KatherineKelly Archive

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6	Letting go How we are treated in childhood can often translate later in how we think and feel about ourselves Our minds are empty pages that other people write on creating a story that emotionally expresses itself as to how we feel and act. Your father and being bullied is a part of this story until you step out of it When you are bullied you are being devalued by another human being. This makes them superior over you (better than you) if you in any way make it about yourself. You have now personalized it …	/r/RedPillWomen	31/10/15 08:34 PM
2	Life Lessons from Ballet Class These two sentences together struck me as a funny. "I remember my first class dancing en pointe (wooden toe shoes). I took my shoes off to reveal bloody toes and blisters" and than a couple of sentences later. "Girls are mean" I just thought to myself Duh! Very wise and thoughtful post. The comment about the sins of the female brought a understanding smile to my face but men have their sins to.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/10/15 01:21 AM
2	My SO and I both exclaim, "She's so hot!" Why? We are exclusive. There were and are many reasons I'm attracted to him. One is the age difference. I'm 28 and he is 41. I needed someone who was settled, educated and professional and experienced with women but not a womanizer. It seems strange to say that but my lack of experience with men meant I needed a man that was experienced with women. Difficult to explain but something I sensed was and is true at least for me. I was never going to find that in someone near my age. It is a paradox that t…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/10/15 01:30 AM
16	being first mate, how to avoid being used? Being used can come out of being taken for granted. It is that place reached in a relationship when your guy is not afraid to lose you to another guy. Everything I do I do for me. I eat healthy for me. I exercise for me. I dress nicely for me. I keep my nails polished and my hair long and healthy looking for me. I walk with head up for me. I talk softly and clearly for me. I'm friendly but reserved for me. I develop my mind and spirit for me. I am a lady for me. It is partly where my self respec…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/10/15 12:56 AM
2	My SO and I both exclaim, "She's so hot!" Why? My BF will not call a guy hot because he does not want to appear gay. I also do not think he wants to bring to my attention other men because he already thinks I get to much attention from them already. It has been a source of tension between us.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/10/15 12:23 AM
2	Ladies, how would you deal with your man's lack of passion? What is a truly good person? Sometimes being good is a bad thing if being good is more about being afraid to be bad than it is about genuinely being good. Have you ever met a nice guy you did not trust because he was so nice? Will he argue with you and stand up for himself or runs from any type of confrontation? Is he passive aggressive ? Is he a chameleon always changing colors so has no core personality but becomes a mirror image of whoever he is around? Good is wonderful but only if it is mat…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/09/15 03:16 AM
15	Looking for ways to increase my feminine manner. That type of humor may have a protective quality when you are constantly exposed to injuries, sickness and death. A way of coping with what could often be traumatic experiences and not something the average person probably would seek out. Trying to be classy and feminine when God knows what is leaking out of one of several possible orifices may be asking to much of yourself. Humor is an excellent way to manage stress. I think of femininity as an energy that influences who I am, how I experience …	/r/RedPillWomen	24/09/15 12:17 AM
2	Early dating days... should I keep chasing? If you are used to being pursued than you must be worth pursuing. Trust in that ! I have never thought pursuing a guy to be a good idea. You give them to much power by doing that. Also if he is not confident enough to pursue a woman and you do the pursuing you may end up with an insecure man. I'm very sensitive to how difficult it is for a man to ask a woman out. They are putting it all out there and risking rejection because they are expected to be the pursuer. I can avoid all this risk by simp…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/15 02:48 AM
3	Am I making a mountain out of a molehill and overreacting to my bf helping out his mentally unstable ex? Does she have a mother and father concerned that she may be suicidal? Friends or siblings that are concerned for her well being? Is your BF medically qualified to be her mental health practitioner? He had a sexual relationship with this woman and now he is continuing to have an undefined relationship with her. He ended the relationship with her. Who is to say she is not out for revenge by destroying your relationship. She may not even want him but does not want anyone else to have him. I think h…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/15 01:52 AM
3	Affectionate vs Sexual If I'm in public somewhere and a man walks up to me and tells me he really wants to f..k me. Is he nice for clearly and honestly stating what he wants with no games or a Jerk for being disrespectful? That will depend on me. What is defined as Niceness is subjective. In my mind there is good niceness (inner strength based on sound principles) and bad (weak) niceness. (Unprincipled, no standards of behavior) Good niceness is based on decency and comes out of the relationship a man wants to and is …	/r/RedPillWomen	22/09/15 05:09 AM
1	What are some ways to improve my attitude about sex and get excited when I don't feel like it? It is natural to not want sex if you are having health issues just as it is natural to not want sex during stressful times and events. The body loses it's desire much how we stop being hungry if we are freightened because flight from danger is more important than eating. Stress has shut down your sexuality and possibly added to your health problems. It is easy to damage our sexuality by forcing it (having sex when we do not really want to or with who we do not really want to have it with) This i…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/09/15 03:18 AM
10	Affectionate vs Sexual I do not want to be worshipped or put on a pedestal. Yes I want to be respected as a human being (as equal to basic human rights) I do not want to be the pure wife that sits at home waiting for a husband to leave his whore because he cannot comprehend having sex with the wife of his children the way he does with his whore. A woman struggles to live with the contradictions of male sexuality. I'm not very good at playing the role of seductress or slut. It does not come natural to me like it does w…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/09/15 08:00 PM
2	What to do when your guy doesn't like to text, yet you thrive on it? You may be looking for reassurance and confirmation. This need can be destructive to relationships when it becomes overwhelming to the one on the receiving end. You want to understand what kind of man you have. Some men need a lot of emotional space and they begin to feel crowded when they do not get it. Connection comes in two flavors, quantity and quality. With him you may want to give up quantity and instead focus on quality. Chasing connection with certain types of men will leave them feelin…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/09/15 07:01 PM
4	Affectionate vs Sexual For me affection humanizes sex. I love the raw passion and urgency of sex and would not want to lose that in a relationship. If that was missing I do not think I could feel like a woman. The desire of a man makes me aware of myself as a woman and in some ways shapes me into the kind of woman I am and will become. I simply do not want to share this experience with other women by him being sexual with other women. It is to personal. Affection may be measured by acts but it is not the act but the m…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/09/15 06:32 PM
8	Your favorite fragrance? I wear Jivago. Very soft and never overwhelming. I avoid putting it where he may put his mouth so he does not accidentally taste it. This is more difficult to do than it sounds : ) Sometimes I put a hint of vanilla extract diluted with coconut oil at the base of my neck where it meets my shoulder. Not to much so the skin does not become sticky or oily. Something for him to taste.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/09/15 08:19 PM
1	Confidence I do not measure myself against others. I found when I did that I did not like myself. Either I was feeling superior and arrogant which made me feel guilty for thinking that I'm better than others or inferior and ashamed which caused massive amounts of anxiety. Watch how often you compared yourself to others. It happens in the mind constantly and they are very fast thoughts. Usually things related to status. Beauty,intelligence and material possesions are the big ones. Think about all the ways y…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/09/15 11:56 PM
1	[Poll] Ladies of RPW: 3 questions for you on Kids, Living Together, and Marriage I will be 28 this year and he is 40. He has two daughters. One who is starting college this fall and one who lives with us three days a week. I'm close to both of his daughters but particularly his youngest who will be thirteen in October. I doubt at his age he wants to start all over with more children and that actually works for me. The world seems like a messed up placed to bring life into. It is also partly vanity because I like my body the way it is and have seen what child birth can do. Ma…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/09/15 11:32 PM
8	I Know where I failed- And that's a GOOD thing! I read some of your posts. You have amazing self control. I would not have been nearly as gracious as you. You show incredible self restraint (not my best strong point) I don't remember how I stumbled onto the manosphere and Red Pill (which has a very scary depressing side to it) but ever since I have been like an anthropologist trying to dissect the male mind. It has been painful to see how men really feel about women compared to what they say to your face but also freeing and enlightening. I k…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/08/15 03:31 AM
4	Single RPW, how do you deal with sex/engaging in physical intimacy? Try to understand what you want from a man and if you want a relationship, what will that relationship be. Books probably could be written on the different ways and meanings of a kiss. It can be extremely intimate or almost meaningless. I will not let someone kiss me on the lips because I find this very personal. Kissing has a very symbolic meaning to me. It is strange to say but in some ways kissing is more personal than F...king. I cannot exactly explain why but just how I feel. Have you ever …	/r/RedPillWomen	30/08/15 06:49 PM
2	Would ya'll mind if I gushed about my new vanity? Very cute! I always look forward to the new Ikea magazine and my three roommates feel the same way. We fight over the Ikea magazine and the Vogue and Elle gets ignored. Liked the lamp as well. For the chair something in a French Provincial may be a good fit if you like that style.	/r/RedPillWomen	30/08/15 06:26 PM
3	Feeling nervous about moving in together. Have you ever done something you did not want to do because everyone else you were with was? I doubt a day went by where my mother did not use the "would you jump off a bridge if everyone else was" example. I hated hearing her say that! A bit like losing your virginity because all your girlfriends already have. In my opinion a partner should not dictate rules that cause conflict with ones morals and values. I cohabit with my BF but I'm also very uneasy about "contractual love" and actually fear …	/r/RedPillWomen	29/08/15 06:37 PM
6	Terrified of being lied to about exclusivity just for sex ... How to prevent it? This fear will eat you alive. Part of love is letting go of fear but not letting go of wisdom. Wisdom is unfortunately gained through experience and this includes experience with men. There are many reasons people cheat and the reasons are someone different between men and women but yet also shared. An example would be women who do not feel desired will be tempted to cheat because they want to feel loved and desired again ( valued), where I think men cheat for the entertainment value such as exc…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/08/15 11:16 PM
4	Is creep-shaming the equivalent of slut-shaming? Slut shaming is about controlling a woman's sexuality so she is not a threat to other women (taking something from them) or to society (destabilize through irresponsible procreation) Creep shaming is an emotional reaction to danger felt as "disgust" so you than attack them with words to drive them off or you leave or both. An example. When I was eleven years old a man invited me into his house under the pretense of giving me his dead daughters clothes. I was very street smart from my mother havi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/15 01:02 AM
2	CMV: Women would accept responsibility for their actions if society didn't let them get away with some bad behaviors. I have noticed this as well. I think it has partly to do with being mothers who raise the next generation. It does not matter whether you have children or are going to have children but the potential of the womb "to create children" as to what these children will do in society, to society and for society. You see it directed toward single mothers who are either vilified or glorified. Two different agendas by two different groups. A woman's body is always being evaluated as to it's use by others …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/15 12:32 AM
3	Receiving Graciously I'm a natural giver because I draw happiness from seeing people happy plus it comes out of the instinct to nurture and protect but there is also the dark side of not being comfortable receiving. When fear enters into the relationship as that fear of losing them or not being worthy of them than the good of giving becomes the bad of not wanting to receive to "keep control" You keep them indebted to you by all that you have done for them that you than remind them of in moments of anger.(fear based …	/r/RedPillWomen	21/08/15 12:27 AM
8	Am I overreacting? Sometimes the way I calm myself down is to serenely accept the worst case scenario Two months is not a long time and the two of you are not exclusive. Very easy for either of you to get cold feet about getting serious or to meet someone else, including someone from the past. There is a difference between someone going cold versus them being stressed or busy (both very possible when seeing family). In my opinion it is just not worth the emotional torment of worrying where the relationship is goin…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/08/15 12:50 AM
8	What actions did your captain do that really solidified your respect and admiration for him? It is more who he is and the behavior that comes out of it. He has a quiet strength about him. Firm but not an angry rager. Never passive aggressive. Not emotionally needy but clear about his needs. Handles frustration well because he uses problems to test himself with, instead of being threatened by them He is twelve years older than me so I suspect much of this was learned but he also had good examples growing up of how a man should be if he wants to call himself a man. Does not procrastinate …	/r/RedPillWomen	16/08/15 06:13 PM
1	De-lurking: Low-SMV Women? I have known a few Radfems. The anger and brokenness was depressing to be around. I'm attracted to masculine dominant men sexually and spiritually but I'm also a stubborn feminist intellectually and I certainly think of myself as "tomboyish" on the inside. I'm a bow hunter, rock climber, do my own oil changes type of girl. This has caused me to be very conflicted about how I could want the kind of man I do. My body wants a certain kind of man but my mind seems repelled by what my body wants. I f…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/08/15 01:01 AM
2	Looking for tips and advice to make it work Does he communicate his needs and expectations? Both my SO and I work and attend school so time management is critical if we do not want to become strangers to each other. We both like spontaneity and hate structure so the idea of planning a date night would never work for us. The relationship is chaotic but also intense which suits are personalities. We are a good match this way so neither of us needs to change much to accommodate the other. Can you see where your personalities are similar and …	/r/RedPillWomen	11/08/15 11:54 PM
7	What is the most intimate thing you do with/for your man? I'm not sure what the most intimate thing would be but he introduced me to snow camping last winter and I felt very close to him that weekend. Partly because I was putting my life in his hands from being clueless about what to do. I was thinking about wild animals, avalanches, freezing to death, breaking my leg and a million other things that could go wrong. Many firsts for me. Learning how to use snow shoes and setting up a tent in very deep snow. What made it intimate was the quietness at nigh…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/08/15 12:18 AM
1	Red pill women, What's your image of an ideal man like The ideal man for a woman would depend on the woman. Her opinion of herself as a woman among women and how she goes about giving meaning to her life. If she needs a man because she wants to avoid certain difficulties of life such as earning an income that will support her or because she is embarrassed to be the only one in her social group that is still single or wants a baby no matter what the cost she will have a different ideal than one who has a career and does not want children for unhealth…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/08/15 11:03 PM
1	Caught him going through my things. I would be worried if my SO was not worried I may be having an affair (not because I am untrustworthy but because there is so much temptation "options/choices" being thrown in my path). In my opinion it is better to have someone fear losing you than taking you for granted. People take for granted what they do not value but fear losing what they do value. As long as it does not tip over into crazy territory where he becomes paranoid and dangerous. I have had that experience and it stops being fun…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/08/15 06:41 PM
3	How much do you invest in a new relationship? In my opinion the only reason a guy enters my life is for sexual reasons until I give him "other reasons" besides sex. These reasons do not substitute sex but work like spice does on food. Sex is like a form of magnetism. Does not mean they care anything for me as a person. Initially sex is extremely impersonal and I could be anybody "more or less" depending on how powerful the magnetism is (need or want for sex) For me it is kind of nice to be in a relationship where all he wants from me is sex…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/08/15 01:01 AM
1	Looking for book recommendations It sounds like we have had similar histories and families. I had anxiety issues with occasional depression but fortunately not so severe that I could not function. I'm a strong believer in psychology but could never afford therapy, plus I did not have faith in therapists being able to help me and I was to shy and embarrassed to let anyone know what was going on inside me. Lots of shame keeping me quiet. You may like Alice Miller "The gifted child" if you experienced anything that could be remote…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/08/15 02:46 AM
-3	Deciding not to travel abroad: the right motivation/attitude? You were friends for a couple of years and than connected and fell in love. Is this unusual for you to know someone as a friend for so long and than to fall in love? Is this common to your culture? I have never been able to make that jump from friend to "fall in love" Once someone becomes to familiar I find it to awkward to leave room for passion. They become family so he has been "brotherzoned". I do need time to get to know someone before I could ever be intimate but to much time is also bad f…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/08/15 02:22 AM
2	SO wants me to move into his house. What is the feminine thing to do in terms of paying rent? My concern would be for the potential of future resentment. Men spending money on me has always made me uneasy. Nothing in life is free so when it appears to be free it usually costs more "in some way" than it would if you had paid for it yourself. I never want the relationship to feel like he is buying me or owns me because of money. I have to absolutely trust his motivations and also trust that he is very clear of what his motivations are, before I would be comfortable. Like you, I would also …	/r/RedPillWomen	04/08/15 12:26 AM
7	Looking for book recommendations For me insecurity driven anxiety can make me snappish and rude. An example was being short with my SO on Saturday because I was hosting an important dinner party and trying to do way to many things at once because insecurity turns me into a control freak, partly from having perfectionist issues driven by fear of failure. (people not having a good time/enjoying themselves or being critical of me in some way) I'm already emotionally intense when I'm calm so crazy is just around the corner if I do …	/r/RedPillWomen	03/08/15 11:53 PM
9	Should I stay with him after what I know now? From his perspective what does that mean he is not emotionally connected? I get this as a woman but what do men mean by it? Does that mean he is not into the sex in the same way as he was with his ex? If so my advice would be to run away as fast as you can. There is only so much a woman can do to change how much a guy is into her sexually because the reasons are largely beyond her control. Men seem to be able to be sexual with almost any woman but to actually want her deeply,consistently and pas…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/08/15 07:05 PM
5	How did you make your house a home? This has been a problem for me because I'm a clean freak and extremely opinionated about how I want the house to look. Toilet seat down, no dishes in the sink, no dirty laundry laying around as examples but "taken to the extreme". If I ever have children I'm sure it will give me a nervous breakdown or I will duct tape them to the wall. My SO moved in with me three months ago and it was only going to be temporary. He buys houses/apartments, renovates them and sells them and while doing so lives i…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/08/15 05:18 PM
2	Some parts of TRP still rub me the wrong way Some people murder others because of their belief system and some see the darkness that humanity lives in and try to raise themselves out of this swamp of ignorance and fear. Red Pill thinking is a belief system that is expressed by the vessel it is found in. Look at the vessel. Is it filled with hate and contempt for women by a man/ for men by a woman? (misogyny/misandry) In his mind does a woman exist only to serve him?. In her mind does he exist only to serve her? Using people as consumable g…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/08/15 03:08 PM
27	My husband says it "takes too long for me to cum". Now I feel like a bad wife. What should I do? I have a difficult time reaching orgasm with PIV unless he is on his back and I straddle him while facing him. I can lock my legs around his and he has his hands free to hold onto my upper thighs to help pull me forward and push me back. He rarely can climax himself in this position but has no problem staying erect so this position is "All about me" as he is fond of saying. I can reach orgasm quickly because I have all the control in this position. It's not for everybody because it is rather ass…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/07/15 04:02 AM
7	How did you meet you SO? I have a small problem with depth perception. Perfect vision otherwise but I'm like that warning on the passenger side mirror of cars that reads "objects may be closer than they appear". He was riding his bike and personally I think he was kind of sort of using up to much of the road and I accidentally sort of bumped the back wheel of his bike sending him flying into the blackberry bushes. Maybe I was looking at his butt and this made me drift into his space but it is all a blur now. Plus they p…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/07/15 11:16 PM
2	Dating question, would like this sub's opinion It depends on the intensity of his desire. If he agreed to wait but really did not want to wait than you probably do not need to say anything. Your wanting him and it being clear to him you want him should be enough. Once the clothes start to fly off he may check by saying "are you sure?" I'm sarcastic and probably would say something along the lines of "Well I suppose we could go and have dinner with your mother instead" Difficult to give advice without being able to sense his animal energy. Me…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/07/15 12:09 AM
4	Needing advice on how to handle SO's mom... She sounds bitter about her own life so resents her childrens happiness. Guilt,shame and shaming,manipulation,deceit,endless drama and emotionally very child like but in the worst possible way are hall marks of co-dependency. She probably could be dangerous to you unless you are sure her children will side with you in a confrontation. Her children (your SO) may be in a co-dependent relationship with her. They feed her toxicity through enabling her. Abuse is not love. Help your SO understand this…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/07/15 02:38 AM
5	Where did you learn to act in a red pill way? There are aspects of TRP I probably will never agree with but some of it does resonate with me. I'm a french national who is attending college in the states. I also consider myself a feminist, sans the misandry. My education is in the life sciences and this is probably the reason for my accepting some of TRP theory. I stumbled onto a forum while taking a breather from studying that was using RP theory and it made sense from a biological perspective. The greatest difficulty I have with TRP is I s…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/07/15 02:15 AM
8	Have any of you ladies ran dread on your man? Not intentionally but possibly inadvertently. I have high expectations on myself and for myself. It is how I show myself self respect. My life has value and self respect is recognition of this understanding. I earn my self respect by how I live my life. I have goals and ambitions. I believe in self improvement and striving to be the best I can be. Not to be better than others but purely for myself, independent of others. I care about people but I do not use them to define myself with. I'm very s…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/07/15 03:42 AM
3	Realizing what you want. I'm not sure whether someone would label me an alpha woman but I'm certainly no ones doormat that they wipe their shoes on. What makes a strong woman? How you answer this will influence your relationship with a man. For me being strong is not about being a narcissistic bitch who thinks the world revolves around her but I don't run from a fight when I think I'm being disrespected either. Wanting to be worshipped means you will be elevated for reasons you may find uncomfortable to live with. I per…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/07/15 08:04 PM
1	Struggling to find the right balance I try to live by the values I have learned through experience but fitting all of that into my own individual personality and disposition. My disposition is more introvert than extrovert by I can be socially out going. More cautious than adventurous but I can and do take risks. The Myers Briggs personality test consistently identifies me as INFJ and the description of someone who is INFJ does fit into my own internal sense of self. I'm very introspective and try to learn from others mistakes. I'm…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/07/15 09:19 PM
3	Struggling to find the right balance I'm strong willed but not dominant. My temperament is naturally submissive and I have little interest in leading but will not follow someone I'm not confident in as a leader. If I do not trust someone's capabilities and or motives I will flow around them and do what I need to do. My ego will protect me from harm. An example would be standing up to a bully so it is not that my ego "needs to be right" where I feel diminished when someone is correct. A power struggle happens when I do not feel safe…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/07/15 04:58 AM
3	My SO has a lower partner count. Should I just stop hamstering, or is there something else I should be doing to improve our situation? I'm 27 and if I mentioned my partner count I would probably be banned from RPW but needless to say I will likely always be in the position of having a higher count, so yes I'm in a similar situation. I doubt he will wonder if he missed out by not knowing other woman, if he is happy with you. If he feels lucky to have you in his life and you are connecting in all those ways a man and woman can connect than there is no reason for him to wonder or be tempted. Monogamy is a mindset of finding abunda…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/07/15 06:18 AM
4	Starting out, looking for some support/guidance I loathe exercise because it bores me to tears but like being active. Tennis, golf, kayaking, hiking, ect. If you can find a few common active interests this can give you alone time plus be proactive about health. The getting healthy through fun approach. Maybe it is superficial but I'm more confident when I know I'm at peak health and physical condition. Clear eyes, glowing skin and silky hair seem to come from healthy living better than out of a bottle. Men do not change easily for women unles…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/07/15 12:15 AM
9	Happily married women, advice for a newlywed? Try to learn what type of man he is. They come in many varieties and they can be secretive about who they really are. Take note of what is important to him. How he likes to spend his time. What is political leanings are. Watch his relations with other men and his opinion of these men because this is key to understanding what he respects or does not respect. The trick is to do this without questioning but more by observing without being observed "doing the observing". Watch his emotions and what …	/r/RedPillWomen	18/07/15 12:15 AM
5	Developing Confidence and Stronger Boundaries While Remaining Feminine I have been accused of being to nice. And I can see now that part of that came from wanting to avoid conflict and a lack of confidence that I had anything of value to offer someone so I would sell the niceness "to be liked, accepted and included" Being nice was an attempt to make up for a perceived deficit. Being nice was at times manipulative so was not entirely genuine. I'm naturally warm and kind and abhor cruelty but the problem was this natural temperament became wrapped up in fears that ma…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/07/15 01:24 AM
2	Good news and bad news I would make it clear to him that you did not choose him because he can buy your love with money in any shape or form but because he represents the best example of what you find valuable in a fellow human being and as a man. I would much rather marry a poor man who has ambitions and expectations for himself than one who thinks a woman would only want to be with him for his money but otherwise would find nothing to value in his company and companionship. Try to strongly impress upon him that your…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/07/15 01:32 AM
7	Ladies, can you help me help my man? I would be worried about growing apart when so much time is spent working by one or both in a relationship. I would try to find ways to connect in those special ways when there is nothing but the two of you being aware only of each other. Sex sometimes can get weird when you lose this closeness. It can feel mechanical and cold. Taking a bath together if you both can fit in the tub with a glass of wine or whatever helps you unwind. Mainly having him all to yourself without talk about work and fam…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/07/15 01:08 AM
30	Is it ever too late for someone? When we have been wounded by significant others we than turn to others we try to "make significant" to repair the past wounds with. It is difficult to heal a wound using the same tool that first caused it. It would be like shooting yourself to repair the first bullet wound. It is called "repeating the trauma to make it less traumatic" but all it does is add drama and trauma to ones life. A man will not repair self esteem issues and if anything he makes her more vulnerable to these issues. It bec…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/07/15 11:54 PM
1	Signs/Traits to Look for in a High Value Man In my opinion a high value man does not believe himself to be superior or inferior to a woman. His identity is sound enough as a man that he does not need to do this. He has a healthy relationship with his sexuality as something that complements him but does not control or define him. It is impossible for me to think of a man as high value if he is a slave to his sexuality and not it's master. For me a mans relationship to his appetites, anger and what he has built his male identity on, define w…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/07/15 01:04 AM
2	CMV: Women enforce strict/narrow gender roles in relationships more than men do. Also, is society feminized or masculinized? The United States is often referred to as the worlds policeman in the media. Any culture built on militancy is in my opinion by default masculine based. If the society was feminized women would not be obsessed with their physical beauty that caters to a society that is hyper sexualized as an expression of this militancy Feminism has always been a reaction to the world men have created. It is a response to the consequences of the division of labor (industrialization) that placed the control of we…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/15 02:57 AM
1	Anyone else annoyed by these "dresses"? I like skirts because you can mix and match. I also like to shop at second hand shops because there are so many different styles in one place and usually I can find a designer label for around seven dollars thats in perfect shape. You can create completely different looks simply by changing the top you are wearing. I will wear a skirt with a sleeveless turtleneck and than change it up with a buttondown shirt for something more formal. Add in different belts and scarves and for very little money …	/r/RedPillWomen	02/08/14 02:31 AM
1	How to learn to bite my tongue and not be so emotional? Those are not emotions but the strategies you use because of the emotions. You do not need to bite your tongue because that puts you at risk of ignoring or turning off your emotions so you lose touch with that part of yourself where the emotions come from. Instead of reacting to the emotions with manipulative behavior try to discover the deeper message in the emotion. Being a sweet,loving and understanding women "all the time" would mean becoming an unfeeling robot because it is unnatural. Being…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/08/14 02:15 AM
3	Does anyone else find feminist men unattractive? I don't want to be objectified to the point where the person inside the body is forgotten about. When you are nothing but your body your self respect comes under attack. I want to be "seen" and "desired" I think feminism can serve a mans interests when it is not guilt based indoctrination done through condemnation of the whole male gender as "patriarchy" always and only being a negative system of thought and practice Respectful, not passive men, is what I want.	/r/RedPillWomen	30/06/14 10:38 PM
1	Help with trust issues Love cannot be guaranteed because no one can guarantee what the future will bring. To know love fully you have to surrender to the moment by not fearing the future because of the past. The more you promise you will never leave the more it feeds his fears because it is not about love but abandonment, loss and loneliness. He will sense that you are promising something impossible to guarantee and his fears will increase because the problem is not with you but him. These are the inner demons we all …	/r/RedPillWomen	29/06/14 09:29 PM
2	My boyfriend's mom is trying to use him as an emotional sponge and I'm worried it will affect him. (Long) If she did not respect his boundaries when he was a child and used him as a type of surrogate husband emotionally than he could be very conflicted about his feelings for her and have deep trust issues anytime he is in a close relationship with a woman. Anything negative you say about his mother puts him in the position of than having conflicting loyalties between you and her, with you in the middle. You may want to read up on co-dependent relationships and emotional incest between mothers and so…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/06/14 09:13 PM