Karaokoki Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Divorce attorney says that in 13 years of practice, the women who were her most difficult or litigious were the SAHMs. My ex would describe me the same as you describe your STBX, despite the fact that I did much more than he ever realized. Once we split, he ended up getting a girlfriend who he moved in REAL fast to help with childcare, because he couldn't handle the kids on his own for his every other weekend.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/22 03:41 AM
5	Both men and women just want to be treated like they are human My protective instincts are greater than any man I've known.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/22 04:25 AM
5	Both men and women just want to be treated like they are human My dad repeatedly violated my boundaries and smacked and pinched my ass because he wanted to. Another male family member sexually molested me as a child. The men in my family were the problem. If my mom had been a feminist, she wouldn't have stuck around; she'd have gotten her and me out of there. But she believed the bullshit of man being the head of the home, women need men, etc. Feminism was my salvation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/22 01:48 AM
0	If a husband claims “Ever since we had a kid, my wife cares less about me”, he’s automatically the problem in the relationship. Men very typically overestimate theur contribution to running the household. Even when men self report splitting housework and childcare equally, it is not always accurate. Just like men statistically perceive in mixed gender discussions, women are speaking the majority of the time when it's actually observed/measured to be something like 30%.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/22 02:34 PM
4	If a husband claims “Ever since we had a kid, my wife cares less about me”, he’s automatically the problem in the relationship. I did all those things, and it still wasn't enough. Also, if she's doing all the cooking, housework, and childcare, she's not going to have energy for sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/22 01:59 PM
3	If a husband claims “Ever since we had a kid, my wife cares less about me”, he’s automatically the problem in the relationship. Right. Like not expecting your wife to do the majority of housework and childcare.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/22 01:58 PM
0	If a husband claims “Ever since we had a kid, my wife cares less about me”, he’s automatically the problem in the relationship. Duties as a spouse I'm thinking is code for sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/22 01:54 PM
2	If a husband claims “Ever since we had a kid, my wife cares less about me”, he’s automatically the problem in the relationship. Servitude means cooking, housekeeping, childcare, and sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/22 01:54 PM
2	If a husband claims “Ever since we had a kid, my wife cares less about me”, he’s automatically the problem in the relationship. Servitude? That's not enough though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/22 01:17 PM
5	If a husband claims “Ever since we had a kid, my wife cares less about me”, he’s automatically the problem in the relationship. You don't think taking care of a child is bringing anything to the table?	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/22 01:15 PM
7	What would happen if men and women exchange their situations in dating ? Sounds great, honestly. I'm in.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/22 06:35 AM
1	Q4W: If you discovered a man wore a hair piece after having sex with him, how would you feel? There's absolutely nothing wrong with doing something that increases your confidence. So my immediate internal reaction would be, "Good for him!"	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/22 12:14 PM
1	women (and guys) are you currently leading someone on that you don't have feelings for? if so, why? be honest this is reddit. Ah, you're a nihilist?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/22 11:09 AM
2	women (and guys) are you currently leading someone on that you don't have feelings for? if so, why? be honest this is reddit. I hope you find a way to balance your needs, for your own sake. You're definitely worth making choices that don't leave you filled with self contempt.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/22 03:49 PM
1	women (and guys) are you currently leading someone on that you don't have feelings for? if so, why? be honest this is reddit. And more sex is genuinely more important to you than being a good person?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/22 11:04 AM
2	women (and guys) are you currently leading someone on that you don't have feelings for? if so, why? be honest this is reddit. I don't understand this. You would sleep with someone for debate points?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/22 11:03 AM
1	women (and guys) are you currently leading someone on that you don't have feelings for? if so, why? be honest this is reddit. Can't you have sex without being a douchebag?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/22 03:00 AM
3	women (and guys) are you currently leading someone on that you don't have feelings for? if so, why? be honest this is reddit. Post nut clarity?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/04/22 06:22 PM
5	women (and guys) are you currently leading someone on that you don't have feelings for? if so, why? be honest this is reddit. There are plenty of people into hookups. It's cruel to mess with someone's feelings like that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/04/22 06:22 PM
43	women (and guys) are you currently leading someone on that you don't have feelings for? if so, why? be honest this is reddit. I've never done this and don't understand why anyone would.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/04/22 12:50 PM
1	Why do some women still choose to be stay at home parents? Yeah. I live in an impoverished area, and there really weren't many resources. I was active on Twitter at the time, so I ended up creating a GoFundMe that my followers contributed to. My family was completely unsupportive, because they're religious and believe divorce for any reason is a sin. I had no job and I couldn't use all my TracFone minutes to call places, since I didn't know when I'd have money to replenish it. I did eventually end up getting a cell from DSS, but that took awhile.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/04/22 04:26 AM
1	Why do some women still choose to be stay at home parents? Interesting. I left my ex with 5 kids while pregnant with #6 and a TracFone. I couldn't get any assistance other than SNAP, not even childcare grant money.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/04/22 03:55 AM
7	Statements like “women don’t owe you sex“ and “men aren’t entitled to women’s bodies” are not accurate depictions of how the vast majority of men think and simply more deflections If the majority of men don't think this way, then why do many men immediately act like a date is leading anywhere? Dates are for getting to know each other to see if you're compatible before moving on to sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/22 03:36 PM
2	Why do some women still choose to be stay at home parents? Going back to school is not an option for everyone. I'm really glad that your mother had that opportunity!	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/22 01:10 PM
7	Why do some women still choose to be stay at home parents? You can't easily go back into the workforce unless you're talking retail or food service. Gaps on your resume don't inspire confidence in employers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/22 07:32 AM
2	Why do some women still choose to be stay at home parents? I can't answer this question. I hated it!	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/22 07:31 AM
7	Why do some women still choose to be stay at home parents? The women who chose to do this find that role fulfilling.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/22 06:41 AM
1	Men are shamed for wanting women equally or less attractive than them and acting frustrated when these women act like they are out of their league, yet women act entitled to men far more attractive than them all the time Ok	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/22 06:15 AM
1	Men are shamed for wanting women equally or less attractive than them and acting frustrated when these women act like they are out of their league, yet women act entitled to men far more attractive than them all the time And men don't? This whole sub is projection.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/22 06:03 AM
10	Divorce attorney says that in 13 years of practice, the women who were her most difficult or litigious were the SAHMs. Me, too! We're definitely healthier people apart from each other. He even called me for parenting input for one of our kids (we have 6; I got custody of 2 because they were old enough to decide which parent to live with, and the judge ruled against the recommendation of the children's attorney that all the kids should be in my primary custody) today, which astounded me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/22 05:46 AM
2	Do you respect someone who has consistently dated out of their supposed league less or more? Leagues for me are based on character, not looks. If someone with bad character consistently runs through relationships with people of good character, my assumption is that the person with bad character is using the other people. If someone with good character consistently dates those with bad character, well, then their character isn't as good as I thought.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/22 05:14 AM
2	Men are shamed for wanting women equally or less attractive than them and acting frustrated when these women act like they are out of their league, yet women act entitled to men far more attractive than them all the time You sure seem to know an awful lot about women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/22 04:50 AM
1	Men are shamed for wanting women equally or less attractive than them and acting frustrated when these women act like they are out of their league, yet women act entitled to men far more attractive than them all the time These differences are not as fundamental as you think. The only difference I've observed is that a shocking number of men tend to think sex is a right rather than a privilege. Many of my woman friends are hypersexual and have ridiculously high sex drives. We just tend to use toys instead of men's bodies for sexual gratification.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/22 04:42 AM
20	Divorce attorney says that in 13 years of practice, the women who were her most difficult or litigious were the SAHMs. Oh, no. He put all the blame on me and had everyone else convinced he was the innocent victim and that I was the one causing all the contention in the divorce. Meanwhile, I waived my right to receive alimony and agreed to other things that ended up really hurting me, just because I wanted it to be over.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/22 04:33 AM
19	Men are shamed for wanting women equally or less attractive than them and acting frustrated when these women act like they are out of their league, yet women act entitled to men far more attractive than them all the time If a man is desperate to fuck, I can assure you, he is not top tier in the eyes of women	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/22 07:12 PM
19	women: be honest have you ever agreed to a date just for the purpose of rejecting him later? No, wtf? That sounds like sociopathic behavior.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/22 05:29 PM
48	Divorce attorney says that in 13 years of practice, the women who were her most difficult or litigious were the SAHMs. My ex husband was a scorched earth person. He was a minister, which I think, while not as obvious as those other professions for making divorce as difficult and litigious as possible, should not be overlooked. In some denominations, clergy who are divorced are no longer considered eligible to continue in ministry and are losing their livelihoods.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/22 04:27 PM
2	What would like the other gender to change about themselves? You make a good point about 1 & 3 feeding into each other. I think you miss my actual point of 1.5. It's not about only wanting sex. It's about seeing women primarily as potential sex objects instead of people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/22 07:32 AM
7	What would like the other gender to change about themselves? I blane men for not understanding or pretending not to understand boundaries. No means no, not "please convince me." I also wish many men would admit they don't actually like women as people; they just want to have sex with women's anatomy that meets their specs. I believe men don't understand that their conclusions about women as a whole are generally wrong, because they're projecting their values, perspectives, and experiences as men onto women. Wayyyyyyy too many women don't know how to be di…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/04/22 04:13 PM
1	Women, how often have you run into micro vs bigger dicks? I've had quite a few partners with smaller penises. One was micro and four have been below average. Of these five, four were amazing lovers. One was just selfish in bed and took it as a personal offense if I suggested things that actually worked well for me. Three have been well above average. One was really good at sex but just left after he came, which made me feel used. One was so big that sex wasn't enjoyable. And the third is a literal sex god, but that's because he's autistic and basically…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/22 07:21 PM
3	Isolation with traditional wants in feminist spaces The horror! /s	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/22 07:00 PM
9	Isolation with traditional wants in feminist spaces Hard same. I'm the head of household because I make more money, and my husband does the majority of household chores. But in the bedroom, it's opposite. And some types of feminists have real problems with women taking a submissive role, even when it's the woman's completely consensual, uncoerced decision. I don't get it. Feminism is supposed to be about personal choice and elevating the status and well being of everyone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/22 06:14 PM
2	Isolation with traditional wants in feminist spaces Some women are deeply fulfilled in traditional roles. That's absolutely fine. It's not for me, and that's also fine. The trick is finding someone whose values match your own.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/22 06:05 PM
3	In what situation is it ok/ not ok for your partner to have friends of the opposite sex (or whatever they’re attracted to) Oh, women have agency to say no, and that's what men who think this way are mad about. Women say no because they sense they're not being seen as people, and then those men get mad because women don't want to have sex with them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/22 06:03 PM
2	In what situation is it ok/ not ok for your partner to have friends of the opposite sex (or whatever they’re attracted to) Only men who view women as objects instead of full people think this way. "Knowing how men think" in this case is assuming that because you as a man think this way, most or all men think this way. This is fallacious.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/22 02:41 PM
1	How big of a deal is it, dating someone who has different political beliefs than you do? Are relationships better when both people are on the same page, politically? Or do political differences make for more interesting interactions? Just curious what people think. You're missing my point. Women are not more emotional than men. Women have better emotional intelligence than men because we're conditioned to. Just because we are told (or you've been told and believe) that women are more emotional doesn't mean they are more emotional.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/22 05:22 PM
1	How big of a deal is it, dating someone who has different political beliefs than you do? Are relationships better when both people are on the same page, politically? Or do political differences make for more interesting interactions? Just curious what people think. Women are told they're emotional because of misogyny. Also, the way you describe men functioning is exactly how women function. I absolutely notice my emotional response, figure out the cause, use logic to process and problem solve, then move on. There's no letting emotion control us and reacting unless we've been gaslit to hell and back.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/22 05:18 PM
3	The threat of violence and sexual assault, while real, is dramatically overblown and overused by women as an excuse for misandrist behavior and to generalize the entire male population, most of which is harmless to them Actually, compassion towards women in abusive situations saves lives. Blaming them is what kills.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/22 08:00 AM
2	The threat of violence and sexual assault, while real, is dramatically overblown and overused by women as an excuse for misandrist behavior and to generalize the entire male population, most of which is harmless to them Because you've never experienced it Honestly, I hope you never do. But if you do, I hope you receive more compassion then you express here.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/22 07:26 AM
1	The threat of violence and sexual assault, while real, is dramatically overblown and overused by women as an excuse for misandrist behavior and to generalize the entire male population, most of which is harmless to them If only it were that easy. There's so much emotional manipulation involved in these scenarios that you don't realize what's happening until it's too late. And when you do realize and leave, you're vilified, because "he's such a good guy who cares about you so much!"	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/22 07:20 AM
4	How big of a deal is it, dating someone who has different political beliefs than you do? Are relationships better when both people are on the same page, politically? Or do political differences make for more interesting interactions? Just curious what people think. Women spend their entire lives being told we're too emotional and learning to separate logic from emotion. Men are told they're more logical by default and thus mistake their emotions for logic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/22 07:10 AM
2	The threat of violence and sexual assault, while real, is dramatically overblown and overused by women as an excuse for misandrist behavior and to generalize the entire male population, most of which is harmless to them You're completely missing the point. We don't know who's abusive until they start abusing us. And the majority of abusers wait until the relationship is firmly established before starting with minor abuses. Minor abuses meaning trying to control what a woman wears and painting it as being disrespectful to him if he doesn't approve of her clothing. Demanding she check in constantly, because he's "so worried" about her. Showing up at her work frequently because he "misses her so much."	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/22 07:07 AM
1	The threat of violence and sexual assault, while real, is dramatically overblown and overused by women as an excuse for misandrist behavior and to generalize the entire male population, most of which is harmless to them I feel 1000x more safe around Black men than I do white men. Black men in the US face racism and being unfairly targeted. They are not as a whole going to do anything that is going to trigger a woman's Spidey senses. If I have the choice of walking alone in a non-white, lower class neighborhood with open drug dealing or past a bar with a bunch of white frat boys, I'm picking the former every single time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/22 07:03 AM
1	The threat of violence and sexual assault, while real, is dramatically overblown and overused by women as an excuse for misandrist behavior and to generalize the entire male population, most of which is harmless to them Because once one woman finally enforces boundaries, he moves on to someone who doesn't.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/22 06:47 AM
1	Virginity is a choice Virginity is a construct. Celibacy is a choice.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/22 08:44 PM
2	The threat of violence and sexual assault, while real, is dramatically overblown and overused by women as an excuse for misandrist behavior and to generalize the entire male population, most of which is harmless to them Well, that's a really gross and uninformed take. Yes, I've had all kinds of consensual sex with several genders.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/22 05:24 PM
1	The threat of violence and sexual assault, while real, is dramatically overblown and overused by women as an excuse for misandrist behavior and to generalize the entire male population, most of which is harmless to them Idk, the experiences of trans women who were socialized and treated as men prior to transitioning seem to state otherwise.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/22 05:02 PM
8	The threat of violence and sexual assault, while real, is dramatically overblown and overused by women as an excuse for misandrist behavior and to generalize the entire male population, most of which is harmless to them I'm so sorry that happened to you. I actually would like to talk with you about it if you think it would help you feel heard and validated. Some people are simply cruel. And some of us cross paths with those types of people more than once. It's not anyone's fault for getting assaulted. Life is Russian roulette. Sometimes you get unlucky.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/22 05:01 PM
12	The threat of violence and sexual assault, while real, is dramatically overblown and overused by women as an excuse for misandrist behavior and to generalize the entire male population, most of which is harmless to them I wish it were. I know humans have a mechanism wherein our brains minimize horrible things so that we can function. I'm fairly certain that's what happens when women talk about being sexually assaulted or raped, because none of us wants to live in a society where such occurrences are common. The silver lining is that I am as a result deeply empathetic to men who have been victims of sexual assault and rape, rather than being dismissive of their very real pain and trauma.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/22 02:57 PM
43	The threat of violence and sexual assault, while real, is dramatically overblown and overused by women as an excuse for misandrist behavior and to generalize the entire male population, most of which is harmless to them You haven't lived as a woman and do not share those experiences. Instead of downplaying these claims, you could try looking at reported statistics. And keep in mind that sexual assault and rape are underreported. I have been raped by 3 different men (as well as sexually abused as a child by a man), and I reported exactly zero of those. Almost every woman with whom I have discussed this topic has been assaulted in some way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/22 02:46 PM
6	Does the act of 'puppying' by a guy actually makes you consider seeing him as a boyfriend? And here we have an example of a man being irrational. And getting in his feels because men aren't more special than women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/22 01:19 PM
3	Does the act of 'puppying' by a guy actually makes you consider seeing him as a boyfriend? It's not true that women are less intelligent and rational than men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/22 12:49 PM
3	Does the act of 'puppying' by a guy actually makes you consider seeing him as a boyfriend? There's that, plus being dismissed as less intelligent/rational.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/22 04:38 AM
13	Does the act of 'puppying' by a guy actually makes you consider seeing him as a boyfriend? As a woman, I would see this as a red flag. If I spoke to him about my discomfort with his behavior and he continued doing it, I would attempt to get a restraining order.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/22 04:33 AM
3	The logistics of dating as a man. Game stores Hobby shops Bowling alleys Basically, have an interest or hobby that takes you outside of your home. I promise there will be women there. The issue, however, is that women enjoying themselves in public or participating in their hobbies in public places are not always open to being approached to be asked out. Please don't lead with that. Start by getting to know them first and building rapport.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/22 03:32 AM
1	Women love it when men impress them Oh, I've said that. But I'm short and look younger than my age, so men think that I'm easily manipulated.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/22 09:57 AM
1	Women love it when men impress them Disagree with the paying for a date no matter what she says part. In my experience, if a guy pays for a date, he very often acts like I owe him some kind of sexual favor. Additionally, if I say no and someone insists on doing it over my protests, they've just shown me they don't understand consent. I will not be investing more time on someone like that. The rest of your post is pretty accurate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/22 09:46 AM
4	Do you think masculinity and femininity are on a spectrum? My dad is very much how you describe yours. He's why I see "alpha males" as extremely dangerous and something to avoid. My current husband cries when he's sad, talks about his feelings when he's angry instead of yelling, doesn't act dismissive when I get emotional, and is simultaneously very masculine. I adore that he's comfortable with expressing both masculine and feminine traits, because his ability to do so means I can relax and feel safe in his presence.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/22 11:52 AM
1	Do you think masculinity and femininity are on a spectrum? Beautifully put.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/22 11:49 AM
2	Q4Men: If you want a relationship with a woman, why do you want one? What do you want that relationship to look like? That makes sense and is often a great beginning to relationships. I hope this is exactly what happens for you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/22 05:06 AM
2	Q4Men: If you want a relationship with a woman, why do you want one? What do you want that relationship to look like? How do you know you'd be fine marrying her prior to dating her? Is this ideally a situation where you've been friends for awhile and already know each other well before transitioning to a dating relationship?	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/22 04:54 AM
2	Will Smith is a great example of how weak men are today, and why men (especially weak men) should not be getting married That's entirely possible. We only saw the actions and can't actually know his mental and emotional motivation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/22 06:59 PM
0	Will Smith is a great example of how weak men are today, and why men (especially weak men) should not be getting married You've never given a socially expected response when you felt differently? If you haven't, that's pretty impressive. As a woman, I've smiled through verbal abuse and giggled through sexual harassment, because I'm socially pressured to be nice and not make a scene. And sometimes, even though I've initially responded one way because I've been programmed to, once my true feelings kick in, my secondary response is completely different.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/22 06:58 PM
1	Will Smith is a great example of how weak men are today, and why men (especially weak men) should not be getting married I think his anger was genuinely his own and not secondary because his wife put him up to it. Also, why are so many people saying Jada cheated? They were on a break at Will's behest.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/22 03:14 PM
12	Do your partners know your n count? My husband knows my count. My other partners don't, because they've never asked. I haven't asked about theirs, either. I don't go out of my way to avoid discussing it; it just hadn't come up because honestly? None of us really care. I've never lied about my count to anyone, and it's obvious that I'm very interested in sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/22 02:41 PM
9	Will Smith is a great example of how weak men are today, and why men (especially weak men) should not be getting married It's an example of toxic masculinity. Can't handle his feelings and lashes out violently to prove his masculinity.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/22 02:13 PM
19	Q4W: At what age did you lose your virginity? It was not nice. The sex was terrible and didn't get better. I had nobody to compare him to and it was still bad. I tell my kids it's okay to take people for a test drive to make sure you're sexually compatible before making a commitment like marriage.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/22 05:42 AM
3	Q4W: At what age did you lose your virginity? I was 22 and it was my wedding night. Hooray, purity culture.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/22 05:31 AM
12	Both men and women just want to be treated like they are human I'm angry because I've actually been raped by multiple men, so it's not an unfounded fear or something theoretical. And I see other men being dismissive of my experiences because not all men have raped me. Or blaming me for being raped, as if it's somehow my fault these men presented themselves one way, then acted completely differently when told no.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/22 04:14 AM
2	Women. What percentage of men do you meet in your regular day to day basis that you are attracted to? I'm attracted to personalities more than looks. It's very rare that I see someone that I'm immediately sexually attracted to, and the majority of the time, that person isn't what society considers conventionally attractive. I'm pansexual, so this applies to all genders equally. I can view a person and acknowledge they are beautiful, but I don't typically get pants feelings just by looking at someone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/22 02:44 AM
1	Almost every woman has a type of guy they'd be willing to make the first move on, so if you had to make the first move to get with your partner, odds are she finds a different type more attractive than you This is incredibly presumptive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/22 01:08 PM
1	Q4All: At a certain age is it true that people stop trying to improve/become attractive to the opposite sex? I (pansexual woman) can't speak for everyone, but I improve myself for me. I want to be the best version of myself I can possibly be, since it's not guaranteed I'll have my partner forever. I don't care about what's attractive to others. Not everyone is going to find me attractive, and that's ok! I'm not going to stress over trying to please a group of people. The ones who are attracted to me are the right ones for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/22 09:39 AM
1	Why High N counts are Red Flags in both genders but moreso women. I was verbally abused (yelled at, criticized, belittled, gaslit, insulted), financially abused (I was a SAHM, but if my family sent me birthday or Xmas money, I had to give it to him), controlled (no access to computer, because he put a parental control password on it, had the mileage on the vehicle I drove documented to ensure I went only to the grocery store and nowhere else, was only allowed to get together with friends if I took the kids with me, was not allowed any time to myself) and was t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 12:10 PM
2	Why should women partner up with their equal, where did that rule come from? I'm not going to change your mind.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 11:58 AM
1	Why High N counts are Red Flags in both genders but moreso women. I said abuse, not violence.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 11:58 AM
1	Why High N counts are Red Flags in both genders but moreso women. There was a lot of other abuse leading up to it. However, I grew up in an abusive home and honestly believed that's just how families were. My dad yelled at and belittled my mom and us kids. He went overboard with the physical discipline. He was controlling Since that was all I knew, I didn't know better. And he (my ex) didn't beat me. He punched me once in the arm because he was mad. I was pregnant. But that one punch was when I started making plans to leave.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 11:03 AM
4	Why High N counts are Red Flags in both genders but moreso women. That's likely. The issue is that "a lot" is pretty subjective. What is a lot/damaging for one person is not problematic for another. Which is why it's so hard to quantify all of this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 10:54 AM
2	Why High N counts are Red Flags in both genders but moreso women. In my defense, we were married 13 years before it escalated to physical violence. And I'm 43, for reference. I got married at 22 and had only that one partner for those 13 years.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 09:55 AM
3	Why High N counts are Red Flags in both genders but moreso women. n=13, and I don't know if others consider it high. But I was raised in Purity Culture, so it feels high due to my background. Single mom was because of a divorce and a restraining order, so I guess my bad decision was marrying someone who escalated to hitting me. Technically a divorced mom, but effectively a single one. I've learned from the experiences!	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 09:42 AM
3	Why High N counts are Red Flags in both genders but moreso women. You'd hate me irl, then. I was a single mom, and I have a high n count. Not any of the others you mentioned, though. I do want to thank you for taking the time to explain your perspective to me! I see so much anger in a lot of men's groups, and that doesn't come from nowhere. I'm trying to understand the root causes of that anger, because we as a society can't improve things if we only address the symptoms.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 09:31 AM
3	Why High N counts are Red Flags in both genders but moreso women. Can you describe what you mean by trashy? For instance, being rude and cursing at you? Or worse, not treating you like a human being?	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 09:23 AM
15	Why should women partner up with their equal, where did that rule come from? I'm going to respectfully disagree with Women naturally want to cater to men Historically, women have been taught to cater to men. It may appear natural to an outside viewer, but it's something that is conditioned from very early ages.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 09:21 AM
3	Why High N counts are Red Flags in both genders but moreso women. That sounds very healthy. Good for you!	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 09:14 AM
2	Why High N counts are Red Flags in both genders but moreso women. I find that happening, as well. I don't care as much as I did when I was younger. Probably because stuff doesn't always directly affect me. And emotional support takes energy I just don't have anymore.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 09:11 AM
2	Why High N counts are Red Flags in both genders but moreso women. Thank you! That makes sense. So it's kind of like empathy burn out. You've given and cared, and then when they hurt you, you care a bit less and don't have as much patience for the next person's issues. Does that sound accurate?	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 09:04 AM
1	Why High N counts are Red Flags in both genders but moreso women. I was asking about you personally. When you've experienced a breakup, do you feel that it affects you to the extent that there's less of you to offer the next person?	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 08:53 AM
1	Why High N counts are Red Flags in both genders but moreso women. I'm really interested in your perspective, because it's so different from my personal experiences. When you've experienced a breakup, do you feel like there is less of you after? Like part of you is still with that other person?	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 08:46 AM
1	CMV: It is nowadays Men, not Women, who are held to unrealistic body standards I do think you're right about this. Fortunately, at least in my circles, I'm seeing a push for body acceptance for men, too. Nobody should be held up to impossible physical standards. It's deeply demoralizing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 07:36 AM
2	Why High N counts are Red Flags in both genders but moreso women. I'm sorry. I thought this was an open discussion and I was responding to your question. I'll withdraw from the conversation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 07:13 AM
1	Why High N counts are Red Flags in both genders but moreso women. I think you're confusing me with u/trettles who mentioned covert misogynists.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 07:11 AM
0	Why High N counts are Red Flags in both genders but moreso women. Where did I express anything like that? Are men misogynists for having preferences? Is a guy a misogynist because he prefers thin women over fat women? Or short women over tall women? Of course not.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 07:06 AM
-3	Why High N counts are Red Flags in both genders but moreso women. No, it's not misandrist. Overall, I'd guess women use men more for money and men use women for emotional labor.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 06:55 AM
0	Why High N counts are Red Flags in both genders but moreso women. I think you're making a lot of assumptions about women here. Not every relationship ends with heartbreak. And a heartbreak doesn't mean you have literal chunks of your ability to emotionally connect taken away.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 06:52 AM
1	Why High N counts are Red Flags in both genders but moreso women. No. The shorter thing is just being a jerk. Height is not a reflection of someone's value and should have zero bearing on whether or not they'll make a good partner. I don't care about anyone else's income, either. But I think some women have had bad experiences with guys making less money and using her money indescriminately.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 06:51 AM
3	The ManChild is brough up as an Insult, Articles are written for Women to avoid him. Yet those ManChildren are prevalent and evidently score relationships. What are their benefits? All of your theories are correct. Guys like that hide their flaws and/or are socially intelligent enough that it doesn't appear their immaturity is a problem, just a charming quirk. And usually there are other positive qualities. Nobody is all good or all bad. Then, when the problems show, women think that it's merely a case of the guy not knowing better, so we attempt to teach them to do better (aka, fix them). I was married to a man child for 13 years. That was way too much time to invest, but…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/22 06:40 AM
6	Women can't value self confidence and expect men to be honest about their feelings Well said!	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/22 02:21 PM
7	Women can't value self confidence and expect men to be honest about their feelings One can be both confident and honest about their feelings. This isn't a pick one scenario.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/22 02:21 PM
1	Q4W Do you judge men if they are into unconventional sexual acts? I am very much a "to each their own" person. If what you're into is safe, sane, and consensual, have at it!	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/22 09:38 AM
1	Is having a "hoe phase" important for maturing ? I grew up in Purity Culture and thus did not have a hoe phase before I got married. Did the whole virgins until the wedding night thing. After 13 years of terrible sex (he was not interested in making it pleasurable for me, felt using toys was an insult to his masculinity, and discouraged me from masturbating) and abuse, I left. Then I had a hoe phase. And discovered polyamory, so I guess by some people's rubric, I'm still in a hoe phase. I don't think a hoe phase is necessary for everyone. I do…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/22 09:31 AM
0	There’s no reason why a woman shouldn’t be promiscuous nowadays if they want to Sex is the most vulnerable moment for a woman and the most powerful moment for a man. Citation needed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/22 09:18 AM
3	Being promiscuous after you have children is not morally ok So theoretically, it's ok to be promiscuous as long as you don't introduce your sex partners to your kids. Which is what most single parents practice until they meet someone serious.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/22 08:40 AM