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okay, what if a woman doesn’t want to date a fat man then? what if she only wants a man with muscle? exercising is an easy lifestyle choice. so women who don’t want to date flabby losers aren’t being picky.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 02:26 PM
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Depends. Do you think all men only want to date a woman who’s a perfect angel? I think the mistake you’re making is assuming that everyone has the same things that they want. For example, my friends repeatedly refuse to date guys under 6’. I used to think it didn’t matter to me, but I have a pattern of only wanting second dates with men under 6’. I don’t see that as me compromising just because my preference is contradictory to society’s rules. Follow up question: By your logic, if women never c…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 02:19 PM
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this is like if i said “women who don’t want to date short freaks aren’t being picky.” which, if that’s the sentiment you’re going for, okay man
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 02:12 PM
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This argument is flawed because the number system is a simplification of how attraction works. A 2 can definitely pull someone higher if that person is attracted to specific aspects of their looks or personality. The problem is when a 10 is only with a 2 because they’re using them like a bank account. They don’t actually care about them at all as a person. (I would argue this doesn’t apply to sugar daddy situations though, since that’s an explicit agreement)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 02:03 PM
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Possibly the best take I’ve ever seen on this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 01:58 PM
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Men don’t compromise when it comes to dating though. If it’s just a hookup, they’ll basically take anyone, but I wouldn’t call that a compromise, because they’re the ones willingly lowering the bar. I don’t think a man who takes home a girl he wouldn’t date feels like he’s doing charity work or anything. And that’s not the same thing as compromising with actually relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 01:55 PM
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I don't think its impossible for you to know what feminism is without being a feminist. I'm just saying that its likely that you don't have a good idea of what feminism is because there are lots of people who don't, due to the misinformation about it on the internet. There are feminist texts that accurately describe the movement. Lots of people use it as a buzzword, sometimes meaning “anti-men”. The original purpose of the movement was just for things like womens suffrage, closing the wage gap, …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 05:36 PM
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I know asking feminists to have a shred of intellectual rigor is impossible. If they did, they wouldn’t be feminists. This is just wrong. I don’t think you know what feminism is. There are also plenty of women who call themselves “feminists” who also do not know what feminism is, which is what perpetuates this false idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:33 PM
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And by “4/5 times he is open for something more” you mean that he’s interested in hooking up. Women have to be more selective when it comes to hookups, and most want a relationship with it. They’re unlikely to sleep with a guy if they don’t think he can give them more than that. which most men can’t or won’t. if there’s really a “friendzone” for men, we should talk about the “fuckzone” for women (when a woman wants more out of a relationship but a man just wants to hook up)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 03:44 PM
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I obviously can’t speak for every woman, but most women I know are not like this, especially with people they’re literally dating (as opposed to a ONS). “Aftercare” for sex is only really talked about when people are discussing kinks, which is really too bad, because I would argue that it’s important regardless. One time immediately after sex, my now-ex stood up without a word and just went to go watch sports. While that isn’t as bad as what you’re describing, I was devastated. Sex leaves people…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 05:55 PM
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These women who you’re talking about who sleep around more than average probably also just enjoy sex more than most women. Though there is arguably a difference in libido between men and women, there’s still variety within the two. It is absolutely possible for a woman to want as much sex as a man. I had a friend like this. I think maybe being desired like that was a thing for her, since she had it kinda rough in high school with bullies and stuff. She liked feeling desired, and sometimes she li…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 05:47 PM
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except not be ugly There is it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 04:31 PM
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I mean, both genders are assigned value based on the amount of sexual partners they’ve had. You literally called women “sluts” in this post, implying that women who have had too much sex have something wrong with them. Isn’t that just as bad as saying men who haven’t had enough sex have something wrong with them? Either way, I disagree that women can “get” men whenever they want, because that sentiment only applies to the conventionally attractive women you’re thinking of. Conventionally attract…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 04:27 PM
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Depends. If the fight was for a stupid reason, and he escalated it and then lost, I wouldn’t be as attracted to him. Not because he’s “weak” but because he’s a fool. If the fight was for a good reason and he lost, then no I wouldn’t be less attracted to him. Especially if he didn’t cause the escalation. He had a good and moral reason to stand his ground and I respect that. I think my answer more so comes down to the morals of the situation. For example, I respect someone backing down if there is…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 04:26 PM
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I’m confused because like… are all of those things really equivalent? If I was a virgin but had made out with 3 people and given 1 handjob, does that make my n-count 4 now? If someone asks what my n-count is and I say 4… they’re gonna assume I’ve had PIV sex 4 times. I don’t know what men want anymore lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 01:55 PM
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Don’t ask for just n-count if you want to know about blowjobs too. Ask specifically “what’s your n-count?” and then “how many blowjobs have you given?” I’m sure people will be generally honest about both. Most people I know don’t include blowjobs in n-count. Do you could the blowjobs you’ve received as part of your n-count?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 01:40 PM
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used up women are gross but you have no issue contributing to what you see as the problem. you hate that women put out to other guys (that makes them “gross”) but see it as something you have a right to. nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 01:23 PM
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aborts the male wtf is that shit? whatever man made this meme has some persecution fetish or something. also, the left side is showing women that are (presumably) from the US, but the right is clearly a soldier from Ukraine. two different countries. when American women talk about “the state” giving privileges to men, they aren’t talking about Ukraine lmao. also, some of y’all men in here love to talk about “biology” and how women should be stay at home moms with their kids. if women are drafted …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 04:29 PM
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The thing is, there’s nothing wrong with being masculine if you can also recognize positive stereotypically feminine traits. Being empathetic is a typically feminine trait, but really the world would be better if we were ALL empathetic. That being said, men can still go to the gym to be buff and drive trucks if that’s what they’re into. There are just some “masculine” traits that are straight up bad lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 03:12 PM
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Notice how a lot of those guys say that they are THE tall guy, and they feel like that’s ALL they have. Imagine you’re a short man but people like you because you have big muscles. Then one day you meet someone who has even bigger muscles. But you’re already insecure about being short, and you cover that up by being THE muscle guy, so meeting that guy takes away the ONE thing you aren’t insecure about. This happens to women too though. Imagine you’re a girl and you’re insecure about your body sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 04:39 PM
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Anomaly. I know a 19 year old who started dating a 24 year old and people unsure about that even (they work together and they’re cute, it just was off putting for some at first)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 05:17 AM
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It’s not too much of a challenge, nor do I feel like I would “lose” in a debate. It’s just that this sub is mostly entertainment for me, and I simply don’t have the time or energy to try to get on a podcast over some stupid shit. Writing a comment on a reddit post takes like two minutes, I can literally do it sitting on the toilet. I feel strongly about my opinions but like… I’ve got a real life that I have to attend to lol Edit: Also I’ve heard about that podcast but I’ve never actually listene…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 10:14 PM
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I think RP is bad for everyone, but it offers young men a place to put their anger and resentment. That’s why they’re drawn to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:06 AM
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Even if she has a power job and lives a dominate lifestyle, she still wants to be submissive to her man. Stop projecting your experience with one woman onto everyone lol. I’m sure your ex was really like that and plenty of women are, but plenty of women like to be dominant in the relationship, even some women who don’t have “power jobs”. Just like men, you can’t truly tell what a woman will be like in a relationship/in bed until you’re there.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 11:36 PM
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21, maybe like 4 on average? I know a lot of people with more but I also know a lot of people who are virgins or just have 1. I guess “low” would be a virgin in this case? But that’s not a bad thing. And “high” would probably be like 10-15+, although again not necessarily a bad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 02:39 AM
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I mean, as a woman it would be kinda mean to try to force that on my partner for literally no reason. Plus, I want them there supporting me, how tf are they supposed to do that if they’re in just as much agony as me? I don’t think that would make me feel any better. If it was a “simulator” that split the pain like 50/50 or something, that would make way more sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 09:42 PM
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Idk I feel like your logic doesn’t really make sense. Sure, plenty of cold-approach-guys out there are just looking for casual sex, but some are like “Wow, that girl is so pretty, I’m gonna ask for her number. I really hope she goes on a date with me”. Just because someone likes you for your looks at first doesn’t mean that’s the only reason they’ll ever like you. The purpose of dating is to find out if you’re compatible in ways that aren’t just looks, if you enjoy each other’s company and stuff…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 08:29 PM
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No, but men don’t usually cold approach me since I avoid places where that would be socially acceptable (bars, clubs, etc.) BUT it did happen to my friend. It was in the school dining hall (we’re in college) and he just came over to where she was sitting (she had one other female friend with her) and he was like “Hey, I saw you from across the room and I thought you were so beautiful, I just had to come talk to you.” Then I guess they chatted for a few minutes (pretty sure it was just how are yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 08:07 PM
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Ngl man, some of the things I’ve seen wouldn’t be good regardless of context. And the things I’ve seen that do have context, the context was only provide by him after the fact. The content that he’s putting out is creating a very bad message for young boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 01:28 AM
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He’s said in videos before that he has (or he would, or he’s suggesting people should) literally punched a woman until her face collapses, he’s implied that he doesn’t really agree with age of consent laws or at least he doesn’t want to abide by them. He tells women who don’t want to have kids that they’re throwing their lives away, that they’re taking away happiness from themselves and their families and that’s selfish. He says that a woman belongs to the man she’s with. This is probably only s…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 01:24 AM
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I’d be hesitant to support Tate bro. It’s fine if you like TRP, but Tate is spreading really dangerous shit that I don’t even think is RP. Sure, lots of women like a dominant man. But that doesn’t mean you should beat her or force her to do shit. Taking the lead? Attractive. Literally punching her in the face? Not attractive. That’s abusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 05:03 PM
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Same! Dating wasn’t worth it for so long, I finally met someone organically who I liked and we were friends for a long time before we even started dating. That’s the only way I would date tbh. Hearing all the RP men talk about women can be so discouraging sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 04:57 PM
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I second the other woman that commented. It’s so frustrated to see “All women do this” or “It’s in the female nature to do that” ESPECIALLY when it paints an obviously bad picture of women. An example would be like “When women look to ‘settle down’/get married all they’re looking for is money and status”. I don’t doubt that SOME women do that. But it’s grossly unfair to generalize that and tell me that I must be lying or something when I say that doesn’t apply to me or most women I know. Thanks …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 04:40 PM
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I agree that modern dating leads to a decline in mental health for everyone. I don’t think anything like TRP or FDS is the answer, but anything better that I can come up with is just wishful thinking. Also, it wouldn’t surprise me if some of the shit Tate says is just to get attention. Even still though, even if it was just a character or something, the problem is that plenty of people have fallen for it and are taking his extreme ideas as good advice. Even if he’s just fucking around, the rheto…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 03:44 PM
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Tate made sense and you wondered why people thought he was a misogynist? He hates any woman that doesn’t do exactly what he wants them to do. A woman doesn’t want kids? She’s selfish and depriving herself and the people around her happiness. Did you know he prefers 18 and 19 years old women so he can make an impression on them? That’s literally what grooming is. He tells men to beat women because “they need to be put in their place and eventually it will lead to sex.” I can guarantee you right n…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 01:23 PM
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Question for you, would you consider Andrew Tate to be red pill, black pill, or something else entirely?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 01:08 PM
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FDS is not praised, didn’t they get quarantined too? Most sane people (men AND women) know FDS is bullshit. Also, there is no “female nature” except the one y’all made up in your head about one specific type of woman. As a woman, I can confirm that none of the shit y’all talk about women thinking has ever crossed my mind before this sub. I don’t represent all women and I know that, but I feel like most are just like me. You say the content you want is being censored. It’s not being censored beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 01:05 PM
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People on FDS are aware that they’ve had hard times in the past. For many, FDS pulled them out of a state of depression/anxiety. I think FDS is toxic, but it helped some people I guess. MR I haven’t spent as much time on so I don’t really know it, but I’d have to guess that this lack of overlap is due to mens mental health stigma. FDS and MR (I’m pretty sure) are both kind of dating subs, and this one debates about dating, so it would make sense that they both come here sometimes. I’m still not …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 03:21 PM
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One in Four Takes Mental Health Meds First, I don’t see what this has to do with dating. Second, Women take more antidepressants and antianxiety meds because they are at a higher risk biologically than men. This is not even including that women, and I quote “are bearing the brunt of the emotional stressors around us: they're working, raising the kids, trying to juggle all these issues, getting all these things done, and they're more likely to reach out and ask for help.” Women are taking more AD…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 02:41 PM
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I’ve always thought of a man child as as man who expects everything to be done for him. If he’s broke and unemployed and not even attempting to get a job to provide for himself, he is a man child. If he throws a toddler tantrum every time he doesn’t get exactly what he wants, he is a man child. If he expects his gf to be his mom, he is a man child.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 02:10 PM
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The difference though is that women want a “high SMV” man, but they aren’t whining that they deserve one. They’re just waiting for one to come along that likes them and they like him and if it works out then it works out. Other than that, lots of women are content being single. It actually seems like you’re complaining that these women won’t settle for less than they want because you think lower SMV are entitled to a girlfriend and they don’t have a chance if women are always looking up. Also, p…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 02:06 PM
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I would consider “high” probably like 10+ depending on age, but that’s not insanely high and it wouldn’t deter me from being with someone. I probably wouldn’t be put off by someone’s count unless it was like 30+, again depending on age. Currently I’m 21 so that’s the age group I’m basing these numbers off of. Maybe if I was in my 30’s or 40’s I would understand higher numbers since people have had more time to explore at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 03:11 PM
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C I get approached by people frequently. But that’s just because people like talking to me, but it’s always just small talk or chit chat. I don’t really get asked out or approached in a sex way. I think I’m like a solid 7 realistically. I’m small and I’m kinda pretty. I like who I am, but I’m not like model material or anything lol Edit to add: I literally never wear makeup so that might also have something to do with it too, also I don’t usually go to bars and clubs (unless I’m with a bunch of …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 04:35 AM
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I don’t understand what you’re saying. You think the cheater deserves to be punished (that’s fair), but if you think a punishment for a cheater is you NOT walking away, then wouldn’t it make sense to stay? You also say you don’t punish the child by walking away, and while I wouldn’t use the word “punish”, you’re still hurting the child if they’re old enough to remember you. Although, the kid is probably better off without you if you’re only going to express resentment towards it for the rest of …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 02:38 PM
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If you love the kid anyway? What if I think a child is mine, raise it for five years, then find out it’s not. Yeah, I don’t HAVE to stay, and no one (except maybe the cheater) would blame me for walking away. However, what if I’ve already grown to love this child? After all, it’s not their fault that their parent is a cheater. It’s not about punishing the cheater. Of course I wouldn’t blame a man for walking away from the kid. There’s a lot of pain that comes with cheating and being with the kid…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 01:55 PM
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Romantically? It probably does exist, but it shouldn’t. There’s probably some sad person out there who unconditionally loves their partner who’s abusing them. That’s why it shouldn’t exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 03:48 AM
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B or D for sure. B is what I want, but D is what I need. Female
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 12:44 AM
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Depends. First off, that’s a legal/ethical issue. Prostitution is illegal and often connected to sex trafficking, so from that point of view I can understand why someone would care about that. Second, similar to if they participated in a lot of casual sex, you would of course want them to get tested so you know they’re clean. Other than that, I feel like I wouldn’t really care. As long as they aren’t having sex with prostitutes while we’re together lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 07:26 PM
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I think that all of this is dependent on the situation and how it’s approached. I think men she be conscious of paternity fraud, in the same way anyone should watch for signs that their partner may be cheating. However, if a man is concerned enough about fraud that he wants a paternity test even when he has ZERO reason to suspect cheating, he has to make that clear. If my boyfriend said to me near the beginning of our relationship, “Hey, if we get as far as children, I’m gonna want a paternity t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:47 PM
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I mean “the ends justify the means” kinda implies that you think they’re saying paternity fraud is okay, I don’t think they are. I think they’re saying that if the damage has already been done (cheating, lying, fraud), sometimes it’s best for the dad to stay anyway (not with the wife, just in the kid’s life). He doesn’t have to and he’s not obligated. But just because he’s not biologically the father, he can still be a great dad, if that’s something he wants. And some guys do want it anyway, bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 01:39 PM
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It’s a lot different with trans people though. If you’re a straight woman, you want to date a man. But you probably don’t want to date a trans man, because you’re not attracted to vaginas. As long as you’re respectful about it, there’s nothing wrong with that. If you were dating the guy though, it’s not like he would be fucking other guys at the same time? He may not even have ever fucked another guy, he might just be attracted to them. He’s not asking you to watch him fuck other guys or anythin…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 01:25 AM
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It’s probably for the same reason as you, but then what do you suggest bisexual people do? Are they destined to live without a life partner because they’ll constantly be “denying 50% of who they are”? And what lifestyle are you talking about? If you’re suggesting that multiple people are involved, that’s probably not the case. Most bisexual people are still monogamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 12:43 AM
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Because WHY is it that you don’t want to date a bisexual person?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 12:40 AM
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Do you seriously believe that everyone who has sex with someone who doesn’t become their lifelong partner is “broken” and lacks the ability to “bond” emotionally? Wtf are you on bro
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 12:39 AM
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I was rejected once by a bi girl who a few hours later had sex with a newly met woman. But her being straight doesn’t mean she would’ve liked you. How she feels about you and how she feels about the other woman aren’t related. She just wasn’t into you man
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 12:30 AM
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Most guys think it’s hot. You’re confusing “accept” with “fetishize”. Bisexual women don’t want a boyfriend who’s gonna ask for threesomes 24/7 because he thinks bi girls/lesbians are hot. I’ve read that women usually don’t like bisexual men as partners. Correction: People don’t like bisexual people as partners. A lot of the time, people see bisexuals as either sex objects/freaks who will be down for anything OR cheaters. bisexual women in relationships with men, often can have sex with other wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 12:23 AM
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Yup. And beyond the realm of dating even, I feel like most guys go a long time without a meaningful compliment. Men will cling on to that one time a girl complimented their hair seven years ago. And I don’t even mean this in a sexual way, I’m talking about like a simple compliment from someone passing by. Zero strings attached, zero chance for manipulation. Just a someone who felt strongly and had to say something. I feel like that’s really underrated. I feel like a lot of men could just use the…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 01:10 PM
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Not really. I’ve had a dating experience really similar to a lot of men (and other women to) that I know. I guess from my perspective, dating has always seemed fairly evenly split in real life. If we’re talking about hookups, kind of yes. I’m not a casual sex person, but when I go out, I’m always very self conscious that some random guy is gonna try to corner me and ask me to go to his place. And no, it doesn’t matter if you’re attractive. That’s creepy. I guess I envy guys because then the powe…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 02:13 AM
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I mean personally as a women I have felt like I “hit it off” with people and it didn’t end in sex at all. Sure, your example is ONE example of hitting it off, but it’s not the only example.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 11:53 PM
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You think they aren’t interested in making the first move or they aren’t interested in dating at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 11:25 PM
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I know some couples, here’s how they met: Lived in the same college dorm/mutual friends Bumble (three different relationships started this way) Work/coworker set them up Cold approach HOWEVER this happened in a college dining hall so they already had things in common like going to the same college, and it was just an exchange of numbers at the time
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 10:52 PM
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There’s nothing wrong with not wanting to have sex before marriage, and there’s nothing wrong with wanting a partner who shares that view. What’s wrong is the implication that people who don’t share your view don’t love their partner as much as you love yours because they had another sexual partner in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 11:32 PM
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You can’t just counter any evidence you don’t like with “Well most research data is wrong anyway!” Which by the way, isn’t even right. Yeah, some studies don’t hold up to replication, but a bigger problem is the lack of replication for most studies. Not that they DON’T replicate, just that researchers don’t want to replicate them because they’d rather pave the way with a study that no one has done before. But that’s not the point. The point is that you can’t just say “I don’t believe this study …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 11:26 PM
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This. People on this sub love to talk and throw around random scenarios with “rules” about women and dating that “totally make sense”, but I’ve literally never seen any of those things happen in real life. Every time I bring it up, people just act like my life is some special exception lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 11:06 PM
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“Pair bonding ability” is not a real thing (at least not for humans). It’s just another bs way to shame women who aren’t virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 10:59 PM
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I think it really depends on the situation. I would get it if a woman had like WAY more money than you, and wondering if that would make her look down on you/see you as inferior in the relationship. But if a woman makes the same amount of money as you, I feel like it shouldn’t be that big of a deal. I would also understand being concerned that if a woman is TOO career focused, she doesn’t have priorities that are important to you like marriage and kids. I feel like that applies to men and women,…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 03:39 PM
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I think you’re missing the point. I want an equal, but I don’t want my partner to treat me like a man or to treat my partner like a woman. Men and women can be different and still be equal, with no one “superior” over anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 03:21 PM
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What do you mean by “think like a guy”? I know plenty of career driven women and I wouldn’t say they think like guys at all. They’re still pretty “girly” when it comes to how they present themselves and what they like for the most part
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 02:51 PM
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Here’s the thing. I thought that I was suffering purely because of romantic frustrations, then slowly I started to accept that I was single for now and that eventually the right person will come along. I decided that I should focus on the reason WHY I was so upset about not having a relationship. I needed to accept and like myself for who I was and stop seeking the validation of a relationship. I was way happier after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 09:53 PM
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I’m kinda getting the vibe that maybe you come off as the kind of guy ready to jump to sex on the first date. Lots of women are put off by that behavior, because they either think you’re just looking for a ONS/FWB, which is bad if they’re looking for a relationship or you’ll end up doing sweet things for her but expecting sex in return. If a woman senses that you want sex all the time, she’ll be hesitant to go on a date with you because you might offer to pay but then say something like “I paid,…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 03:57 PM
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when she cheats Woman bad >:( do you see how a string of partners saying that could lead to a guy never even getting the chance to? First of all, if a string of people are saying that, maybe he should reflect on that. Lots of women are telling him they don’t feel safe enough to do the kink with him. Now, if it’s something with like knives then yeah, probably a lot of people are gonna be slow to warm up to that one, even if they like knives it’s gonna take a while to trust someone like that. But …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 01:56 PM
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I’m just not that type of person anymore “Sorry OP, I did that in the past and I liked it at the time, but I’m just not that person anymore. Now it kinda makes me uncomfortable” “But you liked it back then so you must like it now. You owe it to me” “But I don’t like the person I used to be, I don’t want to bring that out again. Maybe I would still like it, but I don’t want to for X reason” “Too bad. It is unfair to me if you don’t since you did it with someone else in the past” lol it sounds a l…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 01:47 PM
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Did it ever occur to you that if a woman says she doesn’t want sex, she may not be doing it to be manipulative? Maybe her libido is low because she’s under too much stress or she’s in pain during sex. I’m not saying sex isn’t important in a relationship. I believe people should have sex before marriage because sexual compatibility is important in a relationship. But part of sexual compatibility is frequency of sex. If you want sex every day and your partner only wants sex once every two weeks, c…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 03:30 PM
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So you think cheating is okay as soon as your dick isn’t wet enough? And “exclusive benefits” means not having sex with anyone else. If they’re not having sex with anyone else, even if they aren’t having sex with you, they’re still giving you exclusive benefits. Also, exclusive benefits goes beyond sex. If you plan on cheating on your partner, just be honest and say you don’t want to be exclusive. “But if I don’t lie to her and manipulate her, she won’t sleep with me!” Do you realize how horribl…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 01:13 PM
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Do you still view it as “restricting your rights” if you’re official/exclusive? Do you feel like if they aren’t giving you sex, you’re entitled to having your needs met elsewhere no matter what?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 12:44 PM
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Sure, he has the right. It’s doesn’t make him not an asshole though. When you lie to/manipulate/use someone else, it makes you an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 12:34 PM
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and you want a GOOD man to pay for it by not dating him organically, then why should he be the one to pay the price for it? Okay, no. People who don’t want to have sex right away and want to “not dating organically” whatever tf that means, aren’t doing it as punishment. They aren’t trying to make this new guy “pay the price” for their trauma. They aren’t having sex at first because they’re uncomfortable, and they need to build up trust before they’re comfortable with being in that vulnerable sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 12:31 PM
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Out of curiosity, what’s the difference between MGTOW and TRP? I know they aren’t exactly the same but they seem pretty similar to me
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 10:59 PM
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I don’t think I would expect him to do 100% alone, but I would probably expect him to do maybe like 70-80%. Being a stay-at-home parent IS a full time job, but chores are a part of that job. There are other factors too of course. Although on the weekend, I would expect chores to be 50/50. But I would also help with the kids and stuff, so I guess it’s more like splitting ALL stay-at-home parent duties 50/50. Also, I suck at cooking so hopefully he can do that most of the time, but like I said I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 05:32 PM
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I was never approached much anyway, but I think this is good. I don’t want to be approached by some rando at any of those places. Maybe some people want to be approached at a bar, I personally don’t. I think the cold approach is good in theory but lots of men execute it very poorly (even if they don’t realize it). Better to just put a stop to the whole thing altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 11:01 AM
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To be honest, here are the things that I believe affect some of my social circle: Many of them weren’t close with men in high school, so they were virgins coming into college. They worried men would take advantage of that so they waited until they found someone they really trusted Those who weren’t virgins don’t trust OLD and they don’t like sex enough to meet some sketchy guy in his dorm across campus at 10pm They are successful academically and have strong career goals, and they don’t want to …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 04:31 PM
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I guess that’s not so bad to say “I’ll estimate a little on the higher side, maybe her n count is 6 or 7?” but it IS bad to say “The average female body count is 27 (or something), most women are sluts”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 04:19 PM
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Yup. A lot of the women I know have only dabbled in hookup culture, a lot prefer to only have sex within a committed relationship. I know that’s not everyone, there are certainly women who choose to be a part of hookup culture, but I’ve noticed that those women don’t participate for long periods of time. For example, a woman will sleep with five men over the course of a few months and then be over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 04:15 PM
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Only one of them is fat and ironically she’s the one with the highest count. We are all 18-23 years old. I understand that maybe the US average is higher since I don’t have a large enough sample size to be representative of the whole country, let alone ALL women. However, there is absolutely no way the “normal” body count is as high is 15.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 04:10 PM
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The average body count of all of the (adult) women I know is 2.22. I only counted women from the younger generation only the ones that I know their count of course. That’s really low though. And while I’m not pretending that there aren’t women with higher counts and I just don’t know them, I think men make the assumption that every woman has a huge body count and that’s just not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:46 PM
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It wasn’t really like that though. I had already told him that I had never seen a dick before, and that in pictures and stuff they had always seemed a little silly looking, so I’d have to get used to it. I wasn’t like… bursting out laughing like I was making fun of him or anything. I think if a someone told me that they had never seen a vagina before and then giggled when they saw mine, purely because of inexperience and the fact that it looked so different to them (compared to a dick), I wouldn…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 12:59 PM
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At a stop light I feel like that alone should tell you this is not representative of the majority population
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 12:50 PM
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I only heard of him for the first time last week when I saw a girl on tiktok complain about him lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 02:45 AM
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This was me before I saw one in person too. When my boyfriend showed me his for the first time I laughed… Not because of his specifically, but they just look so alien. I’ve heard this is actually a common reaction lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 02:11 AM
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I can only speak to personal experiences (or rather, my friends’ experiences), but it does seem like Tinder is only any good for hookups, if that. People looking for a relationship seem to have much better luck on Bumble, from what I’ve heard.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 12:38 AM
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The study was done on a dating app (iirc it was okcupid) and the numbers represent the ages of people of which that age group swiped the most on (like 20yr men swiped the most on 20yr women). I could dive and find the actual study, I’ve read the study before. The graph was just the quickest thing for me to find. Edit: also, based on your graph, the “Like and match” for both men and women is only a small green sliver. Sure, it’s 1% for men, but it’s only 1.8% of women. I know it’s more about the …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 10:15 PM
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Yeah, but OLD is an inherently toxic environment. First, all this graph proves is that men under 6’ have a disadvantage when matching with premium Bumble users. Some of those users probably got premium Bumble BECAUSE they’re weirdly picky about height. Second, some of the OLD stats for men are just as embarrassing. A woman over 25 years old doesn’t have much of a chance on OLD with ANY age of men, whereas a man of any age has a decent chance with a woman who’s the same age. This is a graph on it…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:27 PM
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I think there are two main reasons: Women still want to dress sexy because they like the way they look. It makes them feel confident and happy. They aren’t always doing it to attract men or anyone else. Certain things about it may appeal to the male gaze, but that’s not why they’re doing it. As a woman, when I was at my lowest point, I mostly dressed in baggy clothes because I hated myself and I just wanted to disappear. When I gained self confidence, I realized that I could wear things that mad…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 04:14 PM
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This is bs. You’re acting like this is life or death here. Men don’t get there because their genes are exceptional and therefore it’s important for society. Is it really important to the human race that we have another man who is 6’ instead of 5’9? Seriously, people aren’t animals. Also, I’m sure there are men out there who are gorgeous and get all of the ladies, but also have a chronic illness. Maybe they have epilepsy, diabetes, or a family history of cancer.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 04:36 PM
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That’s fine for a ONS, but if you’re looking for a long term relationship you definitely shouldn’t lie to your partner lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 04:28 PM
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I literally couldn’t care less about whether a man is a virgin or not. Actually, I couldn’t care less who’s a virgin and who’s not a virgin, of any gender. Virginity as a concept was built to shame women who didn’t “keep their purity”. Nothing changes when you lose your virginity, physically or mentally, except maybe pride/shame depending on your environment. It’s a stupid construct and I’m tired of acting like it has any real meaning behind it. I understand being like “As someone with a body co…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 04:16 PM
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Physical exercise is an actual neglected intervention in psychological therapy. I agree. However, physical exercise can be an extremely difficult practice for people with depression to implement in their lives, especially if they live alone. Exercise is proven to help people with mental illness, I firmly believe that it can be a huge factor if implemented properly. Men do not receive the birth control stuff, but other excuses. How are they misogynistic? I’m talking about how many women who bring…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 04:02 PM
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Men are more likely to commit suicide with guns (and other methods that have a higher “success” rate) than women who are more likely to commit suicide by overdose (or methods with a lower “success” rate). Women attempt suicide more. They just have less “success”. HOWEVER that should not be used as a point like “Well then there isn’t a mental health problem among men.” No. Just because they technically attempt suicide less often doesn’t make it okay. Men are typically told to “suck it up” or “be …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 03:41 PM
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I didn’t say that everyone gets what they deserve. There are some of people who don’t. There are lots of people who do. I’m not denying that there’s a level of unfairness. I’m just saying that there’s flaws with being too optimistic (saying everything is just) and there’s flaws with being too pessimistic (saying nothing is ever just). Better to be realistic and accept that both happen, because life can’t be measured by such a broad generalization.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 02:17 PM
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Okay, based on your examples, not al guilty people are punished, not all innocent people are vindicated, etc, etc. The world isn’t perfect for anyone. But 1. you could say that a lot of guilty people are punish and a lot of innocent people are vindicated. The same goes for this. It’s not every single person. But it’s a lot of them. 2. Kind of self centered to compare men who can’t get their dicks wet to situations like this isn’t it? I mean, women are just saying no, they aren’t unjustly sentenc…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:47 PM
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Question, if average women aren’t marrying average men, who are they marrying?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:36 PM
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Ironic coming from this sub, who claims “all women do this”, “all men do this”, “insert some shitty made up theory about why women won’t have sex with them”. This is not based on reality and you would know that if you just made some friends and went places and met real people instead of lurking in PPD and TRP all day.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:29 PM
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I honestly don’t like Elon Musk lol, I was more so saying that you don’t have to be rich and super successful in order to fit the qualities I listed
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 11:14 PM
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If a man is smart, ambition, and creative (you don’t have to be Einstein or Elon Musk, just show these qualities a little bit), passionate and driven (not even romantically/academically, just about hobbies as long as they aren’t racist or something), funny, willing to be vulnerable but not whining to everyone just fishing for sympathy. I don’t really care about status, in fact, if a guy is a little bit weird or nerdy, I’m personally kinda into that. Physically, “about average” for me is just per…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 06:11 PM
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Would you go to someone’s house and watch them fuck through their bedroom window? No? Then why the hell do you think it’s okay to do it on your phone or computer? Because the people on my phone/computer are consenting to be watched? They are literally porn actors, they get paid for this. Chock full of abuse, rape, violence, racism, incest, and literal child abuse material. I don’t think anyone wants someone who thinks those things are okay, but that’s not ALL porn is, there’s plenty to watch tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 01:59 PM
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As a women, I have spoken to my boyfriend about things like this and we’ve addressed them in order to avoid double standards. First, we’re both okay with the other person looking at attractive celebrities, but it’s different when it’s someone you know personally, same with exes. My boyfriend is not okay with me buying a dildo, and I told him that was okay as long as he didn’t buy a fleshlight, and he agreed. Videos of “sexual acts, fantasies, and situations” is just porn, and porn is just a deta…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 01:34 PM
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I’m the same way. I’m also a woman, I never feel any desire to touch or have sex with some porn actor/model. I just look at it (the sex act) and I’m like “that’s hot”. If I’m actually trying to get off, I really don’t look at faces either, it has nothing to do with the individual actor.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 01:19 PM
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He’s saying that you don’t actually think your spouse having a celebrity crush is bad or anything (so it’s not threatening) but you’d still rather not know about it just because it would make you feel insecure (“feels threatening”)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 01:09 PM
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Personally I don’t. Because I also watch porn and sometimes we watch it together. I would be hurt if he was actually DMing models on Instagram, but if he’s just looking at pictures? I don’t care I would care if he was a porn addict, but that would have to mean that porn was actively getting in the way of our sex life/relationship. Right now that’s not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 01:06 PM
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This is a genuine question, I’m not being sarcastic or anything. If it’s not beta bux complaining, who is it? Alphas? That doesn’t really to make sense to me. Who’s the third group?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 06:27 PM
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The issue is that way more women men complain than men women about not being able to find a partner get casual sex after they 've been blown out shun women with higher N counts, they already identified themselves as shallow why would any dude woman want that as a partner and I hope more and more men women think this way because that way women men actually know the consequences of doing this, and we wont be shamed for rejecting them. I think it’s actually pretty unfair of men to complain to women…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 05:22 PM
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The Alpha wasn’t better though, and he was an asshole. I don’t even know if he was an Alpha so much as I was just naive. Guess maybe I got lucky with my “Beta”. I get the logic that “men who are more handsome/athletic/rich/charismatic get more women” but I don’t think that correlates to who is actually better at sex. Whatever you say I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 05:05 PM
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Based on “Alpha Fux Beta Bux” I thought the implication was that women were only with Beta because of money (bux). I will say, don’t men also want different things from casual sex partners than they do in a LTR? People in general tend to have higher standards for LTRs in my opinion. And when people get older, their interests and tastes change so they’re compatible with a different group. If AFBB just means “looking for different things from sex partners than LTRs” that would apply to both men an…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 02:02 PM
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My current boyfriend loves cats and his parents have three and he plans on getting one when he can (we’re currently in college dorms so no pets allowed). It’s a big green flag if you ask me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 01:30 PM
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I’m pretty sure they’re talking about men who don’t see the value in having women in their personal lives? Like you don’t have to like and appreciate ALL women, but if you don’t see women as anything other than potential sex partners, that’s pretty bad. I could be interpreting that wrong but that’s what I think
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 01:22 PM
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I bet this line gets you all the ladies
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 01:18 PM
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I think they’re talking about men who don’t see any value in women other than those who he deems fuckable/dateable. For example, he doesn’t see any value in having women as coworkers and would prefer to have all male coworkers, and he doesn’t see value in having women as friends either. So I guess you’re right in saying men who don’t have individual women in their personal lives who they don’t like/appreciate.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 01:15 PM
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Misery olympics. As in, he’s constantly belittling my own problems because his are just so much worse. This is from personal experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 01:10 PM
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I thought AFBB was “Woman fucks Alpha and gets pregnant, then manipulates Beta Bux to pay for her and Chad’s kids” OR “Women fucks Alphas when she’s young and pretty, then when she gets older she just needs someone to pay the bills”. I always thought the implication of AFBB was that Beta is being used and gets nothing. That there’s no love involved and Beta isn’t actually happy, they’re just being drained emotionally and financially. That women ACTUALLY want the Alpha, but the Alpha refused so t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 02:11 AM
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Imo some of the things on this list I don’t consider insults, depending on the context. This one though? THIS is an insult
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 02:03 AM
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None of these confirm AFBB. Women want different things from a short term sexual partner than they do from a long term relationship, and they want different things as they age. That is not the same as “I’ll fuck Alpha Chad for his superior male genes then after I have those kids I’ll find a Beta Bux who I’ll just use for his money so I can be a SAHM”. This about it this way. When someone wants to go crazy, they’re just looking for the hottest person available to them (or just the most convenient…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 01:54 AM
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Okay so of course if you go on a first date with someone, you’ll go out with one that you like better/has the least red flags. In this case, I guess bi people technically have “more options”, but if they’re committed to you after the first 3 dates then I don’t see how it matters anymore. Also, leaving someone because they’re abusive is a lot different than “oh this girl I met makes 10k more than my boyfriend so I’m leaving him” which is kind of what it sounded like you were saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 08:51 PM
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That’s what they’re saying though. They’re saying that some FDS things are valid (watching for red flags) but some of them were extremist bullshit (hating men/not wanting an equal partner)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 05:05 PM
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Even their takes on porn/poly were pretty extreme to me. Those are things that are up to individual couples to decide, and they shouldn’t be shunned so long as BOTH/all people involved are giving informed consent regarding the situation (obviously it’s different if a porn addiction/cheating/coercion is involved). Same with forever-gf. If you want to get married and you’ve been waiting for years and you find out your partner doesn’t want to get married, that’s a compatibility issue and you should…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 05:04 PM
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I followed the sub until the soft banned me for following r/nicegirls. Some of them have the right idea. Don’t settle for less than you deserve (ie, don’t settle for someone who puts you down or is abusive, don’t settle someone who makes you feel ugly or worthless, etc). Some men are just out for a quick fuck, so you have to be careful of any man who says they’d consider a relationship but is really adamant about fucking on the first date. Stuff like that. Some of it is terrible. Talking about s…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 04:52 PM
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This whole comment is stereotypes that are not true whatsoever. First, dating isn’t as simple as “if you see someone ‘better’ you can get, you’ll just trade up”. Most sane people love their partners and wouldn’t just ditch them for someone richer or ‘more attractive’ or higher in some subjective social status. Second, the concept that “bi people are just gay people in denial” is mostly not true either. Straight people just made that up because they saw it happen to one person and said “See! I do…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 02:21 PM
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I guess I would’ve understood more if he had said “girls who do things with other girls for male attention”. It’s just that most of bisexuality isn’t that. I’m not the exception. Although I can understand why this sub would think that considering their opinions about women (most women have high n counts, everything they do is to manipulate men, they’re all shallow and materialistic, any woman who claims not to be these things is either lying or the exception). Also you do seem like you were just…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:39 PM
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Because it looks a lot like he’s implying that bisexual people are comparable to cheaters. There’s a huge stereotype that all bisexual people are cheaters and it’s not true, bi people don’t cheat more than anyone else does.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:30 PM
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Yeah… So bisexuality is not about sexual behavior, it’s about sexual attraction. I think maybe you’re looking for terms like polygamy or hypergamy. I mean, pretend you’re choosing between two girls. Girl 1 is bisexual, but she has an N count of only 2 (one girl and one guy). Girl 2 is straight, but she has an N count of 12 (all guys). Are you really gonna pretend that just because Girl 1 is bisexual, she has “looser” sexual boundaries? A lot of people grow up in shitty environments, but I know j…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:26 PM
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marinara flag
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 02:42 AM
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Exactly! Sometimes I’ll just text my boyfriend like “babe… would you still love me if I was a frog 🥺” and I’m not serious about it. It usually just gets a good laugh. And sometimes being bratty is fun if you’re just flirting and stuff. There are a few red flags in the list but most of these things just seem random
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 02:41 AM
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Having issues with your partner cheating screams insecurity How is that related to the previous conversation? I thought we were talking about bi people?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 02:33 AM
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I thought I was gonna pass this list perfectly, and I will admit I have some things I’m actively working on to better myself (less trivial arguments, better communication, etc). I made it through everything until Bisexual (“People with loose sexual boundaries like bisexuality, polyamory & pansexuality - sexualities where they can’t really declare a major or stick to a specific type tend to be trauma survivors”) This is a pretty shitty assumption. I grew up with two parents who loved me and raise…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 02:20 AM
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Wtf these women are not “severely obese”. They’re certainly overweight, but not severely so. The girl in the first pic has thick thighs but she literally has a flat stomach.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 10:38 PM
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Probably looks, but imo it doesn’t matter if they’re nice about it. Saying “your personality sucks” or “you’re fucking ugly” is shitty regardless. But if someone says “our personalities aren’t compatible for a relationship” or “you’re just not really my type” (looks), I wouldn’t really be offended by that either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 02:37 PM
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I agree. I’m 21 and I go to a state university. The highest N count of any woman I’ve ever met is 9 (she’s my age). Obviously there are people with higher but to imply that a lot of women get even close to 50 by 25 is absurd.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 08:08 PM
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Depends. By “Mario is a fuckboy” do you mean he’s a player? Like has he been screwing over the women he slept with? Is he an asshole? If so, I’d rather be with Dario. An N count over 50 would intimidate me personally, as my N count is low. It wouldn’t stop me from dating him if I liked him as a person though. My N count is basically the same as Dario’s, which would make me more comfortable. But again, it depends on personality. If Dario is an asshole and Mario isn’t, I’ll ignore N count anyway. …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 07:57 PM
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No, that’s not true. Men complain that no women want them, but they really mean the model-type. You’re ignoring the fact that average woman get passed up constantly, either because they’re “too fat” (when in reality they are average) or they don’t have a perfect face. Sure, some women might be picky (although not every woman wants a man who’s “handsome, tall, athletic, rich, and so on”, I want to be attracted to my partner but they don’t have to be those things), but it’s just false to claim tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 05:29 PM
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The entitlement is so strong here. Why should men complain??? Men can’t complain that women have their standards too high if they themselves also have comparably high standards. Saying they “should” complain and then comparing incels to poor people is ridiculous. You’re comparing a want to a need.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 01:58 PM
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WTF is connection supposed to mean? I think they were saying maybe stop thinking with only your dick for more than a single second consecutively For men it means a physical one: PIV Example A lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:20 AM
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The world isn’t sunshine and rainbows Yeah well, the world also isn’t a dark creepy basement like you seem to think it is. That “average looking or worse” comment is bs. If you’re average looking and women “don’t even give you the time of day”, consider maybe there’s something else going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:14 AM
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From this entire comment, it’s evident that you have zero idea what the original commenter was saying. Logically, this could be any other humans so it’s got nothing to do with opposite sex attraction. Yes it does. People generally like to feel connected in some way to the person they’re dating. it’s certainly not a friend Yes it is. It’s other things as well, but friendship/companionship is one of those things. You sound so bitter in this comment. Most women are not evil hive mind beings trying …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:11 AM
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I love it, why?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 09:34 PM
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Depends. Do they hate you because you push their buttons and get on their nerves, or do they hate you because you’re actually a shitty person? I guess being hated is better than indifference, but that can be a slippery slope. Being a shitty person because “All women ignore me so I’d rather make them all hate me” is horrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 08:30 PM
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I mean you’re right that people do fetishize bisexual women, but not all straight men think that way. It’s pretty bold of you to make that generalization
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 08:39 PM
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Some women have issues with boundaries, I’d say if you ever try to be friends with women again, say to them “I’m sorry you’re having this problem, but I’m just not prepared to help you in this way right now. If distracting you would help, could we just do something instead, like [activity]?”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 06:10 PM
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Yeah, but you’re saying there’s no reason to be friends with women, implying that you think their company is pointless. Do you enjoy the company of your sisters and female cousins/other family? If so, why wouldn’t you want to open up your mind to the concept of being friends with more women? You can just view them like another sister. Some of my male friends feel like brothers to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 06:06 PM
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Like have I had a partner try to tell me I couldn’t have any friends because I’m bisexual? No I haven’t, but I’ve only had a couple of relationships. One of them was with a man who was also bi so even tho he was toxic af, he never had a problem with it. I know my current boyfriend is a little insecure about the fact that I also like women but that has nothing to do with my friends and the company I keep. And we’re working on that insecurity together because we trust each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 06:02 PM
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This is absolutely not correct. I am friends with lots of men. They all have more female friends than just me, and lots of them are in relationships. My boyfriend has female friends and I let him. How do you feel about female family members? Cousins, sisters, etc? Do you find their company just as worthless?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 05:39 PM
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I’m bisexual. Should my partner not let me have any friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 05:18 PM
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Do you genuinely think this about the majority of men? Do you only talk to men on this sub or do you talk to men in real life too? I read your comment and I feel sad for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 12:37 PM
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But why does one sex have to be “worthless”? Why can’t we recognize the worth of both sexes? This take is shit
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 12:34 PM
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This comment exactly. This sub portrays a very bleak view of men in general. A lot of men on here are bitter and twisted, and it’s honestly sad more than anything. I know a lot of good men, I just wish the men on here could realize that this sub isn’t a reflection of reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 12:24 PM
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There was literally an entire post on here dedicated to how friendships with women are pointless because they won’t fuck you. Most men do not feel this way. But some (especially on this sub) it’s like all they care about is getting sex from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 12:10 PM
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I have a lot of men in my life. All of the men in my family, my boyfriend, and a lot of male friends too. I love all of them dearly. I don’t think any of them are less than me and I value what they bring to the table as people. I believe there are some ways in which men are just different than women, but most of the time I find it refreshing to hang out with some male friends after spending a lot of time with my female friends. For example, I’ve noticed a lot of men keep their childish spirit lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 11:42 AM
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If you’re out here fucking so many bitches and living the life then why tf are you complaining? this post reads like a starved incel wrote it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 03:36 AM
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and in both cases the women are trying to screw the man over first. How would you know that in a real life scenario? What if you met this amazing woman who really liked you and then you blew it because you assumed she was a conniving bitch?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 03:28 AM
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This just isn’t true though. That’s like saying “guys flirt with my girlfriend completely unsolicited at the bar, which means when I go I can flirt with whoever I want”.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 03:17 AM
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All of the advice you listed is terrible advice, because it lacks any sort of human decency and even though it’s self-serving, it’ll probably backfire in the end. It’s not okay to keep “back up options” if you’re in a literal relationship with someone, regardless of gender. Don’t fuck women in the side to get your needs met without your SOs explicit permission (ie, “I can’t provide for your needs, it’s okay if you need to go elsewhere for X Y Z”) because thats literally cheating. There’s nothing…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 03:14 AM
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Being short/bald/etc isn’t too detrimental if you’re “good” in other ways, like being in shape, funny, and confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 04:15 PM
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Stop listening to all the people on here who have “theories” about women’s behavior. Instead, just treat women like people. Don’t generalize them all. Treat each woman like she’s her own, separate person, just like you would a man. They have hobbies just like you (and they aren’t all just “mind numbing” hobbies, some of them are the same as yours). Even if the hobbies aren’t the same as yours, maybe stop being so stuck up and listen, you might actually have fun instead of being so serious all th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 04:12 PM
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Are most of the people in your area poor? If so, the women are just trying to secure a safe, financially secure home for them and their future kids. The extreme ends of poverty don’t make it “easier to see that all women are gold diggers”. Those women just don’t have the luxury to date someone they love because then they might be fighting to survive everyday. Most of the people I interact with are middle class. None of them are scrambling to date someone richer. I wouldn’t date someone dirt poor…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 04:43 PM
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Except for everyone woman in a relationship, there’s a man in a relationship (when it comes to straight relationships at least, which is what we’re talking about anyway).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 03:12 PM
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How is it gaslighting? Everything I said is true. Women don’t “withhold” sex because they’re holding out for “dominant seed”. They sleep with people who they’re attracted to and who they trust. They are responsible for who they let penetrate them. Yeah, but it’s also none of your business. It’s not like they have a social obligation to you or anything. The wording of your entire comment reads like you don’t understand consent, or the fact that women possess complex thought/emotion that isn’t lim…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 03:09 PM
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You should’ve seen another post on here last night, literally the guy was like No, I’m not jealous of women for their ability to “get fucked”. That’s a women thing, and everyone knows it’s an insult. I’m jealous of Chads who fuck women. Fucking women is about control and power. Like jfc that man needed therapy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 01:02 PM
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The more attractive the woman, the less her body count Why do people keep saying this? It obviously isn’t true. Maybe YOU just find it attractive when a woman has a low n count, not the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 12:56 PM
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Because if he took it off the table from the start it would have never happened. You don’t know that. Maybe he just realized they weren’t compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 12:52 PM
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Okay? I mean I’ve only ever slept with one person but I would have no problem telling any future partners about my sexual history. After all, that only serves to make sex with my new partner even better, since I already know what I like and dislike.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 05:36 AM
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No. They literally are not. I’m sorry but I don’t see evidence of that at all in my personal life. Either my life specifically is a rare exception or it’s actually not that uncommon, but regardless it disproves your statement that ALL women are gold diggers. It’s not even that I dislike the term. I just disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 05:34 AM
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For real. How do these people even live in society? Do they know any real women? Hell, do they know any real people??? Or do they just spend all day on Reddit?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 05:29 AM
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I don’t understand how people like you can be so far removed from reality. Most people have sex before they’re married, with someone who isn’t their spouse. If you marry a woman while other guys pumped and dumped her, good for them for enjoying casual sex, and good for you for enjoying a LTR. Hopefully (most likely) everyone got what they wanted anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 05:13 AM
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I don’t understand the logic of this comment. I understand “girls you fuck, and girls you marry” but nowhere in that statement does it imply any gold digging or settling. Just that there are some people who are hot that you wouldn’t want to be married to. It’s the same for women. The concept of gold diggers and settling doesn’t exist that much in real life, men or women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 05:05 AM
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I don’t see how it’s different at all. Calling women “the gatekeepers of sex” as if they’re being manipulative with it is toxic. A woman isn’t shallow or conniving just because she doesn’t want to have sex with you. Thinking that is telling that you don’t understand women. The concept of “I’m sleeping with a hot person even though I don’t want a relationship with them” does not change based on gender. So it’s not okay for a woman to want to fuck an “Alpha Chad” but it IS okay for a guy to pump a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 04:54 AM
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It’s probably true that most women will have casual sex at least once in their lives. However I don’t think it’s true that most (single) women are having casual sex
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 04:48 AM
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My partner is also hot with a great personality. I get that sometimes it can be hard to find the right person for you but like… it’s not THAT hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 04:42 AM
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Relationship sex is better because you can work to make things better and better each time. As someone in a relationship, I’m having way better sex than any of my friends participating in hook up culture lol. I know it may be a little different for men but my point still stands.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 02:11 AM
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Do I think he truly cares? Absolutely. He’s the one who’s up with me during panic attacks, bringing me water at 4 in the morning. He notices all my little nervous ticks, ones that I’m not even conscious of. I can’t drive due to a disability, he drives me basically everywhere. When we’re apart, he’s the one driving hours to see me. He’s willing to make sacrifices for me that I never even asked for. We’ve got our fights here and there but I do think he really loves me. Edit: As for the terminal il…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 07:59 PM
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Online maybe they are, but that rarely translates to reality
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 05:16 PM
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Men are rarely shamed for this and while it’s nice to be “able to climax multiple times”, not every woman can do it and they can’t do it with just any gross rando. I’d give up multiple climaxes if it meant it would be easier for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 04:54 PM
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But not every woman is interested in every man and vice versa. And even if you are attracted to them, that doesn’t mean anything has to happen between you. I am friends with people I think are attractive and I am perfectly happy just being friends with them. I think you are underestimating the complexity of human beings, especially women. Not everything is about sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 03:49 PM
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I suggest you make sure you’re using them more than they use you Whoa, wtf? In a genuine friendship, no one should be “using” anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 03:39 AM
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As a woman, for a long time I wasn’t friends with men and I didn’t see a reason to be. Until I actually started making male friends, and wouldn’t you know it, some of them are great people. Women and men are different in some ways but it depends on the individual person and I can’t imagine how much it would suck if I still had only female friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 03:36 AM
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Dude I think maybe you should just stop looking for women to date you and go to therapy first
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 03:24 AM
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I can’t even tell if this is real. How many women have you actually met?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 03:19 AM
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I have a boyfriend and I still have male friends. And my boyfriend still has female friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 03:15 AM
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Before that, I never had any hot guys going for me, or even average guys. Men literally do exactly the same thing though. I couldn’t get a hot guy as an average woman, which didn’t actually bother me that much. But no average guys were really that interested either for a while. I get that it sucks for them but honestly most people want someone at least on par with what they consider themselves to be if not better. That’s just life for everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 02:16 AM
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I don’t expect that. That’s kinda the point. Most of the men on this sub are average, maybe even lower, so why do they keep complaining about the hot women now wanting them and only fucking “Chads”?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 12:25 PM
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I don’t think I am. I think I’m average. I relate to the first commenter who said they had a “good body, ok face”.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 12:21 AM
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Same. I’m only in a relationship with someone now because we were best friends for a year first and then decided to start dating. Before that, I never had any “hot” guys going for me, or even “average” guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 06:13 PM
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I don’t think the average PPD dude even knows what an average woman is anymore. What do you mean? Average women are sluts with high body counts, they use their ability to get sex with anyone and hang it over men’s heads, they only fuck Chads and assholes. How the average woman spends her time? Fucking Chads or posting on her OF. Or cheating average guys like me out of sex because they’re manipulative. Hobbies? All I see are fat women who cry about how no man wants them (like seriously, just go t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 06:04 PM
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THIS IS ACTUALLY COMMON But is it really? Because the sexual experience you described sounds horrible, and “most people” don’t resent their partners and recoil to their touch. She probably won’t masturbate to the experience because it honestly sounds like a disappointment, and if your wife is not having sex with you BECAUSE she’s resentful, maybe reflect on yourself instead of blaming some random “Chad” from ten years ago that she’s completely forgotten about.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 05:51 PM
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I know you’ve got sources to back up your claim, but your judgment about most women being slightly thinner than the lady in zebra print is not true. My source is that I’ve met a LOT of women and I’ve just observed a lot of women and I rarely meet people with that body type and proportions, much less one who is “thinner”. I think your numbers on that one are a little out of context.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 05:44 PM
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What about women who are lesbians or aren’t interested in dates? Seems unfair to those women to say that the wage gap is “fair” because some straight women expect men to pay for dates. Personally I believe in splitting the check. It prevents the concept of “free dinner” no matter who’s “supposed” to be paying. I hate when people go on dates expecting free dinner, or when someone offers to pay for dinner expecting sex/compensation. Do you feel that your title goes vice versa? That if you want wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 04:27 PM
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this only applies to LTRs, no necessarily hookups. That’s kinda the point though. It applies to LTRs because those are the men you could potentially be marrying and starting a family with. You may not care with a hookup because you won’t be tied to them forever, you can use birth control and absolute worst case scenario you get an abortion. Without the abortion option, yes you can still use birth control but it’s not 100% effective and now if the birth control fails you are tied to an asshole/te…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 09:16 PM
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This is gonna make it “worse” for most men though. Sure, the “Chads” will definitely get way less sex now most likely. But if some dude on here thought he had a chance before, his chances are even slimmer now. In that case, the decision he supports DID make his prospect worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 09:12 PM
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What makes you think that? Rich people will probably still be able to cross borders and evade the law just like they evade most other laws. Anyone else could easily be affected. And I don’t understand how my comment doesn’t make me “look better”, or why I would actually care about that. I’m not looking for a date, I’m just expressing my opinion. I think my comment is perfectly sound. If women are more restrictive about who they sleep with because of this decision, and you support the decision, h…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 09:09 PM
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The guys on here (edit: not all of them, just some) are not as “nice” as they think they are. Women are gonna want men who 1) are not assholes, 2) would be good fathers, 3) likely support Roe v Wade and are upset about it being overturned. A lot of these things are things that may take more time to learn about someone, instead of just a random ONS. I think women are going to sleep with less people as well. Half the time, women get more pleasure out of toys than out of any ONS anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 09:05 PM
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Yeah but why? It’s completely misogynistic and contradictory
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 08:58 PM
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So you agree that sometimes abortion is the best option for people
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 08:55 PM
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Anyone on this sub who complains about women “withholding” sex or how it’s so unfair that women get more attention or how much harder it is for men than women has absolutely no right to say any of those things ever again if they are happy about this decision. Women are going to be even MORE restrictive about who they sleep with now and if you support this it is literally your own fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 08:50 PM
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I think it’s because women get more emotional support from friends and family because vulnerability isn’t seen as a weakness for them. A woman can open up emotionally and cry and have her friends support her, encourage her that she doesn’t need a man to make her happy and she’s just gotta go out and be a girl boss. Men are told they can’t open up emotionally so they don’t talk about their loneliness and lack of relationship because they don’t want to be seen as vulnerable and then teased for hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 01:59 PM
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My boyfriend and I have only been dating for two years, we have a long road ahead of us. It’s impossible to know what’s in the cards for us down the line. But I really really really want this to work out. My boyfriend is my best friend and I think both of us are prepared to do some work in the future to stay together, especially since we’re approaching a transitional period in our lives. I think we’re both really dedicated at this point
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 01:34 AM
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Based on your post and all of your comments, I agree. It seems like you personally should avoid marriage lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 03:07 PM
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If she’s doing literally all of the chores, she’s basically already a maid/housewife. She’s just working two jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 03:04 PM
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When a man has to do the chores it’s “slavery” but when a woman has to do the chores they need to “stop bitching about doing a few chores since it’s small stuff”? You can’t have it both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 03:00 PM
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You’re not even hearing their argument. In your head it’s like you can’t divide the chores 50/50 or 60/40. You see it as “Female must be chore slave for man, or else man is being slave to female!” Wtf are you on bro
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 02:49 PM
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Um… no. Hours the man works are usually FAR more stressful than the female if he makes far more money. This isn’t how it works at all. My mom has a way more stressful job than my dad. She works in a nursing home with people who are literally dying. My dad gets paid more to sit and code all day. Both of them are definitely working hard, and they both have their stressful times, but especially during the pandemic, my mom is at the end of her rope in terms of stress. Sacrifice to getting to that sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 02:43 PM
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You should never, ever, ever willingly have sex with someone who you wouldn’t be willing to raise a child with. Even as someone who’s pro choice I 100% agree. I kinda hate hook up culture. I would never try to stop anyone else from doing it, but I don’t understand why you would put all that on the line for someone you don’t even trust. I’ve only had sex with my boyfriend, and that was long enough into our relationship that I felt confident that we could raise a child if we absolutely had no othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 02:29 PM
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Do you support more sex education in schools? Learning more about contraception and safe sex? This isn’t meant to be a dig, I’m genuinely curious about your opinion. I’m glad to hear that you’re at least at peace with certain abortions for extreme cases like danger of the mother’s life. I personally believe that before the fetus becomes viable (20-ish weeks) it is not it’s own life. It is still a part of the mother and therefore hers to decide what to do with. Once the fetus becomes viable, once…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 01:19 AM
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You could argue that anyone who didn’t take easy, well known precautions to protect other people during a pandemic epidemic is also killing people, even if it’s not direct. Should they be charged with manslaughter? Also, I will say that some of the numbers on your chart could add up to roughly the same number of Jews killed in the holocaust. I’m curious, what do you think about the fact that abortions have been declining for years? Still, abortion is a different than genocide. Hitler wasn’t grow…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 01:01 AM
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3x as many people ever? Yeah probably, since the holocaust was a few years long and abortions have been happening for as long as the human race has existed. Although, I’d like to see your source for that. I guess if we’re playing the numbers game, I’ll mention that the influenza epidemic in 1918 killed 50 million people. But none of these things are really comparable to each other, so it literally doesn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 12:43 AM
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That last paragraph really hits hard tbh. I’m in the same spot as you rn. So glad I live in a blue state that protects women’s rights. I genuinely think that overturning Roe will make a lot of people into single issue voters. The GOP is pushing people away.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 12:19 AM
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I can’t believe you just compared abortion to the holocaust lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 12:15 AM
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If someone is dead set on their preferences and doesn’t mind being “forever alone” until that one person comes along, more power to them. But if someone has preferences (not just like “brown hair”, I mean like 666) and they’re complaining about being single, they need to open their eyes to more people. The thing about settling is sometimes it starts off as “I’m gonna give this person a chance even though I don’t think I’ll like them”. But a lot of the time those people DO like that person, so ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 12:32 PM
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This. Though it’s not my main argument for abortion, it’s a very underrated one.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 07:25 AM
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if i’m arguing, it’s probably cause someone said something ridiculous. which is all the time tbh 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 08:04 PM
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I’m a 21 year old woman. I personally wouldn’t say I spend “countless hours” here, but I enjoy debates and most of the discussions on this sub stay relatively civil given the content, which is surprising. It’s an interesting thing I come to when I’m bored.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 08:03 PM
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Exactly. The original post vs OP’s takeaway was literally like night and day.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 03:26 AM
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Talk about jumping to conclusions lol. You don’t know how big/small he was. Also, they did NOT say “does he have a big dick? if so, that’s compatible. if not, that’s incompatible”. They said if she’s not having a good time, they are sexually incompatible, and they should see other people. There’s nothing wrong with either one of them. Some people like bigger dicks, some people like smaller dicks. She’s not being a bitch or anything. She would be if she told him “I don’t want to do this anymore b…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 03:21 AM
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First, I’m not talking about me specifically, I’m in a LTR anyway. My point is that women have to “treat every gun like it’s loaded” when it comes to men. They try to go for ones that seem safe, but there’s no way to know with a stranger. That’s why you go on dates in public places in the beginning, and wait to have sex so you don’t end up in that situation. Also, some women try a million different pills and are tired of the side effects. Eventually they just give up and just want to use condoms…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:25 PM
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Of course she couldn’t hold a relationship in the past because of casual sex. For a while she wasn’t interested in a LTR anyway so it didn’t matter. Then she was, but she still kept having sex on the first date with the guys, and they would always ghost her after because they got the casual sex that they wanted. Then the assault happened and she totally dropped out of the casual sex scene entirely. Her bf knows about the assault and he knows that’s why she’s so cautious. There’s a lot of trust t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:19 PM
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As they said we literally know that sometimes it’s the woman that changes. The point is that it’s not the case in this post. She’s not owed a relationship, but it’s too bad that he started acting like an asshole. He could’ve at least kept being her friend like before and just said he wasn’t interested in going any further.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:13 PM
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It’s not emotional vulnerability though, it’s physical vulnerability. I’m small and most men could easily overpower me, especially if I originally let them in. I just have to trust that this man with listen to me if I say something is too much or if I ask to stop. Also, some women don’t like or can’t take birth control because it has some really shitty side effects. Some of the most common? Weight gain and lowered sex drive. Things that make them less desirable anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:08 PM
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Would you consider a girl who has (or had, past tense) an OnlyFans to be “promiscuous” even if she has a low n count?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:02 PM
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Very good point. If a woman gets pregnant with a guy she’s been on three dates with or they just started a LTR, he’s less likely to stick around than if they’ve been together for longer or are married.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:00 PM
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Exactly. Men can pay on the first date if they want to, but they shouldn’t feel obligated because it’s always a possibility that the woman is trying to get a free meal out of them. Just like women can have sex on the first date, but they shouldn’t feel obligated because it’s always a possibility that the man is trying to get sex out of them just to ghost them later.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 01:58 PM
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Unless she’s promising you sex right off the bat knowing that she plans on waiting (so literally straight up lying), she is not being deceptive and giving you the image of something she isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 01:54 PM
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Face the real possibility that if she’s stopped the casual sex then something probably happened. My friend used to have casual sex a lot and then got sexually assaulted by one of the guys. She immediately stopped and was celibate for almost a year. Then she met her bf. It’s been a few months and they still haven’t had sex. But she’s not suddenly “withholding” to be a bitch when she gave it out to all those guys before.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 01:44 PM
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Hard disagree. Maybe some women are like this, but not most. Sex is a very vulnerable thing for a lot of women. They want to know they can trust you first. What if they don’t know a guy that well and decide to have sex with him then he turns out to be a creep? Imagine it this way. What if I was dating a guy who didn’t give me access to his money. Obviously that’s probably just because he doesn’t trust some random girl with his money. Even after he’s known me for a while, that’s still pretty priv…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 01:40 PM
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Only because he was a random stranger?!? I would question a random stranger regardless, but especially one that’s a little older. Once we met him though, we realized he was actually a good guy and we had nothing to worry about. Also, I wouldn’t have questioned it at all if they were like 29 and 33. Another part of it is probably because because the rest of our friends are 20/21, so she’s just the baby and we like to look out for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 09:52 PM
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College. It’s a decently big school so they had never seen/heard of each other before or anything. Also it was a little sus at first because she’s 19 and he’s 23 but neither one of them realized that for a while, plus he’s actually pretty nice so Edit: we were worried about our young friend dating an older stranger at first but once we knew him it was fine. chill y’all omg
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:59 PM
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Some random dude went up to my friend in the middle of our school dining hall and said that she caught his eye and he knew he just had to come over and talk to her. They ended up exchanging numbers and they’ve been dating for a few months now lol Edit: I mean it wasn’t just a number and a note. There was at least some conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:26 PM
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Stop posting on here about being unattractive and commitment phobic and go out there and do something about it. I’m not talking about hitting the gym everyday (although that’s an option) I’m just talking about fixing your confidence and taking care of yourself, and go to therapy to work on those commitment issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:26 PM
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It’s there something that a relationship provides that a sex workers can’t provide? I mean… yeah of course. Commitment, partnership, and love. But if those aren’t things you’re looking for, then there’s no real reason to seek out a relationship instead of sex workers. I understand the trafficking concern though. Idk how to help you there
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 12:00 PM
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My point isn’t how well you can hide it. I’ve heard stories from people on other subs where someone cheats, hides it really well, but then years later when they’re getting married, or buying a house together, or having their first kid, the person freaks out because the guilt is killing them. They covered their tracks so well their SO may never know, but their conscience drags them down until they break. Just an interesting point to bring up
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 06:53 PM
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I’m not overestimating it, I know it’s not as good. I’m just saying it’s something. It’s still an option. You’re right, I think he would’ve been happy with a blowjob. My point is just that if a woman won’t have sex with you for a year but she’s willing to do other things (handjobs, blowjobs, etc), does that affect whether or not you think cheating is “justified”? I don’t think the woman having a high n count is an excuse to cheat. Sure, it’s fine to say “Hey, she has a high n count but won’t sle…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 06:49 PM
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Okay but what about the guilt you’ll feel five years later when you’re getting married and she tells everyone that you were so respectful and willing to stay faithful while waiting for her every step of the way. Could you live with that knowing that the whole beginning part of your relationship, that trust and respect, was all a lie?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 02:14 PM
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This! For some people, sex is just as important as the emotional aspect in a relationship. That doesn’t make cheating okay. If you aren’t getting enough from your partner… then you aren’t sexually compatible. Leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 02:11 PM
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I think if a man wants to sleep with someone else, he should ask his SO if she would feel comfortable with him sleeping with other people. The likely answer is no, but if you’re thinking about it, you may as well ask. If she says no, he knows that sleeping with someone else directly violates the terms of that relationship. If he doesn’t like them, he can either leave her or break them anyway, but fully expect a break up if he gets caught. Because that’s a huge violation. He’s got a hand, and I t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 02:05 PM
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Girl… 13 TIMES AS HIGH??? Just taking from other context clues it seems like he slept with nearly 100 people maybe more… I don’t typically care about count at all but ngl that would freak me out too. I don’t blame you for leaving
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 08:20 PM
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this is simultaneously the funniest and most realistic answer on here
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 08:10 PM
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I think it’s more about experience. For me, I didn’t necessarily care how many people my partner slept with, but I wanted to know if he had slept with anyone. Not because it makes me think more or less of them, I just wanna know what’s gonna be entirely new to them and what isn’t, so that we can stay on the same page. Edit: I still like to know how many tho, just because I’m nosy like that lol. Not on the first date tho obv, that’s creepy. It’s fine if they don’t wanna share tho it’s nbd either …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 08:02 PM
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I’m like this. I am fully aware of it, and I don’t expect my partners to get it exactly right. Sometimes I can’t even get it right either. My body just hates me, but that’s not anyone else’s fault. If my partner puts in the work to do the foreplay and I still can’t finish, it still feels good and I still appreciate it. It’s not about “letting go of bullshit”. It’s about my body just physically having an issue. But I also wouldn’t say I’m dissatisfied with my sex life. I’m perfectly happy with wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 06:21 PM
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I used to be really involved in FDS (not because I agreed, I just thrive on chaos), but then they autobanned me when I joined r/nicegirls lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 11:15 PM
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This is… a pretty bad take. First, I’d like to share a personal experience. When I went into freshman year of college, I knew no one personally that had experienced rape or sexual assault. By the end of my freshman year, I knew four women. Two of them, the perpetrators were tinder dates. One, the perpetrator was a close friend who got my friend drunk at a party and took advantage of her. The last was a LTR, the perpetrator was her boyfriend. This is not an uncommon experience. Especially for thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 07:10 PM
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I wouldn’t call him extroverted, his social battery gets drained very quickly, after too much social interaction he gets overstimulated and shuts down. He’s pretty talkative though. He has a hard time picking up on certain social cues, but people just take that as him being a little quirky. He can also come off as pretty confident because of it. He has a lot of common special interests, so people find him relatable. He’s a band kid, so he has a lot of friends from that. He’s very enthusiastic ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 09:54 PM
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My current boyfriend (we’re both in our early 20’s) is very likely ND, he either has ADHD or autism or maybe even both. He has not been single longer than two months since he was like 13. I don’t know how. It’s always been baffling to me. Of course I think he’s attractive, but he’s certainly not “conventionally attractive”. He’s also just a weirdo. I’m also weird, so I don’t mind. Same energy. It just surprises me how many people vibe with that. He’s one of those “date your best friend” types, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 08:30 PM
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I feel like he wouldn’t though, even if he is attracted to me. Still, it doesn’t seem to bother him that we aren’t together/I’m dating someone else. It’s not like he’s waiting there drooling over the thought of my breakup. By OP’s logic, why would he be friends with me if I’m no longer available? Idk, I think this sub oversimplifies things
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:54 AM
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No. He’s told me he thought about it briefly and I told him it’s crossed my mind before too, but we both ultimately decided that that wasn’t in the cards for us. So we stayed just friends and nothing more. That conversation was two years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:47 AM
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yeah lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 12:55 AM
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I know men and women have a lot of differences, but we’re all humans. As a woman, one of my best friends is a guy. There’s nothing going on between us, we just hang out because we genuinely enjoy each other’s company. He’s hilarious. I also have a boyfriend already, and even when I didn’t, he just wasn’t what I was looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 12:08 AM
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Disagree. As a bisexual woman, I have both male and female friends that I am not attracted to. I think my friends are pretty/handsome, but I wouldn’t say I’m attracted to them personally. Sexual attraction to friends is not inevitable. Despite the fact that I pretty much like every gender, I have friends I’m not at all attracted to and I don’t think I ever will be. There’s nothing wrong with them, I just don’t feel it. I do have friends I’m attracted to, but I’ve never wanted anything out of it.…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 12:05 AM
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No, my bf is skinny. I generally prefer that lanky look. Idk that could just be me
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 02:08 PM
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I’m interested in both. For relationships, because I desire the companionship. The world can be a scary place, but sometimes having a partner can make it less so. Also, I personally think doing things with someone you love is more fun than doing it alone, or even with friends. It’s more commitment than a friendship, so I feel like I always have someone to fall back on. It’s a constant, which helps me feel secure. In terms of sex, it’s generally fun. For me, it can be a very emotionally charged e…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 04:15 PM
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Not op but I’m gonna jump in: I’m not gonna pretend height doesn’t matter to me at all, but I don’t need a man who’s a skyscraper. I just don’t want a man who’s shorter than me. Which means anyone 5’4 or taller is fair game. Maybe I have a subconscious bias I’m not aware of, but my current bf is only 5’10, which I’m pretty sure is about average give or take a few inches. Also I feel kinda similarly about dicks. Roughly average size is superior. I’ve never experienced a dick I would consider “sma…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 07:17 PM
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I mean, I think it’s unfair to shame women who have had casual sex, but I certainly don’t think it’s all women of consenting age (post HS). My friend group has 8 women including myself. Of the 8, 4 are virgins, 2 have participated in casual sex, and 2 have had sex only within a committed relationship. We’re all 20/21 yrs old. I’m not saying that’s final, 8 is a very small sample size, much too small to represent all women. But I think it’s fair to say that it shows there are a good amount of wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 07:32 PM
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By your logic, my point is impossible to prove, even though it’s true. All of my arguments you can just say “But this proves you’re just ignoring sub chads”. Well I don’t see any, are they hiding or something? Damned if I do and damned if I don’t I suppose. I do think it’s interesting that instead of saying “You don’t see sub chad men as dateable”, you said “You don’t see sub chad men as human.” Aside from the fact that I wouldn’t consider my current boyfriend a “chad”, I’m also friends with ple…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 07:22 PM
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It’s just that in my experience and what I’ve seen among all of my friends, the experiences are almost equal. I’ve seen roughly the same thing for men and women. I guess I’m just saying that while it exists, the skew is slight in terms of the amount of men that actually end up in a relationship. It’s certainly not as drastic and clear cut as everyone here seems to think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 04:52 PM
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Again, I’m sure that’s true for plenty of women. In my experience, it was like walking in to buy a car, but all of the cars that were presented to me had signs on them saying they were too expensive, not for sale, or only for rent. I’m not denying that there aren’t women who act like you say. I’m not even denying that women have it easier than men in a lot of ways. I’m just saying that broad statements don’t encompass EVERY woman and EVERY man.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 04:20 PM
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What options are you saying I supposedly had? Are you suggesting that I didn’t put myself out there enough, because maybe if I had advertised myself, someone halfway across the country would’ve been interested? Are you suggesting I hang flyers around campus with my face on it? I tried dating apps, all the men ever wanted was sex, or they just straight up ghosted me. Are you saying I wasn’t on enough dating apps? I’m confused as to the options I’m supposedly missing. I’m not saying there aren’t w…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 04:07 PM
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You have a very warped view of the world. As a woman, for many years I had no options. And once I had “options”, they were for hookups, not relationships. Women don’t want shitty sex, that’s why they reject so many men on dating apps. Women want a real relationship, and men who are actually down for commitment are rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 03:54 PM
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For me, I only want to have sex with someone when I’m in a relationship. The thought of someone I don’t love, or at least trust, touching me in that way just creeps me out. It’s not about what “benefits me the most”, I don’t think I could relax enough with a stranger to actually enjoy myself. I’m not saying women don’t value looks or status. I’m saying that for a lot of women (not all), love and trust NEED to be there too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 03:31 PM
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First, unsolicited dick pics, or any pics of a sexual nature, are gross and weird. Second, imo dicks just don’t photograph that well. I like the way they look in general but I would say they just aren’t photogenic. It’s hard to get a good angle and most of the time they just look awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 08:40 PM
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If someone asked me, I’d be prepared to split the bill unless they reach to pay for the whole thing first. If I asked someone else, I’d still want to split the bill but I would be prepared to pay for the whole thing anyway. I’d especially expect to split the bill if the other person orders a nice steak and a whole bottle of expensive wine, then expects me to pay for it. If you go out with someone and they’re paying or you expect them to pay, don’t get something expensive, that’s very rude. Also …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 03:18 PM
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I’m sure there are some women who claim that they want men to open up but when men do they’re put off by “weakness” and leave. I’m not denying that it happens. But there are women who aren’t like that too? I’m sorry for whatever negative experience you had, but not everyone woman is the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 04:42 PM
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Um, no? That’s really fucked up. I want a man to open up 1. because being able to express emotions more emotionally mature than pushing them down and bottling them up and 2. because then it shows that they trust me. Everyone has weaknesses, so it doesn’t make sense to run whenever you see them. Something about what you said is very messed up and I hope you realize that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 04:33 PM
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wtf that’s horrible. imo when my bf cries in front of me i’m relieved that he trusts me enough to be vulnerable with me
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 05:52 AM
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See, here’s the thing about my SO. [Edit: I apologize this is so long I feel like I should cut it down lmao] He’s someone who I didn’t think was my type at all. We did get physical before we got into a relationship because the sexual tension was there at that point. BUT he is already aware that I didn’t always see him that way. We were friends for a year before we ever started anything, and part of that time he was dating someone else. He didn’t want me at that time and I never was jealous of hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 05:15 PM
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I (a woman) just talked to people and made a lot of friends and then there was a guy I was friends with who I ended up really close to and he really liked my personality and I really liked his personality and then we decided we should date and now we are 👍 So… personality?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 11:57 PM
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A lot of people do pay their way though. The last date I went on, I was going to pay for dinner, but my bf insisted on picking up the check, because I had paid for the tickets to the symphony we were headed to. It’s not as black and white as RP insists it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 04:49 PM
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I know plenty of women who have had great hookups but when asked if they’d be with him they say no way in hell for one reason or another. I’ll agree with the original commenter, my SO isn’t hottest person I’ve ever seen, but he’s my best friend and there’s absolutely no one else I’d rather be dating, no one else I’d rather be sleeping with. Being “hot” isn’t the only factor to attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 04:38 PM
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For me, I see that profile and go “Wow, I like those things too! But travel isn’t in the cards financially, and exploring/exercising to the extent that he does takes lots of time and dedication. While he seems like an awesome guy, I don’t know if I could be as committed to those as he is, so I’m probably not his ideal partner.” That’s it. I wouldn’t call it intimidated or even turned off, I would just view it as a lifestyle compatibility issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 09:51 PM
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My opinion about getting vasectomies at a young age (young as in 20 of course, not like 16 or something) is that men should be able to make that decision for themselves. You seem like you really want one. If so, you should totally do it. Also, I like your thought process of “if I do want a kid some day, I’ll adopt/foster a teenager and be a big brother to them”. That’s rational solution to the “But what if you change your mind!?!?” question, and it’s also really sweet. Lots of teenagers in the s…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 08:58 PM
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The terrible great thing about reddit is that no matter how bad you think it is, there’s always something worse. Every day I think to myself “Well, now I’ve definitely seen it all” and then the very next day I am proven wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 06:12 AM
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I guess I indirectly got here from FDS. I used to lurk in FDS because I thought it was just as hilarious as it was cringeworthy. From FDS I found out about red pill, from there I found out about this sub. I’ve always found debates interesting in general so I figured why not lol Edit to add: I joined because I find debates interesting, I stayed for a lot of the reasons already mentioned here. It’s like watching a car crash. It’s a disaster but I just can’t stop looking. Also I am a psychology maj…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 06:04 AM
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There’s really a need for an entire bot for this?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 05:43 AM
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I was a virgin until I was 19* (now I’m 21). I still know a handful of people who are virgins so it’s probably not as uncommon as you think. I wouldn’t find it odd at all. I probably would do things exactly the same. I may not jump into things as fast, but only because I would want him to feel comfortable. My bf had only been with one person before me and there wasn’t a lot of communication with his ex, so there was still a lot he didn’t know. In a way, we were both learning. I never held it aga…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 05:20 AM
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Sorry didn’t know it was CMV
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 10:05 PM
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“No! How dare you imply that men think they are entitled to women! How dare you call me a misogynist! How dare you insinuate that I, the peak of all creation, think lesser of females women!”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 09:59 PM
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Absolutely. This has definitely popped up more here in the last few days too. Not a lot of posts will outright say “I’m entitled to a woman!” But if you read between the lines it’s an underlying theme. The whole concept that women “gatekeep” sex is just oozing with this mentality. Um, she’s allowed to not want to have sex with you? That’s not gatekeeping, that’s having bodily autonomy. It’s just a bunch of men whining that any woman who doesn’t want to immediately fuck them is being an entitled …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 09:50 PM
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You’re ignoring the fact that there are also lonely women out there. Plenty of women have empathy for the “lonely life of an average man” because lots of them have similar experiences. You have a warped view of what a lot of women are actually like
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 06:24 PM
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I think you mean MDS, Male Dating Strategy. (Also I haven’t looked but I’m pretty sure r/MGTOW is like this) Edit: I guess MGTOW was banned? Or it’s private, or I’m just banned personally, although I have no idea why that would be
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 06:19 PM
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While I agree with your point… the person you replied to was just defining “social construct” vs “physical construct”… nothing about whether they are good or bad lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 09:48 PM
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studying what the male ideal is and working to fulfill it. I’ve never met a woman outside of FDS who holds this belief
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 09:45 PM
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I don’t think that’s what they were trying to say. I think they were saying instead of sorting your choices in women as “pretty” and “ugly”, sort them by “good/kind” and “bad/mean/etc”. Any woman can fall into the kind category or the mean category, regardless of looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 11:12 PM
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I thought it was common too. A lot of people in my family (aunts and uncles) have really happy marriages because they were raised in a happy marriage. My grandpa got really sick when he was in his 50’s (edit: my grandma was also in her 50s) and my grandma never even considered seeing anyone else. She still loves him now (she’s almost 90) and even though she loves being with her family I think she’s accepted death because she wants to see him again. They have five kids and all of them ended up in…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 05:41 PM
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It probably sounds like I’m just in denial or something, but my parents are definitely happily married. They always say they function better as a team and they’re each other’s best friends. I almost never see them fight, and when they do they just need a second to cool down. We go on long road trips as a family and even though my brother and I used to fight a lot on trips like that, we pretty much don’t at all anymore. My parents are always chatting and dancing together to songs on the radio. Ob…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 03:59 PM
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Most people have a fantasy in their heads. But most people don’t actually expect this in real life. Women included.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 01:37 PM
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I don’t need marriage per se, but as some point I’d like to do a “wedding”, even if it’s just a little ceremony and we don’t actually get married. I view weddings themselves as more of a celebration of the love you share and your commitment to each other (which doesn’t necessarily need to mean marriage). I wouldn’t do one of those ceremonies if my partner agreed that we would have a wedding later on. But if they told me they NEVER wanted to be married, I’d like the celebration. We don’t need the…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 10:57 PM
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This is a key example of how men and women have vastly different definitions of “harm”. Apparently in the eyes of men (or maybe just you), boosting a woman’s ego is harm? Because I think when a woman says “harm”, they mean “he will likely be violent towards me”.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 04:10 AM
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No confusion necessarily, you just didn’t really say so I was curious. I’m sorry stuff hasn’t worked out for you, but I hope you’ve found peace in you current situation whatever that may be. Have a good day bro 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 09:08 PM
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How are they not compliments??? What about “girlfriend material” or “wifey material”? Are those compliments? Are they insults?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 08:41 PM
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So you don’t want to sleep with a woman on the first date basically? You only wanna date someone you haven’t slept with?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 08:40 PM
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And I’ve never met a woman who did. Your experience is unlucky
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 08:02 PM
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Most women don’t use sex to try to control their partners. You’re projecting your own delusion that relationships are transactional. Most women don’t view relationships like that at all. If a woman is asking her boyfriend to jump through hoops respect her boundaries, she probably has a reason that isn’t just to “be manipulative”. And if a woman calls her boyfriend “boyfriend material”, she’s attracted to him. I don’t understand how that’s confusing
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 07:58 PM
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But we both know the implied definition of “commitment” includes a long term relationship, regardless of whether or not that’s a romantic relationship or FWB. You know that if you tell a woman that you will commit to her, long term commitment is implied. By not specifying you mean otherwise, you are allowing her to believe a lie and therefore are deceiving her. Which is immoral.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:54 PM
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If the partner promising commitment was being honest and truly changed their mind, they could just say “I know I said I would stay committed to you, but it’s really clear that we’re sexually incompatible. I’m sorry if you feel like I deceived you, but I had genuine intentions. I just don’t see how any relationship that includes sex could realistically work between us. I hope you understand that I didn’t mean to hurt you.” It’s fine to be honest but then change your mind. It’s different if you’re…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:26 PM
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These are literally not the same thing at all. OP, I can’t even fathom the mental gymnastics occurring to make this work.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:21 PM
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If the sex was shit, it’s pretty easy to say to your partner, “I know I said I would stay committed to you, but it’s really clear that we’re sexually incompatible. I’m sorry if you feel like I deceived you, but I had genuine intentions. I just don’t see how any relationship that includes sex could realistically work between us. I hope you understand that I didn’t mean to hurt you.” It’s fine to be honest but then change your mind. It’s different if you’re straight up lying and you have no intent…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:11 PM
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Genuine question, why does it matter so much to you that you won’t consider her even if she’s changed? If she’s a different person now, why does it matter that she had a certain phase? That part of her life is over, she’s left it behind. It’s not who she is anymore. I’m not trying to shit on you, I’m really genuinely asking. I just don’t understand
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 03:39 PM
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The asshole Nice Guys in the comments won’t listen to you tbh. It’s like they can’t understand the concept that attitudes change. What if in college I had a wild girl phase, then ended up hurt and now I’m more guarded? What if I used to hook up with guys all the time then I realized I wanted something more serious and didn’t want to start a relationship in a way that feels superficial to me? It is very rarely based in how “attractive” a man is. Men need to just get over themselves. Not everythin…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 05:14 AM
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See, I hold my dad’s hand in public sometimes if we’re walking through a sketchy area. I get nervous because I am small and weak but my dad is large and intimidating. I have weird anxiety about being kidnapped in a big city and seeing as my dad is a good person and a good father I trust him to not let me get kidnapped. Not once has it crossed my mind that someone could think I am anything other than his daughter. I genuinely don’t think it’s crossed his mind either. That’s so fucking creepy and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:10 AM
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Same. My dad has always treated me like his precious daughter. He has always supported me and it really helps me feel grounded when i’m going through something tough. And, seeing the shit that other people go through, I’m just so grateful my dad is fucking normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:55 AM
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“I’m not sure how to bring it up or what to even say” What else is there to say other than “Get tf out of my house, we’re getting a divorce”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 08:09 PM
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Exactly! I keep trying to tell my friend this bc she’s stuck in a situationship with this LVM, every time he treats her like shit he butters her up (aka lovebombing) beforehand and then does the same to her like immediately after. We all keep telling her to cut him off and even though she sees what’s going on it’s like she can’t let go :/ Lovebombing is the worst I’ve seen so many friends fall victim even I myself in the past. Classic abuser tactic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 08:09 PM
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He snooped and then you snooped but he argued it’s “different”? No, it’s not, he’s just making excuses to make you feel like shit. I don’t think snooping is good on either end, but he’s not any better than you. He’ll might want to get back together again, it seems like he’s “breaking up with you” to gain more power over you. Do NOT talk to him at all anymore, it might hurt at first but in the long run you are SOOO much better off without him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 05:21 PM
15

I mean I wasn’t thinking quite that dark, but I was thinking that being asleep would allow him to do shit to her that he knows she would never consent to while awake. She always refuses anal? Well she can’t say no while she’s asleep! She wants him to use a condom and not finish inside her? She doesn’t need to know anything different!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 08:38 PM
43

I had a male friend tell me that he woke his girlfriend up every morning by touching her… when I asked him if he ever actually checked to see if she was okay with it, he told me to mind my own business, it’s his relationship and he can do what he wants… Definitely a moment of clarity for me, after that I only pretended to be friends with him so that he wouldn’t manipulate his girlfriend into thinking I was a bitch (like he had already done with her other friends). I wanted to make sure she had s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 08:27 PM
61

Where was this book when I was 17??? Could’ve potentially saved me so much time, energy, and heartache. Looks like a great read!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 01:32 PM
3

“Was in a relationship for four years, but the girlfriend always finds out. Now I’m running an internet platform to suggest alibis for other johns.” I’m not even surprised anymore, just disappointed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 05:19 PM
1

Maybe some women do that to men, but I’d say it’s not the majority. There are assholes in both genders, that doesn’t mean you should be one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 02:26 AM
1

Bro… what woman broke your heart for you actually believe all of this man? First, a woman may want a career or may not. Most of the women I know want careers, but it’s for their sake and actually has nothing to do with men at all, because not everything is about men, because we’re human beings. Second, as a woman, I actually do all of those things in a real committed relationship. I’m not sure where you’re getting this whole idea. I will say, I don’t chase though, before a relationship starts I …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 03:45 PM
85

This is just one of them but: if you get as far and fingering, and he’s REALLY bad at it. Sure, he could just be inexperienced, but in a lot of porn, the men do a terrible job and the women are “really enjoying it.” Like a man in porn will seriously slap a girl’s vagina, and she’ll be making some obviously fake face of “enjoyment.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:30 PM
216

How dare you say that about the 35 year old man dating the barely 18 year old women??? It’s obviously love. Age is just a number. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 05:24 PM
51

The scariest part about this is that many women feel like they HAVE to be nice in order to stay safe, that the slightest bit of wrong tone could cause a “nice” man to erupt into violence. It’s terrifying and disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 05:41 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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