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I treat them with respect. I ask them questions and listen to what they say. I respect their time. I'm honest about what I want, what I can offer and what I can't. I go to dates with an open mind with the goal of having genuine fun (not the sexual kind). I don't spend more than 24h chatting before asking them on a date. I have no "system". I just like dating and I guess it shows.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 04:27 AM
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Everyone's experience will be different depending on where you are, who you are and who you are looking for. As a 40M looking for casual dating and casual sex, I met a lot of interesting people and had a lot of fun getting to know them. Sure, some people were ghosting, vain and were not worth my time. That's the case in person or online. I think your online experience reflects, up to a point, what you put into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 05:50 AM
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It's more and more socially acceptable for men to take good care of their appearance. Face creams, shaved body hair, hair transplant, perfume are perfectly acceptable if not encouraged. Makeup and nail polish are commonplace in queer circles even for men dating women. I think it's a good thing masculity can include taking care of oneself.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 05:35 AM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 05:36 AM
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I think it's some sort of homophobia. She touched many penises and penises are disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 06:33 PM
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A plane pilot or steward could visit new cities every week I guess. Or maybe a professional sex club reviewer! His question makes no sense, all things considered.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 06:30 PM
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I'm definitely not compatible with a virgin. I'd probably just end the date right there if she told me she was a virgin. Also, I think being in the top 3 lovers of a woman who had 40+ partners is a much bigger ego boost than being someone's only partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 06:26 PM
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No. This question is disingenuous and you know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:50 AM
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I guess someone visiting two new sex clubs per week for 10 years could get to 2000 partners. 2000 is outside even what people inside kink and sex positive cercle do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:35 AM
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I don't think n count matters. But someone having had sex with 2000 people is someone who is making having sex with new people their main focus in life. One new person per month is sustainable but still takes constant effort. 2000 is "going to a sex club twice a week for 10 years" territory. It's not a question of ncount, it's a question of what you are spending your time on.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:32 AM
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True, if a woman expects me to plan the whole date without her, I'll know we're not a good match.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 01:13 AM
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Some women find it a turnoff when the guy doesn't plan the whole thing!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 03:26 AM
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Why is it not? Someone is trying to get in another person's pants and is using smooth tactics to get to their objectives. Women can have game. They can have game pursuing men also.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 05:40 AM
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The slutty phase after a breakup is a classic! I'm not an expert (and nobody here is either) but I dont think you can give a diagnostic of sex addiction by looking at someone's ncount 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 05:06 AM
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N count charts are heavily dependent on the age of the people who make them. 20 is a crazy high number for a 17 years old but normal for someone 50 years old who didn't have a 25 year relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 07:04 PM
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There's a trope in wlw dating that no one makes a move and both hope the other one is going to make one. Not sure if it's true. I've seen wlw who fit this description and I've seen women who demonstrate a lot of game when flirting with other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 06:59 PM
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It doesn't for me. There's a sensation of brotherhood more than anything. A sort of "you see, I told you she was hot". I've high-fived guys while swinging. And it's not a gendered thing either. My gf feels the same towards the other woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 11:12 PM
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There are probably some out there. But for most swingers, it's about everyone having friendly fun. Without humiliation.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 11:04 PM
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No. Swinging.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 10:42 PM
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You haven't been with good lovers then.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 06:16 AM
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Well we did a lot of group sex, so I was present for half of her body count. Kind of hard to mind when I'm encouraging her to increase her N count 😜
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 06:14 AM
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You have to believe me, honey, I just wanted to shake her hand. I don't know how she ended up spread eagle on the bed!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 06:08 AM
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Dating is harder because we are much less social than even 10 or 20 years ago. We stay home on our phones. We don't socialize as much. Even for people who want to socialize, there are less opportunities for it. There are less third spaces where you can meet people. And dating is hard for everyone. Sure, more beautiful people will have more options but those options won't necessarily end up in long lasting or fulfilling relationships. There are a lot of people who don't want to commit to relation…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 06:04 AM
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They wash themselves between lovers. What about eating in a restaurant knowing cooks jerked off last night? They washed their hands but those hands touched their dicks and then touched your food!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 03:11 AM
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Interesting. My rule was to respond to them with messages that were 10% bigger than theirs and 10% faster than they did. That way the conversation gets pushed forward but not so fast that she finds off-putting. If she wants to escalate and get to know me better/faster, I usually obliged. If she wanted to take it slow, I also obliged.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 02:14 PM
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You have some weird hypotheticals...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 04:58 AM
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Sorry, I corrected my post.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 10:27 PM
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That is not my experience. I've never always split the bill and most of my first dates ended up in us having sex (not necessarily on the first date). I don't dismiss your experience. I guess it will vary from place to place and on where you meet them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 10:18 PM
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I think it reflects the values and desired gender roles of the two people on the date. If she expects the man to pay, she'll be more happy with a man who thinks men should pay for dates and in general provide for women. Personally I think it's weird for men to pay for dates but who am I to judge. If people with conservative gender norms want to date and let the man pay, they are welcomed to. I'll be over there splitting the bill with people who think like me. I don't think I'd fit with someone w…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 08:43 PM
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I had good results on Hinge and Feeld being honest that I just want something casual. Kink events can also work pretty well. Or just going to a club. Plenty of opportunities there.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 06:09 PM
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I don't know where you get your stats but here it says that 39 of men are living unpartnered. So that leaves 61% who are living with their spouse. In that 39%, there are single people and people not living with their girlfriends. So yeah, a big majority of men have a girlfriend/wife. https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2021/10/05/rising-share-of-u-s-adults-are-living-without-a-spouse-or-partner/
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 02:26 PM
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People give generic advice because they don't know the person asking for advice. We dont know you, all we do know is through your prism and your description of yourself. It's also because it's how people find partners. There's no hidden step. Be nice, get your life together, get in shape, dress well, groom well, try to be confident, make friends, do social activities will get a normal person results eventually. It works for 90% of people. If it doesn't, maybe there's something else and we can't …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 01:08 AM
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None of my kinks involve my partner's pain. But my partner's kinks often involve her pain. A lot of them asked my to hit them, spank them or choke them. I'm a people pleaser so I will usually indulge them. I've hit my partners, choked my partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 02:39 AM
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I wouldn't leave her. My love for her is too big to forgo for such a small error. We'd talk about it. Why it happened. Why she didn't ask for permission beforehand. What should change. It's actually a hypothetical we talked about. I also know she wouldn't leave me if I cheat on her.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 04:02 AM
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Why do you presume they are there for women?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 05:44 AM
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I'm not sure that's true. If someone was a shy nerd in high school but became confident and charismatic after learning how to be better around others; I can see that being endearing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 02:15 PM
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I understand completely. I'm in agreement with you. I'm Nonmonogamous and dating other people is something that always comes up. One topic that is quite sensitive is how to manage the speed at which a newly nonmonogamous couple starts dating other people. The woman can get dates pretty fast and the guy usually struggles. "I'm married and I'm looking for no strings attached casual sex" works better on a woman's profile 😉 I once told my date that I understood why her husband had troubles and how n…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 10:37 PM
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Talking about struggling getting dates to your own date also conveys the message that you're desperate and that you'd settle to go on a date with anyone. You want to make your date feel special, not imply that you'd take any woman that would have you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 08:32 PM
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True, saying "I regularly ask for dating advice on Reddit" is not going to get you points on a first date! But if there are more men that do the basic things and therefore become datable, it's a win for all women who date men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 06:02 PM
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Women have a big incentive to convince men to be more attractive and interesting : they want to date interesting and attractive men! Your fish analogy does t work because women want to date men; fish don't want to get caught! When you hear people giving general advice like go to therapy, make friends, get a haircut; it's because these women think that makes you a more interesting person to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 07:34 AM
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👍🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 09:06 PM
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I always vote and always will. Too many dumb people voting so I need to even it out a little 😜
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 08:52 PM
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You seem to put way to much emphasis on casual sex as a form of validation. I get it, it's validating. It truely is. But going all in on this is going to hurt you. Ok. You did it. You slept with 20 women in the past year. You sacrificed a few friendships cancelling plans for dates. Your boss is getting pissed at you because you worked after partying too much. You got a minor std because it's bound to happen even if you do everything right. You're jadded after all this rejection/ghosting/bad sex …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 08:48 PM
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It eventually gets old. It takes a lot of time and energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 08:34 PM
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I don't think that's true and I don't think you really think that's true either. There are a lot of men who are there for that, sure but saying "most men are going club only to pickup women" is just false. Most men are down for it if it happens though. And most men are partially going to clubs for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 08:33 PM
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Well then, the times I've been objectified without consent are quite few and mostly harmless. Whistling by gay men but also some comment like "Hot guy" while passing me in the gay village. It's flattering at most but otherwise I just don't register it since it's not coming from someone I could be interested in. I unfortunately haven't knowingly been objectified without my consent from women. I'm sure it's happened in their head but I don't know about it. Unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 07:40 PM
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When you think everyone else is wrong, either you know something no one else knows or that's because you yourself are wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 04:17 PM
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That's not the normal definition though. If you want to debate your point, you have to use the same definition as everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 04:11 PM
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My sexual partners sharing my dick picks with friends (with my consent). Husbands booty calling me to have sex with their wives. My girlfriend telling my neighbor that she will show her my dick then kissing me sensually to get me hard then telling me she promised my neighbor that she'd show him my dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 03:56 PM
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I've been objectified from time to time and I love it. It's so rare it happens to most men that it's something we usually enjoy. Women in general don't like it and that's perfectly fine. Men in general like it and that's also perfectly fine. Why do you need to tell men how they should react to being objectified?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 03:34 PM
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Self improvement (gym, wardrobe improvement, learning game) will improve your chances to get casual sex or a relationship, that's for sure. On that blue and red pill are generally in agreement. Sleeping with a lot of women after doing all this self-improvement is great if that's what you are into. My issue with the red pill is the misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 11:02 PM
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Speaking as someone who went from 2 to 40 in 2 years, it's possible but it takes a lot of work. Chatting with your matches takes time and effort. Some advice : - Swipe on women that are looking for casual relationships or are nonmonogamous. Don't lie about wanting a relationship just to get in her pants. You'll make everyone lose their time. - Think long and hard about the first message you send. Craft them to tailor what you want to convey, who you are talking to do and where you want to orient…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 04:19 PM
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Pretty much anything where you touch the other person's genitals for sexual pleasure. Oral, manual, PiV, tribbing, anal.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 07:51 PM
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I have a muscular upper body so they usually caress/kiss my pecs, shoulders and arms a lot. I like it very much, it shows they really like my body. I haven't had many women focus on legs though. Maybe I skip leg day 🤭
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 07:47 PM
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So a lot of lesbians have no body count?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 07:38 PM
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My hands are usually all over her body. I love a woman's shoulder and back so naturally my hands will be there all the time. Also, as a dom, I regularly use the shoulders to pin down my partners on their back. A hand lightly gripping her neck is also usually very welcomed by my partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 07:35 PM
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Worst experience I had with this was a woman arriving at the date and saying "I just read your profile while walking and just saw that you are nonmonogamous. I'm not sure that's for me." Yeah, it's the first sentence in my profile for a reason. It's pretty important...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 07:24 PM
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Well it's the internet. People defend extreme positions they wouldn't in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 04:10 PM
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Who realistically gets into fights? I call people out regularly and what usually happens is other people around sort of quietly agree and the guy boasting is ashamed of himself. We know this is innaproporate but we want to fit in and not make too many waves.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 04:04 PM
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Maybe it is stopping someone from becoming someone that assaults women in the future. Maybe not. We're not Batman and we're not in a position to legislate anything. No one is asking you to singlehandedly get out there and stop the rapes happening in your city. But we can all play our part by calling out other men when they do and say stupid shit. Let's try to move the Overton winnow where someone saying racist and sexist stuff gets called out.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 03:58 PM
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Yes, you are calling out a dickhead and also saying to everyone that is listening that you consider what they said innaproporate. Maybe it'll inspire someone else to call out the next dickhead saying stopping stupid. That's a win in my book.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 02:41 PM
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Stoping other men starts by calling out locker-room talk. When someone says something sexist about women (or a racist comment), call them out. Tell them "What you said is really fucking stupid, don't say shit like that".
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 02:33 PM
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Honestly I think he's onto something here! There are a lot of women who checked out of the dating market after getting burned too many times. Out of apps and out of singles events. It's hard to reach them; doing it through a acquaintance playing matchmaker could be an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 01:33 PM
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Everyone uses strategies but that doesn't mean they are evil or manipulative. Dressing well is a good strategy. Going for women who are looking for casual sex when you are looking for casual sex is a great strategy! Listening to your date and asking follow-up questions is a great strategy. More specifically: - Having a seeting configuration that allows physical contact. Like sitting at the bar, or at a table but next to eachother instead of across or on a couch. When the times comes for a physic…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 10:32 PM
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There's also some men that like to blame women for everything! But when you see studies about male loneliness, it always about friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 04:48 PM
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Men are lonely because they don't have that many friends. Male loneliness has almost nothing to do with dating...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 04:27 PM
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This makes sense. Men are put into a gender role in which they need to have a big sexual appetite to be considered manly. The point you are making is one of the arguments frequently given as to why toxic masculinity is also harming men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 04:24 PM
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Not everyone has the same definition of FWB so I don't like using the term but yes, it can mimick a casual relationship or FWBs. I almost never had the problem you are describing where they fall in love. Probably because I was clear starting from the first date that there was no hope for a commited relationship. I was not looking for a(nother) girlfriend. I live with my girlfriend, I own a home with my girlfriend, she knows I'm here, she can even meet her if she wants. I guess that dashed any ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 05:12 AM
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I have a nesting girlfriend so I'm not looking for a primary relationship. But I'm not really a fan of hookups. They are a lot of work for a night or two of sex. So I'm looking for something somewhere in between. Where there is respect, caring, friendship, some sort of love but no actual commitment to a relationship. In reality, every relationship is different and everyone involved decides what the relationship becomes. I prefer when she is also nonmonogamous as it can create a weird power dynam…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 04:42 AM
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Why hinders me most is that most women are not into nonmonogamy. They can sometimes be convinced to give it a try because they are not looking for anything serious, but it's rarely a plus. It's a small hinder as I can easily find a date everytime I want someone new but it's still the biggest challenge I encounter.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:52 AM
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The "article" says there are 10% male virgins and 7% female virgins in the US. So there are some male virgins not having sex with female virgins. People having a lot of sex are having it mostly together. People having a moderate amount of sex are having it together. People in long-term relationships are having sex together. I'm not sure what you are implying with this whole post, OP. There is no mythical chad having sex with every woman while all the other guys are not having sex...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 05:52 PM
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This article seems to be cherry picking different cross tabs from different surveys over the years and countries. The 30% you cited was for French women 25 to 29 with a 10000 sample size. The article than says that the same age bracket was at 8% in 2006. There is a big margin of error when you go crosstab diving across surveys from all over the world and you are bound to find weird things. If you want to find numbers to support a given narrative, that's a great way to do it. Now, to answer your …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 05:36 PM
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A way to do it is to go slowly enough that she has the time to say no. Especially if you announce what you are going to do before doing it. "I really want to kiss you right now" or "That bra is getting in the way, let's get it off you" before making a move lets you see her reaction and gives her time to say no or on the other hand make "come fuck me " eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 06:26 AM
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It's a collective action problem. If guy A does what you say he should to do and only swipes women he really truely likes but every other guy swipes on every woman, women will still get swamped and he will get no matches. I agree on the principle that it's a problem that guys are doing this. But as long as incentives encourages them to so it, they'll do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 04:03 AM
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I don't think a daily mental health's thread is the point of this sub. There are plenty of subs where men can talk about their mental health issues. PPD is not the place for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 03:53 AM
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Most people don't keep in touch with high school friends 20 years later. You're not the same person at 18 and 40. You're also not going to live in the same area either.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 04:32 AM
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I feel like most discussion on PPD can be resolved by this kind of answer. What are men complaining about X and doing Y? Because it's not the same people... Why are women advocating X and doing the opposite? Because it's not the same people.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 04:26 AM
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In sex positive circles, talking about STDs is something you do openly. I always ask my dates about their STD status, date of last screening and number of partners since last screening on the first date. Some people ask to see a proof of the test even before meeting for a first date but I find that bit too much. Then you use a condom. It's never foolproof but it's a risk you can manage if you think it's worth it. Nothing is riskfree in life. You can get killed by crossing the street but you don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 05:09 AM
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(respectively) chef's kiss!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 07:35 PM
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I think overweight women still (in general) tend to take better care of their appearance than overweight men. Like better haircut, styling clothes, etc. Weight is one thing but you see overweight men in relationships all the time. It's just that these overweight men still present well. With a well groomed beard, good-looking clothes, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 09:02 PM
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The answers will vary by country and societies. I've never heard of women not paying for their dates where I'm from. But on PPD it seems to be commonplace.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 06:08 PM
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In my experience, the "Hey" rarely became a date and almost never led to a second date. The chat usually dried up after a series of one word answers and I ended focusing on other prospects.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 03:34 AM
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I've had carefully crafted messages on Bumble coming from women and I've had "Hey 👋🏼". Lazy people exist and always will. Sure men are overrepresented and need to do more on apps but even then, there are a lots of guys that will "Hey 👋🏼" the only match they get in a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 11:30 PM
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I've never cheated or been chose to cheating. It's not that I couldn't as I've had multiple propositions over the years but it's not something I want to go. We had a nonmonogamous stint two years ago where I slept with a lot of women so I know I can easily find NSA sex on Tinder. Cheating is just not something I want to do. If I really want to sleep with another woman, I'll organise a threesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 05:35 AM
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If dating isn't fun, there's something you are doing wrong. Sure, everyone is trying to not mess things up but if you didn't have fun during a date, it's definitely not a good date. A first date shouldn't be a high pressure, stressful environment.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 05:34 AM
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You are right, one of the problem of talking about the loneliness epidemic is that you are either living it or are never seeing it. By definition, my friends have at least one friend....because they're my friend! But no one has friends who don't have friends so we rarely encounter these lonely people 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 12:10 AM
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Of course there are. They don't advertise it as much though (slut shaming, too many suitors)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 07:28 AM
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Men who have sex with a lot of women don't do it by trying to convince women that have been celibate for 4 years and only want to have sex in the context of a serious relationship. There are plenty of women that want to have casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 04:42 PM
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I think you're right. Normal people don't really care about body count.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 06:50 AM
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I doubt she's meeting with fuckbois as they don't lose time with someone like OP who clearly indicates that she only wants sex in a relationship. There's plenty of women that will have sex on a first or second date, they don't need to try with her. I think your second option might make sense (early sex means attraction). Or maybe just men that are looking for a serious relationship but don't think waiting 2 months to have sex is a reasonable ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 06:47 AM
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I don't get bored of my girlfriend because I love her and just being in her presence makes me happy. But if I'm dating for casual sex, I love variety. I tend to date multiple women at the same time and don't usually "stay with them" more than 2-3 months. Once the novelty wears off, there's a good chance it'll end and I'll go swiping again. To meet new people, to discover new bodies. It's not something I need, it's something I like and that I can have.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 03:07 AM
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Thinking about couples I know they met through : School Friends OLD app OLD app Clubbing Party at friends house OLD app Online game Language learning group (hobby) OLD app OLD app It's not a sure thing. But when guys say OLD apps are not working and they don't have friends, there's not many options left...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 05:03 PM
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I saw his reply to my post and said "oh man, not this study again..." and then you appeared like an angel!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 03:53 AM
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One thing me and my girlfriend like to do when we are in a public place is to watch couples walk by and see who of the guy or girl is better looking. (Guilty pleasure 🫣) You'd be surprised to know that it's about 50/50. Interestingly, there are many couples where I think the girl is more beautiful and my gf thinks the guy is more beautiful. That's what happens when you are attracted to one gender, you think they look good. Is there a possibility you think most couples have better looking women b…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 01:12 AM
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I agree that when you are face down on your mattress is not the best time to chicha but it's more about meeting new people and chatting with people before and after. The yoga class I went to a few times also organised a potluck once or twice during the year to meet your follow pretzels.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 12:56 AM
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Poor people can have hobbies too...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 08:39 PM
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You won't meet your soulmate at a Warhammer 40k convention where men represent 99% of the population. But yoga, book club or running clubs will have more women than men. You don't need to do something you don't like but if you can find a hobby that women generally like, it's a good way to meet new women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 08:37 PM
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In general guys have pretty bad pictures on dating apps. We're not used to pose and take a lot of pictures like most women do. It's usually my #1 tip I give for people trying OLD, go rake really good pictures!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 06:49 AM
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Some guys have awful tasting sperm (or so I'm told). Hard to crave something that tastes awful even if you are attracted to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 06:46 AM
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You're spot on on everything you said. His post reeks of fear of women, rejection and lack of courage. The fact that he made a new account for this post makes it even more apparent.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 07:05 AM
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Are you ok? You seem to be having a bit of a meltdown... And not everyone is American.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 06:02 AM
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I'm not sure you understood my comment. I'm not saying women don't have any fetishes. I dated some a Korean and West African woman that were exclusively into white guys. I'm saying they don't go around mocking other guys, they just don't date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 01:13 AM
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Do you think that women who are exclusively into white guys are laughing and shaming black/Arab/Asian guys? No, they just don't date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 01:00 AM
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Not true. If you date a few women you'll quickly end up seeing them in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 12:58 AM
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Flat earthers are harmless idiots so people make fun of them and ridicule them. Red pill ideology and the misogyny that comes with it is dangerous to young men and women so some people try to push back on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 12:20 AM
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So you judge them because some people are turned off by that? That makes no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 10:42 PM
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It's great and is really validating. But I think some people obsess over being the only one that a woman has ever wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 07:04 AM
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Or they finally found who they were looking for all along!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 05:43 AM
1

Yeah. And they stop having their fun with everyone because they choose to have fun with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 05:24 AM
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But why judge people for doing something fun if that's easy for them? Do you judge professional basketball players when they dunk because it's easier for them than for normal people?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:50 AM
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Funny. I think we see the reality the same way but I believe that women should be sluts and men should stop judging then and you believe that women should not be sluts and men are justified judging them for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 01:05 AM
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No but you said (or heavily implied) she should not because it's easy for these women and some men don't like it. Then you said/heavily implied that it's their problem and that those men are right.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 11:42 PM
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Yes I usually know if I'm having sex for fun or to have children. And no, it feels good because it's fun, not because it's vaguely related to having children... What is this spiritual nonsense?!? You sound like you're an alien who only read about humans in books...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 02:25 PM
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No it can't. But producing life is just a really small part of what sex is. 99.9% of sex doesn't result in babies.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 07:14 AM
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It's more than common courtesy. It's kind of expected.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 06:23 AM
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I think you underestimate how much time and resources the average woman invests in her appearance. Makeup, hair products, skin products, hair dresser, clothes shopping, shoe shopping, etc. Do half of it and you'll see a big difference. Spend 7h in a week shopping flor clothes, skin care, watching YouTube videos about hair and beard grooming. It will make a big difference in your appearance. I know it did for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 06:19 AM
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You're wrong. It's really a feminist position.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 06:10 AM
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If someone who had a lot of past partners chooses to stay with you, it means they are choosing you knowing that you are better than what is available out there. That means something. If someone who didn't have a lot of past partners chooses to stay with you, they are doing it without knowing the alternative. It doesn't mean you are a bad sex partner but you could be and they wouldn't necessarily know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 06:08 AM
2

Feminists are among the most sex-positive people...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 06:01 AM
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So is listening to Mozart or watching a beautiful sunset. It's really awesome. People should do it more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 05:59 AM
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But if she likes having sex and is having fun having sex, why isn't it ok? If she's having fun playing ping ping, why isn't it ok to play ping pong? It shouldn't concern or bother anyone not concerned. I agree that being a male slut is harder than being a female slut. But it's not a competition...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 05:56 AM
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I just checked the stats where I live and it's 30,0 for the first kid (https://statistique.quebec.ca/fr/produit/publication/naissances-fecondite-bilan-demographique) so I was misremembering a bit. But it varies per country and is usually lower in less developed societies and where women have less rights. Usually people prefer to have kids a little later in life when they have completed school, started a job, made some money, travelled a bit and have a place where they can raise their kid. That's…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 04:45 PM
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Most 18-25 women don't want to have kids at that age. The median age for a first kid is around 31. And I'm sure the closer you get to 40, the better the ratio becomes for men who want kids. Women approaching 40 know they only have a few years left is they want to found a family and they outnumber men approaching 40 that want kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 06:20 AM
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How can you expect people to engage in your post when you're starting with such hyperbole. Everyone is going to attack your post on that and no one is going to engage with your real premise. Blue pill is just normal people not thinking about gender dynamics in dating; they just living their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 06:08 AM
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Stop watching ragebait reels and go live in the real world a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 06:03 AM
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To guys it absolutely sounds ridiculous. Especially those that can't get a single quality match. But that's what several of my female friends were reporting and I see it mentioned of PPD from time to time. If we expect women to understand men's reality in dating, we have to understand theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 03:30 AM
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The fact that she's the one always doing the choosing is exhausting. She can't swipe right on seven profiles or else she's going to get seven matches. Each swipe right has to be carefully weighted.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 01:58 AM
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🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 08:40 PM
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The problem with deceivers is that they deceive. Women are looking for good guys. It's just that of the 9 guys that present themselves as good guys, only 3 are.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 07:08 AM
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I've seen this vetting pressure in real time when me and my gf were nonmonogamous. She's a beautiful woman looking for casual sex on dating apps. She knew that if she liked a profile, that it had a 99% chance to be a match and that she would receive a message in the next 5 minutes for a date in two days if she wanted. She was dreading the pressure from it because she felt that if it failed it was because she had chosen wrong. The guy probably didn't read her profile so it was on her to check if …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 07:06 AM
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The problem with his idea is that your standards are clearly rubbish for some people. And that's perfectly fine. They are your standards; they should reflect how you see dating. If someone thinks a first date should be something that is deeply meaningful and carefully planed to be magnificent, then that's also perfectly fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 07:25 AM
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Terrible idea. Everyone has their own protocol that they follow that is good for them. Finding their protocol/values is what dating is. Wanting the dates to be 50/50, having sex on the second date, responding every 5 mins vs 5 hours helps you determine if you are compatible. Also, the rules are not the same at age 19 and 40, not the same for people that make 40k vs 250k, not the same for straight or gay couples, not the same for monogamous or nonmonogamous people. One of my rule is asking about …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 07:18 AM
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As a 6'1 man, I'd say 5'9 and lower.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 07:11 AM
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Is the pattern that men in their 30s that record themselves for YouTube tend to have this sort of things in their background?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 07:09 AM
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There's pretty much no difference between having a mortgage and two kids with a boyfriend vs having a mortgage and two kids with a husband. I'm not sure what point you are trying to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 11:14 PM
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No. It shoes me every post chronologically when I go on the subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 09:06 PM
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I see it on the Baldur's Gate 3 Reddit page. That's not an algorithm giving me thirst trap. I want to see things related to a computer game, not sexy cosplayers that sell an OF subscription.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 08:57 PM
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6'1 guy here. I've been with 4'10 and 6'1 women and I didn't mind. Unless she looks deformed because she's too small or too tall, I don't really factor it into my decision. Tall galls have really hot legs and small gals tend to be really cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 06:41 AM
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Feminism paved a way for women to be able to hookup if they want and not hookup if they want. To be able to stay single if they want. To be able to marry the people they want. Everyone is different. Not everyone wants the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 06:39 AM
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It's easier for handsome men sure. But average men find casual sex all the time. Go where people hook-up. Go to parties or go dancing and see who's kissing. It's not only the most handsome men. But if you're average, are introverted and you are not a really fun person to be hanging and partying with, it's going to be very hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 06:36 AM
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Some part of dating is unfair to men and some other part is unfair to women. Translating into a pissing contest doesn't help anyone of who is most disadvantaged doesn't help (also, men would win said contest because we can aim higher!) Men need to understand how it's unfair to women and men need to understand what is unfair to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 11:38 PM
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I also think men complain more than they think about unfairness. And it really clashes with the traditional masculinity discourse that some red pill also use. Complaining that life isn't fair while posing as a masculine manly man doesn't work.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 11:06 PM
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So you make your point that women don't complain about fairness by complaining about fairness?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 10:53 PM
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My female friends complain about it as much as my male friend. I don't think that's a gendered thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 10:28 PM
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If she's calling me back it means she's having fun with me. I think that's the most important thing. If she was still having fun with Steve she'd be calling him back instead. I don't understand why you need to preoccupy with how Steve was. She's not with him anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 06:46 AM
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A trip is a stressful event that forces people out of their confort zone. It makes sense that it makes you see another side of your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 06:44 AM
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It's a cute community. One I hope I won't be joining soon though 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 06:41 AM
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It depends what you are looking for. If it's for casual fun, it shouldn't really matter but long-term it can be hard to date outside your social class. I don't think it warrants an unmatch though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 06:40 AM
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I'm not sure that's true. Bisexual men are just less accepted than bisexual women so they tend to hide it more.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 04:23 PM
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That's not my experience. Of the 5 nonmonogamous couples I know: - the guy is bisexual - the guy is pansexual - the girlfriend would be happy if he tried with a guy but he's not interested - no idea but the "girl" is non-binary and queer as fuck so I doubt she would mind - guy is using nonmonogamy to explore with men Most nonmonogamous people are really really Queer. There are a lot of biphobic women, yes. But it's probably a lot less prevalent in nonmonogamous couples than in monogamous ones. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 05:28 PM
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I had this happen to me twice : We setup the date and it's in 2 days. The time and the location is chosen. Then when I'm leaving to go to the date, I text her to say that I'm on my way to the bar and I get a message saying that since I didn't talk to her yesterday, she thought the date was cancelled.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:18 AM
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Usually it's kind of clear if people are interested in seeing eachother again. After fucking for a few hours, you kind of know if the other person is having fun. If you did it twice in a night, it's kind of certain both people are enjoying themselves. To answer your question, I'd say "Who cares?". And also, you should probably text a bit back and forth between hook-ups. Follow-up on a discussion you had or something. Neither should do a 5 day radio silence after a hook-up and then send a "hey wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:10 AM
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Hey, walking on a snow covered sidewalk just after a snowstorm is no joke!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 09:03 PM
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Some women do and some women don't. It's going to be more prevalent in more liberal countries, cities, etc. but it's not that rare imho. Be friendly with your friend then maybe something happens when there's some alcohol involved...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 06:36 AM
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Yes. We have different civil law than (the rest of) Canada
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 08:31 PM
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It's only in Québec. It's been like that since 1981. It's a part of the women's emancipation movement that was bigger in Québec than (the rest of) Canada.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:46 PM
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It's sometimes a point of friction with new immigrants that lose a part of their identity.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:25 PM
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It's illegal for the woman (or man) to take their spouse's last name in my part of Canada. If a woman took her husband's name in her country upon marriage, she needs to take back her maiden name back to immigrate here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:16 PM
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That there are a lot of people here that base their worldview of society on ragebait videos instead of real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 03:14 PM
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I don't think that's the typical male response, just the most loud one. Most people just don't care when other people have casual sex. The ones that care seem to really fucking care though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 05:21 AM
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I see a little silhouetto of a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 05:18 AM
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N=40 What is regret in this context? Sex wasn't fun and I should have stayed home and play video games because it wasn't worth the time it took? Then 5 probably. Or it is that it leaves a bad taste in my mouth (no pun intended)? Then I regret 2.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 06:54 AM
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Crazy as in too long or too soon?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 06:42 AM
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That doesn't bother me. She may have sex with other men and women but she's only in love with me. You focus on her, but this is an equal relationship. I have sex with other women too. How does this have anything to do with Nonmonogamy? No one is hitting her. I don't understand what you're talking about honestly... No one is paying for anything...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 05:02 PM
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No. But I'm happy for her when she does.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 04:56 PM
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👍🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 04:13 PM
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Cuckoldry is sexually enjoying the humiliation of someone fucking your partner. Swinging is not that at all. It's a party where everyone is enjoying themselves. You wouldn't say someone having a threesome is cuckoldry... Don't project your insecurity on others.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 03:04 PM
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No one was cheating. We were doing this together...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 07:10 AM
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We got FOMO after 15 years together and we tried an open relationship and swinging. When you want something, you'll find solutions.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 06:58 AM
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I don't know about India but I know here(Québec), women approach men regularly. It's something that takes immigrant men aback sometimes. I have heard a lot of bad things from dating in India from Indian friends that went back for a few months after living a few years here 😥
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 06:51 AM
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I will push back on this a bit. Sure, men will ask out/approach women more than the reverse. But women also do it all the time. The last two times I went to an EDM music concert, I had cute women very obviously hit on me and I had to reject them because I'm not looking for anything. My best friend approached her (now) boyfriend in a club. She saw him and literally went for him. The guy is super shy and keeps to himself but is quite handsome.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 06:32 AM
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Most people (men and women) are ok-to-good looking. Really ugly people are rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 11:12 PM
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So your view is that looks don't matter if no one sees you ever? When you put all this ridiculous caveat on it, sure. It's like saying money is not important if all other humans are dead. Yeah, sure. But it's also useless to have this view.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 11:11 PM
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Well we're not the Bank so we can't foreclose someone who doesn't pay. We had someone not pay for three years during COVID. We got it back when he sold his condo.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 04:56 PM
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I agree. 95% of people can look ok-to-good with some grooming, good clothes and physical activity.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 07:37 AM
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Take the time to take photos. Not just a quick photo at the restaurant and that's it. Work on this photo and take multiple versions of it. I once went in a park with a friend to take photos for our respective dating profiles. It took us 45 minutes. We took photos, looked at them, tried something different. I also had two outfits. The person taking the photo would give directions. Try looking over there, try looking at the camera. Smile like you're looking at puppies, smile like you're seeing an …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 07:35 AM
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The people responding to you don't want a solution. They want to be mad and miserable. I've made similar suggestions in the past and it's always like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 07:26 AM
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Our fees are 250$ per month. Half of it goes towards insurance/electricity and the other goes into the repair funds for the roof and fence and shit like that. It's negligible.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 07:25 AM
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I do not struggle to get dates at all. When I decide I want a new fwb, it usually takes a week of sending messages on Hinge to get good match and setup a date. By the time the first date comes, I'll probably have 3-4 women that replied positively but were just late in doing so I need to drop some of them. Then half of the dates go nowhere and half of them go to casual sex. It works well but it's quite time-consuming.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:22 AM
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I was raised during a time where we were told to stop approaching women unless you get a clear invitation to.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:16 AM
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A lot of people want to start a family during their 30s. While you're still young and fertile but you have more money and a more stable job. 20s and 40s are where most of the hoeing is at.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:14 AM
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As a 40 yo man dating casually, I've met a lot of these divorced women that wanted to experience after a long monogamous relationship 😄
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:10 AM
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It may change in the future or it may not. Not everyone feels the need to have sex with a lot of people and experience new sexual things. Just not like everyone wants to travel the world and see new cultures or try new activities or try new cuisines.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:09 AM
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Wtf are you talking about. People have casual sex because it's fun. Sure you may get validation from it but most people do it because they enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:05 AM
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My gf went through her hoe phase at 33-35 when we decided to be nonmonogamous. I also had my hoe phase during this time at 38-40. Ita less a phase related to your age than a phase related to how you are feeling and what you want from life. It's a lot of work, worry and chatting with random people so you eventually become exhausted from all that hoeing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:01 AM
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My point is that you don't have to be a misogynist that lie to women to get in their pants. Being a normal person works.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 07:26 PM
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I'm not going to post random pics of women I dated to prove a point so that you are just going to move the goalposts. Even if they are worse than me, that doesn't change anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 06:57 PM
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I never said I'm ugly. I'm quite good looking. Some were more beautiful, some were less beautiful then me, some were about the same. How I look don't change anything though. You asked if bluepill men had success using normal bluepill/normy "tactics".
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 06:44 PM
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Some were smoking hot, some were just ok but had good personality. Some were younger than me and some were my age. I'm fairly good looking and I take good care of how I look and always dress classy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 03:05 PM
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Not sure I understand... Also, I think in real life, around half of men are feminist bluepill. (I just went and checked if I could find surveys of this. Where I live, it's around half of men but YMMV)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 06:54 AM
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I don't think people lack imagination for it but yeah I guess smut can help. I think what's hard with dirty talk is to not go overboard and become cringe and distracting. I usually just talked about it with my partners after sex. What did you like, what can we do differently next time?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 06:53 AM
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I'm a feminist bluepill man and I'm always 100% honest during dates. On my profile, you can clearly see I'm left leaning, feminist and that I don't like toxic masculinity. I don't try to game the system with half-truths. I'm interesting and interested in the person I'm with and I usually end up having interesting conversations with my dates (that always seem to last 4-5h) I have no issues having second and third dates as well as casual sex. Women(and men) like honesty and when you're upfront abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 06:40 AM
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I feel like women should court men as much as men court them. I should be invested in planning a nice date that shows I'm interested in her. Sure, but she should equally be interested in planning the date because she should be equally interested in meeting me. Thoughtful gestures go a long way wether you're a man or a woman. No one should be exempt of showing interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 04:42 PM
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Well some of them are and some of them are not. In my experience most are but that's just me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 03:16 PM
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Social circles don't exist?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 03:16 PM
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Well most single women are not interested in dating apps and rely on in person encounters to I would disagree there.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 07:48 AM
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There's a lot of things you can improve in what you are detailing here. Hardons can be improved with Viagra. Dirty talk can easily be improved. Looks can be improved with weight loss, gym, nice clothes and a good shave and haircut. We can't all become Harry Styles but we can "work hard to become out best self"!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 07:46 AM
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Much higher than I thought. Having been in stable LTRs for all my adult life and at n=2 at 39 years old, I didn't expect to start swinging and having casual sex left and right with random women. Bringing n from 2 to 38 in two years has been a wild ride! I guess people can change!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 07:42 AM
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Having female friends is great! I don't understand why so many men are afraid of it. Just from a dating perspective, women usually have female friends that they can match you with. From a non dating perspective, male and female friendship bring different things. Sometimes I want to talk shit about people and gossip and sometimes I just want to play videogames without talking about my feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 07:12 AM
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We can probably mix everything up! Dick length x height x salary = dating coefficient
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 12:18 AM
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Women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 07:05 AM
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I disagree completely. What constitutes a red flag will vary from one person to the next. For me a supporter of Trump is a big red flag. For someone else, it would be a red flag to not be a supporter of Trump. It's a personal preference as well as a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 08:41 PM
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Because I don't think sex is something very significant that should be reserved for marriage and ltr. If someone thinks like that, that person is not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 07:22 PM
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A good comparaison would be someone that is not able to stay employed more than 6 months somewhere. That's not particularly a problem in itself but it's a symptom that something is amiss. And to your point, it's not because there are horrible people that can keep a job that someone that can't keep a job is not a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 06:31 PM
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I don't think that's ragebait. I feel the same. If someone (men or women) hasn't had sex at 25, there's a good chance there's a red flag somewhere that is causing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 11:34 PM
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That's not a gendered thing. No one wants to date someone who moves and sits in bed all day.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 07:41 PM
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I don't see it as a moral failing but it's something that can realistically make someone not want to date you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 07:40 PM
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Average people are really unattractive. Most people are fat and out of shape. Men and women alike.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 08:07 AM
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LTR (17 years) Not RP at all. I'm here to try to steer people away from misogyny and the RP.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 08:03 AM
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I'm honest about what I want. I don't play games trying to trick anyone into sex. I respect women. I'm being my genuine self during dates. I genuinely open up and am vulnerable sometimes. I'm successful in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 08:01 AM
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My definition of a red flag would be "a sign that something is/could be problematic with this relationship/person". In that sense, yes, a mental illness is a red flag. And so is a lot of other things that could be ok or could be problematic depending on a lot of factors.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 07:49 AM
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I think most people see it as a symptom of a red flag. If you can't manage to get laid, it's probably that there's something about you that makes people not want to have sex with you. At some point it unfortunately becomes a self fulfilling prophecy though 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 04:29 AM
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I think it's a red flag to have had severe depression to the point of not being able to get out of bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 04:26 AM
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Women have more suitors, yes. But that doesn't mean it's necessarily that much easier for them. They'll get 400 likes when they create their profiles from guys liking anything with a pair of boob but that doesn't mean it's easy for them to find a good match through all that. I'm not saying they have it harder than men. It's just a different reality women face. They get a shitton of suitors but most of them are not interested in her, they are interested in anyone since they are so starved for mat…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 05:30 AM
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Maybe you're right. I'm not exactly the target for these kind of videos.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 04:43 PM
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You're right. The problem is trying to create content for everyone when most of the time, the answer is tailored to one's specific situation. And you can hardly make content on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 04:22 PM
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Hit the gym, dress well, groom well and be situations where people drink and hookup. Sex-positive communities and more liberal societies or cities may also help. Target the type of women who would be into that. On apps, look for Nonmonogamy or short term relationships and be honest you are not looking for a girlfriend. Finally, don't expect ONS to happen often. Casual sex on the second date works just as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 07:58 AM
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I think there's mainly manosphere content that tries to address this is because there's no real answer to "Why can't I find a woman?". Part of it is sociological. Part of it is luck. Some part of it may be the guy himself but it varies from person to person. It's hard to drive engagement with "There's no real satisfying answer". "It depends who you are and what you are looking for"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 07:50 AM
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But their child won't be a guy in this day and age, he'll be a guy in 18 years. Who knows what life will look like in 20 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 07:43 AM
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It can happen, sure. I'd say there's some good chance it causes some friction down the line though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 07:57 AM
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In Canada it's considered a sexual assault to fail to divulge an STI that you know you have if it poses a risk of serious bodily harm. It's not used for chlamydia or gonorrhea as those are not serious STI. But for HiV it has been prosecuted in the past. I'm sure Canada is not the only jurisdiction that does this.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 07:43 AM
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I agree that a big gap in n count could mean there's some incompatibility somewhere. If someone had sex with 50+ people and did swinging and threesomes while the other only had sex with their two previous commited partners, there's probably going to be some friction in how they view sex. (I'm ignoring the pair bonding nonsense)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 08:14 AM
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So why don't you fuck your friends? Fucking your friends is fun imho. You already have chemistry and there's respect and you envoy each other's company.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 08:09 AM
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I think you need some time in the real world a bit. Not everything has to be about winning points on the internet. Most of the time when people talk to eachother, it's not related to flirting.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 06:44 PM
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I sort of agree. But even if she's open to a ONS, opening with a pickup line is probably worse than talking to her for a few minutes before openly flirting.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 07:48 AM
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That makes total sense. Also, talking to random people is often fun! People should do it more ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 07:46 AM
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I don't think it's deceptive to have a normal conversation with a cute woman before asking her for her number. Maybe it works, maybe it doesn't, maybe she's an asshole and you don't even want her number! I think my point is that not everything has to be about flirting. We can have normal conversations like normal human beings.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 06:58 AM
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Then she can answer in a way that signifies she doesn't want small talk... Like a normal person would... What do you do when someone says something to you? You insult them? What is this?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 06:09 AM
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Your point makes total sense for men in general but it doesn't necessarily make sense for John that isn't getting any matches. If John is swiping on a select few women that he really thinks are his type but all men in the city swipe on every woman, how is it helping John? We have a collective action problem that John can't solve. (I'm playing devil's advocate here because I think men swiping on all women is a plague that the apps need to fix)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 04:41 AM
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I feel there's a lot of men here that think approaching someone starts with compliments and pick-up lines that give away your intentions from the start. If you are commenting on the book she has in her hands and go from there, you'll be able to see if there is interest without forcing things.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 04:31 AM
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People exaggerate to make a point. Yes there are some people that don't mean this bare minimum but we all know it takes more than that. They make this point because they are tired of dating and not finding what they want, like everyone. Is it useful to say things like this? Probably not.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 04:22 AM
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It does not matter if you are contemplating striking up conversation with a woman at the park, a coffee shop, a restaurant, a bus stop, if she doesn't give you transparent indicators of interest, don't try to talk to her. So if I'm waiting in line waiting to by tickets for something and want to have small talk with the woman in front of me I should wait for her to lock eyes and smile at me? Also, I don't know how you do it but women don't start screaming that you're a creep if you just randomly …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 12:30 AM
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I think the problem in your scenario is that you are utterly destroyed by the fact that you friend on who you have a thing for declines your date proposition. Everyone is different but I feel it shouldn't be more than a mild disappointment. It's not a relationship that got destroyed, it's just a friendship you couldn't take to another level. I think people that get destroyed by this situation allowed themselves to live a fantasy for a little too long before making a move.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 12:22 AM
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That looks like rage bait more than anything else. It doesn't make sense for it to be such a big gap between past and present behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 08:14 AM
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Sure it's fun to insult people you dislike but it usually makes them stay on their positions even more.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 04:53 PM
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You're just trolling and insulting people now. There's no reason to be mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 07:34 AM
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Can it be cheating or betrayal if it's allowed though? I presume watching porn wouldn't be allowed in your relationship so it would be cheating. But in relationships where watching porn is allowed by the other partner, it's not cheating. A relationship could allow flirting with others, kissing other people, or having sex with other people. Each relationship defines what is cheating and what is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 06:59 AM
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I'd take B I think. I know some partners would prefer B. Probably not all but some yes. Women want to like big dicks because they look beautiful and sexy but 8 inches is too long for most of them. They like looking at it but it's somewhat a downside when it's time for PiV sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 07:21 AM
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It's very true for dating apps but if you meet someone "the normal way", it won't have the same effect. In your exemple, meeting someone through a shared hobby or mutual friends will feel more like an internship. They get to "test" your vibe, how you a friendly, funny, etc. in a low stakes nonromantic way before you make your move.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 07:15 AM
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If I'm not interested in someone because they live 500km from me, how is that an insult? There are hundreds of normal reasons not to be interested that have nothing to do with someone's value and that don't mean another person wouldn't be interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 07:14 AM
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I'm sure there are women that have had positive experience with dating apps. That person seems to be one. Good for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 04:48 AM
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Women's experience on dating apps is as atrocious as men's. They don't have the same downsides, sure, but there's a reason women don't use them very much. I'm sure some women use them and are happy with them. Just like some men use them and are happy with them. But that's just not the majority of people. They match with creepy men all the time. Knowing you have 999+ likes is not the kind of attention women want. Most of them liked their profile because they like 95% of profiles. It's exhausting …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 06:47 AM
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True. Getting good at flirting takes practice. Get out there and try flirting. Dating and courtship is a humbling experience anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 02:59 AM
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From what I've seen, countries with universal healthcare take better care of their population's health because they have a bigger stake in it. Also, countries with universal healthcare are better at doing prevention because the healthcare system is not based on treating the patient for profit. USA has the worst health of developed countries and is paying the most for it. I don't understand why they are still using this uniquely bad system. It's a solved problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 06:00 AM
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Gender norms have changed really fast in the last 20 years and there are a portion of men that have trouble adapting to this new reality. I think that in the past socially inept Men were more able to find a place in society because they had a lot of privileges that are now diminished or lost (much higher pay, tolerance for SA, women seen as inferior, etc.).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 05:51 AM
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Good flirting is never seen as rapey. Failing at flirting, insisting too much and coming in way too hard will make her uneasy. I think most people who say that never got anything going in-person are just bad at flirting.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 05:44 AM
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No it's more : You Your main partner Your fwb Your main partner's fwb Your fwb's other fwb But I agree with your point. More than 3 fwb/gf is a full-time job... I don't understand how people do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 06:41 AM
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Open relationships only works for people that are more socially adept than the average. A monogamous relationship is already hard to navigate, imagine one where you have to balance the needs of 5+ people!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 06:27 AM
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It's something we all have to wrestle with one way or another. For some here it's not finding a partner, for others it might be infertility, poverty, a disability, disasters, etc. Everyone has their own issues they never thought they would have to battle. We all have to overcome our own problems if we want to thrive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 06:24 AM
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Of course. And everyone should do that up to a certain point. If you have success talking to women that really are into sports or that like doing charity work, by all mean, pursue these women. I'm good with nerdy types who like sociology, politics and finding ridiculous answers to hypothetical problems. That's the type of women I pursue, not the artsy, sporty or financially motivated women. Do yourself and other people a favor and find the type of people that like you and go for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 04:30 AM
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You see them on swingers/nonmonogamous/kinky dating sites. "Size queen" and "size queen welcome" are common occurrences. Cringe, yes. But you see them regularly.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 07:06 PM
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On point #2. Where is it stated in the rules that people should only discuss the reality of dating for 21 year old people? Also, boomers are 60 to 80 year old now, I doubt many of them are arguing on Reddit 😜
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 07:14 AM
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You shouldn't be mad that you didn't date in high school because you shouldn't be mad about something that you can't change anyway. Yes, 99% of high school flings don't end up in marriage/kids and that's perfectly fine. That's not what highschool dating is for anyway. I think it's more about dating people because dating people is fun and because teenagers are horny 🤪! You lose out on experience on how to flirt and be around your desired gender but that can always be learned later in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 11:06 PM
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I agree that people that think that men should protect people should change their views considering most common threats are not more stoppable by men than women. There is no wolf that will attack you in your appartment downtown. A car, a knife or a gun will kill a man as easily as it will kill a woman. Scammer from Bangladesh will rob men and women alike.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 10:02 PM
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I think that's just how normal relationships develop. People have sex before commiting to a relationship. But everyone is entitled to their opinion and it can make sense from the point of you you are coming from.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 04:08 AM
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What does that mean and how does it relates to someone dating for a relationship but breaking up because their date doesn't want a commited relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 03:56 AM
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So you don't want to date people that want relationships and you don't want to date people that don't want relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 02:54 PM
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In my opinion, situationships are what happens when someone thinks they are beginning a relationship and the other does not. Like after 4-5 dates, one is ready to commit but the other does not. They have the talk and break up. Not the same thing as fucking a friend because sex is fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 07:08 AM
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Cock rings, butt plugs, restraints, nipple clamps are all toys men can use while having fun with their partners. I'm sure there are many others.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 06:56 AM
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Most people change opinion without having a typical epiphany. Some people will change slightly their opinion without even realizing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 06:35 AM
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If you want to be more interesting, you need to be more interesting. If your answer to "What have you been to lately?" is "You know, not much", it probably means you're not doing anything really interesting. Start a new hobby, go on a fun trip, do peculiar activities. If you stay indoors playing videogames, watching TV and scrolling Reddit, nothing interesting is going to be happening and you'll have trouble being interesting. And then practice telling those fun stories you lived through. Not ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 08:06 AM
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You also need to be able to know if she's on her period. You wouldn't want to meet her and waste all that relationship potential on the fact that she doesn't want to have period sex!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 07:57 AM
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Not necessarily. Some women are also only looking for casual. Being upfront can be refreshing to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 07:35 AM
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That's only if you consider having sex is a bad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 03:40 PM
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I date to meet new and interesting people and also have sex with them. I don't lie about the fact that I'm not looking for more than a casual relationship. I already have a girlfriend so having 2-3 regular FWBs is my dating goal. I don't pressure my dates for sex though. My typical first dates are usually 5h of bar hoping/museum/random activities and I rarely if ever push for having sex on the first date. I just genuinely enjoy talking and flirting with new people.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 07:36 AM
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I feel you when you say that men feel more validated when we are sexually desired than when we are romantically/non-sexually desired. I know I feel like this. I tried to explain this to my gf when I had a massive glow up a few years ago and women started checking me out. For her, getting checked out by random people is bothersome but for me it was the highlight of my day. Heck, even getting checked out by people I'm not interested in like gay guys is validating! But why is it important for you t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 04:35 PM
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I think every relationship is different. I don't think having sex on the first date vs the third is a good way of evaluating "how into us she is versus other men". You can usually just feel it by how she behaves with you. She can be on her period, have a vaginitis, have a weird living arrangement. Some people will take their time when the date has long-term potential vs just casual sex. Sometime the other person is so interesting you prefer to have 5 hours to chat with them and sometime they are…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 03:38 PM
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Wanting monogamy and wanting marriage and children are different things. You can have a marriage and children while also being in a nonmonogamous relationship. And you can be in a monogamous relationship that doesn't lead to children or marriage. As for if men or women want marriage, commitment and children more, it will vary by community and social class, etc. I hear more about women wanting marriage, commitment and children than men but that's just me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 03:24 PM
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You are talking about an unrelated second definition of promiscuity. When we are talking about promiscuous women (or men), the definition is the first one : "having many sexual partners" https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/promiscuous The exemple they used for the definition of promiscuity that related to being indiscriminate is "education is cheapened through the promiscuous distribution of diplomas". I don't think it really relates to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 06:49 AM
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What are you talking about with arrangements? It's not cheating if it's an open relationship. Also, people have a tendency here to talk in really big absolutes unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 05:09 AM
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It's also not really related to dating. It's about men (and also women) having less platonic friends than in previous decades.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 05:05 AM
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It would take a nuance that is, unfortunately, quite lacking on this subreddit (on both sides)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 07:23 AM
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I can relate to this. There are a lot more hipster/queer looking people on threesome dating apps than classy distinguished people. I'll say this as a nonmonogamous person but most nonmonogamous/poly people have this hipster/queer look.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 07:18 AM
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Having lots of partners doesn't mean not caring about them. You can have casual sex and FWBs while still wanting to develop a meaningful connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 06:06 AM
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I wonder if the pushback you are getting with "promiscuous" and "wait for sex" is because people have different definition of "having sex immediately". For some people, having sex on a third date is waiting a long time and for others it's lightning quick.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 03:26 AM
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Well it varies from woman to woman. Some maybe were lying but some were telling the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 06:51 AM
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That doesn't happen. First, in a mixed social situation like a party or whatever, most people are partnered. Out of a 30 people party, there will be 15 women. Of the 15, 7 will be single, one of which will be gay. Out of the 6, there's a good chance Chad isn't their type (they have particular preferences like whites, blacks, muslims, nerds, etc.) or that they don't like casual sex with strangers. Realistically, you could have 2-3 women trying to woo one Chad at a party.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 06:49 AM
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Well, it's hard to predict how the future will be in 20 years. It may be harder now than 20 years ago to find a relationship but that doesn't mean it will be true for people growing up now.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 06:22 AM
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I just ask them out 30 minutes after we start talking. We'll see in person how it goes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:17 AM
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I don't know how old you are but at 40, you don't really go out that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 07:03 AM
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Max of 2. More than that and it becomes a logistical nightmare. At the same time, i usually take 24h on average to setup the date after the match. On the other hand, I never know when the likes I sent will become matches. If I get three matches in a day after not getting any for 5 days, I'll talk to all 3.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 07:00 AM
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I don't agree with her premise or her requirement but she if that's important for her and she wants to be upfront with it, she's allowed to.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 06:51 AM
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That won't happen. What is possible though is a nonmonogamous relationship where both can sleep around without commitment from time to time. That is becoming more and more popular.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 06:49 AM
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We all follow someone else's lead on what values we feel that we should have. No one is really an independent thinker except philosophers
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 12:16 AM
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I think it's normal to relate more to people who share something with us. It's easier for us to put ourselves in their shoes. It's a normal bias but a bias nonetheless. Both are equally scummy though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 09:54 PM
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It's a sort of way to make sure people who share your values swipe right on your profile and scare away people who don't. People who tend to like black women will probably be less racist than the average.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 09:50 PM
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There's probably a correlation between someone that has tattoos and non-ear pearcings and having more past partners. And I guess the traditional Muslims that don't drink would have a lower body count than non muslims. If you want to find someone that doesn't drink or have tattoos, you'll eliminate 95% of people though. Also, I fail to see how those things would be red flags. Fun people have more fun in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 07:28 AM
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Yes they do. There are hundreds of articles on the Male loneliness epidemic discussing how men are having problems making friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 09:17 PM
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Some learn faster, sure. And not everyone will become a social butterfly. But the point the person was making was how do you become confident in talking to others. You do it by talking to others and becoming better at it. I don't understand how that is controversial. How do you think someone gets better at talking to others?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:40 PM
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I don't understand your point. People need to practice talking to people so they become better at it so they can become confident when talking to people. You don't need to become the best, just good enough that you build confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 02:47 PM
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I honestly think it is. She says average or below average guys have more chance if they meet people in real-life instead of on apps. And honestly average and below average guys know they don't have a great chance on the apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 06:47 AM
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Because that's how humans work. Every skill is a learned skill. The more you do something the better you get at it. Throw a ball 200 times at a target, you'll get better over time. Do 200 job interviews, your 200th is going to go more smoothly than your first. I'm not sure why you say you are limited to the people you can talk to. There's 8 billion of us on the planet. I'm sure a few of them are interested in talking to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 06:42 AM
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Well that's great for everyone then! I prefer my position over his!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 06:58 AM
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I had my hoe phase at 40! And I can tell you there are a lot of people that decide to explore in their 30s and 40s. After having kids and a failed marriage, there's some fun to be had.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 07:16 PM
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That's true, eventually it'll all a blur and unless you keep count, after a certain number(20? 30?), you kind of lose track of the exact number. But that isn't lying. If I say to someone I had sex with around 40 people and it's really 43 because I didn't keep an exact count, I didn't lie willingly or by omission. Also, I fail to understand how there's a meaningful difference between the two. And I think someone who cares deeply about the number of someone's past partners isn't going to pursue so…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 07:13 PM
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But doesn't player also have a derogatory meaning? I understand it like he is playing with these people. Like lying and deceiving them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 06:52 AM
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I agree with the other posters about energy more than number. But it also depends a lot on the age of said person. 12 at 17 years old is concerning. 12 at 43 years old is average.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 06:50 AM
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How does one subconsciously lie about the number of past partners they had?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 06:48 AM
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Teenage sex is not that great anyway. Lots of awkwardness and difficulty to express what you like or want. Besides, you can always make up for lost time by having a proper hoe phase in your 30s!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 06:46 AM
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Stop engaging with rage bait
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 12:19 AM
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As a nonmonogamous person, that's what I tell you my wife's fwb: She's not yours, it's just your turn! 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 11:46 PM
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How and when do you bring the topic of kinks?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 07:15 AM
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Nothing kills libido like having to stay quiet while someone's sleeping in the next room!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 06:48 AM
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I find both equally despicable but that's just me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 06:45 AM
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People become jaded from all their dating failures. It's really not sexy but I think some people can't stop themselves from displaying this self-pity. Maybe he felt something from your non verbal indicating you didn't seem interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 05:18 AM
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Yes you may attract random people but I think tailoring your profile to the type of women you want is a good practice. Women get a lot of likes so your profile needs something that tells them you are not just looking for a ransom woman, you are looking for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 05:04 AM
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Have a profile that corresponds to the women you want to match with. Want bimbos? Post shirtless pics Want nerds? Post yourself with some star wars stuff in the background Want queer women? Be queer looking for indicate that you are queer Want lefty women? Show how you are not a toxic masculinity guy Want trad women? Show you masculine masculinity I like nerdy, lefty, queer women so my profile indicates that I believe in social justice, am a nerd and I identify as heteroflexible
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 03:52 AM
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Unfortunately no. Do you think my arguments would have more weight if they were made in a race car bed?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 06:02 AM
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I think there is a self-reinforcement mechanism at work here. People successful with women usually didn't have to go at great length to become successful. They are tall, handsome, talented, funny, charismatic, etc. For them it IS easy and there is a good chance they didn't have to think about it much. They are themselves and it works. Is walking easy? Walking is an easy task to me. I don't have to think about it, it just happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 05:25 AM
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Well, it's not like I'm in a position to do anything else. I'm in my pyjamas scrolling Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 05:17 AM
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Some part of it is the same as going out with a friend, yes. Conversations should be fun, funny and lighthearted. There is sometimes a tip people give to people going on their first date : "Treat her like a normal person." The difference with having fun with your friend is the flirting (and the fact that you matched on Tinder/asked the person on a date).
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 05:16 AM
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Do people really need an extra incentive to have sex? Are there a lot of 19 year olds that need convincing by middle aged guys that they should have sex? I doubt it's by choice that they don't have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 05:08 AM
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Because you seem to be looking for a magical solution and in my opinion there is none.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 12:00 AM
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Of course there's a "but". There are two sides to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 11:59 PM
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The same thing you do when looking for a job without experience. You work harder. There's no real solution to be had.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 11:53 PM
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We have the same reality with trying to look for work if you never had work experience. It's unfortunate for people in this situation and I understand it's really frustrating but at the same time I understand the other side (employer or women) preferring to not be the one taking a chance on this person.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 08:20 PM
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I've had plenty of casual sex with people that didn't drink or that didn't drink when we had our first casual encounter. But in these cases, it was kind of planned in advance. We matched on a dating app and we both had the stated goal of finding casual sex. I think alcohol helps when you're in a normal setting where people are not expected to have sex like Bars or parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 12:02 AM
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That my exact opinion but better said 👍🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 11:25 PM
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I think alcohol (and being in a proper environment) helps a lot for the first casual encounter you have with someone. People usually need for lower their inhibition to offer or accept a casual sex proposition. After you they met the person once or twice, people don't usually need alcohol to lower their inhibition, they go into in 100% clear-headed because they know what it is and they want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 11:12 PM
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No but in therapy they are encouraged to not let their rape define who they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 05:33 AM
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True, they got away with it. But as long as you let it define you, they continue bullying you and keep getting away with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 11:51 PM
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The problem is you won't get revenge. All you'll do is make them continue to have power over you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 11:37 PM
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Even if you're dating for casual sex, you still need to be able to befriend women. A "looking for fun" date still involves talking to the woman and having friendly banter talking about trips, life, work, etc. Once you've both established that you are interesting, functional human beings, you move to fucking instead of moving to falling in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 08:35 PM
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Some people will change and some people won't. I doubt we can really find any real stats on the topic. "Were you a loser in highschool" would be a weird question to ask in polls! 🤣 My point is you can change if you want because there is always a way to change your surroundings and meet new people that don't know you. Some people don't change and that's ok if that's what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 07:37 PM
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Everyone can define success however they want if it makes them happy. Having a big car and a big house is not my definition of success but it can be for someone else and that's great if they achieve their own definition of success.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 07:33 PM
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I'm not saying bullying is trivial. I was bullied hard, to the point of even being beaten once. But just like rape survivors don't have to let that define them, bullied people don't have to let it define them. You can climb back out of there.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 07:06 PM
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Of course how you were treated as a child will mold you. But you can change if you want to change. Not everyone that was bullied in school lets it define them. Not everyone that was a shy child becomes a loner.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 07:00 PM
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What happens in middle school doesn't have to define you for the rest of your life. You have plenty of chances at redefining who you are when you change graduate, change work, change town, country, etc. The person bullying you in highschool isn't going to call your new coworker and tell them that you were bad at soccer in phys Ed.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 06:38 PM
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Does someone who love hugging their mother and platonic friends is a creep? But yes it is creepy when you use this as a way of saying " My love language is fucking so I'm going to touch you way too much" to your date.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 06:34 PM
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There's always time to begin your how phase! I had mine at 40 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 06:22 AM
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Most of my female friends are either in it or had a hoe phase when they were younger. Sure, a few got into a long-term relationship early in life and never had a hoe phase (that I know of) but it's a minority. There's always time though! I live in a very socially progressive society and I think all my friends are atheists (if that helps give a portrait)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 06:20 AM
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Yeah, I think it's AI.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 06:10 AM
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I think it's more due to how social media and the loss of third spaces make it harder to have real in person social interactions. We have less opportunities to meet with new people and therefore potential partners and we become less comfortable in social settings.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 06:10 AM
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I feel the difference in number of likes given is the main problem of dating apps and that in-person dating like this kind of fixes this problem. I've seen it dismissed by red pill guys as "only ugly women do this because they can't get chads on apps" or "they are only going to like the top chads" but that feels like an excuse. An excuse to revel in their dating life misery that is everyone's fault but their own. On the contrary, it gives guys that are not that good looking a 5 minutes to make a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 06:00 AM
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I was at a first date with a girl and there was a guy next to us that was swiping on tinder while waiting for his friends and we could see his phone. He was swiping right on every profile without reading or even looking at them. 3 profiles per second for hundreds of profiles. When I think about men coordinating because we have a tragedy of the commons problem, I think about that guy and every other one doing this. Humans are notoriously bad at coordinating to do something personally disadvantage…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 05:58 AM
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Ok 👍🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 05:40 AM
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Well women get rejected at the same rate as men in these types of events. After the event, everyone gets to chose a few people they liked. Men get the same number of likes as women (which is quite different from dating apps)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 01:28 AM
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The train of thought is "I don't want to spend a lot of time getting to know somebody just to find out that we are sexually incompatible". It's just one of many aspects of finding out if two people are right for eachother.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 01:26 AM
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I'm talking about people in general. How can a woman know her date is lying to her like like.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 08:46 PM
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I think I'm arguing with people who have a different conception of intimacy from where I'm from. Sleeping with your date after 2-3 dates is the norm where I'm from.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 08:44 PM
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What do you mean friends warn her? How can her friend know the guy she is having a date with?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 08:40 PM
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I'm sure he does to people that know him or of him. These guys tend to do this serially. My point is if you meet one of these guys you can't know his reputation because you don't know anyone he knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 08:14 PM
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So when men lie to a woman it's her fault because she should have know he was lying. It may work in high school where everyone knows everyone but you can't see the reviews of your matches on Hinge. In real life it can't work. What I'm hearing you say is "Women don't choose me so it's their fault when the guys they chose are assholes to them"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 07:46 PM
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I agree women should approach more. I know I always encourage my friends to do it. They have a much better chance of finding someone interesting when they do. What type of men are statistically less likely to pump and dump them? No one is wearing their pump and dump stats on their sleeve. Trying to find a solution to that problem lead to the disastrous "Are we dating the same guy?" Facebook pages...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 05:59 PM
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You're probably right about your last point. This is where my bias comes into play 🫣
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 05:56 PM
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What is your definition of relationship here? Because people are not talking about casual sex. They are talking about dating with the intent of finding a suitable long-term relationship. It's just that the guy just wanted to sleep with her and dumped her after sleeping with her. Essentially lying that he wanted a long-term relationship. That's what women are mostly complaining about.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 05:50 PM
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They are not talking about casual sex with strangers. They are talking about sex with someone you think is going to make a good relationship partner. The problem is the guy was leading her on to sleep with her then dumping her after he had sex with her. They say it happens to women a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 05:44 PM
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All women have suffered the first kind of rejection if they've dated a bit. Much less than men, of course. But to think women never get rejected (before sex) is nonsense. Talk to your single female friends who are actively dating (if you have any) or check /r/dating_advice . It happens and it sucks. It doesn't traumatize them like it does some men because it happens less and they don't have to initiate if they don't want to. Where we differ a lot from women is most men don't mind getting used fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 05:40 PM
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Never been to one or know someone who did. I see posts from the people that organize these in my neighborhood that say they a regularly missing men to have a balanced group. It seems women are more interested in these than men. So maybe there's a chance for men to be in the scarce group thus increasing their chances.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 05:09 PM
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That you think this litteraly proves their point. To a man getting dumped after sex seems like a better outcome. To a woman, getting rejected before getting used for sex is a better outcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 02:56 PM
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She's the sister of my good friend. I kept going over to his place to watch the Olympics but he kept going to sleep early and leaving me alone with his sister. One thing lead to the other...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 05:48 PM
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Well she said she was looking for honesty and was honest with you. It makes sense in that regard. Besides, maybe you are they guy that she started talking to after she already had a date planned. Personally I find it completely normal to talk to multiple people at the same time. With what percentage of matches do we realistically end up entering a relationship? 2% maybe. You can't put all your eggs in the same basket. Now, should a monogamous person be having 3rd dates with 3 people during the s…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 10:00 PM
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Isn't the point of nude beaches to be nude in public? That's THE reason people go there!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 09:51 PM
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Pan, bisexual, "nonbinary", gender-nonconforming women have sex with men. Sure lesbians usually don't date men, that's kind of their shtick ☺️ I used queer here as an umbrella term for people in the LGBTQ+ community.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 02:20 PM
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I love dating queer women! I don't like the rigid frame of masculinity and I know that with queer women, I'll be able to act not in a strict masculine way on a date without losing points.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 06:04 AM
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I'm talking about OP's opinion. They say the biggest betrayal a woman can do is lie about her n count. Bigger than lying about HIV status or being a serial killer.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 02:01 PM
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I love dating queer women! I don't like the rigid frame of masculinity and I know that with queer women, I'll be able to act not in a strict masculine way on a date without losing points.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 06:23 AM
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I like your take in the abstract. Yes some communities can be more inclusive. You'll see overweight balding dom men at munches because they know how to command domination the right way. You also have more queer-friendly communities where people don't need to have a masculine look to be physically attractive. Those places are not the place where virgin, socially awkward men are going to thrive. I've done some orgies and they can be overwhelming. I can't begin to imagine how they would fare in the…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 06:15 AM
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You are spot on! I think the enthusiastic consent movement is a response to this problem. (For people who don't know: It says that every step has to be consented enthusiastically. Not "sure, why not" or smile shyly while the guy makes his move. She has to say "yes, let's fuck" or "I want you to kiss me".) That movement/frame of mind asks men to wait for clear consent and asks women to give clear consent. No more hiding, like you say, behind their invisible cues and let the guy take the fall for …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 11:58 PM
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Introverts can become less introverts. Also, there are Somme women that like introverts. But they are few and far between yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 11:23 PM
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A lot of women are actively trying to defeat toxic masculinity and want to date non toxic men. Try to match, engage, talk to them. Feminist, left-wing, queer-friendly circles are usually very open to men that reject toxic masculinity and don't want to play the toxic masculinity game. Sure, there are women that want bad boys or men that don't always ask for consent because they find it sexy. You don't need to engage with them if you don't want to. There is plenty of fish in the sea.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 11:20 PM
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What is sad is you judging people having fun and living their best lives. Also, 30s old not that old to go clubbing. There are a lot of DJs where the average age is in the 30s. You talk like a 22yo that think people go into hospice at 46 yo!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 07:03 AM
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Some people are happy alone. They like to be in control of their lives and like to live in their own appartment. That's not a female privilege. Everyone can be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 07:00 AM
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There are lots of good reasons to open up a relationship but equalizing n-count is a weird one... And that's coming from a couple that opened up because we had a 1 and 2 n-count and wanted to explore more.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 06:20 AM
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It can be skill but I think sometimes it's a proxy word for confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 06:17 AM
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It can serve as a way to gauge the other person's experience. A woman once told me her n-count was more than 250 but she kind of lost count (blindfolded gangbangs are hard to count). Her sexual experience and how she sees sex was different than another date I had where she had sex with her past three boyfriends and that's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 06:16 AM
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Not sure who asked but me and my FWB played a guessing game about it and also the number of other people we slept with since we met.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 06:12 AM
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Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 04:41 AM
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That's a long tirade to say that you hate guys that can get sex easily. And I think you are dead wrong. The guys who get the girls are handsome sure but that's not all. They are fun, intelligent, have charisma and are confident in who they are. But most of all, they know how to make women feel good, safe and sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 03:37 AM
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You are 100% right and I'll add that being in a loud environment like a concert will naturally force people who want to interact to do it in an "intimate" fashion. You have to be physically really close someone and probably talk in someone's ear if you want to talk to someone. Happened to me at a concert a week ago. A woman was interested, came next to me, nodded at me indicating that she wanted to talk to me, put her hand around my shoulders, her face in my neck and asked me a question. At that…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 08:23 PM
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I think that is for all the population, including people who are partnered. The same study showed 54% of 18-24 singles had casual sex and 45% of 25-34 had casual sex in the past year. While your point about the gender divide still stands, I think both percentage are too low.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 05:45 AM
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Every woman is different. I've been with women who come 5 times during a hookup and others have told me they need, like you say, to feel safe and comfortable with me to be able to come (ie. : 2nd or 3rd time we have sex). Yes some women like when guys step over the consent line but it's really rare and I really wouldn't try to do it in less you are really confident you can navigate it properly. It can backfire spectacularly and snatch defeat from the jaws of victory. Also, you must not mix conse…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 05:31 AM
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I wasn't necessarily talking about people in their 20s. But even people in their twenties studying or working in sectors where they are expected to make a lot of money don't want to date people working in construction or cashiers. My point is that rich people date rich people so someone wanting to date a rich person may be that they are rich themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 05:27 AM
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While that's probably the case, it could also mean she just lives an expensive life. Someone who wants to make three 15k trips per year might want a partner that can afford to go with her. People making 300k/year tend to go out with people making 300k/year.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 02:18 PM
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I have a circle of female friends who I've heard talking about their FWB's dick size. Actually, I know the dick size of most these girls' boyfriends and FWBs. When they were complaining or saying how they liked this FWB over that other one. Most of them know my dick size (and a few have seen pictures) because my FWB and my girlfriend who are both in part of this group have told them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 05:40 AM
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What gives you the ick exactly? What part of a woman's sexual past disgusts you?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 05:27 AM
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It's a preference that most women have. Just like most men prefer C or more cups. Not everyone has this preference and not everyone who has the preference will prioritize it over other preferences. Sure, I prefer D cups, redhead, nerd with a cute nose and green eyes. But I'm not going to get all my preferences for every relationship. And maybe next time I'm going to match with a black girl with B cups but she's so awesome that I won't mind my other preferences. Don't dwell on something you can't…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 05:26 AM
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It definitely is the case. You see a lot of takes about relationships that are so ridiculous that they can only be made by people who have never been in a relationship more than a month. How can one think a woman lying that she had 14 past partners instead of 5 is worse than lying about being a serial murderer, HIV positive or having children she abandoned 🤯
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 05:16 AM
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I'm going to push back a bit on the average thing. I've seen it a few times in the comments that these guys he is describing are just average. If you have a boring, unfulfilling job, you can still be average. If you only make 50k/year, you can still be average. If you don't have hobbies you can still be average. If you are a little socially awkward, you can still be average. No one is good at everything, we all have something we aren't good at. That's what make some people average. They are good…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 05:23 AM
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Consent is easy to explain in theory but can become really hard to navigate in real life because every woman has a different view on this. "No means no". That's simple. "If she didn't give an enthusiastic consent, it means no." Well, some women will never give enthusiastic consent because they are shy and scared of being painted as sluts. So sometimes a shy yes is the best we'd get from her. "Always ask for consent before each step". I have friends that have left dates because the guy asked for …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 06:45 AM
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It's a good explanation. And yeah it makes sense that it comes from sexual dimorphism. Most of what we like from the other sex is what is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 08:56 PM
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Well if your subset is people who are friends with you, they are unlikely to have no friends. It's like going to the gym and saying people aren't that overweight in your country.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 08:42 PM
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Like you think about those hands on you and find that sexy? They are veiny and make you think of something else? (men's hands you find on men's hands subreddits are disproportionately veiny...)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 08:32 PM
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I was rarely dating poly people. They often have a queer look I don't quite fancy. But yeah poly people are probably better at understanding and respecting relationship boundaries. But to your point, yeah, I guess it helps that I already have someone in my life. They can still catch feelings but it's harder for them to imagine starting a commited relationship with me. I was also dating a lot of women coming out of long time relationships that just wanted to have fun or, weirdly, a lot of women i…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 02:42 AM
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I never understood the thing with men's hands. What are the characteristics of hands that make them sexy?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 10:28 PM
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I don't have the same experience. I'm 100% transparent that I'm only looking for a FWB but want more than just repeat hookups. I already have a girlfriend and I don't want to replace her or have two. I did dates, restaurants, museums, movies, etc. with my FWBs. All the things you'd normally if you'd want a relationship. Sure it happened once or twice that they caught feelings but they knew it was on them. Maybe you got unlucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 09:50 PM
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It's not the first time I hear about it being about dating on Reddit. But when you google "male loneliness epidemic", it's articles about men not having friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 12:39 PM
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The loneliness epidemic is not about dating at all. It's about men having a hard time maintaining friendships.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 05:42 AM
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40M here. If it came up on a first date that the woman I was meeting was a virgin, i would probably try to end the date pretty soon. Delicately of course... I'm not interested in dating people who are sexually repressed or generally uninterested in sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 05:41 AM
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Standards are ok as long as they make sense with who you are. That is the same for bothe men and women. A woman wants a man who makes 250k/year while she is herself a lawyer and makes 200k. Makes sense. A man wants a woman who has unrealistic body proportions and looks like a model while he's more ripped than 98% of people. Makes sense. Where I roll my eyes is when a fat ugly person working at McDonald's at 35 thinks only 9/10 doctors are worth their time. You see it with men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 12:03 AM
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There are plenty of lies that are believed. The current trend of populism feeds on this right now. The issue of who holds masculine ideal is more complicated. Some men and some women do promote it and try to maintain its dominance. You'll see men pushing other men to be "real men", alpha males, etc. or else they are weak and unworthy. That reinforces stereotypes and prevents men from abandoning outdated views on masculinity. Not allen do this but some do. Some women will also do the same. Some w…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 05:48 AM
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It's really hard to evaluate if the average woman is below the average man. Also we're really talking about the median man and woman, not the average. But let's try something... You put 20 bi people (men and women) in a room and show them a hundred straight couples and for each couple, they have to tell if the man or the woman is more attractive. Those hundred straight couples are not guaranteed to all be average looking. Some will be really beautiful and some will be ugly. But you'll find if th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 05:37 AM
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You sound like someone who is 19 years old and thinks people that are 40 years old are due to enter retirement homes. It's not the middle ages anymore. People are having children and starting new careers at 35 yo!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 03:46 AM
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But, you also are 35 years old so you have the same baggage...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 12:49 AM
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If tiramisu is the best dessert, why eat other desserts! It's just a waste.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 06:58 AM
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They deal with it like men do. They buy themselves expensive stuff and try to move on!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 08:22 PM
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A good chunk of my FWBs were women who were making radical changes in their lives. Some were fresh out of a long-term relationship, some just immigrated or a few even were suffering from a burnout from work. They were not in a good place to start a relationship and needed relief from the troubles of their real lives. Also, what's wrong with poly women? They usually like casual sex and will have a sex-positive attitude 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 08:13 PM
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Most were hotter and younger than me but not all of them. Maybe I would have been selected for casual sex, we have no way to know for sure. But I fail to see how that is relevant. She was looking for casual sex so of course she'd select the hottest men. And she really did not enjoy way more physical chemistry with them. Most of them were disappointing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 04:06 PM
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I think it's simply supply and demand. There's a lot more men than women who want to have FWBs. On the other side, there's a lot more women than men who want commited relationships. Try being a single guy at 38 looking for a commited relationship and have kids. You'll get a lot of interest from 35-40 year old women who want children before it's too late. It's simply supply and demand. My gf had 200+ likes per day on dating apps when she was looking for casual sex. Every guy in town saw her profi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 02:37 PM
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Long-term relationship and marriage means the same thing for me. Just use them interchangeably in my message.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 02:33 PM
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Then yeah, sure it makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 05:25 AM
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Most men will never experience being desired by a woman like this while it's going to happen to every woman multiple times per day. Men get derided (with reason) when they say they can't understand what's so bad with unwanted attention because they've never experienced it and most likely never will. I think you are somewhat having the same thought process. You've never experienced living years without someone only wanting to boink you. You live with the exact opposite, too much unwanted attentio…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 04:53 AM
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FWB situations are usually not just about sex. I consider all my FWBs as friends or at least someone I can have fun with while we're not having sex. Watch movies, exchange books, try out new restaurants, go see art exhibitions, etc. are all things I do with FWBs because I like spending time with them and they (hopefully) feel the same. So I agree with the general idea of your take but I feel that the men that can have multiple FWBs can't just be sexy but dumb himbos. Dumb himbos would probably j…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 04:45 AM
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People don't "pay for dates" in normal long-term relationships. You put it on the shared credit card exactly like you would for anything you buy : videos games, nail polish, clothes, food and soap, etc. You then decide how you want to pay the bills (house, services, credit card, etc.). You may want to go 50/50 then the person making more just has more money and nothing to spend it on so they put it in their retirement fund. Or you can go 60/40, 70/30, etc. if you want to make it reflect how much…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 06:27 AM
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It's so people don't discuss it as nauseam in every other thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 06:19 AM
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Everyone is free to pressure and try to convince people to change their opinions in a free society. You are free to keep believing what you want and they are free to try to change your mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 04:06 AM
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There was a big trend in the last few years where left leaning/feminist men and women were advocating for men to reject toxic masculinity. It kind of fell by the wayside when the right-wing took up the other side and embraced performative masculinity, trying to promote toxic masculine traits. What you talk here that needs to happen here really looks like the rejection of toxic masculinity that we heard so much about. Men needing feel compassion towards other men, needing to call tell friends the…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 01:03 AM
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That's true. Good paying traditional low-education male working jobs are less prevalent than even 15 years ago. And with men falling behind in education, there's not much place for them in the modern economy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 11:56 PM
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I feel it's true for lower classes. Rich and middle class men have it much better than rich and middle class women. They are definitely not falling behind. It's the lower classes that have declining education and wages. It's in the lower classes that the "deaths of despair" are hitting men the hardest. Underprivileged boys are doing much worse in school than underprivileged girls. Those vous are dropping out at an alarming rate.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 08:51 PM
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Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 05:04 PM
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Feminist ally guy usually does pretty well actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 03:59 PM
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Social media in general is better at driving engagement through hate and provocative statements. Most of what is said here would be true if people would put "some" in front of their take. "Some women are only after you for your money". "Some men will lie to get in your pants". Both are true but it will never drive engagement as well as outlandish claims. I've tested the dating market recently and I rarely if ever encountered what I see claimed here. Some people were just jaded about dating apps …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 01:46 AM
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Polygamy refers specifically to one person marrying (and supporting) multiple partners. It's illegal everywhere outside of muslim and african countries. I think you're talking about nonmonogamy (polyamory and open relationships are part of this). That's when someone openly has more than one sexual or romantic partners who themselves can have multiple partners. Nonmonogamy is definitely on the rise in western societies, especially among younger adults, sex-positive and queer communities.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 05:50 PM
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You don't need to have a direct negociation on where the line is. It'll happen naturally when you encounter people/characters "cheating". Have you ever watched a movie where a character did something a little dodgy but then their spouse filed divorce over it? You probably commented on the fact that the partner overreacted. If your significant other disagrees, you'll naturally have a discussion about this precise scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 05:36 AM
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I think this is an oversimplification. People may have valid reasons to not want to date single mothers. - Someone may not want to have kids and dating a single mom means if it works out you kind of become a father. - Someone may want kids down the line and is not ready to take care of a stepkid now.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 09:02 PM
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I'm quite handsome, tall and somewhat muscular. There are regularly women turning their heads checking me out when I'm walking. I put a lot of effort when I'm trying to date. I'll take 10-15 minutes thinking and researching when I'm sending an icebreaker message (I'm mainly on Hinge). The five likes per day was usually taking me almost an hour. I plan dates properly with plan B's if it works well and we want to continue the date. I'm also in a really good mental state. I'm doing good, I'm happy …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 05:00 PM
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Are you complaining about women complaining about men that complain about women? Can I complain we are too far down the rabbit hole?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 07:37 PM
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It's really important to have good discussions on rules, limits, desires before getting into it. We talked about it for a year before trying it for real. We roleplayed it, we incorporated it into dirty talk, etc. And yes, it's kind of required to be willing to stop if your partner is uncomfortable with something. Why risk your relationship to continue having sex with someone you'll never see again? Also, from my experience, swinging is a big pile of 4 bodies so if someone is not feeling it, it's…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 05:24 AM
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We'll see what happens in the future. We closed our couple 10 months ago so it's still kind of recent. Do I miss having sex with 4 women each week, sure. Do I miss the validation of having women lust over me, sure. But we were having arguments all the time. And my girlfriend was really not happy in the end and it was affecting her mental health. Too many guys treating her like shit. It was clearly a good decision. In theory we could still be swinging, we just haven't really focused on that recen…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 04:43 AM
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Yes I will flirt with women at parties even when my gf is present. I flirted in front of her in the past and she was cheering me on from afar 🤣 I won't kiss anyone or sext with people but flirting is fine. I guess she'd be a little pissed if I kissed someone (unless my gf was into her also). We were non-monogamous for the last two years but have gone back to monogamy. My gf has a free pass to flirt/kiss/hook-up with women all she wants because she didn't get to do it when we were non-monogamous.…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 03:56 PM
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Well you didn't really talk about how/why being bitter about dating makes you less attractive. You talked about privileges and people having no charisma and random things instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 08:36 PM
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Your point is valid even if your post is a weird rant. Yes, being bitter (about anything really) will make you less attractive. Unfortunately it's a vicious circle we all go through at one point or another.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 08:31 PM
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That's true you can change things up regularly in the bedroom with the same partner. In reality, how much does it really happen. But like for everything, a lot of people in relationships will get into a routine. Doing more or less the same missionary, doggy sex like they usually do. It'll be fun but will rarely challenge them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 02:26 PM
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Your text is quite hard to follow. I have no idea what sb means. Women are promiscuous because they like having sex and they live in an environment where they can partake in it without fear of repercussions. That's usually what this is. But I agree with your last point. Sex-positive people (men and women) are better at sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 10:35 PM
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Maybe I explained it poorly. I meant if she had sex with many partners, she probably tried a lot of different things. She probably tried power dynamics, anal, bondage, etc. She found out what she likes and what she doesn't. In my experience, women who know what they want in bed are much better lovers. Sure, experience doesn't always equal skills. But in general from what I've seen, women who had more partners are better lovers.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 03:04 PM
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People will have different phases in their lives. I can see someone not being in the right mindset/too muched focused on work to enter a relationship but still wanting to have casual sex. Then after some years of having casual relationships that never lead to anything serious, they would want to try and find a real partner to have a family. But yeah, I was coming from the point of view of someone that is strictly looking for casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 02:47 PM
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I don't believe women's value decreases with the more men she had sex with. If someone wants to believe this, its their problem. I prefer someone that had sex with a lot of people and enjoys having sex with me. That means she knows what she likes, she knows what she wants and what she wants is me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 05:10 AM
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I was always super open with my dates that I only wanted casual relationships and that I was dating other women and even living with one of them. Yes it wasn't for everyone and I had a few unmatch after making sure we were on the same page before the first date (reading OLD profiles is hard), but I don't think men need to lie to get casual sex. Some men really have a hard time believing some women are looking for casual relationships/sex. Maybe that's why they feel the need to lie. Also, it's mu…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 05:38 AM
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You generally want symmetrical rules in an open relationship to try to prevent resentment. Sure, she may never want to use that right but at least it's there. Both partners are never going to get the exact same from the opening of the relationship but at least the rules are the same. As to why stay in a relationship when sex is no longer present : love, kids, financial security, etc. People on the asexual spectrum are in relationships all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 05:35 PM
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My longtime girlfriend (16 years) and I tried nonmonogamy two years ago. We both lived great things but had some bad experiences too during that time. It's certainly possible to have a one-sided open relationship but it would take work to make it fulfilling. There are therapists that are specialized in nonmonogamist couples. I'd suggest going to see one to better understand what you want to get from this and what you don't want to happen. Also, I'd suggest that you completely open the relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 11:10 PM
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Yeah I was thinking about that list when writing my post. The list makes sense from my experience. In the abstract, in general women will like someone who plays music better than someone that plays pokemon. I'm sure you can have the same thing for hobbies men like. It's big generalizations but people use generalizations all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 11:58 PM
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I think she is saying that some hobbies can be destructive. While I agree with her point about crypto. For me it's basically a mix of tax evasion, gambling and money laundering. Someone interested in this would definitely raise an eyebrow from me. But any hobby can be financially destructive if you're in too deep. I know someone who bought a 25k piano (even though he already had two other pianos) while he was struggling to make his monthly payments on his house.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 07:25 PM
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True, it's more interactive if they like playing co-op video games.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 04:40 PM
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I wonder if it's more about hobbies and interests not interesting to the woman more than having minimal hobbies in general. Video games, trading card games, reading comics, crypto, cars are hobbies/interests but they are in general less interesting to women than playing guitar, hiking, painting, woodworking, reading novels. I'm not saying you are wrong. You're totally right. But one's boring/childish hobbies might be interesting hobbies to another woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 04:20 PM
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We all breath air. Therefore we are a monolith!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 04:45 PM
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I'm not sure how being misinterpreted as a creep has anything to do with what I said. Some people won't like you so they won't hang around with you, that's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 03:48 PM
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Yes men and women will segregate themselves by hobby but I think that the 3rd spaces we talk about are more like the church/mosque, the village fair, the Sunday market, the local team's game against the neighboring town, etc. Events where you don't meet people based on special characteristics; everyone from the town is there. These opportunities to meet new people are much less frequent now that we can use internet to socialize. It probably started earlier with suburbs though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 06:06 AM
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Anonymity gives people the opportunity to say wild and unhinged things they wouldn't in a normal setting. This looks like another "go outside and touch grass" case
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 05:57 AM
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The only part I agree with is that people should try to stop needing validation from the desired sex (it applies to everyone, not just men). Otherwise I think you got it all wrong. I think men, especially men struggling socially or romantically would benefit from having more female friends and acquaintances. Nothing taught me how to flirt and behave on dates like listening to women talk about their own dates. Even when removing the romantic part of it, women are more social in general. Men strug…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 05:54 AM
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Went on the apps as a non-monogamous guy at 40 looking for casual sex. It really wasn't hard to find 32-40 yo women looking for casual sex. Like, I told them I had a girlfriend already and was just looking for "something casual". It's hard to compare with before because I'm much better looking than I was 10 years ago. Better dressed, better groomed and I'm more in shape. It's fairly common that women will check me out when I'm walking. It didn't really happen 10 years ago. Maybe it's age, maybe …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 04:30 PM
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Police is 35% women where I live. Also, wtf? Are you having fun with your little scenarios in your head? You dream of killing policewomen?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 01:53 PM
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Men don't decide if they can take the other guy in a fight upon meeting them. Men also don't need to physically protect people; society, police, justice does it. I'm not sure in what world you live in but it isn't the same as mine... Also, I give this soft nice guy vibe in dates all the time and I have no issues whatsoever. I even cried retelling some painful memories in first dates at few times. Not an issue for the women I go on dates with. I'm sure there are plenty of more conservative women …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 04:42 AM
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The "don't approach women you don't know" is mostly online discourse made to drive engagement in social media. Most women in real life will never shame someone for a cold approach if he does it with tact and knows how to take a no gracefully.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 06:29 PM
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Kinky, ENM, swingers and other sex-positive communities are indeed having a lot of sex. Maybe the type of people that were in the free love movement just sorted themselves in those communities today.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 05:53 AM
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I doubt a lot of people are restraining themselves that much over STDs. There are a lot of ways to mitigate if not eliminate the risks. Herpes is the one that's hardest to prevent but in my experience having an open discussion about safe sex practices helps. I've been to a few first dates where we showed each other our latest STD tests and discussed our sexual history even if we didn't plan to have sex that night 🤭
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 05:50 AM
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I won't gaslight you by telling you women approached you in the past. Some guys never get approached. But a lot of women also need to grow balls and be upfront when they are interested!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:53 PM
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In this scenario (sex with a hot guy with whom she can't see herself being in a relationship with), she's not giving anything or rewarding anything. She's using him for sex as much as he's using her. Why would a woman want an average guy for a hookup instead of a really hot guy. Appearance, sex drive and being a good lover are the only criterias.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:19 PM
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Average is hard to define here. Does the average man go out where single women are present? If you stay at home or only see your close friends, no one is going to hit on you. If you got out dancing or go to big house parties, it's bound to happen from time to time. In my experience, women will have a more nuanced approach. She's unlikely to ask for you number/IG from the start and will instead try to flirt and size up if you are available. Also, women are noticeably bad at making it known they a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:13 PM
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Most women prefer their bf to be taller than them. So yeah 5'9-5'11 girls will probably want 6'+ guys. For hook-ups and for picking up girls in bars, sure it helps to be muscular, attractive and 6'+ But for regular relationships, it just doesn't matter that much. Just walk around in a city, you'll see a lot of short guys and men with a below average height with girlfriends. Their girlfriends are probably a bit shorter than them.
/r/ExRedPill09/07/25 05:34 AM
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While I agree with your general take, more than 90% of sperm are deformed or abnormal for normal men. https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/male-infertility/expert-answers/sperm-morphology/faq-20057760
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 02:36 PM
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I think you have a point that makes sense but you are extrapolating a bit too much. If someone is a loser and therefore struggle at dating, no one will want to be their friend, man or woman. If someone is outgoing and fun (and yes attractive), people will want to be their friend and they'll probably struggle less at dating. I think there is a correlation between people who women want to fuck and people woman want to be friends with. But plenty of ugly guys have female friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 04:02 PM
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That's what I'm saying. Instead of focusing on what men need, you focus on denying what they dneed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 12:18 AM
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Women are privileged in some sense. Men are privileged in others. Much of your points are ragebait or trolling so I'm not going to answer them. But more importantly it's not a competition of who is the most oppressed. Women have legitimate issues they need addressed (abortion, safety, job equality, etc.). Men have issues they need addressed (valorisation of fatherhood, circumcision being normalized, draft inequality, etc.). But you can make the point that these issues need addressing without dun…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 02:25 PM
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There are a lot of unwritten rules in dating like there are in any human interaction in general. But they will vary by culture, country, city, etc. In my city, it's expected that people will split the bill. Not doing so would be kind of weird. I misspoke once when the server came to ask for the bill splitting and she looked at me in shock when I said to bring only one bill. On the other side of the fence, I know my girlfriend was always getting into uncomfortable situations when guys (usually re…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 11:26 PM
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The problem is you don't get engagement to your tiktok video if your take is nuanced. "Looks matter in dating but so does having a nice personality. Also, women find different things beautiful and different personalities interesting." doesn't work as well "All women want 6 feet tall guys who make 6 figures!"
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 05:09 AM
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I already have a fulfilling relationship with my girlfriend. I date for Non-monogamous casual relationships. I want to find people with whom I enjoy a 5h date night at the restaurant and with whom I can have kinky sex. If she can become a friend that I can introduce to my friends/girlfriend great. If not, it's also ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 04:01 AM
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4 million is worldwide. I don't know what % of onlyfans is from the US. Probably less than half.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 04:13 PM
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Well, most of "everyone else" are in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 11:09 PM
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It may not be alive and well where you live but it is where I'm from. I have a few friends who have new lovers every week or so. Mainly from bars but from dating apps as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 09:14 PM
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I think that if your spouse is not your best friend or at least your good friend, you are doing something wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 08:19 PM
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100k is middle-class in urban centers. It's not unreasonable if they are also middle-class and making a similar amount of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 03:22 PM
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Different people are giving different answers. Maybe some are right and some are wrong. But maybe they live in different countries. The reality is that some women like older guys. Less than some people would think but also more than some other people would think. Unsatisfying answer? Yeah but it's probably the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 03:45 PM
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Yeah..... It's not the same thing for me. Education is more than just knowledge. It's kind of hard to replace higher education with YouTube videos. I know I wouldn't go out with someone who hasn't at least an undergraduate diploma.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 07:20 PM
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People have a tendency to date people who are like them. Educated people usually date educated people. Active people date active people. Nerdy people date nerdy people. Leftwing people date leftwing people. School is also a great people to meet people outside your social circle and a great place to meet people to date. If women keep getting more educated than men, it'll make it harder for people to form heterosexual couples. It'll also further exacerbate the leftwing/rightwing gap between men an…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 06:23 PM
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Or that married men decide that they shouldn't do reckless things because there are people that depend on them...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 05:17 PM
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I had a few FWBs that were women who were fresh out of a long time relationship. They knew they were not looking for a relationship but they wanted sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 01:37 PM
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That's what I see a lot. Learning how to be comfortable around women helps a lot with flirting and dating. And there's always the chance that you hear some premium gossip like "My friend X is horny and thinks you're kind of cute 😉"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 01:34 PM
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Well, a lot of hotwife and swingers ads and profiles say they are looking for hung 8 inches guys. That's in a significant portion of posts you'll see on these forums. 8 inches is like the top 1% in size. I'd say that's a pretty unrealistic preference... I doubt they encountered many in their life so porn is probably where they found the inspiration.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 05:19 AM
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I prefer promiscuous high body count sex positive women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 01:05 AM
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Hey, if you want to be monogamous, go for it! Nothing is stopping you. And most women are perfectly ok with it. Some of us prefer to have more than one person we can have feelings for/fun with and that's also fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 02:37 AM
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Thanks but I honestly don't understand how and why someone would go through all the lying and hiding stuff. There are plenty of people out there that just want to have fun and don't care about if you have someone waiting for you at home or not...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 02:33 AM
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Trouples are a small minority even in poly circles. People are often friends/acquaintances with their partners partners though. Like it happened at lot that my lover and my girlfriend would do an activity together while I wasn't there. They had the same musical taste so they went to see DJs together.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:47 AM
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Have you ever swiped people on apps with friends? Too fat, ugly, I hate man-buns, looks douchy, too fat, big nose, ugly, ugly, I hate dogs, too fat, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 03:31 PM
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It's written on my dating profile that I'm Non-monogamous. But there are of course alot of different configurations and not every ENM person has a nesting partner. But it's really rare that I tell my match unprompted that I have a girlfriend. It doesn't really make great flirting to talk about her. When I do it's because my match's profile doesn't look like the type of person that would match with a Non-monogamous person and I think she hasn't read my profile and only looked at the pictures 😔. D…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 02:58 PM
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Well I still had a primary girlfriend with whom I own a house. There was a place in my bed for another women but not in my heart. I was never going to commit to a side chick. I was not going to easter brunch with a side chick.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 01:56 PM
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WTF! 7 is way too much. I don't feel you can respect their time and feelings with that many people involved. I did one main and three side and it was feeling like too much. I was dreading to open my phone and see all the messages. 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 09:22 PM
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As a taken guy on dating apps, I don't think I'm really in competition with people who want to find love and have kids. Women interested in guys like me are almost exclusively poly themselves or freshly out of a relationship and want to have fun for a while. I don't think I ever had a casual relationship with a women that was intending to find love and have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 09:17 PM
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41M in a happy long-term monogamish relationship with 36F. I live in a left leaning and sex-positive city so all the talk about 15-20 body count being high is really something incomprehensible for me. I'm not sure I know someone with less than 10 body count. 10 body count here is someone that is dating for a long-term relationship but hasn't been super lucky. Also where I live 42% of couples are married. It's not something we automatically do. People buy houses and have kids together but won't n…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 07:22 PM
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I disagree with the premise but I'll focus on a technical issue you would be facing trying to legislate this. I see you are arguing in good faith so I'll try to do the same. How do you define unfaithfulness or cheating? Is kissing someone cheating? What defines kissing? Only lips or tongue? It happened to me in the past when I kissed the cheeks of friends the lips touched when changing cheeks, especially when one or both are drunk. So if more is required, what is? Blowjob? Handjob? Penetrative s…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 04:38 PM
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The incentive isn't there for rape allegations. Winning half a house is a hell of an incentive for middle class people.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 04:21 PM
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I've said no to my long-term girlfriend a lot of time. I may be have a headache, I'm too drunk, I masturbated 15 minutes ago, went to the gym and am exhausted, etc. Happens all the time. She has a big libido so sometimes she's horny and I'm not. I don't remember turning down (first-time)sex when I was in person (though once I wished I had). I've turned down booty calls of lovers because I didn't feel like having sex that night. I've had consent no consent sex before (the thing you talk about in …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 10:08 PM
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My point is that the reason someone has that preference makes it either totally normal or a red flag. If a man thinks sex should only be inside of the sanctity or marriage and wants someone who thinks the same then that's perfectly fine. If he thinks she's only going to dream about Tyrone's BBC while she's with him, that's a red flag. You can switch it up. If she wants someone that earns 250k/y because she comes from money and feels that someone earning 40k/y wouldn't be able to follow her into …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 09:57 PM
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You can ask her. Most women will really like it if you ask what she likes. It means you are listening to her. Asking here will give you what 6 random women on the internet like. Also, some women don't exactly know what they like or they may discover something they like because you are doing it slightly different. Maybe you dick curves downward and now she realises X position she never liked now feels great.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 09:47 PM
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There a whole scene of people simping. Check out fetlife.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 09:43 PM
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Picnic dates make the best dates. Low pressure but opportunities to cuddle a bit. Can't wait for summer! I hope you can score one! 💪🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 09:41 PM
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Being insecure about someone's past is normal. If someone was a drug addict or violent in the past that'll be something that would make me hesitate. The problem is that a lot of people who want low n-count think having sex with someone (other then them or other than inside marriage) makes you a lesser person. It's the puritan view of sex. Sex = Bad so Less sex is better.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 09:35 PM
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It can be a lifestyle up to a certain point. If someone is into gangbangs, groupsex or bsdm and the other is not sure. If he's insecure because she had sex with 30(or whatever he feels is a high number) people and all he's thinking about is that one of them has to be a better lover, that's such a red flag. Fear of promiscuity (which exists in men and women) is fear that they'll get bored and move on because their partner is not good enough/inexperienced in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 09:31 PM
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I sometimes ask it during the second date/hookup when talking about experience, kinks and fantasies. I usually meet people in sex-positive spaces so it's more about knowing about her experience. Sometimes they talk about it, sometime they don't. I know one lover lowballed it when I asked and then told the truth when my girlfriend asked the same question 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 05:20 PM
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If that person is going to judge you for your past, find someone else. Do t lie about who you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 05:06 PM
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I think you are using two different words for good friendships and bad friendships. People need good friends, friends that have the same goals and lifestyle as good, friends that will tell you when you're doing something stupid and friends that will cheer you up when you need it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 04:59 PM
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For me it's obsession with mariage I see online. Where I'm from (Québec), people don't get married that much and if they do, it's usually past 30 years old, probably after having kids or buying a house together.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 04:38 PM
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No sure if you are trolling but I'll respond. I'm 41M in a 17 year relationship with 36F. When I'm walking in the street, I'll notice cute women between the age of 28 to 47. Younger women pass under my radar and older women look like grandmas to me. It wasn't always the case. As I grow older, the window of women who I find appealing moves. I'm sure when I'll be 50 years old, I'll find 50 years old women appealing. When my gf and I were looking for women for group sex, she found 42 year old women…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 12:16 AM
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I'm a man with a master's and I do the same. I'm not interested in people without at the bare minimum a college degree. I'm sure there are some intelligent and interesting hairdressers or cooks somewhere but the chances are low that it would work long-term. 90% of people around me have a university degree. Someone that didn't even go to college would stick out.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 11:56 PM
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Isn't listening to your friends, talking about your feelings, caring for those you love, being a teacher, helping taking care of kids shunned upon? Those are characteristics who are associated with being feminine and are celebrated. We see posts all the time here where some men complain that masculinity is under attack and they feel pressure to be less masculine/more feminine. How can both be true. Masculinity and femininity both have good and bad characteristics associated with them. Women are …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 07:03 PM
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I have plenty of friends in the hookup culture and they talk about dick size regularly in front on me so it happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 05:11 PM
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When men get sexually objectified, it's either going to be because of muscles or dick size. It happens that we get objectified (mostly in the hookup culture) and it's really gratifying even if, in the case of dick size, we didn't do anything for it, we were just born lucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 05:08 PM
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I track my lovers' menstrual cycles so we can see eachother when they are not on their period. It makes managing the calendar easier when you have multiple partners. If someone wants to only fuck when their partner are not fecund, they are going to be disappointed. People should use normal birth control like condoms or the pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 04:32 PM
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I don't understand your comment. I talked about friends I know going for poor hot/funny/fun guys who arrived in the country from the underdeveloped south in the last year. To these guys, my friends making 80k are sugar mommies 🤣.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 11:56 AM
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People outside of the west usually have much more conservative values than me, especially family values. So unless she has adopted more progressive values, I'm not interested. Also, I come from a place where not everyone gets married. A lot of people live in civil partnerships. Marriage is not something required to create a family, buy a house or have children. I'd prefer not to get married. Is this something she would be ok with? If she's marriage-oriented, she's not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 11:43 AM
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Women like the feeling of being protected and taken care of, true. For my gf, it takes the form of taking her hand when crossing a street in traffic or bringing her the stuff she needs to go to sleep when she's halfway asleep or going to the pharmacy for her when she's exhausted (and bringing a surprise chocolate bar back with the pills). That's not gold digging, that's just wanting to feel taken care of. Also, most of my (early 30s) female friends go for poor immigrant hot/funny/fun guys all th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 09:17 AM
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Everyone's experience will be different because we are different and we are looking for different outcomes. But yes it's a slow agonizing and time-consuming process. Unfortunately if you don't put effort in your profile, texting and dates you'll get even less satisfying results. When I put the effort I could get a new date a week maybe so that fits with your experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 06:01 AM
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I think your conclusion is self-evident but you could probably get that from comparing men who have women friends vs those that don't have women friends. This study is mainly focused on men who have a lot of female sexual partners. I still think your conclusion explains the findings here ☺️.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 05:37 AM
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It's funny how most answers you get are "I can control my emotions", "Not being patheticly weak", etc. You asked a question about what is great about being a man and some people can't seem to do it without dunking on woman...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 05:31 AM
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This answer is really something... Stop watching YT manosphere and get a life...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 05:25 AM
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I love a lot of things about being a man. Dicks > Vaginas : No monthly cramps, no bloody underwear, no wearing light days/pads. Almost no urinary infections. No back pains from boobs. I can have children without risking my life and damaging my body. Sex : Bad sex is not as bad with a woman than with a man. Less chance of contracting STDs. Male privilege : People pay attention when I talk. Higher pay I rarely if ever feel physically vulnerable.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 05:19 AM
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It depends on the woman's profile and how the interactions prior to the date went but if I sense if would be something she'd not be comfortable with I'd say " I just want to make sure you've seen on my profile that it says Nonmonogamy" and from there go with the flow. Some people respond with something like " I assume that means you have a girlfriend " or " I don't mind I'm not looking for anything serious" or they ask me to explain my situation. But when 10 minutes and 6 messages after the matc…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 04:53 PM
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These last two years I was looking for friends with benefits. My hinge profile said short-term relationship and Non-monogamous. I was actively looking for women who were looking for the same. It would make no sense to try to match with women looking for marriage or a ltr. Depending on how the conversation went before we set the first date I would either tell my match at or before the first date that I was looking for something casual and that I already have a long-term girlfriend. Some were not …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 05:46 AM
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I kind of disagree on this. It's hard but people can change. I know I was really shy growing up and as a young adult. I was bullied at school for being a loner and weird. I'm not sure what changed or when it did but I don't think 21 yo would recognize 40 yo me. I go dancing, I easily make friends, I have no social anxiety going to a 40 people party where I only know the host, I juggle having one gf and 3 friends with benefits. No one will go from being a total loner to the life of a party in 3 m…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 03:58 PM
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I agree with you that a lot of people need to change things in their lives before they can realistically be potential romantic/sexual partners to someone. Someone having anger issues, chronic depression, bad hygiene, obese, etc. will need to change things if they want to have a realistic chance of finding a partner. You can be yourself and decide to lose weight. You can be yourself and work on anger issues with your therapist. But if someone's been trying to find a partner for x years and isn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 06:00 AM
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Men who don't sleep on dirty mattresses are not real men? That's a peculiar definition...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:25 PM
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Yes of course! Getting outside of your confort zone and trying new stuff is great. You never know if you'll like it! I had a first date at a slam poetry night last year. I told her I never attended a poetry night but was willing to try it out. I had a blast. And seeing your hot date going up on stage and reading her poetry was certainly an experience 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:55 PM
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There are women who sleep on dirty mattresses and subsist on 7/11 hotdogs too. I wouldn't date them and would see them as low status too. They can get together with the men doing the same thing 🤭 On a more serious note, people doing that have more important problems than not being able to find a date 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:50 PM
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I did a lot of hook-ups and casual relationships last year. I never lied about who I am. I think what I said is also true for casual relationships. The bar is much lower there. I don't care if she watches Desperate housewives of Beverly Hills all day and she probably doesn't care what hobbies, job, friends I have. Why try to pretend you're an avid surfer if you're just going to meet every week or two to fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 04:32 AM
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Hahaha, she seems pretty happy 🤭
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 04:26 AM
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Both can be true at the same time. Being yourself is important and lying to your date (and maybe yourself) about who you are to try to impress her is not a good long-term strategy. That being said, playing the guitar, painting, dancing salsa and doing yoga is much sexier and better for finding potential partners than playing World of Warcraft and Magic the gathering (that's me).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 04:25 AM
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Not sure I agree with this. From my experience most single women are interested in casual sex. I'm trying to think ajout the 7-10 single women I know and most if not all had hookups in the last year.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 04:10 AM
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"Be yourself" is about not hiding who you are when trying to find someone. If a girl I'm flirting with is an outdoor person and I try to make it seem like I'm all about skiing and hiking when in reality I hate it and I prefer to read and paint, I'm just shooting myself in the foot. It's not going to work long or even medium term. I'm much better trying to find someone who is more like me. It's not saying that you should not improve who you are because you want to be a better person.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 08:49 PM
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I think this Redditor is exhibiting the kind of response you were talking about in your original post...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 10:49 PM
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Why do you assume they were not informing other people? You are presuming bad faith, which kind of is what the OP is talking about...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 10:48 PM
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According to historians, the modern period starts in 1500 : https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Modern_era Modern is a term that doesn't have real meaning unless you define it 🤭
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 04:02 PM
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It's a turnoff for you? Because she says silly funny behavior that make her laugh is a turn on.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 06:17 PM
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I think she says that being sensitive, silly and goofy is fine, as long as he's responsible (not childish).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 04:07 PM
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We have a lot of needs where we don't die if we don't get it. Needs are not only eat/drink/sleep. Maslow (from the Maslow's pyramid of needs) has sexual intimacy as a need.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 06:27 AM
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No. Men paying for a women's date is just not something that is ingrained in our culture (I live in Montréal). Some women were richer and other poorer but it didn't matter either way. I never had any issues where it was awkward or that I felt my date was waiting to see if she was getting free drinks on me. Some people do it though, especially immigrants who come from cultures where it would be considered rude to split. My gf went on a few dates where the guy asked her to stop paying for her stuf…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 08:56 PM
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When I was dating a lot last year, I did put in a lot of effort. Effort came in the form of good texting. A good first message can take some time to craft if you want a good engagement. I remember spending an hour a day on the five daily Hinge messages I sent with my likes. Effort also came in the form of researching fun dates. Are there fun museum exhibits these days? Maybe a blanket in park on a Sunday afternoon can work. But I want a plan B in case something goes awry. And I want to have rest…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 08:00 PM
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I doubt purplepilldebate is the proper forum for this. I would suggest asking in dating_advice. A lot of people here don't have experience in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 03:38 PM
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I doubt Warhammer tournaments are the kind of male only space we need. I think we're talking about support groups and things like this. I think most men welcome women in leisure spaces because we want to hit on them 🤭
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 03:48 PM
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I'm not sure why we don't really have male only spaces because I think it would help men. I feel the only male spaces are made to exchange on how women are the scourge of the earth.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 01:16 AM
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Not everyone can become a doctor. It's long and expensive studies to become one. Besides, nurses and doctors don't do the same thing. Someone might want a nurse's job and not a doctor's. Most doctors are women too where I'm from.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 01:00 AM
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People assuming men know all/can do all is both a boon and a course at the same time. The number of times a women in my workplace said something to people in places of authority and the person looked at me for confirmation... I don't remember the reverse happening without an obvious reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 12:39 AM
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Men have better salaries. Men-dominated fields have better salaries. Men don't constantly have to prove they are competent (with anything not related to cooking) Sexual assaults are mainly men hurting women. Women's health is constantly underfunded and even outlawed in some place. I'm sure you can find a lot more, being a women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 12:23 AM
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It would be a society where men are even more privileged. Some men really need to be prioritized though. Men from poor communities and underprivileged communities. Men dealing with addictions and mental health problems. Men suffering from toxic masculinity. We need solutions tailored to specific problems affecting men. Men on the bottom of the ladder in today's western societies are really struggling and something needs to be done. Policy makers seem to have trouble finding the right way to tack…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 12:04 AM
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That's feminism!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 11:35 PM
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I think a big portion of men in dating apps that are struggling to get matches try to play the numbers game and I understand why they would. It just means they will have less quality matches. If you announce who you are and what you want, you'll probably be better off. (Just not in a passive aggressive way, people who lists red flags are just yuck) That date was also a bit funny to me in a absurd way. I'm sooooo not an artsy type. First time at a poetry session and me and my date were judges 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 07:17 PM
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It's pretty pointless and entirely symbolic of course but it's a nice though. I don't understand the "withhold the vote for it" part. We were at a poetry night, not sure they can do much... I'm pretty sure the people there support reparations to the native people. That's the thing with the extreme left, they can support a lot of things but since they prefer to be righteous instead of compromising to get to govern, they'll never be in a position to enact policies.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 04:10 PM
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I don't understand the comment but no, I always split the tab. It's never been an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 04:05 PM
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I'm a leftist. It's obvious from my dating profile that I'm a leftist. I wouldn't want to date someone who's not a leftist. I never had issues getting matches/dates. Women that match with me are doing it because they are looking to date a leftist person. Clearly signaling who you are is a good way to improve your chances of finding someone compatible. Most leftist first date : I had a first date at a slam poetry show where they started by recognizing that we were on unceded native land. People w…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 06:55 AM
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She does. I'm fine with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 04:29 AM
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I'm not religious so that's not an incentive for me. I never understood why everyone was so crazy about marriage. I'm in a long-term (16y) commited relationship and I have a mortgage with my gf. If you want commitment, that's worth much more than a signature on a piece of paper somewhere at city hall. I just don't see the point. I'll take the money spent on a marriage and we'll travel instead :) My parents never got married and stayed together 40 years until my father died so my positive long-te…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 04:31 AM
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I love it! Been trying to get my gf to dye her hair purple for years but she doesn't like it 😥 A lot of men in PPD are really conservative so it may skew your responses.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 10:05 PM
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Good analysis. Also, what someone finds interesting, someone else might find boring. Talking about politics can be stimulating for someone and boring for someone else. The same is true for most things you can be passionate about. I think all humans have a tendency to overestimate how interesting we are. We are the center of our own world but to most people, we are average and ordinary.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 05:17 AM
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1: Having more friends is always a plus! Whatever their gender! But also, platonic female friends have a lot of female friends. Your friend might want to play matchmaker (women like to do this a lot). Also, it'll help you understand how women think. Hearing my female friends talk about their dating woes, what they are looking for in men(or women) is super helpful. Some men are uncomfortable and shy when talking to women so being friends with some would probably help with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 05:06 AM
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I recently became friends with someone that throws 40-50 people parties every few months. The kind of party where even the host doesn't know everyone present. Great way to meet new people and great place for hookups or getting people's IGs. As to how to get invited to random parties...ask your friends/roommates to invite you when they are invited somewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 11:04 PM
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I started dating again after a 15-year hiatus after my gf and I became nonmonogamous. Being on the actual date itself was never a problem for me. I'm not intimidated by the idea of talking to a woman for the few hours the date is going to take (I've done a lot of 5-7 hours first dates 🫣). Most of my friends are women so it comes naturally for me. It's a bit like an interview for a job. You put your best behavior on and try to be be the best version of yourself. I'm someone who likes to listen an…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 05:48 AM
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Oh I think being a stay-at-home parent is a terrible idea that leads someone into a financial dependency towards their partner. When they split up, the stay at home parent has to start a career from scratch at 45 years old. But even if you discount that and want to take the risk, there is no real pathway to do it in our modern world unless you are upper class.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 05:08 AM
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Women who want to live Trad lives sure can. The problem is that their partner need to make a buttload of money to make up for the lost salary. Economies in the developed world are not made for middle classe families to be supported by only one income, especially if you want to have 2+ kids. What you see on tiktok in the Trad wives channels are women making a lot of money being self-employed entrepreneurs. They are not real Trad wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 04:50 AM
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I don't think they are using the right words for it then. Stay at home parents are not submissive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 05:23 AM
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The most submissive women I met were badass boss bitches during the day. They lived alone and were not looking for any long-term relationships. They were mid-level to high-level managers and certainly didn't need a man to provide for them. Submissive sex is not about money or gifts. It's a kink about letting go of control. I think you are conflating submissiveness and traditional people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 05:35 PM
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I want a women who is my equal, assertive, says what she wants and goes for it. That doesn't have to equate someone who is masculine. I like feminine women; who dress pretty and wear makeup. In bed, I like power dynamics are Dom/sub but I don't want it on my regular life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 08:48 PM
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Of course, social meetings are not for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 08:44 PM
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I'm not talking about speed dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 07:07 PM
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I don't think people being serious in their quest to find a relationship means they are desperate. I think you'll find more people looking for a long-term relationship and less "I'm looking for myself" or "We'll see how it evolves" people. I'm not looking for anything serious so these events are not for me but I think dating apps and in-person meetings service people with different personalities and different goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 05:13 PM
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I think most people have more chance to impress in person than they have on dating profiles. Even if you are some really good looking man, it's easier and quicker to find someone you vibe with through in-person meeting. Having a lot of matches does not mean you'll find someone interesting. It takes some time to chat, then schedule a date then see if there is a connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 05:08 PM
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Why do you consider going to singles events is more desperate than meeting random people on dating apps or approaching people in bars? It seems to me that a social meeting like a singles event is a more organic way of getting to know people and seeing if you find them interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 03:39 PM
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From what I see on my local neighborhood Facebook page, these events for people in their 30s have trouble getting enough men to go. I guess women prefer to see the vibe in a safe, not one-on-one setting. Maybe men don't like having competition standing next to them. Who knows?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 02:57 PM
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Why do you think people who like having casual sex have an uncontrollable urge to have sex? I like to play Scrabble but I don't have uncontrollable urges to play Scrabble.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 08:46 PM
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Being on the ace spectrum doesn't mean you have to denigrate people who like sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 05:11 PM
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I don't think that comes from the same place. I wouldn't go out with a virgin woman. There's a really good chance she's bad at sex and that I have to teach her how to have sex. There's also the possibility that she doesn't really like sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 08:59 PM
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I'm a man and I like sluts. I'm friends with women who self define as sluts and we talk about their sex lives all the time. (I'm talking about sex clubs, public sex, three/four/moresomes, 2-3 ongoing fwbs, picking guys in bars for ONS, etc.) I think the hate some men have towards sluts comes two places : Resentment at not being chosen. They hear about how these women are fucking everyone with a dick but they themselves can't seem to get sex/dates. Basic misogyny. Women are made to have children.…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 07:31 PM
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That's the logical conclusion of this, yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 06:17 PM
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Guns are not allowed to be carried around in normal countries. Americans thinks everyone is American... Besides, I doubt pulling a gun on someone groping your ass in a crowded bus achieves anything good...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 11:51 PM
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Influencers lie to make a living because their online personality is crafted to drive engagement. They'll say anything for money, that's the job.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:49 PM
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West. I want an educated, feminist, sex positive partner so it's a no-brainer.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 05:32 PM
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I see a lot of singles events desperately looking for men on our local neighborhood Facebook group. The women spots fill easily but they have trouble finding men. They organize quiz nights or karaoke nights with 20 men and 20 women. At the end of the event, you say who you were interested in and the organizer gives you their numbers if you both were interested in eachother.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 05:15 AM
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Maybe it's where I come from. I'm from Montréal. Or that I'm dating while openly saying I'm already in a relationship and looking for casual sex so I get women that are happy living alone. Also, I don't ask. When the waiter comes to us and asks how many bills we want, I say 2 (she usually says it at the same time).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 09:55 PM
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You could say starting at 6 hurts kids ready for school at 5. High performing kids are going to be fine either way. I'll gladly sacrifice the performance of the top 5% to help the lower 60%.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 07:05 PM
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There have been countless governmental and scientific studies about how to help boys do better in school. There are a lot of suggestions but there is no consensus. It's really not a hidden fact. One suggestion I liked from an article (in a special multiday series the main newspaper of Québec did on the subject) is to start boys a year later in school. Girls start at 6 and boys at 7 in first grade.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 02:34 PM
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Blue pill just means not having taken the red pill. It's not a unified belief system like the red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 09:36 PM
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I almost exclusively date left-leaning women and in the 30-40 first dates I had in the last two years I paid for the date once. Every other date we split things equally. I can't speak for people who espouse traditional values and like traditional gender roles, but what you describe has not be my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 04:14 AM
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I think sex can be a fun casual thing you do because you like to do it. People masturbate for the same reason. You can do it with someone you love and it's different. I think making love and fucking are two different things. I don't make love to my fwb, that's only something I do with my girlfriend. When I'm fucking my friends, it becomes intimate. I have a relationship with one friend that is special because we shared intimacy in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 05:04 AM
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Of course you can end up developing feelings for your friend but that is already the case. People fall in love with their friends all the time. The only difference in my opinion is that people had fun in the meantime ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 11:02 PM
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Having sex is fun. Having fun with friends is great. What's the problem? It destigmatizes sex. It deepens friendships.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 04:07 PM
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Memes in short form content are made to encourage people to reply, repost and engage. You do this by having extreme positions. If someone said that "some women want a man that provides everything and others don't!", that is too nuanced and not interesting and no one will participate. That's not how you build a following on social media. The best exemple are trad wives. The top influencers of Trad wife content run a multi million dollars business. That's not traditional at all. But they do it to …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 09:35 PM
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Why are you assuming I'm against what he says?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 04:10 AM
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I'm not saying no systemic sexism against men exist, just that he's starting a debate and linking all the time to a subreddit where he's the only one posting stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 07:57 PM
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Are you just advertising the subreddit you just made?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 02:47 PM
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The point of these things is to invite 20 men and 20 women so yeah men are invited. Serious, mature men who are looking for relationships are sought after. If some people got told they were too creepy to be invited, it's probably because they were too creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 09:34 PM
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Asking an honest question about dating on a sub where most men are misogynistic is gonna get you a lot of misogynistic answers. Looking at answers here you have a lot of men who can't get a date that are trashing women because they aren't the hottest most beautiful women. I see the same thing in my neighborhood and I honestly don't understand why. In my city subreddit, we have a lot of questions from men who want to date without going through apps. But I'm not sure why they don't attend these ki…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 03:41 PM
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There was a post yesterday on PPD about singles events that have trouble starting because there are not enough men showing up.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 03:34 PM
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There was a movement during one of the feminism waves to depict pre-Columbian societies as pure and untouched by european patriarchy. Most of those research didn't really withstand the test of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 05:03 AM
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Amen! No one should make all encompassing statements. Especially on PPD! All women think this. All men do that. It's never true.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 04:57 AM
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You can say there is a gap. I doubt many people will disagree. Saying women don't desire sex is just plain wrong. There are plenty of women looking for NSA sex. If you hear women talking about sex between themselves, you'll see they very much desire sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:52 AM
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She's right. The nice guy is someone that fakes/thinks he is being nice just to get in her pants, then turns violent when rejected. r/niceguys
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 03:44 PM
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You are free to dismiss what he said but that's how the vast majority of people think the RP is about (If they know what it is)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 02:04 PM
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You are Gen Z so it's perfectly normal that you don't find 40 year old women hot. Wait 20 years and it'll change. I didn't find 40 years old hot when I was 22. I don't think online rating videos are a serious source of facts 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 04:17 AM
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Don't believe what random trolls on the internet say. Do 20 year old look better than 40 year olds? In most cases yes, but there are alot of smoking hot 40 year old women. Stay in shape, ask of your partner to stay in shape and continue to have hot sex together. Will your partner look at 25 year olds, sure. Just like you look at 25 year old guys when they are hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 12:13 AM
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Why is having a FWB mutually exclusive with not having sex on the first date? She has her reasons foot wanting to wait. Maybe she wants to focus the first date on getting to know the person. Maybe she waits until she is confortable and is attracted to him before having sex. She already knows, is confortable and is attracted to her FWB. He probably had to wait on the second date to have sex too 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 04:39 AM
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Waiting for marriage before sex is a recipe for a sexless relationship and cheating. But to each it's own!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 04:33 AM
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True, it's so much easier today to say what you want without being shamed. Whether it's saying you want NSA sex or waiting 5 dates before sex, society is more accepting of everyone's preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 04:32 AM
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As people age, they find people of their age more attractive. When I was 23, I would rarely find a 40 yo attractive. Now that I am 40 yo, a lot of women are attractive to me. I guess that when I am 60 yo, a lot of 60 yo women are gonna be attractive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 03:45 AM
1

Are we allowed to make content with her? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 03:19 PM
2

A+B+D+F=-10 And then you put more positives in the other part H(because I love feminists)+K(I love independent women)+L(going out with someone that does OF looks really fun!)=+9 I'm at +4 and there is nothing more interesting perks for me in the first section. It's missing some attributes maybe? Intelligent, has cool hobbies maybe? Actually, I think your quiz doesn't work if the men answering are feminists...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 03:17 PM
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Well, you can read your OP for good exemples. For exemple, yes, women have much more matches than men (no one is talking to 50 guys though) but it doesn't necessarily simplify things for them. Since a lot of men swipe on everyone that is remotely pretty to have more chances to get a match with someone, women match with men that are not really interested in them specifically. They match with men that are interested in anything that has two boobs. They then need to chat with each one of them and w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 11:38 PM
3

That's actually very well put!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 11:31 PM
6

I rarely see anyone women downplaying the challenges men face in dating. What we see most is men downplaying the challenges women face. Both face different types of challenges though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 08:56 PM
1

Who can say how other people form their ideas. We can only tell you about how we formed our ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 11:21 PM
6

I think there are more than 2%(+1%) of under-40 men that have redpill ideas and inclines. Most of them have probably never heard of the term redpill but have frustrations about dating, feminism and women that lead them to form these ideas naturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 11:03 PM
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Marriage is not natural. It's an economic pact first and foremost. Monogamy is not natural either. Society evolved into this for different reasons (sexual health being a big one). I think it's normal for humans to change. You are not the same person at 40 than you were at 20. Therefore it's normal to not be attracted by the same person or type of person.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 11:24 PM
2

I wouldn't date her, whatever her personality. I'm not physically attracted to her. And I'm a sapiosexual so personnality and intelligence are super important to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 09:28 PM
4

Or simply that nonmonogamy was not for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 02:17 PM
5

This can happen when a single guy has 2-3 women interested in him. But I doubt a married woman is gonna get horny because her husband of 15 years is getting hit on by the neighbor.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 01:27 PM
1

I get these likes from ugly women a few times a week but don't get offended. It just puzzles me. If they want to shoot their shot, sure, but you won't get a match...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 08:30 PM
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I come from the opposite side of the spectrum because I want to date people who are accepting situationships, poly arrangements, group sex, etc. I usually try to get this information by being honest about my sexuality in a sex positive way and asking them to talk about their sexuality on the first date. I'll say I have done group sex, that I casually date multiple women at the same time, etc. I'll talk about the funny stories that happen during group sex. If they are uncomfortable with the discu…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 04:26 AM
0

Most people here can't get into a relationship. Trying to make them understand the line between real life and kinks is a lost cause... There is nothing wrong with cucks or cuckqueans. It's a kink. Most subs are not really subs in real life. My two FWB are bigtime subs (with ropes and pain) but both of them are successful women in managerial positions.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 04:23 PM
22

In Québec, childcare is 7$/day. Subsidized by the government. And we don't have more kids than elsewhere in the developed world. People need more than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 11:15 PM
4

It goes you noticed but in a bad way. Average people are neither too obnoxious nor too shy. They won't be the life of the party jumping in the pool with the patio chair but they won't be in a corner scared shitless to talk to another person.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 06:51 PM
2

At a party you can hit on a friend of a friend. With alcohol and music something can come out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 06:45 PM
5

I don't think being the loudest gets you laid. The loudest are usually the most obnoxious.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 06:13 PM
9

And he's not on Reddit complaining about dating dynamics 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 06:10 PM
2

I think in this case it means being unhappy but unable to get a divorce (usually because of financial dependance or social shunning).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 03:24 PM
1

Around 50% of people get the mono virus (herpes-4) before the age of 5. They put a toy in their mouth and give it to another kid. (https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/23469-epstein-barr-virus)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 03:20 PM
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If she sacrificed her career for her husband's and did the chores and raised the kids, then yes she is entitled to 50% of the money. What is she going to do at 50 years old with no work experience? In Canada, when a stay at home women gets divorce, the state will force the ex-husband to pay her alimony because she sacrificed her career and needs his money to maintain her livelihood.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 03:27 AM
1

Gardening, pub trivia, learning about linguistics, geography or history, magic the gathering, board games
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 06:57 PM
1

People in general are less interested in marriage or ltr. You can live alone if you make enough money and have casual relationships for intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 03:54 AM
15

You ask a question and you get an answer but you don't like it so you dismiss it?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 07:42 PM
1

I think my sensitive side, that I'm a man who doesn't shy away from embracing his emotions as well as the fact that I am a feminist are some of my good traits. That this part of me is a positive for my dates. Besides, I wouldn't want to be with someone who thinks that a man being emotionally vulnerable is a bad thing. So if that repulses her, we're not meant to date. I don't see it as some sort of sympathy-bait but I can understand why someone would see it that way. It isn't happens that I tend …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 02:37 PM
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That hasn't been my experience at all. I don't remember a woman making fun of me for crying or being vulnerable. On the contrary, as a very sensitive guy, I tend to shed a tear when I talk about sensitive subjects and it's been well received. There's a topic I often talk about during first dates and it makes me cry almost everytime. I never had a bad reaction to that happening. I exclusively date feminist and leftist women though. So maybe right leaning women would prefer a more manly man that d…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 09:44 PM
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Do you actually have friends that are feminists? Like actual friends that can talk to you about how they feel? My whole social circle is made of feminists and I can assure you, no one thinks like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 08:21 PM
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Some are, and that's great. A good "stop saying stupid shit like this" in response to a mysoginistic or racist comment goes a long way ☺️. Some aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 08:17 PM
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Most women are feminists. I doubt most women don't care about men. Most of them are straight, are in relationships with men. Yes there are crazy ones that hate men and those may be louder. But real people in the real world are not like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 08:15 PM
0

True, male social interaction can feel weird to women. My gf can't understand how I spent 5 hours talking to my friend (while playing video games) and I didn't ask him about his day. That said, male social interaction can be toxic or non-toxic. I'm only talking about toxic behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 08:07 PM
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I don't think all problems on earth are linked to toxic masculinity. But men, especially young men, have real problems that we need to address. They have trouble in school, they don't go to university as much as women, they a more lonely, they kill themselves at higher rates, they take more hard drugs, etc. Society is changing and some men feel like they don't belong. They are lost and they don't know how to express how they feel. These people are prime targets for toxic masculinity grifters.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 08:02 PM
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I was raised by a feminist boomer girlboss (she was a director in a big multinational conglomerate) and I'm very happy with my masculinity 😊. I think you base your idea of feminists from tiktok videos... Most (female) feminists like men. Most feminists are straight and are in unions with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 07:57 PM
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Men need to be able to express their emotions and cry. Keeping it all inside and having a heart attack at 60 in not a good life plan...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 07:37 PM
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The people who seem to have trouble adapting to today's world are mainly the ones that were raised in households where being a man was all about hiding their feelings, not crying, always being right, needing to be the purveyor. Men that grew up in positive masculinity households are better equipped to manage how men are supposed to behave in today's world.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 07:35 PM
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Feminists, leftists and the alphabet squad(I really like this 🤣) shit on toxic masculinity, not men. If you browse the healthy/positive masculinity communities, you'll see that feminists are actually allies of positive masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 07:27 PM
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No, most people have never heard of the red pill and are happy in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 05:43 PM
3

That's the beauty of freedom. If you don't want to date, you don't need to!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 05:15 PM
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I'm from Quebec so yes I'm from north america but culture is different here than our English neighbors. But all things you state here are true here. But that reflects the fact that people feel like they have more choice now that they had before. In the 60s, living alone, especially for women, was frowned upon. Now it's widely accepted. Same thing for divorce. If people want to be in relationships, they can. If they want to be single, they can. That's just how freedom works. People have Moore fre…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 05:02 PM
2

Society will continue on the same path. Most people will form relationships and have children. Some people will form relationships and not have children. And some people will not have relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 03:26 AM
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AI and robots probably...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 03:24 AM
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That's just not gonna happen. Most people have never heard of the red pill and are happily in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 03:23 AM
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If you want to help men, organize support groups for men. Men need space where they can learn to socialize without having to compete against one another. Where they can talk about their feelings without being judged. Learn how to make friends. The problems you talk about are a symptom of a lot of things. There are many root causes. But for simplicity's sake, if men are better partners, more women will prefer to have a male partner than being single. Men need to learn to be better human beings, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 06:47 PM
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I went on 20-30 dates this year and I split every single bill. It was expected that we would split it. So I guess it varies depending on the local culture and the people who date.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 01:55 AM
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I tend to do the manual work because I'm better at it. My gf does more cooking than me because she enjoys it. We split the rest. It's not about gender roles, it's about our roles.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 03:45 AM
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Well I'm a feminist so I don't need to drink the Kool aid, I distribute it 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:11 PM
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Didn't you know? Having more matches on tinder is definitely worth the constant misogyny, the reduced salary, the constant threat of sexual violence and the regressive abortion policies!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 11:16 PM
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This is really not the place for dating advice. But here we go. Everyone's different but if you are happily making out, grabbing her butt is usually not a problem. Besides, I think most people have sex at or before the 4th date. I know I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 08:02 PM
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Yes in theory we start physical decline in early 30s, but people still look incredible well into their 40s.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 07:45 PM
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It will depend. Some type of facial features will age better. I know I'm better looking at 40 than I was at 24 but that's just me. It's easy to be in shape at 20. It's much harder at 40. So someone staying in shape at 35-40 will stand out much more from the mass than someone staying in shape at 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 07:43 PM
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True. Some men have problems getting matches because they are drowned in the 2000+ likes some women are getting. But we're talking about why women are leaving OLD apps. They face different challenges. What they face is the fact that they are bombarded with people putting a minimal amount of work. Most women are tired to talk to 4 guys at the same time to have them end up empty ended. It's a lot of work for not much results. Would you prefer to not have a car or not have a car and pay for it?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 12:24 AM
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Well I think that's where we disagree because I don't think a woman who respects herself would go out with someone she doesn't respect. Yes there are some people who should work on themselves before dating (men and women). But you should not infer something based on 5% of the population.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 11:44 PM
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Does she really need to specify that you are less cute than BTS singers or less muscular than Chris Hemsworth? I don't tell my gf everyday that she's less beautiful than Dua Lipa. She knows and doesn't need me to tell her...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 11:41 PM
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Actually I would. I'm non-monogamous 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 09:47 PM
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Some redpill get offended that women "want Chad but settle for betas" but that's just life. I would like to date a women as beautiful as Margot Robbie and who has won a Nobel price. Like I would like a job where I'm paid 300k and I don't have to work. And yes women would like to date the most handsome men, who wouldn't. But we don't live in Fantasyland like some people online seem to live. We all have to make compromises. I can't have a gf as beautiful as Margot Robbie that has won a Nobel price…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 09:08 PM
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It's hard to understand from a man's point of view but it's something I hear from most of my female friends. They have 2000+ likes on OLD apps but most matches overwhelmingly lead nowhere : love bombing, ghosting after two days of texting, late night booty calls, disastrous first dates, guys who insist on inviting her home for a first date, etc. It takes them a lot of time and energy to end up exactly where they started. My FWB texted me exactly this this morning. She is done with dates for awhi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 09:00 PM
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There are a lot of reasons for declining birth rate. Getting married later is certainly one of them. But the most important one is that as people get richer, they want more leisure and babies get in the way of that. But yes, in the past, when people got married at 20 years old and birth control didn't exist, couples tended to have more babies. Also, depending on how far you go back, most children didn't get to reach adulthood. So if you wanted to have living children when you get older, you need…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 08:50 PM
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It's a performance for women too. If they're bad at sex, they won't be called back. Just like I'd men are bad at sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:57 AM
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Most men under 30 are in relationships. So the percentage should be around 60-70%
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:47 AM
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Thank you, your comment is a good exemple of what I was talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 03:34 PM
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Society was different in the 70s. For example, it was more acceptable to harass women. It was more acceptable for a husband to beat his wife. #Meetoo was a protest against that privilege. Women were working a lot less in the 70s and if they did they earned much less compared to men. So a lot more women were economically dependant on their husband. Being the one controlling the finance means you have control over your spouse. That's a privilege. Gender relations have changed a lot. And yes, a wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 05:52 AM
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Yes, like with animals, for a long time weaker/less desirable men did not reproduce (https://psmag.com/environment/17-to-1-reproductive-success#.xen7f2esb). That's how species evolve. Studies show that we have twice as many female ancestors than male ancestors (source). Women that didn't reproduce were the sick ones or the ones who died before or in childbirth. Now that's not that true anymore. With monogamy, most low value/less desirable men have been able to reproduce because women couldn't al…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 05:46 AM
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Most social science don't try to predict behavior. They mostly try to understand what is happening and why is it happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 05:13 AM
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It's hard to answer. There is a lot of things that go into evolution. In almost every species, females are smaller than men. Is it because so they don't need as much food for themselves so their baby can thrive during pregnancy? Is it a case of sexual preference where females have selected males that had a certain quality (being taller/stronger), like peafowls did. Is it because only the strongest males have reproduced (by beating their rivals, like moose or lions do) so they gave their genes to…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 05:08 AM
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I agree with everything you said. Yes, we are seeing a backlash against feminist coming from disillusioned "low value(as they say)" young men. Men that, if they would have been born when women had to find a husband because living alone was impossible, would easily have had a wife. These men are frustrated that people like them in the past had privileges they don't have right now. It's a classic story of a privileged group losing their privilege and having a hard time accepting it. It's a hard th…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 02:48 AM
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Well prehistory is very long. If you are talking during paleolithic times, lineage was not important and most men didn't know whose child was theirs. Children were children of the tribe first and foremost. Women's fertility was celebrated and you see this reflected in the kind of gods they worshipped (earth mother types deities). I doubt promiscuity was a problem then. You see lineage becoming important during neolithic when individuals started to own things(farms, animals, tools) in their own r…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 12:26 AM
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From what I've seen from my (female) friends, either the ones I date or the platonic ones, is the more progressive/feminist/left leaning they are, the more they'll consider casual sex as worth it. The majority of women who were into casual sex (with a non-monogamous man that is) either didn't want children or already had them. They were not looking for a boyfriend because they felt they were better off living alone and they were earning enough that it was possible. But since they had physical ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 10:56 PM
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I disagree there. More progressive, feminist societies tend to lose this preference. I don't think it's linked to paternity fraud. Why would a women who had 30 partners be more likely to commit paternity fraud? But I agree that a virgin bride in the 1700s would ensure that she's not already pregnant. I think it comes from a vision of women do not and should not have agency in their life, that they can't be strong and independent. That they should go from their father to their husband without hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 10:45 PM
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A topic that comes from your original message and your response is that person A "being there"/being in close proximity/loving person B should be enough for the person B to consider person A as a romantic/sexual partner. I think some part of your frustration comes from there. You may be interested in someone but you are right, that alone is of no value to women in itself. They also need to be attracted to you in your own right. People want to be in a relationship with someone that will bring som…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 05:32 PM
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TradeWest/tradcon is a concept that exists on social media only. The amount of money needed to buy a farm/farmhouse/big country house and have a lot of kids is more than you can get on a singe salary (unless you make 200k+). It prays on women's disillusion with modern society that hasn't delivered on its promises. Women working should have doubled the disposable income of families compared to previous generations. But capitalism being capitalism, the rich got richer and the average family now ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 05:45 AM
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What you say is true but not for the reasons you are implying. If someone(men and women) is looking for a long-term commited relationship, great oral skills and a beautiful dick/awesome tits is not gonna be at the top of the list of things to look out for. They'll look for similar family plans, values and how to upbring a child. You're implying it's being disingenuous to look for different things when dating for a fuck friend or a long-term partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 01:29 PM
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I think you're coming down hard on him. A man can look for a woman with similar values and compatible views on upbringing children for a long-term partner and someone kinky with great sex skills as a play partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 01:20 PM
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PPD is a cesspool of redpillers who are just bitter about women and are not answering in good faith imho. You can find good advice from men in other subreddits where more normal people interact.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 04:08 AM
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Stop lying to us. Redpill was invented so people who can't get sex can cope instead of thinking about why exactly they can't get it. A redpiller getting close enough to a women to have sex with her would probably stop being redpilled because they'd see how redpill is just a fantasy they have in their head.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 04:01 AM
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Women have different vagina sizes. You'll be able to hit the cervix more or less easily depending on her depth.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 04:43 AM
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Women seek sex all the time. Most women on apps are there for sex. They have needs just like men. They may not advertise it as much as men do because of slut shaming but it's there. Source : I have FWBs that text me because they are horny and want sex. They don't need to, we are not in a relationship. They are just horny.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 04:37 AM
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You can also discuss sex and sexuality during a date. How are you in bed, kinks, desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 04:15 AM
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But if people get married quicker because they are horny, you'll have more divorces.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 02:27 PM
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While I don't think it's a good idea to wait to fall in love to have sex (even third date seems late). This makes a lot more sense than waiting to be married to someone before checking compatibility. This approach respects one's wishes to link sex to love and commitment without having an extreme position that will probably rebuke most people like OP said.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 02:24 PM
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Most women I've been with asked me to be degrading to them. I didn't encourage it. It's their kink it's their fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 01:05 AM
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I think it existed before as repressed desires. Women don't want to get slapped it the face while fucking because they saw people on pornhub do it. But they feel empowered to ask for it because they saw people on pornhub do it. I think sex is more varied and kinky now than before. And my personal opinion is that is a good thing. No you are not always into what your partner is asking into, but it enables partners to have discussion on the subject instead of being repressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 01:03 AM
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I have no problem recognizing when a men is more beautiful than his girlfriend (which happens around half the time). And you are right, passport bros are not taking home 10/10 all the time. It's just that sometimes it's really obvious. And when it is, it's usually a man 20 years older than the women. And it's the ones I see on swingers websites looking for a bull 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 04:40 AM
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You talk like all men are entitled to have casual sex. And if they can't get it by being honest, they are entitled to get it by lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 01:19 AM
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I think a lot of the flack passport bros get is that it's a sort of indentured servitude. She agrees to marry him in exchange of a standard of living. She's agreeing because she's living in inhuman conditions and prefers to prostitute herself. She's then forced to stay with him because she's now living in a foreign country and doesn't have the means to leave. If someone uses his yacht and Ferrari to have sex/marry with women in his own country that's perfectly fine. Like you said, using your mon…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 10:28 PM
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You see them all the time on swingers sites. Cute thin 30yo Thai girl with 55 yo fat bald white guy. They are looking for a stud to please the lady because the old rich guy can't anymore 🤣 Makes me laugh every time!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 10:19 PM
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One problem would be the power imbalance that would be at the center of the relationship. She owes her livelihood to him. Breaking up would be harder than in a normal relationship. That leads to a higher rate of abuse because he knows that she cannot leave him until she learns the language, learns skills useful to get a job, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 10:15 PM
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Yeah, you never escape the fact that people who are better looking and have more interesting profiles will have more likes. I've seen guys saying things like "Size queens welcome" or "GGG" on their profiles but it looks cringe imho. There are other more subtle way to communicate those things, but you need to catch their attention first 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 03:23 PM
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True, just like dick size doesn't help you get picked (unless you tell her how big you are, which is problematic in it's own way). You can still communicate to your date how sex positive you are. I usually have some sort of sexual discussion on the first date. How are you in bed? What do you like? If she understands that you care about your partner's pleasure, there's a good chance you're above average in the sheets (the bar is sooooooo low for what makes a man above average)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 03:01 PM
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Most women like this I meet are women focused on their career or other projects. They usually already have children or don't want any. What they all have in common is that they don't need a man to take care of them. They have a high-paying job and are happy being single. I think that the more progressive/feminist the society is, the more women will realize that they have the choice to live alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 02:55 PM
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Well, considering that my gf has fucked 30 other people this last year and only loves me more, I'd say a women with 200 body count doesn't really matter to me 😉 Non-monogamy 😝
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 01:09 PM
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I think someone who likes sex and has a healthy relation to it is a green flag. Sex is just a normal activity between to consenting adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 01:04 PM
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What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 01:02 PM
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Well all the women I match with and meet are looking for no strings attached sex. I'm honest and upfront about it. Almost all my friends who are in their early 30s are also looking for situationships and fwb they can have fun and experience with. If it develops into a love story that's great but they are not looking for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:24 AM
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Well, if your definition of too nice is someone who is clingy and looks desperate, yes it is a turn off (to men and women). But I don't believe you can make a good faith argument that someone can be too nice. Being nice and considerate are qualities almost every women want from a men when they are looking for a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 09:38 PM
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Good takes! 2 is something that we all need to process and learn to accept.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 08:41 PM
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Because it doesn't exist in real life and the only people that believe in it are self proclaimed redpillers.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 08:38 PM
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I don't want to read redpill literature. I have more interesting things to read. I don't need to cope with rejection by indulging in fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 08:01 PM
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Astrology and homeopathy?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 07:55 PM
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I disagree with #1 but it may be different cultural norms. Where I am from (Montréal), women will always pay their share of the tab. I also only date well-off feminist women who are not looking for a boyfriend. The only time I paid for the whole tab, she was into the date only for the meal.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 07:53 PM
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High body count women are the best. They are good at sex and know what they want!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 07:48 PM
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I think you're not far from the truth. Women care about looks and have a particular look they are looking for. My gf likes athletic brown guys. She hates blondes and gingers. You could be the most beautiful ginger guy in the world, she wouldn't look at you. Women have types more than men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 07:32 PM
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A lot of women want casual non strings attached sex. If you're a good lover, there is no shortage of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 07:28 PM
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Pair bonding only exists in the redpill mythology. On the contrary, a person marrying their first sexual partner will probably want to explore how is sex with other people and won't want to die with having had only one sexual partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 07:27 PM
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This! Having lot of sex to hide the fact that you are not happy with your body/life/etc. is not the same as having a lot of sex because having sex is fun. Only the first one is a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 07:02 PM
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r/niceguys have a definition of nice guys as men who lash out when rejected. Showing their true "not nice" nature and being mysoginistic and bitter. They have a nice front only to get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 06:43 PM
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If a guy is genuinely nice, he'll probably get sex. The cliché of "nice guys finish last" is not about genuinely nice guys. It's about bitter man thinking they are nice guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 04:55 PM
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I have been on 30 dates in the last year and split the bill on 29 of them. The one date where I paid was sketchy as fuck and I shouldn't have agreed to the date.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 05:34 AM
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I wouldn't date a women that didn't identify as a feminist. Fortunately most women are feminists so it's not a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 05:34 AM
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I'm not advocating about dramatically reducing the wages of construction workers. But I think if you need to go to university and are responsible for the education of the next generation, you should be paid more than someone that didn't finish high school and takes order from a foreman. I don't know what is the solution here. It's a complex problem but it starts by realizing that there is something systemic in how jobs traditionally prefered by women are underpaid. But we are feeling the effects…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 02:24 PM
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There is discrimination in how society has agreed upon on how certain type of jobs are worth more than others. No one individually took this decision, it evolved from how men and women are valued in the workforce. I don't know how it happened but that's the reality. Jobs where women are a majority of the workforce are paid less then when men are the majority. A nurse should earn much more than a construction worker. They need college or university degree and are taking life-changing decisions fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 04:31 AM
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What you say about your workplace is mostly true of every workplace. The problem is that jobs that women tend to like more (childcare, teach, nurse, etc.) pay less than things men like (construction, driving big trucks, IT). Male nurses earn as much as female nurses and male programmers earn the same as female programmers. But most programmers are male and nurses are female. And programmers earn double what nurses earn.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 12:58 AM
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If men and women would earn the same amount of money it would not really matter. Unfortunately, women are still discriminated in the workplace and in general ear less than men. If you are tired of married women being leeches to their husband, you should support feminist initiatives that empower women in the workplace!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 10:56 PM
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Cheating is impossible in a non-monogamous relationship. 🤘 I have free passes for days!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 04:33 AM
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Genetics will get you into her bed but it's skills that will make her call you back the next week for another night.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 05:22 AM
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I wouldn't accept a non promiscuous women. Sex positive FTW 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 08:24 PM
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Men's advantage in dating is that the average man is really uninteresting and unattractive so it's kind of easy to be much better than the average. When you do the things OP says (except #2 which is nonsense), you'll see a lot of women interested in you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 12:57 AM
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In my experience, a high body count has the same value for a women and a men. It means there is a higher chance they are sex positive. Which is a good thing. I wouldn't want to have a casual relationship (what I'm looking for) with someone who has a sub 10 body count. I don't tell my date my body count because it's just a pissing contest. But I usually tell her what kind of kinky stuff I tried(bondage, 3-4somes, etc.) with my past sexual partners. I think this is better at representing who I am …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 04:37 PM
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My girlfriend has a hard time dating girls. She gets ghosted a lot compared to guys that will always answer her. She gets rejected because she is bisexual and not a lesbian. She stopped trying to date girls because when she is, she's starting to say misogynistic things. Like she'll get pissed when women want to take things slow for a casual relationship and not have sex on the first date (my gf will always push for sex on the first date with guys).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 05:36 PM
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In my experience, I sleep at her place after having casual sex. Yes it happened that I went home but most of the time, women like it when I stay the night.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 04:18 AM
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In my experience, someone who puts a lot of effort into his styling is something that is well regarded with women. Like a proper haircut, shaved/trimmed beard and good looking clothes go a long way. Also, personnality is something you can change. Some part is easy to change, other parts are hard. But that's not immutable like your height.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:55 AM
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In the swingers and non-monogamous communities, a unicorn is a women who wants to date/have sex with a couple
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 02:51 PM
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Some people take more time to trust than others and that's ok. Some people will take 2h to think you're not a psycho and others will take 2 5h dates. I met a women who wanted to be tied up (bondage) on our first time having sex (first date was 2h in the park. Second date was at her place to fuck). I was a bit uncomfortable about the fact that she was so quick to trust me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 06:10 AM
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We expose ourselves to risk all the time. Would you expose the man you love to being killed in a road accident to go to McDonald's? We've all done it. I understand people are monogamous for different reason. Fear of STDs is a very valid one. But hey, a cheating spouse can still bring STDs in a monogamous relationship 😉 (I'm trolling a bit here...) Yes, having multiples partners is a risk some people are not ok with and I'm never going to judge that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 07:42 PM
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You're right, sex can never be 100% safe (unless we wrap the both of us in plastic 😂). It's a risk we are both comfortable with. We think the benefits outweigh the risks. I think when everyone has all the information, they can make their own decision about the risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 07:27 PM
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I've done it but some of them just are over trying to use dating apps. I have friends who have went months or years without a match. It's hard to convince these people that photos are magically going to change their outcomes. Me and my gf also helped some guy on Reddit with his profile. It's kind of fun actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 07:22 PM
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What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 07:12 PM
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I don't hide anything so she knows everything. She has even met some of those women in the past. As for STDs, yes it's a risk but with sufficient precautions, you can have safe sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 07:12 PM
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Of course, no one can really get real stats on this. Everyone has their own experience but most of my (women) friends (mid to late thirties) are "having fun" dating around. On the other hand, I'm dating a lot of mid to late thirties women who don't care I have a long-term girlfriend. They just want no-strings-attached sex. Is this a normal sample. I don't know, probably not.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 04:33 AM
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Yeah, before the modern period (1800s), most people married because it was necessary. A marriage was an economic union first and foremost. Yes the bride and groom could have some say but the family was very involved. Nowadays though, anyone who says straight women aren't attracted to men doesn't have any close women friends. The things I hear from my friends is mind-blowing. These girls are horny and they want sex. I have one friend who needs sex once a week or else she is not a pleasant to be a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 04:28 AM
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I'm not a Chad but I'm reasonably attractive (my picture is on my profile). I just went to the gym, dressed well and took good pictures. Like, it took me a month of bothering my friends to take pictures before I had all the pictures I wanted to create my profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 04:22 AM
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Honestly women I date are attracted to a side of me where I am show a vulnerable side. Hey I even cried in a few dates when I tell a story of how I had to condition myself to tell my mom and sister that I love them. Yes opposite attracts in general(boobs, hips for women, height, beard, muscles for men) but doing the toxic masculinity stuff just isn't attractive to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 04:20 AM
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When you see the effort the average men puts on their appearance you can understand why. Just walk around the city and look at couples and note how many times the guy has put more effort into their appearance than the girl. And yes, women who say this are attracted to men. They just are sad they need to date someone wearing a baseball cap and an ugly t-shirt who doesn't shave their beard properly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 09:04 PM
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We are all competing with other people. My date last week showed me her tinder and had 3700 likes. You can say I'm competing against all of those if you want. But the quality of the average men on OLD is ridiculously low honestly. Have you asked your female friends who are on apps to swipe profiles what they look like? 🤯 Yeah my date is competing with less women but all my matches were women who were articulate and interesting. I never received a "wyd" at midnight.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 07:36 PM
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I don't know. For me it doesn't feel utopian. It's my reality. I've been on 30 first dates this past year and a half. The girls I'm dating are going on a date with me with the expectation that they are going to get casual sex. I'm not there to convince them to, they kind of are into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 04:52 PM
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None. I'm not looking for a ltr and neither are they. I already have a long time girlfriend and they know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 04:46 PM
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I don't agree with your premise. Women want casual sex as much as men in my opinion. And I don't think it has any relevance on the topic. Unless you are implying men are paying for sex through the bar tab.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 03:35 PM
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Maybe I never had the issue because I live in a progressive city in a progressive country and I'm dating progressive women. I never had the talk about the bill. When it's time to pay, everyone takes out their credit card and we split the bill. And it's not a question if who who out while chatting on Bumble. We both swiped right in eachother. We are both attracted to eachother and we both wanna have sex (eventually) with eachother. I feel the idea that the guy pays is rooted in the idea that the …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 03:33 PM
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If this is your take on dumping someone, you are either a sociopath or have never had the displeasure of dumping someone. Everytime I dump someone I feel like shit. It's a hard decision that leaves everyone sad. Dumping someone is a skill. You need to manage their feelings and your feelings 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 04:23 PM
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Well, if they do, it's because of stuff like what you read on PPD. In more progressive or sex positive circles it's less of a stigma though. A few months ago my fwb, me and my gf who is a good friend of my fwb were all laughing about this episode and were trying to identify all the guys she slept with in the last year. It was just a fun game 🤭
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 02:06 AM
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I can believe this. I asked a 30 yo fwb I met in an orgy about her bodycount and she lied about it thinking I would judge her. She said 35 instead of the real number which was 43. We were both sex positive people and I thought we were talking about this the same way we would talk about random things. I didn't expect the self shaming. I don't understand people shaming body count or self shaming themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 01:41 AM
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If she's happy, why wouldn't he be happy for her...
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 01:33 AM
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It's high. A lot of people are virgins at that age. And most people have a body count of 1-2 at that age.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 01:32 AM
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More than 150. But then again not for the body count itself but more about the fact that it would mean they are using sex as an escape from something. Unless they're into gangbangs or swinging. Then it makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 01:31 AM
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You are crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:05 AM
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I'm always open about looking for casual relationships and the women I talk with are usually looking for the same thing so it matches perfectly. When it didn't, we saved ourselves a lot of time by being honest about it The problem is when your online dating profile says looking for a Long-term relationship and you start chatting and you say you just want something casual. If your profile says looking for short term and she matches with you and gets pissed that you want something casual then it's…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 06:55 PM
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I don't understand why someone would thing approaching a random women is better than dating apps. There's a 95% chance she's in a relationship/not interested in dating, let alone interested in you/getting approached. Dating apps have problems but they work. You have to put some effort chatting with a lot of people to find who's interested and who's just bored a Tuesday evening. Yeah you're gonna lose time but it's better than approaching random people.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 02:25 PM
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That is so true. This Trad thing never existed. Women have always worked, albeit usually in lower paying jobs. No one except the rich could afford to have someone not working. How would the proponents of this type of living pay for all this. It's one thing to have a 100k IT salary and buy a 1 bedroom appartment. It's another to need to buy a large house and pay for three kids and a wife not working. For most of human civilization, marriage has been an economic partnership. We need two incomes to…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 05:33 PM
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Talking about travelling is the most safe topic during a date. Everyone loves travelling and vacations! She probably had some baggage related to guys leaving her to go live abroad or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 05:26 PM
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This past year, I had quite a lot casual sex/relationships with different women. I'm 39M and they are around my age (30-47 years old). I treat each of them with respect and consider us equals in the relationship. I pay for my stuff and she pays for hers. If we go to her place and she makes me supper, I'll bring wine and dessert. The relationships you are describing look like sex-work adjacent relationships. They would be offering treating you with a lot of expensive things (hotel, restaurant, ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 06:12 AM
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What Wattehfuk is saying makes a lot of sense. You might disagree with it but it represents modern relationships. If you are not ready to make compromises and treat a partner as an equal, it's gonna be hard to stay in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 06:00 AM
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You can talk about past and future travels, where you went to school. Stuff you did growing up. Just talk randomly about what you like, what you do during your days. People say you should not talk about politics, religion, etc. during a first date but I disagree. I don't want to date a women with a conservative ideology. It's just not gonna work. So if I can learn her political leaning on a first date, I may save us some time! Hey, I talked about my opposition to Bibi Netanyahu's handling of the…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 05:46 AM
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Both can be true but for different type of relationships. If the woman is looking for a casual thing or a hookup of course she's gonna prioritize looks over personnality. Both can also be true for different type of women. Some will want a Chad trophy boyfriend and others will want a boyfriend who's also their best friend, prioritizing personnality over looks. When people say "BP people say this" or "TRP people say that", most of the time they are doing generalization.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 01:35 AM
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Not true. That's actually considered a sexual assault almost everywhere in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 02:10 AM
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It's quite a statement to say most people who practice it are immoral about it...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 09:38 PM
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I like casual sex. Yes it takes some swiping, chatting and a date or two but you discover someone new. I prefer to have repeat encounters though. I never heard of a women who said out of the gate that she's only into one time hookups bit I wouldn't find this very interesting. Just because it's casual doesn't mean you can't have fun talking with this person. I usually have dinner with my regular FWBs. One time she wanted to show me a game she bought. We talked a lot about books and now I'm readin…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 05:39 AM
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Total equality will never be achieved for a number of reason and I don't think that's something people really want. Men and women are different. They want different things in life and that's ok. Equity is much more important but much more hard to achieve because you can't really compare. The job market/remuneration is a hard topic but is often used to describe the progress of equity. Traditionally male low-level jobs are much better paid than traditionally female paying jobs (ex.: construction v…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 04:29 PM
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39M I'm a very kind, mostly attractive, feminist, sensitive man (I've cried on a lot of first date when sensitive topics arose) in an long term commited but open couple. I can give them a fuck buddy/fwb/casual dating/situationship but nothing commited or romantic. I rarely had a first date where the girl didn't want to see me again. And when they did not, it's usually the poly thing that is a problem. A lot of women are looking for someone who is assertive and acts with confidence. This often ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 11:13 PM
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I think the biggest reason men want a FFM threesome is to see two women doing sexual stuff together.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 10:31 PM
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Most millenials and Gen Z don't consider knowing those things important or manly. Maybe older people did.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 11:07 PM
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So you would be ok with all your matches to be able to know who your superior is with a 20 seconds search?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 12:41 AM
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So being able to stalk someone as soon as you match is a good thing? Do you give your first and last name to your dates as soon as you match so they can do it? So they can look at your Facebook, LinkedIn? If the girl I matched with ended up being crazy after a few texts, I don't want her to be able to send a message to my boss or my mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 11:35 PM
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I use a fake name on dating apps because my first name is unique in my country. You google my first name and you find my Facebook and all about me. Not something I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 09:40 PM
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Well it always depends how you say it. Saying... I don't want to date a fat women. I don't want to date someone with an BMI of 25+. I don't want a short man. I don't want to date a guy under 5'5. That's not vile. That's just a normal preference. That's just like saying you won't date a hairdresser. The problem is that some people are vile, some people wait to insult people, some people post ragebait. Everyone can point to a post saying : Look how men/women behave!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 03:38 AM
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Because sex is fun. Not everyone can commit to a relationship. Maybe you are not stable financially or emotionally; or even you are living for three months in another country. Casual sex is great when everyone is on the same page and no one is lying about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 02:37 AM
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I don't talk about this at my work because I don't think my sex life is a normal topic in this environment. But all my friends know and honestly a lot of them just told me they have more and more friends coming out as open/poly or they took this opportunity to come out or express interest. I don't understand the virgin thing though. For me it just invites problems. My girlfriend was a virgin when we got together 15 years ago and she was always curious what sex would be like with other people. Wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 09:17 PM
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In your story, why would the house be in the man's name? If you buy a house and put two names on the deed like you do when you buy a house with a husband/wife, it would nullify this aspect? I agree with your point of wanting to be protected by something if you commit time to a relationship though. Where I come from, after an unmarried seperation, you still divide the assets that were bought during your time together. And being married doesn't mean the husband or wife can't leave. Divorce/split r…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 06:12 PM
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What's the difference for you between a long term bf with whom you buy a house and have kids and a husband with whom you have the same things? Why does it differ? I guess it differs from place to place but where I'm from there is no real difference from an unofficial civil union (you never sign anything but you live together) and a marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 05:10 PM
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I can understand how someone with religious, traditionalist or conservative beliefs can find this decadent. I'm not gonna argue against it even if I disagree with it. Every generation is considered decadent/lazy/amoral by their predecessors. But we are living in a society where you can live your life without leaving your house and having real face to face interactions. That's more decadent than people having the opportunity to live single while also benefitting from the advantages of companionsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 01:05 AM
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"whole relationship thing just makes you look weak like you keep her there for when noone else is knocking" I don't understand this part. My gf and I have been together for 15 years and own a house together. She's not there "when noone else is knocking", she's there with me all the time because she's who I want to grow old with. I'm aware that a power dynamic can develop because I don't have to rely on lover#1 for affection but she may have to. Although nothing prevents them from looking for ano…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 12:12 AM
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As you get older, it's something you'll hear a lot. Women hornyness can be quite something. Not everyone is in a place where they need a life partner, but every women needs to get dicked down 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 03:59 PM
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Casual sex doesn't necessarily mean random hookups. It can be regular casual sex with the same person who still cares about them and wants to make them cum. Like a FWB style relationship. It limits the risks of STDs and augments the chance she'll be able to cum regularly.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 02:31 PM
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Are you looking for a simple answer to all women's dating problems? Some women have patterns and always end up with the same type of guys. Maybe it's their fault for not seeing the red flags, maybe it's that she is not in a good place herself, maybe the things she is looking for in partners just doesn't make sense. At the same time, some people are just unlucky and will never find the right person for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 10:59 PM
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What if she's bi? Can only talk to plants and animals? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 06:13 PM
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It's written on my dating profile that I have a girlfriend. They knew of her and we talked about it during the first date. I dont shy about talking about my girlfriend to my "side chicks" (I hate the term!) My gf is ok with it because we use protection. She has "side guys" too. Loving my girlfriend doesn't mean I can't develop feelings for other people too. We just don't commit to the other relationships like we do in the "main" one. Everyone is honest in this and it's really fulfilling ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 04:54 AM
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Right now I have two "side chicks". Both know of my girlfriend and of one another. They haven't met but that could end up happening down the line. What they get out of the relationship is what they told me they want : right now they want a casual relationship with affection, cuddles, sex, friendship without the commitment of a "regular" relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 11:26 PM
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Some people can't conceptualize that two things can be true. The fact that you can be happy being single doesn't invalidate that they can be happy in a relationship. There is also some people that are unhappy with their relationship and are taking it out on single people when they refuse to get in the mold they are in.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 07:04 AM
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My single woman friends are asked the same question by relatives all the time. People just assume being single is always a failure to find a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 12:33 AM
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I think it's more that the last 267 times a stranger talked about their boobs it was in a creepy way...
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 07:39 AM
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I've been in discussions about body parts/shapes with girls that were good friends and I've complimented the boob shapes of my friends. I've said things like : Yeah this shirt is really flattering, the guys at the rave will like how it makes your boobs pop. But those were good friends that knew I was not hitting on them. Not sure you can really pull it off with someone who doesn't 100% trust you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 07:32 AM
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At the same time, we see those problems appearing because our society has it really easy. 200 years ago you would start working around 10 years old, work 65 hours per week and die around 50 years old. In those time, you did not have time to wonder if you had enough friends, you had no time to hang out with them anyway... Revolutions create a lot of unexpected problems, destroys things we take for granted...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 11:57 PM
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Yes, our societies have some issues we need to deal with that stems from being too individualistic. I'm not sure anyone knows how to tackle them. It's something we need to talk more. Hopefully the discourse around mental health issues can lead to trying to solve the loneliness epidemic.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 10:17 PM
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You list a lot of complex problems in your post OP. They don't all have the same root cause. And most of them have multiple complexe causes. The loneliness epidemic is caused by a mixture of social media, possibility to have communicate with loved ones from long distance and a lot of other reasons. Social media has convinced us we don't need to have a community around us. That means we don't talk to our neighbors, our grocer, our postman. Having the possibility to entertain long distance relatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 04:30 PM
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True. Safe sex is never 100% safe. But in general, trying to convince horny teenagers and young adult to not have sex is a losing proposition. They'll have sex either way. If you make sure they understand how to mitigate the risks, that's how you reduce STDs and unwanted pregnancies.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 03:40 PM
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Maybe. But the biggest difference between an environment where people learn that it is "wise to save for the one they would want to spend their life with and have children with" and one where sex is normalized is that the former will have more STDs and unwanted pregnancies 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 01:28 AM
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Having safe sex is not a life changing decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 12:54 AM
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Marrying and having kids young is a recipe for disaster. More chance to have a divorce and a poorer family in general. 22 year olds don't know who they are yet. They should avoid making life-changing decisions like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 10:33 PM
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It always depends on how it's brought up, who you are and who she is. I don't bring up sex with the aim of having sex on the first date. When I do have sex on the first date, it's because she invited me home. I'm 39M and date for casual relationships (I already have a girlfriend). Most people who match with me had kids or don't want them and are looking for once-a-week sex. But it's all in how you bring it up. I'm not a Chad but I don't shy away from talking about my girlfriend to my dates and t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 03:41 AM
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You can still make a point of saying you listen to your partners needs during sex. Between sex positive people, the topic of what people like to do during sex can come up during a first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 01:09 AM
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I wonder if the difficulty of women to orgasm is a way to encourage women to have sex with a second partner after the first one finishes. She's still horny so she may try to find a second partner and make sure she gets impregnated.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 01:02 AM
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A lot of women want casual sex, fwb arrangements, etc. Most of my friends had a few casual relationships this year.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 06:53 AM
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Most people don't need infinite money. Having more money doesn't make you happier. A couple who is very well off (2x100k is more than enough) doesn't desperately need more. Why would someone making 100k desperately want someone making 300k. There is not much difference once you get past a certain point (you get taxed a lot more on higher income. Where I live it's 53% income tax on income over 100k)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 07:29 PM
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She makes money if it's shared a lot. So it's made to be shared. Who's gonna share this? I think it's mostly : Young women sharing this with girlfriends saying ironically "Haha we should do this". Men sharing this saying "Women are shallow gold diggers". Rage bait sells a lot more clicks unfortunately. That's why there is a whole industry around it 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 06:33 PM
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This is obviously rage bait for red pills. I think you'd ideally want to earn about the same as your partner. So a woman making 100k could realistically want someone making 70k-130k. So that there is no power dynamic based on money.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 05:15 PM
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Well if someone bluntly asks you what you bring to the table in a first or second date yeah that's a big red flag. But saying you only need to bring your feminine energy is equally problematic. Both people are supposed to contribute equally to the relationship. Not everyone will bring exactly the same thing but both need to contribute. It leads into the "men are providers and women are there for their looks and to make babies" weird Trad mentality. It just doesn't work in real life. If what a wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 01:08 AM
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I got laid off in February 2023 and just now found a new job (I wasn't pressed for money since I got paid till November 2023). But let me tell you, doing nothing all day, week, month is long, depressing and you feel useless. At some point, I'd take a boring job over doing nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 05:13 PM
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I think a relationship will be better if no one has any surprises about past sexual experiences. And from my point of view, I don't want to be with someone that treats sex as something mystical or shameful. I'm not talking about telling your partner everything you did with everyone. And not on the first date either (though sometime I do when they are extra kinky🤭). But overtime I think it's important.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 06:42 PM
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I don't like half truths when talking about this. I like being 100% honest about sex. If I've experienced something I'll say it. I think about sex like two(or more 🤭) adults playing monopoly together. Why try to hide it, why be ashamed of the number of time you've done it?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 05:26 PM
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I agree. Especially about the who. What you did with Peggy Sue is between her and you. She may not want it know to all your future partners that she likes being tied.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 05:20 PM
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From my experience, asking your current partner to do some things they did with previous partners is totally ok. You just have to realize that sexual chemistry and compatibility can take time to develop. If she did BDSM or threesomes with previous partners, she may not be interested in trying this early in the relationship. Maybe you were pushy when you asked them to do those things to you. Or maybe you oversexualized this part of their past (like some guys do with bisexual women; I know I've be…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 07:13 AM
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I think talking about what you like and what you don't like in bed is important. That will usually imply what you've done before. If I say I like being pegged or that I like when my partner plays with my nipples, it says I've already experienced it with another partner. I had a talk like this with one of my lover this week. She said she wanted to try bondage. I told her I had tied people before and what type of thing I would like to do to her. It's healthy and sex-positive. Why hide the fact tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 07:07 AM
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I never heard of anyone even talking about paternity tests in real life. Is it something that people talk about in the USA or is it something misogynists are obsessed about? (Because it's something men could be the victim of, for once)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 10:32 PM
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That's some nice flirting right there!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 07:35 PM
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I'm here with you. People should not get into a commited long-term relationship as virgins. Everyone needs to experiment a bit. Odds are that the first one is not the right one.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 07:53 AM
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You don't need to say it beforehand. If someone calls me daddy during sex I'll just say that I don't like it that's all. It doesn't have to be weird I ask a lot of things during sex. I get some yes and some no and that's fine. Do you like it when I do this? Are you a dom or a sub? Do you prefer I play with your clit, gspot, both? 1 or 2 fingers? Do you like nip clips? Do you prefer slowing thrusts or faster thrusts? Are you a squirter?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 07:44 AM
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This is something I've seen on incel forums that I don't understand. Most of not all people attracted to women around me love tattooed girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 07:35 AM
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Into reality tv Posting everything on instagram Low body count (I've seen a correlation between people with low body count (less than 10 people) and how they behave in bed. I don't want to be a girl's third sexual partner...) Religious views Conservative mentality, not a feminist Not sex positive (kink-shaming) The dumb influencer accent Fat Plastic surgeries
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 07:29 AM
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Makes sense. Who wants to be someone's second sexual partner when you had 40+ partners. I want my sexual partners to have experience, not be shy prudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 07:28 AM
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Ok, I reread your take and I'm changing me view on it. I still don't like the use of the term dominate. No one wants to be dominated in a relationship. Most women like an assertive partner. Assertiveness is sexy. It's sexy in men and in women. Yes, most women like that their date looks interested in them. If they are open to getting approached, most women like getting approached or hit on (do it in pickup bars, not when she's working as a cashier). That confidence is sexy. And it's sexy in women…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 10:51 PM
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I'll take your comment from the sexual side because if it's from the relationship side, it's bollocks. From my experience, a non trivial number/lot of women like to be submissive in bed. It's s a popular kink. They liked to be objectified and used. But that's a kink that is developed inside an established sexual relationship. The submissive has to give their consent to be dominated. Inside this power dynamic, the submissive has control of when they give the power to the dom. I had this discussio…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 08:52 PM
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This goes opposite of my personal experience : I'm a nice, considerate, good looking guy who loves to listen to people. I regularly message girls with whom I have a casual dating/fucking relationship asking about their day. I truely care about them as persons and they feel it. I don't ghost, gaslight or demean them. I'm honest about what I expect from the relationship and what I can offer. And you know what? They love that. They like having someone who's there for them. Who listens, who asks how…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 07:42 PM
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This is somewhat true but what it actually says is that a lot of men are willing to do to anything have sex. Don't blame women for this, blame men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 11:48 PM
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I think men seeing men from the point of view of women would help them understand what makes a men sexy and attractive. I don't know why but most men don't seem to understand what makes men attractive and it prevents them from changing to be more pleasing to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 07:27 AM
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There is a lot of luck in everything that happens to us, dating included. Is the right person for you swiping today? Is the right person single at that time? Does someone ask them out one day before you? Did they meet an interesting person the week before and is not emotionally available anymore?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 03:27 PM
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I steer the topic to one that will make me emotional and that will probably make me shed a tear. It makes me vulnerable and women like this. Usually they'll initiate a physical contact when they see shedding a tear when I talk about my dead father. I'll make sure to put my hands on her thigh in the first 45 minutes of the date to see how she reacts.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 07:32 AM
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I go on first dates almost every week. After a few, you realize it's almost always the same thing : You match on Hinge/Bumble/Feeld/Tinder, you chat a bit talking about cats, sports, music, jobs and a day or two later you ask them to go grab a drink to get to know eachother. It can be a coffee, sit in a park drinking kombucha, go to a bar. Like people said, sex is not the most important part of the date. What's important : Getting to know the other, seeing if you like them and making them unders…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 07:26 AM
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