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the essential civilizational problems that a mating system is meant to address Such as?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 12:52 PM
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Ohh, sub rules, that makes sense. It also makes sense I didn't know it was a thing since as you say (and I agree) it's not so strictly enforced.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 08:28 PM
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Rule 6? That's a new one to me - what does it mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 03:25 PM
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Not strange as in weird, strange as in unknown.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 12:34 PM
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She did not like "being his fuckdoll" for whatever reason, and/or changed her mind and doesn't want to be anyone's fuckdoll again. Now, you are saying she's punishing you by not doing something she did not like, just because she did it with the other guy. It's not about you, it's about her and what she likes/doesn't like, wants to do/doesn't want to do. She can change her mind as to what behavior and interaction she wants through out her life. She probably isn't letting her next boyfriend after …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:55 PM
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Women need to hold such women accountable But they do? In your OP you say there are feminists who agree with your opinion on Bonnie Blue.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 03:59 PM
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OP clarified elsewhere that in this scenario, the kids are only with their dad every other weekend. Not exactly what I'd call a "single father".
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 02:57 PM
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Some people here use it to mean that a woman who has had "many" sexual partners loses the ability to bond with a man, that a woman is very strongly connected to the man she lost her virginity to (even such that she is always fantasizing about him, to the detriment of future relationships) regardless of the circumstances of that encounter, to justify not wanting a woman with a "high" body count because her "inability" to pair bond means she's more likely to cheat. There are probably more, but tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 01:41 PM
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You mention "mother of your sons" so I'm curious how you'd feel if you end up having 3 baby girls with her?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 12:57 PM
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Because it's displaying hotter temperatures. It's comparing the temperature in this area from 2018 (top map) to today (bottom map).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 06:50 PM
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If you multiply the degrees celsius by 2 and add 30, you get an ok-ish ballpark for the conversion to fahrenheit. Helps me a lot when I'm reading stuff by non-US authors and don't need an exact number, just an idea of "is that really hot or really cold?"
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 06:48 PM
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Common law marriage varies not only by country, but also by state, within the US. My state doesn't recognize common law at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 06:32 PM
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It's also me, if it makes any difference. I am 1000% ok with my husband masturbating when he feels the need. If I'm around, he almost always asks me if I wanna have sex, but if I don't, he goes off to another room to watch a bit of porn and please himself. I truly don't understand the mindset of "I do not want to have sex with you but also don't want you to jack off." I wonder if the ladies who say that do or do not also masturbate? Or if there's something else going on in their heads?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 04:31 PM
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I can at least understand almost all of those different perspectives on reasons to/not to, even if I dont agree. Except for being sick. And it may just be a thing personal to me, but I do not want to be touched, at all, by anyone, when I'm sick or feeling unwell. Unless I need to like, get to the bathroom and I am incapable of safely walking there, I dont want someone touching me and certainly not in a sexual manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 04:02 PM
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I agree with everything except the part about the 80s being 60 years ago...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 04:32 PM
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I just feel disconnected from society not in a lame “no one understands me” but in a the values and lifestyles of people feel fake and short sided. It sucks to feel so disconnected, and I'm sorry you feel that way. Can you explain more how you think or feel other people's values and lifestyle are fake? Like what values and lifestyle do they have that are different than yours and what makes you feel or think they're not genuine?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 07:42 PM
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Well, if you do happen to get a chance to get through the door, you want to stay in the room, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 05:45 PM
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Those are things that might cause the feeling of emasculation, but I think what OP is asking is what does being emasculated actually feel like?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 07:30 PM
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I was just saying the other day how my friend and I were each other's perfect wingwoman and going out buddies because we would never, ever be looking at the same man since our types are so different.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 06:52 PM
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Children are already forcibly sent to schools Is this specifically about schools as an institution or education for children in general? Arguing where and how a child is educated is one thing, but not educating them at all seems a bit wild to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 06:12 PM
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Less than 2% of mortgages on single family homes are delinquent. Hardly "most". Even at the peak of people being unable to pay mortgages during the financial crisis, it was only around 11%. Still not most. https://fred.stlouisfed.org/series/DRSFRMACBS And here's another, in case you need more sources to show you're wrong https://www.consumerfinance.gov/data-research/mortgage-performance-trends/mortgages-30-89-days-delinquent/
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 09:32 PM
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One, I'm not the same person who made that original comment. Two, way to show that you ENTIRELY missed my point. The person you replied to commented about issues like "universal health care, access to mental health services, unions and living wage policies, labor laws, medical leave, reevaluating over policing, identifying problems with the carceral state" Those are not gendered issues or topics. However, when you go to subs specifically about women's issues and those topics are discussed, yes o…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:42 PM
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go in any of those subs, and see how many are talking about things for EVERYONE You are surprised when you go into forums and subs specifically for women's issues and there's no discussion of men's issues? Are you surprised when you go into football subs and no one is talking about hockey? And there are subs and forums that talk about those issues, such as those for labor unions, mental health, work reform, etc. irrespective of gender. Maybe you haven't seen them before, and I wont speculate as …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:22 PM
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We dont have to choose between how it was then and how it is now. We can make something new and different from either of them. I dunno if it will be "better" but if neither of the "old" or "new" systems were good, the only choice is to keep on iterating and trying new ways till we get there.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:42 PM
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From what I've heard, men can be suspicious of women because she: might be a gold digger might be settling for him after "having her fun" might be trying to baby trap him might be trying to ruin his life with false accusations There are probably more, those are just the ones I see fairly regularly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:31 PM
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. Nobody would say the man should file for divorce over this. Really? Like I'm being serious, because to me this kind of checking/sleuthing would be a major issue if either partner did it. Maybe not completely and instantly divorce-worthy, but certainly a big freaking deal if there was 0 other reason or indication of shady behavior going on. (I dont consider "X% of people cheat" as an indicator that a specific person will or has cheated.) If a friend of mine (regardless of gender) told me this w…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 04:00 PM
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Retroactive jealousy. Basically people who are jealous of the people their partner was with before them, for some reason. It doesn't make a lick of sense to me, but apparently many people (both genders) struggle with this and there's a whole sub for it if you want to go down that rabbit hole.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 03:22 PM
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Do you think the guys referenced in the comment you replied to, those in their "30s and 40s" got married in the 90s??
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 09:42 PM
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You don't need peepee or puss puss. Not sure who is ignorant 🫩 I am 100% sure the person using words like "peepee" and "puss puss" is the ignorant one.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 06:56 PM
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How do you know it's performative and that there's no underlying attraction?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 04:17 PM
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I guess I developed my type as a teenager, but probably wouldn't have been able to identify it back then as it's something that was/is rather unconscious. Like only in looking back was I able to see trends in the dudes I dated. When my girlfriends and I have talked about it, we've been able to clock each other's types somewhat better than we have for ourselves. My bff once told me that I "don't have a type, I have a shape" and she's pretty spot on there, lol. I dont understand the "why" question…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 01:35 PM
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ignore TikTok entirety Way ahead of you, bro. Never even looked at ot downloaded TikTok and don't plan on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 07:38 PM
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Which is why they said their wife grabbing their butt is different than a stranger doing it? Same behavior done by different people gets different results. What are you even arguing about?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 06:59 PM
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How can you be so completely incapable of separating things that you would like in a partner of the opposite sex, and things that all members of the opposite sex should do?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 05:59 PM
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You agreed that the examples I posted up-thread where 2 people do "behaviorally indistinguishable" things for different reasons... Therefore, I'm pretty sure you can follow the logic that one woman may go to clubs because she likes dancing, enjoys her friends company, and likes dressing up. And another may go to clubs to procure interest from men. There is no "plausible deniabililty" needed if the intent was different from the start, you're assuming the reasons behind the behavior is always the …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 05:47 PM
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This shows that you're capable of de-gendering this issue and task, so why make the thread?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 05:32 PM
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If you had stopped at "talking to women in a flirty yet platonic way", I'd agree with you. But you added the intent to "have a circle of options in the future" and as I said above, intent and ressoning matter so this isn't comparable.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 05:23 PM
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No, no, see, you obviously didn't reflect and grow enough because you don't yet agree with him. Go back to your time-out until you reflect and grow in the approved and correct way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 05:18 PM
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What are the things that men do to "enable them to accrue prospective partners" that are equivalent to the behaviors you described for women? I'm asking for real, not bullshitting or going for a gotcha.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 04:50 PM
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Just because 2 things are "behaviorally indistinguishable" doesn't mean the intent or reasoning behind them is always the same, so that intent and reasoning is what makes a difference and is what matters. One person hunts deer because their family relies on it for food. Another may just want to shoot and kill things. One person may diet and exercise to control a medical condition. Another may do the same because they want to be more attractive to the opposite sex. One person donates to charity b…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 04:34 PM
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How is one person's random blog/website an indicator of how the larger feminist movement feels about things?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 03:59 PM
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Yup.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:52 PM
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I wouldn't label Leo a predator necessarily (gross and skeevy, yes but his gfs seem to willingly take it on so...) however, he's 51 dating 24 year olds. That age gap is over 2x what the article in the OP is talking about. Who is yelling about a 26yr old and a 35 year old regardless of their genders?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 01:31 AM
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When you are cheating you're setting yourself up for arrest Where do you live that cheaters are arrested?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 08:59 PM
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1st step: What does "success with women" look like to you? Do you want a LTR? Just to get laid? Something else? Advice will vary based on the desired outcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 05:19 PM
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Oooh, I remember that one now. So slimy and gross. Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 05:03 PM
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You: Disregard anything the woman says. They don't genuinely want to help you... Also you: I honestly don't know what advice women give to men specifically to gain success with women
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 05:02 PM
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Red pill is also a fan of that whole "dont ask a fish" bit, so which is it? Are women not "keen" on giving advice, or is their advice useless?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 04:48 PM
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Got a link? Not denying it exists, but I must've missed this one and I'd like to take a look.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 04:46 PM
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Thank you for not treating love, sex and relationships like a science project. So many people, of all genders, do and I think that's where most of them get things wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 10:48 PM
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Why not either 1) be the real you from the beginning, and not waste anyone's time or 2) actually do some (mental and/or physical) self-improvement so the real you is better?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 05:32 PM
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But let's say you get into a longer term relationship - eventually she'll figure out that you aren't actually strong, don't know what you're doing, don't have options, etc. What then?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 05:19 PM
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women often label unwanted sexual attention as objectification when the real issue is that the man was unwanted That would've been a better title for this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 04:58 PM
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You can flirt without being sexual about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 04:51 PM
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noticing a man looks successful, masculine, protective, stable, or provider minded and being attracted to that How is all that discerned just from looking at someone?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 04:30 PM
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So your assertions are that: Women do not understand that giving another person your body, time and all other resources is what love is, and Men do understand this, but aren't going to get it because of the 1st point [edit to add]: and this is why men are dropping out of dating. Is that fairly accurate?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 12:48 AM
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Mutual giving of what? Time, hugs, pineapples, high-fives, attention, blow jobs, muffins, what are we giving here? Is it a specific thing(s) or something intangible meaning like "a giving spirit"? I'm trying to follow you but I feel like I'm missing something.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 12:13 AM
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they always expect the "good guy"/"nice guy" to correct the behavior of the "bad boy" that they have been enamored with. I am not at all familiar with the kinds of panels you mention so forgive me for not understanding but...Are these women saying that they expect Dave, the nice guy, to approach or engage with Steve, the bad boy and what...tell Steve he's being a douche and not to be a dick to her? Call Steve out on social media? And in these situations are Steve and Dave friends or do they not …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 11:14 PM
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Idk about anyone else, but when I insult someone my goal is to hurt them and make them feel bad, not to make some grand statement about my personal values or society's values. So if I know you're insecure about something, that's what I'm going to use to insult you. It doesn't mean that I personally think you should be insecure about that thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 07:07 PM
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No, saying a man "doesnt add value" is not implying some moral failing on his part. It's saying it's +/- 0 rather than +1 or -1. While there are aspects of having another person in your life that add or subtract value, there can also be aspects that do neither.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 03:41 PM
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Did you really make a thread about how women need to share their emotions and be more clear, and then tell a woman expressing emotion and being clear to "calm down"?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 02:19 PM
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Where are you getting that it's blue pill advice to ask out every single woman in a friend group/social circle until one says yes? Typical advice is to get to know a woman socially for a bit, do some flirting and see if she's interested. You've somehow added "and if she doesn't accept your advances quickly move on to all her friends until something sticks".
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 02:24 PM
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A lot of the responses on that thread specifically mention that 1) Asking out a coworker is a dicey situation to begin with, many people are at work to work and get paid and dont want to mix business with their personal lives. 2) Going round robin asking out every woman you work with looks desperate because it appears you don't like them for who they are, they're just the next single girl on the list. And again, this isnt exactly the same as asking out a woman in your social circle, though there…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 01:32 PM
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"God" is your ultimate authority. God doesn't tell me anything, as I have no religion. It's not that I don't want to listen to God, it's that there is nothing to listen to as far as I'm concerned. You are well within your rights to only date and marry people who ascribe to your religion. When you place your religious expectations on others is when you start to err.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 05:34 PM
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being a virgin and taking care of your husband is the holy thing to do Your religion tells you what you and other people of your faith should do. Religious tenets have 0 application to those who don't ascribe to that specific religion.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 05:06 PM
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So why not say "I would prefer to date people who know they like me quickly rather than those who don't" or "I only want to date someone who knows they like me quickly" rather than speaking in absolutes and declaring that someone who doesn't know they like someone quickly is being false? You are not the supreme arbiter of a person's worthiness in dating anyone besides yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 11:57 AM
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That's the difference for you though. Not everyone operates that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 11:42 AM
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What's the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 11:33 AM
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How can she know if she likes you before getting to know you? That doesn't make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 11:29 AM
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That's pretty much how it is for me. A guy friend of my husband once asked me if I had any attractive male coworkers (he was looking to set up a female friend of his). My answer was, "I dont know" because I honestly, 100% do not look at any of my coworkers "like that." It just does not cross my mind to even consider if they're attractive or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 09:56 PM
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You're reducing loneliness to the lack of sexual partners, and to the chances you'll get married/be in a relationship. That is not what loneliness typically means. So in a way I agree that as you said "having more words and more specific terminology makes us better able to distinguish between various things." and we need to distinguish between people that are lonely and those that do not have a partner/someone to have sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 05:26 PM
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Forever has to start sometime, why not now?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 10:27 PM
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Not the person you're replying to but: Yes, I do understand that it takes a lot of courage for a guy to approach a woman...but that doesn't ever factor in to how I respond to being approached, why would it? and how exactly would I do that? If I'm not interested, I'm not interested and no amount of "gee, I can see it took a lot of bravery for him to talk to me" is going to change that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 02:43 PM
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I dont understand. I know you're OP and not the person I replied to, but are you saying you'll "know" I feel empathy for you if you end up feeling like we're "on the same page"?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 09:24 PM
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How do you prove you feel empathetic towards someone? What do you say or do to show this?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 08:52 PM
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This is a thing you think is (more or less) universal among women and not part of your personal preferences?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 05:31 PM
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Do you think that when a woman desires and loves a guy she automatically enjoys him cumming in her mouth? That seems like a weird metric to me, because some ladies regardless of their love and desire for a dude, will not want this ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 02:18 PM
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Before I reply to this question let me clarify your original comment - you expect her to initiate sex 70% of the time and you'd accept that invitation, you initiate 30% of the time with 1 out of those 3 times she turns you down but you're ok with that and the other 20% you initiate? Or something similar to that?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 02:15 PM
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I don't think all divorced people aren't broken or upset about their divorce, I'm certainly not. And as much as I loathe pretty much everything OP has said in this thread, it doesn't sound like he was broken by his divorce either.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 09:43 PM
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Is that increased effort not worth it in your opinion?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 02:34 PM
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Twin 1 may have more individual instances of having and getting a date, but I feel he's unlikely to secure a long term partner or be a good partner to those he dates for the short times he's with them. Twin 2 may not get the same total number of dates as his bro, but he's not undateable or undesirable and he is more likely to end up in a relationship and be a good partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 06:38 PM
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Sure, but you're never going to change humans to fit what is "right" or "logical" in the way you seem to want to. People will continue to be messy and always have been.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 03:09 PM
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You're looking for a mathematical solution or set equation to a messy, human, nonlinear and often illogical problem. Life and relationships are not a set of variables that you could ever analyze enough to confidently produce a rule set that almost always leads to the desired results.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 03:02 PM
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Right? OP starts with the characterization of blue pill as "blame everything on men" but then ends with "but please dont dial it up to 10 and get extreme." Bro is starting a gun fight and telling everyone else they can only bring knives.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 07:59 PM
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"Women are incapable of love bc one of them was mean to me on the internet". Great logic!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 07:44 PM
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It's vague to you if there arent enough words, it's vague to you if there are too many words. Sounds like vague is too vague.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 09:47 PM
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If I'm interested in the person, I'm generally interested in what they like, regardless of if I like the same thing. If a guy is interested in football (which I am completely not), I can still enjoy listening and talking to him about football because it's something he enjoys. It's not "pretending" just because I dont actually like football. Same goes for other relationships, those with family, friends, coworkers. My bff loves gardening. I haven't ever been able to even keep a houseplant alive an…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:26 PM
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Yes, I've seen women say they desire safety and protection. What I've not seen is where women conflate traditional values with that safety, comfort and what the OP says in his post. Do I need to use smaller words or was that clear enough for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 12:24 AM
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Do they? I have not seen this trend, but that could be because I'm not on a lot of social media. Can you give examples or sources?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 09:13 PM
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Ah, so a place where NEETs can meet up and hang out? Huh. Not a terrible idea, community and fellowship are helpful things. Thank you for clarifying on "fruits". But also, if you want access to money, that means not being a NEET anymore and doing something (getting a job, going to school, etc) to gain said money unless you live somewhere with social support programs that are sufficient for a good life without work.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 03:11 PM
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I'm not really professional but a place for us to socialize and one that doesn't put down people who aren't even average. Like you are a bottom trawler. Having more places to socialize is a good start. I'm not sure exactly how you'd exclude people at and above average attractiveness, but I guess I get your point. We are living in a competitive society instead of being able to enjoy the fruit of life. Some people steal all the fruits for themselves which they can't even eat fully in their lifetim…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 02:24 PM
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My point is to not leave anyone behind as in society. As long as they are a decent person. Please describe exactly how society should correct for this and what actions could be taken to "not leave anyone behind."
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 12:45 PM
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It means that you have to make plans in your personal life too. Make a doctor's appointment, make a grocery list, decide on what to have for dinner, schedule a meet up with friends, etc. Those are all planning and everyone has to do them. So what's different about making plans for a date?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:54 PM
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No. I had 2 boyfriends in high school, one for about a year, the other for a few months. But didn't date anyone my senior year, so I was unattached when I graduated
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:34 PM
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What would be the odds that multiple women in huge cities like NYC or LA would have slept with the same guy unless Chad works volume? There is another alternative: women are sleeping with or dating not-Chads at a higher rate than you think, and there are not-Chads out there sleeping with or dating multiple women at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 06:23 PM
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Fair, but the one posted above me had "sex" listed at the bottom. Sex =/= reproduction, but I guess I disagree with Maslow that reproduction should be placed there on an individual level. As a species, we definitely need to reproduce to "live" but that's not the same. The original one I was reply to also lists "sexual intimacy" higher up in the hierarchy and it's just "intimacy" on the one I posted. Not all intimacy is sexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 07:41 PM
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Looool. I see, you're one of those people. Thanks for clarifying. Have a good day.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 07:32 PM
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Womb? Really? You're out there trying to access a lady's uterus? Or do you lack the necessary education in biology to know you ain't sticking you dick in a woman's "womb"?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 06:25 PM
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Why is that hierarchy different than the one attached to the main article? This one seems to be the original and doesnt mention sex or sexual intimacy: https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Maslow%27s_Hierarchy_of_Needs_Pyramid_(original_five-level_model).png#mw-jump-to-license
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 06:18 PM
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But when she decides she's going to "change [her] decision-making criteria and process it differently" she's told that she's giving a new guy a "different set of rules" and "making him jump through hoops that other men didn't have to". Dudes are saying that in this very thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 06:29 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/redditonwiki/s/5x3Yf1hNXB
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 02:20 PM
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Yeah, if I were single, I wouldn't mind potentially going fishing a lot and hearing someone talk about snakes all the time. But if a dude only wanted to do those things and didn't reciprocate by doing things I liked or was interested in, I'd have to move along.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 03:19 PM
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I literally have a comment in this very thread, advising someone to take some fiber for digestive issues which has a 66% upvote ratio. Multiple someones downvoted me for merely suggesting something that would help a person poop.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 10:58 PM
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I concur. OP is playing that game where they play dumb and present a fact as "just a fact" but OP has already drawn conclusions and implications from that fact, which they will assert as true once someone agrees with them about the original fact, regardless of if those conclusions or implications are strictly supported by said fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 07:44 PM
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Out of curiosity, what were you asking about SA awareness and what men should not do? I'm not sure I get the "not do" part?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 07:37 PM
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Whoops, my bad. I'll rephrase. They explained that OPs post was removed because there had already been similar posts recently and 2 of them were posts of OPs. I assume those 2 posts were not removed? So I find it terribly hard to see the point that "post was removed for being duplicative" equaling "post removed because it made them look bad".
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 07:30 PM
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They explained that the post was removed because there had already been similar posts recently and 2 of them were posts of yours. I assume those 2 posts were not removed? So I find it terribly hard to see your point that "post was removed for being duplicative" equaling "post removed because it made them look bad".
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 07:26 PM
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Ok, let's take it as factual that "women care on average more about financial aspects in dating than men”. Now what? What conclusions do you draw or want others to draw from this statement? Are you open to other interpretations as to why this is true, or what drives this preference, even if it is different than your own?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 07:06 PM
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Metamucil is just a common brand name where I'm at, but any "psyllium husk-based fiber supplement" will work basically the same way. Go for the one you mix in water and drink, works better than the pills IMO. Fair warning that they usually taste like ass, but it's better than the alternative of feeling like you're dying on the toilet.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 05:26 PM
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Eh, such is the nature of this sub. People get downvoted for the most banal comments as well as for the truly wrong and/or heinous ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 05:05 PM
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Sounds like you need some fiber. I get the same way because most of my favorite foods are in the same realm as what you ate, and I have to supplement with metimusel lest I stop up the works.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 05:03 PM
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Every man can be kind, caring and supportive. But not every kind, caring and supportive man can be successful. Ok, but what's the harm in being kind, caring and supportive if you're not successful? In the case that you wont or cant be successful, you might as well be a good person. And if you are successful, what's the harm of also being kind, caring and supportive? As you say, every man can be those things so why not be if those are admirable traits?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 04:37 PM
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1) The attitude that having or displaying a certain trait is only useful if it gets you into a relationship or into women's pants is sadly so common here. 2) A traditionally masculine man can also be kind, caring and supportive, they're not mutually exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 04:30 PM
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This is just funny. Your anger and revenge fantasy bullshit are so desperately transparent. It's like you picked your comment right out of an edge lord copypasta.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 02:06 PM
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You're unironically bitching about bitching. Beautiful.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 12:12 AM
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Any chance you can share a link? That sounds really amusing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 07:10 PM
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Maybe in person locations? Bars, clubs, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 06:56 PM
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Yeah, trolling for sex in nursing homes seems a bit extreme, but I suppose the point is that you may have to look outside of the typical avenues to find what you want. Like, I believe it would be a mistake to disqualify single mothers, divorced women, and even women a bit older than you'd typically be interested in, in this case.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 06:43 PM
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Not sure what you do mean compromise. It depends. Am I looking for an instagram model? No. That is basically what I was asking about with compromise. If your singular goal at this point is no-strings-attached sex, it's detrimental to your success to insist that person must be incredibly hot, successful, kind, caring, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 06:08 PM
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Are you filtering to find those who explicitly say they only want to hookup or be FWB? Are you putting that same info on your profile? Are you open to an opportunity based on that criteria first and foremost and ok with compromising on other aspects?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 05:29 PM
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By this comment, it would seem that you understand that being transactional in relationships is somewhat of a bad thing. But other comments you made here, like the one up-thread about how a woman doesn't deserve a dude doing taxes and laundry with her if she doesn't give him enthusiastic sex, makes me think otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 04:36 PM
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If you succeed in getting OP to actually define what he thinks "chasing" is, you will win this thread. I think he's arguing so badly not because he's wrong (though he probably is), but because he can't or wont define or give examples of what he's trying to discuss.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 01:01 PM
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Look, OP is very busy posting elsewhere about conspiracy theories and how the covid vaccine melted people's brains and made them mean. What makes you think he has time to answer questions?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 12:54 PM
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I call next on the pre-selected Chad! Though I am married, my biological nature is telling me it may be possible to monkey branch, so I am required to line up here. Is there some sort of pager system so I'll be alerted when it's my turn?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 12:49 PM
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Were you young enough when you met him that income discrepancies were too temporary to be useful information? No. We met when I was 30, he was 31. I was settled in my career, he was bouncing between a few things. Did he still have a career track that signaled status to you? Nope. He was doing gig work and was in the trades. He no longer does the gigs but is still in the same trade (albeit in a more secure, but not so much higher paying position) Do you expect him to contribute more at home since…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 07:13 PM
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Yup. My water bill was still (almost 12 years later) in my old married name until last year because the city wanted me to fax them (yes, fax as in using a facsimile machine...in 2013) my divorce decree, proof of name change and other documents to do so. For a fucking water bill. So I didn't. The only reason it's not an issue anymore is bc we moved to somewhere that billed water differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:28 PM
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The paperwork and time is no joke! I changed my last name to my ex-husbands when we got married, and changed it back to my maiden name when we divorced because his last name is very unique and recognizable. I've since remarried and have not changed my name to my husband's, but he's not really concerned with it at all and I do not want to have to go through the whole rigamarole again both socially, legally and in my workplace/career.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:58 PM
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What would you accept as a "really good reason"? Just curious as to where the line is for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:54 PM
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She asked a question, how in the world is that "telling him what to do"?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:48 PM
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Yep. Married him too!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:36 AM
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Exactly. So why did you label this as a "debate"?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 03:20 PM
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Sample size of 3 = AWALT. Gotcha.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 08:02 PM
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Yes. Shaming is almost always bad in these cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 01:58 PM
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Agreed. If he complains, thats where the line is.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 01:57 PM
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As long as he's not shaming in the way he talks about those who do not meet his preferences and he's not being a hypocrite, I personally wouldn't call it sexist.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 12:50 PM
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How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 05:54 PM
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This has always seemed weird to me, because it only "works" if women do not swipe indiscriminately. It kind of seems similar to the "prisoners dilemma". Consider this thought experiment, where I've tried to make it gender neutral: Option 1) Both genders swipe indiscriminately. Everyone gets lots of matches, but they're mostly "false" because the odds are neither are compatible with the vast majority of those matches. This results in a very small number of "true" matches. Option 2) One gender swi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 03:24 PM
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Sure, I've had people empathize with me and do the same for others if they're in a similar spot.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 02:11 AM
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My ex and I had a bunch of issues. But after our divorce, I wasn't a pleasant person to be around for a while, additionally I was super focused on my career and not in the most healthy way.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 01:44 AM
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Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 01:37 AM
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2 years. The first of those 2 I was married to my ex, then the 1st year after our divorce. I've had a handful of year-ish-long spells too, but those 2yrs was the longest overall.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 01:20 AM
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1) Shoulders 2) Chest 3) Facial hair It's kind of a tie between the top 2, I like a broad man so these kinda go together for me. Facial hair because I appreciate a good beard. What does "deep eyes" mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 06:35 PM
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My girlfriends and I play cards, play board games, swim and other activities. Tbh, my nail appointments are part of my "me time" (so I wouldnt want anyones company) and I dislike shopping. All women are different and all friend groups enjoy different activities, so I dont get what your point is.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 06:40 PM
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I agree and think I said as much that it's not really a gendered thing. When a person gets into a relationship, sometimes they pull away from their friends a bit (regardless of that friends gender or their own).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 04:04 PM
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Yeah, YOU do those things [or at least you claim to], but many women don’t not. Things are more one sided. Guess you'll just have to take my word for it that that's my MO and how I see friends. Can't speak for all women. Example: Jack has a boat, and goes out on the lake a couple times a month. His girl “friend,” Jill, will try to tag along for the experience. She knows nothing meaningful about Jack, barely talks to him, and her way of reciprocating is that she brought a 12 pack of beers on the …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 02:40 PM
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Can you expand on point 2? Because I get and give "random labor/skills" and "validation" from my friends, regardless of gender. That's kind of part of being friends, IMHO. Like, I can sew, so my friends may ask me to fix a button, hem pants, or heck, make a whole Halloween costume for them or their kid. Or if they're going on a date and want feedback on an outfit, I'll help them find something good and tell them how hot they look to give them a boost. Or I'll help a friend pack and move house.Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 12:56 PM
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Did she just bring it up out of the blue? Or was there at least some context to the convo when she mentioned it?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 06:10 PM
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It's the divorce rate, so it has nothing to do with the absolute number of people getting married. But I do believe it's true that the number of people marrying may also be falling.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:16 PM
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If you could, you'd do it too and not feel guilty.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 12:32 AM
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So are you just arguing that the "every 10 minutes" sounds scarier than "60% more often"? Is it just the way the data and stats are expressed that you have a problem with?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 02:54 PM
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men are simply not biologically hardwired to care as much about status in the way women seem to be Did you miss the part in the comment you're replying to the they said: Anyway, when women say that they don't like when men don't care about their career, that's because men don't care to talk about what's important for her, don't support her, etc. It's NOT about men caring or not about "status" it's about that man caring about what a woman cares about or finds important.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 06:01 PM
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Oprah got with Stedman when he was a tennis instructor and she was skyrocketing in her TV career.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 05:50 PM
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Ooo, or not having to deal with the impending doom of menopause...that'd be nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 12:23 PM
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like your opinion and existence is worthless without you striving to accomplish and prove your value to each person I experience the constant burden of proving myself and the mental weight of never believing I am good enough. Sounds like every day at work for me in my male-dominated career field.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 12:15 PM
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No. Of the 3 LTRs I've been in (including with my husband as an adult, I've been the one to make the first move.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 02:03 PM
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Does this mean you'd agree that attractiveness is relative to an individual? I personally think so, but I find that a lot of men here ascribe to the 90/10 (or is it 80/20?) "rule" that women only find a slim percentage of men attractive. I've argued several times that this "rule" is incomplete because it ignores that women will not all always find the same smaller percentage of men attractive, but have yet to find a man here (especially an RP) that would agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 12:47 PM
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I appreciate your honesty here. A lot of other men in this thread seem to only see the following options: 1) lie to attractive women, get sex 2) tell the truth to attractive women, get no sex When really, as you said, there is at least one more option: 3) tell the truth to not as attractive women, get sex Which is so telling about these men - they dont just want sex, they want it with really attractive women. And they feel justified in that choice, "because Chad can", so they should be able to f…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 12:36 PM
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I honestly don't know. Don't know how long it'd take, nor do I know if I would look too hard either, though. I understand the dating environment is very different now than it was last time I dated, so I'd be pretty apprehensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 01:16 AM
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How exactly am I supposed to provide a counter argument to someone who thinks I, as a lady, am in cahoots with Satan? Shall I provide photos of my hands to show they're not "snake pike talons"? Do I need to refute that my clit is not, in fact, a mutilated thumb? Be so for real right now dude. There are lots and lots of posts and debates on this sub with actual substance worthy of a serious reply. This ain't one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 06:22 PM
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No women aren't a hivemind plotting evil conspiracy against men. Uh, have you not been getting the Worldwide Women's Coven Inc emails? If not, I can get you signed up. We all meet at the cauldron every 3rd Tuesday. It's tough to get every woman on the plant there at once, but we really try since it is a global conspiracy and all. I think the next meetings agenda is going to cover tricking men into stupid fashion choices so we can all point and laugh at them looking dumb, so it should be a good t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 06:15 PM
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Shit, all I've got is some leftover eye of newt.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 05:55 PM
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Agreed, but while I might not change my view on something because of what I read here, I do feel I get a better understanding of what the other views are and why people hold them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 12:57 PM
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Those men would be hypocrites.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 12:22 PM
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Isn't there point of this question that women would no longer need men to be providers? So the % of men that make over 6 figures would be a moot point.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 10:03 PM
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In my group of 6 girl friends, 2 of them can be a little unrealistic, overly picky or demanding in certain aspects in dating. They're also the only 2 that are single. We're all in our early 40s now and have know each other for decades. The other 4 of us have, over the years, pointed out these things to them (gently and in the appropriate context) but it hasn't seemed to make any difference so we've essentially stopped.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 05:33 PM
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Which generation are you in and which do you assume these people saying these things are in?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 02:03 PM
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Can you give examples of times you've wanted to go places and been denied because it's 'women only'? Or places you'd want to go but cant because of your gender? I know there are woman-only gyms, but that's about the only establishment I can think of. I'm not asking to be snarky, I really do wanna know how prevalent this is and if I'm missing something.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 08:34 PM
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Ok, I agree it's a problem. What are your proposed solutions? How can the government help here?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 07:15 PM
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Then how are most women partnered and 90% of guys (the non-top 10%) aren't? The math doesnt work.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 01:07 PM
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And are the women you spoke of mostly dating other students? You said most women at your college have a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 12:44 PM
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42% men and 58% women?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 12:40 PM
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What is the gender ratio at your college?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 11:35 AM
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Ohhh, my bad. I read your comment wrong. But then again, I'd say people dump people over their own insecurities all the time. It's another one of those issues that isn't really gendered.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 12:16 AM
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Are you really saying no man has dumped a woman because he's scared she's settling for him? Or scared she's been with a guy who was better in bed? Or any number of imagined scenarios where he doesn't measure up to something? Be fucking for real.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 11:39 PM
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Who gets to say what's frivolous?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 01:04 AM
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what would a straight man wear to feel sexy? Why are you asking other people what would make you feel good? That's like asking people what your favorite flavor of ice cream is. Go out there, try a bunch of outfits and styles and see how you feel in them. If you feel sexy in one, bingo!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 06:57 PM
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Yeah, for a while back in the day, OLD was actually little taboo. I have a friend who met and married someone he met on a dating website (there weren't "apps" yet...) and they rarely, if ever, told people how they actually met because it was seen as weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 12:15 PM
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But we need to have to have a discussion on how we move forward WITH these new advancements, because clearly a lot of men are not happy. Then what do you propose? How do we move forward with these advancements (assuming you're actually ok with birth control, abortion, women voting, etc) and also make men happier?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 08:07 PM
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Sure, I absolutely fixated on dating apps because I literally didn't imagine that you'd believe that birth control and legalized, safe abortion counted as "modern technology" that could possibly be ruining dating for men. However, since you picked 1920 (the year women in the US got the vote) as the year you think the "problem" began, I see what you're getting at. It's vile and disgusting, and I absolutely disagree with you, but I see.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 04:01 PM
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Do you really think that, prior to dating apps, that women didn't go for "bad boys" and have short term relationships/hookups? You say you're 40, so really think about it. There were no dating apps when you were in high school and likely none when you were in college/early 20s- were there not women at that time who dated bad boys or not "husbandly" men? Of course there were. I know because I'm just a few years older than you and I was there too, watching my friends date and trying to date as wel…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 03:39 PM
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Why do you need to ask for her number? Just give her yours. If she's interested, she'll contact you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 02:35 PM
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Women are much more into "types" than men are. Absolutely, and most ladies know their friends "types" as compared to their own. For example: About 15 years ago, I was in a bar/club with one of my girlfriends. She ended up on the dance floor, dancing with some guy while I got us drinks. I looked at the dude she was dancing with and realized that he was not my friend's type, but I found him extremely attractive. So I gave her the nod and she let me cut in to dance with him, while she moved on to d…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 01:59 PM
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I did start my comment by saying "it is true", so yes, I did confirm it. But I dont think I've seen the RP agree with the other part, they focus on being in that upper 10%, and ignore that ~80% are attractive to at least someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 01:44 PM
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I mean, I do find it confusing. Why set the goal for being in the 10% we all find attractive, when you've got good odds of being attractive to half or 3/4?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 01:40 PM
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No...I said right there in my comment that there would be ~10 dudes none of us would be attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 01:37 PM
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Very good point. There are a large number of dudes I see that are just...ok? average? or whatever to me. I'm not repelled or put off by them, but I dont feel attracted for one reason or another.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 02:29 PM
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Well, for me it's because while the statement is true, it's incomplete. Sure, I'm only attracted to a fairly small percentage of men, maybe around 20% at most. But the 20% I am personally attracted to is somewhat different than the 20% another woman is attracted to. I will admit there are likely some dudes who very few if any women find attractive, and that there's probably some dudes that are almost universally attractive to most women. For example, if me and my 3 closest girlfriends were to lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 01:51 PM
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If I fire bullets with no intention to kill anyone but end up shooting someone, does my intention change anything? Isn't that basically the distinction between murder and manslaughter? Like, did you mean to kill them or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 12:50 PM
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Warren Jeffs was not "promiscuous". He was a rapist. He raped children. Please do not tell me you dont understand the difference here.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 08:56 PM
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Warren effing Jeff's? The pedophile cult leader?!? Calling him "prolific" is disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 08:11 PM
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Oh you sweet summer child
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 12:42 AM
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get half a thousand 20yo men "Half a thousand"? What are you, the red pill George RR Martin?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 05:53 PM
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Yes, the 1st instance is closer to what I'm talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 02:51 PM
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But just being really into my physical attributes? That's the thing with a fetish though, it's not your physical attributes, it's the attributes themselves. Disembodied from you. I know that sounds pedantic but I think there's a distinction in there that's important.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 01:58 PM
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I agree, though since I'm married I wouldn't be interested but I might try to set him up with one of my "SINC" girlfriends if he didn't have any obviously off-putting behaviors.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 04:54 PM
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If they would, they're far too immature for a relationship. It's the same as asking if I'd leave my husband for a stranger because that's basically what a celebrity crush is to me - I don't know anything about them other than their appearance so why would I give up everything I've got for a good looking but unknown quantity? That's insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 06:58 PM
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Because she (and I know this may come as a huge shock) is also interested in table top gaming.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 02:32 PM
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Does you hanging out with male friends require a dedicated, officially sanctioned men-only space? Can't you just go to dinner or hang out on someone's couch?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 05:49 PM
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Just posting so I can find this again, I am super curious about the answers as I've wondered the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 05:07 PM
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I would assume people who would "need" or want an at-fault divorce are the same ones who would be just as well served having a pre-nup, no? So if you want an at-fault divorce, draw up the pre-nup agreement saying what "fault" is in your situation and what happens in that scenario. Otherwise (and I might be wrong, my divorce was relatively easy), you've got the legal system involved in who's at fault and that just...doesn't seem like a good idea for anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 05:50 PM
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"In early June 1913, a series of fires purposely started in rural areas in Bradford killed at least two men, as well as several horses." https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Suffragette_bombing_and_arson_campaign?wprov=sfla1
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 05:02 PM
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If you read above, you'll see I have no issue with your Transformer collection. But they are shiny trinkets. Lots of people collect what are essentially shiny trinkets. Myself included. They make you happy. That's good.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 03:33 AM
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This is actually something n-count related I could agree with. Seems like a much better way to measure than by grand total.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 04:47 PM
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I mean yeah, youre right that in combination with the other stuff it paints a more clear picture of potential issues, but a toy collection on its own, meh. But you've got a point that a guy who wants to "build wealth", who seems very into the stock market, and buys "shiny objects" for himself should probably not be surprised when we finds himself with a woman who values a big bank account and wants her own trinkets.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 04:22 PM
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Really? I feel like he Transformers are probably the least concerning thing he's said in this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 04:12 PM
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If you want something that doesn't exist in any other scenario your options are: --- Stop looking for the thing and accept you'll never have it. --- Change your search parameters and accept a different thing. --- Make or create it yourself. Obviously the last option doesn't apply here since we're talking about people, so it leaves the other 2.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 04:03 PM
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*Happy spouse, happy house. Both partners should be happy with their relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 03:49 PM
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If you're ok to sharing, I'm very curious as to what these ladies you broke up with were asking that you weren't willing to give.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 03:22 PM
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They were also the parenting generation that started the "participation trophy" crap. Oh dear God I can't stand when Boomers talk about "participation trophies." And when you ask them who was giving us the trophies, or who's idea it was that we all get trophies...silence. Like do they think a bunch of 8yr olds on the rec soccer team got together and decided to purchase and distribute trophies to themselves? It just shows how much cognitive dissonance (or decline) is really going on with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 03:16 PM
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You're saying you want to be in a relationship where it's ok for you to disconnect for a month? How often? And if you're willing to compromise that down to 3 days, how often do you need those 3 days? This seems to me to be the biggest sticking point. Introverted people can and are in successful relationships, but most people I think want to see their SO regularly and often.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 04:06 PM
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No need to be a dick. Just like couples should have the "would you want to keep it if we ever end up pregnant" convo early in a relationship, if a dude is so hell bent on a paternity test, he should say that early on and before it becomes a pressing issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 06:34 PM
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Then your question should be "is money more important than personality?" if that's what you're really asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 07:04 PM
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So there's a guy who consents to sex with but does not desire a woman, and your point is that in that in that case, the woman wouldn't want to have sex with him bc he doesn't desire her? Is that it?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 05:45 PM
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You're saying that women don't rape men? Because that's what it's called when you have sex with someone who doesn't want/consent to sex with you. And women do rape men, so....
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 04:17 PM
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I believe the "original" intent of ladies nights was to attract more women so that more men would also show up. While yes, it does give ladies the benefit of cheaper drinks or no cover charge, it's supposed to provide an environment with more women, something that conceivably men would benefit from. So I don't know if it's actually sexist, or sexist towards whom. However it does seem a bit outdated given the current dating and social constructs and norms.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 08:33 PM
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There's a whole sub for those who have an issue with "retroactive jealousy", might wanna check it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:12 PM
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Only problems need solutions and this isn't a problem. So nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 08:14 PM
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Honestly, I think this is taking the phrase too literally and without context. Besides super duper radical feminists, I don't think many women actually mean "men provide nothing to society and we'd be better off if they all disappeared" when they say the don't "need" men. What they do mean, I think, is that men aren't an essential and necessary part of their day-to-day personal lives in most cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 04:21 PM
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I met my husband in 2012. There were dating websites, but no apps really besides Grindr (which obviously wasn't for me). We met in person at a bar "the old fashioned way" lol. I really feel lucky that I met him then because I dont think I could've handled OLD as it is now.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 12:19 PM
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I would not trade being able to have a bank account, rent my own place, make my own reproductive choices, vote, and basically everything else gained my women over the past 100 years for "having" to have a job/work. Other women are free to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 08:45 PM
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100% absolutely fucking not.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 07:24 PM
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I agree that sometimes their observations are true, but my problem is when RP tries to parse why women do things and are just plain wrong or the reasons they come up with are tainted by their views on women as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 05:29 PM
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Yes, because I can feel/think both things at the same time. You didn't say he wasn't doing anything about it in your comment I replied to, but even adding that doesn't change my reaction. Do I feel bad for him because he's unemployed? Yes. Do I feel that he should take some action to change his situation? Also yes. There's a limit, of course, and how empathetic I feel about his situation may change over time and based on other things he says/does, but being unemployed is still shitty and I can r…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 01:54 PM
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But in your example, he's unemployed by choice and in that case he might not feel badly about his situation. So if he's OK with his situation, no need for empathy because he doesn't feel sad or negatively about it. But let's say he's not unemployed by choice and feels shitty. The solution is still the same (get a new job) but because he feels sad about it, I can understand and know what he's feeling and empathize with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 01:45 PM
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And? Overweight people already know that most people won't find them sexually attractive. So what's the point in repeating it? They're fat, not blind and stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 07:11 PM
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Well damn, that's like $9.98 more than I'd be willing to pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 03:26 AM
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I can't decide if I want this to be real or not
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 03:21 AM
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Why am I, as the President of the United States, personally conducting and leading social science research? And who thinks they're assigning this task to me, I'm the gosh darn president! I have better things to worry about like the economy, international affairs, the nuke codes and continuing to hide Area 51, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:32 PM
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If you think the men typically value hoes and sluts over the woman they chose to marry, please give evidence that shows men valuing them over their wives These words exactly would've been a MUCH better discussion starter than the ridiculousness you actually wrote in the post. Why not just say that? It's amazing that you're capable of communicating so clearly after that monstrosity of brain vomit in your OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 02:28 AM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 02:23 AM
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Why are you posting a Q4W asking what a man values more?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 08:26 PM
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I honestly didn't think he could get crazier, but I just saw how he posted in another sub about how Mars isn't real.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 04:18 PM
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What's an OofyDoofy?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 05:05 PM
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Just check his ridiculous post history. He trolls around here asking loaded questions then accuses the women who answer of "deflection" or "spinning" or "not taking responsibility." Perhaps you remember recent posts asking how women "use logic" or if theyd allow their daughters to walk around "nearly naked", it's the same dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 08:02 PM
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Earlobe reduction Did you stretch your lobes with gages or something and want them returned to "normal" or do you just think you have earlobes that are naturally too big?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 01:02 PM
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Making me laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 05:46 PM
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How is this 1 lady on a social media platform somehow worse than 10s of thousands of preachers in churches on Sunday?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 03:47 PM
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Well, religion is basically "magic" that paints ideas about certain groups of people...and yet they still exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 03:45 PM
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Even if that's true, it still doesn't relate to a scenario where a woman is drowning in a car and if she would expect a man to save her. No one is talking about guns or shooting people except you, so you're going to have to use more words to explain how having a CCP, being comfortable with a gun and killing someone is in any way relevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:46 PM
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I'm not sure I would be. I know lots of people who do and even considered getting my CCP for a while. But I fail to see how this relates to what I said. What am I missing here?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:34 PM
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You can say it was me that misread the title. I misread the title. Why try to be coy about it? And, I may be wrong about your absolutely ridiculous theory and your intent here. I'd love to be wrong about that, because it'd be a much better world if no one thought the way I'm assuming you do. Please, tell me I'm wrong and what you're getting at with all this.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 07:40 PM
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I don't think it is common at all. I think OP is trying (and failing) to set up some sort of "thought experiment" gotcha to reveal that women don't value men. Oh, and also so he can put this "revelation" in his book about "High Value Women" and sell it to desperate, lonely men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 07:21 PM
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Is there really a contingent of ladies out there demanding that any man jump in to save her life, just because she's a woman? Who are you arguing with?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 07:15 PM
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Wait, no. I am married. Sorry, I didn't catch that part of the title. Please disregard my response as I don't fit your scenario, and I also don't want to be seen as confirming this ridiculous theory.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 07:11 PM
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I don't think, in the scenario you've given, that I'd expect anyone of any gender to risk their life to save mine. Maybe emergency responders, but only because they're likely equipped to handle the dangers. But any random person? Nope. But how does this show I don't value men, when I'm saying I don't want them to die unnecessarily? That doesn't make any sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 06:28 PM
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Why do you talk like "vetting" requires multiple options? It doesn't work like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 05:44 PM
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Not saying you're wrong, but do you have a source for this?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 12:45 PM
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EVERY woman? Every single one? Well, guess I'm not a woman then, bc I don't have a secret account...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 08:47 PM
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True, I do look amazing for 42 so it may not be possible, but there's no harm in trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 06:52 PM
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Which part is funny?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 06:42 PM
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I cannot imagine that I will be more attractive at 62 than I am at 42. Maybe if I'm lucky and keep at it, I won't be any less attractive tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 04:54 PM
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As another poster pointed out, Gen Z is having less casual sex than prior generations.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 04:31 PM
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On our first date, drove us to her ex's grave That is WILD dude! I'm guessing there was no 2nd date? Spread rumors about me sleeping around, stating it in front of my parents to get me grounded. YIKES. Your parents grounded you for (incorrectly thinking that you were) cheating on your girlfriend? How old were you?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 01:27 PM
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No. If she's "clearly not reciprocating" it does not mean "she might one day." It means you need to move on and not wait around for "one day."
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 03:37 PM
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You mean like many dudes did to the "man or bear" question?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 01:10 PM
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but instead of the woman recognizing it for what it is and reacting appropriately What would be the appropriate action for her to take here if she's not interested?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 01:16 PM
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Tony Soprano definitely had a shit mother. And a lot of the show is basically him dealing with his childhood and how she treats/treated him.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 06:44 PM
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I fucking hate this phrase. It's reductionist, misandrist, and terrible. Telling men, and especially boys, to just tough it and not cry is gross as hell. Dudes need to know that they are allowed to have and express their emotions in healthy ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 10:32 PM
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Why do they need to move in together as a 1st step? What about a date or 2 first?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 05:39 PM
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I 100% agree. My husband isn't my best friend and I wouldn't want it that way. Friendships and romantic relationships are fundamentally different. I have friends for friend things and a spouse for relationship things. I think putting all your emotional, physical, etc. support needs in one basket (person) is a recipe for problems. Do my husband and I have some shared interests? Yes, but we also have things we do and enjoy individually or with friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:49 PM
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Sexual dysfunction is the main side effect of SSRIs. Followed by infertility. I dont understand, why would these dudes who are depressed about not being in a relationship and not having sex prioritize their sexual function (which, afaik returns once you wean off the meds) if they're not actually getting the opportunity to bang?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:23 PM
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They're both about presuming someone is guilty of something (being a criminal, being unfaithful) without any evidence or justification. And what do many men here say when women are worried their man may become or has already been abusive to them? "Pick better men." So, if a man is worried that his partner may have been unfaithful and he could be raising someone elses kid? Well, he should've just picked a better woman, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 02:09 PM
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This comment literally says that joke replies to it are ok in the first sentence. It's commented on every post in this sub. Attention! You can post off topic/jokes/puns as a comment to this Automoderator message.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 07:15 PM
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That would also suck. I never said men don't have similar issues. Could be that a woman is only with a man for X or Y reasons and when those reasons evaporate, there's a conflict or insecurity. Which is bad. However, this thread is a question about women, so I was talking about the topic at hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 05:47 PM
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Sure, there are other forms of internal value than degrees that a person may have, no argument there.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 02:21 PM
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The external can be altered my time, aging, illness, etc. If a guy is only with me because I'm hot...what happens if/when I'm not anymore? What if I get sick and loose all my hair, or get in an accident and have scars or am disabled? Will he leave me for someone new because the primary reason he was with me is gone? I don't want to have to have that kind of uncertainty in a committed relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 02:10 PM
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In my experience, this is so true. If you had the 10 hottest celebs, my close girlfriends and I would all likely all pick different ones. Same goes for regular guys we meet in real life. There's can be an acknowledgement that a person is attractive, but not particularly attractive to you. And some women have a larger spread in what they find attractive than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 09:17 PM
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All people have muscles... But to what I think is your point, I guess idc really? It's difficult to define without using visual references but as long as a dude is capable of a decent or normal level of physical activity without collapsing "muscles" don't really matter to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 07:08 PM
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The dude with the 6 pack probably wants to keep it up, meaning he's not only in the gym every day or close, he's watching his diet very strictly. I wouldn't want my world to revolve around his aggressive gym schedule and eating habits. Good for him, really, but that's not how I wanna live. I want someone who can go on vacation without having to find a gym or place to work out every day. I want someone who can have a few beers and ice cream without it wrecking their diet. That's not to say workin…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 05:25 PM
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In the typical Nice Guy situation, what should women be held accountable for?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 03:55 PM
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I was giving an explanation of the term in this specific usage, not an endorsement of either behavior. But generally, I think most women are very aware that dudes often say/do things with the primary intent of getting in their pants wether it be Chad or some other guy. However, the key bit of "nice guy" behavior is the complete flip after being rejected and the insistence that because they are "nice" they are entitled to a shot at romance with the lady. If these "nice guys" were actually nice, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 03:25 PM
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It's kind of a specific term or trope at this point, a "Nice Guy" is one that gets to know a lady as friends but either 1) had romantic intentions from the get but didn't tell her or 2) develops feeling for her and asks her out after a while. The term comes from when he makes his feelings known but the girl rejects him and he protests, saying that he's a "nice guy" and doesn't understand or agree with her rejection. He feels that because he's "nice", she should give him a chance. And then typica…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 03:09 PM
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Then please enlighten us. In words. Define "submissive". Use examples if you need. But saying "no that's not it" doesn't further the debate any. You clearly have an idea of what it means to you, why not share it with the rest of us?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 03:50 PM
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"Common sense" is not a universal standard with a defined set of items. Nice try tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 02:08 PM
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So who's the decider on what's "nonsignificant"? If the man must be the full arbiter on what's important or what can be argued about, that right there is the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 01:18 PM
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Why do you say men can't or don't judge other men's attractiveness to women? I think they do it all the time...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 12:46 PM
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What do you mean "achieve" in a relationship? Are we supposed to be collecting merit badges?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 07:22 PM
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Absolutely genuine, for sure. Why bother otherwise?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 05:27 PM
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I appreciate you looking tho. I'd love to see a longer explanation and the context of "not my job". I mean, friends help each other out (at least, imo, but maybe not for others) and helping someone find a partner isn't weird in that context to me. It can be a little tricky, but if you know 2 people might click, why not? It's pretty low effort on the matchmakers part too.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 02:07 PM
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there was a post on GenZ about why people don't set their friends up with dates and the overwhelming response was "Eww, weird, Why would anyone do that? That's not my job!" That is a really interesting generational difference. Do you by chance remember anything about the title of the thread? I'd like to try to find it to learn more.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 01:41 PM
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Or maybe you're just basing your conclusion about women's misuse of a "metaphysical tool" on your own "terrible wrong instincts"?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 03:02 PM
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You fully admit you do not like it when a woman tries to tell you "exactly who [you] are without knowing [you]" but here you are doing precisely the same thing to women in this thread and in your post.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 02:54 PM
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I see. Sounds like my mother-in-law, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 07:35 PM
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What kinds of acts or words make you feel important?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 07:19 PM
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Can you further define "needlessly confrontational"? Or give examples?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 07:16 PM
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I agree. The rest of the comments devolve into 1) arguing about whether or not she actually lied (which is hard to determine based on the info given and ones own definition of "casual") and 2) the fact that he's taking his friend and the barman's word as gospel without talking to her about it at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 06:45 PM
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I'm sure you're correct. When I said "someone to mediate" I was trying to encompass that some divorces may need adjudication/mediation or whatever, even with no fault and that divorcing people should do what they think is best and all that. My only experience with divorce was my own, which I know was, by most standards, exceptionally "easy" so I didn't wanna project that onto other situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 05:10 PM
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It reminds me so much of of my in-laws. "Hey MIL, can we not talk about religion?" "WELL I GUESS WE'LL JUST NEVER VISIT AGAIN IF YOU HATE US SO MUCH!"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 03:20 PM
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I agree. No fault divorce and someone to mediate (if necessary, if there are contentious points to figure out) to make sure it's equitable. Inflicting "punishment" shouldn't be part of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 03:09 PM
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I figured, just thought I'd ask. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 02:37 PM
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No fault divorce is stupid. This 1st sentence kinda goes against the rest of what you say, no? If you want either partner to be able to leave in instances where there's no abuse or cheating, no fault divorce is what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 01:55 PM
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LOOOOOOL. You have GOT to be some sort of troll.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 01:05 PM
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Straight women want to turn men gay? Huh? Please elaborate. Also, no on the gay bestie thing...some women might but it's not as common as the media would have you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 11:36 AM
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I would also like to know where the fuck this came from. This isn't a thing as far as I know?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 11:31 AM
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I mean, if that were how it worked, half the posts here would be gone. Dudes love to "Women do X because they think Y" and "Women must think Z because she did A" all over this damn place.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 10:07 PM
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A burlesque parody of Clue!?!? That sounds amazing!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:08 PM
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I have to disagree. I'm a woman, married to a man. A man I trust, a man I love and that I know loves me. If he wants to go out and have some beer and wings served by a young lady in hotpants, he's more than welcome. Looking is not cheating, nor do I believe that it makes him more likely to cheat. Why would seeing a woman in a revealing outfit be enough to sway his actions or feelings? It feels very much like giving credence to a woman being SAed just because she was wearing a revealing outfit. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:05 PM
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Ok, if we take your claim that "men have it harder than women in the area of opposite gender attraction" as true...then what? What are you expecting anyone (of any gender) to do with this info? What action(s) do you think they should take (or not take) based on this fact? Is this something that you thing needs to change and if so, how should it change?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 06:06 PM
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Getting a "big no" from you would require that I made a request or an offer... And most of my sexual encounters were like 20 years ago. Plus, as I don't feel like the number or a detailed accounting matters, why would I keep track?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 11:23 PM
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Somewhere around 25? I don't know exactly how many.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 11:02 PM
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Women are people, not "things". Women aren't a commodity to be bought, sold or traded and your argument about rarity and value falls apart if you actually could see them as humans instead of chattle.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 10:56 PM
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It is easier for women. I think that's pretty obvious to most people. But I 100% reject the notion that because it's easier for women when compared to men, it means that she should be vilified for having as much sex as she wants. Lots of things are easy for some people and more difficult for others. But we don't shit on someone's capabilities because someone else can't do a thing as easily. Should I not accept my A in math just because you suck at it and had to study hard to get a B? Should I be…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 10:36 PM
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No, she'll be called "ran through" and a "slut" and other disparaging names once she gets past a handful of partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 07:29 PM
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Jeez, no need to get prickly. I was just confused by your wording and the tenses you used and couldn't tell if the the date was actually accepted/occured with Woman A. You used the word "took" but then said she called you a creep at the "mere proposal" so I didn't know at what point she decided to label you a creep. Thank you for clarifying, even with the rudeness. Woman A sounds a bit crazy here, especially since she'd already been to that establishment in the past. That sucks and I'm sorry she…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 02:54 PM
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So wait, the not-wife woman called you a creep for asking her on a date to a bar that played metal music? Or did you actually go on the date with her?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 02:31 PM
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So wait, do you agree or disagree with that assessment?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 12:54 PM
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The one thing I really can't stand, is hypocrisy in a relationship. And in this, I feel she's being a hypocrite. "Rules for thee but not for me" is 100% not ok in these types of situations, IMHO.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 12:50 PM
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It doesn't really matter if they're "inactive" but still have the app loaded or if they delete it. Either way, they're not "active" on the app so I don't see what your point is?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 07:25 PM
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That makes sense, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 05:05 PM
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What does the comment to like ratio indicate?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:50 PM
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Thanks for clarifying, though I don't quite understand the Arianna Grande reference, I think I get your point. Are you a virgin?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:22 PM
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Thanks for clarifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:04 PM
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That is a...unique line to draw. If you don't mind answering another follow-up: In the event she isn't a virigin, would you want this one sided open relationship continue throughout your relationship, even after you're married? Or would you only have that rule until marriage, then you'd become monogamous? That is assuming you'd eventually marry, I suppose you may not even consider marrying this non-virgin woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:03 PM
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Just to clarify: if she's NOT a virgin, she'd have to be ok with you having other sexual partners while she only has sex with you OR if she is a virgin, you'd...wait till yall were married to have sex with her and forgo having other partners? Just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:24 PM
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Regarding the "no atheists" - do you just want a woman who is some kind of religious, or a specific religion? I find it interesting to not specify, and am just curious on your reasoning.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:21 PM
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Did anything other than him "not offering commitment" to those ladies inform their view that he's a red piller? Like, conversations with him, statements her made, etc?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 05:28 PM
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Slightly more weird? But around here, weird is kinda the norm so I dunno.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 01:33 PM
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Sounds like OP is saying women's primary value and worth is in their ability to reproduce....ew. No.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 01:28 PM
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How are people gonna know her count just by looking at her? By your own admission, you didn't know when you first met her.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 01:30 AM
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I would also love an answer to this. It gets thrown around so much on this sub but isn't ever defined.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 08:48 PM
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Well, if you count high school/teen relationships (which I don't, usually), I've been in 6 "serious" relationships. The first 2 were in high school. 1st dude cheated on me and did other awful stuff so I dumped him. With the next guy it kinda fizzled out and and we mutually broke up, mostly because I was changing schools and we wouldn't see each other a lot. Summer after my senior year I started dating a new dude but the whole relationship was just a cluster fuck. We cheated on each other, got ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 05:22 PM
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I know it goes against all the data regularly shared here, but my 2 previous breakups from LTRs (one of which was a divorce) were both initiated by the man (I'm a woman).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 02:55 PM
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50-60 year olds are definitely still having sex! I avoid thinking think about it, but I know my parents (late 60s) still get frisky as do the other couples they're friends with. And, I'm almost 42 and definitely plan on having sex in and past the next 8 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 06:34 PM
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Thanks for the info, I didn't know that about having a "score." Tbh, my OLD experience is largely 2nd hand from both male and female friends so I'm not completely up-to-date on all the particulars. But I have fairly recently heard dude friends talk about matching with everyone possible and female friends talk about the work involved in weeding out matches and it all sounds exhausting and neither group is particularly happy with the outcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 03:21 PM
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How is men swiping right on everyone NOT (also) a problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 02:57 PM
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I don't think number of matches is a good metric here. Because, as it's been stated, many guys view it as a "numbers game" and will match to every woman possible without looking at her profile or pics. So even if your friend has all those "matches" she now has to sort through each one to see if they're compatible, looking for the same thing, etc. After that, there's no guarantee those matches go on to be dates or hookups because at some point the dudes will finally look at her pics, realize she'…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 02:52 PM
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Lots of people don't have union representation in their field and in some US states collective bargaining is expressly prohibited.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 03:55 PM
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I took a quick dive into some other quotes from these dudes and you may have a point, some of what they say does sound pretty smart. For example: “Nothing on earth consumes a man more quickly than the passion of resentment.” -Nietzsche "He who cannot see the truth for himself, nor, hearing it from others, store it away in his mind, that man is utterly worthless." -Aristotle "The majority of men... are not capable of thinking, but only of believing, and... are not accessible to reason." Arthur Sc…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:14 PM
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Because people can be really smart and good at something but be absolutely terrible at other things. Don't take medical advise from the best plumber around. Don't take plumbing advice from a PhD in literature. Don't take dating/relationship advice from philosophers.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 03:29 PM
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6-8 ish times per month. I said monthly bc it varies based on my cycle. I don't like period sex (not that I don't get horny/aroused during that time, I just don't want most physical contact during my period) so that whole 5-7 days is out completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 08:25 PM
5

100% bullshit. Neither person in a relationship owns the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 07:33 PM
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Boundaries are something you set for yourself, not for others. So in this case your boundary would be "I will not be in a relationship with a woman who wants to go/goes on girls trips." If she knows your boundary and wants to go anyway, cool, then y'all break up.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 07:30 PM
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So people in relationships should just hide out at home, never go see live music or try a new bar? Forever? That's such bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 01:46 PM
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I was only considering women vs. men. However yes, I think it level of violence women have (and often repress, ignore or whatever) is well illustrated by women fighting other women. Because they think/know they have a chance of success.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 02:39 PM
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I agree with the "women aren't less violent but know the stand little chance" thing. They don't act on those violent ideas/feelings because it could backfire or become worse. Like when people say women should just carry guns. But there's a good chance an aggressor physically overpowers them and gets the gun from them before they have the opportunity to use it. So why have a gun, right? I think this is also why "traditionally" poison is a "woman's weapon" because it's more discrete and there's le…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 01:51 PM
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I didn't know that, interesting! So there is some precedent. Still not sure it needs to be a mandatory thing (not saying you are either).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 04:17 PM
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Maybe they can't in all instances, but they could do something like tie a mandatory paternity test to eligibility for other programs/resources. Kinda like the way the we have certain vaccines mandated for public school entry (yes, I know there are exemptions to that and people still try and succeed in getting around them, but it's something at least). Not that I'm completely sold on mandatory paternity testing, but it's theoretically possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 04:05 PM
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If I'm understanding you correctly, someone saying that they'd never marry a man who didn't care about their orgasms is denying the orgasm gap? Is that right? If so, I find that confusing. To me, it's saying that the gap DOES exist: some men don't care if their parter cums so don't marry or date a dude that falls into that category.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 02:52 PM
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So if you 1) know she'll lose interest if you don't do those things but also 2) know you'll eventually stop doing them... Why bother? You're just kicking the "she loses interest" can down the road a bit farther.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 04:58 PM
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This is the best answer I've seen in this thread. Good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:25 PM
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My husband is a painter. As in, homes, businesses, etc. Yes, he's also an "artistic" painter as a hobby, but he makes his money on a ladder, brush or roller in hand. Not terribly glamorous. Love him to pieces.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 04:22 PM
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People have feelings and women and included in "people."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 06:07 PM
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That is a gigantic philosophical question which I am probably not equipped to answer given that I'm a stranger on the internet who doesn't know you. However, it may be a good start to ask yourself why you don't believe it in the 1st place.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 06:05 PM
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Yes, of course they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 06:02 PM
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We say "happy spouse, happy house" instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 09:33 PM
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Everybody has preferences, right? If that's what you want, find a woman that does that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 12:43 PM
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Kindness, intelligence, confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 08:56 PM
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Then what was the point of your comment where you expressed that not every situation is one of the exact ones she listed?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 06:57 PM
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See how I began my previous comment with "Did you..." and ended with one of these: "?" That means it's a question. A request for more information or for clarification. If I was wrong in saying that you wanted her to list all possible scenarios where that applied, you as the other party are free to say, "No, that's not what I expected..." and then clarify and add more. This is how a conversation and an exchange of ideas between people happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 06:46 PM
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Did you really expect her to write out every possible situation this may apply to?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 06:31 PM
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What's the reason?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 06:27 PM
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Same here, but with a different time scale (married 8, together 11).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 08:05 PM
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No worries!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 08:47 PM
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Huh? I don't understand. I was saying that the OP from the AWO30 post (username that begins "ThrowMusic") also posted this exact same screed about women's spaces as the OP here (username Tuco_Salamanca or whatever) in a different sub. So either one copied the others post to repost or they're the same person. I don't think any of the replies in that AWO30 post are actually toxic. Some weren't "nice", but not toxic. However, OP seems to disagree with us there.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 08:31 PM
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No, I'm pretty sure that's the right one. And, if you look, the OP who posted in AWO30 curiously also posted the exact same thing as this post in the "Men's Rights" or whatever sub. So, pretty safe to assume this OP and the one in AWO30 are the same person with 2 usernames.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 08:02 PM
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As long as you're just reading, but not continually or frequently commenting or posting, I think it's great.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 07:42 PM
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Here you go: https://np.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOver30/s/oqyD7YbkaV
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 07:33 PM
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I never said or implied I was the person you asked the question to. I asked clarifying questions about your question and tried to figure out what you were talking about/asking. If you just want to talk to just one person, DM them. But you made a public comment on a public forum where anyone (including me) can reply. Not my fault you only read usernames when you wanna make jokes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 08:30 PM
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I don't understand why the outcome matters (whether it works or doesn't) here. She's ok with it. If she was of a different mindset, (being open to going on a date with a stranger) it might work (if she was single). But her mindset is no dates with strangers. But either way, again, she's ok with cold approaching. The outcome of it working or not is irrelevant to her feelings about cold approaching. I don't know how else to say it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 08:25 PM
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So you want to know why she's not against it, given that she'd never date someone that cold approached her? That doesn't make sense to me. Do you want her to be upset and angry that someone approaches her because she won't date them anyway? Or should she be against cold approaching in general because for her specifically it doesn't work? She said she's fine with cold approaching. Soooo she's fine with it, regardless of the outcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 08:02 PM
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Because the reason she said it won't work for her is because she's married. She's talking about her own personal preference and specific circumstances. She's not speaking for other women, not saying it doesn't/won't/can't work, just that in her case it doesn't. I think it would be rather silly of her say "Men shouldn't approach women because I'm married", which is what I'm getting you think she should say.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 07:30 PM
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There are 0 things in the coment you replied to saying they encouraged men to approach them. Just that they wouldn't/don't mind if men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 07:20 PM
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Precisely. I don't have romantic or sexual feelings about my friends regardless of gender. I have those feelings for my partner, which is one of the reasons they're my partner not my friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 02:17 PM
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My advice is to use full words, including vowels.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 03:21 PM
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It depends on 1) if he said anything to try to explain why he needed to pay that way - did he misplace his credit/debit card or wallet? Or anything else to let me know this isn't how he rolls regularly? 2) how the rest of the date went. If we clicked, the conversation was good, etc. If the answer is "yes" to 1 and it makes somewhat sense and the answer to 2 is positive, then maybe? Probably?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 03:19 PM
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So he doesn't flirt, which is usually used to indicate that someone is interested in a person, but wonders why he gets ghosted? In that case, I'd advise him to flirt or otherwise show he likes them and relax a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 02:40 PM
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How does he treat women, or if you've no experience seeing him with a lady, how does he talk about them? My guess is that despite all the boxes he checks, something is off with his personality or how he interacts with women. Also, what about him is "awkward" socially?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 02:34 PM
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You didn't really answer the question, but I assume you mean the risk of being alone? Is that the issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 06:31 PM
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What is it that you're risking? And how is that different than what everyone else risks in relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 06:23 PM
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Except the comments where you say women should be treated like pets...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 06:15 PM
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Why do you assume those women who your super hot friend is sleeping with do that with lots of guys and regularly? Or do you know those women and have seen a pattern in their behavior?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 07:36 PM
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Men or women who are in relationships that the advice seeker wants to emulate. Basically, ask people who have what you want to see how they got it, how they kept it, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 07:20 PM
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Yep, that pretty much describes me. I've always found relationship dynamics really fascinating but as an "old" married lady, it's not like I can go out there and experience it much for myself, so here I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 05:50 PM
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This post is the epitome of the problems with this sub: "What do women value? I guess I should ask MEN!"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 10:29 PM
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You said "sleeping with a *considerable amount of previous partners" that refers to body count, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 05:58 PM
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You really think your rejection of her is going to make her "turn her life around"? What a load of self-important horseshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 06:02 PM
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But my chances of being raped, murdered or otherwise hurt are the same as now? In that case, I'll have to pick other options. Thanks for clarifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 04:54 PM
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Can you clarify if #3 would mean that there is actually less for women to fear or just that they'd feel less scared and anxious?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 04:47 PM
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Would you not give dating and relationship advice to your son if he asked or needed it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 12:39 AM
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Your big mistake was thinking anything, and I mean anything "according to reddit" had a basis in reality worth looking in to.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 11:33 PM
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Ruined? Do you not know that clothes can be washed?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 09:31 PM
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Did you see the survey results for this sub? It explains a whole heck of a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 05:48 PM
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Ah, right, social media. The places where everyone tells the truth without exaggeration or bias.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 05:47 PM
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Whoops, sorry. I thought you said comments on the post, not in the post itself. My bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 08:35 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/Nzq80EGeZm
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 08:00 PM
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"I just wanted to point out all these imagined bad things I see about women, why are they so upset??"
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 10:28 AM
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You keep going back to that one, single sentence in the study and repeating it over and over again as if it's the sum total of the findings and none of the rest of the paper "counts." Cherry-picking as you've done is typically indicative of a person striving to achieve a simplistic goal rather than achieving understanding and knowledge.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 01:25 PM
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But why have a hierarchy at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 01:40 PM
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Why are you still interacting with them after the "initial rejection"? Even saying "initial" implies that there were subsequent rejections...meaning you kept at it after being turned down. Is that what you meant to imply?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 03:18 PM
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How is "the world" gonna know if a person has taken a bunch of virginities?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 10:11 PM
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Prove what to who?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 09:44 PM
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Why not get roommates instead of either a partner or parents?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 08:11 PM
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Really? Why not? Also, if you don't factor in personality, what takes its place? Is it all physical attraction or something else as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 05:43 PM
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I have a masters degree and my husband took a few semesters at community college but didn't finish. Never bothered me at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 06:24 PM
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Even within the US it can vary, there are some states that recognize common law marriage after a certain number of years.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 01:57 PM
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Yep. My girl friend group is me and 5 other ladies. 5/6 of us are either married, in very very LTRs but not married, or just not looking to date at all ever. We've all been in this state for 10-15 yrs (we're all 40ish) but there's 1 friend who just cannot pick a good dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 03:01 PM
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I think OP is assuming that you need two married adults + a kid (or more) to be "a family"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 09:09 PM
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This is how I took it as well. I didn't see it as calling men out for lacking in hygiene.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:23 PM
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The OP asks what you want in a partner. Why did you think it was necessary to list what you think women want in addition to that?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 08:45 PM
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I think you're the 1st person on this sub I've seen use the phrase "attractive to me" and I appreciate it. There's so much discussion about attractiveness that assumes everyone is attracted to exactly the same thing all the time and I think it's mostly bs. Yes, there are people of both genders who are just objectively attractive and anyone and everyone thinks they're gorgeous. But most people aren't in that group. What attracts a person varies greatly and what matters is if two people are attrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 07:51 PM
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Very good point. Hadn't thought about it like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 10:39 PM
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I'd like to see stats about that as well. Even the linked study doesn't say exactly what they mean by "initiated" divorce. Does it mean, they were just the one that filed the paperwork? Were the 1st out of the couple to say "I want a divorce" and/or move & separate? Or some other option? Depending on the definition, it could give more insight into what's going on and the circumstances leading to the divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 06:20 PM
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What I think is most interesting is that the "70% stat" only applies to marriage, at least in the US based study linked in the article. That study states that "Women are more likely than men to initiate divorces, but women and men are just as likely to end non-marital relationships, according to a new study..." (emphasis mine).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 05:34 PM
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I don't get it either. It's like they don't understand that it doesn't mean all masculinity or masculine people are toxic, just that there are some extreme traits of masculinity that are or can become toxic. I saw a post that said it better, but the gist was that it was the same as calling some specific potatoes "red potatoes. " It doesn't mean that all potatoes are red, just that the particular potatoes in question are red. Potatoes come in lots of varieties with varying characteristics. Some a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 04:05 PM
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Sure, if your only measure of "manliness" is "making a lot of money" or "making more money than his partner", you'd be right that he wouldn't measure up in that regard. But is income really the only or primary metric of how much of a man someone is? That seems awfully reductive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 05:04 PM
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No, I'm the breadwinner. My husband is a/the man. More income =/= "man".
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 03:51 PM
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I'm a woman, married to a man. I make almost 3x what he does and have the opportunity to increase my salary even more over the next few years. My husband and I talk all the time about when I hit $X salary, he can back off to working part time and hopefully, eventually not work at all. We both recognize the benefits of having someone at home to run the houshold. So there are some of us out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 02:04 PM
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I see that yes, a lot of women in this thread are saying they do not find their friends SOs attractive. However, I'd bet very very very few of them actually tell their friend "your bf is ugly/unattractive." Nor do I think any of them even care that their friend is dating someone they dont find good looking. It's one thing to think something, and entirely another to share it in a mean spirited and debating manner. The fact that you jump from women having these thoughts to them sharing them openly…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 02:19 PM
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Why didn't you call the police or EMS? If I found someone passed out in the street (of any gender) my 1st thought would be to get them medical assistance. I don't really doubt that your intentions were noble but...you also imply she was in a vulnerable state and may have previously been assaulted. Why not call those that can actually help her?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 09:01 PM
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No where in the post you're replying to does it say they do or did expect a man to step in. Only that that a man never has. They're just replying to OPs question.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 08:54 PM
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If, among these childfree married couples, men are the sole or primary earner half the time, that means the other half the time the women are the sole/primary earner. So if in 50% of these couples, the woman is the breadwinner, and 50% of the time the man is, how is that "a consistent pattern of the man being the benefactor"? It's literally half and half within the group you cited.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 06:58 PM
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