KaleAndKittys Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
-9	What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith? Is it micro aggressions or is it their trauma speaking? And why is it ok for some trauma responses and not others?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/03/22 06:34 PM
2	Being vulnerable to help build intimacy in relationships. In my opinion being vulnerable will always be used against us. My own person story I shared information about my past with my family. And like your post, because he didn’t reject me I thought he accepted it and we were connected. Reflecting on it now, he just didn’t say a darn thing about it. He didn’t support me or ask questions…nothing. He filed it away in his brain to use a DECADE later as a reason why things were wrong with me. No take that back, he used it the entire decade to demean and be…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/03/22 07:15 PM
131	What is the most messed up way you found out your partner was cheating on you? I found out due to an argument and wanting to set a boundary for our child. It started with my (ex)husband snooping around my FB page and clicking on a link I had to my SmugMug account. I stored many photos there and didn’t realize some folders were public. Without my permission he downloaded our child’s school photo and posted it to FB. All of his FB posts were public and I asked him to either remove the photo or reduce the number of people who could see the photo because I didn’t want it avail…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/03/22 05:20 PM
33	Remember no man can be "baby trapped" if he doesn't let it happen Maybe, maybe not. His wife could have been on bc and all of avoiding it was on her. This is based on my own experience of being married to a man where the responsibility was on me. He cheats and impregnates the first woman not on bc who is stupid enough to not make him use protection.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/02/22 02:48 AM
111	Scrote obviously has a porn addiction and is neglecting his kids and gaslighting his wife. I can't even with these men anymore. 1 100% My ex couldn’t even be bothered to file for divorce despite him leaving months earlier and having another woman pregnant. He barely would take our child for a weekend so that’s how I set up custody. He didn’t take issue with it at the time. A couple years (and new kids) later he would occasionally complain that he doesn’t have enough time with our daughter and that the agreement is unfair. Now that he is living in this woman’s house and has someone to tell him how to dad. But all he does …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/02/22 02:34 PM
106	The best thing about getting older and finding FDS is realizing that you don't have to "work" in a relationship - he is either great or you are gone. I wish I had found FDS sooner or at least been taught even 1-2 principles by my parents. My only consolation is that I know my worth now and can teach these principals to my daughter so she always knows her worth and that most standards that women have are just asking for basic respect. FDS has opened my eyes not only to men but also to my LV family—whom I wasted so much of my life trying to please even though they basically sucked as parents. I shouldn’t have to work so hard at that relationshi…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/02/22 01:40 PM
34	Valentine’s Day Has Always Been the Saddest Year of the Time For Me Hugs. It always sucked for me too. My birthday is the week before. My ex always made me choose one that he would acknowledge but really he never acknowledged either of them. I took my birthday back when my divorce was finalized on it.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/01/22 06:01 PM
7	Beware of men who engage in avoidance, intimidation, infantilisation, or emotionally abusive manipulations when you bring up a concern. The very moment he displays any of the following (& more), DROP him! Do not let men damage your health. I’ll add if he acts childish on a regular basis, drop him. My ex does this. Acts childish as part of his charm. Calls things cutesy names. Almost to the point of baby talk in regular conversations. Example: he used to look for his glasses around the house by wandering around and saying “My glasseth, my glasseth” Funny at first. It quickly gets old and they start applying it to many situations which gets infuriating. It got to the point where we had a child and I asked him to start calling things…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/12/21 06:43 PM
26	It wasn’t and isn’t “a waste” This is true! The years were not a waste to me because I came out the other side learning so much about myself and what I need in a relationship. I came out of it wishing my parents had taught me some of theses lessons and as a result it made me realize they didn’t really parent me at all. So this terrible, lv relationship led me to discover not only what I want in relationships with men but also led to me becoming a better parent. I am teaching my daughter these lessons (not just about men but …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/11/21 02:35 PM
23	Everyone's talking about Gabby Petito. But they're having the wrong conversation, experts say. The amount of people claiming we don’t really know he did it and still saying she was off her medication etc is enraging!! Last night I received a community standards warning on FB just for posting a link to an article about the 911 call stating he slapped her. I’ve had a police officer tell me that in his line of work dv is about 50/50, this after I gave him actual statistics. I just can’t anymore. There are many out there who actively refuse to listen.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/09/21 12:08 PM
41	Not mine. But we all can relate. I had a similar experience! My ex would often say how angry I was and there were many times while I was putting the dishes away (specifically the knives) he would casually say that he expected to die by my hand and the knives. I never replied because every time the comment surprised me. It was never in the middle of an argument. All I was doing was putting the dishes away. It would make my mind swirl—am I that angry? Do I want him dead? Do I really appear like a person who would fo this? It took…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/09/21 11:48 AM
43	Scrote steals from wife and gets mad when he can't anymore. DONT! GIVE! MEN! ACCESS! TO! YOUR! FINANCIALS! Dang, my ex did the same. A month after our child was born it came to light that his parents owed $20,000. Debt collectors called my parents & brother (oddly never called me). My family for sure was not paying their debts. Our marriage basically died after that. That’s all I was to him $$$	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/09/21 11:19 PM