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| 13 | wow.Can you imagine hearing an adult man scream at your child and then reason to them why it’s okay??? Ma’am this is where your Momma Bear instinct is programmed to come out... she’s so far brainwashed that even her core programming is compromised. This poor little girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 06:00 PM |
| 19 | If your partner does this, RUN in the opposite direction. This is abuse and a power play.Thanks!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 06:50 PM |
| 74 | Always RememberFlashback to my ex saying, direct quote "You're just so hard to love", in the first conversation he had with me after taking and keeping MY car for the whole week that he gave me the silent treatment as punishment for saying something he didn't like. Never again! 🤡🤡🤪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 08:57 AM |
| 4 | The wordiness of this sweatshirt makes me just *feel* the mental and emotional stress of being in denial about an abusive relationshipEw. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 06:22 PM |
| 25 | Men talk too much....and why this can be a good thing 😈I did this early on in my career with the C level boss I somehow got to report to in my first job after graduating from college. And then any C level or experienced person who wanted my company, to monologue about themselves and would answer all my questions and share strategic company initiatives that the execs were mulling over. It’s insane and kinda embarrassing how much men will blab this way. But I learned and was able to volunteer for new projects a million times faster because of it and i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 12:02 PM |
| 11 | How did watching porn become normalized when this behavior would be absurd if acted out in real life?I love this too! A post from one of the relationship subs came up recently where a woman was asking for advice if it was a red flag that a potential love interests Instagram activity was floooooded with tons and tons of girls. And obviously all the responders are saying it’s none of your business, it’s your insecurities etc. Coffee table and screenless analogies here are perfect- get a hobby guy. Says a lot about someone when their top interests are exclusively the consumption of female bodies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 09:26 PM |
| 7 | Nearly 30 and still can’t piss straight or clean up 🤢🥴Bold to argue with anyone about maturity when you in fact, are not fully potty trained sir. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 01:27 AM |
| 12 | Just NVM ThingsYa I thought I had an aneurysm when I saw that as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 06:30 AM |
| 7 | FAR TOO COMMON: Men with girlfriends who still hit the DMs to flirt and beg for nudes - you think I won’t snitch?Agreed! I like it too - kinda like a Carfax report! I don’t want to read the history of other vehicles- but I do want a third party verified history report of the actual car if I’m considering buying it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 01:32 AM |
| 111 | So glad he is her exSends apology flowers. Spells your name wrong. Twice. There are only four letters sir and two of them are the same! 🤡 These are not mistakes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 12:01 AM |
| 2 | This made me snort with laughterPeencakes are Gluten free, grain free and a super quick, very inexpensive, high protein recipe for these otherwise undesirable and entirely inedible leftovers: -1 egg - 1/2 c. Peanut butter - 2-3 discarded peens mashed thoroughly -dash of cinnamon & vanilla Pour like regular batter, flip when edges bubble and serve with syrup or jam and butter. Nothing like waking up to the smell of fresh Peencakes in the morning 🥞🥞🥞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 09:27 AM |
| 31 | why we don't do hookups.. straight from the horse's mouthEW! That is straight up scary manipulative. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 08:44 PM |
| 7 | Scrote wonders “what if” he left his wife for ONS 🤦🏻♀️Ahhh this guy. Truly thinks if he had slept with other women THEN he’d be faithful. Nope. That’s determined by your character, not a distinct number of sexual partners that will magically make you an honest, trustworthy and truly loving partner. My most serious relationship and type of love I haven’t experienced since cheated on me in a biiig way and how I found out had significant consequences for many years after. At various points he tried to get back together with me but I knew what he did w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 01:08 AM |
| 13 | People who enable toxic abusers are just as toxic and should also be removed from your lifeOr that it’s your fault and you “should have known”. You were there so you deserved it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 05:57 PM |
| 1 | THIS!! I see women on here sometimes arguing with men and posting their “sassy” or “savage” clapbacks, he doesn’t care he just enjoys getting a rise out of you. Bad attention for men is still attention. Block them and pay them no mind.I know right! Ya I was confident he wasn’t the violent type but every other type of underhanded sabotage we knew was on the table, my brain is still mentally exhausted from all the legal research and covering of bases I was doing to make sure we were legally protected in every imaginable way. Even until his last day of move out he was secretly trying to BUY our building, which would be in the multi millions ... while telling us he was moving out to save money on rent 😂 Full on crazy making as I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 12:31 AM |
| 2 | THIS!! I see women on here sometimes arguing with men and posting their “sassy” or “savage” clapbacks, he doesn’t care he just enjoys getting a rise out of you. Bad attention for men is still attention. Block them and pay them no mind.Total? 6 years. 😭😭 BUT counting from once I realized what I was really dealing with him, that grey rock/ no contact is the only way through it, and started influencing the other two roommates to see and fully implement those approaches it was less than 9 months. Fortunately/ unfortunately I had learned a lot from going through the same thing with an abusive business partner and boyfriend, so once I fully accepted that there was no other way it went pretty fast looking back. All 3 of us are kicki… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 11:53 PM |
| 12 | THIS!! I see women on here sometimes arguing with men and posting their “sassy” or “savage” clapbacks, he doesn’t care he just enjoys getting a rise out of you. Bad attention for men is still attention. Block them and pay them no mind.We did this with a narcissist male roommate - took the total blindness and non engagement of the 3 female roommates to finally get him to chose to leave. Good luck with your spouse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 10:32 PM |
| 98 | THIS!! I see women on here sometimes arguing with men and posting their “sassy” or “savage” clapbacks, he doesn’t care he just enjoys getting a rise out of you. Bad attention for men is still attention. Block them and pay them no mind.100%! If you’re in person and his comment actually makes you lol you’ll get to see his rage surge. Particularly for Abusive narcissists, but it makes them furious when they are shitty and can’t drag you into their shitty angry game and suck your emotions out. Total dumb fox move! Dr Pat Allen talks about this and how to do it in committed relationships in her book Getting To I Do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 10:24 PM |
| 13 | If he doesn't make you cum he doesn't care about you or respect you!Thanks! You are correct - And I was not implying that what you said was saying pathetic meh orgasms would be acceptable. What I wrote was entirely in the spirit of 100% full agreement with you. And not a criticism or pointing out of any shortcomings of what you wrote. I see that I didn’t state that clearly enough though so to clarify, yessssss, amazing points. Thank you for writing that. What I am criticizing as I think through the issue is the “did you cum” attitude of men. And how society cele… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 10:04 PM |
| 74 | If he doesn't make you cum he doesn't care about you or respect you!Ya know how we talk about emotional labor? And seeing how we were doing all the emotional and verbal heavy lifting to help him see how doing XYZ differently would positively help your relationship- but wording everything in a way so he thinks he figured it out himself and it’s his own idea?? And obviously getting no appreciation or respect for doing it because he doesn’t even know how much flipping effort it takes?? Ya, it took me almost 2 years of celibacy to realize that not only did I use to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 07:41 AM |
| 7 | What do you look for in a girl? "Personality" 🙄Oh wow. Well... I’m sure there are HVM somewhere else on campus! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 07:42 AM |
| 8 | What do you look for in a girl? "Personality" 🙄Serious question, is this high school? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 07:27 AM |
| 1 | Is it just me or commenting on anyone's appearance in a negative way is just the lowest trick ever?When I graduated I was shocked by how often men do this in the workplace. -Oh you look sick. (I'm not sick, I went on the corporate run with 20 of our other colleagues and I don't wear makeup to workout) -Oh you look like you've lost weight, look at how small your ______ is (uhhh... Please don't) -Wow your legs are soooo long -You're bow legged. Men love bow legged women (what the actual French toast?!?) -Why are you always so dressed up? -Why are you always so dressed down? -How old are you? Yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 06:56 AM |
| 28 | The “Blood in the Water” TestJust WOW. This is good. And makes me so angry thinking about all the time I spent in relationships back when I used to date, tiptoeing around men's insecurities, the ones they don't even explicitly say but you sense so you look for positive ways to affirm them and build them up, you know because that's what positive, healthy relationships do right? Help encourage and make one another better? No. That's what women do. And that's why I reserve all my encouraging, positive reinforcement, compliment… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 12:33 AM |
| 1 | Another proof why you shouldn't talk about your past abuse/relationships to a man especially on the first dates ! they KNOWI wholeheartedly agree with you and similarly don’t know for certain that there will be a point where I am stable enough to date. This should be more common advice and the opposite of how society looks at dating, where we are mindful of our current life dynamics and goals and choose to enter periods of dating mindfully with a clarified purpose, rather than as the normal default of always dating unless you’re in a relationship. It’s such a significant energy and emotional drainer and complicator … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 08:03 PM |
| 17 | Don’t change yourself to keep a man. If he wants to cheat, he’ll cheat regardless.That’s so insane to me, definitely very greedy! It’s so sad for people who have actually been in that situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 09:10 PM |
| 92 | Don’t change yourself to keep a man. If he wants to cheat, he’ll cheat regardless.Many lifetimes ago, after 2 years of long distance my college boyfriend and I finally transferred Universities to be together, less than a year later I find him sleeping with someone else who was just visiting for a WEEKEND. We breakup. Sometime later I end up exploring a relationship with a girl for the first time. Boyfriend who cheated on me, threw my entire life into chaos and broke my heart hears I’ve been with a woman intimately and is FURIOUS. Apparently “We we’re supposed to explore that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 06:50 PM |
| 42 | Scrotes trying to convince themselves that they’re too good for women who were coerced into sex by predatory men at a young age. The comments are disgusting100% nobody’s business. Funny how men’s responses to any sort of sharing past histories, particularly sexual ones doesn’t lead to them then reflecting on and then “confessing” their sexual histories, harassment’s, coercion, sexual assaults or raping of women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 04:01 AM |
| 76 | Because everything a woman does is for male attention 🙄Exactly. And this is her post THREE BABIES body. As in the "fat before" photos were from in between her three PREGNANCIES and nursing of her 7, 4 and just turned 2 year old childen and the "took me long enough" is probably referring to getting into shape again in her post-natal body. Not that she owed that to anyone in any specific amount of time either. Leave it to a LVM to make the physiological changes of growing and nursing THREE WHOLE HUMAN BEINGS IN HER BODY more about men's attention than… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 02:01 AM |
| 24 | Successful YouTuber gets beaten up by husband for not thanking him in award speech, forgives him, retracts police report and returns her award. Unbelievable.Exactly, this woman is doing her best to survive the situation she is in as best she can right now. Especially when we want better lives for people out of care and concern for their well being, criticizing people experiencing domestic violence and trauma doesn’t help them move towards safety or alleviate the myriad of factors they weighed out to make those decisions. Trauma literally changes your brain, how you process etc. Its not a character flaw, it’s our brains evolutionary survival programm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 07:53 PM |
| 16 | The Best Revenge Isn't Revenge: It's SILENCE.Yep. Get the restraining order now. When you file a police report you can try to get a judge to issue an emergency protective order. This gives you time and protection while you do the legal documentation process, tons of free resources and legal aid helping DV/ stalking victims file restraining orders. Google CROC or free restraining order services in your area. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 05:01 AM |
| 19 | Why are LVM so obsessive! Small d*ck energy to the maxSeriously. For a second I thought it was Pete Davidson’s voice doing a bit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 10:42 AM |
| 2 | Anyone else down to read Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft and do a virtual bookclub discussion each week to process the content/discuss? Details here!!!Sounds amazing! Following for details | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 10:24 PM |
| 2 | Special occasions ~ then & nowSo true. I know there’s a lot more to the broader category, but Narcs specifically LOVE to ruin holidays, birthdays and literally anything that is special to you. Lovely to hear about such a delightful different experience 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 05:05 AM |
| 50 | Husband (26) uses kink as an excuse to rape his wife(20) then attempts to gaslight herExactly. When your rapist is your partner, they will treat you even worse afterwards because they KNOW what they did to you. By treating you terribly and getting angry at you they are manipulating you to get you to doubt yourself of what actually happened. Cognitive Dissonance is already insane with domestic abuse and only gets worse if you “talk to him” about it. Hope she is able to leave without having a single conversation about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 11:49 PM |
| 19 | Start treating men the same way companies treat their employeesThis is really good, thanks for writing this! On the low value side, low value companies also breed complacency. Low value employees will stay at low value companies and talk endless trash about how terrible the company is... while staying... and doing the bare minimum... making the company worse for it. A demoralizing and destructive cycle both in reality and analogy for our lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 04:16 PM |
| 24 | I asked him what he thinks about #metoo and the wage gap... These are red flags right?!Yes. A JP reference is immediate game over. Block him now before he starts sending you podcasts and YouTube links to help “educate” you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 03:04 AM |
| 12 | This sub is going to get banned soon. It’s time to leave Reddit ladies.Bless all you mods and leaders. I didn’t know this was a thing and am truly devastated thinking about going back to trying to do this alone... Thank you for everything you all have put into this, it truly is life changing 🙏🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 02:15 AM |
| 1 | This sub is going to get banned soon. It’s time to leave Reddit ladies.Thank you 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 02:05 AM |
| 56 | How it’s starting to feel around FDS in light of recent bansI’m unaware of recent bans as my meager reddit literacy is purely motivated by being functional enough to participate in FDS... but FDS is my AIR now... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 01:52 AM |
| 4 | LETS 👏 TALK 👏ABOUT👏THIS👏I’m so sorry. How many years apart are you and sibling? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 03:08 AM |
| 63 | He proposed!!PLOT TWIST! Did not see that coming after yesterday’s post, Congratulations my dear! What a way better ending!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 04:08 AM |
| 15 | “Just because someone wants to marry you, doesn’t mean it’s a good idea.” Dr. Ramani dropping some TRUTH about the need to vet vet vet and stay in control of your own choices.Declining his proposal and selling the ring is one of my proudest moments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 03:43 AM |
| 39 | M*le wondering if he's an asshole for subscribing to an OnlyFans account behind his wife's back (the woman in the account also looks 15 years old at a push)OH MY GOODNESS. I cannot believe what I just watched. A child. That is twisted and filthy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 03:37 AM |
| 33 | Facts 💅Yes! Clean sheets, clean room, clean eating, journaling, reading good books or positive films, waking up early and feeling rested in my own home! In summary when I think about it, even the wealthy ones, I don’t want to spend another minute letting LVMs, dim my light, lower my vibration or slow my growth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 03:19 AM |
| 26 | SadOopsies! Considering this lil guy’s hands were going to be his only sexual partners, you’d think he’d have been more careful with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 10:58 PM |
| 18 | I need some help on dating and finding a HVMIn short, go places and do things that you are genuinely passionate about and enjoy. For me, speaking events, meetups for topic I’m interested in, community/ clubs and being very active through an extended faith network in my city creates a lot of opportunities to meet new people. So your starting pool is more likely to have values/ lifestyles passion etc. in common with you. Then ruthlessly weed out from there. Commonalities are a great start. But they also can be bullshitted, and we should nev… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 05:23 AM |
| 1 | Guard your HEART- This is theory I am challenging my bestie and I both to do. Don't let yourself like a man but just consider him an option UNTIL HE LOVES you. I am not interested in giving away more sex to someone that isn't my next husband. I did try/ succeeded w/ last boyfriend so no heartbreakGood lord yes this. The following detox and repair is brutal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 02:49 AM |
| 1 | If a woman chooses to forgive/stay with her cheating spouse that’s her choice, but no one will ever convince me that their relationship is goals or anything to aspire to.Did you see the scene in homecoming when very recently after birthing the twins and training her butt off to finally fit into her previous size/ costume she finally fits into it and calls him excitedly to tell him... his response and lack of enthusiasm, zero encouragement says a lot. That scene makes me feel so sad for her that he couldn’t give a shit to celebrate her and how hard she worked to get there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 02:40 AM |
| 3 | And this is how you spot HV relationships: 💚🚦💯Yesss, phenomenal additions. I’d also add -Invests in you generously. That looks different for everyone, but they gladly want to use the resources they have be it knowledge, connections, finances, physical abilities etc to add to your life. And build a life WITH you. -Proactively cares about your feelings. A man who wants to know how you feel and wants you to feel good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 08:43 PM |
| 2 | Dudes posing like they are the prize 🤣🤣🤣*NSFW and also *NSFL (not safe for life)THE. SOCKS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 01:14 AM |
| 4 | No words... what happens when you don’t make a big deal of special days in a relationship: you end up married to an LVM who doesn’t get you anything or acknowledge you when you have a baby, a birthday, an anniversary, and Mother’s Day in the span of two weeks (text in comments)“He responded saying he was just a shitty husband”... that’s manipulation and playing the victim card. He even told you he wasn’t going to do anything for you to hurt you. There is no time for passive aggressive men like this. Grey rock to deal with co-parenting and leave this man. You can’t keep explaining your hurt to people who keep hurting you. So sad she’s dealing with this with children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 04:48 AM |
| 9 | this interaction >I’m so so sorry that happened to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 11:24 PM |
| 7 | 🤷🏻♀️Yes. That glazed over look that comes over his face after 15 seconds after he’s just told you his nuanced life story. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 04:28 PM |
| 4 | 🤷🏻♀️No more free therapy guys! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 04:26 PM |
| 13 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 4/20/2020Just discovered this sub but on my own I have been reading and applying many of the concepts from recommended books on the wiki for the past 4 years so I’m so excited to see this community exists! In the past when I’ve shared the principles outside with girlfriends IRL like how I don’t initiate or pursue in anyway, not touching doors is a personal favorite, but I’ve gotten a lot of criticism from my girlfriends about being high maintenance etc so it means a lot to me to find other women using th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 03:43 PM |
| 2 | Another day, another “I wasted my life waiting for him to propose” post. We need a Forever Girlfriend flair 🤦🏻♀️Never! How do you not see you’re throwing all your bargaining power out the window and stuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 03:09 PM |
| 1 | Wife died, first thing he's wondering is when he can get some.Wow. I’m so sorry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 05:15 AM |
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