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This is self-intoxicating thinking. Stop striving for things in the future, it won‘t change shit. Do things now, leave your comfort zone and look out for yourself. That‘s it.
/r/seduction03/03/20 03:15 PM
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Don‘t give up. That‘s obvious. From what I can read you might want to work on your self-esteem. You try to improve all those exterior factors, instead try to take some time for yourself and ignore all the girl stuff. Only for some time, you will notice when you want to give it a go again. My advice is to read „The Power of Now“ by Eckhart Tolle. This is no Pick-up book, but it teaches you to say „fuck you“ to the voice in your head, that lets you think about and compare with the future and the p…
/r/seduction03/03/20 03:12 PM
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When did she stop? I am not a fan of just ghosting back, this so called „game“ is wack. Just text her something funny, non-needy and ask when you should join her tomorrow.
/r/seduction28/02/20 06:30 PM
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Are you in hamburg then? Hit me up if you want some tips, or insights! You sound pretty much like me tbh haha (22M, from Hamburg, starting my internship in munich, in investment banking in a few weeks)
/r/seduction25/02/20 10:23 AM
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Generally, you should already set the tone and lead to the idea of kissing, during the date - build some tension. There is by no way a definite route, forget all the bullshit step by step guides. Don‘t try to fake too much, just try to vibe with her and ask personal questions. With that I don‘t mean to talk about her past relationships or the name of her cat or whatever, but instead of asking “what questions“, try to talk about her „why‘s“ (motivations, what she loves, maybe even some fears). Th…
/r/seduction24/02/20 05:23 PM
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Are you me? Lol
/r/seduction27/12/19 04:31 PM
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The amount of negativity you spread is immense. Chill out bro, you don‘t seem as content as you try to portray yourself
/r/seduction25/12/19 03:34 PM
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You won‘t enter the friendzone BY showing your intentions. You honestly just have to make a move and must not be scared about the outcome. Just ask her out. If you play the long game and never leave your comfort zone she will think you are not interested in that way.
/r/seduction25/12/19 12:54 AM
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Been there. Honestly the only thing that helps: practice. This is closely tied to self-esteem as well, as you might think „I am not worthy being the significant other to a female or be recognized as sexually attractive“. This self-conception will only come with experience and with viewing yourself as worthy, which takes different steps for each individual, summarized as „get your shit together“. This is by no means a front, this is just how I perceived the whole thing myself. I don‘t know any de…
/r/seduction21/12/19 03:25 PM
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This dude died?
/r/seduction18/12/19 01:58 PM
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Not sure if this would overwhelm her. I did this with my last tinder date, after she went cold. It worked great. But I think too much has happened in this case, so that a casual call put of the blue might be too surprising...
/r/seduction16/12/19 02:31 PM
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Honestly sometimes I take ages to respond as well. Keep it on read because I am busy during the day and I want to think about my response if it‘s important Edit: also I am on my way to a tinder date right now, with a girl that took eternities to respond. Sometimes it doesn‘t mean much. Good luck, cheers!
/r/seduction14/12/19 05:03 PM
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He is literally stating that he wants to actively do shit, and asks practical advice. No need to reply with a “stop whining“ answer
/r/seduction08/12/19 08:09 PM
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Great content actually!
/r/seduction08/12/19 02:31 PM
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Don‘t show that them being cold is impacting you. What I do in such cases is send them a memo on whatsapp, where you talk about something funny. Especially when convos are longer, these dry texts tend to end nowhere. You can vibe so much more by using your actual voice. Today I just called a girl, that went cold on me for ten days (met on tinder and texted on whatsapp). With her it started fine, went great on whatsapp, but after some time it went cold. Especially because she is only here for the…
/r/seduction06/12/19 06:54 PM
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Girls definitely don‘t hate it if you stay in frame haha
/r/seduction06/12/19 03:28 PM
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You won‘t gain in a deficit despite some memory gains. You will a need a slight surplus
/r/seduction03/12/19 02:16 PM
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Don‘t say „homie“ that‘s weird and non-feminin imo
/r/seduction28/11/19 10:31 PM
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Exactly! But oftentimes it is followed by a “He was a total asshole“, which makes it kind of a shit test. Still, I like when this happens
/r/seduction27/11/19 05:29 PM
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Strangely, I am being told that I look like girl‘s ex-boyfriends quiet frequently after introducing myself or have small conversations. I doubt that it‘s true but see it as a strange opener/shit test. I am not really being approached often though.
/r/seduction27/11/19 03:42 PM
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What on earth are “texting buddies“ supposed to be? This is worse than friendzone, sorry to hear that!
/r/seduction25/11/19 09:20 AM
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Look into the post I created a while ago Hope this helps!
/r/seduction24/11/19 11:00 AM
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Really appreciate it! I get the concept, that‘s I am usually doing and have done with her as well. We had a date set up for today to go to a christmas-market and grab some glogg („Glühwein; don‘t know if the translation is correct though). Now she declined and I feel like it is not on my part to start from the beginning and initiate the same path once again. Maybe I have to though and she wouldn‘t initiate otherwise. I‘ll give it a day. Thanks again!
/r/seduction23/11/19 08:16 PM
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Can you elaborate on the “yes-ladder style invitation“, please?
/r/seduction23/11/19 05:00 PM
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To me she is kinda confusing. Takes ages to reply and cancels the date, on the other hand shows interest, asks questions in this case wants to keep the convo going. But if she was really down, she would have proposed to meet next weekend for example. No clue, I‘ll keep it low investment and see if she engages me again. I only replied with „ alright then, thats unfortunate. Have fun“
/r/seduction23/11/19 04:32 PM
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So no further action. Just like „alright, have fun“?
/r/seduction23/11/19 01:02 PM
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I am holding eye contact with everyone I speak to and it NEVER gets awkward. Maybe it was in the beginning, I can‘t remember. It is about making the eye contact part of your behaviour, it shouldn‘t contradict your general posture/vibe. Then people might be thrown off. I am kinda extroverted with my whole set of gestures and mimic, I could imagine it getting „creepy“ if someone is holding constant eye contact but otherwise behaves like a piece of wood lol
/r/seduction07/11/19 06:59 AM
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I would say don‘t try to fake anything, but try to be (walk and look) receptive. This is what most people mean by being „approachable“. When I walk around, I try to establish eye contact with lots of people. Although I listen to music etc. I try to actively observe what is happening around me, stay in the moment. This might feel a bit forced in the beginning, but once it becomes normal you feel so much better. At least for me, I felt like the vibes I am sending out turned out to be much more lik…
/r/seduction04/11/19 04:40 PM
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If a girl tries to test your frame, keep your frame. This is basically what frame is all about. Not more, not less. Don‘t let anything (manipulation, emotions, etc.) disturb your frame and you are golden. This is the purpose and essence of frame!?
/r/seduction01/11/19 12:10 PM
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This is the guy‘s „hunting phenomenon“ I guess. You chase some girl, and the moment you have her she is not interesting anymore. Exactly like my cat acts with mice lol As long as they run she chases and plays with them. When they play dead (or actually are :(( ) she strolls away.
/r/seduction30/10/19 01:12 PM
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It is so weird right now, I feel like the algirithm has changed. I get like 2 matches a week when it was several a day. Pretty much every girl responds to my texts and we get a nice conversation going. The number of matches and reply ratio just doesn‘t seem to align anymore, no clue. As if I was like totally niche-attractive lol
/r/seduction28/10/19 05:07 PM
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Truth
/r/seduction28/10/19 11:32 AM
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Nope and I wouldn‘t. I once had „As tall as Zac Efron“ in my bio haha But have kicked it out recently. Bro 5‘10 is literally NOTHING to worry about.
/r/seduction25/10/19 10:05 AM
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I am 5‘8, had a tinder date last week (successfull), that I meet again tomorrow. This has been my first tinder date as well. Just don‘t expect too much, try to find out if YOU like HER.
/r/seduction25/10/19 08:46 AM
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Yes, it basically comes down to the lack of initiative. Should have read this one before answering myself haha
/r/seduction21/10/19 11:12 AM
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Do not stress yourself too much. If you into an interaction with the feeling of “I am much more into her than she is into me“ you will fuck shit up. Believe me! She will notice this sense of desperation, I talk from experience. Best thing to do is to get an answer to your question, whether she really wants to see you again or not. We cannot tell to this point. I think there is a good chance she would like to, given her “sounds good“. More often than not it would be around the lines of “Sure let‘…
/r/seduction21/10/19 11:09 AM
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Definitely no oral haha
/r/seduction19/10/19 10:43 PM
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Just dm her on insta, say that you enjoyed the conversation. Small talk a bit and tell that you guys should sit together and continue in person. It is not that complicated :) Good luck!
/r/seduction19/10/19 10:37 PM
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We are speaking about sips, not shots or the likes. It is not about filling her up, the drinking part is secondary.
/r/seduction19/10/19 11:14 AM
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The game plays quiet fast, back and forth. I doubt sou would be wanting take shot after shot, especially if you want to take it further later on haha Just do sips from your drink. We were drinking cocktails. Good luck
/r/seduction19/10/19 11:12 AM
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What?
/r/seduction19/10/19 01:18 AM
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Please keep me up to date, I am very curious!
/r/seduction19/10/19 01:15 AM
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Yes its german presets. Sorry about that haha
/r/seduction19/10/19 01:12 AM
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I like it. Yea this is just a basic concept, you can play around with it.
/r/seduction18/10/19 05:03 PM
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To each their own. I am not quiet sure why you encountered this post with such a self-centered position to be honest. I go on dates and in bars to have a good time. That‘s my reasoning. If I can get laid, even better. Usually I offer to pay the first round and the girl will take the second one, I don‘t pretend to be the big spender on first dates. No offense, but I think you take this whole thing way too serious. The way you had to make this post about yourself and require online ratings for you…
/r/seduction18/10/19 04:34 PM
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Of course it COULD potentially happen, same goes for normal approaches though. Also this is useful for moments, when you are quiet certain she likes you and you just aren‘t sure how to make the next move. It is relatively simple to escalate like this because there are only limited variables that could interfere.
/r/seduction18/10/19 04:21 PM
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What the fuck. You are totally right, how did I overlook that :D
/r/seduction18/10/19 02:53 PM
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Yep, this is sad
/r/seduction17/10/19 02:10 PM
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So why does he say that he does not have friends he has deep connections with. The fact that you talked about his struggles and are invested in solving those shows that you are one of those inportant/deep friends for him. It is really important to have those. Try to give him further emotional support. He needs to talk about his shit to have another perspective on issues at hand. Your friend is suffering from low self-esteem it seems. I DO NOT recommend him to do any actions regarding the girl in…
/r/seduction15/10/19 03:17 PM
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Don‘t stress about it, it is totally okay what you did. If she was seriously interested at any point, she wouldn‘t really make a difference. She was in a certain mode, was horny idk so she prioritized the hookup (you) that evening. Now she is in a different setup again her priorities changed. Can‘t do much about it if she doesn‘t respond or show interest now
/r/seduction15/10/19 03:02 PM
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Lol this post, congrats bro!
/r/seduction14/10/19 08:53 AM
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Saved, thanks :)
/r/seduction10/10/19 02:01 PM
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Don‘t put too much pressure on yourself. One way to prevent this from happening is to approach her/the friends circle without thinking about asking her out that moment. Be sociable, let her know you are kinda interested (eye contact, maybe a smirk) and first get in touch on a platonic level. The next time you see her in class try to ask her out, don‘t rush things but show intent.
/r/seduction02/10/19 06:43 PM
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Just talk to her next class, like nothing happened (which pretty much is the case haha)
/r/seduction27/09/19 06:59 PM
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No, why would it be? You don‘t shit where you eat, but if she doesn‘t work there any longer, what‘s there to loose anyway?
/r/seduction15/09/19 11:26 AM
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Also I don‘t see how he failed 8 times? Mate, you got two numbers out of two hands full of approaches. That‘s great, feel rewarded and continue!
/r/seduction13/09/19 04:18 PM
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„I hope not!“ ?
/r/seduction12/09/19 09:50 PM
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Every minutes lol
/r/seduction11/09/19 12:33 AM
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Literally no self-esteem that girl lol
/r/seduction10/09/19 03:29 PM
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Be upfront about it. Don‘t try to find an excuse, they might a joke but that‘s it. Otherwise, find new friends.
/r/seduction10/09/19 02:36 PM
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„Yeah, I don‘t think my McDonalds coupons would suffice both of us“ lol
/r/seduction10/09/19 02:08 PM
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Could be a shit-test. Don‘t take it serious, exaggerate it or ignore.
/r/seduction10/09/19 02:04 PM
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Get a life bro.
/r/seduction10/09/19 01:58 PM
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I lock eyes, dance towards her, smile/ smirk, only ask her name usually. Then proceed to offer her one hand, pull her a bit closer and do one of those turn-arounds. From there the usual. I basically only ask for the name most of the time haha I don‘t understand anything when talking jn a club, anyways. I go deaf pretty much haha
/r/seduction10/09/19 09:21 AM
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It is far lower than you would actually think haha Just ask her to put it in if in doubt, she will gladly to that for you.
/r/seduction08/09/19 03:36 PM
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Find hobbies, get your academics/job priorities straight, have a goal, do fun activities, socialize. Be someone you would like to be around :)
/r/seduction06/09/19 07:36 PM
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No, just have a good time.
/r/seduction06/09/19 03:31 PM
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I have learned that you will generally notice when the girl is down for a kiss. She will give certain signs, convey a certain vibe, get close and will generally create situations where you can go for the kiss. This might not be obvious at first, but you‘ll learn to see it. I wouldn’t say you should always push for it. If you feel the vibe, do it. But if you don‘t, do not force it in the end. And if you feel it is green light during the date, try to not wait for the final goodbye kiss, due to men…
/r/seduction06/09/19 02:38 PM
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Don‘t text first, if she texts something stay below her level of investment to the conversation. Somehow let her see that you got interesting shit going on without her. Cheers!
/r/seduction06/09/19 11:33 AM
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I strongly advice against going for the kiss at the end of a date. You have to establish the mood beforehand, go for the kiss when the moment seems right, like in the middle of the date. The problem with relying on the very end is that you put immense pressure on the situation. It seldom comes natural and seems forced, to her and for you. I made this mistake myself and to me it felt like I would have been better off not going for it in the end at all. Just my 2 cents. Cheers!
/r/seduction06/09/19 11:27 AM
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Set up a fixed date, meet her, have a nice time. Afterwards distance yourself a little from her, don‘t text first. This will drive her crazy.
/r/seduction06/09/19 10:08 AM
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Yeah, don‘t pay for their drinks. What you could do is say you got the first round and she will cover the next one. Thats what I usually do, you don‘t have to awkwardly split bills this way. Don‘t pressure yourself too much for the date. Nice thing would be to meet with your buddy prior to the date and hype each other up, get into the right mindset to not give too much of a fuck. If you can get in your „zone“, you will have won already! Cheers!
/r/seduction06/09/19 10:05 AM
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This
/r/seduction06/09/19 09:52 AM
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I pretty much establish eye contact with everyone I see or walk by. Often I notice girls looking at me for a few seconds, especially if I am in a very confident mood. I think one needs to be aware of this though. A friend of mine is good looking, gets looked at frequently but literally NEVER registers it.
/r/seduction06/09/19 09:10 AM
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Exactly what should be advised in this kinda situation. It sucks the first week maybe, you will quickly move on though. I am in the same situation rn pretty much. Don‘t text her first. If she is interested, she will approach you. GL, cheers!
/r/seduction03/09/19 12:07 PM
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I mean she didn‘t even think of a proper excuse. If she was down to do something, being tired as an excuse wouldn‘t even cross her mind. Maybe it is something she prefers to keep for herself. Anyways, pull back a little and DON‘T TEXT HER FIRST. Did she say anything else, like an alternative date?
/r/seduction31/08/19 03:26 PM
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So at least, it seems that I was on the right track analyzing the situation. I will hopefully learn from the wrong turns I took and won‘t do the same mistakes again. I totally agree with you and will wait for her reaction. Should anything change in the near future, I‘ll let you know via comment. On the 14th, so in 2 weeks time, I‘ll be at an event where I will most certainly stumble into her again. Don‘t really know how I‘ll act yet. But I guess a lot of stirred up emotions will have settled on …
/r/seduction28/08/19 12:18 PM
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Thank you so much for taking the time, I really appreciate it. I noticed Models being recommended a lot, it’s on my agenda. The ED problems are not too much of an issue for me honestly, even while it happened I was able to openly communicate, and not take too serious. She dealt great with it as well, I didn‘t feel pressure at all. After the first tries the problem was solved anyways, I just put way too much pressure on myself. On the one hand because it was my first time, on the other hand becau…
/r/seduction27/08/19 02:17 PM
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