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RELATIONSHIPSKate_A_D/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 10:46 PM
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You say Phyliss Schlafy can explain why my ideas of rape culture are damaging to gender relations and society right? Correct me if I'm wrong, but from what I've checked about that woman she believes women don't belong in the work force and that ''virtuous women don't get harassed'' no? She also seemingly believes marital rape does not exist doesn't she? The way I see it, her worldview is what's damaging to society, not ideas of rape culture. Because abusers don't give a damn about a woman's virt…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/17 03:42 AM
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My apologies if I invented you children! :P You make some very interesting points, and this is exactly why I visit this page. To see more conservative point of views in depth and not only the surface points that liberals often only see. I DO believe there is biological differences between genders, and it certainly shows when the time comes to choose mates. Men can afford to be less choosy, women spend so much energy time and effort in reproduction that they don't have that luxury. I do believe w…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/17 05:53 PM
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I am glad you are still with me after my long rant! These things really get me thinking and I love it. XD To answer your question, a bit, not much. Not enough to justify forcing people into gendered roles against their wills, or excusing harmful behaviors. There are some differences, but I think personality can override them to certain levels depending on the person. You know, that last conversation actually got me thinking that I had forgotten the main point of slut shamming, and the reason its…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/17 01:20 AM
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There probably ARE some laws that need to be changed in some places, but changing laws are not the most important part of it. Its not about controlling men, no more than controlling women, its about changing societal views and what is deemed acceptable or not. I am sure that you teach your children to be respectful and kind, like many parents do. Many boys will learn to become decent enough and respectful men, but many others will not. In the background our culture tends to teach them that women…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/17 02:21 AM
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Well if it can be of any comfort, some anthropologists believe gossiping played a greatly useful part in our success as social beings. Its a unique way of passing on important information you can suddenly acquire without needing to know everyone or experience everything for yourself. It may seem dismal to you to learn that ''Chris apparently cheated on his former 3 gf's'', but maybe Lucy was eyeing him before and might actually benefit from knowing that. Its natural and you can't stop it. Merely…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/17 11:37 PM
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If I put a mini skirt to walk down the street I will expect to draw the attention of men (and even some women). That part is plainly natural, people's eyes are drawn to what they deem pretty or attractive and its perfectly fine. Catcalls or being harassed? No, I have every right to wear that short skirt and not be harassed. I might see a good looking shirtless guy during the warm summer days, and that might divert my gaze for a moment. No way would I ever sexually harass him for being shirtless,…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/17 03:49 PM
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Nagging has existed long before feminism was made into a large scale movement. Traditionally male dominated societies have always had nagging wives. Nagging is not challenging, its pressuring a lesson repetitively in a manner that is not sympathetic. Nothing wrong with a woman challenging a man either if its done respectfully, the same way that men can challenge each other's views without creating harmful and toxic environments. Feminism is about women having equal rights, as in you are not to b…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/17 06:41 PM
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Our nature is merely to survive, and that survival can be done in many shades of grey indeed, but it doesn't have to be destructive or hurtful. We are social beings above all, and I think our true nature is simply to want to feel loved and accepted and to feel that we belong and have our place. We are not properly taught how to achieve this though, and are often times given the wrong tools altogether. When a person doesn't know how to achieve their needs through proper communication (or cannot e…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/17 11:48 PM
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Well if that man ends up in jail then he seriously did not choose an acceptable method to ''end the nagging'', whatever that method was. I don't think nagging is a natural female disposition either, though I believe you are right that it can become abuse as nagging is a destructive and distorted attempt to change another person. Men can nag as well, though women are set up to be the main perpetrators of this type of abuse when society teaches them that ''they can change their man''. Heck, the ch…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/17 11:11 PM
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''Nagging'' and being mean has nothing to do with feminism though. She clearly is having issues with having a healthy form of communication with her partner.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/17 09:17 PM
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Eeeeeeh that really doesn't sound good... sorry huge red flag there! There is no way this can be acceptable behavior in even the ''best'' of scenarios (the one where he's bloody baiting a woman by promising sex without actually touching her so his friend can get her??? WTF???)... which is also not the most plausible scenario unfortunately. The good news is that you've seen his true colors and can now protect yourself from further deceit.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/17 09:08 PM
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You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders, and are very strong and positive, so I believe your child will be in good hands no matter what. I understand your desire to mend the relationship, and its possible that he will indeed, one day, regret losing this bond. You can't wait on him forever though. Some people refuse help all their lives and never do get better. Its sad, and even more so when we know they are in the state they are because they are in dire need of help. In the end thou…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/17 02:58 PM
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I think you've already put the finger on the two huge problems here! He does not communicate at all, and he's depressed. All you can do about the communication issue is try to talk to him about that, but it seems you've already been doing that as you mentioned ''nagging him''. Have you tried a much more gentle approach than nagging? A person is not likely willing to open up when they are being stressed or cowered by anger. All you can do is gently try to coax him, but then again you can't really…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/17 01:56 PM
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Its great that he's taking his own life in his hands, getting bolder with initiatives and beating off procrastination, but telling you to ''shut up about your female crisis''? That is a red flag. Can't have a healthy relationship without healthy communication. You are in a relationship with HIM, not your girlfriends. If he constantly dismisses your feelings/anxieties/hurts etc, he's going to grow an emotional wedge between the two of you, and you'll end up growing ''cold'' towards him. Is this s…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 11:02 PM
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Wow, has it actually gotten bad enough to the point of tearing the relationship apart? If so couple's therapy might help! Reading your text I get the impression that having your male partner lead you is NOT something that comes naturally to you... nor to him! Going against your own nature might not be the best of solutions, specially if you are not exactly ''easing'' both of you into this attempt at a complete change in your couple dynamics. Have you taken a hard long look at WHY exactly you fee…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 09:55 PM
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Ah okay I see how this works now! Yeah it makes some sens! Not getting enough sex will certainly suck for a man (even a woman) but I think the real problem lies less in the actual sexual urges not being met than in the implications surrounding this lack of intimacy. A man who get constantly rejected for sex, or whose partner never ever initiate, end up feeling insecure and unwanted, (as we would too in fact) and feel less closely bonded with his partner. He can still take care of his urges on hi…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 02:31 AM
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You also bring interesting valid points! Today's social circles do tend to be less stable than they used to. I have to admit that I can't complain of that though, with my borderline mother in law who would ask nothing more than to be part of our lives on a daily basis... while bf and I cringe at her increasing attempts to visit! :P
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/17 12:33 AM
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Ah okay I see! Interesting article, with some valid points, though I think they go a bit overboard with their notion that GENDER EQUALITY is damaging sexual relations. Gender equality is basically this: "Gender equality, equality between men and women, entails the concept that all human beings, both men and women, are free to develop their personal abilities and make choices without the limitations set by stereotypes, rigid gender roles and prejudices. Gender equality means that the different be…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 04:05 AM
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Ah I see! At least there was SOME form of protection available! That's a bit reassuring but still, would that not mean that it has to be proven in some way in order for divorce to be valid in the no fault divorce laws page? I'm thinking specifically of the case of lets say a narcissistic husband who could mistreat his wife horribly while keeping a perfect saintly facade in front of society. If the wife can't just divorce at will without proving there is abuse then that can really backfire. Narci…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 02:49 AM
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Hollywood likes to depict men as tough loner hermit warriors, but their social needs are as high on average as ours. Social needs diverge a lot more from individual to individual, but we are all deeply social creatures who suffer psychological consequences if we are deprived from it. I don't see why sex or cooking would be an incentive for a man to marry for life. You even mention in the following paragraph that they can get sex elsewhere no? The initial reason marriage was created was to form s…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/17 02:50 AM
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At this point I can't help but wonder... why exactly is it that you ''want it to work?''. I feel like you are hoping he will change, and that you are waiting for the man you are truly looking for to take his place. Its not going to happen unfortunately, people don't change like that. ESPECIALLY if he is not open to communicating with you and work on his issues. Relationships require work, and sometimes things can get rocky, but if that basically resumes MOST of the relationship then its not one …
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/17 01:43 AM
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People assume pottery is easy but it takes so much skill! I'm a ceramist who sculpts and make jewelry and I spend lots of time with pottery artists. A few of them which earn their living full time off of it. The amount of work and talent required to live off of that is unbelievable and requires their complete devotion and huge life sacrifices, but they pull it off nonetheless. One of my pottery artist friend has her own home grown business, but its considered as little more than a ''cute little …
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 01:46 PM
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To be fair our species would not have been able to take over the entire planet without learning how to sow. We have not exactly learned how to grow fur. Its a vital invention that allowed us to progress tremendously and is still widely used today because it was such a great one... but has been completely overlooked by historians, made banal and considered somewhat lowly by society, since its associated with women's work. That's the part feminism should cringe at, not that women can want to learn…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 12:59 PM
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Oh that is a great idea! I was looking for something inexpensive! Def will give it a try.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/17 02:02 AM
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''There is a submission/dominance circuit in mammals for sexuality and partnership. It does not mean that a woman is lifeless and spineless but that she puts down the "girl power!" I'm curious what you are referring with this part? I can only think of a handful of (none domesticated) mammals where the males have true dominance and most of the power. Chimps for one... and its not a pretty social structure we would envy. Even lions, which people usually associate with the prime example of male dom…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/17 07:17 PM
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There is nothing wrong with you! I know its hard not to blame these things on ourselves, especially when we are the insecure type of people. My bf also has a lower sex drive than I do, and I used to feel a bit insecure about it at first. Then we talked about it and he admit he had never really had that big of a drive. Sex drives differ in everyone, and not all men have huge appetites or are kinky in bed. If your SO has always been that way (not counting teen years of course!), then its just the …
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/17 05:00 AM
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Yup! We are each other's best buddies. I'm certain that if we were ever to break up we would still stay in contact and help each other out from time to time. We also have a similar sens of humor and our ''closer than only friendship friendship'' means we get to take teasing and pestering each other to a whole new level. I see us as a bit of everything. We are friends, lovers, life partners, and family.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/17 04:13 AM
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Coming from someone with anxiety issues, panic attacks, and whose bf affectionately sometimes calls his ''little ball of stress'' I can assure you that we often convince ourselves we are more of a burden to our SO than we truly are. If your bf is patient, supportive and understanding your relation will likely be okay, no matter how dramatic everything sometimes feels in your head. I can't keep count of all the times I imagined I was destroying my relationship because of my constant stress and an…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 04:24 AM
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I've been there and I know how hard it is to desperately need to cling to someone when you are in such need of help, but realize that that person can't keep up with uplifting you for long before the weight grows too heavy on them. You need to take good care of you before you can enter a stable relation. You need a good therapist and possibly meds to help you get better. Our partners can't be expected to shoulder us while we sink if its happening 24/7, its just too much to ask of any person that …
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 03:05 AM
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He will need more than financial management or debt counseling, he will need actual therapy with a good psychologist to find the root of his problem. This is not a problem that goes away on its own, though you can probably tell that by the way that you mention he refuses to even see he has a problem. I'm sorry you have to go through this, though I admire how well you seem to be taking everything in hand. If he refuses therapy you will have to consider leaving him. It won't get better on its own …
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 02:48 AM
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No one ever truly consents to abuse. Abuse is abuse because it is inflicted by one party to another that did not consent. Abuse victims often don't leave their partners because they have been verbally and emotionally abused into believing they ''deserve'' the poor treatment. Often this is especially true of people who grew up in abusive families and are not equipped with the tools to tell what is ''normal'' apart from what is abusive. Sometimes they even stay because their lives or the lives of …
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 03:20 PM
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I wasn't sure what I was going to find in this reddit section when I first posted. Having been raised with the modern mentality and only been surrounded by left wing ideas, without much introspection at all into the right, I find it very interesting to gain insight on more traditional views and values. I am happy to see that there is much good to be learned from the other side of the fence, and am hoping to learn to incorporate some of them in a way that might balance out and better my own perce…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 04:17 AM
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Exactly! Its scary when you realize just how much things we believe in that ends up being ideas that were paid for by large companies! Since our births we get bombarded constantly by others telling us what it is we want and that will make us happy. Most of these people don't care about our happiness and just want our money, while those that do care often don't realize that they doing the work of paid for advertisements. Money likely is the root of nearly all of our woes.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 02:28 AM
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We have strayed so far from what is natural, and created a whole artificial world around us. We only have bits of truths and information here and there, mixed up with the lies and misunderstandings. Its confusing to know what it is we truly need to be happy, especially when the line is blurred between individual and collective needs. I feel like we will get even more disconnected and confused as generations go by. Its true that time is priceless. There is only so far money can go in extending ou…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 01:03 AM
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Thank you very much! I really do appreciate the advice. :) I wish you the same as well!
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 10:09 PM
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I've tried meditation, and I can't manage to empty my head... I'm trying to maintain a jogging routine. I find the exercise does a lot of good. Maybe yoga is something I need to consider seriously! Omg, Goat Yoga!
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 10:07 PM
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I'm glad to know things are working out well for you! Enjoy Hawaii, its absolutely wonderful!! I have mentioned this several times in the past, that I could not realistically keep up with him, but its like he keeps forgetting. Maybe I need to really sit down and compare the numbers with him so he will wake up! Actually, the part time jobs are for stability! I manage my part time work so that I earn enough to pay for the bills and house and groceries. All of the ''extras'' spending is currently o…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 10:04 PM
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Thanks. :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 09:57 PM
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Because I was raised this way I suppose, and all those around me! I do appreciate many of the perks modern female standards (in my opinion) has brought, but there are also good traditional values modernity has strayed too much from. For instance, you are absolutely right that money should not be the main contribution to a relation. I think I might be a little too focused on finding value in what I financially can contribute or financially attain, which is probably not the best path to self fulfi…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 09:56 PM
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Its fine I don't find it harsh! We all have different point of views, and I appreciate your honesty. :) I guess I might have made it sound like I'm only working 15-18 hours a week and then pursue a hobby, while he's working endless hours and come home expected to do tons of chores. The main difference between us is that the career he is pursuing pays a lot and steadily. I have to work over the work I do to even GET PAID! Doing the actual art works is the easy part... marketing is a whole job on …
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 09:45 PM
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Pretty sure he would look at me like I'm crazy if I told him it was his job to financially provide for me (and get angry if I expected him to pay for EVERYTHING without even trying my best), but I do try to remind myself to make little gestures for him when I can. We do try to keep each other happy, though workaholic tendencies run in both of us and sometimes we need reminders to focus a little less on work and a little more on each other.... You are absolutely right. Being an artist (and a very…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 01:32 AM
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We are not married, though where I'm from its common never to marry... and owning a house together is often seen as being pretty much the equivalent to marriage in terms of relationship status. Though even if we were officially married, I would still feel the need to manage my work and finances as I do now (Quebec culture!). He does tell me he doesn't care what I do as long as it makes me happy, but I'm great at having panic attacks when I overthink things... I do tend to be stressed over probab…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 12:44 AM
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Maybe you are focusing a bit too much on this ''Alpha Male'' idea? Alpha male? As in wolves? Cause that would simply mean you are looking for a partner who will be a parent. ''Alpha'' wolves are simply the parent wolves. Sure they usually have a bit more dominance over the others cause, ya know, the others are their kids! I think you may simply be looking for a guy who has a strong display of self confidence and take care of some specific things for you? If you feel like growling when the guy sw…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 09:27 PM
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Sex toys! Seriously, that is what they are for! Plus women have an endless array of good ones to choose from, you just have to figure out what you personally enjoy! A living breathing partner is honestly not necessary if its just pure sexual satisfaction you are looking for!
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/17 07:46 PM
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