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Women who put down, complain about or otherwise disrespect their husbands... especially when said husband is in hearing distance
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/20 12:27 PM
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So what exactly is he bringing to the relationship/ your life? Besides controlling you, judging you, limiting you, and generally being a piece of shit?
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 08:18 PM
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There’s a great Canadian brand out of Montreal called boutique 1861. If you’re American your exchange rate makes it really affordable!!
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 01:36 PM
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🥰 it’s so tough what you’re going through. But you will come out stronger. I do understand. Best of luck to you!!!
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/20 11:49 AM
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Chronic pain / injury is actually a big part of what led me to finally accept and appreciate my femininity and it’s power. Not the pumps and push up bras side of it - the energetic and spiritual side. Femininity is receptive. It is a way of receiving that turns one plus one into three, instead of two, by giving others a chance to be heroic by providing what is truly of value - a chance to be a better version of themselves they wouldn’t have known otherwise. There’s a reason it’s the queen to kni…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/20 06:55 PM
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It sounds like you’ve already identified the root problem: Unhealed pain from childhood that you’re still acting out today. Your question should be: “How can I heal the hurt from my childhood so that my natural feminine self can comfortably shine in any situation?” Best of luck! ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/20 01:07 PM
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Sometimes being ready means something else. It could be emotional, it could be reaching a certain promotion, there’s lots of options!
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/20 06:32 PM
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The short answer to when a man will propose is: “When he feels ready and capable of providing for you as a husband” - whatever that means to him. There’s some thing strange about your friends situation... 🤔 it’s hard to say what exactly. The problem is you only hear her side of the story. It does sound like she’s obsessed with getting married. As for how to approach the topic of engagement with a boyfriend - I think being clear about your needs and boundaries is the best way. “Yes, I’d love to l…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/20 03:24 PM
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Sadly in our culture this is a common fear. But in my experience and from my research, about 99% of men would use violence only to protect - putting themselves at risk in the process. I usually feel safer when a man is around because statistically, he’s more likely to harm himself in order to protect me than to harm me. That’s the evolutionary reason men are more aggressive and stronger, after all. As for lack of empathy. I have to go eat dinner but I’ll leave you with this: What if that’s not w…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/20 09:55 PM
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I hear you. And I can relate with the frustration and pain and feeling of not being truly seen at all. It’s my experience that men often see a lot more than just our surface appearance. That’s what I mean about seeing the spirit of a woman, not just her looks or her sexuality. Just remember this: in mass shootings, men make up the vast majority of victims for one simple reason. They jump in front of women. They take bullets for women they’ve never met before in some cases. Why would any person g…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/20 09:35 PM
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Whatever works for you :) if hearing comments irl that are legitimately and inarguably hateful towards women is a problem in your life, it may be time to change the company you keep though! Also the thing is... how do you know he’s not moved? How do you know that’s not his motivation? We know he’s single focused, so when he sees a beautiful woman he’s completely zoomed in on that beauty to the exclusion of everything else. We know that feminine beauty is like colour in a black and white world to…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/20 09:17 PM
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Yeah there’s a big difference between “meh, I’m not hot right now but I bet I’ll warm up so I’ll go for it” and “I don’t want to but I’ll grin and bear it”
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/20 01:14 PM
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I would humbly say this is extremely ON topic. Appearance and presentation, market value, these things aren’t what men love and cherish in women. They’re MANIFESTATIONS - physical and social, in the above cases - of feminine energy. Feminine energy is at its core receptive; receptive to men and to masculinity. It sees their greatness and their wonderfulness and welcomes those things enthusiastically. Some of the ways that we act out receptivity are: respect, appreciation, and admiration. All of …
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/20 01:08 PM
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Jordan Peterson has this great saying: a truly dangerous man is one who doesn’t know he’s dangerous. The only safe man is one who does know: he knows he has violent impulses, and a very dark side, and has learned how to control it. It’s the same with “submissiveness”, which I put in quotations because I have the sense it isn’t quite the right word to describe the dynamic you’re actually looking to build - namely one based on healthy, mutual respect in which she is receptive to your leadership, a…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/20 06:24 PM
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Oh sweetheart. You’re very welcome and thank you for the appreciation. I’m getting quite close and other than a lot of discomfort it’s going beautifully! :) That sounds really, really hard and very painful. It’s also simply not true. The thing that makes your husband adore you is your soul, your spirit, your connection and your love. I’ve only been married a year (together for 6), but my understanding is that virginity can be valuable to a marriage as a solid stone to use as a cornerstone in the…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/20 11:51 PM
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I wonder: Is that really what this is about? Is it really about how he sees you? Or is it that YOU don’t see yourself as being as valuable, special, and more to the point, WORTHY of love? He’s already told you that’s not even on his radar, it’s not the case for him, and as I said in another comment, marriage is about trusting your husband when he tells you things like that. It’s about treating him with the respect of “he knows his own mind, he has good intentions, he tells me the truth.” Instead…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/20 09:51 PM
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I’d just like to add to my original comment: It’s normal to have doubts going into a big commitment - about him, yourself, the union, all of it. But marriage is about trust. If you’re confident that you can, Trust him. Trust him to be truthful with you and with the oaths of marriage he’s planning to speak: to love cherish you above all others.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/20 10:44 AM
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It would be completely different!!! It’s the difference between having a small cookie for dessert twice and binge eating every day for a year. It’s the difference between buying a $5 pair of shoes at a thrift store to wear to your best friends wedding so you match the other bridesmaids, and maxing out all your credit cards buying clothes you don’t need. It’s the difference between saying most women won’t care if a guy isn’t a millionaire and saying most women won’t care if a guy hasn’t had a job…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/20 10:34 AM
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Thanks for clarifying. Sorry - I’m pregnant and have serious baby brain! In that case let me amend: Never watch that YouTube channel again Figure out why you were vulnerable to having your self esteem destroyed by that and try to heal it Gods speed
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/20 12:46 AM
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I’m sorry what? Two men is too many, at 27? If it’s a problem to this guy, move on. Because it won’t be a problem to 99.9% of guys.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/20 11:26 PM
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A few things for you to noodle on. No good relationship is ever 50/50 EVER. Relationships are 100/100. Period. Finished. A good relationship is one in which you both focus on being of service to the other to the limit of your abilities. That’s where the magic is. That’s where 1+1 suddenly equals 3 instead of just 2. Doesn’t mean you have to like or give blowjobs. Good sex life = / = porn sex life. It’s ok for both of you to have preferences and boundaries. Every couple goes through phases sexual…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/20 04:27 PM
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You can do it!!!!!!! Take it slow and record your progress. I mean write down sets, reps, and weights for all exercises every time you work out. If you can do leg day, feel stiff but not painful the next day, and fine the day after that; that’s your sweet spot of effort / difficulty. Do that for a month and then try increasing the difficulty a bit: maybe do 2 sets of 12 squats instead of 2 sets of 10, for example. Celebrate your successes. Know that your capacity will shift based on your menstru…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/20 05:47 PM
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It sucks this didn’t work out better for you. You sound like a lovely lady. I wonder if in the future you could look at providing in a non-financial way and if that framing would feel different to you / a man? Like, for a man to provide support, love, fun - only really specific examples of those things and exactly how they benefit you? Wishing you the best of luck!
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/20 03:11 PM
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If you don’t need a man, why try and get one? Easy: You DO need him. What exactly do you need? What are you longing for? What does your heart ache for? What will improve your life and help you be a better person? Figure that out, and then be vulnerable enough to ask for it, receive it and appreciate the hell out of it. Most men don’t want to be atms anyways. They want to provide from their souls, just like we do. For many that includes the fruit of their labor, but even that isn’t limited to mon…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/20 01:05 PM
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There’s a Canadian brand called boutique 1861 out of Montreal. A bit pricey but given how the Canadian dollar is tanking you basically get everything 40% off if you’re shopping from the US!
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/20 12:15 AM
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Oh wow thank you so much!!! That’s so kind :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/20 11:45 PM
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Wow. Thank you so much for sharing this and for your genuine kind wishes. ❤️ I really appreciate it.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/20 11:33 PM
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I can’t name a source atm as I’m off to bed but have definitely read about it. It’s not just women of course - but the oxytocin release for women is stronger from sex than for men, for example, is my understanding. I’ve never read about that oxytocin response dropping off though. Interestingly I’ve been learning a lot about oxytocin in natural childbirth as I’m expecting in July. It’s a key hormonal factor in labour and birth. I now wonder if maybe women release more oxytocin from sexual / genit…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/20 11:09 PM
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Great question, curious to read what others think. IMO there are two aspects. First, it’s primarily a correlation vs causation issue. Having slept with other men prior to marriage doesn’t cause divorce; it’s correlated with divorce. I personally think something else (multiple things) cause both. Second, if there is a causal element it would be more tertiary. By that I mean, maybe a woman takes a casual attitude towards sex because of her belief system (that’s the cause). As a result, she wires h…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/20 04:20 PM
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Lol! Being respectful and humble enough to communicate clearly and effectively - even if it means going against your natural instincts - isn’t treating a man with kid gloves. It’s acknowledging that he is different from a woman and therefore communicates differently too. We hint at things and expect other women to read our minds. Men respond best when we state our needs clearly and directly, as I laid out. By all means, do what works best for you. But for most, if you want real intimacy with a m…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/20 12:54 PM
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Lol 100% agree
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/20 05:29 PM
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First - it’s not petty. Everyone has needs and preferences. That’s totally ok! This is important to you - part of femininity is respecting that in yourself so that others know how to provide what’s most meaningful to you. So try and ask in a different way. Tell him what it will PROVIDE. Tell him who and what it will allow you to BE. From what you’ve said that might sound like: “Honey, I need you to take your Tupperware in, empty the scraps into the garbage, and put it in the sink after work ever…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/20 02:58 PM
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For me the moment that ignited a passion was realizing that adding balsamic vinegar to tomato sauce made it more delicious. I was like “BUT WHY???” Next thing you know I’m crushing my garlic in salt and learning about flavour profiles! It became fun for me. Maybe there’s something fun in it for you too!
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/20 02:48 PM
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I think you’re misunderstanding men. I recommend learning some Menglish 😉 my recommendation is to read Making Sense of Men by Alison Armstrong. If it resonates, check out her next two books (keys to the kingdom and the queens code). Sometimes we ask a question in a way that makes sense to a woman, but not to a man, so we get an unsatisfactory answer. Eg: “Would you ever propose?” Makes sense to us... but what they hear is “would you do this abstract thing unrelated to the current situation and c…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 07:21 PM
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To have the privilege of providing what is meaningful and valuable to the people they care about, and have this received with gratitude and enthusiasm. To be received, appreciated and respected for what they ARE instead of just what they DO. But also for what they do!!! From the woman they love - a soft, tender, playful place to just be, where they can rest and be rejuvenated.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 07:14 PM
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I’ve found loving kindness meditation to be really helpful with this (as well as being gentle on you - lots of heart meditations can be really intense, and precipitate “healing events” which can feel more like crises at the time!). It’s super simple. Get comfortable, by yourself, and focus on someone, probably with your eyes closed unless that really doesn’t work for you, in which case unfocus your eyes. Say, or think: “May you be well. May you be happy. May you be at ease. May you be free from …
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 07:13 PM
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Well you sound like such a dear. Just the energy from your post is so lovely, it warms my heart. Another compliment!!! No wonder you are attracting them - you are improving the world around you! One thing that I do sometimes with compliments is to imagine that I'm breathing them in. Literally take a breath in, and imagine that your lungs are filling with the compliment. A compliment is a gift, and so is air! Then you can simply smile and say thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/20 09:29 PM
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There is! The diaphragm! It's awesome!
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/20 01:54 PM
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That sucks. So sorry to hear this. If it's the hormonal IUD there is a good chance it's causing your malaise. If it's the copper, there is still a chance, and I would trust your intuition about this. I struggled a lot to find birth control that didn't deaden me inside - or deaden the experience for me and my partner, as condoms often do! Short of spending $1+ per condom on super fancy Japanese super-thin condoms that still dull the experience, I was out of ideas. UNTIL I FOUND THE CAYA DIAPHRAGM…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/20 01:53 PM
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I'm currently 5 months pregnant with my first. It comes with some discomforts and indignities (as does aging alone with no one to take care of you, but for the record that doesn't end after 9 months) but for the most part it's awesome. I can't explain how wonderful it is. But it feels like I finally understand what it means to be a woman. I love my husband beyond words and we're in a great position for starting our family. He adores my big round belly and pregnancy glow and hilarious waddle. Yes…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/20 12:49 PM
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I think that desire and commitment to making things wonderful is the key :) great work. Best of luck to both of you!
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/20 03:27 PM
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It’s like a microcosm for marriage!!!! I haven’t been married that long but so far here’s my MO that seems to work, mixed with the excellent advice my grandma gave me (been married for 62 years) -Forgive everything you can. He snaps? Forgive. He farts? Forgive. Doesn’t mean ignore, but it does mean letting that state of emotional antagonism go and getting back to appreciation and understanding. -Don’t sweat the small stuff. Life is mostly awesome. It’s ok to have moments of feeling awful, but ju…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/20 12:03 PM
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Wow that’s actually so crazy!!! One of my fave shows. I love how janeway manages to balance the masculine role of being captain with distinctly feminine personality traits. She’s a great character! And did you know that The Rocks first acting job was in the season 6 episode Tsunkaatse? He plays a space wrestler!
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/20 04:20 PM
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In the first episode of star trek voyager, captain janeway makes a call that Chakotay, her second in command, questions and disagrees with. He follows it anyways, because he TRUSTS HER. He trusts her competence, commitment and intention so much that he believes in her judgment, even if it doesn’t make sense to him. He voices his objections, and trusts that she will take them into account and change her mind if necessary. He trusts that the terrible position her decision puts them in, is one that…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/20 12:08 PM
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If he doesn’t have what you need / you aren’t a good fit, he’s not high value for you!
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/20 01:30 AM
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Lol that is definitely confusing!!! It’s hard enough to keep the various oils and fats straight, then add all the contradictory claims made by dieticians and food guides and it’s a quagmire for sure. The book Deep Nutrition was a great resource to just explain a lot of stuff in a way I could understand and retain. It helped a lot! It’s still really hard trying to explain to, for example, my parents in law that no, butter doesn’t cause heart disease, but yes, margarine does!!
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/20 01:49 PM
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Olive oil isn’t technically a vegetable oil - olives are a fruit! :) you’re right, olive oil is a super healthy fat and oleic acid is great for hormones, heart health, skin, hair, nails, etc etc! Vegetable oil refers to: vegetable shortening, canola oil, soy oils (these are often sneakily disguised in ingredients lists), etc. These oils have been hydrogenated and are quite damaging to the body as they mimic healthy fats but can’t be used effectively as healthy fats. Plus they’re free radicals. T…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/20 11:17 AM
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-Vitamin C as ascorbic acid (can buy cheap from the ordinary) daily is clinically proven to increase collagen by 50% and prevent discolouration. You’ll notice a visible difference in 12 weeks. -Retinol increases cell turnover naturally. Don’t use if pregnant or considering pregnancy soon. -Keep moist using any of the 3 basic strategies or a combination: Attract moisture with humectants (eg. Moisturizing toners as used in the Korean 7 skin method. Most common humectant is hyaluronic acid) Moistur…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/20 11:50 PM
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I had a similar feeling when I was engaged at 21. Getting engaged seemed so smart - we loved each other, got along great, he is a great guy, etc. But the closer we got to the wedding the more dread I felt. We’d also been together long enough by that point for me to see past the honeymoon phase rose coloured glasses to the ways we WEREN’T a good couple, after a long engagement. I ended things and it was a huge relief. Fast forward to my actual wedding, to an incredible man who I dated for nearly …
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/20 10:53 AM
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The only time one marriage partner gets more benefit than the other is when they’re sick, pregnant, in mourning, or going through some other really tough challenge that prevents them from giving as much as their partner is in that moment. Both give as much as they can, and both get more than they give. That’s the miracle of love: 1+1 magically comes out as 3. Otherwise it’s not what marriage is supposed to be about. It might be called a marriage and legally recognized as one but it isn’t truly o…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/20 08:17 PM
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That totally makes sense to me, and I think is the core of Doyle’s teachings. Surrender = trust. I’m also married and in my opinion and experience, the closeness and intimacy you’re looking for grows from that trust. By trusting him to lead and giving him a chance not just to please you but to provide for you what is most valuable, to be your hero, you are being feminine in a really powerful way that is actually providing something of tremendous value to him. Then he can step up into that mascul…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/20 10:52 AM
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I would say the wanting to be close / less criticized is the “why”. To women, hearing that would put us into action mode. For men, it is not the information that’s needed to make a positive impact. What do you actually want? To talk more often? To live closer to each other? In those examples, solving the problem for him would be stating “you need to call me more often” or “you need to move to where I live”. That wouldn’t be helpful. You’re asking him to be a hero for you, by doing something valu…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 05:26 PM
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Oh perfect! You are ahead of the game!!! I’m so glad that my message made you feel like a fairytale princess :) in a way that’s just what you are. All of those stories are actually hero stories for women: instead of cultivating masculinity so that we can kill the dragon, we must cultivate femininity so that we can save our communities in more subtle ways. Please do. I look forward to hearing from you ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/20 04:50 PM
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Hi sweetheart. There are already some great answers here but I wanted to chime in with some ideas and support. First of all - you sound like such a sweet, caring, open minded and self aware young lady. You talked a bit about the feminine traits you notice in the girls around you and what really struck me is that even though you are feeling quite down about this, you didn't put THEM down. Instead, you have allowed yourself to see the beauty in these girls and be utterly enchanted by that feminini…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/20 04:19 PM
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If you love him, respect him enough to take him seriously. He is seriously telling you his values. Those values include believing that monogamy is only a virtue / necessity for women, that he can cheat and it won’t affect your relationship or reflect poorly on his morality, and that him having casual sex with strangers while “committed” to you will have no negative consequences... and is actually justified. Do you agree? If not, this man is not worthy of you. Period. Edit to add: I’m sorry that …
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/20 01:47 PM
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Making sense of men Keys to the kingdom The queens code By Alison Armstrong Edited for formatting
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/20 01:19 AM
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I think shielding him from an important part of who you are and what you need, while it may seem noble and helpful, may actually be accidentally falling into the mommy girlfriend trap. He doesn’t need to be protected from emotions, and you may be denying him an important opportunity to provide something really meaningful. On the other hand, you definitely don’t want to use your partner as an emotional waste basket and just dump all your emotions in. Those are two extremes, imo you just have to f…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 04:07 PM
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You’re so welcome. It sounds like you’re a sweetheart. It IS hard to ask for that reassurance. It’s genuinely super freaking hard. It’s extremely vulnerable. That said, if you want him to be the one, that means even trusting him with your vulnerability. Having a man you can totally rely on is one of the greatest gifts of life. I’m not saying to rush into that before you’re ready to trust someone with it, or to dump onto someone what you can handle yourself. But everyone has weak moments, and par…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 03:43 PM
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Just read your other comments :) I feel you girl! One thought that comes to mind is the importance of communicating to a man’s best nature. For example, men at their best live to help the women they love. So saying “it would help me so much in dealing with x if you would listen to me without trying to give me a solution. I know I can get to the solution on my own and a sympathetic ear will help me get there” speaks to that in language he understands clearly. Another example: men love to provide.…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 03:27 PM
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I think if we’re honest most of us are overly sensitive about some things! It’s a gift and a curse, depending on the situation. Being really sensitive can be a super power- if you know how to use it. Getting better with that means learning to use it consciously: learning how to turn it on and more importantly, when and how to turn it off. Otherwise, it runs the show, leaving you and your man at the whims of those emotions. Some strategies towards that goal which have helped me include journaling…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 02:30 PM
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Edit: on my phone and thought I was responding to the question about being on the phone 🤦‍♀️ so edited to actually make sense. Not exactly. When he’s finished speaking (and has indicated that to you) you can ask another question or respond, up to you! I mean literally to listen instead of interrupting, which means as soon as he starts talking this is your MO: Silently listen until he is quiet Count to at least 10 silently If he still hasn’t spoken but looks thoughtful count to 10 again still sil…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/19 04:37 PM
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I admire your honesty, self awareness and openness! I too am here to learn more than anything, I have my own beliefs which overlap with rpw and it’s lovely to connect with other women about those things in common. I can also really relate with you about that feeling of anger when you think about a man taking the lead. That describes me at 20 for sure. In retrospect for me, that anger was misplaced. I was actually going through the normal and healthy phase of self integration in which I had to le…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/19 02:27 PM
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Tougher at first, but probably only feels awkward to you. If he’s not sure if you’re still there, he’ll ask. If you need his support in order to provide this, there’s nothing wrong with asking :) something like “I have learned about a way of listening that would be more respectful of you. I’d really like to try it, but I’m worried I’ll feel awkward or be too silent. Would you help me by letting me know if you need anything from me in this conversation?” Or something like that. Men love helping :…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/19 01:45 PM
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Don’t feel bad! This is information and knowledge you simply didn’t have. This is a new skill to learn by practicing, that can feel quite foreign at first for us women; until we get used to it. And that makes sense! It makes sense because when women communicate with each other, we demonstrate care and understanding by using cooperative communication. We murmur support, nod enthusiastically, exclaim, touch each other’s arms, tsk, mirror emotions, and finish each other’s sentences. To us this feel…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/19 01:40 PM
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All those things you’re talking about - validation, complimenting without flattery, etc - are great. But they’re not listening. Listening, especially to a man, is this: “What do you think of x?” Now you put invisible duct tape over your mouth. You do not speak. You do not say “oh yeah, totally” or “I agree”. You don’t do any of the ‘cooperative conversation’ tactics that women do with each other to indicate listening by building a conversation together, because those things don’t work for men. T…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/19 11:49 AM
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A big one I love that just smells so nice is a big pot of mulled wine! Add orange peel, lemon peel, cloves, cinnamon, nutmeg, allspice to some red wine on the stove with some sweetener (I use maple syrup). Easy peasy! Some people add rum to compensate for the slight loss of alcohol to evaporation, but I find it’s plenty alcoholic without!
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/19 04:23 PM
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Gosh I wonder if those women have respectful relationships with their fathers
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/19 01:03 PM
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Some basics: The mother - nurture The queen - inspiration The seductress (not necessarily sexual, she invites play of all kinds) - playfulness / wonder As for feminine heroism, I would recommend looking into the feminine hero story, which is essentially beauty and the beast. I’ve been working on this theory for a while and someday I’ll have it cohesive and publish about it. My theory is that every story is actually 2 stories, we just focus on one or the other. Die hard would be a romance if we f…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/19 09:23 PM
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I made my husband a warm, cozy fleece sweater with hand stitching and a fold over v neck design when we were first living together. He never spent money on his own clothes so it meant he had a nice sweater that was really unique and fit his aesthetic. I even dyed it myself! I also made him a waterproof book bag (I dyed and waxed canvas) with soft lining and oak leaf decal embroidered on it. He still has both and he wears the sweater a lot! It meant a lot to him that I put in the effort to make s…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/19 04:08 PM
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As a pregnant person, I would like to invite you to spend Christmas and nye at my house
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/19 06:15 AM
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For me the antagonism came from deep seated anger at men - I had learned that being tough, independent, masculine, brash, overtly sexual / immodest, etc would get them to love me and cherish me the way my soul knew was natural and right... instead it did the opposite. Repelled men, brought out the worst in them. I felt scorned and let down. Reading Making Sense of Men by Alison Armstrong changed all of that for me. I realized that I had learned wrong: men already responded to me just as I was, a…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/19 11:17 PM
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RUN.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/19 02:11 PM
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I’m so glad it was helpful!!! I really empathize with you. You’re in my prayers. Just know it’s a tough transition for anyone, and that it WILL get better! Have faith in your husband that you two will find the right path and that he’ll do what’s needed and what’s right. You married him for a reason :) he will rise to the challenge of being a husband beautifully with your faith, even if it involves growing pains and missteps at first. Best of luck to you both!
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/19 07:48 PM
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Ok wow. First, the sex, because that’s easiest to fix and frankly may fix the other stuff: Coconut. Oil. Lubricate yourself and his self and take it slow and easy, until it’s fun and YOU want it faster or harder or whatever. Play with each other. Experiment. Really try and be playful with it and connect with your temptress energy. Tease him. Seduce him. Feel his desire for you and let that light you up. Have him give you a full body massage (both naked!) and then see where it goes. And vice vers…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/19 11:38 AM
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Totally. It’s part of the process. Ultimately imo what’s so fulfilling about love and relationships and marriage in particular, is what you provide for your man, who you love so much. Knowing your strengths and being humble about your weaknesses is essential to that! You are on the right path. I wish you all the best!
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/19 06:38 PM
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Excellent insights. Congratulations on this incredible achievement on your self-knowledge and self-improvement journey. This is very inspiring - keep up the great work.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/19 12:25 PM
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I just sort of laugh and have pity on women who get in my man's space. I know he'd never go for another woman, and that she's just embarrassing herself as a result. If a particular woman's behavior is a problem, I would probably bring it to my husband, and say something like 'I feel very bothered by her behavior and I would really appreciate your help.' Maybe figure out what it is, in particular, that you need his help with? Whether that's feeling safe / confident, feeling vindicated, having cle…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/19 04:06 PM
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She has three books out. Making Sense of Men is first (and was my first red pill); Keys to the Kingdom is second (and was my first BIG, OMG EVERYTHING I THOUGHT I KNEW IS WRONG red pill), and The Queen's Code is third (and changed EVERYTHING). She also has a TONNE of courses, online and in person; talks that are recorded; interviews on youtube (she has some great ones with Dennis Prager for example). She's a boomer and her popularity was more a few years ago, but I think her work is timeless. Wh…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/19 03:27 PM
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I was 26, he was 30. I moved to a new city and only knew one friend in the city, a girl who was one of his roommates and his long time friend. She was out of town when I moved, so he and their other roommate kindly had me over and invited another girl along for me to meet so that I would know some people in town! He made a beautiful dinner for everyone. He is a tall, skinny, red haired guy and he was wearing cargo shorts, black runners and white socks and a truckers hat with a black sheep on it …
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/19 05:33 PM
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Everything by Alison Armstrong!
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 04:58 PM
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I have a couple friend in your situation. She’s acting out a combination of childhood trauma and adversarial attitude to men learned from feminism. She judges everything he does against what the “perfect” woman would do, so he can’t win (because men are different from women!). She holds herself against a similarly impossible standard - has to be independent so she is completely unreceptive to him, works full time and doesn’t save her best for the family, resents him for not providing what she ne…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/19 02:51 PM
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Have you tried telling him exactly what being with him sexually provides for you, and what more sex would provide for you? How would it make you feel? How would it make your life better / easier? And most important: who would you be able to BE? Men can’t provide what they don’t know is needed. Give him ways to win by giving you more sex (aka, let him understand HOW it would mean he wins with you, by telling him what it would provide) and he’ll have a lot of motivation to do so! Edit: one more th…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 11:29 AM
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Yeah totally. Diet and exercise make a world of difference; lots of zinc is vital, maca root helps protect against estrogens in the environment, protein and healthy fats are a must.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 11:27 AM
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