men. They may often be shit human beings, or be unfairly biased, but we still have to look at the person who goes to visit them who leads that conversation. Which me…	/r/MensRights	17/10/25 01:29 AM
1	Are Women Allowed to be Naked in Public, While a Man Would be Arrested? Point that the previous poster is making, is that no, it isn't. I don't know anywhere, at least in the us, where someone will be charged with SA for touching a man's upper body. I can't think of a single City where a person wouldn't be charged with SA for doing the same touching and groping that I've seen women get away with on men to someone of the female gender.	/r/MensRights	03/07/25 10:49 PM
2	Why misandry doesn't kill is so wrong While I've already disagreed with many people, I promise you, I'm not a troll. I agree 10 billion percent ( points if you get the reference) that saying missionary doesn't kill is completely wrong. It absolutely does, especially in first woman nations. But I think we need to differentiate between misintry, and social situations which have come about due to historical norms and survived due to men's acceptance of them, or economic factors, or feminisms two-sided view of equal opportunity. While t…	/r/MensRights	30/06/25 01:33 PM
2	Why misandry doesn't kill is so wrong Well that may be true within the first world nation, again you're not looking at second and third world numbers. You say misogyny doesn't kill, but what you're saying should actually be singular killers are not made from misogyny alone. That would be more accurate. And again, discounting numbers which support other claims while only accepting our own, is what feminism in its modern form does. We should do everything possible not to be that. Misogyny is very much still a mindset in many third wor…	/r/MensRights	30/06/25 01:24 PM
1	Why misandry doesn't kill is so wrong That depends on how you define modern society, and whether you extend "modern society" to include second and third world nations? Again, let me preface this by saying that I've actually worked as a men's rights facilitator and educator, a trauma group and DBT therapy facilitator for men's trauma, and an instructor on topics of violence against men in domestic situations for PCADV and NLA-I/DV. But if we're going to be honest, we need to be honest about all numbers. Showing only the numbers that …	/r/MensRights	30/06/25 01:16 PM
6	Why misandry doesn't kill is so wrong Very true. And because the social standard was that only men will be used as a resource, Deutschland was nearly genetically bereft after the war. Multiple historical Studies have shown that a drastic number of those who were forced to serve in the military were forced to do so via "draft", or dragged into it so that their older relatives wouldn't be dragged into it.. Ie... blackmail. And in return the country nearly didn't have enough young blood to continue on to the next generation, and entire…	/r/MensRights	30/06/25 01:05 PM
5	Some cis women insist that men must give up seats in public transport ... there are women only seats? WTF is that? Does that extra chromosome mean discrimination is okay?	/r/MensRights	24/06/25 05:52 PM
3	Men unsubbing to r/MensRights due to PTSD Brother, as a fellow survivor at the same rate -- I'd be willing to bet money that part of why it seems that way to us is because of years of counseling and learning from life that positive and negative are just symbols on a terminal. Whether news stories are helpful or harmful has a lot to do with where your head is when you read them. That said -- not everyone is at a place where they can see that yet. Sadly, there's a dearth of trauma counselors for men's trauma. (I should know, I married one…	/r/MensRights	14/01/25 01:25 AM
10	Stop making the patriarchy a thing. It’s not a thing. "are still not effectively doing" ... Judgemental much? This sub is specifically for men to let loose, without shame or being shamed, and discuss issues personal to them that they have experienced in society. It's also a place where they can vent, supposedly safely, and be heard. Because, as you've proven all too well, men aren't heard. ".. ignorant as to where it came from..." If it's so important, wear something came from, and to name something a patronymic that falsely accuses and holds respo…	/r/MensRights	30/11/24 08:42 PM
15	Stop making the patriarchy a thing. It’s not a thing. Actually, you aren't countering his points so much as.. you're making them. His point is that the "patriarchy" is a nonsensical fallacy because of the way men are treated here in the west. You say that you're countering why do men have most deadly and miserable jobs, well your answer is "that gender roles etc". And that's exactly his point. Here in the west men are expected to do the jobs where you can be killed or maimed or crippled. I speak from experience as someone who retired from law enfor…	/r/MensRights	30/11/24 08:34 PM
2	Girlfriend attacks, both arrested Young Men, if you're that hard up, don't risk the "easy girl", or the "fun girl" --- and as someone Elsad, familiar eyes yourself. With the signs of a cluster B personality disorder. They're actually not all that hard to remember, they've got a lot in common with each other, and are depressingly common in America. That's said, If you're that hard up, In the long run, it's gonna be cheaper and safer to hire an actual professional until you get your stuff together and are ready for a big boy relat…	/r/MensRights	15/12/23 02:07 PM
2	Girlfriend attacks, both arrested A. Fucking. Men.	/r/MensRights	15/12/23 01:54 PM
1	Why are men not entitled to rest and recovery? Just a suggestion, but you might need to find a counselor for this. It sounds like she's not gonna be the type who's open to direct communication. Of course, finding a marriage counselor who won't automatically take one side is gonna be tough. So you might be better off finding a counselor that you can talk to for yourself first.. because honestly, I don't know any modern man who couldn't do with a therapist to talk to about stress, anxiety, and depression. And then after you've gotten some help…	/r/MensRights	05/12/23 06:07 PM
2	Fellow men, how old are you and what do you do for work? I always wondered - is that second one an MS, an LPC, LCSW, or more of a career counselor, or a life coach?	/r/MensRights	02/12/23 10:57 AM
6	Fellow men, how old are you and what do you do for work? Plumbers, electricians, tradesmen of all the skilled types, along with an entrepreneurs mentality to be able to challenge "Amazon Electrical Servicing", and "Walmart Generic Plumbing Works".	/r/MensRights	02/12/23 10:54 AM
13	Fellow men, how old are you and what do you do for work? Good luck. Sincerely. Hardest job in America, right now.	/r/MensRights	02/12/23 10:51 AM
6	Fellow men, how old are you and what do you do for work? 42, medically retired cop. Pensioned out, doing some writing and smithing small metal work (knives, specialty tools, men's edc stuff).	/r/MensRights	02/12/23 10:50 AM
9	Anyone else fed up the term "women and children" constantly being thrown around on Reddit these days? Fuck. Yes. And actually, my wife even more so... she's more active on (non-militant) MRA boards than I am, as is her gf. It's F-ing ridiculous that in the 21st, you still cry W&c, after 30-40 years of banging the war drum of feminism until it came full pendulum swing to misandry.	/r/MensRights	12/10/23 02:58 PM
38	After 2.5 years of pure torture, finally have a trial date ... Do you not living in the u s? I'm a retired cop outside Philadelphia, State cop, as well as a member of the lifestyle (ie, BDSM) ... There's so many cases of this happening to men, especially men with money or power, that it doesn't even make the news anymore unless it's pretty extreme or they're married to someone majorly newsworthy. And the laws are written to "protect the victim", even if the victim is later proven in court to have been falsifying the claim ... so the woman's life will mo…	/r/MensRights	17/08/23 11:25 PM
5	i wonder why American men are still getting married with the legal system heavily leaning against them. Young Stupidity and or Naivety (first marriage) There are still (SSR / super super rare) Old Fashioned Girls out there. But it's like winning the freaking lottery. (see - Second Marriage)	/r/MensRights	30/10/22 04:21 PM
28	Anyone else noticing misandry in the workplace? Down home we refer to this as the "yankee bullshit" phenomenon. Since coming up to PA, some of the stuff I've seen has made me want to smack someone. I mean, good god, it's like emotional abuse is accepted as a "loving relationship" up here.	/r/MensRights	05/09/22 08:38 PM
38	Switcheroo on the dating tables No matter how a guy looks... if there's never a chance to try and make mistakes without being criminalized or having their lives ruined just for being socially awkward (socially awkward, not legit assaultive) -- an entire generation of boys will never learn to interact with women, or become men. Oh... wait..... that's already happening to the current gen., isn't it....	/r/MensRights	19/08/22 07:39 PM
17	My girlfriend told me that men ruin women all the time Looking below, you've got the basic good advice. First, Run Far, and Run Fast. Anyone who puts their life on you, male or female, is not someone to build a life with. You "destroyed her"? Unless you raped her, ran your car into her, or did something equally traumatizing.... no, you damned well didn't. Refuse delivery, get the hell out, and get yourself some counseling while you're at it. Second - get yourself some counseling, while you're at it, or after you're done with it, or.... just get your…	/r/MensRights	17/04/22 04:38 PM
17	"Incel" is the misandry equivalent of misogyny's "slut" — The difference being: the use of the latter is unequivocally seen as morally wrong & hateful by society There you go, sadly enough. Male survivors of DV are often refused space in shelters, male only shelters are often sued or protested into non-existence, and male survivors or sexual abuse are most often disbelieved, or (worse, and disgusting) - convinced that they participated in, or were at fault for, their own victimization. It's a heartless and horrible dual standard. But even in the field of therapy, it's only now beginning to be acknowledged ... and it's still very difficult for some men to…	/r/MensRights	17/04/22 04:23 PM
2	"Incel" is the misandry equivalent of misogyny's "slut" — The difference being: the use of the latter is unequivocally seen as morally wrong & hateful by society And I'm sure the down votes will roll in, yet here I go.. Like all slurs, there are the grains of truth that form the basis of the statement. And there in lies the problem in ending the use of the phrase ... there are, in fact, those who still meet the definition of "incel" (and/or self identify as it) and meet the definition of "slut" (and/or self identify as it) -- so it exists as a phrase in this quasi-definite state of being not only a Slur, but also a self-owned "re-claimed identity" (such …	/r/MensRights	17/04/22 04:19 PM
27	Every time I show emotion my wife freaks out You can -- but it doesn't sound like this is it. The concern should have started when she found out you were dealing to make the bank and she didn't change her attitude then. Risking prison and parole is no joke -- but we're expected to do it like it's no big. My first wife - I've still got the scars. Literally, the scars. Learned that lesson, a few years older than you are and after a kid. The second one is stable, has her own life under control, and we had a looot of conversations while dating…	/r/MensRights	24/12/21 01:16 PM
7	Excuses after metoo You want to know why it takes two cops to take a suspect to the bathroom? That's why. Or why there're cameras in every inch of the district house? Same reason. Because it's a high accusation job. And I can't think of a single circumstance where I've regretted having a partner of same gender as the suspect with me during a pat down, search, warrant service, notification, arrest, or even just a road stop.	/r/MensRights	22/12/21 08:09 PM